and this is another reason why i love you, dodie! i personally didn't see anything wrong with yesterday's vid, because of how well you phrased it. but you saw what you did wrong, how it was - and potentially could be - affecting people and recognised your mistake, took it down but didn't erase it completely, didn't pretend it didn't happen, and you actually apologised so genuinely. you dealt with the situation in such a mature and honest way and recognised that you're human and you make mistakes. you inspire me so much dodie. i'm so proud of you and proud to call myself a fan. thank you. 💛
I LVOE DODIE SHES SUCH A GOOD PERSON. AGH. I didn't see anything wrong with yesterday's video either, however, i can see how it could have been taken the wrong way. But Dodie DID HANDLE THE SITUATION WELL AND IM PROUD
a teacher once told me it wasn’t our first thought about a person that defines us, it’s how we react to that thought. i think your reaction tells you’re actually a kind person ♥️
If I'm being honest I'm jealous of dodie. She is everything that I want. I want to look like her, sing like her, write music like her and be open with who you are.
I love this video, as I love ALL of dodie's videos. It's just always so wonderfully refreshing to have a YouTuber or artist or celebrity being totally open and honest about their feelings and struggles, even when it's hard and terrifying to do so. I can't even begin to tell you how helpful these videos are for people like me (and I'm sure many, many others) who suffer from depression or depersonalization, to see someone stand up for mental health. It reminds me that I'm not alone. And while I'm sure she'll never see this comment, I am eternally grateful and send all the love in the world to dodie for her bravery, positivity, and love that she puts out into the world on a daily basis. The world is a better place because you are in it, Love.
In just gonna flat out say it, I'm jealous of Grace Vanderwaal. She has an amazing voice, she writes amazing songs, she can get up on stages and sing and dance and not be ashamed, she is not afraid to express herself. I can write ok songs, I have a horrible singing voice, I hate being on stages and don't plan on ever singing or doing music on stage, I'm self conscious and dont really express myself as much as I would like to (out of fear of judgement) I love her music but sometimes when I hear it I just turn into a pit of rage and jealousy and its not ok
I've been having the same thing with her. I think she's amazing and I love her music but I"m the same age and write good songs and have a good singing voice so I feel like if I ever pursued music it would seem like I was copying her. I just feel jealous of all that she has because I can do the same thing if you know what I mean.
Actually same and I thought I was the only one. I used to be such a huge fan and supporter of her, but over time I became so jealous that she was the same age as me and living out all my dreams
I always thought I was alone in this. When she comes on my personal radio, I have to change it or if there are people I have to distract myself or I start to cry.
Also I just want it say I'm not specifically jealous of Grace but it does certainly hurt that someone younger than me has accomplished so much more than I have and has so much more talent
can i just say i'm so happy this conversation is happening, most of us experience this kind of jealousy to some extent and dodie talking about it (even if the original was deleted) really seems to have helped a lot of people who feel guilty and alone with these thoughts
Piggy Hopes first of all can you be my internet best friend cause you just said what I’m always thinking into words. My dream is to write these perfect songs and get on stage and sing and be in a band. But hen there’s fear and anxiety and negative thinking. I love grace but sometimes I do things like copying little things of her or dodie or whoever I’m obsessed with and think “maybe if I change my self completely, then maybe my dream will come true.” that’s completely wrong but my point is we all do this and get jealous of celebs and it normal because we’re only human. :)
I'm actually a very big fan of Grace, but I can understand the sort of jealousy that you and a lot of other people can develop.. I mean, she's much younger than me, and looking at her makes me feel that I've lost so much potential in my own life. I used to have the same issue with Jackie Evancho, who was also an America's Got Talent contestant (and won) when I was the same age as her (10 years old). I absolutely hated her, but my parents adored her. Seeing her onscreen made me feel empty and stupid and untalented... and I guess that's jealousy. Jealousy makes you feel like you're not enough, or that you're not as special/talented as the other person. But please don't let that get in the way of you pursuing your own hopes and dreams. If you like Grace, but you're also jealous of her, focus on liking her and using her as a source of inspiration rather than comparison. Same with Dodie or MBB. And I know how difficult it is to realign your thoughts just like that... but it's better than festering your envy so much to a point that it prevents you from accepting life as it is and achieving your own goals.
Okay, but everyone starts somewhere. Everyone has insecurities and not very good at what they're doing at the start. But you grow and learn. You can be just like Grace if you work hard and follow your dream. I'm not trying to invalidate your feelings, just wanted to give advice I struggle with this too. I am very jealous of people who made it, even though I love them. Makes me feel bad about not being able to do what they do. But I try to use it as an inspiration and make things
haha me too! thats why i didn't want to know more of her music, but today i did and thats the life she has and its ok, i don't want to change mine i know if something is for me it would happen and if a feel jealous i have to use that energy (sometimes is more powerful the anger ) and use it to improve and do things!
SAME. I'm 10 years older than Grace and yet she's pretty much the reason I picked up a ukulele! I've been writing music since I was even younger than she was, always dreamed of being a musician, and she's already got the career of a lifetime that I'll probably never have a fraction of. She deserves all the recognition in the world tho! She's a super talented kid with songwriting skills beyond her years and a killer singing voice, but I totally feel you. I'm always gonna be jealous of her, but not from a hateful place necessarily...We just gotta learn how to take that jealousy and turn it into inspiration to better ourselves as people and as musicians. :)
Piggy Hopes me too, I’m auditioning for americas got talent and I’m terrified everyone is going to compare me to her, but that’s the thing. I don’t want to be her I want to be me, even if I’m never going to be as good as her
exactly exactly exactly, i always feel so bad about it! because she genuinely has talent and makes good music so why do i feel the urge to dislike her?
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Maria Mihailik2018-03-26 18:29:42 (edited 2018-04-11 22:09:58 )
Tbh you shouldn't be, people like grace tend to be an overnight success and don't really last, if you work towards your dreams and get there without going on a (from personal experience, absolutely awful and exploitative) pseudo-reality show, you WILL be happier. Tbh, I don't believe in talent, I think if you are passionate enough about it that's it, you have talent and you are talented. If you are genuinely passionate about your music you will feel more confident on stage and you WILL be happier, even if you won't be a manufactured child star. Besides, I'm sure being a child star isn't even that fun, let's face it, Grace isn't taken seriously in the industry, she's being cut slack for being young, being called a legend for every mediocre song she puts out being told every day about who she will become instead of who she is right now. Do you really want that kind of inauthenticity?
Hopey Copey, I used to also be EXTREMELY jealous of her until one day I realised...I am the same age as her...I can sing, I play ukulele and piano. If grace vanderwaaal did it at such a young age I can do it as well. It's such a cliche phrase but when you really believe you can and you have that model, that is one of the most powerful sources of motivation. Grace and dodie have helped me find that motivation and you should try and find that too!
I now live on motivation from these amazing people, because I know in my heart if I really want to pursue music...one day I can do great things :) (so cheesy I know lol)
The test is made to tell you who you *are*, not who you want to be. Those are two different things. You not liking certain aspects of yourself has nothing to do with the test. (There are many issues with the test, but that's beside the point.)
Secondly, you can't be a kind, caring person and not care. It's a sad fact. If you care a lot about people and causes, you're gonna struggle with some feelings that don't feel good sometimes. The people that truly don't care are psychopaths, sociopaths and, to a some extent, narcissists, and no one wants to be them!
Also, you may want to check out a book called Running On Empty and see if it helps you with the "other people's needs vs my own" issue. It may not have anything to do with what you're going through, but in the off-chance that it helps, I'm recommending it.
Thanks for the podcast rec! Going to check it out later. Keep being your wonderful, flawed, human self :).
Andrea Hernandez also you can read the descriptions for all the types in enneagraminstitute.com and see which once you can relate to the most. I find it more useful than a test, I don't think tests are too reliable.
The 16 personalities test is also similar, but goes into your...personality. It talks about careers and relationships and how to feel more accomplished in your life based on your individuality. (It's free if that sells it to you)
Exactly! I definitely think her re-editing the video was a good idea. Although I now understand what she was trying to say in the original it just seemed as though she was just specifically jealous of (actor's name inserted) because of their life being 'perfect' (nobody's life is 'perfect' though). I'm glad Dodie is good at learning from mistakes and opening up more!
Aaaaand I'm just gonna throw in a ditto. Summary of previous comment; MBTI =bad (bad validity, bad science, bad repeatability and bad reliability). Try Hoganx.io or any other well validated, peer reviewed psychometric. 🖒
I understand why you re-edited it. Though, when I heard your confession I resonated with majorly. I never knew how to explain it, but WOW! YOU PUT MY FEELINGS INTO WORDS! I’m sorry that people didn’t understand the message/hear it the way you intended. But it’s alright, you did the right thing by taking the video down, explaining, and re editing. Thank you dodie.
I watched the first upload a couple of days ago and I saw what you originally said, and I'm so glad you edited it. I couldn't imagine being actor you mentioned and stumbling across this video talking bad about me to a large audience and not knowing anything about me. And how much it would have hurt if they perhaps even knew who you were and idolised you. Thank you for changing this dodie :)
to be transparent (for better or worse lmao) i can get jealous of youtubers (like you, dodie!! hello!!) especially the v creative ones! people who seem to be normal (a person like you or me, just with a camera in a flat) but who are also endlessly talented! singing, writing songs, acting, writing books, directing films, AH. bc many youtubers i watch are my age, i feel v related to the work they put out, but i feel v inadequate in comparison!! a confession!!
Thank you Dodie, I really appreciate this, it’s good to recognize and learn from mistakes, I can tell you didn’t mean to point the conversation in the direction of that person. Everyone makes mistakes, but not everyone learns from them ❤️
not to question the decision that you made, but i don’t think there was anything wrong with what you said in your original video. i notice this happens often that you say or write something and it gets questioned and you defend yourself or correct yourself to fix it and that’s FINE and you SHOULD take criticism but also remember that not all criticism is valid. just because a lot of people say something doesn’t mean it’s true (after all, a lot of people voted for trump and we know all about him). so when you’re getting criticized for something, feel free to stick to your guns. don’t be afraid to lose support, because maybe those people were never your true supporters in the first place.
When I went through similar emotional/relational learning recently, my psychologist put me onto Brené Brown's writing. (I found her audiobook recording of The Power of Vulnerability really practically helpful!) Brené excellently articulates that empathy, or connection with others, without us practicing healthy emotional boundaries, is submission. The kind of submission that is spoken about in Attachment Theory, where, as a tactic to create connection/attachment one will sacrifice their boundaries or give more than is healthy/comfortable in order to maintain connection. It's been the most rewarding journey learning how to sit in empathy with others, whilst maintaining a good sense of myself - learning how to mutually exchange happiness and support, instead of feeling as though you live in emotional deficit where you're always giving and not knowing how to receive. You're amazing <3
I love your book dodie. I have read it like 3 times. It really helps me with my own insecurities to see other people going through similar experiences. Thank you Dodie
I've missed the videos but reading your book has given such insight into the person you are and it's amazing, I'm so proud of you for making such awesome stuff! ❤❤❤
I'm proud of you dodie, I love you so much and you're so inspiring. You're honest and kind, and human. You're beautiful and I'm sure the person would understand.
I just got the package containing your book and I can't wait to read it! Also, I'm very proud of you for correcting your mistakes! Don't beat yourself up for it dodes;)
Being a jealous person is so hard. You want to be happy for people’s success but still feel so anxious about not doing enough and then in turn the toxicity of yearning for what they have just takes over you.
Im so proud of you. I didnt watch the first video but Im proud you saw that your words, even if you dont mean it, can be interpreted in so many different ways and sometimes its best to just dont say it, and if you did - apologize. You are an amazing human being, keep doing you, Dodie :)
I always love personality tests and took the enneagram test as soon as I watched this video. I discovered I'm a type 6 and found the description to be shockingly accurate and also really interesting. Thanks so much for sharing Dodie I love your videos and can't wait for more!!
it takes guts to admit mistakes, well done you brave woman. all the love, you're a massive inspiration to me :)
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In The Meantime2017-11-09 19:07:47 (edited 2017-11-09 19:10:00 )
I always find myself feeling better after watching your videos. It's very brave of you to share these thoughts, moments, and truths with us 😊 thank you!
i finished your book today, it’s so amazing it was awesome to see like-you. i feel like you let us as an audience into your life a lot and just thank you de being strong when some of us couldn’t. also thanks for letting me into your brian for the time it took me to read your book which was about 2 hours because i wouldn’t put it down.
I think it’s amazing to take an overwhelming response she faced yesterday and actually edit the video that she had made rawly.
being a doddler for a while, yesterday had been one of those rare occasions where I didn’t see love everywhere but rather, such differing opinions and I didn’t know what to feel but I see there was no point in being confused.
thanks for always being yourself Dodie. making mistakes in front of us and for listening to the audience, and picking yourself up quite wonderfully like this.
It's so amazing how lovely Dodie and her whole fan base are, like you people are seriously awesome and supportive and kind and it makes me so happy!! Keep being fantastic <3
Dodie, I read your book and I absolutely loved it! I think I already said that before somewhere but it's really worth saying again. A lot of my friends who are writers always come out of their work and say that they could have done better, it was rushed or they were in a rut and it wasn't as good as they'd planned. Personally, I always love their stories regardless of what detriments they name. Anyways, you were quick to say that you loved your writing and your book, that you worked hard on it and truly and shamelessly approved of the final product. I had to smile at that because you have every right and reason to be proud; your book had a lot of you as a person in it and I found it fascinating to read. Thanks for being the type of person who is quick to love and admire what you've strived for; that says a lot about your character, I think, and only the very bravest and best of people tend to stand up for what they love.
I'm so happy this whole thing happened. We all learned a lil bit from it and Dodie's fixed what happened. I also think it's lovely how her fans respectfully told her their thoughts on the situation without saying anything hateful. I'm very happy with all this.
Im glad you edited this, i definitely wasnt too worked up about the original but this is much better explained and nice to hear. Its also really nice that you recognised a mistake and dealt with it so maturely. Thats a good influence to leave i think <3
I will (very cringely) confess that I’ve felt the same way towards dodie before. For many reasons I won’t list here, I missed out on parts of my childhood and was “delayed” (I feel personally) in life, and didn’t start my YouTube journey until this year at age 24, although I’ve been making videos for like 12 years lol But anyways, all this to say that I understand how it feels to have your younger self craving that dream she so desperately desired and that longing to have your talents recognized. Thanks for admitting your faults and encouraging us, indefinitely dodie 🆒
You truly are one of the most genuine people on YouTube - I always leave your channel feeling like i've just had a great chat with a friend! Thank you for always being so honest xox
I'm so impressed and blessed by your maturity to go back and fix something you did wrong. I felt kind of uncomfortable with the thing you said yesterday, but I didn't want to say anything (partly because I feel similarities and feel guilty about feeling that way.) So thank you for being humble and changing things around a bit. I think you speaking about your jealousy is really important and admirable ❤️
Thank you for the edit, I found this handling by you to be very appropriate and respectful. I have to admit that I related to your point (actually, I feel that way kind of about you sometimes because you're a year younger than me and doing things I wish I was doing haha) but I can totally see how people could have taken in that information and processed it in a negative way so I think you've done the right thing here. Thank you for owning up to your mistakes and adjusting your content and actions accordingly, so few creators on this site make that effort so it means a lot to me as an audience member. Much love and respect to you, Dodie. You are the goodest egg <3
Oh. My. God. I literally couldn't relate more to everything you said. I felt like crying because these are all the thoughts I ponder on each day. Thinking and thinking, trying to make some kind if sense to it. I love organizing things when I'm in the right mood, but I'm bad at maintaining it. I love having a purpose and I get really wrecked when I feel like I don't. Thank you so, so much for making this video dodie. It made me feel better knowing that I'm not the only one thinking too mug and all that, stuff I try to ignore. 💛
Honestly it’s super cool that you’re able to acknowledge mistakes so publicly, accept responsibility without excuse, and learn from it. It’s a quality not a lot of people have, so good for you for being courageous. We love our flawed human dodie ❤️
I'm really confused and I kind of want to know like, what happened but I also don't want to be extremely rude, so if you think that it would be rude to repeat her mistake please don't answer, but if you don't could someone please explain the mistake? :/
Hailey2709 Dodie actually wrote a transcript in the description box of the part that she edited out. Basically she just got a little too specific about someone she’s jealous of in a way that might be hurtful.
SLEEPING AT LAST SLEEPING AT LAST SLEEPING AT LAST AHHHHHHHH I LOVE RYAN YOU AND HIM ARE LITERALLY THE ONLY ARTISTS I LISTEN TO YOU AND YOU BOTH LIKE EACH OTHER AHHHHH
also i’m an ENFJ and enneagram 1!! :)) I️ LOVE YOU TWO 💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛
i was literally looking for this vid to watch (hadn't watched it yesterday) but I'm really glad you openly acknowledge the times you mess up and apologise!
Thank you Dodie , for always being the realist youtube that i have ever known. As i was watching this video, i don't know why, but all of a sudden, my eyes felt wet and i think its because everything that you have said, in this video, is actually true for me and i felt as if your sentence at 5:21 really hit me the most and now i finally understand why I'm always, deep down, unhappy. I also too miss watching your videos and for everyone who's reading this comment, thanks for taking your time to read and i hope you have a nice day :)
I love this video because I relate so much and it's been a reality check for me that I'm not weird I'm just a flawed human like everyone else. thank you so much for making the content you do because I would be lost sometimes and a lot more self hating haha x
I love this video because I relate so much and it's been a reality check for me that I'm not weird I'm just a flawed human like everyone else. thank you so much for making the content you do because I would be lost sometimes and a lot more self hating haha x
Dodie you absolute babe i'm so proud of you for doing this and for explaining it all so well rather than pretending it didn't happen. You did the right thing love you x
Anyone who's reading this, you must know you're are awsome , beautiful and a good human being . I am going through a really hard time right now and I hope someone else gets to be happy . Dear Dodie , you'll never know how much your book helped me , I respect you soo much . Love to anyone reading this .💜💙💚💛❤
Dear dodie, I got your book in the mail today and I love it! Your songs and writing are almost as beautiful as you. You are truly my idol, and I just wanted you to know how much you inspire me and make me happy. Luv you, natalie
You're such a lovely and beautiful being Keep being you, I've seen you grow over the years and blossom into the amazing human your are now, may your journey be one of finding joy and self content :)
The fact that Dodie took her time to re-edit this video bc it could've hurt someone shows just how much love she has in her heart for us and just in general❤
I so so so admire your ability to admit when you're wrong and properly fix a situation around it as one of my massive flaws is that I can never admit that I'm wrong aha
When I'm not looking at skinny people, it's easy for me to be fine with how I am, like okay yes some people are a bit chubbier and that's totally fine and beautiful
And then I see a petite lil person with their tiny waist and delicate limbs and suddenly I just crave to be like that
Love u Dodie. You are amazing and need to know that. You won a lot of thinkgs in your life because of your music, your talent and your way to be. Just don't let yourself down
You spoke your mind and as an artist you are given your freedom of speech. I watched the original, understood the point you wanted to put across and respected it. Don't feel embarrassed for your opinions... Ly 💛
I agree, but she probably just didn't want anyone to think she hated that person. I did understand that it was just an example though, I still feel like she made it fairly obvious, especially when she spoke about how she didn't want any "Oh, I hate that person too" comments. She should keep it this way if she feels like this is better.
I didn't think her comment was mean-spirited either, but you know, imagine you were that actress and a big singer-songwriter said in a video that she finds you a bit grating and that you seem like someone who wants attention (just highlighting the most negative things she said, I know she said some positive things about her as well) and then you see people in the comments also talking about why they dislike you. I'd personally feel a bit hurt to see strangers and a widely respected content-creator pointing out my flaws. And I respect Dodie very much for not wanting to be a part of that negativity.
Joëlle Weetjewel I can definitely see that too. I'd be upset too if I was an actress in that situation. I also love that Dodie retracted the video. However, my original comment was just to reassure Dodie that every opinion is allowed, especially with the audience that she has. Dodie said this, audience agrees can be a dangerous mix but i think we still have to realise that Dodie is a human like the rest of us and she is allowed to have a one-person opinion which I think a lot of people missed. I totally understand your comment though! I myself don't want to be a part of a negative vibe. Positive vibes only whoop whoop. Thanks for replying! ^_^
i'm really curious to know too! i know that it doesn't matter but i was watching the old video and then it cut off since she deleted it. i don't wanna know cause i want to go hate on the actress, i'm just genuinely curious. and i know that dodie didn't say it with bad intentions and she even said that she doesn't want to see comment with people saying "oh i hate that actress too".
mari peralta same! Just wondering because I get the same thing... where I'll really dislike someone famous just because they're too much like I want to be. I think it's more common than dodie realises.
Thank you for re-uploading! This took a lot of guts, we're all humans plodding along, being humans. Things happen, well done for holding your hands up :)
You're honestly my favourite youtuber. You're the biggest role model in my life and I love you so much. I'm finally buying your book soon and i'm soooooo very excited :)
This is such a good video. Thank you for thinking critically about your impact on the world! Also being an ENFP doesn't mean you have to be messy/disorganized! My favorite nutshell for the difference between a P and a J is that J's organize their external world so they have freedom in their internal world, while P's organize their internal world so they have freedom in their external world.
You made a mistake, learned, forgave, and let it go. I'm proud of you. No one is perfect, and that's okay. <3 Love you, dodie, and thank you for showing people that it's okay to make mistakes as long as you learn from it.
you should totally make a video called “obsessions” and one called “life lessons” in this similar style!!! Also I’m so, so happy that you realized and admitted your mistake and genuinely apologized and actually DID something to fix it!! You are such a great role model and I adore your vulnerability. 💗
Dodie your videos make me want to scream because you say everything that I feel and need to hear too! ~~~ thank you (I am also saving up for your book, love you for being brave enough to bear your heart on your sleeve with us xo)
OMG thank you for telling me about the enneagram, it was fun to do and quite eye opening, finding out about the negative sides of 9s hit pretty close to home but it also really gives me hope that I could become a "healthy nine".
I love that everytime Dodie realizes she made a mistake she is so quick to apologize and fix it. It shows that she's imperfect and human but that she's a good enough person to realize that.
I’m going to say the same thing I commented before I’ve read your book and it is amazing thank you for making me feel like I’m not alone, I love it and I love you
you've inspired me dodie to change how i am to be a better person for myself. i spent late last night (ironic ik) writing lists and ways to stop my bad habits
1) go to bed earlier - wrote a time to try to go to sleep each night for the next 20 days, each night going to bed 10 minutes earlier, little steps at a time
2) cut down on sugar - spent an hour researching methods, the ones i'm trying include meditating daily, chewing gum when i want to binge, brush my teeth, stop and think of the benefits and downsides, distract yourself or treat yourself to other things, go for a walk or eat foods like eggs, cheese, olives and salmon
i'm unhappy with these habits and i'm trying to break them, i'll let you know how it goes :)
Thank you for apologizing and editing your video. I see a lot of people saying you shouldn't have to apologize but as one of the people who was a little unsettled by the initial video I appreciate you stepping up and correcting yourself. There is no shame in taking responsibility for something and I respect you even more now (didn't know that was possible).
thank you for the apology dodie! we forgive you and we're over it now. in life, we're always going to keep making mistakes. but the joy in that is we're going to keep learning from those. we're a better version of ourselves everyday compared to the day before. i love you!
You are the loveliest human and I hope I am blessed enough to meet you one day and give you a hug and then when we part ways I will one day tell my children "I met my musical and human inspiration once". That'll be hella cute. But seriously, thank you Dodie
I love love love the enneagram! I'm a type 8 and I have very mixed feelings about that piece of knowledge, because on one hand I see and recognize traits of my personality and I think that's great and important, but I also notice that I am starting to react to thinks like a 'typical 8' would, instead of truly listening to what I think is right
thank you for doing this dodie. i thought that in the first version it was a bit unnecessary to name and shame especially considering youre such a big influence over people. this is much less harsh. good job x
hey dodie i just wanted to say i saw u couple of weeks ago on tour, and i couldn't come up to meet u in person because i wasn't in a good mental space, but thank you for that performance/show. it made me feel oddly safe, even in a room of strangers. i love you, take care.
1. I relate to quite a few of these 2. This video was comforting & interesting so thank you 3. I absolutely adore you 4. I shall go and purchase your beautiful book - looking forward to reading it! Much love - Trinity (I met you at VidCon Aus and I'm sorry I was so awkward- I was trying to comprehend everything happening and was a tad overwhelmed. Thank you for signing the Polaroid my mum took of us)
Although I agree that the comment definitely wasn't needed and it did seem a little weird coming from a 22-year-old woman, it's clear that you didn't mean it maliciously and those are just your personal feelings, which are totally valid to you! I think it's important to remember that no-one is perfect, everyone makes mistakes. I think a large amount of people don't seem to understand this and think YouTubers should be totally aware 24/7 but you're only human. It's not about the mistakes you make, it's how you rectify them and you always listen, apologise and act in a good way. I never see you brush anything under the carpet and ignore your viewers, even when it's something you'd rather not keep talking about and that really has to be admired. You're probably feeling pretty rubbish right now but please don't be so hard on yourself, we all get it wrong sometimes! xx
I'm so glad someone else feels the same about being messy but wanting to be tidy. What you said about the Myers Briggs test is so true, I really understand how you feel because I feel the same!
Hello dodie! Hope you’re having fun on tour! This is probably one of my favourite videos from you because I can relate to most of what you say. I am also a Four on the ennegram(and slightly a two, and an INFP)! I do desire greatly to be a kind, non-jealous, helpful, and amazing person. By desiring this so much, I have no idea who I am, and I create someone who i want to be and someone who I like. I want to leave a mark in the world.
I’m glad you re uploaded it like this because the feeling/trait is something I can relate to but I really like the person it was about. Now people can still enjoy the vid without all the arguments. It’s great love
in regard to what you said about having to have the happiness of your loved ones to achieve happiness yourself, and not knowing whether that is selfish or selfless, that really spoke to me. that's something i've been trying to figure out about myself. it's like my brain was a locked box and ive been trying hopelessly to find the key. then you came along and opened it first try. thank you dodie, i really do hope you know how much you're appreciated for everything you do! i hope you see this because you deserve to know that you're amazing!
I'm glad you re-edited this video. I thought that was very thoughtful and considerate of you. Once again, I think you've made another deep and thought provoking video :) thanks for sharing
Dodie, love. It's okay, we all make mistakes and the way you handled it is wonderful. You are always my role model because you are responsible even during situations like this. ❤️
Can you do a video on who records, mixes, and masters the songs in your album? I'm an audio engineer in a college in NYC. ALSO, DON'T WORRY! WE ARE ALL FLAWED BEINGS THAT ALWAYS MAKE MISTAKES :) But it is those mistakes learned from that make great people
I'm also a type four on the enneagram (okay, its like a 4w3 but WHATEVER) and its nice to know that I'm not the only one who feels like I'm viewing the world through a fish bowl that's heavily centered around ME. You are an absolute treasure and I'm so happy that you use your voice to share your thoughts and feelings and kind words. Love ya ❤️
I watched your video the first time. Watched your re edited part, and read the description. Everything you said each time is so beautiful and self aware and kind and i really appreciate you for that!
I love your thoughtfulness and willingness to correct what you later come to believe are mistakes. I think it's a wonderful thing that you are role model for so many younger women.
I struggle so much with jealousy and comparing myself to others, i hate it as im the kind of person who wants to be friends with everyone but i struggle to like people who have what i want, these people can be perfectly lovely but my jealousy causes me to push them away, as i will find them irritating then i hate myself for it, i love your videos as i feel so similar to you in so many ways its nice to see videos like this, from a big youtuber especially. Keep being you dodie youre amazing, and make me realise that im not the only one who has these thoughts or this kind of personality sounds weird i know but sometimes you think you're the only person like that, even though theres so many people in this world. I hope to inspire people with my videos like you do one day :)
Im reading this book right now, dodie, this book. I really love how you exposed so much vunrlablity in it. And the section where Manager Josh spoke about you. It is beautiful !!!!!!! Anyone thinking about dont think just buy!!!!
Honestly thought everyone blew the first video waaaay out of proportion like don't think you did anything wrong but good for you Dodie for doing this and apologising to keep everyone happyyyy 🌼
I'm also an ENFP and an Enneagram Type 4, which I find so interesting that you are as well. I'm always struggling with identity but a counsellor recently introduced me to the idea of HSP, which is a highly sensitive person. I'd be curious if you looked into and identified with it as well. It's given me some clarity on some of my struggles.
For anyone reading: you are amazing! You are beautiful, inside and out. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Somewhere out there, there is someone who will appreciate you for you. I hope this helped someone today. I know that things can be difficult and sometimes we just need someone to tell as that we are special.
Thank you that made me cry that's so wonderful to know that someone out there can take the time to write that comment and be so lovely to another! i hope you have the best day! 🙂🙂
I'm a 6 on the enneagram scale thing and I have a "wing" of 5, but the second on my list of ones that would fit was 4. I personally think 6w5 fits me because I don't trust at all or I trust too much and both give me anxiety.
Dodie, I am so happy you chose to re-upload the video with the appropriate edits! I cannot stress enough how much I NEVER comment on videos (this is the second video I've ever commented on). Us women need to be empowering, supporting, and encouraging each other as vocally as possible nowadays. And I mean women of ALL ages, races, cultural backgrounds, varying statuses, etc. With your platform, I encourage you to be as genuine as possible, which you obviously have through this lovely video, but also as loving as possible. No, I don't mean happy or positive. We can't be happy or positive ALL THE TIME. But we can at least try to spread a little love and care here and there. Keep it up my love ❤️
I've seen on social media that you've had writers block. I'm not sure how your song writing works, but it seems you have a topic in your life you're passionate about. Maybe just meditate on your thoughts and feelings, without judgement, and jot down whatever comes to mind. Look at your ideas and see if it makes something. I don't know, I really don't write. However, I think being able to acknowledge and confess a part of yourself that you don't entirely like but also being aware of the fact that you're still killing it and have things of your own that your proud of is really beautiful. It shows a type of contradiction in your life, the two ways you feel about things. Like hating the attention in the store but still being really proud of everything in there. Also, you kick ass! Thank you for everything you've done for me. You're music is beautiful <3
I have never heard someone who’s mentality is so similar to mine than dodie’s. She makes videos of subjects that she goes through that I also experience such as the desocialisation (I am too uneducated to know if that I spelt correctly) and her anxiety she sometimes experiences. It’s comforting to know that I am not alone I guess. 🧡
I can totally support the re-edit. It's good to acknowledge that a thing that you said has unforeseen consequences when it involves another person. That being said, the first time I watched this vid (with the part in it), I TOTALLY understood what you meant. And I think I interpreted the thing the way you meant it. Probs cuz I feel it too concerning certain people. aNyWaY, nice vid <3
we all respect u just the same love. just like u said, ur human we all make mistakes. im proud of u dodie and i have missed u so much. ur a strong little bean.
I did see the other video, and all I have to say is that I felt it to be very brave of you to express that certain feeling you had. As you know and have described yourself, you feel like this because of yourself, and not because of her. I understand that you are trying to take it back, but what you say and what people make of it are two different things... Some might have not understood what you were trying to express in the first place and that backfired eventually. Personally, I remember how one time in drama class we were asked to talk about three things we liked about ourselves, and three things we didn't like about ourselves. Like on stage - and we had to be 100% honest. The shit that came out was incredible. It was basically all confessions like this, and some were much worse, but we just sat there and were kind of like "yeah i guess we are all terrible sometimes and feel terrible things sometimes and maybe that's okay" So in conclusion, I don't necessarily think you've made a mistake. Also, I missed you! Love you dodie
The more I watch dodie videos the more I realize we are quite similar personality wise, however she's alot more talented then I am. I hope I get to be on her level one day
im so happy that you reuploaded this, because i could see it going bad right when i read the comments on the earlier version of the video, some of them made me really worried that the actor would watch the video and get offended. u did good dodie :) <3
Hi. I am a female, teenage viewer from America and I’ve come to the comment section of one of Dodie’s videos for advice because I know that the Dodie fandom is the nicest fandom around. So here it goes. I’ve been extremely anxious everyday since about the beginning of last year. I want to get help from a professional of some sort, but my mom won’t take me because I haven’t been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder. Therefore, she doesn’t believe in my anxiety. My anxiety levels are getting worse because of the pressure at school and the horrible conditions of our orange president. I’m really not sure what to do. With much love, me 💛💛💛
if your mum isn’t letting you go to get a diagnosis, maybe say you feel ill and go to a doctor and speak to them about your anxiety and then if you do get a diagnosis of an anxiety disorder then speak to your mum and ask her about therapy again. if you have already been to a doctor and didn’t get a diagnosis then you may nit have a disorder but could still really need the help (if you really think you do have a disorder then go to a different doctor as ive had doctors in the past who didnt believe in mental illness usually this isn’t the case but you could consider it just to be sure ) in either case, if your mum still wont let you get therapy, if you are school age then you could speak to your school therapist or get the school to refer you to one and if you are out of school then go and find someone yourself dont let your mum stop you from getting help. and to respond to your anxiety about trump, yes there are many horrible people who support him but there are many more who are against all of his ignorant beliefs and that there is always good in the world :)
anyway i know thus is a super love and probably almost not understandable reply and its like a year late but i hope that things have got better for you and if they haven’t then i hope you are working towards recovery and remember that one day you will feel so much better :)
Nice job setting a good example for how to deal with mistakes for your audience =)
I agree with the difficulty with personal identity stuff, I'm really glad you bring up these topics for others to think about! I made a video about that recently too, the more people talk about it the more we learn=) ♡
Yay Doddddiiiieeee! i am also a number four and i really connect with everything you shared. i have missed your videos and cannot wait to read your book. much love..
So, the Perceiving as opposed to Judging function, I recently learned, by itself does NOT mean sporadic and unorganized. What it actually means is your second letter function (so for you intuition) is more dominant than your third letter function (so for you feeling). I'm also an xNxP (INFP). Because your perception function which in both of our cases deals with more abstract concepts, is more dominant than our judging function, which is how we judge and organize and prioritize our information, it just means it's more difficult for us to follow through on projects and keep things organized. It doesn't mean that we thrive in a chaotic environment or that we like not being able to organize or stick to a schedule. It just means doing so is more difficult for us and that we're more likely to fall into those patterns of disorganization. Doesn't mean we can't it just requires a little more effort. Sorry for the novel. I'm studying for my "psyc testing" exam and remembered you'd said this lol
I admit that I felt a little awkward when you said that, partly because I'm so defensive of my younger sister who is around her age. Like you said, it isn't fair when somebody else judges or defines you based on their limited/biased perception. Thank you for the clarification :)
I was so confused when I got the notifications that you'd uploaded the same thing again. I thought YouTube was bugging.
I guess when I watched the original I never considered the implications of what you said. I thought "ok that's her opinion" and moved on. I am glad that you posted this re-edit. Most people wouldn't actually take the time to re-edit something they've uploaded and I appreciate the messages you put out into the world. It's ok to make mistakes if you show that you've learnt from them and try to make amends
I relate to all of these things, also i was just watching a bunch of your videos but i need to clean ahhhhh, also i watched it yesterday but i'm rewatching luv u dodie <3
Just wanna say, I watched the original, and although I super respect that you wanted to edit this and create a better version of what you actually meant to say, I found absolutely nothing wrong with your original statement having to do with jealousy. It was a graspable example that I appreciated, and you had a point to make with it, it made me feel like we all have petty jealousy sometimes, but admitting reasons why those feelings exist can help us move on from them. But just restating, I get it, but I didn't think there was anything wrong with what you said. ✨💙
The last little bit i totally relate! After my parents divorce i constantly felt (and still feel) like i had to make sure both of them were happy as well as everyone else I know, I’ve always been empathetic towards people but it’s started to take over my life that i’ve forgotten about myself, which is a scary thought because with being so wrapped up in other people’s lives I’m going to end up putting mine at a halt.
What really bugs me about people is their inability to admit the flaws in things they love. IT'S OKAY TO ACCEPT THAT DODIE DID WRONG AND STILL BE A FAN. You don't need to blindly follow. That's why she apologised and edited the video - because it was WRONG and she knew that. To then say 'oh i don't think it was that bad' 'oh people are overreacting' or 'you didn't do anything wrong dodie!' that's not a good thing. People don't need 'yes' folks around them, they need people to tell them the truth, to be willing to say 'hey, i love you, but I think this wasn't that great' because that's how we grow! It's okay to know that, and still love and be a fan of Dodie, or anything else that falls under that category. I disliked what was said yesterday, because the actress is very young, starting out, and deserves to be loved and protected in such a harsh industry. She's finding herself, she's learning, that's okay. She's a child. Anyway, my main point is that I love Dodie and I'm glad she deleted it because it wasn't great but that's okay. Everyone makes mistakes. You can still be a fan of something and note and accept the flaws in it. <3
For the late night phone thing, I recommend an app called Offtime. It blocks out any apps you tell it to for however long you want it to. You can also schedule it to turn on at a certain time (like, say, 11 pm) and not let you turn it off without watching it count down for a full minute or 15 minutes or whatever. It helps me a lot as I have the same problem if I don't have it.
oh my god. I don't think I have ever resonated with a video so much in my life. This is exactly how I feel 24/7, which kinda sucks, kinda doesn't, I don't even know. I'm trying to figure out who I am and in the meantime I am also trying to find happiness, which, like you said, I feel like I have to wait until everyone else around me is happy before I am. I'm happy to know that I'm not alone at least. :)
I feel you dodie. I’m in the same boat. I lack a lot of confidence and feel a lot of empathy (sometimes too much), and when you add jealousy on top of it, it turns into a mess of emotions, both hatred and love. Arghh
Dodie it’s okay, I totally got what you wanted to say and I think it’s awesome how you accepted your mistake and apologized and took action. You’re great love you
hi dodie, this is really unrelated to the video; it was great by the way. just remember you are human and everyone makes mistakes.... everyone has those days.. ANYWAYS. I am a self taught ukulele player and i've been playing for 2 weeks and know the chords but i have no clue how to strum? my fingers keep getting stuck in between the strings! if you could make a video on it or even tell me some tips that would be great. thank you! x
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MARS Official2017-11-09 18:58:56 (edited 2017-12-24 05:55:27 )
I’ve missed you, love. 🖤 Oh my god thanks for so many likes lol
Ahhhhh my copy of Dodie's book arrives tomorrow and I've been obsessively checking the tracking all day i'msoexciiiiiiteddd sorry, just had to share this with ppl who would also feel excited at this. Carry on!
I definitely thought after going through the comments of the first version that maybe it would’ve been better to edit out the actor’s name! Better late then never, very glad you acknowledged the mistake and corrected it!! Great modeling of how to deal with mistakes - everyone makes them but it’s how we react after (and learn from them!!) that counts 💛
Yes, the way you said it (in the last vid) was not thought out, and yes she gets so much hate from people who are jealous (which is so not fair) but you weren't hating, you used it as an example to show one of your flaws, and that's ok. You have handled it great though, try to fix your mistake (without hiding it) apologise, and move on. Beside she seems to have thick skin and you weren't being like the absolute worst person in the world, just a bit rude. Also you weren't going after her, your were going after yourself, you explained why you said what you said and you apologised. I'm not say calling a 13 y/o grating is fine but don't beat yourself up too much
dodie, I've missed your videos and the sense of raw realness (if that makes sense) they have. And, while I have no idea what the eniogram (I know I spelled that wrong) is, with the way you explained it, I think I'm a 4, too. Please make a video explaining it some more, because I really want to know the ins and outs of 1-9 :)
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Sophie Healy2017-11-10 01:04:04 (edited 2017-11-10 01:06:47 )
l am the one who wrote the tweet that triggered all of this and l really appreciate this so much. l do hate how strongly l worded it but the fact that you immediately apologized and corrected your mistake makes me respect you so much more than l already did. thank you so much.
I hope you are okay dodie. I watched yesterday’s vlog and read the comments and was a little sad. What i got from the video was that you want to show your fans who you truly are even the ugly things not just the happy ones. Even your shameful insecurities and i admire you for having the courage to do that. You work real hard in making content and getting it through an audience took a lot of work and the jealousy in this actor who just blown the internet at such a young age, in which case a dream you had but took a long time to get.
So dodie I know you’ll never read this but hi. I just wanted to say that I relate to this video a lot. Also I just wanted to say thank you, Thank you for making videos, Thank you for creating such beautiful music, Thank you for being you, You can always make me smile and distract me from real life. If I need something to make me laugh or smile, someone to relate to, something that just describes how I’m feeling, all I need to do is play one of your videos. So thank you. I know this is super long and cringey but I love your videos and music and I can’t wait to see what you create in the future.
Your my biggest inspiration Dodie We were aloud to decorate our music books with our biggest inspiration and I chose you Now my book is covered with your face and songs 😂 We were also asked to do a presentation on our biggest inspiration and again I chose you 😂 When I grow up I hope to do more singing than I do now and be like you You are such an amazing human and I love you ❤️
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evi j2017-11-09 19:25:04 (edited 2017-11-09 19:33:18 )
I was one of the people that criticised the way you said it in your previous upload. I'm very glad you did an re-edited upload! With this you have not only deleted a thing that could potentially hurt someone or give a wrong impression, you also showed its important to think about what you say, and if somethings get interpreted wrong, to just give things a second try!
I love the fact that you fixed this very, very quickly. No one is blaming you, it was just a phrasing problem that a lot of people misunderstood to mean that you actually didn't like the celebrity and got offended or started to "agree with you" and started hating on said celebrity. Good job!
I am finally seeing this, and a four myself I feel so alive and less alone knowing that dodie is a four (but I also want to be a special snowflake so...)
Love you Dodie! I also spend a lot of time trying to make other people happy. Although I feel like I do so because I want them to have a better childhood or life than I have had. Because I hate my life and I don't want anyone else to feel like that and I just want to protect them by wrapping them in 1000 layers of bubble wrap and putting them in a box labelled fragile and hug the box and make sure I never let it out of my sight or wave a magic wand and then they are happy and nothing bad will happen. Also I'm going to buy your book at some point because it looks so interesting although I have loads of books half read at the moment and my parents won't let me get anymore ;-;
I feel everything you said. I always wondered if I'm really that selfless and helping, too. Because I just can't stand people being unhappy, it makes me unhappy, too, so I just try everything to make that feeling go away. And I'd rather give in, do something they want to do, eat somewhere where they want to eat, because I'd rather not be super content instead of feeling like I put myself first, ignored their wishes, made them unhappy. Yeah. That's it
ayy hey dodie thanks a lot for re-editing your vid! the comment on your last video made me really uncomfortable and I'm so glad that you acknowledged that it was not the right thing to say/the right way to put it. I think the point you were trying to make was really important (because it's a thing that many people do unconsciously) and it's cool that you took time to correct your mistake and word it differently. love you! :)
There was this one time when dodie was in Lewisburg and I wasn't into her yet and my friends were freaking out and I didn't understand the hype but I get it now! She's so loving and great at being herself and she's such an ICON. That is all 😊
I'm an ENFP too!!! How cool! :D I also agree though that I'm not a J and it is hard for me keep my space clean, although I do prefer it. I love Myers Briggs and I think it really does hold a lot of merit in understanding ourselves and others. I really relate with you and maybe this is part of it. Love you! xoxo
i got type 4 too and it is weirdly accurate, especially the concept of feeling kinda attacked when someone misunderstands me which i've never really thought about much before
Personally I feel you didn’t need to re-edit this. I thought you explained your point well. But I understand why you deleted it and respect that.
For the people who didn’t see the original, I won’t be sharing the name for the same reason. She gets enough hate already and don’t want people attacking her for silly reasons.
I'm a 7! But when I took the test, I got a 4 as my second, so I relate to what you mean about finding out who you are and being self aware. But I feel as when (if) I find the freedom/adventure that 7s go after, I will find my identity and purpose? Idk, my brains is so confusing. Love you btw!!!
I got my heart broken 2 times, I’ve got my world ripped apart 2 times as well. I don’t think it will heal but I do hope we learn to live along the scars. It might turn up to be the tube map of London
dodie you should try quitting social media, Thats what I'm doing for December and 6 days in I can literally tell you it is changing my life. I feel more alive than I have in months, I'm more productive during the day, go to bed earlier and wake up feeling refreshed and spend my evenings learning new things or playing piano and I'm just so much happier without. I always reasoned with it because I thought it was paramount to becoming a youtuber but if I'm making more things without it then that's just not the case.
Also just to point out it's miracles: last night, after not having ran for 5 months, I somehow ran a half marathon. Before then the longest I'd ever ran was 10km, but without the stress of social media I was able to do 22km.
You'd be so surprised with how easy and liberating it truly is
For those of you who feel the need to call Dodie "pathetic" and "immature", I wonder what it is really like to be so perfect like you, really? Because from what you're saying it makes it seem like you're absolutely perfect with no flaws. Except you do have flaws, we all do! And it is so rude that you don't know how to respect people the right way! If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it! Why are you even here if you're going to just bash Dodie like that? Because actually YOU'RE the one who is just spreading hate!
i belive you did the right thing, but i see some comments like "she didn't need to edit it" and you forget that the actor she talked about is an actual kid right? they don't deserve having people don't like them or call them annoying just because the person reminds youof something i mean, and dodie realised she did a wrong thing so she fixed it so
I was thinking after seeing your tweets that you could edit it out but also acknowledge it for those confused/upset. I see what you meant and I don’t think it’s right to ignore your mistake as we all make mistakes. You’re one of my favorite youtubers but I never want you to feel like a terrible person or build you up to feel bigger than yourself, if that makes sense. That being said I appreciate your re editing and owning up.
I’m also a four. My mom taught a lesson at my church about it and I was like...did I write this? Why is this so much like me?... anyway I feel better knowing that it’s not just me who is lost in trying to find themselves... that sounds rude... you know what I mean. Love you Dodie.
i was like woah a video two days in a row but then i realized its a reupload. i knew what you meant when you were talking about the actor because i get the same way about jealousy
i never related to anyone like you Dodie, you should know that you are an inspiration for snowflakes like me (positively of course) , it makes me happy to see that there are people who question themselves and seek improvements towards others and themselves too ...💛
we are all human so it's okay to make a little mistake. we all feel jealous of people who have what we want (that's just human nature). we all love you and we (of course) all forgive you! thanks for being such a great model in showing us to recognize our mistakes when we make them :)
WOW. You overthink things the same way I do! (I suppose a lot of people do--I always forget.) I've gone in so many circles on the same topic of, "Are my actions towards others selfless or selfish because am I helping others to help them or to help me?" and on and on! Anyway, I'm so glad I'm not the only one questioning myself in this way--thanks, dodie! :)
oh fuck, I'm in the same situation as you, Dodie. I cant be happy if my friends aren't. I feel like i don't deserve to be happy when my friends aren't ok. so am I selfless or selfish?
I am not proud of it, but I could relate to almost every single thought you spoke out. I am a four too and I am trying to figure it out too. I know this may not even interest you, but I personally always feel better when I know I am not the only one struggling with whatever issue I have.
I'd also love to read your book but Australia doesn't seem to have it yet :(
However, I am a 6 on the Enneagram test. The Loyalist. In a nutshell it means I'm responsible and trustworthy, and I value loyalty to friends, family, groups and causes.And I need constant reassurance that friendships haven't fallen apart and that everything is okay hahah. Being direct and clear is the main way I thrive.
I think it's interesting that you said "I don't think your heart will ever truly heal 100%". In some ways, this is true. If you think your heart - that is, your soul, essence and innocence - is something that you are born with, something whole and pure and untouched, then having your heart 'broken' does mean you will never 'heal'. But that supports the idea that we were meant to go through life without hardships. To put it into a more realistic, and frankly more calming light, I'd suggest thinking about in terms of changing rather than destroying and mending. If you break a bone, it will usually fix itself. It may fix itself slightly differently, but it will still function. You learn new things about yourself and the world around you after hard times, and some of these things can only be learned through experience. What's nice is you can use that experience to connect to others, as you seem to do so well with your art and music. Turning your pain into poetry - more than that, turning your pain into passion and continual development.
I wish people hadn't been so aggressive towards Dodie's mistake but it's so sweet that she acknowledged and re-edited the video. Also just in general this was a great, self-reflective video.
No one is perfect, Your allowed to have negative emotions and feeling towards others. To deny yourself those is to cause yourself a great amount of pain. Negative emotion, feelings and thoughts are essential and just as valuable as positive ones. People love you because of what they see at the core of your being. Those same people will love you even in your down/negative times . If they can’t see who you really are in those times then they are not worth the energy. It took me years to realise this x
Heyy Dodie! Soms thoughts about the dilemma self-less and selfish: does it have to be one of the two? I think you should see it from a broader angle. Maybe you identify as a person that cheers up others, so when you cheer someone up, you feel like you are in your comfort zone. You know that that is a think you do well, and so it makes you feel worthy, competent, and it reminds you of who you are. This may be very nice for someone with dissociation and some identities crisis (this is just an assumption). This doesn't have to be a selfish act, because it comes from your character of kindness. It does however put you in a role you feel comfortable in. You love yourself more than you think and even tho you have so many doubts, in the end (luckily!) you still look our for yourself. So, I don't think you are selfless: you are trying to make yourself happy too. Both of the words seem extremes and maybe you are one of the two sometimes. But try to give yourself some credit and find the grey area :) <3 I'm just trying to give you some thinking perspective and sharing some of my own experience because I find it quite relatable, so don't worry, I admire you very much ^-^
dodie, seeing the negative comments on the old video absolutely broke my heart and i'm sorry that you had to see them, but i'm glad that you learned from it.
i’m an enneagram four too anD the bit you said after about how you said in therapy of you feel you can’t be happy until all the people around you are happy- that can have a lot to do with being a four, seeing as fours move along over to two (the helper) in disintegration. basically when you feel like you are falling apart and your formed identity (what us fours cherish so deeply) is under scrutiny of yourself or others, you, like me and all our fellow type fours, can tend to turn to caring for others so your identity feels secured by their need of you. because fours feel so uniquely afflicted, it becomes our priority when we feel like our ~self~ is not all we want or need it to be, to ensure that others overlook our unique depravity (as we perceive it in ourselves) by depending on us. i dunno if that’s helpful or even applicable to you directly in this situation but those are things i’ve learned the hard way through my journey of self awareness! and the awareness of the tendency and correlation was the first step to starting to change that pattern. anyways you are one of my absolute favorite fours to listen to, you inspire me so deeply ❤️ i hope this doesnt come off abrasively oof i just think ab things in terms of the enneagram quite a lot
I only just saw this video and I feel very very similar in the fact that I don't know whether I'm selfish or not for those reasons and I think like I can really relate to some/most of your confessions but please try your best to think less about this whole thing and give yourself a break because the thoughts can cause so much melancholy and self destruction and that can really send you backwards on recovery and learning to love yourself. In the end remember you are only human and try your best to survive and stay safe, not for us but for yourself
it's okay.I understood the point of that first unedited verson and I'm sure lots of others did too! We don't think you are horrible. Just by reading the discription it is easy to see how kind hearted you are and how it was so much more about you than the actress mentioned. It's an issue you are trying to overcome and most likely applys to more people than just that specific actress. youre a good egg.
I feel ya so much on this issue I just finished watching her series yesterday and I've been very bitter and jealous ever since and it's pulling me down so much but I honestly don't know what to do about it. Like, she is so young and already lives this amazing life and gets dressed up like a model and all that stuff And I'm over here like, how unfair is that, I never got that chance, I'm just a normal kid, and I won't be anything else EVER. And I feel like my life is so unworthy of attention and I can't do anything about it. Sorry that I'm such a crybaby but I'm feeling kinda shit.
In defense of the MBTI (bc I love it)...I don't think that by identifying you as an P rather than a J they're trying to make a judgement about your motivations or intentions, but rather your natural inclinations as described by how you responded to the test. That's it. It has its places but of course it's not going to be a perfect "ENFPs always respond like xyz while INTJs respond like abc" or whatever. There's a lot of ENFPS that I'm very different from and a lot of ISTJs (complete opposite) that I share common traits with, but there's really interesting patterns that can be picked up from your MBTI type. So I guess don't take it personally. hehe. Also, it's not set in stone, there's nothing that says your type can't change over time. (mine's fluctuated a couple letters over the years but ENFP has always been the most common.) Anyways there's that impromptu manifesto you're great
That last confession was way too relatable.... My therapist keeps telling me that sometimes I need to put my feelings over others, or at least take some "me time" for my mental health, but I can't help but constantly stress about all of my friends and family. It keeps me from my schoolwork and sleep. It's frustrating having people ask what they can do to make me feel better. I can't say that they should just be happy, because too many people have said it to me. I know how much it hurts for someone to try to compress all of your thoughts and feelings into just one simple solution. It's difficult when people care... I never know "what's wrong" with me. They ask about how I'm doing, but I can hardly even think about how I'm doing until I calm my worries about them. All I want is for everyone to be happy... I do everything I can not to inconvenience anyone, and I apologize constantly, even if I technically did nothing wrong... Everyone tells me to care about myself, but I just can't... I'm the type of person who cries while reading books and watching movies. I cry when my friends tell me stories. I cry when I think about the pain others have gone through. I cry at the thought that I couldn't have protected them from it. Some people may say empathy is a strength, and I guess in a way it is... But to me it feels so much more like a weakness. I love to care about others, and I appreciate when they care, but it hurts. I dread other people thinking the same way as I do, that we'll care so much for each other that neither of us can care for ourselves.... I don't know what to do about it.... I've been going to therapy for two years now, and I take medicine twice daily. I try so hard to care for myself, but it all feels so wasteful. I feel like I can never give myself anything, when I think everyone around me deserves more. My life just feels like an endless spiral of self-hatred and love for everyone else.
i am a 2 on the enneagram! my test results were 2, with 6 being a close second lol. i really like the enneagram bc it helps me feel seen and understood i rlly identify with giving of oneself a lot and putting loved ones' happiness first.. ive had the same selfless/selfish crisis lol however i dont think people are confined to - or restricted by - their number and i do sometimes identify with traits typically characteristic of a 6, or a 4, or whatever bc PEOPLE ARE COMPLEX AND THE ENNEAGRAM IS A TOOL TO HELP U UNDERSTAND URSELF AND THE PPL AROUND U dont base ur identity off of a number OK BYE <333
can we just shun all the people that obviously got petty because dodie mentioned a name to compate her own self to? its so silly but props to dodie for being the bigger person💛
I actually agreed so much with what you cut out from yesterday's video. I don't know what that says about me but I was kinda happy that someone said something about it at the time. More then anything this is helping me point out the fact that I do the same thing and that its not healthy. Thanks I guess 😂
how can one person be so self aware and accepting and beautiful and smart and talented ugh ily. and i also love everyone in this community. lowercase for aesthetic purposes :)
Dodie I love you to death honestly, but about the personality test thing....if you don't wanna be labeled as something you're not, don't take the test, because personality tests are obviously gonna have a lot of inaccurate information always. 😆 just wanted to throw that out there, but anyways once again love you so much and you're great❤️❤️❤️
Hun, we have the same glasses except mine have a flower pattern!! ♡ Also, we all think you are perfectly lovely and although I know you may never understand why or believe us, it is true. Just trust me on this from personal experience. We are all thrilled to see your beautiful face again! I hope you doing fine, love ~ Remember to try to get enough rest, water, food, and whatnot Have a lovely day/night/whenever ~ (I bet you'll never see this but it's worth the words ^^) ♡♡♡
I read a great self development book called The Power of Habit (author Charles Duhigg), and I think it'd be a perfect starting point if you really wanted to try to change some not-so-positive habits in your life! : )
I am probably close on to three times as old as you are Dodie and from what I can tell just about everybody has the same selfishness/selflessness issues. I can only suggest that find a spot where you are comfortable and let yourself gyrate around that spot. Living is painful in someways but you will learn how to cope. I wish you more days of comfort than of turmoil my friend.
Guys, don’t mention the actor dodie mentioned- I don’t think dodie would want this to get bigger you know? It’s best to just leave the actors name out of the comments
Just Peachy I’m just gonna put a description here: very young, very talented, stars in an excellent and very popular tv show, in interviews they kinda come across like they think they are The Shit ™. But honestly I’d act the same if I were their age and got this much attention and they’ll probably grow out of it (hopefully). Even if u figure it out from here, don’t post the name pls!!
aw dodie reuploading was a good choice! I know some people say they didnt find anything wrong with it. But for me due to the age of the actor it was a little uncomfortable. #Respect
But I'm also glad I saw the original video because it's just nice to see that everyone gets these unexplainable negative feelings
This video may be from last year, but the internet is forever and this video just helped me realize something about myself that I didnt realize or acknowledge before.
I'm overweight. I don't like it and i'm constantly dieting or thinking of ways I can lose weight and get back to how I looked before. My motivation since High School and the beginning of Uni has evaporated and has left me with very little to work with.
But I realized one of the reasons why I haven't dedicated myself to getting to a healthier weight is because I feel more approachable and less threatening to people (beautiful, average, etc) as a heavier person. I can be nice and helpful without making other people (mostly girls) suspicious of my intentions. But my mind is at war over it because I crave peer approval, which my brain thinks I have less lately of due to my increased weight.
Anyway, now that this has come to the surface and I can face it, I can finally combat these thoughts and feelings and become a healthier and more confident person (eventually).
Thanks Dodie :)
PS: I'm a 2 (the helper) with wings 9 (the peacemaker) and 3 (the achiever, where the desire for validation comes from)
I'm sorry it turned out as a hate message for some people. That part was honestly very relatable, and even if I'm disappointed that you had to take it down, I completely understand that it's for the good of others. :)) Don't feel bad Dodie darling, we love you.
I miss your videos and your voice Dodieee 💖 like I literally begged my bestfriend, who is currently living in the US, to buy me your book. Cause your book isn't available here in the Philippines and she's coming home here in our country this Dec and she actually love it the first time i showed it to her. So yeah! I'll be expecting your book this coming Christmas! Im so fking excited. Love you dodes
I really like this video! I feel I have the same issues as you:/ but I am also working on them so far I have been doing good. I really appreciate you doing this video ✌
It's okay Dodie 💛 I think most people understood you were not making it about -actor-, you were just using them to make your point. But I guess if people were using it as a spring board to attack them, then that could make you feel responsible, so I guess you've done what you had to! Stay strong 💛💛
I like this style of video... I kind of feel like I want to do this... (I'm a 3w4, i believe, and recently changed to an ENFP, as well. I used to be INFP, and was 50/50 introverted and extroverted, but I guess I switched to 60/40! It feels weird)
personally, i didn't have a problem with what you said yesterday. and i think it's because i relate to that ever so slightly. howEvEr i think it's soo matUrE of you to re edit it and right (what potentially could have been) your wrong. this is why you're one of my idols :))
I am a type 2 on the enneagram which is good for others but is really emotionally draining because I constantly get ignored and nobody ever helps me. It’s okay that you made the mistake as well dodie. Everyone makes mistakes.
Wait why did she re-upload this... like I saw the original... and I mean she didn't really talk bad about name of actor I mean I feel that she perfectly described her meaning... but.. it's the internet and people get offended for no reason...
It will be fine, but i must admit that when i heard your confession yesterday, i got a bib surprised, but i've thougt about it all day and realised that i must agree with you in some aspects... Although i am a huuuge fan of her and what she's up to i will always be the biggest fan of yours ,more than any other people that i could possibly be a fan of, just to see you being a human. There is no one that have ever inspired me as much as you have. YOU ARE AN AMAZING PERSON
Making mistakes is a talent nobody is proud of... so here is a message to all the people who make mistakes : you should be proud that you've made a mistake and that you realized you made one. You don't have to say sorry to yourself, just say thank you because you know you were wrong. ❤️
I didn't notice anything off about the original but i really appreciate the apology, in retrospect it was distasteful and I think you calling yourself out for that helped me learn as well :) there's a lot of comments about how everyone makes mistakes so you don't have to apologize or edit the video, but i politely disagree. I think you're doing a great job of creating a culture of apology without shame and forgiveness without disregard to anyone hurt. And I extra appreciate it because the way that people normalize talking about minors just because they're celebrities is a big problem!! thank u dodie :)
I think the enneagram test is one of the personality tests that’s interesting to me because I think it’s very swayed by two things, the first being, if you know anything about it and already have an idea of what you think you’ll get, and two being, it seems very easily swayed by current feelings. I’ve taken it many different times, most recently it has said I’m a two, but I have definitely been told by it that I’m a four before and a six! I think most people at times can relate to all of these fears and desires and most will likely change at some point. When I look at where I am know, it makes since why I got a 2, and where I’ve been previously in my life, 4 and 6 make since for those times. I think the enneagram is interesting in the moment, but it doesn’t say much about you forever, just in the now.
Why so sad bunny? we need to respect dodies choice to re-edit the video. therefore i think it'd be a little bit unfair to name the actor, i hope you understand xx
y’all I’m just walking around tryin to find the bus and I’m getting all these notifs 😂 and also I’m wearing my Billie shirt so djdkdkkekelld it’s a time rn
I watched the video but dodie noticed that what she said was wrong, she got hate for what she said and I don’t want her getting more hate so I’m not saying who it was.
What I started doing to break the right-before-bed phone habit was reading before sleeping. That way, you still get entertainment without a screen and constant notifications.
Regarding something you said in this video, about judging someone and thinking "Ugh", and then quickly correcting your thinking - "dodie, that's unfair".
I think you should know, that its a psychological fact that when you first see someone you make assumptions based on what you've been taught to think, you correcting that thinking is completely normal and that "correcting" shows how you want to portray yourself, so how you want to act as a human being..
I thought this would be helpful for you to know, because it's actually a very normal thing.
oh boy. i am also a 4. and goddamnit when i researched further what being a 4 meant, and what the usual roadblocks are for 4's i felt so betrayed. I got READ to FILTH lol but it was so true i couldnt really be mad :-/
i dont understand me. i dont. but hearing you talk about your things is like listening to you telling me what i'm like and things i do. its so weird, i relate to you so much and this may help me understand myself better, thank u dodie and i have missed you so much
I thought of something. Dodie is right. When someone is, not alright, sick, sad, depressed, etc. You are there for them and want them to feel alright and people may be like "oh look at them, how kind and selfless they are." but it's not exactly that. You have a fear of losing someone you love and seeing someone not okay makes you scared. Knowing this is impossible to say someone is completely selfless because they want someone to be there for their need.
I think what you said was very easy to understand. I mean we're all human, we have experience that. Misjudging someone because of jealousy is very common and you you did well by recognizing and admiting that it is a wrong thought and that you don't really, reasonable thinking, hate this person or think anyone should. But well it is ok that you choose to leave the name out specially since this is the Internet and everybody can create a war on comments apparently. But I don't think everyone famous should go around constantly apologizing, trying to control the effect of everything they do and explaining themselves. If we cannot understand that artists or famous people are human too and we insist on trying to make them some sort of perfect mold of a person or "role model" it's our problem as audience. We can choose to see it like «hey, that happened to me too» and relate and maybe reflect about that but leave it there and it wouldn't be a problem, and you wouldn't have to explain anything.
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Alexandra Clarmo2017-11-10 02:32:07 (edited 2017-11-10 02:32:43 )
I completely understand this video. I want to not, not like someone for no reason but if I get a bad vibe from them it’s just my instinct?? I feel like the person I show to the world isn’t parallel to the person bottled in my brain but I naturally act that way?? I strive to be more confident in what I believe in and that my opinion matters but, I’m afraid of not being heard, and getting talked over, I’m just not confident. I also deeply struggle with being the same person to everyone. Like, I naturally convert my personality to match the person I’m having a conversation with. I think the reason I do that is because I don’t know who I am yet...? I don’t know... it’s just my brain I guess. I think I need to fix that. Yes. I need to fix that. xxx
Its very true that it takes a lot longer for a broken heart to heal than you might think. For me? It took literal years. I was so ashamed because everyone I knew was fine after months, but nope. I only started feeling fine after about 6 years. And thats okay. Am I embarrassed about it and still carry some shame about it? of course. but I think it is so important to recognize that people are different and different traumas take different people different amounts of time to get over things.
so glad you took down the video, I felt v uncomfortable with what you said, especially because you're a youtuber you probably know what it feels like for people to say stuff like what you said about you, and saying that stuff to a kid was a lil bad,, lov u tho, thank u for apologising <3
next time I think you should emphasise that it's how you feel that is the problem, it's not the fault of said actor so there is less confusion. e.g "one thing I don't like about myself and want to change is irrational jealousy for people (I relate tho, we all do I think) like how I found myself put off by an actor due to my jealousy
Dodie its really beneficial to your mental health to have a normal sleeping pattern! you have a bunkbed, so just leave your phone on your desk beneath it, and put a boring book next to your bed, and go to bed by 10PM. Trust me, it helps with your mental health.
Hi dodie one thing that helps me get off of my phone before bed is an app called Forest and it friend virtual trees for a set amount of time while locking your phone so if you leave it the virtual tree dies, I find this app really useful but sometimes it just can't stop me from scrolling 😂💛
I truly understand what you are talking about ....i have been and somewhat still dealing with the same issues........ But life moves on..... THANK YOU for being you.. Also you are very beautiful 💜💜💜
don't apologise dodie you're only human, everyone makes mistakes that they can learn from. don't bring yourself down because of it, in my eyes you're perfect ❤️
People make mistakes, you wouldn't be human if you didn't I'm really happy that you did what you thought was the right thing and now your mind is at rest<3 here's my original comment:
Dodie! Your back! Love you so much you are sigh an inspiration! I have a friend who is constantly dealing with depression and I am terrified cause I have no idea what to do but you videos give me hope and advice and She has also started watching them so thank you for that xx also, I understand what you mean when you say you think you are selfish I'm currently having that mental battle as well beacuse I feel like no one really sees me or notices if there is something wrong beacuse I don't let it show beacuse I hate having attention beacuse I feel patronised but then when I don't get attention I feel lonley. So am I selfish or just a confused anxtey mess?? Wow that was long.... live you Dodie so glad your back xxx
a friend sent me a song of yours and ask what enneagram number I thought you were so I watched this video and typed as a 4 before you had said it (although we really shouldn't type people) I got so friggin pumped. the enneagram is such a great self growth tool!
"Don't say I am a messy person when I don't want to be." I wonder if that isn't the point? The test telling you what you are rather than what you want to be. I think it's on us to try and become the people we want to be :)
i heard once that the first thought you have about someone is what you have been influenced to think, and then when you go back and disagree with yourself, or affirm your first thought, that is what you truly think. i thought it was really comforting, because sometimes i think yucky things and then look back on myself like WHAT THE HECK IS WRONG WITH YOU and that second, kinder and more merciful thought is actually what i feel, and the first, initial jealous thought is not what i actually am inside. <3
I think it was cool that she mentioned being jealous of that actor even though it could have been viewed as problematic because a lot of people feel the same way about people who have more attention/achievements. I kind of wish she'd left it in more, maybe just not mentioning names, but describing the actor's position more than she's left in this version.
I love you so much dodie. I saw you in London on the 24th, I have a Vlog of it coming very soon :) I also still have my balloon that fell from the ceiling xD
shuko I think it was that girl from Stranger Things, Eleven. She was jealous of a 13-year old kid lol. I don't want to be mean, but that's honestly really pathetic
pathetic is the wrong word for sure, we all get jealous of people and that's just a normal emotion of life, but it's different here because dodie is a 22 year old woman getting jealous of a 13 year old kid. if anything it's a bit more immature than pathetic, or something like that. it's good that she fixed it and re-edited the video though.
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ya boi2018-04-25 22:04:33 (edited 2018-04-25 22:06:41 )
SunnyShowers love she was jealous of a thirteen-year-old kid who's incredibly famous and successful, everything she wanted to be when she was younger. if you read the description, it makes sense. it isn't the actress herself, but her achievements- it makes sense imo. i myself found stranger things kind of unbearable in the beginning because i felt kind of worthless compared to these kids that have already achieved so much in their lifetimes, even if i'm around their age, but i do agree that she was in the right for removing that little jab she took at her.
I think it's important to remember that as HUMANS, we are all flawed! And sinful. And we try to pretend we are perfect, we can figure this world out by ourselves... but no one will ever be! 💜 💜
5:20 The same thing happened to me a while back and he told me to look at it like this. You're on a plane and it's crashing. The person next to you has a broken seatbelt but neither do you. Of course you want to help the its common empathy but what does that mean for you. You die and you won't know what ever happened to that person the could've died to for all you know. The only way you can truly take care of someone is if you first take care of yourself. The next think totally shook me. He told me you can't save them all. It all depends on how broken their seatbelt is or if they truly want to fix it. Take care of youreself Dodie.
Dodie dearest, love, why do make me watch your video again because its reuploaded and because you uploaded it bc i think i have watched all of your videos about 5 time within then first hour of it being up
The thing you said about being confused about whether fulfilling your own needs by making other people happy is selfish or not got me thinking a little. I think that by nature, we're all self-serving; therefore, "selfish". However I also feel that perhaps it's not a bad thing? It would be unhealthy to go out of our way to deny ourselves things we need for the sake of being selfless, right? And obviously there are bad ways to be selfish (i.e. using someone in a less-than-ethical way to achieve a personal goal), but then maybe that means there are good ways that are beneficial to everyone? Or at least doesn't impact anyone involved. I dunno lol but I guess my point is that we shouldn't feel bad for doing things for ourselves when it's not impacting someone else in a bad way.
I relate to dodie so much it's kinda scaring but also comforting...
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Mara Cares2017-11-09 21:17:50 (edited 2017-11-09 21:19:38 )
Dodie I highly recommend checking out 16personalities.com, their descriptions are eerily on point! Also, you're my extroverted counterpart (infp here) so my odd sense of kinship with you is less odd now 🙈🎈
your fan base is too big to for you to post hate abt somebody else,, another celebrity who is literally a child. i rlly appreciate that you took it down but that's really messed up and she's a person too and she worked really hard to get where she is and she gets enough flack for being a young kid, so yeah, it's not okay, but we all make mistakes and it was a very mature way to handle it.
5:21-5:55 OH SHIT I found another thing we have in common!! This is exactly me. My friend Roxy (who is an absolutely lovely person), has expressed her frustration with this bad habit of mine many, many times. She always says-"*You're too selfless*." And it's 100% true! I'm not just saying that to tickle my ego. I am perfectly aware that I am way, way, WAY too selfless to the point where I hide my negative feelings daily and also won't be truthful even when I feel terribly ill. All because I don't want to ruin the people who matters to me's days with my problems, which I KNOW is such a stupid philosophy but I just won't. give it. up! I'm too afraid of change to properly address and fix this problem, so I just keep on pretending like I don't. And it gives me such a sick feeling of satisfaction when I hide all that shit from people, because I tell myself "It's okay, you're making them happier this way". I just don't know how to stop myself, and now I've realized I also do this because I need them to be okay for me to be okay. The only difference between me and you, dodie, is that I'm still stuck in the whirlpool of trauma, so I'm still never really okay. Thank you so much for saying this, I'm a step closer to fixing the problem now!
Oh and just to add-yes, this does make us selfish. But that's okay! Because all humans are selfish, and helping other humans constantly is not the worst way to do it. As long as you're always consciously trying to fix the problem, it's fine to be like this.
Being so self-aware can drive you nuts and you miss the point in simply living. Live in the now and stop worrying about everything. We live a privileged existence to be able to even waste time taking personality tests.
once again, dodie being bullied into not being allowed to express herself on a platform that's for THAT exactly. doesn't mean it's fact, doesn't mean it means that forever, thoughts are ever changing as are people. people are so quick to judge when they all do the same things as well. YOU DON'T HAVE TO LIKE EVERYBODY AND THAT'S OKAY! I feel like with as supportive as your fans say they are, making you feel like you've done something wrong, when you've just expressed an opinion and one that you yourself didn't even favor, it just makes you feel a certain way, is emotional abuse.
it also means you don't have to agree with everything dodie says people, we are all different and unique and have our own thoughts and opinions, stop faulting for someone for not being your fantasy image of perfection. We love dodie because she is so honestly her, you can't pick and choose traits. let her live her truth and work through her stuff. you have enough of your own stuff to work on folks.
I don't think anyone bullied her into editing her video. Targetting a child, or using a child as an example of your envy and dislike, is not appropriate, especially on platforms such as this with a big audience like Dodie's. Also, put yourself in the child's shoes, how would you feel?
No one is pick or choosing traits. I think everyone agrees that Dodie's honesty and truth to herself is one of the reasons why people love her, and has nothing to do with the above. And I agree you don't have to like everybody, and that is okay. But the above overstepped the line on a public platform, and Dodie recognised this. She understood her mistake, changed it, and now lets move on :)
i personally didn't have any problem with the video, but i do see where others were coming from and i don't think it was said because they want her to be "perfect". i think they were just trying to remind her that she should be careful with what she says as it is a responsibility that comes with having such a large audience - i agree that she deserves to express what she wants to, but it could have been said a little more delicately. there were some people who could've phrased their concern more nicely, but i don't think it was to the point of "emotional abuse". regardless, though i didn't expect her to re-edit the video i think it's commendable that she took the criticism in stride and actually took action.
I saw the original post and feel very similarly about lots of actors/celebrities. I understood what you were trying to convey and I am so sorry it was taken out of context and used to hurt that person, everybody who knows you (even just online) knows that you were not saying things maliciously, its just part of how brains (especially ones that have poor mental health - speaking from experience) are.
Wtf? She literally trashed MBB and then everyone was like “hey that’s wrong? She’s just a kid and just because you wanted to be her when you were that age doesn’t make her an attention seeker.” So she knew she was getting hate and took it down, then made sure to take out the actors name. After the whole mental illness over sharing thing I was already iffy about Dodie but now I’m done with her
i'm an ENFP as well! i'm also the same being messy. it's odd because i'm neat with schoolwork and my life in general, but my room is absolutely disgusting. oopsie
The way I broke my phone-in-bed habit was really simple! I started a rule where, if my phone is on, it isn't allowed in the bedroom. This leads to me standing on the landing watching YouTube videos there instead, but still, I can't stand there watching all night like I occasionally did lying in bed... The only thing you will need to make this work is a separate alarm clock instead of using your phone. I have one I bought from an airport when I was seven and is still going strong! (I also like that it can only go off once so I can't get trapped in the psychology of the snooze button.)
I doubt you will even see this, but you are honestly just beautiful. Not just your looks ( however you are super cute) Everything about you just makes to me want to give you a hug.
Everyone makes mistakes and you have handled this one well. (If you really want to call it a mistake. Mistake seems like such a harsh word to me, idk. a "slip up" seems like a better word to use.) Calmly addressing that you've done something that you probably shouldn't have, and fixing it. I LOVE YOU DODIE. You make me smile, calm me down, and have helped me grow as a person SO. MUCH. THANK YOU.
sameeee tho, i just realized that the reason i have so much trouble because i think that everyone around me is dependent on me to fix them or help them all the time and that’s the main source of my anxiety
You know what that was difficult thing to hold your hands and say you were wrong & go bk re-edit it. We love not because you are perfect but because you aren’t, you are human, relatable and honest. (Not to forget extremely talented) props to you. You learn every single day I’m 34 and when I was 24 I thought I knew everything there Is to know in the world but how wrong was I ? Now I’m 34 I’m still learning and growing. We love you, if not more now ❤️
so i was watching your video and my brother (age 4) comes up and says you, dodie, are beautiful and asked me if you are a princess and i said yes. just thought you would love to know
I'm a DIY musician. I sleep on floors doing what you do for little to no money. I was super offended when you said on twitter that your tour bus felt like a coffin. I showed you a picture of our frosty minivan with a broken window, where I slept for many nights. I'm sorry. I saw a lot of myself in this video. I'm very sorry.
the P in Myers-Briggs typology isn't necessarily being sporadic versus organized. my dad is an entp and he cant stand having the house in a mess. another good friend is an esfp and she also prefers things to be tidy. the P really just means that your perceiving function (either S or N) is turned to the outside world. so, with you being an enfp, it just means that you turn your intuition to the outside world. it is a stereotype that Ps tend to be more spontaneous and absent minded, but its just stereotype.
We all make mistakes dodie, but the fact that you admitted and cleared things up is very inspiring by you, and it’s wAY BETTER than many others would’ve. You’re incredible, and an amazing person. So please remember that mistakes don’t define you. They make you stronger and smarter in the long end!
I experience the same thing with some young celebs. I don't hate the people but it's more the way they live and stuff. I know there's no reason for you to believe me but I'm actually a nice decent human being. Long story short. THIS IS COMPLETELY NORMAL
don’t worry, everyone makes mistakes and i’m sure those who ‘witch-hunted’ said actor literally have nothing better to do with their life than attack people whenever is suitable for them. honestly, hating on an actor is bad enough as it is, let alone one who is as young as she is.
how can you call m an attention seeker though? she is a kind soul who worked hard to get where she is, and you should respect her because she did nothing wrong. (this is NOT hate to dodie, i love dodie, and she did the right thing by editing it)
I didn't say anything on the last video but I'm kind of glad you edited and re-uploaded. I only say this because I know that the actress watches a lot of YouTube and I had a strange feeling she watches yours and I think it would've been unfortunate for someone her age to come across a comment like that if she were to say admire you or your channel. The comment wasnt necessarily bad because you put it into perspective but just young girls typically don't care about the perspective I would say and if they hear something negative about themselves that's all they Will probably take away. Anyways I got your whole point so it didn't bother me but I am also glad that you Edited and re-uploaded
I know that this video is 2 years old but I'm so keen because my birthday is in two weeks and im getting dodies book and the Human vinyl. and im honestly so damn excited because dodie.
I'm a 6. This basically means that i'm very loyal to people but every one of my problems is deeply rooted in you guessed it.... anxiety! (anxiety about everything but a lot of it is thinking that you friends don't truly like you yikesss) The first time i took the test i was shocked at how real it was. I find that it's generally pretty accurate but there are usually a few things that don't match up. For example sixes aren't creative but i am pretty creative and I loooove art. The enneagram is super informative but there's always little things that don't match up.
It's ok dodie, it was only to prove a point! No one is overly hurt by it and we all still love you!
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Emma Taylor2017-11-09 21:37:17 (edited 2017-11-09 21:38:07 )
Hey, nobody's perfect. If you ever want to cheer up when you're feeling down just remember those simple words 'nobody's perfect' (maybe listen to hannah montana's song nobody's perfect and get a chuckle out of it). Plus you still are a super amazing beautiful human being just like every single one of you reading this!😊
A puzzle piece of who Dodie is, is a young woman who touches thousands of people a day with her loving glow. and a person who's hurt makes them smart and strong.
I’m a type four and I’m always struggling. It’s like I don’t know me and I’m changing all the time in my taste. But I love the creative side of it. Every type has it’s pros and cons i guess
Let's relate over flaws, people. I have a need to feel needed (enneagram type 2) and it has made me manipulate people into showing affection. I often hate saying hi to people and not hearing a hi back. I overthink it and wonder if they don't care about me. However, I control this flaw and I am okay with it being a part of me. I am a much better person than I was when I was 14. I hope everyone has been evolving into better humans, lately.
I know what you mean about the bit you re edited- I’m kinda high key jealous of a young artist in the musical fandoms to the point where I despised them and started to despise the musicals she made fan art of, but then I realised they hadn’t done anything wrong! I was just jealous that this kid a few years younger than me was making art a thousand times better than mine and was getting thousands more notes on her work than I was
Regarding the Myers Briggs, I actually have a similar type to you - INFP, introverted instead of extroverted is the only difference! I love the Myers Briggs though and I just want to defend it a little bit. The P is about being sporadic instead of organised, but it's not about what you strive towards, it's about your natural state. The Myers Briggs tells you less about what you value (like the Enneagram does) and more about what you revert to. I have huge difficulty with being a P because it makes my life super stressful, and obviously I'd prefer to be a J if I could, decisive, organised, doesn't procrastinate as much, but my brain is so far down the P end that it is a huge struggle for me to access those J traits. Everything on the Myers Briggs is a scale, and everyone sits somewhere on that scale, and at the end of the day the healthiest place to be is in the middle. Eg if you're super extroverted, you won't be comfortable alone, if you're super introverted you won't be comfortable around other people, if you make your way to the middle, you can be comfortable in any situation. The other letters all describe different traits but the same principle applies - everyone sits somewhere on the scale and the closer you are to the middle, the healthier you'll be. So the Myers Briggs tells you which way you should be trying to go on the scale. A common misunderstanding is that the Myers Briggs is discrete and just boxes you in to one personality type but it's actually a lot about sliding scales and growth etc. I find it really really helpful in self-growth and self-development, much more helpful than I ever actually found the Enneagram! I found the Enneagram was much more boxy because you get one number, one wing, and that's just what you are. Idk, this is ridiculously long now but don't write off the Myers Briggs, it's actually super cool and helpful and interesting!
No reason to feel ashamed nor embarrassed. You continuously make the sacrifice of unveiling your own flaws to show that no human is perfect. Never have your intentions been to hurt anyone, but when you accidentally did, you did everything in your power to make up for it. You're good. You can have a cup of tea now.
But Dodie, MBTI is about the cognitive functions, not the separate letters. You may very well be an ENFJ (like Elton John), since the function are: Extraverted Feeling (hello!), Introverted Intuition, Extraverted Sensing and Introverted Thinking. You can be messy and still an ENFJ.
Hello! (Just an advice) Don't judge and critisice yourself while doing, thinking nor feeling. You might think that that is what makes you who you are, but when you do, think and feel, you live. And in those actions, thoughts and feelings is where your essence is hidden. Try to let your essence be, because,that essence is you. Please, just don't critisice and question that much yourself, and let that to the world, because, in that way, you'll start protecting yourself from others, and consecuently, you'll be living. I am not pretending to tell you how to live, it is just an advice given by a healthy empathy. I've been where you are for years too. Muy best wishes to you ♥. Excuse my english, I am from Spain.
The editing on 3:49 for the VO was nice. I keep forgetting you DON'T need glasses unlike my astigmatic, near sightedness. I saw the first version before you took it down. The jealousy trait (?) makes a little more visual sense and I'm smart enough that it was an example. Perception is the crux, so I get why you took it down. You like talking about enneagrams a lot lately. Hope ya put something out you like about it soonish.
A confession from me I’m quite vain, I see people around me and they’re so pretty and beautiful and talented. I know I shouldn’t concentrate on things like that and I’m currently working on myself to better myself so I won’t concentrate on things like that but I just feel ugly then when I think jealous thoughts I feel uglier. Recently to help I think of things I like about people I see, like their hair or their fashion and I spend a little time thinking about things I like about my hair or my fashion. And I have set up a schedule to help me feel more complete everyday so I can move on.
i did think it was a bit out of character for you to share a negative view like that in such a permanent form that may not represent your feelings down the line. glad you changed it
I can relate to that point of being jealous of people and hating them. Usually I start hating people because they have something I lack, and then I'm like Hold Up, that person has done nothing wrong. It's just that I want what they have, whether it's material, or something within their personality, or even their way of thinking, I find myself lacking and therefore pin my hate on them.
(on that last bit about needing everyone you love to be happy in order for you to be happy) I think it's a selfless action with selfish intentions... is how I'd describe it atleast lol
i dont think it was a mistake u are allowed to not like someone for no reason and i actually agree im so jealous of her confidence at such a young age that i convinced myself she is over confident and bratty, even though she is just who i wish i was
Your human and your gonna make mistakes, sadly since your a YouTuber everyone will see those mistakes, but I think she’s a beautiful out spoken person and that makes you so great to watch. I don’t think it’s a big deal to be jealous of someone, it’s a human trait. I know dodie wasn’t trying to hurt anyone’s feelings. The video is called confessions for a reason and people are too hard on her for a little mistake
you don't have to be perfect. You don't have to like everyone. And nobody can say that's wrong because opinions have two sides and both are valid. I love you.
Ironically I feel the same about you a lot of the time dodie. But I don’t dislike you. I love your content and your music and I support you every way I can but I can’t help but be jealous because we are about the same age doing similar things (although I recently privated all of my videos to appear more professional for future employers) and it just makes me sad that I can’t have your life.
I’m learning recently that I am not the only human on this earth. Sounds obvious I know, but I forget that everyone else on this planet has thoughts, worries, guilty consciences etc, and I believe that I’m beneath everyone whenever I have those horrible thoughts and I always feel behind and weaker. It’s helping me to stop being jealous of other people or take what they say too much to heart because I remember that people are human and have their own little universes that need tending to. It makes life feel a little more insignificant. It’s nicer.
hey i kinda said this before but i'll kinda say it again bc it makes me very annoyed that you actually think u did and said something wrong. ok. you have the total right to dislike someone, and it doesn't matter (iT DOESN'T MATTER) if you don't know them! also: it doesn't matter why, it doesn't matter if it's immature unlinking(?), or if it's just anything that doesn't seem racionable. ofc you're human and you can make mistakes but saying what you think is not a mistake, and felling what u feel is not a mistake. pls pls pls think about that, ok? u can't control how people are gonna react to what u do and ofc when you're in the internet you have to be very careful with what u say, i agree, but you should understand that what is inside you isn't wrong just cause someone sees it that way. love you, bubble. stay safe xo
She did though, but that's completely okay because she realised, addressed it on twitter and such, then fixed the video. You're completely allowed your own opinion, but whether or not, and how, you share it changes when you're an adult and the person in question is a child. Imagine how Dodie would feel if an adult who's a complete stranger said something similar about Hedy, which then encouraged other adults to say similar, or more negative, things. That is exactly what happened in the comments of the original video. If Dodie decided that her actions weren't at all questionable and that everyone who was worried about what she did were completely wrong and didn't reflect on it or anything, then that would be a bad thing and affect her character. Every single human does wrong things and makes mistakes, including Dodie, but the point is that she rectified and grew from it.
this is so weird every single confession you made is exactly what i have, i am unfortunately an extremely jealous and envious of others. i try not to be but it’s just so agggghhhhh
I think if you're original instinct is to make people happy (even if it is to make you happy too) you can be described as selfless. If you become happy when others are happy, that in no way makes you selfish. Making sure their well being is okay and that they're happy so that you can be happy is not in any way selfish.
I want to read your book so, so much, so much it hurts to think about because some of it’s inappropriate for someone my age (I’m just a kid lol) but I want to read it SOOOO MUCHHHHH
DODIEEEE has anyone requested you to cover Cecily Smith by Will Connolly? Well, I mean, people have, in large numbers, in YouTube comments. But has anyone actually come to you in YOUR channel's comments and asked you? This is me asking if you'd go give it a listen if you haven't 😙
dodie should try doing a video where for a few days, she tries to be healthy in that she sleeps on time & eats rlly well & practices self care mentally and physically, and she can see how much better she feels! (im saying this bc of the point she raised regarding her unhealthy sleeping habits)
Quick lil note on mbti stuff; the P doesn't simply mean messy, essentially it means having an "organised mind" so you can have outwards freedom aka messiness, while people with a J usually keep tidy surroundings so the can have inwards freedom. Because *the more you know*. Cheers!
I feel bad you were kind of forced to remove that part. People who commented who were bothered by it are likely guilty of the same kind of jealousy, and as a result of that jealousy, anger. And that jealousy and anger is okay, we're all human. But they took that out on you because they were fans of -actor-.
Nonetheless, I like the idea of going back and looking at what you said, like you did at several points in this. I remember Evan doing a very similar thing. It's good to look back on what we say. It shows us to think about what we say :)
i honestly don't think dodie made a mistake. i know what she said in the last video and the response she got. i think dodie should have been commemorated for being honest because she chooses to be real with us, and honestly, i bet some people feel the same way she does about the person she called grating. just because she has fame doesn't mean that she doesn't have feelings of jealousy. she felt a way, acknowledged her feelings and told everyone that she is trying to rid of it and fix her problem with jealousy.
This is for the people who are debating whether or not to buy the book: (Here's my trying to re-say what I said yesterday because I want people to see it) I pre-ordered it and the closer I came to the release date, the more exciting I got. When it finally came in the mail, I read half of it in one evening (so my mum kept saying that I should buy more books, so we'd have more calm evenings ;)). I finished it three (?) days ago and I've been trying to wrap my head around what it made me feel ever since. And I guess it means hope for me. I don't think I've ever related to a book more, and of course I didn't relate to everything, but it made me feel less alone. My bad brain has the awful habit of luring me into the sense that nothing will ever be okay again, even though my rational brain (if that makes sense), knows that's total horseshit. So I know (for sure, in fact) that I'll pick up this book again when the world starts feeling like that. Because the things that dodie said reminded me (and my bad brain) that even when things seem horrible and the world too big for my heart and my chest is crushing me, things are never truly lost. I'll feel okay again. So do with my opinion what I want, but I think the book is truly inspiring, hopeful and beautiful (also beautiful to look at, I cannot stop flipping through it, it's so PRETTY). So thank you for writing it dodie!
To say who it is would be dumb but I want to say when I watched the first video I did go in a hole of just looking at pictures of them since they are so WONDERFULLY beautiful and long story short they're my wallpaper now. Just because they're pretty. Next will be you, Dodie.
The P vs J on Myers Briggs has a lot more to do with planning things versus being more spontaneous I'm about as messy as you but I PLAN EVERYTHING and I'm a J Organized I guess has a little bit to do with it but its usualling about planning or spontaneous I'm pretty sure
Confession: I’m so jealous of Billie Eillish. Not only is she younger than me but is where I want to be with my own music career. She is has a beautiful voice and has great lyrics and it makes me not like her just cuz of my own jealousy. But I still love her music and stuff, it just makes me sad that I can’t be where she is. The first song I herd by her I think she was 14 when she made it and when I was 14 I was just doing covers. I wish I could write like her more than all and I just understand what you mean dodie. I saw the video before it was re-uploaded and I won’t say who you were talking about for your own privacy, but I do feel like you re-uploading the video just gives what the haters want, like your feeding into it I guess. I just feel like you should always be unapologetically you. I am a big fan of you were talking about, but when I watched the video I totally understand where you’re coming from. I feel like if people didn’t understand what you were trying to say then that’s their fault not yours, because I think you explained it in the best way. But that’s just my thoughts.
Hey dodie i wrote a massive fucking comment on the original that i cannot be bothered to write again but we are all mistake making humans and nobody is perfect not even someone as amazing as yourself! Love you lots and hope you are doing okay xx
Dodie, that's a total misinterpretation of p vs j in mbti? Like, just, I have a j in my mbti type, I'm an intj. I also have a messy room and am totally okay with it! When talking about judging vs perceiving, it much more depends on how systematic you are. You may like organization, but not like a strict life schedule for everything and anything. Being a perceiver is much more about being a go with the flow type of person. Like. Perceivers are known to like more variation in their life, and don't like to have to strictly do *one thing*. Whereas judgers like to plan ahead, and have a very steady idea of what to do in what they do. It's like... the difference between people who plan vacations by the hour, and those who go somewhere, have a general idea of what they want to do, but really just look around and see what's cool!
If you want to stop being on your phone before you sleep for so long then maybe you could try putting your phone on charge that way you can't take it anywhere but charge it on the other side of the room or out of reach from where you usually spend so long on your phone. Maybe that makes sense, maybe it doesn't but yeah just leave it far away from you. I spent a couple years doing that which meant lots more sleep and good sleep. Hopefully it helps 💛✨💛
I also have the not being a happy being !messy person and craving the tidy life but I still know I am messy naturally and sporadicnin thought- its not a bad thing, just not what I desire,however noone said i couldn't change it. So I do try changing it. Funny, I understand the attention thing too. This video is hella interesting x
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Rose Valley2017-11-11 20:35:43 (edited 2017-11-11 20:36:29 )
I'm a super messy person who wants to pretend to be a neat-freak lol. x_x BUT I've found a solution that works for me! :D I set a timer for 20 minutes every day and go clean something until the timer goes off. It's "only" 20 minutes (an amount of time that's easy to spend every day), and I can get a lot done when it's the only thing to focus on. After a week, my apartment started to look super clean, and I start spending the 20 minutes organizing drawers and stuff instead of putting things away. It works great for me, and maybe it'll work for you! ^_^
As for the enneagram test, my results had multiple equivalent numbers when I took it. I have no idea what that means. Hopefully it doesn't mean I have a shape-shifter personality or something.T_T
i got a 10.4 for both 2 and 9 on the enneagram and a 9.4 for 4 which makes sense bc i relate a lot to what you said about the 4 but i wouldn't relate to all of the 4. also i'm an infp! so we're similar in those ways but different bc ur an enfp (if you don't feel like that's exactly what you are you could take the test again (which is what my best friend made me do because he didn't feel like i was an infp and i should be an enfp but i still got infp)) and a 4 and like,,, a different person lmao.
Dodie is such a good human. Didn’t see anything wrong with the original video because I got the point but I did feel bad about all the negative comments.
If you ever read this (and this is to all mistake making humans that feel bad): it’s okay. Maybe you did a bad, maybe you didn’t but all in all you’re trying to be your best honest self and that’s pretty great. You are good. I hope you can recover from the anger thrown at you.
On a cheerful note I just saw my cat stand on a box to look at himself in a mirror. Not relevant just very distracting. Anyway I hope all is humans stick together and try to practice love and acceptance etc. Good vibes blah blah
I don't see anything wrong with the original version. You made it completely clear that you don't have anything against her, but that you were just experiencing something that we all do. It was bold to mention her by name, but not wrong. Don't let the more sensitive viewers make you feel guilty about it. However, I admire your bravery in directly addressing the issue and making a formal, public apology.
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Khonsu the Core2018-07-18 22:13:23 (edited 2018-07-18 22:18:19 )
Lmao, ENFJ I let my room go to shit and just sit on my bed like, "Yeah it's a mess but I don't care" until my mom makes me clean it. My parents say I'm a 2 on the thing but I've never checked it out.
I think it's somewhat ironic that this video that mentions having a phone addiction probably gets a lot of views from other addicts (like me) ! Interesting.
With staying up on your phone there are loads of apps which can help stop that, I’m not sure about the names but I’m pretty sure there’s an app which is intended for helping people spend less time on their phone and it basically locks your phone for you for a specific time you ask it to. So you could say you want it to lock between 12-1 and then maybe you’d start going to bed earlier? Idk if this was any help or not, sorry I don’t know the name of it 😂xx
I felt the way you did about actor about Heddy (she's good at art, can sing, has a youtube channel and has a lovely sister) and i felt SO bad because she seemed so nice and i disliked her for no reason other than that im jealous. Thank you for letting me know im not alone?
I don’t normally get very jealous, but when it comes to people being hella talented and especially when people my age are huge on YouTube I feel kind of inadequate or sometimes it feels unfair. This leads to me having a slight resentment or like just ever present jealousy. Sometimes this is able to manifest itself as inspiration but that it not usually the case.
some people white out their mistakes, but its always still there. Other people, like dodie, bravely pull out the giant mistake eraser and scream "FUCK!"
I always had the same problems as you do now, I have found the cause and therefore some solutions. I’d love to help you but rather not out in the open in the comments. So i’ll e-mail it if you want. Let me know then i’ll drop my e-mailadress.
i really hope people aren’t giving you a bunch of shit for this. people make easy mistakes and that’s all you’ve done. you maturely appreciated the opinions of others and attacked the situation appropriately
ngl I didn't pay much mind your original video because my head wasn't in the right place when I watched it and I've completely forgotten what happened to make you re-edit and I was utterly confused when reading the comments but that's just who I am nowadays, I forget things. to be perfectly honest though you're the loveliest person I think I've ever had the pleasure of watching on YouTube so I don't think any passing comment you make about anything that I can't remember for the life of me will change that
I didn't think you needed to cut out the original part. I understand why you did, but I feel like it makes you human. Everyone feels like that and it's taboo to talk about because it'd destructive but it's true we all do it. I liked that part of the video because I do that and I've never really heard someone say it out loud and it was almost relieving to hear you say "I don't like this person for no other reason besides that I'm jealous." because i feel that a lot too.
I wonder if Dodie realizes that how she feels about people is how younger people like me (I'm 13) feel about her... she can spill her thoughts and not sound so mumble jumble as I do. She GETS EVERYTHING AS IF SHE CAN EMPATHIZE THE INFINITE IN THE FINITE AMOUNT OF TIME YOU WATCH HER OR READ STUFF LIKE HER INSTAGRAM CAPTIONS. Oh god Dodie you are a double edge sword as in you can kill all of your viewers pain just for a few moments even but you keep stabbing yourself. SO THANK YOU. SO SO SO MUCH FOR KEEP UPLOADING AND HELPING. I promise you-you are selfless in the most selfish way and I am so thankful. ~Wagiha
You dig enneagrams but not MBTI? Sounds like you've found great explanations of enneagrams, but not Myers Briggs - studying shadow theory makes the entire difference in understanding the full spectrum of each type.
I don’t feel you are meant to like everyone. I think you should give someone a chance and try to like them but if you don’t like them, you don’t. When it comes to your issue about not liking the actor mentioned, I think your explanation is fine. This is coming from someone who thinks the actor is really cool, she’s going to be very successful and I find her charismatic personality contagious. You don’t need my validation but I think you worded how you felt about said actor in the unedited version well you weren’t flat out like she’s terrible I hate her, you explained why you might find her a bit grating. Anyway thanks for making videos!
i think its very normal for human being to be jealous of other beings - its what improves us most of the time and it shows that we admire other people other than ourselves!!
Dodie you couldn't have handled this better than you did!! Everyone makes mistakes, the difference is the people who don't give a shit and don't even say they're sorry and the people who actually try to fix their mishap. I'm so proud of you for dealing with it and in such a short notice! Keep shining and enjoying music, love💛
I struggle with this, I always have since I was younger. I have never felt pretty. So, when I was younger, I'd be shopping in Claire's and I'd see a girl who I would think is prettier than me and I would continue to walk past them and sway my hips until they looked at me and then I would feel better. It's sad I know. I still get jealous, I love to be a nice person but my jealousy can bring out a side of me that I hate. For example, Wiishu (Septic's GF (it pains me to say he's her BF) she has everything and I wish she knew that. She gets to be with him and I always wonder why her out of all the girls in the world that are worthy, why just pick her?
i know you may not read this but i just wanted to offer some advice (not that you need it) on the phone habit thing. i have the same problem - if my phone is near my bed when i try to sleep, i’ll be on it until the small hours. so what i’ve done is first set an alarm on my phone at whatever time i want to not be on my phone (for me it’s like 10;30) and then i take my phone and put it on charge in the kitchen (just away form my bed), then i go and get ready for bed and do all that stuff and go straight to my bedroom and try and read. i also find reading before bed makes my sleep so so much better than when i’ve been on my phone before bed. don’t get be wrong tho - this isn’t perfect, but i find it helps me so maybe it could help you - it’s just a little way of (hopefully) takin your mind off your phone before bed meaning you’re not on it. again, you probably have already tried something like this but i just thought (maybe) it could help .. :)
if you act to make other's happy because your happiness derives from theirs, then that could be considered acting with selfish intent. But since their outcome is the same if you wanted to make them happy for their sake, it could be said that nothing is bad about selfishly making others happy. In simpler words, the reason why you act is less important than the value of the consequences from your action.
"people misunderstood the message and used it as a forum for opinions" that's deflecting so much. I never saw any comments of people sharing their opinions of her but I saw lots of people calling you out for adding to the problem of people hating on celebs. :/ To blame the re-edit on your fans "misunderstanding" is just rude and blaming your own mistake on them. If you're gonna own up to how embarrassed it made you, don't blame it on your fans. :/
I have the same problem about staying up on my phone and what I do is watch satisfying videos and asmr cooking videos. There is a YouTuber called Peaceful Cuisine and he makes nice asmr cooking videos
my confession... i was in a relationship and due to distance we broke up. afterward i was told i was a horrible person for moving on after a week and that i sucked the life out of her. i had my guesses the whole time. but she always said i was fine, i didnt do anything wrong, that i was perfect... but now its okay for her and her NEW boy friend(of one day after we broke up) and her cousin to all yell at me? ...am i a bad person?...
I cannot find your book in any New Zealand stores. It was the one I really wanted, and because I couldn’t find it, I settled with the new John Green book instead. It’s good but I would rather read yours ♥️
i don’t think it was a mistake! like it was a real feeling ya know... no one likes everyone and people don’t have to like everyone. you even said she was a good person and you said your reason behind it and that it’s not really her it’s more you!! idk i understand completely why you took it down but ya know maybe one day you’ll be able to share an opinion like that and not get back lash!!
The only thing I don't like of this video is the tendency to put yourself in categories. It could help to take them as references but they can also be limits if you take them too seriously. Apart from that, I appreciated your honesty.
And looking at your book, the blue post it note... Perhaps based on what you said in this video it should read "Life won't be beautiful all of the time, but stop an appreciate the time that it is and believe it is okay to let yourself enjoy them." ;)
Shit. Dodie you are NOT perfect no one is you must get this a lot but perfect is a word not something that can happen. I am so so young I have grown my anxiety being a type 6 and I need me to be perfect but I need to learn how to be human. You are strong having derealisation you so strong for sticking in this sick world and staying here.
Doubt you’ll see this BUT here’s the thingooo I used to hate Meyer Briggs testing because I felt like I got picked up and put into a box like a little kitten, I felt like the test put me into a position that I wasn’t allowed to be anything more than what the text told me I was which frustrated me and almost infuriated me until I decided to see the test as a very basic outline, it’s not all necessarily true but a lot of it can apply to that type and tends to apply to that type, personally I am an INFP in the Meyer Briggs testing, and in my definition I’m known as the “completely illogical emotional person” which isn’t true at all for me, I’m a powerfully emotional, empathetic and passionate person, but I know when I’m being unreasonable and illogical and I make decisions passed just my feelings which the test told me isn’t the typical attitude of an INFP, so like I said, not everything about it is true, especially if it’s from other people’s mouths who haven’t been thoroughly educated, you SHOULD be able to chose your own path, the Meyer Briggs is just there as an extreme base level of a personality, being messy is just a habit and it doesn’t have to stick around, you have every right to further yourself and be your own individual person outside of what the test tells you, I know I’m doing the same 💝
Dodieee, I want to buy one of your merchandise shirt (the one with your head on it :) ) but It is sold out, do you know when it's going to be available again?
Something I really hate about myself is that I’m really jealous which is normal but when I’m jealous of someone I pretend that I don’t like them or would never want to be anything like them which is really annoying cuz it’s basically pretending that my personality is superior ugh
Yeah i have a lot of jealousy, which causes anger that can sometimes turn into hate at random innocent people just because im jealous and it makes me so :(((( like i get jealous of physical appearance the most but sometimes it's about popularity, the amount of friends they have, etc. It's honestly really unhealthy and i wish it was a smaller part of me than it is but i hope one day i can just be less jealous and overall less angry
Hey dodie, can u make a video about Alice. I’m curious about how she is and your relationship now. You don’t have to if you don’t want to, but it’s a suggestion :)
Have you ever heard of Alan watts, he was an interesting philosopher who discusses things like people helping others so the would feel less selfish and better about themselves
I totally forgive what you did, because I did not agree with you stating the name at the time. It was a great example of how many of us feel with jealously at times, but it was a bit upsetting that you used her name in a way that could be misconstrued as hate. I really appreciate that you realized the mistake and took to editing the vid. Love you and I love her, so I'm glad this was squared away. 💛
Tip for your phone addiction: tell yourself it will be there tomorrow. I know that not as easy to do as it sounds, but it's all I have. Those instagram posts will still be there in the morning, but your good night's rest won't. Sleep when you can, when the air is cool, when the world is dark, when the moon glows over your sliver of the world. If that isn't enough, close your phone and try to write stories in your head. Using your brain will make you more tired, then you can (maybe) sleep. Set an alarm on your phone to tell you to get off. I don't know, maybe just plug in your phone at your desk so you can't access it. Social media will always be there. The night won't.
cas autumn2017-11-10 00:49:48 (edited 2017-11-10 00:50:14 )
I push away the people I admire because Im jealous of them. If I dont see them, I dont think about them so I dont belittle myself. I have lost a lot of friends because of this and hate myself for it.
when she says that she's had her heart broken three times does that mean that she has been hurt by 3 people or by 1 person 3 times. sorry i just need this for clarification.
I never thought I was a jealous person until Rachel Zegler got cast in West Side Story and now I feel like a walking blob of green envy and it’s awful :( I’m so proud of herrr but I just... I want it to be me. And I hate that about myself. Just cause she’s got her big break doesn’t mean I can’t have mine. Her being successful doesn’t give me less of a chance of doing well. But she’s getting everything I’ve ever wanted. God I’m such a bitch haha
Hello its a year later and she's been cast in TWO other incredibly huge movies and I'm still jealous as fuck and its a problem lmaoooo
on the last point about if it’s selfishness or selflessness, it could very well be both. there are very few people who are wholeheartedly selfless or selfish.
Yeah, I stopped watching the last video after you mentioned that actor. It bothered me because I thought it was a pretty petty thing for you to do, so I'm glad you've realized it wasn't very nice.
I am an INFP - the difference between InFp and enfp isnthat enmfp are supposed to be externally expressive and INFP are internally expressive I find I struggle to complete creative ideas, they stay internal and so I get envious of those with a enfp type personality.
Oh My Gosh I'm so sorry you had to repost the video ! You just had an opinion , you didn't even say anything hateful , you just said it to show a flaw in yourself , that really sucks Dodie , sorry
The exact moment you were on your phone and I saw John Green as you were scrolling... whoa Lordy doodeeee.... I died there and then. I did not know it was humanly possible to love a stranger this much 🙊👍🏻🎉
myers briggs has little to no scientific backing so it's okay!! people are too diverse to be completely encompassed and described by four little letters
I'M ALSO AN ENFP I hate being disorganised as well and I get happier when I clean up and organise I have a little bedroom blitz every few months but my natural state I think is being disorganised which is really annoying :/ and I also give a lot of myself to other people because I can't be happy when I'm worried about them but I don't think it's selfish to want everyone to be happy I think that's quite nice :)
Just gonna add here the comment I left last time; The last time I took the enneagram test, I got a 6 wing 7! It's been a hot minute so I sould take it again and see if I've changed.
i know this has got nothing to do with the video but i would like some advice and i don't know where to ask.. i have been mildly depressed for the last 10 years, nothing major, i function ok, i'm just not happy, nothing excites me, i have low self-esteem etc. 5 months ago i broke up with my bf of 2 years and now i feel a bit worse and i'm not sure if i should go to a psychiatrist or not.. i cry a few times a week, i feel like i have nothing to look forward to, i'm scared of the future and the thought of having to finish school and find a job (i'm 25 and in about 2 years i'll be done with uni), everyday i think about how nice it would be to die. i went to a psychologist and been on antidepressants in the past but it did nothing for me. idk if i should give it another try
I didn't see the original but i get what happened by reading the comments. And I think re editing was the right choice but i still am thankful for the concept you were trying to get across. I am jealous of my best friend because I think her art is better than mine and I'm mostly over it now but there was a time I got aggressive towards her over how well she'd done on a mask we'd made for a language festival presentation.. Thing is, I didn't realize how spiteful I was of her until the rude words came out of my mouth. She's my closest friend and I made her uncomfortable for being talented. I hate this part of me, but I think many people have this. It's ugly but we can't help it. Doesn't mean we shouldn't get over that part of ourselves, or make excuses for those feelings, but it is nice to know that I am not just a spiteful person. I am human.
well you deal with attention pretty well because creating videos and putting them on an entertainment media site is attention craving. putting a video up as if wed care about your faults means you know we will give you attention for it. check out KOI FRESCO and let him guise you to a better life
Concerning personality tests - It just show your tendencies at the present time. Apparently statistics say your personality changes completely over a 10 year period. (can't remember where I heard it, but it sounds legit).
Oh and to break your phone habit (I have done this) When you go to bed, switch your phone off, and store it/put it on charge in another part of your room/house.
Did anyone else notice she got a text from Thomas Sanders saying “but yeah creative blocks are just the absolute best lol” poor little son was havin a creativity block :(
Don't worry, we understand that you didn't mean that comment to sound attacking. It just might have sounded that way to *person in question*. It's great that you came out and fixed it.
Ethical egoism is a theory that nobody can do a kind act without and underlying selfish reason. For instance people giving to charity makes them feel good making the act good but also selfish. Doesn’t make anyone a bad person tho x
I charge my phone downstairs and shut my door. I feel like it starts with the habit, as my parents always refuse to let me have mine in my room and I just prefer it that way because I have less anxiety about my friends at night now. I started sending luck to all of my friends at night because I was always kept awake by anxiety about how they were and that since my phone is downstairs I can't help them. And then I started sending them luck, as a way to gently place down my encumberment of responsibility and say, "I cannot control what they do, and it's up to fate now." I used to write, "Good luck and goodnight!", but now I write, "Good luck, goodnight and sleep well! Sending love, luck and happiness to you!" with hearts in their favorite color with mine. Both versions had me sending all of my friends a set of ladybugs and four leaf clovers, each equal to their age, "luck for every year of your life". Some of my friends, including one or two I've lost, have glass ladybugs to have as good luck charms in case I forgot. Really, at first I was superstitious. I thought I had to remember or my friends would be in danger.
Being "sporadic" has nothing to do with wanting to be it or not. You many not want to be it but you clearly are sporadic. BUT it's something you can work on as you get older.
In general and personally i dont understand the problem with the original video. It seemed very real, and i thought the confession you were making was quite clear. Not really that you disliked that person but you disliked that you irrationally dislike such people. Also even though you want to present as a positive figure for people and although the ideal is to be a better person it doesnt mean you dont have the unpleasant sides that everyone tries to cover up. I got you, theres a v ugly side of me which shows when i envy someone and even when i dont. I just in general dislike people vehemently for no reason and would never encourage others to do the same and have put it down to me being unpleasant honestly ha. I very very rarely comment on videos but i wanted to voice this opinion.
Everyone writes here how they are proud of Dodie for admitting a mistake. I don't know. No-one is perfect, but what she said was not a thing to post on a yt channel when you are a big youtuber. And it was not an act of courage to remove it. It looks like she simply realized, that people didn't like it and that's basically why she reedited the video. I was watching the first upload and thinking that it's pretty weird to talk about someone who - in your opinion - seeks attention, in the video that is full of self centered stuff. Dodie, it's just a kid. It's normal that you sometimes think mean things about other people, but if you feel bad about this maybe it's better to work on it with your therapist than put in the video. You know you have lots of fans who love everything you say and I'm even surprised there were so many negative comments. I think you didn't expect that. And that is why I am very disappointed. I just thought you had more class.
I said it on yesterday’s video and I’ll say it again puhlease tell me where your glasses are from dodie ive been looking for them for so long and it just a seems like there’s maybe no stores with them in the us????? ahhh
I AM A 4 AND YOU TOOK THE WORDS RIGHT OUT OF MY MESSED UP BRAIN AND THEY CAME OUT OF YOUR MOUTH. IVE BEEN SAYING THAT TO MYSELF FOREVER AND IT FEELS SO WIERD BUT GOOD TO HEAR IT COME OUT OF SOMEONE ELSES MOUTH. PLEASE MAKE A VIDEO ON IT IT WOULD HELP ME A LOT THANKS LOVE YOU LOADS BYE
Have you been touched by King Midus because your heart is gold. Like damn you are amazing. Even when you feel like you f up your intentions are so pure and sweet and ugh I just love you.
I don't think it was a mistake, you didn't hate the girl you were just jealous and it's your opinion, no one can change that or say it's wrong, maybe people just felt annoyed because they like her xx
hello dodie youtube comment section. this has been suggested a lot, and I hate to do this but I have to contribute to everyone saying this because i really want it: i would really like dodie to collab with dan and phil. phil could tell dodie her future, dodie could do dans makeup or vice versa.
IL PLAY TO CLEAN YOUR ROOM (hear me out) FOR YOU CUZ OMG YOU HAVE THE CUTEST AND MOST WONDERFUL ROOM AND ALSO ID GET TO MEET YOU. Also I love organizing rooms cuz it’s fun.
Dodie, I really appreciate the videos where you share your flaws and thoughts. It's really lovely that you are able to do that, and it makes me and a lot of other people feel a lot less alone. Thanks dodie ❤️
Honestly I don’t feel jealousy towards >actor’s name<, just like extreme sadness?? Like I’ll never have this and I hate myself?? Lol classic me, using everything to make myself sadder.
not about the video, but can you please sell your merch, the things you post a lot about on snapchat, at you online shop (?)? I live in norway so can't buy it here... :( <3
Ahh! I don't remember what I commented last time. all I know is it was something about being a person who (whom?) never has a clean room and never goes to sleep on time. I hate it but I don't do enough to stop it. I currently have stuff stroud about my floor, and a desk that is so messy I can't find a book that I set on it this morning. Also it is currently 2:30 (am) and I am so tired but I stay up... I have no clue why, but here I am. Ugggh what.a.mess
Someone help me with this prob I have : I genuinely cannot with my ‘ best friend ‘ she makes me feel like shit on a daily basis and when I ask her to stop doing something she just keeps doing it. I told her the other day when she was constantly doing something annoying, I know you’re just doing this to piss me off and she replied “ i dont care THAT much about you “ i was having a tough day and she started annoying me as per usual so i cracked it and started crying and she later on told me she thought I was just “ playing the victim “ she makes me hurt so bad
I don't understand. You're allowed to dislike someone or just not want to be around them. It's called preferences, and everyone has them about EVERYTHING, including people....
I am really sorry, if that comment I posted about her was part of that "forum" as you called it. That wasn´t my intention at all, it was supposed to be an objetive opinion. I feel really bad now.
OK SO I'm jealous of the whole kid-cast from stranger things because I'm at the same age, sweet 14 or whatsoever, and it's really...weird. Everyone thinks that they're cute and dorky and squishy and blah blah and I kind of shove it inside me and let this jealousy go away. So the point is whenever I'm jealous of someone of my age who's popular or of a classmate who has better grades, I just say to myself "it's nothing. He/she/they is/are smart. They're talented. They can do whatever the heck they want to do and so can I"
I think it's stupid people jumped on u so hard for expressing a personal opinion/feeling...ppl are allowed to have feelings . Anyhoo I liked this vid before and I like it now
yeah when you called her out i was like dodieeeee like i saw the point you were trying to make but also i wouldn't have said her name. glad you made the edit c:
I get jealous of every soprano. I have a deeper voice and really hate my head voice because it's very weak. especially because a ton of people are very impressed by high notes and then I'm just another boring low singer. also people who can eat whatever they want and still be skinny. jealous of them too. and my siblings.
People, hey, everyone: look at what you did to her
Stop acting like "it's okay, we all make mistakes". You're acting like this was HER mistake. And yes, a portion of it was. But it's mostly the fault of those who didnt understand what she was trying to say and just reacted to an uncommon opinion throwing hate. That's awful and, honeslty, i dont think dodie's fans (?) would act like that.
Sometimes I get jelouse of 13/14yr actors to and I will wish that I was them and stuff and I did this with the exact same actor though I do love her but man, u helped me stop being depressed about myself and the fact that I'm not famouse thx! ily💕💕💕
it was completely not okay to post about disliking a young celebrity. i feel like it would have been much better to just leave out names. it was nice that she reuploaded but i don’t really agree with everyone trying to console her and saying everyone “hating” on her is wrong. what she did was wrong and she learned from her mistakes, but learning from your mistakes doesn’t do much when you are such a large public figure. i really love dodie but that was really problematic. thank you for correcting yourself though!
1:50 me hating you without knowing about much about you because i saw a picture of you an Dan Howell and was jealous because one of my friends ships you with him and i fangirl over him all the time + the same friend saying "Daniel Howell is shit compared to her" and i regret it 😭, also it turns out i used to watch your videos but unsubscribed somehow without me knowing
I hate that you hide parts of yourself, i belive you should speak your mind how, when and in whatever way you want, yes reach out to family/ friends but do you as well.
Enjoy you for now at this moment, we never truly find ourselves becaues we are forever learing, growing and changing so just be.
Idk about you but i hear some enneagram 3 traits in there??? Maybe you're base 4 wing 3? cause I'm a three and i was just listening to SAL's podcast about 3s and it sound kinda similar?
Technically you are still a messy person tho haha. Even if you don’t want to be. Someone could be an alcoholic and not want to be, but they’re still an alcoholic
Does anyone else think that the 9 types of people looks a lot like froid's (however you spell it) egomechanism things where he basically outlined how each person deals with things I thought this yesterday but was afraid to bring the 'F 'word up incase I get any women try Ripping my head off because he 'was a sexist dick' maybe he was but the way he revolutionised medicine and psychology is amazing
Bekki Farmer it wasn’t the persons fandom “bullying” dodie lol, it was just people a little bit concerned that she’d publicise that, especially since the person is 13
Bekki Farmer she made a mistake. it was wrong of her to say that, people recognized that, and made sure she did too. she made the right decision to edit it.
it wasn’t bullying, and the fandom didn’t do it. It was a little slip up, and it’s okay to admit that someone you idolize/admire made a mistake, which is simply what people did.
Dodie, for the love of God, there is nothing wrong with not liking someone (even if you don't know them) and saying it. You dont have to love everybody all the time. But the internet is just stupid and no one accepts people's opinions and respects them. But honey, you do you. Just cause the world is in love with her now, it doesn't mean you have to as well. Love you.
Tábata Villaescusa people are concerned that dodie would make that public, only because the actress is 13 and dodie is 22 so it would seem a bit strange to just share that. no hate though, but i’m glad dodie edited it because it made me a bit uncomfortable
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Alice Chopsticks2017-11-09 21:37:10 (edited 2017-11-09 21:37:39 )
when i read the title and hought you were reading a chapter of you book
Lol nobody can say how they feel these days. All these special little snowflakes getting worked up and feeling that you need to be apologized to when said thing isn't about you. Pls stop.
Can't believe you started drama with a baby. She is so young and we don't need to hear about your jealousy, your influential please don't encourage hate towards someone so young especially when your so much older
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Andrea Burda2017-11-09 20:29:56 (edited 2017-11-09 20:30:24 )
you forgot to put the podcast link in the description! :p
Omg you have a problem being on your phone ! Me too but I just found out that you can turn on night mode for the screen of my phone I think in works for all apple products. Btw I just ask Siri to do it .👍😃
OMG IM A 4 TOO AND I HAD TO WRITE A WHOLE ESSAY ON IT FOR SCHOOL AND I HAD TO BE PERSONAL AND TALK ABOUT ME AND IT MADE ME INSECURE AND IT SUCKED BUT YAY IM TWINSIES WITH HER CUZ WE BOTH 4
did she actually get hate for what she said cause i literally didn’t care at all when she said it.. its really weird how “normal” people can express their pure and undying hatred towards someone such as a famous or well known actress but when youtubers do it they get shut down and called out
This is going to sound shit. Like so bad. But I hate that people think I’m pretty. Because the first thing they notice is my face or my body. But for me, I’m personally so proud of things I have achieved or done. But don’t get me wrong, if someone calls me pretty or something it’s lovely and so kind!! But I much prefer it If someone says that they loved the work I did or a speech I gave or a performance I did. Idk :/. Sorry if I sound like a total Regina George.
Videos like this just kind of.. reach out to me in a way that I can relate to so much that I feel uncomfortable at times. But it's so nice feeling that welcome amongst strangers. Thank you for videos like this and songs like yours and also your book that really has made me feel more comfortable with myself in such a short space of time :) x
I said it last time before the reupload and I’ll say it again I love your content so much and if you feel like garbage at all it’s okay we’re all garbage we’re just getting used to it and trying our best to be less garbage keep up the work
you learnt from a mistake and sorted it as much as possible and I think that shows that even though you maybe didn’t think something through, as we all do oh wow, you know how to learn from it and are accepting of those mistakes. If that’s not a sign of a grounded, well rounded, and understanding human being then I don’t know what is. Love you <3 good to see you makin stuff again <3
I’m proud of you for admitting what you did and rectifying it. Not a lot of people would have the courage to do that. Also I am extremely disassociated yay
I love you , and completley understood what you meant to say , however well done for being true to yourself and doing what ultimately seemed right to you - 💕💕💕💕
These are my confessions Just when I thought I said all I can say My chick on the side said she got one on the way These are my confessions Man I'm thrown and I dont know what to do I guess I gotta give you part two of my confessions If I'm gonna tell it then I gotta tell it all Damn near cried when I got that phone call I'm so thrown and I don't know what to do
i feel like this all the time. i feel like my problems and worries aren‘t legit because i keep thinking „oh, it‘s just my brain trying to make me special again“ so i just kind of surpress myself
phew you re-upload, my sister thought I was going crazy when I said you uploaded and she checked and it wasn't there on other notes everyone makes mistakes I mean that's what makes us human and yes it would probably be better if no names were mentioned but I read the comments and people were also relating to this jealous and felt glad they weren't the only one so in a way it was also a good thing, sorry this is so long x
Please do NOT be a prick and comment who she was talking about!!! Was Dodie's way of speaking about her jealousy a bit wrong? A little, yes. But she fixed her mistake and addressed it, which is already 90% better than other celebrities who just sweep their mistakes under the rug. Dodie is a human like you and me, she makes mistakes. The best thing you can do is apologize and address them, and move on. This has been a PSA! (ps go pet a cat, they're very soft and good)
Luckily Dodie, the Myers-Briggs, Enneagram, and most every other personality test have been thoroughly disproven by psychology. Ignore pop psychology and stick with being Dodie rather than worrying about being an ENPJFI7WTFBBQ. A Dodie is one of the best personality types.
don't get me wrong i love dodie but that sort of thing should not be acceptable? I'm glad she took down the original because it's just?? Not Okay to say you find a thirteen year old girl annoying simply because she's, what, successful? No matter how much you try to downplay it dodie you're super successful, you don't need to have envy for a child. jealousy is for the most part pointless but "confessing" to being jealous of a little girl is even more not okay :( again, I still love you but just try to like learn from this and learn to love yourself and not hate on others
just saying, that if you saw the original video (like me) don't comment the original thing had said! she cut that bit out for a reason. please respect her choices <3
[PSA: my opinion only] I feel like every human person is selfish in their own way, and it's not necessarily a bad thing. It makes sense to wonder if the action you make benefits you, because who else is gonna look after yourself better than you? (If that makes any sense)
I've gotten jealous of younger people because they were recognized for something I would like to, or they're more talented, or became successful. It's not always hateful to be jealous of someone, at least not all the time. It can be bit daunting to have a younger person show more success and talent than you.
you should've just redone the whole video, just re-editing it seems like it was only for the backlash and not because of what you said being extremely rude and disrespectful.
it's okay! don't worry we all forgive you everyone makes mistakes 💛
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what happened?
16 likesand this is another reason why i love you, dodie!
821 likesi personally didn't see anything wrong with yesterday's vid, because of how well you phrased it.
but you saw what you did wrong, how it was - and potentially could be - affecting people and recognised your mistake, took it down but didn't erase it completely, didn't pretend it didn't happen, and you actually apologised so genuinely. you dealt with the situation in such a mature and honest way and recognised that you're human and you make mistakes.
you inspire me so much dodie. i'm so proud of you and proud to call myself a fan. thank you. 💛
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Rea Keebz what happened
1 likeRea Keebz ♥
1 likewhat did she say???
2 likesI LVOE DODIE SHES SUCH A GOOD PERSON. AGH. I didn't see anything wrong with yesterday's video either, however, i can see how it could have been taken the wrong way. But Dodie DID HANDLE THE SITUATION WELL AND IM PROUD
4 likesPhoenix Wear Readthe description
0 likesCliquey McPilot oh ok thanks lol
0 likesvery well said!
1 likea teacher once told me it wasn’t our first thought about a person that defines us, it’s how we react to that thought. i think your reaction tells you’re actually a kind person ♥️
135 likesIf I'm being honest I'm jealous of dodie. She is everything that I want. I want to look like her, sing like her, write music like her and be open with who you are.
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Chase B. Same...😭
0 likesIF IM BEING HONEST
25 likes@elisa bill lopez and SHE:)
4 likesI love this video, as I love ALL of dodie's videos.
106 likesIt's just always so wonderfully refreshing to have a YouTuber or artist or celebrity being totally open and honest about their feelings and struggles, even when it's hard and terrifying to do so. I can't even begin to tell you how helpful these videos are for people like me (and I'm sure many, many others) who suffer from depression or depersonalization, to see someone stand up for mental health.
It reminds me that I'm not alone.
And while I'm sure she'll never see this comment, I am eternally grateful and send all the love in the world to dodie for her bravery, positivity, and love that she puts out into the world on a daily basis.
The world is a better place because you are in it, Love.
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0 likesIn just gonna flat out say it, I'm jealous of Grace Vanderwaal. She has an amazing voice, she writes amazing songs, she can get up on stages and sing and dance and not be ashamed, she is not afraid to express herself. I can write ok songs, I have a horrible singing voice, I hate being on stages and don't plan on ever singing or doing music on stage, I'm self conscious and dont really express myself as much as I would like to (out of fear of judgement) I love her music but sometimes when I hear it I just turn into a pit of rage and jealousy and its not ok
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why are you literally me
64 likesCecily why are yOU literally ME HOW MANY OTHER PEOPLE ARE CALLED CECILY
30 likesI've been having the same thing with her. I think she's amazing and I love her music but I"m the same age and write good songs and have a good singing voice so I feel like if I ever pursued music it would seem like I was copying her. I just feel jealous of all that she has because I can do the same thing if you know what I mean.
38 likesOmg same. I love her but like I wish I could be her lol
8 likesI don’t like grace vanderwaal
11 likesActually same and I thought I was the only one. I used to be such a huge fan and supporter of her, but over time I became so jealous that she was the same age as me and living out all my dreams
32 likesIt's the same with me when I look at musicians like Charlie puth,Justin Bieber and Shawn mendes when they were my age
5 likesPiggy Hopes SAAAAME!!
3 likesI'm a tad bit jealous of Dodie, but I also like love her
27 likesI always thought I was alone in this. When she comes on my personal radio, I have to change it or if there are people I have to distract myself or I start to cry.
17 likescece x oMG hi other me!
2 likesAlso I just want it say I'm not specifically jealous of Grace but it does certainly hurt that someone younger than me has accomplished so much more than I have and has so much more talent
18 likesSara Rambo Same
0 likesPiggy Hopes I really love her , but sometimes I feel jealous of her cuz we are the same age and I can't stop thinking that I could be doing this too
8 likescan i just say i'm so happy this conversation is happening, most of us experience this kind of jealousy to some extent and dodie talking about it (even if the original was deleted) really seems to have helped a lot of people who feel guilty and alone with these thoughts
15 likesPiggy Hopes first of all can you be my internet best friend cause you just said what I’m always thinking into words. My dream is to write these perfect songs and get on stage and sing and be in a band. But hen there’s fear and anxiety and negative thinking. I love grace but sometimes I do things like copying little things of her or dodie or whoever I’m obsessed with and think “maybe if I change my self completely, then maybe my dream will come true.” that’s completely wrong but my point is we all do this and get jealous of celebs and it normal because we’re only human. :)
8 likesI'm actually a very big fan of Grace, but I can understand the sort of jealousy that you and a lot of other people can develop.. I mean, she's much younger than me, and looking at her makes me feel that I've lost so much potential in my own life. I used to have the same issue with Jackie Evancho, who was also an America's Got Talent contestant (and won) when I was the same age as her (10 years old). I absolutely hated her, but my parents adored her. Seeing her onscreen made me feel empty and stupid and untalented... and I guess that's jealousy. Jealousy makes you feel like you're not enough, or that you're not as special/talented as the other person. But please don't let that get in the way of you pursuing your own hopes and dreams. If you like Grace, but you're also jealous of her, focus on liking her and using her as a source of inspiration rather than comparison. Same with Dodie or MBB. And I know how difficult it is to realign your thoughts just like that... but it's better than festering your envy so much to a point that it prevents you from accepting life as it is and achieving your own goals.
14 likesPiggy Hopes 0k, sAmE!
1 liketharin simran sAmE
1 likeOkay, but everyone starts somewhere. Everyone has insecurities and not very good at what they're doing at the start. But you grow and learn. You can be just like Grace if you work hard and follow your dream. I'm not trying to invalidate your feelings, just wanted to give advice
3 likesI struggle with this too. I am very jealous of people who made it, even though I love them. Makes me feel bad about not being able to do what they do. But I try to use it as an inspiration and make things
It's okay I'm jealous of cupcakke, it's normal to be jealous of amazing people
3 likesSame
1 likePiggy Hopes me oh my god me
1 likecece x cecily herondale in the infernal devices, she's an amazing character who shares your cool name
1 likePiggy Hopes omg sameee
2 likesmoon yeah, I feel like trash for saying this but I don’t like her voice and her songs are too repetitive. Probably just jealous I guess.
0 likesKatrina Ngo
0 likeswas dodie talking about mbb?
Piggy Hopes
1 likeme too :( along with other successful people at my age
I AGREE
1 likehaha me too! thats why i didn't want to know more of her music, but today i did and thats the life she has and its ok, i don't want to change mine i know if something is for me it would happen and if a feel jealous i have to use that energy (sometimes is more powerful the anger ) and use it to improve and do things!
2 likesThank you everyone for all the nice positive comments :) they truly made me smile.
1 likeSAME. I'm 10 years older than Grace and yet she's pretty much the reason I picked up a ukulele! I've been writing music since I was even younger than she was, always dreamed of being a musician, and she's already got the career of a lifetime that I'll probably never have a fraction of. She deserves all the recognition in the world tho! She's a super talented kid with songwriting skills beyond her years and a killer singing voice, but I totally feel you. I'm always gonna be jealous of her, but not from a hateful place necessarily...We just gotta learn how to take that jealousy and turn it into inspiration to better ourselves as people and as musicians. :)
2 likesi am jealous of anyone who is good at anything
1 likeJust incase anyone was wondering, this isn't Piggy Hopes comment, it's what Dodie edited out of the video
1 likePiggy Hopes me too, I’m auditioning for americas got talent and I’m terrified everyone is going to compare me to her, but that’s the thing. I don’t want to be her I want to be me, even if I’m never going to be as good as her
0 likesI. Get. You.
0 likesPiggy Hopes me me me me me me me Me me me me me me
0 likesexactly exactly exactly, i always feel so bad about it! because she genuinely has talent and makes good music so why do i feel the urge to dislike her?
0 likesTbh you shouldn't be, people like grace tend to be an overnight success and don't really last, if you work towards your dreams and get there without going on a (from personal experience, absolutely awful and exploitative) pseudo-reality show, you WILL be happier. Tbh, I don't believe in talent, I think if you are passionate enough about it that's it, you have talent and you are talented. If you are genuinely passionate about your music you will feel more confident on stage and you WILL be happier, even if you won't be a manufactured child star. Besides, I'm sure being a child star isn't even that fun, let's face it, Grace isn't taken seriously in the industry, she's being cut slack for being young, being called a legend for every mediocre song she puts out being told every day about who she will become instead of who she is right now. Do you really want that kind of inauthenticity?
0 likesme too omg
0 likesSAME my favorite 2 humans are grace and dodie
2 likesI WANT TO BE GRACE VANDERWAAL
0 likesHopey Copey, I used to also be EXTREMELY jealous of her until one day I realised...I am the same age as her...I can sing, I play ukulele and piano. If grace vanderwaaal did it at such a young age I can do it as well. It's such a cliche phrase but when you really believe you can and you have that model, that is one of the most powerful sources of motivation. Grace and dodie have helped me find that motivation and you should try and find that too!
0 likesI now live on motivation from these amazing people, because I know in my heart if I really want to pursue music...one day I can do great things :) (so cheesy I know lol)
0 likesA few thoughts I had while watching this:
7 likesThe test is made to tell you who you *are*, not who you want to be. Those are two different things. You not liking certain aspects of yourself has nothing to do with the test. (There are many issues with the test, but that's beside the point.)
Secondly, you can't be a kind, caring person and not care. It's a sad fact. If you care a lot about people and causes, you're gonna struggle with some feelings that don't feel good sometimes. The people that truly don't care are psychopaths, sociopaths and, to a some extent, narcissists, and no one wants to be them!
Also, you may want to check out a book called Running On Empty and see if it helps you with the "other people's needs vs my own" issue. It may not have anything to do with what you're going through, but in the off-chance that it helps, I'm recommending it.
Thanks for the podcast rec! Going to check it out later. Keep being your wonderful, flawed, human self :).
Please create a video about "Enneagram " types! 😊
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YES
7 likesoh my god yes (im a type 9)
7 likesHow can I figure out which is my enneagram type?
4 likesimplicit blake thanks!
3 likesY’all need to do the Big Five personality traits
2 likeslucyisconfused hello I'm a 9 too!!
4 likesi just did it and got type 4...
5 likesoops
Nuki Howelter omg nuki can't wait till you reach 1 mil on simstagram
1 likeI'm a type 4 !!! Where's the 4 squad at?
10 likesI'm a type 5 (:
4 likesAndrea Hernandez also you can read the descriptions for all the types in enneagraminstitute.com and see which once you can relate to the most. I find it more useful than a test, I don't think tests are too reliable.
0 likesThe 16 personalities test is also similar, but goes into your...personality. It talks about careers and relationships and how to feel more accomplished in your life based on your individuality. (It's free if that sells it to you)
0 likesdodie is still one of the unproblematic youtubers that i know.
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Rozannuuu same. Just looking at her Instagram with all of the thoughtful things she says you can tell she's such a genuinely good person.
0 likesI have a lot of respect for you for admitting you worded something wrong and actively chose to rectify your mistake. Not many people would do that. <3
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Exactly! I definitely think her re-editing the video was a good idea. Although I now understand what she was trying to say in the original it just seemed as though she was just specifically jealous of (actor's name inserted) because of their life being 'perfect' (nobody's life is 'perfect' though). I'm glad Dodie is good at learning from mistakes and opening up more!
8 likesi’m just gonna pretend nothing happened and comment the same thing i did last time:
1987 likesDodie vs Meyers Briggs 2017
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Melanie Anne Ahern saw you comment this yesterday and idk it's made me laugh a lot
15 likesWho or what is Meyers Briggs
2 likesI also still need a diss track for this. ;D
3 likescaptainKaP Myers - Briggs Type Indicator (mbti)
8 likescaptainKaP it's like a test that indicates which one of their 16 personality types are you
4 likesFuzzy X when you Google Meyers Briggs it comes up with personality test?????????
1 likecaptainKaP that’s what it is
2 likesHi I promise this isn't meant to be creepy but holy crap you're adorable.
2 likesMelanie Anne Ahern XD
0 likesJenna Renee omg thank u lol
0 likesmelanie! ♡
0 likesTala Jordan YES HI
0 likesAaaaand I'm just gonna throw in a ditto. Summary of previous comment; MBTI =bad (bad validity, bad science, bad repeatability and bad reliability). Try Hoganx.io or any other well validated, peer reviewed psychometric. 🖒
2 likesOkay but like. Her description of that part of mbti is so inaccurate it hurts.
4 likesMelanie Anne Ahern dncnxnvjf i feel like all enneagram fours have a vendetta against meyers briggs
2 likesjamin daniell Lol true
0 likesjamin daniell honwstly, it probably has something to do with her whole "need for a unique identity" thing. It actually almost makes sense in a way?
3 likesohh my god i read that as miss briggs at first glance you know the teacher from icarly ohh lord
0 likesI understand why you re-edited it.
11 likesThough, when I heard your confession I resonated with majorly.
I never knew how to explain it, but WOW! YOU PUT MY FEELINGS INTO WORDS!
I’m sorry that people didn’t understand the message/hear it the way you intended.
But it’s alright, you did the right thing by taking the video down, explaining, and re editing.
Thank you dodie.
i knew you’d come out with an apology and that’s really admirable that you can recognize your mistakes :,) i truly believe you’re a good role model
5 likesI watched the first upload a couple of days ago and I saw what you originally said, and I'm so glad you edited it. I couldn't imagine being actor you mentioned and stumbling across this video talking bad about me to a large audience and not knowing anything about me. And how much it would have hurt if they perhaps even knew who you were and idolised you. Thank you for changing this dodie :)
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1 likeMariana Rocha she re edited it because she didn’t want it being mentioned. Everybody makes mistakes✨
0 likesto be transparent (for better or worse lmao) i can get jealous of youtubers (like you, dodie!! hello!!) especially the v creative ones! people who seem to be normal (a person like you or me, just with a camera in a flat) but who are also endlessly talented! singing, writing songs, acting, writing books, directing films, AH. bc many youtubers i watch are my age, i feel v related to the work they put out, but i feel v inadequate in comparison!! a confession!!
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1 like🙋🏾😅
1 likeIf you want to be more jealous, watch kickthepj
0 likesDoddie, you should definitely have a podcast!!! Your voice is so beautiful and you have so much insight that so many connect with.
2 likesThank you Dodie, I really appreciate this, it’s good to recognize and learn from mistakes, I can tell you didn’t mean to point the conversation in the direction of that person. Everyone makes mistakes, but not everyone learns from them ❤️
0 likesThis made me feel very very proud, thanks for re-uploading Dodie <3
0 likesdodie,
24 likesnot to question the decision that you made, but i don’t think there was anything wrong with what you said in your original video. i notice this happens often that you say or write something and it gets questioned and you defend yourself or correct yourself to fix it and that’s FINE and you SHOULD take criticism but also remember that not all criticism is valid. just because a lot of people say something doesn’t mean it’s true (after all, a lot of people voted for trump and we know all about
him). so when you’re getting criticized for something, feel free to stick to your guns. don’t be afraid to lose support, because maybe those people were never your true supporters in the first place.
peace ✌🏾
Dodie, I’m so proud of you for doing this. Love you💛💛💛
0 likesI just love how happy dodie is at the end of the video when she talks about her book, it just makes me soooo happy
0 likesWhen I went through similar emotional/relational learning recently, my psychologist put me onto Brené Brown's writing. (I found her audiobook recording of The Power of Vulnerability really practically helpful!)
0 likesBrené excellently articulates that empathy, or connection with others, without us practicing healthy emotional boundaries, is submission. The kind of submission that is spoken about in Attachment Theory, where, as a tactic to create connection/attachment one will sacrifice their boundaries or give more than is healthy/comfortable in order to maintain connection. It's been the most rewarding journey learning how to sit in empathy with others, whilst maintaining a good sense of myself - learning how to mutually exchange happiness and support, instead of feeling as though you live in emotional deficit where you're always giving and not knowing how to receive. You're amazing <3
Ive always known that the thought that comes first is what youre conditioned to think, the thought after is what you truly feel, ily dodie ❤️
2 likesI love your book dodie. I have read it like 3 times. It really helps me with my own insecurities to see other people going through similar experiences. Thank you Dodie
0 likesWe forgive you, Dodie. It's so amazing and courageous for you to own up for your mistakes. Forever an amazing human ,you are!!
0 likesI've missed the videos but reading your book has given such insight into the person you are and it's amazing, I'm so proud of you for making such awesome stuff! ❤❤❤
0 likesYou are such an amazing role model! I will forever look up to you <3
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0 likesI'm proud of you dodie, I love you so much and you're so inspiring. You're honest and kind, and human. You're beautiful and I'm sure the person would understand.
0 likesI love you and your honesty always, dodie. It feels like I have a friend who gets what I'm going through.
0 likesthis is one of my favorite vlogs that you've ever posted! so honest, so real. love it
0 likesI just got the package containing your book and I can't wait to read it! Also, I'm very proud of you for correcting your mistakes! Don't beat yourself up for it dodes;)
0 likesBeing a jealous person is so hard. You want to be happy for people’s success but still feel so anxious about not doing enough and then in turn the toxicity of yearning for what they have just takes over you.
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ALSO ILY
1 likeWhy 👏🏻 is 👏🏻 this 👏🏻 me 👏🏻
0 likesThank you so much for this video. It means a lot to see someone else explain and confess the same things I feel shameful about.💛
0 likesIm so proud of you. I didnt watch the first video but Im proud you saw that your words, even if you dont mean it, can be interpreted in so many different ways and sometimes its best to just dont say it, and if you did - apologize. You are an amazing human being, keep doing you, Dodie :)
0 likesI always love personality tests and took the enneagram test as soon as I watched this video. I discovered I'm a type 6 and found the description to be shockingly accurate and also really interesting. Thanks so much for sharing Dodie I love your videos and can't wait for more!!
0 likesI'm a 9 with heavy 2 and medium 5. Very interesting assessment, thank you so much for sharing it!
0 likesit takes guts to admit mistakes, well done you brave woman. all the love, you're a massive inspiration to me :)
11 likesI always find myself feeling better after watching your videos. It's very brave of you to share these thoughts, moments, and truths with us 😊 thank you!
0 likesi finished your book today, it’s so amazing it was awesome to see like-you. i feel like you let us as an audience into your life a lot and just thank you de being strong when some of us couldn’t. also thanks for letting me into your brian for the time it took me to read your book which was about 2 hours because i wouldn’t put it down.
0 likesJust got your book on Amazon! Can’t wait to read it ☺️💖
1 likeI just got your book a few days ago and I absolutely LOVE it!
0 likesI think it’s amazing to take an overwhelming response she faced yesterday and actually edit the video that she had made rawly.
0 likesbeing a doddler for a while, yesterday had been one of those rare occasions where I didn’t see love everywhere but rather, such differing opinions and I didn’t know what to feel but I see there was no point in being confused.
thanks for always being yourself Dodie. making mistakes in front of us and for listening to the audience, and picking yourself up quite wonderfully like this.
So lovely to see dodie back with a classic video, interesting topic, and great little editing ideas! Welcome back!
0 likesI love you so much and I can't wait to read your book! I'm so proud of you!
0 likesIt's so amazing how lovely Dodie and her whole fan base are, like you people are seriously awesome and supportive and kind and it makes me so happy!! Keep being fantastic <3
0 likesI can relate so much... your book was in my mailbox this afternoon and I can’t wait to read it! Lysm <3
0 likesDodie, I read your book and I absolutely loved it! I think I already said that before somewhere but it's really worth saying again. A lot of my friends who are writers always come out of their work and say that they could have done better, it was rushed or they were in a rut and it wasn't as good as they'd planned. Personally, I always love their stories regardless of what detriments they name. Anyways, you were quick to say that you loved your writing and your book, that you worked hard on it and truly and shamelessly approved of the final product. I had to smile at that because you have every right and reason to be proud; your book had a lot of you as a person in it and I found it fascinating to read. Thanks for being the type of person who is quick to love and admire what you've strived for; that says a lot about your character, I think, and only the very bravest and best of people tend to stand up for what they love.
0 likesI'm so happy this whole thing happened. We all learned a lil bit from it and Dodie's fixed what happened. I also think it's lovely how her fans respectfully told her their thoughts on the situation without saying anything hateful. I'm very happy with all this.
1 likeIm glad you edited this, i definitely wasnt too worked up about the original but this is much better explained and nice to hear. Its also really nice that you recognised a mistake and dealt with it so maturely. Thats a good influence to leave i think <3
2 likesI will (very cringely) confess that I’ve felt the same way towards dodie before. For many reasons I won’t list here, I missed out on parts of my childhood and was “delayed” (I feel personally) in life, and didn’t start my YouTube journey until this year at age 24, although I’ve been making videos for like 12 years lol
6 likesBut anyways, all this to say that I understand how it feels to have your younger self craving that dream she so desperately desired and that longing to have your talents recognized. Thanks for admitting your faults and encouraging us, indefinitely dodie 🆒
Thank you for being so considerate and awesome Dodie!
0 likesI've already cried twice while reading your book and I just love you so much.
0 likesI’m proud of you for owning up to it dodie <3
0 likesLoving your book!!! So proud of you 💛💛
0 likesYou've been missed! Love the pan of thoughts and the notes on the wall!
0 likesDodie, I love and support you no matter what you are going through! I love you so so much!
0 likesYou truly are one of the most genuine people on YouTube - I always leave your channel feeling like i've just had a great chat with a friend! Thank you for always being so honest xox
0 likesI'm so impressed and blessed by your maturity to go back and fix something you did wrong. I felt kind of uncomfortable with the thing you said yesterday, but I didn't want to say anything (partly because I feel similarities and feel guilty about feeling that way.) So thank you for being humble and changing things around a bit. I think you speaking about your jealousy is really important and admirable ❤️
39 likesThank you for the edit, I found this handling by you to be very appropriate and respectful. I have to admit that I related to your point (actually, I feel that way kind of about you sometimes because you're a year younger than me and doing things I wish I was doing haha) but I can totally see how people could have taken in that information and processed it in a negative way so I think you've done the right thing here. Thank you for owning up to your mistakes and adjusting your content and actions accordingly, so few creators on this site make that effort so it means a lot to me as an audience member. Much love and respect to you, Dodie. You are the goodest egg <3
0 likesOh. My. God. I literally couldn't relate more to everything you said. I felt like crying because these are all the thoughts I ponder on each day. Thinking and thinking, trying to make some kind if sense to it. I love organizing things when I'm in the right mood, but I'm bad at maintaining it. I love having a purpose and I get really wrecked when I feel like I don't. Thank you so, so much for making this video dodie. It made me feel better knowing that I'm not the only one thinking too mug and all that, stuff I try to ignore. 💛
1 likeI love your speaking voice. Something about it makes me want to write poetry every time I hear it.
1 likeIt's okay Dodie, we all make mistakes and we love you anyway ❤❤❤
0 likesHonestly it’s super cool that you’re able to acknowledge mistakes so publicly, accept responsibility without excuse, and learn from it. It’s a quality not a lot of people have, so good for you for being courageous. We love our flawed human dodie ❤️
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I think in this case tho she definitely made a mistake :) and did the right thing after! As you said, we love our flawed human dodie x
0 likesI'm really confused and I kind of want to know like, what happened but I also don't want to be extremely rude, so if you think that it would be rude to repeat her mistake please don't answer, but if you don't could someone please explain the mistake? :/
0 likesHailey2709 Dodie actually wrote a transcript in the description box of the part that she edited out. Basically she just got a little too specific about someone she’s jealous of in a way that might be hurtful.
0 likesit's very strong of you to re-edit and publish the video again, i'm proud of you dodie!
0 likesSLEEPING AT LAST SLEEPING AT LAST SLEEPING AT LAST AHHHHHHHH I LOVE RYAN YOU AND HIM ARE LITERALLY THE ONLY ARTISTS I LISTEN TO YOU AND YOU BOTH LIKE EACH OTHER AHHHHH
7 likesalso i’m an ENFJ and enneagram 1!! :)) I️ LOVE YOU TWO 💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛
Love you Dodie I’m going to get your book for Christmas!!More Videos please!!❤️💗❤️
1 likeI am type 5. Your book means the world to me, I cannot ever Thank You enough. Love Always ♥️ Tauney
0 likesi was literally looking for this vid to watch (hadn't watched it yesterday) but I'm really glad you openly acknowledge the times you mess up and apologise!
15 likesmore people should take a leaf out of your book 🌿
I love you Dodie you're such an inspiration.
0 likes2:20 this was actually great editing dodie
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Rea Keebz I KNOW ITS SO GOOD
7 likeswait what i didn't even cut there i am confused
60 likesdoddlevloggle it's the part where there's 2 of you I think
5 likesya know the bit where you give yourself flowers lol
3 likesYou mean 2:31?
9 likesi definitely meant 2:30 but i wrote the same comment on the previous video so i must not have checked it properly when i commented it here whoops
6 likesI think both of these videos were lovely and it’s so important for some people to talk about their confessions 💛
0 likesThank you Dodie , for always being the realist youtube that i have ever known. As i was watching this video, i don't know why, but all of a sudden, my eyes felt wet and i think its because everything that you have said, in this video, is actually true for me and i felt as if your sentence at 5:21 really hit me the most and now i finally understand why I'm always, deep down, unhappy. I also too miss watching your videos and for everyone who's reading this comment, thanks for taking your time to read and i hope you have a nice day :)
0 likesWe all make mistakes Dodie! It's fine and we love you!
0 likesI love this video because I relate so much and it's been a reality check for me that I'm not weird I'm just a flawed human like everyone else. thank you so much for making the content you do because I would be lost sometimes and a lot more self hating haha x
0 likesI love this video because I relate so much and it's been a reality check for me that I'm not weird I'm just a flawed human like everyone else. thank you so much for making the content you do because I would be lost sometimes and a lot more self hating haha x
0 likesDodie you absolute babe i'm so proud of you for doing this and for explaining it all so well rather than pretending it didn't happen. You did the right thing love you x
0 likesAnyone who's reading this, you must know you're are awsome , beautiful and a good human being . I am going through a really hard time right now and I hope someone else gets to be happy . Dear Dodie , you'll never
1 likeknow how much your book helped me , I respect you soo much . Love to anyone reading this .💜💙💚💛❤
Dear dodie, I got your book in the mail today and I love it! Your songs and writing are almost as beautiful as you. You are truly my idol, and I just wanted you to know how much you inspire me and make me happy. Luv you, natalie
0 likesYou're such a lovely and beautiful being
0 likesKeep being you, I've seen you grow over the years and blossom into the amazing human your are now, may your journey be one of finding joy and self content :)
The fact that Dodie took her time to re-edit this video bc it could've hurt someone shows just how much love she has in her heart for us and just in general❤
0 likesI so so so admire your ability to admit when you're wrong and properly fix a situation around it as one of my massive flaws is that I can never admit that I'm wrong aha
7 likesi'm jealous of every skinny person lol
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whiteteethteen same...
2 likesWhen I'm not looking at skinny people, it's easy for me to be fine with how I am, like okay yes some people are a bit chubbier and that's totally fine and beautiful
10 likesAnd then I see a petite lil person with their tiny waist and delicate limbs and suddenly I just crave to be like that
nah, im skinny and i hate it, you can see all my bones and it looks awful. like actually horrifying
0 likesYou make my life feel okay , Dodie Clark . 💛💛💛
0 likesDoddie is the person I watch after I’ve taken a fresh shower. This makes me feel so sleepy and clean for some reason lol
0 likesLove u Dodie. You are amazing and need to know that. You won a lot of thinkgs in your life because of your music, your talent and your way to be. Just don't let yourself down
0 likesYou spoke your mind and as an artist you are given your freedom of speech. I watched the original, understood the point you wanted to put across and respected it. Don't feel embarrassed for your opinions... Ly 💛
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I agree, but she probably just didn't want anyone to think she hated that person. I did understand that it was just an example though, I still feel like she made it fairly obvious, especially when she spoke about how she didn't want any "Oh, I hate that person too" comments. She should keep it this way if she feels like this is better.
5 likesAmy look in description
1 likeMonster Queen 707 omg monster queen ily
1 likeIly2 Mary Boo Keane xx
1 likeI didn't think her comment was mean-spirited either, but you know, imagine you were that actress and a big singer-songwriter said in a video that she finds you a bit grating and that you seem like someone who wants attention (just highlighting the most negative things she said, I know she said some positive things about her as well) and then you see people in the comments also talking about why they dislike you. I'd personally feel a bit hurt to see strangers and a widely respected content-creator pointing out my flaws. And I respect Dodie very much for not wanting to be a part of that negativity.
9 likesJoëlle Weetjewel I can definitely see that too. I'd be upset too if I was an actress in that situation. I also love that Dodie retracted the video. However, my original comment was just to reassure Dodie that every opinion is allowed, especially with the audience that she has. Dodie said this, audience agrees can be a dangerous mix but i think we still have to realise that Dodie is a human like the rest of us and she is allowed to have a one-person opinion which I think a lot of people missed. I totally understand your comment though! I myself don't want to be a part of a negative vibe. Positive vibes only whoop whoop. Thanks for replying! ^_^
1 likeI don't mean to be that person, but who was the actress?
6 likesi'm really curious to know too! i know that it doesn't matter but i was watching the old video and then it cut off since she deleted it. i don't wanna know cause i want to go hate on the actress, i'm just genuinely curious. and i know that dodie didn't say it with bad intentions and she even said that she doesn't want to see comment with people saying "oh i hate that actress too".
1 likemari peralta same! Just wondering because I get the same thing... where I'll really dislike someone famous just because they're too much like I want to be. I think it's more common than dodie realises.
3 likesI feel you lol I was scrolling though down the comments hoping to find her.
0 likesAbigail Shanae Yeah same here
0 likesshe’s not embarrassed for her opinions she’s embarrassed for how she expressed it
0 likesi won’t say who it is but it’s a young teen actress who is in an extremely popular show.
0 likesThank you for re-uploading! This took a lot of guts, we're all humans plodding along, being humans. Things happen, well done for holding your hands up :)
0 likesYou're honestly my favourite youtuber. You're the biggest role model in my life and I love you so much. I'm finally buying your book soon and i'm soooooo very excited :)
0 likesThis is such a good video. Thank you for thinking critically about your impact on the world! Also being an ENFP doesn't mean you have to be messy/disorganized! My favorite nutshell for the difference between a P and a J is that J's organize their external world so they have freedom in their internal world, while P's organize their internal world so they have freedom in their external world.
0 likesYou made a mistake, learned, forgave, and let it go. I'm proud of you. No one is perfect, and that's okay. <3 Love you, dodie, and thank you for showing people that it's okay to make mistakes as long as you learn from it.
0 likesWe’ve missed you, everyone makes mistakes ❤️
0 likesLove the transparency 👏👏 and a great representation of how self reflection can be a great thing 👍
0 likesAhhhh I love your glasses!! Also, I've been watching you for some time now. You are a gem, keep shining. <3
0 likesI bought your book and I'm so excited to read it!!
0 likesyou should totally make a video called “obsessions” and one called “life lessons” in this similar style!!! Also I’m so, so happy that you realized and admitted your mistake and genuinely apologized and actually DID something to fix it!! You are such a great role model and I adore your vulnerability. 💗
0 likesDodie your videos make me want to scream because you say everything that I feel and need to hear too! ~~~ thank you (I am also saving up for your book, love you for being brave enough to bear your heart on your sleeve with us xo)
0 likesI love you so much Dodie!! You're so witty and self aware keep being you're magical, beautiful creative self 💛💛💛!!
0 likesI love you dodie, I can relate to you so much ❤️
0 likesThis is random but would you like to do another favourites video? They're really interesting and inspiring
19 likesOMG thank you for telling me about the enneagram, it was fun to do and quite eye opening, finding out about the negative sides of 9s hit pretty close to home but it also really gives me hope that I could become a "healthy nine".
0 likesI love secrets for the mad and it's nice to know that someone as beautiful and inspirational as dodie has flaws and features like us all💖💛
0 likesI love that everytime Dodie realizes she made a mistake she is so quick to apologize and fix it. It shows that she's imperfect and human but that she's a good enough person to realize that.
0 likesI’m going to say the same thing I commented before I’ve read your book and it is amazing thank you for making me feel like I’m not alone, I love it and I love you
0 likesyou've inspired me dodie to change how i am to be a better person for myself.
10 likesi spent late last night (ironic ik) writing lists and ways to stop my bad habits
1) go to bed earlier - wrote a time to try to go to sleep each night for the next 20 days, each night going to bed 10 minutes earlier, little steps at a time
2) cut down on sugar - spent an hour researching methods, the ones i'm trying include meditating daily, chewing gum when i want to binge, brush my teeth, stop and think of the benefits and downsides, distract yourself or treat yourself to other things, go for a walk or eat foods like eggs, cheese, olives and salmon
i'm unhappy with these habits and i'm trying to break them, i'll let you know how it goes :)
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TheseDaiz hope it goes well!
1 likeThank you for apologizing and editing your video. I see a lot of people saying you shouldn't have to apologize but as one of the people who was a little unsettled by the initial video I appreciate you stepping up and correcting yourself. There is no shame in taking responsibility for something and I respect you even more now (didn't know that was possible).
0 likesThank you for being honest and amazing and fixing your mistakes ❤
0 likesthank you for the apology dodie! we forgive you and we're over it now. in life, we're always going to keep making mistakes. but the joy in that is we're going to keep learning from those. we're a better version of ourselves everyday compared to the day before. i love you!
0 likesDodie, you are so genuine and real and honest and beautiful and truly someone to be admired, so thank you for that <3 You are a gem!
0 likesYou are the loveliest human and I hope I am blessed enough to meet you one day and give you a hug and then when we part ways I will one day tell my children "I met my musical and human inspiration once". That'll be hella cute. But seriously, thank you Dodie
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What a beautiful image
1 likeI love love love the enneagram! I'm a type 8 and I have very mixed feelings about that piece of knowledge, because on one hand I see and recognize traits of my personality and I think that's great and important, but I also notice that I am starting to react to thinks like a 'typical 8' would, instead of truly listening to what I think is right
1 likethank you for doing this dodie. i thought that in the first version it was a bit unnecessary to name and shame especially considering youre such a big influence over people. this is much less harsh. good job x
0 likeshey dodie i just wanted to say i saw u couple of weeks ago on tour, and i couldn't come up to meet u in person because i wasn't in a good mental space, but thank you for that performance/show. it made me feel oddly safe, even in a room of strangers. i love you, take care.
1 likeDodie is the sweetest human, what did we do to deserve her ?
6 likesah ive been reading ur book all day! im on obsessions rn and i love highlighting ur book and making notes. i missed ur videos lovely
0 likesdodie, we all make mistakes! you acknowledged yours and that's what matters :)
1 like1. I relate to quite a few of these 2. This video was comforting & interesting so thank you 3. I absolutely adore you 4. I shall go and purchase your beautiful book - looking forward to reading it! Much love - Trinity (I met you at VidCon Aus and I'm sorry I was so awkward- I was trying to comprehend everything happening and was a tad overwhelmed. Thank you for signing the Polaroid my mum took of us)
0 likesThank you for seeing your mistake, apologising and changing it instead of ignoring it! I love that you did that!
0 likesIt’s okay dodie!!! I understand! I relate❤️
1 likeLike I commented yesterday, I'm a type 4 too and I can't wait to read your book!
0 likesAlthough I agree that the comment definitely wasn't needed and it did seem a little weird coming from a 22-year-old woman, it's clear that you didn't mean it maliciously and those are just your personal feelings, which are totally valid to you! I think it's important to remember that no-one is perfect, everyone makes mistakes. I think a large amount of people don't seem to understand this and think YouTubers should be totally aware 24/7 but you're only human. It's not about the mistakes you make, it's how you rectify them and you always listen, apologise and act in a good way. I never see you brush anything under the carpet and ignore your viewers, even when it's something you'd rather not keep talking about and that really has to be admired. You're probably feeling pretty rubbish right now but please don't be so hard on yourself, we all get it wrong sometimes! xx
11 likesProud of you Dodie :) we all make mistakes but you handle them in a very mature way. Happy to watch your videos!
0 likesNo one is really mad at you. It's learning from your mistakes that's really important, and clearly you have. We still love you! <3
3 likesI'm so glad someone else feels the same about being messy but wanting to be tidy. What you said about the Myers Briggs test is so true, I really understand how you feel because I feel the same!
0 likesI really respect you for doing this <3
0 likesHello dodie! Hope you’re having fun on tour! This is probably one of my favourite videos from you because I can relate to most of what you say. I am also a Four on the ennegram(and slightly a two, and an INFP)! I do desire greatly to be a kind, non-jealous, helpful, and amazing person. By desiring this so much, I have no idea who I am, and I create someone who i want to be and someone who I like. I want to leave a mark in the world.
0 likesI love how open and honest you are in all of your videos. 💕
0 likes(Ps. I'm also an ENFP and a 4!)
I’m glad you re uploaded it like this because the feeling/trait is something I can relate to but I really like the person it was about. Now people can still enjoy the vid without all the arguments. It’s great love
3 likesin regard to what you said about having to have the happiness of your loved ones to achieve happiness yourself, and not knowing whether that is selfish or selfless, that really spoke to me. that's something i've been trying to figure out about myself. it's like my brain was a locked box and ive been trying hopelessly to find the key. then you came along and opened it first try. thank you dodie, i really do hope you know how much you're appreciated for everything you do! i hope you see this because you deserve to know that you're amazing!
0 likesI'm glad you re-edited this video. I thought that was very thoughtful and considerate of you. Once again, I think you've made another deep and thought provoking video :) thanks for sharing
0 likesCan I just say... I love Dodie’s glasses. She has great style
0 likesDodie I'm so happy you're back, thank you for redping the video!
0 likesThe dodie fans is the nicest fans there are
159 likesDodie, love. It's okay, we all make mistakes and the way you handled it is wonderful. You are always my role model because you are responsible even during situations like this. ❤️
0 likesthank you so much for re-uploading. i don't think i would've done that. you're such a role model. i love you.
0 likesCan you do a video on who records, mixes, and masters the songs in your album? I'm an audio engineer in a college in NYC. ALSO, DON'T WORRY! WE ARE ALL FLAWED BEINGS THAT ALWAYS MAKE MISTAKES :) But it is those mistakes learned from that make great people
0 likesI'm also a type four on the enneagram (okay, its like a 4w3 but WHATEVER) and its nice to know that I'm not the only one who feels like I'm viewing the world through a fish bowl that's heavily centered around ME. You are an absolute treasure and I'm so happy that you use your voice to share your thoughts and feelings and kind words. Love ya ❤️
0 likesThank you for opening up this was the highlight of my day!❤️💖💖
4 likesI watched your video the first time. Watched your re edited part, and read the description. Everything you said each time is so beautiful and self aware and kind and i really appreciate you for that!
0 likesDodie I can’t get over how relatable you are (or else like our personalities are extremely alike )
1 likeI'm happy that dodie is back, missed watching her videos so much
0 likesYou're so cool Dodie Clark ^_^ nice re-edit btw, you're such a great role model & I love that you do good things with your music and videos.
0 likesI love your thoughtfulness and willingness to correct what you later come to believe are mistakes. I think it's a wonderful thing that you are role model for so many younger women.
0 likesI struggle so much with jealousy and comparing myself to others, i hate it as im the kind of person who wants to be friends with everyone but i struggle to like people who have what i want, these people can be perfectly lovely but my jealousy causes me to push them away, as i will find them irritating then i hate myself for it, i love your videos as i feel so similar to you in so many ways its nice to see videos like this, from a big youtuber especially. Keep being you dodie youre amazing, and make me realise that im not the only one who has these thoughts or this kind of personality sounds weird i know but sometimes you think you're the only person like that, even though theres so many people in this world. I hope to inspire people with my videos like you do one day :)
1 likeso much respect for you dod 💛
0 likesYou're literally one of my favorite human in my life.
0 likesIm reading this book right now, dodie, this book. I really love how you exposed so much vunrlablity in it. And the section where Manager Josh spoke about you. It is beautiful !!!!!!! Anyone thinking about dont think just buy!!!!
0 likesHonestly thought everyone blew the first video waaaay out of proportion like don't think you did anything wrong but good for you Dodie for doing this and apologising to keep everyone happyyyy 🌼
0 likesI'm also an ENFP and an Enneagram Type 4, which I find so interesting that you are as well. I'm always struggling with identity but a counsellor recently introduced me to the idea of HSP, which is a highly sensitive person. I'd be curious if you looked into and identified with it as well. It's given me some clarity on some of my struggles.
0 likesDodie you're the best Youtuber I love you and I find your advice very helpful.
0 likesFor anyone reading: you are amazing! You are beautiful, inside and out. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Somewhere out there, there is someone who will appreciate you for you. I hope this helped someone today. I know that things can be difficult and sometimes we just need someone to tell as that we are special.
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Thank you that made me cry that's so wonderful to know that someone out there can take the time to write that comment and be so lovely to another! i hope you have the best day! 🙂🙂
2 likesEve Davies so sweet of you to take the time
2 likesSaff Granger Sometimes, I need to hear things like that and I know that it does help <3
2 likesmarisadaniela6 <3
1 likethank you!
1 likeI'm a 6 on the enneagram scale thing and I have a "wing" of 5, but the second on my list of ones that would fit was 4. I personally think 6w5 fits me because I don't trust at all or I trust too much and both give me anxiety.
0 likesyeah! i’d love to hear your thoughts on the enneagram. it’s crazy to be able to learn about yourself like that. i’m a 6 :)
0 likesDodie, I am so happy you chose to re-upload the video with the appropriate edits! I cannot stress enough how much I NEVER comment on videos (this is the second video I've ever commented on). Us women need to be empowering, supporting, and encouraging each other as vocally as possible nowadays. And I mean women of ALL ages, races, cultural backgrounds, varying statuses, etc. With your platform, I encourage you to be as genuine as possible, which you obviously have through this lovely video, but also as loving as possible. No, I don't mean happy or positive. We can't be happy or positive ALL THE TIME. But we can at least try to spread a little love and care here and there. Keep it up my love ❤️
4 likesI’m actually so proud of dodie for this, she doesn’t try and make out she’s perfect, and i respect her for that, keep doing what your doing <3
0 likesI've seen on social media that you've had writers block. I'm not sure how your song writing works, but it seems you have a topic in your life you're passionate about. Maybe just meditate on your thoughts and feelings, without judgement, and jot down whatever comes to mind. Look at your ideas and see if it makes something. I don't know, I really don't write. However, I think being able to acknowledge and confess a part of yourself that you don't entirely like but also being aware of the fact that you're still killing it and have things of your own that your proud of is really beautiful. It shows a type of contradiction in your life, the two ways you feel about things. Like hating the attention in the store but still being really proud of everything in there. Also, you kick ass! Thank you for everything you've done for me. You're music is beautiful <3
0 likesI have never heard someone who’s mentality is so similar to mine than dodie’s. She makes videos of subjects that she goes through that I also experience such as the desocialisation (I am too uneducated to know if that I spelt correctly) and her anxiety she sometimes experiences. It’s comforting to know that I am not alone I guess. 🧡
0 likesdodie, you are amazing and it's okay! you're not the only one making mistakes here. :)
0 likesI relate so much to your struggle with identity. That is literally me and everything I’m going through. I’ve never related more
0 likesI can totally support the re-edit. It's good to acknowledge that a thing that you said has unforeseen consequences when it involves another person. That being said, the first time I watched this vid (with the part in it), I TOTALLY understood what you meant. And I think I interpreted the thing the way you meant it. Probs cuz I feel it too concerning certain people. aNyWaY, nice vid <3
0 likesreading your book, love it ❤️
0 likesahhh dodie you're so lovely. i loved this video so much - it's so chill
0 likessidenote: your eyebrows are looking grEAt in this
side sidenote: i've ordered your book for my birthday and im sO excITed it looks beautiful
i'm very proud of you for recognizing that what you said could be problematic and i admire that you chose to change it. thank you
0 likesit’s okay love, we all make mistakes
364 likesWe love you Dodie and we all make mistakes xx
0 likesYou know what, it takes guts to own up to a mistake and apologise for it, so I applaud you for that 👏 💕
0 likesI'm glad you did this, it felt wrong and uncomfortable before, but you're a good egg Dodie, never too late to try and fix a mistake ❤
0 likesI've missed you so much 💛💛💛 I was afraid you were going to stop making videos for your vlog channel. I'm so happy that you're back.
0 likeswe all respect u just the same love. just like u said, ur human we all make mistakes. im proud of u dodie and i have missed u so much. ur a strong little bean.
6 likesIt's ok dodie! We love you!
0 likesLove you dodie no matter what ❤️
0 likesI did see the other video, and all I have to say is that I felt it to be very brave of you to express that certain feeling you had. As you know and have described yourself, you feel like this because of yourself, and not because of her. I understand that you are trying to take it back, but what you say and what people make of it are two different things... Some might have not understood what you were trying to express in the first place and that backfired eventually.
0 likesPersonally, I remember how one time in drama class we were asked to talk about three things we liked about ourselves, and three things we didn't like about ourselves. Like on stage - and we had to be 100% honest. The shit that came out was incredible. It was basically all confessions like this, and some were much worse, but we just sat there and were kind of like "yeah i guess we are all terrible sometimes and feel terrible things sometimes and maybe that's okay"
So in conclusion, I don't necessarily think you've made a mistake. Also, I missed you! Love you dodie
The more I watch dodie videos the more I realize we are quite similar personality wise, however she's alot more talented then I am. I hope I get to be on her level one day
0 likesI love you ❤️ You are so amazing and talented ❤️
16 likesEveryone does it love you dodie I'm glad that you are so caring to re edit the video
0 likesim so happy that you reuploaded this, because i could see it going bad right when i read the comments on the earlier version of the video, some of them made me really worried that the actor would watch the video and get offended. u did good dodie :) <3
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0 likesYou're so lovely and honest. I'm very glad that you can be open about mistakes online. Especially to your fans. Thank you so much.
0 likesHi. I am a female, teenage viewer from America and I’ve come to the comment section of one of Dodie’s videos for advice because I know that the Dodie fandom is the nicest fandom around. So here it goes. I’ve been extremely anxious everyday since about the beginning of last year. I want to get help from a professional of some sort, but my mom won’t take me because I haven’t been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder. Therefore, she doesn’t believe in my anxiety. My anxiety levels are getting worse because of the pressure at school and the horrible conditions of our orange president. I’m really not sure what to do.
7 likesWith much love, me 💛💛💛
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If you're in high school, I'd recommend going to your school counselor. The more adults involved, the easier it will be for you to get help.
3 likesLydia Hoffman I’m in a private Islamic school that really sucks so we don’t have a counselor or even a nurse
1 likeTry talking to a teacher you're close to?
0 likesyou can also go to childline.org.uk, it's helped me
1 likeif your mum isn’t letting you go to get a diagnosis, maybe say you feel ill and go to a doctor and speak to them about your anxiety and then if you do get a diagnosis of an anxiety disorder then speak to your mum and ask her about therapy again. if you have already been to a doctor and didn’t get a diagnosis then you may nit have a disorder but could still really need the help (if you really think you do have a disorder then go to a different doctor as ive had doctors in the past who didnt believe in mental illness usually this isn’t the case but you could consider it just to be sure ) in either case, if your mum still wont let you get therapy, if you are school age then you could speak to your school therapist or get the school to refer you to one and if you are out of school then go and find someone yourself dont let your mum stop you from getting help. and to respond to your anxiety about trump, yes there are many horrible people who support him but there are many more who are against all of his ignorant beliefs and that there is always good in the world :)
0 likesanyway i know thus is a super love and probably almost not understandable reply and its like a year late but i hope that things have got better for you and if they haven’t then i hope you are working towards recovery and remember that one day you will feel so much better :)
I wish you had kept what you said Dodie, I understood you perfectly and related to it immensely. Sending lots of love your way💙
1 likeNice job setting a good example for how to deal with mistakes for your audience =)
0 likesI agree with the difficulty with personal identity stuff, I'm really glad you bring up these topics for others to think about! I made a video about that recently too, the more people talk about it the more we learn=) ♡
love secrets of the mad such a good book so far #dodie
0 likesStacey is literally keeping the seasons across the world stable. I'll delete book 2 so you can get it
0 likesYay Doddddiiiieeee! i am also a number four and i really connect with everything you shared. i have missed your videos and cannot wait to read your book. much love..
0 likesI love you Dodie...I've recently come to the same conclusion...it's great 😊😊😊
0 likesYour talented! You seem sweet and your videos make me smile:) keep up the great videos. Thank you xx
0 likesSo, the Perceiving as opposed to Judging function, I recently learned, by itself does NOT mean sporadic and unorganized. What it actually means is your second letter function (so for you intuition) is more dominant than your third letter function (so for you feeling). I'm also an xNxP (INFP). Because your perception function which in both of our cases deals with more abstract concepts, is more dominant than our judging function, which is how we judge and organize and prioritize our information, it just means it's more difficult for us to follow through on projects and keep things organized. It doesn't mean that we thrive in a chaotic environment or that we like not being able to organize or stick to a schedule. It just means doing so is more difficult for us and that we're more likely to fall into those patterns of disorganization. Doesn't mean we can't it just requires a little more effort. Sorry for the novel. I'm studying for my "psyc testing" exam and remembered you'd said this lol
0 likesi cannot imagine my life without dodie here with me every step of the way.
2 likesI admit that I felt a little awkward when you said that, partly because I'm so defensive of my younger sister who is around her age. Like you said, it isn't fair when somebody else judges or defines you based on their limited/biased perception. Thank you for the clarification :)
0 likesI was so confused when I got the notifications that you'd uploaded the same thing again. I thought YouTube was bugging.
0 likesI guess when I watched the original I never considered the implications of what you said. I thought "ok that's her opinion" and moved on. I am glad that you posted this re-edit. Most people wouldn't actually take the time to re-edit something they've uploaded and I appreciate the messages you put out into the world. It's ok to make mistakes if you show that you've learnt from them and try to make amends
Dodie, you're so ridiculously beautiful! You, your qwerky personality and cute looks makes you unique from many many humans <3
0 likesI relate to all of these things, also i was just watching a bunch of your videos but i need to clean ahhhhh, also i watched it yesterday but i'm rewatching luv u dodie <3
4 likesJust wanna say, I watched the original, and although I super respect that you wanted to edit this and create a better version of what you actually meant to say, I found absolutely nothing wrong with your original statement having to do with jealousy. It was a graspable example that I appreciated, and you had a point to make with it, it made me feel like we all have petty jealousy sometimes, but admitting reasons why those feelings exist can help us move on from them. But just restating, I get it, but I didn't think there was anything wrong with what you said. ✨💙
0 likesThe last little bit i totally relate!
0 likesAfter my parents divorce i constantly felt (and still feel) like i had to make sure both of them were happy as well as everyone else I know, I’ve always been empathetic towards people but it’s started to take over my life that i’ve forgotten about myself, which is a scary thought because with being so wrapped up in other people’s lives I’m going to end up putting mine at a halt.
I’m so proud of her
0 likeswe’re so blessed to have dodie 💛
0 likesDodie I love you so much stay strong my dearest
5 likesWhat really bugs me about people is their inability to admit the flaws in things they love. IT'S OKAY TO ACCEPT THAT DODIE DID WRONG AND STILL BE A FAN. You don't need to blindly follow. That's why she apologised and edited the video - because it was WRONG and she knew that. To then say 'oh i don't think it was that bad' 'oh people are overreacting' or 'you didn't do anything wrong dodie!' that's not a good thing. People don't need 'yes' folks around them, they need people to tell them the truth, to be willing to say 'hey, i love you, but I think this wasn't that great' because that's how we grow! It's okay to know that, and still love and be a fan of Dodie, or anything else that falls under that category. I disliked what was said yesterday, because the actress is very young, starting out, and deserves to be loved and protected in such a harsh industry. She's finding herself, she's learning, that's okay. She's a child. Anyway, my main point is that I love Dodie and I'm glad she deleted it because it wasn't great but that's okay. Everyone makes mistakes. You can still be a fan of something and note and accept the flaws in it. <3
5 likesFor the late night phone thing, I recommend an app called Offtime. It blocks out any apps you tell it to for however long you want it to. You can also schedule it to turn on at a certain time (like, say, 11 pm) and not let you turn it off without watching it count down for a full minute or 15 minutes or whatever. It helps me a lot as I have the same problem if I don't have it.
0 likesDodie, you are honestly so great
0 likesI've bought the book! Love it so far! I love you!
0 likesThank you our beautiful Dodi! You have made me smile yet again i can relateso well 💖👏😘🌼
0 likesoh my god. I don't think I have ever resonated with a video so much in my life. This is exactly how I feel 24/7, which kinda sucks, kinda doesn't, I don't even know. I'm trying to figure out who I am and in the meantime I am also trying to find happiness, which, like you said, I feel like I have to wait until everyone else around me is happy before I am. I'm happy to know that I'm not alone at least. :)
0 likesI feel you dodie. I’m in the same boat. I lack a lot of confidence and feel a lot of empathy (sometimes too much), and when you add jealousy on top of it, it turns into a mess of emotions, both hatred and love. Arghh
0 likesI love you dodie so much, please keep being you
0 likesdodie is actually the realist person on the Internet. I love her sm<3
0 likesit’s totally okay dodie! 💛
0 likesDodie it’s okay, I totally got what you wanted to say and I think it’s awesome how you accepted your mistake and apologized and took action. You’re great love you
0 likeshi dodie, this is really unrelated to the video; it was great by the way. just remember you are human and everyone makes mistakes.... everyone has those days.. ANYWAYS. I am a self taught ukulele player and i've been playing for 2 weeks and know the chords but i have no clue how to strum? my fingers keep getting stuck in between the strings! if you could make a video on it or even tell me some tips that would be great. thank you! x
1 likeI’ve missed you, love. 🖤
739 likesOh my god thanks for so many likes lol
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It's Just Kayla ❤️💛💚💙💜
1 likeMe too I want it to be august again so she the Veda (:
1 likeYOUR BOOK CAME IN THE MAIL YESTERDAY AND I HAVE READ ALMOST HALF OF IT AND ITS SO GOOD
1 likeAhhhhh my copy of Dodie's book arrives tomorrow and I've been obsessively checking the tracking all day i'msoexciiiiiiteddd sorry, just had to share this with ppl who would also feel excited at this. Carry on!
0 likesThank you Dodie 😊I love you so much
0 likesI definitely thought after going through the comments of the first version that maybe it would’ve been better to edit out the actor’s name! Better late then never, very glad you acknowledged the mistake and corrected it!! Great modeling of how to deal with mistakes - everyone makes them but it’s how we react after (and learn from them!!) that counts 💛
0 likesYes, the way you said it (in the last vid) was not thought out, and yes she gets so much hate from people who are jealous (which is so not fair) but you weren't hating, you used it as an example to show one of your flaws, and that's ok. You have handled it great though, try to fix your mistake (without hiding it) apologise, and move on. Beside she seems to have thick skin and you weren't being like the absolute worst person in the world, just a bit rude. Also you weren't going after her, your were going after yourself, you explained why you said what you said and you apologised. I'm not say calling a 13 y/o grating is fine but don't beat yourself up too much
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Which actress was it ???
0 likesLot tie it doesn't matter. That wasn't the point. She blew up in summer 2016 and is still super popular
0 likeseleven from stranger things
5 likesmaishi could you please delete your comment. Dodie changed the video so the actress wouldn't get hate. Please just be nice and try to understand
0 likesdodie, I've missed your videos and the sense of raw realness (if that makes sense) they have. And, while I have no idea what the eniogram (I know I spelled that wrong) is, with the way you explained it, I think I'm a 4, too. Please make a video explaining it some more, because I really want to know the ins and outs of 1-9 :)
0 likesl am the one who wrote the tweet that triggered all of this and l really appreciate this so much. l do hate how strongly l worded it but the fact that you immediately apologized and corrected your mistake makes me respect you so much more than l already did. thank you so much.
1 likeYou should really cover O Come Emmanuel for Christmas coming up very soon! 💜💜💜
0 likesTyler Joseph, Melanie Martinez and Christina Grimmie did and they were all so incredible!
I love Dodie but i'm glad she re-edited the video :)
12 likesI hope you are okay dodie. I watched yesterday’s vlog and read the comments and was a little sad. What i got from the video was that you want to show your fans who you truly are even the ugly things not just the happy ones. Even your shameful insecurities and i admire you for having the courage to do that. You work real hard in making content and getting it through an audience took a lot of work and the jealousy in this actor who just blown the internet at such a young age, in which case a dream you had but took a long time to get.
0 likesIt is what it is, everyone has their own pace.
aww
0 likeswe all make mistakes dodie, we're human, and we aren't perfect. we are imperfect people, but we are beautiful anyways.
So dodie I know you’ll never read this but hi. I just wanted to say that I relate to this video a lot. Also I just wanted to say thank you,
1 likeThank you for making videos,
Thank you for creating such beautiful music,
Thank you for being you,
You can always make me smile and distract me from real life. If I need something to make me laugh or smile, someone to relate to, something that just describes how I’m feeling, all I need to do is play one of your videos. So thank you.
I know this is super long and cringey but I love your videos and music and I can’t wait to see what you create in the future.
Your my biggest inspiration Dodie
0 likesWe were aloud to decorate our music books with our biggest inspiration and I chose you
Now my book is covered with your face and songs 😂
We were also asked to do a presentation on our biggest inspiration and again I chose you 😂
When I grow up I hope to do more singing than I do now and be like you
You are such an amazing human and I love you ❤️
I was one of the people that criticised the way you said it in your previous upload. I'm very glad you did an re-edited upload! With this you have not only deleted a thing that could potentially hurt someone or give a wrong impression, you also showed its important to think about what you say, and if somethings get interpreted wrong, to just give things a second try!
6 likesI love the fact that you fixed this very, very quickly. No one is blaming you, it was just a phrasing problem that a lot of people misunderstood to mean that you actually didn't like the celebrity and got offended or started to "agree with you" and started hating on said celebrity. Good job!
0 likesYou the way you are is what made me fall in love with you and this channel.
0 likesI am finally seeing this, and a four myself I feel so alive and less alone knowing that dodie is a four (but I also want to be a special snowflake so...)
0 likes💛You’re my hero💛
16 likesthank you for being mature about the situation. 💗
0 likesI think you did a good thing, I'm proud that you can admit mistakes
1 likeThanks for apologizing. I respect you for growing and learning from your mistakes.
0 likesLove you Dodie!
0 likesI also spend a lot of time trying to make other people happy. Although I feel like I do so because I want them to have a better childhood or life than I have had. Because I hate my life and I don't want anyone else to feel like that and I just want to protect them by wrapping them in 1000 layers of bubble wrap and putting them in a box labelled fragile and hug the box and make sure I never let it out of my sight or wave a magic wand and then they are happy and nothing bad will happen.
Also I'm going to buy your book at some point because it looks so interesting although I have loads of books half read at the moment and my parents won't let me get anymore ;-;
Rewatching to give that sweet ad rev
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ashycloudy bless your soul
8 likeshslice thank
3 likesAyyy following your example mate x
1 likeI feel everything you said. I always wondered if I'm really that selfless and helping, too. Because I just can't stand people being unhappy, it makes me unhappy, too, so I just try everything to make that feeling go away. And I'd rather give in, do something they want to do, eat somewhere where they want to eat, because I'd rather not be super content instead of feeling like I put myself first, ignored their wishes, made them unhappy. Yeah. That's it
0 likesayy hey dodie thanks a lot for re-editing your vid! the comment on your last video made me really uncomfortable and I'm so glad that you acknowledged that it was not the right thing to say/the right way to put it. I think the point you were trying to make was really important (because it's a thing that many people do unconsciously) and it's cool that you took time to correct your mistake and word it differently. love you! :)
0 likesThere was this one time when dodie was in Lewisburg and I wasn't into her yet and my friends were freaking out and I didn't understand the hype but I get it now! She's so loving and great at being herself and she's such an ICON. That is all 😊
0 likesHow graceful and gentle of you. I wasn't offended by the original, but I think the fact you edited it says a lot about you. Beautiful soul.
0 likesdoes anyone know what glasses dodie is wearing in this? i’ve been searching for ages! thanks! xx
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heidi d sorry for the late reply! Look on her “tell me a story” video, she’s sponsored by Glasses USA. I’m pretty sure they’re Ray Ban!
0 likesThese kind of videos is why I love Dodie.
0 likesI'm an ENFP too!!! How cool! :D I also agree though that I'm not a J and it is hard for me keep my space clean, although I do prefer it. I love Myers Briggs and I think it really does hold a lot of merit in understanding ourselves and others. I really relate with you and maybe this is part of it. Love you! xoxo
0 likesi got type 4 too and it is weirdly accurate, especially the concept of feeling kinda attacked when someone misunderstands me which i've never really thought about much before
0 likesPersonally I feel you didn’t need to re-edit this. I thought you explained your point well. But I understand why you deleted it and respect that.
6 likesFor the people who didn’t see the original, I won’t be sharing the name for the same reason. She gets enough hate already and don’t want people attacking her for silly reasons.
Anywho, love ya dodie <3
everyone makes mistakes. just know that we all love you so much. 💛💛
0 likesI'm a 7! But when I took the test, I got a 4 as my second, so I relate to what you mean about finding out who you are and being self aware. But I feel as when (if) I find the freedom/adventure that 7s go after, I will find my identity and purpose? Idk, my brains is so confusing. Love you btw!!!
0 likesIt's alright Dodie you're a person just like everyone else. We all make mistakes
0 likesI got my heart broken 2 times, I’ve got my world ripped apart 2 times as well. I don’t think it will heal but I do hope we learn to live along the scars. It might turn up to be the tube map of London
0 likesdodie you should try quitting social media,
13 likesThats what I'm doing for December and 6 days in I can literally tell you it is changing my life. I feel more alive than I have in months, I'm more productive during the day, go to bed earlier and wake up feeling refreshed and spend my evenings learning new things or playing piano and I'm just so much happier without.
I always reasoned with it because I thought it was paramount to becoming a youtuber but if I'm making more things without it then that's just not the case.
Also just to point out it's miracles: last night, after not having ran for 5 months, I somehow ran a half marathon.
Before then the longest I'd ever ran was 10km, but without the stress of social media I was able to do 22km.
You'd be so surprised with how easy and liberating it truly is
I relate to a lot of the things that were said at least partially, worth the two month break for this video
0 likesFor those of you who feel the need to call Dodie "pathetic" and "immature", I wonder what it is really like to be so perfect like you, really? Because from what you're saying it makes it seem like you're absolutely perfect with no flaws. Except you do have flaws, we all do! And it is so rude that you don't know how to respect people the right way! If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it! Why are you even here if you're going to just bash Dodie like that? Because actually YOU'RE the one who is just spreading hate!
1 likeThank you Dodie, ur my fave
0 likesyou're really great dodie
0 likesi belive you did the right thing, but i see some comments like "she didn't need to edit it" and you forget that the actor she talked about is an actual kid right? they don't deserve having people don't like them or call them annoying just because the person reminds youof something i mean, and dodie realised she did a wrong thing so she fixed it so
5 likesI was thinking after seeing your tweets that you could edit it out but also acknowledge it for those confused/upset. I see what you meant and I don’t think it’s right to ignore your mistake as we all make mistakes. You’re one of my favorite youtubers but I never want you to feel like a terrible person or build you up to feel bigger than yourself, if that makes sense. That being said I appreciate your re editing and owning up.
0 likesStill love you Dodie 💛💛💛
0 likesit's nice to know someone overthinks their life and thoughts to the same crazy extent that i do, thank you
0 likesCome on! Its your opinion dodie, its your channel , i love you , and I truly believe you can say whatever you want if you are not insulting anyone
0 likesi've been sitting in bed for ages coz i'm too depressed to move and finally i have something to do thanks :)
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Ellie Confetti ilu things will get better ❤
4 likescece x awh thank you i hope so x
1 likeWe love you. We love your voice. Your smile. Your videos. Your flaws. 💓
0 likesYou’re one of the only things that can calm my mind atm
0 likesI've missed you dodie ! <3
0 likesI’m also a four. My mom taught a lesson at my church about it and I was like...did I write this? Why is this so much like me?... anyway I feel better knowing that it’s not just me who is lost in trying to find themselves... that sounds rude... you know what I mean. Love you Dodie.
0 likesi was like woah a video two days in a row but then i realized its a reupload. i knew what you meant when you were talking about the actor because i get the same way about jealousy
23 likesi feel like you're my soulmate. keep being you, i love you so much
0 likesI relate to this video so much this sounds almost exactly the way i feel
0 likesDodie, I too am a 4 (wing 5) and I completely understand how you feel
0 likesI’m jealous of Dodie she’s a living aesthetic and I love her
0 likesCan you please cover Anchor by Mindy Gledhill??
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omg yes
0 likesi never related to anyone like you Dodie, you should know that you are an inspiration for snowflakes like me (positively of course) , it makes me happy to see that there are people who question themselves and seek improvements towards others and themselves too ...💛
0 likeswe are all human so it's okay to make a little mistake. we all feel jealous of people who have what we want (that's just human nature). we all love you and we (of course) all forgive you! thanks for being such a great model in showing us to recognize our mistakes when we make them :)
0 likesWOW. You overthink things the same way I do! (I suppose a lot of people do--I always forget.) I've gone in so many circles on the same topic of, "Are my actions towards others selfless or selfish because am I helping others to help them or to help me?" and on and on! Anyway, I'm so glad I'm not the only one questioning myself in this way--thanks, dodie! :)
0 likesAmazing way to handle this dodie! Everyone makes mistakes!
0 likesI ORDERED YOUR BOOK YESTERDAY AND IT'LL BE HERE TOMORROW AND I CAN'T WAIT
7 likesoh fuck, I'm in the same situation as you, Dodie. I cant be happy if my friends aren't. I feel like i don't deserve to be happy when my friends aren't ok. so am I selfless or selfish?
0 likesI am not proud of it, but I could relate to almost every single thought you spoke out. I am a four too and I am trying to figure it out too. I know this may not even interest you, but I personally always feel better when I know I am not the only one struggling with whatever issue I have.
0 likesI'd also love to read your book but Australia doesn't seem to have it yet :(
0 likesHowever, I am a 6 on the Enneagram test. The Loyalist.
In a nutshell it means I'm responsible and trustworthy, and I value loyalty to friends, family, groups and causes.And I need constant reassurance that friendships haven't fallen apart and that everything is okay hahah. Being direct and clear is the main way I thrive.
SO GLAD YOURE BACK!!!! 💗
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19 likes“But yeah creative blocks are just the absolute best lol”
I think it's interesting that you said "I don't think your heart will ever truly heal 100%".
0 likesIn some ways, this is true. If you think your heart - that is, your soul, essence and innocence - is something that you are born with, something whole and pure and untouched, then having your heart 'broken' does mean you will never 'heal'. But that supports the idea that we were meant to go through life without hardships. To put it into a more realistic, and frankly more calming light, I'd suggest thinking about in terms of changing rather than destroying and mending. If you break a bone, it will usually fix itself. It may fix itself slightly differently, but it will still function. You learn new things about yourself and the world around you after hard times, and some of these things can only be learned through experience. What's nice is you can use that experience to connect to others, as you seem to do so well with your art and music. Turning your pain into poetry - more than that, turning your pain into passion and continual development.
literally
0 likeseverything
that is a problem for me rn
you're not alone dodie, I know I'm not you, and we obviously aren't exactly the same, but I hope we both get better
It’s totally okay dodie, everyone experiences jealously and it’s completely understandable.
0 likesYou look and feel so egoless and gimmick less. That's what I appreciate about you. There's a certain charm involved with being a normal flawed person
0 likesevERYBOdy maKes MisTAkes EveRyboDy HaD ThoSe DaYs
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1 likeEVERYBODY MAKES MISTAKES
Dammit you beat me to it
0 likesEverybody knows what, what' I'm talkin' 'bOUT
4 likesEverybody gets thAT WAYY
nOBODYs pErFecT
2 likes1. Dodie should do a cover of this song.
3 likes2. Why the heck did I read this singing?. I am 20 for gods sake!
I wish people hadn't been so aggressive towards Dodie's mistake but it's so sweet that she acknowledged and re-edited the video. Also just in general this was a great, self-reflective video.
0 likesI am an ENFP and a type 4, makes sence why I love your videos so much!
0 likesEveryone makes mistakes but not everyone admits and fixes them; you are a genuine inspiration 😊
0 likesNo one is perfect, Your allowed to have negative emotions and feeling towards others. To deny yourself those is to cause yourself a great amount of pain. Negative emotion, feelings and thoughts are essential and just as valuable as positive ones. People love you because of what they see at the core of your being. Those same people will love you even in your down/negative times . If they can’t see who you really are in those times then they are not worth the energy. It took me years to realise this x
0 likesI’m not going to lie but when I saw the title of this video I automatically thought of the song confessions by Usher
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Jourdan Oliver I read it in his voice!
0 likesit’s ok dodie we all make mistakes xx
1 likeHeyy Dodie! Soms thoughts about the dilemma self-less and selfish: does it have to be one of the two? I think you should see it from a broader angle. Maybe you identify as a person that cheers up others, so when you cheer someone up, you feel like you are in your comfort zone. You know that that is a think you do well, and so it makes you feel worthy, competent, and it reminds you of who you are. This may be very nice for someone with dissociation and some identities crisis (this is just an assumption). This doesn't have to be a selfish act, because it comes from your character of kindness. It does however put you in a role you feel comfortable in. You love yourself more than you think and even tho you have so many doubts, in the end (luckily!) you still look our for yourself. So, I don't think you are selfless: you are trying to make yourself happy too. Both of the words seem extremes and maybe you are one of the two sometimes. But try to give yourself some credit and find the grey area :) <3 I'm just trying to give you some thinking perspective and sharing some of my own experience because I find it quite relatable, so don't worry, I admire you very much ^-^
0 likesHave a lovely day!
Welcome back dodie!! Missed you a lot❤️
0 likesdodie, seeing the negative comments on the old video absolutely broke my heart and i'm sorry that you had to see them, but i'm glad that you learned from it.
0 likesi could actually so identify with the ~young actor~ thing
19 likesi’m an enneagram four too anD the bit you said after about how you said in therapy of you feel you can’t be happy until all the people around you are happy- that can have a lot to do with being a four, seeing as fours move along over to two (the helper) in disintegration. basically when you feel like you are falling apart and your formed identity (what us fours cherish so deeply) is under scrutiny of yourself or others, you, like me and all our fellow type fours, can tend to turn to caring for others so your identity feels secured by their need of you. because fours feel so uniquely afflicted, it becomes our priority when we feel like our ~self~ is not all we want or need it to be, to ensure that others overlook our unique depravity (as we perceive it in ourselves) by depending on us. i dunno if that’s helpful or even applicable to you directly in this situation but those are things i’ve learned the hard way through my journey of self awareness! and the awareness of the tendency and correlation was the first step to starting to change that pattern. anyways you are one of my absolute favorite fours to listen to, you inspire me so deeply ❤️ i hope this doesnt come off abrasively oof i just think ab things in terms of the enneagram quite a lot
0 likesi was thinking to myself today that i was going to scream if you didnt uploaded soon. because i missed you. thank you dodie
0 likesme too dodie. I hope you are able to make all the people around you happy, that way you can be happy!
0 likesTypology is also a wonderful podcast on the enneagram :D
0 likesHELLO I LOVE U ALL AND STAY HYDRATED !!!!
67 likesi took the enneagram test and I also go a 4, this made a lot of sense, it almost hit TOO close to home it made me sad:(
1 likeDon't worry Dodie you're okay! Missed ya!
0 likesI love you Dodie !!
0 likesyou’re not human if you don’t make mistakes. It’s okay, dodie :)
0 likesI wish I could meet you ❤️
3 likesMaking mistakes proves you’re human, ly dodes💘
0 likeswell done dodie! reuploading the video was a good idea <3
0 likesOf all my many subscriptions on YouTube, Dodie is #1 on my lost of 'would love to go for a pint with'...
0 likes.. By which I mean 'would love to write a song, play Mario Kart, and philosophise into the night' with.
And this is just another reason you're my fav 💕
0 likesyou are my sunshine ☀️
3 likesI only just saw this video and I feel very very similar in the fact that I don't know whether I'm selfish or not for those reasons and I think like I can really relate to some/most of your confessions but please try your best to think less about this whole thing and give yourself a break because the thoughts can cause so much melancholy and self destruction and that can really send you backwards on recovery and learning to love yourself. In the end remember you are only human and try your best to survive and stay safe, not for us but for yourself
0 likesit's okay.I understood the point of that first unedited verson and I'm sure lots of others did too! We don't think you are horrible. Just by reading the discription it is easy to see how kind hearted you are and how it was so much more about you than the actress mentioned. It's an issue you are trying to overcome and most likely applys to more people than just that specific actress. youre a good egg.
0 likesI feel ya so much on this issue
1 likeI just finished watching her series yesterday and I've been very bitter and jealous ever since and it's pulling me down so much but I honestly don't know what to do about it. Like, she is so young and already lives this amazing life and gets dressed up like a model and all that stuff
And I'm over here like, how unfair is that, I never got that chance, I'm just a normal kid, and I won't be anything else EVER. And I feel like my life is so unworthy of attention and I can't do anything about it.
Sorry that I'm such a crybaby but I'm feeling kinda shit.
Same my room is always messy and I hate it
17 likesThank you for explaining some of the things I didn't know how how to put into words
0 likesIn defense of the MBTI (bc I love it)...I don't think that by identifying you as an P rather than a J they're trying to make a judgement about your motivations or intentions, but rather your natural inclinations as described by how you responded to the test. That's it. It has its places but of course it's not going to be a perfect "ENFPs always respond like xyz while INTJs respond like abc" or whatever. There's a lot of ENFPS that I'm very different from and a lot of ISTJs (complete opposite) that I share common traits with, but there's really interesting patterns that can be picked up from your MBTI type. So I guess don't take it personally. hehe. Also, it's not set in stone, there's nothing that says your type can't change over time. (mine's fluctuated a couple letters over the years but ENFP has always been the most common.) Anyways there's that impromptu manifesto you're great
0 likesThat last confession was way too relatable.... My therapist keeps telling me that sometimes I need to put my feelings over others, or at least take some "me time" for my mental health, but I can't help but constantly stress about all of my friends and family. It keeps me from my schoolwork and sleep. It's frustrating having people ask what they can do to make me feel better. I can't say that they should just be happy, because too many people have said it to me. I know how much it hurts for someone to try to compress all of your thoughts and feelings into just one simple solution. It's difficult when people care... I never know "what's wrong" with me. They ask about how I'm doing, but I can hardly even think about how I'm doing until I calm my worries about them. All I want is for everyone to be happy... I do everything I can not to inconvenience anyone, and I apologize constantly, even if I technically did nothing wrong... Everyone tells me to care about myself, but I just can't... I'm the type of person who cries while reading books and watching movies. I cry when my friends tell me stories. I cry when I think about the pain others have gone through. I cry at the thought that I couldn't have protected them from it. Some people may say empathy is a strength, and I guess in a way it is... But to me it feels so much more like a weakness. I love to care about others, and I appreciate when they care, but it hurts. I dread other people thinking the same way as I do, that we'll care so much for each other that neither of us can care for ourselves.... I don't know what to do about it.... I've been going to therapy for two years now, and I take medicine twice daily. I try so hard to care for myself, but it all feels so wasteful. I feel like I can never give myself anything, when I think everyone around me deserves more. My life just feels like an endless spiral of self-hatred and love for everyone else.
0 likesi am a 2 on the enneagram! my test results were 2, with 6 being a close second lol. i really like the enneagram bc it helps me feel seen and understood
0 likesi rlly identify with giving of oneself a lot and putting loved ones' happiness first.. ive had the same selfless/selfish crisis lol
however i dont think people are confined to - or restricted by - their number and i do sometimes identify with traits typically characteristic of a 6, or a 4, or whatever bc PEOPLE ARE COMPLEX AND THE ENNEAGRAM IS A TOOL TO HELP U UNDERSTAND URSELF AND THE PPL AROUND U dont base ur identity off of a number OK BYE <333
can we just shun all the people that obviously got petty because dodie mentioned a name to compate her own self to? its so silly but props to dodie for being the bigger person💛
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Lucy Davey I wish that I could give this comment more than one like, you took the words out of my mouth
2 likesExaaaaaactly
1 likeI feel so close and connected to you. I can't imagine how that makes you feel. I look forward to meeting you one day.
0 likesI actually agreed so much with what you cut out from yesterday's video. I don't know what that says about me but I was kinda happy that someone said something about it at the time. More then anything this is helping me point out the fact that I do the same thing and that its not healthy. Thanks I guess 😂
0 likeslove you dodie 🖤
1 likelol I already was like "OMG MANDELA EFFECT"... and then I saw the vídeo 😂💔
28 likesI bought the book. I’m so excited to get it
0 likeshow can one person be so self aware and accepting and beautiful and smart and talented ugh ily. and i also love everyone in this community. lowercase for aesthetic purposes :)
0 likes"But yeah creative blocks are just the absolute best lol"
1 like~Thomas Sanders
Dodie I love you to death honestly, but about the personality test thing....if you don't wanna be labeled as something you're not, don't take the test, because personality tests are obviously gonna have a lot of inaccurate information always. 😆 just wanted to throw that out there, but anyways once again love you so much and you're great❤️❤️❤️
0 likesNOTIFICATION SQUAD (I’m glad dodie reuploaded this though!!)
4 likesIm glad you re-uploaded 💓 great to see you're so mindful
0 likesalso i've just finished this was beautiful thank you
0 likesHun, we have the same glasses except mine have a flower pattern!! ♡
0 likesAlso, we all think you are perfectly lovely and although I know you may never understand why or believe us, it is true. Just trust me on this from personal experience.
We are all thrilled to see your beautiful face again! I hope you doing fine, love ~
Remember to try to get enough rest, water, food, and whatnot
Have a lovely day/night/whenever ~
(I bet you'll never see this but it's worth the words ^^)
♡♡♡
I read a great self development book called The Power of Habit (author Charles Duhigg), and I think it'd be a perfect starting point if you really wanted to try to change some not-so-positive habits in your life! : )
0 likesGood thing to see the video back edited. You did the right thing. Case closed
23 likesRespect for the re-edit 💛
0 likesI had a dream that I met Dodie, that was wonderful.
0 likesI can relate to the jealousy part!! So you're absolutely not alone feeling that way lol
0 likesI am probably close on to three times as old as you are Dodie and from what I can tell just about everybody has the same selfishness/selflessness issues. I can only suggest that find a spot where you are comfortable and let yourself gyrate around that spot. Living is painful in someways but you will learn how to cope. I wish you more days of comfort than of turmoil my friend.
0 likesGuys, don’t mention the actor dodie mentioned- I don’t think dodie would want this to get bigger you know? It’s best to just leave the actors name out of the comments
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Thank you for saying what I was thinking in a non-offensive way!
10 likesI know but I'd really like to know who it was
12 likesJust Peachy I’m just gonna put a description here: very young, very talented, stars in an excellent and very popular tv show, in interviews they kinda come across like they think they are The Shit ™. But honestly I’d act the same if I were their age and got this much attention and they’ll probably grow out of it (hopefully). Even if u figure it out from here, don’t post the name pls!!
7 likesI figured it out but I won't say the name🙂🙃
0 likesYour book has made me cry in a good way
0 likesaw dodie reuploading was a good choice! I know some people say they didnt find anything wrong with it. But for me due to the age of the actor it was a little uncomfortable. #Respect
1 likeBut I'm also glad I saw the original video because it's just nice to see that everyone gets these unexplainable negative feelings
I just finished Secrets For The Mad. Dodie, I fucking loved it.
0 likesI have too many things to confess these days x Dodie makes me feel grounded x also I’m probs lesbian for dodie but who isn’t these days x 💞💞
6 likesThis video may be from last year, but the internet is forever and this video just helped me realize something about myself that I didnt realize or acknowledge before.
0 likesI'm overweight. I don't like it and i'm constantly dieting or thinking of ways I can lose weight and get back to how I looked before. My motivation since High School and the beginning of Uni has evaporated and has left me with very little to work with.
But I realized one of the reasons why I haven't dedicated myself to getting to a healthier weight is because I feel more approachable and less threatening to people (beautiful, average, etc) as a heavier person. I can be nice and helpful without making other people (mostly girls) suspicious of my intentions. But my mind is at war over it because I crave peer approval, which my brain thinks I have less lately of due to my increased weight.
Anyway, now that this has come to the surface and I can face it, I can finally combat these thoughts and feelings and become a healthier and more confident person (eventually).
Thanks Dodie :)
PS: I'm a 2 (the helper) with wings 9 (the peacemaker) and 3 (the achiever, where the desire for validation comes from)
:D and this is why I love you! Thank you so much for apologizing and re-uploading, it's all good now! If people keep dragging it out just ignore em :P
0 likesThanks for doing this dodie! I really liked this video and understood what you were saying but was uncomfortable you called said person out so 👍👍👍
0 likesI'm sorry it turned out as a hate message for some people. That part was honestly very relatable, and even if I'm disappointed that you had to take it down, I completely understand that it's for the good of others. :)) Don't feel bad Dodie darling, we love you.
0 likesMy love? Dodie Clark? Beautiful bean?
5 likesI miss your videos and your voice Dodieee 💖 like I literally begged my bestfriend, who is currently living in the US, to buy me your book. Cause your book isn't available here in the Philippines and she's coming home here in our country this Dec and she actually love it the first time i showed it to her. So yeah! I'll be expecting your book this coming Christmas! Im so fking excited. Love you dodes
0 likesI'm really proud!!!
0 likesI really like this video! I feel I have the same issues as you:/ but I am also working on them so far I have been doing good. I really appreciate you doing this video ✌
0 likesIt's okay Dodie 💛 I think most people understood you were not making it about -actor-, you were just using them to make your point. But I guess if people were using it as a spring board to attack them, then that could make you feel responsible, so I guess you've done what you had to! Stay strong 💛💛
0 likesI love you
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Dropando Ideias I love her too omg
2 likesI love me too
0 likesLETICIAAAA <3<3<3
0 likesI like this style of video... I kind of feel like I want to do this...
0 likes(I'm a 3w4, i believe, and recently changed to an ENFP, as well. I used to be INFP, and was 50/50 introverted and extroverted, but I guess I switched to 60/40! It feels weird)
personally, i didn't have a problem with what you said yesterday. and i think it's because i relate to that ever so slightly. howEvEr i think it's soo matUrE of you to re edit it and right (what potentially could have been) your wrong. this is why you're one of my idols :))
0 likesi'm a 1w9 & i would love to see an enneagram video, maybe even with you, Tessa (and Emma?) talking about your different types
0 likesI am a type 2 on the enneagram which is good for others but is really emotionally draining because I constantly get ignored and nobody ever helps me. It’s okay that you made the mistake as well dodie. Everyone makes mistakes.
0 likesWait why did she re-upload this... like I saw the original... and I mean she didn't really talk bad about name of actor I mean I feel that she perfectly described her meaning... but.. it's the internet and people get offended for no reason...
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She called her annoying and grating.. which I don't feel is an appropriate thing to say about a 13 year old girl you don't even know personally.
0 likesDodie, what do you use for the fake freckles? I've always wondered!
0 likesIt will be fine, but i must admit that when i heard your confession yesterday, i got a bib surprised, but i've thougt about it all day and realised that i must agree with you in some aspects... Although i am a huuuge fan of her and what she's up to i will always be the biggest fan of yours ,more than any other people that i could possibly be a fan of, just to see you being a human. There is no one that have ever inspired me as much as you have. YOU ARE AN AMAZING PERSON
0 likesYour eyebrows look AMAZINGGGG in this videoooo 🙌👏❤️
1 likeDodie I Lysm xx
5 likesMaking mistakes is a talent nobody is proud of... so here is a message to all the people who make mistakes : you should be proud that you've made a mistake and that you realized you made one. You don't have to say sorry to yourself, just say thank you because you know you were wrong. ❤️
0 likesI didn't notice anything off about the original but i really appreciate the apology, in retrospect it was distasteful and I think you calling yourself out for that helped me learn as well :) there's a lot of comments about how everyone makes mistakes so you don't have to apologize or edit the video, but i politely disagree. I think you're doing a great job of creating a culture of apology without shame and forgiveness without disregard to anyone hurt. And I extra appreciate it because the way that people normalize talking about minors just because they're celebrities is a big problem!! thank u dodie :)
0 likesI relate Dodie on a deep level
0 likesHello
5 likesI’m an ENFP and have that whole “wanting it to be clean and being discontent with the mess but not cleaning it” complex
0 likesDodie I don’t feel like you should be sorry for what you said. Your honesty is why I love you. Everyone envy’s and gets jealous.
0 likesI think the enneagram test is one of the personality tests that’s interesting to me because I think it’s very swayed by two things, the first being, if you know anything about it and already have an idea of what you think you’ll get, and two being, it seems very easily swayed by current feelings. I’ve taken it many different times, most recently it has said I’m a two, but I have definitely been told by it that I’m a four before and a six! I think most people at times can relate to all of these fears and desires and most will likely change at some point. When I look at where I am know, it makes since why I got a 2, and where I’ve been previously in my life, 4 and 6 make since for those times. I think the enneagram is interesting in the moment, but it doesn’t say much about you forever, just in the now.
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Why so sad bunny? we need to respect dodies choice to re-edit the video.
21 likestherefore i think it'd be a little bit unfair to name the actor, i hope you understand xx
Meeeeeeeeee
0 likesMeh
0 likesCaitlin Byers “why so sad bunny” is this Billie Eilish on purpose or nah
6 likesI’m literally dying rn I need to know who she was talking about I’m so sorry I’m a horrible person 😭
6 likesyeah its billie lmao
0 likesinfired izzy mddkkdkwkwowlsksls I’ll just walk myself out
5 likesmy pfp is billie as well
0 likesKatie Gagnon lmaooo
0 likesMeee
0 likesKatie Gagnon 😂😂
0 likesy’all I’m just walking around tryin to find the bus and I’m getting all these notifs 😂 and also I’m wearing my Billie shirt so djdkdkkekelld it’s a time rn
4 likesMeu, ela falou mal da mina do stranger things, e apagou, mas ela não falou mal, falou mal, ela disse q tem invejinha dela na real, mas bom, é isso
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0 likesI saw it, thought nothing of it at the time tbh. You aren't missing much since this video is basically the same.
3 likesCaitlin Byers Agree with you there.
0 likesWhy so sad bunny? Me, I surprised I did
0 likesinfired izzy it rhymes with billie hobby clown
8 likesI watched the video but dodie noticed that what she said was wrong, she got hate for what she said and I don’t want her getting more hate so I’m not saying who it was.
2 likesMe
0 likesit's okay dodie, we're not mad💗we're just human (wink wink get it get it ;D)
0 likesI'm also a type 4! I feel that so much!!
0 likesWhat I started doing to break the right-before-bed phone habit was reading before sleeping. That way, you still get entertainment without a screen and constant notifications.
0 likesBut yay I am a 4 too!
Hey dodie,
0 likesRegarding something you said in this video, about judging someone and thinking "Ugh", and then quickly correcting your thinking - "dodie, that's unfair".
I think you should know, that its a psychological fact that when you first see someone you make assumptions based on what you've been taught to think, you correcting that thinking is completely normal and that "correcting" shows how you want to portray yourself, so how you want to act as a human being..
I thought this would be helpful for you to know, because it's actually a very normal thing.
Lots of love,
Mia xoxo
i’ve missed you so much (and 800th comment)
4 likesGosh, I am a 4 as well. And I'm an INFP. That's maybe why I can relate to you so much.
0 likesYOU ARE SO AESTHETICALLY PLEASING I LOVE IT
0 likesIts okay your an amazing person we love u!!!!
2 likesoh boy. i am also a 4. and goddamnit when i researched further what being a 4 meant, and what the usual roadblocks are for 4's i felt so betrayed. I got READ to FILTH lol but it was so true i couldnt really be mad :-/
0 likeswho was the person being mentioned? it's gonna drive me insane
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If you look in the comment enough you will figure it out
0 likesI did
the actress that plays eleven in Stranger things
0 likesi dont understand me. i dont. but hearing you talk about your things is like listening to you telling me what i'm like and things i do. its so weird, i relate to you so much and this may help me understand myself better, thank u dodie and i have missed you so much
0 likesI thought of something. Dodie is right. When someone is, not alright, sick, sad, depressed, etc. You are there for them and want them to feel alright and people may be like "oh look at them, how kind and selfless they are." but it's not exactly that. You have a fear of losing someone you love and seeing someone not okay makes you scared. Knowing this is impossible to say someone is completely selfless because they want someone to be there for their need.
1 likeI think what you said was very easy to understand. I mean we're all human, we have experience that. Misjudging someone because of jealousy is very common and you you did well by recognizing and admiting that it is a wrong thought and that you don't really, reasonable thinking, hate this person or think anyone should. But well it is ok that you choose to leave the name out specially since this is the Internet and everybody can create a war on comments apparently. But I don't think everyone famous should go around constantly apologizing, trying to control the effect of everything they do and explaining themselves. If we cannot understand that artists or famous people are human too and we insist on trying to make them some sort of perfect mold of a person or "role model" it's our problem as audience. We can choose to see it like «hey, that happened to me too» and relate and maybe reflect about that but leave it there and it wouldn't be a problem, and you wouldn't have to explain anything.
0 likesI completely understand this video. I want to not, not like someone for no reason but if I get a bad vibe from them it’s just my instinct?? I feel like the person I show to the world isn’t parallel to the person bottled in my brain but I naturally act that way?? I strive to be more confident in what I believe in and that my opinion matters but, I’m afraid of not being heard, and getting talked over, I’m just not confident. I also deeply struggle with being the same person to everyone. Like, I naturally convert my personality to match the person I’m having a conversation with. I think the reason I do that is because I don’t know who I am yet...? I don’t know... it’s just my brain I guess. I think I need to fix that. Yes. I need to fix that. xxx
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4 likesTaylor Marrie poof !
1 likeshe did a massive oof
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0 likesTaylor Marrie ooooooiooooooooof
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0 likesWhat the fuck is this comment section and why do I enjoy it?
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1 likeIts very true that it takes a lot longer for a broken heart to heal than you might think. For me? It took literal years. I was so ashamed because everyone I knew was fine after months, but nope. I only started feeling fine after about 6 years. And thats okay. Am I embarrassed about it and still carry some shame about it? of course. but I think it is so important to recognize that people are different and different traumas take different people different amounts of time to get over things.
0 likesI relate to a lot of this. Not everything but wow... Well said. I will defiantly have to reflect.
0 likesOnly dodie would take the time to write out a detailed apology without making excuses, good job👌🏻
0 likesThe way dodie says "I don't know" in this video is perfect
0 likesso glad you took down the video, I felt v uncomfortable with what you said, especially because you're a youtuber you probably know what it feels like for people to say stuff like what you said about you, and saying that stuff to a kid was a lil bad,, lov u tho, thank u for apologising <3
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next time I think you should emphasise that it's how you feel that is the problem, it's not the fault of said actor so there is less confusion. e.g "one thing I don't like about myself and want to change is irrational jealousy for people (I relate tho, we all do I think) like how I found myself put off by an actor due to my jealousy
6 likesshes a human and she makes mistakes like everyone else does. she is entitled to her own opinion, but oh well, u do u
13 likesLuna Lovegood Was it Grace who she spoke about?
0 likesWho was she talking about?
0 likesAmy Eleven from stranger things and how she seems so arrogant. Basically said she doesn't like a 13 year old lol
2 likesthats not how she said it but yeah
6 likesLuna Lovegood what did she say?
1 likeHey Dodie! What do you use to edit your videos?
0 likesGreat video Love! Always making me think. I’m a 6w5!
0 likesDodie its really beneficial to your mental health to have a normal sleeping pattern! you have a bunkbed, so just leave your phone on your desk beneath it, and put a boring book next to your bed, and go to bed by 10PM. Trust me, it helps with your mental health.
0 likes"But yeah creative blocks are just the absolute best lol" -words of wisdom from thomas
0 likesHi I’m a big fan luv u
4 likesHi dodie one thing that helps me get off of my phone before bed is an app called Forest and it friend virtual trees for a set amount of time while locking your phone so if you leave it the virtual tree dies, I find this app really useful but sometimes it just can't stop me from scrolling 😂💛
1 likeI truly understand what you are talking about ....i have been and somewhat still dealing with the same issues........ But life moves on..... THANK YOU for being you.. Also you are very beautiful 💜💜💜
0 likesdon't apologise dodie you're only human, everyone makes mistakes that they can learn from. don't bring yourself down because of it, in my eyes you're perfect ❤️
0 likesPeople make mistakes, you wouldn't be human if you didn't I'm really happy that you did what you thought was the right thing and now your mind is at rest<3 here's my original comment:
0 likesDodie! Your back! Love you so much you are sigh an inspiration! I have a friend who is constantly dealing with depression and I am terrified cause I have no idea what to do but you videos give me hope and advice and She has also started watching them so thank you for that xx also, I understand what you mean when you say you think you are selfish I'm currently having that mental battle as well beacuse I feel like no one really sees me or notices if there is something wrong beacuse I don't let it show beacuse I hate having attention beacuse I feel patronised but then when I don't get attention I feel lonley. So am I selfish or just a confused anxtey mess??
Wow that was long.... live you Dodie so glad your back xxx
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Me me Big dissapointment
7 likesMe me big disappointment
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3 likesLol tru
0 likesme me BIG boy
1 likei feel this way alot i think this video is helpful to remind us we are all people. and we all have many sides and some aren't always pretty.
0 likesa friend sent me a song of yours and ask what enneagram number I thought you were so I watched this video and typed as a 4 before you had said it (although we really shouldn't type people) I got so friggin pumped. the enneagram is such a great self growth tool!
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also I am a 2w1
0 likes"Don't say I am a messy person when I don't want to be." I wonder if that isn't the point? The test telling you what you are rather than what you want to be. I think it's on us to try and become the people we want to be :)
0 likesi heard once that the first thought you have about someone is what you have been influenced to think, and then when you go back and disagree with yourself, or affirm your first thought, that is what you truly think. i thought it was really comforting, because sometimes i think yucky things and then look back on myself like WHAT THE HECK IS WRONG WITH YOU and that second, kinder and more merciful thought is actually what i feel, and the first, initial jealous thought is not what i actually am inside. <3
0 likesLove you first comment 💜💜💜
4 likesOwning up to your mistakes and learning from them and making necessary changes. You beautiful human, you 😙
0 likesI think it was cool that she mentioned being jealous of that actor even though it could have been viewed as problematic because a lot of people feel the same way about people who have more attention/achievements. I kind of wish she'd left it in more, maybe just not mentioning names, but describing the actor's position more than she's left in this version.
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S Harrell who was the actor?
0 likesI love you so much dodie. I saw you in London on the 24th, I have a Vlog of it coming very soon :) I also still have my balloon that fell from the ceiling xD
1 likeOne of my favourite flawed humans ❤️
0 likesI know this isn't the point but which actress was she walking about?
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shuko I think it was that girl from Stranger Things, Eleven. She was jealous of a 13-year old kid lol. I don't want to be mean, but that's honestly really pathetic
1 likeSunnyShowers love It's really not all that pathetic. :/
0 likespathetic is the wrong word for sure, we all get jealous of people and that's just a normal emotion of life, but it's different here because dodie is a 22 year old woman getting jealous of a 13 year old kid. if anything it's a bit more immature than pathetic, or something like that. it's good that she fixed it and re-edited the video though.
0 likesSunnyShowers love
2 likesshe was jealous of a thirteen-year-old kid who's incredibly famous and successful, everything she wanted to be when she was younger. if you read the description, it makes sense. it isn't the actress herself, but her achievements- it makes sense imo. i myself found stranger things kind of unbearable in the beginning because i felt kind of worthless compared to these kids that have already achieved so much in their lifetimes, even if i'm around their age, but i do agree that she was in the right for removing that little jab she took at her.
I think it's important to remember that as HUMANS, we are all flawed! And sinful. And we try to pretend we are perfect, we can figure this world out by ourselves... but no one will ever be! 💜 💜
1 like5:20 The same thing happened to me a while back and he told me to look at it like this. You're on a plane and it's crashing. The person next to you has a broken seatbelt but neither do you. Of course you want to help the its common empathy but what does that mean for you. You die and you won't know what ever happened to that person the could've died to for all you know. The only way you can truly take care of someone is if you first take care of yourself. The next think totally shook me. He told me you can't save them all. It all depends on how broken their seatbelt is or if they truly want to fix it. Take care of youreself Dodie.
0 likesDodie is your book available on any Brazilian bookstore?
0 likesI think the test gave me a 2 but I disagreed with the explanation and looked trough them all. I identified most as a 4 so that’s what I go with
0 likesDodie dearest, love, why do make me watch your video again because its reuploaded and because you uploaded it bc i think i have watched all of your videos about 5 time within then first hour of it being up
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Omg, can you message the actress I promise I won't tell anyone. I just want to know
1 likeThe thing you said about being confused about whether fulfilling your own needs by making other people happy is selfish or not got me thinking a little. I think that by nature, we're all self-serving; therefore, "selfish". However I also feel that perhaps it's not a bad thing? It would be unhealthy to go out of our way to deny ourselves things we need for the sake of being selfless, right? And obviously there are bad ways to be selfish (i.e. using someone in a less-than-ethical way to achieve a personal goal), but then maybe that means there are good ways that are beneficial to everyone? Or at least doesn't impact anyone involved. I dunno lol but I guess my point is that we shouldn't feel bad for doing things for ourselves when it's not impacting someone else in a bad way.
0 likesI relate to dodie so much it's kinda scaring but also comforting...
0 likesDodie I highly recommend checking out 16personalities.com, their descriptions are eerily on point! Also, you're my extroverted counterpart (infp here) so my odd sense of kinship with you is less odd now 🙈🎈
0 likesyour fan base is too big to for you to post hate abt somebody else,, another celebrity who is literally a child. i rlly appreciate that you took it down but that's really messed up and she's a person too and she worked really hard to get where she is and she gets enough flack for being a young kid, so yeah, it's not okay, but we all make mistakes and it was a very mature way to handle it.
3 likesHow much is her book? It looks lovely💕
1 like5:21-5:55 OH SHIT
0 likesI found another thing we have in common!!
This is exactly me.
My friend Roxy (who is an absolutely lovely person), has expressed her frustration with this bad habit of mine many, many times. She always says-"*You're too selfless*." And it's 100% true! I'm not just saying that to tickle my ego. I am perfectly aware that I am way, way, WAY too selfless to the point where I hide my negative feelings daily and also won't be truthful even when I feel terribly ill. All because I don't want to ruin the people who matters to me's days with my problems, which I KNOW is such a stupid philosophy but I just won't. give it. up!
I'm too afraid of change to properly address and fix this problem, so I just keep on pretending like I don't. And it gives me such a sick feeling of satisfaction when I hide all that shit from people, because I tell myself "It's okay, you're making them happier this way". I just don't know how to stop myself, and now I've realized I also do this because I need them to be okay for me to be okay. The only difference between me and you, dodie, is that I'm still stuck in the whirlpool of trauma, so I'm still never really okay.
Thank you so much for saying this, I'm a step closer to fixing the problem now!
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Oh and just to add-yes, this does make us selfish. But that's okay! Because all humans are selfish, and helping other humans constantly is not the worst way to do it. As long as you're always consciously trying to fix the problem, it's fine to be like this.
0 likeshonestly i dont believe Dodie did anything wrong, but her actions in response to peoples reactions just prove how much of a good egg she is 10/10
0 likesdodie is such a blessing
0 likes5 views and 300 likes ? Okay
7 likesDodie I relate to you so so much
0 likesDodie, you and I are the same Myers-Briggs type. ENFP-T. And I also hate being messy, but I physically cannot-not-be-messy.
1 likeBeing so self-aware can drive you nuts and you miss the point in simply living. Live in the now and stop worrying about everything. We live a privileged existence to be able to even waste time taking personality tests.
0 likesIt’s ok dodes we all make mistakes 💛💛💛
0 likesonce again, dodie being bullied into not being allowed to express herself on a platform that's for THAT exactly. doesn't mean it's fact, doesn't mean it means that forever, thoughts are ever changing as are people. people are so quick to judge when they all do the same things as well. YOU DON'T HAVE TO LIKE EVERYBODY AND THAT'S OKAY! I feel like with as supportive as your fans say they are, making you feel like you've done something wrong, when you've just expressed an opinion and one that you yourself didn't even favor, it just makes you feel a certain way, is emotional abuse.
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it also means you don't have to agree with everything dodie says people, we are all different and unique and have our own thoughts and opinions, stop faulting for someone for not being your fantasy image of perfection. We love dodie because she is so honestly her, you can't pick and choose traits. let her live her truth and work through her stuff. you have enough of your own stuff to work on folks.
15 likesI don't think anyone bullied her into editing her video. Targetting a child, or using a child as an example of your envy and dislike, is not appropriate, especially on platforms such as this with a big audience like Dodie's. Also, put yourself in the child's shoes, how would you feel?
36 likesNo one is pick or choosing traits. I think everyone agrees that Dodie's honesty and truth to herself is one of the reasons why people love her, and has nothing to do with the above. And I agree you don't have to like everybody, and that is okay. But the above overstepped the line on a public platform, and Dodie recognised this. She understood her mistake, changed it, and now lets move on :)
i personally didn't have any problem with the video, but i do see where others were coming from and i don't think it was said because they want her to be "perfect". i think they were just trying to remind her that she should be careful with what she says as it is a responsibility that comes with having such a large audience - i agree that she deserves to express what she wants to, but it could have been said a little more delicately. there were some people who could've phrased their concern more nicely, but i don't think it was to the point of "emotional abuse". regardless, though i didn't expect her to re-edit the video i think it's commendable that she took the criticism in stride and actually took action.
4 likesJera Sky 100% agree.
0 likesyou are such a mindful, self-aware soul
0 likesI saw the original post and feel very similarly about lots of actors/celebrities. I understood what you were trying to convey and I am so sorry it was taken out of context and used to hurt that person, everybody who knows you (even just online) knows that you were not saying things maliciously, its just part of how brains (especially ones that have poor mental health - speaking from experience) are.
0 likesIM STILL WATCHING IT AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!😂😂😂😂
0 likesi’m a type 4 too and everything you said hit HOME GIRL
0 likesWtf? She literally trashed MBB and then everyone was like “hey that’s wrong? She’s just a kid and just because you wanted to be her when you were that age doesn’t make her an attention seeker.” So she knew she was getting hate and took it down, then made sure to take out the actors name. After the whole mental illness over sharing thing I was already iffy about Dodie but now I’m done with her
15 likesIt's totally okay Dodie! What you said wasn't even BAD, people just MADE IT bad. It's not your fault, at all!
0 likesi'm an ENFP as well! i'm also the same being messy. it's odd because i'm neat with schoolwork and my life in general, but my room is absolutely disgusting. oopsie
0 likesI love you sooo much but I can’t help to point out I saw a Jacksfilms video and I started screaming YESS
0 likesThe way I broke my phone-in-bed habit was really simple! I started a rule where, if my phone is on, it isn't allowed in the bedroom. This leads to me standing on the landing watching YouTube videos there instead, but still, I can't stand there watching all night like I occasionally did lying in bed... The only thing you will need to make this work is a separate alarm clock instead of using your phone. I have one I bought from an airport when I was seven and is still going strong! (I also like that it can only go off once so I can't get trapped in the psychology of the snooze button.)
0 likesI doubt you will even see this, but you are honestly just beautiful. Not just your looks ( however you are super cute) Everything about you just makes to me want to give you a hug.
0 likesI love seeing you grow! You are beautiful!
0 likesI’m a 2! I’m the helper that needs to be needed. It’s so true. I’m not happy unless I’m helping other people to be happy.
0 likesIs it wrong that I squealed a bit when Dodie got a text from Thomas at like 3 pm (British time) so probably like 2/3 am for him?
0 likesFriend goals
“but yeah creative blocks are the absolute best lol”
0 likes~Thomas Sanders
Everyone makes mistakes and you have handled this one well. (If you really want to call it a mistake. Mistake seems like such a harsh word to me, idk. a "slip up" seems like a better word to use.) Calmly addressing that you've done something that you probably shouldn't have, and fixing it.
0 likesI LOVE YOU DODIE. You make me smile, calm me down, and have helped me grow as a person SO. MUCH. THANK YOU.
I watched the original video and I totally knew what you meant. Nothing malicious. No big deal.
0 likesit's okay dodie , we all make mistakes
0 likesits totally fine dodie ily i hope to see u with a vid real soon!!
0 likesAgain, I still relate to all of these...
0 likesAsked for your book at Christmas ♥️
0 likesI never related to someone's words as much as I do right now!!!
0 likesLove this!
0 likesyou’re honestly so great ily <3
0 likesI’ve never heard anyone so similar to me in my life this is scary lol
0 likesWhere are your glasses from, dodie? They are so lovely!
1 likeIt's an interesting point you made at the end - essentially you're asking is there such thing as Altruism
0 likesI'm a 4 too 🙃 Envy is our deadly sin so that makes perfect sense
0 likesSo interesting. I'm the same with the enneagram - number 4- and my myers Briggs is the same except I'm an introvert - INFP
0 likesDodie I’d like to see you direct a documentary.
0 likesThis fanbase is so sweet i love u all
0 likessameeee tho, i just realized that the reason i have so much trouble because i think that everyone around me is dependent on me to fix them or help them all the time and that’s the main source of my anxiety
0 likesawh Dodie we love you so much!!
0 likesYou know what that was difficult thing to hold your hands and say you were wrong & go bk re-edit it. We love not because you are perfect but because you aren’t, you are human, relatable and honest. (Not to forget extremely talented) props to you. You learn every single day I’m 34 and when I was 24 I thought I knew everything there Is to know in the world but how wrong was I ? Now I’m 34 I’m still learning and growing. We love you, if not more now ❤️
0 likesi can relate a lot to these sentiments
0 likesso i was watching your video and my brother (age 4) comes up and says you, dodie, are beautiful and asked me if you are a princess and i said yes. just thought you would love to know
1 likeGirl don't worry about it the internet is where you express your self you can say what you want💛💛
0 likesI'm a DIY musician. I sleep on floors doing what you do for little to no money. I was super offended when you said on twitter that your tour bus felt like a coffin. I showed you a picture of our frosty minivan with a broken window, where I slept for many nights. I'm sorry. I saw a lot of myself in this video. I'm very sorry.
0 likesif you play any dodie video at 0.75 it sounds like she's sleepy and its so nice to listen to tho
0 likesThere’s this app I love called freedom where social media at a certain time (it’s definitely helped me get my sleep schedule together)
1 likethe P in Myers-Briggs typology isn't necessarily being sporadic versus organized. my dad is an entp and he cant stand having the house in a mess. another good friend is an esfp and she also prefers things to be tidy. the P really just means that your perceiving function (either S or N) is turned to the outside world. so, with you being an enfp, it just means that you turn your intuition to the outside world. it is a stereotype that Ps tend to be more spontaneous and absent minded, but its just stereotype.
0 likesWe all make mistakes dodie, but the fact that you admitted and cleared things up is very inspiring by you, and it’s wAY BETTER than many others would’ve. You’re incredible, and an amazing person. So please remember that mistakes don’t define you. They make you stronger and smarter in the long end!
0 likesI experience the same thing with some young celebs. I don't hate the people but it's more the way they live and stuff. I know there's no reason for you to believe me but I'm actually a nice decent human being. Long story short. THIS IS COMPLETELY NORMAL
1 likeDodie are you going to tour through America anytime soon? Because I would love to see you
0 likesdon’t worry, everyone makes mistakes and i’m sure those who ‘witch-hunted’ said actor literally have nothing better to do with their life than attack people whenever is suitable for them. honestly, hating on an actor is bad enough as it is, let alone one who is as young as she is.
0 likesThis is still the best video I've ever seen from you mis Dorothy Miranda Clark
0 likesim so happy about this decision
0 likeshow can you call m an attention seeker though? she is a kind soul who worked hard to get where she is, and you should respect her because she did nothing wrong. (this is NOT hate to dodie, i love dodie, and she did the right thing by editing it)
1 likeI'm glad you're back ♡
0 likesI didn't say anything on the last video but I'm kind of glad you edited and re-uploaded. I only say this because I know that the actress watches a lot of YouTube and I had a strange feeling she watches yours and I think it would've been unfortunate for someone her age to come across a comment like that if she were to say admire you or your channel. The comment wasnt necessarily bad because you put it into perspective but just young girls typically don't care about the perspective I would say and if they hear something negative about themselves that's all they Will probably take away. Anyways I got your whole point so it didn't bother me but I am also glad that you Edited and re-uploaded
1 likeI know that this video is 2 years old but I'm so keen because my birthday is in two weeks and im getting dodies book and the Human vinyl. and im honestly so damn excited because dodie.
1 likeOh my god we’re so alike. I’m a 4 too and I related to everything you said wow
0 likesI'm a 6. This basically means that i'm very loyal to people but every one of my problems is deeply rooted in you guessed it.... anxiety! (anxiety about everything but a lot of it is thinking that you friends don't truly like you yikesss) The first time i took the test i was shocked at how real it was. I find that it's generally pretty accurate but there are usually a few things that don't match up. For example sixes aren't creative but i am pretty creative and I loooove art. The enneagram is super informative but there's always little things that don't match up.
0 likesi cant describe how much I related to everything you said in this video omaigad
0 likesIt's ok dodie, it was only to prove a point! No one is overly hurt by it and we all still love you!
0 likesHey, nobody's perfect. If you ever want to cheer up when you're feeling down just remember those simple words 'nobody's perfect' (maybe listen to hannah montana's song nobody's perfect and get a chuckle out of it). Plus you still are a super amazing beautiful human being just like every single one of you reading this!😊
1 likeA puzzle piece of who Dodie is, is a young woman who touches thousands of people a day with her loving glow. and a person who's hurt makes them smart and strong.
0 likesI’m a type four and I’m always struggling. It’s like I don’t know me and I’m changing all the time in my taste. But I love the creative side of it. Every type has it’s pros and cons i guess
0 likesLet's relate over flaws, people. I have a need to feel needed (enneagram type 2) and it has made me manipulate people into showing affection. I often hate saying hi to people and not hearing a hi back. I overthink it and wonder if they don't care about me. However, I control this flaw and I am okay with it being a part of me. I am a much better person than I was when I was 14. I hope everyone has been evolving into better humans, lately.
0 likesI know what you mean about the bit you re edited- I’m kinda high key jealous of a young artist in the musical fandoms to the point where I despised them and started to despise the musicals she made fan art of, but then I realised they hadn’t done anything wrong! I was just jealous that this kid a few years younger than me was making art a thousand times better than mine and was getting thousands more notes on her work than I was
0 likesI know this is weird but Dodie's voice is mesmerizing. who else thinks she should release an audio book or something.
0 likesRegarding the Myers Briggs, I actually have a similar type to you - INFP, introverted instead of extroverted is the only difference! I love the Myers Briggs though and I just want to defend it a little bit. The P is about being sporadic instead of organised, but it's not about what you strive towards, it's about your natural state. The Myers Briggs tells you less about what you value (like the Enneagram does) and more about what you revert to. I have huge difficulty with being a P because it makes my life super stressful, and obviously I'd prefer to be a J if I could, decisive, organised, doesn't procrastinate as much, but my brain is so far down the P end that it is a huge struggle for me to access those J traits. Everything on the Myers Briggs is a scale, and everyone sits somewhere on that scale, and at the end of the day the healthiest place to be is in the middle. Eg if you're super extroverted, you won't be comfortable alone, if you're super introverted you won't be comfortable around other people, if you make your way to the middle, you can be comfortable in any situation. The other letters all describe different traits but the same principle applies - everyone sits somewhere on the scale and the closer you are to the middle, the healthier you'll be. So the Myers Briggs tells you which way you should be trying to go on the scale. A common misunderstanding is that the Myers Briggs is discrete and just boxes you in to one personality type but it's actually a lot about sliding scales and growth etc. I find it really really helpful in self-growth and self-development, much more helpful than I ever actually found the Enneagram! I found the Enneagram was much more boxy because you get one number, one wing, and that's just what you are. Idk, this is ridiculously long now but don't write off the Myers Briggs, it's actually super cool and helpful and interesting!
0 likesNo reason to feel ashamed nor embarrassed. You continuously make the sacrifice of unveiling your own flaws to show that no human is perfect. Never have your intentions been to hurt anyone, but when you accidentally did, you did everything in your power to make up for it. You're good. You can have a cup of tea now.
2 likesBut Dodie, MBTI is about the cognitive functions, not the separate letters. You may very well be an ENFJ (like Elton John), since the function are: Extraverted Feeling (hello!), Introverted Intuition, Extraverted Sensing and Introverted Thinking. You can be messy and still an ENFJ.
0 likesI FEEL SO UNDERSTOOD. LITERALLY. I love you .
0 likesHello! (Just an advice) Don't judge and critisice yourself while doing, thinking nor feeling. You might think that that is what makes you who you are, but when you do, think and feel, you live. And in those actions, thoughts and feelings is where your essence is hidden. Try to let your essence be, because,that essence is you. Please, just don't critisice and question that much yourself, and let that to the world, because, in that way, you'll start protecting yourself from others, and consecuently, you'll be living. I am not pretending to tell you how to live, it is just an advice given by a healthy empathy. I've been where you are for years too. Muy best wishes to you ♥. Excuse my english, I am from Spain.
0 likeswe get what you mean dodie <3 everyone has hot flashes and doesnt think before they do
0 likesI'm an INTP according to that test and yes, I'm condemned to live in hell.
0 likesThe editing on 3:49 for the VO was nice. I keep forgetting you DON'T need glasses unlike my astigmatic, near sightedness. I saw the first version before you took it down. The jealousy trait (?) makes a little more visual sense and I'm smart enough that it was an example. Perception is the crux, so I get why you took it down. You like talking about enneagrams a lot lately. Hope ya put something out you like about it soonish.
0 likesI LOVE YOU DODIE💛
0 likesive never actually been jealous of someone idk why ive never felt that emotion
0 likes"So I try and be the most me that I can be, but who is that?"
0 likesI know you said this in a jokey tone but honestly fucking same
I'm literally watching this at 3am so I get the staying up late thing.
0 likesA confession from me I’m quite vain, I see people around me and they’re so pretty and beautiful and talented. I know I shouldn’t concentrate on things like that and I’m currently working on myself to better myself so I won’t concentrate on things like that but I just feel ugly then when I think jealous thoughts I feel uglier. Recently to help I think of things I like about people I see, like their hair or their fashion and I spend a little time thinking about things I like about my hair or my fashion. And I have set up a schedule to help me feel more complete everyday so I can move on.
0 likesi did think it was a bit out of character for you to share a negative view like that in such a permanent form that may not represent your feelings down the line. glad you changed it
1 likeI’m a 4 too! And the way you described it S A M E
0 likesI can relate to that point of being jealous of people and hating them. Usually I start hating people because they have something I lack, and then I'm like Hold Up, that person has done nothing wrong. It's just that I want what they have, whether it's material, or something within their personality, or even their way of thinking, I find myself lacking and therefore pin my hate on them.
0 likes(on that last bit about needing everyone you love to be happy in order for you to be happy) I think it's a selfless action with selfish intentions... is how I'd describe it atleast lol
0 likesYou're.. so.. huuuuu-uuuman.
0 likesAnd it's wonderful 'cause we all are. I love being humans together :)
I’ve missed you darling, glad you’re back!
0 likesdodie, what microphone are you using? sound is neat x
0 likesIt’s okay Dodie we’re human
0 likesYou should do an ASMR video where you read a little bit of you're book as a sneak peek.
1 likei dont think it was a mistake u are allowed to not like someone for no reason and i actually agree im so jealous of her confidence at such a young age that i convinced myself she is over confident and bratty, even though she is just who i wish i was
0 likesMistakes are meant to be made because it shows you're trying :) it's g dodie
0 likesit's okay dodie! <3
0 likesThat's also me. It really is hard to think more about yourself than about people you care about.
2 likesThe Jealousy and Attention parts are something I can relate too... as I comment again xD
1 likeYour human and your gonna make mistakes, sadly since your a YouTuber everyone will see those mistakes, but I think she’s a beautiful out spoken person and that makes you so great to watch. I don’t think it’s a big deal to be jealous of someone, it’s a human trait. I know dodie wasn’t trying to hurt anyone’s feelings. The video is called confessions for a reason and people are too hard on her for a little mistake
0 likesyou don't have to be perfect. You don't have to like everyone. And nobody can say that's wrong because opinions have two sides and both are valid. I love you.
0 likesits okay dodie. although using the actor as an example was a little rude, i can see why you said it. everyone makes mistakes!
0 likesIronically I feel the same about you a lot of the time dodie. But I don’t dislike you. I love your content and your music and I support you every way I can but I can’t help but be jealous because we are about the same age doing similar things (although I recently privated all of my videos to appear more professional for future employers) and it just makes me sad that I can’t have your life.
0 likesI’m learning recently that I am not the only human on this earth. Sounds obvious I know, but I forget that everyone else on this planet has thoughts, worries, guilty consciences etc, and I believe that I’m beneath everyone whenever I have those horrible thoughts and I always feel behind and weaker. It’s helping me to stop being jealous of other people or take what they say too much to heart because I remember that people are human and have their own little universes that need tending to. It makes life feel a little more insignificant. It’s nicer.
0 likesI do like how self aware you are
0 likesI just took the MBTI test in school today and I got ENFP. Weird because I had never heard of it before
0 likesI COMPLETELY RELATE TO ALL OF THIS VIDEO (aside from how pretty dodie is ahh)
0 likesAww i missed your voice dodes ❤️
0 likesoh man your rant about wondering if you're selfish is exactly what I was worrying about, including with my therapist, like two weeks ago and STILL.
0 likeshey i kinda said this before but i'll kinda say it again bc it makes me very annoyed that you actually think u did and said something wrong. ok. you have the total right to dislike someone, and it doesn't matter (iT DOESN'T MATTER) if you don't know them! also: it doesn't matter why, it doesn't matter if it's immature unlinking(?), or if it's just anything that doesn't seem racionable. ofc you're human and you can make mistakes but saying what you think is not a mistake, and felling what u feel is not a mistake. pls pls pls think about that, ok? u can't control how people are gonna react to what u do and ofc when you're in the internet you have to be very careful with what u say, i agree, but you should understand that what is inside you isn't wrong just cause someone sees it that way. love you, bubble. stay safe xo
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She did though, but that's completely okay because she realised, addressed it on twitter and such, then fixed the video. You're completely allowed your own opinion, but whether or not, and how, you share it changes when you're an adult and the person in question is a child.
0 likesImagine how Dodie would feel if an adult who's a complete stranger said something similar about Hedy, which then encouraged other adults to say similar, or more negative, things. That is exactly what happened in the comments of the original video.
If Dodie decided that her actions weren't at all questionable and that everyone who was worried about what she did were completely wrong and didn't reflect on it or anything, then that would be a bad thing and affect her character. Every single human does wrong things and makes mistakes, including Dodie, but the point is that she rectified and grew from it.
I hope that makes a bit of sense :) xx
absolutely relate with the jealousy thing :(
0 likesthis is so weird every single confession you made is exactly what i have, i am unfortunately an extremely jealous and envious of others. i try not to be but it’s just so agggghhhhh
0 likeswait wait wait.
1 likebut my favorite singers are dodie and grace 😍
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Lily Yazdi is grace who she was talking about
0 likesCan relate soooo bad 💔
0 likesi prefer Meyers Briggs over the enneagram for some reason. my type INFP seems to fit perfectly, but none of the enneagram results seem accurate.
0 likesI really relate to the last one!!!
0 likesPLEASE MAKE MORE MERCH!
0 likesI wouldn't buy any youtubers books, just yours I think it'd be more pure and interesting than others.
0 likesi bought the book yesterday:))
0 likesI think if you're original instinct is to make people happy (even if it is to make you happy too) you can be described as selfless. If you become happy when others are happy, that in no way makes you selfish. Making sure their well being is okay and that they're happy so that you can be happy is not in any way selfish.
0 likesomg dodie i am an ENFP too as well as a 4 on the ennegram and i would love to chat with u about why i am like this lol
0 likesWe all make mistakes, and at least you acknowledge your mistakes and learn from them.
0 likesI want to read your book so, so much, so much it hurts to think about because some of it’s inappropriate for someone my age (I’m just a kid lol) but I want to read it SOOOO MUCHHHHH
1 likeI would totally love it if someone could upload english sublittles thank you <3
0 likesDODIEEEE has anyone requested you to cover Cecily Smith by Will Connolly? Well, I mean, people have, in large numbers, in YouTube comments. But has anyone actually come to you in YOUR channel's comments and asked you? This is me asking if you'd go give it a listen if you haven't 😙
0 likes<3 you're so thoughtful i love you
0 likesdodie should try doing a video where for a few days, she tries to be healthy in that she sleeps on time & eats rlly well & practices self care mentally and physically, and she can see how much better she feels! (im saying this bc of the point she raised regarding her unhealthy sleeping habits)
0 likesQuick lil note on mbti stuff; the P doesn't simply mean messy, essentially it means having an "organised mind" so you can have outwards freedom aka messiness, while people with a J usually keep tidy surroundings so the can have inwards freedom. Because *the more you know*. Cheers!
0 likesIf anyone knows where dodie got her glasses from in this video please let me know ♥️♥️♥️♥️
0 likessweetie you did nothing wrong i feel the exact same way
0 likesas a four, i feel EXTREMELY called out
0 likesI feel bad you were kind of forced to remove that part. People who commented who were bothered by it are likely guilty of the same kind of jealousy, and as a result of that jealousy, anger. And that jealousy and anger is okay, we're all human. But they took that out on you because they were fans of -actor-.
0 likesNonetheless, I like the idea of going back and looking at what you said, like you did at several points in this. I remember Evan doing a very similar thing. It's good to look back on what we say. It shows us to think about what we say :)
3:06 I can relate 😂
0 likesHELLO! Does anyone know where dodie edits her videos??? I am obsessed with her editing!!
1 likeTyy💕💕
i honestly don't think dodie made a mistake. i know what she said in the last video and the response she got. i think dodie should have been commemorated for being honest because she chooses to be real with us, and honestly, i bet some people feel the same way she does about the person she called grating. just because she has fame doesn't mean that she doesn't have feelings of jealousy. she felt a way, acknowledged her feelings and told everyone that she is trying to rid of it and fix her problem with jealousy.
0 likesI love how you reuploaded this, a lot of fans got the wrong idea about you and her.
0 likesTHIS VIDEO WAS SO EYE OPENING. YOUR BOILED DOWN SENTENCE AH. I just realized so much.
0 likesThis is for the people who are debating whether or not to buy the book:
0 likes(Here's my trying to re-say what I said yesterday because I want people to see it)
I pre-ordered it and the closer I came to the release date, the more exciting I got. When it finally came in the mail, I read half of it in one evening (so my mum kept saying that I should buy more books, so we'd have more calm evenings ;)). I finished it three (?) days ago and I've been trying to wrap my head around what it made me feel ever since.
And I guess it means hope for me. I don't think I've ever related to a book more, and of course I didn't relate to everything, but it made me feel less alone. My bad brain has the awful habit of luring me into the sense that nothing will ever be okay again, even though my rational brain (if that makes sense), knows that's total horseshit.
So I know (for sure, in fact) that I'll pick up this book again when the world starts feeling like that. Because the things that dodie said reminded me (and my bad brain) that even when things seem horrible and the world too big for my heart and my chest is crushing me, things are never truly lost. I'll feel okay again.
So do with my opinion what I want, but I think the book is truly inspiring, hopeful and beautiful (also beautiful to look at, I cannot stop flipping through it, it's so PRETTY). So thank you for writing it dodie!
To say who it is would be dumb but I want to say when I watched the first video I did go in a hole of just looking at pictures of them since they are so WONDERFULLY beautiful and long story short they're my wallpaper now. Just because they're pretty. Next will be you, Dodie.
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who is it
0 likesI love you and your book.....both are beautiful...I missed you
0 likesThe P vs J on Myers Briggs has a lot more to do with planning things versus being more spontaneous
0 likesI'm about as messy as you but I PLAN EVERYTHING and I'm a J
Organized I guess has a little bit to do with it but its usualling about planning or spontaneous I'm pretty sure
I can totally relate
0 likesI'm a 9 on the eneagram! took a class on it! it's so interesting
0 likesConfession: I’m so jealous of Billie Eillish. Not only is she younger than me but is where I want to be with my own music career. She is has a beautiful voice and has great lyrics and it makes me not like her just cuz of my own jealousy. But I still love her music and stuff, it just makes me sad that I can’t be where she is. The first song I herd by her I think she was 14 when she made it and when I was 14 I was just doing covers. I wish I could write like her more than all and I just understand what you mean dodie. I saw the video before it was re-uploaded and I won’t say who you were talking about for your own privacy, but I do feel like you re-uploading the video just gives what the haters want, like your feeding into it I guess. I just feel like you should always be unapologetically you. I am a big fan of you were talking about, but when I watched the video I totally understand where you’re coming from. I feel like if people didn’t understand what you were trying to say then that’s their fault not yours, because I think you explained it in the best way. But that’s just my thoughts.
0 likesHey dodie i wrote a massive fucking comment on the original that i cannot be bothered to write again but we are all mistake making humans and nobody is perfect not even someone as amazing as yourself! Love you lots and hope you are doing okay xx
0 likesIt’s okay, dodie!!
0 likesur book made me so happy :))))
0 likesDodie, that's a total misinterpretation of p vs j in mbti? Like, just, I have a j in my mbti type, I'm an intj. I also have a messy room and am totally okay with it! When talking about judging vs perceiving, it much more depends on how systematic you are. You may like organization, but not like a strict life schedule for everything and anything. Being a perceiver is much more about being a go with the flow type of person. Like. Perceivers are known to like more variation in their life, and don't like to have to strictly do *one thing*. Whereas judgers like to plan ahead, and have a very steady idea of what to do in what they do. It's like... the difference between people who plan vacations by the hour, and those who go somewhere, have a general idea of what they want to do, but really just look around and see what's cool!
0 likesIf you want to stop being on your phone before you sleep for so long then maybe you could try putting your phone on charge that way you can't take it anywhere but charge it on the other side of the room or out of reach from where you usually spend so long on your phone. Maybe that makes sense, maybe it doesn't but yeah just leave it far away from you. I spent a couple years doing that which meant lots more sleep and good sleep. Hopefully it helps 💛✨💛
0 likes1:19 you got a message from the sweetest bean you can find. :'D
0 likesDodie=human ♥️♥️
0 likeslove you dodie <3
0 likesI also have the not being a happy being !messy person and craving the tidy life but I still know I am messy naturally and sporadicnin thought- its not a bad thing, just not what I desire,however noone said i couldn't change it. So I do try changing it. Funny, I understand the attention thing too. This video is hella interesting x
0 likesholy shit this was unbelievably relatable
0 likes2:27 so extremely relatable lmaooo
0 likesYOU KNOW SLEEPING AT LAAT?!?!?! Ahhh I love them
0 likesI got her booook!!! It's SO good! ❤️❤️
0 likeswe missed you. we love you.
0 likesOh my, I heard so much of myself in here. So. You aren't alone.
0 likesI'm a super messy person who wants to pretend to be a neat-freak lol. x_x BUT I've found a solution that works for me! :D I set a timer for 20 minutes every day and go clean something until the timer goes off. It's "only" 20 minutes (an amount of time that's easy to spend every day), and I can get a lot done when it's the only thing to focus on. After a week, my apartment started to look super clean, and I start spending the 20 minutes organizing drawers and stuff instead of putting things away. It works great for me, and maybe it'll work for you! ^_^
0 likesAs for the enneagram test, my results had multiple equivalent numbers when I took it. I have no idea what that means. Hopefully it doesn't mean I have a shape-shifter personality or something.T_T
Really.. it’s scary how similar we are. I still can’t believe it
0 likesIf we're all selfish, that's OK. We just set things up so that it's in people's self-interest to be selfless :)
0 likesi got a 10.4 for both 2 and 9 on the enneagram and a 9.4 for 4 which makes sense bc i relate a lot to what you said about the 4 but i wouldn't relate to all of the 4. also i'm an infp! so we're similar in those ways but different bc ur an enfp (if you don't feel like that's exactly what you are you could take the test again (which is what my best friend made me do because he didn't feel like i was an infp and i should be an enfp but i still got infp)) and a 4 and like,,, a different person lmao.
0 likesDodie is such a good human. Didn’t see anything wrong with the original video because I got the point but I did feel bad about all the negative comments.
0 likesIf you ever read this (and this is to all mistake making humans that feel bad): it’s okay. Maybe you did a bad, maybe you didn’t but all in all you’re trying to be your best honest self and that’s pretty great. You are good. I hope you can recover from the anger thrown at you.
On a cheerful note I just saw my cat stand on a box to look at himself in a mirror. Not relevant just very distracting.
Anyway I hope all is humans stick together and try to practice love and acceptance etc. Good vibes blah blah
Don't censor yourself, your just telling the truth about how you feel.
0 likesIt's okay we make mistakes and things don't always sound the way you want.
0 likesYAY SHE'S ALIVE!!!! <3
0 likesI don't see anything wrong with the original version. You made it completely clear that you don't have anything against her, but that you were just experiencing something that we all do. It was bold to mention her by name, but not wrong. Don't let the more sensitive viewers make you feel guilty about it.
0 likesHowever, I admire your bravery in directly addressing the issue and making a formal, public apology.
Lmao, ENFJ I let my room go to shit and just sit on my bed like, "Yeah it's a mess but I don't care" until my mom makes me clean it. My parents say I'm a 2 on the thing but I've never checked it out.
0 likesI think it's somewhat ironic that this video that mentions having a phone addiction probably gets a lot of views from other addicts (like me) ! Interesting.
0 likesEveryone feels like that. It's ok
0 likesWith staying up on your phone there are loads of apps which can help stop that, I’m not sure about the names but I’m pretty sure there’s an app which is intended for helping people spend less time on their phone and it basically locks your phone for you for a specific time you ask it to. So you could say you want it to lock between 12-1 and then maybe you’d start going to bed earlier? Idk if this was any help or not, sorry I don’t know the name of it 😂xx
0 likesI'm a 2 and a 7 on the chart, actually. I want my wishes to be granted (7) and someone to need and love me. (2)
0 likesI felt the way you did about actor about Heddy (she's good at art, can sing, has a youtube channel and has a lovely sister) and i felt SO bad because she seemed so nice and i disliked her for no reason other than that im jealous. Thank you for letting me know im not alone?
1 likeyou should do a cover for call it what you want :) ( Ts)
0 likesI don’t normally get very jealous, but when it comes to people being hella talented and especially when people my age are huge on YouTube I feel kind of inadequate or sometimes it feels unfair. This leads to me having a slight resentment or like just ever present jealousy. Sometimes this is able to manifest itself as inspiration but that it not usually the case.
0 likesDodie I am an INFP and a type 4 too let's be friends!!!
0 likesWhere did you get your glasses? I love them 😊 and you ❤️
0 likesthis is so relatable omg
0 likessome people white out their mistakes, but its always still there. Other people, like dodie, bravely pull out the giant mistake eraser and scream "FUCK!"
0 likesIt's OK to do that it's what makes us human and although I didn't agree with what u said I still love u the same xx
0 likesI always had the same problems as you do now, I have found the cause and therefore some solutions. I’d love to help you but rather not out in the open in the comments. So i’ll e-mail it if you want. Let me know then i’ll drop my e-mailadress.
0 likesi really hope people aren’t giving you a bunch of shit for this. people make easy mistakes and that’s all you’ve done. you maturely appreciated the opinions of others and attacked the situation appropriately
0 likesngl I didn't pay much mind your original video because my head wasn't in the right place when I watched it and I've completely forgotten what happened to make you re-edit and I was utterly confused when reading the comments but that's just who I am nowadays, I forget things. to be perfectly honest though you're the loveliest person I think I've ever had the pleasure of watching on YouTube so I don't think any passing comment you make about anything that I can't remember for the life of me will change that
0 likesPlease do another ASMR video, i need to sleep
0 likesI read the book and omg. Just. Oh. My. GOD
0 likesMore videos soon please!
0 likesthe first one is so accurate!
0 likesI didn't think you needed to cut out the original part. I understand why you did, but I feel like it makes you human. Everyone feels like that and it's taboo to talk about because it'd destructive but it's true we all do it. I liked that part of the video because I do that and I've never really heard someone say it out loud and it was almost relieving to hear you say "I don't like this person for no other reason besides that I'm jealous." because i feel that a lot too.
0 likesWhen phoebe tried to find a selfless act on Friends... that's what I thought about when watching this. Lol
0 likesDODIE it’s fine we all make mistakes
0 likesPLEASE DO VLOGMAS
1 likeI wonder if Dodie realizes that how she feels about people is how younger people like me (I'm 13) feel about her... she can spill her thoughts and not sound so mumble jumble as I do. She GETS EVERYTHING AS IF SHE CAN EMPATHIZE THE INFINITE IN THE FINITE AMOUNT OF TIME YOU WATCH HER OR READ STUFF LIKE HER INSTAGRAM CAPTIONS. Oh god Dodie you are a double edge sword as in you can kill all of your viewers pain just for a few moments even but you keep stabbing yourself. SO THANK YOU. SO SO SO MUCH FOR KEEP UPLOADING AND HELPING. I promise you-you are selfless in the most selfish way and I am so thankful. ~Wagiha
0 likesI relate so fucking hard to this.
1 likeDO MORE ASMR
0 likesYou dig enneagrams but not MBTI? Sounds like you've found great explanations of enneagrams, but not Myers Briggs - studying shadow theory makes the entire difference in understanding the full spectrum of each type.
0 likesI don’t feel you are meant to like everyone. I think you should give someone a chance and try to like them but if you don’t like them, you don’t. When it comes to your issue about not liking the actor mentioned, I think your explanation is fine. This is coming from someone who thinks the actor is really cool, she’s going to be very successful and I find her charismatic personality contagious. You don’t need my validation but I think you worded how you felt about said actor in the unedited version well you weren’t flat out like she’s terrible I hate her, you explained why you might find her a bit grating. Anyway thanks for making videos!
0 likesHope you come back soon, love. <3
0 likesI'm a 4 on the Enneagram as well!
0 likesi love this video because i have the same confessions except that im a 3 wing 4 on the enneagram
0 likesi love you so so so much dodie
1 likeI'm a 4 (enneagram test) too!
0 likesi think its very normal for human being to be jealous of other beings - its what improves us most of the time and it shows that we admire other people other than ourselves!!
0 likesYay!!!! I missed you so much!!!!
0 likesI took the test and I'm type 4 and it describes me down to a T 😂
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I'm also an INFP
0 likesDon't worry, it's okay tho. Yo, I really want a sad version of would you be so kind, I wish you do a video doing that, that's all, love ya
0 likesDodie you couldn't have handled this better than you did!! Everyone makes mistakes, the difference is the people who don't give a shit and don't even say they're sorry and the people who actually try to fix their mishap. I'm so proud of you for dealing with it and in such a short notice! Keep shining and enjoying music, love💛
0 likesI struggle with this, I always have since I was younger. I have never felt pretty. So, when I was younger, I'd be shopping in Claire's and I'd see a girl who I would think is prettier than me and I would continue to walk past them and sway my hips until they looked at me and then I would feel better. It's sad I know. I still get jealous, I love to be a nice person but my jealousy can bring out a side of me that I hate. For example, Wiishu (Septic's GF (it pains me to say he's her BF) she has everything and I wish she knew that. She gets to be with him and I always wonder why her out of all the girls in the world that are worthy, why just pick her?
0 likeswho else watched the first one and is now watching the re-edited one?😂
0 likesHoly shizzles, she's 169% me.
1 likei know you may not read this but i just wanted to offer some advice (not that you need it) on the phone habit thing. i have the same problem - if my phone is near my bed when i try to sleep, i’ll be on it until the small hours. so what i’ve done is first set an alarm on my phone at whatever time i want to not be on my phone (for me it’s like 10;30) and then i take my phone and put it on charge in the kitchen (just away form my bed), then i go and get ready for bed and do all that stuff and go straight to my bedroom and try and read. i also find reading before bed makes my sleep so so much better than when i’ve been on my phone before bed. don’t get be wrong tho - this isn’t perfect, but i find it helps me so maybe it could help you - it’s just a little way of (hopefully) takin your mind off your phone before bed meaning you’re not on it. again, you probably have already tried something like this but i just thought (maybe) it could help .. :)
0 likesOh god that last one just got way too real O_O
2 likesI don't think you're selfish - but you are self absorbed. I'm the same way, although much less so now that I'm nearly 26 than I was a decade ago.
0 likesDodie is so cute omg
0 likesif you act to make other's happy because your happiness derives from theirs, then that could be considered acting with selfish intent. But since their outcome is the same if you wanted to make them happy for their sake, it could be said that nothing is bad about selfishly making others happy. In simpler words, the reason why you act is less important than the value of the consequences from your action.
0 likesMayers-Briggs is pretty mediocre. Try a Big Five personality traits test :)
0 likes"And then my therapist was like slow headshake (NOPE)." R E L A T A B L E
0 likesstill catching up on these vlogs BUT AHH THE ENNEAGRAM
0 likes"people misunderstood the message and used it as a forum for opinions" that's deflecting so much. I never saw any comments of people sharing their opinions of her but I saw lots of people calling you out for adding to the problem of people hating on celebs. :/ To blame the re-edit on your fans "misunderstanding" is just rude and blaming your own mistake on them. If you're gonna own up to how embarrassed it made you, don't blame it on your fans. :/
1 likeWe’re the same enneagram type ❤️
0 likesI’m a 6 on the Enneagram and an INFJ!
0 likesI have the same problem about staying up on my phone and what I do is watch satisfying videos and asmr cooking videos. There is a YouTuber called Peaceful Cuisine and he makes nice asmr cooking videos
0 likesTry reading before you sleep ☺ That's what I did to break my habit 💕
0 likesUnrelatedly, I really like Sleeping At Last.
0 likesI LITERALLY SCREAMED I SAW UR BOOK IN TARGET AND READ IT IN THE SPAN OF AN HOUR
0 likesAlways force yourself to put things back when you take them out
0 likesmy confession... i was in a relationship and due to distance we broke up. afterward i was told i was a horrible person for moving on after a week and that i sucked the life out of her. i had my guesses the whole time. but she always said i was fine, i didnt do anything wrong, that i was perfect... but now its okay for her and her NEW boy friend(of one day after we broke up) and her cousin to all yell at me? ...am i a bad person?...
0 likesI cannot find your book in any New Zealand stores. It was the one I really wanted, and because I couldn’t find it, I settled with the new John Green book instead. It’s good but I would rather read yours ♥️
0 likesi don’t think it was a mistake! like it was a real feeling ya know... no one likes everyone and people don’t have to like everyone. you even said she was a good person and you said your reason behind it and that it’s not really her it’s more you!! idk i understand completely why you took it down but ya know maybe one day you’ll be able to share an opinion like that and not get back lash!!
0 likesWhere have you gone dodie ? Come back to YouTube for us :)))
0 likesThe only thing I don't like of this video is the tendency to put yourself in categories. It could help to take them as references but they can also be limits if you take them too seriously. Apart from that, I appreciated your honesty.
0 likesI have typed out a big comment and deleted it four times now so I am just going to say I love you, your book is great, and welcome back <3
0 likesI’m also a 4 dodie! Yay twins
0 likesjust laughing at the random text from thomas sanders lol i love him
0 likeswe all make mistakes, it’s okay we’re human.
0 likesENFP's unite! We are awesome.
0 likesshe didn't made any mistakes , she said what she had to say
0 likesWE ALL have a hard time breaking habits Dodie. That doesn't mean they can't be broken. It's just maddeningly hard most of the time.
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And looking at your book, the blue post it note... Perhaps based on what you said in this video it should read "Life won't be beautiful all of the time, but stop an appreciate the time that it is and believe it is okay to let yourself enjoy them." ;)
0 likes4:42 she's even holding her phone in this whole video 😂 addiction is right lol
0 likesDODIE ON YOUTUBE REWIND, I saw you congrats <3
0 likesShit. Dodie you are NOT perfect no one is you must get this a lot but perfect is a word not something that can happen. I am so so young I have grown my anxiety being a type 6 and I need me to be perfect but I need to learn how to be human. You are strong having derealisation you so strong for sticking in this sick world and staying here.
0 likesENFPs are my favorite thooo haha the world is so much happier with them in it
0 likesI relate a lot to dodie...
1 likeoh dodie, you didn't have to. also i lov your braid. pls do my hair like that too.
0 likesDoubt you’ll see this BUT here’s the thingooo I used to hate Meyer Briggs testing because I felt like I got picked up and put into a box like a little kitten, I felt like the test put me into a position that I wasn’t allowed to be anything more than what the text told me I was which frustrated me and almost infuriated me until I decided to see the test as a very basic outline, it’s not all necessarily true but a lot of it can apply to that type and tends to apply to that type, personally I am an INFP in the Meyer Briggs testing, and in my definition I’m known as the “completely illogical emotional person” which isn’t true at all for me, I’m a powerfully emotional, empathetic and passionate person, but I know when I’m being unreasonable and illogical and I make decisions passed just my feelings which the test told me isn’t the typical attitude of an INFP, so like I said, not everything about it is true, especially if it’s from other people’s mouths who haven’t been thoroughly educated, you SHOULD be able to chose your own path, the Meyer Briggs is just there as an extreme base level of a personality, being messy is just a habit and it doesn’t have to stick around, you have every right to further yourself and be your own individual person outside of what the test tells you, I know I’m doing the same 💝
0 likesDodie, its OK. Your only human. And Dodie. I'm human and guess what....
0 likesSAAAAAMMMMMEEEEE
I’m jealous of the stranger things/ it cast. I want to be friends with them but I know they’ll never notice me. It’s weird
0 likesthat's alright <3 Pobody's Nerfect!
0 likesDodieee, I want to buy one of your merchandise shirt (the one with your head on it :) ) but It is sold out, do you know when it's going to be available again?
0 likesoh my god dodie i'm so jealous too
0 likesSomething I really hate about myself is that I’m really jealous which is normal but when I’m jealous of someone I pretend that I don’t like them or would never want to be anything like them which is really annoying cuz it’s basically pretending that my personality is superior ugh
1 likeSplit Screen game is strong!
1 likethank u for the re edit 😊
0 likesYeah i have a lot of jealousy, which causes anger that can sometimes turn into hate at random innocent people just because im jealous and it makes me so :(((( like i get jealous of physical appearance the most but sometimes it's about popularity, the amount of friends they have, etc. It's honestly really unhealthy and i wish it was a smaller part of me than it is but i hope one day i can just be less jealous and overall less angry
0 likesHey dodie, can u make a video about Alice. I’m curious about how she is and your relationship now. You don’t have to if you don’t want to, but it’s a suggestion :)
0 likesHave you ever heard of Alan watts, he was an interesting philosopher who discusses things like people helping others so the would feel less selfish and better about themselves
0 likesI totally forgive what you did, because I did not agree with you stating the name at the time. It was a great example of how many of us feel with jealously at times, but it was a bit upsetting that you used her name in a way that could be misconstrued as hate. I really appreciate that you realized the mistake and took to editing the vid. Love you and I love her, so I'm glad this was squared away. 💛
0 likes2:31–2:43 I really like this shot
0 likestook the test and I got 5w4!
0 likesBut yeah creative blocks are just the absolute best lol
0 likesI didn't know Dodie watched Jacksfilms
0 likesTip for your phone addiction: tell yourself it will be there tomorrow. I know that not as easy to do as it sounds, but it's all I have. Those instagram posts will still be there in the morning, but your good night's rest won't. Sleep when you can, when the air is cool, when the world is dark, when the moon glows over your sliver of the world. If that isn't enough, close your phone and try to write stories in your head. Using your brain will make you more tired, then you can (maybe) sleep. Set an alarm on your phone to tell you to get off. I don't know, maybe just plug in your phone at your desk so you can't access it. Social media will always be there. The night won't.
0 likesI think you are allowed to not like someone and the explanation doesn't have to be that there's something wrong with you shrugs
0 likesI'm also a 4 on the enneagram, but I'm very much the unhealthy version :/
0 likesI'm a 9!! Expert at avoiding conflicts lmaoooo
0 likesDodie. I fucking love you.
0 likesI push away the people I admire because Im jealous of them. If I dont see them, I dont think about them so I dont belittle myself. I have lost a lot of friends because of this and hate myself for it.
0 likesHeck dodie either reminds me of my grandmother or my younger self (and im only 14)
0 likesI don't know how to feel about the enneagram thing because every time I take a test for it I get a different result
0 likeswhen she says that she's had her heart broken three times does that mean that she has been hurt by 3 people or by 1 person 3 times. sorry i just need this for clarification.
0 likesI never thought I was a jealous person until Rachel Zegler got cast in West Side Story and now I feel like a walking blob of green envy and it’s awful :( I’m so proud of herrr but I just... I want it to be me. And I hate that about myself. Just cause she’s got her big break doesn’t mean I can’t have mine. Her being successful doesn’t give me less of a chance of doing well. But she’s getting everything I’ve ever wanted. God I’m such a bitch haha
0 likesHello its a year later and she's been cast in TWO other incredibly huge movies and I'm still jealous as fuck and its a problem lmaoooo
I wish I was relevant enough to upload things like this and actually have people care
2 likesyou and i are the
0 likesexact.
same.
person.
(based on these confessions)
on the last point about if it’s selfishness or selflessness, it could very well be both. there are very few people who are wholeheartedly selfless or selfish.
0 likesYeah, I stopped watching the last video after you mentioned that actor. It bothered me because I thought it was a pretty petty thing for you to do, so I'm glad you've realized it wasn't very nice.
0 likesI can relate to you so much!
0 likesbtw do you like pandas 🐼?
1:19 cute lil text from thomas 💞
0 likesWhere are your glasses from? 😊
0 likesI am an INFP - the difference between InFp and enfp isnthat enmfp are supposed to be externally expressive and INFP are internally expressive I find I struggle to complete creative ideas, they stay internal and so I get envious of those with a enfp type personality.
0 likesHey dodie I just wrote a ukulele mash up of 17-ish of your songs took me like 2 hour s I would send you i but I can't sing so yeah xx
0 likesI’m also a 4 on the enneagram 💁🏼♀️
0 likesOh My Gosh I'm so sorry you had to repost the video ! You just had an opinion , you didn't even say anything hateful , you just said it to show a flaw in yourself , that really sucks Dodie , sorry
0 likesYou should try VEDD. Video every day in December.
0 likeslove,its okay,we all make mistakes
0 likesThe exact moment you were on your phone and I saw John Green as you were scrolling... whoa Lordy doodeeee.... I died there and then. I did not know it was humanly possible to love a stranger this much 🙊👍🏻🎉
0 likesokay but did any of y’all catch thomas sending dodie a message in the middle of this video
0 likesWish you will be well soon and i should say us (?maybe) cuz im facing the same situation too
0 likesSo you're my Stacey now aren't you?
0 likesSleeping At Last has a podcast?!?!?!?! MIND BLOWN 😵😱
0 likesi’m so glad you cut that bit out about *actor A*. this video is so much better for it💛
0 likesmyers briggs has little to no scientific backing so it's okay!! people are too diverse to be completely encompassed and described by four little letters
0 likesI've missed your videos well you have been on tour <3
0 likesGood choice tbh.❤️ love you
0 likesAww I watched it yesterday. But imma watch it again
0 likesI love you and Sleeping at Last! I'm a 2 on the enneagram
0 likesi love ur frames plz send me the link i need new glasses and those r lovely
0 likes1:19 I can NOT be the only one that noticed that Thomas Sanders texted her
0 likesI'M ALSO AN ENFP I hate being disorganised as well and I get happier when I clean up and organise I have a little bedroom blitz every few months but my natural state I think is being disorganised which is really annoying :/ and I also give a lot of myself to other people because I can't be happy when I'm worried about them but I don't think it's selfish to want everyone to be happy I think that's quite nice :)
0 likesOMG I am an ENFP too!
1 likedear god please cover people are strange by the doors
0 likesHopefully soon💛
0 likesWhy is dodie my spirit animal/human???
0 likesI was a but irritated with this but I accept your apology. This edit was put much better.
0 likesDoes Dodie have a twin??
0 likesJust gonna add here the comment I left last time; The last time I took the enneagram test, I got a 6 wing 7! It's been a hot minute so I sould take it again and see if I've changed.
0 likesEdit: I'm still a 6! But now a wing 5. Hmmm
Ugh I love dodie
0 likesdodie, we're both ENFPs and type 4s ~~~~ * high fives *
0 likeswe all mess up and make mistakes and that's just being human oof
0 likesRewatching to up dem views 👍
0 likesIm an infp, I’m so jealous I wish I was an extravert so much
0 likesOn the enneagram I think the last time I took it I got a 2 but when I first heard about it and took it (several months ago) I got a 7
0 likesDodie is back!
0 likesi know this has got nothing to do with the video but i would like some advice and i don't know where to ask.. i have been mildly depressed for the last 10 years, nothing major, i function ok, i'm just not happy, nothing excites me, i have low self-esteem etc. 5 months ago i broke up with my bf of 2 years and now i feel a bit worse and i'm not sure if i should go to a psychiatrist or not.. i cry a few times a week, i feel like i have nothing to look forward to, i'm scared of the future and the thought of having to finish school and find a job (i'm 25 and in about 2 years i'll be done with uni), everyday i think about how nice it would be to die. i went to a psychologist and been on antidepressants in the past but it did nothing for me. idk if i should give it another try
0 likesI didn't see the original but i get what happened by reading the comments. And I think re editing was the right choice but i still am thankful for the concept you were trying to get across. I am jealous of my best friend because I think her art is better than mine and I'm mostly over it now but there was a time I got aggressive towards her over how well she'd done on a mask we'd made for a language festival presentation.. Thing is, I didn't realize how spiteful I was of her until the rude words came out of my mouth. She's my closest friend and I made her uncomfortable for being talented. I hate this part of me, but I think many people have this. It's ugly but we can't help it. Doesn't mean we shouldn't get over that part of ourselves, or make excuses for those feelings, but it is nice to know that I am not just a spiteful person. I am human.
0 likeswe still love you <3 i’m glad you took it out though
0 likesDODIE COME BACK PLEASE
0 likeswell you deal with attention pretty well because creating videos and putting them on an entertainment media site is attention craving. putting a video up as if wed care about your faults means you know we will give you attention for it. check out KOI FRESCO and let him guise you to a better life
0 likesConcerning personality tests - It just show your tendencies at the present time. Apparently statistics say your personality changes completely over a 10 year period. (can't remember where I heard it, but it sounds legit).
0 likesOh and to break your phone habit (I have done this) When you go to bed, switch your phone off, and store it/put it on charge in another part of your room/house.
I missed you so much 💜💜💜 lysm
0 likesBtw you look so cute
THIS IS UNRELATED BUT PLEASE COVER ANOTHER ONE BITES THE DUST
0 likesI love you doddle I've missed you so much
0 likesWatching again even though I saw it the first time it was uploaded
0 likesI missed your videos💛
0 likesi missed you ❤
0 likesDid anyone else notice she got a text from Thomas Sanders saying “but yeah creative blocks are just the absolute best lol” poor little son was havin a creativity block :(
0 likeswe love you :D
0 likesDon't worry, we understand that you didn't mean that comment to sound attacking. It just might have sounded that way to *person in question*. It's great that you came out and fixed it.
0 likesEthical egoism is a theory that nobody can do a kind act without and underlying selfish reason. For instance people giving to charity makes them feel good making the act good but also selfish. Doesn’t make anyone a bad person tho x
0 likesDo you talk about your derealisation and depersonalisation in the book?
0 likesI charge my phone downstairs and shut my door. I feel like it starts with the habit, as my parents always refuse to let me have mine in my room and I just prefer it that way because I have less anxiety about my friends at night now. I started sending luck to all of my friends at night because I was always kept awake by anxiety about how they were and that since my phone is downstairs I can't help them. And then I started sending them luck, as a way to gently place down my encumberment of responsibility and say, "I cannot control what they do, and it's up to fate now." I used to write, "Good luck and goodnight!", but now I write, "Good luck, goodnight and sleep well! Sending love, luck and happiness to you!" with hearts in their favorite color with mine. Both versions had me sending all of my friends a set of ladybugs and four leaf clovers, each equal to their age, "luck for every year of your life". Some of my friends, including one or two I've lost, have glass ladybugs to have as good luck charms in case I forgot. Really, at first I was superstitious. I thought I had to remember or my friends would be in danger.
0 likesBeing "sporadic" has nothing to do with wanting to be it or not. You many not want to be it but you clearly are sporadic. BUT it's something you can work on as you get older.
0 likesIn general and personally i dont understand the problem with the original video. It seemed very real, and i thought the confession you were making was quite clear. Not really that you disliked that person but you disliked that you irrationally dislike such people. Also even though you want to present as a positive figure for people and although the ideal is to be a better person it doesnt mean you dont have the unpleasant sides that everyone tries to cover up. I got you, theres a v ugly side of me which shows when i envy someone and even when i dont. I just in general dislike people vehemently for no reason and would never encourage others to do the same and have put it down to me being unpleasant honestly ha. I very very rarely comment on videos but i wanted to voice this opinion.
0 likesI'm a 4W5! Close to 4, but not quite.
0 likesWe're enneagram sisters.
To quote yourself-'i am just a human, a problematic human.'
0 likesAhh you're wonderful
0 likesEveryone writes here how they are proud of Dodie for admitting a mistake. I don't know. No-one is perfect, but what she said was not a thing to post on a yt channel when you are a big youtuber. And it was not an act of courage to remove it. It looks like she simply realized, that people didn't like it and that's basically why she reedited the video. I was watching the first upload and thinking that it's pretty weird to talk about someone who - in your opinion - seeks attention, in the video that is full of self centered stuff. Dodie, it's just a kid. It's normal that you sometimes think mean things about other people, but if you feel bad about this maybe it's better to work on it with your therapist than put in the video. You know you have lots of fans who love everything you say and I'm even surprised there were so many negative comments. I think you didn't expect that. And that is why I am very disappointed. I just thought you had more class.
0 likesI said it on yesterday’s video and I’ll say it again puhlease tell me where your glasses are from dodie ive been looking for them for so long and it just a seems like there’s maybe no stores with them in the us????? ahhh
0 likesI wanna be the very best, like no one ever was
0 likesI've missed you so much agh agh
0 likesplease cover Jocelyn Flores or oceans by seafret
0 likesCan anyone tell me where I can get her glasses? I need themmmmmm
1 likeit's ok aa we love you aa
0 likesyou are an angel
0 likesme and dodie are the same personality type I am complete
0 likesThis is why I love you
0 likes¿por que sos tan hermosa?
0 likesi’m also an ENFP!!
0 likesLove ya mom
0 likesIs it just me or does Dodie sound like josh from Please Like Me at 5:34 ?
0 likes1:19 Thomas Sanders: [...] But yeah creative blocks are just the absolute best for [...]
0 likesI'm type 9...apparently 😂
0 likesWe love you ❤
0 likesi feel the same way
0 likesi’m a type 4 as well!
0 likesShe protec
0 likesShe attac
But most importantly
Dodie is bacc
Every time she says uncomfortable, i think of Brian Sella
0 likesOf course me and dodie are the same enneagram type
0 likesI just did the enneagram test and it said it can't tell whether I'm a 5 or 6 hmm
1 likedesperately looking for a bookstore in Hong Kong that sells your book ;-;
0 likesThomas Sanders:
1 likeBut yeah creative blocks are the best lol 1:19
I'm a type 6 [type 6w5] on the Enneagram Test
0 likesI AM A 4 AND YOU TOOK THE WORDS RIGHT OUT OF MY MESSED UP BRAIN AND THEY CAME OUT OF YOUR MOUTH. IVE BEEN SAYING THAT TO MYSELF FOREVER AND IT FEELS SO WIERD BUT GOOD TO HEAR IT COME OUT OF SOMEONE ELSES MOUTH. PLEASE MAKE A VIDEO ON IT IT WOULD HELP ME A LOT THANKS LOVE YOU LOADS BYE
0 likesHave you been touched by King Midus because your heart is gold. Like damn you are amazing. Even when you feel like you f up your intentions are so pure and sweet and ugh I just love you.
0 likesi missed you dodes
0 likesI LOVE SLEEPING AT LAST
1 likeI don't think it was a mistake, you didn't hate the girl you were just jealous and it's your opinion, no one can change that or say it's wrong, maybe people just felt annoyed because they like her xx
0 likesholy shit i'm an enfp too oh my goodness
0 likesSkin is looking goooood
0 likesYou’re back!
1 likecan you make an ennagram video? i wanna know more about it! :)
0 likesJust because you want to be organized doesn’t mean you are
0 likesanyone know where to get those tights?
0 likesthat's alright we're all flawed people
0 likesI didn't get around to watching the original. And it worked out. Huh.
0 likesI am half and half a 4 and a 6 on the Enneagram test.. hmm
0 likesI see elle on insta story💗
0 likesI'm literally all of the numbers.
0 likesi’m a number 1 and i literally just last week met chris huertz at an enneagram thing and he came to my house !!
0 likesfuck I’ve never related to anything this much in my life
0 likesMeeting you tomorrow <3
0 likesI'm jealous of Kiernan Shipka and Elle Fanning... basically any actress my age 😢😭 obviously I like them but I can't help feeling jealous
0 likesWhat are your Meyers Briggs letters and your Enneagram number?
0 likesI am INFJ and a 2
hello dodie youtube comment section. this has been suggested a lot, and I hate to do this but I have to contribute to everyone saying this because i really want it: i would really like dodie to collab with dan and phil. phil could tell dodie her future, dodie could do dans makeup or vice versa.
1 likei!!!!!!!!!!! missed!!!! you!!!!!!!!!! so much omg u killed me im ded
0 likesI watched the original video this morning lol
1 likeDODIE ITS BEEN SO LONGGGGGGGG
0 likesI’m a 2 on the enneagram scale with a strong 4 wing
0 likesIL PLAY TO CLEAN YOUR ROOM (hear me out) FOR YOU CUZ OMG YOU HAVE THE CUTEST AND MOST WONDERFUL ROOM AND ALSO ID GET TO MEET YOU. Also I love organizing rooms cuz it’s fun.
0 likesI’m 98% a four but 93% a two
0 likesDodie, I really appreciate the videos where you share your flaws and thoughts. It's really lovely that you are able to do that, and it makes me and a lot of other people feel a lot less alone. Thanks dodie ❤️
0 likesI'm glad you clarified your point..ty😉
0 likesAaaccckkk her makeup was on point!
0 likesIt's insane how much you victimize yourself
0 likesOh my gosh I missed you so much
0 likesDodie :)those stockings are so sexy like where did you get them?
0 likesDODIE IM ALSO A 4 AND I KNEW YOU WERE A 4 AND I GOT SO EXCITED WHEN YOU SAID THAT DODIE CAN WE PLEASE BE FRIENDS
0 likesWHERE DO YOU GET YOUR CLOTHES MY CLOSET NEEDS HELLLPPPPP
0 likesDODIE YOU ARE. THE. BEST
0 likesi love you
Honestly I don’t feel jealousy towards >actor’s name<, just like extreme sadness?? Like I’ll never have this and I hate myself?? Lol classic me, using everything to make myself sadder.
0 likesnot about the video, but can you please sell your merch, the things you post a lot about on snapchat, at you online shop (?)? I live in norway so can't buy it here... :( <3
0 likesyou are how you wanna be you control your life be yourself #a viewer a ocean away from you ~2017
0 likesDoesn't matter if you dont wanna be a messy person if your messy your messy!!!
0 likesWe are only human after all peaches
2 likesDang u too.. i didnt know someone could break ur heart more then once till it happen. Oh well, i dont feel hurt about it anymore:)
0 likesdodie hello i understand you and i love you and i hear you
0 likesRussell Brand's new book "Recovery" is good for breaking habits/addictions.
0 likesAhh! I don't remember what I commented last time. all I know is it was something about being a person who (whom?) never has a clean room and never goes to sleep on time. I hate it but I don't do enough to stop it. I currently have stuff stroud about my floor, and a desk that is so messy I can't find a book that I set on it this morning. Also it is currently 2:30 (am) and I am so tired but I stay up... I have no clue why, but here I am. Ugggh what.a.mess
0 likesI’m a 4 too!
0 likesHey! Welcome back love💛
0 likesokay for real tho i have such a jealousy problem too
0 likesSomeone help me with this prob I have :
0 likesI genuinely cannot with my ‘ best friend ‘ she makes me feel like shit on a daily basis and when I ask her to stop doing something she just keeps doing it. I told her the other day when she was constantly doing something annoying, I know you’re just doing this to piss me off and she replied “ i dont care THAT much about you “ i was having a tough day and she started annoying me as per usual so i cracked it and started crying and she later on told me she thought I was just “ playing the victim “ she makes me hurt so bad
I don't understand. You're allowed to dislike someone or just not want to be around them. It's called preferences, and everyone has them about EVERYTHING, including people....
0 likesMOOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
0 likesWOW U LOOK SO GOOD IN THIS VIDEO HECK
0 likesGood job fixing your mistake :)
0 likesI’m a type 3 on the enneagram website!
0 likesI am really sorry, if that comment I posted about her was part of that "forum" as you called it. That wasn´t my intention at all, it was supposed to be an objetive opinion. I feel really bad now.
0 likesOK SO
0 likesI'm jealous of the whole kid-cast from stranger things because I'm at the same age, sweet 14 or whatsoever, and it's really...weird. Everyone thinks that they're cute and dorky and squishy and blah blah and I kind of shove it inside me and let this jealousy go away.
So the point is whenever I'm jealous of someone of my age who's popular or of a classmate who has better grades, I just say to myself "it's nothing. He/she/they is/are smart. They're talented. They can do whatever the heck they want to do and so can I"
1:20 the text from Thomas Sanders!!
0 likesI'm an enfp toooo ❤
0 likesI think it's stupid people jumped on u so hard for expressing a personal opinion/feeling...ppl are allowed to have feelings . Anyhoo I liked this vid before and I like it now
0 likesyeah when you called her out i was like dodieeeee
2 likeslike i saw the point you were trying to make but also i wouldn't have said her name. glad you made the edit c:
Are you a night owl ?
0 likesI just took the test, ima FO (4)
0 likesMessy ur not messy it actually means ur creative
0 likesNo one:... Thomas Sanders: But yeah creative blocks are just the absolute best lol.
0 likesI love you 💛💛💛
0 likesI get jealous of every soprano. I have a deeper voice and really hate my head voice because it's very weak. especially because a ton of people are very impressed by high notes and then I'm just another boring low singer. also people who can eat whatever they want and still be skinny. jealous of them too. and my siblings.
0 likesPeople, hey, everyone: look at what you did to her
0 likesStop acting like "it's okay, we all make mistakes". You're acting like this was HER mistake. And yes, a portion of it was. But it's mostly the fault of those who didnt understand what she was trying to say and just reacted to an uncommon opinion throwing hate. That's awful and, honeslty, i dont think dodie's fans (?) would act like that.
Thank you for taking out that part...
0 likesI‘m a 4w5 😊
0 likesI am a 2 on the ennegram (which did not surprise me in the slightest)
0 likesYOU KNOW SLEEPING AT LAST???!
0 likesSometimes I get jelouse of 13/14yr actors to and I will wish that I was them and stuff and I did this with the exact same actor though I do love her but man, u helped me stop being depressed about myself and the fact that I'm not famouse thx! ily💕💕💕
0 likesMbti really interests me actually. I'm an infp.
0 likesThis is my therapy (more like ur my therapy)
0 likesI BOUGHT UR BOOK AHHHHHHH
0 likesHey dile. Nothing's been going on in my life at all. Now something is and everything is boring because I lost my GodDamn mind
0 likesI am a 9 on the enneagram 😊
0 likesit was completely not okay to post about disliking a young celebrity. i feel like it would have been much better to just leave out names. it was nice that she reuploaded but i don’t really agree with everyone trying to console her and saying everyone “hating” on her is wrong. what she did was wrong and she learned from her mistakes, but learning from your mistakes doesn’t do much when you are such a large public figure. i really love dodie but that was really problematic. thank you for correcting yourself though!
0 likesWow you seem like you would be a awesome friend.....cause we are alike
0 likeswe're humans and we make mistakes and that's okay luv u babe
0 likes1:50 me hating you without knowing about much about you because i saw a picture of you an Dan Howell and was jealous because one of my friends ships you with him and i fangirl over him all the time + the same friend saying "Daniel Howell is shit compared to her" and i regret it 😭, also it turns out i used to watch your videos but unsubscribed somehow without me knowing
0 likesI hate "hating" people for no reason too
0 likesI hate that you hide parts of yourself, i belive you should speak your mind how, when and in whatever way you want, yes reach out to family/ friends but do you as well.
0 likesEnjoy you for now at this moment, we never truly find ourselves becaues we are forever learing, growing and changing so just be.
I missed you soooooooo much. xxxxx love you xxx
0 likesI'm also type 4 (wing 5)
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Also Iv'e missed you.
0 likes...Obsessions and life lessons
0 likes5:37 thats just me really and i feel really like im lying to everyone becouse they think im selfless while i feel like im selfish
2 likeshahahhaha i could your scooter in the reflection of your glasses and all i could think was "i like to scoot places"
0 likesi bought yellow glasas because the remind me of you <3
0 likesi’m also a type 4 hehehe
1 likegotta love me some dodes
0 likesI can completely relate to the attention part, it sucks
0 likesim a 6 or a 6w5. not really sure about what it means, but yeah
0 likes❤️🧡💛💚💙💜💖🖤
0 likesIdk about you but i hear some enneagram 3 traits in there??? Maybe you're base 4 wing 3? cause I'm a three and i was just listening to SAL's podcast about 3s and it sound kinda similar?
0 likesHannah Montana's everybody makes mistakes plays WE LOVE YOU
0 likesI’d say I’d be a 5 x
0 likesYeah same... I’m selfish... or selfless... oh shit I don’t have a clue
1 likei took the quiz and also got a four. figures.
0 likesI dont really understand what you did wrong. You shouldn't feel like you can't share opinions with your fanbase. I'm sorry you do
0 likesI love you so it’s okay 😁
0 likesI thought it was my YouTube fucking up when I got the notification for this, who else? 🙋
0 likesI have all of these issues.
0 likesI’m a 4 too :))
0 likesI have dodies bOOK AS an early christmas present and im cant stop reading itttttttttt AHHH
0 likes8 is probably "unfettered" not "unfederated"
0 likesWell, phewy. I thought the title looked familiar when it popped up. Ah well. Have a good night!
0 likesDon't worry about ittt,, will support you know matter what *cringes* hehe ;)xxx
0 likesIts not always a bad thing to be selfish, everyone is subconciously whether they believe so or not.
0 likesim so human 🧚♀️
0 likeslove this close in your face
0 likesAt least you corrected yourself
0 likesYou didn't do anything wrong
0 likesTechnically you are still a messy person tho haha. Even if you don’t want to be. Someone could be an alcoholic and not want to be, but they’re still an alcoholic
0 likesI'm a 4 too :)
0 likesImmediate reaction: oh no now I've got to remember what exactly I commented so I can write it again.... :)
0 likesi'm a 4. i kneeeew you'd be a 4 too.
0 likesim “infp” lol we are almost twins
0 likesI do/am ALL of this
0 likes💛💛💛💛💛
0 likes1:17 i wanna know who's on ur wallpaper
0 likesPobody's Nerfect
0 likesayeeeee IM A 4 TOO! 4 POWER !!!!
0 likesTHE LIBRARY DOESN'T HAVE YOUR GOD DAMN BOOK CURSE THEM!!
1 likeDoes anyone else think that the 9 types of people looks a lot like froid's (however you spell it) egomechanism things where he basically outlined how each person deals with things I thought this yesterday but was afraid to bring the 'F 'word up incase I get any women try Ripping my head off because he 'was a sexist dick' maybe he was but the way he revolutionised medicine and psychology is amazing
0 likesType 4 over here yo!
0 likesNgl I'm actually pretty angry at this fandom for literally bullying her into changing the video like wtf
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Bekki Farmer it wasn’t the persons fandom “bullying” dodie lol, it was just people a little bit concerned that she’d publicise that, especially since the person is 13
0 likesBekki Farmer she made a mistake. it was wrong of her to say that, people recognized that, and made sure she did too. she made the right decision to edit it.
0 likesit wasn’t bullying, and the fandom didn’t do it. It was a little slip up, and it’s okay to admit that someone you idolize/admire made a mistake, which is simply what people did.
0 likesI'm jealous of her to dodie, and i'm a 15 year old guy. I'm also a jealous person :/
0 likesCould someone please tell me what she said that sparked all this? I can’t find the original video anywhere.
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it's in the description box thing
0 likes4:31 RIP headphone users lol
0 likeslol i thought it was weird that you talked about her too
0 likesPLS DO A VIDEO ON HOW TO EDIT YOUTUBE VIDS!!!
1 likeOh my heavens!
0 likesahh we have the same myers briggs although i am an I/E
0 likesI had a field trip today and my bus driver ran over a baby tree ._.
0 likesTotally unrelated but ehhh
I was so sad when I though you deleted it forever
0 likesI'm the enneagram number 9 ☺️
0 likesIM A 4 TOO!!!
0 likesAYYY I SPOTTED THAT JACOB COLLIER STORY BUBBLE AT THE TOP OF YOUR INSTA FEED
0 likesheyyy I'm ENFP too!!
0 likesI'm also a 4! hi-4
0 likesDo another asmr
0 likesWhat did she say that people didn't like? Xx
0 likesYou didn't make a mistake. There is nothing to forgive.
0 likesLA LA LAND IS ON NETFLIX. I REPEAT, LA LA LAND IS ON NETFLIX
0 likesI love you 🙃🖤
0 likesWhat's that big thump at 4:30?
0 likes5 and 3
0 likesi’m also a four :))))
0 likesDodie, for the love of God, there is nothing wrong with not liking someone (even if you don't know them) and saying it. You dont have to love everybody all the time. But the internet is just stupid and no one accepts people's opinions and respects them. But honey, you do you. Just cause the world is in love with her now, it doesn't mean you have to as well. Love you.
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Tábata Villaescusa people are concerned that dodie would make that public, only because the actress is 13 and dodie is 22 so it would seem a bit strange to just share that. no hate though, but i’m glad dodie edited it because it made me a bit uncomfortable
0 likeswhen i read the title and hought you were reading a chapter of you book
0 likesENTP Male Enneagram: 7w8 19 April 11 birthday (same as dodie)
1 likeLol nobody can say how they feel these days. All these special little snowflakes getting worked up and feeling that you need to be apologized to when said thing isn't about you. Pls stop.
0 likesI missed youuuuu
0 likesi was wondering what happened aha x lyl dodes <3
1 likeCan't believe you started drama with a baby. She is so young and we don't need to hear about your jealousy, your influential please don't encourage hate towards someone so young especially when your so much older
0 likesyou forgot to put the podcast link in the description! :p
0 likesWhat was it that she said that was not okay though?
0 likesDodie is an enfp and i am an enfp too yay
0 likesI'm a 5w6 / 6w5
0 likesI have the same glasses as you
0 likesI'm just scrolling through the comments
1 likeU r all so lovely 😊
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dreamer imscrollingthroughthecommentstryingtofindthenameoftheactor
3 likesfound it 😁
1 likeThe large nope hahah
0 likesoof dodie it’s okay we all fuck up
0 likesanyone notice she got a text from thomas sanders at 1:20?
0 likesi hate that you felt the need to re edit this. i hate that people made you feel like you had to.
0 likesi spy a hobbycraft bag... i am a hobbycraft employee hehehehe
0 likesam i special since i saw the original
0 likesYOUR BROWS ❤❤❤❤❤😚😚😚😚😚
0 likes1:20 peep the text from thomas lol
0 likesOmg you have a problem being on your phone ! Me too but I just found out that you can turn on night mode for the screen of my phone I think in works for all apple products. Btw I just ask Siri to do it .👍😃
0 likesNow just hope no one saved it.
0 likesWe're just human
0 likesI love you
0 likesHey! it’s a-okay!
0 likesI love you
0 likesMe and Dodie are both type 4 enfppp
0 likesyou're dang lovely ahh
0 likesOMG IM A 4 TOO AND I HAD TO WRITE A WHOLE ESSAY ON IT FOR SCHOOL AND I HAD TO BE PERSONAL AND TALK ABOUT ME AND IT MADE ME INSECURE AND IT SUCKED BUT YAY IM TWINSIES WITH HER CUZ WE BOTH 4
0 likesENNEAGRAM. :)
0 likesI love you
0 likesyou have far too much spare time
0 likesCharge your phone outside your room
0 likesNotice me, dodie!
0 likesI’m apparently type 1
0 likesI'm a 4!
0 likesi think im 2 on the scale thing
0 likesi’m probably a nine
0 likesI think I'm a 2 or a 3
0 likesor 1 or 4 or 5 or 6 or 7 or 8 or 9.
I'M 2 AND WAS LEGITAMATELY CONCERNED IT MADE ME A BAD PERSON
0 likesI love you 💛💛💛💛
0 likesI say YIAY in your YouTube recommend
1 likeI'm a type 9
0 likesSorry, but I still don't get what was wrong with the other video. Can someone please explain that to me?
0 likesAyy type 4 squad
0 likesHer face looks fuller?
1 likeu did nothing wrong, luv, it's YOUR opinion and it's not hate just bc it's not necessarily positive
0 likesyou're an INFP not an ENFP.
0 likesSo who was it she mentioned last time? Grace?
0 likesAny other 9w1s :)
0 likesdodie we are enfp buddies
0 likesWelcome again!!
0 likescutie 😊
0 likes1:20 THOMAS!
0 likesIM ENFP AS WELL
0 likesI’M AN ENFP
0 likesits okay i didnt take it like that at all???
0 likesdid she actually get hate for what she said cause i literally didn’t care at all when she said it.. its really weird how “normal” people can express their pure and undying hatred towards someone such as a famous or well known actress but when youtubers do it they get shut down and called out
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it was mostly because the actress is a child. and Dodie is an adult.
0 likeswho was the actress? i know dodie doesn't want it to be shared but i'd rather know for peace of mind, not like we're gonna horde the person about it
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I don’t want to share the name, but a child actress
0 likesYou are so fuckin pretty
0 likesaw love
0 likesI am a 5w4
0 likes❤️💛💚💙💜
0 likesThomas Sanders text!!
0 likesDODIE AND I ARE TWINS I AM A FOUR TOO
0 likesaaa yay u uploaded i missed u eek also same w most of these :/
0 likesWhat did you change about it?
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Andrea Parsons It's all in the description and at the start of the video
0 likeslmaooo
0 likesI'm an enneagram 1 and lol coping mechanisms are nonexistant
0 likesi cannot stop thinking she is me
0 likesI’m a ENFP - T
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Anna Grace 👌👌 I'm INFP- T
0 likes👏👏👏
0 likesThis is going to sound shit. Like so bad. But I hate that people think I’m pretty. Because the first thing they notice is my face or my body. But for me, I’m personally so proud of things I have achieved or done. But don’t get me wrong, if someone calls me pretty or something it’s lovely and so kind!! But I much prefer it If someone says that they loved the work I did or a speech I gave or a performance I did. Idk :/. Sorry if I sound like a total Regina George.
1 likei'm an enfp tooooooooo
0 likesi am a 9 on the enneagram
0 likesIs that a text from Thomas sanders I see
0 likesINFP gang? Soemone?
0 likesVideos like this just kind of.. reach out to me in a way that I can relate to so much that I feel uncomfortable at times. But it's so nice feeling that welcome amongst strangers. Thank you for videos like this and songs like yours and also your book that really has made me feel more comfortable with myself in such a short space of time :) x
1 likedodie!! i love your book so much your so talented in singing, writing and making me smile
1 likeThis opened my eyes so much! So inspirational, you are amazing! ❤️❤️
0 likesI miss your artsy videos so much dodie! Love you a lot 💕
1 likeHello again Dodie :) We all make mistakes in judgment, it's alright. Glad to see a version of the video you're more content with
0 likesDon’t worry we all understand!
2 likesAlso your videos inspire me to be who I am and do what I want to do!
This makes me feel like you're legitimately my friend and we're having a conversation
0 likesIt’s okay, love. It’s okay. You’ll learn from this, and other people will get stuff from it too! Hope everything goes well ❤️❤️
0 likesI said it last time before the reupload and I’ll say it again I love your content so much and if you feel like garbage at all it’s okay we’re all garbage we’re just getting used to it and trying our best to be less garbage keep up the work
0 likesyou learnt from a mistake and sorted it as much as possible and I think that shows that even though you maybe didn’t think something through, as we all do oh wow, you know how to learn from it and are accepting of those mistakes. If that’s not a sign of a grounded, well rounded, and understanding human being then I don’t know what is. Love you <3 good to see you makin stuff again <3
0 likesI love you and this shows how amazing and real you are
0 likesI love your videos dodie!
2 likesI’m proud of you for admitting what you did and rectifying it. Not a lot of people would have the courage to do that. Also I am extremely disassociated yay
0 likesLove from India! You're amazing x
0 likesI love you , and completley understood what you meant to say , however well done for being true to yourself and doing what ultimately seemed right to you - 💕💕💕💕
1 likeYou're a kind person dodie, dont forget that. you're doing your best
0 likesThese are my confessions
0 likesJust when I thought I said all I can say
My chick on the side said she got one on the way
These are my confessions
Man I'm thrown and I dont know what to do
I guess I gotta give you part two of my confessions
If I'm gonna tell it then I gotta tell it all
Damn near cried when I got that phone call
I'm so thrown and I don't know what to do
i love you for reposting this and admitting it may have been wrong to name names. <333
1 likei feel like this all the time. i feel like my problems and worries aren‘t legit because i keep thinking „oh, it‘s just my brain trying to make me special again“ so i just kind of surpress myself
0 likesHere straight from twitter ❤ Love you dodie
0 likes💛I'm glad you're back I thought something really bad happened after you took the video down💛
1 likeYou are amazing dodie
0 likesLOVE YOU DODIEEEEE💛
0 likesTo anyone reading: you are wonderful and you deserve love. I hope your life is fulfilled with light and good things ✨
0 likesWe are all making mistakes this makes us human💕
0 likesI love dodie❤️
1 likeI have the same kind of jealousy :( I really hate being like this but it does help to know im not the only one xx
1 likesuch a perfect human being
0 likesDon't worry my lovely we all make mistakes ❤️💙
0 likesBeautiful 💕🤗
2 likesYay you're a type 4 to! I'm a 4w3 ♥️ audio everyone makes mistakes, don't worry about it
0 likesLiterally reading your book right now
0 likesheya xx love you dodie 💛
3 likeslove u sm 💗
0 likesEveryone makes mistakes and we should not be ashamed of them
1 likethank you for doing your best to fix it
0 likesphew you re-upload, my sister thought I was going crazy when I said you uploaded and she checked and it wasn't there on other notes everyone makes mistakes I mean that's what makes us human and yes it would probably be better if no names were mentioned but I read the comments and people were also relating to this jealous and felt glad they weren't the only one so in a way it was also a good thing, sorry this is so long x
0 likesAwhhh, I love you v much, little flower <3
1 likeLuv u so much u r my inspiration xxxxx
1 likeHi Dodie!!
0 likesIt was ages ago
1 likeTrump already (probably) has made someone angry
Nobody remembrs the old one
I’m early yay💗💖 btw I love you dodie
0 likesIS THIS DEJAVU?
1 like💛💛💛
0 likesILY Dodie
0 likesyes thank you that was very kind to her :)
0 likesAH I LOVE YOU SO MUCH
0 likesbless you <3
2 likesYes! Another upload!
0 likesHi lil peach 💖
0 likesHUNNY I LOVE YOU
0 likesguess who is back lol
2 likesLove you!
0 likesThanks for sharing 😘
2 likesHola
1 likeYaaaaayyy u back
2 likesConfess to me Dodie 😍
1 likeluvvvv u and god bless
0 likesI am a mistake making human and proud.
0 likesI appreciate you v much
0 likesYES ANOTHER VIDEO
1 likehello dodie!
0 likesi am also a four and i RELATE
0 likeswooo I love you and this
1 likeHi dodie I luvs u so much please see this comment I haven't even seen the video but I kno it'll be boss xxxxx Phoebe 💖
0 likesbless xx
0 likesOh heck 4 views I’ve never been this early! I love youuuu💜
3 likes:)
1 likewhy again am I a future teller cookie
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oh nvm
0 likeswait was there beef
0 likesIGNORE EVERYTHING IM TOO IMPATIENT
0 likeswasn't this uploaded yesterday? xx
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OH I WaTched It I gET It NoW lOl oOps SorrY! x
0 likesWhich yellow is dodie yellow tho
0 likesJesus guys watch the first 10 seconds or read the title before commenting about that being an upload
0 likesI am the same way. but I have improved. and I am 44. so you can do the but it take time but it will work for you.
0 likes1:20
0 likesthomaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaass
Please do NOT be a prick and comment who she was talking about!!! Was Dodie's way of speaking about her jealousy a bit wrong? A little, yes. But she fixed her mistake and addressed it, which is already 90% better than other celebrities who just sweep their mistakes under the rug. Dodie is a human like you and me, she makes mistakes. The best thing you can do is apologize and address them, and move on. This has been a PSA! (ps go pet a cat, they're very soft and good)
0 likesWoooo I’m early heh 😂
1 likeLuckily Dodie, the Myers-Briggs, Enneagram, and most every other personality test have been thoroughly disproven by psychology. Ignore pop psychology and stick with being Dodie rather than worrying about being an ENPJFI7WTFBBQ. A Dodie is one of the best personality types.
0 likesYay kind of early 😘
1 likelove you
0 likeslove you
0 likes❤️
2 likeswhat happened
0 likes:/
0 likesIs that another tattoo on ur left wrist?
0 likesThose tights are uuuuuuuuh...interesting
0 likesdon't get me wrong i love dodie but that sort of thing should not be acceptable? I'm glad she took down the original because it's just?? Not Okay to say you find a thirteen year old girl annoying simply because she's, what, successful? No matter how much you try to downplay it dodie you're super successful, you don't need to have envy for a child. jealousy is for the most part pointless but "confessing" to being jealous of a little girl is even more not okay :( again, I still love you but just try to like learn from this and learn to love yourself and not hate on others
0 likesEyyy I'm a four too
0 likesim an 8 on the enneagram
0 likeswho liked before watching woo
3 likesI don’t understand, what happened in the original video?
0 likesReplies (1)
she talks about it in the description box :)
0 likes1:23 Yesterday I asked you
0 likesWhat did she say yesterday? I get it if no one wants to tell me. Seems like people are moving past it. I’m just curious
0 likessup fam
0 likesid let you hack my roblox ;)
0 likesi love you
0 likesAt 1:20 Thomas sanders texted her
0 likesstarts watching video at 2:37am sees 1:15 - 1:31 um
0 likesWas this not uploaded yesterday??
0 likesI'm confused. Anyone clever can enlighten me?
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Cloxxki read the desc
0 likesI love u so much
0 likesLove u so much
0 likesFIVE VIEWS AND 400 LIKES! LOGIC!!!
2 likesily!!
0 likesily
3 likes❤
0 likesWait? Dodie, what did you even do in the last video that was controversial? Haha
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lifegoeson12308 read the description. And please don’t spread, and I’m only gonna say her initials but the actor was MBB
1 likeWelcome back
0 likesi love you !
0 likesAw bae
1 likeThoams sanders texted you
0 likesLuv u
0 likesmy baby
1 likeur cute.
1 likelove u
0 likesay im a 4 too
0 likesWell hellooooo
0 likesjust saying, that if you saw the original video (like me) don't comment the original thing had said! she cut that bit out for a reason. please respect her choices <3
0 likesI’m a enfp
0 likes💛
0 likesDon’t even think about commenting who it was before.
0 likes❤❤❤
0 likesOMG I SAW JOHN GREEN ARE YOU A NERDFIGHTER
0 likesWait, what was wrong with the last vid????
0 likesHi 💛
0 likesHmmmmm, deja vu
0 likesTwo and three.
0 likesdeja vu anyone?
0 likesdodie ENFP 4
0 likesre-uplodie clarke
0 likesmissed u yay
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literally read this as "miss ur gay" and i was like yupityyupyup she sure is
2 likesHAHAHA well equally as valid
1 likecece x omg same 😂
1 like6:55 mins OF TRUUUUUUUUUUTHS BOOOOO
0 likes[PSA: my opinion only] I feel like every human person is selfish in their own way, and it's not necessarily a bad thing. It makes sense to wonder if the action you make benefits you, because who else is gonna look after yourself better than you? (If that makes any sense)
0 likes5 views and 65 comments. What’s wrong with YouTube!
1 likeinfp e9 :v
0 likesYay early
0 likes<3
0 likesWhat did she say?
0 likesOmg I was just the 666th like... I’m so sorry 😐
0 likeshello i love you
2 likesWhat did she say??
0 likesxoxo
0 likesI understand that being insecure is hard, but being jealous of a 13 year-old child??? I don't like to be mean, but that's honestly really pathetic
2 likesReplies (2)
I've gotten jealous of younger people because they were recognized for something I would like to, or they're more talented, or became successful. It's not always hateful to be jealous of someone, at least not all the time. It can be bit daunting to have a younger person show more success and talent than you.
0 likesSays the person spreading hate to some random stranger
0 likesWhat happened in the last vid?
0 likesI'm a 6w5 in enneagram
0 likesDeja vu
2 likesI’m number 1w6
0 likesI’m number 2
0 likesennea 9 lyfe
0 likes❤️❤️
0 likes❤️❤️
0 likes❤️❤️
0 likesNo one cares lol but im a 2 on the enneagram
0 likes❤❤
0 likesAahhhhhhhhhhh
1 likeDeja vu
0 likesdeja vu
0 likes317 likes and 200 views lolok
0 likesDoooddddiiiieee hhheeeyyy
0 likesReupload?
1 likeRe upload???????
1 likeUnlisted :(
0 likesEarly
0 likesFirst omg
1 likeI’m number 1
0 likesi saw that thomas text what u guys doin huh makin another vid together huh huh hUh
1 likedodie: only posts a video when she has something to promote lmao
1 like15th
0 likesFirst
1 likeFirst
0 likesyou should've just redone the whole video, just re-editing it seems like it was only for the backlash and not because of what you said being extremely rude and disrespectful.
0 likesI believe you're trying to show too much that you're a special snow flake. You need to stop, it's not healthy for anyone involved.
1 likeReplies (1)
Chloé Rohr wow
0 likeshow do i dislike something more than once
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why
1 likeConnie Larke dodie.. is just .. the worst. in every way. shes so obsessed with herself its frightening.
0 likesJo
0 likesObsessed with herself? How so?
Jo don't watch her content then. why waste your time watching someone you dislike? no one is forcing you to watch her content .
0 likes