I LOVE that you've pointed out the difference between being emotional, and sharing mental illness...being emotional and FEELING so deep is such a beautiful thing that you should always hang on to and it makes me so happy to know that you plan to whilst keeping the darker stuff inside <3 I really really hope your next therapist is better. And I think you're such a smart self-aware STRONG person. Love you so much Doooooodleooooodle <3 <3
Melanie Murphy very much agree with this. Dodie keeps moving forward. some would have stopped everything, Dodie keeps going. creating, going to LA. honestly, that makes me so happy. she's so strong.
to be completely honest yes oversharing about mental health is in fact an unhealthy thing to do online especially to the point where you rely on it, but the fact that you respond to this intelligently and openly with your viewers in a way that has positive intentions as well as an attitude aiming toward growth is really good to see in you dodie i love u
I guess being a 42 y/o man, i'm not in your target audience. I survive with anxiety and depression. You are lucky to have friends and be able to afford therapists. I personally think that everyone should always be 100% honest and true to themselves, so i don't believe you can overshare, but i have been told it's not realistic or good, so you are probably right. I hate the importance society puts on appearances. I've been told so often that i'm depressing, well guess what, being depressed IS depressing.
Dodie, thank you for your apology, not for me but for those who were triggered by some of your deepest posts. However, do not let your guilt eat you up and consume you, do not get trapped in a whirlwind of feeling like you've screwed up massively, as we all know your intentions were good and we all want the best for you.
Obviously I can only speak for myself and my opinions and I'd love to hear other sides to this story, however, although some 'fault' rests on your shoulders for uploading potentially triggering content, it is up to a viewer wether they decide to view the content, if you provide adequate trigger warnings, then if someone watches and becomes triggered or upset, they were aware that would happen, so cannot blame you entirely for producing it.
Finally, dear god I love you, you are so raw and open with your audience and I trust you, and I love you, I do not idolise you, I understand you are human and have your faults, but that's what I love about you, you never deceive or lie, I will be honest your music is not my draw to you, but instead the connection, belonging and humanity I can feel emanating from my screen, so thank you dodie for giving us this, and please don't close off, take a step back, think before you post on Snapchat, maybe film it and save it to memories to decide wether to upload it later (even if you do end up with that annoying white box around the edge if it's from camera grrr), for your own sake, and please remember trigger warnings.
IDEA, can we as a collective have like an in joke kinda code thing for trigger warning so instead of dodie having to be like 'OK GUYS TW' she could be like 'ok guys I'm about to share a secret for the mad so be prepared' or something like that ok
I love you dodie, thank you for making me feel whole again
Immy Hill Norris best comment. The trigger warning thing is a great idea. But you are so so right about the fact that it is not entirely Dodie's fault if someone gets triggered. I mean a small warning might be a saviour for someone going through a hard time, but equally, we all know Dodie and the kind of content she posts. As you said, it's extremely raw which is what we all love. If anyone complains that her expressing particularly negative feelings is "unexpected" or "without warning", that's just not fair. If it's on snapchat, we can see within seconds how she is feeling and the sort of thing she is about to say. It is then the viewer's choice whether or not to watch the story. It's even easier to skip past an Instagram post. Yes, I understand that many fans don't want to have to keep missing out on her content because they are afraid of being triggered, but that's just who Dodie is and I don't feel like she should have to completely change the way she reacts to situations purely because of this. At times perhaps she may have gone slightly too much into detail, but the negative response on the video was really upsetting. Again, what a good comment. I wish more of her fans thought in this way.
I feel like it is good that you've apologised to people who needed it in this, but I genuinely don't think you should be embarrassed. It was a mistake, and when you did it you had good intentions.
I think, instead of posting immediately from your dark places, taking some time to sit on the writings and recordings you've made and working out what your healthier self thinks is appropriate and comfortable to share may make for a better system.
I really hope you're doing ok after posting these <3
yes, it's a misake to talk about how you feel when you are feeling depressed. How dare she, doesn't she know you have to pretend to be happy and that your life is perfect 24/7??? work out what your ''healthier'' self thinks... well guess what some people with mental illness feel that bad ALL THE TIME, there is no 'healthier self'' if she was your friend and told you how she felt would you tell her not to tell you how she feels again because it's too triggering for you?
Mermaid Sea her audience aren't her friends. Her audience consists of young impressionable teens. Pouring her heart out in front of thousands of gullible teens is not only damaging to them, but also to herself. It became an addiction, and she started wallowing in it. That's a problem. And not only is it damaging, but it is also extremely selfish. If she kept on glorifying mental illness, these teens would think it's "cool" to be sick, and you know how obsessed kids are with being "cool". Kids become immersed in that sort of stuff. I bet you she's made quite a few teens fall into depression.
The symptoms thing you were talking about reminded me of a poem from Blythe Baird. "I don't know how to talk about the rabbit hole without accidentally inviting you down in it"
You're forgiven you're forgiven you're forgiven we all want you to be well and manage well and heal and you are forgiven I'm guilty of it too but I don't have thousands to millions of followers across multiple social media platforms So I guess it's hard because in doing what you want to do (share music, create a community) you automatically have this responsibility which is difficult So we appreciate you so much and we understand that's tough <3
Dodie, dodie, dodie. You are an amazing person. I'm so goddamn proud of you. Words cannot describe how proud I am of you. You are so so strong, and you will get through this. I'm proud of you and you are a beautiful, amazing, wonderful music artist and just amazing human being.
I think it's a good idea to share about your mental health issues and such, just not at the lowest point possible, because like you said, your thoughts are skewed. I do think however, you should share because it definitely does help people like myself to know I'm not alone in my experiences, and that I can still be happy and healthy and kind and productive just like you are. Don't stop sharing, just help yourself get better in low times, and share in good times.
The fact that you weren't reactive and defensive in this video speaks volumes about your character and your integrity. It takes a lot of maturity and strength to admit when you're wrong, especially to so many people. Your heart is in the right place.
Dodie in a way you've helped some people realise how you feel and how it feels to have these symptoms, don't be embarrassed by what you've done at first you may regret it but it's fine YOU'RE ONLY HUMAN AFTER ALL (I had to) just maybe spread awareness in a different way. We love you we are here supporting you keep going and things will be ok, you feel like you're at rock bottom and that I won't get better but THE ONLY WAY IS UP, BABY (I'm just full of song references) things can only get better from a worse situation.
"We need to remove the stigma of mental illness" "I don't like the way she's speaking about her experience, it's romanticising mental illness" My mental health is ok and i don't really know Dodie's story, but gee this is tough. I guess it comes down to what end is being served by the sharing, and if it pursues healing - but even then who are we to judge or censor, we can simply choose to not watch. Her choice to share comes from a place of truth.
hey Dodie, i think you said some really wise and especially true words in this video and i feel like you' ve just learned one more thing about yourself and learning about yourself is a big part of life. I totally understand why you' re making this video saying sorry that you may have posted things some (younger) people shouldn't have and dont want to read. But also you need to remember that we can only learn out of our own experiences and because you've shared your thoughts of when you were quite down, you kinda had to finish this and also share what you leraned out of that. So what I want to say is that it was the right and a very good decicion to say/share the things you said in that video because it showed that you care about your audience like a friend and I think being told you made a right decision always feels good. hopefully its kinda understandable what i tried to say, i wasnt sure about how to express my thoughts (also i'm not english; ) ) +doddlevloggle
You being so genuine is one of my favorite parts of this channel and why I subscribe to you! I just want to say that don't think you should heavily curate your content so that people can easily digest it. Please please please don't put up a fake front for your audience, like I see so many YouTubers doing. I think it's okay toย not be a "perfect Dodie" with all the answers. I like your videos and never shy away from them because it's the real you and you know how to speak your mind and be candid. I wish more people were like you and told the entire story instead of keeping things private and hiding the bad, only showing the good. Metal Heath can be a hard topic for you and an audience to digest because it is a hard thing to deal with. But, you don't need to be some perfect person that has all the answers figured out and knows how to solve these mental health problems when you are dealing with it yourself that is not the point of youtube. Youtube is just a portrayal of you, your experiences and your thoughts. You can use this as a platform to help people and create more awareness through your mental health experiences but it's not your job to save the world or make people feel good. In all honesty, I enjoy the sad videos almost more than the happy ones because they make me feel something and you as a depersonalized person I'm sure you understand that. If your emotion is too hard for people then forget them "a bit madness is key" your audience is impressionable but just because they see you being sad doesn't mean they need to be sad too, tell them why, give them resources and YES don't glorify the sadness. Your pain can only be a lesson if you teach the lesson not just show the effects. Posting in a healthy way is a good idea, thinking things through is a good idea... maybe waiting to post a tweet until the next morning and seeing if it's still a good idea. Is it helping you? More importantly, Is it helping anyone else? Like I said it's not your job to help people but you have the opportunity to so use it! Not everything with mental illness is a trigger if it is framed in the right context. I just really think it would be a shame if this channel became a less genuine place because I think that is one of your true strengths. Love watching your videos. Thanks for teaching me new things and sharing so much of yourself I wish this was something that more people had a safe space to do. <3
God looking back at this, I relate to this so damn much. I use to not know the line between sharing a good healthy amount and just spilling everything out about myself at the first encounter I had with someone
I have only recently discovered your music and your vlogs, and I have felt like we had a sort of solidarity. The darkness of your videos in the lowest of you lows isn't pretty, but neither is mine. You obviously know that sharing is still so important to push back against the stigma of mental illness and you are figuring out when it's best to sit on your content for a while. I have very very little that I have shared online about some of my darkest times, but my biggest reason for that is I'm afraid for my family to see it. My mom once asked me, "Why would you rather share with strangers than me? Why would you trust them more?" That was when I could take a step back and see where the red flags were. I think the word from this video that is most important and sums up the moral of your message is "boundaries." Please continue to share with us as you are comfortable and deem appropriate. If you feel like you start sharing too graphic of mental state details maybe start with a little "graphic content" warning of sorts.
Much love to you, Dodie. You are an incredible human being touching so many people's lives in amazing ways. You have helped me not to feel alone in a lot of situations already.
THIS is what personal growth and being a responsible adult looks like. Being an adult doesn't mean never making mistakes, it means owning up to the ones you've made and making a change. I am SO PROUD OF YOU DODDIE! This had to have been a very difficult video to make, but you handled it very well. I'm so glad that you decided to take the comments on your last video to heart, I think this will be a very positive change. Well done, love! โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
StarryRingo THIS COMMENT SAYS IT ALL!!! Also I've never seen anybody say sorry and mean it so much. We are all so bloody proud of you Queen ๐๐๐๐
i know this video is two years old, but this is such a responsible thing for you to do. i personally was never triggered by your mental health posts, i get triggered by different things, but i think it was smart of you to post this video because so many people will benefit from less triggering content. that sounds awful, but i really do admire and love you, dodie. and this was the right thing to do. it's not that it's bad to share your story, i definitely think talking about mental health can take away from the stigma and is an extremely valid and important thing to do. but there's a fine line between talking about your experiences while level-headed and tweeting about wishing you were dead (not quoting any of your tweets, that's a generalization). this video helped me to realize that i was leaning on a certain friend for support too much, and i am going to try and pull back from that so that i can stand on my own two feet for once. thank you so so much dodie, and please don't be afraid to talk about your experiences when you're feeling healthy and safe to do so. we love you dearly and it's important that you know that.
please don't be sorry dodie, if it helps you, then do what you need to do, i've personally found it helpful hearing you talk openly about your mental health, its refreshing, share how much or little that you feel comfortable with
Dodie real talk tho I'm so proud of you this is not an easy thing to do or admit, that takes a lot of humility and maturity and idk just I'm very impressed and pleased that was so good I love you dodie
When I'm in my darkest place I turn to my notes. I love how sincere and mature you're being about all of this. I personally didn't have a problem with what you were posting, but I can see why others would, especially your younger members. The way you've handled all of this says so much about you, and I hope to be half as good as a person as you are one day Dodie. Thank you for being such an inspiration, even in your lowest points. I hope the new therapist helps you recover, and that you know that though it seems like it, you will not have to deal with this forever. I, myself, dealt with depersonalisation and derealisation for a very long time, but that part of my life is now finally over. I know one day it will be for you too. But it can be aggravating until then to live with it. I wish you all the best, and thanks again for just being you. ๐๐ป๐๐
please know that people here love you and i'm very thankful for everything you've done, you've helped me so much and i know for a fact that i'm not the only one. people have different sentitivities for things, but the fact that you're owning up to it so well says so much good about you, please don't blame yourself or beat yourself up over this anymore. you deserve to be happy and i'm saying this with all my honesty. we love you
Infinite Izzy same, and now I feel so out of place ???? like, I understand why it's wrong and a political subject but what about the peeps who were helped?? :/
Infinite Izzy yes but I think over all it's just reminding you of those feelings and at least for me, it wasn't helping me to get better. I know that it's great feeling like you aren't alone when someone else shares their thoughts and feelings, but in the long run that kind of sharing just makes it harder for Dodie and all her followers to get better. I hope you don't feel alone and get better soonโค
I honestly love them.. and I watch her video where she talks about her feelings all the time because they give me comfort and make me feel a lot stonger.
Calen Ruiz Omg same all these peeps like "so glad you apologised" and now I'm like "wait so there won't be any more snaps where she talks about her illness in a raw state?๐ญ๐ญ"
I know, when I was in really dark places they were super helpful, as well as dodie's music and videos. I don't think she needed to apologize. People didn't have to read them or watch them if they were upsetting to them, that was their choice.
I totally get what you are talking about, and Dodie's videos have personally helped me through crappy times, but I also think that talking about it without a filter can also create a problem with people, especially younger viewers, being negatively influenced and almost copying her. And it's not healthy for Dodie herself. She doesn't get the help she needs by just talking online when she feels crap.
Amanda, if they were making you feel bad. Don't watch them. Dodie shouldn't have to act like a robot and not share her struggles because you might get upset. That's on you.
She might be a creator & have an audience. But she's still human and has the right to act as such like everyone else. It's not up to Dodie to protect her younger viewers. That's their parent/carers job. You can't expect a person to take on that kind of responsibilty just because they post online & have an audience, thats ludicrous.
You wouldn't expect your loved ones to hide their struggles from you just so you don't get sad. That would be selfish. That doesn't change just because Dodie has a presence on the internet. Everyone needs to vent and get things off their chest sometimes, and for some people, the internet is the easiest place to do that.
Roezu I know, I was avoiding those videos and posts, so it wasn't really a huge deal for me, I just mean for younger viewers who might not know what will "trigger" them. And I know from experience that that kind of sharing isn't always healthy for the person doing the sharing. Like Dodie was saying that it might not be the best solution for her. Obviously if it helps her, then I say yeah whatever keep doing it, but I was just concerned for her.
Same, they genuinely did help me, i didn't feel worse for reading them but a little relived and less alone, lots of people say they get depersonalised and you can tell they don't actually understand the depth of what you're suffering and theyre talking about how it is when you're tired and out of it etc, even my counsellor said he didn't really understand what i was trying to explain to him and he was going to have to talk to some of his colleagues and specialists because it's hard to understand when you don't suffer with it. It actually made it so much better knowing someone actually did understand what i was going through as well as me feeling empathetic.
You should always see a therapist if you're struggling, but seeing a therapist doesn't stop you from wanting to vent & having an audience (young or otherwise) does not make her repsonsible for other peoples lives. If young people are seeing videos like this it is by fault of their carers, not of the creator. It is not a creators job to protect young viewers.
I'm so glad I found someone else who was thinking this! Like obviously I'm glad Dodie is doing what is best for her and the seeming majority that found them triggering, but I do feel kind of left out and almost alone again because she's decided to stop, like they helped me so much-i learnt and I think became more empathetic and felt less alone because of them.
WritingSchiozo101 No one wants Dodie to repress her feelings. It's very important for her to voice how she's feeling, but she also needs to make sure that she's doing it in the right way. When talking about the negative side of mental health, we must make sure we are doing it safely so as not to romanticise, normalise or trigger other people. I thought they explained it very well in Dodie's last video with Hazel, when they were talking about how the snapchats would appear out of nowhere and in such detail. This can be unhealthy and upsetting and even though it would be good for her to remember that, we don't want her to stop talking about her feelings all together.
Roezu that was gross to read. How selfish of you to think like that. Not only would it be immensely damaging for herself and her young viewers to keep posting when she's in her raw state, but it would also be incredibly selfish. Sure, it's not her job to care for her audience, OR take responsibility for their actions, but how would you feel if you know that you're part of the reason why some kid started cutting him/herself. Her viewers are impressionable young teens, and if she doesn't take some responsibility, it would be just cruel. Not everyone's parents are good parents, so they turn to people like dodie or other you tubers, for support and to relate. Those teens are SO gullible and vulnerable, and it is extremely easy for them to fall into that rabbit hole of depression. At least dodie has realized how selfish of her it was, and she has even said that it was damaging for her as well.
yeah, true. but i think the point is more to not talk about it immediately as you are going through a low moment. its almost like posting yourself self harming. what would be helpful is talking about it after you stop, that breaks down stigma and helps people, makes themselves feel not alone but isnt harmful. idk thats just how i see it
You're amazing and I love watching you grow as a person online because even when you mess up you're so nice about it and you acknowledge it. I love you and thank you for all the things you've done- bad and good. :)
this video is perfect. don't post when you're at your worst, but afterwards it's nice to hear from you. it inspires me when you get through something and you are able to talk comfortably about it after the experience. i love you so much dodie thank you for helping me with things through your art and your words. p.s. don't stress yourself during veda! it's ok if u skip a few days ๐๐๐๐
I honestly hope you keep posting that kind of content, it helped me understand what I was going through, that i wasnยดt the only one, it made feel like i was not alone. I understand why people say you should stop, but i have always considered you one of the most honest persons on youtube, And I'm scared because i think that sensation of honesty came from the way you talked about your mental health in such a direct and raw way. I hope it doesn't go away .
I feel like even though this period of time has felt like a mistake and has felt like you've been doing something bad by oversharing, it has been a great learning experience for you, Dodie. By going through this dark time publicly and learning how to deal with your emotions publicly, you are still teaching people with depression and anxiety how to deal with it. Everything that you've said about yourself and your oversharing and journaling in this video is applicable to anyone. I wish you all the best and healing. <3 No one is mad at you. But I'm glad that you're finding different ways to get through tough times. Reaching out and talking to others (face to face) is always one of the best things to do!
We love you dodie. You're strong and I know you've got this. And we're here for you every step of the way and understand and you're only human and that you make mistakes. Keep on keeping on xx
We love you, dodie, I can only imagine how difficult it is for you to feel this way about EVERYTHING but just know that you are loved and you have helped so many. Thank you, dodie, you are a wonderful human Xx
I can just say I feel your pain and I am so proud of you! I feel like this will help you too, I honestly do. You handled this so well, thank you for helping everyone and continuing to strive to help everyone Dodie ๐ Don't forget the good you've done.
I'm very proud of you and I'm glad you've been able to take a step back and look at your actions on the internet objectively. You've taken responsibility for your mistakes, and for that I thank you. THIS is a good message, allowing younger kids to understand that people make mistakes and not everything should be online. Thank you Dodie, feel better!!!
So you've learned something, and you've grown from it. Well done! You should be so so so proud of this video and this personal development of yours. Lots of love <3
I love you Dodie and really hate that you've been going through all of this. I really hope seeing a therapist helps :) It really helped me when I was going through the worst of my worst. Sending love always <3
This is a very mature way of dealing with something like this and I think me and fellow viewers appreciate this. I just want to let you know that you are so brave and inspiring. And I hope your new therapist is one you like. Wish you the best of luck on your mental journey
I've been away recently so this is my first time watching this video, (hope you're having fun at SITC) but there are things I've only told one of my friends and as it's the holidays we've been away. I'm afraid to talk about how I feel but speaking to her really helps, I've been struggling with what I think is social anxiety (as people cause me so much stress and I get so nervous, my heart is beating so fast writing this ahh) but I can't talk to people but so much you've shared online has helped me talk about how I feel. I've also been struggling with feeling spacey and I never know how to describe it but with your help I've managed to say something, but I'm not sure what's happening. You're songs are amazing and have massively inspired my own song writing (nothing's good yet) but there's still a lot to talk about with mental health and young people (being a young person myself). Towards the end of this comment my hands are shaking and it's a very hot day, I hope this comment doesn't get lost on the way to you lol :) the struggle is real (sorry if there's any mistakes - just a tad dyslexic:)) but everything you have done is incredible and I love it
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Thank you Dodie For your oversharing but I think you have made the right desition
Dodie if you EVER need to take a step back we will be right here with you. If you need a break, we will be right here with you. I am so excited for Veda, I will be right here with you. We will always be right here with you.
thank you, thank you for being such a huge inspiration to me. Thank you for being so brave, both for sharing your experiences and for admitting that you make mistakes because that really takes a lot of courage. Also, don't beat yourself up too much over this and know that I love you so so much, always.
i really appreciate this!! it's hard to find the boundary between sharing your feelings and normalizing/romanticizing them, and i'm glad you're addressing it!! i hope you begin to feel happier very soon <3
we love you, and we understand that even though you're in a position of "power", you're still human and learning how to deal with emotions, and appreciate you're trying to help yourself by doing these kinds of things ๐
Honestly, I never comment on any videos at all, but I feel compelled to here. I hope you recognise the importance and significance of this decision you've made. I'm a 21y/o male, so I guess not your typical demographic, but I'm happy to say I love your music & your videos - but I must say, as someone not fully part of the Youtube "fanbase" and able to just see from more of an outsider perspective, I find it so fascinating observing you and your interaction with your audience. Please believe me when I say it is not my intention to be patronising at all here, but obviously a lot of your audience are relatively young and therefore impressionable, and many without a doubt view you as a role model in their life. And as such, I've often thought if I'm honest that perhaps you do overshare too much. To clear that statement up a bit; I have thought you shared personal things which you struggle with that perhaps are just too much (and too "real"?) for the young viewer to take. It is an extremely sensitive transitional phase in a young persons lives, and I often couldn't help but think that exposing them to the level of detail you go into with your mental health might not be having the informative effect you hoped, but rather a genuinely scary and eye-opening effect for many that made them question their own brain too much. Obviously it's good to be aware of your own mental health, but at the same time when you're young you might for instance want to associate yourself with something simply to feel part of it and "included", even if that thing is something unpleasant like the problems you personally face. (Honestly I'm sorry if any of this sounds patronising, it's just very hard to convey into words without it coming across a bit like that). All of this is to say - this video really pleased me. It pleased me because it showed me that, despite all the awful mental health problems you're going through, you managed to take a step back and recognise a potential problem in what you'd been sharing. I think that shows remarkable courage, maturity, and bravery, which are all incapsulated in this video, and is even potentially a big step forward in your battle overcoming your mental health, as you've managed to take an objective stance on the situation. Seriously, well done for that, that is not easy. I'll probably go back to never commenting again now, so I'll leave you with this - I hope you know that you're a remarkable young woman, an inspiring role model for young people (something which I think will only strengthen after this video), and with all my heart I wish you the best in your fight against the ugliness you're facing with your brain - you deserve it, and you will get there. Keep being you!
Musical World as a 16 year old girl who had had depression and anxiety issues, Dodie made me feel like I wasn't alone. I never felt once she was making her illness seem 'special' on late night when I couldn't sleep, or wanting to kill myself, or felt like hurting myself, it was dodie and her music. Dear Happy (I'm pretty sure that's what the song is called) spoke to me and honestly if that's what came out of her being open, honest, and raw about her feelings then goddamnit let her share as much as she wants. Yes I do look up to her and it's not because she seems to he making put depression better than it seems to be. It's because it's raw. It's raw emotion. Its everything that I felt inside but in someone else's words. And I understood. There are multiple occasions where I would just listen to a song of Dodie's and cry or watch her videos until I fell asleep because do you know how easing it was to understand my pain? To understand I wasn't alone? There was a time I couldn't afford a therapist and I turned to music. And now here I am again, turning to music, and I look to dodie to see that I won't get the same feeling of understanding ever again because people like you decided that she had to apologize for her own feelings. She couldn't JUST address it and explain, she had to make an apology video. And yes it was hard and yes I respect that so much but that's how Dodie has always been. Open and honest. I don't understand why everyone waited till she pointed out her own flaws to acknowledge this. She is Dodie fucking Clark and I really think she deserves more than people pointing out everything she's done wrong. Now she's addressed it and apologized and she didn't have to do either. So now what? Where are people like me to go?
As one with anxiety and depression its amazing how relatable this is for me. Dodie, we all love you and wish you the best for your mental health etc.๐this is a heartfelt apology in which we all forgive you for
I love you Dodie, this was a really nicely worded video. I'm so happy to see you growing and realizing your mistakes. It can definitely be painful to have your flaws pointed out to you, but I think you've handled it really well by apologizing (and as a side note since I've seen other people discussing it, I do think it was good and necessary for you to apologize even though you had no bad intentions) and making the decision to improve yourself and find better ways to cope. I commented this on your last video but there definitely is a good way to talk about mental illness and I'm really happy that you're going to find a way to approach that. Proud of you <3
Dodes I love you so much. This was so beautifully said and I'm infinitely proud of you. It takes so much strength to reevaluate past actions/words. Please don't succumb to shame or embarrassment because it just hurts to feel that way. We're all learning. You're learning, every one of us is learning, and it's a beautiful thing that we can all learn and grow together.
The sad truth is there's no rulebook for how to deal with a mental illness, and with the advent of involved online careers like YouTube still being very much in there infancy this is a path everyone is walking blind. Plus this is a fact of life: we try to cope in the best way possible, we often fail, we screw up, we learn. I've done things in the depths of depression that I know I'll never forgive myself for. What's important (and also paradoxically the hardest goddamn thing) is to listen to people around us and alter our behaviour when we realise we've crossed a line into "unhealthy". I'm so proud of you for finally having the strength to make that move, Dodie. This couldn't have been easy, and I hope it brings you to a better, more stable place down the road. We love you too <3
Hi Dodie, I've never commented on your content before. I have a point of view on this issue of 'over sharing'. I think the message from your friend was a bit harsh. If you're anything like me you're concerned about your effect on other people more than on yourself, and that is what is coming across to me. If you're getting support and an outlet by sharing the darkest things, and it's good for you, then there's nothing wrong with it. Other people have a choice whether they want to view your content or not and I personally relate to, and appreciate your unfiltered videos.
So much love and support for you this was the best thing you could have possibly done and I'm so proud and happy for you- can't wait to see what veda brings!! All the hugs
Dodie, your videos made me realize that I was in an abusive relationship. Your songs have helped me find a gentle outlet for my emotions. And your online personality has always helped me feel less alone. Thank you so much. โค
I'm so proud of you for making this video Dodie! I really am! This is so responsible and modest of you (I hope modest fits here, English is not my first language ah). Loads of love to you <3
idk how to put all my thoughts into words but i respect you so much for this video. thank you & try not to blame yourself too much. mental illness is a bitch & can convince you to do irrational things. i applaud you for being able to recognize it & apologize. love you dodie ๐
This is really great growth. I'm glad you'll still be working through your feelings, and working through them in a positive way, while still promoting the destigmatization of talking about mental health. While it sounds like most of your audience is younger than you, I'm a bit older, and I'm really really glad I didn't post as much on social media, or have any type of audience on social media when I was even a little bit younger. I've probably posted some dumb things, but I'm more apt to overshare now than even a couple years ago, and I've grown a lottttt over these past few years. I definitely have a lot of respect for younger people with huge audiences like yours, trying to balance your own growth with being a role model. Thank you for being honest about what you're learning about yourself, your process, and your art.
I've loved you for a long, long time, and this is by far one of the best things you've put out there. It's so incredibly mature of you to be able to recognise that some of the things you write are more appropriate for your diary and private collection than to be publicly shared. I've missed seeing just Dodie because she's amazing in every single way. I much prefer to watch the Dodie who just happens to have a mental illness rather than mental illness Dodie because they're two entirely different people. I'm so glad that you're not letting your mental state become who you are. I used to do that and it wasn't healthy. Always keep you and your mental illness separate and remind yourself that you aren't your illness. You are you and you are beautiful and we love you. This is a great decision for you to make and hopefully it'll only get better from here. Love you xx
I am so proud of you Dodie. You are absolutely amazing and I really didn't think that I could admire a person as much as I admire you. I love you so much and I'm sending all of my love to you โก
Dodie, without you talking about depersonalisation I wouldn't have realised I had it. I wouldn't have gone and gotten help and if you didn't talk about it I'd just continue feeling the way I felt so thank you so so much x
Depersonalization isn't something that's talked about as often as anxiety and depression, for example. I agree, it's so great Dodie brought it to light.
she romantisises mental illness and she knows it, the cute crying girl on the floor awkward and quirky eating ice cream = depression??? she makes it look glamourous at the same time acting like she wants to be real. Its gross and im glad my friend and i unsubbed.
TheLastOne ToAsk If you unsubscribed then kindly stay out of the comments. Everyone deserves kindness, including Dodie, whether you like her understanding of mental illness or not.
TheLastOne ToAsk what does that even mean? How is recording on a good day romanticizing mental illness? Your point is irrelevant and unsupported. Where does the romanticism come in exactly? Whenever the mental health issue is addressed she expresses her feelings in great depth and it's never a happy video. It's never 'wow my mental illness is so much fun lol' it's always touchy and emotional so yeah, if she wants to make happy videos sometimes when she's not at her lowest then let her. It's great that she has high days to record at all. That doesn't mean her mental illness is a just a lie to gain viewers or that she's romanticizing it. Also, if u unsubscribed then why are u here exactly? To spread more negativity or gain attention? Because you got both so good job.
Shaina G that's like saying that dodie's mental illnesses are all that she is. that's not true. people with depression are not defined by it. they can have good days. good days where they can eat ice cream and feel happy. and yet they can still have bad days were they start in bed and stare at the ceiling. they are not defined by their depression.
+TheLastOne ToAsk and you're here why?seriously if you unsubbed i dont get why you would waste your time commenting on her video. even if she was romantisizing mental illnesses, she realized her mistake and is trying to better herself. no need to be rude
Dodie, I am so incredibly proud of you. I've been following you for quite a while now and being able to kind of grow with you has been a blessing. You probably won't read this but I just had to tell you that I love you dearly and you are my inspiration ๐
I'm honestly so proud of you for making this video. Its really mature of you to admite your mistakes and try to change them. I love you so much, things will get better, i promise
Sometimes it's really hard to own up and apologize. Your willingness to confront this and admit that what you're doing is wrong is inspiring. You're brave and I'm so happy that you realized you need a change. I hope your new therapist is one you like!
Thank you for doing this Dodie, I personally started to find your content a bit triggering but im glad you addressed this, you're one of my favourite youtubers and it was sad to have to take a step back. Its really great that you've stepped up and done this, its very admirable what you've done, well done!
I love you dodie and im very proud of you for making this. Though i didnt see any of the posts i know what its like to overshare about my mental health on the internet/ read stuff that caused me to go into that mind state as well.
Am I the only one who has a massive crush on dodie and you can never like dodie to much. She's so amazing and wonderful and sweet and everyone should like her.
To be honest, the posts never bothered me but I can understand why a lot of people had to stop reading them. It's absolutely okay that you did this "mistake" everyone makes them and you're allowed to make them too. I think you reacted amazingly on this topic and it shows that you've grown so much and I'm really proud of you! I don't know how much time you spend on your phone but I figured that for me it helps when I put it away for a while. Maybe try to go on holiday without it like Hannah did? (I know you're super busy atm but maybe you'll have a week off and (mental) health is the number 1 priority so I think your audience would understand it). Im not diagnosed with depersonalisation and I'm not sure if I really have it but I go through phases where I'm so stuck in my head that I don't really see what's happening around me. But right now I'm not spaced out (fingers crossed) and i really hope that you'll get there too ๐
dodie, you're wonderful and i love u <3 its important to note that in this day in age, social media has become an outlet for so many people, to share so much about their lives with others and some of it can be very inspiring but also turn bad really fast. to have the technology that we have where we can record our feelings and rant on snapchat in .01 seconds is a convenience in the moment, but you're learning from your mistakes and realizing that social media doesn't mean sharing your personal life. Though its great to be able to know you as a person and to see you in your vulnerable state and for you to advocate and spread awareness for mental illness, its also best for the sake of your mental health to know what lines to cross, which is what you stated and are now aware of, which is great!! i think you handled the situation in a lovely manner and you apologized and were very sincere about it. Stay strong my dear!!
well done dodie you seem to have turned a corner, and found a way to balance things better <3 sharing your experiences has always made me feel less alone so thank you for that! glad to see you'll be doing it in a healthier way from now on xxxxxxxxx
depersonalization is TERRIFYING i don't think i will ever and I mean ever get used yo(having it . i thought I was going insane but seeing you talk about it made me feel better. people will always criticize. if you feel better sharing your feelings online I say go for it. noatter what one does someone will always feel hurt or amazing because of it its up to you to ultimately decide what you want to do with your decision
I'm proud of you for doing this, it shows a lot about your character that you've honestly realized you were wrong and have apologised. Thank you for this.
I'm proud of you for admitting to your mistakes and being able to grow from them. You are a wonderful person Dodie and myself and your other fans know your intentions and acknowledge the positive things that have resulted from what you've shared as well โค๏ธ
dodie is such an amazing person. she made an honest mistake, realised it, and apologised wholeheartedly. this honestly might be the first time i've ever seen someone completely own up to something, no excuses, just pure morality. we all love you so much and are 100% supportive of you, no matter wha. <3
YoHarryYou'reAWizard That's one thing that I have found I respect SO much about dodie. She doesn't apologize because it's the "right thing to do", she apologizes because she's sorry, truly sorry, and pretty much always gives a "this is what I've learned:". Anytime I have ever been upset or disturbed about something she has posted or done, I've always felt personally addressed in her apology, and because of that, there is always forgiveness for people who want it.
am i the only one who thinks she's apologising when she hasn't made a mistake? it's her platform, she should do as she pleases with it especially when what she was doing helped so many people ://
Dodie, this must have been a difficult video to make. I am happy to see you growing and evolving as a human. I know some of your content was quite emotionally graphic but it was not all harmful. I agree that finding a different way to release the emotions and then share them in a healthy way is a great way to go, but the discussion of mental health is good. We are losing the stigma of mental health being something to be embarrassed about and I am so glad. I am 18 and I am just beginning to take control of my mental health and mend myself. So thank you so very much for being an advocate and creating discussion as well as providing outlets for people. Even silly videos about how to make tea are oddly calming and bring me peace. I am glad you are figuring out how to appropriately use social media as well. Thank you. I adore you and what you are doing.
You're being too hard on yourselfโค I'm glad you're learning how to work through things in a healthy way for everyone and i Love that you care about your audience! Make sure to take care of yourself too, you are learning and you are getting better. So proud of you Dodie๐
It takes so much strength to look inwards like this and to realise that you've made a mistake and that there's room for improvement, and I am just so so proud of you. As someone who has a whole lotta mental illness I can empathise with you so very much, and I hope that you can see the incredible light and strength that you have and share. <3
This makes me so upset bc dodies videos really do help me, it makes me feel like I'm not the only one going through this and she puts into words what my mind is like and helps me realise what I'm feeling, every video I watch makes understand so watching this is so hard. I love you dodie, so much and thank you for everything you've done for me
I'm really so impressed by this video! I just watched the one with hazel, read some comments en then went to this one and I'm feeling happy for you, for the way you dealt with all the different kinds of comment and for how you are able to reflect on your own actions. I think you need to be a really strong person to handle all those opinions and to openly react to them. Thank you for being open about all kinds of stuff, and I wish you good luck with finding new (better?? ) ways to share things in a way which works for you and might help the audience. Lotsssss of Love, I think you are so so brave!
i've always felt like whenever i was going through something, a couple weeks later you would make a video or snapchat about something really similar. it helped me realize that what i'm feeling and going through isn't a me thing. it happens to others too. i've never seen what you've been posting as oversharing, just you being open with your audience, but i love that you care for us so much. ๐
Glad you could reach this place, Dodie! Obviously you have our support and it's always been so clear that you were sharing as both an outlet for yourself and to open up conversation about mental illness. While a lot that you've said online was way too far I want to say that this last little journey here, from that snapchat story to the video with Hazel and to this video here, has really cleared some things up for me too. I was finding way too much catharsis in you sharing your darkest thoughts and in sharing my own dark thoughts and watching you discuss this with Hazel and reach this conclusion helped me reach my own conclusion that some things are meant to be private and shared only with friends and trained professionals. Hope your mental illness won't let this embarrassment, shame, or guilt prevent you from sharing what you feel in your art and also with us. We're all just learning how to balance, and I believe you'll get there. Thanks for everything, Dodie, and the apology is so gratefully accepted. Harsh to say, but this video was needed, and I hope you can feel better after. <3
Dodie, I'm so proud of you for making this decision to keep some mental health stuff more private. It must've been hard dealing with the guilt of oversharing while also not feeling great, but it's admirable that you were able to recognize that the things you were doing weren't healthy for yourself or your audience. You're a human so you're not perfect but we love you no matter what. Remember that you don't have to completely shut yourself out on Instagram/Snapchat/YouTube, you can still update us on how you're feeling, but maybe with a warning if people don't want to hear it and you don't have to be as detailed. Stay strong ๐
I just wanted to give you a hug when I saw this video. One of the first videos I watched from you was when you were depressed and eating edamame beans. I never saw anyone talk about their depression openly before. It helped me so much to feel that I'm not alone. It inspired me to make a video during May's Mental Health Awareness Month. I've been struggling with what to talk about next because I've dipped back down again in terms of my emotional state, and this video has helped me determine that I should be careful with what I share and when I share. Thanks for being strong and vulnerable. Many of us appreciate it. :)
The fact that you can notice these things is so lovely. Things like these make your art so much more meaningful to me. Don't be too hard on yourself, you're doing such a good job, love. sprinkles love and support everywhere
This is a very great step forward and I am happy for you that you have made this decision. It is absolutely okay to make mistakes and you are just a human being who needs reassurance and I think that should not be forgotten. I'm glad you're taking this step and setting up boundaries โค๏ธโค๏ธ
so proud of you! honestly, it was very hard for me to follow you lately, i love your music so so much and nothing could change that, but it was very hard to read what you've been writing on your social media (not going to expand on that, i think you read anough comments about that already) i hope i don't sound patronizing while saying this, i'm not in your position, and though we are the same age, i certainly don't have the same responsibility you have with what i post online, because i simply don't have your larg following. but i really think it is brave to admit when you were wrong, and to have the courage to listen to criticism and not just classify it in your head as people not understanding you (which i quite often do) . I'm proud of you, i'm sure your loved ones are proud of you even more, and i'm glad to hear that this has not discouraged you from talking with your audience about real life topics, but just made you realise that there is a healthier way to do that.
Dodie, I love ho mature your being about this! I think its so hard now days to not put everything up online, but filming something and then giving it a day or 2 before you upload allows for the massive safety net!
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I love the fact that you're learning and growing on how to deal with this issue and I feel very privileged to have witnessed your personal development. Love you :)
(Also hun your skin isn't nearly as bad as you said it was on snapchat don't worry:)
I love you dodie. You're so strong and brave to post this. I have so much respect for you. I promise it will all be okay, and that we are all always here if you need help and support. Stay strong xoxo I just want you to be happy! We know youre not trying to glorify it :) I'm so glad you came to this conclusion!!!
Thank you for this honest video, and honestly so much admiration and respect to you, it's hard sometimes to take that step back and decide what the healthiest thing to do is, for everyone involved. This was a great video.
So proud of you for your last two videos, a very hard and mature thing to do. You had good intentions, probably did overshare tbh, realised this, and then had the balls to apologise. Not many people would do that. And you have brought so much discussion and awareness to mental health and depersonalisation, I hope this positive path continues into the future
thank you for your integrity and having the courage to listen/re-evaluate/figure out how to move forward responsibly and healthily. looking forward to whatever comes next โค๏ธ
Oh dodie. You are so raw and this makes my heart so so warm.
You are completely forgiven! You are so so loved. We all make mistakes, we're only human. I am incredibly proud of you for making this and apologizing to so many people. Despite what your brain makes you ~feel~, you are a lively , STRONG woman. We all love you dearly and want to see you grow even more. You are supported always, dear! ๐
There are a million reasons why you are my favourite youtuber. But one of them is that you're so honest and down to earth. Many youtubers only do happy stuff and pretend that there's nothing bad in this world. Which is totally OK, because positivity is great, but bad things happen as well and it's so nice to see a person who's going through the same things and its totally ok when you talk about mental illness because you can prepare younger kids what they might go through later on. Stay strong, Dodie I love you very much!
god i love you. i'm so proud of you for this and aaaah this is helping me so much as well. this is what the internet should be like. i'm so so so glad you uploaded this apology and took the time to rectify the situation even when you're already struggling with so many other things. honestly, thank you, this is what i want to listen to/watch when i'm low, this is realistic and i don't really know how to put all my emotions into words (i'm not as intellectual as all these people in the comments), but i just want you to know that i'm really proud and grateful. thank you
I appreciate you making this video. Expression of your feelings is important, but only in a certain way. We love you! I look forward to seeing your growth! <3
i am so incredibly thankful and grateful for you as a person. thank you for making both of these videos. the fact that you're imperfect and you make mistakes and the fact that you share those with us helps us learn from those mistakes as well as you. thank you for apologising, but also... you don't need to (i mean you did, but... you get the sentiment). all of the feelings & posts you were doing came from symptoms of the very mental illnesses you were talking about. so we understand. i like what you said about treating your viewers as you would your little sister. i think that's a perfect way to think about it. keep fighting and keep trying and keep being you. i love you. like a sister would.
dodieee! although recently i think you have been sharing a little too much, the amount you shared a while ago was helpful to me. i felt very alone - swallowed by my problems but for someone like you to come online and say "i do struggle but my experiences go into my music and videos" really helped. i learnt to channel my negative emotions into something productive. but i'm also happy about this video too. i'm so glad that you will only share so much with the internet. and that's not only because i think "ahhh this might affect people in a bad way" but because i was very worried about your own health and happiness. i think there's caring about a youtuber and then caring so much you feel like a bit of a therapist. i hope everything goes well for you dodie & i'm really glad to be on your vlogging journey so that when you're big and famous i can tell everyone i was here first! love and hugs, jen xo
dodie this video was so truthful and respectful, it's incredibly how you can apologise, most people couldn't do this. You never intentionally glorified anything, you're very real and raw x
bless you dodie, thank you for this - its such a mature and important thing to do <3 but please don't be embarrassed or grate on yourself for all of this, I just want to give you a massive hug! keep going gal xoxo
don't beat yourself up over this! a mistake was made and now you're correcting it! we don't expect anything more from you. you're human and we love you anyway xxx
Hi Doddie, I appreciate your concern with what you say on the internet when you have your "crises", that is really good. Anyway, i'm trying to help, i know you have a little sister, (I don't know how is your relantionship with her, but I imagine you love her very much) hold on to her, i bet she loves you very much, and when you feeling down think of her, as a little spark of hope, think of all the good messages you recived when you are feeling down. I know i'm saying whats everybody says in this situantion, but is true, Dodie i love you very much, and stay strong, please <3
I just recently lost my big sister, (she comited suicide) and watching your singing videos and you more positive videos helped me a lot, so thank you.
Dodie I love you, and right now I just want you to know youโre loved. No matter what, we all are always learning about ourselves and the world and how we fit in the world. Your true audience loves you and will always be right here with you through anything you experience. Thank you for being honest, it means way more than you know. No one is perfect so donโt expect yourself to be, and understand we love you I LOVE YOU anyways โค๏ธ
You are an inspiration, I have always been watching you and haven't been able to get a ticket in time to come see you in Newcastle. I struggle from mental illness and you have helped me through sharing the way you feel. Don't ever be sorry, I love you, we all love you. Thankyou for being you dodie Clark. Xx
I don't follow you on your other socials, so I didn't see the oversharing stuff. I'm so sorry that you're hurting, and I think you're amazing in general and for making this video. Lots of love to you.
Thank you for making this video, I admire you for realizing and being willing to admit that you shared a bit too much. I think it's good to talk about mental health, but there's different ways of doing it. I like the idea of you still recording things, but deciding afterwards if it is something that you want to share. Some people who I think share their mental health issues in a way that is both honest but also not romanticizing or triggering are: John Green about his OCD and 'What Mia Did Next' about her battle with eating disorder (although it is mostly in the past for her)
I'm really proud of your response to this situation. You saw a place you needed to grow, asked for help in how to do that, and responded maturely with a solution that you feel causes the least amount of harm to yourself and your audience. It's an ongoing process but I've been so impressed in watching it unfold the way it has this last few days.
Dodie I am so so so incredibly proud of you, for going through this journey in such an open an honest way. It's a learning curve for you, the community of creators, the media and for us as viewers. I'm glad you're happy with the decision you've made and the approach you're now going to take and for the record I think you've navigated this situation expertly and ended up at the best possible (still quite shitty) circumstance. Thank you <3
You're very brave for being able to take this step back, re-evaluate and then make a video about it. I personally don't have an opinion on the oversharing but I'm glad you learnt from this!! Hope you're feeling better x
you are amazing, dodddie! you are a very brave and mature person and I apreciate it \nd that's why all of your fans love you! Keep going girl! You're going to get better! We all love you a lot xoxo
dodie i want to thank you. i know that expressing mental health struggles so explicitly can be negative for many people but personally for me it does help. in my darkest moments i revisit all of your videos, both the positive and negative, because it lets me know to keep going ! i respect your decision to keep things more private and i think that will be beneficial, but thank you for helping to keep me going. take care ily ๐
im a year younger than hedy. recently my mental state hasn't been that good and when you started posting more and more detailed (? idk) things i became completely blind to it. it just reminded me that i needed to take a step back and collect myself. you are such a wonderful person. mistakes happen. and i know, sometimes you feel so embarrassed that you just want everyone to forget it happened. but it did, and you'll learn from it. much love<3
Dodie, so proud of you for being strong through hard things. I hope you will remember that you can always turn to Jesus no matter what you're feeling. Always.
Dear Dodie, you are amazing, creative, wonderful and special! I love watching you on your journey, the bad and good days, kind of walking with you and learning A LOT from you. Some things need to keep private but I love you FOR SHARING YOUR THOUGHT AND FEELINGS WITH US even the bad ones. I know everyone says this but there will be good days and bad days, time may not heal but things will work out. I'll love you to nuts forever, Yours Annie โค
Dodie, we all love you so much!! There is no need to feel embarrassed, as you're just a human like the rest of us. Have grace on yourself... you're doing a good job ๐๐. Keep your head up and your heart strong! ๐ป
we all love you for who you are your amazing and truly an inspiration to me and many many more fans. im so proud of you for making this video bc ik this was hard to admit. i love you โคโคโค
we love you so much dodie. we understand that you are going through a tough time and that it might take time to try and navigate your way through your mental illness. take your time, take care of yourself, and remember that we love you and we will be here for you. you can take control and be happy again. it just takes some time. we'll always be here :)
its okay dodie, im sure a lot of your fans, including me, understand why you would have wanted to share online, its alright, because we know that you didnt mean to glorify or romanticize anything, you cant put the blame all on yourself. we were the ones who told you what you were doing was good. we still love you!! stay strong xx
You're giving yourself such a hard time Dodie, always remember: 1. Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind and 2. You're braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think โค๏ธโค๏ธ
I didn't mind when you shared so much, it felt personal, but I do agree it was very unhealthy for some viewers and even for you. I deal with similar problems, and I'm so sorry you have to go through these things with a huge audience pressuring you to follow their rules and align with their values. Do whatever is best for you, I hope you're feeling well. Love you Dodie xxx
I want to hug you so bad. You see, I've always watched your videos, every time you post I'm there. Never have I felt you were oversharing. Some people may feel that way, but overall you haven't in my opinion. I love you, get better, and you will always be my role model and hero. You taught me that having anxiety may be terrible, but used to make gorgeous creations. Just remember sharing is okay to do, and always remember you have all of us supporting you. I love you and have a nice rest of your day. <3 <3 Edit: Dodie, you can do as you please and if that means venting to us then thats ok. We're your audience and we are supposed to support you no matter what. I want you to be better, and if telling us your problems, then so be it.
I'm honestly so impressed with the way you're dealing with this. You listened to people and took a step back to take a look at what you were doing and then made a decision that affects you personally a lot. I admire you for being open about mental illness, it has helped me a lot. And I admire you for understanding you did something that might not have helped most people, and you try to fix it. Just, thank you for being such a good example of a nice person <3
Dodie! You are such a good and wonderful person who takes care of all your fans/followers/friends! Don't feel bad, you haven't done anything illegal or bad! <3
I love you dodie and I love those posts cause I'm in a similar place and I feel less alone but I am VERY glad that you are figuring yourself out and I hope I can get out of this hole that I am in without your posts
I'm extremely proud of you for this. It makes me sad seeing you sad because it is probably not normal to admire someone as much as I do you. We all love you and I hope that you will feel as happy as you have made me with all of your videos. Hopefully the therapist will help you, because I want you to get better. It is completely normal for me to see emotions poured out into certain things and I'm glad that you feel comfortable in sharing some of this with us. I can't say this for some people because I don't know how they feel, but I will always support you. I completely understand why you made those videos and why you're making this one. Once again, I'm extremely proud and I love you, stay strong๐-Kayla
I have loved your content for a long time due to its truthful nature, and I know that I will continue to love it for a long time. You continue to be a fantastic role model, and I am so proud of how mature and honest you are. I understand that your posts have been a bit dark, but you have taken ownership, and are making an effort to create a positive environment for yourself and others. And that is the most important thing you can do right now. I'm looking forward to veda! Feel betterโบ
I think it's really great of you to make this video. It's important to realise when you've gone too far and respond to it. This is something to really admire about you. Stay strong and remember that we are all with you xx
this made me cry a little. i'm proud of you dodie because i can see how hard you are trying to be better. you made a mistake and it's okay; you learned from it. i love you so much and you've helped me a lot, thank you ๐
im glad you've learnt this now dodie. i think it's important to note the impressionable audience (sometimes not even younger), just to realise that while you may feel better in the moment, you're actions online affect real people. (reminds me of that film on netflix called to the bone, where the main character drew exclusively about her anorexia and posted it to tumblr, and it caused a girl to die. obviously it is fictional but this kind of stuff does happen) and im in no way saying you are romanticising any mental illness but it can be quite triggering and dangerous for someone who is already in a bad head space. it's ok, we forgive you.
this is an incredible video and honestly i have a lot of respect for you being able to share so much about your mental health and the problems you face, bottling things up isn't helpful either though it's also wonderful that you can find the line of things to share on a public platform like instagram!! everyone makes this journey, not just you, we've all made these kinds of mistakes, you just have so many more eyes on you - which is because you are incredibly talented and you deserve the love you get - but it also means there's a bit more responsibility that people like myself don't have to deal with - i was able to post similar things with less consequences for a while before i also learned about oversharing and how much of myself (the negative side) to put out into the world. you are an inspiration, flaws and all, because everyone is flawed but not everyone has the courage to do what you do. i hope you are looking after yourself, you deserve it, and there will always be people you Can talk to about these things because you have people who love you (and i'm sure you know this). i hope this message makes sense, as someone who has faced similar problems i got a bit emotional!! but, long story short, i support you with my whole heart!!!
Upon reflection just like i said on twitter im just like you. I overshared a rant about work on social media and now im in a lot of trouble for it and could face dismissal. I've still got a week till i find out and im so anxious. It made me truely realise that i need to know when to not pour my thoughts and feelings out on social media because i dont help anyone by doing it and it just leads to bad things happening. I guess you have helped me in a way because previously i was just angry at a certain individual who found it and told and at work but you've made me realise my actions have consequences and if it wasnt there in the first place i wouldnt be in this mess.
I'm so glad you apologized. You're a very smart, brave and mature woman and I'm so proud of you. You're one of my favorite musicians, and your personality is one of the reasons for that. โก
dodie...i love you so so much for this. often times, whenever i read your super in depth posts, it gives me hope that i might be able to pull myself out of whatever i get in. but sometimes, it makes really sad and worried for you :( but i look up to you so much for being able to share things like this. i can't share shit with my friends because it makes me feel so odd and intrusive. i just love you so much and i'm so proud of you and ugkgkgkg. i love you
I literally just wanted to hug you throughout this whole video. You're so strong and I feel like you're beating yourself up about this when you didn't mean to be triggering. Ily and I'm glad that you have understood that you were slightly over sharing. I hope you feel better
I wasnt sure wether i should say something or not (i try not to talk or share anything online or irl) but i just wanted to give my perspective on this even if it ends up disappearing through the sea of people talking. As someone dealing with dpd and mdd who doesnt talk to anyone about what's happening i aprecciade your videos GREATLY. Whenever i watch your videos it makes me feel a little more connected to people (which i usually feel very far away from) and seeing you talk about what is happening on your daily life makes me feel a little less alone. Whenever i go on snapchat i usually see all of my friends or celebrities going on these great adventures and having the time of their life and i dont think i could feel more disconnected from them than i do; seeing someone talk about the things im usually feeling makes me feel less lonely. Maybe this doesnt make sense but its like im a submarine surrounded by fish and suddenly i see another submarine. You talking about how you feel has helped me SO MUCH it helped me get through a rough patch last year and its helped me get better at talking about how i feel. Ive been in a similar position to yours right now, i used to spill everything i had to some friends online because i cant talk about it in my life, and i realized how much of a negative impact it was on my friends. I ended up isolating myself from everyone and stopped talking entirely to anyone, so if theres anything to take as a lesson from my experience is to try and have a balance. I dont think that talking to us about how it's been inside your head is bad but instead of adressing it right when it happens, tell to us about it afterwards (this doesnt mean we should get a lesson out of it or anything like that, dont feel like you have to justify what youre feeling), after youve evaluated what you feel, why you feel it, and how it is or isnt true.
Dodie - I love how you've grown and chosen to share it with us. You're such a wonderful person, and you realized there was an issue, and you dealt with it. We love you! Also it's raining and 8:30 so I'm not going outside, but maybe tomorrow... :)
When I read your super intense posts, I personally just feel sad for you. All I want to do is give you a hug. When I was in the depths of my mental health struggle, it made me feel good to see them, because I felt like I wasn't the only one who felt certain ways. Nowadays, I'm doing much better, and they no longer make me feel good. However, I just want to say, I love you infinitely. I found your channel when I was in the darkest place I've ever been.You, your music, your videos, your posts helped me sooooo much. I got out of the black hole through extremely rigorous and painful therapy, but during that time, you were a little beam of light shining through the darkness. When I was in a residential treatment program, completely isolated from my family, my friends, my life, I sat on the carpet with my ukulele and played your songs. I will never be able to repay you for what you've done for me, but if nothing else, I want you to know how much I love you. You're so hard on yourself. The only person you should worry about right now is yourself. Oversharing online wasn't good for you, its great that you realized that. But you don't need to apologize to us for that. If it affected people negatively, they didn't have to watch your videos or look at your Instagram. That was their choice. You didn't force it on them. You can't control other people's actions or reactions. You can only do what's good for you. Once again, I have endless love and gratitude for you. You can get through this. You're doing better every day. Even if you don't feel it, I can see it. Even in this video, you're crying! Crying is so healthy and helpful! That's major improvement! You are going to get through this. You can do this. You will do this. You are so strong and beautiful and talented and intelligent and loving and caring and incredible. Stay strong love. Good luck.
I'm proud of you for going through this. I will say reading some of the things you have posted have triggered me and I have had to take a break from your account. I appreciate you apologizing. I love you so so so much, and I'm sorry you've had a hard year. Just know we all love and support you.
i've been through a very similar situation and it sucks. i would tell my friends very graphically about thoughts i was having and what i wanted to do to myself but it caused some of them to become super worried and scared to talk to me. i had to reevaluate and now i have a therapist to tell things too and now my friends seem less wary around me and more like actual FRIENDS and that's because i'm treating them like humans instead of verbal punch bags i stand by you dodie, and i love youuuuu and you can get through this :) (also see you in october!)
As much as this video is sad it is also ironic. I was at a panel at vidcon about making a positive change through social media. You happened to be in it, and somebody asked you "when should i stop sharing and draw the line" and you replied "please let me know" jokingly but i could tell it hurt. I dont know if you remembered but i was the little potato crying my eyes out in the front row. Im just glad you figured out your boundaries and you can learn something from this. โค๏ธโค๏ธ
MVK Is OK I have liked this comment I think its really lovely and a good message for Dodie Well done you busicuit and to Dodie no matter what We Will Always Love Youโคโค
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mvk is not ok2017-07-28 07:46:43 (edited 2017-07-28 07:47:15 )
lollie lucille i think being called a biscuit is the greatest compliment i have ever received
I do remember!! Lol potato. You made me cry too <3
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doddleoddle omg you have no idea how much that means to me...not the crying part but the remember part. Also i am so proud of you for handling this situation so well โค๏ธ
I'm glad to hear you will try to handle things without relying in social media that much. You can always put your heart out in music in a subtler way ;) Either making your own awesome music or just letting other's music lift you up! <3
dodie i have always admired your sense of grace when addressing mental illness but in this video you mentioned about people who have said they have held back from looking at your social media platforms, i have been one of them. I have no intentions on calling you out here or making you feel like you have done anything wrong but as you said it was all very heavy. People look to your channels to hear your music and see your vlogs about happy days, i know i do. mental health should not be the taboo subject it still kind of is but i totally agree there are lines where oversharing has occured and said lines been crossed. keep your chin up dodie. keep us posted on how your brain feels just please post more of what makes you the amazing human being you are today and not what brings you down. much love to you dodie. you really are an inspiration to many. ๐
Meriem AIT BBIH2017-08-07 00:46:41 (edited 2017-08-07 00:49:35 )
Dodie, listen to me, it breaks my heart that you have to apologize with tears in your eyes for posting about your struggles. I'm a viewer. I love your posts. Your pictures on instragram with those long captions are my favourite. Your videos about mental health are also so precious to me that I know them word by word. You help me so much. I love you so much. You make me feel less alone and I always want to hug you and tell you that I understand. I've been a viewer for a long time. Often times I wish I could send you videos to share with you my stories and my struggles so that I can help you feel less alone, the way you always do for me. You're wonderful. You're brave. I'm crying rn. I love you.
Dear Dodie, I'm 12 (13 next week woooooo) and I absolutely love your channel and social media, however, I did find it difficult to watch and/ or read your recent ones as they were quite graphic and triggering for me personally. I want you to know that we're all behind you in this and you are never alone. In no way should you pretend to plaster on a smile when you're at your worst, that'd be so damaging for you, but I hope you can find somewhere to vent your feelings that isn't in front of the masses. I am so so so incredibly proud of you ^_^ Thanks for being such a wonderful human being Dodie! ๐๐๐
For me, it was hugely helpful in my own journey when you shared your video about what mental illnesses you deal with and how you were seeking treatment for them. But I have also stopped watching your snap stories and reading Insta captions. I think figuring out a healthy balance is a great goal and I'm looking forward to veda!Thanks for sharing, Dodie!
Hi dodie! I hope everything turns out okay for you because you deserve the best, you are such a strong and inspirational person. Make sure you're talking to your friends and not isolating yourself โค๏ธ
I think I speak for a large majority of your audience when I say "We love you." We never want you to feel restricted or feel like you have to censor yourself when you post something on Youtube, Instagram, Snapchat etc. On those days when you may feel at your worst or in an unhealthy state, I think we want you to vent in the best way that you think possible. Whether that be journaling, talking with a friend, or even shooting a video just to talk to the camera and never even posting the video. Your life is your life, and I don't think anyone wants to tell you how to run your channel, social medias, or your life. I believe the reason we've been pointing out your tendency to share your feelings on your bad days is because we don't want you to feel like you owe us a video about how you are. Dodie, we love you and care about you. As your friends on the other side of the camera, we want you to do what is best for you and not feel like you owe us in any way. Just like a friend. Do what is best for you. โค๏ธ
Hey Dodie... I normally don't post comments but I wanted to tell you, you have helped me through so much retaliating to my own personal mental state, and my self image when it comes to my sexuality. If sharing your "graphic" details is an outlet that helps you, do it!
I'm sorry we turned your outlet into an unsafe place for you. You do you boo
im so so so proud of your reaction to the responses on this subject. it was a very mature response and i highly respect you for it. thank you for addressing this issue in the manner that you did, especially because i did not realize what effect i was having until these videos.
Apology accepted. I'm so glad you addressed this, and I'm glad you're working on it. The thing I've always admired about you/your channel is your honesty, which I still think is a vital part of why your channel is so great: I never feel like you're lying to your audience. I do think, though, that there's a BIG difference between lying and not-saying-everything-you-feel-right-that-second. (Kinda like when people say "i hate your dress" and then "what I was just being honest"...) - anyway, that wasn't originally my point at all. My point is, I hope (and I believe) you'll find a way to balance honesty with caution - both for your viewers' and your own sake. And I think you've taken the first and second step towards doing that already<3
God, I love you so much. You know your audience, maybe mostly the older portion of your audience (I'm 19, anyone else?), is supportive of you and want to be here. Of course I can see where you bring professionalism into the mix. Please don't be afraid to tell us what's on your mind, we still care and want to make sure you're okay. But just know you're not just a burden or pain, for me personally I found comfort in a lot of your posts because I feel the exact same way, and until I found your channel I hadn't known anyone else to feel these ways. I didn't know how to put depersonalization into words, I didn't know what it meant about me personally when I looked back on my past more than I was looking at myself in the moment. Thank you for sharing your discomfort over this as well, I'm just letting you know that you mean the world to me, and you've helped me break a lot of ground in discovering what's going on in my brain, and I can never thank you enough for that. Bless you, Dodie๐๐๐
The types of videos that you are referring to are the types that I have never seen on youtube. I had never seen anyone go so in depth about depersonalization, and for me personally it felt very validating and important as someone who experiences similar symptoms but doesn't hear them getting talked about- online or offline. It is worth mentioning that at this point I had a long journey with mental health behind me already and was no longer a teenager. I think the videos you made were important but I understand your decision and your thoughts since I had to go through a very similar process with my friends. I hope you will not feel guilty and that you will be able to navigate these boundaries with ease in the future. Never stop talking about what is important to you! <3
This is very wise, brave, and admirable of you, Dodie. Yeah, It's so important to learn the balance between vulnerability and guarding your heart, and when you find that I believe the way you express your experiences will honor yourself and your audience :) Godspeed
I have watched you since 2014 and think you're wonderful, but it's made me so sad to see how you've been dealing with your mental health lately and I'm so happy you seem to have had a wake up call. Obviously I don't know you at all - none of us do - so it's not really our position to say, but I'm so pleased you've taken this all on board :) Thank you Dodie for realising it's unhealthy and we are all rooting for you โค
Dodie, you're an amazing person. Please don't feel bad because everyone has our own problems and people have different ways to deal with it. We understand that you aren't in a good mental state and we are all supportive of you no matter what you're going through. We love you so so much and you inspire all of us because you are able to realize if you make a mistake and apologize without coming up with some stupid excuse as to why you did something. We love you, please stay strong <3
Dodie, your videos are very therapeutic for me. When you talk about mental health and vent on your low days it truly does put me at ease. It's somehow like I have someone explaining it for me and I don't have to. Thank you for that. I hope you continue with at least that. I love you <3
dodie we love you so so much. it's okay to make mistakes, everyone does it and it helps you grow. your vulnerability has, in some ways made me feel less alone, but i do agree that it has been far overdone and i am happy to see the future where i can enjoy your posts without feeling the emotions you're expressing. i love you lots and hope that you aren't blaming yourself.
Don't be embarrassed!! You're human. Your art is human, your vlogs are human. I'm new to you, but I love your level of accessibility as an artist and as a person. Censor yourself for YOU not for anyone else; pour it into your art. X
Ahh sweetness I'm so proud of you for making this decision and in my mind I will never link horrible mental illnesses with you because whenever I have a panic attack I listen to your songs and they remind me of all the wonder and beauty in this world that isn't always beautiful xxxx
i am someone who has suffered from depersonalisation for the past 6 years however i didn't know there was an actual medical term for it until your posts brought it to my attention, and for that i can only thank you that you helped me realise that it was a genuine problem which should be talked about to a professional. as graphic as your posts could be they did give me a form of comfort in knowing i wasn't the only person who felt that way (i had doctors tell me they weren't familiar with dissociative disorders and couldn't help me) so by speaking up about mental health, you made my problems seem valid at a point which i would've usually given up. thank you โค๏ธ don't be too hard on yourself dodie, we're all human x
rosie ellen i've had the symptoms for depersonalisation for around 6 months now and now i know that i'm not crazy anymore. i don't know if i have it but i definitely feel so disconnected and not here, and it makes me so delightful that i'm not facing this delirious world alone
I don't know why but when she started listing all the things for us 'to do' after we've watched the video, I cried. Not because she said anything wrong, this video was so genuine and sweet. I don't even really know what's going on in my head at the moment, and all I could think whilst listening was 'I remember when I used to go outside' or 'when I used to make tea'. Stupid little things that used to make me happy.
Dodie, thank you. I personally appreciate it so much. Thank you for apologizing, it's hard for everyone to apologize, even people who aren't put in a pedestal by so many. I think that holding back is very admirable. There is nothing wrong with being emotional, everyone is by some degree. Glorifying mental health isn't healthy for anyone, and I think that a bit of madness is not key, you do not need to be mentally ill to create art, nor is you art better or deeper if you are mentally ill. Oversharing might sound fine when not phrased in that way to your mind, and I think you know this, that it's a trap and that once you start you can't stop. You feel like you are giving your audience the "real you" and I understand. The "real you" is more that your lowest low. The real you is all of you lows, but also all of your highs and when you are stable, and well. I don't want this to feel like an attack or like me just pointing out what you did was wrong. I think that not sharing everything is okay and I don't think that it is being closed off. It's not hiding things away from your audience. A lot of your audience can feel powerless it those situations, and something's are more productive if you wait a while to sort them out yourself, and then share them. That's not hiding, that's healthy. For everyone. I think that you already know this. All in all I just wanted to say thank you for taking a step back and reviewing and changing some things about how you talk about your journey. It means a lot. Thank you.
This is a really mature, impressive approach to a really painful, personal topic. I think if I had thousands of people telling me what I was doing wasn't good, I'd spiral and say "** this, I'm out". I'm proud of you, you're on a really grueling journey which a lot of us are going through too, and we'll get there. Keep positive and creating awesome stuff.
All I really want to say is that it's okay and I understand. Speaking from my own experiences I can tell social media definitelyis a way to scream out everything you feel. In some way, it's therapy. My twitter account from ages 14 to 18 is full of ranting about mental health problems and I've posted similar things as Dodie and it really has helped me move on - except I have now changed twitter for a therapist. Getting yourself into therapy is harder than it seems. It requires a specific state of mind and there's a long road to follow before you actually reach that state of mind. It's really not as simple as some people argue when they say 'just get yourself a therapist'. The road is hard, and only the person on that road can decide what it good for them and what they need to do and say before they reach the actual therapy part of the road. I don't think you've made a mistake Dodie, I really don't. You did what you feel like you needed to do and that's exactly right. The only difference between me and you is that you have an audience and I don't, and people with an audience are expected to maintain certain responsibilities towards said audience. But your road towards healing is your road, not your audience's. And honestly, how many of us are doing the exact same thing as you but without the pressure of an audience watching? I think opening the discussion about oversharing may have helped you get along the path you need to take to get your mind set on therapy. I think you've reached a long way down the road, and i wish you all the best <3
That was a really amazong video Dodie - thank you. You did well <3 ("you're a good egg") good thing this whole discussion started, even if now you're hurting, the comments struck you to change something. And change is good - change will help. Xxx
sooooooooo much respect for you dodes - this video was so nice to watch, i feel so proud of you!!!! well done you special lady <333 looking forward to your future videos - keep fighting my dear xx
self censoring is hard but when you are ill then its a choice between oversharing or not at all. I lock up. My close friends get cross with me for not sharing either external or internal problems. I think if I don't say the problems they won't exist this is as unhealthy as 'over sharing' (or at least on the wrong platform). Though I found your vlogs, instagrams helpful if worrying (for you and your health) . Social media is really a powerless blank wall that also makes a lot of noise. I really hope the therapist works out and makes me think I should try to find one.
I love you, Dodie. We will all be here for you. You messed up and that's okay. Everyone does it and that is okay. You are an amazing person and I wish you the best in everything going on in your life. Sending you lots of hugs and love and wishes from Mexico City. Always here for you. xoxo
Thank you for this @dodie, @doddlevloggle . All praise the youtube algorithm, bringing relevant videos to people. I really needed this reminder to respect peoples boundaries and to respect myself and my own boundaries. I also do a few types of oversharing and I find it difficult to balance that and raising awareness around mental illness and just calling for help, really. They all flow into each other and mix, making a massive stinky stew instead of meals for different occasions. Itยดs like when my bed becomes an all-purpose area for living, eating, communicating, surfing the internet, doing my homework, banking, tossing around with insomnia and so on. I get mixed up, so people get mixed messages and develope mixed feelings towards me. Iยดm also getting help. Iยดve started compartmentalizing more often and getting more order. Iยดm almost fine. Iยดm getting there. Iยดm stabilizing. I hope the message in this video can help others as I feel like it has done for me. I hope readers can get something positive from my wall of text. Best of luck.
I would personally like to thank you for talking about your mental illness because you have helped me with my mental health and you have made me the person i am today. Not someone who wants to sit and cry when i'm low, someone that cares for myself and treats myself when i'm low. So thank you for being there and i love you. <3
I love you and it's so kind of you to think of everyone you're doing so amazingly mental illness sucks I hope with all my heaaaart that new therapist is a good egg I love you dodie good luckkkkkk
Dodie, it's okay, it's just okay... you are growing and learning, the fact that you realized what is okay and not okay to share with us, is so amazing. We are here for you and we love you.
Dodie you are amazing young woman. It takes guts to do what you do every day. Despite what you have to go through every day, you still have the strength to make your videos and share with us your life. You're so beautiful, keep doing what you're doing. I LOVE your accent. I could listen to you talk all day even if it's just about coffee or something simple lol. Have a great day.
I was going through a lot of mental trouble during the time I saw some of you're Instagram posts. It scared me how similar you're thoughts were to mine but I can't tell u how relieving it is to final be better and literally at the same time you seem to be getting better. I took a break from your videos. I couldn't watch them but I am so much better now! You're inspiring because u overcame it and don't be ashamed that u wear your ๐!
I don't think i've ever looked up to someone and admired someone as much as you. you're so fucking strong. even if you don't see it you are! you're so brave to be sharing anything about this in the first place. i personally haven't been negatively effected by your over sharing but i do see how others could. you're so incredibly amazing dodie. please take a break and do whatever you need to feel better. you're so strong <3
dodie darling i love you and will always support you, personally you have helped me so much and those people didn't have to be involved in all of that, if it helps you, good. though i wholeheartedly agree with your video here, i hope it doesn't end with you back peddling and getting worse... love you loads and wish you the best in this endeavor โค
I'm so proud of you for that. For putting up the first video in the first place and for reading the comments and actual listening and reflecting. I'm glad it'll be no longer #nofilter, because it was really difficult. I'm not someone who's online often, but it would affect me when I was and it made me feel so sorry and we just want you to be better, Dodie. We really do. But it wasn't healthy how you dealt with it and I'm glad that you see that. Also that you admitted it to yourself. I'm so proud and I really hope it gets better. I still hope to get the updates and videos about this stuff, because I've always loved them. But please, not these raw and unfiltered thoughts and feelings. You're very well-spoken, Dodie and I really like when you talk about everything after reflecting. How you talk about it how it felt and what helped you and just - thank you. I haven't read the other comments yet, but I'm proud of you (which is probably weird because you don't even know me and I only know so much about you) and also thank you for always wanting to improve as a person. That's a great quality. You gonna fight that depression! :)
As someone studying counselling and training to look after people and their mental health I actually love reading your posts and learning about what's happening in your mind. Do what makes you happy love โค
I'm honestly so glad that you talk about everything you go through, because I deal with depersonalization as well. I'm also so proud of you for being able to step away and figure out how to make the most informative and helpful content out of the painful parts of life. I will say that I had to stop watching some of your snaps when I felt bad because of some triggering stuff, but it doesn't stop the part of me that still loves you and sees you as a role model for talking to people about how you feel. You're such a wonderful person, even if you might have messed up a bit. Thank you for sharing the fact that you don't feel as good as most others present
I'm very proud of you dodie. We all love you so much. You are so strong, and you inspire me more than you can imagine. I talked to you once on the phone and you told me to keep writing and to not doubt myself. Keep fighting
this was so mature of you. admitting that your actions have not been good for everyone takes a lot and i love that you are going to adjust your behaviour now. makes you very likable <3
Dodie, this video was so mature and honestly I feel like a proud mum. It takes guts to stand up and apologise, and the fact that you just swallowed your pride and didn't try to justify your mistakes is kind of admirable. Lots of love โค
very smart to treat your audience like your little sister. you are learning and growing. I love hearing about your road to recovery and I hope you will continue to share it in an appropriate manner. โค๏ธ
It's ok to hurt, because it makes the little things in a few weeks time; feel so much more memorable, so much more meaningful.- chin up Dodie sadness isn't forever, there is always a silver liningโบ๏ธ
Dodie! I love you and your videos and posts! I think it is so mature of you to be thinking of your younger audience in this way! I'm also very happy that you are trying a new therapist, all of us (your audience) wants you to get better!
I love you :) I've recently had this same realization on a smaller scale. When I'm feeling unhappy I get my phone and I ramble to my boyfriend and I end up blowing up on him for no reason, making him feel like he's a terrible person and that he's somehow doing things wrong because I'm unhappy and he didn't fix it for me. The most recent time this has happened, I realized I need to keep my rants to myself. I can write in a journal or talk out loud to myself in the car, but I shouldn't "vocalize" these rambling anxious and depressed thoughts, especially over text which doesn't give him the chance to respond to me.
I'm so happy for you that you've figured this out, and that you have this wonderful outlet, when used correctly. Best wishes <3
Honestly Dodie I love that you share your problems and your thoughts. It can help people realise they're not the only ones with the problems that you have. It can also help people understand what mental illnesses is really like and not just an airbrushed lovely nicer version of what it actually is. I love reading your posts I fund them so realistic and truthful and not this fake fluff people make up. Some people may disagree with me but even though I don't mind your posts I support your decisions on the future of your social media posts etc. Stay strong Dodie ๐๐
Hey Dodie. I just wanted to say that learning is a part of life, as I'm sure you know. I wanted to say that I am glad and proud of you for learning from this. From taking the best from the situation. I can only imagine how difficult it must be to be dealing with mental illness while you also have such a large audience. Yeah, I'm just really proud of you. And I forgive you, Dodie. I don't know if that means anything, it probably doesn't. But I just wanted you to know that.
I really needed this right now. I had a huge emotional breakdown and almost took my own life if my friend hadn't found me and forced me to go to the hospital. Im trying to get better and go day by day and dodie I look up to you becuase you're also struggling and showing that you're not perfect and you make mistakes but you re trying and sharing and thank you for that.
suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Always keep that in mind. You could miss out years of joy, love and beauty in a fickle moment so persevere and live life to the fullest. It's the only one you've got.
Another one of the reasons I love Dodie. She always apologises for her mistakes, and learns from them. You show how vulnerable and human you are. Itโs great to see such a genuine apology. Love you โจ
Dodie it will be alright, it'll be okay.. just remember we're here for you. we're glad you apologized, but we don't want you to be so upset of course. just remember that we are here for you, if you need breaks we understand, if you need help ask your friends, it'll be okay
You're honestly such an inspiration Dodie. If this has become something hurtful to you, than I'm glad you are trying to change. But still, I'm glad you are willing to share at all. Love you.
I wish I could say something super helpful that would get your attention, dodie, but honestly as a girl who suffers from mental illness myself all I can say is how proud I am of you and how well your handling all this despite what you may think. You are so inspirational in the way that you are not just giving advice but growing with us and taking advice from us and friends. It makes it seem like I'm talking privately to a friend, and I like the intimacy of that. Again, I'm so proud of you! โค๏ธ
From my perspective you don't need to be sorry!! I love you so much! you've made me feel so much better!!... Now maybe some people did need this apology but most people I know wouldn't have been able to do what you have done!! And I am very proud of you.. now your sad posts honestly give me so much comfort because they make me feel like I'm not alone, but maybe to some other people it makes them feel worse.. but I am very proud of you dodie and I love you so much!!!!!!!
As a reference: I am a 61 year old man and have been dealing with depression for the last 50 years. I don't follow you Dodie on any other source so I have no knowledge of the posts you mentioned. I do see that you are learning to set limits on the facets of your life that you show to the public and I learned to start doing that at about your age so I don't think anything is too far off of what could be considered normal. You are finding your way in the world and often showing others younger than yourself the path you see before you. That is how we all grow as individuals. Those that do not learn from others are bound to make their own copies of the same mistakes. Young folks that tune in too tightly to others have created other problems for themselves and that has always been the case. Watching you grow will help others to find their own path in their world. There will always be followers of you as well as others that lead you and most will find themselves on their own paths right along side of you. From my perspective you are doing fine and I look forward to watching you become someone I will be proud to know of 30 years from now. <3
i love you so much dodie,, i look up to you so much. you're so wonderful, humors, and beautiful. i hope everything in your life will clear up soon and start feeling perfect. you're such an amazing human being and you deserve to be happy as can be๐๐ป
Aww dodie, we love you to death and we understand you wanting to share these kinds of things online. We know that it helps you sometimes, and more importantly we know that sometimes you need to step back. Love ya dodes ๐๐๐
you are so strong. thank you for doing your best (edit) Thank you for realizing you are influencing so many people, and thank you for being responsible about it. you are growing from the experience and that is wonderful.
I think you've handled the topic of oversharing so well. These two videos were so helpful to me in understanding your posts and why I've grown to be put off by them. Thank you for acknowledging all of this. I really really respect you as an artist and as a human. โค๏ธ
Seeing you well up a bit hurt me so much that I started crying??? we obviously all forgive you because you've acknowledged your mistakes and have apologized for them. don't be embarrassed, it's life. We make mistakes. I hope you feel a little better soon. Good luck dodie xxx
found out about your vids yesterday cuz my depression came back. Helped loads btw!! Just moved out and was feeling overwhelmed. Ur vids are so helpful, expressing in words what I can't express I strive to be that articulate some day haha
Mana, watching these videos has helped me to understand and being able to go throughout depression myself... I also leaving in London and really, I understand that some people think I also overshare about depression ๐ฅ๐ค
Dodie, we will always be here for you, you share what you want, to see you cry makes my heart break because I love you so much to see you cry. Just to let you know, we will always be here for you no matter what happens. I hope you are very happy very soon โค๏ธ๐
Feel hugged about a thousand times. This is such a good and mature video! I wish I could do anything to help you. It hurts, seeing you feel so bad and I just want to comfort you. :( I hope so much that taking a step back will help you. <3
Personally, your openness really helped me, but I can see how it could be triggering to watch some things you post. Both your ability to be open online and your apology take strength to do, so good for you!
You know funny enough, I like to be depressed by your videos. It keeps my head levelled. As somebody who is overly positive I sometimes just lay down in bed, watch your videos and songs and try to cry (which I weirdly enough haven't really achieved so far but I'm trying). I'm so optimistic that sometimes I really am not in touch with myself and you help me look at the things I'm not happy about or insecure about which I normally just throw away as whatever I don't care sappy bullshit. I'm not saying you should continue overdharing because it is indeed quite unhealthy for impressionable people but I just wanted to tell you it wasn't all bad. Just a positive message from a positive guy to get your head up :)
I'm honestly so proud of you for this. I used to have you on snapchat, but after looking at these dark moments you would have, I just had to take a step back and breathe because it was very overwhelming to me. I'm so proud that you're addressing this issue that some of your viewers have with this "oversharing" and that you know and are willing to improve and get help from a professional! I think your idea of recording those moments privately or writing them into a journal are more healthy ways (as well as a therapist of course) instead of posting those graphic moments online, where young and impressionable (or really any of your viewers young or older) viewers may get influenced or triggered. You have been such an inspiration to me and I love how you openly address this problem and want to understand and find ways to help not only yourself, but also your viewers. You are so strong and beautiful, I wish you the absolute best, Dodie. xo
this is so brave of you, and I understand what others were saying. Meanwhile, I often liked reading your posts because it made me realize that I'm not the only one feeling what I'm feeling, and the way you write is very nice. I hope you aren't too hard on yourself about this! You are fab
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Im so proud that you can come to a decision, and that decision is healthy for everyone. It's so important to talk about this to your audience because we care about you and we want to know what's happening and how we can help. I think you are extremely strong for being able to talk about this. I love you โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
I'm really happy you recognize this mistake (and apologize) (although you didn't have to) (we truly understand). Try not to blame yourself or overthink the situation.
Dodieeee OH MY GOD YOU'RE SO CUTE. I cried with you because when I saw you started crying it just HURT MY HEART (in a good way I love you). I hope you feel better and that you follow your friends' advice. So yeah! Much love x
Oh dodie you're a wonderful person and I really like you and your videos and it was great that you felt like you could trust us enough to share all that information and I know you will feel better soon and life will finally be ok.๐
Thank you very much for making this video. I think it's a very healthy video and I'm really glad that you're doing things that will not only help and protect you but also help and protect us! I personally appreciate the apology, yet also didn't want you to make it. Yes, you over-shared but that was something that you needed to do and it helped you get to a better place in the end. So please take a second and be proud of the fact that you know better now, but also be proud of the fact that you did something you needed and got to a better place in the end. I'm sending all sorts of love your way and I can't wait to see what's next on your journey!๐
I don't normally comment on videos, but I feel compelled to do so today.
It's feels so strange to feel so. much. pride for someone who you've never met! Watching your videos and watching you grow as a person has been an absolute privilege, and I think I can speak on behalf of most of us when I say thank you for including us on your journey. It's so inspiring to see someone act human and have emotions and to open up about their success and mistakes. So many people don't think about the consequences of their actions, but the fact that you have taken a step back, analysed it all, and come to a comfortable conclusion is just a testament to your strength and character.
Don't beat yourself up too much as this has been a learning curve for everyone (viewers included). You deserve peace and happiness, and I sincerely hope you truly find it.
going to keep this short as you're probably going to see the same sentiments a thousand times: this is exactly the kind of process you need to go through to heal. you're so lucky to have friends who are being honest and gentle about your oversharing and helping you to see that there are more healthy ways to address your mental health. i know it's hard to see a million critical comments about the worst part of yourself but 1. you put those parts on full display and that is just the consequence of that and 2. most of those criticisms are coming from people who truly care about you and your well being and probably have a hundred compliments for every critical thing. stay strong and disconnect from it if it becomes too much. this community loves you and wants you to heal and succeed.
Man dodie, you've opened my mind. I really, really REALLY loved your mental health posts recently. You saying in this video how your posts could potentially be harmful, has really shown me something. I know that for a pretty long time recently, I've been extremely self destructive. Ive been searching for things online that could trigger me and make me feel even worse, and send me down. It makes me feel better, in a way. Anyway, your posts happened to come along and give me a similar release that the other triggering stuff is fine online, but I didn't realize that it was also doing that, I don't think, and you pointing out that it was hurtful to me, is helpful. You saying that posting those potentially unhealthy things could be bad for people, and that you need to stop, is clearing my mind a bit, maybe. I think my mind is taking what you're saying, and telling me "hey brynn, YOU need to stop hurting yourself like this. You need to stop looking for triggers." And now I'm not saying I'm going to stop, but you've definitely helped by saying that it needs to have a bit of boundaries, so thank you for pointing that out to me (I bet 90% of this made no sense lol woops)
I'm pleased that you've worked this out into something that will hopefully work for you, without the bad things that were coming along with sharing before. I do think you're under a bit more pressure than most people to monitor your online sharing because you have to maintain a certain level of professionalism - it's like the internet is your workplace as well as your social place. And that has to be tough, so well done on handling it!
I know some people think it's too dark, but honestly, I've needed your openness. I really have become aware that I'm not alone in my feelings. I just recently was diagnosed with depression, I started anti-depressants this summer, and your posts and things have made me feel so.. open. I think you need to do what's best for you, but do know that your posts have helped someone. They at least helped me.
Making a mistake and being able to admit to it and apologize is one of the hardest things to learn how to do, and you are amazing for being able to do it. keep on keeping on ๐
this is so sweet <33 it's hard. it's very, very very very hard to apologize,, admit that u are wrong. Dodie did just that, and i'm very proud of her <3
Proud of you, Dodie. We're all still in pretty uncharted waters when it comes to social media. Figuring out where to draw the line so that both you and your audience is staying or aiming toward healthy was always going to take some trial and error. Mistakes mean growing, and apologizing like this shows a real level of maturity & respect for your audience <3
Dodie, all your posts helped me with all my mental problems. You're being so damn hard on yourself, we all love you and i really care about your mental health. You have never triggered me and i get triggered really easy so please calm down and just do what feels good and i love you too <3
Dear Dodie: I've been watching your videos for a year and a half by now, i know that it's not much but i've found something nice in here. I'm a very very dramatic and emotional person, i've a very severe anxiety and i'm a person who dosen't stick to things a lot. But i've sticked to you. Maybe you won't read this but i hope that you know that i'm thankful for your person and for the beautiful community you have created. You are responsable of me finding a safe place on the internet, you are responsable of me not feeling alone. Yes sometimes, your snapchats can be triggering, but at the same time that i'm learning to be a lisenter and sit down and retain my self for a sad video when i'm sad, i guess you're learning to be on the other side, i guess you never stop learning about anything. Don't be too hard on yourself, i forgive you, i honestly forgive you and i can feel your good intentions. Thank you Dodie for helping me to understand my own feelings, thank you to help me to not feel alone, thank you for your music, and most important thank you for having flaws, and showing them, and for learning from them and showing me (a very perfectionist person) that having flaws it's okay, and it's human, thank you for being so human Dodie.
I feel kind of bad now myself, I've been posting every once in a while on my instagram about my mental health. when i'm really upset- whether that be sad or angry- i post on my instagram about everything im feeling. i (just like you said) am numb to what other people might feel reading everything I'm going through. I feel like even though you've never even liked any of my posts or anything, you've helped me learn a valuable lesson and it's almost like we're learning together how to deal with these kinds of things. even though i'm putting these things out to a smaller audience, i'm still putting it out there without thinking who i might be affecting. love ya, dodes, we all do.
It seems like every time I'm having trouble with something, you're there showing me how I'm not alone. I've also had trouble with over sharing but on a more private level and I'm pretty sure I almost fucked up my relationship. So thank you for this clarity.
Dodie you are making me cry right now! i am weeping(the same way i did when i watched la la land). i love that you are standing up and are strong enough to cut ties with the connection of your mental health and social media. this video has been an amazing new version of you opening up to us in your own way. from the bottom of my heart i love you, and though you have never met me i hope that in any way, shape, or form that you love me as well.(WOW that was cheesy... yet true). please continue being yourself and i think i speak for all us true supporters that as long as you are making content we will be watching it. thank you for all that you have done to help me and many others through our very own troubling times. never give up! Mallory Blair
Thankyou for being so mature and humble and honest and willing to realize that some things need to change, you addressed this perfectly We all make mistakes and you have apologised and handled this so well Love you dodes
We all adore you Dodie. And I love how mature this was and how geniunely sorry you are, I know me personally I always loved how open you were about things cause it was bringing to light things that most people ignore and dont talk about. Mental illness is always a touchy subject and rightfully so. But for me who has pretty bad anxiety your posts als Ways made me feel not so alone and be like hey is Dodie can do this and can get thru all this, so can i.
Awww Dodie, I completely understand everything you're saying, and I think what you just said was actually something important for me to hear because I've started doing the same thing. I don't want people to think of my anxiety when they think of me. I think I glorify it and that's not good, and I have young kids who follow my art accounts on Instagram as well. ๐Love you and we'll all make it through this.
Dodie, you beautiful, gorgeous, emotional, powerful creature. First is first, you are truly an inspiration and love in my life - in all our lives.
Your comment about journalling vs. video posting, was very very important. You were not glorifying mental illness. You were doing what you could in your state, which was all you could. I am so proud of what you have done and achieved in your lifetime - mental, emotional, physical, and in your musical success. What I recommend is making your own video journal - so you still have that feeling of talking to the camera, but not to the audience, and if wanted, share with your 1+1 counselor. I too deal with Depression (GAD too), and I have found that meditation, group and 1+1 therapy have really been good for me. I wish you great luck on your lovely journey on this beautiful earth, and I love you very much. I believe in you, Dodie. You are strong. And beautiful. And unique. Don't give up. We're all here for you. โค
HEY DODES. It's totally okay to share your feelings online, that's practically what online is for!! but it's also really admirable and responsible of you to realize that you have a lot of young impressionable viewers who might follow in your footsteps of negative thoughts. PROUD OF U. i'm 25 now and i had to learn a lot about what was too much to post online when i was your age too, and I feel a happy medium now! you're awesome. you're doing really good things.
I have no idea why I've typed this Dodie, you have shown me so many sides of mental health that help me understand myself and my friends. I have felt so low and so down, at such a young age, that I felt isolated from everyone. I felt like I was trapped, but your posts and story things on Instagram have made me realise life can change and the highs and lows will change. When you spoke about getting a therapist, I went straight to my mum and asked to see a counsellor about my mental health because it has gotten to a point where I can't handle it. The counselling does work but there is so much I have bottled up that I forget it but it's still causing me to feel depressed. When you talk about your mental health and ways round it, I feel like it helps and eases the pain in a way. I have really supportive friends who are there for me, but I feel they still don't fully understand. Thank you for talking about it when you did. Just thank you sorry No ones going to read this
Dodie, you're probably NOT going to read this comment but i'll try anyway because i think this might help you and your audience, which means us. So.. Remember that video called "I am depressed today''? Yeah, that video still helps me when i'm feeling down, or spaced out sometimes, and i think that's because you can describe my feelings and thoughts like no one ever did, and that's the best part of all this, you can understand us (well, a least some of us), and by doing that, you make us feel less lonely, because SOMEONE understands this feeling.
I really don't know why do i have to make things so complicated, i just needed to say that videos like that make me feel better because i know that someone can understand what i feel.
if you read this and agree pls like so she can read and understand the importance of those videos.
Dodie, I don't expect you to read this (You've grown so popular recently I've been drowned out - which is lovely, because you've so many sweet supporters I get to chat to on twitter and instagram (hi @caoimheforyou twitter mutuals! ILY)) But whether or not this is seen by anyone I wanted to write a little response, for me, maybe, more than anyone.
I saw one of those silly posts today about stereotypes of different musician stans - including dodie stans. One of the things that made me laugh was that Dodie stans all have dodie, as their profile picture. I felt me cheeks flush because I'm a living example of that - three twitter accounts, one a dodie fan account, one a silly account my personals don't know about that I can joke on, and one a personal account. The one thing that unites them all is that each account has dodie as the profile picture. One is black and white, poised perfectly. The second is obvious, dodie with diamonds twinkling on her cheeks and a knowing smile. The third is my favourite. It's a screenshot from one of her old videos, when Evan was doing her makeup, a tiny moment where I wholloped the pause button at warp speed to screenshot it, a genuine grin, unforced, unpractised, makeup-less and so so pretty. (A dumb screenshot of youth?) I'm sure that sounds horribly creepy, me screenshotting a video and using it as my profile picture - Imagine if I did it to a friend! But in that moment Dodie became three dimensional. (You can forget so easily that people online are real people, fact and fiction are so blurred when viewed through a screen)
Does this have a point? Not really, I think all the fairy lights in my dorm inspired me to write something haha, but I don't know, I don't think dodie should feel like she has done anything wrong. The internet is still so new, there are few rules of etiquette, no one knows what they're doing and social interactions online are so different to those offline, it's impossible to know how what you say can affect others - the most positive thing could be negative, the most negative thing could be exactly what someone needs to be positive. She shouldn't feel embarrassed because even IF sharing any deeper thoughts was a bad decision (which I don't think it was - it was just a decision, neither positive or negative - karma and all that, every action has an equal and opposite reaction if you prefer science) dodie has taught each and every person who watched the video a little life lesson (I should have made this a "how many dodie song references can I fit into this mini essay" challenge) And darling, you may think you're bad but there are a million people out there who are ten times worse than dodie when it comes to oversharing online (I'm so guilty of it when I'm feeling low and angsty haha) So don't fret pet x
I'm going to make myself some tea now (even though it's 12:30pm), night x)
i know this is weird but i really loved that paragraph! it's exactly how i feel. we all got our different sides and they might me triggering to other people, but sharing them is like the weight of the world falling off your shoulder, which is good !
I do think you're doing a good thing by starting to share less but I'd like you to know that your posts have made me realise that it's ok (well not ok but that it doesn't make you a bad person) to have lots of bad days and I'm thankful for that. I love you Dodie and I hope your mental health improves
Dodie you're so beautiful and kind, I love you, and so many other people love you... People who do hate you, have honestly no good reason to. Sure, you have flaws, but nobody is perfect. You don't want attention, you aren't awful at singing, you're not ugly... You want someone to understand, you are an amazing singer with your own voice and style, and you are adorable and gorgeous and you are so lovely. Please know you are worth so much more than you think, and deserve to be happy and respected. Love you Dodie, I hope I helped a little <3
I am so glad you put this up. I would watch some of your videos that would trigger things in me and I would read about your symptoms and then get anxious because I would experience something similar. I would then in turn go through episodes of depression and depersonalization. I'm not blaming my mental issues on you. I read the titles. I watched the videos. I thought depersonalization was something everyone experienced and you helped me realize something was wrong but you also kind of made me panic with how down and out you were and realize I wasn't as bad as you were maybe I was making it all up. I doubted myself. This video made me realize everyone experiences different symptoms. Thank you for helping me.
Dodie, I understand how talking about this stuff so explicitly could trigger some people, but it helps some of us as well. Of course we feel less lonely in what we're going through...but I hadn't even heard about depersonalization until you spoke about it and that really put into words how I was feeling. Because of you being so open about mental illness, I was able to realise my problems and seek help for them.
I've been there on my Facebook - I've been unfriended due to it, and unfollowed. I think its just pure desperation to feel better and be surrounded by support (probably way heightened for you because of your following!) Also, it feels so much easier to just throw something out, than to actually contact someone and ask for specific help - and yeah while its not ideal I totally understand it. Also its great to make put together videos about mental illness, but I think sometimes you need shocking truths to have impact, so I'm sure you have done some good raising awareness with it (not saying everyone should go pouring their souls out so everyone knows everything all the time, just I'm sure it did help shed some much needed light - gotta find those positives!) Don't beat yourself up though - we're all learning with this social media stuff. Move on how you want to be you, and accept the past is as it is :)
I feel 100% that your low videos have still done good Dodie!! It shows how shit you feel and how your views and the way you see the world can completely change when you have a mental illness and are going through a low, it shows the harsh reality of what a mental illness has on your brain. I hate seeing you feel so sad and I hope you don't feel like your oversharing did no good at all, you would explain and talk about how you were feeling and say it in such a way that made me, personally, not feel so alone in some of the dark thoughts I would have when going through a low. Love you so much, please don't beat yourself up ๐๐๐
As you speak about your depersonalization makes me realize that my depression includes the same sort of aspects. I did the same thing with my phone and catch myself doing that now still when I'm in a worse place. Thank you for sharing. Thank you for being a mature person and realizing the criticism of your friends is valid. Thank you for being such a true person online, both with your vaunerabilities and with your mistakes.
This is so good dodie! I watched your other video just now and read through the comments and I did agree with the vast majority. Honestly though, I've been where you are. I write online and have had annual public journals for the past three years, where I post feelings, songs and funny stuff. Although my following on those is meeeeeeeeeagre compared to yours, I have TOTALLY posted stuff when I was feeling out of whack which I have come to regret later. Agh I went through a tough time at the end of 2015 and I am going through the journal now and editing out the completely outrageous posts I made when I was feeling low; and which I still often do it without thinking. Because my keyboard is just there; it's so easy. But often, us writers can get carried away. Not necessarily exaggerate, but very intensely describe it in a place where anyone can see it. I have never been diagnosed with a serious mental disorder or illness but I have had panic attacks in the past, triggered by people mistreating others or mistreating me. And they were terrible, but I got better with time and as much as writing can be an outlet, it can often be unhealthy. My sister suggests always going on a run, or kickboxing, or even climbing a hill is fun and beneficial and healthy; and that way, instead of ending up sitting in front of a sad song or a sad caption, you feel mentally and physically better (unless your legs are chicken legs like mine and die within the first few kms of a run.) I follow you on social media and I think that the fact that you have realised you have made a mistake and stepped back from it, thought about it, learned from it, says a lot about you, dear friend. You have the humility to learn and take effective steps to ensure future success. You are a wonderful person and I always listen to you and admire you. You probably won't see this but meh. Love you buddy โค๏ธ
I'm glad you've addressed the glorifying and romanticising mental illness especially towards being creative, since that's been one of the main triggers I've had towards your oversharing as being an artist with mental illness myself. I'm so glad that you're starting to search for a healthy balance Dodie, we're all here for you when you're in a time that you're ready to know how's best talk about it for you. Love you Dodie!
Absolutely true. I love you for being so honest, self-critical, good at listening to yourself and others and you're 'life-clever'. You always want to learn about life and we all learn with you while you do. :) Even when you mess up a bit, I always feel safe in your little corner of the internet (sounds a bit weird, I know).
Dodie. We are all human and we all mess up :) it's ok. now that you've acknowledge it and apologized (the hardest step), you can breathe and move forward. that's how we learn and grow. from each other and together. <3
Those posts and snapchats helped me, I know I should say it but I related to most all of the posts. If you hadnโt brought up some of the mental health issues you had i wouldnโt have realised what my problems were. Not saying you combined me I have issues but itโs like I had a name or a label for something thatโs been in my brain for years, I have depersonalisation and if yo hadnโt shared what youโve been feeling, I wouldnโt have known why I felt the way I do and I wouldnโt have sought out professional help for it. I know itโs not meant for younger audiences but it really helped me... so thank you Dodie
You are such an inspiretion, honestly. I do understand the theme of what are you and what aren't you meant to share online, that's a journey I'm taking as well... But, I believe, if you're thinking about it you will figure out the way to go!
Dodie, I just wanna say I love you so much and I'm proud of you. You may not feel like that right now, but know, we will always love you. I will always love you. You are an amazing person and I'm proud of you, for coming to understand? I myself am 17, I still have so much to learn about the world, but you see you are also learning. We all are. And I'm proud of us, you, for keep on learning. There are no mistakes, only moments to learn from.
As someone who has struggled with anxiety and has been watching a lot of your recent posts on social media, I thought this was a super mature response to recent events and I'm really happy for you; also try not to be too hard on yourself, sharing ones life over the internet is a relatively new phenomenon and I think a lot of us are trying to understand what the appropriate boundaries are in the digital age! Bravo for finding yours :)
Dear Dodie, no matter what you want to share now on, your posts have helped me dealing with my mental health. You always seemed as a very creative and active person despite your mental health issues and sharing the dark moments showed me that one can be a beautiful, optimistic, creative person even if they feel like crap at times. Thank you so much for showing me that <3
I've always loved that you talk about your mental illness so openly. You've helped me realize I didn't have to be alone with my depression, anxiety and depersonalization when before I found you, I ignored all of my weaknesses... I completely understand how being embarrassed or regretting something you've said or done while in the pits is a thing because I've been there haha but I haven't ever thought that you were glamorizing mental illnesses. I always thought that you showed people how it is in normal everyday life when you suffer with something like you do. Maybe others saw it as glamorizing and I can see where they're coming from but that wasn't how you came off in my eyes.. I love you dodie โค I hope you find a healthy balance between all of thisโค๐๐โ
I'm glad you've taken a step back to think about these things and you seem to have done a very good job doing it (??) if that makes any sense. It kind of made me take a moment to think about the content I'm consuming while in a bad mental state and how that intersects. Looking back, I might have been a bit more affected by triggering content than I tell myself. But like, everyone is better off when we take time to consider stuff like this. And we all make mistakes. It's fine!
Dodie, if someone really wanted to get to know you they would want to know the deepest darkest places in your mind. your should not feel bad about your issuses what you should be doing is resoving them. your fans belieive in you. BTW theres lots of spelling mistakes and im way to lazy to fix them because its midnight in florida and im sleepy. goodnight!!!
It's funny how much I can relate to Dodie, in the songs she make and even in that "sharing problems".. problem.. probably she won't see this, but if she does.. I just wanna say.. thank you, you helped me a lot.
Nobody's perfect dodie, just because you're in the eye of the public doesn't change that. I'm proud you've come to this realization not just for your audience but for yourself too. We accept your mistakes and appreciate that you're human like anyone else. Lot's of love dodie! keep being you
It might have been oversharing, but I understand you felt like you needed it at the time. I do enjoy when you put a positive spin on things though, a lot of your posts have helped me a lot. I understand how it is to go off the deep end temporarily every so often because of mental illness. I'm so proud of you for this step forward in your life!! โฅ
dodie, i'm so in awe of how you were able to humbly take responsibility for some not okay actions and apologize for them in such a public way. i've never been good with apologies, even when i know i'm wrong. i hope because you were able to admit this to yourself, and to us as an audience, you can grow mentally and start to feel a bit better :)
Dodie, I'm a new fan and have been binge watching your videos to get to know you more outside of your music (WHICH I LOVE). I don't know you, but I'm just proud of you as an individual. Accountability is something lots of adults NEVER grasp, and here you are publicly pouring your soul and willing to accept when you mess up. Thank you for sharing your life with us, I'm so grateful for the music alone but I feel even more joy to watch your videos!
Personally I feel like as your audience, we are just as much to blame for your social media becoming a place where you were over sharing because we encouraged it so much. I feel like the people saying you've been glorifying mental illness are fans who've put you on a pedestal. From watching your Snapchats and reading your posts it's always been clear (to me at least) that your mental health is something you've struggled with and not an enjoyable part of your life, which is why I feel that your position as someone that people admire for so many other reasons has lead to them glorifying this aspect of you, more so than you doing it yourself. And like I said this might just be my opinion but personally I think the problem here isn't necessarily with how you've been presenting your struggles but the fact that even before you started talking about all of this you had an audience who looked up to you so when you did start talking about it people tried to use it as a way to connect with you and to an extent, in turn feel as if they were like the person they admire so much, which led to an over encouragement for you to share which ultimately lead to it becoming too much for some. I never had any issues with watching your snapchats but I think from the posters point of view, it would be better to talk to someone who you can actually open up to and create a more specific conversation in a way that you can't with such a huge audience.
taratara1312 this comment is so important, i do agree with it too. Some of us in her audience kind of encouraged the sharing, and it isnt entirely dodie's fault.
taratara1312 shit you really worded this well. this is exactly my thoughts
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Anna Smith2017-07-28 06:43:53 (edited 2017-07-28 06:49:06 )
i mean i guess?? but youve got to realize that it was toxic especially with a large part of dodies demographic being so young. i remember when i was surrounded and listened to stuff like that because i was someones friend or whatever but i feel like having a constant stream of unhealthy mental things and such things for me to listen and watch when i was younger led to having my own problems and unhealthy coping issues, and what i went through wasnt coming from someone i admired or anything. If you read up on psychology of Young teens and teens in general, you cant really blame young kids for supporting dodie and what im sure they didnt realize was an unhealthy coping mechanism, especially when so many of young fans look up to and admire her. i just think that we should be proud of dodie for acknowledging her issues and proud that she is taking steps to fix it and help herself and reach out to her friends. i dont think it correct and i dont think anyone (regardless of whether you are a fan of dodies or not) should shift blame on to impressionable kids for an unhealthy coping mechanism. like its not healthy for anyone of her fans who tried to encourage her, like her fans or audience, to feel like they contributed to it, like its no ones fault. things just happen and sometimes it's unhealthy and you learn from it and try to pick yourself up and fix it.
Yes I do agree that with this audience due to us admiring dodie - ppl have also ended up admiring her mental illness = pedestal = oversharing. And for that - to dodie. For all of us- I'm sorry
Anna Smith sorry, you're wrong. in a way, her fans did encourage it. by giving her such positive reactions to her oversharing and making her feel like what she was doing was good, it made dodie believe that. though it wasn't intentional
I didn't mean to make it seem as though I was shifting the blame onto anyone, more so trying to say that the blame doesn't rest solely with dodie. I understand that some of dodie's audience is a bit younger than I am and everyone responds to hearing about struggling with mental illness in different ways. But just like you say we shouldn't place blame on a young impressionable audience because its no ones fault, my point is that it is no ONE person's fault. This isn't solely dodie's fault. Dodie was going through some stuff and started to talk about it and yes for many people it may have been too graphic or too much or whatever, but I think that the reason it ended up becoming so confronting for some people is because so many people encouraged her to keep talking about it and wanted to hear her talk about it, which is what lead to the oversharing.
I know this is a bit late now, but I just wanted to say: thank you for your apology. I think that we (at the very least most of us) were mostly sharing concerns due to a concern for you and a concern for our own mental states, not out of any desire to attack you. I personally wouldn't have been as concerned until I heard that Hazel and Zannah were also concerned because they're your friends and obviously thus know you better than I do.
I think you're so right that sharing mental health is so important, but it's also important to not post to a large audience like you have when you're at your very worst state. I think (and I could be wrong) that it's better to wait a little while to post it and see if you still think it's worth it. (Maybe even try the app Later which lets you pre-write Instagram posts?)
I also had this struggle but on a much smaller scale (because I have a much smaller audience) about how much to share of my mental health and how much would help people versus how much was me choosing this outlet instead of one that would help me more.
In any case, sending you so much love! Please never feel like you can't give us updates and talk to us honestly or be your beautiful, emotional self xx
Dodie, i think it is very important for me to share my experience with being subscribed to you and to make you realize that while many people might be right with what they criticize you for, some are clearly over reacting. I used to be an active member of the phandom twitter community back in 204/15 and that's also when I first heard about you. I thought you were so nice and lovable and just in general a very kind person. And you still are. But back then a movement started forming in stan twitter that kinda meant it was 'cool' to downgrade overly emotional people on youtube, for example emma blackery and others from that friendship group. I always sat back and just observed cause I don't like 'hating' on someone I don't know personally. I don't like hating on anyone at all but that's a different story. What I'm trying to say with all of this is that yes, you should be listening to your audience and yes, it's necessary to record videos like this one where you apologize but if the response isn't 100% positive then that's not because people hate you or the things you've done but most people that say negative stuff are the ones that do it without thinking. I realize I'm rambling right now and I'm not sure if I managed to bring my point across but basically all I really wanted to say is that you're doing great and that the people who are able to give constructive criticism and who are free from having a judgmental personality will know that you are a good person (who might made a mistake or two but hey, we've all made mistakes, maybe more, maybe less than you). Hang in there, don't let the negativity get to you. I believe in the good in you and so do so many more people who truly care about you and your happiness. I don't know if you'll read this but I still felt it was necessary to share my view on it. (I'm also sorry if some parts didn't make sense cause english isn't my first language). Love u, Fran xx
dodie i love you so much and i completely understand everything youve said. i hope these realizations dont stop you from sharing at all. i agree that you shouldnt post in your lowest moments but remember what hazel said, and share when youre about midway. when you can describe how youre feeling but be able to control how the post goes. i also would love for you to start reaching for your phone when youre in your happiest moments. it seems like you only step back and asses the moment when youre feeling bad, but you should instead be able to recognize the good times, and think to post then instead of the bad times. and also, dont be defined by your mental health. youve made yourself to be the mentally unhealthy girl online, but you are so much more than that, so dont forget to express that. dont constantly remind yourself and everyone else how bad it is, but dont be afraid to remind us of how bad it can be. and try not to creativity to madness. it makes it seem desirable and cute. only a creative person can make something beautiful out of madness. a mad person doesnt automatically become creative. make sure you make that clear. i love you dodie. i really wish i could be there for one of those low moments, to help you back up. you have no idea.
Dodie please don't be embarrassed! I know it is easy to post on Instagram your feelings but it hadn't become right and i am proud of you that you have realised that, you have stopped doing that because you are no longer thinking about how this helps you and is a good effect on you but you are now thinking about your audience. I know when you're at your lowest state it's easy to just think about yourself and how it's never going to get better but you've come out this bubble and are turning it into something positive that you can work on. Thank you for everything I love you so much and I'm very excited to see you in newcastle on the 20th of October!!!!!
You are wonderful and strong and I admire you so much for listening to (sometimes harsh) criticism and then processing it and learning from it. You are so brave. And I know it must've been en must be very hard and it is very easy, or at least easier to be defensive and protect yourself or isolate yourself or not look at the comments. I'm not sure if I would've been able to be so strong and mature and wonderful like you have been. Please don't beat yourself up over past events. Don't blame yourself. Don't take this criticism and the honesty of other people as criticism on you as a being. You did some things that you could've done differently and now you're learning from it - which is good. But you did those things with good intentions. You did it to cope and you were very brave and very open and very wonderful. Please don't ever tell yourself that you are a bad person. I've read some awful comments and I want you to know that you are not a bad person. You are amazing. Don't stop talking about how you're feeling (it's okay to be a little more selective with what you put out on the internet, but it's okay to say you're not doing well). Don't lie. Don't pretend to be fine or okay. Please accept help and love from those who surround you. Ask for help when you need it. Don't stop sharing. Dealing with mental health is such a lonely road. Don't walk it alone. Please. We care about you. Even if we're just names on a screen, let it be valuable. We are here.
i'm really proud of you dodie for doing this. the thing is, you did kinda make mental illness your brand, and you did glorify mental illness. friends around me started watching your videos and decided they were going to be sad too!!!!! but i'm glad you've accepted you were doing the right thing and it's very mature. i hope we can all fix ourselves.
Dodie I love you and I was apart of the group who had to step back for a bit. I would watch your videos and start questioning myself and my mental state. I would take everything you said to heart and I would want to help you, but I would worry about myself. After watching many of your videos I realized it wasn't healthy for me to watch your More in depth videos due to them causing me to question myself. I would watch them and think that what you were saying described me. I felt as if every word that left your mouth described how I was feeling. Some of what you said did describe what I felt but a lot of what you said didn't. I would convince myself that I was feeling that way. It causes me to think poorly of myself. I started thinking I wasn't good enough and that your videos were the only thing I could relate to. After about a month of this I realized it was wrong. I stepped back and stopped watching. I unfollowed you on all social media with the fear that you would post something very deep about yourself. I have so much respect for you and I do really hope you stop posting your diary online. Please don't think I think less of you cause' I don't. I think very highly of you and what you do. I think that this was so amazing. You are being so responsible for recognizing what you did. It's amazing you have understood that you have such a young impressionable audience. I hope you feel better.
This was a very adult decision and I'm really proud of you Dodie. I'm so happy that as a 16 year old, I have a role model like you. Please give yourself credit because you honestly changed my life for the better.
i love u and i support u and i forgive u! sending best wishes your way. super happy that you addressed this and handled it in such a mature way, you're so brave and i hope u never stop fighting this illness โจ
Oh gosh, I think Iโm doing kind of the same thing, except itโs with my friends
I think I tend to rely on my friends when Iโm anxious and ESPECIALLY when Iโm spaced out (I have sort of the same problem as Dodie) and rely on them to ground me. I do that all of the time, and I think Iโve merged my private thoughts with my vents to friends. Thanks Dodie for opening my eyes, Iโm gonna try to build better boundaries and be more reliant on other things
Dodie, I think you're a good person. Yeah we all share too much sometimes, but you've stepped back and realized it. You have good intentions, and it shows through. Love you and hope you get through this fast because you're strong <3
(from description) 'and thousands of people who will drink it up instantly' you are almost speaking in intertwined lyrics which which is revealing of how this has made you feel, dodie.
we all know that you were doing what you felt was right. you're self aware now, and that's such a breakthrough. we love you. we love you we love you we love you. we love you.
I respect this video so so much. I respect your opinions so so much. I respect you so so much. You do what you believe will make it better, and I will be happy. I love you, Dodie <3
We all make mistakes. The most important thing is to learn from them. It is wonderful to see you grow as a person, I hope all the best to you in future. You are an amazing and genuine person, keep up growing! ๐
Oh my gawd. This honestly could've been my video, if I made any. I am so terrible at not sharing all these awful feelings and complex thoughts with everyone around me and I can guarantee that if I started vlogging, many of my videos would just be about how shit I'm feeling. I just don't know how to put up healthy boundaries, you know. But I'm learning, and you're learning, and we all are. I think it takes a lot of guts to apologize like this, I know how hard it feels to be ashamed and/or embarrassed of a mistake you've made, and knowing the fact that you may have hurt people. But its okay <3 you're a good person dodie, and your videos make me very happy and relax me when I'm feeling really shit. So, thanks.
I'm really proud of you Dodie, I think you handled this (this meaning the realization of the problem and apologizing) really well. I don't have snapchat and tend to not read super long instaposts, so when I watched your last video I wasn't sure how to feel, because your videos on mental health on YouTube are so important to me, and have helped me a lot, and I'm so passionate about breaking the stigma surrounding mental illness, but I guess there's a fine line between breaking the stigma and romanticizing it.
As for moving on to your fifth therapist, don't give up! I've had seven shit therapists/bad matches until I had a good one, and now I'm on number nine, and she's the best one I've ever had. I had so little faith left in therapy but now I'm SO GLAD I didn't give up. Therapy has become such a source of stability for me and when I feel weak and unstable the prospect of being able to talk to my therapist about it helps me hold on until the next session. Therapy is a bit of a lottery and it's all about matching, but when you do find a good match, it is SO worth it and it can truly become a safe space. Best of luck with number five, I hope they'll be your number nine. :)
We love you Dodie, and everyone makes a mistake. You are going through things, and it's not uncommon to make some mistakes like that. You were trying to make yourself feel better, and you forgot to think about what all of that really meant. You will do better, we are not mad, we are not upset. People just want to help you. Again, we love you and forgive you and we are not mad.
Dodie, I think that you have handled this situation very well and really maturely. I do agree with you saying that you have overshared and that you do not want your mental illness to become part of your "brand". However, like you also stated, talking about mental illness and trying to get rid of the stigma around it is very important and I think it is great that you do talk about it and I hope that you will continue to discuss it, but on your higher days where you feel leveled and in control enough to talk about it in a way that will not be triggering. Thank you Dodie for being such a kind, emotional, and amazing person to all of us. We love you.
Mental health is so important... I've learned the hard way. This needed to be recognised, and you've built upon it sooo well. I recently commented on ur am I oversharing too much, I'll admit it was quite harsh, but truthful. Well done dodie, you've come so far and ur symptom remains but is maintained. We r all so proud of you, and now I feel like I can without a pretentious caution fan girl over your social media; with no hesitation! Really proud of you and keep up the good work!!
I love the thought of going outside and meditating but British summer finished about 3 weeks ago and it's raining now, I'll just have to stick to the cup of tea thank you :D
Sophie Arneill2017-07-28 23:44:25 (edited 2017-07-28 23:45:25 )
Awee dodie. Personally you posting this stuff has helped me as i was in the same place it made me feel like i wasent alone on my journey to getting better. And I never have let mental illness define you. When i think of dodie i think of talent. There are some shitty comments and i know they can be rough. This is a good lesson of boundaries and as always, know you have so much people who support and love you. ๐ป๐โ๏ธ๐บ
If it makes you feel any better, reading and listening to you talk really has helped me release some stigma i've had with my own mental health. it's helped me be able to feel better because i'm really new to anxiety and depression and maybe even depersonalizations and it made me feel less alone. it's not best for everyone but you helped at least one person
I've been thinking about this, since your last video. If sharing helps you that's good. Don't be embarrassed. I'm possibly twice your age, but I have anxiety and depression too. I share very little with my friends about it. I admit to feeling bad if the conversation comes up, but it's easier to make how I feel make coherent sense, when the lowest part has passed because I can think clearer about what I want to share with them and what I feel safer keeping to myself. My friends and family are a massive part of my life, but I don't want to me asked "How is your mental health? every time I see them because then I start to think Oh God How is my mental health? I forgot to check today. The way I look at it now is yes I will have really bad days, but rest and kindness to myself, as I would treat someone else in the same situation helps. If recording helps you do it. Trust that you don't need to upload it until you are through to the other (clearer) side of it, and then decide if it would help to upload. When you feel well, happy, write those notes down too. What made you giggle, smile, feel even a tiny bit good and have those on your wall like a positive mood board for when you feel bad. You will recognise your own handwriting so will trust that you do enjoy, like, love the lists, and you just have to wait, and breathe and wait and breathe and eventually things will look, feel and be more manageable. Trust that you have so many virtual supporters, but even more important people who will sit with you, until things become more manageable. You do not have to tackle 24 hours at a time, you just can take one breath at a time. X
I LOVE YOU, gosh thank you for inciting the most genuine and beautiful feelings in my heart. It just feels like breathing. I wrote the longest comment to your "oversharing video" acting like a know-it-all fucking ass. I worked on it for hours, cause I can't speak english very well, I sent my comment and somehow felt immediatly bad about it. So I went through your old content, honestly looking for some evidences that I did good. What I saw was just you being eloquent and incredibly clever ( no surprise at this pont) but then: BOOM I learned about the abusive relationship you've been through. I went back to my comment and deleted it, thinking : "You don't have lessons to give her, she's the one who can teach you what it needs to be strong". Then, here you are AGAIN, being mature and so wise! I'm sorry too, take care of you :)
I need to find a way to climb through the screen and hug you, Dodie. You are amazing, we love you and mental health is important. Your mental health is in your control and don't stress if you are oversharing too much because you will find you're not alone. I luv you.
I never felt like you shared too much but I also am 23 years old and relatively neurotypical so that probably explains why lol. I'm very proud of you for being so honest and self aware and happy that you have friends who are honest with you like in your last video. I hope this new therapist works out and that you're able to comfortably find the line you're looking for ๐ much love and support ๐คโค๏ธ
I've struggled with mental illness before and it's so easy to go straight to social media, and I couldn't agree more with what you say in this video โบ๏ธ one thing I did use and do still on the odd occasion is have a private twitter account in which I don't accept followers on I tweet my own thoughts good and bad just so it feels as though it's out there and gone, although no one will actually see it, hope this helps anyone in a low place xx
As someone who also suffers with depression, anxiety, and chronic migraines that suck literally all physical energy from me.. I want to tell you that your videos do help me. The happy and the sad ones. We're all learning and we all make mistakes... we're still SO young and we're learning. Your videos have motivated me to get a therapist. But just because many of us can relate to those videos, that doesn't mean you have to be pressured to keep making them. I love you with all my heart and soul.. and we all want you to get better. So go to therapy, drink your tea, post when you feel like.. go live your life and then share with us what you want to share ..
ok now I'm going to drink some tea too because that sounds amazing right now and I need it <3
Nicky Xoxo ^^^^ this comment !!! โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ I agree! Me too!
I have Asperger's Syndrome/Autistic Spectrum Disorder which means that I feel very intense, distant, like I don't fit in to this world, and like I'm an alien.
There are times when (I'm lying. It's permanent) I have genuinely completely persuaded myself that I'm not human, not from this planet, and don't deserve any of the people or things on this planet. Depression has been extremely bad since age 7, and anxiety as well.
Watching Dodie's videos and hearing her speak is so comforting and it 'gets' through to me when not everything does. I feel connected with her, like she is my/our big sister, who we can talk to and listen to. (Not trying to make anything about myself - but I want to show that Dodie is not alone, and that some of us with all our different feelings, can be really helped by her!)
Her videos - happy AND sad, keep me going and are comforting. bUT It is definitely a good and strong decision to take a break from it, and I'm proud of her for making that decision.
We should all sit back and make tea! Because we all deserve something nice โค๏ธ
Nicky Xoxo as someone who doesn't have any extreme metal illnesses like depression or depersonalisation, I actually find your videos super interesting. I know people who have the same sort of things and it's hard for them to open up and how in depth you go it can help me understand these sorts of things better and can help other people understand these that don't have depression or anxiety etc. However I think there's always a cut of point of how in depth you can go because your brain is always in a different state when you're in your lowest and highest moments. (Also glad that you now know the depths you can go into) โค๏ธโค๏ธ
Sophie Lambros My brother is also on the autism spectrum, so I understand how difficult it can be :( but the fact that you can write all of his shows how self aware you are of your feelings which I think is amazing progress... you're a complete stranger but I LOVE YOU!! I truly hope you have an amazing life โค๏ธ
Dodie you made one mistake, We all love you and care for you SO Itโs just one little mistake I have done so many stupid things, and I love how you had discovered your mistake and solved them. I love you dodie
You should totally get a therapist! I used to have migraines too (idk with what frequency you have them but I used to have them once a month) As soon as I started therapy, they stopped. At worst, I have one once a year, and it's waaaay less intense. So yeah, keep fighting!
Dodie it's alright if you post it I will always support you in anything your post have helped me to understand how people like you with mental illnesses like my friends and it helps me say hey this is what you need to do you have been so good love you ;)
long heartfelt comment alert Dodie I LOVE the conclusions you've come to as a result of all this. Everyone has already said how much we are proud of you and how admirable it is that you've been so honest in apologising, i love that too- so much! But I just wanted to say how amazingly you seem to have dealt with it, you appear to be taking it to heart but in a GOOD way, as in taking it seriously and wanting to make a difference, not as in taking it to heart and letting it push you down. I love you for that. You can get through this! <3 Also, I found it really interesting that you said you'd be "cutting ties with it being integrated with you" (5:05). Because that's how I've had to think about some of my mental health stuff too! I met you after one of your gigs and specifically thanked you for your video about cutting ties with people. (At Shepherds bush hall gig in the intertwined EP tour a few days after the cutting ties video.) Naturally you thought I'd recently had a break up or something but I said "no, I was relating it to my mental health". We didn't chat any more about it because other people wanted to meet you but basically: I found your advice about how to put a person out of your life in a healthy way fitted perfectly with what I needed to be reminded about (from CBT therapy and talking to other people I trust) for letting go of the control my body-focused-repetitive-behaviour-disorder(s) has over me, even to the extent that I wrote it letters, before you then suggested doing that in your vid! Not sure where I'm going with this. I guess just to share experiences and say that you've encouraged me in dealing with some of my stuff, and I love love LOVE that you're seeking healthy ways to deal with yours. And I hope and pray that you find the therapist who's right for you, because i know that can make a MASSIVE difference. I feel like there was another point I was going to make, maybe someone else will pick it up >.< anyway, love you dodie, thank you for this video xx
Dodie I love you! We love you! Everyone makes mistake I wish my words would help But I'm horrible at expressing myself through words If I was there by you though I would hug you Have a nice day! <3
Thank you for this video. I like you, struggle with working out exactly what is and isn't appropriate to share with who in terms of my mental health. On an opposite end of the critism you have been recieving I loved your stories but did pull away simply because I felt as though it wasn't for me to see. Your story would feel like a conversation I would have with a close friend while we cuddle up and share a drink at 4am in a crisis. It would feel like something for you to talk through with Hazel or Dan, not me someone you have never met but said hi through a camera to on the santa monica pier. You're beautiful, You are loved and I hope you're well.
don't be so hard on yourself, you are a human ! we all do it, you just happen to have a bigger audience watching! your mistakes do not define you! I love you dodie, you've done so much good for me and so many others! this video was very brave, I love you! take care of yourself
I'm proud of you. This is very brave. All I want is for you to be happy. That's what I found most upsetting about the things you shared. It's frustrating to see you struggling when I can help. But don't be too hard on yourself. We love you and hate to see like this
Dodie, we love you. We want to help you. I am happy you feel like you can share with us. And we forgive you! We love love love love you!! (Also where did you get ur shirt)
Dodie you are my inspiration you are the only thing that can make me happy right now. I love you so much SOO MUCH. I don't know what I would do without you and all your fans. Everyone in your fan base and you have helped me with my mental illness. And I am forever grateful so I just want to say I love you and everyone else. Thank you.
And I know you won't read this but if there is a slight chance you do I want you to know that. And now I'm crying because I've never opened up about my mental illness Ahhhhh help I don't know what I've done. If anyone needs someone to talk to I'm here๐๐๐now I'm crying because dodies crying so many emotions ahhh๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ
I really liked the videos you made with Tessa on the subject of mental health - I think she has this way of being really honest about it but also really tactful and helpful, and when you're with her you do the same. Though i do think your other videos are helpful as well, and I like watching them as a way to learn more about mental illness.
It's a month later, and I've finally decided to respond to this because a favorite photographer of mine shared something today on a similar topic of oversharing that I thought you should see: https://instagram.com/p/BYM1ZxknzAw/
I was sad to see that there were people who felt that you WERE oversharing, since I always felt like you were sharing the right things and right when some of us needed to hear them. It felt good to follow along with what you were doing and how you were feeling. If you've now decided that sharing a lot isn't always the answer, that's okay. It's up to you to decide when and what to share. Like Wyn says in his post, let's just be there for each other - whether we're in our most vulnerable times or at our highest points.
I wanna say two things: Firstly I think you are being too hard on yourself. You didn't meant to hurt anyone nor did you had any bad intentions. Apologising is okay because you (feel like you) made a mistake, but please try not to eat yourself too much over this (just woke up I hope that is an actual term and I didn't just translate a German term in my head without realising). Secondly, I am happy you found a way that make you feel more comfortable and I hope it'll work out for you. love, Jule
I'm really glad you made this video dodie, an apology was definitely needed. Butย I really hope that everyone can move on now for the better - including yourself of course - and that I can enjoy your videos again :) (not that I don't already, I've just been avoiding most of them for quite a while because of the reasons you talked about)
Part of me wants to really commend you tho, for showing what REAL mental illness can look like. Your points that it can be seen as glorifying mental illness and it not wanting to be your brand is so valid. There is a healthy way to talk about it but also- it was real. It was really how you felt and showed the tools you had in the moment to deal with it. I hope you get more and better tools in the future. But also thank you for sharing your experience with it. I related a lot and haven't stopped watching and look forward to what you make moving onward. ๐ฝ๐
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Anna Woods2017-07-28 00:33:47 (edited 2017-07-28 00:34:16 )
Sweetie please don't feel embarrassed. You've come to an internal acknowledgment of what's ok to share and what's not, and THAT IS SO GREAT!!! YES!! GOOD!!! Just remember that we enjoy your vulnerable side because it makes you seem like a friend to us all, but ALSO you have the right to keep your feelings to yourself when you need to:)) love u xx
hey, dodie. i really love you, and i love that you talk about mental health. i don't want to be mean, but i did stop watching your snapchats and videos for a while because i found them super upsetting and made me feel shit because they were a bit too real. i think you taking a step back will make you feel a bit better, and i hope things start to get a bit better x
Dodie, you are not glorifying mental illnesses, you're just spilling your thoughts. If it helps you, then talk about your feelings; it helps me too. It's important to talk about what's on your mind because bottling it up makes it much worse. You are much more than your mental illness, and you shouldn't have to worry about it becoming your brand. It is also important for people to love you despite imperfections, and you haven't been ashamed of publicizing them before. You raised awareness of things that were so "taboo" to talk about, that they were basically unknown. Everything that you've done is more than I could ever ask for, and I respect you on your choice to share a little less, but just know that there are people who have grown and felt more understood from your content. Lots of loveโค๏ธ๐๐๐๐
Dodie, this was such a brave video to make. More so even than any of your videos about mental health, or your oversharing video, in my opinion. It is so incredibly hard to own up to, and /especially/ to take responsibility for, having made a mistake. Doubly so because of just how public this is. I am so impressed by the dignity and grace that you have handled this with, and as always for being so honest. Your openness and honesty are a huge part of what I love and respect about you as a musician and youtube creator. I can't speak for anyone else, but I just want you to know that everything you've shared online regarding your mental health, and how open you've been about your struggles with it have, for me at least, not been too much or hurtful or anything like that. You say that letting yourself vent online gave you an outlet, made you feel less alone. For the record, it made me feel less alone too. It made being stuck in a brain you can't control, with thoughts and emotions that are completely overwhelming, a little less terrifying. A little more manageable. So, while I completely respect that you feel that you have crossed a line and that you feel that the level of personal sharing that you have been doing has done more harm than good, for you and others, it is just so important to me that you know that it hasn't been all bad. In fact, for me, it's done more good than I'm sure you will ever know. I sincerely hope that you find a safe and productive outlet for everything you're going through and dealing with. I know struggling with mental illness is hard. It's fucking exhausting, and feels utterly impossible half the time. But for the record? You're really, truly not alone. I love and admire you so, /so/ much. Thank you for everything you do for your audience, the beautiful music that you make, and all of the hope and light you spread. <3
I'm relly glad you realized this. It's a mature step to take. Something that's helped me is have a journal with a friend. You can spill your worst to someone you trust but it doesn't result in direct confrontation from that friend if you don't want to.
I just wanted to say, that I really appreciated you publicly sharing your mental health. It was nice to know that I wasn't alone, and my feelings weren't made up (as I sometimes convince myself they are). It was form of validation to me. Now, I don't want you to feel bad and change your decision just because me and a few other people say we were ok with you sharing, I just wanted to let you know that your good intentions were still good to me (and those few other people). I wish there was a way to continue to see those videos and Instagrams that you would've posted, but still keep it separate from your social media platforms. Obviously this isn't gonna happen, but I wish it could. Anyways, we love you. Keep doing what you're doing, you're on the right track. ๐๐๐
(If you're reading this and agree with me, like so dodie can see.)(If you're dodie reading this, ilysm and I hope you know that.) :)
make the videos. film them, edit them, dont post them. I've heard that just talking to a camera helps. so film them, but keep them for yourself its like writing in a journal
Yeah, I did have to step away from some of your posts, but they also really help me. And now that you've realized you're over sharing, and learned from it, that's really helpful for me too as well as some of the younger impressionable audience members to see that there is a line for social media that we need to be aware of. So thanks dodie, there were some lessons I got out of this, but I'm sorry you had to experience it . Ily
Dear Dodie, All of your videos, the deep and sad and the light and happy, have made me throughly enjoy you as a person. You have made me understand that no one is perfect and I shouldnโt try to be. In the past, I have suffered from anxiety and depression. From a traumatic experience with one of my classmates, I had this crippling fear that anyone that I trusted would eventually stab me in the back and humiliate me. This made me isolate myself from my friends and believe that there was something wrong with me. I believed that I wasnโt beautiful because I didnโt wear the right clothes or had a naturally pretty face. It had gotten to the point where I would have a breakdown every time I left my house without make up and stylish clothes. In my pit of darkness, I discovered your channel on YouTube. Your videos that discussed the importance of natural beauty and the troubles of mental illness have truly made myself be confident again. Because of you, I reconnected with my friends and got out of an unhealthy relationship. Although you have been oversharing lately, you will always be my light at the end of the tunnel. Always know that I will love you and your channels because of the messages that you talk about in your videos and that you truly care about your audience. With Love, Makayla โค๏ธ
Dodie I really appreciate the lengths you are going to to address this. Not everyone has the same opinion but I think we can all very much appreciate the clarification and to see that you can talk to someone that will talk back and give answers to you in real time makes me so happy for you. Remember that you are loved by so many people, close friends, family, and us. โคโคโค
And one more thing, it's human to make mistakes and most people would not have apologized as much as you did, which is not a bad thing. Personally I Thank you for sharing and for you thoughts as they have helped me personally but I can see the other side of the spectrum. Making mistakes are a part of life and as long as you can recognize them and act upon them then that means you are just gaining experience and more insight into humanity itself. So anyways just.... Thank you for handling everything the way that you have even though it might not have been easy. Keep at your journaling and diary entrees because it makes a world of difference sometimes. โค
Dodie when you share things, it's honest. That's good. That's nothing to be ashamed of. Sure, it's good to understand that what you put online is always there, but it's great that you're reaching out to other people. It's good to realize you're not alone when things are bad, for the audience and you. Never be ashamed of what you're feeling. Thank you for making us not feel alone, dodie.
This video shows your audience just how much you care about yourself, and it makes me so happy that you are trying to fix this and that you are mature enough to know to get help. This made me very happy, and I hope you are very happy (permanently) very soon
I think I'm going to write pieces for a book when I'm going through a depressive episode and having a panic attack, because maybe that might help? I don't know. But thank you Dodie for making this video and talking about boundaries and mental illness and the importance of filtered sharing. Thank you so much
I don't think you've done anything really bad, it was a simple mistake and it's good you are overcoming it. I remember sometimes watching your Snapchats would make me feel less isolated and other times, it would make me realise my own falling demise. I loved the video dodie, and I can't wait to see you on tour x
I'm proud of you for realizing the ways you coped were toxic not just to yourself but to other people.I'm proud you've found ways to healthily recover and cope
I don't think you messed up! It really helped me seeing it isn't just me that's like that. I really recommend "the subtle art of not giving a f*ck". It's an amazing book I'm reading right now! Please check it out
Dodie, as someone who is 21 and has struggled with mental illness for years, thank you for sharing both your inner workings, and for these videos/this video where you talk about boundaries and what is appropriate to share. my sense of what is healthy and normal to feel and share is very very skewed and while this is painful for you I am proud of you for growing and thankful you let us see this process because it is helpful for me to hear the perspective of someone I admire as much as you who struggles with similar things and I sincerely hope you continue to grow and get better.
Dodie, your mindset convinced you that sharing these feelings and catching them in the moment was good for you and others. You were not going into this knowing that these graphic descriptions of depression and depersonalization were too much for some viewers. I personally really like watching you in the moment, but to an extent. I think I like watching videos about this (mainly from you) because I do not have a mental illness that is diagnosed, so I like learning about how people are dealing with it and how to be there for people who are suffering. Even though I cannot speak from experience considering I have never suffered from depression/depersonalization, I do have an overwhelming amount of thoughts and it's nice to get inside someone else's head for a little bit to distract yourself from...well ultimately yourself. Even if the mind your distracting yourself, with doesn't necessarily have nice thoughts. after all this, I was just trying to say that you have nothing to be embarrassed about. I actually did turn off my laptop and my phone, and drank some tea and went outside after watching this video and it felt nice. Lots of love to you Dodie.
Dodie, honey, I really like you and your content. I think that your "brand" has more good things to it then bad. This video is very intelligent and self-woke, which is great! What I'm trying to say is don't be too hard on yourself, please โค๏ธ๐ be safe
I think that it's best to talk about mental health after your experiences. Yes I know that mental illness is ongoing and it's always there but it's nicer to look back on how you once were compared to how you are now - once you're better.
It's really brave what you're doing. There are no guidelines on how you should handle this and it's normal to make some mistakes. I hope you still share the slightly less detailed stuff as they've definitely helped me along my path of mental health (and the lack of it). I think that I may have been oversharing as well and even though people come to me to say how much they appreciate my blog posts about depression and anxiety, it's kinda hitting me how everyone can read them. My parents, my old teachers, ... and even though it's important to be transparent about some subjects for awareness, there are boundaries I guess. I know that now and you were a part of that realisation with your oversharing video. So thanks for that and still thanks for sharing.
dodie, this is one of the first things of yours that i've been able to look at in a while. i am so sorry that it's hurting you so bad but please don't feel bad, we all make mistakes. and your judgement is completely impaired by mental illness. you were not in a mindset where you could logically think about what you were posting or realize the other side of effects it may have. so don't apologize. i know you feel like you need to, so trust me when i say we all forgive you. i'm glad to be able to start watching you again because i truly look up to you so so much. as a 16 year old girl, you've been a role model of mine ever since i subscribed 800K subscribers ago:) i will always support you and pray that things get better for you. just keep breathing and being the dodie we all love and adore. best wishes xoxo.
Oh dodie youtube is a place where you can share anything. I know that I dont care i watch these videos and read those posts because i love you. I love the message you put out and the attitude you have. Don't worry ๐๐
I just wanted to let you know that personally your posts haven't triggered me and I didn't find them glorifying. However I've never been easily triggered, so really your posts have been helping me a lot and I don't feel so alone now. Love u dodie you're being a good adult xoxo
You shouldn't be embarrassed, you're human. Especially when in a hard place it's easy to give into social media as a way to cope. I'm glad you've learned something from this but I have too, it's okay to share and I've had problems with that in the past but I've learned that it's okay to keep some of the bad things out of the public eye just not everything
Dodie, no matter what mistakes you've made in the past, you should be so so proud of yourself for addressing this problem and realizing you needed to fix it. This video and the one you made with Hazel are the best thing you could've done in this situation and I'm quite proud of you for that. It's very easy to get caught up in all your emotions or perhaps lack of emotions and let it all out. It may seem cathartic in the moment, but you've realized that it's not healthy in the long run and your life is going to be greater bc of that realization. Thank you dodie for all you do๐
I'm glad that you're discussing this because the overstating was affecting me in a negative way and I didn't want to have to unfollow your snapchat and insta
I hope you'll feel better dodie. ur such a wonderful human being. ur my inspiration and ur important to me. no pressure. just be yourself and idk... don't do anything you feel bad with
I understand how some are saying these posts are "triggering" and how it's difficult for them to read it. But I don't understand, no matter how in depth and personal and deep your posts get I still manage to read them and they have all helped me through so much and helped me discover myself and understand some of the emotions I feel and why I feel them and just get a better understanding of how other people feel, even though your posts help me they also help me help others as if I see someone that is showing similar "symptoms" or acting similarly then I may know how to help them and understand and care for them better. I feel that you can post whatever you want on the internet and you have freedom of speech. It's others people's decision to read and respond to these posts. Some people may only like to read posts where you're at a high point, others maybe prefer the personal ones where you're on your low point and some, like myself, are honestly happy with anything you want to post and share as it helps me and as you say, it helps you greatly too. So please, keep this all in mind. Thank you dodie for everything you have helped me with, and I'm glad by helping me you've been able to help yourself tooโค๏ธ I just wanted to get my opinion across
dodie, you are seriously so so strong and brave and it took a lot to be able to come out and publicly admit this, and apologise. you did the right thing for yourself and your viewers, and you should be proud of that. you are doing good dodie.
I;m super impressed you made this video and I'm really excited to see what is coming next because if you do stick to what you're saying then I know I'll be here at lot more than I have in recent months because I wont be scared I'm going to walk in on something that will potentially cause me to relapse
Aw dodie... don't be sorry for doing something that secures you mentally. Most of us are trying to understand how hard it is and WE KNOW that this is terrible, and WE KNOW this is hard for you... and you shouldn't be sorry for that. I think you can always fall back into your audience and let us catch you, and that's what you've been doing. I think that it's great that you now understand that your audience will gradually loose their strength and occasionally drop you when you need it most.
I really, really hope you know (you probably do) that your audience is THE MOST utterly beautiful society I've been in. This community is amazing, the comment section on every video is so positive and refreshing, unlike many other comment sections on YouTube which are polluted with hatred. I believe that this society will help you push through, and we will try our best to catch you every time.
Now that you understand that we do loose our footing as well, it's... just wonderful.
I love you dodie, we all do. You've grown and matured into this stunning person. I really do hope that your depersonalisation leaves you alone and you can recover quickly.
But for now, we'll keep trying our best to catch you. So don't worry.
I have DPD (depersonalization disorder) as well. In fact, I knew it was a thing and something to talk to my therapist and psychiatrist about. So thank you for bringing it up to a certain extent. At the same time, it does become almost triggering. But also, I love it. It is something for me to connect with. For me, I frequently would post on snapchat or my finsta all about my stuff and my mental issues. However, I created really scared friends and people thinking I'm crazy. I learned boundaries by getting rid of everything, and slowly allowing it back. I deleted facebook, instagram, twitter, and snapchat from my phone. I didn't let myself go on. So now (as of like 2 weeks ago, lol), I can have some of it, but I am not addicted to using it as a cry for help or a distraction
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Liv Blythe2017-07-30 08:52:09 (edited 2017-07-30 08:53:27 )
dodie, i have always wished i could help you and understand your feelings, but the truth is that i don't because i just haven't experienced this sort of mental illness (which is good i guess :) ). however, i think i speak for all your followers to say that we love you because you are so down to earth and real, no flashy lights, no filters, we know it's the real you and your amazing musical talent. therefore, although you may have been oversharing and it's great that you have been able to see that and do something about it, know that we all support you and are watching your videos because we really get you :) thank you for being such an amazing person, especially with all the shit you have been going through. :)))
Dodie I think you're response and apology were done beautifully, but I beg you not to be so hard on yourself. It's difficult to think straight when you're at your lowest. You're an amazing role model for so many and never forget that. We all love you so much.
oh dodie dear! please do not apologize to all of us! we are here for you, we understand.. you shouldn't be embarrassed for sharing how you feel. I know how you feel and I know that isn't much because I'm just me, and you don't know me. but I've always related to all you post. I fully accept and understand your decision. I hope you are doing well on this fine day. we love you, I love you dodie. you're my biggest inspiration!
I just want to say that it is okay to make a mistake and it's very big of you to acknowledge what's been going on. I really love what you do and I think the best thing you can do is to take your own advice that you give out more often. Anytime I'm feeling low I watch your ASMR video to remind myself that I am appreciated. Love you Dodie, please take care of yourself. You shouldn't feel pressured to pump out content either. We will still be here even if you take a break to breathe.
hey hey just because people feel that they have to step away from your videos doesnt inherently mean youre doing anything terrible! thats their choice and its good that they can make it, and thats exactly why your content doesnt always have to be comfortable for others. its good to do this self reflection and think of the impressionability of your audience and how they perceive and its effect on you but maybe dont be too quick to label your honesty as dangerous when there is also a dangerous lack of honesty in the world. there are good and bad sides to everything. maybe adding trigger warnings to things is a good way to level the playing field and highlight the significance of exposing some of the horrors of mental illness. either way, i hope you strike a comfortable and mutually healthy balance <3
I'm so happy, that you did this video in order to apologise and point out the risk of sharing such intimate and triggering things via social media. I was a little concerned myself because i had a friend to, who struggled with mental health issues and I really understand what it feels like to worry. Worrying about someone's mental state, worrying all the time. And although you don't know many of your followers personally, there will always be a close relationship between you and them. therefore it can be very dangerous to keep them worrying about you though they can't always help you. I loved how you said that your mental health problems won't be your brand because you are so much more than that. <3
I feel this- I overshare so much to my boyfriend, especially about suicidal thoughts and self harm, and I worry constantly that it will affect him. I'm so visceral with what I say that I scare myself when the thoughts go away the next morning. I'm trying to find a way to vent that's a bit less damaging, but idk how :(
Dodie, this is the best thing you could have done. I lost a lot of respect for you but you have bouyed that back up in gallons. It takes a lot to admit when you were wrong and to genuinely apologise. It shows extreme maturity and strength. I am glad you have made this video. I hate to see you cry. I hope you get better soon.
dodie no matter what you do (unless you like, murder someoneยฟ) you will always have my support and very many others. you are stong. you are lovely. you are beautiful. mistakes are made, and that's okay. mental health is something that is widely spread across the internet and that's somewhat good and somewhat terrible. there's a balance. and you'll find it. stay strong bb we all love you
So proud of you Dodie, for reading all of those comments and taking it all constructively and learning from them
I must admit, I haven't been watching many of your videos lately (i don't know if it's because I found it confronting or if I just didn't happen to watch them though), so I don't really know much about your "online oversharing"
However, from this video and the video before, I gained some new respect for you because of the way you've handled the realisation that maybe you were oversharing
EDIT: As someone who has a diagnosed mental illness, I have to thank you for actually talking about mental illness. It really does make you feel like you're not alone, and i'm eternally thankful for that
Dodie it was because of you that I was able to get through Highschool. Your beautiful voice and beautiful personality are what bring me the inspiration to keep going. It makes me know that you're simply human with anxieties, fears, and sadness like I am. I've been having a hard time opening up to others and you've taught me to try and be positive everyday. ^_^ thank you. โค๏ธ
I think the way you have thought about this and the decision you made is really wonderful. Being able to step back like that and realize what you've been doing wrong but also the good you've been doing, and then taking steps to only keep the positive parts of your influence is really admirable. That being said, don't beat yourself up about anything you said. Everyone does something they regret later even if it was done without bad intentions. Stay strong, ily <3
Dodie, you are so inspiring and have helped so many people with your music and your channel, including me when I was having trouble finding reasons to do much of anything or talk to anyone, your videos made me feel like the was some kind of tether I could hold on to because I had already drifted so far away from the people I cared about because of anxiety and depression so when I see that you have been feeling so bad, it breaks our hearts. I wish I could just give you a big hug and tell you that everything is going to be alright. Please be strong Dodie, you are amazing.
Thanks for apologizing. As someone who watches your snapchat stories I just want to say that most of the time I'm just worried about you babe. Other times it puts me in a bit of a mood, and sometimes escalates.
While I don't blame you, I think it is important to take that step back. When I'm at a low point, sometimes I don't even realize it so I watch/read things that I can normally deal with (and then I can't whoooops). In those cases, I think it's important to at least write down and plan what you're going to talk about on snapchat, so before you talk about anything potentially triggering, you can warn us :) that way people like me can take a step back and assess if we could handle the topics you're going to talk about <3
If you read this dodie just know that I love you lots and you've helped me loads. I discovered you after I went through some trauma and your music and videos helped me process it. Also I used tourist/anti tourist (lol) as my audition song for my awesome acapella group yeeee ily <333333
Dodie! I love you so much and there are so many people who love you soooo much! There's no need to feel embarrassed. I know it's hard to believe but everything is going to be ok. Continue sharing your experiences and continue being you because you are an AMAZING person and you are beautiful and kind and just all around incredible. I know sometimes it's hard to believe, trust me, I understand. It has helped me to listen and read what you have posted because it makes me feel less alone. Thank you so much dodie โบ I love you and I hope from the bottom of my heart that you feel better!โคโค keep moving and continue incredible!!! Ok I'll stop now but once again I love you so much dodie!! And thank you โบโคโค
I just want to say that I'm so proud of you how you're handling it right now. You used this to learn from it and grow and that's something to be so proud of honestly. And as long as it's in a healthy way so people can learn from it and that it's relatable it's all right. I'm glad you still want to talk about mental illnesses etc and you want to do it in a healthy way (: I'm proud.
A thought I've expressed before. When you have very impressionable young people hearing their favourite youtubers talk a lot about anxiety and depression it can be harmful depending on how it's conveyed- it can cause children to try to look relate to you and overthink things and actually develop mental problems because of it, as they're constantly surrounded by idols in an unstable state. I remember watching youtubers when I was younger made me feel less confident and made me more anxious and insecure due to the overexposure I had to it, when I was previously more comfortable with myself. I'm glad you're willing to show how everyone had down days and aren't happy always, but I'm glad you've recognised how there's a limit to what is healthy to share. Very proud of you (don't he embarrassed!) this was such a positive and challenging video to make and to acknowledge your mistakes. Love you!!
This video has sent me a harsh wake up call. I always vent my emotions and what Iโm thinking online but I donโt know if thatโs always the right thing to do. I have a fan account on instagram that no one irl knows about. Last year, when my depression was at its worst, i would constantly turn to that account to vent, to write out what I was feeling. Reflecting on that, it probably wasnโt the right thing to do but I was drawn to it. I wanted SOMEONE to listen, to know that I wasnโt okay. I wrote down a lot of depressed shit and it probably wasnโt making the people seeing that feel any better. I donโt think everyone truly understands the word โtriggerโ because being triggered isnโt just a meme, it could come from a tiny thing that someone says to you. It could even come from a gesture. Itโs so easy to get triggered, especially if youโve not got a stable mental state. Ive finally been on the receiving end of someone else writing down their thoughts etc. My friend sometimes writes down some depressed stuff and it takes me back a step in my recovery. It makes me feel like shit, in so much pain for them and myself. Thank you for making this video dodie and for making me realise:)
hey, don't be sad it's alright. you didn't messed up "so much" mistakes are here to be fixed, and you will try to keep this side of you out of public eye and be healthier about that so please, please, please don't feel bad it's gonna be ok
I cried watching this, because it upset me. I related to the things you did on Snapchat and Instagram -the oversharing and going to deep and descriptive about your mental state at the time that it upset readers and watchers, who had to turn away from reading/watching. I never found those hard to watch or read because I would do this but to my friends, I would message them or call them upset and go see deep about my mental health that it genuinely scared them but I never saw that all I saw was they care and put up with my vents. It become so often I done this and so graphic the way I was telling them that if I ever seemed the tiniest bit sad they would instantly be so concerned and worried because they thought that it might happen again, that I'll breakdown and go so deep that it's like I can't get back out and I'd drag them down with me. So thank you miss dodie Clark for realising your mistakes and helping me realise mine and for being so genuinely sorry about them :) x
Could you do a live stream and raise money for Mental Heath? It's a positive way. You can help others. You'll put DOWN mental health, and you'll inspire younger fans!
Please don't stop sharing these things! In some weird way, reading your posts helps others who are struggling with kind of the same things. Maybe just put a trigger warning before your posts or video's where you talk about these things.
as someone who is the same age as you I just wanted to let you know that your posts and snapchats about your mental health have helped me a lot. yes, the were very graphic at times, but I don't think I'm as young as the majority of your audience. your posts helped me deal with the fact that I can be a somewhat functioning adult but also be mentally ill at the same time - that they are not mutually exclusive. I've heard from a lot of people that by this stage in my life I should be "over it" by now (lol literally the worst thing you can say to someone with poor mental health) but I guess your posts reassured me that that is not necessarily the case? That being said, I'm glad you're not going to be as explicit as you have been in the past regarding your mental health. I know I wouldn't want my younger brothers (who are 12 and 14 years old) to know or hear about the fucked up thoughts in my head.
I'm around dodie's age as well and I think her posts have helped me at lot too. I sometimes forget that younger people watch her but now that dodie has pointed it out I wouldn't want my little sister to hear graphic descriptions of my depression either
Me too. It's a shame she thinks(or is being told) that her being so open is a negative trait of hers, because I honestly related to it beyond words. I think she's doing so much good towards removing stigmas but as you say, I also wouldn't want my young family knowing my darkest thoughts.
leah low im not her age and they've helped me on so many levels; I think her 'fan base' or whatever you'd like to call us is so so so accepting and sympathetic to others issues and feelings no matter how graphic they may be.๐
Katie Ahronson I don't necessarily think it's an age thing either, I think young people are perfectly aware that she was being graphic and that being so transparent when she's feeling at her worse wasnt the most healthiest thing to do lol. this lil post was just me saying thanks
Yeah same!!! I'm over 18 now and I found dodie's social media so helpful and encouraging, even when she wasn't in a great mental state. I've learnt from this video as well! To be mindful of my audience, and to not use social media as a pressure valve when I'm feeling down. It's such a shame that dodie feels so bad about it... it's ok... we're all learning here bby
why would you want to hide something so important from an important person when they can possibly help..? im one of those 14 year olds that understands mental health so much and will do things to help, and if something happens to that person and i find out, i would feel like a worthless person and think things like, why wouldnt they open up to me, did i do something wrong that i couldnt be trusted with information that heavy, i couldve helped. ive opened up to people about what thoughts were going through my mind and they helped me. i got better and im not hurt anymore
diamond bird just because I don't openly discuss my depression with my younger siblings doesn't mean that I'm hiding it from them. They know about it and they also know that if they wanted to talk to me about their own mental health they can. the difference between them talking about their problems and me talking about mine is that am the adult in the situation, they are minors. They don't need added problems on top of their own. Even if a minor does have an understanding of mental health issues, they should not have to listen to or feel responsible for how an adult feels. I'm glad you opened up and talked about what was going on in your head and got help! I'm not discouraging that. I am discouraging making a minor feel like they are responsible for helping an adult.
diamond bird teenage years are hard enough as it is, although my sister knows about it, it's something she's had to live with virtually all her life and I want the effect of it on her to be as minimal as possible
We all understand that it is hard to get out the feelings and that over sharing can be an issue but we still love u soooooooo much and u shouldn't be embarrassed. U have taught me a lot about mental health as a 13 year old girl. U have so many amazing friends who are always there for u. Stay happy. "One day you'll say your OKAY and MEAN it." - Dodie
I struggled with this kind of thing quite a bit when I was younger, especially on my collab channel (fiveawesomegirls) when I was having a particular amount of trouble with my depression. I just kind of stopped posting on my own channel when I was at my lowest, but I'd committed to a schedule on that the other channel and ended up being my very sad self in lots of videos there. I found that that line can take a while to find, and I crossed it a few times before I really placed it and set rules for what I'm willing to share online.
So, so many people told me that sharing my experiences helped them, but the few people who had negative things to say at my weakest points just hurt me too much (I still remember the two directed at my depression that hit me the hardest and it's been 6 or 7 years). My mental health overall has been much better since I drew the right line for me, but I do sometimes feel more alone when I'm having a rough patch and I feel like I can't express myself the way I want to. At the end of the day, I needed a balance and that can take a lot of work to find.
Dear dodie, I have been fan girling over you for nearly a year now, I discovered you because of one of my very very close friends.... you've helped me so much ! As someone who doesn't feel "normal" as you say I struggle with everyday life.... about a year and a half ago my best friend got diagnosed with depression and it's been tough... but I'm scared I also have it and I haven't been to check but every symptom my friend has, I have and I struggle a lot with that and you have been the person who I have turned to when I am in my " dark places" or my "cloud days" as I call them... when I feel my worst I watch your video because they make me so happy. They take me out of what is the real world and put me into a world where everything is happy and colourful and happy... I don't t really know the meaning of this, I guess maybe to say thank you, which is strange because I've never actually meeting you.... I'm seeing you in Glasgow though!!! And I couldn't be more excited.... Thank you so much and I hope one day you'll feel amazing and the amazing feeling of not being spaced out stays and you be a happy perky you 24/7. I love you and even though it's 1 am I hope you're sleeping and I hope you're having good dreams again thank you
You know, even though I did feel kind of taken aback and reminded of things I didn't want to be thinking about when you'd make those posts, I liked them. I was okay with the moment of trigger, tbh. Good on you for being conscientious about it, but don't feel too bad. :)
i think you are so brave. you own up to your mistakes and that's the best thing anyone could learn from you. i think what you did was wrong, and there is a line, but the way you dealt with it is just a great example to your audience
(I know this is late but...) In my opinion, to this day I think you have not done anything wrong. People can say what they need to say but your videos and content helps me understand that Iโm not the only person who feels bad about themselves.
Your content is like a therapy to yourself and to many others and if that makes you happy and makes others happy (which it does) you do not need to feel ashamed or upset about what YOU decide to post and not what OTHERS decide YOU need to post.
So yeah this is just my opinion please donโt attack me about it if you think Iโm wrong xx
If I didn't love you before, seeing you admit that maybe you shouldn't have shared as much as you did and say sorry up front, has made me have the utmost respect for you ๐๐
You being rational and thinking about your audience like a little sister is so important to me, because your posts were starting to affect me, but then I thought it wasn't your fault, because it wasn't. Thank you for re-evaluating your decisions and thinking about us. Is not your fault, and I love you. Thank you for talking about your thoughts and everything.
you know all these people are writing super long paragraphs blah blah blah i just wanted to say i love you so much and i hope you stay strong (no hate to anyone taking the time to write a message i think it's very wonderful) <3 :)
Hun, it's ok. I know you have a 'young audience' but please do not forget that you are also young. You're a good egg. And you're just living your life. And I love you. X
You aren't glorifying mental illness and you don't need to be ashamed. You made mistakes and I know it's cheesy and you've heard it a B I L L I O N times but everyone makes mistakes. You did what you thought was right at the time and that's all you can really do. Thank you for trying your best, im so excited for Veda ๐๐
Hello dodie!! I am not normally one to comment on videos, but this one has hit me so close to home that here I am. It saddens me to hear how guilty you are feeling. I don't think you should feel that you've severely messed up, or that you're "glorifying mental health," or "making it your brand." For me, at least, your videos and posts are so speciaI. I find you incredibly real, and relatable, and your words strike a chord with me unlike any other. I completely support your decision to work on boundaries, but I hope you know that for many like me, you have been a great source of help and comfort. Best of wishes to you, and stay strong as always. ๐ป
dodie, you have no idea how much respect i have for you after this. You are so brave and strong, you acknowledged what you did was unhealthy and apologised which is hard for a lot of people to do. Hope your mental health improves :P, cuz it is well shit to have a mental illness. Sending my love <3
I saw a much more mature and adult side to you in this video Dodie and I'm happy that you did this, but while I'm not too keen on the oversharing your posts about depersonalisation have helped me a lot because it's given me something to relate how I'm feeling to. I also wouldn't say you've messed up, but maybe try and talk about mental health in more of an objective way rather than a subjective way?? But thank you, this was important
Sure something's get intense....but it's sorta refreshing to see something so real. I don't think you need to apologize for being you and talking about these things since that is a very hard thing to do...I think you should be proud of yourself for allowing yourself to be so vulnerable but I support whatever you do...I hope that things get better and that something beautiful comes from it๐
I'm glad you've figured out that the oversharing isn't healthy for you & you're moving forward. I don't think you should feel guilty for being open about mental illness (I also struggle with depersonalisation and it has been really important to me to be able to follow your journey) but I can see that - as you've said - some of your posts crossed a line from discussion/awareness into content that was probably exacerbating your symptoms. I guess I just want to say that I don't think you should feel horrible about the stuff you've shared for your audience's sake, but more because it isn't what was good for you. Good luck anyway. โค๏ธ
The oversharing also hurts the person, because it provides something short term that will go away. It becomes like an addiction, requiring more of that short term result.
I think as your audience and as people who love and care about you, we all forgive and understand you. Your health has caused you to some things that you don't like and that's okay because you're smart and have seen the problem and you're working towards helping yourself and others which is a beautiful and brave thing. Best of luck x
Why did I start crying when you started crying. Dodie, the stuff you shared on social media on your mental illness has been a bit graphic I guess, but please know that your videos and those type of posts have actually helped me go through mine. I found out that I have depression not too long ago, and the things you've said about your mental problems have made me feel better because I don't feel so alone. I learned that it's normal to be not okay, to cry for no reason, to have my brain not function and that it's not my fault. I love you Dodie, and I'm grateful for everything you've done โค๏ธ
I am so proud of you. You are so strong and its okay that you made a mistake. Your learning and I hope you can feel proud with your self soon. Love you
Wow. This video was, wow. I have my first therapy session tomorrow morning and this was quite comforting and helpful. I don't know how but it was. I love your videos because they're so important to me and people like you and me. Everyone has emotions and when you know you're not alone and when the people like you can make you feel hopeful, it really does a lot. You've also know your mistakes and had basic human decency to apologize for it. Thank you for being an amazing person.
I love you. I love you I love you I love you. Like you, I am the type of person who has no issues being vulnerable with anyone and everyone. I cry in front of other people (often!). Talking about my mental health helps me so much. But, I sometimes feel that I'm annoying others or that my friends are tired of hearing about my mental health. Through your sharing, I have found that I am not the only one who wants to be completely open, and that's okay, but it needs to be controlled. I think you handled this situation in the absolute best way possible. I might ask my friends directly if I overshare with them, and if I'm told that I do, I will send them this video. It's perfect and honest. Thank you. I love you. Don't feel embarrassed. I love you.
I relate a lot to you. I put myself out there and I'm learning to be more private. But we also help SOOO many people by talking about it. Ily so much dodie. Plz know that u have helped people. And help people relate and figure out themselves. Do not be sorry. What you do is fabulous. I don't want you to treat us as your little sister because this is why we ARE going through!!
Dodie, honestly I think this, more than anything, is so very brave to say. It's a hard thing to admit that you've done a bad thing, and try and attempt to fix it, to retrain yourself into dealing with your emotions differently, and - it's just so overpoweringly brave. I'm sitting here watching this thinking 'god she is so strong to be able to say this' and I can feel your guilt I can feel how bad this makes you feel and still you try to fix it honestly, this is courageous. Strong. Bravery at its really. You're an inspiration lovely โค
honestly. i never found it too much. and if i had, i would've taken a step away too and then come back later. i still don't think you've done anything wrong.
please don't tell her not to apologise. her posts may not have affected you, but they definitely have negatively impacted much of her audience. also as hazel mentioned in the last video, they've affected her friends. i absolutely love and support dodie, and i definitely do see where you're coming from, but it is very harmful to tell someone, who is apologising to over a million people, that she shouldn't be sorry because she didn't hurt you specifically.
the way she was doing it couldnt have been good for her either a real addiction and im glad she has realised and i know/hope she will share her experiences when she has grown from then but in a truly dodie style artist way that we inspire many just like this video, i have to say i have alot of respect for especially from this video. this was truly brave
Speaking for my myself, you oversharing online didn't affect me because my mental health is usually okay, but i can see how certain things could be affecting other people (even young audience). But Dodie i just wanna say this: oversharing could be too much sometimes but i do wanna tell you that you don't have to stop sharing your feelings with us, because you have helped me so much and we can help you. We are here Dodie to fight this battle with you.
I really don't feel like you've done anything wrong at all! I don't know why you're apologising. Not sharing things online to me seems far more dangerous than supposedly oversharing. When you feel low, you don't want to talk to anyone about it, you'd rather show strangers and that's what often saves people's lives by posts they've made.
I'm so happy about this. You're an amazing person and I'm so proud of you. I struggle with my mental health as well and while at first your videos and posts about it helped me a lot, I also started to get triggered by them. Wich was a real bummer. But I think maybe this decision is also better for you? Since you won't give your emotions so much weight anymore. I mean, it's always important to respect and recognise emotions, but sometimes it helps more to just accept the feeling exists, instead of dwelling on it. It has actually helped me a lot with my depression to accept my emotions in that moment but also accept that other emotions will come, such as happiness. Meditation has also helped a ton. I'm so glad for your decision to make your social media a save space, and keep talking about mental health, but in a way you would to your little sister. I really hope you'll feel better soon as well because it breaks my heart to see you suffering. And it probably breaks yours as well.
I think its good that you shared, because your viewers (us teenagers) need to see the reality of mental health disorders. There are some people my age who think that sadness is depression and feeling nervous is anxiety and to see someone really going through this is really important. I don't think you did anything wrong. If it helped you, i think thats whats important and this is your channel, if it makes people uncomfortable that's fine, like, watching a sex scene with your parents is uncomfortable and you dont have to watch it? I don't know, I understand the other point of view, but really, I think you did a good thing. If no one ever speaks out to the masses, the masses will never know. Your audience is, yes full fo impressionable teenagers, but if someone elses reality is never shown, you never know that your reality is good. I don't know, I think you did good
I hate seeing you so sad Dodie <3 You've apologized enough, sweetheart. It's okay; you've done it enough. Focus on changing your content now. We have forgiven you <3
Doddie I'm late and I'm sorry seeing you crying makes me so sad and I just want to hug you. I love you WE love you it's ok I really want you and me to be ok. Please take care of your self and stay with your good friends and family I love you so much, and I'm sorry you had to apologize. Thank you so much for everything Thank you.
you're a complete babe and i'm really proud of you for handling this with such honesty and integrity, and honestly I was worried about how this might be affecting you so i'm relieved to see you're able to use it positively and move forwards! much love <3
p.s. some of your audience (i.e. me lol) are not so young and impressionable and in fact think of you as a little sister, of whom they are protective and proud :) (not that i have any right to be but ya know) <3
Dodie! Thank you so much for apologising and all that you do for those with mental health! You are invaluable.
However, I would love for you to address the creativity/mental health comments that were made in your previous video. I think those offhand comments are more damaging than you would realise and invalidate mentally healthy creatives as well as discourage recovery/good mental health in creatives with mental health issues.
Fuck. I don't know what to say, But please don't say sorry. Everybody's learning how to do things right, you're not perfect and you're figuring out how to do things the best way. Please don't apologise to us. Yes oversharing mental illness online can be dangerous, but don't feel embarrassed about this common confusing mistake. Love you lots Dods xx
Dodie has such a clear way of wording things, it's very helpful. i now have gained even more respect for her ((is that possible? idk)) im so glad she uploaded this video. i had - without noticing - almost detached myself from watching anything off Dodie's social media; its now clicked that it's because i felt like Dodie was exposed, and i had to respect her privacy. i unconsciously refused to listen to her mental illness updates. it was as if they were seeping into my personal health too. at the time i recognised this detachment as 'boredom' from her content, but really it was because of the constant, upsetting messages.
don't be so hard on yourself - you had no purpose/meaning to offend, trigger or hurt anyone. thankfully i am now back into the rhythm of reading whatever she posts, and i hope Dodie and anyone reading this long ass paragraph is in (or close to) their best mental state. i wish you the best, goodnight :)
So many people have already said this but I am really impressed by such a mature self-aware video this was. Now, don't for one second feel embarrassed or sad about any of the mistakes you've made. We all make them and the fact that you can see them and accept them just shows what a strong, amazing person you are. We all love you Dodie Clark!!
Hey Dodie, I'm a huge fan of yours! Personally I never minded your posts, as I find them all relatable, and nothing ever seemed that graphic to me and never romanticizing of anything. (However, I feel like I've been desensitized to a lot of things, which is just a personal thing for me.) You've been a really big inspiration to me and a lot of other people. I think that writing and recording videos seems like a good coping skill for you. If you want to stop posting so much about your mental health, that's your decision, and I very much respect you for it. I think that taking a step back for your sake, not anyone else's, might be healthy as you've mentioned. Don't be too hard on yourself. You're an amazing and strong person.
As a mentally ill person myself, I often write based on those experiences (I don't share my work often because I'm sorta nervous) but it helps me cope and I enjoy reading content with similar themes. So I definitely know where you're coming from. Mental illness can take up so much room in someone's life, and artists often create from their life experiences.
Overall, what I'm saying to say is: I'll always support you. I think you are an incredibly brave, talented, kind, and intelligent person. Keep going, keep creating. Taking a step back might be healthy for you, so give it a try. Maybe try out some new healthy coping skills. In the meantime, I'll always love and admire you.
You have taught me to be brave and accept myself, and you continue to do so each day.
P.S. I'm sorta tired as I'm writing this, and it's all stream of consciousness so I apologize if it doesn't make sense. But I felt the need to put my two cents in
Hey Dodie! I'm currently reading an interesting book that I feel is loosely related to the topic of mental health. It's called The Secret of Letting Go by Guy Finley. It kinda reads like a children's book, but there are a good couple of interesting thoughts in every chapter. Check it out if you're interested. (Of course it's not to say that therapy is a bad idea - quite the opposite. I just thought you might wanna look at it.)
I agree with your point in this video however the silver lining i see is that you have made me aware that i have done the same thing as you. It's good to admit mistakes and learn from them. So thanks for sharing.
Dodie, please consider doing something like opening an extra channel / account for venting! I understand that people might feel triggered, but there are people (like me) who can really relate to you and honestly, even though we dont know each other, when I feel down and watch your videos about you going through the same - i feel like i am listening to a close friend or sister. Now of course you are free to put out whatever you want on the internet. But to me personally, it seems that describing your thoughts and feelings to us gave you release - and there are many people who would watch your videos and follow your social media.
Its your decision of course and we have to respect that. Just stay safe please :)
dodie you're a human, JUST LIKE ALLLLL OF US! yes, what you've done was a mistake but you have realized what your mishaps were and apologized! there's nothing else you can do, DO NOT BEAT YOURSELF UP OVER IT! we all love you, and we need to realize that you're a feeling human as well who does not deserved to be put up on a pedestal and forced to repent violently. again, YOU ARE A HUMAN WHO MAKES MISTAKES, and that's why we love you :).
hi dodie, this is a big step for you and ofcours, do what feels right for you, but i wanted to share my point of view. i'm sixteen and it helped me so much to watch your videos. i was amazed, that someone could be so honest and close about theire mental health. this is the reason i never felt alone, you showed how to cope with your own and other demons. it's understandable that it hurts, that people don't want to see this things, because they don't understand, or are reminded of theire own sadness. but it's the truth and nothing but the truth and it helped you too because in this community we are not alone. this is what i like about youtube. so, this is my way to thank you, thank you for making me aware of things and thanks for staying. now learn for yourself and find a way that works for you, do, but please, don't be sorry. you didn't do anything bad. love from germany
I did the same sort of thing around a few years ago with a friend I had who was a few years younger than me. She was around 8 and I was 11, my anxiety and my mental state got really really bad and I shared a lot of that with this particular friend but it got dark and I ended up pretty much graphically describing panic attacks and suicidal thoughts to this 8 year old often times whilst I was having them. Soon enough her mum found out and we ended up drifting away from each other. Now Iโm 13 and Iโve seen a councillor and although itโs not perfect, my anxiety has gotten a lot better because of it. Talking to people and reaching out to friends is obviously good but like everything itโs all in proportion
Dodie, it is okay. You made a mistake and you were trying to help yourself get and feel better (you were also trying to help others as well). It is totally okay that you messed up because people make mistakes, and the great thing is is that you understand that you were oversharing. I love you and I hope you are feeling better <3
I honestly find your videos and posts about mental issues very helpful. I think it's helpful for me to see that other people who i admire struggles(?) as well it really pulls me back down to earth and makes me feel like I'm sort of worth something and that's really helpful for me, but I know and agree that you should stop posting online for the health of yourself and others. I, myself, have a jar and every time I'm having a "moment" I'll write it down and curl it into a spiral and put it in a jar. And also, know that your audience forgives you entirely.
I forgive you and thank you for making a positive space to learn as we all try to figure out the human experience.
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Now the last video and this one actually came as a shock to me, funnily enough. I was someone who quite 'enjoyed' - now that is a horrible word, but I don't mean it like that, obviously, so shall we say benefitted instead - your snapchats and instagram posts. I found them calming, knowing that someone out there was also struggling with the same things I was. Of course, I can just look a comments or forums, but it's not the same thing, you know? Just pixels on a screen. So seeing someone verbalize it, someone you look up to as well, was.. nice - nothing I experience on a daily basis, as nobody I know, have the same struggles as myself. Also of course worrying as I do want you, and everybody, to be happy, but still. But I do get the point that you're saying, and the rest of your followers are; it was graphic and probably not suitable for a 12 year old, as they could have been triggering. So that you're listening to your audience says a lot about you Dodie - it shows that you do care, and also can admit that you have made a mistake. That takes a lot of guts! Also don't beat yourself up too much up - I don't think anyone in this little community are cross or what's worse. So in conclusion; you need to know that you did help some people, myself included (as I've stated before, my struggles being very similar to yours, and maybe also because I'm closer to your age, than most on here) and probably also a lot others. But it is very admirable that you are listening to the majority of your audience, who was triggered. Takes a great person to do as such, even though it might be hard!
Aw Dodie I too have to sometimes stop watching/reading because it's too much but you shouldn't feel embarrassed because it's something we've probably all done to some extent and I've even done it a bit but not on social media x
Your videos and Instagram posts actually kind of help me, it makes me feel like I'm not the only one who feels feeling I feel like I shouldn't? I don't know, I'm not saying that it's good to feel this way, it's certainly not, but the way you're so open about the way you feel is inspiring, so thank you
Good job dodie. It takes a lot of courage and humility to do this vid I and say that your sorry and that you've made a mistake. So many people these days don't have the guts to admit their mistakes and end up with very little joy because they don't learn from them. So points to you dodie. It's a step in the right direction.
I'm really proud. You are not in a good place, and we know that. That system really wasn't healthy, for you or us. So this is a thank you for apologising because it did need to happen. I hope this therapist works!
thank you so much. this means so much, dodie i love you but i had to step back. and now i feel like i can be close with you again! i love you so much. thank you thank you thank you!!
Dear dodie, Please listen to "maggie Rodgers" on Spotify This artist has helped me with my Anxiety,and just basic stress so i really recommend this๐๐
Okay i know Dodie wont see this, but her videos and posts have actually helped me so much over the past two years, and i know it has done the opposite for some people. I started to struggle with my own mental issues a few years back and I actually thought I was just crazy. When I found Dodie I actually took such a sigh of relief because I realized I am not the only one feeling this way. She taught me about depersonalisation, she has helped me better cope with my anxiety and her music has been so incredibly close to my heart because of the relatable lyrics; When, 6/10 and Secret for the Mad in particular. Shes helped me sort of find myself again and I love her so much for it. So, thank you Dodie. You allowed me to better understand my mental state, myself, and made me realize that I needed to get help from professionals rather than dealing with this alone.
I agree, and there are some videos that I don't really want to have seen, but I think it is healthy for you to have an output and an opportunity for you to realise that millions of people care for you, wish you the best and want you to know that we're here for you through it all.
I agree that somethings you shared where not appropriate but I'm happy to see you've realised your errors and that you're not in denial about it. On a side note, your skin looks fantastic! โค
Ok, this this might be a bit long lol but I just want you to know that you should not feel guilty about sharing online, you started using it as an outlet but then you began to over share. I want to say that I believe you should not post in depth descriptions about everything you feel when you are not feeling well but it is very importantly to get it out, so like you said, write it down, record it in the voice memos app or just talk to a close friend. Once you feel better, then talk about it with your audience if you want. Just DO NOT feel bad that you shared those things, you were just trying to help yourself and maybe help some of us too. In the end, we love you and don't want you to feel bad about something you did in the past. And btw i really enjoyed learning about your brain and relating to it. I have something called postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome (PoTs) which is an autoimmune disease and along with it comes depression, anxiety and depersonalization so it's really nice to see someone who I can relate to. Just know it's ok to share just there are some things that should not be said online when you are not feeling well. Once you feel better, talk about all you want! Anyway, I love you ๐
I'm not diagnosed but I'm pretty damn sure I have depersonalisation/derealisation too and it freaks me out. Not feeling at home in your body and your own reality is some of the scariest shit ever. I don't even know you personally but I can tell you are a good person and would never mean to cause harm to anyone. Keep being you :)
This is so important. I've legit seen people post actual pictures of them cutting themselves. It was really triggering and when confronted they said they wouldn't stop because it helped them etc. I couldn't put into words how unhealthy and unhelpful it was for them to do this, but this video did it. So thank you.
hey, don't be too hard on your self. To be honest, yes, you have been sharing a lot. but when you're in this kind of state, it's hard not to over share. sometimes you don't even realize what you are doing, until someone tells you. It's not your fault that you feel this way, and it's not your fault for sharing about it. We all love you so much and you have helped me and so many people. try to take care of yourself ๐
I feel like I'm the only one who appreciated her raw sharing of things. I, personally, don't think she needed to apologize, but instead just addressing it and explaining how she felt. I don't really understand the people who are like "tysm for apologizzinng" because, honestly, this isn't one of the worst thing a YouTuber has done and if she just explained how she felt, we would understood and the apology wouldn't be needed. But I guess it's the end of an era. I really don't know how I'll feel anymore.
So.... I'm having trouble trying to turn my thoughts into words lol. In truth I'm not really sure what my thoughts are at the moment either. But I know I want to say something! And I suppose that something would be that.... I forgive you dodie. I am someone who is fortunate enough to not have mental illness and in my life I've never really met or been exposed to it previously. So when I started following you on social media and I listened to your videos about mental illness and read your posts on depersonalization, they were real eye openers for me. They enlightened me on an issue that I was previously uneducated on and I am grateful to you for that! The more you know in this world the better off you are to help yourself and help others. Perhaps it is because I don't have mental illness, or maybe because of time zones so I didn't see the worst of your videos, but I never thought of your videos as graphic or triggering. However, that doesn't change the fact that they were for others or that they've hurt you more than they've helped in the long run. I enjoy watching your videos. I love your songs, and I like to hear you talk about things you're passionate about. You're a bright soul and you always seem to bring a smile to my face! So seeing you hurting and upset makes me upset too and I want to help! tho I don't know how. I also acknowledge tho that I'm a stranger on the internet so maybe it's not my place to help either. So I shall compromise with leaving a few kind words that will hopefully make you smile at least a little; in return for all the times you've unknowingly comforted me when I am down. We forgive you! We love you too! We're glad you're feeling happy and hopeful! And when you need a place to share your thoughts in a healthy way for both you and us, your audience, believe me we will still be here listening. :) Best Wishes Dodie <3 a friend
You have inspired me so much. I just started watching you but I understand you so much. I go through the samething. Thank you for sharing. You have no idea!!!!
Hi Dodie! As a 27yo that went through a 'dumb patch' after a few really crappy things in quick succession.. I can only agree with you! With so many people talking about mental health issues (particularly depression/anxiety) online, people have started to believe that it's ok. WHEN IT'S NOT OK! It's not ok to be stuck in that rut. It's not ok to not seek help. It's not ok to let it affect your future... yet somehow, through people 'normalising' these issues. It has sometimes become ok. And people are falling deeper. Not getting help. Sharing negative thoughts and vibes. IMO, mental health issues should only be discussed alongside the message that 1. You need to, and will get back out of the hole in your head. 2. Self help/professional help suggestions and advice. Sorry for the essay. Have a great weekend everyone. You deserve to feel great.
dodie i know you probably won't read this but i am so happy that you made this video. i have been watching you for awhile and trust me i care about you as much as someone can who has never met you. and it is so so important to talk about the dark and twisty feelings so please do not stop. but i am so happy because you addressed the fact that oversharing online can be dangerous and triggering for those who also struggle with mental health issues and also feel dark and twisty sometimes. so thank you for acknowledging this and please continue to be the kind, brilliant and talented person that you are. i love you.
i agree with this. sometimes when im in a really bad state i'll make a voice recording or write it down but right away afterwards i'd listen to/read it back n overanalyze it which would make me feel soo much worse so deleting straight afterwards is a great idea n sounds like.. yea, its just a good idea :)
Hi dodie I am so grateful to you. I am a person who has seen depression in so many of my family members and friends around me and seeing them struggle has made me fearful of the thing called depression. I am scared. I am a person who feels extremely. I can feel very happy but then the bads are so bad. Recently I have been feeling nothing but bad. I feel like I am drowning. I am trying to breath but I just can't. A lot of this heaviness comes from the fear of the label of depression. The fear was holding me down. But your videos snap chats post and music has helped me realize that depression suckes. But being scared of my self and my feelings and my lows is just digging me deeper. So I understand why you are sorry but I wanted to let you know that you have helped one person. -love Caz
I know itโs been awhile since this came out, but I just watched it... I watched your video with Hazel when you uploaded it, & I realized that I was being triggered by your posts. Therefore, I took a step back (as you said some people have), but now I watched this & I feel much better. Iโm with you, Dodie. Love you ๐
honestly tysm for posting this. its so hard to admit when youve done bad things!! im so so bad at that and it feels like the end of the world and i overcompensate so much. this was so mature of you, idk if i couldve done this
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Miles Coe2017-07-29 13:46:18 (edited 2017-07-29 13:51:55 )
We are human. Thank you. Not for everything, but most things. Especially for learning with us. Happy to be your little sister. Love and healing and love again!
Am I the only one who was grateful for the deep posts or? Like when I read them I was like yes I am not the only one who feels so bad etc and now I feel like it's bad for me to want to share how i feel idk
The oversharing felt ok to me, yea it made me feel really sad reading that such an amazing person was so upset. Yet it made me feel really close to her and want to be there for her, the oversharing shocked me because I didn't think a creator could be so open. It made me feel close to her as a person...
dodie, you don't need to feel embarrassed about this. It's true that sometimes it's bad to tell everyone how you feel as some people take it in the wrong way (like attention seeking but I don't think you'd ever do that) but it was an honest mistake. People make mistakes, and that's what makes us human. virtually hugs stay strong dodie -Justina xoxo
this reminds me of what Charlotte Perkins gilman said after publishing yellow wallpaper.
she basically said that people with healthy brains will find it depressing and will feel like they're going mad while people with sick brains will identify with it and find joy in sharing their experiences. (paraphrasing but yeah)
Lisa Kealhofer honestly, I don't agree with this! Although it makes sense in principle in practice it can cause people who have/are experiencing it to feel down, like, triggered I guess? I've read a few posts saying people who read about depression when they're not in a depressive state can be pulled back due to reading stuff about it. I'm sure for some people it does though! The problem is Dodie can't pick and choose who the social media posts go through to :)
Lisa Kealhofer Agree 100%! I identified so much with her experience and it was good to know that a person had the same struggles. I don't like how people are telling her to stop sharing the "dark things", gosh, it's so horrible, it's the censorship that the mentally ill get: "keep it to yourself! be happy! i don't want to know you're suffering!" it makes me pissed. dodie, you can still keep sharing your mental struggles, maybe do it on tumblr with an alias, on the tags of people who have similar issues, and PLEASE KEEP TALKING about it here, even if to a lesser degree or in a more informative way, THIS NEEDS TO BE TALKED ABOUT.
Sam Mach I'm so glad someone else agrees with me. It seems almost everyone wants her to shove all the "darker stuff" inside, which is so unhealthy. If dodie wants to share, she should be able to share. Sure, add trigger warnings to the posts or something, but she shouldn't feel like she has to stop completely. People's reactions actually have me quite angry.
I don't think the point is that she should not talk about the darker things, just that she shouldn't always talk about them with her audience? She should still see a therapist and talk to her friends. And she can still share about mental health, but maybe not in a medium so immidiate as snapchat? As mentioned in her last video, she did post some snapchats when she was very low and said life wasn't worth living, and that was, as a viewer, quite scary, because you didn't know if she had someone with her at that moment who could help her and make sure she was safe. If she later wanted to share how she was feeling at that moment, maybe in a post where she could take her time and consider her words, I think that would be fine. But the internet and thousands of people don't need to see her most intimate and personal moments as they are happening. And I think that goes for her happiest as well. This isn't (just) about her cencoring away the bad, it's about protecting yourself and what is private. Some things don't need to be on display, and some things don't need to be on display straight away. Using snapchat to document this, makes it harder to decide what you really want to share. And that goes for both difficult and happy things. Sometimes yourself needs to experience things in the moment, and then when you have had time to process them, then you can share them with your audience :)
Ralalaize what? no one wants her to shove it all inside and share nothing. the point people have made is that she has overshared and relied on social media too much, which is unhealthy. she should be able to share... but not so heavily on social media. we aren't her friends, we are just viewers. she admitted to talking for ages on snapchat when hazel was just in another room, unaware of her feelings. thats unhealthy. so she needs to reflect and work out what is. literally no one is saying never talk about your feelings to anyone, just not so much online.
squeegy29 you have some valid points, but it should be her decision whether or not she shares moments with us. And this video feels as if she is being forced into it because of what viewers have said. She is blaming herself for doing something wrong, when her talking and sharing shouldn't be viewed as wrong if it's what she needed at the moment. Of course she should also be getting help from friends and professionals, but she should feel free to share with us, and she shouldn't be shamed for it.
I understand what you mean, and I agree that it should be her decision. However, (and this is going to sound patronizing, though I don't mean it like that) not everthing you want in the moment is good for you, or what you really want? I've wondered several times while watching her snapchat "dodie, are you sure you want to be sharing this? This is very personal, have you stopped and thought about it first?". So while I agree that she should be able to share what she wants, snapchat allows you to share without thinking it through first. So it's good that she maybe takes a step back and evaluates if this is really what she wants/ good for her. She should also consider her audience, since many of them are young. No, she shouldn't be shamed, but in my opinion, you are to a certain degree responsible for what you post online when you have such a large audience. And several of the people who have been giving her feedback are her friends too, and they have told her the truth, even though it might be uncomfortable. I think you can get quite used to sharing a lot, without considering the consequences or questioning if you really want to, so I think it is good for dodie to take a step back at this point, because some of the things she has shared are too private, and she needs to be vulnerable, but she also needs to protect herself.
Sending you virtual butterflies to lift your heart when it's too heavy to hold! ps I hurt lots too sometimes. You are strong, beautiful, likable, and love able. Mistakes and all. And your apology couldn't be more quickly forgiven at least from me.
But if you hadn't have shared loads of people wouldn't know about Depersonalization and I heard you on radio 1 at work and I stopped and felt so proud and happy that mental health was reaching front media, especially a metal health that isn't talked about enough. Your over sharing is compensating for the lack โค๏ธ
One of the strongest things you will learn is how to acknowledge your emotional boundaries, but also the boundaries of others, and that honesty does not need to be heard by everyone to be honest. Xxxx
dodie it ok to share there's nothing wrong with it we all love and care about you and also your closest friends and if you're feeling really bad maybe write a storie or a poem in a journal I love you very much and you are a great inspiration๐
Hey. You're getting this a lot probably, but this is really strong and mature of you to do. I really appreciate you giving a real heartfelt apology, even though i know it has to to be hard. I feel like you're actually messing up in a place that's very important to you, and very close to your heart. I mess up a lot in those kinds of areas, so i feel like the remorse and humiliation you're feeling must be... intense. This video must have been really hard. You can feel that it was really hard, and that you obviously see the importance of pushing through all that. I literally love you for that. A real, lonely, video apology is really special here. so thanks.
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the dun and jo2017-07-29 17:43:45 (edited 2017-07-29 17:47:02 )
honestly, Dodie sharing all of this never affected me. and while I can't say it for everyone, I believe that sharing it with others is a good option. but as you said, there are a lot of other people who could be affected or triggered by it, so it's not healthy for the other side of the internet. In my opinion, try holding it back from the internet for as long as you can, but if you really feel the need to share something horrible going on with you online because you need the support, or feel that it's an efficient way AND HEALTHY way to let your pain out, I'd say you should just add trigger warnings on Instagram and yt, and avoid using sc to express those emotions.
Wow I don't think you've messed up at all.....but then I'm 42 and have and do suffer from depression. I'm a proper grown up apparently so I can cope with all your wonderful thoughts. It's important you're truthful to yourself and those around you, it's real and it's you. Don't feel like you've done something bad, you're helping people who are suffering also. Makes you realise you're not alone. Mental health is very important to talk about. Balance is good but don't hide it all away and don't apologise. At the end of the day people don't have to watch. Stay strong xx
This was so big of you Dodie. To be able to look back and say to yourself and followers "I was wrong, I'm going to change," takes guts and compassion. I think your over sharing was for a reason: to have this moment to learn from and show your fans, especially the whipersnappers, that it's healthy to share, but don't share when you're down since that's not healthy. So proud of you, such a beautiful post that shows how you're growing each day.
i love your support, but it's really harmful to tell her not to be sorry. as we saw in the comments of the last video, and what hazel said, dodie has been negatively impacting her audience and friends with her content. we'll definitely keep loving and supporting her, but it's bad of us to tell her that she doesn't need to apologise; she needs to learn and grow from this experience, and that's what her apology allows. xxx
Maddy I totally I agree I do realize how she can make an negative impact I just hope she knows it's ok to make mistakes and that we will continue supporting her
I'm incredibly concerned and apprehensive about this book of yours coming out. And I would like to explain to you why. You seem like a genuinely lovely, troubled person. You're twenty two, so of course you don't have this all figured out yet. Of course you don't see every twist and turn that is your own brain space. I'm two years younger than you, and I've been dealing with depression for six years and I'm still figuring out how to talk about it and how to manuever myself over the little potholes and the canyons that exist in my brain. It's so okay to make mistakes and to flip flop and to have to start over, especially when it comes to mental health because there is no linear equation that directs us to the solid answer of how to be happy. The major difference between me and you, Ms. Dodie Clark, is, obviously, that you have a massive impressionable audience watching your every move, and I most certainly do not. So when you make mistakes, like unintentionally publishing your diary on social media, or like borderline romanticizing mental illness, or writing cryptic depressing/triggering tweets, it's amplified. And as someone who has maybe 2 1/2 people that read my twitter feed and like my Instagram posts, I'm trying to understand the fact that we're on the same playing field, we're fighting for the same cause (that is, to open up the conversation of mental illness) just got millions of more eyes watching her as she bats, and sometimes misses. Good for her, by the way! That's wonderful! Usually.
But when you announced you're coming out with a book that deals with dealing with mental illness, even when you're under-qualified to give any advice that isn't "seek help" without really actively finding help yourself, I have to draw the line of my understanding. Ms.Clark, I genuinely want to know...What gives you the right to write a book about mental health? That sounds bitchy, but that's not my intention. I genuinely want to know. Because to me there's a difference between writing about your own mental health journey, possibly in a broader autobiography book like other Youtuber's write, one that deals with other subjects, and writing a book that is based on the topic of mental illness. I hold the opinion that if you're not studied and educated with knowledge on how to identify mental illness, and how to actually treat it other than saying "take it easy, go seek professional help" you don't have a right to tell people how to rectify their varying mental illnesses. Because if you're not a professional, if you're not licensed and yet you're giving out advice, you're walking a fine line of doing more harm than doing good to these young viewers of yours.
Especially when you're a young woman, still trying to figure it all out herself, who has proved publicly that you're not taking the best precautions to try and help yourself get better. (By this I mean...Being on medication for one month, drinking and partying in that month according to her snapchat, and then writing off the medication completely, even though most people have to go through several trial and error stages before they find a medication and a dosage that works best for them. That is according to literally every doctor I've spoken to and every other person who has been on some sort of depression/anxiety medication for some time). Not saying that you should keep being on medication. That's totally your choice, and your body. But the way you talked about it almost vilified medication entirely because how you apparently "lost feeling" and immediately got it back when you stopped taking it. (Did you get a doctor's approval to do that, to stop taking it? I genuinely hope so...) I'm concerned about what you could possibly find to write in your book "Secrets for the mad" that isn't either romanticizing mental illness, or providing skewed advice to young viewers. I wish you would explain and hold yourself accountable more. It's strange to me that your audience coddles you like you're an immature teenager when in fact you are a young woman doing incredibly well for yourself. And you should be treated like one, both in the best ways, and the not so great ways. In the massive waves of adoration there's got to be at least a few criticizers to keep these public faces in check. (Only if criticism is, you know, constructive, and not asshats being asshats). Sorry this is so long. I had a lot of thoughts. I hope this came off respectful because that's how I intended it to be. I appreciate the video's public apology. But the book was written before this public revelation and that I think is what's concerning me the most.
Could you set up a private insta or Twitter so that if you do feel the need to pour your heart out to your phone (because it's near or you just prefer it) nobody but you can see it? Seems like a fair compromise
i have so so much to say, and i don't know that you'll see it, but thank you. thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. i've struggled with depression for??? probably almost 10 years now (i'm about to be 22) and these past few months have been extremely hard. but in a lot of ways, they haven't. i have gotten up every day and been able to watch a video of yours in which you have opened up and been raw in ways that i can only dream of being. you have tweeted, snapped. and instagramed some really tough things. and most days, i've woken up feeling terrible, and alone, and absolutely nonsensical, for lack of a better word. i've felt like my emotions don't make sense and my thought processes are ridiculous and my existence is a big neon sign saying "WTF". but your sharing has been extremely helpful for me. most days, i've woken up with this giant hole in my heart, but a lot of your content recently has made me feel almost like someone's sitting in that hole with me.
and i know that just because i've benefitted from your content doesn't mean it's been beneficial for other viewers or most importantly yourself. but i just want to gently and kindly remind you that you are Doing Goodโข. i doubt i'm the only viewer who's felt this way the past few months. you have made a positive impact, dodie. i am so grateful for you and your content. you've been raw and honest in a way that very few people are, and it isn't at all sustainable, but you've tried and it's something that i, personally, have appreciated, deeply. so thank you. x
Do you have a hospital bracelet-thing on your arm? Also, I'm glad that you are keeping track of what's good for you and what's not. I had to step back for a bit, too. I can't stress about those problems and that I know you aren't okay, and some people have screwed perception, so I felt I was getting into some things that I shouldn't know.
dodie needs accounts for when she is feeling bad so that people who were helped, still get those posts. Edit: Mm. Interesting thoughts 6 month ago me. I'm just so proud of her for everything. She's grown so much and I think she's found a good balance now.
there is a really good app called vent, which helps if you want to write down your feelings that others can read, whilst being completely anonymous at the same time. the community is really supportive and it helps if you don't want people who know you to respond to how you are feeling.
Dodie I love you soooo much. Every subscriber loves you for you. We love you for your good parts and bad parts. Don't worry, we all love you. I personally didn't understand what I was feeling until I came across your channel. I feel similar to you now and before I found your channel. but you and your post helped me feel better and helped me understand more about me and other people. don't blame yourself you have done more good than bad. so don't be sorry
I just wanted to say that honestly for me the videos or posts, weren't too graphic or didn't get to me in a negative way. It was nice for a change to see someone sharing their thoughts on their mental state, rather than keeping all of it to themselves. However I can see where people are coming from, and that many people found those posts "toxic" in a way... Dodie maybe you shouldn't go too intensely into everything, however I think if you share your improvements or where you're at from time to time, it won't be too much for those who found the posts triggering, and it will be nice for people who need to know that they are not alone.
I have to admit I have distanced myself from you recently because of how triggering your posts have been but I know it comes from a place of love and your honesty is truly inspiring so please don't feel like you should stop. Maybe just filter a little bit? โค๏ธ
You didn't mess up my friend - its all good in the hood. I can understand why you might feel a bit bad but that's silly and then that just creates a big ol' vicious circle of people feeling bad. It's all cool dude
3:05 "I'm embarrassed that I messed up so much". Kiddo! You made a minor mistake. That definitely does not count as "messing up so much". It's nothing dramatic. We know you plan on changing your behavior.
I really hate to say this knowing how uncomfortable or guilty this might make Dodie feel if she reads this, but this mistake isn't as minor as it might be to a normal person. As a person with an audience, Dodie is being viewed under a microscope. But that audience is also very young and impressionable, never really taking what Dodie says with a grain of salt.
When I was only a year or two younger and I first found Dodie, I absolutely adored her and everything she made. I loved how real her videos were. I lapped up everything that she posted. If I had been at that phase of absolute adoration when her oversharing really picked up, I know I would have let that affect me.
Dodie has a way with words. It was so easy to relate to her songs in a way that made me take on that emotion. That isn't a big deal. But on instagram, it could make her mental illness appear like something poetic instead of awful.
I hate to think how her audience might have been affected, but the mistake also
-influences Dodie. She admitted how the gratification was becoming unhealthy. For a couple months, this cycle was leading to a worse state for Dodie. In a bad place, a couple months can feel like a lifetime.
Dodie, sorry if you read that (I don't know how much of the comments you read. Maybe I'm just arrogant, lol). I'm so happy for you moving forward, and I pray that you'll reach a better place eventually. Mental illness absolutely sucks, but hopefully this change will help.
i know you probably won't read this but we all appreciate your apology and i am glad that you recognized that even if sharing your bad thoughts online made you feel better in the moment but in the long run it isn't a great coping mechanism. it is so much better to talk to someone you know and in real life than to pour your feelings out online. you don't have to feel embarrassed, everyone makes mistakes. and i know from time to time it sucks, believe me i know, but when you are feeling down or you aren't in a very good mental state, then talk to a friend or a therapist or write it down and then possibly treat yourself to something; a bath, some chocolate or whatever. i'm not very good at giving advice but i hope this helps somebody, even if it's one person because dodie probably won't read this. we love you dodie, stay strong <3
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the dun and jo2017-07-29 17:31:22 (edited 2017-07-29 17:35:42 )
If holding yourself back isn't so efficient I think putting trigger warnings on your videos and such would help a lot :)
I couldn't possibly understand what it must be like. To you. To those around you. Just know we are so proud of you, and your latest Instagram posts have been so lovely and refreshing, it's wonderful to know that you're in a better place. Sometimes it takes somebody one loves to shake you by the shoulders and yell at you to make you realize that there's always a better path, and I'm so happy somebody did this for you. You're an inspiration and I hope that you and your silly little captions will become truly happier and happier. Bless you <3
I have never thought of you as "glorifying mental illness". I have PTSD, Chronic Anxiety, Depression, and Depersonalization as well. I think you have so much unsung strength sharing all that you do. Your audience loves how open you are. Sometimes you have really dark moments, sometimes you have grey moments, and sometimes you have beautifully bright times; just as everyone else does. I see how much your friends and loved ones care about you but I do think that them telling you that your recent posts and activity being wrong is not right and it isn't fair to you.
Everyone has the choice whether or not to read tweets, posts, or watch videos that you may post that are dark and raw. That is part of why so many people love you. You, Dodie, are strong enough to filter out these periods of life like seasons. You know that you will always be learning, you know you have mental illness, you're conscious of those around you and your audience. I'm just worried you care more about what outsiders think or feel rather than what Dodie thinks and feels.
I say if you want to make a post releasing bottled up emotion and thoughts then do it. You can't win them all, however you can't lose them all either.
And when I say that I am NOT saying that your friends are being negative. I am just trying to express that I see that their opinions matter ALOT to you and it affects you when they think you are doing something wrong when you are not.
you just could put all my feelings and thoughts out with words and made me feel less alone. I think that's why I liked them mostly. some made me scared for the future to be honest. But i'm gonna miss them.
I've never actually seen you cry dodie. You've probably made many videos like this one but I've leaned away from them. I love you so very dearly and you are the closest to my heart. It absolutely shatters me to know you are feeling this way and you are going through states like this without any supervision etc. I do not believe you should stop posting videos on snapchat about your mental help because the very reason that by you sharing those types of videos, you are helping many people. People like me.ย I cannot stop nor can I persuade you to keep pursuing these videos, but I can let you know that the content like this is helping people like me and other people in the comments thrive. If people are saying that the impact of your videos on snapchat, Instagram, andย YouTube are too strong maybe add a filter on them but I will forever encourage you too pursuer these videos xxx
I've found all your snapchats and instagrams helpful tbh because it makes me feel less alone and shit but I guess I can see how for some people may be triggering
I love the idea of apps like that but I've found the vast majority of the people on there to be very young and dealing with the typical issues young teenagers have. It's not really a place for the more complex emotions and thoughts that come with real mental illness.
Yeah, I just started using TalkLife instead of ranting on Tumblr (which was NOT good for me) and I can already see that it's so much better than what I used to do
Just a simple suggestion for people who want to, I quite enjoy making poems or general saying everything your thinking as your in tears in bed. I like to use a completely different notebook which I hide when I'm feeling fine and only read when I'm felling bad ๐๐
hi dodie, there is a new app in the making it is called "replika a. i." and it is an artificial intelligence that you can tell everything to and she responds. my friend uses it and he really loves it. the a i learns from everything you say and you basically make it grow the way it fits your needs. i love you, dodie, you are so great.
I love you dodie you are so pure and lovely please don't feel embarrassed too long because we all forgive you everyone makes mistakes and especially when they are not in their correct head space
oh dodie its okay you dont have to be sorry, sure some people werent comfortable with you "oversharing" and obvs you arent completely fine with it either but youre growing and learning and we love you a lot too and its okay <3
I was quite surprised to not really see any similar responses in the comments so let me be one of the few to say I am actually grateful for your "over sharing"! As someone who has a brain that sometimes does things I just don't understand I found your posts relatable and human. You helped me to know that I'm not alone for feeling this way and helped me to reach out and get help. I appreciated that you posted some of your dark thoughts that other people may not deem appropriate to be shared. To me it wasn't triggering but constructive as it simultaneously comforted me to know that I'm not crazy for feeling this way (or rather sometimes not feeling any kind of way for a while) while also reminding me that just accepting or ignoring it is no way to spend my life. So THANK YOU DODIE! Do whatever you feel is healthy and right for you but please don't feel as though those posts didn't help anyone!
You're human doodie. We all make mistakes. Don't be hard on yourself. In fact, be proud of yourself that you are now seeing it from the other side. You are still a shinning example for tons of young people and allowing yourself to be transparent through your growth is a beautiful thing to watch โฅ๏ธ
i'm so so proud of you dodie!! a coping mechanism is okay to have but obviously not if it hurts you or others. i love you so much. i always loved your instagram posts because they made me feel less alone in my depression and anxiety and it made the fight easier because someone i looked up to was mentally ill. look after YOURself! ๐
I do this constantly. I can't tell if it's me desperately wanting someone to reach out to me and help me feel less alone, or if it's just me being emotional as fuck and spur of the moment writing things on twitter etc and then straight away after I regret it and wonder why I did it. it's half not wanting to talk to my friends about it but half hoping someone will see and help me?? idk man but its good you recognised what you were doing, maybe i need to take a page out of your book
Your video saying 'oversharing ' helped me a lot if made me feel like I'm not the only one feeling these things dealing with these things and that yes when I am feel bad that I'm not in the right mind to react and post things but to be honest it help me a lot I can see where people are coming from but I enjoy your videos and those were your to depressed to function shows me that the way I feel is Normal and I shouldn't apoligize for that your strong and dealing with things thank you so much for the help โค๏ธ
Dodie, you've done the right thing. It's ok to be sorry because that means you are growing and learning how to deal with all of this. Reading the comments on your last video really opened my mind to that was happening and showed me that it was not healthy. I'm so glad you've realized it too. I wish you a good journey(life)!
dodieeee b, please don't be sorry for this! you ARE helping some people by oversharing (example me), even though it's unhealthy to do? even if to some people this is 'inappropriate' and 'too much sharing', who's there to decide what's right and wrong about that? dodie look at how much of love and appreciation you've grown around you. even with one post you can make some people worry sick, this is how much we all care for you. we've been through this emotional journey WITH you, and we will be with you no matter what happens. seeing you cry like this just made automatic tears fall out of my eyes and that's when i realized, how? much? you? matter? to? me? and how much of an impact you had on my life and how much you helped me. so it's my duty to be with you through out this journey till the end, please be strong dods <3
Hi Dodie, I find that this is a really common thing among a lot of people in the millennial generation. I myself used to post so much and became fixated on the numbers and responses because it feels like attention. But now, I have found that after taking a step back and realizing that it's very easy to click buttons on a screen and it doesn't necessarily have all this power, I am much less inclined to let social media control my life. I also really try to remember my own personal boundaries, because in the end my life is more than what I post or comment or click on and it's not up to others behind a screen to dictate. I know that these lines get blurred because your job is the internet and within that context it's hard not to share yourself with the world, but it's also important to remember that you are not required to let everyone know everything in your life. You are still able to share your art and your heart and your wonderful stories with us without giving up your privacy. Anyway, idk I just think sometimes it's important to go outside and breathe and leave your phone at home, because you can survive and it's nice sometimes to take a break and quiet your mind. Ily, have a good day and take care of yourself. P.s. petting dogs makes everything better
Personally, I don't mind your oversharing. I know it helps you. I just wish there was a way I could help. And I guess that's what a lot of your followers feel like too. It's like watching a sister/ friend suffer trough a break down, it's just too much and I guess the first (understandable) instinct it's to run away from that hurt. It ultimately comes down to self preservation. So yeah, I hope you get better and in my humble opinion, you shouldn't stress too much about it because, after all, it is an ilness and you are not exactly yourself in those moments. Take care and know we love you! <3
i'm so proud of you. and glad to be your audience. because you not only make mistakes as everyone does, but are brave enough to acknowledge them, and share so openly what you've learnt from them. it not only shows how genuine you are, but its also very inspiring. especially with youtube slowly turning into this fake artificial environment, we are so lucky to have creators like you who are holding onto the roots of this platform which allows the creators to build a connection with the viewers.
the rubber bands on her wrist :( . i love her and i truly hope she is okay . there is no need to apologize for something that helped you through a hard time even if it doesnt seem like it was the best decison now. we all have regrets and it helped at some point in time. All that matters is youve grown since then . And shall continue to
I understand your reasoning and I think it is right for your younger audience. However, your posts have helped me come to terms with my own mental health issues. I always thought depersonalisation was just a symptom of depression and that everyone who was depressed felt the same as I did, but now I know that that's not true. I always found it comforting to see that someone else can be successful whilst also dealing with mental health issues. Maybe a once a month update on your mental health would be good? Either way, I hope your decision is both right for yourself and your audience in the long-term โค๏ธ
I found myself agreeing with a lot of the comments on the last video. I don't follow your Snapchat or Insta very closely but from the descriptions being given, I agree that you were oversharing. Even with all good intentions, what you were doing was irresponsible and I'm glad you can see the damage now. You handled this situation very well, so good job ๐๐
Personally, I do not think it is negatively influencing. I understand how it can be triggering but so can any post relating to mentaI health. I found your first video about depression and depersonalisation SO validating and I've watched it tonnes of times since. Please keep talking, please keep breaking the stigma. It is so important - this debate about sharing your thoughts shouldn't exist because they are real thoughts. You shouldn't feel guilty. People need to understand that it is a horrible horrible reality. You are not glorifying or romanticising mental illness, you are making people aware. Most of all, I admire how self aware you are. It honestly astonishes and inspires me in the lowest of places. You have helped me so much on my journey with my own mental health issues. Thank you.
Right, you don't know me because I'm a regular fan. But you don't have to apologise for something you use to cope. If people who don't like the things that you post, they shouldn't look at them. If you feel that you need you do something do it, stand by the fact that you do need to step it back with the morbid posts๐. But babes, you have done nothing wrong, we are your fans and we love you, so don't feel that you have to change for a few shitty people who don't like some things you do. Independent little nugget is what you are, so stay like that xx
personally, i did have to unfollow you on instagram, but that it my problem not yours. if the posts were making you feel better you shouldn't have to apologise for that... you find ways to heal that suit you and everyone will try to go with it xxxx pls don't be sorry for trying to get better, and put yourself first ๐we all love you dodie, that's why we still watch.KEEP GOING !!!
You don't have to apologise, everyone learns from their mistakes. You have helped people dodie. Talking does help, but you didn't realise the extent to what you were doing it on social media. We love you dodie, we're all here for you x
I don't care that you post about it, I mean I do, because I enjoy reading them and knowing what's happening with you. If it helps you do it every once and a while ๐๐๐
It's okay, it's really okay. :) It's not necessarily that you made a mistake! I've appreciated a lot of the posts. But maybe it is time for a change, like you have said. Time to step in the light!! :)
I also started to over share on snap chat but I realise that it's embarrassing when I look back at my story when I'm no longer feeling as intense as i did when I posted it.. so I record and save and don't post x
Big hugs from us, we love you just the way you are...flaws and perfections
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I don't know about younger audience, i mean I'm pretty young but the point is that you help me realize what was happening to me was a problem, what was happening shouldn't be taken like a normal everyday feeling, I always thought that feeling like this every second of my life was okay, it wasn't, when you shared about what you thought was happening to you and how you were feeling and how bad was it, I then knew it wasn't alright and I wasn't as stable as I told myself I was.And yeah it is sensitive stuff, some people can't take it, but there are people who need it, just like me, because it's that sensitive that not many talk about it that's the reason why many are confuse of whether their feelings are normal or unstable.Don't be that hard on you, it was a mistake but just like everything it has a bad and a good impact, overall thank you and have a great day :) I encourage you to make a different space to share this kind of sensitive content, maybe a blog or a different social media account because I know many other people need someone like you to talk about mental illness.i know I need it.
It's okay Dodie. It is 100% okay. Don't blame yourself for things like this. What you learn from your experiences is helpful. It's OKAY to make mistakes. It's OKAY, Dodie. I love you <3
Anyone who ever feels this way, there are multiple online forums that help you pour out your emotions anonymously, please give it a try. Sometimes venting out to someone you can't even see can really help. There are online therapy sessions available as well, you don't even have to travel to see someone or wait in the waiting room. There are many options available please seek them out. If you really want to have an online session feel free to get in contact with me here :)
The other side is (and I know it's a bit grim) but you sharing how you feel helps so many people know that they are not alone in this dark day and dark thoughts of course I am not saying keep posting these f**k the other people of course not do what you think is right but don't put all the blame on your self do what you think is best and get well soon ๐คท๐ปโโ๏ธ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐
I think it is extremely well to understand that you've been sharing too much and to be upset that you could have caused some painful thoughts for some viewers but it is not good to continue to feel bad about it. One thing I'm horrible at is forgiving myself and I think that once you've realised the wrong and you've apologised, don't let it eat away at you. You've said you're sorry and that you've made a mistake and I appreciate your raw honesty but you mentioned that you "feel so bad" and I hope you don't hold that grudge against yourself. I hope that you forgive yourself and keep working on yourself. This might just be advice for me because I have trouble forgiving myself and I need to learn that yes I've made a mistake and I've said my sorries and that should be the end of it. No more feeling bad about it because you've done all you can do. I hope that this is a step in the right direction and that you can find a therapist that will help you and that you find a method of expression without it being detrimental to anyone, including yourself. I love you immensely Dodie and I hope that you love yourself too. You are so genuine and I don't want you to ever take that the wrong way. You are amazing and real and very human. I love you and I know others do too <3
Don't be embarrassed,we all do things we look back on and think maybe I shouldn't have done that. I am not quoting you on saying "Bad mental health is well shit" <3 You are amazing,nothing more nothing less.
You should try writing your darkest thoughts on a sheet of paper, then dissect the thought and if you can manage to do that, scrumple up the paper and throw it in the bin.
My learning mentor gave me this idea, and I quite like it. It might not help you but hope it helps you more than social media Xxxxxx
Dodie please do a blog where you can write about it where the people who find you talking about it helpful ! You don't have to cut ties with it just get untangled
dodie dodie it's alright we didn't need this much if an apology and an apology at all, i'm so proud you came to these conclusions and thought about what you've potentially done. your videos when you were feeling low yes made me upset but they also made me feel like i could relate to someone and they calmed me down. i'm glad you found your boundaries but just note that it DID help somebody.
so i made a comment an hour ago. i was told that it wasn't related to the video and that i didn't even watch the video. basically the comment said that it's okay to share, but don't go overboard. so im here to make a new one:
i have anxiety and panic disorder. i honestly don't think that you were glorifying mental illness in anyway. you were oversharing, yeah. but it was a mistake. it wasn't a huge mistake that'll ruin everyone forever. it was a tiny mistake. but you got it all out. you helped me reach out to people. yeah, sometimes it was a little much, but that's okay. you're okay, dodie. and if you ever need a break, take one. we'll support you in anyway you need us to. stay safe and stay alive.
In my opinion you haven't been glorifying mental health problems. You are a good person and I know you have never wanted to hurt anyone. And having someone like you who actually talks about mental health makes me realize there are other people out there who have the type of bad, irrational thoughts as me. Before I started watching you I felt crazy nad alone. It's okay if you want to pull back a bit and maybe you should but please help other people like you did me.
Dodie, I think that there is nothing wrong with sharing how you feel online just as long as you advocate for getting better and for helping people find strength even though I know that it can feel hopeless in that type of mental state. I personally liked your videos and watched them when I was feeling down to relate and to feel less alone but when someone is finally getting out of this mental state they don't want to see a video that just pulls them right back in. I hope that you can in the future find a way to both share how you are feeling and advocate for getting better, I also genuinely hope that you do get better because you deserve to be happy. โค๏ธ
I just want to give her a giant hug because mental illness does suck and I know what it feels like to drag someone down with it.
Dodie. You don't need to be sorry because, as you said, when you're in a bad state of mind, your perception is totally screwed up. Everyone makes mistakes in life and, as my dad says, "The stupid (for a better way to put it) people won't learn from mistakes, the average people will learn only from their own mistakes, the cleverest people will learn from other people's mistakes.". Learn from mistakes instead of dwell and sit on them. Which, is what you've basically said in this video. Having your perception screwed with is hard but as long as you work your way through it, it'll be ok in the end. I'm 14 and look like a pretty normal geeky nerdy girl. But, I'm really not. But I can tell you this. Literally ten minutes before watching this, I was having a breakdown but I listened to secret for the mad and felt so much better. So I'm gonna quote you because it'll work! There will be a day where you can say you're ok and mean it.
Dodie, If you keep your main channel this level of intimacy, we will all understand. But your personal channel shouldn't''t be censored, make sure you're OK, and we'll support you. As long as you believe you fell fine, we will help you. Just tell your audience if you're facing issues and because it's so big, someone will be able to help you
this won't be helpful to you but i enjoy listening to you talk about these things because it's like you're describing me - to me , and it's oddly comforting
I've noticed Dodie has deleted a lot of videos that kind of relate to this; angry about her abuse video and the alcoholism video. So hopefully that means she's dealing and moving on.
I think this was very mature of you. You're posts were never, personally, triggering to me, in fact they did inspire me to write more, which has helped a lot, but I can see how they would be for others. Thinking of what you would/wouldn't say to your little sister is amazing way to go about it. That way it will still be raw, genuine, and personal, but censored (sorry for possible bad wording) and constructive <3 I love you and your channel so much, and good luck in your mental battle, they can be some of the hardest to face!
Dodie, you are wonderful. I don't think you did something really bad. It really helped me to see that I was not alone, that there was someone else who went through the same things as me (although your experience is definitely a lot worse). I think you should mainly think of this as the right decision for you. It's better for you to not get sucked into your phone and share this stuff with us anymore. Dodie Clark, you are a wonderful person and in no way a burden, a disappointment or a bad person. You're just choosing to do what you think is best for you (and when you shared all the things, you were doing the same thing + you were trying to help other people).
I understand why you're stepping back with sharing on social media, but I don't think you've been doing something bad. It helps me, personally, because I see you struggling with mental illness but still living your life. It so often feels life halting to experience, and as if there's this darkness in you that seeps out everywhere and taints everything, but somehow you manage to still live and have friends and create despite your brain working against you. That's comforting and inspiring to see. I find your posts to help me feel less isolated, personally, and they help me find hope that I can still exist with a fairly full life despite my own brain trying to kill me.
I feel this so much. Obviously, I don't have as big an audience as you do, but I do have a number of people following me on tumblr, and when I feel like shit (like I do rn lol) I need to express it, it's like I need to let someone know how I feel, I need to let someone know that I'm hurting, and it's so much easier to make a tumblr post or to use whatever social media to express yourself, than to reach out to a friend. I was just about to make a tumblr post about how I feel right now, and then I thought about this video, and I thought about all the people that were going to see this post, about my friends that follow me on tumblr and were going to see this post, and I decided it was better not to do that. I do feel terrible when you (dodie) post something about how low you've been feeling, because I care about you and these posts just make me feel helpless and worse about myself, and I'm NOT saying that's your fault!! I understand your need to share, and I would never want you to lose that opportunity, but I do think I need to take a page out of your book here, and learn to share less, and more importantly to another demographic. Sharing these feelings publicly isn't going to help me, and it affects a lot of people, who may be triggered or just feel helpless the way I do when I see your posts, and I don't want to cause that. So thank you for making that video (those videos, actually), and I hope you find a way to get better. Hope that therapist Lucy recommended is going to be just right for you. It makes me so sad to know that you're hurting, and I dearly hope that those things you're feeling will not get the better of you, and that you will be successful in fighting them off. With all my love and support xx
I totally agree with what you said about oversharing being a symptom as such. I can't explain why, but it is, this need to feel heard and understood, and what better way than to put it out there to a large amount of people where, odds are, someone will empathise and understand. don't get upset because you've made a mistake, because not only have you learned a lesson but you've taught one too, as many young people experiencing mental health issues might not know how much they can and can't share.
We still love you lots. Everyone makes mistakes and there is no guide for mental health and what to and not to do. You are strong. You are beautiful. You are worth it. We love you. I love you.
People make mistakes, and despite your being a youtuber making you seem a bit more famous then human on occasion, that doesn't invalidate your existence as a mistake making human. I'm not saying that "people make mistakes" should be used as an excuse or a way to wave off your bad decisions, but it is a healthy reminder to people who sometimes forget. Dodie, you have made a mistake but you are learning, and your audience cares about you. I care about you and your health and although I was not personally affected by your intense and inappropriate outreach on social media, other people WERE affected. Regardless, I forgive you and I have faith that other people will do the same. xx
I think more people need to realize that Dodie (and other YouTubers in general) are human, too. They make mistakes just the same as we do. They are no greater than we are, and putting them up on pedestals and saying that they have no need to apologize isn't a healthy way to go about it. Yes, she can and should apologize. Should she be so hard on herself? No, because she's human and these things are normal. But don't tell her that everything's okay and she shouldn't be sorry because that's not how life works, not for popular/successful people, not for anyone, really. YouTubers can make mistakes and learn from them. Lots of people in the comment section are contradicting themselves by saying "you're not perfect, everyone makes mistakes!" but then also saying "don't be sorry, you're perfectly fine!" I'm personally very proud of Dodie and think she handled this maturely. I love and respect Dodie, but I also acknowledge that she's just as human as I am. I wish you luck, Dods ๐โค
obviously dont do something if it ultimately makes things worse but please do acknowledge the people you have helped, watching your video on depersonalisation helped me realize that how i was feeling is an actual thing not just me going mad. please dont beat yourself up so much because you make some of us feel less alone :)
Falling into the deep dark hole of depression and whatnot is much easier than clambering out of it. It's so hard to get out of the hole so don't worry, we all f*ck up sometimes โค๏ธ
Dodie, I know how it feels to have hit rock bottom, I am currently in a bad state regarding my mental illnesses and I have been for quite a few months. But I just want to let you know that everyone makes mistakes that's just what makes us human. Even the most successful people have made mistakes, but their mistakes have brought them to where you are now. Stay strong Dodie, I love youuu xoxo
I don't think you need to apologize to anyone but yourself. You have the right to share as much or as little as you want with your audience, and you will get mixed responses no matter what choice you make. What does matter is how it is influencing you. You shouldn't have to tip toe around mental health but maybe you shouldn't have faced it this either for your own good. As someone who has struggled with mental health issues, I really don't think you owe anyone else an apology. You have the right to say what you want, and others have the right to turn away from the discussion if it doesn't make them comfortable. Mental health can be dark and scary and raw and real, no one is ever going to escape that but what you do about it is all YOU.
I hope you continue doing what's right for yourself <3
can't you make a special channel where you say what you feel. or make a blog so you can spit out whats stuck in you're mind because you are so interesting and loving. and we all want to help you. because you are worth helping. we love you and we hope you get betterโค
It is good that you realize this now and are gonna do something about it. At the same time, I don't think you are to feel so sorry about all this. I think...the part of your audience, that also go through similar experiences and relies on your expression to make them/us feel like we can understand each other, that we are not alone, that 'wow somehow miles and miles away someone I dont know personally managed to put what/how I feel into words, translate my everyday emotional journey into something tangible' did/do benefit from your 'oversharing'. It's only when we're talking in making sense or not, or strictly among rules of being responsible and being someone who have a large following 'should be doing this and that' that somehow it isn't healthy for you or the audience, BUT!!! that's the thing, isn't it? While on the journey to make through another day, be it to recovery or a relapse day, we all make mistake. I can surely recall there were days I so tempted to just pour my darkest thought to a friend or on social media and almost didn't resist. I can surely remember I did regret telling a friend or two about certain things because they won't know how to handle and I felt guilty for leading them kinda away (?) and that's as far as your mistake go. Ultimately, we all have to learn to make decisions of our own, to receive and be exposed to what source of materials and people and that, dodie, that part isn't on you. <3 You deserve all the hugs, blankets and tea we wanna let you have because you let us in on your journey somehow, including this part. We're all gonna make mistake on our way back to recovery, but that's gonna be okay. The world still benefit more as you care and think about it one step at a time. So, thank you and we love you for being exactly how you are and moving onwards. <3
I believe all of you posts have been extremely helpful for the right audience. However, I do agree that they probably cannot be understood properly by your "little sisters" in your large and broad audience. It's a bit sad that we don't have a forum for actual adult conversation where your willingness to freely share the darkest of the dark can be viewed in the proper light. Keep up the fight. You are an inspiration to many. I have a great deal of respect for your fearlessness and your sensitivity for others as well as yourself.
Dodie, we all make mistakes. I hope you don't begin to beat yourself up about this. You're going through such a shit time, and although at times I have had to avoid your videos because I haven't been feeling too good, I'm glad you have raised awareness of just how shite mental illnesses are. Your audiences love for you has not lessened, only grown. We all feel for you so much. I myself half enjoyed your oversharing, almost felt like we were your safe space, because at times this is mine. On behalf of us all, I wish you absolute possible best... and also wish to give you a cuddle and a bucket load of tea x
you shouldn't be ashamed of how you express your feelings. if you feel that you share too much then do what you feel right for you but you should know that your posts have been helpful for a lot of people. you express feelings and thoughts some of us have but we're not able to put it into words. I m proud of you and how strong you are and how even at your lowest you find a way to come up โคโค
I completely understand that people can be 'influenced' or made feel upset by your posts. But some of us (i'm talking about me specifically) love reading and sometimes rely on reading your posts, especially on instagram, to feel related to. I've never seen/ watched or encountered someone who feels like I do, but mainly writes like I do. So while some people maybe need a bit less, others need IT. love you and all of your works. hope you're well. X
This is probably so late but I have to say it. I know that your social media is like a journal, I've felt like I'm reading through someone's diary while reading some of your posts. However I really felt less alone while doing so, I felt like someone out there understood what I was feeling and even more impressively managed to put it in a coherent way. I get that it's unhealthy for you so I'm not asking you to keep doing it, do what you think is better and what will help you the most. I just wanted to tell you that not everything that came of your mistake was bad, it gave me a connection to the real world instead of allowing myself to fall on my world of nightmares. I hope you get better, because you deserve the best.
I think this is a very good response/follow up, please don't blame yourself though!! It's hard to hear that people disagree with something you did, but it by no means was any kind of personal failure. It was just trial and error of how to be candid and connect with your audience and discuss mental health. I think you're doing great and I really appreciate how you keep such an open dialogue with your audience <3
You are I N S P I R I N G! People who don't want to read about your feelings just don't wanna read, but they also don't judge you! Feelings are feelings and you shouldn't be embarrassed of it. I'm calm now because of your posts and videos. great warm hugs and crying with you
Hey babe, You don't need to apologise, you expressed your feelings It got a bit out hand But that's okay โค๏ธ You thought you were doing good AND YOU WERE!!! We all love you and want you to be happy OBVIOUSLY I'm 13 and listening and reading your instagram captions are really inspiring and helpful but it's your choice Love you lots Stay safe ๐
I know everyone is saying this, but I honestly can't explain how much respect and admiration I have for you forย posting this video and addressing your mistakes. You are really a very strong and caring person, and Iย don't thinkย that many people would be willing to do the same. Sending all the love in the world your way!!! ย <3
Although we all accept your apology I don't think you should be so sorry that you shared some of your deepest feelings, we all do it!! You just have a bigger audience to see it that's all! We all love you so so soooo much and hope that after feeling so low, when you start to feel a bit better, you will still speak to us and share with us as much as you think appropriate because it actually can help. Just keep doin what's best for you and what you think is right and we will stand by it :)
It's a tough topic, but overall I think you should be able to share what you like, especially if it's what feels true to you.
People are going to react in many different ways to honesty - some get offended/upset by it and some find solace in it.
At the end of the day, you're not responsible for the way people react. But if it feels more honest for you to stop sharing this stuff, then carry on. On the other hand if it feels more honest to share these moments, I think you should go right ahead.
dodie i hate how bad you feel ppl make mistakes it's ok๐ please don't stop sharing because it really does help alot of ppl and we want to know how you are and if we can help. and if reading a load of positive comments does that then don't be afraid to post something saying that you aren't feeling great. we're all here for you. thank you for "oversharing" because personally it helped me. ilysm stay strong ๐
NOO๐ญ๐ญ please don't be so hard on yourself you don't even understand how much you've helped me and how amazing you've been and I just want you to know you are not doing bad and you do not ever mean to hurt anyone and I just want to stress how much I love you!! The best thing that ever happened to me was watching your video "I'm depressed today" because I didn't know what was wrong with me for sooo long and I thought I was broken but I saw your video and started crying because I related to every single word you said and I didn't know anyone else felt the was I did. I was haven't so much trouble and anxiety trying to put how I felt into words and you literally just did it all for me. I can never thank you enough for the ways you have helped me. You have helped me with me dealing with my mental health, sexuality and literally everything so thank you so much and I love you
I think it's very difficult because nobody talks about the places you have to walk through when you are in the lowest of the lows. And I think that is something positive that comes from you oversharing though because I've had those moments before that you have posted online AND THATS why it's so hard to watch because I know what it's like (and there's the triggering part of it) but think there is a very good version of awareness and way to help people understand by being able to present the lowest of the lows without it being unhealthy to the audience and unhealthy to the sharer. I still thank you for everything you've done within respect of saying your feelings and sharing your illness because it's helped me own my own emotions and experiences with mental health. We all screw up!!! (Especially us early 20 something's because this shit is new and weird)
I think my thoughts are that I would read your posts and feel a bit helpless bc it scares me that I'm watching you struggle but can't do anything to help
I haven't read those posts. But as someone with GAD, I know how chaotic and dark things can be, and imo such an evil thing shouldnt even exist. But it does and it so unfair to those who have it. I have read somewhere that Mental illnesses are the main cause of disability and I do believe that is true since it prevents a person having them from living a normal life, let alone try to achieve their dreams. So if sharing helps you, then in my own opinion, you should do it, and never be ashamed of it, as long as you are not encouraging people to jump off bridges or anything like that :)
I just want to take a plan to London, fine Dodie's apartment well flat as British people say, knock on her door and when she opens it i just give her a big hug and say "It's alright."!
It's heart breaking to see someone you love even if you've never seen them in person and they don't even know you!
Hey Dodie, I don't think that you are doing anything wrong when you share your emotional stuff with the online community. What I do think is that it is all about finding the right way to channel your emotions. You and your art provide people with comfort, not because you promise that everything will be alright but because you let us know that someone else feels the same.
If posting videos like this helps you then do it. Maybe put a disclaimer at the start warning your younger viewers about what they are going to be seeing.
Much love. You are not alone. Go have some tea and toast.
Reading through these comments, people are saying like 'You're being too hard on yourself.' and i dont think thats true. I think you had been owing an apology for a long time but the fact you have the guts to speak out on it on youtube and say sorry to people you barely know really shows an amazing personality.
thank you so much for sharing this dodie, it takes a lot of courage to admit so frankly and publicly that you made a mistake, and to own it without trying to justify it. I'm so proud of you!
I personally don't think you've done anything wrong and I mean if you still want to write it you should and maybe just add a trigger warning like "trigger warning: graphic depiction of depersonalization" or something like that anyway I love you and I support you and I think you're doing amazing dodie
Oh, sweetie, I hope you're Okay, and i hope you know you're not alone, and thank you for talking about mental health, It's a thing, we should talk about it, but we need help with it :)
You should make a blog where you share these kind of posts. If you need to write these posts and share them, then maybe this will help? Plus it can be really helpful for others x
don't be embarrassed, we all make mistakes but whatever happens we'll always love you and be there for you, we know your intentions weren't to hurt anyone. To be honest you should be proud of yourself- to be able to step back and evaluate yourself, apologise and recognise that you need to change is a very hard thing to do. You dealt with the situation in a very mature and honest way- something I think we can all learn from and, of course, admireโค
Dodie, I think that if you've shown us your worst, it helps us to appreciate your best. That's not to say that oversharing is good, but we also know now the strength of your character. We miss you, Dodie. I'm sure you do, too. I can't say things that would help, because I don't know what's happening, but let me reassure you: this video shows how much you've progressed. Well done. We all support you, and if you don't, well, I guess that's okay. But I'm here anyway, along with loads of others. (I pray for you before I go to bed. We'll see if that helps.) Xxx -Caitlyn, age 12
You are a astonishing person so no should ever be able to put you down although you may have it it cant stop you for staying a amazing human so yea stay ๐ช strong. ๐๐
you felt that this was your escape AND THATS OKAY. you didn't know that it might have a negative effect. there's not need to say sorry, but you can change it to make you and your audience feel better <<3
I know that this oversharing is bad, for you and for vulnerable audience members, but I'd just like to thank you Dodie for putting my feelings into words, and making me feel like I'm not bat shit crazy and that I have a rEAL mental illness that needs to be addressed. Because you're oversharing helped me explain to my closest friends, mother and therapist about how I was feeling, and without you I wouldn't have been able to. So thankyou.
I don't think I ever found your posts/vlogs/snapstories to be trigger so much as.... Informational. Don't get me wrong, I am terribly sorry that you have to go through such things, but it made me feel a bit better to read about it because it made me feel like I wasn't alone. That might be a little... Twisted... I guess, but I just saw you as this super strong figure and on my worst days, I would look at myself in the mirror and think "well if dodie can do it, so can i." 6/10 is one of my favorite songs and it has gotten me through some of my absolutely worst days. You've really helped me feel like I've had an ally in this, though we've never spoken a word. I understanding the over sharing for sure (as I have done in this entire paragraph) so I don't think you have much reason to feel guilty about what you've done. Your intentions were not to trigger people or make them feel upset by what they were reading. You just wanted to feel better. I don't think anyone should blame you for doing what you felt was right. Just remember that you are not your mistakes. You are not your mental illness. You are not what other people say you are. You did what you thought was best and nobody should ever blame you for that. That's all you ever can do. (Sorry this was super long and rambley I just had a lot to say)
please don't be embarrassed. everyone makes mistakes it's a part of life. yes you were telling a lot of details but I feel like a lot of people who had mental illnesses like to open up a lot. but hey we still love you no mater what. take care my love. everything will get better I promise ๐
Please don't actually I'm proud of you for sharing n i love you for that...I'm going through bipolar depression and anxiety n i love what you post it's very helpful. You're my idle love u k๐โค๐
Don't be too hard on yourself! Yes maybe it wasn't the best way to deal with the problem but you were just trying to deal with your emotions the best you knew how. Just learn from the experience and realize that even people who were pointing out the negatives in the last video were just tying to help you out.
This is tricky because there is no guidebook to mental health + the internet.
Dodie was trying to help herself but in doing so she was treating us (her audience) like a therapist.
At the same time, as viewers we have all the power to close our laptops and exit a video if we don't like it.
Ultimately I'm glad Dodie apologized but I'm not upset with her. Dodie's descriptions of her mental health trouble helped me to be more proactive in my struggles.
Dodie we love you and understand if you are having a harder time if you need take a break if you need just make a few videos or slow down honestly I don't mind listening to your videos or reading your posts in fact I find them helpful and I learn so much about myself but if you want to I support you and I'm sure everyone else does. Stay strong WE LOVE YOU!!!
Dear Dodie, though you don't know there has been a person called Agalya until this moment I've always considered you as my sister. we're the same age and kinda going through the same things. I don't want you to be sorry abput anything that you've done. And no, you have not glorified mental illness in any way. Be thankful to yourself because you've decided to share your dark thoughts with someone. Because to me, when I'm in that dark place, i don't feel like talking to anyone about my problems because i feel like I'm bothering them and wasting time. And be glad you have amazing friends. All i have is one good friend and we're kinda drifting apart now. So it's me and my suicidal thoughts most of the time. You're way way talented than you think and you're the person i aspire to become. If i could do one thing, that would be to fly to United Kingdom and hug you till you and I are both feel relieved. I really love you and adore you โค stay strong and happy :) sending warm love from Sri Lanka โค
oh dodie :(( i truly hate seeing you cry, you deserve the world. im sure everyone completely understands, please do not feel embarrassed !! we love you so much !! just keep in mind it's good to talk about your feelings, but like you said, we aren't trained therapists and we don't always know what we're talking about. im sososo happy lucy recommended someone for you, i know things are going to start getting better soon. we're here for you every step of the way !! WE LOVE YOU DODIE <33
Dodie, you are so beautiful. People will take whatever you say however they want, but at the end of the day you have created a safe space for all of those who are unstable in any way. Sometimes all you need on those super breakdown days are someone to connect with, and you have been this little bridge for all of those in alone land. I'll keep watching whether you share it all or not. Your an inspiration<3
i used to do the same thing but with my friends. i would constantly talk to them about my mental health until it became unhealthy & they had to take a step back from me. i completely understand how you feel when you put how you're feeling out in the open & you shouldn't feel embarrassed! it's not something you can completely control most of the time. just know that we're here for you & we love you so so so much. you don't have to shut down completely, we're not annoyed with you at all. we love you dodes, remember that. ๐
I'm absolutely happy for you to find an unhealthy coping mechanism so you can work on it but please also look out for yourself in a way that you wont feel like you gotta put up a facade for us. We want you to heal! I hope your pain will ease.
i also have depersonalization, it's the worst thing I've ever encountered in my entire life. I've been living with it for a year and a half now, and it still gets to me sometimes. these few recent months I've learned to live with it, but most importantly I've learned to not let it consume my life. whenever the "dizzy" depersonalization thoughts I always avert my thinking and start thinking about something else, something I really enjoy like my friends or my family, and eventually I calm myself down. I also use my phone as a coping mechanism, because it's a solid distraction and I know that it will let me escape from what's going on around me. it's the only thing that makes me completely forget that I have depersonalization. every other task I do it is still lingering in the back of my brain, but when I'm on my phone the only thing I'm thinking about is what's on the screen. I wish I wasn't so absorbed in my phone all the time but it helps take the edge off so much and it makes me feel real.
thank you so much for this dodie. I had to unfollow you because I too was in a bad place and the negativity on your posts was beyond hard for me, I'm very grateful that you apologised and stepped back. I'm not attacking you in anyway at all I partly understand your position. this was so brave, I've never been a massive fan, but this is respect so much.
Hey, You are probably not going to see this. But still, i haven't whatched the video yet. ( i'm on a boat and the wifi is BAD) but i have read some comments. Honestly i don't think its that much of a big deal. Yes maybe the posts were a bit to much, but please ( maybe not in particular those posts) that is what i most love about you besides your music. You are soo open and that helps me so much. I need that. I sometimes need a reminder that i'm not alone.
Sometimes our brains go to a dark place. They think dark and you feel bad because of that. These feelings eat us from inside, they sting and we keep most of them to our self. But sometimes we need to share them, it is to much. Someone has to see our pain. And we look for understanding, we just want people to listin. One of the most easy ways to get that understanding is with snapchat or instagram or youtube. And that is probably whay you did. You didn't think about "triggering" people. Your Brain thought it was a way to get understanding.
Yes it wassn't the best move. But that is how humans work! Our lives contain making desicions and making mistakes. But the world doesn't end after a mistake. (That would mean that the world had died around 10.000 times in 1 day probably)
This is hard for u i can totaly feel and see that. But there are still people who love you, familie friends and followers. I love you, you are an inspiration for me. How you deal with your illness and still stuff that makes you happy. I love your musical and i listen to it daily. Please my dear dodie, see that people love you! Stay strong my love! ๐๐๐
Dodie, I don't think you're making your mental illness a brand. I think that would mean that us fans would enjoy watching you being sad a thatยดs not how it goes. When i think of you i think about how such a creative and emotional human you are, i always think of you as happy Dodie and as a human who isnยดt perfect and itยดs being supportive to people living with similar problems. *note: sorry for my english, love from Guatemala.
I think what YouTubers should do is if they do decide to talk about the low points (not necessarily when you're in the dark places but perhaps when you've just come out of it) I think there should be a trigger warning at the beginning and in the description there should be links that may be useful (such as mind or therapyforyou) so if members of your audience are struggling they can start to seek help. Even if it's just a reminder that if they're feeling that bad they should see a dr I think encouraging treatment and support as opposed to just wallowing (not that I'm saying you were doing that) is a lot more productive.
I've had the exact same problem. What I did was that I created a private instagram account which only my closest friends were allowed to follow (or no-one if you want). There I could feel free to write big ass captions about anything and everything. I highly recommend that for all the people who instantly reach for their phone when they're feeling anxious! (and for you especially, dodie, i really think this might help) <3
Its ok, although you are right about sharing personal feelings not being the best coping mechanism. But when people feel really down, they can't really think strait and occasionally do things that they may regret ( believe me I've been there.) So what you did wasn't intentionally wrong, but that's ok. You and many others including myself can learn from this. And I hope you (if you ever read this) are having a wonderful day. And sorry for the really long comment.
It's not something you should feel bad for or apologize for, I believe that it wasn't fully healthy to always post about it cause it would become too much but I feel you are free to talk about it and I think honestly you should make like another account to talk about it cause you really should be able to talk about it. That way you can talk about both and not gain an obsession with it, ofcourse on the other account you won't always post on it but when you are as you two said "up there" you can post on it so you can vent as well as have a open mind and ensure that they are better constructive and less mopey. In the sense you still cover it but not as depressing like and more helpful to yourself as well as the people who find internet in the video. I know how hard it can be cause I struggle with mental illness too but I also know it helps to write down and talk about it more but it's also usually better to talk about it with others when you aren't deep down cause then you have a more clear mind and can be more understanding as well as not seem always down and no up. Everyone who has depression knows you always have downs and up, you can always share a laugh with your friend one day while watching hanging out and another day you can feel no one ever likes you and you'll never be happy and that is normal for people who have depression. I know few people will read this but I am always open for discussion on talking about mental illnesses of all kinds as well as my own experience so if anyone here wants to talk about it wether to discuss, learn, compare, seek guidance or just to talk then just reply to me down below and if needed we can exchange kik or Facebook or snapchat or whatever so we can talk on private message board and not on public comments.
Please dont be embarrassed dodie. You are in the process of growing and learning and HEALING above all else. You are wonderful and we are all different and it is very hard to deal with mental illness in general let alone when you have such a large audience. Dont take on more than you can handle please, get a cup of tea and forgive yourself because we forgive you and love you as well โค๏ธ
i love you so much and i accept your apology. it was really brave of you to admit your mistakes and look to fix them !! i look up to that so much ๐๐
I understand why people don't like that dodie vents so much on instagram and snapchat. Even though it is too much for many people, it has helped me. I have struggled with mental health since I was thirteen, long before I knew dodie. And it has helped me to see it's okay to not be mentally ill, I felt like I am okay, like I am not terrible person for having a sick brain. But I understand that it can be triggering for many people and that for some people it will become "dodie's brand" which I understand she doesn't want. If dodie sees it as unhealthy for her and us, as an audience, it is good that she will think her posts through more, I want her to feel as good as possible and not guilty about what she does. But I hope the mental health related things will not completely stop because they helped me feel more okay and normal, which is a thing I'm giving up on. Hope you'll feel better dodie, ily ๐
No need to apologize Dodie, you're only human doing what you felt was right at the time. Thank you for caring about your impact on your veiwers but you really don't owe us anything. You're still growing and learning, you did the thing, it was great for a while but now it backfired, oops. Now you know to not do that thing again, it's the only way we learn and become better. To be on such a large platform with many people that care about you, it's hard not to feel like sharing will be helpful to you and your audience, which it is for sure, but to an extent and I'm so glad you've come to that realization now.
I appreciate that you realize that talking rashly when you're upset can be harmful to younger viewers, I just wish you realized it on your own without having a bunch of people tell you.
Your such an inspiration for me and this video makes me want to hug you because we are kinda alike I love you sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much โค๏ธ
Dodie! There is an app called Vent where people talk about mental health in a space where people are prepared to read the things you post. You can use it anonymously or have an account which you share with your audience. Maybe you could use that to cope with your bad days?
my stance on this situation was that the posts weren't triggering me or anything of the sort, but it made me very worried and i wanted to be able to give you a hug and be there for you but i obviously couldn't because we aren't close friends or even know each other in real life so i was just very worried so i hope that this makes things a lot healthier and better for you!
It's ok. We forgive you. We all love you and we all want to help you and I love you too. I'm glad you decided to help yourself and I'm glad you're taking these steps. You inspire me and (yes I know I'm rambling) I hope you are well with whatever you do. Love you soooo much. I wish I could meet youโค๏ธ
Dodie, I was one of the ones who did think that you were oversharing, and honestly, dealing with mental health issues myself, they did affect me sometimes. I was beginning to kind of lose interest in your videos, mostly bc the vibe coming from you was honestly too similar to my own at some stage and it made me kind of sad and frustrated. Also, I really felt that ur mental health issues were becoming part of your brand, which made me kind of uncomfortable. But this video completely changed my mind - you were totally vulnerable "in the right way", you were genuine about change, self aware, and every inch the kind, endearing, smart, sensitive person I subscribed to. Thank you for this video, it takes real character, strength, and bravery to do this, and I just hope you continue to fix any mistakes you may have made and to grow as a person and creator. I love you so much Dodie <3 :) ๐๐๐๐ and I'm sure everything will turn out great, you are truly a special and amazing human being, if you commit yourself to growth. โจ
Dodie - please... don't beat yourself up about this. Yes, you've made a mistake, and you should acknowledge this and try to make things better but everyone is human and you were well meaning and did help loads of people. I hope you feel better as soon as possible!
When you cry it breaks my heart please don't cry. You have survived this in the pass you are strong so you can get out this. Everyone makes mistakes and its okey
dodie dodie dodie. you are the most wonderful person ever and this video is such strong proof of it. you owe up to your mistakes and take responsibility for your actions and im simply thankful to have you to look up to.
Dodie, I really hope you read this. You mean the world to me, and to so many people. You are a brave and kind soul, you have used your resources wisely in my opinion on how you have gotten out of certain things. You give me hope when you talk about what you're going through it makes me feel as if I am going to make it through these shitty teenage years. I have never had to take a step back, but you noticing something about yourself is good that you want to change it! I hope to see you in a better state soon, good luck with your new therapist! love you xo!
My love, all I want to do is wipe your tears! Honestly, sometimes you just can't help it. There's so many ways to seek help, and get thoughts out of your brain, and it's more than okay to not know what way of unloading works best. You are not doing anything wrong love, you are a human trying to find out how to take care of herself, and that means mistakes and success will be mixed in there. You are so much like me, in that we both need to get out what's going on in our head to someone. Things will become somewhat clearer, soon in life, and a light will open up for you, no matter how crazy it is now. Thats why life is a journey, there really is no "destination." Love you so so much.
I kinda get it, but now I've been drawning away from Dodie lately because she's been showing so much. Im kind of expecting to hear about Dodie's mental health even in little videos like doing instagram makeup or something like that. And that's pretty crazy. I agree with you Dodie, it's getting too much.
i still feel its more blurry than this, i dont know, youre vulnerable, i hate that as a vulnerable person you have to say sorry, idk its not a well rounded thought just an uneasy feeling in my tummy and i love you so much, be safe dove
I think that she should be allowed to post what she wants to, and not feel confined to monitor and be forced to hold back. But a filter (to a point) is needed. And I think she may have been falling into a dangerous pattern and damaging herself further in the process, as well as affecting those around her. It's a difficult thing to interact and share with a countless audience
Personally, I've never found your posts triggering but rather just quite worrying. I thought that it was interesting to hear your thoughts on what you were dealing with, and it gave me something to think about. I do feel you probably did unintentionally over share sometimes however I really don't think you need to be so apologetic for not having censored thoughts you feel you perhaps should have. On some level people know what they were signing up for, and it's not like they wouldn't be able to find similar content elsewhere should they had the desire to. But it's also completely understandable for not wanting to contribute to said content. I think it's good that you care so much about your audience.
Green Giraffe well I was going to comment the exact same thought in probably a less well written way, so instead Ill just say that I second this 100% :)
i disagree, with a platform as big as dodie's she has a moral responsibility to know what is and is not appropriate to post to an audience that is essentially public. with a million followers you don't know how triggering some content can be to someone in a bad head space (and yes to some extent you do know what you're getting into when you follow her, but to say a 13 year old in a depressive episode you can't think straight). and it's a learning curve, there is no guidebook to youtube, we as her audience understand her position. but i think she was right to apologise because it is a real issue that people have been pointing out. she is an adult, and she's acting like one now.
That's one perspective; it's hardly the only one. What about the danger of perpetuating an image-driven culture in which all discussions of any real depth or meaning are perpetually constrained to back rooms and hushed tones, in which "mental health" is the dirtiest of all four letter words? Because it seems like the latter is to me where we're all really at.
CookieCreamCrumble don't get me wrong, this is VERY TRUE. But it's good to know that there are multiple views and it didn't negatively affect absolutely everyone. I just wanted to show that this was my personal experience, sorry if it seemed like I was trying to say this was the one and only true effect of her oversharing.
Dodie, yes, I did notice how personal your captions get and to be honest, I don't mind because I'm at a better place now. But yes, it might be triggering for others. By no means should you stop talking about mental health issues, but hold them until one day you're better again. I know, it's hard to say that anyone who's been through depression would ever be okay again, I know this because from time to time I still feel like I'm not okay again. But really, we can't really help you and it's heartbreaking for everyone to feel like we're not helping you. Idk if this is even possible for you to do, but do start a private account. Have your dearest friends on there, but no one else. Spill everything you want to spill, whether they respond or not, leave it up to them. It's a personal vulnerable space, temporary, yet valid. I've been doing this for a while and honestly it's much easier than going up and talking to a friend(it sometimes gets intimidating), and it gives your friends and you a little more space for everything. As always we care about you dearly and wish you the best ๐
hi im pretty new to this channel and got kind of curious of what informations dodie shared on instagram. can somebody give me some examples or something?
you should get the app "what's up" it's a mental health app, it has a forum where you can share in dept your feelings with others experiencing it and they can reply. you can also write to yourself on there if more helpful, and rate how you're feeling - to see your improvements. it also tells you thinking patterns and gives you ways to ground yourself. we all make mistakes and we all still love you. <3 .
HI Dodie when ur gifted as ur in many ways. a sacrifice is demanded as your brain cannot cope its all part of your growth into life and as a musician best of luck wonderful lady xx
I think everyone is guilty at some time or another of oversharing and it can be very theraputic.... but it's the kind of thing you have to forgive yourself for because sometimes you just gotta. tru story. but it's also good to hold back a bit, just don't hold back too much. too far in either direction isn't healthy. It's all about balance. Just find the middle ground that works best.
Dodie, I haven't seen your instagram or the comments on your previous video but from what you've said here you have nothing to apologise for. As a 30 year old who has only just come to terms with her own mental health issues I know that there are no rules when it comes to sharing about mental health. On paper I should have no reason to be depressed - I have just got a PhD, landed an amazing job and live in one of the nicest parts of the world, but that means nothing to my brain. I have to say I saw a previous video you did where you said you were depressed today and I did worry at that point that it was sending the wrong message (I knew what you meant but thought it could also be taken as you can just be depressed for one day rather than it being a condition). But seeing you recently in your more vulnerable state my heart goes out to you. I am not very prolific on social media myself but in my worst times over the last year I have finally found relief in sharing instead of bottling it up. I always immediately regret it as sharing too much but two recent posts have prompted a couple of male friends to message me and share their mental health issues - something that no-one else knew about. I no longer regretted the posts. Of course I didn't share anything that they'd told me with anyone else but I knew what triggered bad episodes and so could subtly guide people on what to say/not say to them. I know I'm going on but this is a really important subject to me, not just because of my own mental health but also because just over a year ago I lost one of my best friends to suicide. I felt incredible guilt as I was the only person he spoke to about his issues but I couldn't help him. I really wish he had felt he could be more open about his issues and not feel the stigma. I think it is really good to step back and look at what you are doing and you are in a unique position of having a lot of followers, many of whom are very young. But I just hope you are looking at it from the perspective of number one what actually helps you and then number two are you helping others (even if its only a few people). If sharing helps you then carry on - as I said I haven't seen some of what you've been talking about but maybe make it clear to younger fans that this is not something to aspire to and if they don't have mental health issues then they are the lucky ones. Of course if sharing is making you feel worse then stop. When I was at school social media wasn't a thing but being "depressed" was a phase that a lot of girls went through because it was seen as the in thing - what I'm trying to say is that you are not the reason why some people might see it that way, it will always be there. In videos where you sanitise your feelings there is actually more risk of this happening. In the ones where you show the real dirty, unpleasantness of mental health there is no glamourising - just honesty. I hope I don't see many more videos like this for one reason, which is that I hope you start to get better. A few months ago I was in hopeless despair and thought I'd never feel better, now after getting help I feel like normal me again - still a little bit crazy but happy and hopeful. You are clearly a very kind and thoughtful person with a lot of talent, just remember that and never feel embarrassed. All the best Dodie.
<333 I am proud of you, and I'm proud that you've been able to open up a little more and that you're learning like me. I hope you don't feel any more guilt about your friend, you don't deserve to. Thank you <333
dodie its okay, breathe its fine, well i mean its not but, just breathe. go smell a bunch of flowers and put stars on your ceiling. why? idk it'll look cool. okay just breathe. ily
I don't usely post under your videos, and this is probably the only time I will. I just wanned to let you know my point of view. I don't have snapchat or instagram, and I guess it did prevent me from seen how bad your mental health was, but I do watch what you post online, especially on Youtube. I don't think that any of your content was misplaced. I am pretty young ( 16 ), and yet, haven't found anything that shocked or traumatised me. I love your videos. I even refere to them when I need to explain how I feel to someone. If you still consern on how your yonger audience might react, you could forbidden some of them to the under 18. Still, I wish that you will continue making videos like the " I am depressed today ", or the one about the depersonalisation, because someone has to talk about those things here on youtube. And you do such a great job at it... You give us things to think about, you made me question myself, witch is great ! Just think what is the best for you, witch probably include what's best for the viewers ! Courage, les franรงais t'aiment aussi <3
I get why you're sorry, and I get that some people will get triggered by what you say. I never felt triggered because your posts really helped me. I feel like I experience the same thing as you, and reading you while you're in a bad state is nearly comforting because I then know I'm not alone, and you are putting words on the feeling I have. But some people have been triggered, and it's really mature (or nice) of you to listen to these people. I personally never felt like you were glorifying mental illness. It's not because you put beautiful words on it that it is beautiful. Clearly, exteriorizing helps you a lot. Dan's idea is really good, I've been doing this for a few months and it really helps me. I'm glad that you found a therapist, and I really hope he will be as good as you friend says he is. I also hope you realize you are not alone, even though you feel lonely. I know it can be really tough sometimes. I guess you won't read the comments under this video, and you're right I think, but I felt the need to tell you that. And I don't know, if someone has read all my silly nonsense, there might be a chance that they needed to hear what I said just like I needed your words. Have a nice day everyone, enjoy the sky and your pet. I love you
while i know that i can handle all of your pouring out, some others cannot. i am glad to see that instead of turning to your phone during your times of need you are turning to your friends.
I get what she's saying but why are some of her viewers acting like she's like a innocent child / teenager?? she is right to say sorry because she is like 5 years older than most of her audience that she influences and because of her influencer status now she sort of has a moral obligation to avoid harming her followers. I'd recommend Instead of Instagram, write big posts on your iphone notes ( it helps me) and you could put an uncaptioned pic on Instagram at the same time if you feel the association of that would be comforting
i agree, there's so many kids in this comment section who need someone to remind them this. dodie is an adult. she is an influencer. she needs to own up to mistakes. she needs to avoid unloading so much on social media because most of her followers are SO MUCH YOUNGER than her. they are not her friend.
She is a human being. When you make a youtube channel you don't sign a paper that says "Now I m gonna be perfect so in case there is a younger viewer watching they will get a good example" That's bullshit. She has a channel where she shares her thoughts. If a child is watching it should be their parents job to restrict it if it's dangerous. She lives her own life. She can swear, drink and talk about mental health if she wants to.
ehhh...i didn't say she couldn't talk about mental health (or swear or drink??.) I was directly referring to the damaging "oversharing" on instagram and snapchat that this entire video is about...
also what do you mean by "incase younger viewers are watching" her target audience has always been teens?? (and i do agree that young children shouldn't have unsupervised internet access )
smoothie criminal I completely agree! I'm really glad she apologised it's a step in the right direction and it was very much needed. Most of the comments talking about why she doesn't need to apologise are justified by 'because you never triggered me' which isn't sound reason. I hope she doesn't beat herself up about it but at the same time I'm really pleased she is reflecting on this. And I was really glad to find your comment ahhh thank you xxx
and she has owned up to her mistakes!! that's the whole point of this video. she did something wrong, she apologised and now she'll change her behaviour.
smoothie criminal I feel like adding to this comment about 'influencing younger viewers". A lot of Dodie's viewers are younger, certainly between 12-17 at least, and while people in this age bracket feel "grown up" they're still children, and they're still learning the ways of the world. At 12 often you still don't know how to act, particularly as you start 'big schools' and the like. At 12 you look up to people and try to act like them because you often don't know that you can be yourself and be liked, and if you see a really successful you tuber who's well loved, then you're going to want to be like them. As for the comments of "parents should stop kids if they don't want them seeing stuff"- teenagers have a way of getting around the locks and codes and stuff, not to mention a lot of Dodie's youtube is mild and much more filtered than social media, so a parent may therefore find her channel to be 'suitable'. Don't get me wrong, I think a lot of what Dodie talks about is really important (mental health awareness, bullying, sexuality etc) and she's a really wonderful musician and singer, but I'm glad she apologised and is learning from her mistakes ๐ (this is really long oops)
Gosia Berendt 1. Sure, free speech, but once you have a large audience of people who look up to you/are influenced by you, you do morally have an obligation to them. While it may not be acknowledged as such, it is a different position to be in, being a youtuber, compared to just being an ordinary person. They influence people. They are a role model. Often, young people who watch them don't have any other examples of people who deal with, for example, mental illness, so they follow in the youtuber's footsteps. By acknowledging this, Dodie is being responsible and mature. 2. No, no one is perfect, but what? Does that mean people shouldn't seek to learn and grow and be more healthy and improved? No one said Dodie had to be perfect, people just wanted her not to harm anyone.
People make mistakes and that's just being a human. And that's okay. I get the oversharing thing and I'm proud that you realized that. I hope you don't beat yourself up over this. Think about all the amazing things you've done for so many people. Think about the people dancing in their bedrooms to your songs and forgetting everything for a second. You may not be a perfect person, but nobody is. You changed so many lives, so I'd say that the mistakes you make along the way are worth it. <3
@dodie Try to focus what's good in life, and to act rather than feel. Or maybe to feel what you do, instead of feel what you feel. So emotions are important, and showing them to others - even your fans - helps you/us understand them. But some negative mental states can be self enchanting, and you (and me of course) have to OWN them. Accept things. Doesn't mean we can't think about it, but it shall not decide what our future will be, you yourself must decide that.
Regarding the relation to us, the fans. I think maybe - from what I guess about you - that you 1) want to be loved without argumentation back and 2) that you love without end. This kind of love makes the loving one disregard pain, and when pain comes back it's bigger. I think we need to hold some things holy, and holy and... demonic? at the same time. For example, I love justice, and I really get upset if someone is treated unjust. But I still ACCEPT that this is the case. How could I not accept it? Isn't it this I'm upset about, this that happened?
Also I think it's great if you want to be less dependent on viewers' opinions about you.
how about making a second instagram just for posts about your mental health where you can rant and everything? people who want to see that can follow you and people who might find your posts triggering don't have to... if it helps you cope with everything there is nothing wrong with it.
Anna-Lena Sperber i think thats an excellent idea!
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Sarah Delaney2017-07-28 23:49:28 (edited 2017-07-29 00:00:18 )
local dreamer why?? Why would it be unhealthy for her?? We all like to agree to the idea that people should reach out when they arent feeling well but what, theres an extent to it? Conditions? I have panic disorder, counsellors make it worse because of the condescending tone the majority of them talk in. My friends are great but i hate having to keep on about it to them. Theres something very soothing about telling strangers who wont judge me that im not feeling great and could use support. (Not randomly walking up to people but posting pictures online distracting myself from a panic attack which has brought lovely messages of support from people that have helped me calm down without the after thought of "omg ive annoyed my friends with this again" which ultimately spirals into more anxiety.) distraction is a recommended tool for many mental illnesses. So lads leave the goddamn PC "morals" behind until ye have a clue of what the hell ye are preaching about ๐ก
It's unhealthy on a long term basis! Might feel great at the moment where she's pouring her heart out but exposing her deep emotions when she's in the middle of a bad moment can cause her regret and guilt. It's just like an addiction, and it's not a solution. That was part of the video, she realizes that as well as being bad for other people, it's also bad for her.
relying on social media for every single time you're feeling low is very unhealthy. Even if no one sees it, it's not healthy. It's the same as what the message dodie recieved that she talked about in her previous video said. They're "empy calories", it might feel good in the moment but it probably doesn't do anything to actually help. It's a coping mechanism and coping mechanisms don't fix the problem.
Melissa Lozano i totally get what you mean and i respect everything you said but it's also important to note that sometimes it feels good to get things off your chest. yes it's unhealthy and not actually helping but you get it out there if you write it down. if you read through the comments on this video you'll see that a lot of people said, dodie helped them realize, that they have a mental illness. so it's not necessarily a bad thing to overshare.
Anna-Lena Sperber i think what she said she's going to do is better. Writing it down for herself at her worst, giving it some time to just sit and then, when feeling better, check it out and see if it could help people or of it couldn't. She can help people when she's getting better too, it's not always the low points that help other people, because when you write down your thoughts when you are at your worst you just don't care and will probably not write anything but negativity. Waiting a bit before posting something allows you to see what you can learn from it, and adding that in is most likely to help a lot more people.
while that also might be unhealthy for dodie in the long run, i still don't think it's a good idea, disregarding that!! having a social media account solely based on unleashing her deepest thoughts at her darkest moments for young impressionable people to read is not good!! and yes you might argue that people who would be affected from it can just stay away but like dodie said, there are moments when our perception is skewed and our judgement is bad and if people who are also suffering as much as dodie is stumbles upon this account, they could get addicted to wallowing in the lowest of lows because your head is really hard to fight against. basically, an account dedicated to writing about her bad rants can only breed more negative badness!!
i think what dodie is planning to do is a good step -- filming and talking just as she has been doing but not posting it and instead using it to reflect on for inspiration later :))
(i hope this doesn't sound mean or patronising!!! just trying to share some food for thought)
i was thinking along the same lines - a sort of private spam account, not worrying over the theme, just taking a pic and ranting, but i would keep that account private, or at least putting trigger warnings in caps before the rant ?? lmao i use tumblr, reblogging memes and ranting occasionally in the tags :// although this could, like ppl have said above be unhealthy in the long run
Anna-Lena Sperber but that doesnt solve her problem - she should start making progress instead of staying in one place. She should work with a therapist and not an online void.
Even though some people might want to read it and see what she has to say, it might be damaging to those reading it especially young people. It's not about whether they want to see it, it's about whether they should.
Dodie you shouldn't apoligise to us . Yes somethings should be private. But really I don't know how to word this. We all love you xxx and I hope your mental state gets better ly โคโคโค
There is an online support group that has a Facebook page where you can write how you feel and people who have been there and who are there can reply to you. It's called the Blurt Peer Support Group. You can join in online through there website and I've been finding it helpful
Omfg Dodie please don't apologise for the posts! You've really helped me understand that I'm not the only one who has gone through this sort of thing and that I'm not alone. I understand why you feel bad, I really do, but the posts and snapchat melt downs, have been kind of comforting in a way idk I'm bad at explaining things but pls don't feel bad ilysm
I agree I think she helped more people than she realises. Whilst she probably shouldn't do it again, for the people in her personal life, and for the majority that said she was sharing too much, I think it affected a lot of people positively too.
it's great that she has helped you! however it has been harmful/hurtful for others. including me, watching her Snapchat were making me very anxious which ended with me breaking down and having to stop watching her Snapchat etc. I am so glad she has talked about it and addressed it because I 100%understand why she does share so much x
Dodie NEVER feel sorry for things like this . If that's a way that you feel better, then that's what you have to do. Even if it's just a short term help and you didn't mess up! You live and learn. You are important and loved ๐๐๐๐
Rose O2017-07-28 18:30:10 (edited 2017-07-28 18:33:22 )
I don't know what to say. Obviously if the videos were hurting other people than you should stop and your making the right choice. Honestly, it had a positive affect on me because I found out that I wasn't alone but whatever's best for you and others. Also I'd love to go outside but it's raining, I've been going outside a lot recently and it's been helping me because I finally feel like I'm kind of in control of my life and my illnesses can't stop me from doing things. If you see this Dodie, and you probably won't, I just want to tell you I support you in all your decisions and I hope you feel better. If your not Dodie but your reading this, thank you a lot I hope this helped you in some kind of way, probably not though. I'm gonna go make myself a cake I've been meaning to for a while and my birthdays coming up.
I don't think your mental health problems are your brand, and I don't think you should be embarrassed. I find it helpful to hear your thoughts, it makes me want to express my own, but I understand why there are unhealthy aspects! I don't necessarily think you need to apologize or be embarrassed over something you did! It was a learning curve, and just because it was a public one, doesn't mean it was shameful or anything to be embarrassed by!
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Not if it's damaging to a young audience. I can't support anyone if they're using their young impressionable audience as a crutch. That's just not fair.
emma but some things can really hurt a younger audience who are sensitive to certain things and can hit too close to some people when they touch on subjects like mental illness and even though sharing some stuff is good and helpful it isnt the best idea to ,like she said, overshare
It's okay dods, I hope you won't stop sharing completely. A certain amount does help a lot. Don't be embarrassed. We all love you so much. You were trying to help.
Dodie! i agree with you that you should talk to the people who are affecting you in person instead of spilling it on the internet, because that's just an unhealthy mechanism. BUT, i still believe that you should share what you feel/experience during depressive/depersonalization episodes because we have as much right to exist as others and mental illnesses shouldn't be marginalized; yet, do it without making it seem like mental illnesses are "cute" or "artsy".
Hey dodie...dont worry about making mistakes...thats what being young is like, making mistakes, learning and growing! We are all going to stick by you throughout your stages because we love you!! Every part! Good and bad! Because no one is perfect! Xx but never feel you have to fake being happy for us, be happy be sad!! Just be you! Because thats the person we love xx because you are amazing x your flaws are just as important as your talents..x because thats you, so keep being you! โก because thats who we love, alwaysโกโก
i feel bad now! i didnt do anything but other people are making it sound like you are doing to much and its bad.
its not its ok to talk but talking to much about it is too much, what i do to cope is think to myself about it and accept what has happened and what i think. Dont feel like your doing to much its ok if people think its too much they dont have to watch the video you have more then just these types of videos.
please don't apologise, why don't you make private venting account on Insta as there is a lovely and supportive community who are going through the same thing and you are never alone ๐
Maybe you should make an anonymous account on the vent app<3 that way you can still get it out but it would be more private. It's saved me from being emotional on my main social media accounts
Why can tomska be depressed and on medication and talk about it all the time, and have conflicted feeling with guns, not having them to be a good influence, then having them again two vlog after. And express himself on a vlogs every week for like 30 minutes, which is 5 min a day about what dodie post on snap? (I think) Ok, tom's vlog is edited, and so he probably gets second opinion from friends before posting them and stuff, but it still is very raw and I think it's wonderful that it is. He's a like one representation of what a person with mental illness can be, and I think that's important. Because from a outsider point of view, he still is very functional, the funniest youtuber I know and has been that for like 10 years non stop. And I find that very inspiring.
Why are people saying that Dodie can't do that? Maybe dodie online presence used to be too bubbly, quirky and cute? Even more on her first channel, I was a little bit surprising when I discovered the 2nd channel and her post on other social media. But she's a human being and human beings have a wide range of emotions! And I don't think that we should stop her from being herself on HER social media, I don't want her to have to be someone else in order to talk to us. Social media shouldn't be a place where you just perform 24/7.
But whatever, this is probably none of our buisiness, do whatever makes you happy doddodododododlie dodie. Love you, and tomska also, don't know if he will read this, but he's my role model and keeps my little depressed ass working hard.
Also, mental health, is a recent trending subject in art, it used to be super taboo and you had to make complicated metaphores and say that's it's the devil and stuff and now, it's getting more and more clear, ok and needed.
From Bo Burnham saying that he tries to give people the hapiness that he can't give himself, to Rick and Morty saying that life is meaning less so let's just watch tv and Twenty One Pilots litteraly asking fans to not kill themselves at every concert (or to stay alive if you phrase it their way).
There is a demand for this kind of content and not everyone can get a therapist, not everyone can talk about it with friends, not everyone can even accept that they have thoses feelings etc So this kind of content is like a cartarsis for them/us and it feels great!
The rambling point I'm trying to make is that role model shouldn't be one dimensional exemple of success. So the people following them also don't feel the need to be that? Don't be perfect, please don't try to be perfect, just be yourself, feel what you have to feel, talk about it if you want, try to stay safe, because whoever you are, you're good enough.
OH MY GOSH YOU ARE SO LUCKY TO LIVE IN A CITY AND CHOOSE YOUR THERAPISTS!! I live in the middle of nowhere and I have to go to therapy soooo my only option is whoever is stationed at the nearest doctors. and if by some miracle I like them then they only ever stay stationed there for about 4 months
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X X2017-07-28 19:56:16 (edited 2017-07-31 21:45:37 )
Confused at all the posts saying 'you don't need to apologise!??1' No, she did need to apologise. And I'm really glad she did, it's the most responsible thing she has done and I was very happy to see this xxx
Edit: please read my clarification below. I am shocked by the cruel and unkind response to my support of Dodie's apology (something which was brave and the right decision on her part)
Musicfever5 it wasn't just honesty that was the problem, she was sharing things that could be harmful to others of her audience... words have a lot of power, especially with how much of her audience is younger and impressionable
Musicfever5 it was the way she had been romantisizing her illness. It wasn't just her being sad making others sad, it was her being too forthcoming about what she was facing, which could seriously affect others
Chenai Chan it's not a bad thing to talk about it, neccesarily, but she was being really explicit. It was the explicity (idk if that's a word whoops) that was affecting others. There's nothing wrong with talking about this sort of stuff to an extent, but the way she talked about it was the problem, if that makes sense
She is struggling and she was sharing her struggles. She does NOT have to apologise for being a fucking human. What is wrong with you.
If anyone is effected by her darker posts it's on THEM not to watch. Sharing these things is important when it comes to spreading awareness for mental health. It is not Dodie's responsability to parent people. She is not romantising anything. AND SHE IS NOT BEING PROBLEMATIC BY POSTING THESE THINGS. GROW UP!! If you don't like it, don't fucking watch.
How dare you. Would you ask your family members to apologise if they broke down in front of you? No. You wouldn't because that would be selfish. How is this ANY fucking different? Shame on you.
Just because she has an audience doesn't make her any less of a fucking human being with feelings. LET HER BE HUMAN FFS Geez this kinda bs attiude pisses me off. So fucking gross.
I can't believe you have the fucking audacity to say "it's the most responsible thing she has done". You're fucking disgusting. She DID NOT need to apologise for being fucking human.
Romanticising is when an emo kid cuts their wrist and blasts it all over the internet saying how cool they are. THAT IS NOT AT ALL WHAT DODIE IS DOING. SMFH
why would she neeed to apologize????? why are people suddenly trying to silence mental health sufferers just after it becoming normalized to speak about how you are feeling instead of feeling like you have to pretend to be happy all the time??? are we now thinking it's ok to shame mental health sufferers again and tell them not to post online unless they are happy???? well newsflash some people have to deal with this every day. Should they not be allowed to post online?? or should they only posts posts pretending they are happy? If dodie was your and she told you how she felt and said exactly what she said in her snapchat, would you tell her to apologize to you??? do you think people should just suffer in silence?? you are making people feel like that they should not speak about their mental health issues and keep them to themselves. if dodie should apologize for being real, then all the models on my instagram 'discover' page should apologize to me for making me feel like shit and depressed today and everyday I go on their. I feel like the people complaining about dodie sharing her mental health issues are the same people who say ''just smile' to people when they tell them they are depressed.
Dodie really did need to apologize. And we're all very proud of her for doing so. It was really brave of her to upload this video.
No one is telling her to stop opening up about her feelings. It's just that, social media has become her diary and that's good that she can open up BUT it can cause some problems too. People become influenced by what people say on social media. And Dodie has such a young, impressionable audience. What she says can influence younger people. People can start to get the wrong idea of mental illnesses. They could think that they have a mental illness when they don't or they could start to think that in order to be creative you have to be mentally ill, which you don't. Some of the things that Dodie said could've also been triggering to some people. As she said that some people had to stop following her on social media and shy away from her videos because they were so triggering.
The message that Dodie is trying to get across is that you can open up to someone but you also need to have boundaries. Some things just need to remain private, especially when you're a celebrity with such an influential audience
I'm honestly distraught at the nasty replies I have received to my comment. Perhaps I should have been more specific but I didn't realise people would see it? I am so broken that people think I am "disgusting" and are "questioning why I exist" (kind of contradictory to the message you're trying to convey about the intrinsic worth of human beings). I'm a former mental health blogger. I think it's great to share. But Dodie had taken it a bit too far and was sharing some really graphic posts combined with aesthetic Instagram photos, some really intense snapchats etc. I have met Dodie - I love her and I really enjoy her music! But the amount she was sharing was quite concerning. Of course we can choose to stop consuming her content. But was the way she was sharing this aspect of her life helpful to her either? Probably not, as she said it was like "empty calories" etc and there are definitely things she will find more helpful. I am PROUD of Dodie for apologising. It was responsible and the most responsible thing she has done in the course of sharing her mental health journey online. It's a fantastic step forward, so let's reflect on it with her instead of denying there was ever a problem :) xoxox
she did need to apologise, she even said she needed to and I'm very proud she did. it was a VERY unhealthy thing for her to of and you guys are supporting that? you missed the entire point of the video..
everyone is always like 'end mental health stigma' 'speak up, it's okay not to be ok' then someone posts about how they are really feeling and people are like 'omg wtf you need to apologize, didn't you know you have to pretend to happy and that your life is perfect online 24/7????' (which is hilarious seeing as instagram is the no.1 cause of mental health problems in young people, because it makes it seem like everyone's life is perfect and better than yours, and NOT because of the few people like dodie who decide to be brave and post how they are really feeling every now and then) Reading about someone's mental health problems - no matter how graphic, is not going to give you mental illnesses, it's like saying that if a friend who tells you there mental health issues is going to cause you to become mentally unwell for listening to them ( and while on that point, if dodie was your friend and told you exactly how she was feeling, would you demand her to apologize ????)
Mermaid Sea ok, look, it's already been stated a billion times, but if you need it spelled out, it's not that talking about mental health in general is bad. She was being over explicit and relying on her audience too much, and the explicitness (let's pretend that's a word) can be harming to her younger audience, who can be influenced about her graphic descriptions. It was unhealthy for both her and her audience to be that reliant and graphic. And if all else fails, lEtS aGrEe To DiSaGrEe
by over explicit you mean telling people how she was really feeling??, there is nothing more harming to younger audiences (which has been proven by research, than instagram, but I don't see anyone demanding people who use instagram apologise) And as I said just reading about someone else's mental problems is not going to cause you to become mentally ill - if someone sees a pretty picture along with a post about how she is feeling, they are not going to suddenly be like 'omg, it's so cool to be mentally ill, i think I will develop a mental illness , because no one can CHOOSE to develop a mental illness, so people saying she is trying to make mental illness seem cool, is fucking sick, why would ANYONE want to make it look like having a mental illness which tortures you 24/7 seem like a good thing??. Kids read worse on the news everyday, watch movies with suicide in them... it's not going to cause them to suddenly develop the chemical imbalances which causes mental illness - because it's not possible, no matter how many of dodies instagram posts with pictures of flowers they read. Saying she should apologize is sending out the message that it's not ok to talk about how you are feeling incase it upsets someone else, and that you should instead keep it to yourself - which is very dangerous. I am actually worried about dodie, as she no longer feels she can tell people how she is really feeling because she was made to feel guilty about it, now I'm worried she is going to bottle it up. If anyone is reading this that is going through a tough time - it's ok to speak up about how you are feeling, don't bottle it up and DON'T feel guilty about it.
to everyone disagreeing; dodie even said it was unhealthy for her. what she has been doing wasn't good for her and showing it as much as she did and with her influence could make some people think 'why arent i feeling this way?' , spiraling themselves in the same loop. what dodie did was very brave but saying she didnt need to apologize is actually not constructive. she worked really hard to make this video and admit her mistakes. she explained how it wasnt healthy for her or her audience. accepting her apology accepts all that hard work when saying she didnt need to discredits her thoughts and realizations she isn't proud of but is so brave for realizing and opening up about.
It is very true that young audiences can easily be influenced into thinking that they have a mental health issue when they don't or think that they need to have a mental issue of some sort to be valued or worth anything. I used to feel this way until my mother told me, "just because the people you admire and the people around you have problems, it doesn't mean you do too". I stand by the fact that it is good to speak up abput mental health. But speak about it with the intention of raising awareness that mental health issues exist and news to be dealt with, don't promote or glorify mental health issues. It is so mature and brave of Dodie for apologising for crossing the fine line of oversharing to an impressionable audience. And for the people saying "she didn't need to apologise because if a loved one opened up to you, would you make them apologise? " Please understand that you can't juxtapose those two things and call them the same. If a loved one opens up to you, you support them and offer them a shoulder to lean on or some advice, be there for them. Dodie, as a creator on a public online platform, is sharing personal information to literally anyone who stumbles upon her social media, which means thousands of young, easily persuaded people can read or hear about her personal mental health experiences and be coerced into feeling they are the same even if they are not. Thankfully Dodie realises that there is a limit to her sharing, and is such a respectable human because she is able to realise her mistake and improve herself which is a rare quality to find.
i feel like everyone is missing the point here. talking is good, but showing mental health in this way and becoming this obsessed with social media, relying on it and it becoming some sort of addiction is BAD. it will inevitably make things worse which isn't what we want! its not because were all too sensitive about it and would just rather not hear it, it was hurting dodie, and thats the problem.
If people are trying to make themselves mentally ill so they can be more creative, it is because they are mis-informed, do not have proper support to help them make the right choices or they're trying to be edgy. Not because Dodie made this video. Do not put the blame of someone making poor life choices on someone who was not even involved. That would be like me trying to say it's my local bakers fault that I have Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, it's illogical. It is not Dodie's job as an entertainer to stop other people from making poor life choices. Nor is it her responsibility to stop children from watching videos they shouldn't be, or to make child friendly content to avoid them seeing something they shouldn't.
I find it quite concerning that an alarming number of people seem think that the responsibility of protecting your own child is palmed off onto whatever is taking their attention.
And as for the op, so what you're saying is that because you used to blog about mental health that you know best right? I'm sorry but you're being moronic. She did NOT need to apologise. Because there is no such thing as sharing too much. If she needs to get it off her chest, she needs to get it off. Seeing a therapist can't always happen when you need it and even if you see one regularly sometimes you still need to vent about bullshit that a therapist is just going to try and rationalise. Having a mental illness isn't simple, and it isn't pretty. She's allowed to struggle & she's allowed to share it. She can share as much or as little as she want's to. If someone is uncomfortable it is on them not to watch it. Stop trying to silence sufferers. We are allowed to speak up and tell our story and you DO NOT have the right to tell us how much we can share. Stop trying to cover up your personal opinions with fake concern. Dodie did nothing wrong and did not need to apologise.
It wasn't good thing to do, people were not reading her instagrams and watching her snapchats because it was too much. She did do something wrong, and I'm glad she recognized it and apologized. I love Dodie, but sometimes those posts were way too much for me because they went so in depth. And I totally get where she was as well, I used to post a lot about my feelings on tumblr and i realized (actually via the previous video that Dodie and hazel did about this) that i was doing that for the same reason as Dodie. You are 100% allowed to talk about your feelings but there's a point where it's too much and potentially dangerous for other people. I'm glad that Dodie sees that and apologized. As many people have said, there's a lot of people who do this and don't apologize, I've been one of them, so I'm glad that she did.
I agree. I wasn't personally affected by her posts, but it could have hurt someone. She is quite obviously a lovely human being and sometimes it is good to let things out. But some things should remain private. She learned and apologized and that's good. Very brave.
An apology was necessary, but know that you needn't eat yourself up over it. You're a human being, we all make mistakes. Without mistakes, we'd never improve ourselves or the things around us, and always remember that Rome wasn't built in a day. Neither must you be.
I hold the firm belief that we should never stop learning and growing till the day we die.
Dodie, you don't need to apologise for the past. All you should be thinking about is the present and future. I just wanted to say this because you inspire so many people and the last thing your fans and I want is to see you retracing your steps and not progressing. This comment probably didn't make sense AT ALL but I just felt like I needed to say something, and for all I know my advise could be unwanted bullshit. I love you and your work so much Dodie, and you should be proud of the beautiful things that you have created, and focusing on YOUR happiness. ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐
Thanks, but i really think that, although it may not be the Healthiestโข option, if you feel better and it helps you as you say, maybe don't definitely stop making this posts, but make them more "family friendly" or less triggering, or (as someone else said down below) maybe have a second Instagram acc just to pour out your thoughts. Anyway maybe it is for the best, as as you said, the line between awareness and your "brand" it has lately been becoming more and more blurry, and you having a (in majority) not mature audience it may make more damage than help. But yeah, do whatever it helps to deal with your illness but do it in a healthy way and always aware of the most impressionable part of your audience. Take care of yourself dodie, and don't be sorry, most of us understand what you're going through; also good luck with your new therapist!! I hope it helps!!!
Some things 'trigger' me but I just don't watch them or read them because it's none of my business. I would begrudge apologising for sharing just because a bunch of people want you to. I'd feel so resentful if I had to apologise and then all these people suddenly all happy because they got what they wanted.
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Depression and mental health problems are so hard to deal with. Its so difficult to go through. You have amazing supportive friends which youre so lucky to have. When I opened up to my friends two of them told me if I wanted to kill myself then I should do it. My friend at that time told me I could talk to her, so I opened up, allowed myself to be vulnerable, broke down in her kitchen and she told me I should just kill myself, she then went to bed leaving me alone in her house in a ball of tears. The night I did attempt suicide my mother had told me she hated me and I was worst thing to happen to her, she then screamed at me for wasting her tablets and didnt speak to me for 4 months, I was in an abusive relationship with a cheating partner at the time while trying to get through my final year of university, it was the worst time in my life. You are so lucky to have people who love you and care about you, people want you to be well and happy and safe, Ive never been so fortunate to have lovely people around me. If I can get through my mental health problems with no support, I have full faith in you that you will come out of this. Youre going to look back on these videos in 10 years from now and realise how far youve come. Dont be so hard on yourself, focus on what you have and the positivity that brings to your life. xx
oh dear, take care of yourself please and let your friends take care of you too, because you're so wonderful and jeez i love you so much honestly i want you to be happy like nothing else in the world, you deserve happiness, it's so painful that i can't help but there are people who can, so it's ok
Don't think of it as messing up. You pushed out your walls, and you pushed until you found the line, and now you just have to pull them back a little bit. You didn't mess up - you learned. That's growth, babe.
the embarrassment and guilt is normal. you've done something you probably shouldn't have, and because you're a good person you feel embarrassed and guilty. it's fine, it's normal. but don't dwell on it too much. when i was younger, a boy in my class was talking about how his mum didn't care about anything after she started smoking. i, because when im uncomfortable and upset i laugh, laughed. i was told that it wasn't funny and i was a bad person for doing that. i felt guilty and embarrassed, because i knew that was hurtful. but it didn't really harm anyone, that bad. just me. since then ive found better ways of coping. i don't do thst again. we all learn, dodes. youre only human. you can't be perfect all the time. lotta love xxxx
Dodie honeyyyy. If it helps you we will all want you to do so! We only want whats best for you. It helps me to knowing someone understands. Its okay to cry and its okay to be unsure about this. But just know that we are here for you and want whats best for you. if it helps do it!
hey dodes :) i have depression and i wanted to say that i did find your posts relatable and they did allow me to feel i wasn't alone and they put into words how i felt which was nice because i could show other people to help them understand what i was going through, but then i started taking meds, and the meds worked, and THEN i found your posts triggering and they pulled me down and i began avoiding reading them. the whole time i thought you were just destigmatising mental illness but now i see after watching this and your vid with hazel that i was subconsciously finding them a bit too much. don't beat yourself up. it was a mistake and mental illness properly fucks up how and what you think so it is completely understandable that you made this mistake. we accept your apology xxxxxxx much love
Unfortunately there's a blurry line between telling people how you feel in a healthy way and oversharing constantly to the point where its almost an obsession. Love you dodie but a lot of everything you do is about how sad you are with pretty filters and feels like romanticing it. Im happy you want to practice cutting back from it a bit
I love your videos but watching some of them when im having a good health day would actually make me upset. I do get that its hard to know where the line is though and honestly theres nothing to apologise for
How can u have done something wrong when no one knows it was wrong in the first place? The Internet is so new especially when it comes to sharing your life like you do
How are any of us to know when somethings not right until its been not right already? It was a mistake that had to happen or else no one would know at all where the line is
Basically its Not your fault and it was something that had to have happened eventually to someone, luckily it was you who could be mature and handle it properly <3
The thing is I want to share online. I want to talk about the shit that goes on my head but I feel like I have but a barrier that doesn't let me do that. In school I am the happy go lucky person. I don't frown, get angry or cry even when I feel like im about to break. In class I sit in the back and scratch at my arms to distract me and when someone asks are you okay I instantly plaster a smile on my face. I just can't bring myself to show my mental state. It's not because I'm proud and don't want to be vulnerable, more like when I put a smile on my face it distracts just enough to push the thoughts to the back of my brain because I'm putting all my strength into acting like I'm fine. When someone asks if I'm okay I want to so bad to break down cry and scream that I'm not but I can't because if I don't who can they go to if they need someone to smile and make them laugh. I want to be the person that they would want to go to when they feel like crying, but in the end there is no one there for me to hold onto when I'm crying.
I agree that you shouldn't go into so much detail about how you're feeling, but you shouldn't force yourself to be positive. That's not helpful for you
I'm not sure if this is just me but I don't find what you post triggering. I don't have the same area of mental illness as you and I've never experienced depersonnalisation, and if I have I just never associated it with the name, and although I do find what you post a little worrying sometimes I am aware that writting helps. that feeling validated, even just by a few people, is amazing when you're feeling low. and if posting on instagram and snapchat helps just a little then i always viewed it as great because you need to feel better somehow. I know that alot of people disagree with my veiw but I just want you to be ok because somehow I have grown to care a whole lot about you and you feeling better a little each day means alot to me for some reason ( that may sound rude but I deffinetly don't mean it to) and so I see it as: do whatever makes you feel better. and while you probably should concider revising what you've written/filmed/whatever, post it if you need to and don't if you feel like you can handle not doing so. Dan was probably right. sticking your feeling on the wall is a good idea. you can see how you felt and hopefully in a few years, how you've changed in those feelings. I hope the new therapist is better than the last ones
even though i agree that perhaps you sharing so much is unhealthy i also think that the comments were quite harsh on your last video. You shouldn't feel so terrible about reaching out to your audience.
If you feel like you still wanna talk about your mental health in your worst state, just talk to yourself. Just pretend someone's listening and just speak out your thoughts - I may not have a mental illness but this tactic does help me when I'm angry or scared or upset โคโค
Dodie! As someone who does not have any noticeable or debilitating mental health issues, oftentimes when I get overwhelmed by your heavy posts I would think it came from a place of not understanding and difference of opinion on some things. So I took a step back. I unfollowed most of your social media (I honestly don't know if I'm still subscribed to this channel tbh). I would never ever dare post a hate comment because I do not hate you nor your content. I have been following you closely for multiple years now and though I have taken a step or two back, I am very pleased that you are able to recognize a flaw within yourself while still sticking to your beliefs. I am going to subscribe once again (if I did unsub I really don't know) though I still will hold myself at a bit of a greater distance than I once was. I support you and your mental health journey and I truly hope that you one day get well
There's an app called talkspace and it's fairly cheap, and you text a professional on the clock therapist for help and you can voice message them and send videos and it really helps a lot of people I know, and it's good cause you can message them while you're in those states of confusion and anguish because you can talk to someone right away and they can see you in that vulnerable state which is good because it's harder when all they see is you composed and calm while in their office, they don't always get to see you in that situation that can sometimes be very helpful in diagnosis, treatment and overall understanding, you should check it out!
don't worry dodie! it obviously helped you at the time but it probably wasn't the best decision in the long run. however, we all forgive you and love you. like you said, people have had to stop reading/watching your content as it can be triggering but at least now you know what is and isn't too much for other people to deal with, and it will help you in the long run. this made no sense but oh well. i love you!
also, if you hadn't been so open when talking about mental health, i would've had no idea that i had dpd! your posts have helped me and so many other people, so don't feel like you have to apologise.
i think you're FUCKING COURAGEOUS! everyone is trying to find their way. so are you. perhaps some folks are correct in that the younger, more vulnerable part of your audience might be adversely affected by seeing someone struggling. but i think if you were to continue to show yourself in your most challenged state, AND THEN demonstrate how you have overcome that challenge, you will continue to be an inspiration to EVERYONE, as well as continue to demonstrate that mental illness is just that, an illness, and with effort and great guidance, you can overcome it. blessings to you and your courageous little spirit!
hey I'm always going to be here for you. you need people and you are upset. because you can't keep everything to yourself I'll always be here for you, so if you ever need someone to talk to seriously let me know, I will be more than happy to listen to you. I love you so much darling.
Don't apologize for sharing mental health issues!!! So many people post so much worse on the internet, take logan paul for example. If you want to make changes, you do that and do it proudly. But don't apologize for this. Don't apologize for the lessons you learned and how better of a person this made you
Okay, I have a similar experience. Honey, don't be embarrassed we make mistakes. I'm 15, and bisexual and depressed so we share a couple of things. I like your music and I found out about u from Carrie (even though that doesn't really matter but still I just wanted to share.) I wrote a book, I don't want to boast but it's important to what i'm trying to say. I wrote 500 words a day. Everyday for 139 days,ย apart from two weeks in christmas. If I missed a day i'd do 1000 instead of 500 and so on and so forth. But it was pretty gruelling and stressful. And for a teenager like me that struggles with dark thoughts and actions it meant that I poured out my feelings into the book more than making it a consistent or good story. Using it more of an outlet for my feelings destroyed it as a book to a point where no one wants to read it and although i'm proud of finishing it it's still...a little bit disappointing. My point is, if you need to take a step back to stop yourself oversharing because you don't want to destroy what you created so be it i'm totally with you xxx
If you want to share the things you have recorded but don't feel them appropriate to just put out there, perhaps save all the clips you've recorded of yourself, and when you're in a healthier part of your life, create a documentary style film that follows, and educates people on, your journey. Being in a better state would make you more rationally be able to see what's appropriate to share and how to share it in the most informative, educational, and supportive way, rather than it just being shared because in your depressed state you've self justified it by convincing yourself it's helping people. You can, and do, help people.
Hi. I've used an app called Talklife. You can post, get some advice or just support others. It has a great trigger-avoidance feature which hides certain posts, so people can choose to avoid certain topics/issues from appearing on there feed.
I think it's sad how society tries to push breaking the mental health stigma and then when public figured such as yourself actually start a real, raw conversation they get backlash. So now we're right back to where we started. Essentially saying you can talk about it....But just as long as its not too much. I personally think she has nothing to be sorry for. Shes real. Shes a person and she feels just like all of us. Good on you for sharing and being honest and straight up about your personal struggles with mental health. I will continue to be a huge fan and wish you nothing but the bestโค
Kaitlynn McCaig the issue isn't the stigma. we want her to talk about it, but when she posts on snapchat saying "there's no point in living" to a million young people, it's not helpful and t can be very triggering. she doesn't have to apologize in fact, but it's not healthy for anybody when she posts things like that. and it's okay!! everyone does things and they font know they've done anything worse than normal. but she asked for opinions, and people said they were being pushed down and triggered by her posts. so yeah :) i'm rlly glad she addressed it in fact. have a nice day/night hope this cleared it up (?)
The problem she had with sharing so much online is that there are quite a few people with their own mental health issues who follow her on social media platforms where she has overshared, and they haven't been able to cope and have felt, frankly, shit or worseafter watching her oversharing. Conversely, there have been people who felt better and not as alone but I digress. I disagree with your statement that we're right back where we started, because Dodie isn't going to stop talking about it, she isn't going to suddenly hide the fact that she has mental health issues, but for her own health she has to stop telling social media so much. This is just as much about Dodie's mental health as it is about her audience's mental health, and that of her friends'. I love Dodie, and I love what she was doing, and I love what she will continue to do, but she has been oversharing and I'm so proud that she has learnt her boundaries of what is healthy and what is not from this before something terrible happened, and I can only hope that this therapist of hers will help her and give her a new outlet.
I couldn't agree more Kaitlynn. As long as she's being honest about it (which of course she was) all she is doing is pointing a flashlight into a dark place. She is not responsible for other people's happiness or lack thereof whether driven by their own mental health issues or just that it was sad to see. You learn a lot more about something if it's uncensored, and Dodie has made me much more interested in mental health than I was before with these posts only amplifying my interest in mental health, my drive to do what I can to help people dealing with such troubles, and my empathy overall.
That said, I can't be anything but happy for her that she reached out to her audience for honest feedback and made her decision based on that. If she feels like shedding light on this in such a raw way isn't the right thing to do because of her audience demographics or because she weighs individuals being triggered as greater than that goal, then I absolutely support her even while disagreeing. I would never expect someone to do something they feel morally wrong about just because it might potentially have a positive impact long-term.
Also, I think based on what she has been saying that it also wasn't helping her own struggle to make those posts and was instead making her dwell deeper in the valley of the natural ebb and flow of her mental states. I also would never expect someone to do something that is essentially harmful to themselves just because it might potentially be a positive thing long-term for others.
I am not at all amused with her feeling like she needs to apologize though. YOU DID NOTHING WRONG DODIE! DON'T APOLOGIZE FOR BEING A DODDLEODDLE!
Abominable Snow Panda idk man i feel quite the opposite. if anyone in dodies audience felt triggered or hurt by the content they saw, they shouldve stopped looking at it?? like theres so much fucked up shit on the internet, so everyone needs to draw their own line at whats too much for them. it really shouldnt be dodies responsibility to look out for everyone who sees her content. that said, this isnt a very healthy way for dodie to deal with her mental health struggles. i think its better for her to get real help rather then simply talk about it to an audience that cant do much to help. but that doesnt mean that SHE was in the wrong for sharing this stuff
Shoshana Kaim We agree, but for different reasons. You went with more of a personal responsibility and free speech for Dodie approach than I did. I completely agree with you on that as well and had circled but not actually landed on that same feeling myself. Just commenting because I appreciate the perspective. :)
We also agree that it didn't sound like it was healthy for her. I'm so proud of this silly, mixed up, British girl for doing what she thinks is right and good and healthy!
I don't think that you should feel embarrassed and/or sorry for doing something that was helping you cope and deal with the things you were going through. Personally, I related to a lot of what you said in your Insta posts and it did indeed make me feel less alone. But I can see how it became an oversharing problem, and I believe you have all the right to feel like you need to stop that problematic behavior. But please don't feel bad for it! Take care, dodie :)
From the point of view of someone who hasn't felt triggered by your posts on any of your social media. Well done. I think it's amazing that you have shared such raw emotion, and even if it has been a bit too close to home for some people, it will have at least demonstrated that someone who is strong and talented and successful can be all that and also be struggling. That struggling is not unique and you can still do so much in spite of it. I also agree that maybe it is no bad thing to hold back on some of that in-the-moment sharing with your audience, but please don't feel embarrassed by what you have shared. As you have only said out loud what many of us feel. And lastly, I always found your posts encouraging. Weird maybe. But you always managed to round off a depressive monologue with hope, not defeat. And that is the MOST important thing. Thought are with you and everyone else! Can't wait for August! X
Firstly, you're amazing. I actually love hearing about how you are, if you're low, it's so raw to me. I love how unfiltered it all is and graphic, many people do tend to shy away from showing that side of them because they're in the public eye. Maybe it is too graphic for some people or maybe it's just the consistency of you're posts that became too much, but honestly I'm overwhelming thankful for you because you made me talk about my brain and its oddities, so thank you Dodie for it all.
I'm so proud of you, Dodie. I love the idea of writing or filming when you're in a dark place and then sitting on it for a while to see if it's usable. I think I should start doing that myself. I'm trying to find a way to share about my own experiences with mh issues, and your openness in this video has been really encouraging. I learned a lot from you in your last few videos, and I am also going to make an effort to continue talking about mental health in healthy, appropriate ways. Lots of love.
i just got to watch this now, oh gosh i love you so much, i've been thinking some of this stuff about you for a while and i'm so happy you're brave and genuine enough to acknowledge it and apologise. good luck with your brain, you deserve the world <3
Hey Dodie if you see this (you probably won't though) let me just say this. Everything happens for a reason even if we can't even figure out what the reason is! Its a funny story how I first heard this quote but I know from that moment it was the best quote in history!! :)
I just want you to know that I really enjoyed your sharing :) I found it helpful and relatable so I don't think you should feel like you did anything wrong :) you are wonderful dodie! I also try think of my audience like my younger sister as well
You are so wonderful Dodie and we are proud of you for realizing your mistake! I hope to see all the amazing content you will make and no one is mad at you and we are happy you are taking steps to make your life better!
Dodie, your heart is in the right place and i am so proud of you for growing and righting your wrongs. Keep being the fabulous human bean that I know you are <33
I know this would be hard to create so I am so PROUD of You! Realising your mistakes and saying sorry is the most MATURE response. WELL DONE! Lots of love โค
And Dodie! It's okay! You can tell us anything, we're here for you, though I appreciate you understand that we might find it too much or upsetting, but if there's no one irl you can talk to (which is unlikely) we are here, just remember that!
this is a great response, you can see you've really thought this through~ tbh i was one of the fans who had to take a step back from your content for a while but im super glad to watch this video; stay healthy, look after yourself dodie ๐
This is something I can really identify with (though with my friends/acquaintances, not a public audience). I've had to learn when it's appropriate to share and when it's not and as a massive oversharer this has been complicated. This is such a kind & brave move xxx
Oh, Dodie! Please stay strong and do what you have to! I (and I'm sure the other million on your channel) will stand behind you every step of the way! Love you so much, and you are really inspiring and beautiful and your songs are moving! Love, Jana - from South Africa โคโค
i've seen all of your videos and to be quite frank, i appreciate you opening up about how you feel. it makes me feel like my favorite youtuber is a real fucking human being, you have a life and you're so brave to show the world your state of mind. unlike other people who only show the fans what they want their fans to see which is so wrong. i love you so so much dodie please don't feel like you're disappointing your fandom or whatever because you're really not. i'm here for you x -tala
you're still a huge inspiration for me and while u may have been oversharing, it helped me to evaluate my own mental health issues and i feel like i'm getting better at knowing myself. thank you for doing what you do. ur amazing.
This is why you're so wonderful. I was scared watching your previous video with Hazel as my own mental health is fragile... But after watching Melanie's response, and now this apology... Wow, you are really incredible. Owning up to your feelings like that is no easy task, and I am very happy to see you'll be seeking help again. <3 wishing you the very best
Aw Dodieee. Thank you for doing this. You're posts and videos have helped me and other people. But there's a fine line and I'm glad you're on the path to stop crossing it. I understand how you feel and if I was in you're position I'd be over sharing too. Thank you for taking a step back. ๐
I wish you all the best for your new therapy. I really hope it helps you <3ย And btw, you're pretty awesome Dodie. I can imagine that reading about yourself in such detail is painful and weird. (I also felt really weird commenting on the last video, because I felt kind of intrusive and like a smartass... mmh). The way you deal with this is really mature and takes guts. Greetings from a stranger on the internet :-*
you are so amazing. the strength it takes to deal with the amount of just overwhelmingly negative thoughts that come with depersonalization, and then post it on line, and then realize that you posted too much online, and then apologize and admit you made a mistake really shows that you have a good heart + soul. and sometimes, that's better than a good brain.
I LOVE YOU!!! And I'm so proud of you โคโค just wanted to say that. I'll support you through whatever mistakes and successes you'll be going through in the future because you're human, and nobody's perfect, and it is okay. I love you I love you I love you.
My darling dodie...I absolutely love how you are so open and so loving and gentle. The fact that through snap chat you talk and shear your life and your thoughts openly can actually be so beneficial to not only you but to so many other people...for a long time I (and I'm sure many other people) felt alone with either mental illness or even life situations and events. The fact that you have confidence in showing how human you are and how vulnerable and funny you normally are is beautiful and so rare because we life in a very self-conscious and scared world. If you truly want to become less vulnerable and "serious" ( I didn't know what other word) I will support you just promise me that you will keep being yourself. People will love you loads more when you are just being you because you are amazing๐๐. The amount of people who love you and your work and you posts and your tweets and snapchats is a lot larger and far more supportive then the people who think the opposite. I have been praying for you and your mental illness and I hope that one day it will all be gone๐๐
boundaries, woo! I've recently started saying to myself, whenever I see some kind of shitty transphobic news or posts (being a trans guy),
"y'know what? I'm not going to put myself through this today. I'm not going to set myself off and I'm not going to make myself feel even worse by looking at this."
and it has helped a lot. it's helped me to figure out what sets me off and it's helped to keep my mood stable. I have less and less days where I feel existentially awful about everything, and I'm more productive and generally happier. go boundaries!
hey dodie! i'm so sorry that it gets so bad. please know that we love you dearly ! you have been such an incredible source of inspiration for me , even though i got to know you quite late. i just want you to know that we are here for you always no mater where in the world we may be . you must know that you are loved , even by people who don't know you or seen like my brother , he said that you were the cute girl with the uke who sang beautifully. i honestly was the happiest person in the world ( because i was blaring your ep from my room) .i know , i have started feeling quite low too , even though generally i am a happy person due to the loss of the people i loved just within this year . its people like you who become up lifting and give hope. i love you soo much and i'm sending you the biggest hug ever! please take care of yourself . oxox
You're amazing. We are all here to support you. Since I turned 18 a few years ago, the way I combat depression is by becoming depersonalized, and I stop reaching out to friends/family for support. I don't write or sing either, which is awful. It's hard, but you have to keep writing music. Spend time with yourself. Learn what gives you little highs so you can finish out your day. It's so so hard. I watch your snapchats every day, and I understand exactly how you've been feeling. There was a point where I honestly didn't think people ever got that way like I did, and I've even been called lazy before because of it. You are lucky you are so self-aware. Definitely looking forward to watching you grow as a person and an artist from all of this. We've all got your back!!!!! <3
You are so strong and so caring and so helpful in so many ways, I am very happy that you found a better way to deal with mental health issues. Love you <3
You should definitely still talk about depression though, because it's helpful to hear about the way someone who has more experience in life is dealing with it. We all love you Dodie ๐
You really helped me with your posts because it was nice knowing other ppl were feeling the same as me, but I never post stuff when I'm down, I go to look at your songs and look at ppl playing games and just look at stuff.... I wish you only the best Dodie, you do what's best for you
Thanks for making these two videos Dodie. Because I completely know you never had any intention of hurting anyone the idea didn't even cross your mind. But there definitely was a fine line between sharing to get it out and going way in depth and to be honest I was worried for not only you but your younger viewers too. Mainly just a little worried for you cuz your awesome dodes :) but also thinks for letting us know even if it was a bit much. It takes courage to put those kinds of posts up and also a lot of courage to stop doing something that had for so long given you comfort and help in a way. I hope that coming to this realization helps you in the long run. Also I just want to say that I see someone regularly when I want to talk about what's going and it really does help. They are always on your side in a way and always understanding but also sometimes say what needs to be said. I love you lots Dodie! :)
Dear Dodie, I love you and your work so much. It is devastating watching you cry. I'm heartbroken, but I will always support you, always. Though you have been talking a lot, perhaps too much, about your emotions and mental health, you shouldnt regret it - at one point it was exactly what you needed.
Honestly im so proud of you Dodie. Im really happy that you understand that sometimes things can go too far. This video has really made me happy and really hopeful because i feel like anyone can get better. not because they were struggling really really hard, but because everyone knows themselves better than anyone. Example: Dodie, you know your boundaries and you know what your audience needs. not because they tell you but more or less because they are here because they love you and support you. I just want to thank you for being so strong and so inspiring and so helpful in many many ways. I love you Dodie Clark
We all want u to feel safe and happy. It's okay to mess up once in a while, u learn from it afterwards. Even if it's in front of people who don't know you that well there are moments where this happens. We luv u <3
i wanna give a biiiig hug! i can relate to a lot of things you tell us about you and your mental health/illness. it makes me feel less alone in this "crazy" place. i didn't feel triggered by it, though i didn't see/watch everything - but i do understand that other people do feel triggered and therefore thank you for taking this in concern and doing something about it. โฅ๏ธ
first time i've cried when watching one of your posts. usually on snapchat i'm like, 'oh, i feel bad for dodie. oh well, this is every day.' and i shouldn't say that but it's been like this for a long time. but this video was so honest and so... emotional . but in a different way. you probably won't see this but, my heart hurts with you this time, and i'm so confident that this is such a good decision for you :)
thank you for this video Dodie. if i'm gonna be honest i was really mad at you when i read the comments on your last video stating how many fans couldn't even watch your videos anymore and then your initial reaction on snapchat was like "yeah it was too much but i can't be objective in these situations i just don't care then" because having an audience like this means you HAVE to care. it's your responsibility and if you can't do it then you can't be on the internet. i'm glad you are realizing that now so thank you again
thank you so much for your apologies for posting too graphic of content, we all love and appreciate that you want to keep your content healthy. but dodie, don't ever ever forget that we are not mad at you for doing that. if we were we all would have unsubscribed and unfollowed. we are all worried about you. and we love you. and speaking for myself, as someone going through a very tough time with my depression and especially my depersonalization, seeing someone else in the thick of it has given me a weird sort of comfort. we know you were trying to do something good and we know you will always be trying to be better. we love you. i love you.
First of all, I just wanted to say how much of an inspiration and human wonder you are. It is clear from your responses and audience that you are helping a lot of people. The way you word things and the way you describe your experiences, good and bad is like taking a breath of fresh air. I know that you will continue to make fantastic videos and songs.
Second of all, there is no way I or anyone else will know how you are feeling. Only you can know how you feel, so I am not going to say the clichรฉ, "I understand" or "I totally know what you are saying" because that would be a big fat lie. All I can say is that, I hope you can find the help and support you and I'm sure a lot of other people with mental health are craving. I can also offer to be a pair of ears to listen to what you have to say as I have done with all of your videos and posts through the years of following you. I realise that talking aloud about how you are feeling and knowing that people are listening is a comforting thought, which I hope it is. :)
May I make a suggestion to an idea I had? You mention that you keep a journal, which is a great friend to have. Your journal will always be there to encourage and invite any kind of emotion that you are feeling. But whilst watching this video it occurred to me that you enjoy recording your feelings at the time because talking aloud makes you feel better too. My suggestion is this... you could perhaps make a video diary? Not one for public eyes and ears but just for your own. That way you can play it back to yourself. Again, this would just be for your benefit, no one else's. :)
If you decide to try it out, I hope it helps. :) Thank you again for your openness and honesty. That is one of the things that I and I'm sure most of your audience love about you. Also, you are hilarious and talented amongst many other things.
I wish you all the best. Keep smiling, the smiles look great on you! :)
Dodie, it's okay. everyone makes mistakes and I totally understand you. You don't have to feel bad about it and I am glad, that this video helped you realise what an impact you have. but it's okay now. we still love you. we really do. feel hugged. <3
We love you, Dodie. Going into that much depth in your posts might not have been great, but just look at how you've realised that and dealt with it; so many people would have reacted negatively to the criticism, unable to push past their personal feelings, but you have shown your audience that you care so much, and that is not something to be underestimated. You're an incredibly brave and special sunflower ๐
I love you Dodie and you don't need to be sorry! Though I am glad you've realised that sharing mental illness so deeply is not always the best thing to do. As someone who is recovering from anxiety and depression, it's sometimes super hard to read your instagram posts and as much as I love and support all that you do, I've had to take a step back recently and stop reading them because it brings back memories. At the same time, I can see from the comments how helpful your posts have been to those who are currently suffering, which is great that people have taken something from it and you have had an outlet for your feelings (or lack of, isn't depression fun!) Your heart is always in the right place with everything you do so there's no need to be sorry! โค๏ธ
for me it really help to see you talk about how you felt. It really help me realise that I had a problem and I weren't just being ridicules and what I felt was real. it helped me come to terms with my mental health problem.
Well done Dodie! It's hard to admit you're wrong, especially when all you were trying to do was good. I'm so happy cause I am one of those people who has had to take a step back from what you've been posting online. It started to feel like your mental problems were becoming 'your brand' which was really disheartening because you are so much more than your mental illness. You have a lot more to share. I hope the therapy works out this time! ๐ค
I'm so, so proud of you. The posts that you posted never bothered me, but I always worried about you. You may not even read this, but seriously, Dodie Clark, you are one of the strongest people in the world, and I'm so proud that you've taken a step forward in handling your illness. I'm going through depression and anxiety, and I constantly worry if I'm sharing too much or if I'm not sharing enough, and I'm constantly learning just like you are. We love you, Dodie. It all gets better. In the meantime, I sincerely look forward to VEDA and other content that you make, because you're fucking brilliant and the world is a better place with you in it. Much love <3
I think of anxiety and depression (for me personally) as an anxious and upset friend- so I remind myself to be kind and say positive words. Be kind to yourself and others <3 (Love you dodie) xx
Ok time to share my thoughts now. Yo I don't know if I really comment all that much but im so proud of you for being so mature and not being rude or defensive. That's why we love you Dodie. As someone who struggles with mental health I too used to post a lot of stuff when I was at my worst. Maybe not on YouTube but on Facebook and Pinterest and other places. And I look back on it and I feel like it wasn't good to do that. When at the time it seemed so helpful. We love you Dodieโค๏ธ
I warned you about this on Twitter when you first started talking about finding a therapist. It's so important to keep certain things to yourself and work through them in private, with a maximum of a couple close people, especially given your public job. I suppose this is a demonstration of how sharing your life as your job can become a problem. I hope you find a better path.
I am so proud of you for realising that the way you shared your problems wasn't always healthy and learning from it. This apology is one of the only honest apologies I've seen someone make after they've realised they made a mistake and it is so important that you made this.
aesthetically talking, personally, i think your long posts on instagram are so grammatically flawless and emotionally deep that they truly make each one of your posts so unique and just intresting to read and appreciate... But, seriously talking, all you sayd in this video is right, we all make mistakes, and you came to such a perfect solution, that's definitely a doodie level up, congrats!
You don't have to apologise for being yourself! You're a wonderful human and if you feel like sharing how you feel create another account to vent it all out. God damn it Dodie! Why you so amazing and making us cry with you ๐ข
when you almost cried i started crying dodie noo we love you ๐๐although it was a bit of oversharing it really helped me! it was so refreshing and helpful to see a youtuber i look up to that went through similar things as me. i really hope you do those things, i do a diary and it helps so much oh my goodness. yeah anyway ily and you are forgiven
I honestly didn't mind your posts at all. I was going through a semi ok time when u were posting them and they didn't cause me to think about things too much or 'trigger' me. I just liked to know how u were doing really. Now i'm going through a worse time and starting medication and therapy. I look back at your posts and just read because i find it nice to know your going through the same thing and it helps me to read about it. I've posted alot about my mental health on twitter which may have been too much but honestly it's my way of coping. Just wanted to let you know im sure im not the only person who isn't affected by your sharing of your mental health. I don't want you thinking it's everyone who is following you on social media :) Much Love <3
honestly, it doesn't trigger ME at all. your videos are quite helpful, actually. but i understand completely and it's so nice of you to acknowledge the issue. you're amazing
Everyone messes up sometimes, I understand every word you are saying. It's not your fault, the brain can mess with our ideas on what is healthy and what is not. Much love, you are truly an amazing person Doddie.
i love u doddie, i've been watching u for like a week, and you made my week again. i was so sad about something that happened in my week, but u made me smile again, and i wanna than you so much for that.:) like, you're my favourite youtuber in like a fucking week, lol. and its actually kinda funny, but thank u so much, for making me smile <3 and i want you to feel the same. you are strong, ad we all believe in you. and we all love you <3
We all deal with things differently. We all heal differently. Mental illness consumes you so much so that the only release is sometimes social media. You shouldn't be embarrassed by how you dealt with your brains toxic moments in that moment. We all still love your videos and support you. You've been empowered by making this decision ๐
I just wanted to say that, at least for me, I never felt triggered or anything by your videos. It just kind of felt like listening to a friend. But I do think that this change will be healthier for you & I wish you good luck. Love you bunches โค๏ธโค๏ธ
You and tomska are very brilliant for showing your mental health publically and this video shows just more of your integrity and strength than anything else. Very lovely
Thank you. Thank you for being who you are. You are caring to all of us and protective of us. Don't worry about what you do, everyone is still learning. If life was easy and nobody learnt anything from it - way would be the point? Keep living, keep learning and stay true to you. We don't want to see anyone other than you.
Honest I really liked when you posted on Snapchat when you weren't in your best because it made me feel like I wasn't alone with my state of mental health. If I ever met you I'd thank you for all of the help that you have given me in the past few years and in helping me realize that I'm not alone with my mental illness and that I can always talk about it
I just wanna hug you and don't let go until you're ready and happy. Please never stop existing. I love you and everyone on this channel loves you. <3 Write down/record yourself everything you need, just don't share it with everyone. Sometimes that helps a lot.
Hi Dodie, to me, I do think what you share is in depth and I see how it could trigger sone people but to just show you the other side, I have learnt so much with your snapchat and Instagram. I'm lucky enough to not have struggled with mental illness so watching/reading something that really shows how you feel helped me understand what people suffering from it actually go through. It's taught me how mental health effects people, and shows just how scary it can be. It really proved to me how real these illnesses are and how getting help should not be shamed in anyway.
Obv, graphic and intense descriptions could very easily trigger people so I totally understand why you'd stop. I just wanted to thank you for sharing what you did because it really helped me learn.
Side note, mental illness will not become your brand. Your music is fucking kickass and I love everything about it. The art you create is beautiful and don't ever stop. โฅ๏ธ
it's a good good thing that you can admit your mistakes and apologise for them so maturely. we just want you to take care of yourself Dodie and nobody gets taught how to be a YouTube celebrity. you weren't really given lessons on this and it's ok to mess up, thank you for still putting the effort into talking about mental health and thank you also for showing us how to own up to our mistakes.
Agreed. To everything you said but please don't beat yourself up over it. We can't change the past we can only keep moving forward. You have accepted it and now stay in motion. You're a wonderful human being! Stay strong. ๐
My god, it makes me so sad that you are this sorry. You have made me feel so much less alone. The "graphic" content may have been difficult for some people & for your friends but in a world where social media is full of "perfect" images, you gave us the truth. Like you said in your other video mental health / sickness is so much more difficult to prove than having a cold etc, and in a post of a video you mentioned that you can be in the thick of it, of a dark moment and still wonder at yourself, wonder if you're lying and faking it all, because the jungle of your own darkness has got you so turned around you don't know what is true and you don't know if you can trust your own thoughts anymore. So in this world, where mental sickness is literally your own personal pit & the solace of our distracting phones brings us images of "perfect bodies" and lives, lives to which we do not know the pain or the struggles and only see the sunshine, not the rain, you showed us the rain. You solidified and confirmed my experience. That I am not crazy, not lying to myself, that my thoughts are bad and have a hold on me and immobilise me... You demonstrated that. You demonstrated what deamons do, they keep you in your flat alone, they stop you from showering, so on, so forth. Dodie I am saddened to see you apologise for that because your videos were raw and real (not too raw, not too far for me) you showed what other people were afraid to and I am so grateful. To know that I am not alone. To be shown someone who is a rising star has days just like me, where walking, moving, where going out the door is just a mountain you don't have the motivation to climb. Thank you for a window into your darkness as well as your light. Your videos were not heavy on me, they made me lighter, they reflected some of me, they stole my breath because I thought I was totally alone in my madness but you showed me and told me enough , enough to prove I was not the only one.
Before you I was alone. After your videos, I am not. Thank you
Please don't feel guilty for sharing. You are doing so much good in social media for people with mental health issues. Please don't dwell on oversharing and forget all the people you've helped already and all the people who love you. You're one of my favorite people. Please rise above this rather than letting it drag you down. I love you!!!
Sweetheart, you don't have to apologize you even shouldn't have to. I watch your videos because it helps me to see someone being so honest about something a lot of us are scared to talk about but are living. Mental health can be very taboo. People watch your videos to criticize you afterwards, knowing that your mental state can be delicate? Shame on them. They should be the ones to blame. You are who you are with your amazing personality and voice. You have the courage to talk about difficult subjects and I can tell you that it's helping a lot of us. You are beautiful and I love who you are. Your are rightful to feel what you feel when you feel it and to express it when you want to and if you want to. Please don't be sorry. The ones that judge don't deserve that. <3
the fact that you accept criticism instead of defending yourself and pointing out your wrongs shows so much about your amazing character ilysm dodie <3
I think it's good that you are sharing your journey. Another people going through the same thing sometimes feel like they are alone in the world and seeing your posts can help people know they aren't alone. I agree that there should be a line between your journals and your posts. You are an amazing and beautiful human and I look up to you. You are strong and I'm glad you share these little things
Honestly I don't mind you being so open and talking about very deep things. Over the 7 years of my experience going to therapists, undergoing self esteem classes and being sent to hospital, I do get the negative vibe when reading some of your posts, but on the other hand I've been doing what you did for some time. I go over the paperwork I've done with therapists etc and it keeps my mind sane. I don't mind you going into deep posts. But a large majority of your audience are teens, it's right that you did admit you were wrong to share the deep posts especially cause some fans are so young.
I'm happy that you've reached a point of reflection and understanding. I hadn't been disappointed in your actions or anything. Yes you were making me avoid your snapchats. But ultimately I was just more concerned for you like person-to-person not bc you're a YouTuber. I could tell it was becoming an addiction for you to post all this stuff. It was becoming your outlet and coping mechanism for you. It wasn't the big issue with me that ppl will watch and experience whatever. It was that I worried for you becoming dependent on that release and the feedback from others instead of other healthier ways to cope. Hope that therapist works out xx
Hi Dodie. Good video - I saw the previous video you did with Hazel about oversharing. If you still feel yourself reaching for your phone, make a DM group with just your friends in it (so Hazel, Dan, Jack, Lucy, etc.) and just write stuff there if you're not feeling OK - it wouldn't be for general public consumption, but it would let your friends know where you're at all at once. Also, you can make private youtube videos if you just wanna talk to a camera about how you feel and then send just your friends the link. Just some other practical ideas in there for you. Also, write a big sign on your wall that says: No matter how I feel, I can always reach out to my friends.
Please don't apologise Dodie! It helped you for a while there was nothing wrong with that. As long as you are happy and taking care of yourself. Wishing you all of the best ๐
I've noticed how in depth your poster were getting, and yes I realized it was worrying me and others, but I just trying to keep comforting you. I even DM'd you, doing what I do best, trying to make people happy, or feel better about themselves, feel loved. But dodes, you scared me so much. I was so worried. And I didn't want to tell you it was triggering, or wrong to write these things, because I didn't know what mental state you were in, and I didn't want it to seem like I was telling you to shut up. And though it sounds like I'm being defensive, I'm not, all this is to say I'm very very very proud of you. I'm so very proud of you for realizing what you were saying, and that maybe it's not the best for everyone because it's either triggering, or your audience it just too young. I am so proud of how you made this video as well. You didn't get defensive, you didn't sound like you were blaming us, or anything, you were grown up, vunrable and powerful in your word. And those things might sound like they counteract each other, but they really don't. You can be both at the very same time. I also want to say that when you said "I don't want to glorify mental illness" the first time, mascara a mess, eyeliner running, you were so very vunrable and so very very powerful in those word. That the whole time I've been typing those words have been echoing in my head.
I struggle with a small chunk of derealization, it comes and it goes, but it mostly comes when I think about it, and I hate it. It makes me cry at the thought of it, so maybe I can understand, maybe I can't. But I want you to knwoy you aren't alone in whatever you are feeling. Even though not all of the internet might not be a great place for all your words and thoughts a support group, therapist, family member or friend are. We are in this with you dodes. Not because you've made us, but because we want to. We love you terribly and want nothing but the best for you. ๐
Dodie! I had noticed that you were different and more down lately I would constantly say to myself where did dodie go...I found her We love you dodie with all of our Heartโพ
Firstly, DON'T FEEL SHITTY OR EMBARRASSED ABOUT THIS! As Hazel said, every single one of us has sent that text or tweet we slightly regret but it doesn't help to regret.
I love your vids which share your feelings and experiences in a structured video setting because you give advice and let people know they aren't alone. It's when it gets more like a diary that I struggled. This sounds weird but a thing I struggled with seeing your posts is that I felt like I was dealing with my stuff and your stuff AND I'm more alone than you. Like you post and thousands of people tweet and comment wishing you well and checking you're okay. It can be kinda shitty to see that when you're feeling shit yourself bc you know you won't get the same people reaching out to you? I don't know if I'm making sense but bc YouTube isn't reciprocal, it can make the relationship unhealthy. Normal friends lean on eachother when their mh is bad or for whatever the reason. However, obvs YouTube subscribers and creators aren't the same. So to see and take on such sad descriptions of somebody's mental state (which is triggering itself) in such an unreciprocated manner is hard. It's like just remembering that viewers also have mental health shut to struggle with and youtube can be a very one sided Tool for support. As a 21yo I feel I can handle it but perhaps younger viewers would find it harder.
I LOVED this follow up tho bc you were so undefensive and fab in responding to 'criticism'- I wouldn't be able to do it! X
dodie! do not be sorry that you have feelings and need to express them! everyone at one time or another has bad days and they get through them differently. i am so glad that you share your raw feelings because it makes me feel that i am not totally alone in this world. just know that your fans will love and support you no matter what. have an absolutely lovely day filled with lots of tea :))) love you!! โค๏ธ
Turn your feelings into art, that's what I do. When I'm sad, I either scribble, draw a picture, write a poem, write a story, write a song, colour a picture or just do something creative. Sometimes involving my thoughts and sometimes distracting myself from them. That helps me ALOT!! Also, u could try writing your feelings in your iPhone notes, I also do this, and I cry a lot whilst doing it but I feel a lot better afterwards! I hope this helps, and I hope you're okay ๐
I suffer from depersonalisation sometimes too, but as you said you ground yourself with your phone even though its an unhealthy coping mechanism I disagree, I've tried to push myself out of these turns I have an it ends up getting worse for it, so distracting myself is the only way I can get through it. However my opinion could be biased because I've never had any real friends until recently so I've learned to deal with my issues alone
i think it's good you can tell people your feelings and thoughts but there is a line and it was crossed. i don't think you should stop you should just lower it if you get me. we're always here for you and don't let this make you worse. seek help from other people and other healthy ways <3
Don't be embarrassed you needed to talk about it and you did what you know how to do best make a video about it because you're comfortable with it. I love you and everything you stand for you are such a wonderful person but don't feel bad about sharing. Sometimes sharing experiences helps people because there are many kids going through the same thing
Dodie. yes, you made a mistake, yes it was wrong but I'm glad that you can realize and acknowledge that. It seems impossible, I know, but you will be happy. Take care :) <3
I don't think you should be blasted for sharing your feelings and using that to help yourself. I do understand partially how it could affect others but I just feel that you shouldn't have to justify your actions to others you know. This is so mature though, to admit what you feel that you did wrong and that's such a step! We're all here for you!
I don't even care honestly, you could always write a blog and pour your emotions out there, then anyone that wants to read can, and no one can complain as it is their choice to go onto the blog and read the entries.
Personally I did not realize that your posts were triggering, I just thought they were things you need to get off your chest while you're not in your best state. However, by bringing up the conversation about this you've made me realized; though it wasn't you, but it was my friend who created an Instagram spam account where she pours whatever thought she has as she is clinically depressed. It's a private account, and I'm one of the few who gets to see the content in it. At first I didn't think much of the bio of her account as she did warn that her contents are graphic. But lately I've had experiences where I felt my anxiety crippling while reading her posts but I've never think much of it. I do talk to her and react to the posts by commenting words of comfort when I can. But yeah thanks for bringing this up. You made me realize that maybe posting things online isn't the best way to treat oneself, and that there are even better ways to get the same effect as posting personal thoughts online. ๐
Stay true to yourself but try to keep it healthy. Don't feel guilty or ashamed for sharing because it can be really helpful and healthy. You should keep in mind that your audience can be younger but you don't need to cater it only to them. Being open and honest will help them as long as it is actually helping you. If you find some good coping mechanisms in the process please share! We love you, Dodie! <3
Dodie, although I may not entirely get why you feel like you have to make this video, I do partially get it. I too over share, and not all of my friends want to see that because it makes them feel like they're doing a shit job of being a friend. But they aren't, its just me, I can't put myself in a mental state to not put that out there, and when I try to directly talk to them I feel like I am complaining, they have problems, and some of my friends take their problems and do un healthy things with them. One of my friends has cut her thighs. And if I feel like I have failed as her best friend when she tells me shes done it again, how might she feel when she sees my oversharing. But I want to help you, I want to be the one you vent to, because even though I feel shit too, I always come up with a solution for other people.
Aw. Watching this made me very sad. I guess just watching dodie cry makes me cry. I absolutely hate that jake Paul and other vloggers are getting so much attention. Dodie is such an amazing person and she's real we can't all be happy and energetic all time
Can I just ask an honest question? What spurs you guys to say awful things? Dodie is one of the sweetest most pure souls on earth, and she doesn't deserve that. She's struggling. So what, on God's great Earth, would make you want to say awful things to her or about her? Like honestly, I'm so confused. You can't be doing it for personal gain, because what could you possibly gain from bullying an already struggling girl? She's done nothing to you. She's never expressed opinions that would cause drama over differing views and standpoints. If it's because you're homophobic: don't watch her videos. You don't like her content? Don't watch her videos. YOU put yourself in the position of viewing her content, so don't you dare, for even one moment, think you have the right to say something awful simply because you didn't like what you watched. There's no excuse for being mean to Dodie. And while this may not mean much, but all the hate comments I see? I instantly lose all respect and care for the people who write them.
To Dodie: We love you so much. I love you so much. You've given me courage, and because of you I know what I am, and I know who I am. I recently discovered I was bisexual, and you helped me discover that. I've been diagnosed with OCD, anxiety, depression, sensory overload disorder, and a bunch of other medical disorders throughout my life, and it makes SO so happy to know that someone out there knows what I'm going through. Your videos and posts about your mental disorders help me so much. These days, it's so hard to get me to smile, yet every time I watch one of your videos, I just manage a grin. And it's all thanks to you, love.๐โค๏ธ๐๐๐๐๐
I don't think what she references in the vid was exactly hate more like people speaking their minds and having harsh opinions, not expecting her to ever see.
Naomi Elias okay but that has nothing to do with why I wrote what I wrote. I wrote it because I've seen people hate on her for several things and I don't like it, and now that I know she's struggling so much I feel really bad that people do that. (I'm not mad at you or anything, I'm just trying to explain why I said that:)
Sweetheart be strong!!! It's going to be tough but the love inside of you is going to make you fell better bit by bit. I's a process don't be afraid... you are going to be just ok! Wonderful girl! ๐๐๐
Hey Dodie, (potential trigger warning regarding mental illnesses) I'm 20, and I am pretty much suffering from (diagnosed) depression since I was 15. I had my own "breakdown" in November 2015 and had a pretty f*cking hard time for over half a year and eversince then I also live with (diagnosed) anxiety. I just wanted to say, that because I can relate to you so much regarding just having to live with mental illnesses every single hour, every single day of the year, I personally found it very interesting and helpful wo watch your videos, watch your snapchat stories and read your instagram posts eversince your breakdown. Even though I don't have diagnosed depersonalisation and depression/anxiety and depersonalisation are defnitely different things, I found it really helpful to be reminded that other people are struggling very hard too. I guess I feel like I can understand you and if we met you could understand me too and for me it is good to know that there are other people that are having such a hard time too. My friends/ family/ boyfriend are here for me, but I feel like they don't get why I am so "nervous" and "over emotional" etc, but your too personal posts were always a reminder for me that these things happen, and that I am not alone. So I just wanted to say, even though you might never read this, thank you for being so personal about your mental state. I understand and respect your decision and I also think it is right to do that, I just wanted to tell you that I am thankful for you being so personal over the last months. I hope that recommended therapist will work for you! ily ~ โฅ
she's talked about this, not only is oversharing unhelpful to some others to see/read it's also an unhealthy coping mechanism for herself, so creating a separate account where she can overshare isn't the solution since oversharing is the problem in the first place
Someone said something similar to this on the other video and someone else responded saying that it would still be bad for some people because they would still seek out those Snapchats in order to feel sad, and again the young and impressionable don't know what's unhealthy yet
self-destruction is very addictive, and I know that if she did that, I would probably be tempted to watch her videos even though I know that could affect me in a negative way, especially since i pretty much use entertainment as a way to distract me from my issues, and there's also that this isn't just unhealthy for the audience but also unhealthy for herself. this is only my take on it though
Ray McGrath2017-08-01 16:47:05 (edited 2017-08-01 16:47:34 )
Some people will get "triggered" by the simplest, most innocuous things. It's not the responsibility of everyone else to bite their tongue. Mental illness is rarely anybody's fault and it's generally constructive to spread the feeling of community among people who suffer.
You're doing a good thing, just find a degree to which you're comfortable sharing and we'll be here when you need us.
tho i agree, that a lot of random things can trigger people (like for me it's amusement parks or childerns books), almost all of these people are also triggered by suicide mention, self harm mention etc.ย
so; of course you can't bite your tongue all the time; but when your talking about mental health stuff: be careful
dear dodie: you probably won't see this, but i have a little bit of advice. learning to know what is appropriate to put online is hard. opening up to people is easy at first, but when you're told you're telling too much, it is very embarrassing. but please, please don't close yourself off completely. because what will happen is you might begin to not trust anyone with what you go through and that is what happened to me. always stay a little open because sometimes you need support from friends and family and even the internet. but learn what to say and how to say it. please don't completely close yourself off, however. that is super duper unhealthy, and situations like these may lead to that. we love you, so much.
DODIE YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL HUMAN BEING. MENTAL ILLNESSES ARE OKAY. you have helped me so much. You mean so much to me babe. But I can't wait to see you in belfast. You do you boo. ๐
Some people are saying you have no need to be apologetic. But in all honesty, you DO need to be sorry. What you did helped a lot of people, but also harmed many people. Most of us are young, I'm talking 13 years old. And are easily rubbed off on us. I'm not sure if you should stop talking about mental illness, because it does need to be talked about, but you seem to talk about it in the way of "Depression is cute and makes you seem creative" which is NOT IT. I love you, i really do. But we aren't a therapist. Our emotions can be hurt as much as yours can. Please understand that.
Ashlyn Kind she does understand that that's exactly why she made this video. She understands that perfectly well and she has apologized and she is sorry. The people that need to understand that are the ones saying she shouldn't be sorry at all, not her.
i agree with what you said here, but, this is essentially what she apologized for and talked about in this video. your point is great, and i think she got it across in her video as well, which is a good thing :)
Ashlyn Kind she NEVER said that unless it was a joke. I agree she may have triggered people seeing her snaps etc but she didn't romanticize it at all at least not intentionally
I don't think she has ever said it was cute. AT ALL. Everytime she talked about it, some people said it was even a bit scary. Saying stuff like "I would never wish this on another person" and stuff about being held back constantly and being missing out on basically living is the opposite of romanticizing. Just because she wrote captions about depression on aesthetic pictures it doesn't mean the captions matched the pictures at all. They actually rarely ever even matched.
I know what you all mean, and i do agree with aspects of your argument. All i meant was that this video is necessary. Some people are saying,"Don't be sorry" in saying the fact she didn't need to make this video, which she did. I'm very sorry for not agreeing with your opinion. I'm really not trying to start anything. I'm sorry.
Dodie you don't have to be sorry !!!You are a wonderful human being, that is always learning and that's normal to make mistakes !!!!Don't be too hard on yourself ! We love you so much !
Dodie๐i think you should put up whatever you want. I want to hear everything your going through and im sure your followers will too. Dont care about what people are saying share whatever you like๐ill always support you
With a big audience, it just doesn't work like this...sorry. Some things should really just be kept in private or talked to with friends and family. No, her audience shouldn't have to hear everything she's going through, because as much as we believe we are close friends of her and know her inside out, we do not.
jess k and I have gone through similar things too. I just think it's counter productive to say she shouldn't apologise when she's triggered a handful or people...While it can make people feel less alone, I think it's important to seek proper support and help from people actually close to you, like a therapist, friends or family. Not put it up all online and not work through it healthily, especially because her audience can't really do much to help her. I'm really proud of her for realising this and apologising though. Takes a lot to read some of the comments people were saying .
jess k Like Dodie said in her video, at the beginning sharing her thoughts was a healthy outlet, but the lines between what was meant to be kept personal and public blurred. She began sharing her deepest thoughts to the world instead of keeping it to herself. I'm very very proud of her for opening up, realizing her mistake, and apologizing. It's extremely honorable and sets an amazing impression. But, please, while I completely understand you just want to support her (who doesn't, she's Dodie!), encouraging this behavior is not a supportive action. It's damaging to Dodie and to her audience.
jess k I'm really not trying to be aggressive or anything, I just want people to actually understand the point Dodie is trying to make through this video. Your comment disregarded everything Dodie was trying to apologize for. Not crap, just facts.
Lady Lynn she is a youtube she decides what goes up and if her followers dont want to watch stuff about depression then dont watch her at all it helps me and im sure it helps others
jess k She is a youtuber, she does decide what she posts and what she doesn't, you're right. But in this video, she explicitly states that, in order to protect her audience, she will try to keep her most damaging thoughts to herself. It wasn't healthy anymore to share during her panic attacks because, "your perception is blurred." Now, she has decided that she won't post her damaging thoughts on social media in order to protect her young, impressionable audience. Just respect her decision.
Please please please don't be sorry! These videos help me so damn much, you have no idea! If you didn't upload such "graphic" and "intense" videos, I don't think I'd be here today!
Please don't be sorry Dodie, you're an inspiration to us all๐
Talking for everybody in this way isn't very true. From many comments you can see people are very hurt by her ways. She should be apologetic, honestly. I'm glad she's handling this like an adult, but she does need to be sorry. Maybe not to you, but to others.
It's important for her to be sorry because she made a mistake, but she's learning from it and acknowledging it and the effect it's had on her viewers (especially the young ones) which is what matters the most.
I completely agree. Aren't there ways to allow these conversations to exist, without deleting or never posting them completely? Can't there simply be trigger warnings at the beginning, or something?
In saying Dodie should be sorry, YOU'RE speaking for everyone. There are many like myself that completely disagree and think she has nothing to apologize for.
Dodie, please don't apologise for what you have shared with the world. You are a beautiful and intelligent young woman who is struggling with something that can make anyone feel very alone and confused. It's hard to know what to do with all those feelings, and sometimes, sharing them with friends and relatives can feel a little too personal and too close for comfort. I know that I, myself, and many people I know have posted feelings and thoughts on social media on several occasions. It's not necessarily a cry for help (and definitely not for attention, for those of you that think that way), it's like putting it out there into the abyss. Almost as if you think that letting it go so far means it won't come back. It doesn't feel like that at the time, but I think that's a deep root of it. You may feel guilty because you have an audience. You are a musical and internet sensation. However, that doesn't mean you feel things any less than the rest of us, or that you know how to handle it. You can't lock it up inside and I totally get that. Never feel like you need to say sorry. Never feel like you're putting a downer on anyone's day. And never EVER feel irresponsible. Fuck that. Fuck what people have said to make you feel worse. Maybe it will help you find a new route to recovery, but never let it make you feel guilty. You are you, and you are hurting. I definitely think there are different ways to go about things, but sometimes we need an instant release. You are only human. You don't know the answer to everything. And you certainly don't know the answers to your mental health. Nobody does. Otherwise there would be no issues. Despite how you feel inside, you still have a wonderful vibe about you that makes me feel happy whenever I hear you talk about whatever. That's something very special. I know that, to be in your presence, would be a very uplifting experience, and it's just very sad to know you don't feel as bright as you make others feel. I wish you the very best for the future. Better days are coming. lots of love, beautiful girl. A xx
honestly, it kind of did need to be addressed. it's more than just "putting a downer on someone's day" it's possibly making someone uncomfortable or maybe even triggering someone, especially since there usually aren't any warnings
Fatima .K I totally get what you mean about the lack of trigger warnings, but other than that, to be fair no one is gonna come out of it and say "the illness I have been struggling to battle relapsed because I watched Dodie's snapchat story". Her raw words helped so many people who felt like they couldn't tell anyone about whatever problem they were facing. And if her Snapchat/Instagram posts were affecting someone THAT much they could've just unfollowed... Sorry if I came across as rude but I feel like this matter has been blown out of proportion, and the fact that Dodie is crying making a video repeatedly apologising breaks my heart :(
You are wonderful you are not a bad person for doing this you are trying your best to work through your issues and it's hard to realise when your symptoms are present even in moments you think that you're helping. You have a responsibility to not overstate dangerous thoughts to a potentially impressionable audience but you recognise that and you are wonderful and don't be too harsh on yourself you are wonderful
"Sorry" = associated with negative feelings ("I have done something wrong"). "Thank you" = associated with positive feelings ("You have helped me get better").
Saying "sorry" multiple times in a row makes you feel bad. Saying "thank you" mulitple times makes you feel better. Try it out sometime. Good luck!
i don't have much to say but i don't want to watch this video and not say anything and all i can think of is that i love you so much from the bottom of my heart โก
Please do not feel bad for sharing or feel like you need to apologize to people who want to criticize you. I went through a lot and shared online because my abuser would control me thru social media, and this was me taking it back. Addiction? Release. You are allowed to do that. Unhealthy coping mechanisms? You were doing what you needed to do. Please do not feel badly or let friends make you feel like you needed to share with them and not the media. People do not need to listen if it is hurting them. Of course things need to be private sometimes, but this is your channel and yes you carry a platform but I do not want you to feel badly or be made to feel badly about sharing. You can edit your privacy settings so certain people do not see it. I have changed mine to eliminate all my family members and cousins, so it's helped. Again, not a critique of you or whoever has an opinion on how you share, but believe me, sharing is healthy. In certain settings, maybe not so much, but I hope you know you are loved and not feel shame because of this.
As far as the problem of your posts triggering people or making people feel down in the dumps, you could try writing a letter about what you're feeling. You could write it to yourself in the future and seal it in an envelope with a time to read it (not a specific time of year or anything, just something like "when I'm not feeling so shit"). I know you don't get the feeling of getting it out there maybe as much in the way that no one else is seeing it, but I find it does help to physically write things out on paper instead of typing. That being said, I don't know if things you write when you're feeling very low would send you back into a spiral if you read them when you're feeling good.
dodie, this may be a stupid suggestion, but have you ever considered starting an anonymous blog? or an anonymous social media account? That way you can just spill everything you're thinking whenever you feel the need to without making boundaries. you don't even have to tell us about it, and whoever finds it will find it, and they don't know its you, so they can't tell you that 'it's too much' i'm sorry if this is stupid but, you can get through this, we believe in you. and we love you x
Oh, dude...I feel bad that you feel embarrassed. I think this is a cool lesson that you got to learn, and I think you're on the right track but this is SUUUUUUCH a tiny thing, in the grand scheme of the universe. Not worth embarrassment at all. Just an "oops," at the very most. Just shake it off, regroup, and move on, reminding yourself that the internet has a VERY short term memory, and the number one thing people ACTUALLY remember you for? Your beautiful, beautiful music! I promise! (Aaaaaand Mom Mode off, because why would you take advice from a random internet stranger, anyway?)
Tbh I used to really love you and ur videos but then it felt like you craved attention and sympathy and it seemed like you made it out like you were the only person in the world going through shit when every person does. It started to get annoying. But it's good that your addressing it and hopefully it will help u get better
i think you should create a secret wattpad. you can put the things youve been putting on your instagram there (thats what i do). then its nowhere near as public and people don't know its YOU but you can still get responses from strangers.
I don't follow you on any social media. Only YouTube. But I can relate to everything you say. I'm not a public figure and I don't have any audience lol. But I have my friends and I'm also learning to set boundaries and to maybe not share everything about me, specially when I'm feeling down because I know I will regret it later when I'm in a different state of mind and things won't look as bad lol. But you are human you know? And I have the same urgency in me to express, to say how I feel and I overreact and sometimes I am melodramatic but fuck it. But I understand, and it is good that you make those mistakes because you learn, and I learn everyday and you are not perfect and nobody is. But I really think that is much better to be too open than too close. Yeah extremes are not good. But being vulnerable is so good and shows how brave you are. It ain't easy to be soooo open when you have a BIG audience and I also respect that you acknowledge what you did.
But i find it good that you do it . If it helps you then do it. PEOPLE NEED TO KNOW ABOUT IT . If they don't like it then they don't have to watch or look at it
I'm confused. You say you're overhearing the worst and yet also glamorising it? That sounds hard to do at the same time. I feel like that's more people misusing the word glamorising. Yeah maybe creating a side blog or Snapchat for that kind of stuff might be a good idea.
I'm so proud of you for understanding and learning, we love you so much dodie and i accept your apology. I'm so glad you have found out and are going to fix this issue even though it was painful to discuss. You're amazing Dodes <3
Dead Dodie, I've been on and off following you for a couple of years with recently actually subscribing to your channel. Apart from that I've had a lot of personal struggles throughout my childhood and teenage years. I've honestly just started calming down within my so-called-grown-up-years (I really don't count that as grown-up since I'm 21 but okay).
Anyway, what I wanted to say - I'm really glad that you made a decision to differentiate what you want to share with your followers and to which extent; as well as differentiating what is a part of mental health awareness and what isn't. And in a way I'm really happy for you and proud of you. A lot of people who struggle with mental health issues find it difficult to realize what is for sharing and what isn't. Usually it consists of sharing random, personal things to people you don't really know and it tends to backfire - and once it does you feel pretty shitty about what you did. Your situation was much tougher, since you don't share things with random acquaintances, but with the internet, so your struggle was also much tougher than it usually is. What my point here is - there is nothing to be sorry for or nothing to feel ashamed about. A lot of people follow that same pattern, yours is just more visible. And nothing about the fact that you do youtube should make you feel more guilty about sharing these things that almost everyone feels the need to share at a certain point in life. Your need is respected and valuable just as much as everyone else's, the platform you use isn't relevant. And the last point; don't be sorry. Even if you did share things you feel aren't really to be shared with such a young audience, you made a lot of people learn about a lot of stuff. This video where you explain what the problem with oversharing is and how you're trying to find this middle line of it - it teaches people. It helps others that will find themselves in a similar situation. It's wonderful that you found your ground to stand on and I am tremendously happy about you because of that, but don't be sorry about having your own ups and downs and don't be sorry for actively trying to figure out who you are and where you fit. That's one of the things that makes you human; it makes you a great role-model because you are real and you try to be the best possible version of yourself. Be proud of yourself for this, not sorry. Lots of love <3
Stay strong Dodie โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ We are all here for you and love you so much . You are special to us so stay strong ๐ช ๐ช๐ช๐ช๐ช๐๐๐
For me, having you go into detail (especially when talking about depression) helps me put my feelings into words. I've never been good at explaining how I'm feeling, so having you do it for me is great. I take bits and pieces of your videos and make them my own and use those to describe to my friends how I'm feeling in that moment. I appreciate it. However, I also understand how it hinders others, or triggers them. And my heart hurts for them. I don't envy you the situation you're in, having to figure out what you should and shouldn't share. All I can do is let you know that I support you and appreciate you.
You are so wise and strong! Thank you for your apology, you're so brave to say sorry to such a big audience and to openly say you were wrong. I didn't personally feel overwhelmed by your posts (I only follow you on Instagram though) although I do understand how people feel it is too much and think it is an important step for you to be more aware of what your posting. This awareness will be very beneficial for YOU as well as your followers and I'm so impressed with your clear headed thoughts on oversharing. This video was so honest and pure. I admire you're bravery to be so truthful with so many people Dodie! I wish you good luck with oversharing less and the new therapist helps you tackle your feelings in this tough time. We love you. Stay strong ๐๐๐
By opening and sharing you made me realize who I really am and I'm so thankful Dodie. You don't need to feel sorry about the things you did, just move on and stay strong and do what you think you should do. Love you and I'm so thankful, because instead of staying in your comfort zone, you devote yourself to the others in order to help. God you're an angel sweetheart
I am very proud of you! โค๏ธ Please don't feel embarrassed, everyone makes a whole lot of mistakes! You have learned and you will always be the amazing Dodie I love. The Dodie who gives me inspiration to write poetry and make videos. Keep going like this โค๏ธ
I just want you to know that I (and probably many, many of us) am super proud of you for making this video. Cutting off coping meganisms is incredibly difficult, especially one that is such a big part of your life (in this case part of your job). I personally believe that you will indeed help and support your audience better by addressing mental ilness in a more censored way, and I am sure that in the end it will benefit you too. Again, I'm super proud of you, and I hope you feel better soon! Xx
Oh sweet sweet Dodie, you are such a wonderful being. I hope with all of my heart that you will find a way to hopefully treat or at least learn to live with your mental health struggles. I can only say that you are an inspiration and that all I see when I watch your videos is a young female trying to cope and finding her path whilst also creating beautiful things. You made mistakes, sure, but everyone does and that's the way we learn and we grow, so we cannot blame you (literally no one can). It has never been clearer to me that you have such a big heart and that you are growing and learning and listening and caring and maturing. And that you are so strong, even if you may not feel that way all the time. I know I don't know you personally, but I know that I do have so much love and admiration for you. You are such a beautiful soul, Dodie. Thank you for staying true to who you are and for sharing this - we all get to learn with you and I think that that's a beautiful thing. Lots of love from The Netherlands x
dodie, i just want you to know that we all love you, i love you and i am always going to be here for you, i understand why you were doing what you were doing and I'm so proud of you for everything, and reacting to the comments very maturely, ilysm.
Honestly dodie I'm so impressed how you managed to turn this around and into a learning and growing experience even though that must be incredibly hard. You're doing great.
The discussion under the last video and this second video are so great! Dodie, I don't think that you, as you said, 'messed up' , I think that you helped a lot of people, me included, by doing what you do. A lot of the things you said in this video were so smart and I'm glad that you started this oversharing discussion!
I love this and I'm so happy you're taking this mature response. I stopped watching your snapchat story a while ago, because I found it often upsetting (though also because it's so damn long and I don't have time for that) and I really think this is a great step forward. It's important to break down stigma of mental health in our society and it's important to talk about it, but like you said you don't want it to become your "brand". I think talking about it online is pretty unhealthy for you and your audience and when you said you want to treat the audience like a little sister it made me really happy ๐ thanks so much and I hope you get a good therapist!
This was such a big thing for you to do Dodie. I'm proud of you that you're able to say this and own up that you've made a few mistakes. I love you very much Dodie and you deserve to be so so happy. I look up to you and if you ever need anything, all of the Dodie fans will help you and stand by you no matter what. โค๏ธ๐
I love you a lot too dodie (sincerely). I can't wait to see what you have for us in the future and it's great to know now rather than possibly never. I hope we can all support you in this time of you discovering your boundaries and knowing where and when to share some of your experiences.
Thankyou so much for this , I've been doing this too recently and I've felt really alone about doing it and knowing that you do it has helped me to be accept that I'm imperfect and that's okay. I'm learning to control and this has really help. So thankyou โค๏ธ๐
I've always admired you because you're an excellent role model as you break the stigma of talking about mental health issues which helps a lot of people, including me, and helps you and your audience realise they're not alone. However, I'm also happy that you're now going to learn more about boundaries because when you're at your worst it's not always best to share it :) Thank you Dodie
i'm very happy you've realised this dodie - i suffer from similar issues as you and admittedly had to take a step back from your content because it was bit much to handle. i'm happy for you and happy that i can dive back into enjoying the stuff you make !! this is one of the steps to recovery and we know that you can get there โค๏ธโค๏ธ all love and smiles !!
Oh my gosh dodie. I want to tell you that you are honestly such a good person and pretty brave to be admitting your mistakes and apologising because that's really hard especially to a lot of people that have given you so much criticism. I'm honestly just wowed.
i appreciate this video dodie โค๏ธ you are so strong but i have to admit that i often found myself avoiding your snaps and that sort of stuff. sharing feelings is a very good thing but sometimes there can be a line. im so proud of you and the person you are ๐ and that you are coming up with new ways to deal with your mental illness. love you
Dodie, I think you are so lovely and brave to have made this video. Before watching the 'am i oversharing too much' video I hadn't really thought of your videos and snapchat stories on mental health in the same way that many seem to have, I enjoyed watching them and craved watching more. They made me feel like I'm not alone, and I have a lot of admiration and respect for your for uploading all that you have, because it was and is really brave to show that vulnerable side of yourself and the journey you go through.
I also want to add that I really do understand where people are coming from when they say they found it difficult to watch your videos and snapchat stories or read your Instagram posts and I think uploading an update video like this is amazing and really shows that you genuinely love your audience and care how they feel.
I just want to say that we are all human and we all make mistakes, even if we don't know they are mistakes in the time of making them. Dodie, you are a wonderful person and I admire and appreciate you and your connect so much. And just remember that your audience loves you and will always support you ๐๐๐
a very very mature response, we're all so proud of you. it takes a lot of courage to admit to your mistakes and take the effort to try and make things right, and i'm grateful that you were able to reflect in this video without being defensive or trying to make excuses. you're doing great and we love you lots
I'm super proud of you Dodie. It can be hard to acknowledge what you may have done wrong, but you did it and with such grace. You only had a heart full of good intentions and I appreciate that. I love you ๐
Sending love. I think you've made the right decision but have admired your openness over the years but it's good to find the line. You're a wonderful human โค xx
my heart goes out to you dodie - i have so much respect for you. the way you have handled yourself in this situation is so mature and wonderful. sending you so much love sweetheart xxxx
Thanks for apologizing Dodie. I love you a lot and until you video with Hazel I didn't even realize why I'd been pulling away from our videos and this was probably why. I'm super proud of you for doing this and being so mature and strong. You're awesome girl.
I just found out that I'm meeting you at sitc and I'm just so happy because I can finally...thank you. Not only for inspiring me with your gorgeous music, but for helping me with my mental health, you showed me that I'm not alone, and that its "normal" to feel this way, normal isn't the best word but I can't think of a better one right now. Of course, anxiety and depression and all that shiz fucking sucks, and nobody deserves to have to live with it, but people do, more often than not, and in a weird way, I find it almost comforting when I find someone else like me, because I feel like I can share stuff. You've gotta be careful, obviously, with what you share, but, please don't feel sorry, please don't feel bad. I understand, we all understand, and, well, I'm not very good and putting my thoughts into words, but just know that you've got heaps of support and love from me, as I'm sure you do with many other people xxx
I understand this feeling so much, writing when you're at your lowest is the best way possible to turn that feeling into something productive. You have something to show for it and in a way you feel like you've won some sort of battle against the thing that cripples you mentally. The only problem is when you share that with someone they assume that is how you feel all the time, which isn't true, but it's the only representation that they get. Here's the thing, I don't think you 100% need to stop making these posts, I'm not saying you don't need to cut back on the amount of oversharing you do, but it doesn't need to be nil because they do help some people. Instead, it may be equally as good to make sure that the posts have appropriate trigger warnings, and that you don't post them while you're in that mood - go back later and reevaluate how true it is of mental illness. Thank you so much for making this video because it's made me realise that I need to do a similar thing as an aspiring writer, a page and pen shouldn't be my therapy for the shittiest of my emotions. Don't beat yourself up about this, you have helped people as well as the negative side, you're just making mistakes and learning like the rest of the fuckin world. We all love you and are here for you โค๏ธ
The fact that your apologising when you're the one who's struggling shows how thoughtful you are! You should never ever have to apologise for sharing how you feel it's so normal and I wish people were as comfortable to speak out as you are, it's so brave of you!!! But I understanding taking a step back, especially as you don't want your mental illness to become your identity, as long as you don't feel like you have to close yourself off. You've actually helped me so much by being so open and made me realise it's okay and I'm not alone, take care of yourself!!! ๐
I'm so proud of you dodie, I hadn't realised I was doing it but I had been avoiding reading your instagram captions. I don't want to do that because a lot of your content makes me really happy or gives me amazing advice for when I feel low. You are a wonderful person. I am so glad you've realised what you are doing. I think this decision will help you significantly as well as us, your audience. We love you and support you. Good luck with your new therapist x
personaly, your videos and instagram captions helped me a lot because i feel just the same as you and i feel better seeing someone understands me but on the other hand i can see why some people don't think it's good. i will always support all of your desicions as long as you do what makes you happier๐
You've handled this really maturely, and I think it's difficult to hit a balance between what to say and when to stop. Just don't beat yourself up over this!
oh my goodness dodie! its okay! stop apologising so much!yes i understand the whole thing about over sharing, and this whole video, and why you think you shouldnt be so grafic and get help from an actual therapist. yes, i understand. but dodie!!! its okay!!! im sure everyone understands (i sure do) and that this is all a learning experience. as someone who suffers from mental illness, i understand the fact of just wanting to spill your emotions to your audience, for someone to read, to relate, to understand. ive sometimes had the urge to do that on social media, but never have because i always was afraid of oversharing, or triggering others. i understand! love you dodie, take care of yourself.
I think you're so right and oh my god thank you for acknowledging that. So many people don't know how to apologize when they've messed up a bit and feel embarrassed, and I think this is a great example for the younger people in your audience. You've gotta remember that you're young too, you're still learning and it's okay to make mistakes. There are far worse things you could have done to your audience. Without you talking about mental health, I would never have realized I have depersonalization, and I never would have reached out for help. Like you said, I think there's a healthy way of talking about this online. All the love, and thank you xxx
Stay strong dodie you're an amazing person. The great Littke community you have will help you through this becuase you're helping us through similar problems. (I'm sorry if I didn't make any sense becuase I don't have mental illness I just love dodie and her content) โคโค
To me, part of what you're sharing definitely helps because sometimes, mental illnesses feel so damn lonely and what you're doing acts as a reminder that, no we're not alone, there are others who are also hurting and also healing. As well as that, when we see that you're happy, we know that for someone who has hurt so much, you're still capable of being happy which means we could have our happy days too. On the other hand, the posts leaves me in a state where I feel lost. A little small reminder that I, too, am unwell and a sense of helplessness to see someone who we care for yet can't physically reach out to and help them, hurt so so much. To me, it's difficult because I know how much it fucking hurts and it's so difficult to see you go through the same. Well done for acknowledging and addressing it so honestly, this is a positive to the conversation around YouTube and it in no ways lessen our affections for you. Please take care of yourself <3 x
I'm so so glad that you have decided on this; as i am sorry to say I had to stop watching because I am too sensitive and impressionable. I am so happy that you are doing better. You are so strong Dodie. All my wishes to you.
Hey dodie I just thought I'd like to say that your sharing online helped me aswell.... but I don't have depression, anxiety or depersonalisation. I don't know how that feels and I can't relate to you like that. But your videos and snapchats and Instagram posts showed me what life is really like for you and others in your situation. It helped me see how so many people may be feeling! Of course not everyone is the same but your sharing gave me an insight I'd never had before. This has given me the chance to better understand what it's like to have a mental illness and loose ANY stigma I had around that from before... and for that I am forever grateful to you, loads of love xxx
This is the bravest thing you could do. I've been where you are and I ended up deleting my tumblr (where I was posting) but I continued to do it on my lesser known social media accounts and that's not a good shout because it's also hard for friends to see. It's not going to be easy and you may feel more empty for a while but it is also better for YOU. do not feel bad - you have handled this well and you are allowed to make mistakes - it's what's you do after that matters. All my love xxx
I am so glad this is where your re-evaluation is heading. Like many comments say, I think it shows that you're definitely growing and learning from this period - a growth we can all be inspired by! Thank you for taking the thoughts of the people watching you to heart and then adding your own 2 cents.
I also struggle with mental health, mainly anxiety and depression. You have been such an important part of helping me work through it! I could find comfort in your songs, texts and videos. But recently, yeah, I did have to stop reading your instagram texts and watching your snapchats. They sometimes risked making me go down a bad spiral and they definitely always made me feel so sorry that you were in such a bad place! But I want you to know that it's ok that you overshared. Like you say, when your brain is in that dark dark place, you have no judgement whatsoever and all you try to do is survive through it. Of course, that means you use whatever coping mechanisms you've got - no matter the consequences! It might not always be healthy, but it's definitely so so understandable. I want you to know that many of us don't blame you, we know that it's inexplicably hard to deal with this shit. And most of all: we hope you can find other ways to get the horrible darkness out of your system, ways that also help you in the long run. I wish you all the luck in the world with finding a good therapist! Continue to be brave and please make sure to keep your support system of friends and family close. All the best!
awwww dodie, your posts have helped me a lot though, I know a lot of people thinks it's bad, but it has helped me with my mental health, I feel less alone. But I do understand why you are stopping posting some of it. Love you dodie๐๐
I love how you weren't defensive and it speaks volumes about the kind of person you are, we know that glorification wasn't an intention of yours, but it was a result and I'm glad you recognised that and was brave enough to address this. Please don't feel too embarrassed, we all make mistakes and again the fact that you've addressed this and planned to take care of us and yourself better is a great thing xxx
We understand that we became your hand to hold. We want to be there to hold that hand. You and your channel grew because of how honest and lovely you were. You did help people and I know you will continue to do so. That is the important part. Have a smooth recovery Dodie xxx
To me you haven't messed up. Thank you so much for sharing because it helped me with my own scary moments. Reading your posts did for me what they were doing for you. so thank you.
Your heart was always in the right place, just appears your mind got confused in regards to boundaries which are there not just for your audience but for you. So much respect for your lack of defensive attitude in this video and your integrity is so apparent with your apology. So much support & love ๐
Dodie you're such a wonderful person and this just shows how mature you are. I had a similar situation when I was at my worst mental state when I was much younger, I had no idea how to cope so I just overshared too much with people who didn't even care about me and it just made me feel so much worse and I'll always feel embarrassed for it because when I see their faces now I think "they must be judging me, they probably haven't forgotten anything.." I know that in your case its so much more complex because of the people involved but please don't be hard on yourself for this, it's such a normal thing to screw up when you're this ill I understand you very well and I don't blame you for this. But you're so strong to apologise out loud and I'm really happy that you're working on healthier ways to cope. You inspire me and help me a lot so much I cannot thank you enough. Big hugs from Spain I love you.
I admire you so much Dodie and I'm so proud of you. Just try not to beat yourself up about this situation, because your brain convinced you that you were helping yourself and other people, and that played a key part in it. We still love you and are proud of you, and just want you to do what's best for you ๐
This is the way people should deal with 'drama' situations. This is why people look up to you, Dodie! You are a responsible, mature and beautiful soul xxx
This might be the most selfish comment left on this video - but I genuinely love the fact that you share so much, Dodie. I've yet to come across a Youtuber who shares so much of themselves in an honest, realist light in the entire time I've been on Youtube, and honestly, it really really helps. Watching some of the most brutally real videos on the days where my own mental health is making everything feel messy has really really helped me, especially on the days where the last thing I want to watch is someone pretending to be happy and smiley when really their head is just as bad as mine. I don't see what you share as 'oversharing', I see it as just sharing - Youtube culture has formed around this era of secrecy and lying and 'this exciting thing is happening that I can't tell you about', and it's so frustrating to watch these people just censor their entire personality and hide some of the best, most human parts of themselves. One of the reasons I've watched Dodie for so long is her honest approach to herself, and her own self awareness. Perhaps I've been exposed to mental illness for too long that nothing you could throw at us would ever be triggering or upsetting for me, but lying about it and sugar coating it really won't help anyone. However - if sharing your thoughts and bad days with your audience is causing more harm than good to your own mental health, then I 100% support your move to restrict how much you share, and hope that this decision only helps to make things better for you. <3
Thank you so much for this video. But remember that your posts are very beneficial for a lot of people (within reason). Perhaps it would be helpful to have some read your post before you post it? A second pair of eyes is always better than one! I really value how open and honest you are, although of course that can be detrimental to some people's health. There have been times where I have seen that you posted (you already know I've got those post notifications on) and have to wait until I am in a good headspace to read it. But never doubt that you have helped many people who struggle with similar things as you do. So many times I have watched your videos to overcome a depressive episode and you have done SO many good things that you shouldn't let this blip take that away. If you read this, I love you, stay strong.
Oh sweetheart, bless you. This is such a mature and introspective take on something that is very difficult to deal with. Good on you for recognising unhealthy behaviour and taking steps to correct it. And I love that you care about all of us so much.
Maybe as a bridge, if you need it, you could have a password protected blog or something? So it's still expressing these thoughts and feelings in a way that is familiar, but without exposing people to them. If you need a way to transition into relying on your phone/social media less.
And please never never feel like you are glorifying mental illness. Even by posting during your absolute worst moments, you are not doing that. And I really hate that the onus is so often on us as mentally ill people to guard against romanticising our conditions, rather than on neurotypicals. I don't know a mentally ill person out there than doesn't think it sucks arse, that wouldn't rather be healthy. Not saying that it's terrible 24/7 =/= romanticising it. I'm not glorifying mental illness just because I can recognise that anxiety benefits me in certain very specific ways that are almost always outweighed by all the negatives
Sorry, that ended up being a rant. Anyway, love you Dodie <3
@dodleodle I'm so happy that you made this video and that your ok and you understand yourself and why you post online and that you are going to do it for you โค๏ธ
Please don't apologize! Every Instagram post, and Snapchat story about your mental illness has helped me so much. I am well messed up too, and hearing that someone else is going through similar stuff in their headspace was so good for me! I never got the feeling that you were glorifying mental illness, so please don't apologize, it's been so helpful. Made me feel less alone and helpless. So thank you for sharing as much as you did
ah Dodie, you are honestly great. I'd love to know you in real life. Don't be sorry. You reached out for opinions, and obviously the internet is keen to give them (me included) - but don't fret over it. Personally I just was concerned for how it was affecting you, you cant beat yourself up for how other people take things - if that was the case none of us should watch the news or watch horrible films or listen to any music that isnt super happy. YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE. I really hope you feel better soon xxx
dodie stop being so hard on yourself you are amazing the way you are and you are very brave to share this things with us and if anybody thinks that is too much they should fuck off and just not read the posts and watch your snapchats
I've seen myself """"coming over"""" depression I think it's kind of a pause, it's done completely done but now I know, how to deal with it, with those thoughts and feeling. Was pretty hard, but I'm proud of me when I look back. I was such a mess. I think everyone is capable of that. I'd like to make videos about my journey but I'm still too shy. - I know it would help but i'm not ready.
I love seeing people """"coming over""" like that. You're not coming over but you noticed that you were doing something triggering for yourself. That is a big big step you've done, Dodie. Be proud of yourself.
I love you all, keep in mind that you are going to be ok.
Dodie it's great that your telling the truth on the internet unlike so many people. You may be oversharring but at least your truthfully talking to us. As someone without mental illnesses I find your videos very interesting and quite emotionly up-lifting. God bless you Dodie and remember we your audience will always love you xx
I love you dodie, mental health is never easy to go through. It's hard to realize your putting to much into someone or relying on something to much to help you. It really is healthy to talk to someone about it, but truthfully most people don't know how to deal with that and they do get closed off toward a person dealing with mental health. Just know, your audience adores you and will stand behind you, but this is healthy choice you are making. Can't wait for VEDA!!! ๐๐๐
I'm proud of you Dodie, it sounds weird because I don't know you personally but I am. It's hard for people to realise their mistakes and even harder to share that. Being able to switch between over sharing and sharing just enough is a big leap and amazing thing to do, I think that's why I'm proud๐
I have SO much respect for your response to this, most people would have probably been defensive about this but you were so open and engaged in such an important discussion even when it puts you in a bad place, you are unbelievably strong for this. This is the best response you could have had, thank you for being so lovely! <3
I've been online for so long I forgot what genuine apologies look like. They're not a quick, defensive, "I'm sorry YOU got all offended" followed by an explanation of why it wasn't REALLY their fault. It's about calming down, understanding that what you did was wrong and trying to explain why it happened, what you learned, and most importantly saying "I'm sorry I messed up". I mean, I don't think Dodie was glorifying it, however, I have been triggered myself by some of the really dark, frightening stuff she said. She's done a good thing by making this video.
Also, when it comes to anxiety, I find it best to talk about it aloud to myself, and instead of wallowing in how scared I am and how paralysed I feel, I prefer to go back into my head and hide there while I analyse and consider the reasons and possible solutions/things I can do to help. Separating myself from the fear and bad thoughts really seems to help.
Dodie you are amazing and have helped so many people by sharing. It hadn't even crossed my mind that what you could be doing wasn't beneficial to everyone. You shouldn't at all be embarrassed or sad, especially with the amount of people you have helped. No one is born knowing how much or little sharing is perfect and I think it's amazing that you care so much about your audience to consider this. Your posts have always helped me and made me feel less alone. Please don't be hard on yourself, you don't deserve to feel unhappy ๐
I'm glad your finding a line about sharing. Please don't feel bad for sharing because most of your fans take it on as part of you but if you feel like you need to step back and stop sharing so much that's okay. Love you dodie. ๐
Dodie MATE, I'm so glad you made this video. I didn't even realise that you may have been spilling too much feelings but we grow, we change and we learn and we make mistakes as a result of that. I'm glad that talking about your feelings to your audience has helped you in the past and I'm glad that you're also finding better ways to deal with it too. Mental health is fucking scary, it's complex and most people don't really know how to deal with it properly, you have nothing to be sorry about. We love and respect you so muchโค๏ธ
I understand. I really fucking do. I read your posts and sometimes they make me cry because I've been in that exact situation, I've felt that way, and I know how much it fucking hurts. I am so glad you have such amazing friends and an amazing space on youtube and instagram where you can share your feelings and people understand you and can bring you up with nice comments. I feel like you're actually my friend when watching your videos. Sorry if this comment is messy I know you read through these sometimes and I hope you read this one I love you so much hopefully soon I'll send you a proper physical letter that you can read. You are such a strong person and if there was one person I would want to have a cup of tea with before I die, it would be you. x
Ohhhh dodie we love u so much don't get sad life is all about growing and learning from mistakes. I'm glad you had this discussion with us because I've been scared to say for a when my true feelings of u over sharing and I didn't want to not watch you anymore because your a lovely creative person but it was getting a tad too much as I see with other people. Doesn't mean you can't share your journey in a postie way just don't make ur brand mental health because you are dodie you aren't just depression and depersonalisation that is is something your dealing with- not what makes you, you. What makes you is your a lovely caring person with a big heart, you have outstanding musical and writing talents and your such a creative soul, don't let your mental health defeat that! Glad to see you making an active effort with over sharing it will be good for us all and I'm looking forward to following you along with videos knowing that they won't make me sad but instead will leave me feeling positive!
i'm currently on a social media break (from twitter, ig, snapchat)... just like you described, i've been very unstable and used social media as an outlet. when i would rant about my mental illness and nobody would reply, it made me feel even worse. i decided yesterday that because nobody was reaching out, there was no point in clogging people's timelines with my posts. i also use art like poetry and painting to get out my emotions, but sometimes i have writer's block or paintings don't turn out how i like them.. and it makes me feel worse that i don't feel good at the things i'm normally good at. hopefully this break from social media helps me out, and if anyone else has any tips and tricks for dealing with things like depression, anxiety, or depersonalization, let me know!
Don't be embarrassed - that's one thing you should never feel about your mental health - becuase of it, you've understood yourself, your audience, and how to manage the boundaries between these two things. Love u lots Dodie xxx keep hopeful xx
dodie !! please don't feel bad about this, don't be embarrassed ! i love that you share how you feel, but i understand that it has been too much. you don't need to hide everything from us, but you don't need to feel obliged to share everything either.
I do like to read those Instagram posts because it does help me come to terms sometimes with how I'm feeling as you almost put it into words for me, however sometimes it can trigger those feelings when I'm not expecting it. So first of all thank you for helping me realise how I was feeling because I was a confused shitty mess a lot of the time but yes it did get to the point of triggering it but that's not your fault at all so don't feel so bad about it, I understand how difficult it is to keep it to yourself because you want to share and to tell people to make them see that it's real not fake and that you're hurting. But it can be so unhealthy as you now know. I hope the new therapist works out for you and that you feel better and that things get better for you because you deserve so much better ๐
I'm so relieved I'm so so relieved but also so sad to see you sad about this. i just want to give you a massive massive hug, I'm glad i can now keep up with you again!! love you!!
Hi Dodie, I follow you because of who you are and mental health problems are all wrapped up in one package along with bad times there are also good times. Your music uplifts me, your voice soothing. So never apologise we all love you THE WHOLE PACKAGE. Find whatever medium is perfect for you and never bottle things up. I noticed that someone said Vent is good, I am going to check it out.
Doodie you are a soft cinammon roll that must be protected!!!! I know that when you are mentally unstable it's tough to work and all that stuff but if you need to take some time that's okay! You deserve to be happy๐.
Please don't be sad Dodie, I hope things get better for you. You don't have to be embarrassed for sharing your feelings online, we (your fans) should be embarrassed for shaming you for it. I love you Dodie, and please don't give up hope.
dodie i just want to hug you and tell you its okay i agree that what youve done may not have been the best, but please dont beat yourself up about it, everyone makes mistakes, please dont feel like this is a disaster or that youve done something unforgivable youre okay, hun, we all have bad days and hard times and we all complain and rant about it i never stopped watching your videos or reading your ig posts because of that still love you <3
Its alright dodie, everyone goes through a phase where hope is no longer a word that you can hold onto. I am going to through it right now due to the demise of someone I really really cared about. I know it is really difficult but gotta pull through for her soul to rest in peace. I don't wanna cling to her memories so that she is somehow troubled. May god be with everyone. Amen and take care dodie.
I loved your little oversharing because I found it relatable. I shouldn't be something to help me more then it is to help you but I felt less alone too. But if you feel it is the best for you to be healthy then it is fine.
My friends recently added to our discord channel to have a group therapy chat. We can say if we want comments or help or if we want no one to comment on what we say. This way we can vent if we want and it to just be known, or we can ask for help. It's lovely.
I used to share way too much personal issues/feelings on twitter instead of going to friends. It was graphic and I was way too honest about how I was feeling. I'm not saying I completely understand or that we're going through the same thing at all. I just know what it's like to turn to social media and let out more than you should and more than what's healthy.
I love you and I wish all the love and happiness possible to surround you and embrace you. See you in October Dodie, I love you ๐
You shouldn't have to explain yourself dodie. This is your channel and it's your Instagram and your snapchat and you choose what to put out there. If someone doesn't want to read about this then they should just unfollow, but those who do get something out of these posts will always remain loyal and supportive. We love you dodie! โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
I just wanted to say that it's not completely your fault at all. Social media and Youtube haven't been around for very long and no one knows what the rules are yet, we're just finding our way through it all, as we go. This is such a new field, untouched by sociologists, philosophers, psychologists, people with expert knowledge who can give us insights that can help us navigate our way through it all. Best of luck with everything Dodie! All my love <3
dodie makes me feel so much better about myself, I did the same with posting stuff online that maybe I shouldn't and people were mostly responding quite negatively to it as they just thought I was looking for attention which was horrible because I couldn't really talk about it one to one but posting it seemed to help. I'm more careful now with what I post but it's not such a terrible thing if it makes you feel okay
Please don't apologize for that. It gives you a sense of reality. There's nothing wrong with realizing you did something wrong but don't hold yourself accountable. You are a lovely, sweet girl no matter what you tell yourself.
So many people love you sweetie. I hope that you can start feeling better again. It's a rollercoaster ๐ but you can do it, I promise you! ๐๐ฑ
You HAVE been helping people. You've helped me so damn much. Don't apologize to the assholes who are giving you a hard time. You're not glorifying mental illenss. Don't put a filter on your feelings because other people are uncomfortable with metal illness. They're just perpetuating the stigma behind sharing your feelings and it makes people want to keep issues to themselves, which just bottles it up and applies mental pressure until you pop. Fuck those assholes who made you feel bad for doing something that helps you feel less alone. It's YOUR channel, NOT theirs, and you can talk about whatever you damn well want to. If they take issue with that, they can just stick to your main channel. This one is for vlogs, for personal thoughts. It's for you to say how you've been feeling. Don't be shamed into filtering your soul.
Im glad you spoke about this because it was coming to the point where i was convinced you were just romantisicing mental health and being edgy. This helps me, but rather than writing why don't you type it on your laptop? It's much less time consuming, and usually where typing is much faster you can just vent all in one go. You don't need to post it anywhere, maybe just keep a file of your vents, or print them and stick them on your wall so when your in a better mental state and you see them you can just think 'what the hell was I thinking?', and you'll feel so much better (idk tho it helps me)
Tbh we love you, and is really hard to.understand you, since im not a celebrity, but I do know the pain and the struggling. Drink green tea, get a dog, or a cat, or something, It helps so much to be responsible for someone else's life. My dog changed me, I'm still depressed, but I go out, I walk, I have a shedule, and even manage to study and get into the uni I wanted. Because you see the simplicity of life, our natural instincts, and meet new people, everything builds up. Idk, you can even adopt an animal so people can rescue it and then give it to someone.
Also getting into philosophy, and especially stoicism is the best.
Love you dearly
An 19 years old depressed, anxious, secretly an extrovert, Chilean girl. ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐
I get what you mean completely because I do the same thing . I think the problem with over sharing is that a lot of people get triggered by talking about it and because there aren't any trigger warnings its hard for people to know what to watch/look at / read. We all care about you and we want to know if youre ok and knowing that you aren't makes us sad? I'm not saying close off completely I'm just saying when youre feeling down you have so many friends you can reach out to. We all love you .
You're such a considerate and kind person. Don't dwell on past decisions, it's all part of learning. And you listened to those around you and looked at yourself - and that's not someone everyone can manage (healthily) while also dealing with their own feelings and own pointy fingers of self-deprecation. I wish you all the best and I do think that's what you'll get, because you're good, you seem inherently good. And the universe can't be that fucked up that it would ignore that. "Here's to the hearts that ache, here's to the mess we make" - stay strong, you're beautiful.
Your previous video was very disappointing to me to be honest and i agreed with the general negative response to your attitudes in it as well as your online posting habits. however this is very mature and responsible of you and i highly respect you for it. It shows a lot about your character, please do not beat yourself up about it you are a good and brave person. you are loved dearly x
I think my heart broke a bit, don't be sorry for trying to get healthier. However if you think that you need to take a step back. Then we are all with you! Love ya.
i'm so proud of you dodie and understand that taking a step back is what's good and healthy for you, but honestly i still respected you even when you talked so graphically about your mi because no one else online did. no one 'normalised' it as much as you, which really helped me to come to terms with my own problems and not feel as if i had to be ashamed of them because all the people i looked up to online hid them away. so now it's good that you're taking a step back to stop the unhealthy behaviour and turning instead to your friends which should be really beneficial, but know that you don't need to be ashamed of how you acted, because you did help people.
It's really weird but I did what you discriped, I stepped back because of these posts but I never realised like, conscious? I didn't watch the oversharing video and I guess because of that as well. And I feel sorry for it. You are so strong and I love you so much. Even if you have these problems you are on the right track (seeking help, living life to the fullest nontheless) and I often thing of your 'letter to the future'(?) when you were unsure about the future and think 'past Dodie would be so happy to know how great her life will be' - of course I just know what I see and not your whole life but.. yeah. youllmaybenotreadthisbutiloveyou
you dont have to be embarrassed, talking about mental health is important- but try to pour out to your friends instead of the audience as you dont know who will see it. I hope that you will find your happiness and peace, best wishes and sending you lots of love and support xxx
The deepest of the dark should be heard and should have light brought to it . Just maybe put a trigger warning โ ๏ธ there's no use in censoring something that many people don't understand because if it is hidden they will never understand
I know this might to be helpful but, I love when you post something about you mentally State. it helps me but hear what you say, honestly i now see i have a addiction. when I'm down I go searching for people that are down. then that leads to my unhealthy thoughts but, I can't not look at that stuff because I rely on it witch is not healthy again but I can't talk to anyone so that why
You are 100% an awesome human being and should for sure not feel embarrassed about making a mistake. 1) people build wisdom on making their own mistakes and watching others mistakes so now you have learnt something valuable. (Geek time: learned behaviour and attitudes, Social Learning Theory, Albert Bandura, 1963 or something) 2) you're only bloody 22 ๐ I'm 21, almost 22 and have recently graduated. I was looking at all these adults who seem to have everything together and was asking myself 'why am I not like that'. It's because I have barely even begun to adult yet. Same with you. There is so much pressure for us to get things right all the time but to get things right sometimes we need to make a mistake first. 3) social media and specifically YouTube is a new platform and our generation don't really have anyone to learn from on 'how to use it'. There's no Dummy handbook on it. We are therefore going to be making more mistakes because we are learning first hand.
Never forget you are worth it. Never forget that you are loved. You have done an amazing thing in listening to your friends and acting on it thoughtfully which is an incredible skill not everyone has.
I admit im not a huge fan, i dont watch or read everything you post. But there are definitely been times with almost every youtuber or people i follow where i re-evaluate why imย watching them, and if i am enjoying the experience, and whether its negatively affecting me. Sometimes it is and i stop following them, or just dont watch as many videos. Sometimes its not them, or their emotional state, its just the direction they chose to go in with their content or what they talk about or their lifestyle and its just not relatable anymore. I understand if you think this method of vlogging is negatively effection you or your audience, why you would want to change it. But i just want you to know, i think its normal for an audience to re-evaluate their enjoyment, or what they get out of their experience when following someone on social media or even with tv shows. And sometimes the content differs between platforms so i only watch someone on a particular platform. So i just want you to know, however you feel about oversharing and what you chose to do about it, that its not abnormal for people to feel differently about what you are sharing and take a step back from it.
omg Dodie stop apologizing, whatever made you feel better was worth it. You needed to share, and a lot of people needed to feel understood, needed to receive all your feelings. You looked back on it and questioned it and that's great ! because by questioning and seeing the flaws ie what you did, you'll only move forward, and that is i'm sure, a thing your whole audience wishes to you <3 But PLEASE stop apologizing :'( Spilling out our emotions and our problems is something we all happen to do, and even if to you it was a little too much, there's really no just and no crime in that. love you ๐
Can I be appointed the head of "Emergency Long-distance Dodie Cuddles"? I think you have enough followers here who would like to help you, that you could set up a group you could message in every timezone :D I'm completely fine with reading/hearing about mental health struggles, the worst thing is just not being able to actively listen/react. You are a wonderful human being who has a lot going on, so don't feel bad about slipping up here and there.
you had to go through too much for your age.. i feel like looking at myself and it hurts and it hurt me that i couldnt be in touch with you anymore because yes you did overshare yes it did make me overthink and not feel good. i feel like i have this weird bond or addiction to you i like you so much but you dont even know me it is so weird dodie i like you so much and do whats best for you please!
Everyone has doubts and everyone make mistakes. So many mistakes everyday. Everybody has someone who is or was feeling bad about this mistake. The clue is to find out that it wasnt right and to be honest to yourself. To be brave and strong enough for thinking about it in a fair way. And to do something to make it right again. Maybe to change if it is necessary. You are doing all of this. And absolutely because of that you are such a good person with such a strong and nice and lovely character. You are doing well. I totally understand you... But you're just human with all those feelings and doubts and sometimes it causes mistakes... Just remember the clue. You always find it.
I actually don't think you should be sorry in the least. While there is prudence to be found in a robust discretion, it can also play too much into the hands of those bearing delicate sensibilities. What society can not glamorize, it carefully places under quarantine. Being real has become something of a marketing scheme to push entertainment, politics, and self-help. However, when confronted with the genuine article, the backlash can be unforgiving. Your frank disclosure is the antidote to trite and trendy spirituality. I watched a philosophical video that packaged suffering as a form of excitement in the midst of well adjusted tedium. It angered me because this sort of romanticism can easily lead to dismissal. In other words, don't weep, you're misinterpreting the zest of life. It's an adventure! Your confessions are sobering. I fear we endulge an overly manicured perception to stay the call of introspection. The agony is just as much apart of you as the silly, fun, and creative facets. If you do not peg pardon for them, do not peg pardon for the hurt.
If you decide hold back, do it for your own piece of mind, and not for the sake of making it easy on voluntary viewers.
You have not burdened them, they are burdening you with unrealistic hemlines. Your uncompromised breath comes before their designer reality that they mean to squeeze you in to for their viewing and listening pleasure. The only pain that is permissible to these detractors is one that is fodder for humor. You don't have to submit to their quotas for lightness. Let them see to it without troubling you.
the only thing we want is for you to process everything - but more importantly, get real help for long term rather than "empty calories" that snapchating etc can become xx
Iโm late but I really want to talk to my friends about mental health n shit, but a lot of them are already in horrible places, and I would feel so bad....I talk to my family but my friends deserve to know, I donโt know what to do
dodiee i'm sorry if i hurt you @ my comment at that video, i didn't say anything rude, but i just trying to be honest.... but now i feel guilty :(( it's heart breaking to see you cry.. :'( i love you i do, you're not perfect so am i. i'm trash. love you dods. sorry so sorry if i said anything wrong....
anyone else feel slightly bad for not turning off the technology after watching this? coz itโs nighttime and i canโt go outside or take a bath or anything like that or iโll get in trouble.
I'm a little upset. Not at you Dodie, but at the random people getting angry at you for posting those things. Yes sometimes you shared things that could possibly harm another's mental being. I understand why you would apologize for that. But I really hate when people criticize others for being "emotional". We are human beings with all percentages of mental health issues and strong/weak sense of emotions. They are there for a reason. I'm really thankful for you opening up about depersonalization because I didn't know what it was prior. Because of you, I became knowledgeable about it. Yes maybe you could have shared it in s healthy way, but you made a mistake and humans make mistakes. You just have to learn from it and better yourself which you obviously have by making this video. Ily Dodie thank you for being you
Dodie, you've helped me so much. I have been struggling with anxiety and depression for a long time and your "oversharing" helped me so much. It made me feel like I wasn't alone. So thank you and keep being you <3
I think it's good that you're bringing attention to mental health, but as you said, you have a young and impressionable audience and for example, I have a friend who is now trying to get depression and faking it after seeing your snapchats and posts. It's great that you're drawing a line :)
Thank you so much for this dodie, I'm so glad that you're now in a place where you can see the extent of how much you were sharing. Really putting all my hope into your therapy being useful and healing, you deserve it <3
I'm so proud of you Dodie. You're wonderful. โค๏ธ we love you. You've learnt from your mistakes, and you've faced the truth; that takes incredible courage. Best wishes โค๏ธ๏ธ
i'm sending you lots of love dodie โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ i'm happy you learned something from this and i think lots of people watching your videos have as well and i'm just glad you are here, love you
At the same time as the oversharing has been unhelpful, seeing the parts of you going to therapy or treatment and getting help has encouraged me to try to do the same. I've been mentally shit for a good 3 years, and I've let myself get low before, but seeing that you're struggling with similar things and working through them and getting the help you need gave me the push to do the same. So thank you for that.โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
it's okay. that's all i'm going to say. we love you and it's amazing to see you grow. i'm sorry you have to go through all this, dodie. i really am. i wish i could squeeze all the negativity out of your life but unfortunately, i can't. you do what you need to do and i hope you find the right balance. i hope you feel better soon.
I'm so proud of you for doing this video. You know what you've done and it was not intentional but you have come forward and apologised and that is amazing of you Xx thank you for learning from your mistakes and growing as a person. We love you and we are proud of you Dodie :)
Dodie I am so, so proud of you. The fact that you dealt with this so well, and that you took into your stride what people were saying, and have done something about it makes me so proud of you.
You know what, this is the perfect follow up video. Yes, maybe you made a mistake, but everybody does that, and you have taken time and effort to figure out what it is you are doing wrong, how you can improve and you apologised but still stood by what you believe in, not many people are brave enough to do that, most people struggle with criticism. So I just want you to know that you shouldn't be embarrassed, just continue doing what's best for you and as you have been saying sharing everything is not that. Well done on making this video.
Well done Dodie, it's so brave and strong of you to try to take a step back from a coping mechanism. It's hard to admit a mistake and you've not only taken it upon yourself to stop doing the potentially harmful thing but you've also publicly apologised. We're all so proud of you โค๏ธโค๏ธ
I have always loved how open you are with your emotions and mental health and it has helped me out. But I'm so proud of you for taking a step back. I hope everything goes well with the therapist x
although it was incredibly heartbreaking to see this I am so proud of you for growing and learning, you are one of the strongest people I've ever seen.
This is really great Dodie. I'm glad that you have been able to get to the point where you can see where boundaries need to be applied. Of course talking about Mental Health is amazing and I am a huge advocate, but in healthy ways. And as a wise person once said to me, "make mistakes with pride" -it's the best way to learn ๐
This is really great Dodie. I'm glad that you have been able to get to the point where you can see where boundaries need to be applied. Of course talking about Mental Health is amazing and I am a huge advocate, but in healthy ways. And as a wise person once said to me, "make mistakes with pride" -it's the best way to learn ๐
Although, personally, you sharing your feelings online has really helped me, I understand that others reacted differently. Please still make music about mental health because your songs are so reassuring and remind me that I'm not alone. Despite all of this, I think that you should just be yourself and post videos about the issue whenever you feel like you need to because the odd video would still really help me. Thank youโก
Wow, I got so upset watching this from how upset you are - from my perspective, you have absolutely nothing to apologise for and even for those who this has affected, I'm sure they will agree for you not to be so hard on yourself, we know you have learnt from this now and will prehaps now move on in a way that it better for everyone. From me personally, you will never know how utterly grateful I am that you did share so much because without that I would never have found out I have mental illness or at what capacity that is. I think I have identified that I had Borderline Personality Disorder, although I have not been diagnosed or anything. Reading and listening to pretty much everything you've talked about with dp/dr I have related to and without that I think I would have felt truly alone and prehaps never have put what I'm feeling down to a physical condition. I truly do thank you for everything, but despite that I absolutely understand why you're stepping away - the people in your life love you and are there to support you in a way we can't. I also absolutely understand that oversharing isn't healthy, when I am in my worst place I overthink what I am feeling way too much and then when I am in a better place I overthink and overshare then too, which brings me back down into a bad place when I could've been picking myself up, almost as if in my brain I want to be back down in that bad place to prove to the people I'm telling about it that I am actually feeling that bad, when I don't have to be. Obviously I don't actually want to be feeling bad when my sanity comes back and I regret oversharing everything. Anyway, I just wanted to say I'll never be able to thank you enough for all you have enabled me to learn about myself, and I'm sure so many others feel the same, but now I know I'm not alone and so do they so we can pass on that message and you concentrate on yourself. Again, please don't apologise and feel bad over this because you have done so much good too and we have all learnt some things. Much much love ๐๐๐ -Alice
Hey Dodie. It's okay. You've learned a lot and I'm proud of you. And you're very brave for making this video. You're fixing the problem, you're doing great. You're awesome.
Love you dodie, it is so strong of you to make this video, you are showing truly how you can realise and identify what is going on in your life, keep going we absolutely love you and always will. โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
you have been an extremely responsible and mature adult, for realising your mistakes and apologising. you're learning from what you've done wrong, and not many people realise that you have to be SO brave to do that. i'm proud of you. be strong ๐
Honestly, your videos helped me sooo freaking much... Even your real deep instagram texts... And I seriously think I would miss them. But maybe it is too much to share, I don't know... Did u thought about creating your own blog where you can write down everything you want too and everyone can decide if they want to read it or not? I think that would help a lot of people ... Thank you for everything Dodie โค
It's ok, Dodie. It really is. It's really great that you have realized this and only jerks will think less of you for making a mistake when you apologize for that. Love you โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
I think it's great you have used this experience to learn from your mistakes โค we all make mistakes and get stuck in identifying too much in our pain sometimes.
I can tell how much you've matured, and i'm glad you apologized even though your posts never bothered me personally. That being said you have helped me a lot, and I could recognize myself in a lot of your posts talking about how you were feeling, so thank you for making me feel less alone when I needed it most.
That's good that, as an audience, we were comfortable to not just blindly say "it's okay we love you so whatever" but in fact feel comfortable to go "actually This isnt right" or "no I am actually happy" without fear of being attacked, particularly by Dode herself. Congrats Dodie on the openness of the community you have, it's so very important
I think I simply want to say to you after this beautiful video is that Dodie, it's okay! It's fine! We've all gone too far and we've all messed up online and it's okay. What's really inspiring is that you've taken a step back and gone "yes okay, I see that wasn't healthy and it was over the line and I'm sorry" because that isn't an easy thing to do and you're so so brave. I'm glad you're going to keep breaking the stigma of mental health and are going to talk about your experiences but just in a more healthy way which is wonderful because in the past your music and opening up about mental health has helped me understand a few things about myself. We need more people like you in this world! I hope this time around the therapy will help and you'll get somewhere with it. Keep making art and music and vlogs and being amazing now that you have drawn a line over this wobble. But most importantly take care and look after yourself.
All my love. Looking forward to your Glasgow gig! Eilidh x
I love you so much dodie โค Please don't feel guilty, we're all humans and nobody is perfect. Even if it wasn't good for everyone that you overshared, it still doesn't make you a bad person, please please remember that โค We all make mistakes, and we all try to find things in this big and cruel world that eases our pain, even for just a minute.
Awh poor Dodie โค๏ธโค๏ธ I think you are helping up to a certain point, it was really helpful for me to know I'm not the only one. I do think there is a place to stop and a healthy balance though.
We understand and we love you no matter what and if that means you need to express your feelings online to an audience we're going to be there to support you and try to help even though personally I know it feels like nothing can but I hope you know that everyone in this fandom, this family, loves you endless amounts no matter what ๐
dodie, your posted have helped me so much. I might be one of the people that feels this way judging by the response of you last video but reading all of those posts and watching all of your snapchats made me feel so much less alone and like I knew someone that felt the same way I had been feeling for so long. Having those extremely painful emotions put into words helped me understand them and encoded me to seek help, and I don't think I would have done that without you. Knowing someone that I admire so much has some of the most painful problem in common with me gives me confidence and hope, when I see you around your friends in videos smiling and laughing knowing that you feel the same way I do gives me hope that I will be able to smile like that one day. I understand that it is different from most people, but I want to thank you. For making amazing content and for inspiring me. I owe you my happiness.
dodie, i can only imagine how hard it must've been for you to confront these realisations and deal with the pressures of learning exactly how to restrain yourself from a source of comfort in a short space of time - holding back can be just as hard as letting go - so it makes me glad that you have a strong network of friends with you in real life, and i hope you know that even if you feel you need to see us as your impressionable little sisters from whom you hope to hide some of your burdens, we will love and support you through it - more so for how much you care about us. it's okay, you fucked up, but you didn't shy away from recognising your responsibility or your mistake, and you're trying to find better solutions, and we respect you all the more for your maturity and selflessness because we can see how hard it is for you. so take the time you need, give only what you can, and we'll be here waiting. <3 sending you love and all the best from this 21yo baby sis
I think you are a very brave person for admitting this. I respect you greatly and you are one of my favourite youtubers. This shows how much of a good person you are. You recognised this, and no one hates you for what you did. You are brave ๐๐
I want to thank you for this video. Because, you did trigger me with your last video, but the thing was, that I didn't notice you had triggered me until I was having an anxiety attack out of the blue. I was just getting more and more anxious as you talked, but I was paying no attention to it. So, thanks! I now know, that some very deep videos like that are triggering, but I know it from the creator itself saying sorry. Either way, I wanted to say how proud I am dodie, that you poured your heart out to us. The thing was that you did it from rock bottom, and maybe overshared too much. But, you've apologized and honestly its so refreshing to see someone on youtube owning up to their mistakes. In my opinion you're incredibly brave to say sorry publicly. I LOVE YOU DODIE, I HOPE YOU HAVE A NICE DAY,WEEK,YEAR AND LIFE! But, remembering a bit of madness is key hehe. Love you xxx
this is exactly what growth as an adult is about, you've acknowledged your mistake and not made excuses. you've explained reasoning and have promised to make it better. and from this experience you've learnt more about yourself and how you personally deal with difficult situations. and i am SO FUCKING PROUD. it takes one hell of a lot of guts and gumption to do that and i am so proud of you. โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
your videos have helped me... honestly, your songs have made me happy and cry uncontrollably because they are so real and raw.. that's what I love about you, that you can something bad into something not so bad.. this whole situation to me was really a cry for help, whether you wanted it to be or not, it was. So i'm glad you are going to give therapists another shot, because the way the world has shaped mental illness isn't great especially when you are dealing with it. I don't want you to turn into another 'youtuber' who has 'emotions'.. because this isn't for you to get attention, but for your mental state.. it's important you check up on yourself and to just turn off positively, instead of turning off until you don't know whats going on... you have explained it perfectly and I couldn't say any of that better... but I thought I should just pop in join the discussion again, because the more awareness, the better.. xxxxxxxxx
don't be embarrassed, you've dealt with this so well, everybody is so proud to see you actively grow and learn. even tho being publicly called out on your own video must be pretty tough you've been really brave, mature and understanding about it. what a good egg
This video was clearly very hard to make, but I think you've done a really good job of reflecting on people's responses. We all have our unhealthy coping mechanisms, and it's much harder being so in the public eye. You are doing wonderful things in terms of raising awareness, and I pray that you continue to have all the support you need, because you seem like a person who deserves some good in her life xox
Aw dodie, please don't apologise for sharing your feelings online๐ we all completely understand what you were and still are going through and that sharing it online was like a support for you, honestly, your post helped me and allowed me to understand more things so please don't feel bad about it, I understand why you made this video and I understand where your friends are coming from, so please just do what you think is best and what you think will help you the most, just remember that we all love and support you!!๐๐๐๐๐
We love you. We all make mistakes. In some way it helped you, but short time like how that one person said 'empty calories'. Your posts did help me and yet they also maybe worsen it in the process. I love you Dodie, I'm extremely glad you're getting more help. We all support you.
When you said "I'm sorry" I started crying because you have nothing to be sorry about , people make mistakes and you were helping people you were helping me . So much
Huge respect to you Dodie. 1) for admitting when you're wrong and taking on someone else's advice especially when it was hard to hear. and 2) for then admitting this to your audience and even APOLOGISING to them. That takes real guts Dodie. I feel like informing them of what is healthy is super helpful. We're all growing and maturing as people and babe, if you continue down this track I'm sure you'll go very far in life. Love you!
Dodie you've helped me on the lowest of the low seeing you at that low point made me realise what my mum and family see when I'm there too you'll never know how much 6/10 affected me and made me acknowledge that this isn't a normal way to fell so often Dodie I love you please always know that and you'll never do wrong in my eyes for speaking your mind we can fight this together eventually it will just take time love you ๐๐๐๐๐
Personally, your videos really do help me. I get anxious very easily (I'm not going to say 'anxiety' because I haven't been diagnosed) and it makes me feel a bit better that other people do and not all YouTubers are perfect and stable and happy all the time, however I do agree with you. I'm 12 and sometimes it doesn't help knowing that someone you really care about isn't feeling good and it can make me worry about you even though I don't personally know you (which I know isn't really a bad thing, but it can be when it makes me feel nervous). I might delete this because I think that I have now opened up too much. Sorry if I have.
Don't worry at all Dodie, I always thought that you were so brave for talking about your mental illness, and they always helped me to realise that I am not alone.
It hurts so much knowing you're struggling so much. I understand how you feel even though I always deny to myself the fact that there was the time I felt the same way you feel now. And whenever I was having a mental breakdown nobody wanted to listen. So I wrote things down. All the dark thoughts and feelings. And after a year and a half later I found those notes and I started reading them, but it was too much to handle so I stopped and threw them away. I honestly don't want to remember how bad I was feeling. I wish I could just snap my fingers or whatever and make you feel better instantly. You're such a wonderful and talented person and... I don't know where was I going with this. Anyways, I really hope you get better SOON cause I really want to see you happy and not sad cause it makes me sad, I cried during this video. I love youuu
Okay Dodie but we love you soooo much, I personaly find your way of expressing your feelings very good, I mean you think it's "easier" to do it online, but expressing feelings is NEVER easy. So maybe it's not the best thing to do, and maybe it's not the best thing you've done, but if it helped you get better, it's not a completly bad thing. And the way you managed the audience's answer is perfect, so is your reaction and your decision. God you're so amazing, and you also make me feel amazing. Thank you Dodie.
I do a similar thing, I overshare and pour out my darkest thoughts on the internet in a way that doesn't mean anything bad to me, but maybe would mean something else to other people. When I found your Instagram account, I was relieved and thought 'Dodie is like me!!!' I agree with what you said about your journal and online captions leaking into each other - I am exactly the same.
I still watch your videos, read your captions, watch your Snapchat etc because it doesn't get too much for me, but I guess that's just my personality and how if I already felt that way, I can't be dragged down more??? I find them as educational, as well, and interesting to see things from your point of view, because a lot of it reminds me of me, makes me feel even more 'connected' with you and I feel like you're my big sister (even though I've never met you). (Not trying to glorify mental illness, or say that it's a good thing!!)
It is REALLY good and brave of you to take that step back though, and change things. That is good of you. โค๏ธ
I'd say, maybe you could make separate YouTube/Snapchat/Instagram accounts - one account without the negativity, and one account with it? Because separating it would allow audience to filter out what they want to see, and for those who get comfort/reassurance or want to read your more intense feelings, it would still be there but separate and more subtle??
- But, if you want to take a step back, I definitely respect that, and it may be tempting, with that idea ^, to get back into sharing more 'private' information, which might not necessarily be a good thing! It's your choice and decision, and I admire you for it โค๏ธโค๏ธ
Thank you so much, I know that you shouldn't show your lowest of your lows but when I am in that place, I almost enjoy watching your videos, they make me feel less alone and not to be that scared anymore. So thank you so much
Dodie I'm so so proud of you for addressing this and saying sorry. I often rewatch your videos but somehow, even unconsciously, I keep myself away from the 'heavy' ones, because some of those (a small amount in comparison with how many videos you've made) make me feel anxious (anxiety is something that I struggle with and I've been going to therapy to try and get better). I also hope that you don't give up on medication. There's a beautiful ted talk about depression with writer Andrew Solomon and I suggest watching it if you haven't already. I hope things will get better for you, 'cause you're an amazing person and, as I said, I'm really proud of you and this video imo is the evidence that you're a very strong and beautiful human being.
I love dodie so incredibly much because she is someone i can relate and turn to because of my depression/anxiety. I really hope she comes to vidcon Australia because it would make my birthday the best day if i get to see my favorite emotional human and just have a little chat with her (if I'm not happy crying of course)
I just want you to know Dodie, ily so much, you are sooo strong, you are so positive even when it's difficult to be that way. No matter what, we'll always be there to support. And it's ok, it's all going to be o k. Just want you to know I love you a lotโฅ๏ธโฅ๏ธโฅ๏ธโฅ๏ธโฅ๏ธโฅ๏ธโฅ๏ธโฅ๏ธโฅ๏ธโฅ๏ธ
Dodie you are doing brilliantly at the moment, and it's fine to share your feelings. If people don't like to read them then they don't have to, but if it's helpful to you then continue as I think i can speak for all of your viewers when I say we want to help you even if it's just a small comment. When I found your channel it made me realise a lot about my self, and I am very grateful for it. We love you very much Dodie โค๏ธ stay strong โค๏ธ
I've got maybe five months of knowing who you are and what you do, so I'm pretty fresh to all this. This is jumping from another platform, but just reading all the comments from an instagram post of "I'm saving my words. Can you give me yours in the time being?". It's a lot. It's all just heavy stuff. I had this massive medical event a few years ago that I'm now just sharing bits of. I saw the Snapchats over VidCon and I was like, I saw an implosion. If I was posting on twitter, youtube, and Facebook all of everything when I was hospitalized 2 years ago. That's way too much. Glad the wi-fi was spotty in the hospital.
I'm glad that you engage with the social circles that know you best and you're participating, you're moving forward. You're very aware of just not everyone can handle the amount of sharing. I'm working through my tent pole moment of "this big event happened but it's not the be all, end all". Turning it into something to advocate about can't happen now, it happens later.The control mechanism wasn't working in the moment, and I knew it and nobody outside of that time didn't need to know. Maybe for you this moment you get the controls back. I know I posted something similar on IG, and now I feel a bit redundant posting this..
Good on you for checking in with yourself with this follow up. Don't excuse yourself for being emotional. Just one day at a time. It gets better. You'll get through this.
I'm part of your young audience taht you were talking about and i suffer from anxiety. I love watching you and i love to keep up to date with your vlogs. But to watch your vlogs i also need to sit through the really deep stuff which just makes me anxious! I'm glad you made this video and I can't wait to see your content in the future!
Honestly I don't think there's anything wrong with what you've posted. I know I shouldn't really have a say, because I haven't had depression or anything but recently I've been in such a bad place mentally and idk your posts just made me feel like we got to know you more and like we learnt more about you. But I understand where other people come from and take care of yourself Dodieโค๏ธ
I go to Tumblr when I'm really upset and pour my heart out, it's an outlet, it's easy.. so I understand where the feeling to pick up your phone comes from. Obvs I don't have a following but it does worry my friends, and every time it does I feel horrible! It's all a learning experience dodie, please don't continue to be hard on yourself about this now that you've apologizedโก we're all just doing the best we can(: I'm gunna go have a bath!!!
Well put, and well learned, Dodie. Actually, a lot of people learn something similar about sharing when we're low, you're not the only one who goes through that curve. You just have an audience.
Also, with therapy, remember that it probably won't help immediately. It's not an instant fix, sometimes it means you have to go through lows before you can get better again. Just stick it out and you'll learn a lot!
I think you are making the best decision for you and your audience with this, that being said I know for me personally it was very helpful to see even your worst posts because to me, also a depressed person who recently started meds, they showed me I wasn't alone, and there are other people feeling and thinking the things I do. I didn't think they were too extreme, but that is obviously influenced by my own 'depression goggles' and you have a way bigger audience to be mindful of. so yeah i think being a bit more careful is probably best in that sense.
You help me a LOT with your sharing because I feel so much less alone. However I don't have Instagram or Snapchat so I haven't seen all of that. But please don't apologise, you're only human you're going through a lot and that's okay. You're still growing as a person and we're all still behind you every step of the way ๐๐
Hello!! So, I have a small suggestion that has helped me more than I can say: make a private, password protected tumblr blog. I've never been able to keep a diary, but for some reason the blog just works. It means you can post more of a feeling: you're not limited to words, you can use songs or art instead. And if you can't kick the phone habit at first, you can just write on the blog instead. You can give the password to a few very close friends if you like, that way you don't feel alone in it all. Good luck!! <3
dodie i, we, all of us as your fans, friends and family, care and love you so much. we completely understand, and please don't be embarrassed. just try and focus your energy on you! don't feel like you have to always keep us informed, but then if you need to express yourself we completely understand! just smile please we all love you so much.
dodes, dont be pissed at yourself or feel guilty, im glaad you have realised your mistake of course it is important to talk about mental health but maybe just hold off until your mind is feeling a little bti better, so you can process your thoughts more clearly, i really liked dans idea because you'll still be flooding all the shit out but keeping it safe so others cant be hurt by it, dont ever stop completely talking about mental health, just maybe approach it more sensitivel, love you lots :) xx
I actually will say that when I go through hard times and I see you do as well, it makes me feel a little more connected to you- but for all the wrong reasons. It makes me relate in- some may say- poisonous way to what you're saying, and sometimes I see you have problems I've dealt with a while back and I JUST WANT TO SEND YOU A POSITIVE SNAP BUT IT WON'T SEND BECAUSE SNAPCHAT DOESN'T WORK LIKE THAT I T IS FRUSTRATING GRR (not u the whole "y'all should follow each other to talk" thingy) But when I am going through really hard times, I do feel much, much worse seeing that people I care about, my friends, people from online, also go through them. It makes me a little guilty in a way, makes me feel like I should give out more than I physically or mentally can atm and all I want to say is- well, everything should come in a measure. Eating a little bowl of ice cream us fun, eating a huge box and wanting more after is too much and kind of dangerous for sugar levels- just like sharing is. People want to know if you're okay or not okay, but there are some things in our minds that should stay to our eyes only. The first people you should tell stuff to is your family and friends, not people online that won't know every complicated thing about a story and won't be there to go through it and understand it with you.
What I'm saying is- it's good to open up, it really is, but to a certain point and in certain ways. I am happy you made this video and I am happy to know you are trying to keep going โค๏ธ
1. Kudos to you for making this video. It surely wasn't easy :)
2. I suffer from depression and bpd and anxiety too and sometimes your videos helped me. Especially your "depersonalisation" video because I can send it out when I try to explain depersonalisation.
3. I do too overshare online. As a nobody this isn't so problematic obviously. I reblog dramatic depressed stuff on tumblr on my side blog for half an hour and that will help me get my negativity out.
4. About you: Firstly, don't feel like you should feel embarrassed. You are allowed to mess up. We all do โก Every single day.
5. I don't follow your snapchat and instagram and twitter because yes, sadly I too found many of your posts triggering or "mental illness glorifying". And it was often simple stuff like putting a super aesthetic photo with a long text about feeling miserable or that you often posted positively about drinking (that may have been a while ago). Which I found unfortunate considering the age of your audience.
6. I think it's not bad to need an outlet for your MI thoughts and all that. I just think that if you maybe opened secret accounts and posted there you'd still get some relief but not possibly trigger/lose parts of your audience.
7. I think it's fantastic that you will look for another therapist now! And honestly I look forward to content that is not either music or you having a breakdown, because in the latter case I get worried โก
8. This should NOT mean though, that I want you to become one of those fake-happy youtubers! God no. I liked you best when you were real and a little bit crazy and odd and all of that made you so lovable :)
9. This feels very unstructured anyway and I apologise if it wasn't very helpful. I just wanted to let you know my two cents on the matter. And please take care and be good to yourself and get professional assistance and do what you think will longterm help you improve and feel better :)
dodie. I doubt you will read this but I really appreciate everything you say and post on sc. I enjoy seeing the background to YouTube because you are a human too !! We have brought you to where you are and you shouldn't feel guilty for relying on us ? In a way idk. I love you with all my heart and care deeply for you. I hope you manage to become happier and in a state where you can eventually be like 'lol remember when ghekdndi' so I really really want you to know that you're appreciated and your Brain is too!! you help me understand that I don't have to be perfect and the people I look up to aren't. because as I already said, we are all human beings just trying be human beings and if you've got a lil bit of depersonalisation clinging on for the ride, idk what I'm saying aH
As a relatively older (?? I'm 19) viewer of yours, and fortunate enough to not have suffered mental problems, I can tell you with conviction that your posts have not affected me in a negative way. Rather it opened up my eyes to the world of mental illnesses and that there should be no shame in them. The "darkest of the dark" moments convinced me that mental issues are not to be brushed off or taken lightly; rather they are valid. That being said, I completely understand that lines have to be drawn somewhere and that people who may not have been as fortunate as me might not have needed to see certain things at certain times. It has been very interesting to watch you go through that personal growth and let go on something that, for lack of a better way to put it, has been "part of your brand" for so long. It is a shift in character and the taking on of responsibility has further built my admiration for you. I sincerely hope you do find an answer to your troubles x
For those who don't read the description- Dodie's next video will talk about her journey with mental health so she wanted to say you don't have to watch it x if it's a touchy subject to hear for you then try to avoid it and stay safe โก
I think this will be helpful for you too, if we let mental health issues into all of our interactions then we never get a break from them ourselves - sometimes it can be helpful to have a place to go and do something else and not think about it for a little bit. It would be REALLY good to see you talk about what you learn when you're in therapy e.g. "I'm finding x thing helpful" as that is giving helpful suggestions to others and is inherently hopeful. Well done for being so brave, I know this must really hurt. I'M PROUD OF YOU DODIE - YOU SHOULD FEEL PROUD OF YOURSELF TOO.
When dodie crys I cry โค๏ธ Dodie we all love you so why else would we be here. But I know how you feel about social media and at the end of the day it is your choice no matter what โค๏ธโค๏ธ we all love you
i honestly ever thought that you were oversharing too much but i really think that you'd feel better with these new boundaries you've set between you and us, the audience. i really hope you feel a lot better dodes. have a great day
I think the one problem I ever had with you over sharing was you'd never tell us anything about you feeling better, or you having a good day, or any positive things. It made me feel helpless. I wasn't sure what to do with all that information. I was reading what felt like the complete collapse of such a wonderful person and there's just absolutely nothing I could do. I really hope things are improving for you gradually, I don't want you to lie and make things sound better than they are, but if you are ever in an honestly positive state no matter how temporary I'd really like to see more of your gratitude towards those days, just so there's some balance x
Dear Dodie, I'm always the listener and almost never the talker. I wish i could let out the way you do and just.. talk. Boundries are very much necessary and i'm very glad you found yours but i want you to know that your posts did speak to me a lot, stated things i wish i could say out loud, the lyrics of your songs talk to me and when i sing them, i feel like i'm letting out, i'm finally talking. Just know the positive side behind your posts and vids and know that you beautiful human being, did help a lot of us too. Thank you for being you. I love you to the moon and back.
if you have a need to vent to social media, you could make a seperate private account, so that people who are willing to see it and help can. You'd get the acknowledgement that people have seen it so you feel like youre not alone. you are loved dodie, thank you for everything.
You don't have to apologize for any of this. You help a lot of people sharing your experiences of what you're going through. The things you share might not always be as positive, but isn't that how life is? You have helped me a lot throughout this little time I've been following you and I just love how open you are. It's good. I love you, take care x
I really think the way you share on YouTube is appropriate because it comes with context and I guess you don't go as far (e.g. saying life isn't worth living). The difficulty seems to be more with Instagram and Snapchat, which have less time for you to reflect (and Insta is about creating beautiful images). Please don't completely stop sharing. Share what is helpful to you.
i had a dream last night that i met u and we had a big old conversation about mental health, that will forever be my dream and ily dodie.... were always here for u no matter what '
as someone who doesn't have any extreme metal illnesses like depression or depersonalisation, I actually find your videos super interesting. I know people who have the same sort of things and it's hard for them to open up and how in depth you go it can help me understand these sorts of things better and can help other people understand these that don't have depression or anxiety etc. However I think there's always a cut of point of how in depth you can go because your brain is always in a different state when you're in your lowest and highest moments. (Also glad that you now know the depths you can go into) โค๏ธโค๏ธ
I honestly can't believe you are taking blame for this. I just want you to do what's best for you, but I disagree so so strongly with what most people said. Reminder: you are not forced to follow anyone. You can stop. And something I feel is never stressed enough: a content creator should not have to change their content for their audience. Their audience should grow because they chose to consume that content. I hope you are okay dodie. I hope you do not feel ashamed or embarrassed or guilty. Sharing should not be shamed.
While Dodie has definitely helped to clear up stigma of mental health issues by talking openly about it and by turning her thoughts into beautiful works of art that her songs are, this is a step towards the right direction. While experiencing someone's ultimate lows may give you something to relate to, in the end it hurts Dodie and her dearest. My ex had these similar moments when he would just say that no one loves him and the world would be better of without him, and it felt awful to hear that face to face, being there with him and loving him. But imagine finding that on his diary or social media? If I could barely help him face to face, experiencing it "through a wall" would have been unimaginable.
Your loved ones are your safety net, and you don't want to push them away. You can still talk about it and post it online, but when you are in the moment and feeling sad and need someone to hear you out, call a friend or your therapist and face the moment with them. โค๏ธ
The thing is, YouTubers and online creators, as they, themselves, often say, only share the best parts of their day/ life, so, it can be refreshing to see the worst parts of your day (occasionally), even if it is upsetting to watch. Finding a balance is important, but, that doesn't mean you should refrain from talking about real-life issues because some of your viewers don't want to hear it.
Honestly I'm not sure that you need to feel bad, you did what you felt was right for you at the time and to be honest that's all we can do in this life. However, I think the thing that pushed me away from your emotional posts was the repeated idea that people who make art can empathise and that your posts as a self proclaimed "artist" should be some what identifiable to those who wish to/also make "art". I know that this wasn't your intention and though as an older member of your audience I saw through that claim to what I imagine was your intent, I feel that as you mentioned a lot of your audience are much younger than you, at a point in their lives where they're already unsure where they fit in, so hearing messages such as these are not particularly helpful to their development. I understand that you don't want to glorify mental health and I truly don't believe that's what you've been trying to do, but I think that in talking about this so openly you're starting to understand where it started to go a bit wrong. Talk about your mental health, share your experiences, it will be so helpful to some to know that they're not alone, but just do it from an objective place, we're a faceless void not a trusted friend, don't put anything here without trying your best to remember that you have no control over who sees it. I'm sorry if this sounds patronising I really don't mean it to be, I've struggled with my own mental health in the past and I feel like we're all learning how much is too much when it comes to sharing, so I just wanted to drop in my 2 centsโค๏ธ
Dodie, you shouldn't be blaming yourself, or apologizing! People make mistakes, you thought you were helping and in some cases, yes you were! I'm 13 and when my doctor told me I had depression, I didn't know anyone who understood, I also felt like councelling was embarrassing, but then you showed me that I wasn't alone and I felt less embarrassed about the way my brain was. So yes you did help in many ways for me, I cut my hair short and brought a uke because I wanted to learn your songs and I loved your short hair style videos๐. But for those people you didn't help, they are understanding and although they can't read,watch or listen sometimes, they still love you the same because you are just trying your best to make things better for yourself (because you are your priority remember that!) and your viewers. Love you loads dodie! I couldn't get tickets for your show because i turn 14 in December and your shows are in October but next time!๐ love youuu! Also I just learned sick of loosing soulmates on uke and guitar and I love it so much!๐ถ๐ฝ
I personally never had a problem with her sharing her problems with us. I think it's good to know that these things can happen, to anyone, and as long as they help Dodie heal I really don't mind reading something or watching something that isn't all happy and glamorous and "perfect". One of the reason why I love Dodie so much is because she is so real, so honest and so down-to-earth. She makes me feel like she's my friend, not just some faceless human being with no personality and flaws. Whatever you decide to do Dodie, I'm sure your audience will always support your decisions.
Part 1- I think it's brilliant that you talk about mental health and remove the stigma because it takes balls to do that kind of thing. However, I do agree that you need to be aware of what you're sharing and when you're sharing it. Not just because it can be quite unhealthy for you (like the empty calories metaphor) but also I sometimes find it's a thin line between showing others they're not alone and saying there's no hope. I watched other YouTubers, who still talk about their mental health problems very publicly and sometimes quite graphically, and it constantly made me feel like there was little hope for people like me who were struggling with a mental health problem, and essentially it would depress me more so I learnt to stop watching them. I'm in no way saying that mental health illness should be glorified because it's awful and there's no way in going round that, and that definitely should be addressed when talking about mental illness but at the same time I think when talking about that kind of thing you need to make sure you're being constructive and saying nothing extremely triggering as well making sure bit of love is spread
Part 2- additionally I think that although it's important to say you should be careful about talking so publicly on social media when you're at your very lowest, you should always try (and I know it's bloody hard) to talk about it with someone you trust or just getting it out privately in some way. I stopped talking about my mental health publicly on social media but it ended up in me not talking or getting my feelings out at all, because I felt like I was attention seeking, which obviously wasn't healthy. You're an incredible person dodie and we will all support you and understand when you can't upload or need to take a break from the internet. You're human and you're learning and as long as you're honest and own up to times when you've messed everyone will understand and support you on that. You're a brilliant person for trying to remove the stigma around mental health, and you deserve all the cups of tea and hugs in the world. Lots of love x
Oh Dodie.. Please go and get help.. It's gotten to the point where its uncontrollable, I know, I've been though is recently too. And that's fine, it happens.. We all still love you and want to see you get better.. Get well Soon. X Chloe
Are you kidding!?!? You talking about your depersonalisation made me realise that what I was going through was the same, and now I'm getting help for it. If you hadn't have shared about your mental state my recovery would have been set back by YEARS. I am SOOOO grateful for you sharing your experiences, it taught me everyone has problems and mental health isn't something only I have a problem with, you taught me I am not alone!!!
Okay. I know people are going to disagree with me and probably hate on me for saying this but Dodie, I know that you overshared, I know that some people could have been affected by this, but by oversharing you helped me so much because a few months ago I didn't know what was wrong with me and I felt alone and I thought I wasn't someone who could be helped. After listening and watching you talking about your mental health it showed that my problems are real and I shouldn't just repress them and because of this I had the confidence to reach out to a friend of mine. Now I'm going to clarify, I'm not saying that overcharging is good I just wanted you to see that you did do some good even if it was only someone as small and kinda shit as me. You have helped someone, so thankyou so, so much. โค
dodie, don't be sorry. You've learnt, still share but break it down. make it simple. obviously, yes make it appropriate. You haven't done anything bad, like you've learnt something here. I'm glad you've been talking about mental health though. yea. boundaries. I'm so happy you've possibly found a therapist. you're doing great, this is a big step. keep moving forward, no matter how big the steps. keep moving forward.
See..when I listen to her Snapchat stories or her videos I..I don't know how to explain this..I think they help me but at the same time I'm listening to dodie being super unhappy ughhh Idk โค๏ธ
dodie there's no need to feel sorry, please don't be sad about all of this you're so strong and i love you so so much you're so strong, and honestly i didn't even see anything wrong with what you're doing, i found them helpful and have lead me to find help, so thank you, and please don't apologise, you're not glorifying mental illness dodie! you've taught me so so much about awareness and empathy for others and before i found you i didn't even know what depersonalisation wasโค๏ธso thank you, and you're very strong for doing this๐ธ
oh dodie! you shouldn't feel that sorry:((( sure it may not be the best way but if there are things you really want to express then go ahead and do so. you haven't messed up that much and it's alright. hope you're feeling better:///
I don't think you need to apologise for oversharing. It's your brain it can't be helped. You haven't done anything wrong. If anything your graphic tweets/insta posts/snapchats are actually refreshing for me, they make me feel like I'm not alone. It's not a "trigger" it's the opposite, I watch/read what you post and it makes me happy knowing that recovering from a mental illness is hard and that it's "not in my head" (lol). It's also a difficult thing to be open up to people and share your mental health issues, let alone an online audience.
When you made the video saying you were oversharing I was like "what?when?". However I do see how it could look to a young audience who haven't ever experienced these things. I think someone who shares as much as you do is important for breaking down that stigma and saying, "hey I'm a real person with real problems and poor mental health is a real problem". Idk maybe put a trigger warning on insta or snapchat so that younger audiences (or any age audience) don't have to read or watch it.
You've helped me a lot to come to terms with my mental illness, and I don't want to have to watch you pretend to be happy (or not post at all and make us all worry about you). Ups and downs are part of life and with mental illness sometimes that down can be intense, so yeah maybe stick with a trigger warning and don't apologise.
Sorry for the essay, just want you to know it's not something else you need to worry about on top of your illness (if you read this, or for anyone reading this for that matter). Keep unapologetically being you โค๏ธ
I just wanted to say that a good coping mechanism is turning off all electronicย devices and just writing it all down in a diary instead of social mediaย as you can read it when its over and just find the things you need to focus onย when its happening, or just watch ASMR
Please don't be embarrassed and I don't think you're glorifying anything. Maybe just a bit to much detail. If your audience knows you're mentally ill but you never go in depth about how it feels then they might think they are coping poorly or being to emotional with their own mental health. Idk of that makes sense but yeah. Sending you all my loveee โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
I think of "depression brain" as another presence that lies and wants to hurt you. And when you're at the bottom your depression brain is the one speaking. It's valuable for people, I think, to see that the depression brain spews a lot of untrue things. Your audience knows that you are a wonderful light so your worst thoughts aren't real. I think a real framing of those posts, through the lens of your "normal brain", could be a great benefit. Keep tripping on.
I know it hurts to think you've made a mistake or done wrong by people or hurt them unintentionally. But you're incredibly wise for having realised it and for apologising for it. Even really dark and painful thoughts can be made into something valuable and beautiful. I've read and seen some extremely confronting plays and songs about mental illness. And they're hard to engage with, but they're also important works because they create insight and empathy. Sharing is ok, and is great, but it's all about context. I hope you can move forward and find healthier and more constructive ways to share, and I think you will. You have so much to give and the power to make the world a more beautiful place. That seems like an odd thing to say seeing as we've never met, but it rings true. โค๏ธ
See... This is such bullshit to me. First, lemme introduce myself. I'm turning 20 in some few weeks, I've been severely depressed and suicidal for a large portion of my life, and was diagnosed with PTSD last year. I also developed an eating disorder when I was in middle school, and I weighed 95lbs in my freshman year of highschool. I was addicted to the pro-ana tag on Tumblr and alllll the bad tags on Instagram. Now that y'all know who I am, allow me to say how I feel about this: This is so fucking wrong. The issue I have with this is I feel it is unnecessary self censorship. Nobody should have to stop doing something they want to do because it might upset someone else. Purposely showing someone something upsetting, forcing them to look at it, is fucked up. But everyone has a choice when it comes to what they view on social media. They choose to read captions on instagram and watch Snapchat stories. No one is obligated to baby anybody else. No one is forcing anyone to finish your in-depth, "possibly triggering" Instagram posts. You are not responsible for other people's actions. I learned this when my ex-girlfriend attempted suicide because she was upset by the things I put on my personal, private Instagram. She found it on my phone, made an account with a fake name, followed me for months, and then tried to kill herself. It took over a year to get it through my head that it was not my fault. If you're older than 4 or 5, you know right from wrong. You know what you should and shouldn't do. It is no one's responsibility to tiptoe around you, so they don't upset you. If you're mentally ill, and you purposely look at things you know are triggering, then that speaks even further about the severity of your illness. If you are that ill, you need help or you will die. Do not follow down that path. Mental illness is very serious, but for the ill, it is part of us. The real world will not cater to our sickness, and we shouldn't expect it to. Some things are not intended for all audiences, and that's okay. But when you get pissy with someone because you don't like what they post, or it upsets you, you need to stop. When we talk about having self confidence, and wearing certain clothes even though others may judge us, why is the phrase "Don't like it, then don't look" tossed around? If that's valid in that situation, why not here?
I have a tumblr account I use just to vent, it has no followers and I hope it never does but it satisfies the need to share things online without the potential to upset my friends and family, I find it helps a lot and typing it is a lot less time consuming and more therapeutic to me than physically writing it down on paper. Maybe this could work for someome else!
I dont really have an opinion on what you post social media wise. All i do know is that when you post at your low points I want to be able to reach out and try to comfort you and give you tips that help me that may (or may not) help you, but I can't respond to you on snapchat, my comment would be washed away in the sea of others supporting you (which is absolutely amazing to see the amount of support you have) and maybe its just me but i feel like my comment is a shot in the dark (much like this one). But just so you know: I care, dodie.
Don't worry about having to go to many different doctors and therapists before finding the right person to help you. I have been to so many different ones. It depends so much on your personality and their way of dealing with their patients. It's about your mental health, so you and that person somehow have to "click"... I wish you the best of luck <3
It's okay Dodie,you are learning,but don't stop posting your depression,anxiety,sadness,etc. on social media completely,it helps many people,especially your young audience(me too),your videos and sharing do help me a lot and do help people,so please don't stop sharing it.You don't need to share too much everything if you don't want to but don't stop,when you share it we know what's "behind camera"I mean on your real feelings,but if you start treating usย like your cute little sister completelyย we won't know how do you actually feel(maybe you don't want us to actually know,but at least don't stop, share sometimes, it helps thousands of people).It helps us a lot,responses to your posts are good,everyone tries to cheer you up,it's okay to share it(for me at least),but it's your choose.Do whatever you want,it's your life,live it,fully :),love you Dodie <3
Dear dodie At first I didn't really understand I didn't get why people over shared but I get it now as someone with a mental disability (learning disability) you often get people who don't understand even drs because it's not happen to them and they can't see it happen to you so you feel the need to tell them no this is a real thing that effects my everyday life but that could totally get out of hand and lead to oversharing ok I am just rambling but pleas keep spreading awareness of mental health issues because some one has to just find a healthy balance virtual hug
To be honest the sharing made me turn of your social media accounts. Not that it matters, I totally think you are free to share whatever you want but the extreme highs and extreme lows were so weird and difficult for me to see. I barely know you, you don't know me and sharing with my closest friends is difficult to me. You sharing so much made me uncomfortable at times and was sometimes even triggering for my own mental issues. That said, I simply 'unfollowed' you and that was that. I barely saw it anymore and it didn't bother me. (still followed your music and youtube though) I feel like that whatever you share is yours to share. Do what feels good to you, don't apologize because you don't need to. If I don't like it, I will unfollow and the people who don't mind are there to follow and help you. Anyway, I think you are amazing, an amazing artist and I really hope you'll find whatever works for you. If that is social media that's fine, if that's a therapist and a journal, also fine!
I'm not going to lie, but we suffer with the same stuff and I'm 13 - what does that say about you. I'm not against you, as you really can be helpful sometimes, but you have to stop posting stuff, such as that video with Hazel, because that video sounded like a conversation that you would have over a bottle of wine and some pizza. Your Instagram posts are ok to post every now and again but not everyday, keep it between you; your journal and Hazel (perhaps some other friends too but you get the point). I adore your content but keep it happy, because (not to sound like an ass) younger people what these videos and it can really upset them, maybe only post this content on a separate account, because this can only help people like me - not the people who signed up for cheery Dodie. This content can be helpful - but not for everyone. Please don't take this as offence, but consider everyone and not just yourself: even though we have depression (ect) it doesn't make it ok to pull everyone else down with you. We love you, but you need to learn to loveyourself! <3 <3 <3
What the hell is wrong with you people chiding her for "oversharing" and saying she's made a mistake? She is a person, a human being, who has problems and when she is feeling down she shares the way she is feeling in an effort to reach out for support or understanding. By telling her that you don't want to hear her problems, you are basically saying that you don't actually care about how she as a person is, only that you care about what content or entertainment she can provide for you. Stop putting her up on a pedestal and treating her like she isn't a person. All you damn fan bases do this and it's infuriating.
And she may have a young and impressionable audience, but if they have problems too, why aren't they turning to friends, family, school counselors? Why are they turning to a random person on YouTube that they don't know and have most likely created a romanticized version of in their head? Also, last I checked this is her channel, her Instagram is her own, her Snapchat is hers, etc. and she can put whatever content on them that she pleases.
Also, before anyone tells me, "I don't understand", I do. I suffer from horrible depression and anxiety and have for a long time. I have been in those dark places that you are not sure you'll ever be able to crawl out of. When I see Dodie's content though, it doesn't make me sad, it instead makes me angry at some of the comments I see. Many of you should be ashamed for not just letting the girl feel and live.
I think there's something to be said about holding oneself responsible for the way which information that is (potentially) deeply triggering is shared and specifically who you are sharing, too. I don't think anyone is saying that potentially triggering material/the realities of living with mental illness shouldn't be shared, but that if it's going to be going to out to reach such a massive audience and also a massive audience of young people, I think you have an obligation to curate what you put out a little more. With a subject matter like mental illness, I think people should know what they're getting into when they... get into it. That's why trigger/content warnings are so important.
Also, different mediums are good for different things. Video can be an excellent way of talking about mental health, but that doesn't mean that all videos about mental health are healthy and liberating for creator and/or audience. With something like snapchat, which is hard to provide trigger warnings for, and that are so instant and off-the-hook, you are much more likely to put something out into the world quickly and without reflecting on it. That can lead to you saying things that you don't really mean, or that are greatly heightened by the intense emotion that you are feeling, which can be alarming, especially when you don't even know who you are reaching with your snaps.
I think raw outpourings of emotion, that are not otherwise scripted/edited/sent around to sensitivity viewers or readers/not properly labelled/published on the internet without in depth consideration of who is going to be seeing are a little irresponsible. That's not to say that I think this is a grievous offense. I think dodie is honestly so lovely and earnest and genuine, but still, not above learning new things. I think that there are objectively healthier alternatives for getting out intense, in-the-moment emotions such as diary entries, filming something and then deleting the footage or keeping a personal video diary, or talking with a friend/therapist, etc. While I don't in any way mean to associate anything dodie has done with this phenomenon, I don't think we can have this conversation while ignoring the fact that suicide/drug abuse/unhealthy coping mechanisms being shown or even saturating the media as they often do when a related event is propelled into the news, can and have had real-life consequences. The fact of that matter is that as much as we'd like to believe that just sharing our real and raw emotions on social media can only be good and bring ppl together, or that self-censorship can only be bad... it's simply more complicated than that.
Trigger warning โ ๏ธ Please don't read if you're harmed by sad shit or self harm...
Dodie, thank you. You and your channel means so much to me.... honestly. I had one day where I just felt empty. I had no feelings. I was emotionally drained. It scared me so much. But, I got through it. However.... quite recently I could not stop the voices or the thoughts. Not at all. I tried so hard. But I just got tired of it all. I got tired of trying and I ended up relapsing and self harming again. I hate myself for it. I know it was stupid. But.... I was fed up of my mental health scaring me so much and getting me down. Now, I have depression and anxiety. The anxiety isn't as bad as the depression. But they both gang up on me at my weakest point. Always early hours in the morning. Yes, my boyfriend and best friends are there to help..... but..... I don't want them to help because of how scared i get, it makes me push people away. I hate it. I need help. However, I tell myself it won't work as I've tried so many therapists and counselling. They don't work. They work whilst I'm doing them but when the sessions end.... I'm back in a loop again. I'm just fed up and I know this sounds like a shit story but, just know that you help me through so much. You really do. So thank you! Keep doing what you're doing. I hope I get to meet you sometime. Love from Lauryn~
Ok I don't know if you'd be allowed, but my Nana has depression and her doctor told her to get a pet. It gives you something to live for and look after and a purpose. She's getting a cat, but if you're not allowed something like that you could get a hamster or something.
This is so sad Dodie. We all love you no matter what and completely understand. This is amazing personal growth and I, and all your audience, are so so proud of you
This is melting my heart. I love you so much Dodie, you're doing great. I don't really understand mental health issues as I'm young and I don't have any, but I do understand that you're struggling. Stay strong. That's all I can say. We'll all stay strong for you Dodie โฅ๏ธ
I'm so proud of you for uploading this after having done this for so long. It feels a bit like a wake up call. I hope your new therapist helps you get into a better mental state and helps you be as happy as you possibly can because that's what you deserve. We love you dodie ๐
They help us too we love you a lot โค๐ don't worry you not alone you have us and ignore the haters they don't mean anything to you love you a lot dodie can not wait to meet you in Australia vidcon ~ these videos and snapchats help me xx you didn't mess up ๐๐
It is ok to mess up sometimes :) as your audience we love you to pieces and personal growth is just a very human inevitability :) <3 thankful to have you in our lives Dodie!
Hey, Dodie! I'm glad you feel like you've understood yourself and your relationship with social media a bit better. Don't be too hard on yourself, though! We're all just human. <3
This video was painful to watch, and my heart broke when your voice did. I wish I could say that you haven't done anything you think you've done wrong; but I can't. Just because I wasn't affected the way some of your audience was, doesn't mean that your actions did not have the impact it did. What I can do is stay and support you, and that is something I will proudly continue to do. You really inspire and encourage and create and I hope that's something you will never stop doing. We love you, dodie. โฅ๏ธ
<3 thank you for being so open. despite what may have been too much or oversharing, knowing we're a little less alone in the world is super hopeful. so thankful for everything you do and everything you stand for.
I'm so with you now! I'm so glad you've made these couple of videos and so glad you're coming to this conclusion without misunderstanding what people are saying! <3 Romanticisation was the thing I worried was happening, not because of you, but because young people can get things skewed, especially in a climate that already glorifies it. I'm just so glad you know because it means I can come back to your vids again!
Dear Dodie, I'm proud of you <3 Realizing something is the first step. But doing something with it comes next and it might be the hardest. I think it's smart of you to take a step back or atleast filter more what you're posting. I hope you are stay happy with your own content. And don't be too sorry, everyone makes mistakes and that's okay as long as we learn from them. Lots of love
Honestly I was really happy to watch your videos and how you explain how you felt and how it made me feel like I wasn't alone. Thanks to your videos I realized that I'm not insane and that I have depersonalization disorder as well. I'm glad that you're establishing your boundaries now but don't beat yourself up too much over everything.
Dodie, you are so brace to post this video. I'm so proud of you. I have been watching for years and I love you so much. I hope that you feel better. It's ok, we understand. Everyone makes mistakes.
This is such an amazing thing too see. You're growing as a person. You are starting to see what you can share and what should remain private. But please never apologise for your mental health.... please don't. I love you โค๏ธ๐ค
Dodie, I just want to say that you've handled this beautifully. It's really hard coming to such a tough realisation about what you've been doing- I know when I realise I've done something I regret I get super defensive and upset, but you've taken it really maturely and I'm really glad you're getting a new therapist and that although there may be less of your struggles online, that doesn't mean you don't have a way to deal with them. You're doing amazing. Thank you :)
I'm so proud to be your follower cause you are growing up so much and I love that you stand up for mental health, and you recognize the mistakes and wanted to talk with us about it!
Aww Dodie I am so proud of you for even trying to make an apology. And it just shows that sometimes we do make mistakes and that's ok. And it is nice to know that you had the strength and courage to apologise to some people even in the state that you are in. And even though I do not experience what you have, I find it interesting and I like to listen to you about your issues and it makes me love you more as no one is perfect x
Promoting self care rather than promoting depression. You're awesome ๐ please don't feel bad about what you've shared in the past. You're on a journey, and this is a very positive step โค๏ธโค๏ธ
I'm so glad you said this, thank you. It started to feel like we were your therapists rather than your fans. Want to be there for u always but it just isn't healthy and it means a lot that u realized it xoxo
I love you so so much this is perfect ๐ Your posts have helped me SO MUCH but you're totally right. You can write the posts but save publishing them until you can incorporate them into something healthier and more helpful - to you and others. I can definitely relate to this; it's so hard to know what to do with mental illness and social media and not knowing how or when to share, especially when in an irrational and scared state. I respect you so so much for making this video AS WELL AS the posts. I'm so sorry they triggered some people and for those who couldn't read them (I had to find a positive post of yours afterwards to remind myself we'll be ok!) but it wasn't a full mistake. You were and are brave and helped and will continue to help so many. This is a huge step and helpful for everyone to see. It's so important to understand what and why you're doing something and admitting when you've not been good to yourself and others. It's not black and white and you're so brave for posting in the first place and with good intentions (and outcomes a lot of the time) and for analysing and listening to difficult criticism and then apologising. Thank you for all you do and I hope your new therapist helps and you find writing your book helpful too. So much love ๐
Proud of you dodie,โค๏ธ I'll admit I've been one of the people who has had to step back from reading and watching your posts because I found it a bit hard and I was worrying that it wasn't healthy for you but I'm glad you've recognised it now and I hope the therapist works!! Xxx
this is relatable. when my depression first settled in, I definitely discussed it openly on social media, because I felt like if I myself didn't tackle the task of telling people what was wrong with me, they'd get to questioning, and I'd be triggered somehow and get even worse. Like I used it to explain myself. Looking back on it, I see it was ridiculous of me to feel like I owed people an explanation.
Although I was never personally triggered by your videos. Wow. Thank you so much for saying sorry and recognizing the impact you can make. Not everyone is humble and strong enough to do that. I love you. We love you. And look forward to your future videos and endeavors <3
Well done Dodie, I like listening to your life but I do feel like this is the right decision. Please keep us updated on social media. I look forward to reading your book and hope to see you perform in the near future. I send my love <3
I understand it has been difficult for you recently when finding the boundary between what should stay personal and what should be shared online, and yes, you may have shared things that were a little too graphic, but please don't beat yourself up about it. It's done now, and the best thing you could have done was notice the problem, make a change and move on, which is exactly what you're doing. It's incredibly kind of you to acknowledge the discomfort of some of your audience and to try to make a change. Thank you dodie, you're amazing :)
Thank you for being your usual lovely amazing self well dealing with such a difficult issue. please don't let yourself get too upset or guilty about this, or about any mistake; we're humans, we make mistakes, but as a youtuber your mistakes are publicised for all to see. Naturally, people will pick up on any mistakes, and people can be horrible, but i hope some of the hard to read comments will make you stronger. xxxx
dodie, i think this whole experience is so, so telling of your growth, maturity and willingness to change and be better. thank you for so readily admitting that you've messed up, despite the embarrassment, instead of just defending your actions. i (and countless others!) love and appreciate you and your transparency. best of luck with this next therapist!!!! i'm rooting for you!!!! ๐๐๐
hello dodie, you lovely little flower! thank you for all that you do, you're wonderful and talented, i love you. good luck on your journey to becoming a better version of yourself- i know you can do it!
Thank you, Dodie. Thank you for opening this discussion and taking the comments from your previous video on board. Thank you for realising your mistakes and dealing with them in a mature and subjective manner. I have loved you for a long time and it's good to know I won't have to avoid your social media anymore. I'm really happy for you and I hope your new therapist is helpful. Good luck, Dodie. xx
I'm still proud of you Dodie, it is still so difficult dealing with mental health. It's very easy to get into a cycle, particularly when you find something which gives you a moment of relief even for a moment. You should not feel bad for that, just learn, which you have. It's a journey always, and we will be here to support you. I'm off to drink my Peppermint tea, and watch younger because self care is everything!
Dodie, I am so glad that you are doing this. Sometimes I benefitted from you talking about your mental health but other times it made me think about my own brain after I was ignoring my dpd. I hope that the therapist works out for you and I'm coming to see you perform in october! Stay strong dodie<3
I'm so incredibly proud of you for this, there are very few people who would have the strength to so deeply look at their flaws and mistakes and then let other people discuss them. We all make stupid decisions online as non of us truly know how to handle it, but the way your handling this makes me see how strong you are. You should see it too :) xx
Seeing you cry is so heartbreaking, ahh! You know, some people have issues with undersharing. Others with oversharing. And it's all okay! Everyone makes mistakes, and this is not even an ENORMOUS mistake. It's just a mishap and you didn't know, and you can change it. You handled this in the most mature way imaginable. We love you so much Dodie โค๏ธ
Really glad to hear you'll be holding off on things a little more now! I've been staying away from your insta posts a lot lately not because they're triggering, but just because reading them felt too personal and invasive, even though you're the one that shared them. They did read too much like a private diary. I really hope this new therapist is brilliant and I'm really looking forward to seeing what you'll be putting out there from now on <3
Thank you Dodie for being so honest. I love that you talk about your mistakes and it makes you even more wonderful because you are famous but still a human. Yeah sounds a bit weird but many famous people seem to have a perfect life and post it on social media and in my opinion that's why especially young people get mental issues. So although you made a mistake you are wonderful and helpful because you don't pretend to have a perfect life. <3
Hey, I think this was a really great video and you handled a potentially volatile situation with extreme grace.
Personally, because I've been in a similar place as you, I never found your content too confronting or too dark, it was comforting to know somebody else was going through it. I could certainly see that it wasn't for everyone though, so I think this is a healthy step.
Just wanted to let you know that you were doing SOME of that good you intended. You're wonderful <3
I think this is such a good way of dealing with this, making it into art. I personally have seen little problems with what you've been sharing, but that may be because I have dealt with derealisation in the past and so I have been exposed to it first-hand, meaning that I find your snapchats and instagrams less alarming (if that's even the right word?) Also, just on a side note, I do not experience DR nearly as much as I used to- it is vitrually gone! This just proves that it IS possible to recover your brain from this, just keep going and doing what you're doing Dodie โก
hey dodie, this was really mature and im proud of you for making this. im happy that you realised what was wrong with what you were doing. i feel like my comment was one that was probably hard to hear, and i want to let you know that watching this video actually made me want to be part of your community again. im glad that you don't want mental health to be part of how you're seen - like I said in my comment, I felt like it had unintentionally become part of your branding. im glad you're taking steps to fix that and I do genuinely believe this will help you as much as it helps your audience. -hannah xx
Dear Dodie, I see the responses to this video and the last and I know how hard it must be to hear. It even makes me squirm and just makes me so sad because I don't know how I would cope with responses like that. I really understand how posts and writing help and make you feel less alone, especially when you're feeling so alone. I know how much it hurts to receive any kind of criticism when you're so unstable/breakable. It makes you feel so trapped and so scared of doing anything wrong, which makes everything worse. And it sucks to be told to go to a therapist or to friends, or to write a journal when you're feeling so awful and everyone is treating it so clinically, like that will make it all better. I know you won't see this but i hope you are okay and I really really understand, and the responses from people feel like blows to the stomach even to me. Love you and your videos and don't worry and don't go crazy overthinking this. It's okay. ๐
dodie, we're all proud of you and how mature you are. you're human, you make mistakes and you learn from it all. you're so close with your audience and we all have a mutual love and understanding. we appreciate you dodie <3 and we're always here with you
Aw Dodie. I'm sorry you're sad about this. I have loved all of your posts, and have never felt like you share too much. As someone struggling with these disorders as well, it feels nice to see you speaking about it, like we're in the fight together. Every Snapchat and instagram has made me feel understood and related to. I hope you are finding the balance that is right for you, but I hope you know that there are many viewers out there who have connected to and truly truly appreciated hearing your thoughts, even the darkest ones. I value your influence on the internet and on the world. Thank you.
I actually love your videos, I enjoy watching your videos about mental health because it reminds me that I'm not alone, I really hope you get better and find happiness in yourself ๐
honestly though it's very mature and responsible that you've recognised and issue and have seeked out ways to resolve it, i've recently started watching your videos and therefore i haven't seen much about your mental health, however watching both of your videos i feel like it's made me respect you even more
Dodie, I think you are wonderful. So strong and so brave and I really really hope that when you do get low, you don't start thinking of this and making yourself feel bad for making a mistake. You are still young and you are allowed to make mistakes, especially when those mistakes were attempts to help yourself and others. Please remember that learning something is not a bad thing and that you are not a bad person for trying to help yourself and others. I know everyone is different but in my experience with anxiety and depression, I know if I were you, I would probably return to this and over think it, making myself feel worse and I just wanted to give you some important things to remember if you were to do that. I hope your next therapist works for you! I know how you feel, I'm also waiting on my 5th therapist but we can't lose hope that this one will work. Thank you for sharing your experiences, I have never once thought you glamourised mental health issues. It is really difficult to know what to say and what not to say to both avoid oversharing and glamourising so pleaseeeee do not feel bad for trying to do good. Good luck for the future, I'm sure this hard time will pass soonโค
I am very much like you when it comes to dealing with mental problems online, and I want to thank you for making this and that other video about it. I think it is very important that we are clear in the mind when sharing something hard, and not be unstable. And good for you on the therapy! I went to therapy for a couple of years and I freaking LOVED IT! It really can be wonderful and I wish you all the best with it <3 :-)
Proud of you dodie and just know that I we know you ment no harm and your intentions were good even when you crossed the line. It's so good to see you being so welcome to opinions that were difficult for you to read. Someone else could have been defensive about it but you are willing to try to help yourself and others in a healthier way and that's wonderful. It's honestly so inspiring to see how you keep trying to get better (I have given up many times). Good luck with everything much love !xx๐
dodie, I love you and I want to thank you so much for doing veda despite your poor mental health. I appreciate that so much. Just get through, you will be fixed.
Just to be clear you've never glorified it in terms of making it sound like anything other than something you want to get over, but it is good to recognize young impressionable audiences who may not understand fully. I hope you don't feel too badly or let it weigh on you, you were a huge help in me starting to heal from my mental health issues and learning to open up about them (which was a hue part of it), so thank you :)
I feel like something you could do is, record a video talking about how you're feeling but keep it to yourself so you can still have that outlet but without sharing it online. Personally when reading/watching your posts it has made me feel less alone in everything to do with my mental health but I understand why some people would find it over bearing. I have a private Tumblr in which I pour my heart out but only I can see it so it is like an online diary I guess...
Stay strong Dods, you have a loving and caring audience as well as so many friends and family that love and support you! It will get better but there will be ups and downs but that is part of recovery..i only wish there was more I could do but my words on here are all I have. Much love x
Personally I find your videos helpful for my mental illness as it makes me feel less alone and less mad however people handle mental illness in different ways and if your videos are triggering for some people I want your videos to be comfortable for you and all areas of your audience
dodie, you are such a lovely person. i love that you care for your audience so so much and i love that you always try to do the right thing. we make mistakes and that is just what happens in life. so please PLEASE don't feel bad for too long. x
Dear Dodie, I honestly love you so so much more than i could ever put in to word i don't think you'd even know if i tried to explain. Seeing you like this breaks my heart but i had to take a step back not necessarily for myself but because holy shit it broke me to see you in this way even made me feel incredibly down. I don't want you to feel embarrassed. I love you endlessly. โค๏ธ
Ps. If its any consolation it helped in a sense that despite your YouTube fame you were also human and you still feel things like us. Idk if that make sense. Feel better, love๐น
this was a great follow up video. I think until I watched that video you made with Hazel it never really occurred to me why exactly I stopped watching your snapchat and reading your instagram captions. It was never clear that I was a tiny bit almost about to be triggered and I'm glad that I just subconciously stepped back from that. I'm still a huge supporter of you and I still love your videos though!! I think is great that you realised that oversharing can be a triggering to some and that youre taking the step to move on from sharing that extremely personal and taking that step to be more open to those that know your personally (your friends and such). Now..to end the longest comment I've ever written on any youtube video ever, I hope you (and Hazel too) get mentally stable soon and I can't wait for more healthier content from you!! Sending you all my love!!
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Sophie Belfield2017-07-28 07:16:37 (edited 2017-07-28 07:16:56 )
I'm really proud of you Dodie. It takes a lot to own up and admit you did something wrong. I know lots of people would have reacted with anger and defensiveness. That fact that you were upset and obviously cared about what the impact it was having really shows how much you're willing to grow. As someone your age, I'm super impressed and inspired by this.
I literally stopped watching your videos a few months ago because I did feel like your mental health was becoming your "brand" but I was so happy when I saw your video with Hazel and now this one. You've grown so much Dodie and I'm really happy that you have recognised what was happening and are making a change for you. Love u dodes ๐
You didn't mess up Dodie. We all cope as best we can. You've done incredibly well. You're not glorifying anything, in my opinion. Your strength is an inspiration.
Hi Dodie I'm your sister's age and I like these videos because it's something that I really relate to. It's the main reason why I love your videos. I know it isn't healthy for you to share this much but these do help some people. Also I will be at summer in the city and will be there on Sunday
I think this decision is very healthy for you. Boundaries are important!! I actually had to stop watching your sc's for a while because I just couldn't handle them... But I'm so glad you'll help and nurture yourself in a healthy way now. Ilysm Dodie, keep swimming ๐
Admitting that you were indeed doing something wrong and learning from it is so mature and strong of you to do, especially since being open with your audience and sharing this stuff has been a big part of your "brand". Now it's time to not slip back into old behaviors and move forward, and I know that you are more than capable of doing so. God bless Dodes, I really hope you are able to one day find peace through the madness, Love you loads!
Do what ever you want to do Dodie. You help me, and you might help otherS. It's up to you to decide if you don't want to do it. I have to share a lot too to process. If people need to stop reading and seeing your content, that's their problem. You aren't in charge of what they do. Do you!
Thank you for apologizing to your audience. A lot of other people have shared the same thoughts as me already so I'll just say that - as embarrassed as you might feel about this whole thing, coming out with a video like this also models the kind of self-awareness that even many adults lack, especially when it comes to how we conduct ourselves online! So thank you also for sharing this part of your journey <3
dodie, I have sent you an insta message (slytherita64 ๐๐) about the vid with Hazel, and I am so so so proud of you for this. For an up and coming youtuber (ech), more and more people have their eyes on you everyday, to make a video like this, it's honestly applaud worthy. For once! A YouTuber owning up to their mistakes and acknowledging that they had fucked up and might not be the perfect human being! wOw!
I'm so glad that I have stuck with you and grown with you. You really have helped people like me who have struggled with brain shit in the past. Thank you for being so brave dodie. I love you so much.
Dodie I think treating us like your wee sister is a good idea. It's good to know when you're not doing okay and it does make us feel like we're not alone, but you are right, you don't want it to become part of your brand and you don't want to trigger people who have already come so far with dealing with their mental illness or people who are still having a hard time with it. I'm so glad that you're getting help and that sharing online makes your weight a bit lighter, and I'm also glad you're finding that balance between informing and over sharing. I'm off to do some self care and have a cup of tea. Love you dodieโค๏ธ
I think it really helped me too. Like I was looking at someone who I aspire to be like, who's wonderful and kind and loved by so many who's still having these same damaging thoughts as me. It made me feel less alone and less like a monster. I'll be really upset if you do start treating us like your "little sister" dodie, but I'll understand why if you need to do that
You are so 'mentaly smart', its amazing. Thank you for this vidio. I have been watching you since you were seventeen (im seventeen, and im nearly eight ;)) You are growing to be a beautiful, talented, smart, kind, and sensetive young woman. I am 19 years old, dealing with borderline personality didorder, anxiety disorder, pannic attacs, depresdion and anorexia. My mom died from cancer this year, your song 'I knew you once' fits her perfectly. When i went to visit her at her grave i put on that song on my phone for her to listen, with my therapist beside me. You are a true insparation to me. Sending love from israel xxxx
Doddie... THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS. I was honestly debating over the unsubscribe/subscribe button at the start of this video, I truly was not sure of what to expect. I love you, but lately the snaps and the vlogs became too much. It pained me to see all your talent to be shadowed by your depression, as if your mental illness was all you were. It hurt. I'm sixteen, and altho I do not suffer from mental illness I've had friends who have... And I've had friendships crushed because they've slipped out of my hands, helplessly. And this reminded me of her, and it hurt. Thank you so much for being mature and confronting your doubts face to face. I love you, and I accept your apology. While it did hurt to see you go on angsty rants, I know we are not perfect. Again, thank you so much. (Oh, and the part that you said you'll treat us like ur lil sis, that just melted my heart!) Xx
Hey Dodie๐, here's a tip: when I'm depressed or I have anxiety or whatever, it really works for me to talk and share as you say, but since I don't want to influence my friends or concern my family, I usually talk to the wall ๐ and I respond to myself as if I were someone else, you can even record it if you feel more comfortable but then you don't have to edit it or upload it, although you can keep it for yourself and watch it months later when you already are okay and then trust me you will feel proud, cause it will be like" I wasn't okay but right now I really am" it will be proof of your strength and development . I'm sorry I can't help with more than that but I really wish you get better. Xoxo๐
I really admire your honesty and strength. Im assuming to speak for many people when I say that were not mad at you at all. I it helps, do it. When not, dont. Love you Dodie, hope you will be okay :3
It's okay, we understand why, I overshare whenever I am suffering too! It's really hard because you just want somebody to hear you! And when you feel bad you feel like people need to know how you feel!! (I always delete posts like that the next morning whoops) Your posts are so relatable and I wanna scoop you up and give you a cuddle! I know how you feel and why you post things when you feel the way you do! Unlike you though when I post things, I can delete them and for the most part people don't really see them so I don't have to be as careful - look after yourself too x x
It's up to you how much you share. I know social media can be really unhealthy, but if it helps you, then do it. Maybe do it in a more censored way - less harrowing detail and more general "I'm not okay". It's helped me so much to hear I'm not alone. The honesty might be over the top, but it's really helped in some ways. No one gives you that clarity and honesty, and I know when I'm in the depths of it, I feel like I'm mad. Thank you for making me/us not feel so mad - but good luck with therapy and with the tremendous support from your friends, and I look forward to your videos as per. Here's to a hopefully healthier and happier you :) x
My younger sister recently started watching your videos, and I got so scared lol that she was going to fall into patterns or thoughts that you have, I recommended that she stopped watching because I thought it was unsuitable. She didn't listen, so I'm glad you made this dodie. It makes my sisters YouTube a bit safer for her age.
I really want to give you a big long hug rn Dodie!!
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Kate Bradley2017-07-28 07:53:18 (edited 2017-07-28 07:53:32 )
"Preach from your scars not your wounds." - Nadia Bolz Webber ~ Wounds can often be so flooded with so emotion that it becomes unhealthy to share such graphically personal thoughts. We have to give ourselves time to heal so that we can learn and look back and then talk about the injury in a healthier manner. Watching this video just made me think about this.
Don't worry Dodie. I respect that you've noticed the problem and not let it get any worst. Thank you for acknowledging your flaws because we all have them.Xx
honestly for me you talking about all that is going on in your head i can relate to and its good for me because i feel like there is someone out there who feels the same as i do and who understands what goes in my brain and in a way it inspires me try and get better because i dont really care a lot about myself but i care about you so much dodie and i want you to be happy and healthy and so it kinda inspires me to be happy and healthy the same way i want you to be
I actually really apreciate your posts about mental helth,they are really eye opening and honest.really prefered your uncut version,youtubers edit themselvrs so much they dojt seen real.
Dodie fucking Clark god damn it i am so in love with you. the amount of shit you and your songs have dragged me through recently is amazing you are amazing so fucking amazing. i just ugh i wish more people were like you i wish i had my own pocket sized Dodie for when times get shit. keep being awesome were all gonna get there in the end.
As a person who doesn't have social media, but I believe I am old enough to get it, I have not seen all the post and snapchats- but i believe what you have posted on YouTube has been a right amount of letting us know how you have been and what you are feeling like- but obviously I have not seen these post so I do not know what that is like. I just hope everything goes okay Dodie that you manage to tell someone how it is in a controlled environment and where it is safe. Good luck we love you
I hadn't even thought you oversharing that much, I actually found it kind of helpful (for myself) because I'm going through something similar, and I don't have the courage to post anything about it online, or the much needed understanding friends and/or family to help. But if this is what you think will be best for you (and for the majority of your audience, which is also important), then by all means, do it! That's our goal as well: to make you feel good! About yourself, about anything anyone could feel good about. Enjoy life!
Don't be embarassed that you've messed up, Dodie! Unfortunately, our mistakes and other people's mistakes, finally lead us to understand what's right and what's not. We wouldn't have learnt otherwise. So, know that it wasn't just a mistake to embarassed for. It was a lesson. I hope you are well! Kisses <3
It's okay to mess up Dodie, it's okay to make mistakes. It's human and we're all humans. Don't be too harsh on yourself for making mistakes, you have realised that maybe it wasn't the best thing to do, you have apologised and you're trying to not do it again, that's all you can do really, and it really means a lot. We love you too, a lot, take care โค๏ธ
Dodie we all love and support u and u have made me more aware of mentel health and i thank u for that and no matter what u do on snapchat or instagram we will still be crazy dodie fans u r so inspiring and brave and hedy must have the best sister in ther world to have someone so amazing and strong
I had stopped following you a bit for a while because it was too overwhelming for me. I felt bad because I couldn't relate, I felt like everybody was supporting you and I couldn't. I couldn't because that's not who I am. I feel obviously bad for you, but it made me feel worse to read all these posts. So I'm sorry I got away a bit and wasn't maybe the best supporter. But I'm glad you took that decision. I didn't dare to suggest it before because who am I to judge ? But I really think it's the best decision you could take. I love you dodie !
Dodie you are an amazing person celebrate yourself for learning this lesson really and truly celebrate yourself lime eat a load of cake learning this lesson I think is part of your road to recovery (but I might get know fucking nothing) do the cheesy stuff for yourself girlfriend remember we are all still here for you.
In contrast to what many people said, I actually want to say that your posts helped me so much. I myself suffer from generalized anxiety disorder and disassociation. Being on social media I always see perfect lives with no problems in them. But by reading your posts and by seeing how you do have this perfect life, but also have problems with mental health, made me feel less alone. I don't have anyone in my surroundings who has something similar to me. So reading your descriptions of how you felt made me feel like: my problems are real, they are relevant, and I'm not just making it up in my head. Instead of being a person that was avoiding your posts I was actually searching for a post of you on instagram everyday, because it was one of the few things that made me feel at peace and calmer. I know you are going to stop with oversharing now and I'm happy that it will make you feel better. But please don't be embarrassed about the things you shared, because they helped me immensely. I love you
Dodie you're god damn fucking lovely and i don't have a real explanation as to why but this video made me feel happier than it should've. I agree that your oversharing was a bit much and not the healthiest for you or some members of your audience, but from my point of view (and now thanks to this video too) it all in a way increased the respect i have for you. I'm glad you've taken a step back and now you're taking 3 steps forward, and i'm happy you're learning. Again you're a wonderful human being and i appreciate everything you do and create and share
I am not on instagram or snapchat, so I never felt you were oversharing at all. I guess it's all in there, but in youtube you haven't. We love you and support you.
This is what you need to do. Go on and record your feelings. But wait at least 24 hours before you post the video. Also watch it all the way through before you decide to finally post it. I once knew an old black gentleman. And he would always say about what bad things that were or had happened. Things will be different in 24 hours. And you know... he was always right. In 24 hours my thoughts or feelings had changed. The event or my feelings were not as bad as I originally thought.
I totally get the criticism you've had but also want to say that I get your inclination to share lol I have constant dpdr too and vent on tumblr probably a bit too much - I feel dp is v isolating because no ones very familiar with it so airing this to people irl can sometimes feel more alienating. Personally I've liked watching your vids because it was something to relate to but i do see where others are coming from due to the size/age of your audience :) wish ya well
Really related to the part where you go to your phone as a coping mechanism. And It's easy not to realise it. I think if I didn't have distractions like these I would have to look at all my sadness in the face and the idea is much better buried
i feel like you need this app called 'project toe'. it is where you can rant about your mental health in every detail and real people can message you or comment helpful and constructive comments on your post. there are alot of people on there who could seem triggering to some people as there are thousands of posts about what people are feeling however i feel like this is what dodie needs. it helped me and still does a year on. remember, we're here for you <3
Uff, I really think you can give yourself a break!!! You are a human being and of course sometimes you make mistakes. I appreciate the fact that you are not pretending to be flawless or to have that perfect life. Try to share it in a healthy way, which does not harm you. I dunno if that helps, but I always imagine my far in the future kids to look at my Instagram posts . I want them to understand parts of me, but I do not want them to be scared or concerned or confused.
gorgeous girl, don't feel guilty for oversharing. yes you may have said too much, and yes it is probably for the best to tone it down from now on, but try not to blame yourself for anything. you couldn't have known the effect it was going to have on some people. you learnt from this experience, you are still growing as a person and discovering what it truly means to be YOU, so just make sure you don't beat yourself up for oversharing a little. we care about you a lot, even if we are a whole bunch of strangers. keep communicating the thoughts from that head of yours, but through less direct ways: your gorgeous music is a perfect example of this, as lyrics and poetry have to be analysed to understand what they mean. that way, only people who either know what you are going through/ people who are determined to find out what your lyrics mean, will be able to understand. music is a beautiful language to communicate our painful thoughts, without people feeling overwhelmed, and you (an extremely talented musician i must say!!) know that best of all. keep fighting dodie, things get better. even when it feels like nothing ever will again, i promise you they do, and your audience will always have your back and be here to support you. i love you and thank you for being a huge inspiration to me <3
I can tell that you like to talk about your problems on camera, so why not try and record yourself on camera but don't post it! Although it does help a lot of people when you talk about it (like me), there are alot of people who dont like seeing you that way! Also, look for positive things that you are doing in the future, like sitc or veda! Remember that its healthy to talk about your problems and not bottle them up!
I love you dodie! You're a real inspiration๐๐
Okay, this Video is wonderful in a way that you deal with the comments under the last one. But some of the videos under the last one were just totally unfair and not true at all and it makes me hurt, that you seem to feel sad and guilty about sharing how you felt. Like, I get it when people get triggered. For everyone the trigger can be something completely ridiculous to someone else, so I am in no position to say they shouldn't get triggered by something. This does not work like that. But I am sitting here, crying my eyes out because I am having right now a bad phase while I am with friends (well atm I am alone bc my friends is off to work, but you get it), I am crying because you seem feel so bad about your mental health issues. This might be completely wrong, but I am getting this vibes from the video. And while it is completely right and important to take a step back, look at the mistakes and correct them, to say sorry for everyone that might be hurt by them, it is also for me hard to accept that those were such horrible mistakes to be sorry off. Because I your posts always helped me Dodie and alone you posting a lot yesterday without ANYTHING about your mental health made my crazy, because I am in a down phase and idk your posts strangely comforted me. Showed me I am not alone. When you aren't depressed then you din't have to share something about it, share your happy moments. But idk, maybe I relied on your posts also a bit to much, in form of comfort etc. But the comments under your last video were wrong, you never glorified mental health issues and idk why they think that. Only because you shared a good looking picture with something sad? Why is that problem? It is more of a problem to constantly pretend that you have perfect life, so that people then feel horrible compared to someone else. But showing flaws or how you feel makes you just more human and everyone else more relate to you and not comparing. Idk this makes me really sad right now. Like the comments under the other video made me so angry and this makes me just fucking cry my eyes out.
Personally I haven't had any issue with your sharing because what you talk about has substance and an insight HOWEVER there is a large culture of youtubers now who do see their channels as personal dairies and use them to share all the negativity they have in their life. It gets justified a lot as being "real" but there are so many people I've had to stop watching because it's not helpful content, it's damaging having to hear about so many people's problems (or just boring moans) all the time, when to so many YouTube is an escape from all that. I'm not looking for someone to be happy all the time but for a few it comes across as a self obsession to the point where I feel real like friends would be bored of it and want to talk about something else.
Dodie, you did nothing wrong knowingly. Mental health blurs the lines of perception and it really isn't your fault. I have so many mental health problems and for me, you were someone to relate to, not someone to shy away from! I adore you. I have tickets for your tour, I met you last year, I watch every video religiously, and for me in particular, despite my own problems, you were someone to relate to. Not everyone who has these problems takes a step back, I know me and my friends haven't. You haven't done anything wrong on purpose! You have to remember that, you have to give yourself some leeway. I think yes, don't use social media as an outlet because some people could be triggered from it etc., but you already have other ways to deal with it from the sounds of it, and if you think about it, by gaining that therapist and that advice from Dan, you are already dealing with it. You can do this. I believe in you. I love you. Be safe. Xxxxxxxxxx
dodie, you don't need to apologise, because if people really like you, then they would understand and just let you do whatever you need to do to feel better. we all care about you here and will support you no matter what, and if some people don't, then they don't truly like you. you don't need to be so sorry about this because it's not your fault, just your minds way of coping. i'm not saying that it's right that people are feeling like it makes them upset reading it, but maybe they can just not read the captions (just an idea) โค๏ธ
I don't really understand how it's bad, you're just sharing your own feelings? It's not like you're encouraging others to feel that way, but I guess I don't know how it effects other people who might think differently
We are all flawed humans who all make mistakes, try not to be too upset about it, there's no point in worrying about the past because there's absouloutly nothing you you can do to change it. As long as you learn from it that's what matters. We all hate seeing you upset so please, if you're feeling shit talk to someone they won't think you're being a burden I know that's hard to believe but trust me๐
Dodie, Dodie, Dodie... You don't have to feel so shattered by this. Everyone struggles with something. It's just especially hard when you have 640,000+ people watching your every social media move. I'm sure most of us understand that things are hard. And I'm sure most of us just want you to do what you need to feel better. But yes, you do need to be careful. Learn from this and move forward. You're lovely, as always. Don't stress too much. Let's just paint the world yellow and move on. :)
dear dodie, (please try and get dodie to see this)
i do think you did overshare. but that's fine (especially now that you've pointed out). to be honest i never could read your captions but even though i know it wasn't healthy to share as much as you were but it's better than storing it inside and keeping it in you until end up worse than you were. there's no need for you to feel bad. i guess sometimes it's easy to forget that you have a large audience who can be easily effective. now please just don't do the complete opposite thing and close up. if you do begin to feel guilty for passing on your "emotional baggage", (talking from experience) talk more. at this part of the comment i was going to type up my personal experiences and how i can relate but, i've become so uptight about the way my brain works, i can't even type it out on a youtube comment that isn't even in the slightest way related to my personal life. don't become like me and become so closed off where you can't even write about it. the main thing to remember is it's okay but, just in the right place at the right time. (and yes dodie i forgive you and you HAVE NO REASON to feel guilty. it wasn't you typing those captions)
Dodie you shouldn't be sorry. All you have done is show people what mental illness actually looks like! It's got a stigma that needs to be thrown out the window. Xx
It's a different sort of oversharing. What's begun to happen is you discussing the difficulties and all the struggles- but over time you've given less and less morals with it. Which is just because u got ahead of yourself and we all do that sometimes. There was just less and less proof of your progress which can hurt yourself- to focus on how little good u have. And for ur audience. Anyway- you're doing great ok?
Babe. You have so many people who care so deeply about you. All of us, we care so, so deeply. But we can't help you, however much we want to, we can't be there, with you, to tell you it's going to be ok. You have people who love you so much, and can help you heal. Find that person who you can spill out everything inside you onto. Let them put there arms around you, let them tell you everything's going to be ok. Let yourself believe it. Let yourself break. Let yourself break into hundreds of thousands of pieces, pick them up, and make them beautiful again.
There's a beautiful Japanese ancient art called kintsukoroi, where broken pottery is taken and repaired with gold. it's believed that the more breaks a piece has, the more resilient and beautiful it is. We all have broken inside of us, and that what makes us beautiful. That pot can't fix itself. Find the gold in your life, and find those artists to help you fix it. We love you โค๏ธ
oh wow I'm crying now. i also have don't things like this. on my Twitter i sometimes have some of my frustrations with my identity and my stressful life and health leak through and i don't want people to see that side of me because i overshare to much... I'm doin it now got DANM
I SWEAR TO THE LORD I WILL PERSONALLY FIGHT EVERYONE WHO SAID SHE WAS OVERSHARING my baby was so close to crying so many times in this video and I can't handle that. I know some people don't like to see mental stuff but that's who dodie is and it's so fucking dangerous to tell someone to stop sharing. I don't talk to anyone bc my friends told me I was annoying when I would tell them when I was feeling anxious and I was too embarrassed to tell other people. For the sake of everything good and holy let dodie talk about what she wants.
Today has been the worst day I can remember. I woke up early(ish), tired and cranky, bc i had to bring my friend back home bc she'd stayed over last night after we went to a party. I'm tired and cranky, my mum drags me to the shops to get a Christmas tree and other shit after we've dropped my friend off, I get home and have a nap bc I'm too tired. I wake up from the nap still knackered, quite frankly feeling worse than before, feeling awfully depressed and like complete shit. I continue on with my day feeling terrible, crying every 10 mins. I decide I need to talk to my mum and ask for a couple of days off school because I'm not mentally well at the moment and i need a break. I burst into tears in front of her and try to tell her I'm feeling worse and worse everyday, but all she says is "it's part of life and being a teen, we're gonna try that therapist I met" and continues on with her day. So I feel worse than before, i decide to do my hw (in tears) until my eyes are red and puffy and hurt the shit out of me. I finally decide fuck it I need a bath; I make my way to the bath and start running it. I leave it for about 5 mins until it's half full and I check the temperature of the water only to find out it's ABSOLUTELY FREEZING so I think Fuck there's not hot water so I burst into tears again bc I can't deal with anything. I then decide to make myself a cup of tea and try some new tea. Turns this wasn't my cup of tea (pun unintended), it was gross. So now I'm here, sat on my bed writing this while crying, again, my head hurting like hell, my eyes bulging out of my head. Dodie has been my therapy all day, I've paused everything today just to watch her videos and lift my spirits up a bit.
I'm so happy for you Dodie! I know it's hard and I understand the embarrassment hindsight can give you (I've also been too open on social media) but I'm really really happy that you're feeling better enough to take this step and I'm so looking forward to veda โค love you!!
Dodie we love you! I love that you're able to talk about what's going on in you're head, but yes, it's not always the best to put your low thoughts out there. Either way, I love you, we all love you, keep being you ๐
Oh Dodie I just want to reach through the screen and give you a hug. I'm so proud of you for all the learning you're doing. It's so positive to see people acknowledging their mistakes and talking about them. Best of luck to you on your journey!
Really appreciate your thoughts on this. It's been a balance I've been thinking about a lot lately. Still learning what may be healthy for me. It's encouraging to hear your process so far and how different or similar our process looks like. Thanks for sharing D โบ๏ธ
i appreciate you. and this. and this discussion. i never comment on videos, but i really truly appreciate you addressing this. as someone with depression, it did become hard for me to hear you talk so graphically about these episodes due to the fact that i have similar awful atrocious episodes and the rest of the time, i can deal. but when they are bad, they are terrible, and it became difficult for me to watch you, someone ive loved for three years now, go through these episodes and make it a normal thing. while removing stigma is such a goal, im so so proud of you for being mature enough to realize your platform and see the difference between the amazing videos youve made about mental health and the graphic snapchats detailing the hardest of nights. thank you thank you thank you and i wish you so much love and joy and hopefully some peace after all this. you truly are a role model, even to an 18 year old.
Dodie I love you for this, I love that you're caring for your viewers even in your darkest place. It's a learning curve I know, but everything in life is. Some people may be saying that they were fine with you sharing so much but not realise how much of an impact it was having subconsciously (myself included). Thank you so much for looking out for us and I look forward to watching you grow further (Also...VEDA YAAAAAAAY)
I have so much love for you, Dodie. You've become such a role model for me in so many ways, and this just strengthens that more than ever. It take a great deal of courage to put your whole vulnerable mess of thoughts on social media and then take a step back, realize the consequences and do something about it. You're stronger than you know, and I hope you can remember during hard times how many people love and support you. Good luck with therapy. It cleanses my mind and soul and I hope it does the same for you. โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
I love you, Dodie! I hope the new therapist works out. I hope your mental state gets better. I think it's great that you're admitting your wrongs and correcting them. Seeing you go through these struggles are really inspiring because I struggle myself with depression and OCD. It's nice (but also not nice) to see youtubers that I look up to go through this type of stuff because it makes me feel not alone and that I can make it through this stuff.
thank you for letting us see your growth, however embarrassing it may have been. we're all grateful for how much thought and sympathy you have for your audience. please know that we don't think lesser of you because of your mistakes. and please don't beat yourself up too much because of this ๐๐๐
i've been watching you for a few years now. i've watched you grow and you've helped me grow. this video brought tears to my eyes because i'm so proud of you to choose to make this kind of change for others not just for yourself. I love you and i know it can only get better ๐ญ๐
I'm really proud of you for learning and growing as a human! I want you to know it never bothered me or triggered me (I fight with depression). But I do think it was unhealthy. I hope this doesn't keep you from reaching out and trying to find something to pull you out of the well! Now that you know this can help and make you feel better you can find a healthier outlet for these experiences! I love you dodie and I'm rooting for you! You're so strong and you're so brave and you WILL get through this and have a happy stable life! This won't last forever :) certainly not at the intensity it's at. โฅ๏ธโฅ๏ธ (Also it made me cry when you told me to take care of myself today. It's been a crazy week of taking care of everyone else and I do need to take care of myself now. Thank you!)
I'm so proud that you've come to this conclusion!! I have so much admiration for you but was concerned about some of the things you were posting and how they could affect some of your audience. Though, I'm so glad you're now trying to draw the line. Please don't feel devastatingly bad about this situation, it's a small mistake, you learned, you apologized, we appreciate it. I love you dods and wish you the very best!!
I am here for you, I have been through a lot of the same things you are going through and I know how bad it can get at times. It's ok to not know what to do. It's ok to mess up. I love you for you; I'm sure we all do! I admire your courage and hope one day we can meet and I can give you a hug in person!
I'm so proud of you Dodie. Being open and true about yourself can be a wonderful thing, but sometimes too much of something is harmful. But even then, I'm proud that you could learn from your mistakes and use this experience to do something good. I've supported you for a long time now and I will continue doing so no matter what. Thank you for being you ๐
Dodie I love you so much and I just want you to know that I support you ๐ thank you for being so open about your mental health, because there such a negative stigma around mental illness. and personally I don't feel like you were glorifying it. You haven't been doing something bad, but I agree that it would be healthier for you and for us as your fans if you step back when you're not feeling well. I hope that you start feeling better soon and that your new therapist works out!! Again, I love you so much ๐๐
dodie, darling, I love you and what you do here on YouTube so much, and I really admire the way you've handled this. I've had an issue with oversharing on snapchat, too, recently, and have finally had to step back for myself. I mean, I only had maybe 20 people seeing my oversharing rants and darkness and really felt the guilt later, when I was feeling lighter. I don't think anyone can really fault you for this, necessarily. In this age of media, it's already hard enough to find boundaries, let alone when you've got such a huge following. Anyway. I think you're doing good in the world, and I hope you see this, and can go easy on yourself a bit. Hope your days get lighter, too.
Dodie, I'm glad that you're going to step back a little, and please remember that we are not asking you to stop advocating for mental health! It is good to see someone talk abt it! Also please don't beat yourself up because of this!
I love the idea of treating us like a little sister. We don't want you to just go into your shell and not speak to us, so I think that's a very good medium x
Oh Dodie, wish I could just give you a hug. Your words and the things you have shared have helped me so much. I never knew there was a word for how I feel, much less that other people (especially those I admire/obtain some sort of celebrity) feel the same. Thank you for what you have done and for letting us be able to help heal you a little too. As for this new, refined chapter in your life, you have every right to feel and act how you please. If you need to start filtering what gets put out into the world, please don't let other people make you feel like that's what they have been waiting for. Do it because it's healthy and it's what you need. However you live your life, we are here to support you, and believe you will make the best choices for yourself. Illegitimi non carborundum. โค๏ธ
Dodie! When you are better, can you make more Asmr videos? I really love your beautiful voice
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Marie Ash2017-07-28 06:39:18 (edited 2017-07-28 06:39:44 )
Coming from a young audience member, I truly didn't understand what mental illness was like until you said something about it on social media. It made me more aware of how some people have mental illnesses and depression. It made me think of how many people have sadness become their normal. You made me truly understand how much this world needs happiness and joy. I didn't understand the importance of being happy and staying happy until you told me what it was like to not be happy. There is a lot of negativity that came from the posts ,but at the same time It made some of us aware of how important it is to reach out to people and support them through anything, even if we don't like them or it goes against what society says is "cool". Because it is unhuman to let someone suffer like that. Basically you helped me understand how truly important just talking to someone who is alone at lunch or someone who doesn't really have friends, because they could need help.
i'm so proud. you don't even know. i literally am going through the same thing. i would talk to random people about my problems bc i didn't want to go through it alone. depressing thought, suicidal thought, stressful times and i go to my snapchat when i'm at my worst. don't be sorry. it's okay. it's human. it's you but it is true for people who gets triggered by sensitive stuff you know. i mean sometimes i feel like it might make me in my feels. it's okay girl. you go :)
Dodes i know you feel bad right now and as a viewer with a lot of the same mental health issues you have, it has been hard for me to see you go through what you've been going through but I feel it's important to recognize all the good you do for people like me. You help make mental illness something that isn't taboo or something to be ashamed of. Plus, I've been struggling a lot with my mental state for the past several months and your music has gotten me through. I listen to it on the train to and from work, while I fall asleep, while I'm showering or cooking or doing anything that leaves me alone with my thoughts. Your voice and your words make me feel less alone. We love you and I really hope you don't feel too bad because you are a good person and even the best of people slip up sometimes <3 much love to ya
Sweetheart, do what you feel is right. I know it's hard for you right now, and I'm proud of you for trying to do whatever can help you. You do overshare some on social media that you shouldn't, but it's fine because we get it. Try to write it in notes, or a piece of paper, or even (I do this) type out a instagram post. Look at it for a bit, then delete it. Delete all of it. Rewrite and make it more positive. Write down what you want to hear. Then post that. Help yourself while helping others. Post what you want to hear, and what you would want to tell others. I love ya dodie. You're great. Be positive, share positivity. :)
you are a sweet, well-meaning human with your head in a bad place but your heart in the right one. we will always love and support you dodie, and we know that you love and support us as well. โค๏ธ
almost every single post about your mental health had made me think differently. and more times than less, you have helped me. your song, your art, and your deep words have always helped me or make me think. please dont feel bad. i love you and i can understand where youre coming from. please get better because i love you <3
I am so inspired by you Dodie and I am super duper excited to see at vidcon australia and I am honestly in the worst position ever and you have always made me happy and I love you so much โค๏ธ
Pono K Wong2017-07-28 05:53:23 (edited 2017-07-28 05:53:55 )
expression comes in many forms. It's okay to express in the form of online sharing. The amount of it should be looked at but you're human Dodie and that's the downside of social media. Humans make mistakes. You are not alone Dodie. You are forgiven and those who truly see you as who you are will keep you accountable. :)
I really appreciate you being honest about all this and realizing your mistakes and owning up to them. Talking about mental illness is hard and realizing that you're oversharing can feel so embarrassing and burdensome. Its hard because you wanna destigmatize it and talk about it and be personal, but you dont wanna romanticize it and trigger people. And then realizing youre oversharing makes you feel even more worthless and worse than you were already feeling. But i really admire you for actually owning up and realizing what was happening. I hope that you start feeling better as well, youre very sweet and talented and even though you make mistakes i think youre a great person.
honestly this has made me take a step back and think about what I share online as well, so thank you. It's okay that you made a mistake, I do it all the time. It's just something to learn from. sometimes I don't really see how my posts affect other people who are also mentally ill so I think it's important for everybody to be hearing this. when I'm in my lowest of lows my first instinct is to post something or go to something and be like haha I'm so depressed I want to die!! but you're right, there are better ways to deal. I really respect where you're coming from and I'm proud of you. I really hope things get better for you in the future. โค๏ธ
Aww Dodes!! Seeing you cry genuinely makes me cry! Please don't feel bad for sharing online, we know that it didn't come from a bad place. You were alone and desperate and we understand that. It breaks my heart to see you struggle like this I wish you health, happiness and recovery โค๏ธโค๏ธ
Dodie please know that your audience will always support you and stand by you. We are so proud of everything you do and everything you've done and we understand that you're only human and you're gonna make mistakes. We as an audience apologyse if we encourage any unhealthy behaviours, but sometimes love blind, we're trying to work on that. The truth is we just want you to be healthy and happy but it's also okay when you're sad. I know this is just a faceless text on your screen but please know the person on the other end truly cares about you even if we haven't met. I think you're a beautiful and talented person who deserves everything in this world, and please know that I believe and feel everything I'm writing.
So much love from this corner of the world, A person that thinks you're great.
I don't know if you'll ever see this, but to me, you have helped me endlessly in learning how to open up, share my problems and open up. Thank you for that. You are always and forever forgiven dodie, because you have done so much more good than bad, and you recognised your mistake and you are learning and growing from it. I'm really proud of you for that. Please don't feel embarrassed or ashamed, you've done a good thing. Thanks again for helping me and my messed up head โค
I'm not sure what to comment here but i'm so glad you've realised where the boundaries lie, and in a very mature way. I'm 15 so not entirely sure whether i'm allowed to call someone older than me mature, but as part of your audience i think that you're dealing with this issue incredibly well; i'm sure it's not at all easy to find the boundary as a 'social media influencer'. we all support you and think you are an amazing, inspiring human being (and everyone makes mistakes) xxx
I think this is a very interesting discussion on so many fronts. It seems unfair to call sharing your mental health an attempt to made mental illness part of your brand when it is an experience so inseparable from oneself. I also think it's unfair to assume the actions/feelings of your viewers are entirely your responsibility either. If you feel that's true then maybe adding content/trigger warnings might be helpful. That said, I still think sharing your mental health burdens online is a lot like talking about politics online; you're free to express your feelings as long as you can take the heat and reactions and live with them. But, if you feel it's unhealthy or unsatisfying then I think the idea of drafting posts and making a deal with yourself to sit on them for at least a day might help.
This is a long roundabout comment to say that I don't think this is a problem that you created. The internet is hard and we are all learning how to use it the best we can. Take a breath and you'll figure it out alongside us. Best of luck! <3
I love you so much dodie! We are all mistake making humans okay and you shouldn't feel bad for making mistakes because you are learning from them and becoming a better person because of them xxx
Honestly all of your talking about it has helped me and I can understand that its hurting others or bringing others down. I do. But all of what you have been going through has helped me, even the little things you complained about. If i saw on snapchat that you were lying in bed at 4am staring blankly at a wall not even knowing what sleep was, i felt less alone. When i saw you with your friends on a vacation in the places you should be having the best of times and you felt not there and just generally like shit, i felt less alone. So yes sharing less will be helping the younger malleable audience but know that all that youve done was not in vain... No matter how you look at it YOU HAD GOOD INTENTIONS. You're Dodie. You're human. Your brain grows tired more often, your emotions aren't there half of the time and you miss them, your life isnt the way you wish it would be and you dont understand WHY. but its okay. No one can rightfully blame you for wanting to express your situation. Thank you, thank you so very much for being you, for being real.
this video shows how good of a person you are. Most people on the internet are not mature or intelligent enough to do something like this. I'm inspired
I think it's responsible of you that you're owning up to this. This reminds me of Jane Austen's Emma. I just finished watching the BBC version with my sister. I feel like you've been told "Badly done", and you're realizing what you did wrong. But this is how you grow to be a better person, YouTuber, and rolemodel. Nobody has a handbook saying exactly what and what not to do. You learn it.
You're not alone in having made this mistake. As a sensitive person it can be hard to draw lines between what to share and not when it all feels like so much. Hang in there and good job addressing the situation.
Dear Dodie Clark, I stumbled upon your music channel last year on a rainy day in my room in NYC and my life has never been the same since. I want you to know that I love you and we, your audience, love you. As you continue to grow, change, and discover yourself, we will support you and be there to help guide you as best we can. You are human, you are in pain, you are learning, you are growing and once again you are human. This is just apart of your life that you WILL get through eventually. Whether it takes weeks, months, or years, you will get through it.
personally, i never had a problem with your snapchat stories because i was glad that you had a place to vent. i tend to hold all of my emotions within myself until i break (alone), which is why i looked up to you for being able to openly share your feelings. but i do see how oversharing can be just as unhealthy for both yourself and the people around you. anyways, i'm excited to see where your mental health journey takes you. love you dodie!
I can understand how you feel about this (not completely of course) and I'm sorry for your embarrassment and the all realization thing and I know this won't help BUT your posts helped me a lot. Reading that a successful person like you, feels like I do sometimes made me realize that yes, bad mental health is the worst but also that I could keep going and make my dreams come true or at least try to!!! I don't know if I shouldn't have said this but I do believe that you were doing a good thing that maybe needed filters. Btw thank you
My dear, dear Dodie, Remember, there is no guidebook to how much to share about personal mental health. You, and others alongside you, are writing that guidebook through this process. Especially when you feel you crossed a boundary or line. Be proud of recognizing what you're doing and how you want to change that in the future to better for you and for your followers. Much love.
no need to feel bad!! you don't need to be perfect for your audience, we're all human and know how people can make mistakes. It is natural for a lot of people to share a lot about their mental health online and you're not the only one. Just because you have a large audience doesn't mean there isn't room for mistakes, and I think it's really great how you've kept an open dialogue about this situation and how you feel.
I don't have you on snapchat so can't speak for those, but your videos (even the really sad ones) have really helped me. Please don't feel guilty for over sharing online, it's a coping mechanism and like others have pointed out, most people encourage us to talk about mental health online and it's hard to know what's over the line. We are all learning and changing as we learn. Well done for looking at this in such a mature way and trying to change for your fans x
I seriously love you, and don't feel bad about doing certain things I think most of it, you are a WONDERFUL human, everything you truly are and the message I get from you is not something bad, rather I can see the light in your words even coming from a bad state of mental health. We all suffer, we all have pains and that only should make everyone feel more human instead of feeling weak.
sweet dodie, i complete understand what it's like to deal with mental health issues and to find ways to cope with them that work for you but might not be the most healthy in general. i've always stayed updated to see how you've been doing and i've tried my best to support you through both your highs and lows and i always will. the only part that bothered me about you sharing all of your feelings is that it broke my heart that i couldn't help you in the ways i wish i could. but you have so many amazing people ready and 100% willing to support you through anything (i know you're aware of that and i know that doesn't always help, but it's just a reminder). i love you so much and i know we all just want you happy and healthy. i'm sorry this comment isn't very helpful or constructive but i just want you to know that i understand to a certain extent and i will always support you. i love you dodie, you are such an amazing woman and you have inspired me and helped me in so many unimaginable ways. its my number one wish to meet you and make sure i express how much you really mean to me. i love you dodie, thank you for everything and please stay strong โญ๏ธ๐ป
That was the best possible way to handle the situation, I don't know you obviously, but I'm so proud of you. You've acknowledged where you went wrong and articulated many different levels and sides of this so well. Best of luck with processing all of this, moving on and continuing to improve your own health! Just know that mistakes can be made up for and you're doing it perfectly. <3
Dodie I love you and your channel and videos and I had a similar thing this school year. I was oversharing about my mental health or situation to my friends, and I had a youtube channel where I shared that a bit too. My "friends" ended up bullying and outcasting me for it, which fucking sucks and im realizing now that it wasn't my fault, but I still know that I need to change and become more emotionally independent. Now I've deleted that youtube channel and im planning to make a new one soon, still making vids about mental health but in a less specific, and more growth focused way. I'm also trying to learn how to be happy without relying on others, not only bc I found that I met the wrong unreliable people before but also even around my reliable friends, I should be able to be happy on my own.
I feel like "Don't Let Me Be Misunderstood" by Lana del Rey (original version is beautiful too)is a good song to relate too in times like this. ๐โจ๐ฆ
Dodie, even if you felt uncomfortable after sharing your feelings online, you have at least tried to handle these situations on your own way. Yes, you have a responsibility, to look after yourself and your audience. That you have been thoughtful about the way you were posting your feelings online, and feeling embarrassed after it, shows me, that you are caring and not ignoring. You don't have to feel embarrassed. You are a human, you are allowed to make false decisions. I have seen, that you look them in the eye. You can feel proud of yourself! It sounds good to me, if you would make a video diary for yourself. That could be a healthy way, to handle your feelings. I think you are very brave. That you have friends, who are actually care about you, is good to know. I think you are in good hands. Sounds that you are very lucky to have them. I love that you are emotional and that you let us now, if you are not feeling alright. I appreciate your honesty. From the bottom of my heart, I wish you all the best, Dodie. x
Dear Dodie, Please don't feel so bad about this. You made a mistake and it's ok, everyone makes mistakes. I'm not even a little bit mad. I just want you to feel better and I think everyone else here feels the same way. -Charlotte
I think what worried me the most was that not only did it become your brand for a while, it became part of your identity. And if you let that happen for too long, you feel safe within your mental illness and unsafe without it. And that can't be healthy. But Dodie, I know you try and you mean well and this was a very mature video to make. <3
I really hope you don't beat yourself up about any of this too much... Making mistakes is the absolute worst and it feels awful, but it doesn't define you and you're genuinely so kind and so gentle... Shit happens, but you're learning and growing and that's amazing.
That is okay don't beat yourself up on what you shared or didn't while you were going through it. That is okay! You are doing it right by fixing it as per your realization. Don't stress over it. We all understand. :) Hug!
i did have to step back and unfollow on instagram/twitter, but i didn't realize why until now..... i never stopped listening to your music though, because you truly are a poetic writer.
You ever just wanna cuddle someone and just hug them and comfort them and let them cry out their feelings and you just be there and listen. Cause I really wish there was a way for me to be there for you rather than just being one of the other hundreds of thousands subscribers leaving a motivational comment you'll never see. Good luck dodie
Dodie! Don't feel bad. You were self-aware enough to recognize the need for change, and that says a lot about you. I think you should read "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. It talks a lot about how we make our anxiety so much worse because we let ourselves become completely identified by those feelings rather than just observing them, which stops us being able to live in the present moment (aka the only moment that ever exists.) I made a video talking about how I think mainstream anxiety advice misses the mark, check it out if you feel inclined! Good luck moving forward. ๐
Unrelated to the video but thank you for the reminder of self-care, in the last couple days I helped my big brother pack to move in with my papa, picked my papa up from the hospital, made sure my great-grandma safely moved from hospital to her retirement home, went grocery shopping for my papa, applied to two jobs, started packing to move houses, worked and had a full day of online classes, so today was a freak out day where I did important things and now I'm going to make tea and listen to your music,:) so thanks and sorry if this is the oversharing you were talking about:/
Dodie It's okay I'm glad it helped you To be honest I couldn't look at your stuff for a long time because it would trigger me into being depressed and depersonalize I wouldn't want to tell you to stop though I know how it helps but also how it hurts yourself as well as others But you did help me realize I have issues with depersonalization and I talked about it to my therapist which is helping me
dodie, you having nothing to be sorry for. personally, I never was affected in a negative way by your posts because you need to know that you're never alone. you need to take care of yourself first. you're handling all of this so well, it's crazy. you're strong. you can make it through. you are beautiful not only on the inside, but as well as out. you have accomplished so much in life. you are doing everything just as it should be handled. you're getting through it. and you deserve so much more love for it. you truly have no need to apologize for your own feelings. all that matters is that you love yourself before others. you need it. just know I and all of us are always here for you. ๐
we could never never never be mad at you for doing something that was a way to ease you're own pain please don't beat yourself up about being someone who has so much on their plate, you are loved and you are light ๐ผ๐ผ๐ผ
No @doddlevloggle post anything you want because that is what makes you who you are, let the weak people weed themselves out the people who really care about you will not judge you for how deep you share! Keep up what ever makes you happy because it is not hurting anyone!
Yo Dodie, I have an idea that might help too (you won't read this but oh well) I have a similar problem to you, the whole sharing too much, and because I'm quite arty, I was told by my therapist to draw how I was feeling in the moment. If I were feeling upset in anyway, I would draw my emotions, but I wouldn't be in that drawing for more than half an hour. If you're doing the drawing for too long you could start to ponder in your own sadness, which is bad. But, if it's a happy drawing, you can stay in it for as long as you like :) I don't know if you like to draw or not, but I know you like to write. What you could to as an alternative is to write a description of a person or scenery that represents how you're feeling. I've also heard of people writing in comic strips, which is cool too. The next time, when you feel upset and you aren't able to write or draw about it, look back at your descriptions or drawings that you did when you were in a good mood, and think about how you can achieve that good mood. Hope that helps! Maybe...
I think it's awful that comments made you feel like you made a mistake. This is your life and you don't owe it to your followers to filter it. Mental illnesses are hard and people (at least around me) make light of how difficult it is but you always had a way with explaining the hardships with words that brought home all the feelings I'm experiencing without trivialising it. I'm glad you're growing as a person but don't let anyone make you feel guilty for trying to improve yourself. Love you, Dodie ๐
Dodie, you are without a doubt one of the most influential people in my life. When I was thinking of what I wanted to help the world with when choosing a platform as Miss Gem County (A part of the Miss America Organization), I watched your videos heavily. My thoughts were very similar to yours and I decided to use my status as a way to talk about mental illness and the stigma around it. You greatly affected that decision. You show mental illness in the most real manner I have ever seen. You have shown the best and worst and I really appreciate that. Further, I appreciate this video. You are accepting a mistake you have made and you're fixing it. I can see you trying, and actively working to get better. I love you for that. You mean a lot to me and I hope one day I can meet you in person and hug you for all of the help you've given me. If it helps, when I was at my worst I watched your videos for the first time and you showed me that I wasn't crazy and I could reach out for help, and I did. After struggling for six years I can say confidently that my brain is balanced again and I am happy. I recovered, and you helped me get here. You make mistakes, you are human, but Dodie...you do so much good. Stay safe, beautiful. I hope you smile today.
I think it's really useful to talk about mental health as it is a topic that must be discussed and has helped me a lot because I suffer with awful anxiety. However I do not think putting really graphic stuff is neither helping you or your audience. I do love you and the rest of your content though
HUGS please don't feel bad. We all have our ways of coping, you st least now know what to do. I hope that you are happier with the new ways with help. No neep to apologise, your so strong. Thank you Dodie X ๐
Dodie. It's okay to talk about your feelings. We will listen. It doesn't bother me, it helps me tbh. It makes me feel less alone. Depression is a hard thing to explain and when you explain it, it's like you can look into my eyes and see a part of my mind. Don't worry,love. It will all be okay
i saw a comment like this so im summing it up in hopes of you seeing it: youre aware that its good to break the mental health stigma, and you've become to comfortable in that that you've pushed it into something unhealthy. but this was such a good way to deal with this and to apologize, and i think that your mental health just might take a turn for the better :-)
i was in a bad place when you uploaded the am i over sharing video so i never made my opinion clear but i don't have snapchat so i don't see that. therefore the instagram posts were in moderation. to me they were like unfinished songs with thoughts and feelings jumbled up on a page. i am only emotional in the sense of myself so none of them had that bigger impact on my other than knowing that i'm not alone. if you do read this i understand you can't and shouldn't pour your heart out like this but please can you turn some of your stories into (more appropriate) songs (or recover social dance i love that to pieces)
DODIE! There is no way, no matter how "graphic" your descriptions of your feelings are, NO ONE CAN POSSIBLY UNDERSTAND WHAT IS GOING ON IN THAT BIG BEAUTIFUL HEAD OF YOURS!!!ย You say you don't want to negativelyย influence your impressionable audience but it is healthy for them to know that there are people walking around with similar thoughts and feelings. It is important that they learn how deep depression can plant itself in someone and, if an audience member has depression, knows that they aren't alone. I findย everything you expressย is beneficial in some way because you areย essentiallyย talking to yourselfย and posting what you said. Its kind of amazing to peek into someone's mindย and I'm not trying to justify your decision to be at least mindful of what you post, but you should take a deep breath and know that you are not scarring anyone...you shouldn't bully yourself.ย I'm only 17 and I know a lot less than everything but I doย know that you deserve to express yourself. Its up to everyone else to decide whether or not to listen.
dodie, i love you. i love you i love you i love you. and i hope that maybe when you're feeling lonely, you know i'm out there- and that so many of us are out there- loving you. unconditionally. i love you so much.
Am I the only one who doesn't agree with this? Reading & listening to you about your mental health has helped me. It has made me realize that I'm not alone in feeling so fucking terrible. Dodie, I want you to know that you helped me. I want you to know that you did not trigger me; instead, you helped me be more in touch with how I'm feeling. I thank you for it.โค๏ธ
I know you're probably not reading this, but if you are I want you to know that you are like a role model for me. You accomplish such great things and have wonderful friends that love and care for you. Now I may not know what you're going through but I have a lot of friends who have depression and suicidal thoughts, and I'm always there to help them out some way, some how. You being like a role model to me it feels like as if I know what you're going through because of the experience I have had with depression. Now even though you might have messed up with oversharing to much I still see you as a person I love dearly and will always will because nobody's perfect and we all make mistakes, I know I have, and I think a lot of people are willing to forgive you. It's also sort of a good thing because it does bring awareness to others. It also let people know that they're are other people in the world who go through the exact same thing.
I just want to say thank you even if it was a mistake of you oversharing it made me realize just how much some people are suffering and that there is always going to be someone to pick you up when you fall. I love you very much Dodie, keep up the good work๐๐ผ๐๐ผ
honestly if that was an outlet for you, you shouldnt feel bad. if anyone in your audience felt that your content was triggering in any way, (i personally feel) that they should know themselves enough to take a break from the things that might be harming them. you should not have to take responsibility for other people's state of mental health while already dealing with so much on your own. that being said, if sharing in such a way on social media has become more of a crutch that a coping mechanism, i completely understand that you want to end that. (also that its part of your brand. ive noticed that becoming something that i associate you with, so i get if you want to prevent that from being your whole presence online). i really think that you should first focus on whats beneficial for your metal health without having to carry the burden of you entire audience's. anyways, i love you and support you and i hope that however this works out, you become more stable and happy. (agh one last thing. around the time i was first introduced to your stuff, i was going through some serious ocd shit. like not-being-able-to-leave-the-house-because-i-would-break-down type of stuff. and seeing someone older and more mature coping with mental illness and facing similar hardships really helped me. not that i enjoy to see you or anyone else in pain. but that i felt like i finally wasnt alone in my mental health struggles. so yeah. thank you thank you thank you, and i wish you the best
aw dodie sweetheart don't feel bad. it's obvious that u don't want to glorify it,idk how some ppl got that idea. I understand where you're coming from. I hope it gets better for u and that u ultimately feel better in the end. love you and we'll always support you ๐
Dodie it's okay, you haven"t done as much wrong as you think and I think some of the stupider comments are getting to you! As I said elsewhere, do what is healty and makes YOU happy!
You shouldn't feel bad. I, like other people did as you said had to step back. But only because people care, we will follow you back one day when you feel like your full self and that's okay
You don't have to be sorry ,i love your snapchat i love your instagram all the thing you say about mental Health really help me to realize i'm not alone so for that i want to say thank you for helping me thank you for being so amazing carring and lovely i love you a lot . โค๏ธSorry for the English i'm frenchโค๏ธ
I'm really sorry that people have tried to tell you that you should be quiet about what's going on in your head. I think it's beautiful and inspiring that you can share your feelings and thoughts so openly. Most of the time when you post things about how you are feeling, I can relate to it in some way and it makes me feel a lot less alone in the world. You shouldn't have to be embarrassed and apologetic. You should be proud that by saying these things you are helping yourself feel better while helping others at the same time. Again I'm really sorry that you're so sad because I honestly think you're an amazing and intelligent person and you do not deserve to feel like that.
Can I just say that I haven't felt you've glorified mental illness all that much. Your posts, while maybe not wise, did show that mental illness is shit and is there a lot and showed just how bad some of the thoughts you get from said illness are. Most of what you said in this video was correct and I'm glad you're able to find another coping mechanism other than your audience but please don't feel you did bad in glorifying mental illness.
I'm sorry and i cant stand seeing you cry... it makes me cry and i just want to say you can't pleas everyone because it was helpful for me knowing what some friends are going though and what that feeling was when i was low but i also don't mind you stoping because its what you want and understand why. i also want to say that its ok that you spilled your thoughts because you learned from them and now know this its not the way to fix things if you wouldn't have done this you maybe would of just locked the feelings away and felt worse. this is just my idea love you lots babe xxx
I don't think you've done anything wrong. If you feel that you've shared too much, that's fine and up to you. Don't feel bad for sharing your mental health, though. I can't speak for everyone, but for me, there is no need to apologize.
Don't feel bad nooo :( it's perfectly okay, I do this a lot, and overshare, when I shouldn't, I suggest downloading the app Pacifica, please look it up because I've found that the most helpful app, everyone on that app is struggling with anxiety and depression mostly and you can share as much as you want there because it's anonymous, hope this helps ๐
It's all part of the learning process. Don't feel bad because you "messed up". If it helps you deal with stuff keep making videos about how you feel, just don't post them! I promise you will feel better someday. There is always another day and the sun will rise again tomorrow.
So I haven't even looked at Dodie's Instagram or Twitter in months, and just look at her video uploads instead -- so, exactly what triggered these two videos...? Could someone please tell me?
Apology not accepted because you didn't do anything wrong. Glad to hear that you're doing what you think is healthy and moral, though! Grow Dodie grow!
It's so hard to convey pain, and yes atm I'm pretty fucked up (so maybe I should question my judgement), but my artist side is sad that you will stop conveying pain with words so effectively cos it's such a hard thing to do. It stops my pain being a lonely pain; I feel it with you (not in a creepy way) and God it helps me not feel so fucking alone. even though I am. It's helps...; it helped.
Don't feel bad that you've overshared! You've helped a lot of people and we are extremely grateful. If you ever feel like you need to share things online but want to remain anonymous, try an app like moodtrack. It's basically a diary but you can leave comments (not much of this happens). It's a really lovely app that could potentially help with over sharing, so please try it if you want to!
please don't feel bad. even if you did overshare at times your talking about mental illness made me feel less alone. I, too, overshare on twitter and stuff when I'm in one of my depressive episodes, and immediately regret it the next day or so bc it makes my friends uncomfortable. It's hard, because in the moment all you want to do is vent and let the world know what you're struggling with, and it's easy to make that mistake. I guess because you have such a large audience, the impact is tenfold for you. But please don't feel awful, you haven't worsened anyone's mental health by talking about your own, even if it was in too much detail. We love you dodes ๐
i both agree that you should but shouldn't have put all your emotions on the internet?? ok, firstly,, i think its good to kinda have us, your audience to have a little peak at what you're dealing with on social media because it's telling that you're not okay and that you're comfortable enough to share that with us which is totally okay.. but then it also isn't alright because yes the audience on instagram can be young and start to read gory thoughts you write on there which will probably effect them and us. also, it can come off as a cry for help which your friends can see and think that you're not open enough to share with them which isn't the case. it was both a mistake that effected us but was helpful for you. but in the end, it doesn't really matter. what matters is that, you find a way to treat yourself healthily and not on social media. we'll be right here โก
When dodie started to cry I started to tear up oof ow ow ow . I just wanted to hug her and kiss her head and give her tea and tell her it's okay. Oof ow Dodieeeeee :'( nooooo its like watching a little puppy crying
Ohhhhhhh Dodes, don't worry about oversharing. This is probably just me because I am mentally stable but I adore seeing your posts. I feel more connected to you as a person. I love that you are so open about your mental illnesses and I feel like I can enjoy your music even more then I already do because I know about this aspect of you. However, considering that I am mentally stable seeing your posts doesn't trigger me as it might someone who is not completely stable. So, what ever you need to do for you I will support you in. I hope that your new therapist can help you and I hope that you feel much better because of this whole experience. I'm wishing you the best and sending lots of love.
I agreed with all you are saying. Don't be afraid to share how you feel, but it is a really good idea to take some time to think about what you should upload and what you shouldn't. We all know you have problems so it would be lying if you stopped making depression videos, just keep them a bit more private. I have some minor mental problems and I have been influenced negatively by watching your videos, so I think having the talk with Hazel and thinking about it and then uploading this vodeo was the right choice. Finally, something you already know: we all love and support you and don't stop being amazing and lovely and beautiful even on your snapchat, without makeup, after seven days in bed with no showers.
This might help, might not, I don't know... But I know a person in a mental health support group on Facebook, for their specific condition. It's a place they can go to discuss their experiences, within a well-regulated rule set to keep everyone safe. Finding one for you might be a potential healthy outlet... But then again with so many people knowing who you are maybe not, I dunno. Just thought I should put that information out there.
I think that you are a bit hard on yourself. People make mistakes. Its worse to keep all those emotions inside. Its good to vent. Just put it all out there. I completly understand why you would do this. Its okay. We all love you and wish you the best. Do what you gotta do
Honey, you don't have to feel bad AT ALL. After all, you are only human, and humans make mistakes, humans cry, humans develop mental health issues and that is OKAY. Just remember that bottling up your emotions is never a good thing, if you have to skip a day of vedif you DO THAT. Mental health is real, and you have six hundred and forty THOUSAND people who love and support you and will help you through this. WE LOVE YOU xxxxx
not everyone is the same. don't be too ashamed of what you did...I read all of the comments on your "over sharing video talk" with your friend. I mean I'm not saying that they're wrong maybe it's triggering to them..but the other part of me is saying that they overreact so much on your videos and everything that you shared. .sorry..I'm sorry, no offense tho...just..you know the videos and things you share online seem fine to me...your videos and songs make me feel less lonely and very relatable...that's all I had to say..love you Dodie.
Dodie, do NOT beat yourself up about this. You have to forgive yourself. Holding on to it is 100% unhealthy. Everyone here forgives you and loves you, and now you need to do the same for yourself, focus on the future and how your going to improve things, feeling bad does nothing useful. We all love you <3
Oh, darling. This was beautiful. Trust me, you are not hurting people at all, and even when you did, your intentions were still the best. You are human, and humans make mistakes. And this is why we all admire you so much, or at least why I do. Only a human being that is growing up everyday would admit this and find something to learn from it. I really hope the therapist works out, love. And actually, the fact that you found the courage to film this shows how things can get better; things will get better because you want them to and you are working very hard on it. We all have our breakdowns, and maybe they'll never go away, but to learn how to endure them, that's growing up, that's healing and certainly that's is life. All I can say is thank you for your words. You apologised, and now the matter is over. Keep looking forward and healing everyday. And again, as humans we are conditioned to make mistakes, but as long as we learn from them, there's nothing wrong with stumbling on errors some here and there. I deeply admire you and adore you, Dodie. (Maybe Dodie won't read this, but we all need words sometimes. So why not lol)
I really really loved all your posts, but I'm afraid that might be because I might've been using them as a substitute for talking to actual friends and people in my life (because I don't have friends, lol (not lol, I push people away and it's actually a bad problem)).
~this comment accidentally started to be all about me so I wrote the rest here~ Hearing you talk probably reminded me of the slightly abusive one way friendships I used to have. I would try to open up to people but they had their own mental problems so to conversation would always turn to them. I enjoyed listening and helping them all I could but this resulted in a really bad "no one cares about me" sort of complex. So I stopped talking to people all together, because they don't care and must not want to talk to me, and the fact that no one has ever reached out to me or tried to talk just reaffirms that mindset. Every time I try to start a conversation I feel annoying, so I just stop. That's why I've got to get my feelings out in a YouTube comment, that no one will ever see. Because no one cares about me.
I have a leather diary in which i pour my soul and dark thoughts out if needed. it's my personal un-magical pensieve if you will. My only rule is to never re-read because i figured out that as soon as i read it again it comes back into my mind and the cycle starts again. That's why i write my positive stuff into another diary, which i am allowed to re-read.
babe, please don't feel bad for sharing and telling us how you feel. At least to me it feels like I'm not alone in feeling crappy and stuff like that. But i understand when you say that you don't want it to be so out there. Your most inner thoughts can be a but dark but it's just a coping mechanism. I'm sure you will be able to find a "healthy" one but just know that all of your audience is here for you always
I don't really see a problem with your oversharing, to your fans at least, sometimes you just need to vent!! But some people are mean so just fck them. I didn't have to stop watching cause I felt like I was just getting to know you on a more personal level, but you do whatever you want and we'll be here!
this is a mistake a lot of people make. i have friends that overshare about their traumas and mental illness online as (a bad) way to cope. you have bigger vulnerabilities and responsabilities than my friends when you do this bc of your large audience, but its still a comprehensible mistake. we're all still learning how to navigate the relationship between the internet and ourselves. dont beat yourself up too much!
why is it that you think that sharing shitty thoughts when you're in a bad state of mind = glorifying mental illness?? it's not? surely it can be triggering to some people but how in the world is it equal to saying "this is mental illness it's fun and trendy and you should all have it" ?
Dodie we understand completely and in a way I feel like some of your fans would like to know how your mental state is? So we can help out? Does that make sense? You're our friend and friends help friends :)
The only reason I disliked this video is because you have nothing NOTHING to be sorry about. If nothing your posts on instagram have helped comprehend a little bit more what's going on not only with you but also with me, I am forever thankful for that. Don't ever think again that you're being over dramatic because trust me you aren't.
God Dodiee, stop being so hard on yourself, just because you overshared a bit doesn't mean that you need to take it so seriously. I get that people don't like it that much, but they are acting like 5 year olds, Like we get it, yes, you don't like content that talks about mental health, okay, But like to get triggered about it?, it's a bit too far. So you don't need to apologise if oversharing helps you, then nobody has the right to tell you not to do that. Ily <3
On a completely different note... are those edits you chopping out all the 'ummmms'?? Just curious as I have never seen that done and that would definite help my videos. :D
And don't worry so much. What you do is you. And like the girl with the rainbow backpack, you are loved as you are.
Let me also add. People having trouble dealing with mental health issues is not anything new. We talk about it more today than in generations past. Old people, when I was growing up in the 20th century, were often described as 'crazy old' people. They didn't have the medications we have today. Heck people didn't even understand some of the things they were suffering from. I can't tell you how many people I know are now (in later life) are dealing with mental health issues. You are one of the unlucky that are having to cope with it in your youth, but trust me all the people who might be in the "I just don't get it" crowd now, will be singing a different tune as they get older.
I hate seeing dodie sad, or anyone sad or hurt for that matter. but heres the thing. life happens to different people in different ways. we can't shy away from things that make us uncomfortable or sad because life is uncomfortable and sad. but it doesn't always have to be. we can help. we just have to stop thinking about ourselves and lend a hand. when u fall, u r going to want to get back up. if there is no one to help u, it gets harder. I'm here to help u get back up, so r millions of other people. were all still learning but sometimes, we need to learn the scary things. they will come eventually. its better to be prepared.
Hello. I'm gonna do pretty much somewhat of wut u just said not to do... if that makes sense.. I get u, and keep about everything that hurts, or any emotions to myself. Yah sure I've got my family and close frend to talk to, but I don't like opening up to my parents and always feel like I'm being annoying when I text my fren. I hold it all in and don't know how to let it out without feeling embarrassed or cruddy. Meh. idek. im sry for these words of trash, I only want to relate to someone. goes to balcony and sings softly to herself
when I watch your videos they seem to jump cut, which is distracting...๐ may I ask you to stop cutting them like that. But I like the content. If you could just record them in one long shot . I think they would be easier to watch. anyway good luck with the future ones...๐ love Brian.
I LOVE that you've pointed out the difference between being emotional, and sharing mental illness...being emotional and FEELING so deep is such a beautiful thing that you should always hang on to and it makes me so happy to know that you plan to whilst keeping the darker stuff inside <3 I really really hope your next therapist is better. And I think you're such a smart self-aware STRONG person. Love you so much Doooooodleooooodle <3 <3
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7 likesMelanie Murphy very much agree with this.
27 likesDodie keeps moving forward.
some would have stopped everything, Dodie keeps going. creating, going to LA. honestly, that makes me so happy.
she's so strong.
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2 likesto be completely honest yes oversharing about mental health is in fact an unhealthy thing to do online especially to the point where you rely on it, but the fact that you respond to this intelligently and openly with your viewers in a way that has positive intentions as well as an attitude aiming toward growth is really good to see in you dodie i love u
13 likesI guess being a 42 y/o man, i'm not in your target audience.
278 likesI survive with anxiety and depression. You are lucky to have friends and be able to afford therapists.
I personally think that everyone should always be 100% honest and true to themselves, so i don't believe you can overshare, but i have been told it's not realistic or good, so you are probably right.
I hate the importance society puts on appearances.
I've been told so often that i'm depressing, well guess what, being depressed IS depressing.
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Ireallyreally Hategoogle hoping you are doing better. xx
5 likesDodie, thank you for your apology, not for me but for those who were triggered by some of your deepest posts. However, do not let your guilt eat you up and consume you, do not get trapped in a whirlwind of feeling like you've screwed up massively, as we all know your intentions were good and we all want the best for you.
161 likesObviously I can only speak for myself and my opinions and I'd love to hear other sides to this story, however, although some 'fault' rests on your shoulders for uploading potentially triggering content, it is up to a viewer wether they decide to view the content, if you provide adequate trigger warnings, then if someone watches and becomes triggered or upset, they were aware that would happen, so cannot blame you entirely for producing it.
Finally, dear god I love you, you are so raw and open with your audience and I trust you, and I love you, I do not idolise you, I understand you are human and have your faults, but that's what I love about you, you never deceive or lie, I will be honest your music is not my draw to you, but instead the connection, belonging and humanity I can feel emanating from my screen, so thank you dodie for giving us this, and please don't close off, take a step back, think before you post on Snapchat, maybe film it and save it to memories to decide wether to upload it later (even if you do end up with that annoying white box around the edge if it's from camera grrr), for your own sake, and please remember trigger warnings.
IDEA, can we as a collective have like an in joke kinda code thing for trigger warning so instead of dodie having to be like 'OK GUYS TW' she could be like 'ok guys I'm about to share a secret for the mad so be prepared' or something like that ok
I love you dodie, thank you for making me feel whole again
You'll get through this, and everything else
I'm always here for you dodders
And all of your audience
All my love
Xxxxxxxxxxx
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Immy Hill Norris best comment. The trigger warning thing is a great idea. But you are so so right about the fact that it is not entirely Dodie's fault if someone gets triggered. I mean a small warning might be a saviour for someone going through a hard time, but equally, we all know Dodie and the kind of content she posts. As you said, it's extremely raw which is what we all love. If anyone complains that her expressing particularly negative feelings is "unexpected" or "without warning", that's just not fair. If it's on snapchat, we can see within seconds how she is feeling and the sort of thing she is about to say. It is then the viewer's choice whether or not to watch the story. It's even easier to skip past an Instagram post. Yes, I understand that many fans don't want to have to keep missing out on her content because they are afraid of being triggered, but that's just who Dodie is and I don't feel like she should have to completely change the way she reacts to situations purely because of this. At times perhaps she may have gone slightly too much into detail, but the negative response on the video was really upsetting.
10 likesAgain, what a good comment. I wish more of her fans thought in this way.
I feel like it is good that you've apologised to people who needed it in this, but I genuinely don't think you should be embarrassed. It was a mistake, and when you did it you had good intentions.
436 likesI think, instead of posting immediately from your dark places, taking some time to sit on the writings and recordings you've made and working out what your healthier self thinks is appropriate and comfortable to share may make for a better system.
I really hope you're doing ok after posting these <3
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yes, it's a misake to talk about how you feel when you are feeling depressed. How dare she, doesn't she know you have to pretend to be happy and that your life is perfect 24/7???
9 likeswork out what your ''healthier'' self thinks... well guess what some people with mental illness feel that bad ALL THE TIME, there is no 'healthier self''
if she was your friend and told you how she felt would you tell her not to tell you how she feels again because it's too triggering for you?
Mermaid Sea her audience aren't her friends. Her audience consists of young impressionable teens. Pouring her heart out in front of thousands of gullible teens is not only damaging to them, but also to herself. It became an addiction, and she started wallowing in it. That's a problem. And not only is it damaging, but it is also extremely selfish. If she kept on glorifying mental illness, these teens would think it's "cool" to be sick, and you know how obsessed kids are with being "cool". Kids become immersed in that sort of stuff. I bet you she's made quite a few teens fall into depression.
10 likesMermaid Sea You can talk about feeling depressed duh, but maybe don't share your darkest thoughts to a large group of kiddos who idolize you
2 likesThe symptoms thing you were talking about reminded me of a poem from Blythe Baird. "I don't know how to talk about the rabbit hole without accidentally inviting you down in it"
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lol youthought I thought that too!
1 likelol youthought yes. This is actually my favourite poem
0 likesI love that poem ๐ค
0 likesthis is beautiful
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0 likessoftly jess it's called relapse... it's a spoken word poem you can find it on you tube
2 likesIt's beautiful
0 likesThat's insightful as hell friend thank you for that.
4 likesFuck, that's a perfect way of saying it.
13 likesthat's extremely beautiful
9 likesThis is amazing and beautiful.
8 likesoh my god this poem!!!
0 likesOmg this is the most response I've ever had on a comment and I'm glad it was this one! Poetry is lit!
0 likesYou're forgiven you're forgiven you're forgiven we all want you to be well and manage well and heal and you are forgiven
19 likesI'm guilty of it too but I don't have thousands to millions of followers across multiple social media platforms
So I guess it's hard because in doing what you want to do (share music, create a community) you automatically have this responsibility which is difficult
So we appreciate you so much and we understand that's tough
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We really do love and care about you
0 likesAm I the only one sobbing?
386 likesDodie, dodie, dodie. You are an amazing person. I'm so goddamn proud of you. Words cannot describe how proud I am of you. You are so so strong, and you will get through this. I'm proud of you and you are a beautiful, amazing, wonderful music artist and just amazing human being.
I'll see you at your concert xoxo
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you aren't :'(
0 likes+Monika Verchvovskรก oh, well that's rude
0 likesLulu Lilly whats so rude about that
0 likesI think that what Monika Verchvovskรก means is that you aren't the only one sobbing
0 likesBtw I'm sobbing too
I think it's a good idea to share about your mental health issues and such, just not at the lowest point possible, because like you said, your thoughts are skewed. I do think however, you should share because it definitely does help people like myself to know I'm not alone in my experiences, and that I can still be happy and healthy and kind and productive just like you are. Don't stop sharing, just help yourself get better in low times, and share in good times.
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0 likesThe second Dodie's voice started to break at 1:42 I cried.
65 likesI love you Dodie โฅ๏ธโฅ๏ธโฅ๏ธโฅ๏ธ
The fact that you weren't reactive and defensive in this video speaks volumes about your character and your integrity. It takes a lot of maturity and strength to admit when you're wrong, especially to so many people. Your heart is in the right place.
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0 likesDodie in a way you've helped some people realise how you feel and how it feels to have these symptoms, don't be embarrassed by what you've done at first you may regret it but it's fine YOU'RE ONLY HUMAN AFTER ALL (I had to) just maybe spread awareness in a different way. We love you we are here supporting you keep going and things will be ok, you feel like you're at rock bottom and that I won't get better but THE ONLY WAY IS UP, BABY (I'm just full of song references) things can only get better from a worse situation.
6 likesDodie, maybe start an anonymous blog? That way you can share your experiences but you won't be tied to your mental health
191 likes"We need to remove the stigma of mental illness"
9 likes"I don't like the way she's speaking about her experience, it's romanticising mental illness"
My mental health is ok and i don't really know Dodie's story, but gee this is tough. I guess it comes down to what end is being served by the sharing, and if it pursues healing - but even then who are we to judge or censor, we can simply choose to not watch. Her choice to share comes from a place of truth.
hey Dodie,
16 likesi think you said some really wise and especially true words in this video and i feel like you' ve just learned one more thing about yourself and learning about yourself is a big part of life. I totally understand why you' re making this video saying sorry that you may have posted things some (younger) people shouldn't have and dont want to read. But also you need to remember that we can only learn out of our own experiences and because you've shared your thoughts of when you were quite down, you kinda had to finish this and also share what you leraned out of that. So what I want to say is that it was the right and a very good decicion to say/share the things you said in that video because it showed that you care about your audience like a friend and I think being told you made a right decision always feels good.
hopefully its kinda understandable what i tried to say, i wasnt sure about how to express my thoughts (also i'm not english; ) )
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You being so genuine is one of my favorite parts of this channel and why I subscribe to you! I just want to say that don't think you should heavily curate your content so that people can easily digest it. Please please please don't put up a fake front for your audience, like I see so many YouTubers doing. I think it's okay toย not be a "perfect Dodie" with all the answers. I like your videos and never shy away from them because it's the real you and you know how to speak your mind and be candid. I wish more people were like you and told the entire story instead of keeping things private and hiding the bad, only showing the good. Metal Heath can be a hard topic for you and an audience to digest because it is a hard thing to deal with. But, you don't need to be some perfect person that has all the answers figured out and knows how to solve these mental health problems when you are dealing with it yourself that is not the point of youtube. Youtube is just a portrayal of you, your experiences and your thoughts. You can use this as a platform to help people and create more awareness through your mental health experiences but it's not your job to save the world or make people feel good. In all honesty, I enjoy the sad videos almost more than the happy ones because they make me feel something and you as a depersonalized person I'm sure you understand that. If your emotion is too hard for people then forget them "a bit madness is key" your audience is impressionable but just because they see you being sad doesn't mean they need to be sad too, tell them why, give them resources and YES don't glorify the sadness. Your pain can only be a lesson if you teach the lesson not just show the effects. Posting in a healthy way is a good idea, thinking things through is a good idea... maybe waiting to post a tweet until the next morning and seeing if it's still a good idea. Is it helping you? More importantly, Is it helping anyone else? Like I said it's not your job to help people but you have the opportunity to so use it! Not everything with mental illness is a trigger if it is framed in the right context. I just really think it would be a shame if this channel became a less genuine place because I think that is one of your true strengths. Love watching your videos. Thanks for teaching me new things and sharing so much of yourself I wish this was something that more people had a safe space to do. <3
3 likesall those who want to wrap dodie up in a blanket, make her tea and give her a kitten; raise your hand.
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0 likesGod looking back at this, I relate to this so damn much. I use to not know the line between sharing a good healthy amount and just spilling everything out about myself at the first encounter I had with someone
2 likesI have only recently discovered your music and your vlogs, and I have felt like we had a sort of solidarity. The darkness of your videos in the lowest of you lows isn't pretty, but neither is mine. You obviously know that sharing is still so important to push back against the stigma of mental illness and you are figuring out when it's best to sit on your content for a while.
1 likeI have very very little that I have shared online about some of my darkest times, but my biggest reason for that is I'm afraid for my family to see it. My mom once asked me, "Why would you rather share with strangers than me? Why would you trust them more?" That was when I could take a step back and see where the red flags were.
I think the word from this video that is most important and sums up the moral of your message is "boundaries." Please continue to share with us as you are comfortable and deem appropriate. If you feel like you start sharing too graphic of mental state details maybe start with a little "graphic content" warning of sorts.
Much love to you, Dodie. You are an incredible human being touching so many people's lives in amazing ways. You have helped me not to feel alone in a lot of situations already.
--Summer
I love you Dodie and i'm so proud of you for this. You're strong. โค๏ธ
0 likesDodie, you're incredibly strong and I am incredibly proud of you โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
0 likesI really think we all are xxx
THIS is what personal growth and being a responsible adult looks like. Being an adult doesn't mean never making mistakes, it means owning up to the ones you've made and making a change. I am SO PROUD OF YOU DODDIE! This had to have been a very difficult video to make, but you handled it very well. I'm so glad that you decided to take the comments on your last video to heart, I think this will be a very positive change. Well done, love! โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
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0 likesThis is so true!!!
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0 likesStarryRingo THIS COMMENT SAYS IT ALL!!! Also I've never seen anybody say sorry and mean it so much. We are all so bloody proud of you Queen ๐๐๐๐
0 likesi know this video is two years old, but this is such a responsible thing for you to do. i personally was never triggered by your mental health posts, i get triggered by different things, but i think it was smart of you to post this video because so many people will benefit from less triggering content. that sounds awful, but i really do admire and love you, dodie. and this was the right thing to do. it's not that it's bad to share your story, i definitely think talking about mental health can take away from the stigma and is an extremely valid and important thing to do. but there's a fine line between talking about your experiences while level-headed and tweeting about wishing you were dead (not quoting any of your tweets, that's a generalization). this video helped me to realize that i was leaning on a certain friend for support too much, and i am going to try and pull back from that so that i can stand on my own two feet for once. thank you so so much dodie, and please don't be afraid to talk about your experiences when you're feeling healthy and safe to do so. we love you dearly and it's important that you know that.
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I am so proud of you kind stranger on the internet!! Also glad to know that I'm not the only one here in 2020
0 likesYou're an amazing and wonderful person, Dodie. Thank you for caring so much about you're audience. โค
0 likesplease don't be sorry dodie, if it helps you, then do what you need to do, i've personally found it helpful hearing you talk openly about your mental health, its refreshing, share how much or little that you feel comfortable with
3 likesyou're just a person dodie <3 we love you, and im so glad you're learning and growing while somehow a l s o teaching us, thankyou so much x
0 likesDodie real talk tho I'm so proud of you this is not an easy thing to do or admit, that takes a lot of humility and maturity and idk just I'm very impressed and pleased that was so good I love you dodie
658 likesWhen I'm in my darkest place I turn to my notes. I love how sincere and mature you're being about all of this. I personally didn't have a problem with what you were posting, but I can see why others would, especially your younger members. The way you've handled all of this says so much about you, and I hope to be half as good as a person as you are one day Dodie. Thank you for being such an inspiration, even in your lowest points. I hope the new therapist helps you recover, and that you know that though it seems like it, you will not have to deal with this forever. I, myself, dealt with depersonalisation and derealisation for a very long time, but that part of my life is now finally over. I know one day it will be for you too. But it can be aggravating until then to live with it. I wish you all the best, and thanks again for just being you. ๐๐ป๐๐
1 likeplease know that people here love you and i'm very thankful for everything you've done, you've helped me so much and i know for a fact that i'm not the only one. people have different sentitivities for things, but the fact that you're owning up to it so well says so much good about you, please don't blame yourself or beat yourself up over this anymore. you deserve to be happy and i'm saying this with all my honesty. we love you
1 likeI feel like I'm the only one who really was thankful for the posts, they made me feel like I'm not alone :/
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Infinite Izzy same, and now I feel so out of place ???? like, I understand why it's wrong and a political subject but what about the peeps who were helped?? :/
30 likesInfinite Izzy yes but I think over all it's just reminding you of those feelings and at least for me, it wasn't helping me to get better. I know that it's great feeling like you aren't alone when someone else shares their thoughts and feelings, but in the long run that kind of sharing just makes it harder for Dodie and all her followers to get better. I hope you don't feel alone and get better soonโค
8 likesi had no problem with them. they helped me...
23 likesI honestly love them.. and I watch her video where she talks about her feelings all the time because they give me comfort and make me feel a lot stonger.
24 likesCalen Ruiz Omg same all these peeps like "so glad you apologised" and now I'm like "wait so there won't be any more snaps where she talks about her illness in a raw state?๐ญ๐ญ"
21 likesI know, when I was in really dark places they were super helpful, as well as dodie's music and videos. I don't think she needed to apologize. People didn't have to read them or watch them if they were upsetting to them, that was their choice.
19 likesI totally get what you are talking about, and Dodie's videos have personally helped me through crappy times, but I also think that talking about it without a filter can also create a problem with people, especially younger viewers, being negatively influenced and almost copying her. And it's not healthy for Dodie herself. She doesn't get the help she needs by just talking online when she feels crap.
7 likesGemma Sherman this
1 likeAmanda, if they were making you feel bad. Don't watch them. Dodie shouldn't have to act like a robot and not share her struggles because you might get upset. That's on you.
13 likesShe might be a creator & have an audience. But she's still human and has the right to act as such like everyone else. It's not up to Dodie to protect her younger viewers. That's their parent/carers job. You can't expect a person to take on that kind of responsibilty just because they post online & have an audience, thats ludicrous.
You wouldn't expect your loved ones to hide their struggles from you just so you don't get sad. That would be selfish. That doesn't change just because Dodie has a presence on the internet. Everyone needs to vent and get things off their chest sometimes, and for some people, the internet is the easiest place to do that.
Roezu I know, I was avoiding those videos and posts, so it wasn't really a huge deal for me, I just mean for younger viewers who might not know what will "trigger" them. And I know from experience that that kind of sharing isn't always healthy for the person doing the sharing. Like Dodie was saying that it might not be the best solution for her. Obviously if it helps her, then I say yeah whatever keep doing it, but I was just concerned for her.
2 likesSame, they genuinely did help me, i didn't feel worse for reading them but a little relived and less alone, lots of people say they get depersonalised and you can tell they don't actually understand the depth of what you're suffering and theyre talking about how it is when you're tired and out of it etc, even my counsellor said he didn't really understand what i was trying to explain to him and he was going to have to talk to some of his colleagues and specialists because it's hard to understand when you don't suffer with it. It actually made it so much better knowing someone actually did understand what i was going through as well as me feeling empathetic.
10 likessame here! but I understand why some people could be affected, I guess.
1 likeYou should always see a therapist if you're struggling, but seeing a therapist doesn't stop you from wanting to vent & having an audience (young or otherwise) does not make her repsonsible for other peoples lives. If young people are seeing videos like this it is by fault of their carers, not of the creator. It is not a creators job to protect young viewers.
3 likesI'm so glad I found someone else who was thinking this! Like obviously I'm glad Dodie is doing what is best for her and the seeming majority that found them triggering, but I do feel kind of left out and almost alone again because she's decided to stop, like they helped me so much-i learnt and I think became more empathetic and felt less alone because of them.
2 likesI agree. I really don't think it's good to encourage her to apologize and repress your feelings.
5 likesWritingSchiozo101 No one wants Dodie to repress her feelings. It's very important for her to voice how she's feeling, but she also needs to make sure that she's doing it in the right way. When talking about the negative side of mental health, we must make sure we are doing it safely so as not to romanticise, normalise or trigger other people. I thought they explained it very well in Dodie's last video with Hazel, when they were talking about how the snapchats would appear out of nowhere and in such detail. This can be unhealthy and upsetting and even though it would be good for her to remember that, we don't want her to stop talking about her feelings all together.
4 likesRoezu that was gross to read. How selfish of you to think like that. Not only would it be immensely damaging for herself and her young viewers to keep posting when she's in her raw state, but it would also be incredibly selfish. Sure, it's not her job to care for her audience, OR take responsibility for their actions, but how would you feel if you know that you're part of the reason why some kid started cutting him/herself. Her viewers are impressionable young teens, and if she doesn't take some responsibility, it would be just cruel. Not everyone's parents are good parents, so they turn to people like dodie or other you tubers, for support and to relate. Those teens are SO gullible and vulnerable, and it is extremely easy for them to fall into that rabbit hole of depression. At least dodie has realized how selfish of her it was, and she has even said that it was damaging for her as well.
5 likesyeah, true. but i think the point is more to not talk about it immediately as you are going through a low moment. its almost like posting yourself self harming. what would be helpful is talking about it after you stop, that breaks down stigma and helps people, makes themselves feel not alone but isnt harmful. idk thats just how i see it
0 likeswhen i went through some of the toughest times id see her posts and feel less alone it sorta relieved my anxieties at the time.
0 likesYou're amazing and I love watching you grow as a person online because even when you mess up you're so nice about it and you acknowledge it. I love you and thank you for all the things you've done- bad and good. :)
0 likesthis video is perfect. don't post when you're at your worst, but afterwards it's nice to hear from you. it inspires me when you get through something and you are able to talk comfortably about it after the experience. i love you so much dodie thank you for helping me with things through your art and your words. p.s. don't stress yourself during veda! it's ok if u skip a few days ๐๐๐๐
104 likesGood for you, Dodie to get a positive outcome of this. And I love you so much, I'm glad this helped you somewhat at some point!
0 likesThank you, Dodie. This was much needed, and a very mature and HEALTHY response to something you have done wrong
0 likesI honestly hope you keep posting that kind of content, it helped me understand what I was going through, that i wasnยดt the only one, it made feel like i was not alone. I understand why people say you should stop, but i have always considered you one of the most honest persons on youtube, And I'm scared because i think that sensation of honesty came from the way you talked about your mental health in such a direct and raw way. I hope it doesn't go away .
5 likesdodie, this is so incredibly beautiful and mature and amazing. thank you so much, I'm proud of you. Hope you feel better, we all love you
0 likesI feel like even though this period of time has felt like a mistake and has felt like you've been doing something bad by oversharing, it has been a great learning experience for you, Dodie. By going through this dark time publicly and learning how to deal with your emotions publicly, you are still teaching people with depression and anxiety how to deal with it. Everything that you've said about yourself and your oversharing and journaling in this video is applicable to anyone.
137 likesI wish you all the best and healing. <3 No one is mad at you. But I'm glad that you're finding different ways to get through tough times. Reaching out and talking to others (face to face) is always one of the best things to do!
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0 likesWe love you dodie. You're strong and I know you've got this. And we're here for you every step of the way and understand and you're only human and that you make mistakes. Keep on keeping on xx
0 likesWe love you, dodie, I can only imagine how difficult it is for you to feel this way about EVERYTHING but just know that you are loved and you have helped so many. Thank you, dodie, you are a wonderful human Xx
0 likesThank you for making this video, I didn't know that I needed it but I did.
0 likesYou're awesome Dodie, stay strong and take care, please <3.
I can just say I feel your pain and I am so proud of you! I feel like this will help you too, I honestly do. You handled this so well, thank you for helping everyone and continuing to strive to help everyone Dodie ๐ Don't forget the good you've done.
0 likesI'm very proud of you and I'm glad you've been able to take a step back and look at your actions on the internet objectively. You've taken responsibility for your mistakes, and for that I thank you. THIS is a good message, allowing younger kids to understand that people make mistakes and not everything should be online. Thank you Dodie, feel better!!!
138 likesSo you've learned something, and you've grown from it. Well done! You should be so so so proud of this video and this personal development of yours. Lots of love <3
0 likesI love you Dodie and really hate that you've been going through all of this. I really hope seeing a therapist helps :) It really helped me when I was going through the worst of my worst. Sending love always <3
0 likesIt's so nice to see someone owing up to their mistakes. We love you <3
0 likes<3 Blessings to you Dodie. I'm sure its hard, but thank you for being willing to be vulnerable.
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526 likesThis is a very mature way of dealing with something like this and I think me and fellow viewers appreciate this. I just want to let you know that you are so brave and inspiring. And I hope your new therapist is one you like. Wish you the best of luck on your mental journey
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1 likeSo true - well done Dodie!
1 likeWe all overshare sometimes, but we don't all apologize for it.
16 likesLove and forgive you, Dodie. :)
I've been away recently so this is my first time watching this video, (hope you're having fun at SITC) but there are things I've only told one of my friends and as it's the holidays we've been away. I'm afraid to talk about how I feel but speaking to her really helps, I've been struggling with what I think is social anxiety (as people cause me so much stress and I get so nervous, my heart is beating so fast writing this ahh) but I can't talk to people but so much you've shared online has helped me talk about how I feel. I've also been struggling with feeling spacey and I never know how to describe it but with your help I've managed to say something, but I'm not sure what's happening. You're songs are amazing and have massively inspired my own song writing (nothing's good yet) but there's still a lot to talk about with mental health and young people (being a young person myself). Towards the end of this comment my hands are shaking and it's a very hot day, I hope this comment doesn't get lost on the way to you lol :) the struggle is real (sorry if there's any mistakes - just a tad dyslexic:)) but everything you have done is incredible and I love it
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Thank you Dodie For your oversharing but I think you have made the right desition
Thank you for becoming aware of what you've done "wrong" and I'm so glad you're now dealing with it in a better way, I wish you all the best x
0 likesIM SO PROUD OF YOU!! Dodie were here to listen! ๐โค๏ธ๐โค๏ธ๐
0 likesDodie if you EVER need to take a step back we will be right here with you.
146 likesIf you need a break, we will be right here with you.
I am so excited for Veda, I will be right here with you.
We will always be right here with you.
thank you, thank you for being such a huge inspiration to me. Thank you for being so brave, both for sharing your experiences and for admitting that you make mistakes because that really takes a lot of courage. Also, don't beat yourself up too much over this and know that I love you so so much, always.
0 likesI love you so much dodie! I think you're coming to a place of realization and healing and I'm really happy about that :)
0 likesDodie it's okay. Stay strong! You've helped me feel a lot less alone in doing this ๐
0 likesi really appreciate this!! it's hard to find the boundary between sharing your feelings and normalizing/romanticizing them, and i'm glad you're addressing it!! i hope you begin to feel happier very soon <3
0 likeswe love you, and we understand that even though you're in a position of "power", you're still human and learning how to deal with emotions, and appreciate you're trying to help yourself by doing these kinds of things ๐
183 likesI love you Dodie! Thank you for everything! <3 You're so wonderful.
0 likesHonestly, I never comment on any videos at all, but I feel compelled to here. I hope you recognise the importance and significance of this decision you've made. I'm a 21y/o male, so I guess not your typical demographic, but I'm happy to say I love your music & your videos - but I must say, as someone not fully part of the Youtube "fanbase" and able to just see from more of an outsider perspective, I find it so fascinating observing you and your interaction with your audience. Please believe me when I say it is not my intention to be patronising at all here, but obviously a lot of your audience are relatively young and therefore impressionable, and many without a doubt view you as a role model in their life. And as such, I've often thought if I'm honest that perhaps you do overshare too much. To clear that statement up a bit; I have thought you shared personal things which you struggle with that perhaps are just too much (and too "real"?) for the young viewer to take. It is an extremely sensitive transitional phase in a young persons lives, and I often couldn't help but think that exposing them to the level of detail you go into with your mental health might not be having the informative effect you hoped, but rather a genuinely scary and eye-opening effect for many that made them question their own brain too much. Obviously it's good to be aware of your own mental health, but at the same time when you're young you might for instance want to associate yourself with something simply to feel part of it and "included", even if that thing is something unpleasant like the problems you personally face. (Honestly I'm sorry if any of this sounds patronising, it's just very hard to convey into words without it coming across a bit like that).
43 likesAll of this is to say - this video really pleased me. It pleased me because it showed me that, despite all the awful mental health problems you're going through, you managed to take a step back and recognise a potential problem in what you'd been sharing. I think that shows remarkable courage, maturity, and bravery, which are all incapsulated in this video, and is even potentially a big step forward in your battle overcoming your mental health, as you've managed to take an objective stance on the situation. Seriously, well done for that, that is not easy.
I'll probably go back to never commenting again now, so I'll leave you with this - I hope you know that you're a remarkable young woman, an inspiring role model for young people (something which I think will only strengthen after this video), and with all my heart I wish you the best in your fight against the ugliness you're facing with your brain - you deserve it, and you will get there. Keep being you!
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Musical World as a 16 year old girl who had had depression and anxiety issues, Dodie made me feel like I wasn't alone. I never felt once she was making her illness seem 'special' on late night when I couldn't sleep, or wanting to kill myself, or felt like hurting myself, it was dodie and her music. Dear Happy (I'm pretty sure that's what the song is called) spoke to me and honestly if that's what came out of her being open, honest, and raw about her feelings then goddamnit let her share as much as she wants. Yes I do look up to her and it's not because she seems to he making put depression better than it seems to be. It's because it's raw. It's raw emotion. Its everything that I felt inside but in someone else's words. And I understood. There are multiple occasions where I would just listen to a song of Dodie's and cry or watch her videos until I fell asleep because do you know how easing it was to understand my pain? To understand I wasn't alone? There was a time I couldn't afford a therapist and I turned to music. And now here I am again, turning to music, and I look to dodie to see that I won't get the same feeling of understanding ever again because people like you decided that she had to apologize for her own feelings. She couldn't JUST address it and explain, she had to make an apology video. And yes it was hard and yes I respect that so much but that's how Dodie has always been. Open and honest. I don't understand why everyone waited till she pointed out her own flaws to acknowledge this. She is Dodie fucking Clark and I really think she deserves more than people pointing out everything she's done wrong. Now she's addressed it and apologized and she didn't have to do either. So now what? Where are people like me to go?
7 likesMusical World Even though you're being patronising snd cannot bring yourself to give young people credit?
1 likeI am so freakin' proud of you, Dodie. This is the very best way you could've reacted to all the discussion. You're wonderful.
0 likesthis is so amazing to see that you're so ready to listen and change and help us and wow you're so wonderful. โ๏ธ
0 likesAs one with anxiety and depression its amazing how relatable this is for me. Dodie, we all love you and wish you the best for your mental health etc.๐this is a heartfelt apology in which we all forgive you for
81 likesI love you Dodie, this was a really nicely worded video. I'm so happy to see you growing and realizing your mistakes. It can definitely be painful to have your flaws pointed out to you, but I think you've handled it really well by apologizing (and as a side note since I've seen other people discussing it, I do think it was good and necessary for you to apologize even though you had no bad intentions) and making the decision to improve yourself and find better ways to cope. I commented this on your last video but there definitely is a good way to talk about mental illness and I'm really happy that you're going to find a way to approach that. Proud of you <3
0 likesI assure you Dodie, it's okay. You did well. You did an amazing job realizing this and healing like this. You are incredibly brave. I love you <3
0 likesDodes I love you so much. This was so beautifully said and I'm infinitely proud of you. It takes so much strength to reevaluate past actions/words. Please don't succumb to shame or embarrassment because it just hurts to feel that way. We're all learning. You're learning, every one of us is learning, and it's a beautiful thing that we can all learn and grow together.
0 likesLove you Dodie! Thank you for being vulnerable and real. ๐
0 likesThe sad truth is there's no rulebook for how to deal with a mental illness, and with the advent of involved online careers like YouTube still being very much in there infancy this is a path everyone is walking blind. Plus this is a fact of life: we try to cope in the best way possible, we often fail, we screw up, we learn. I've done things in the depths of depression that I know I'll never forgive myself for. What's important (and also paradoxically the hardest goddamn thing) is to listen to people around us and alter our behaviour when we realise we've crossed a line into "unhealthy". I'm so proud of you for finally having the strength to make that move, Dodie. This couldn't have been easy, and I hope it brings you to a better, more stable place down the road. We love you too <3
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1 likeHi Dodie, I've never commented on your content before. I have a point of view on this issue of 'over sharing'. I think the message from your friend was a bit harsh. If you're anything like me you're concerned about your effect on other people more than on yourself, and that is what is coming across to me. If you're getting support and an outlet by sharing the darkest things, and it's good for you, then there's nothing wrong with it. Other people have a choice whether they want to view your content or not and I personally relate to, and appreciate your unfiltered videos.
4 likesSo much love and support for you this was the best thing you could have possibly done and I'm so proud and happy for you- can't wait to see what veda brings!! All the hugs
0 likesDodie, your videos made me realize that I was in an abusive relationship. Your songs have helped me find a gentle outlet for my emotions. And your online personality has always helped me feel less alone. Thank you so much. โค
0 likesI'm so proud of you for making this video Dodie! I really am! This is so responsible and modest of you (I hope modest fits here, English is not my first language ah). Loads of love to you <3
0 likesidk how to put all my thoughts into words but i respect you so much for this video. thank you & try not to blame yourself too much. mental illness is a bitch & can convince you to do irrational things. i applaud you for being able to recognize it & apologize. love you dodie ๐
99 likesThis is really great growth. I'm glad you'll still be working through your feelings, and working through them in a positive way, while still promoting the destigmatization of talking about mental health. While it sounds like most of your audience is younger than you, I'm a bit older, and I'm really really glad I didn't post as much on social media, or have any type of audience on social media when I was even a little bit younger. I've probably posted some dumb things, but I'm more apt to overshare now than even a couple years ago, and I've grown a lottttt over these past few years. I definitely have a lot of respect for younger people with huge audiences like yours, trying to balance your own growth with being a role model. Thank you for being honest about what you're learning about yourself, your process, and your art.
0 likesI've loved you for a long, long time, and this is by far one of the best things you've put out there. It's so incredibly mature of you to be able to recognise that some of the things you write are more appropriate for your diary and private collection than to be publicly shared. I've missed seeing just Dodie because she's amazing in every single way. I much prefer to watch the Dodie who just happens to have a mental illness rather than mental illness Dodie because they're two entirely different people. I'm so glad that you're not letting your mental state become who you are. I used to do that and it wasn't healthy. Always keep you and your mental illness separate and remind yourself that you aren't your illness. You are you and you are beautiful and we love you. This is a great decision for you to make and hopefully it'll only get better from here. Love you xx
0 likesI just had to learn this lesson recently and I feel this so deeply. Thank you for posting this.
1 likeI am so proud of you Dodie. You are absolutely amazing and I really didn't think that I could admire a person as much as I admire you. I love you so much and I'm sending all of my love to you โก
0 likesDodie, without you talking about depersonalisation I wouldn't have realised I had it. I wouldn't have gone and gotten help and if you didn't talk about it I'd just continue feeling the way I felt so thank you so so much x
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Depersonalization isn't something that's talked about as often as anxiety and depression, for example. I agree, it's so great Dodie brought it to light.
26 likesshe romantisises mental illness and she knows it, the cute crying girl on the floor awkward and quirky eating ice cream = depression??? she makes it look glamourous at the same time acting like she wants to be real. Its gross and im glad my friend and i unsubbed.
10 likesTheLastOne ToAsk If you unsubscribed then kindly stay out of the comments. Everyone deserves kindness, including Dodie, whether you like her understanding of mental illness or not.
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5 likesTheLastOne ToAsk what does that even mean? How is recording on a good day romanticizing mental illness? Your point is irrelevant and unsupported. Where does the romanticism come in exactly? Whenever the mental health issue is addressed she expresses her feelings in great depth and it's never a happy video. It's never 'wow my mental illness is so much fun lol' it's always touchy and emotional so yeah, if she wants to make happy videos sometimes when she's not at her lowest then let her. It's great that she has high days to record at all. That doesn't mean her mental illness is a just a lie to gain viewers or that she's romanticizing it. Also, if u unsubscribed then why are u here exactly? To spread more negativity or gain attention? Because you got both so good job.
12 likesShaina G that's like saying that dodie's mental illnesses are all that she is. that's not true. people with depression are not defined by it. they can have good days. good days where they can eat ice cream and feel happy. and yet they can still have bad days were they start in bed and stare at the ceiling. they are not defined by their depression.
13 likesMakeshiftPicture teach them girl
2 likes+TheLastOne ToAsk and you're here why?seriously if you unsubbed i dont get why you would waste your time commenting on her video. even if she was romantisizing mental illnesses, she realized her mistake and is trying to better herself. no need to be rude
1 likejaniel sweet heart Me too
0 likesDodie, I am so incredibly proud of you. I've been following you for quite a while now and being able to kind of grow with you has been a blessing. You probably won't read this but I just had to tell you that I love you dearly and you are my inspiration ๐
0 likesI'm honestly so proud of you for making this video. Its really mature of you to admite your mistakes and try to change them. I love you so much, things will get better, i promise
0 likesIt's perfectly okay, and you're so strong and clever to handle it like this. Good job Dodie, we are all very happy with your decisions I'm sure :)
0 likesThis is such an important video! Thanks for making this, you're so strongโจ
1 likeYou will get better, and you will get through this, i promise you โค๏ธ
Sometimes it's really hard to own up and apologize. Your willingness to confront this and admit that what you're doing is wrong is inspiring. You're brave and I'm so happy that you realized you need a change. I hope your new therapist is one you like!
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me too! <3 thank you <3
191 likesThank you for doing this Dodie, I personally started to find your content a bit triggering but im glad you addressed this, you're one of my favourite youtubers and it was sad to have to take a step back. Its really great that you've stepped up and done this, its very admirable what you've done, well done!
0 likesYou are amazing. No matter what. Mistakes are okay. It's all okay Dodie <3
0 likesWe love you Dodie, I hope you're able to find peace. No one deserves to be trapped inside themselves. We'll be here when your ready. โค๏ธ
0 likesI love you dodie and im very proud of you for making this. Though i didnt see any of the posts i know what its like to overshare about my mental health on the internet/ read stuff that caused me to go into that mind state as well.
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honestly, im not sure.
26 likeshonestly, im not sure yes.
9 likesIt's dodie.
So yes.
honestly, im not sure I don't even know anymore, she's everything
1 likeWe might all explode soon because it truly isn't humanly possible but honestly, I'm not sure.
6 likesAm I the only one who has a massive crush on dodie and you can never like dodie to much. She's so amazing and wonderful and sweet and everyone should like her.
15 likeshonestly, im not sure your name is a perfect response
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honestly, im not sure your name is the perfect response heheh
9 likesyour name is my response
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0 likeshonestly, im not sure
4 likesit's dodie anything is possible when you watch dodie
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1 likehonestly, im not sure, your name says it all
0 likesThis was a great video and message! Thanks Dodie.
0 likesI love you dodie!!!!! Youโre such an amazing person and Iโll always look up to you!!!! โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
0 likesThank you for being so mature and it's really nice to see someone own up to the actions. Good on you <3
0 likesYou are strong Dodie, we love you. Thank you for caring so much. <3
0 likesTo be honest, the posts never bothered me but I can understand why a lot of people had to stop reading them. It's absolutely okay that you did this "mistake" everyone makes them and you're allowed to make them too. I think you reacted amazingly on this topic and it shows that you've grown so much and I'm really proud of you!
163 likesI don't know how much time you spend on your phone but I figured that for me it helps when I put it away for a while. Maybe try to go on holiday without it like Hannah did? (I know you're super busy atm but maybe you'll have a week off and (mental) health is the number 1 priority so I think your audience would understand it).
Im not diagnosed with depersonalisation and I'm not sure if I really have it but I go through phases where I'm so stuck in my head that I don't really see what's happening around me. But right now I'm not spaced out (fingers crossed) and i really hope that you'll get there too ๐
Thank you for being so mature and real about things and facing your mistakes. You've been a real good role model. <3
0 likesdodie it's okay. so many people know and understand what you're going through.
2 likesdodie, you're wonderful and i love u <3 its important to note that in this day in age, social media has become an outlet for so many people, to share so much about their lives with others and some of it can be very inspiring but also turn bad really fast. to have the technology that we have where we can record our feelings and rant on snapchat in .01 seconds is a convenience in the moment, but you're learning from your mistakes and realizing that social media doesn't mean sharing your personal life. Though its great to be able to know you as a person and to see you in your vulnerable state and for you to advocate and spread awareness for mental illness, its also best for the sake of your mental health to know what lines to cross, which is what you stated and are now aware of, which is great!! i think you handled the situation in a lovely manner and you apologized and were very sincere about it. Stay strong my dear!!
0 likesdodie you're one of the most amazing people i know, don't beat yourself too much over this okay we're all here for you:)๐
0 likeswell done dodie you seem to have turned a corner, and found a way to balance things better <3 sharing your experiences has always made me feel less alone so thank you for that! glad to see you'll be doing it in a healthier way from now on xxxxxxxxx
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0 likesdepersonalization is TERRIFYING i don't think i will ever and I mean ever get used yo(having it . i thought I was going insane but seeing you talk about it made me feel better. people will always criticize. if you feel better sharing your feelings online I say go for it. noatter what one does someone will always feel hurt or amazing because of it its up to you to ultimately decide what you want to do with your decision
15 likesThank you for this video Dodie! I love you so much and will always support you ๐
0 likesI'm proud of you for doing this, it shows a lot about your character that you've honestly realized you were wrong and have apologised. Thank you for this.
0 likesI'm proud of you for admitting to your mistakes and being able to grow from them. You are a wonderful person Dodie and myself and your other fans know your intentions and acknowledge the positive things that have resulted from what you've shared as well โค๏ธ
0 likesdodie is such an amazing person. she made an honest mistake, realised it, and apologised wholeheartedly. this honestly might be the first time i've ever seen someone completely own up to something, no excuses, just pure morality. we all love you so much and are 100% supportive of you, no matter wha. <3
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*what. are you jOKING ME that was the dUMBest mistake ok whatever im done
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3 likesNow don't beat yourself up over it! You can pretend it was in a cool accent!โค
YoHarryYou'reAWizard That's one thing that I have found I respect SO much about dodie. She doesn't apologize because it's the "right thing to do", she apologizes because she's sorry, truly sorry, and pretty much always gives a "this is what I've learned:". Anytime I have ever been upset or disturbed about something she has posted or done, I've always felt personally addressed in her apology, and because of that, there is always forgiveness for people who want it.
6 likesYoHarryYou'reAWizard I know right this is why I love her so much gah
0 likesam i the only one who thinks she's apologising when she hasn't made a mistake? it's her platform, she should do as she pleases with it especially when what she was doing helped so many people ://
17 likesShe actually says sorry that's why I subscribed to her I agree with you
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2 likesNoodle Paege me too!
1 likeDodie, this must have been a difficult video to make. I am happy to see you growing and evolving as a human. I know some of your content was quite emotionally graphic but it was not all harmful. I agree that finding a different way to release the emotions and then share them in a healthy way is a great way to go, but the discussion of mental health is good. We are losing the stigma of mental health being something to be embarrassed about and I am so glad. I am 18 and I am just beginning to take control of my mental health and mend myself. So thank you so very much for being an advocate and creating discussion as well as providing outlets for people. Even silly videos about how to make tea are oddly calming and bring me peace. I am glad you are figuring out how to appropriately use social media as well. Thank you. I adore you and what you are doing.
0 likesYou're being too hard on yourselfโค I'm glad you're learning how to work through things in a healthy way for everyone and i Love that you care about your audience! Make sure to take care of yourself too, you are learning and you are getting better. So proud of you Dodie๐
0 likesIt takes so much strength to look inwards like this and to realise that you've made a mistake and that there's room for improvement, and I am just so so proud of you. As someone who has a whole lotta mental illness I can empathise with you so very much, and I hope that you can see the incredible light and strength that you have and share. <3
0 likesThis makes me so upset bc dodies videos really do help me, it makes me feel like I'm not the only one going through this and she puts into words what my mind is like and helps me realise what I'm feeling, every video I watch makes understand so watching this is so hard. I love you dodie, so much and thank you for everything you've done for me
0 likesYou have handled this in a really mature way. Thank you for being amazing ๐
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0 likesI'm really so impressed by this video! I just watched the one with hazel, read some comments en then went to this one and I'm feeling happy for you, for the way you dealt with all the different kinds of comment and for how you are able to reflect on your own actions. I think you need to be a really strong person to handle all those opinions and to openly react to them. Thank you for being open about all kinds of stuff, and I wish you good luck with finding new (better?? ) ways to share things in a way which works for you and might help the audience. Lotsssss of Love, I think you are so so brave!
0 likesi've always felt like whenever i was going through something, a couple weeks later you would make a video or snapchat about something really similar. it helped me realize that what i'm feeling and going through isn't a me thing. it happens to others too. i've never seen what you've been posting as oversharing, just you being open with your audience, but i love that you care for us so much. ๐
0 likesGlad you could reach this place, Dodie! Obviously you have our support and it's always been so clear that you were sharing as both an outlet for yourself and to open up conversation about mental illness. While a lot that you've said online was way too far I want to say that this last little journey here, from that snapchat story to the video with Hazel and to this video here, has really cleared some things up for me too. I was finding way too much catharsis in you sharing your darkest thoughts and in sharing my own dark thoughts and watching you discuss this with Hazel and reach this conclusion helped me reach my own conclusion that some things are meant to be private and shared only with friends and trained professionals.
0 likesHope your mental illness won't let this embarrassment, shame, or guilt prevent you from sharing what you feel in your art and also with us. We're all just learning how to balance, and I believe you'll get there.
Thanks for everything, Dodie, and the apology is so gratefully accepted. Harsh to say, but this video was needed, and I hope you can feel better after. <3
Thank you for being so honest. It's hard to know where the boundaries are and admit that you were wrong. You are a good egg. I love you x
0 likesyou have such a pure heart, dodie. you are an angel. i will always be here to support you no matter what. i love you so so much. *hugs*๐
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0 likesmackenziebrb I love her soooo much and I'm so glad that she is learning and trying to improve.
2 likesi have so much respect for you dodie youre so amazing and youre perfect <3
0 likeswe all love you dodie!!! don't beat yourself up about what's been going on. we all support you and just want you to be as happy as you can!
0 likesDodie, I'm so proud of you for making this decision to keep some mental health stuff more private. It must've been hard dealing with the guilt of oversharing while also not feeling great, but it's admirable that you were able to recognize that the things you were doing weren't healthy for yourself or your audience. You're a human so you're not perfect but we love you no matter what. Remember that you don't have to completely shut yourself out on Instagram/Snapchat/YouTube, you can still update us on how you're feeling, but maybe with a warning if people don't want to hear it and you don't have to be as detailed. Stay strong ๐
0 likesI just wanted to give you a hug when I saw this video. One of the first videos I watched from you was when you were depressed and eating edamame beans. I never saw anyone talk about their depression openly before. It helped me so much to feel that I'm not alone. It inspired me to make a video during May's Mental Health Awareness Month. I've been struggling with what to talk about next because I've dipped back down again in terms of my emotional state, and this video has helped me determine that I should be careful with what I share and when I share. Thanks for being strong and vulnerable. Many of us appreciate it. :)
0 likesDodie, you're human, you have your demons, we understand that and we're here for you. ILY<3
83 likesThe fact that you can notice these things is so lovely. Things like these make your art so much more meaningful to me. Don't be too hard on yourself, you're doing such a good job, love. sprinkles love and support everywhere
0 likesThis is a very great step forward and I am happy for you that you have made this decision. It is absolutely okay to make mistakes and you are just a human being who needs reassurance and I think that should not be forgotten. I'm glad you're taking this step and setting up boundaries โค๏ธโค๏ธ
0 likesso proud of you! honestly, it was very hard for me to follow you lately, i love your music so so much and nothing could change that, but it was very hard to read what you've been writing on your social media (not going to expand on that, i think you read anough comments about that already)
0 likesi hope i don't sound patronizing while saying this, i'm not in your position, and though we are the same age, i certainly don't have the same responsibility you have with what i post online, because i simply don't have your larg following. but i really think it is brave to admit when you were wrong, and to have the courage to listen to criticism and not just classify it in your head as people not understanding you (which i quite often do) . I'm proud of you, i'm sure your loved ones are proud of you even more, and i'm glad to hear that this has not discouraged you from talking with your audience about real life topics, but just made you realise that there is a healthier way to do that.
Dodie, I love ho mature your being about this! I think its so hard now days to not put everything up online, but filming something and then giving it a day or 2 before you upload allows for the massive safety net!
0 likesI love the fact that you're learning and growing on how to deal with this issue and I feel very privileged to have witnessed your personal development. Love you :)
512 likes(Also hun your skin isn't nearly as bad as you said it was on snapchat don't worry:)
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1 likeI love you dodie. You're so strong and brave to post this. I have so much respect for you. I promise it will all be okay, and that we are all always here if you need help and support. Stay strong xoxo
0 likesI just want you to be happy! We know youre not trying to glorify it :) I'm so glad you came to this conclusion!!!
Thank you for this honest video, and honestly so much admiration and respect to you, it's hard sometimes to take that step back and decide what the healthiest thing to do is, for everyone involved. This was a great video.
0 likesSo proud of you for your last two videos, a very hard and mature thing to do. You had good intentions, probably did overshare tbh, realised this, and then had the balls to apologise. Not many people would do that. And you have brought so much discussion and awareness to mental health and depersonalisation, I hope this positive path continues into the future
0 likesthank you for your integrity and having the courage to listen/re-evaluate/figure out how to move forward responsibly and healthily. looking forward to whatever comes next โค๏ธ
0 likesOh dodie. You are so raw and this makes my heart so so warm.
87 likesYou are completely forgiven! You are so so loved. We all make mistakes, we're only human. I am incredibly proud of you for making this and apologizing to so many people. Despite what your brain makes you ~feel~, you are a lively , STRONG woman. We all love you dearly and want to see you grow even more. You are supported always, dear! ๐
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2 likesWe love you Dodie! Keep fighting! โค๏ธโค๏ธ
0 likesThere are a million reasons why you are my favourite youtuber. But one of them is that you're so honest and down to earth. Many youtubers only do happy stuff and pretend that there's nothing bad in this world. Which is totally OK, because positivity is great, but bad things happen as well and it's so nice to see a person who's going through the same things and its totally ok when you talk about mental illness because you can prepare younger kids what they might go through later on. Stay strong, Dodie I love you very much!
1 likeSo happy that you admitted making mistakes. This was a very mature video, thanks dodie :-)
0 likesgod i love you. i'm so proud of you for this and aaaah this is helping me so much as well. this is what the internet should be like. i'm so so so glad you uploaded this apology and took the time to rectify the situation even when you're already struggling with so many other things. honestly, thank you, this is what i want to listen to/watch when i'm low, this is realistic and i don't really know how to put all my emotions into words (i'm not as intellectual as all these people in the comments), but i just want you to know that i'm really proud and grateful. thank you
0 likesThank you Dodie. Now I'm down but I care about myself, because of you. Thank you Dodie.
0 likesI appreciate you making this video. Expression of your feelings is important, but only in a certain way. We love you! I look forward to seeing your growth! <3
0 likesso proud of you for this!! thank you so much, i love you x
0 likesi am so incredibly thankful and grateful for you as a person. thank you for making both of these videos. the fact that you're imperfect and you make mistakes and the fact that you share those with us helps us learn from those mistakes as well as you. thank you for apologising, but also... you don't need to (i mean you did, but... you get the sentiment). all of the feelings & posts you were doing came from symptoms of the very mental illnesses you were talking about. so we understand. i like what you said about treating your viewers as you would your little sister. i think that's a perfect way to think about it. keep fighting and keep trying and keep being you. i love you. like a sister would.
0 likesdodieee! although recently i think you have been sharing a little too much, the amount you shared a while ago was helpful to me. i felt very alone - swallowed by my problems but for someone like you to come online and say "i do struggle but my experiences go into my music and videos" really helped. i learnt to channel my negative emotions into something productive. but i'm also happy about this video too. i'm so glad that you will only share so much with the internet. and that's not only because i think "ahhh this might affect people in a bad way" but because i was very worried about your own health and happiness. i think there's caring about a youtuber and then caring so much you feel like a bit of a therapist. i hope everything goes well for you dodie & i'm really glad to be on your vlogging journey so that when you're big and famous i can tell everyone i was here first! love and hugs, jen xo
46 likesOh man, boundaries are so hard with online sharing. So much respect for your struggle! ๐
0 likesdodie this video was so truthful and respectful, it's incredibly how you can apologise, most people couldn't do this. You never intentionally glorified anything, you're very real and raw x
0 likesbless you dodie, thank you for this - its such a mature and important thing to do <3 but please don't be embarrassed or grate on yourself for all of this, I just want to give you a massive hug! keep going gal xoxo
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0 likesI love you and Iยดm so proud of you. Please, donยดt cry itยดs ok <3
don't beat yourself up over this! a mistake was made and now you're correcting it! we don't expect anything more from you. you're human and we love you anyway xxx
49 likesHi Doddie, I appreciate your concern with what you say on the internet when you have your "crises", that is really good. Anyway, i'm trying to help, i know you have a little sister, (I don't know how is your relantionship with her, but I imagine you love her very much) hold on to her, i bet she loves you very much, and when you feeling down think of her, as a little spark of hope, think of all the good messages you recived when you are feeling down. I know i'm saying whats everybody says in this situantion, but is true, Dodie i love you very much, and stay strong, please <3
8 likesI just recently lost my big sister, (she comited suicide) and watching your singing videos and you more positive videos helped me a lot, so thank you.
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1 likeDodie this was the mature thing to do and I'm so proud of you!
0 likesDodie I love you, and right now I just want you to know youโre loved. No matter what, we all are always learning about ourselves and the world and how we fit in the world. Your true audience loves you and will always be right here with you through anything you experience. Thank you for being honest, it means way more than you know. No one is perfect so donโt expect yourself to be, and understand we love you I LOVE YOU anyways โค๏ธ
0 likesYou are an inspiration, I have always been watching you and haven't been able to get a ticket in time to come see you in Newcastle. I struggle from mental illness and you have helped me through sharing the way you feel. Don't ever be sorry, I love you, we all love you. Thankyou for being you dodie Clark. Xx
0 likesI don't follow you on your other socials, so I didn't see the oversharing stuff. I'm so sorry that you're hurting, and I think you're amazing in general and for making this video. Lots of love to you.
72 likesThank you for making this video, I admire you for realizing and being willing to admit that you shared a bit too much.
0 likesI think it's good to talk about mental health, but there's different ways of doing it. I like the idea of you still recording things, but deciding afterwards if it is something that you want to share.
Some people who I think share their mental health issues in a way that is both honest but also not romanticizing or triggering are: John Green about his OCD and 'What Mia Did Next' about her battle with eating disorder (although it is mostly in the past for her)
I'm really proud of your response to this situation. You saw a place you needed to grow, asked for help in how to do that, and responded maturely with a solution that you feel causes the least amount of harm to yourself and your audience. It's an ongoing process but I've been so impressed in watching it unfold the way it has this last few days.
0 likesDodie you are so loved, you brave soldier we are all so proud of you and so many of us know how difficult this is. We love you so much โค๏ธ
0 likesDodie I am so so so incredibly proud of you, for going through this journey in such an open an honest way. It's a learning curve for you, the community of creators, the media and for us as viewers. I'm glad you're happy with the decision you've made and the approach you're now going to take and for the record I think you've navigated this situation expertly and ended up at the best possible (still quite shitty) circumstance. Thank you <3
0 likesI just want to brush her hair, sing her songs, tell her it's okay.
1035 likesEdit: It's amazing how many people feel this way. ๐
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2 likesMidnight Black it's Conan Gray, he's a youtuber
0 likesgeob I know... that's why I like it ๐
5 likesShloka Frank honestly don't we all
8 likesShloka Frank I just want to hug her
10 likesomg i love your comment and i love conan
3 likesShloka Frank I want her to feel happy :)
3 likesShloka Frank same
0 likesYou're very brave for being able to take this step back, re-evaluate and then make a video about it. I personally don't have an opinion on the oversharing but I'm glad you learnt from this!! Hope you're feeling better x
0 likesI just want you to know and remember that I love you so much Dodie, no matter what ๐๐๐
0 likesyou are amazing, dodddie! you are a very brave and mature person and I apreciate it \nd that's why all of your fans love you! Keep going girl! You're going to get better! We all love you a lot xoxo
0 likesdodie i want to thank you. i know that expressing mental health struggles so explicitly can be negative for many people but personally for me it does help. in my darkest moments i revisit all of your videos, both the positive and negative, because it lets me know to keep going ! i respect your decision to keep things more private and i think that will be beneficial, but thank you for helping to keep me going. take care ily ๐
0 likesim a year younger than hedy. recently my mental state hasn't been that good and when you started posting more and more detailed (? idk) things i became completely blind to it. it just reminded me that i needed to take a step back and collect myself.
69 likesyou are such a wonderful person. mistakes happen. and i know, sometimes you feel so embarrassed that you just want everyone to forget it happened. but it did, and you'll learn from it.
much love<3
Dodie, so proud of you for being strong through hard things. I hope you will remember that you can always turn to Jesus no matter what you're feeling. Always.
0 likesDear Dodie,
0 likesyou are amazing, creative, wonderful and special!
I love watching you on your journey, the bad and good days, kind of walking with you and learning A LOT from you. Some things need to keep private but I love you FOR SHARING YOUR THOUGHT AND FEELINGS WITH US even the bad ones.
I know everyone says this but there will be good days and bad days, time may not heal but things will work out.
I'll love you to nuts forever,
Yours
Annie
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Dodie, we all love you so much!! There is no need to feel embarrassed, as you're just a human like the rest of us. Have grace on yourself... you're doing a good job ๐๐. Keep your head up and your heart strong! ๐ป
0 likesi love you dodie, and your care for your audience is beautiful, thank you xxx
0 likesWe all love you Dodie! I hope you're doing better ๐๐
46 likeswe all love you for who you are your amazing and truly an inspiration to me and many many more fans. im so proud of you for making this video bc ik this was hard to admit. i love you โคโคโค
0 likesWe are proud of you for realizing this. Everybody makes mistakes, we just have to learn from them. Take care <3 hugs you softly
0 likeswe love you so much dodie. we understand that you are going through a tough time and that it might take time to try and navigate your way through your mental illness. take your time, take care of yourself, and remember that we love you and we will be here for you. you can take control and be happy again. it just takes some time. we'll always be here :)
0 likesProud of you, Dodie <3
0 likesits okay dodie, im sure a lot of your fans, including me, understand why you would have wanted to share online, its alright, because we know that you didnt mean to glorify or romanticize anything, you cant put the blame all on yourself. we were the ones who told you what you were doing was good. we still love you!! stay strong xx
15 likesProud of you, Dodie <3
0 likesYou're giving yourself such a hard time Dodie, always remember: 1. Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind and 2. You're braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think โค๏ธโค๏ธ
0 likes"Of course I don't want to glorify mental illness. Why would I? It's well shit!" Love you Dodie โค๏ธ
1 likeHey love you loads glad you've learned lessons ๐ you're helping people aswell don't make it so hard on yourself x
0 likesI didn't mind when you shared so much, it felt personal, but I do agree it was very unhealthy for some viewers and even for you. I deal with similar problems, and I'm so sorry you have to go through these things with a huge audience pressuring you to follow their rules and align with their values. Do whatever is best for you, I hope you're feeling well. Love you Dodie xxx
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Hannah Adams ^^^^^ hell yes you got this shit right
3 likesthank you for making this video, it really makes up for some of the confusions and concerns i think a lot of us have had
1 likeI want to hug you so bad. You see, I've always watched your videos, every time you post I'm there. Never have I felt you were oversharing. Some people may feel that way, but overall you haven't in my opinion. I love you, get better, and you will always be my role model and hero. You taught me that having anxiety may be terrible, but used to make gorgeous creations. Just remember sharing is okay to do, and always remember you have all of us supporting you. I love you and have a nice rest of your day. <3 <3
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Dodie, you can do as you please and if that means venting to us then thats ok. We're your audience and we are supposed to support you no matter what. I want you to be better, and if telling us your problems, then so be it.
I'm honestly so impressed with the way you're dealing with this. You listened to people and took a step back to take a look at what you were doing and then made a decision that affects you personally a lot. I admire you for being open about mental illness, it has helped me a lot. And I admire you for understanding you did something that might not have helped most people, and you try to fix it. Just, thank you for being such a good example of a nice person <3
0 likesDodie! You are such a good and wonderful person who takes care of all your fans/followers/friends! Don't feel bad, you haven't done anything illegal or bad! <3
1 likeI love you dodie and I love those posts cause I'm in a similar place and I feel less alone but I am VERY glad that you are figuring yourself out and I hope I can get out of this hole that I am in without your posts
53 likesI'm extremely proud of you for this. It makes me sad seeing you sad because it is probably not normal to admire someone as much as I do you. We all love you and I hope that you will feel as happy as you have made me with all of your videos. Hopefully the therapist will help you, because I want you to get better. It is completely normal for me to see emotions poured out into certain things and I'm glad that you feel comfortable in sharing some of this with us. I can't say this for some people because I don't know how they feel, but I will always support you. I completely understand why you made those videos and why you're making this one. Once again, I'm extremely proud and I love you, stay strong๐-Kayla
0 likesI have loved your content for a long time due to its truthful nature, and I know that I will continue to love it for a long time. You continue to be a fantastic role model, and I am so proud of how mature and honest you are. I understand that your posts have been a bit dark, but you have taken ownership, and are making an effort to create a positive environment for yourself and others. And that is the most important thing you can do right now. I'm looking forward to veda! Feel betterโบ
0 likesI think it's really great of you to make this video. It's important to realise when you've gone too far and respond to it. This is something to really admire about you. Stay strong and remember that we are all with you xx
0 likesthis made me cry a little. i'm proud of you dodie because i can see how hard you are trying to be better. you made a mistake and it's okay; you learned from it. i love you so much and you've helped me a lot, thank you ๐
0 likesim glad you've learnt this now dodie. i think it's important to note the impressionable audience (sometimes not even younger), just to realise that while you may feel better in the moment, you're actions online affect real people. (reminds me of that film on netflix called to the bone, where the main character drew exclusively about her anorexia and posted it to tumblr, and it caused a girl to die. obviously it is fictional but this kind of stuff does happen) and im in no way saying you are romanticising any mental illness but it can be quite triggering and dangerous for someone who is already in a bad head space. it's ok, we forgive you.
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0 likesthis is an incredible video and honestly i have a lot of respect for you being able to share so much about your mental health and the problems you face, bottling things up isn't helpful either though it's also wonderful that you can find the line of things to share on a public platform like instagram!! everyone makes this journey, not just you, we've all made these kinds of mistakes, you just have so many more eyes on you - which is because you are incredibly talented and you deserve the love you get - but it also means there's a bit more responsibility that people like myself don't have to deal with - i was able to post similar things with less consequences for a while before i also learned about oversharing and how much of myself (the negative side) to put out into the world. you are an inspiration, flaws and all, because everyone is flawed but not everyone has the courage to do what you do. i hope you are looking after yourself, you deserve it, and there will always be people you Can talk to about these things because you have people who love you (and i'm sure you know this). i hope this message makes sense, as someone who has faced similar problems i got a bit emotional!! but, long story short, i support you with my whole heart!!!
0 likesSharing with the internet what you'd share with your little sister is SUCH a good way to think of it, Dodie. x
0 likesUpon reflection just like i said on twitter im just like you. I overshared a rant about work on social media and now im in a lot of trouble for it and could face dismissal. I've still got a week till i find out and im so anxious. It made me truely realise that i need to know when to not pour my thoughts and feelings out on social media because i dont help anyone by doing it and it just leads to bad things happening. I guess you have helped me in a way because previously i was just angry at a certain individual who found it and told and at work but you've made me realise my actions have consequences and if it wasnt there in the first place i wouldnt be in this mess.
3 likesI'm so glad you apologized. You're a very smart, brave and mature woman and I'm so proud of you. You're one of my favorite musicians, and your personality is one of the reasons for that. โก
0 likesDodie, you are an amazing person. We are alike we just want to be loved! Luv u keep making vids!!
33 likesdodie...i love you so so much for this. often times, whenever i read your super in depth posts, it gives me hope that i might be able to pull myself out of whatever i get in. but sometimes, it makes really sad and worried for you :( but i look up to you so much for being able to share things like this. i can't share shit with my friends because it makes me feel so odd and intrusive. i just love you so much and i'm so proud of you and ugkgkgkg. i love you
0 likesI literally just wanted to hug you throughout this whole video. You're so strong and I feel like you're beating yourself up about this when you didn't mean to be triggering. Ily and I'm glad that you have understood that you were slightly over sharing. I hope you feel better
0 likesits okay dodie!! this sort of stuff happens to a lot of us, dont be too hard on yourself! we love you.
0 likesdodie i feel so proud
0 likesyou handled this in such a mature and brave way, you are so strong omg i love you โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
I wasnt sure wether i should say something or not (i try not to talk or share anything online or irl) but i just wanted to give my perspective on this even if it ends up disappearing through the sea of people talking. As someone dealing with dpd and mdd who doesnt talk to anyone about what's happening i aprecciade your videos GREATLY. Whenever i watch your videos it makes me feel a little more connected to people (which i usually feel very far away from) and seeing you talk about what is happening on your daily life makes me feel a little less alone. Whenever i go on snapchat i usually see all of my friends or celebrities going on these great adventures and having the time of their life and i dont think i could feel more disconnected from them than i do; seeing someone talk about the things im usually feeling makes me feel less lonely. Maybe this doesnt make sense but its like im a submarine surrounded by fish and suddenly i see another submarine. You talking about how you feel has helped me SO MUCH it helped me get through a rough patch last year and its helped me get better at talking about how i feel. Ive been in a similar position to yours right now, i used to spill everything i had to some friends online because i cant talk about it in my life, and i realized how much of a negative impact it was on my friends. I ended up isolating myself from everyone and stopped talking entirely to anyone, so if theres anything to take as a lesson from my experience is to try and have a balance. I dont think that talking to us about how it's been inside your head is bad but instead of adressing it right when it happens, tell to us about it afterwards (this doesnt mean we should get a lesson out of it or anything like that, dont feel like you have to justify what youre feeling), after youve evaluated what you feel, why you feel it, and how it is or isnt true.
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1 likeDodie - I love how you've grown and chosen to share it with us. You're such a wonderful person, and you realized there was an issue, and you dealt with it. We love you!
0 likesAlso it's raining and 8:30 so I'm not going outside, but maybe tomorrow... :)
When I read your super intense posts, I personally just feel sad for you. All I want to do is give you a hug. When I was in the depths of my mental health struggle, it made me feel good to see them, because I felt like I wasn't the only one who felt certain ways. Nowadays, I'm doing much better, and they no longer make me feel good. However, I just want to say, I love you infinitely. I found your channel when I was in the darkest place I've ever been.You, your music, your videos, your posts helped me sooooo much. I got out of the black hole through extremely rigorous and painful therapy, but during that time, you were a little beam of light shining through the darkness. When I was in a residential treatment program, completely isolated from my family, my friends, my life, I sat on the carpet with my ukulele and played your songs. I will never be able to repay you for what you've done for me, but if nothing else, I want you to know how much I love you. You're so hard on yourself. The only person you should worry about right now is yourself. Oversharing online wasn't good for you, its great that you realized that. But you don't need to apologize to us for that. If it affected people negatively, they didn't have to watch your videos or look at your Instagram. That was their choice. You didn't force it on them. You can't control other people's actions or reactions. You can only do what's good for you. Once again, I have endless love and gratitude for you. You can get through this. You're doing better every day. Even if you don't feel it, I can see it. Even in this video, you're crying! Crying is so healthy and helpful! That's major improvement! You are going to get through this. You can do this. You will do this. You are so strong and beautiful and talented and intelligent and loving and caring and incredible. Stay strong love. Good luck.
7 likesI'm proud of you for going through this. I will say reading some of the things you have posted have triggered me and I have had to take a break from your account. I appreciate you apologizing. I love you so so so much, and I'm sorry you've had a hard year. Just know we all love and support you.
0 likesi've been through a very similar situation and it sucks. i would tell my friends very graphically about thoughts i was having and what i wanted to do to myself but it caused some of them to become super worried and scared to talk to me. i had to reevaluate and now i have a therapist to tell things too and now my friends seem less wary around me and more like actual FRIENDS and that's because i'm treating them like humans instead of verbal punch bags
0 likesi stand by you dodie, and i love youuuuu and you can get through this :) (also see you in october!)
As much as this video is sad it is also ironic. I was at a panel at vidcon about making a positive change through social media. You happened to be in it, and somebody asked you "when should i stop sharing and draw the line" and you replied "please let me know" jokingly but i could tell it hurt. I dont know if you remembered but i was the little potato crying my eyes out in the front row. Im just glad you figured out your boundaries and you can learn something from this. โค๏ธโค๏ธ
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I don't mean to be annoying but please like this for dodes to see, i think its important. โค๏ธ
48 likesMVK Is OK I have liked this comment I think its really lovely and a good message for Dodie Well done you busicuit and to Dodie no matter what We Will Always Love Youโคโค
12 likeslollie lucille i think being called a biscuit is the greatest compliment i have ever received
8 likesfemme gaygirl ahh my heart is so warm
2 likesThis is the sweetest comment I've seen in a while <3
3 likesI do remember!! Lol potato. You made me cry too <3
79 likesdoddleoddle omg you have no idea how much that means to me...not the crying part but the remember part. Also i am so proud of you for handling this situation so well โค๏ธ
21 likesMVK Is OK I call everyone who i belive is a nice person a buscuit so you are one!
2 likesI'm glad to hear you will try to handle things without relying in social media that much. You can always put your heart out in music in a subtler way ;) Either making your own awesome music or just letting other's music lift you up! <3
0 likesdodie i have always admired your sense of grace when addressing mental illness but in this video you mentioned about people who have said they have held back from looking at your social media platforms, i have been one of them. I have no intentions on calling you out here or making you feel like you have done anything wrong but as you said it was all very heavy. People look to your channels to hear your music and see your vlogs about happy days, i know i do. mental health should not be the taboo subject it still kind of is but i totally agree there are lines where oversharing has occured and said lines been crossed. keep your chin up dodie. keep us posted on how your brain feels just please post more of what makes you the amazing human being you are today and not what brings you down. much love to you dodie. you really are an inspiration to many. ๐
0 likesProud of you, Dodie!!! <3
0 likesDodie, listen to me, it breaks my heart that you have to apologize with tears in your eyes for posting about your struggles. I'm a viewer. I love your posts. Your pictures on instragram with those long captions are my favourite. Your videos about mental health are also so precious to me that I know them word by word. You help me so much. I love you so much. You make me feel less alone and I always want to hug you and tell you that I understand. I've been a viewer for a long time. Often times I wish I could send you videos to share with you my stories and my struggles so that I can help you feel less alone, the way you always do for me. You're wonderful. You're brave. I'm crying rn. I love you.
1 likeDear Dodie,
28 likesI'm 12 (13 next week woooooo) and I absolutely love your channel and social media, however, I did find it difficult to watch and/ or read your recent ones as they were quite graphic and triggering for me personally. I want you to know that we're all behind you in this and you are never alone. In no way should you pretend to plaster on a smile when you're at your worst, that'd be so damaging for you, but I hope you can find somewhere to vent your feelings that isn't in front of the masses. I am so so so incredibly proud of you ^_^
Thanks for being such a wonderful human being Dodie! ๐๐๐
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i agree with you here :)
2 likesStay strong Dodie๐ญโค๏ธWe all love you
0 likesFor me, it was hugely helpful in my own journey when you shared your video about what mental illnesses you deal with and how you were seeking treatment for them. But I have also stopped watching your snap stories and reading Insta captions. I think figuring out a healthy balance is a great goal and I'm looking forward to veda!Thanks for sharing, Dodie!
0 likesDodie, we all love you and you are special to me. You are my idol โค๏ธ
0 likesHi dodie! I hope everything turns out okay for you because you deserve the best, you are such a strong and inspirational person. Make sure you're talking to your friends and not isolating yourself โค๏ธ
0 likesI think I speak for a large majority of your audience when I say "We love you." We never want you to feel restricted or feel like you have to censor yourself when you post something on Youtube, Instagram, Snapchat etc. On those days when you may feel at your worst or in an unhealthy state, I think we want you to vent in the best way that you think possible. Whether that be journaling, talking with a friend, or even shooting a video just to talk to the camera and never even posting the video. Your life is your life, and I don't think anyone wants to tell you how to run your channel, social medias, or your life. I believe the reason we've been pointing out your tendency to share your feelings on your bad days is because we don't want you to feel like you owe us a video about how you are. Dodie, we love you and care about you. As your friends on the other side of the camera, we want you to do what is best for you and not feel like you owe us in any way. Just like a friend. Do what is best for you. โค๏ธ
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I don't think it could have been put any better.
0 likesHey Dodie... I normally don't post comments but I wanted to tell you, you have helped me through so much retaliating to my own personal mental state, and my self image when it comes to my sexuality. If sharing your "graphic" details is an outlet that helps you, do it!
1 likeI'm sorry we turned your outlet into an unsafe place for you. You do you boo
im so so so proud of your reaction to the responses on this subject. it was a very mature response and i highly respect you for it. thank you for addressing this issue in the manner that you did, especially because i did not realize what effect i was having until these videos.
0 likesApology accepted. I'm so glad you addressed this, and I'm glad you're working on it. The thing I've always admired about you/your channel is your honesty, which I still think is a vital part of why your channel is so great: I never feel like you're lying to your audience. I do think, though, that there's a BIG difference between lying and not-saying-everything-you-feel-right-that-second. (Kinda like when people say "i hate your dress" and then "what I was just being honest"...) - anyway, that wasn't originally my point at all. My point is, I hope (and I believe) you'll find a way to balance honesty with caution - both for your viewers' and your own sake. And I think you've taken the first and second step towards doing that already<3
0 likesGod, I love you so much. You know your audience, maybe mostly the older portion of your audience (I'm 19, anyone else?), is supportive of you and want to be here. Of course I can see where you bring professionalism into the mix. Please don't be afraid to tell us what's on your mind, we still care and want to make sure you're okay. But just know you're not just a burden or pain, for me personally I found comfort in a lot of your posts because I feel the exact same way, and until I found your channel I hadn't known anyone else to feel these ways. I didn't know how to put depersonalization into words, I didn't know what it meant about me personally when I looked back on my past more than I was looking at myself in the moment. Thank you for sharing your discomfort over this as well, I'm just letting you know that you mean the world to me, and you've helped me break a lot of ground in discovering what's going on in my brain, and I can never thank you enough for that. Bless you, Dodie๐๐๐
0 likesThe types of videos that you are referring to are the types that I have never seen on youtube. I had never seen anyone go so in depth about depersonalization, and for me personally it felt very validating and important as someone who experiences similar symptoms but doesn't hear them getting talked about- online or offline. It is worth mentioning that at this point I had a long journey with mental health behind me already and was no longer a teenager. I think the videos you made were important but I understand your decision and your thoughts since I had to go through a very similar process with my friends. I hope you will not feel guilty and that you will be able to navigate these boundaries with ease in the future. Never stop talking about what is important to you! <3
27 likesvery proud that you acknowledged a problem and so maturely handled it. i'm looking forward to veda! love you dodes!!โค
0 likeslove you dodie.
0 likesyou are a lovely soul. keep moving on to find peace and joy. never give up.
your work is valuable and important.
This is very wise, brave, and admirable of you, Dodie. Yeah, It's so important to learn the balance between vulnerability and guarding your heart, and when you find that I believe the way you express your experiences will honor yourself and your audience :) Godspeed
0 likesI have watched you since 2014 and think you're wonderful, but it's made me so sad to see how you've been dealing with your mental health lately and I'm so happy you seem to have had a wake up call. Obviously I don't know you at all - none of us do - so it's not really our position to say, but I'm so pleased you've taken this all on board :) Thank you Dodie for realising it's unhealthy and we are all rooting for you โค
0 likesDodie, you're an amazing person. Please don't feel bad because everyone has our own problems and people have different ways to deal with it. We understand that you aren't in a good mental state and we are all supportive of you no matter what you're going through. We love you so so much and you inspire all of us because you are able to realize if you make a mistake and apologize without coming up with some stupid excuse as to why you did something. We love you, please stay strong <3
11 likesDodie, your videos are very therapeutic for me. When you talk about mental health and vent on your low days it truly does put me at ease. It's somehow like I have someone explaining it for me and I don't have to. Thank you for that. I hope you continue with at least that. I love you <3
0 likesdodie we love you so so much. it's okay to make mistakes, everyone does it and it helps you grow. your vulnerability has, in some ways made me feel less alone, but i do agree that it has been far overdone and i am happy to see the future where i can enjoy your posts without feeling the emotions you're expressing. i love you lots and hope that you aren't blaming yourself.
0 likesDon't be embarrassed!! You're human. Your art is human, your vlogs are human. I'm new to you, but I love your level of accessibility as an artist and as a person. Censor yourself for YOU not for anyone else; pour it into your art. X
0 likesAhh sweetness I'm so proud of you for making this decision and in my mind I will never link horrible mental illnesses with you because whenever I have a panic attack I listen to your songs and they remind me of all the wonder and beauty in this world that isn't always beautiful xxxx
0 likesi am someone who has suffered from depersonalisation for the past 6 years however i didn't know there was an actual medical term for it until your posts brought it to my attention, and for that i can only thank you that you helped me realise that it was a genuine problem which should be talked about to a professional. as graphic as your posts could be they did give me a form of comfort in knowing i wasn't the only person who felt that way (i had doctors tell me they weren't familiar with dissociative disorders and couldn't help me) so by speaking up about mental health, you made my problems seem valid at a point which i would've usually given up. thank you โค๏ธ don't be too hard on yourself dodie, we're all human x
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rosie ellen i've had the symptoms for depersonalisation for around 6 months now and now i know that i'm not crazy anymore. i don't know if i have it but i definitely feel so disconnected and not here, and it makes me so delightful that i'm not facing this delirious world alone
1 likeI'm so proud of Dodie for this and i really wanted to give a a hug in thisssssss
0 likesI don't know why but when she started listing all the things for us 'to do' after we've watched the video, I cried. Not because she said anything wrong, this video was so genuine and sweet. I don't even really know what's going on in my head at the moment, and all I could think whilst listening was 'I remember when I used to go outside' or 'when I used to make tea'. Stupid little things that used to make me happy.
1 likeDodie, thank you. I personally appreciate it so much. Thank you for apologizing, it's hard for everyone to apologize, even people who aren't put in a pedestal by so many. I think that holding back is very admirable. There is nothing wrong with being emotional, everyone is by some degree. Glorifying mental health isn't healthy for anyone, and I think that a bit of madness is not key, you do not need to be mentally ill to create art, nor is you art better or deeper if you are mentally ill. Oversharing might sound fine when not phrased in that way to your mind, and I think you know this, that it's a trap and that once you start you can't stop. You feel like you are giving your audience the "real you" and I understand. The "real you" is more that your lowest low. The real you is all of you lows, but also all of your highs and when you are stable, and well. I don't want this to feel like an attack or like me just pointing out what you did was wrong. I think that not sharing everything is okay and I don't think that it is being closed off. It's not hiding things away from your audience. A lot of your audience can feel powerless it those situations, and something's are more productive if you wait a while to sort them out yourself, and then share them. That's not hiding, that's healthy. For everyone. I think that you already know this. All in all I just wanted to say thank you for taking a step back and reviewing and changing some things about how you talk about your journey. It means a lot. Thank you.
0 likesThis ๐๐ป shows ๐๐ป growth ๐๐ป well done dodie bean, proud of u gal x
0 likesThis is a really mature, impressive approach to a really painful, personal topic. I think if I had thousands of people telling me what I was doing wasn't good, I'd spiral and say "** this, I'm out". I'm proud of you, you're on a really grueling journey which a lot of us are going through too, and we'll get there. Keep positive and creating awesome stuff.
112 likesAll I really want to say is that it's okay and I understand. Speaking from my own experiences I can tell social media definitelyis a way to scream out everything you feel. In some way, it's therapy. My twitter account from ages 14 to 18 is full of ranting about mental health problems and I've posted similar things as Dodie and it really has helped me move on - except I have now changed twitter for a therapist. Getting yourself into therapy is harder than it seems. It requires a specific state of mind and there's a long road to follow before you actually reach that state of mind. It's really not as simple as some people argue when they say 'just get yourself a therapist'. The road is hard, and only the person on that road can decide what it good for them and what they need to do and say before they reach the actual therapy part of the road. I don't think you've made a mistake Dodie, I really don't. You did what you feel like you needed to do and that's exactly right. The only difference between me and you is that you have an audience and I don't, and people with an audience are expected to maintain certain responsibilities towards said audience. But your road towards healing is your road, not your audience's. And honestly, how many of us are doing the exact same thing as you but without the pressure of an audience watching? I think opening the discussion about oversharing may have helped you get along the path you need to take to get your mind set on therapy. I think you've reached a long way down the road, and i wish you all the best <3
0 likesProud of you my friend, such good thoughts and such a heartfelt apology. I really admire you for it
0 likesThat was a really amazong video Dodie - thank you. You did well <3 ("you're a good egg") good thing this whole discussion started, even if now you're hurting, the comments struck you to change something. And change is good - change will help. Xxx
0 likessooooooooo much respect for you dodes - this video was so nice to watch, i feel so proud of you!!!! well done you special lady <333 looking forward to your future videos - keep fighting my dear xx
0 likesself censoring is hard but when you are ill then its a choice between oversharing or not at all. I lock up. My close friends get cross with me for not sharing either external or internal problems. I think if I don't say the problems they won't exist this is as unhealthy as 'over sharing' (or at least on the wrong platform). Though I found your vlogs, instagrams helpful if worrying (for you and your health) . Social media is really a powerless blank wall that also makes a lot of noise. I really hope the therapist works out and makes me think I should try to find one.
46 likesI love you, Dodie. We will all be here for you. You messed up and that's okay. Everyone does it and that is okay. You are an amazing person and I wish you the best in everything going on in your life. Sending you lots of hugs and love and wishes from Mexico City. Always here for you. xoxo
0 likesThank you for this @dodie, @doddlevloggle . All praise the youtube algorithm, bringing relevant videos to people. I really needed this reminder to respect peoples boundaries and to respect myself and my own boundaries. I also do a few types of oversharing and I find it difficult to balance that and raising awareness around mental illness and just calling for help, really. They all flow into each other and mix, making a massive stinky stew instead of meals for different occasions. Itยดs like when my bed becomes an all-purpose area for living, eating, communicating, surfing the internet, doing my homework, banking, tossing around with insomnia and so on. I get mixed up, so people get mixed messages and develope mixed feelings towards me. Iยดm also getting help. Iยดve started compartmentalizing more often and getting more order. Iยดm almost fine. Iยดm getting there. Iยดm stabilizing. I hope the message in this video can help others as I feel like it has done for me. I hope readers can get something positive from my wall of text. Best of luck.
0 likesI would personally like to thank you for talking about your mental illness because you have helped me with my mental health and you have made me the person i am today. Not someone who wants to sit and cry when i'm low, someone that cares for myself and treats myself when i'm low. So thank you for being there and i love you. <3
1 likeI love you and it's so kind of you to think of everyone you're doing so amazingly mental illness sucks I hope with all my heaaaart that new therapist is a good egg I love you dodie good luckkkkkk
0 likesDodie, it's okay, it's just okay... you are growing and learning, the fact that you realized what is okay and not okay to share with us, is so amazing. We are here for you and we love you.
0 likesDodie you are amazing young woman. It takes guts to do what you do every day. Despite what you have to go through every day, you still have the strength to make your videos and share with us your life. You're so beautiful, keep doing what you're doing. I LOVE your accent. I could listen to you talk all day even if it's just about coffee or something simple lol. Have a great day.
1 likeSo proud of you, Dodie. xx
0 likesI was going through a lot of mental trouble during the time I saw some of you're Instagram posts. It scared me how similar you're thoughts were to mine but I can't tell u how relieving it is to final be better and literally at the same time you seem to be getting better. I took a break from your videos. I couldn't watch them but I am so much better now! You're inspiring because u overcame it and don't be ashamed that u wear your ๐!
0 likesI don't think i've ever looked up to someone and admired someone as much as you. you're so fucking strong. even if you don't see it you are! you're so brave to be sharing anything about this in the first place. i personally haven't been negatively effected by your over sharing but i do see how others could. you're so incredibly amazing dodie. please take a break and do whatever you need to feel better. you're so strong <3
30 likesYou reached out, apologised, and learned, and that's what you do when something like that happens. Thank you
0 likesdodie darling i love you and will always support you, personally you have helped me so much and those people didn't have to be involved in all of that, if it helps you, good. though i wholeheartedly agree with your video here, i hope it doesn't end with you back peddling and getting worse... love you loads and wish you the best in this endeavor โค
0 likesI'm so proud of you for that. For putting up the first video in the first place and for reading the comments and actual listening and reflecting. I'm glad it'll be no longer #nofilter, because it was really difficult. I'm not someone who's online often, but it would affect me when I was and it made me feel so sorry and we just want you to be better, Dodie. We really do. But it wasn't healthy how you dealt with it and I'm glad that you see that. Also that you admitted it to yourself. I'm so proud and I really hope it gets better.
0 likesI still hope to get the updates and videos about this stuff, because I've always loved them. But please, not these raw and unfiltered thoughts and feelings. You're very well-spoken, Dodie and I really like when you talk about everything after reflecting. How you talk about it how it felt and what helped you and just - thank you.
I haven't read the other comments yet, but I'm proud of you (which is probably weird because you don't even know me and I only know so much about you) and also thank you for always wanting to improve as a person. That's a great quality. You gonna fight that depression! :)
im so proud of u dodie. no matter what <3
0 likesAs someone studying counselling and training to look after people and their mental health I actually love reading your posts and learning about what's happening in your mind. Do what makes you happy love โค
10 likesI'm honestly so glad that you talk about everything you go through, because I deal with depersonalization as well. I'm also so proud of you for being able to step away and figure out how to make the most informative and helpful content out of the painful parts of life. I will say that I had to stop watching some of your snaps when I felt bad because of some triggering stuff, but it doesn't stop the part of me that still loves you and sees you as a role model for talking to people about how you feel. You're such a wonderful person, even if you might have messed up a bit. Thank you for sharing the fact that you don't feel as good as most others present
0 likesi love you so much - talking about how you feel helps me because i feel like i'm not alone โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
0 likesI'm very proud of you dodie. We all love you so much. You are so strong, and you inspire me more than you can imagine. I talked to you once on the phone and you told me to keep writing and to not doubt myself. Keep fighting
0 likesthis was so mature of you. admitting that your actions have not been good for everyone takes a lot and i love that you are going to adjust your behaviour now. makes you very likable <3
0 likesDodie, this video was so mature and honestly I feel like a proud mum. It takes guts to stand up and apologise, and the fact that you just swallowed your pride and didn't try to justify your mistakes is kind of admirable. Lots of love โค
474 likesYou're so mature and an amazing person xx
0 likesvery smart to treat your audience like your little sister. you are learning and growing. I love hearing about your road to recovery and I hope you will continue to share it in an appropriate manner. โค๏ธ
0 likesyou're very brave for admitting to something that is very hard to face... you are still an incredible artist and kind human. keep up the great work!
0 likesIt's ok to hurt, because it makes the little things in a few weeks time; feel so much more memorable, so much more meaningful.- chin up Dodie sadness isn't forever, there is always a silver liningโบ๏ธ
0 likesThank you so much for everything Dodie, you have helped my self esteem and confidence so much, I can't thank you enough โค
12 likesDodie! I love you and your videos and posts! I think it is so mature of you to be thinking of your younger audience in this way! I'm also very happy that you are trying a new therapist, all of us (your audience) wants you to get better!
0 likesI love you :) I've recently had this same realization on a smaller scale. When I'm feeling unhappy I get my phone and I ramble to my boyfriend and I end up blowing up on him for no reason, making him feel like he's a terrible person and that he's somehow doing things wrong because I'm unhappy and he didn't fix it for me. The most recent time this has happened, I realized I need to keep my rants to myself. I can write in a journal or talk out loud to myself in the car, but I shouldn't "vocalize" these rambling anxious and depressed thoughts, especially over text which doesn't give him the chance to respond to me.
0 likesI'm so happy for you that you've figured this out, and that you have this wonderful outlet, when used correctly. Best wishes <3
Honestly Dodie I love that you share your problems and your thoughts. It can help people realise they're not the only ones with the problems that you have. It can also help people understand what mental illnesses is really like and not just an airbrushed lovely nicer version of what it actually is. I love reading your posts I fund them so realistic and truthful and not this fake fluff people make up. Some people may disagree with me but even though I don't mind your posts I support your decisions on the future of your social media posts etc. Stay strong Dodie ๐๐
0 likesHey Dodie.
0 likesI just wanted to say that learning is a part of life, as I'm sure you know. I wanted to say that I am glad and proud of you for learning from this. From taking the best from the situation. I can only imagine how difficult it must be to be dealing with mental illness while you also have such a large audience.
Yeah, I'm just really proud of you. And I forgive you, Dodie. I don't know if that means anything, it probably doesn't. But I just wanted you to know that.
I really needed this right now. I had a huge emotional breakdown and almost took my own life if my friend hadn't found me and forced me to go to the hospital. Im trying to get better and go day by day and dodie I look up to you becuase you're also struggling and showing that you're not perfect and you make mistakes but you re trying and sharing and thank you for that.
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suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Always keep that in mind. You could miss out years of joy, love and beauty in a fickle moment so persevere and live life to the fullest. It's the only one you've got.
1 likeAnother one of the reasons I love Dodie.
0 likesShe always apologises for her mistakes, and learns from them.
You show how vulnerable and human you are. Itโs great to see such a genuine apology.
Love you โจ
Dodie it will be alright, it'll be okay.. just remember we're here for you. we're glad you apologized, but we don't want you to be so upset of course. just remember that we are here for you, if you need breaks we understand, if you need help ask your friends, it'll be okay
0 likesYou're honestly such an inspiration Dodie. If this has become something hurtful to you, than I'm glad you are trying to change. But still, I'm glad you are willing to share at all. Love you.
0 likesI wish I could say something super helpful that would get your attention, dodie, but honestly as a girl who suffers from mental illness myself all I can say is how proud I am of you and how well your handling all this despite what you may think. You are so inspirational in the way that you are not just giving advice but growing with us and taking advice from us and friends. It makes it seem like I'm talking privately to a friend, and I like the intimacy of that. Again, I'm so proud of you! โค๏ธ
0 likesFrom my perspective you don't need to be sorry!! I love you so much! you've made me feel so much better!!... Now maybe some people did need this apology but most people I know wouldn't have been able to do what you have done!! And I am very proud of you.. now your sad posts honestly give me so much comfort because they make me feel like I'm not alone, but maybe to some other people it makes them feel worse.. but I am very proud of you dodie and I love you so much!!!!!!!
0 likesAs a reference: I am a 61 year old man and have been dealing with depression for the last 50 years. I don't follow you Dodie on any other source so I have no knowledge of the posts you mentioned. I do see that you are learning to set limits on the facets of your life that you show to the public and I learned to start doing that at about your age so I don't think anything is too far off of what could be considered normal. You are finding your way in the world and often showing others younger than yourself the path you see before you. That is how we all grow as individuals. Those that do not learn from others are bound to make their own copies of the same mistakes. Young folks that tune in too tightly to others have created other problems for themselves and that has always been the case. Watching you grow will help others to find their own path in their world. There will always be followers of you as well as others that lead you and most will find themselves on their own paths right along side of you. From my perspective you are doing fine and I look forward to watching you become someone I will be proud to know of 30 years from now. <3
0 likesi love you so much dodie,, i look up to you so much. you're so wonderful, humors, and beautiful. i hope everything in your life will clear up soon and start feeling perfect. you're such an amazing human being and you deserve to be happy as can be๐๐ป
0 likesthis was a really brave, strong and self-aware thing to do. be kind to yourself. youยดre doing well
0 likesAww dodie, we love you to death and we understand you wanting to share these kinds of things online. We know that it helps you sometimes, and more importantly we know that sometimes you need to step back. Love ya dodes ๐๐๐
37 likesyou are so strong. thank you for doing your best
0 likes(edit) Thank you for realizing you are influencing so many people, and thank you for being responsible about it. you are growing from the experience and that is wonderful.
I think you've handled the topic of oversharing so well. These two videos were so helpful to me in understanding your posts and why I've grown to be put off by them. Thank you for acknowledging all of this. I really really respect you as an artist and as a human. โค๏ธ
0 likesIt's okay Dodie! We love you!
0 likesbless you, you are so strong i love you dodie <3
3 likesSeeing you well up a bit hurt me so much that I started crying???
168 likeswe obviously all forgive you because you've acknowledged your mistakes and have apologized for them. don't be embarrassed, it's life. We make mistakes. I hope you feel a little better soon. Good luck dodie xxx
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Zaina Soliman WOAH HI ZAINA
1 likesimplyellie AHHHH THIS IS WEIRD HI
0 likesfound out about your vids yesterday cuz my depression came back.
0 likesHelped loads btw!! Just moved out and was feeling overwhelmed. Ur vids are so helpful, expressing in words what I can't express I strive to be that articulate some day haha
I'm so proud of you dodie
0 likesMana, watching these videos has helped me to understand and being able to go throughout depression myself... I also leaving in London and really, I understand that some people think I also overshare about depression ๐ฅ๐ค
0 likesYou are the most amazing, adorable, great, loving and brilliant person EVER!!
0 likesDodie, we will always be here for you, you share what you want, to see you cry makes my heart break because I love you so much to see you cry. Just to let you know, we will always be here for you no matter what happens. I hope you are very happy very soon โค๏ธ๐
10 likesFeel hugged about a thousand times. This is such a good and mature video! I wish I could do anything to help you. It hurts, seeing you feel so bad and I just want to comfort you. :( I hope so much that taking a step back will help you. <3
0 likesPersonally, your openness really helped me, but I can see how it could be triggering to watch some things you post. Both your ability to be open online and your apology take strength to do, so good for you!
1 likeYou know funny enough, I like to be depressed by your videos. It keeps my head levelled. As somebody who is overly positive I sometimes just lay down in bed, watch your videos and songs and try to cry (which I weirdly enough haven't really achieved so far but I'm trying). I'm so optimistic that sometimes I really am not in touch with myself and you help me look at the things I'm not happy about or insecure about which I normally just throw away as whatever I don't care sappy bullshit. I'm not saying you should continue overdharing because it is indeed quite unhealthy for impressionable people but I just wanted to tell you it wasn't all bad. Just a positive message from a positive guy to get your head up :)
0 likesI'm honestly so proud of you for this. I used to have you on snapchat, but after looking at these dark moments you would have, I just had to take a step back and breathe because it was very overwhelming to me. I'm so proud that you're addressing this issue that some of your viewers have with this "oversharing" and that you know and are willing to improve and get help from a professional! I think your idea of recording those moments privately or writing them into a journal are more healthy ways (as well as a therapist of course) instead of posting those graphic moments online, where young and impressionable (or really any of your viewers young or older) viewers may get influenced or triggered. You have been such an inspiration to me and I love how you openly address this problem and want to understand and find ways to help not only yourself, but also your viewers. You are so strong and beautiful, I wish you the absolute best, Dodie. xo
0 likeswe love you no matter what you do dodie :) โค๏ธ
48 likesthis is so brave of you, and I understand what others were saying. Meanwhile, I often liked reading your posts because it made me realize that I'm not the only one feeling what I'm feeling, and the way you write is very nice. I hope you aren't too hard on yourself about this! You are fab
0 likesIm so proud that you can come to a decision, and that decision is healthy for everyone. It's so important to talk about this to your audience because we care about you and we want to know what's happening and how we can help. I think you are extremely strong for being able to talk about this. I love you โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
0 likeslove you dodie, it'll all be okay and lots of people go through mistakes like this.
0 likesMature, thoughtful and strong, a credit to yourself and viewers x
0 likesI'm really happy you recognize this mistake (and apologize) (although you didn't have to) (we truly understand). Try not to blame yourself or overthink the situation.
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I love you a lot, and i wish you the best <3
11 likesDodieeee OH MY GOD YOU'RE SO CUTE. I cried with you because when I saw you started crying it just HURT MY HEART (in a good way I love you). I hope you feel better and that you follow your friends' advice. So yeah! Much love x
0 likesโless pressure to look around meโ really illustrates why I shut the world out
4 likesOh dodie you're a wonderful person and I really like you and your videos and it was great that you felt like you could trust us enough to share all that information and I know you will feel better soon and life will finally be ok.๐
0 likesThank you very much for making this video. I think it's a very healthy video and I'm really glad that you're doing things that will not only help and protect you but also help and protect us! I personally appreciate the apology, yet also didn't want you to make it. Yes, you over-shared but that was something that you needed to do and it helped you get to a better place in the end. So please take a second and be proud of the fact that you know better now, but also be proud of the fact that you did something you needed and got to a better place in the end. I'm sending all sorts of love your way and I can't wait to see what's next on your journey!๐
0 likesI don't normally comment on videos, but I feel compelled to do so today.
11 likesIt's feels so strange to feel so. much. pride for someone who you've never met! Watching your videos and watching you grow as a person has been an absolute privilege, and I think I can speak on behalf of most of us when I say thank you for including us on your journey. It's so inspiring to see someone act human and have emotions and to open up about their success and mistakes. So many people don't think about the consequences of their actions, but the fact that you have taken a step back, analysed it all, and come to a comfortable conclusion is just a testament to your strength and character.
Don't beat yourself up too much as this has been a learning curve for everyone (viewers included). You deserve peace and happiness, and I sincerely hope you truly find it.
going to keep this short as you're probably going to see the same sentiments a thousand times: this is exactly the kind of process you need to go through to heal. you're so lucky to have friends who are being honest and gentle about your oversharing and helping you to see that there are more healthy ways to address your mental health. i know it's hard to see a million critical comments about the worst part of yourself but 1. you put those parts on full display and that is just the consequence of that and 2. most of those criticisms are coming from people who truly care about you and your well being and probably have a hundred compliments for every critical thing. stay strong and disconnect from it if it becomes too much. this community loves you and wants you to heal and succeed.
0 likesMan dodie, you've opened my mind. I really, really REALLY loved your mental health posts recently. You saying in this video how your posts could potentially be harmful, has really shown me something. I know that for a pretty long time recently, I've been extremely self destructive. Ive been searching for things online that could trigger me and make me feel even worse, and send me down. It makes me feel better, in a way. Anyway, your posts happened to come along and give me a similar release that the other triggering stuff is fine online, but I didn't realize that it was also doing that, I don't think, and you pointing out that it was hurtful to me, is helpful. You saying that posting those potentially unhealthy things could be bad for people, and that you need to stop, is clearing my mind a bit, maybe. I think my mind is taking what you're saying, and telling me "hey brynn, YOU need to stop hurting yourself like this. You need to stop looking for triggers." And now I'm not saying I'm going to stop, but you've definitely helped by saying that it needs to have a bit of boundaries, so thank you for pointing that out to me (I bet 90% of this made no sense lol woops)
0 likesI'm pleased that you've worked this out into something that will hopefully work for you, without the bad things that were coming along with sharing before. I do think you're under a bit more pressure than most people to monitor your online sharing because you have to maintain a certain level of professionalism - it's like the internet is your workplace as well as your social place. And that has to be tough, so well done on handling it!
0 likesI know some people think it's too dark, but honestly, I've needed your openness. I really have become aware that I'm not alone in my feelings. I just recently was diagnosed with depression, I started anti-depressants this summer, and your posts and things have made me feel so.. open. I think you need to do what's best for you, but do know that your posts have helped someone. They at least helped me.
1 likeWe love you Dodie for you. We support you for everything. Don't feel embarrassed just because of your mental health.
27 likesHonestly, it makes me feel less alone when you share your struggles. I kind of hate that you have to apologize for sharing how you feel.
0 likesyou are so strong and wonderful. thank you for owning up to your mistakes like an adult and approaching this so calmly and respectfully. :):)
0 likesliterally ur my favorite human and you make me feel not alone. just know that we all love u.โค๏ธ
0 likesohmygod your voice is so calmingggg
0 likesI'm literally feeling much better just because of your voice. ๐โจ๐๐
Making a mistake and being able to admit to it and apologize is one of the hardest things to learn how to do, and you are amazing for being able to do it. keep on keeping on ๐
7 likesthis is so sweet <33
0 likesit's hard. it's very, very very very hard to apologize,, admit that u
are wrong. Dodie did just that, and i'm very proud of her <3
Proud of you, Dodie. We're all still in pretty uncharted waters when it comes to social media. Figuring out where to draw the line so that both you and your audience is staying or aiming toward healthy was always going to take some trial and error. Mistakes mean growing, and apologizing like this shows a real level of maturity & respect for your audience <3
0 likesDodie, all your posts helped me with all my mental problems. You're being so damn hard on yourself, we all love you and i really care about your mental health. You have never triggered me and i get triggered really easy so please calm down and just do what feels good and i love you too <3
0 likesDear Dodie:
0 likesI've been watching your videos for a year and a half by now, i know that it's not much but i've found something nice in here. I'm a very very dramatic and emotional person, i've a very severe anxiety and i'm a person who dosen't stick to things a lot. But i've sticked to you. Maybe you won't read this but i hope that you know that i'm thankful for your person and for the beautiful community you have created. You are responsable of me finding a safe place on the internet, you are responsable of me not feeling alone. Yes sometimes, your snapchats can be triggering, but at the same time that i'm learning to be a lisenter and sit down and retain my self for a sad video when i'm sad, i guess you're learning to be on the other side, i guess you never stop learning about anything. Don't be too hard on yourself, i forgive you, i honestly forgive you and i can feel your good intentions. Thank you Dodie for helping me to understand my own feelings, thank you to help me to not feel alone, thank you for your music, and most important thank you for having flaws, and showing them, and for learning from them and showing me (a very perfectionist person) that having flaws it's okay, and it's human, thank you for being so human Dodie.
You are a wonderful person Dodie! You help me, through your music of cause but you still help me.
0 likesI feel kind of bad now myself, I've been posting every once in a while on my instagram about my mental health. when i'm really upset- whether that be sad or angry- i post on my instagram about everything im feeling. i (just like you said) am numb to what other people might feel reading everything I'm going through. I feel like even though you've never even liked any of my posts or anything, you've helped me learn a valuable lesson and it's almost like we're learning together how to deal with these kinds of things. even though i'm putting these things out to a smaller audience, i'm still putting it out there without thinking who i might be affecting. love ya, dodes, we all do.
0 likesIt seems like every time I'm having trouble with something, you're there showing me how I'm not alone. I've also had trouble with over sharing but on a more private level and I'm pretty sure I almost fucked up my relationship. So thank you for this clarity.
0 likesDodie you are making me cry right now! i am weeping(the same way i did when i watched la la land). i love that you are standing up and are strong enough to cut ties with the connection of your mental health and social media. this video has been an amazing new version of you opening up to us in your own way. from the bottom of my heart i love you, and though you have never met me i hope that in any way, shape, or form that you love me as well.(WOW that was cheesy... yet true). please continue being yourself and i think i speak for all us true supporters that as long as you are making content we will be watching it. thank you for all that you have done to help me and many others through our very own troubling times. never give up!
0 likesMallory Blair
dodie is strong
562 likesdodie can do this
dodie can get through this
we love you dodie
we love you
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2 likessmol urie ๐๐๐๐๐
0 likesYES ๐
0 likessmol urie we love you Dodie ๐
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0 likesyou're incredible Dodie. we all only want to see you do well
0 likesThere's a bunch I want to say to you but I'm just going to keep it short and say IM SO DAMN PROUD OF YOU!
0 likesI love you Dodie! Forever my favorite Youtuber๐
0 likesRegardless of anything you could have done wrong, you are still my biggest inspiration Dodie
0 likesI love you so much dodie. Thank you for spreading so much awareness
17 likesThankyou for being so mature and humble and honest and willing to realize that some things need to change, you addressed this perfectly
0 likesWe all make mistakes and you have apologised and handled this so well
Love you dodes
We all adore you Dodie. And I love how mature this was and how geniunely sorry you are, I know me personally I always loved how open you were about things cause it was bringing to light things that most people ignore and dont talk about. Mental illness is always a touchy subject and rightfully so. But for me who has pretty bad anxiety your posts als
0 likesWays made me feel not so alone and be like hey is Dodie can do this and can get thru all this, so can i.
Awww Dodie, I completely understand everything you're saying, and I think what you just said was actually something important for me to hear because I've started doing the same thing. I don't want people to think of my anxiety when they think of me. I think I glorify it and that's not good, and I have young kids who follow my art accounts on Instagram as well. ๐Love you and we'll all make it through this.
0 likesDodie, you beautiful, gorgeous, emotional, powerful creature. First is first, you are truly an inspiration and love in my life - in all our lives.
0 likesYour comment about journalling vs. video posting, was very very important. You were not glorifying mental illness. You were doing what you could in your state, which was all you could. I am so proud of what you have done and achieved in your lifetime - mental, emotional, physical, and in your musical success. What I recommend is making your own video journal - so you still have that feeling of talking to the camera, but not to the audience, and if wanted, share with your 1+1 counselor. I too deal with Depression (GAD too), and I have found that meditation, group and 1+1 therapy have really been good for me. I wish you great luck on your lovely journey on this beautiful earth, and I love you very much. I believe in you, Dodie. You are strong. And beautiful. And unique. Don't give up. We're all here for you. โค
Dodie please keep sharing because it makes me feel not alone. It also gives me another perspective of mental health and how you are feeling. X
0 likesHEY DODES. It's totally okay to share your feelings online, that's practically what online is for!! but it's also really admirable and responsible of you to realize that you have a lot of young impressionable viewers who might follow in your footsteps of negative thoughts. PROUD OF U. i'm 25 now and i had to learn a lot about what was too much to post online when i was your age too, and I feel a happy medium now! you're awesome. you're doing really good things.
0 likesI love you so much Dodie. We all do. We will keep supporting you and loving you despite your flaws and mistakes. Keep fighting. โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
0 likesI have no idea why I've typed this
1 likeDodie, you have shown me so many sides of mental health that help me understand myself and my friends. I have felt so low and so down, at such a young age, that I felt isolated from everyone. I felt like I was trapped, but your posts and story things on Instagram have made me realise life can change and the highs and lows will change.
When you spoke about getting a therapist, I went straight to my mum and asked to see a counsellor about my mental health because it has gotten to a point where I can't handle it. The counselling does work but there is so much I have bottled up that I forget it but it's still causing me to feel depressed. When you talk about your mental health and ways round it, I feel like it helps and eases the pain in a way.
I have really supportive friends who are there for me, but I feel they still don't fully understand.
Thank you for talking about it when you did.
Just thank you
sorry
No ones going to read this
Dodie, you're probably NOT going to read this comment but i'll try anyway because i think this might help you and your audience, which means us.
71 likesSo.. Remember that video called "I am depressed today''?
Yeah, that video still helps me when i'm feeling down, or spaced out sometimes, and i think that's because you can describe my feelings and thoughts like no one ever did, and that's the best part of all this, you can understand us (well, a least some of us), and by doing that, you make us feel less lonely, because SOMEONE understands this feeling.
I really don't know why do i have to make things so complicated, i just needed to say that videos like that make me feel better because i know that someone can understand what i feel.
if you read this and agree pls like so she can read and understand the importance of those videos.
well, that's all, i hope we all get better soon.
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I'm with u. For real.
0 likesDodie, I don't expect you to read this (You've grown so popular recently I've been drowned out - which is lovely, because you've so many sweet supporters I get to chat to on twitter and instagram (hi @caoimheforyou twitter mutuals! ILY)) But whether or not this is seen by anyone I wanted to write a little response, for me, maybe, more than anyone.
63 likesI saw one of those silly posts today about stereotypes of different musician stans - including dodie stans. One of the things that made me laugh was that Dodie stans all have dodie, as their profile picture. I felt me cheeks flush because I'm a living example of that - three twitter accounts, one a dodie fan account, one a silly account my personals don't know about that I can joke on, and one a personal account. The one thing that unites them all is that each account has dodie as the profile picture. One is black and white, poised perfectly. The second is obvious, dodie with diamonds twinkling on her cheeks and a knowing smile. The third is my favourite. It's a screenshot from one of her old videos, when Evan was doing her makeup, a tiny moment where I wholloped the pause button at warp speed to screenshot it, a genuine grin, unforced, unpractised, makeup-less and so so pretty. (A dumb screenshot of youth?) I'm sure that sounds horribly creepy, me screenshotting a video and using it as my profile picture - Imagine if I did it to a friend! But in that moment Dodie became three dimensional. (You can forget so easily that people online are real people, fact and fiction are so blurred when viewed through a screen)
Does this have a point? Not really, I think all the fairy lights in my dorm inspired me to write something haha, but I don't know, I don't think dodie should feel like she has done anything wrong. The internet is still so new, there are few rules of etiquette, no one knows what they're doing and social interactions online are so different to those offline, it's impossible to know how what you say can affect others - the most positive thing could be negative, the most negative thing could be exactly what someone needs to be positive. She shouldn't feel embarrassed because even IF sharing any deeper thoughts was a bad decision (which I don't think it was - it was just a decision, neither positive or negative - karma and all that, every action has an equal and opposite reaction if you prefer science) dodie has taught each and every person who watched the video a little life lesson (I should have made this a "how many dodie song references can I fit into this mini essay" challenge) And darling, you may think you're bad but there are a million people out there who are ten times worse than dodie when it comes to oversharing online (I'm so guilty of it when I'm feeling low and angsty haha) So don't fret pet x
I'm going to make myself some tea now (even though it's 12:30pm), night x)
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2 likesi know this is weird but i really loved that paragraph! it's exactly how i feel. we all got our different sides and they might me triggering to other people, but sharing them is like the weight of the world falling off your shoulder, which is good !
10 likesI do think you're doing a good thing by starting to share less but I'd like you to know that your posts have made me realise that it's ok (well not ok but that it doesn't make you a bad person) to have lots of bad days and I'm thankful for that. I love you Dodie and I hope your mental health improves
0 likesDodie you're so beautiful and kind, I love you, and so many other people love you... People who do hate you, have honestly no good reason to. Sure, you have flaws, but nobody is perfect. You don't want attention, you aren't awful at singing, you're not ugly... You want someone to understand, you are an amazing singer with your own voice and style, and you are adorable and gorgeous and you are so lovely. Please know you are worth so much more than you think, and deserve to be happy and respected. Love you Dodie, I hope I helped a little <3
0 likesI love you Dodie! No matter what!๐โค๏ธ
0 likesawwwwww I want to hug you so much dodie! hugs I deal with anxiety too, I think this is a really really important thing to talk about, thank you!
24 likesI am so proud of you Dodie xxx
0 likesI am so glad you put this up. I would watch some of your videos that would trigger things in me and I would read about your symptoms and then get anxious because I would experience something similar. I would then in turn go through episodes of depression and depersonalization. I'm not blaming my mental issues on you. I read the titles. I watched the videos. I thought depersonalization was something everyone experienced and you helped me realize something was wrong but you also kind of made me panic with how down and out you were and realize I wasn't as bad as you were maybe I was making it all up. I doubted myself. This video made me realize everyone experiences different symptoms. Thank you for helping me.
0 likesWell done Dodie. Have some soup and a bubble-bath. You've made good decisions and we're proud of you. ๐
0 likesDodie, I understand how talking about this stuff so explicitly could trigger some people, but it helps some of us as well. Of course we feel less lonely in what we're going through...but I hadn't even heard about depersonalization until you spoke about it and that really put into words how I was feeling. Because of you being so open about mental illness, I was able to realise my problems and seek help for them.
0 likesI've been there on my Facebook - I've been unfriended due to it, and unfollowed. I think its just pure desperation to feel better and be surrounded by support (probably way heightened for you because of your following!) Also, it feels so much easier to just throw something out, than to actually contact someone and ask for specific help - and yeah while its not ideal I totally understand it.
12 likesAlso its great to make put together videos about mental illness, but I think sometimes you need shocking truths to have impact, so I'm sure you have done some good raising awareness with it (not saying everyone should go pouring their souls out so everyone knows everything all the time, just I'm sure it did help shed some much needed light - gotta find those positives!)
Don't beat yourself up though - we're all learning with this social media stuff. Move on how you want to be you, and accept the past is as it is :)
I feel 100% that your low videos have still done good Dodie!! It shows how shit you feel and how your views and the way you see the world can completely change when you have a mental illness and are going through a low, it shows the harsh reality of what a mental illness has on your brain. I hate seeing you feel so sad and I hope you don't feel like your oversharing did no good at all, you would explain and talk about how you were feeling and say it in such a way that made me, personally, not feel so alone in some of the dark thoughts I would have when going through a low. Love you so much, please don't beat yourself up ๐๐๐
0 likesAs you speak about your depersonalization makes me realize that my depression includes the same sort of aspects. I did the same thing with my phone and catch myself doing that now still when I'm in a worse place. Thank you for sharing. Thank you for being a mature person and realizing the criticism of your friends is valid. Thank you for being such a true person online, both with your vaunerabilities and with your mistakes.
0 likesThis is so good dodie! I watched your other video just now and read through the comments and I did agree with the vast majority. Honestly though, I've been where you are. I write online and have had annual public journals for the past three years, where I post feelings, songs and funny stuff. Although my following on those is meeeeeeeeeagre compared to yours, I have TOTALLY posted stuff when I was feeling out of whack which I have come to regret later. Agh I went through a tough time at the end of 2015 and I am going through the journal now and editing out the completely outrageous posts I made when I was feeling low; and which I still often do it without thinking. Because my keyboard is just there; it's so easy. But often, us writers can get carried away. Not necessarily exaggerate, but very intensely describe it in a place where anyone can see it. I have never been diagnosed with a serious mental disorder or illness but I have had panic attacks in the past, triggered by people mistreating others or mistreating me. And they were terrible, but I got better with time and as much as writing can be an outlet, it can often be unhealthy. My sister suggests always going on a run, or kickboxing, or even climbing a hill is fun and beneficial and healthy; and that way, instead of ending up sitting in front of a sad song or a sad caption, you feel mentally and physically better (unless your legs are chicken legs like mine and die within the first few kms of a run.) I follow you on social media and I think that the fact that you have realised you have made a mistake and stepped back from it, thought about it, learned from it, says a lot about you, dear friend. You have the humility to learn and take effective steps to ensure future success. You are a wonderful person and I always listen to you and admire you. You probably won't see this but meh. Love you buddy โค๏ธ
0 likesI'm really proud of you :)
0 likesI'm glad you've addressed the glorifying and romanticising mental illness especially towards being creative, since that's been one of the main triggers I've had towards your oversharing as being an artist with mental illness myself. I'm so glad that you're starting to search for a healthy balance Dodie, we're all here for you when you're in a time that you're ready to know how's best talk about it for you. Love you Dodie!
0 likesAbsolutely true. I love you for being so honest, self-critical, good at listening to yourself and others and you're 'life-clever'. You always want to learn about life and we all learn with you while you do. :) Even when you mess up a bit, I always feel safe in your little corner of the internet (sounds a bit weird, I know).
0 likesYou shouldn't censor yourself. As someone with depression, I appreciate your realism and your breaking of barriers.
0 likesDodie. We are all human and we all mess up :) it's ok. now that you've acknowledge it and apologized (the hardest step), you can breathe and move forward. that's how we learn and grow. from each other and together. <3
0 likesThose posts and snapchats helped me, I know I should say it but I related to most all of the posts. If you hadnโt brought up some of the mental health issues you had i wouldnโt have realised what my problems were. Not saying you combined me I have issues but itโs like I had a name or a label for something thatโs been in my brain for years, I have depersonalisation and if yo hadnโt shared what youโve been feeling, I wouldnโt have known why I felt the way I do and I wouldnโt have sought out professional help for it. I know itโs not meant for younger audiences but it really helped me... so thank you Dodie
13 likesYou are such an inspiretion, honestly. I do understand the theme of what are you and what aren't you meant to share online, that's a journey I'm taking as well... But, I believe, if you're thinking about it you will figure out the way to go!
0 likesDodie, I just wanna say I love you so much and I'm proud of you. You may not feel like that right now, but know, we will always love you. I will always love you. You are an amazing person and I'm proud of you, for coming to understand? I myself am 17, I still have so much to learn about the world, but you see you are also learning. We all are. And I'm proud of us, you, for keep on learning. There are no mistakes, only moments to learn from.
0 likesAs someone who has struggled with anxiety and has been watching a lot of your recent posts on social media, I thought this was a super mature response to recent events and I'm really happy for you; also try not to be too hard on yourself, sharing ones life over the internet is a relatively new phenomenon and I think a lot of us are trying to understand what the appropriate boundaries are in the digital age! Bravo for finding yours :)
0 likesDear Dodie, no matter what you want to share now on, your posts have helped me dealing with my mental health. You always seemed as a very creative and active person despite your mental health issues and sharing the dark moments showed me that one can be a beautiful, optimistic, creative person even if they feel like crap at times. Thank you so much for showing me that <3
0 likesI've always loved that you talk about your mental illness so openly. You've helped me realize I didn't have to be alone with my depression, anxiety and depersonalization when before I found you, I ignored all of my weaknesses... I completely understand how being embarrassed or regretting something you've said or done while in the pits is a thing because I've been there haha but I haven't ever thought that you were glamorizing mental illnesses. I always thought that you showed people how it is in normal everyday life when you suffer with something like you do. Maybe others saw it as glamorizing and I can see where they're coming from but that wasn't how you came off in my eyes.. I love you dodie โค I hope you find a healthy balance between all of thisโค๐๐โ
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Victoria Pyle I LOVE THIS
1 likeVictoria Pyle can I like this 70000000 times i just agree so muchโค
0 likesyou just put all my thoughts into words!!! thank youuuu
0 likesI'm glad you've taken a step back to think about these things and you seem to have done a very good job doing it (??) if that makes any sense. It kind of made me take a moment to think about the content I'm consuming while in a bad mental state and how that intersects. Looking back, I might have been a bit more affected by triggering content than I tell myself. But like, everyone is better off when we take time to consider stuff like this. And we all make mistakes. It's fine!
0 likesDodie, if someone really wanted to get to know you they would want to know the deepest darkest places in your mind. your should not feel bad about your issuses what you should be doing is resoving them. your fans belieive in you. BTW theres lots of spelling mistakes and im way to lazy to fix them because its midnight in florida and im sleepy. goodnight!!!
1 likeIt's funny how much I can relate to Dodie, in the songs she make and even in that "sharing problems".. problem.. probably she won't see this, but if she does.. I just wanna say.. thank you, you helped me a lot.
0 likesI love you so much and I am super proud of you for this video !!
0 likesNobody's perfect dodie, just because you're in the eye of the public doesn't change that. I'm proud you've come to this realization not just for your audience but for yourself too. We accept your mistakes and appreciate that you're human like anyone else. Lot's of love dodie! keep being you
41 likesi love you angel, this was incredibly brave โค๏ธ
0 likesOh Dodie,
0 likesI just want to give you a big hug.
We all love you. ๐
It might have been oversharing, but I understand you felt like you needed it at the time. I do enjoy when you put a positive spin on things though, a lot of your posts have helped me a lot. I understand how it is to go off the deep end temporarily every so often because of mental illness. I'm so proud of you for this step forward in your life!! โฅ
0 likesdodie, i'm so in awe of how you were able to humbly take responsibility for some not okay actions and apologize for them in such a public way. i've never been good with apologies, even when i know i'm wrong. i hope because you were able to admit this to yourself, and to us as an audience, you can grow mentally and start to feel a bit better :)
0 likesReally, REALLY respect you for this Dodie.
0 likesIt's okay to make mistakes dodie, as long as you correct them. We'all always love you.
0 likesSo proud of you x
0 likesDodie, I'm a new fan and have been binge watching your videos to get to know you more outside of your music (WHICH I LOVE). I don't know you, but I'm just proud of you as an individual. Accountability is something lots of adults NEVER grasp, and here you are publicly pouring your soul and willing to accept when you mess up. Thank you for sharing your life with us, I'm so grateful for the music alone but I feel even more joy to watch your videos!
0 likesPersonally I feel like as your audience, we are just as much to blame for your social media becoming a place where you were over sharing because we encouraged it so much. I feel like the people saying you've been glorifying mental illness are fans who've put you on a pedestal. From watching your Snapchats and reading your posts it's always been clear (to me at least) that your mental health is something you've struggled with and not an enjoyable part of your life, which is why I feel that your position as someone that people admire for so many other reasons has lead to them glorifying this aspect of you, more so than you doing it yourself. And like I said this might just be my opinion but personally I think the problem here isn't necessarily with how you've been presenting your struggles but the fact that even before you started talking about all of this you had an audience who looked up to you so when you did start talking about it people tried to use it as a way to connect with you and to an extent, in turn feel as if they were like the person they admire so much, which led to an over encouragement for you to share which ultimately lead to it becoming too much for some. I never had any issues with watching your snapchats but I think from the posters point of view, it would be better to talk to someone who you can actually open up to and create a more specific conversation in a way that you can't with such a huge audience.
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taratara1312 this comment is so important, i do agree with it too. Some of us in her audience kind of encouraged the sharing, and it isnt entirely dodie's fault.
10 likestaratara1312 shit you really worded this well. this is exactly my thoughts
6 likesi mean i guess?? but youve got to realize that it was toxic especially with a large part of dodies demographic being so young. i remember when i was surrounded and listened to stuff like that because i was someones friend or whatever but i feel like having a constant stream of unhealthy mental things and such things for me to listen and watch when i was younger led to having my own problems and unhealthy coping issues, and what i went through wasnt coming from someone i admired or anything. If you read up on psychology of Young teens and teens in general, you cant really blame young kids for supporting dodie and what im sure they didnt realize was an unhealthy coping mechanism, especially when so many of young fans look up to and admire her. i just think that we should be proud of dodie for acknowledging her issues and proud that she is taking steps to fix it and help herself and reach out to her friends. i dont think it correct and i dont think anyone (regardless of whether you are a fan of dodies or not) should shift blame on to impressionable kids for an unhealthy coping mechanism. like its not healthy for anyone of her fans who tried to encourage her, like her fans or audience, to feel like they contributed to it, like its no ones fault. things just happen and sometimes it's unhealthy and you learn from it and try to pick yourself up and fix it.
4 likesYes I do agree that with this audience due to us admiring dodie - ppl have also ended up admiring her mental illness = pedestal = oversharing. And for that - to dodie. For all of us- I'm sorry
1 likeAnna Smith sorry, you're wrong. in a way, her fans did encourage it. by giving her such positive reactions to her oversharing and making her feel like what she was doing was good, it made dodie believe that. though it wasn't intentional
1 likeI didn't mean to make it seem as though I was shifting the blame onto anyone, more so trying to say that the blame doesn't rest solely with dodie. I understand that some of dodie's audience is a bit younger than I am and everyone responds to hearing about struggling with mental illness in different ways. But just like you say we shouldn't place blame on a young impressionable audience because its no ones fault, my point is that it is no ONE person's fault. This isn't solely dodie's fault. Dodie was going through some stuff and started to talk about it and yes for many people it may have been too graphic or too much or whatever, but I think that the reason it ended up becoming so confronting for some people is because so many people encouraged her to keep talking about it and wanted to hear her talk about it, which is what lead to the oversharing.
2 likesI know this is a bit late now, but I just wanted to say: thank you for your apology. I think that we (at the very least most of us) were mostly sharing concerns due to a concern for you and a concern for our own mental states, not out of any desire to attack you. I personally wouldn't have been as concerned until I heard that Hazel and Zannah were also concerned because they're your friends and obviously thus know you better than I do.
0 likesI think you're so right that sharing mental health is so important, but it's also important to not post to a large audience like you have when you're at your very worst state. I think (and I could be wrong) that it's better to wait a little while to post it and see if you still think it's worth it. (Maybe even try the app Later which lets you pre-write Instagram posts?)
I also had this struggle but on a much smaller scale (because I have a much smaller audience) about how much to share of my mental health and how much would help people versus how much was me choosing this outlet instead of one that would help me more.
In any case, sending you so much love! Please never feel like you can't give us updates and talk to us honestly or be your beautiful, emotional self xx
Dodie,
0 likesi think it is very important for me to share my experience with being subscribed to you and to make you realize that while many people might be right with what they criticize you for, some are clearly over reacting. I used to be an active member of the phandom twitter community back in 204/15 and that's also when I first heard about you. I thought you were so nice and lovable and just in general a very kind person. And you still are. But back then a movement started forming in stan twitter that kinda meant it was 'cool' to downgrade overly emotional people on youtube, for example emma blackery and others from that friendship group. I always sat back and just observed cause I don't like 'hating' on someone I don't know personally. I don't like hating on anyone at all but that's a different story. What I'm trying to say with all of this is that yes, you should be listening to your audience and yes, it's necessary to record videos like this one where you apologize but if the response isn't 100% positive then that's not because people hate you or the things you've done but most people that say negative stuff are the ones that do it without thinking. I realize I'm rambling right now and I'm not sure if I managed to bring my point across but basically all I really wanted to say is that you're doing great and that the people who are able to give constructive criticism and who are free from having a judgmental personality will know that you are a good person (who might made a mistake or two but hey, we've all made mistakes, maybe more, maybe less than you). Hang in there, don't let the negativity get to you. I believe in the good in you and so do so many more people who truly care about you and your happiness. I don't know if you'll read this but I still felt it was necessary to share my view on it. (I'm also sorry if some parts didn't make sense cause english isn't my first language). Love u, Fran xx
dodie i love you so much and i completely understand everything youve said. i hope these realizations dont stop you from sharing at all. i agree that you shouldnt post in your lowest moments but remember what hazel said, and share when youre about midway. when you can describe how youre feeling but be able to control how the post goes. i also would love for you to start reaching for your phone when youre in your happiest moments. it seems like you only step back and asses the moment when youre feeling bad, but you should instead be able to recognize the good times, and think to post then instead of the bad times. and also, dont be defined by your mental health. youve made yourself to be the mentally unhealthy girl online, but you are so much more than that, so dont forget to express that. dont constantly remind yourself and everyone else how bad it is, but dont be afraid to remind us of how bad it can be. and try not to creativity to madness. it makes it seem desirable and cute. only a creative person can make something beautiful out of madness. a mad person doesnt automatically become creative. make sure you make that clear. i love you dodie. i really wish i could be there for one of those low moments, to help you back up. you have no idea.
0 likesi love you dodie, thank you for sharing. i've had to stop posting when in sad bc a lot of my friends have asked me to stop
0 likesDodie please don't be embarrassed! I know it is easy to post on Instagram your feelings but it hadn't become right and i am proud of you that you have realised that, you have stopped doing that because you are no longer thinking about how this helps you and is a good effect on you but you are now thinking about your audience. I know when you're at your lowest state it's easy to just think about yourself and how it's never going to get better but you've come out this bubble and are turning it into something positive that you can work on. Thank you for everything I love you so much and I'm very excited to see you in newcastle on the 20th of October!!!!!
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Not being annoying but can people like this comment so dodie can see and tell her how proud we are of her xxx
2 likesthis video was even better than the original and actually made me emotional in a good way at the end, look after urself too xx
0 likesYou are wonderful and strong and I admire you so much for listening to (sometimes harsh) criticism and then processing it and learning from it. You are so brave. And I know it must've been en must be very hard and it is very easy, or at least easier to be defensive and protect yourself or isolate yourself or not look at the comments. I'm not sure if I would've been able to be so strong and mature and wonderful like you have been. Please don't beat yourself up over past events. Don't blame yourself. Don't take this criticism and the honesty of other people as criticism on you as a being. You did some things that you could've done differently and now you're learning from it - which is good. But you did those things with good intentions. You did it to cope and you were very brave and very open and very wonderful. Please don't ever tell yourself that you are a bad person. I've read some awful comments and I want you to know that you are not a bad person. You are amazing. Don't stop talking about how you're feeling (it's okay to be a little more selective with what you put out on the internet, but it's okay to say you're not doing well). Don't lie. Don't pretend to be fine or okay. Please accept help and love from those who surround you. Ask for help when you need it. Don't stop sharing. Dealing with mental health is such a lonely road. Don't walk it alone. Please. We care about you. Even if we're just names on a screen, let it be valuable. We are here.
0 likesi'm really proud of you dodie for doing this. the thing is, you did kinda make mental illness your brand, and you did glorify mental illness. friends around me started watching your videos and decided they were going to be sad too!!!!! but i'm glad you've accepted you were doing the right thing and it's very mature. i hope we can all fix ourselves.
0 likesDodie I love you and I was apart of the group who had to step back for a bit. I would watch your videos and start questioning myself and my mental state. I would take everything you said to heart and I would want to help you, but I would worry about myself. After watching many of your videos I realized it wasn't healthy for me to watch your More in depth videos due to them causing me to question myself. I would watch them and think that what you were saying described me. I felt as if every word that left your mouth described how I was feeling. Some of what you said did describe what I felt but a lot of what you said didn't. I would convince myself that I was feeling that way. It causes me to think poorly of myself. I started thinking I wasn't good enough and that your videos were the only thing I could relate to. After about a month of this I realized it was wrong. I stepped back and stopped watching. I unfollowed you on all social media with the fear that you would post something very deep about yourself. I have so much respect for you and I do really hope you stop posting your diary online. Please don't think I think less of you cause' I don't. I think very highly of you and what you do. I think that this was so amazing. You are being so responsible for recognizing what you did. It's amazing you have understood that you have such a young impressionable audience. I hope you feel better.
3 likesThis was a very adult decision and I'm really proud of you Dodie. I'm so happy that as a 16 year old, I have a role model like you. Please give yourself credit because you honestly changed my life for the better.
13 likesi love you. dodie, you can make it through this. i know you can.
0 likesi love u and i support u and i forgive u! sending best wishes your way. super happy that you addressed this and handled it in such a mature way, you're so brave and i hope u never stop fighting this illness โจ
0 likesOh gosh, I think Iโm doing kind of the same thing, except itโs with my friends
0 likesI think I tend to rely on my friends when Iโm anxious and ESPECIALLY when Iโm spaced out (I have sort of the same problem as Dodie) and rely on them to ground me. I do that all of the time, and I think Iโve merged my private thoughts with my vents to friends. Thanks Dodie for opening my eyes, Iโm gonna try to build better boundaries and be more reliant on other things
Dodie, I think you're a good person. Yeah we all share too much sometimes, but you've stepped back and realized it. You have good intentions, and it shows through. Love you and hope you get through this fast because you're strong <3
0 likes(from description) 'and thousands of people who will drink it up instantly'
224 likesyou are almost speaking in intertwined lyrics
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which is revealing of how this has made you feel, dodie.
we all know that you were doing what you felt was right.
you're self aware now, and that's such a breakthrough.
we love you.
we love you we love you we love you.
we love you.
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7 likesI respect this video so so much. I respect your opinions so so much. I respect you so so much. You do what you believe will make it better, and I will be happy. I love you, Dodie <3
0 likesWe all make mistakes. The most important thing is to learn from them. It is wonderful to see you grow as a person, I hope all the best to you in future. You are an amazing and genuine person, keep up growing! ๐
0 likesDodie, this broke my heart, don't beat yourself up too much, everyone makes mistakes :)
0 likesOh my gawd. This honestly could've been my video, if I made any. I am so terrible at not sharing all these awful feelings and complex thoughts with everyone around me and I can guarantee that if I started vlogging, many of my videos would just be about how shit I'm feeling. I just don't know how to put up healthy boundaries, you know. But I'm learning, and you're learning, and we all are. I think it takes a lot of guts to apologize like this, I know how hard it feels to be ashamed and/or embarrassed of a mistake you've made, and knowing the fact that you may have hurt people. But its okay <3 you're a good person dodie, and your videos make me very happy and relax me when I'm feeling really shit. So, thanks.
0 likeswe love you dodie
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2 likesI'm really proud of you Dodie, I think you handled this (this meaning the realization of the problem and apologizing) really well. I don't have snapchat and tend to not read super long instaposts, so when I watched your last video I wasn't sure how to feel, because your videos on mental health on YouTube are so important to me, and have helped me a lot, and I'm so passionate about breaking the stigma surrounding mental illness, but I guess there's a fine line between breaking the stigma and romanticizing it.
0 likesAs for moving on to your fifth therapist, don't give up! I've had seven shit therapists/bad matches until I had a good one, and now I'm on number nine, and she's the best one I've ever had. I had so little faith left in therapy but now I'm SO GLAD I didn't give up. Therapy has become such a source of stability for me and when I feel weak and unstable the prospect of being able to talk to my therapist about it helps me hold on until the next session. Therapy is a bit of a lottery and it's all about matching, but when you do find a good match, it is SO worth it and it can truly become a safe space. Best of luck with number five, I hope they'll be your number nine. :)
We love you Dodie, and everyone makes a mistake. You are going through things, and it's not uncommon to make some mistakes like that. You were trying to make yourself feel better, and you forgot to think about what all of that really meant. You will do better, we are not mad, we are not upset. People just want to help you. Again, we love you and forgive you and we are not mad.
0 likesDodie, I think that you have handled this situation very well and really maturely. I do agree with you saying that you have overshared and that you do not want your mental illness to become part of your "brand". However, like you also stated, talking about mental illness and trying to get rid of the stigma around it is very important and I think it is great that you do talk about it and I hope that you will continue to discuss it, but on your higher days where you feel leveled and in control enough to talk about it in a way that will not be triggering.
0 likesThank you Dodie for being such a kind, emotional, and amazing person to all of us. We love you.
Mental health is so important... I've learned the hard way. This needed to be recognised, and you've built upon it sooo well. I recently commented on ur am I oversharing too much, I'll admit it was quite harsh, but truthful. Well done dodie, you've come so far and ur symptom remains but is maintained. We r all so proud of you, and now I feel like I can without a pretentious caution fan girl over your social media; with no hesitation! Really proud of you and keep up the good work!!
0 likesI love the thought of going outside and meditating but British summer finished about 3 weeks ago and it's raining now, I'll just have to stick to the cup of tea thank you :D
20 likesDodie, you nailed it with this video.
0 likesAll the love. xxx
Awee dodie.
0 likesPersonally you posting this stuff has helped me as i was in the same place it made me feel like i wasent alone on my journey to getting better.
And I never have let mental illness define you.
When i think of dodie i think of talent.
There are some shitty comments and i know they can be rough.
This is a good lesson of boundaries and as always, know you have so much people who support and love you. ๐ป๐โ๏ธ๐บ
If it makes you feel any better, reading and listening to you talk really has helped me release some stigma i've had with my own mental health. it's helped me be able to feel better because i'm really new to anxiety and depression and maybe even depersonalizations and it made me feel less alone. it's not best for everyone but you helped at least one person
0 likesI've been thinking about this, since your last video. If sharing helps you that's good. Don't be embarrassed. I'm possibly twice your age, but I have anxiety and depression too. I share very little with my friends about it. I admit to feeling bad if the conversation comes up, but it's easier to make how I feel make coherent sense, when the lowest part has passed because I can think clearer about what I want to share with them and what I feel safer keeping to myself. My friends and family are a massive part of my life, but I don't want to me asked "How is your mental health? every time I see them because then I start to think Oh God How is my mental health? I forgot to check today. The way I look at it now is yes I will have really bad days, but rest and kindness to myself, as I would treat someone else in the same situation helps. If recording helps you do it. Trust that you don't need to upload it until you are through to the other (clearer) side of it, and then decide if it would help to upload. When you feel well, happy, write those notes down too. What made you giggle, smile, feel even a tiny bit good and have those on your wall like a positive mood board for when you feel bad. You will recognise your own handwriting so will trust that you do enjoy, like, love the lists, and you just have to wait, and breathe and wait and breathe and eventually things will look, feel and be more manageable. Trust that you have so many virtual supporters, but even more important people who will sit with you, until things become more manageable. You do not have to tackle 24 hours at a time, you just can take one breath at a time. X
0 likesThere's no need to apologise. We all understand how hard this is for you. Don't feel embarrassed. It's ok. If anything this has helped you grow
5 likesI LOVE YOU, gosh thank you for inciting the most genuine and beautiful feelings in my heart. It just feels like breathing. I wrote the longest comment to your "oversharing video" acting like a know-it-all fucking ass. I worked on it for hours, cause I can't speak english very well, I sent my comment and somehow felt immediatly bad about it. So I went through your old content, honestly looking for some evidences that I did good. What I saw was just you being eloquent and incredibly clever ( no surprise at this pont) but then: BOOM I learned about the abusive relationship you've been through. I went back to my comment and deleted it, thinking : "You don't have lessons to give her, she's the one who can teach you what it needs to be strong". Then, here you are AGAIN, being mature and so wise! I'm sorry too, take care of you :)
0 likesI need to find a way to climb through the screen and hug you, Dodie. You are amazing, we love you and mental health is important. Your mental health is in your control and don't stress if you are oversharing too much because you will find you're not alone. I luv you.
0 likesThis takes a lot of courage to make this video dodie we love you too
0 likesYou're trying your best! And you've learned. Please forgive yourself as well. You're finding a balance. Keep going โค
0 likeswe love you dodie. it's ok. we understand. you are an amazing human. everyone feels like this.
8 likesI never felt like you shared too much but I also am 23 years old and relatively neurotypical so that probably explains why lol. I'm very proud of you for being so honest and self aware and happy that you have friends who are honest with you like in your last video. I hope this new therapist works out and that you're able to comfortably find the line you're looking for ๐ much love and support ๐คโค๏ธ
0 likesI just want to say thank you for these videos because they made me think about my mental health and all that jazz
0 likesI've struggled with mental illness before and it's so easy to go straight to social media, and I couldn't agree more with what you say in this video โบ๏ธ one thing I did use and do still on the odd occasion is have a private twitter account in which I don't accept followers on I tweet my own thoughts good and bad just so it feels as though it's out there and gone, although no one will actually see it, hope this helps anyone in a low place xx
0 likesDODIE!!โคI will never stop watching your videos!!
1 likeOk Dodie, here we go:
608 likesAs someone who also suffers with depression, anxiety, and chronic migraines that suck literally all physical energy from me.. I want to tell you that your videos do help me. The happy and the sad ones. We're all learning and we all make mistakes... we're still SO young and we're learning. Your videos have motivated me to get a therapist. But just because many of us can relate to those videos, that doesn't mean you have to be pressured to keep making them. I love you with all my heart and soul.. and we all want you to get better. So go to therapy, drink your tea, post when you feel like.. go live your life and then share with us what you want to share ..
ok now I'm going to drink some tea too because that sounds amazing right now and I need it <3
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Nicky Xoxo yessss to the chronic migraines and anxiety! They're both so difficult to deal with!
1 likeNicky Xoxo this!! Exactly my thoughts!
0 likeseyyyy, i have them too, we're in this together guys
0 likessing it with me We're all in this together!
6 likesNicky Xoxo ^^^^ this comment !!! โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ I agree! Me too!
6 likesI have Asperger's Syndrome/Autistic Spectrum Disorder which means that I feel very intense, distant, like I don't fit in to this world, and like I'm an alien.
There are times when (I'm lying. It's permanent) I have genuinely completely persuaded myself that I'm not human, not from this planet, and don't deserve any of the people or things on this planet. Depression has been extremely bad since age 7, and anxiety as well.
Watching Dodie's videos and hearing her speak is so comforting and it 'gets' through to me when not everything does. I feel connected with her, like she is my/our big sister, who we can talk to and listen to.
(Not trying to make anything about myself - but I want to show that Dodie is not alone, and that some of us with all our different feelings, can be really helped by her!)
Her videos - happy AND sad, keep me going and are comforting.
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It is definitely a good and strong decision to take a break from it, and I'm proud of her for making that decision.
We should all sit back and make tea! Because we all deserve something nice โค๏ธ
Nicky Xoxo as someone who doesn't have any extreme metal illnesses like depression or depersonalisation, I actually find your videos super interesting. I know people who have the same sort of things and it's hard for them to open up and how in depth you go it can help me understand these sorts of things better and can help other people understand these that don't have depression or anxiety etc. However I think there's always a cut of point of how in depth you can go because your brain is always in a different state when you're in your lowest and highest moments. (Also glad that you now know the depths you can go into) โค๏ธโค๏ธ
2 likesme too, I'm here if you ever need anything. My insta is the same as my user on this xo
0 likesSophie Lambros My brother is also on the autism spectrum, so I understand how difficult it can be :( but the fact that you can write all of his shows how self aware you are of your feelings which I think is amazing progress... you're a complete stranger but I LOVE YOU!! I truly hope you have an amazing life โค๏ธ
1 likeNicky Xoxo this is so sweet!! Thank you so much! โค๏ธ I hope your day/life is also amazing, and your brother's too! โค๏ธ
0 likesDodie you made one mistake, We all love you and care for you SO Itโs just one little mistake I have done so many stupid things, and I love how you had discovered your mistake and solved them. I love you dodie
0 likesPs YAY I can be your sister!!!
You should totally get a therapist! I used to have migraines too (idk with what frequency you have them but I used to have them once a month) As soon as I started therapy, they stopped. At worst, I have one once a year, and it's waaaay less intense. So yeah, keep fighting!
0 likesI fucking love you so much, youโre such a smart, strong, brave, inspiring person and I really hope youโre feeling alright ๐๐
0 likesseeing u crying made me cry. dodie i wish i could give you a big big hug. You are an amazing person and i hope u know that.
1 likeDodie it's alright if you post it I will always support you in anything your post have helped me to understand how people like you with mental illnesses like my friends and it helps me say hey this is what you need to do you have been so good love you ;)
0 likeslong heartfelt comment alert Dodie I LOVE the conclusions you've come to as a result of all this. Everyone has already said how much we are proud of you and how admirable it is that you've been so honest in apologising, i love that too- so much! But I just wanted to say how amazingly you seem to have dealt with it, you appear to be taking it to heart but in a GOOD way, as in taking it seriously and wanting to make a difference, not as in taking it to heart and letting it push you down. I love you for that. You can get through this! <3 Also, I found it really interesting that you said you'd be "cutting ties with it being integrated with you" (5:05). Because that's how I've had to think about some of my mental health stuff too! I met you after one of your gigs and specifically thanked you for your video about cutting ties with people. (At Shepherds bush hall gig in the intertwined EP tour a few days after the cutting ties video.) Naturally you thought I'd recently had a break up or something but I said "no, I was relating it to my mental health". We didn't chat any more about it because other people wanted to meet you but basically: I found your advice about how to put a person out of your life in a healthy way fitted perfectly with what I needed to be reminded about (from CBT therapy and talking to other people I trust) for letting go of the control my body-focused-repetitive-behaviour-disorder(s) has over me, even to the extent that I wrote it letters, before you then suggested doing that in your vid! Not sure where I'm going with this. I guess just to share experiences and say that you've encouraged me in dealing with some of my stuff, and I love love LOVE that you're seeking healthy ways to deal with yours. And I hope and pray that you find the therapist who's right for you, because i know that can make a MASSIVE difference. I feel like there was another point I was going to make, maybe someone else will pick it up >.< anyway, love you dodie, thank you for this video xx
0 likesDodie I love you!
43 likesWe love you!
Everyone makes mistake
I wish my words would help
But I'm horrible at expressing myself through words
If I was there by you though
I would hug you
Have a nice day! <3
Thank you for this video. I like you, struggle with working out exactly what is and isn't appropriate to share with who in terms of my mental health. On an opposite end of the critism you have been recieving I loved your stories but did pull away simply because I felt as though it wasn't for me to see. Your story would feel like a conversation I would have with a close friend while we cuddle up and share a drink at 4am in a crisis. It would feel like something for you to talk through with Hazel or Dan, not me someone you have never met but said hi through a camera to on the santa monica pier. You're beautiful, You are loved and I hope you're well.
0 likesdon't be so hard on yourself, you are a human ! we all do it, you just happen to have a bigger audience watching! your mistakes do not define you! I love you dodie, you've done so much good for me and so many others! this video was very brave, I love you! take care of yourself
0 likesI'm proud of you. This is very brave. All I want is for you to be happy. That's what I found most upsetting about the things you shared. It's frustrating to see you struggling when I can help. But don't be too hard on yourself. We love you and hate to see like this
0 likesDodie, we love you. We want to help you. I am happy you feel like you can share with us. And we forgive you! We love love love love you!! (Also where did you get ur shirt)
0 likesDodie you are my inspiration you are the only thing that can make me happy right now. I love you so much SOO MUCH. I don't know what I would do without you and all your fans. Everyone in your fan base and you have helped me with my mental illness. And I am forever grateful so I just want to say I love you and everyone else. Thank you.
80 likesAnd I know you won't read this but if there is a slight chance you do I want you to know that. And now I'm crying because I've never opened up about my mental illness Ahhhhh help I don't know what I've done. If anyone needs someone to talk to I'm here๐๐๐now I'm crying because dodies crying so many emotions ahhh๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ
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ahh you just made me cry dammit! ๐๐ญ
3 likescouldn't think of a good user name I'm sorry I was crying too.
1 likeaww it's fine you don't have to apologise itย was just your comment was really sweet and if you need someone toย talk to i'm here!
2 likesAwwww thanks hun.โค๏ธโค๏ธ I've never been in a fan base as loving as dodies.
1 likesame everyone is just so kind! <3
1 likeI really liked the videos you made with Tessa on the subject of mental health - I think she has this way of being really honest about it but also really tactful and helpful, and when you're with her you do the same. Though i do think your other videos are helpful as well, and I like watching them as a way to learn more about mental illness.
0 likesI love how your not to proud to say "sorry" - many people are struggling with that
1 likeDodie don't be embarrassedโคโค you are incredibleโคthank you for everything you have done for me...believe me...its alot..โคโค
0 likesIt's a month later, and I've finally decided to respond to this because a favorite photographer of mine shared something today on a similar topic of oversharing that I thought you should see: https://instagram.com/p/BYM1ZxknzAw/
1 likeI was sad to see that there were people who felt that you WERE oversharing, since I always felt like you were sharing the right things and right when some of us needed to hear them. It felt good to follow along with what you were doing and how you were feeling.
If you've now decided that sharing a lot isn't always the answer, that's okay. It's up to you to decide when and what to share. Like Wyn says in his post, let's just be there for each other - whether we're in our most vulnerable times or at our highest points.
I wanna say two things: Firstly I think you are being too hard on yourself. You didn't meant to hurt anyone nor did you had any bad intentions. Apologising is okay because you (feel like you) made a mistake, but please try not to eat yourself too much over this (just woke up I hope that is an actual term and I didn't just translate a German term in my head without realising).
404 likesSecondly, I am happy you found a way that make you feel more comfortable and I hope it'll work out for you.
love, Jule
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ThatGermanGirl (eating yourself over is a term in English too don't worry) and yeah I totally agree with you
1 likeKimleah B thanks ๐
0 likesDas ist genau das, was ich auch kommentieren wollte! :D
1 likeI think the English term is beat yourself up too much
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0 likesI'm really glad you made this video dodie, an apology was definitely needed. Butย I really hope that everyone can move on now for the better - including yourself of course - and that I can enjoy your videos again :) (not that I don't already, I've just been avoiding most of them for quite a while because of the reasons you talked about)
0 likesWhen I saw your posts and videos on snapchat made me feel less alone. I could relate so much.
0 likesI have so much respect for you, truly
0 likesPart of me wants to really commend you tho, for showing what REAL mental illness can look like. Your points that it can be seen as glorifying mental illness and it not wanting to be your brand is so valid. There is a healthy way to talk about it but also- it was real. It was really how you felt and showed the tools you had in the moment to deal with it. I hope you get more and better tools in the future. But also thank you for sharing your experience with it. I related a lot and haven't stopped watching and look forward to what you make moving onward. ๐ฝ๐
0 likesSweetie please don't feel embarrassed. You've come to an internal acknowledgment of what's ok to share and what's not, and THAT IS SO GREAT!!! YES!! GOOD!!! Just remember that we enjoy your vulnerable side because it makes you seem like a friend to us all, but ALSO you have the right to keep your feelings to yourself when you need to:)) love u xx
116 likesI want to give you a hug, Dodie โค๏ธ
0 likeshey, dodie. i really love you, and i love that you talk about mental health. i don't want to be mean, but i did stop watching your snapchats and videos for a while because i found them super upsetting and made me feel shit because they were a bit too real. i think you taking a step back will make you feel a bit better, and i hope things start to get a bit better x
0 likesDodie, you are not glorifying mental illnesses, you're just spilling your thoughts. If it helps you, then talk about your feelings; it helps me too. It's important to talk about what's on your mind because bottling it up makes it much worse. You are much more than your mental illness, and you shouldn't have to worry about it becoming your brand. It is also important for people to love you despite imperfections, and you haven't been ashamed of publicizing them before. You raised awareness of things that were so "taboo" to talk about, that they were basically unknown. Everything that you've done is more than I could ever ask for, and I respect you on your choice to share a little less, but just know that there are people who have grown and felt more understood from your content. Lots of loveโค๏ธ๐๐๐๐
16 likesWell done! You are a wonderful person xx
0 likesI'm not looking into dodie's eyes with tears pricking my own eyes in a public library you are
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1 likeDodie, this was such a brave video to make. More so even than any of your videos about mental health, or your oversharing video, in my opinion. It is so incredibly hard to own up to, and /especially/ to take responsibility for, having made a mistake. Doubly so because of just how public this is. I am so impressed by the dignity and grace that you have handled this with, and as always for being so honest. Your openness and honesty are a huge part of what I love and respect about you as a musician and youtube creator. I can't speak for anyone else, but I just want you to know that everything you've shared online regarding your mental health, and how open you've been about your struggles with it have, for me at least, not been too much or hurtful or anything like that. You say that letting yourself vent online gave you an outlet, made you feel less alone. For the record, it made me feel less alone too. It made being stuck in a brain you can't control, with thoughts and emotions that are completely overwhelming, a little less terrifying. A little more manageable.
0 likesSo, while I completely respect that you feel that you have crossed a line and that you feel that the level of personal sharing that you have been doing has done more harm than good, for you and others, it is just so important to me that you know that it hasn't been all bad. In fact, for me, it's done more good than I'm sure you will ever know. I sincerely hope that you find a safe and productive outlet for everything you're going through and dealing with. I know struggling with mental illness is hard. It's fucking exhausting, and feels utterly impossible half the time. But for the record? You're really, truly not alone.
I love and admire you so, /so/ much. Thank you for everything you do for your audience, the beautiful music that you make, and all of the hope and light you spread. <3
I'm relly glad you realized this. It's a mature step to take. Something that's helped me is have a journal with a friend. You can spill your worst to someone you trust but it doesn't result in direct confrontation from that friend if you don't want to.
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0 likesI just wanted to say, that I really appreciated you publicly sharing your mental health. It was nice to know that I wasn't alone, and my feelings weren't made up (as I sometimes convince myself they are). It was form of validation to me. Now, I don't want you to feel bad and change your decision just because me and a few other people say we were ok with you sharing, I just wanted to let you know that your good intentions were still good to me (and those few other people). I wish there was a way to continue to see those videos and Instagrams that you would've posted, but still keep it separate from your social media platforms. Obviously this isn't gonna happen, but I wish it could. Anyways, we love you. Keep doing what you're doing, you're on the right track. ๐๐๐
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Dodie don't feel so bad about yourself.You are strong,brave and an amazing person.
0 likesmake the videos. film them, edit them, dont post them. I've heard that just talking to a camera helps. so film them, but keep them for yourself
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0 likesdon't worry you're amazing, don't be embarrassed you're fantastical, don't feel bad you're astounding.
0 likesYeah, I did have to step away from some of your posts, but they also really help me. And now that you've realized you're over sharing, and learned from it, that's really helpful for me too as well as some of the younger impressionable audience members to see that there is a line for social media that we need to be aware of. So thanks dodie, there were some lessons I got out of this, but I'm sorry you had to experience it . Ily
0 likesDear Dodie,
0 likesAll of your videos, the deep and sad and the light and happy, have made me throughly enjoy you as a person. You have made me understand that no one is perfect and I shouldnโt try to be. In the past, I have suffered from anxiety and depression. From a traumatic experience with one of my classmates, I had this crippling fear that anyone that I trusted would eventually stab me in the back and humiliate me. This made me isolate myself from my friends and believe that there was something wrong with me. I believed that I wasnโt beautiful because I didnโt wear the right clothes or had a naturally pretty face. It had gotten to the point where I would have a breakdown every time I left my house without make up and stylish clothes. In my pit of darkness, I discovered your channel on YouTube. Your videos that discussed the importance of natural beauty and the troubles of mental illness have truly made myself be confident again. Because of you, I reconnected with my friends and got out of an unhealthy relationship. Although you have been oversharing lately, you will always be my light at the end of the tunnel. Always know that I will love you and your channels because of the messages that you talk about in your videos and that you truly care about your audience.
With Love,
Makayla โค๏ธ
"Make yourself a wonderful cup of tea." I was literally swallowing the last of my tea as you said that sentence.
1 likeDodie I really appreciate the lengths you are going to to address this. Not everyone has the same opinion but I think we can all very much appreciate the clarification and to see that you can talk to someone that will talk back and give answers to you in real time makes me so happy for you. Remember that you are loved by so many people, close friends, family, and us. โคโคโค
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And one more thing, it's human to make mistakes and most people would not have apologized as much as you did, which is not a bad thing. Personally I Thank you for sharing and for you thoughts as they have helped me personally but I can see the other side of the spectrum. Making mistakes are a part of life and as long as you can recognize them and act upon them then that means you are just gaining experience and more insight into humanity itself. So anyways just.... Thank you for handling everything the way that you have even though it might not have been easy. Keep at your journaling and diary entrees because it makes a world of difference sometimes. โค
5 likesDodie you are beautiful and you are loved. It hurts to see you sad so I am sending you my love and hope you get better โฅ
0 likeswe love you too Dodie and I didn't think your posts we're triggering at all but Im sure you made is the right decision :')
0 likesDodie when you share things, it's honest. That's good. That's nothing to be ashamed of. Sure, it's good to understand that what you put online is always there, but it's great that you're reaching out to other people. It's good to realize you're not alone when things are bad, for the audience and you. Never be ashamed of what you're feeling. Thank you for making us not feel alone, dodie.
0 likesThis video shows your audience just how much you care about yourself, and it makes me so happy that you are trying to fix this and that you are mature enough to know to get help. This made me very happy, and I hope you are very happy (permanently) very soon
0 likesI think I'm going to write pieces for a book when I'm going through a depressive episode and having a panic attack, because maybe that might help? I don't know. But thank you Dodie for making this video and talking about boundaries and mental illness and the importance of filtered sharing. Thank you so much
3 likesI don't think you've done anything really bad, it was a simple mistake and it's good you are overcoming it. I remember sometimes watching your Snapchats would make me feel less isolated and other times, it would make me realise my own falling demise. I loved the video dodie, and I can't wait to see you on tour x
0 likesI'm proud of you for realizing the ways you coped were toxic not just to yourself but to other people.I'm proud you've found ways to healthily recover and cope
0 likesI don't think you messed up! It really helped me seeing it isn't just me that's like that. I really recommend "the subtle art of not giving a f*ck". It's an amazing book I'm reading right now! Please check it out
0 likesDodie, as someone who is 21 and has struggled with mental illness for years, thank you for sharing both your inner workings, and for these videos/this video where you talk about boundaries and what is appropriate to share. my sense of what is healthy and normal to feel and share is very very skewed and while this is painful for you I am proud of you for growing and thankful you let us see this process because it is helpful for me to hear the perspective of someone I admire as much as you who struggles with similar things and I sincerely hope you continue to grow and get better.
0 likesI love you Dodie! ๐๐๐๐
0 likesDodie, your mindset convinced you that sharing these feelings and catching them in the moment was good for you and others. You were not going into this knowing that these graphic descriptions of depression and depersonalization were too much for some viewers. I personally really like watching you in the moment, but to an extent. I think I like watching videos about this (mainly from you) because I do not have a mental illness that is diagnosed, so I like learning about how people are dealing with it and how to be there for people who are suffering. Even though I cannot speak from experience considering I have never suffered from depression/depersonalization, I do have an overwhelming amount of thoughts and it's nice to get inside someone else's head for a little bit to distract yourself from...well ultimately yourself. Even if the mind your distracting yourself, with doesn't necessarily have nice thoughts. after all this, I was just trying to say that you have nothing to be embarrassed about. I actually did turn off my laptop and my phone, and drank some tea and went outside after watching this video and it felt nice. Lots of love to you Dodie.
0 likesDodie, honey, I really like you and your content. I think that your "brand" has more good things to it then bad. This video is very intelligent and self-woke, which is great! What I'm trying to say is don't be too hard on yourself, please โค๏ธ๐ be safe
0 likesI think that it's best to talk about mental health after your experiences. Yes I know that mental illness is ongoing and it's always there but it's nicer to look back on how you once were compared to how you are now - once you're better.
0 likesi love you. you're doing the right thing. stay strong, dodie x
6 likesIt's okay Dodie this whole fandom is understanding and we all forgive you and love you
0 likesWe all honestly love you so bloody much dodie.
0 likesIt's really brave what you're doing. There are no guidelines on how you should handle this and it's normal to make some mistakes. I hope you still share the slightly less detailed stuff as they've definitely helped me along my path of mental health (and the lack of it). I think that I may have been oversharing as well and even though people come to me to say how much they appreciate my blog posts about depression and anxiety, it's kinda hitting me how everyone can read them. My parents, my old teachers, ... and even though it's important to be transparent about some subjects for awareness, there are boundaries I guess. I know that now and you were a part of that realisation with your oversharing video. So thanks for that and still thanks for sharing.
0 likesI love you dodie and thank you for everything
0 likesdodie, this is one of the first things of yours that i've been able to look at in a while. i am so sorry that it's hurting you so bad but please don't feel bad, we all make mistakes. and your judgement is completely impaired by mental illness. you were not in a mindset where you could logically think about what you were posting or realize the other side of effects it may have. so don't apologize. i know you feel like you need to, so trust me when i say we all forgive you. i'm glad to be able to start watching you again because i truly look up to you so so much. as a 16 year old girl, you've been a role model of mine ever since i subscribed 800K subscribers ago:) i will always support you and pray that things get better for you. just keep breathing and being the dodie we all love and adore. best wishes xoxo.
12 likesOh dodie youtube is a place where you can share anything. I know that I dont care i watch these videos and read those posts because i love you. I love the message you put out and the attitude you have. Don't worry ๐๐
0 likesI am proud to have you as my idol. :')
0 likesI just wanted to let you know that personally your posts haven't triggered me and I didn't find them glorifying. However I've never been easily triggered, so really your posts have been helping me a lot and I don't feel so alone now. Love u dodie you're being a good adult xoxo
0 likesYou shouldn't be embarrassed, you're human. Especially when in a hard place it's easy to give into social media as a way to cope. I'm glad you've learned something from this but I have too, it's okay to share and I've had problems with that in the past but I've learned that it's okay to keep some of the bad things out of the public eye just not everything
0 likesDodie, no matter what mistakes you've made in the past, you should be so so proud of yourself for addressing this problem and realizing you needed to fix it. This video and the one you made with Hazel are the best thing you could've done in this situation and I'm quite proud of you for that. It's very easy to get caught up in all your emotions or perhaps lack of emotions and let it all out. It may seem cathartic in the moment, but you've realized that it's not healthy in the long run and your life is going to be greater bc of that realization. Thank you dodie for all you do๐
4 likesI'm glad that you're discussing this because the overstating was affecting me in a negative way and I didn't want to have to unfollow your snapchat and insta
0 likesDon't be to hard on your self. You've helped me, if that matters๐
0 likesI hope you'll feel better dodie. ur such a wonderful human being. ur my inspiration and ur important to me. no pressure. just be yourself and idk... don't do anything you feel bad with
0 likesI understand how some are saying these posts are "triggering" and how it's difficult for them to read it. But I don't understand, no matter how in depth and personal and deep your posts get I still manage to read them and they have all helped me through so much and helped me discover myself and understand some of the emotions I feel and why I feel them and just get a better understanding of how other people feel, even though your posts help me they also help me help others as if I see someone that is showing similar "symptoms" or acting similarly then I may know how to help them and understand and care for them better. I feel that you can post whatever you want on the internet and you have freedom of speech. It's others people's decision to read and respond to these posts. Some people may only like to read posts where you're at a high point, others maybe prefer the personal ones where you're on your low point and some, like myself, are honestly happy with anything you want to post and share as it helps me and as you say, it helps you greatly too. So please, keep this all in mind. Thank you dodie for everything you have helped me with, and I'm glad by helping me you've been able to help yourself tooโค๏ธ I just wanted to get my opinion across
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1 likeOnline hug to Dodie, and to everyone watching.
1 likedodie, you are seriously so so strong and brave and it took a lot to be able to come out and publicly admit this, and apologise. you did the right thing for yourself and your viewers, and you should be proud of that. you are doing good dodie.
0 likesI am so happy for you! Congratulations!!
0 likesI;m super impressed you made this video and I'm really excited to see what is coming next because if you do stick to what you're saying then I know I'll be here at lot more than I have in recent months because I wont be scared I'm going to walk in on something that will potentially cause me to relapse
0 likesAw dodie... don't be sorry for doing something that secures you mentally. Most of us are trying to understand how hard it is and WE KNOW that this is terrible, and WE KNOW this is hard for you... and you shouldn't be sorry for that. I think you can always fall back into your audience and let us catch you, and that's what you've been doing. I think that it's great that you now understand that your audience will gradually loose their strength and occasionally drop you when you need it most.
5 likesI really, really hope you know (you probably do) that your audience is THE MOST utterly beautiful society I've been in. This community is amazing, the comment section on every video is so positive and refreshing, unlike many other comment sections on YouTube which are polluted with hatred. I believe that this society will help you push through, and we will try our best to catch you every time.
Now that you understand that we do loose our footing as well, it's... just wonderful.
I love you dodie, we all do. You've grown and matured into this stunning person. I really do hope that your depersonalisation leaves you alone and you can recover quickly.
But for now, we'll keep trying our best to catch you. So don't worry.
I have DPD (depersonalization disorder) as well. In fact, I knew it was a thing and something to talk to my therapist and psychiatrist about. So thank you for bringing it up to a certain extent. At the same time, it does become almost triggering. But also, I love it. It is something for me to connect with. For me, I frequently would post on snapchat or my finsta all about my stuff and my mental issues. However, I created really scared friends and people thinking I'm crazy. I learned boundaries by getting rid of everything, and slowly allowing it back. I deleted facebook, instagram, twitter, and snapchat from my phone. I didn't let myself go on. So now (as of like 2 weeks ago, lol), I can have some of it, but I am not addicted to using it as a cry for help or a distraction
0 likesdodie, i have always wished i could help you and understand your feelings, but the truth is that i don't because i just haven't experienced this sort of mental illness (which is good i guess :) ). however, i think i speak for all your followers to say that we love you because you are so down to earth and real, no flashy lights, no filters, we know it's the real you and your amazing musical talent. therefore, although you may have been oversharing and it's great that you have been able to see that and do something about it, know that we all support you and are watching your videos because we really get you :) thank you for being such an amazing person, especially with all the shit you have been going through. :)))
0 likesDodie I think you're response and apology were done beautifully, but I beg you not to be so hard on yourself. It's difficult to think straight when you're at your lowest. You're an amazing role model for so many and never forget that. We all love you so much.
0 likesDodie it's ok if you need to get it out you can get it out we all go through this โฅ๏ธ
0 likesYou shouldn't be afraid to cry... just cry. You need to, it's ok to cry online. It's not always a bad thing.
13 likesoh dodie dear! please do not apologize to all of us! we are here for you, we understand.. you shouldn't be embarrassed for sharing how you feel. I know how you feel and I know that isn't much because I'm just me, and you don't know me. but I've always related to all you post. I fully accept and understand your decision. I hope you are doing well on this fine day. we love you, I love you dodie. you're my biggest inspiration!
0 likesI just want to say that it is okay to make a mistake and it's very big of you to acknowledge what's been going on. I really love what you do and I think the best thing you can do is to take your own advice that you give out more often. Anytime I'm feeling low I watch your ASMR video to remind myself that I am appreciated. Love you Dodie, please take care of yourself. You shouldn't feel pressured to pump out content either. We will still be here even if you take a break to breathe.
0 likesSo good. So pure. So real.
0 likesMental health warps your perception, best thing to do is sit on things until s better frame of mind arises. Well done dodie
hey hey just because people feel that they have to step away from your videos doesnt inherently mean youre doing anything terrible! thats their choice and its good that they can make it, and thats exactly why your content doesnt always have to be comfortable for others. its good to do this self reflection and think of the impressionability of your audience and how they perceive and its effect on you but maybe dont be too quick to label your honesty as dangerous when there is also a dangerous lack of honesty in the world. there are good and bad sides to everything. maybe adding trigger warnings to things is a good way to level the playing field and highlight the significance of exposing some of the horrors of mental illness. either way, i hope you strike a comfortable and mutually healthy balance <3
0 likesI'm so happy, that you did this video in order to apologise and point out the risk of sharing such intimate and triggering things via social media. I was a little concerned myself because i had a friend to, who struggled with mental health issues and I really understand what it feels like to worry. Worrying about someone's mental state, worrying all the time. And although you don't know many of your followers personally, there will always be a close relationship between you and them. therefore it can be very dangerous to keep them worrying about you though they can't always help you. I loved how you said that your mental health problems won't be your brand because you are so much more than that. <3
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1 likeI feel this- I overshare so much to my boyfriend, especially about suicidal thoughts and self harm, and I worry constantly that it will affect him. I'm so visceral with what I say that I scare myself when the thoughts go away the next morning. I'm trying to find a way to vent that's a bit less damaging, but idk how :(
0 likesit makes me so sad that you are so sad dodie :(( โค i will keep watching im still here for when you do want to post
0 likesDodie, this is the best thing you could have done. I lost a lot of respect for you but you have bouyed that back up in gallons. It takes a lot to admit when you were wrong and to genuinely apologise. It shows extreme maturity and strength. I am glad you have made this video. I hate to see you cry. I hope you get better soon.
0 likes<333 love u so much I'm so glad you're working on changing the amount u share with us <333 I hope it goes ok for u x
0 likesThis is very brave, well done xxx
15 likesdodie no matter what you do (unless you like, murder someoneยฟ) you will always have my support and very many others. you are stong. you are lovely. you are beautiful. mistakes are made, and that's okay. mental health is something that is widely spread across the internet and that's somewhat good and somewhat terrible. there's a balance. and you'll find it. stay strong bb we all love you
0 likesSo proud of you Dodie, for reading all of those comments and taking it all constructively and learning from them
0 likesI must admit, I haven't been watching many of your videos lately (i don't know if it's because I found it confronting or if I just didn't happen to watch them though), so I don't really know much about your "online oversharing"
However, from this video and the video before, I gained some new respect for you because of the way you've handled the realisation that maybe you were oversharing
EDIT: As someone who has a diagnosed mental illness, I have to thank you for actually talking about mental illness. It really does make you feel like you're not alone, and i'm eternally thankful for that
This video made me realize that knowing how to be vulnerable isn't the equivalent to letting out all of your emotions to anyone willing to listen.
0 likesI love you so much dodie and yes this you did something and you cant take it back, but you now know and that's all that matters. yiur amazing!!
0 likesDodie it was because of you that I was able to get through Highschool. Your beautiful voice and beautiful personality are what bring me the inspiration to keep going. It makes me know that you're simply human with anxieties, fears, and sadness like I am. I've been having a hard time opening up to others and you've taught me to try and be positive everyday. ^_^ thank you. โค๏ธ
4 likesI think the way you have thought about this and the decision you made is really wonderful. Being able to step back like that and realize what you've been doing wrong but also the good you've been doing, and then taking steps to only keep the positive parts of your influence is really admirable. That being said, don't beat yourself up about anything you said. Everyone does something they regret later even if it was done without bad intentions. Stay strong, ily <3
0 likesDodie, you are so inspiring and have helped so many people with your music and your channel, including me when I was having trouble finding reasons to do much of anything or talk to anyone, your videos made me feel like the was some kind of tether I could hold on to because I had already drifted so far away from the people I cared about because of anxiety and depression so when I see that you have been feeling so bad, it breaks our hearts. I wish I could just give you a big hug and tell you that everything is going to be alright. Please be strong Dodie, you are amazing.
0 likesThanks for apologizing. As someone who watches your snapchat stories I just want to say that most of the time I'm just worried about you babe. Other times it puts me in a bit of a mood, and sometimes escalates.
0 likesWhile I don't blame you, I think it is important to take that step back. When I'm at a low point, sometimes I don't even realize it so I watch/read things that I can normally deal with (and then I can't whoooops). In those cases, I think it's important to at least write down and plan what you're going to talk about on snapchat, so before you talk about anything potentially triggering, you can warn us :) that way people like me can take a step back and assess if we could handle the topics you're going to talk about <3
If you read this dodie just know that I love you lots and you've helped me loads. I discovered you after I went through some trauma and your music and videos helped me process it. Also I used tourist/anti tourist (lol) as my audition song for my awesome acapella group yeeee ily <333333
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0 likesDodie! I love you so much and there are so many people who love you soooo much! There's no need to feel embarrassed. I know it's hard to believe but everything is going to be ok. Continue sharing your experiences and continue being you because you are an AMAZING person and you are beautiful and kind and just all around incredible. I know sometimes it's hard to believe, trust me, I understand. It has helped me to listen and read what you have posted because it makes me feel less alone. Thank you so much dodie โบ I love you and I hope from the bottom of my heart that you feel better!โคโค keep moving and continue incredible!!! Ok I'll stop now but once again I love you so much dodie!! And thank you โบโคโค
0 likesI just want to say that I'm so proud of you how you're handling it right now. You used this to learn from it and grow and that's something to be so proud of honestly. And as long as it's in a healthy way so people can learn from it and that it's relatable it's all right. I'm glad you still want to talk about mental illnesses etc and you want to do it in a healthy way (: I'm proud.
3 likesA thought I've expressed before. When you have very impressionable young people hearing their favourite youtubers talk a lot about anxiety and depression it can be harmful depending on how it's conveyed- it can cause children to try to look relate to you and overthink things and actually develop mental problems because of it, as they're constantly surrounded by idols in an unstable state. I remember watching youtubers when I was younger made me feel less confident and made me more anxious and insecure due to the overexposure I had to it, when I was previously more comfortable with myself. I'm glad you're willing to show how everyone had down days and aren't happy always, but I'm glad you've recognised how there's a limit to what is healthy to share. Very proud of you (don't he embarrassed!) this was such a positive and challenging video to make and to acknowledge your mistakes. Love you!!
6 likesawww I love you dodie, I too suffer from mental health issues. Self-Care is super important. xoxoxox
0 likesThis video has sent me a harsh wake up call. I always vent my emotions and what Iโm thinking online but I donโt know if thatโs always the right thing to do. I have a fan account on instagram that no one irl knows about. Last year, when my depression was at its worst, i would constantly turn to that account to vent, to write out what I was feeling. Reflecting on that, it probably wasnโt the right thing to do but I was drawn to it. I wanted SOMEONE to listen, to know that I wasnโt okay. I wrote down a lot of depressed shit and it probably wasnโt making the people seeing that feel any better. I donโt think everyone truly understands the word โtriggerโ because being triggered isnโt just a meme, it could come from a tiny thing that someone says to you. It could even come from a gesture. Itโs so easy to get triggered, especially if youโve not got a stable mental state. Ive finally been on the receiving end of someone else writing down their thoughts etc. My friend sometimes writes down some depressed stuff and it takes me back a step in my recovery. It makes me feel like shit, in so much pain for them and myself. Thank you for making this video dodie and for making me realise:)
1 likehey, don't be sad it's alright. you didn't messed up "so much" mistakes are here to be fixed, and you will try to keep this side of you out of public eye and be healthier about that so please, please, please don't feel bad it's gonna be ok
0 likesI cried watching this, because it upset me. I related to the things you did on Snapchat and Instagram -the oversharing and going to deep and descriptive about your mental state at the time that it upset readers and watchers, who had to turn away from reading/watching. I never found those hard to watch or read because I would do this but to my friends, I would message them or call them upset and go see deep about my mental health that it genuinely scared them but I never saw that all I saw was they care and put up with my vents. It become so often I done this and so graphic the way I was telling them that if I ever seemed the tiniest bit sad they would instantly be so concerned and worried because they thought that it might happen again, that I'll breakdown and go so deep that it's like I can't get back out and I'd drag them down with me. So thank you miss dodie Clark for realising your mistakes and helping me realise mine and for being so genuinely sorry about them :) x
7 likesone of my biggest role models. though you are not perfect you come through even stronger.
0 likesCould you do a live stream and raise money for Mental Heath? It's a positive way. You can help others. You'll put DOWN mental health, and you'll inspire younger fans!
0 likesWe love you, Dodie!
Be safe!
Please don't stop sharing these things! In some weird way, reading your posts helps others who are struggling with kind of the same things.
0 likesMaybe just put a trigger warning before your posts or video's where you talk about these things.
Aw, Dodie <3 You're so thoughtful
0 likesas someone who is the same age as you I just wanted to let you know that your posts and snapchats about your mental health have helped me a lot. yes, the were very graphic at times, but I don't think I'm as young as the majority of your audience. your posts helped me deal with the fact that I can be a somewhat functioning adult but also be mentally ill at the same time - that they are not mutually exclusive. I've heard from a lot of people that by this stage in my life I should be "over it" by now (lol literally the worst thing you can say to someone with poor mental health) but I guess your posts reassured me that that is not necessarily the case? That being said, I'm glad you're not going to be as explicit as you have been in the past regarding your mental health. I know I wouldn't want my younger brothers (who are 12 and 14 years old) to know or hear about the fucked up thoughts in my head.
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I'm around dodie's age as well and I think her posts have helped me at lot too. I sometimes forget that younger people watch her but now that dodie has pointed it out I wouldn't want my little sister to hear graphic descriptions of my depression either
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1 likeMe too. It's a shame she thinks(or is being told) that her being so open is a negative trait of hers, because I honestly related to it beyond words. I think she's doing so much good towards removing stigmas but as you say, I also wouldn't want my young family knowing my darkest thoughts.
11 likesleah low im not her age and they've helped me on so many levels; I think her 'fan base' or whatever you'd like to call us is so so so accepting and sympathetic to others issues and feelings no matter how graphic they may be.๐
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0 likesTbh I don't think it's an age thing, I think it was more the format/phrasing
1 likeKatie Ahronson I don't necessarily think it's an age thing either, I think young people are perfectly aware that she was being graphic and that being so transparent when she's feeling at her worse wasnt the most healthiest thing to do lol. this lil post was just me saying thanks
2 likesleah low ๐๐ผ๐๐ผ and I do the same with my 15 year old sister, I try and keep everything as normal as I can around her
1 likeYeah same!!! I'm over 18 now and I found dodie's social media so helpful and encouraging, even when she wasn't in a great mental state. I've learnt from this video as well! To be mindful of my audience, and to not use social media as a pressure valve when I'm feeling down. It's such a shame that dodie feels so bad about it... it's ok... we're all learning here bby
6 likesleah low what is her snapchat because I want to support her on other social mediaโs then just YouTube
2 likeswhy would you want to hide something so important from an important person when they can possibly help..? im one of those 14 year olds that understands mental health so much and will do things to help, and if something happens to that person and i find out, i would feel like a worthless person and think things like, why wouldnt they open up to me, did i do something wrong that i couldnt be trusted with information that heavy, i couldve helped. ive opened up to people about what thoughts were going through my mind and they helped me. i got better and im not hurt anymore
0 likesdiamond bird just because I don't openly discuss my depression with my younger siblings doesn't mean that I'm hiding it from them. They know about it and they also know that if they wanted to talk to me about their own mental health they can. the difference between them talking about their problems and me talking about mine is that am the adult in the situation, they are minors. They don't need added problems on top of their own. Even if a minor does have an understanding of mental health issues, they should not have to listen to or feel responsible for how an adult feels. I'm glad you opened up and talked about what was going on in your head and got help! I'm not discouraging that. I am discouraging making a minor feel like they are responsible for helping an adult.
1 likediamond bird teenage years are hard enough as it is, although my sister knows about it, it's something she's had to live with virtually all her life and I want the effect of it on her to be as minimal as possible
0 likesWe all understand that it is hard to get out the feelings and that over sharing can be an issue but we still love u soooooooo much and u shouldn't be embarrassed. U have taught me a lot about mental health as a 13 year old girl. U have so many amazing friends who are always there for u. Stay happy. "One day you'll say your OKAY and MEAN it." - Dodie
0 likesI struggled with this kind of thing quite a bit when I was younger, especially on my collab channel (fiveawesomegirls) when I was having a particular amount of trouble with my depression. I just kind of stopped posting on my own channel when I was at my lowest, but I'd committed to a schedule on that the other channel and ended up being my very sad self in lots of videos there. I found that that line can take a while to find, and I crossed it a few times before I really placed it and set rules for what I'm willing to share online.
0 likesSo, so many people told me that sharing my experiences helped them, but the few people who had negative things to say at my weakest points just hurt me too much (I still remember the two directed at my depression that hit me the hardest and it's been 6 or 7 years). My mental health overall has been much better since I drew the right line for me, but I do sometimes feel more alone when I'm having a rough patch and I feel like I can't express myself the way I want to. At the end of the day, I needed a balance and that can take a lot of work to find.
Dear dodie, I have been fan girling over you for nearly a year now, I discovered you because of one of my very very close friends.... you've helped me so much !
0 likesAs someone who doesn't feel "normal" as you say I struggle with everyday life.... about a year and a half ago my best friend got diagnosed with depression and it's been tough... but I'm scared I also have it and I haven't been to check but every symptom my friend has, I have and I struggle a lot with that and you have been the person who I have turned to when I am in my " dark places" or my "cloud days" as I call them... when I feel my worst I watch your video because they make me so happy. They take me out of what is the real world and put me into a world where everything is happy and colourful and happy... I don't t really know the meaning of this, I guess maybe to say thank you, which is strange because I've never actually meeting you.... I'm seeing you in Glasgow though!!! And I couldn't be more excited.... Thank you so much and I hope one day you'll feel amazing and the amazing feeling of not being spaced out stays and you be a happy perky you 24/7. I love you and even though it's 1 am I hope you're sleeping and I hope you're having good dreams again thank you
Rachael xxxxxx
You know, even though I did feel kind of taken aback and reminded of things I didn't want to be thinking about when you'd make those posts, I liked them. I was okay with the moment of trigger, tbh. Good on you for being conscientious about it, but don't feel too bad. :)
0 likesi think you are so brave. you own up to your mistakes and that's the best thing anyone could learn from you. i think what you did was wrong, and there is a line, but the way you dealt with it is just a great example to your audience
0 likes(I know this is late but...)
0 likesIn my opinion, to this day I think you have not done anything wrong. People can say what they need to say but your videos and content helps me understand that Iโm not the only person who feels bad about themselves.
Your content is like a therapy to yourself and to many others and if that makes you happy and makes others happy (which it does) you do not need to feel ashamed or upset about what YOU decide to post and not what OTHERS decide YOU need to post.
So yeah this is just my opinion please donโt attack me about it if you think Iโm wrong xx
If I didn't love you before, seeing you admit that maybe you shouldn't have shared as much as you did and say sorry up front, has made me have the utmost respect for you ๐๐
0 likesYou being rational and thinking about your audience like a little sister is so important to me, because your posts were starting to affect me, but then I thought it wasn't your fault, because it wasn't. Thank you for re-evaluating your decisions and thinking about us. Is not your fault, and I love you. Thank you for talking about your thoughts and everything.
0 likesyou know all these people are writing super long paragraphs blah blah blah i just wanted to say i love you so much and i hope you stay strong (no hate to anyone taking the time to write a message i think it's very wonderful) <3 :)
26 likesyouโre a fucking angel and i love you soooo fucking much!! youโre a beautiful human deserving of all the love.
0 likesHun, it's ok. I know you have a 'young audience' but please do not forget that you are also young.
1 likeYou're a good egg. And you're just living your life. And I love you.
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Dodie :D first, I realy Love you and second I Love you! Stop saying you're sorry. You are amazing and an inspiration to a lot of People!
0 likesNothing to apologise for, lady. We all make mistakes and we're all making it up as we go. You've done MUCH more good than harm. ๐
0 likesYou aren't glorifying mental illness and you don't need to be ashamed. You made mistakes and I know it's cheesy and you've heard it a B I L L I O N times but everyone makes mistakes. You did what you thought was right at the time and that's all you can really do. Thank you for trying your best, im so excited for Veda ๐๐
63 likesHello dodie!! I am not normally one to comment on videos, but this one has hit me so close to home that here I am. It saddens me to hear how guilty you are feeling. I don't think you should feel that you've severely messed up, or that you're "glorifying mental health," or "making it your brand." For me, at least, your videos and posts are so speciaI. I find you incredibly real, and relatable, and your words strike a chord with me unlike any other. I completely support your decision to work on boundaries, but I hope you know that for many like me, you have been a great source of help and comfort. Best of wishes to you, and stay strong as always. ๐ป
0 likesI just want to wrap you up in blankets and give you tea and tell you everything will be okay โค๏ธ I love you and stay strong xx
0 likesdodie, you have no idea how much respect i have for you after this. You are so brave and strong, you acknowledged what you did was unhealthy and apologised which is hard for a lot of people to do. Hope your mental health improves :P, cuz it is well shit to have a mental illness. Sending my love <3
0 likesI saw a much more mature and adult side to you in this video Dodie and I'm happy that you did this, but while I'm not too keen on the oversharing your posts about depersonalisation have helped me a lot because it's given me something to relate how I'm feeling to. I also wouldn't say you've messed up, but maybe try and talk about mental health in more of an objective way rather than a subjective way?? But thank you, this was important
0 likesThis video was perfect. We love you Dodie! โก
4 likesproud of you Dodie
0 likesAwweeee Dodie I love youuu ๐ please don't be so hard on yourself about this
0 likesSure something's get intense....but it's sorta refreshing to see something so real. I don't think you need to apologize for being you and talking about these things since that is a very hard thing to do...I think you should be proud of yourself for allowing yourself to be so vulnerable but I support whatever you do...I hope that things get better and that something beautiful comes from it๐
0 likesI'm glad you've figured out that the oversharing isn't healthy for you & you're moving forward. I don't think you should feel guilty for being open about mental illness (I also struggle with depersonalisation and it has been really important to me to be able to follow your journey) but I can see that - as you've said - some of your posts crossed a line from discussion/awareness into content that was probably exacerbating your symptoms. I guess I just want to say that I don't think you should feel horrible about the stuff you've shared for your audience's sake, but more because it isn't what was good for you. Good luck anyway. โค๏ธ
0 likesThe oversharing also hurts the person, because it provides something short term that will go away. It becomes like an addiction, requiring more of that short term result.
61 likesI think as your audience and as people who love and care about you, we all forgive and understand you. Your health has caused you to some things that you don't like and that's okay because you're smart and have seen the problem and you're working towards helping yourself and others which is a beautiful and brave thing. Best of luck x
0 likesWhy did I start crying when you started crying.
0 likesDodie, the stuff you shared on social media on your mental illness has been a bit graphic I guess, but please know that your videos and those type of posts have actually helped me go through mine. I found out that I have depression not too long ago, and the things you've said about your mental problems have made me feel better because I don't feel so alone. I learned that it's normal to be not okay, to cry for no reason, to have my brain not function and that it's not my fault. I love you Dodie, and I'm grateful for everything you've done โค๏ธ
thank you for your maturity and honest response dodie.
0 likesI am so proud of you. You are so strong and its okay that you made a mistake. Your learning and I hope you can feel proud with your self soon. Love you
0 likesWow. This video was, wow. I have my first therapy session tomorrow morning and this was quite comforting and helpful. I don't know how but it was. I love your videos because they're so important to me and people like you and me. Everyone has emotions and when you know you're not alone and when the people like you can make you feel hopeful, it really does a lot. You've also know your mistakes and had basic human decency to apologize for it. Thank you for being an amazing person.
3 likesI love you. I love you I love you I love you. Like you, I am the type of person who has no issues being vulnerable with anyone and everyone. I cry in front of other people (often!). Talking about my mental health helps me so much. But, I sometimes feel that I'm annoying others or that my friends are tired of hearing about my mental health. Through your sharing, I have found that I am not the only one who wants to be completely open, and that's okay, but it needs to be controlled. I think you handled this situation in the absolute best way possible. I might ask my friends directly if I overshare with them, and if I'm told that I do, I will send them this video. It's perfect and honest. Thank you. I love you. Don't feel embarrassed. I love you.
0 likesI relate a lot to you. I put myself out there and I'm learning to be more private. But we also help SOOO many people by talking about it. Ily so much dodie. Plz know that u have helped people. And help people relate and figure out themselves. Do not be sorry. What you do is fabulous. I don't want you to treat us as your little sister because this is why we ARE going through!!
0 likesDodie, honestly I think this, more than anything, is so very brave to say. It's a hard thing to admit that you've done a bad thing, and try and attempt to fix it, to retrain yourself into dealing with your emotions differently, and - it's just so overpoweringly brave. I'm sitting here watching this thinking 'god she is so strong to be able to say this' and I can feel your guilt I can feel how bad this makes you feel and still you try to fix it honestly, this is courageous. Strong. Bravery at its really. You're an inspiration lovely โค
0 likesaaaa I'm gonna cry (good crying tho) i love you and I'm so proud of you dodieโค๏ธ
0 likesdon't be sorry. as a fellow mental illness sufferer i've really appreciated all of your posts, the intense ones too. <3
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honestly. i never found it too much. and if i had, i would've taken a step away too and then come back later. i still don't think you've done anything wrong.
29 likesplease don't tell her not to apologise. her posts may not have affected you, but they definitely have negatively impacted much of her audience. also as hazel mentioned in the last video, they've affected her friends. i absolutely love and support dodie, and i definitely do see where you're coming from, but it is very harmful to tell someone, who is apologising to over a million people, that she shouldn't be sorry because she didn't hurt you specifically.
15 likes20 something I understand where you're coming from, but I think telling her she shouldn't apologize isn't the right approach.
6 likesthe way she was doing it couldnt have been good for her either a real addiction and im glad she has realised and i know/hope she will share her experiences when she has grown from then but in a truly dodie style artist way that we inspire many just like this video, i have to say i have alot of respect for especially from this video. this was truly brave
0 likesSpeaking for my myself, you oversharing online didn't affect me because my mental health is usually okay, but i can see how certain things could be affecting other people (even young audience). But Dodie i just wanna say this: oversharing could be too much sometimes but i do wanna tell you that you don't have to stop sharing your feelings with us, because you have helped me so much and we can help you. We are here Dodie to fight this battle with you.
0 likesGood on you, Dodie!
0 likesI really don't feel like you've done anything wrong at all! I don't know why you're apologising. Not sharing things online to me seems far more dangerous than supposedly oversharing. When you feel low, you don't want to talk to anyone about it, you'd rather show strangers and that's what often saves people's lives by posts they've made.
0 likesThank you dodie I think that I am going to go to my friends instead of keeping to my self and bottling it up. Thank you I love you.
0 likesI'm so happy about this. You're an amazing person and I'm so proud of you. I struggle with my mental health as well and while at first your videos and posts about it helped me a lot, I also started to get triggered by them. Wich was a real bummer. But I think maybe this decision is also better for you? Since you won't give your emotions so much weight anymore. I mean, it's always important to respect and recognise emotions, but sometimes it helps more to just accept the feeling exists, instead of dwelling on it. It has actually helped me a lot with my depression to accept my emotions in that moment but also accept that other emotions will come, such as happiness. Meditation has also helped a ton.
4 likesI'm so glad for your decision to make your social media a save space, and keep talking about mental health, but in a way you would to your little sister.
I really hope you'll feel better soon as well because it breaks my heart to see you suffering. And it probably breaks yours as well.
I think its good that you shared, because your viewers (us teenagers) need to see the reality of mental health disorders. There are some people my age who think that sadness is depression and feeling nervous is anxiety and to see someone really going through this is really important. I don't think you did anything wrong. If it helped you, i think thats whats important and this is your channel, if it makes people uncomfortable that's fine, like, watching a sex scene with your parents is uncomfortable and you dont have to watch it? I don't know, I understand the other point of view, but really, I think you did a good thing. If no one ever speaks out to the masses, the masses will never know. Your audience is, yes full fo impressionable teenagers, but if someone elses reality is never shown, you never know that your reality is good. I don't know, I think you did good
0 likesI don't usually comment ... but Dodie, good for you. Much love. <3 <3
0 likesI hate seeing you so sad Dodie <3 You've apologized enough, sweetheart. It's okay; you've done it enough. Focus on changing your content now. We have forgiven you <3
0 likesI love you, Dodie. ๐ป
0 likesDoddie I'm late and I'm sorry seeing you crying makes me so sad and I just want to hug you. I love you WE love you it's ok I really want you and me to be ok. Please take care of your self and stay with your good friends and family I love you so much, and I'm sorry you had to apologize. Thank you so much for everything Thank you.
9 likesyou're a complete babe and i'm really proud of you for handling this with such honesty and integrity, and honestly I was worried about how this might be affecting you so i'm relieved to see you're able to use it positively and move forwards! much love <3
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p.s. some of your audience (i.e. me lol) are not so young and impressionable and in fact think of you as a little sister, of whom they are protective and proud :) (not that i have any right to be but ya know) <3
0 likessending love dodie ๐๐
0 likesDodie! Thank you so much for apologising and all that you do for those with mental health! You are invaluable.
0 likesHowever, I would love for you to address the creativity/mental health comments that were made in your previous video. I think those offhand comments are more damaging than you would realise and invalidate mentally healthy creatives as well as discourage recovery/good mental health in creatives with mental health issues.
hey.. props for the candid follow up. You know we still all love you <3
0 likesFuck.
4 likesI don't know what to say,
But please don't say sorry. Everybody's learning how to do things right, you're not perfect and you're figuring out how to do things the best way.
Please don't apologise to us. Yes oversharing mental illness online can be dangerous, but don't feel embarrassed about this common confusing mistake.
Love you lots Dods xx
Dodie has such a clear way of wording things, it's very helpful. i now have gained even more respect for her ((is that possible? idk))
0 likesim so glad she uploaded this video. i had - without noticing - almost detached myself from watching anything off Dodie's social media; its now clicked that it's because i felt like Dodie was exposed, and i had to respect her privacy. i unconsciously refused to listen to her mental illness updates. it was as if they were seeping into my personal health too. at the time i recognised this detachment as 'boredom' from her content, but really it was because of the constant, upsetting messages.
don't be so hard on yourself - you had no purpose/meaning to offend, trigger or hurt anyone.
thankfully i am now back into the rhythm of reading whatever she posts, and i hope Dodie and anyone reading this long ass paragraph is in (or close to) their best mental state. i wish you the best, goodnight :)
So many people have already said this but I am really impressed by such a mature self-aware video this was. Now, don't for one second feel embarrassed or sad about any of the mistakes you've made. We all make them and the fact that you can see them and accept them just shows what a strong, amazing person you are. We all love you Dodie Clark!!
0 likesHey Dodie, I'm a huge fan of yours! Personally I never minded your posts, as I find them all relatable, and nothing ever seemed that graphic to me and never romanticizing of anything. (However, I feel like I've been desensitized to a lot of things, which is just a personal thing for me.) You've been a really big inspiration to me and a lot of other people. I think that writing and recording videos seems like a good coping skill for you. If you want to stop posting so much about your mental health, that's your decision, and I very much respect you for it. I think that taking a step back for your sake, not anyone else's, might be healthy as you've mentioned. Don't be too hard on yourself. You're an amazing and strong person.
0 likesAs a mentally ill person myself, I often write based on those experiences (I don't share my work often because I'm sorta nervous) but it helps me cope and I enjoy reading content with similar themes. So I definitely know where you're coming from. Mental illness can take up so much room in someone's life, and artists often create from their life experiences.
Overall, what I'm saying to say is: I'll always support you. I think you are an incredibly brave, talented, kind, and intelligent person. Keep going, keep creating. Taking a step back might be healthy for you, so give it a try. Maybe try out some new healthy coping skills. In the meantime, I'll always love and admire you.
You have taught me to be brave and accept myself, and you continue to do so each day.
P.S. I'm sorta tired as I'm writing this, and it's all stream of consciousness so I apologize if it doesn't make sense. But I felt the need to put my two cents in
Its ok, we are all here for you.
0 likesDodie we love you
35 likesDon't worry
I just want to hug you
Talk to you
Love you
Hey Dodie! I'm currently reading an interesting book that I feel is loosely related to the topic of mental health. It's called The Secret of Letting Go by Guy Finley. It kinda reads like a children's book, but there are a good couple of interesting thoughts in every chapter. Check it out if you're interested. (Of course it's not to say that therapy is a bad idea - quite the opposite. I just thought you might wanna look at it.)
0 likesWe love you Dodieee๐
0 likesI agree with your point in this video however the silver lining i see is that you have made me aware that i have done the same thing as you. It's good to admit mistakes and learn from them. So thanks for sharing.
2 likesDodie, please consider doing something like opening an extra channel / account for venting! I understand that people might feel triggered, but there are people (like me) who can really relate to you and honestly, even though we dont know each other, when I feel down and watch your videos about you going through the same - i feel like i am listening to a close friend or sister. Now of course you are free to put out whatever you want on the internet. But to me personally, it seems that describing your thoughts and feelings to us gave you release - and there are many people who would watch your videos and follow your social media.
0 likesIts your decision of course and we have to respect that. Just stay safe please :)
dodie you're a human, JUST LIKE ALLLLL OF US! yes, what you've done was a mistake but you have realized what your mishaps were and apologized! there's nothing else you can do, DO NOT BEAT YOURSELF UP OVER IT! we all love you, and we need to realize that you're a feeling human as well who does not deserved to be put up on a pedestal and forced to repent violently. again, YOU ARE A HUMAN WHO MAKES MISTAKES, and that's why we love you :).
4 likesstay healthy my friends
hi dodie, this is a big step for you and ofcours, do what feels right for you, but i wanted to share my point of view. i'm sixteen and it helped me so much to watch your videos. i was amazed, that someone could be so honest and close about theire mental health. this is the reason i never felt alone, you showed how to cope with your own and other demons. it's understandable that it hurts, that people don't want to see this things, because they don't understand, or are reminded of theire own sadness. but it's the truth and nothing but the truth and it helped you too because in this community we are not alone. this is what i like about youtube. so, this is my way to thank you, thank you for making me aware of things and thanks for staying. now learn for yourself and find a way that works for you, do, but please, don't be sorry. you didn't do anything bad.
0 likeslove from germany
I did the same sort of thing around a few years ago with a friend I had who was a few years younger than me. She was around 8 and I was 11, my anxiety and my mental state got really really bad and I shared a lot of that with this particular friend but it got dark and I ended up pretty much graphically describing panic attacks and suicidal thoughts to this 8 year old often times whilst I was having them. Soon enough her mum found out and we ended up drifting away from each other. Now Iโm 13 and Iโve seen a councillor and although itโs not perfect, my anxiety has gotten a lot better because of it. Talking to people and reaching out to friends is obviously good but like everything itโs all in proportion
0 likesDodie, it is okay. You made a mistake and you were trying to help yourself get and feel better (you were also trying to help others as well). It is totally okay that you messed up because people make mistakes, and the great thing is is that you understand that you were oversharing. I love you and I hope you are feeling better <3
0 likesI'm grateful for your post , it makes me realize that I'm not the only one having these thoughts and feelings
0 likesI honestly find your videos and posts about mental issues very helpful. I think it's helpful for me to see that other people who i admire struggles(?) as well it really pulls me back down to earth and makes me feel like I'm sort of worth something and that's really helpful for me, but I know and agree that you should stop posting online for the health of yourself and others. I, myself, have a jar and every time I'm having a "moment" I'll write it down and curl it into a spiral and put it in a jar. And also, know that your audience forgives you entirely.
5 likesI forgive you and thank you for making a positive space to learn as we all try to figure out the human experience.
0 likesNow the last video and this one actually came as a shock to me, funnily enough. I was someone who quite 'enjoyed' - now that is a horrible word, but I don't mean it like that, obviously, so shall we say benefitted instead - your snapchats and instagram posts. I found them calming, knowing that someone out there was also struggling with the same things I was. Of course, I can just look a comments or forums, but it's not the same thing, you know? Just pixels on a screen. So seeing someone verbalize it, someone you look up to as well, was.. nice - nothing I experience on a daily basis, as nobody I know, have the same struggles as myself. Also of course worrying as I do want you, and everybody, to be happy, but still.
0 likesBut I do get the point that you're saying, and the rest of your followers are; it was graphic and probably not suitable for a 12 year old, as they could have been triggering. So that you're listening to your audience says a lot about you Dodie - it shows that you do care, and also can admit that you have made a mistake. That takes a lot of guts! Also don't beat yourself up too much up - I don't think anyone in this little community are cross or what's worse.
So in conclusion; you need to know that you did help some people, myself included (as I've stated before, my struggles being very similar to yours, and maybe also because I'm closer to your age, than most on here) and probably also a lot others. But it is very admirable that you are listening to the majority of your audience, who was triggered. Takes a great person to do as such, even though it might be hard!
Aw Dodie I too have to sometimes stop watching/reading because it's too much but you shouldn't feel embarrassed because it's something we've probably all done to some extent and I've even done it a bit but not on social media x
0 likesWe love you Dodie <3
0 likesYour videos and Instagram posts actually kind of help me, it makes me feel like I'm not the only one who feels feeling I feel like I shouldn't? I don't know, I'm not saying that it's good to feel this way, it's certainly not, but the way you're so open about the way you feel is inspiring, so thank you
3 likesi love you dodie. we all love you. you are a strong, strong woman you will get through this
0 likesGood job dodie. It takes a lot of courage and humility to do this vid I and say that your sorry and that you've made a mistake. So many people these days don't have the guts to admit their mistakes and end up with very little joy because they don't learn from them. So points to you dodie. It's a step in the right direction.
0 likesI'm really proud. You are not in a good place, and we know that. That system really wasn't healthy, for you or us. So this is a thank you for apologising because it did need to happen. I hope this therapist works!
0 likesthank you so much. this means so much, dodie i love you but i had to step back. and now i feel like i can be close with you again! i love you so much. thank you thank you thank you!!
0 likesDear dodie,
17 likesPlease listen to "maggie Rodgers" on Spotify
This artist has helped me with my Anxiety,and just basic stress so i really recommend this๐๐
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Noodle Paege i love maggie rogers awh ๐
0 likesOkay i know Dodie wont see this, but her videos and posts have actually helped me so much over the past two years, and i know it has done the opposite for some people. I started to struggle with my own mental issues a few years back and I actually thought I was just crazy. When I found Dodie I actually took such a sigh of relief because I realized I am not the only one feeling this way. She taught me about depersonalisation, she has helped me better cope with my anxiety and her music has been so incredibly close to my heart because of the relatable lyrics; When, 6/10 and Secret for the Mad in particular. Shes helped me sort of find myself again and I love her so much for it. So, thank you Dodie. You allowed me to better understand my mental state, myself, and made me realize that I needed to get help from professionals rather than dealing with this alone.
0 likesDodie is my inspiration for everything
0 likesI agree, and there are some videos that I don't really want to have seen, but I think it is healthy for you to have an output and an opportunity for you to realise that millions of people care for you, wish you the best and want you to know that we're here for you through it all.
0 likesI agree that somethings you shared where not appropriate but I'm happy to see you've realised your errors and that you're not in denial about it. On a side note, your skin looks fantastic! โค
0 likesOk, this this might be a bit long lol but I just want you to know that you should not feel guilty about sharing online, you started using it as an outlet but then you began to over share. I want to say that I believe you should not post in depth descriptions about everything you feel when you are not feeling well but it is very importantly to get it out, so like you said, write it down, record it in the voice memos app or just talk to a close friend. Once you feel better, then talk about it with your audience if you want. Just DO NOT feel bad that you shared those things, you were just trying to help yourself and maybe help some of us too. In the end, we love you and don't want you to feel bad about something you did in the past. And btw i really enjoyed learning about your brain and relating to it. I have something called postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome (PoTs) which is an autoimmune disease and along with it comes depression, anxiety and depersonalization so it's really nice to see someone who I can relate to. Just know it's ok to share just there are some things that should not be said online when you are not feeling well. Once you feel better, talk about all you want! Anyway, I love you ๐
5 likesI'm not diagnosed but I'm pretty damn sure I have depersonalisation/derealisation too and it freaks me out. Not feeling at home in your body and your own reality is some of the scariest shit ever. I don't even know you personally but I can tell you are a good person and would never mean to cause harm to anyone. Keep being you :)
0 likesThis is so important. I've legit seen people post actual pictures of them cutting themselves. It was really triggering and when confronted they said they wouldn't stop because it helped them etc. I couldn't put into words how unhealthy and unhelpful it was for them to do this, but this video did it. So thank you.
0 likesYou are such an amazing person and so courageous. Idk i feel like this should be a very empowering video for you. i love you so much xxxxxxx
0 likesi respect and love you so much, stay strong :))
0 likeshey, don't be too hard on your self. To be honest, yes, you have been sharing a lot. but when you're in this kind of state, it's hard not to over share. sometimes you don't even realize what you are doing, until someone tells you. It's not your fault that you feel this way, and it's not your fault for sharing about it. We all love you so much and you have helped me and so many people. try to take care of yourself ๐
6 likesBless you Dodie, bless you
0 likesI feel like I'm the only one who appreciated her raw sharing of things. I, personally, don't think she needed to apologize, but instead just addressing it and explaining how she felt. I don't really understand the people who are like "tysm for apologizzinng" because, honestly, this isn't one of the worst thing a YouTuber has done and if she just explained how she felt, we would understood and the apology wouldn't be needed. But I guess it's the end of an era. I really don't know how I'll feel anymore.
0 likesSo.... I'm having trouble trying to turn my thoughts into words lol. In truth I'm not really sure what my thoughts are at the moment either. But I know I want to say something! And I suppose that something would be that.... I forgive you dodie.
0 likesI am someone who is fortunate enough to not have mental illness and in my life I've never really met or been exposed to it previously. So when I started following you on social media and I listened to your videos about mental illness and read your posts on depersonalization, they were real eye openers for me. They enlightened me on an issue that I was previously uneducated on and I am grateful to you for that! The more you know in this world the better off you are to help yourself and help others. Perhaps it is because I don't have mental illness, or maybe because of time zones so I didn't see the worst of your videos, but I never thought of your videos as graphic or triggering. However, that doesn't change the fact that they were for others or that they've hurt you more than they've helped in the long run.
I enjoy watching your videos. I love your songs, and I like to hear you talk about things you're passionate about. You're a bright soul and you always seem to bring a smile to my face! So seeing you hurting and upset makes me upset too and I want to help! tho I don't know how. I also acknowledge tho that I'm a stranger on the internet so maybe it's not my place to help either. So I shall compromise with leaving a few kind words that will hopefully make you smile at least a little; in return for all the times you've unknowingly comforted me when I am down.
We forgive you! We love you too! We're glad you're feeling happy and hopeful! And when you need a place to share your thoughts in a healthy way for both you and us, your audience, believe me we will still be here listening. :)
Best Wishes Dodie <3
a friend
You have inspired me so much. I just started watching you but I understand you so much. I go through the samething. Thank you for sharing. You have no idea!!!!
0 likesSHES SO DAMN PURE AHHHHH PROTECT HER ALWAYS
72 likesNever loved you more. It's SO HARD to know what to say when!! It's more than ok to slightly misjudge it xxx
0 likesHi Dodie! As a 27yo that went through a 'dumb patch' after a few really crappy things in quick succession.. I can only agree with you! With so many people talking about mental health issues (particularly depression/anxiety) online, people have started to believe that it's ok. WHEN IT'S NOT OK! It's not ok to be stuck in that rut. It's not ok to not seek help. It's not ok to let it affect your future... yet somehow, through people 'normalising' these issues. It has sometimes become ok. And people are falling deeper. Not getting help. Sharing negative thoughts and vibes. IMO, mental health issues should only be discussed alongside the message that 1. You need to, and will get back out of the hole in your head. 2. Self help/professional help suggestions and advice.
0 likesSorry for the essay. Have a great weekend everyone. You deserve to feel great.
dodie i know you probably won't read this but i am so happy that you made this video. i have been watching you for awhile and trust me i care about you as much as someone can who has never met you. and it is so so important to talk about the dark and twisty feelings so please do not stop. but i am so happy because you addressed the fact that oversharing online can be dangerous and triggering for those who also struggle with mental health issues and also feel dark and twisty sometimes. so thank you for acknowledging this and please continue to be the kind, brilliant and talented person that you are. i love you.
0 likesThis was a brave video to make. Its all a matter of learning. For you and for us.
0 likesYou should film yourself in your worst but bin it after and think of it as throwing a bad dream away
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i agree with this. sometimes when im in a really bad state i'll make a voice recording or write it down but right away afterwards i'd listen to/read it back n overanalyze it which would make me feel soo much worse so deleting straight afterwards is a great idea n sounds like.. yea, its just a good idea :)
7 likesHi dodie
0 likesI am so grateful to you. I am a person who has seen depression in so many of my family members and friends around me and seeing them struggle has made me fearful of the thing called depression. I am scared. I am a person who feels extremely. I can feel very happy but then the bads are so bad. Recently I have been feeling nothing but bad. I feel like I am drowning. I am trying to breath but I just can't. A lot of this heaviness comes from the fear of the label of depression. The fear was holding me down. But your videos snap chats post and music has helped me realize that depression suckes. But being scared of my self and my feelings and my lows is just digging me deeper. So I understand why you are sorry but I wanted to let you know that you have helped one person.
-love Caz
I know itโs been awhile since this came out, but I just watched it... I watched your video with Hazel when you uploaded it, & I realized that I was being triggered by your posts. Therefore, I took a step back (as you said some people have), but now I watched this & I feel much better. Iโm with you, Dodie. Love you ๐
0 likeshonestly tysm for posting this. its so hard to admit when youve done bad things!! im so so bad at that and it feels like the end of the world and i overcompensate so much. this was so mature of you, idk if i couldve done this
0 likesWe are human. Thank you. Not for everything, but most things. Especially for learning with us. Happy to be your little sister. Love and healing and love again!
0 likesThank you. So much. I love you dodie x don't worry about how you cope. Just the idea that you are coping is more than amazing.
3 likesI hope you stay healthy, but don't feel like the world isn't here to help you xx โญ๏ธ
thank you for being so mature. you are so strong.
0 likesAm I the only one who was grateful for the deep posts or? Like when I read them I was like yes I am not the only one who feels so bad etc and now I feel like it's bad for me to want to share how i feel idk
12 likesThe oversharing felt ok to me, yea it made me feel really sad reading that such an amazing person was so upset. Yet it made me feel really close to her and want to be there for her, the oversharing shocked me because I didn't think a creator could be so open. It made me feel close to her as a person...
0 likesdodie, you don't need to feel embarrassed about this. It's true that sometimes it's bad to tell everyone how you feel as some people take it in the wrong way (like attention seeking but I don't think you'd ever do that) but it was an honest mistake. People make mistakes, and that's what makes us human.
0 likesvirtually hugs stay strong dodie
-Justina xoxo
this reminds me of what Charlotte Perkins gilman said after publishing yellow wallpaper.
128 likesshe basically said that people with healthy brains will find it depressing and will feel like they're going mad while people with sick brains will identify with it and find joy in sharing their experiences. (paraphrasing but yeah)
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Lisa Kealhofer honestly, I don't agree with this! Although it makes sense in principle in practice it can cause people who have/are experiencing it to feel down, like, triggered I guess? I've read a few posts saying people who read about depression when they're not in a depressive state can be pulled back due to reading stuff about it. I'm sure for some people it does though! The problem is Dodie can't pick and choose who the social media posts go through to :)
20 likesLisa Kealhofer Agree 100%! I identified so much with her experience and it was good to know that a person had the same struggles. I don't like how people are telling her to stop sharing the "dark things", gosh, it's so horrible, it's the censorship that the mentally ill get: "keep it to yourself! be happy! i don't want to know you're suffering!"
4 likesit makes me pissed.
dodie, you can still keep sharing your mental struggles, maybe do it on tumblr with an alias, on the tags of people who have similar issues, and PLEASE KEEP TALKING about it here, even if to a lesser degree or in a more informative way, THIS NEEDS TO BE TALKED ABOUT.
Sam Mach I'm so glad someone else agrees with me. It seems almost everyone wants her to shove all the "darker stuff" inside, which is so unhealthy. If dodie wants to share, she should be able to share. Sure, add trigger warnings to the posts or something, but she shouldn't feel like she has to stop completely. People's reactions actually have me quite angry.
4 likesI don't think the point is that she should not talk about the darker things, just that she shouldn't always talk about them with her audience? She should still see a therapist and talk to her friends. And she can still share about mental health, but maybe not in a medium so immidiate as snapchat? As mentioned in her last video, she did post some snapchats when she was very low and said life wasn't worth living, and that was, as a viewer, quite scary, because you didn't know if she had someone with her at that moment who could help her and make sure she was safe. If she later wanted to share how she was feeling at that moment, maybe in a post where she could take her time and consider her words, I think that would be fine. But the internet and thousands of people don't need to see her most intimate and personal moments as they are happening. And I think that goes for her happiest as well. This isn't (just) about her cencoring away the bad, it's about protecting yourself and what is private. Some things don't need to be on display, and some things don't need to be on display straight away. Using snapchat to document this, makes it harder to decide what you really want to share. And that goes for both difficult and happy things. Sometimes yourself needs to experience things in the moment, and then when you have had time to process them, then you can share them with your audience :)
1 likeRalalaize what? no one wants her to shove it all inside and share nothing. the point people have made is that she has overshared and relied on social media too much, which is unhealthy. she should be able to share... but not so heavily on social media. we aren't her friends, we are just viewers. she admitted to talking for ages on snapchat when hazel was just in another room, unaware of her feelings. thats unhealthy. so she needs to reflect and work out what is. literally no one is saying never talk about your feelings to anyone, just not so much online.
3 likessqueegy29 you have some valid points, but it should be her decision whether or not she shares moments with us. And this video feels as if she is being forced into it because of what viewers have said. She is blaming herself for doing something wrong, when her talking and sharing shouldn't be viewed as wrong if it's what she needed at the moment. Of course she should also be getting help from friends and professionals, but she should feel free to share with us, and she shouldn't be shamed for it.
1 likeI understand what you mean, and I agree that it should be her decision. However, (and this is going to sound patronizing, though I don't mean it like that) not everthing you want in the moment is good for you, or what you really want? I've wondered several times while watching her snapchat "dodie, are you sure you want to be sharing this? This is very personal, have you stopped and thought about it first?". So while I agree that she should be able to share what she wants, snapchat allows you to share without thinking it through first. So it's good that she maybe takes a step back and evaluates if this is really what she wants/ good for her.
0 likesShe should also consider her audience, since many of them are young. No, she shouldn't be shamed, but in my opinion, you are to a certain degree responsible for what you post online when you have such a large audience. And several of the people who have been giving her feedback are her friends too, and they have told her the truth, even though it might be uncomfortable. I think you can get quite used to sharing a lot, without considering the consequences or questioning if you really want to, so I think it is good for dodie to take a step back at this point, because some of the things she has shared are too private, and she needs to be vulnerable, but she also needs to protect herself.
Your honesty actually helped me so so much but I respect your choice to share less of what you think/feel.
0 likesSending you virtual butterflies to lift your heart when it's too heavy to hold!
0 likesps I hurt lots too sometimes. You are strong, beautiful, likable, and love able. Mistakes and all. And your apology couldn't be more quickly forgiven at least from me.
But if you hadn't have shared loads of people wouldn't know about Depersonalization and I heard you on radio 1 at work and I stopped and felt so proud and happy that mental health was reaching front media, especially a metal health that isn't talked about enough. Your over sharing is compensating for the lack โค๏ธ
0 likesilysm im so happy you are acknowledging this and fixing it
0 likesWe all love you, dodie xx
0 likesOne of the strongest things you will learn is how to acknowledge your emotional boundaries, but also the boundaries of others, and that honesty does not need to be heard by everyone to be honest. Xxxx
0 likesdodie it ok to share there's nothing wrong with it we all love and care about you and also your closest friends and if you're feeling really bad maybe write a storie or a poem in a journal I love you very much and you are a great inspiration๐
0 likesHey. You're getting this a lot probably, but this is really strong and mature of you to do. I really appreciate you giving a real heartfelt apology, even though i know it has to to be hard. I feel like you're actually messing up in a place that's very important to you, and very close to your heart. I mess up a lot in those kinds of areas, so i feel like the remorse and humiliation you're feeling must be... intense. This video must have been really hard. You can feel that it was really hard, and that you obviously see the importance of pushing through all that. I literally love you for that. A real, lonely, video apology is really special here.
0 likesso thanks.
honestly, Dodie sharing all of this never affected me. and while I can't say it for everyone, I believe that sharing it with others is a good option. but as you said, there are a lot of other people who could be affected or triggered by it, so it's not healthy for the other side of the internet. In my opinion, try holding it back from the internet for as long as you can, but if you really feel the need to share something horrible going on with you online because you need the support, or feel that it's an efficient way AND HEALTHY way to let your pain out, I'd say you should just add trigger warnings on Instagram and yt, and avoid using sc to express those emotions.
0 likesWow I don't think you've messed up at all.....but then I'm 42 and have and do suffer from depression. I'm a proper grown up apparently so I can cope with all your wonderful thoughts. It's important you're truthful to yourself and those around you, it's real and it's you. Don't feel like you've done something bad, you're helping people who are suffering also. Makes you realise you're not alone. Mental health is very important to talk about. Balance is good but don't hide it all away and don't apologise. At the end of the day people don't have to watch. Stay strong xx
0 likesI don't watch dodie anymore but I'm glad she acknowledged all of this it's good of her
0 likesThis was so big of you Dodie. To be able to look back and say to yourself and followers "I was wrong, I'm going to change," takes guts and compassion. I think your over sharing was for a reason: to have this moment to learn from and show your fans, especially the whipersnappers, that it's healthy to share, but don't share when you're down since that's not healthy. So proud of you, such a beautiful post that shows how you're growing each day.
0 likesDodie please don't be sorry
105 likesJust know that I love you and I'm hugging you through the screen
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i love your support, but it's really harmful to tell her not to be sorry. as we saw in the comments of the last video, and what hazel said, dodie has been negatively impacting her audience and friends with her content. we'll definitely keep loving and supporting her, but it's bad of us to tell her that she doesn't need to apologise; she needs to learn and grow from this experience, and that's what her apology allows. xxx
10 likesMaddy I totally I agree I do realize how she can make an negative impact I just hope she knows it's ok to make mistakes and that we will continue supporting her
1 likeLove you too Dodieโจ
0 likesFor me I found the posts and the videos incredibly important and we need to get some perspective from people in their lowest
0 likesI love you beeb :) stay strong โก
0 likeslove you dodie ๐ปโค
0 likesWell done dodie ๐๐
0 likesI'm incredibly concerned and apprehensive about this book of yours coming out. And I would like to explain to you why.
0 likesYou seem like a genuinely lovely, troubled person. You're twenty two, so of course you don't have this all figured out yet. Of course you don't see every twist and turn that is your own brain space. I'm two years younger than you, and I've been dealing with depression for six years and I'm still figuring out how to talk about it and how to manuever myself over the little potholes and the canyons that exist in my brain. It's so okay to make mistakes and to flip flop and to have to start over, especially when it comes to mental health because there is no linear equation that directs us to the solid answer of how to be happy. The major difference between me and you, Ms. Dodie Clark, is, obviously, that you have a massive impressionable audience watching your every move, and I most certainly do not. So when you make mistakes, like unintentionally publishing your diary on social media, or like borderline romanticizing mental illness, or writing cryptic depressing/triggering tweets, it's amplified. And as someone who has maybe 2 1/2 people that read my twitter feed and like my Instagram posts, I'm trying to understand the fact that we're on the same playing field, we're fighting for the same cause (that is, to open up the conversation of mental illness) just got millions of more eyes watching her as she bats, and sometimes misses. Good for her, by the way! That's wonderful! Usually.
But when you announced you're coming out with a book that deals with dealing with mental illness, even when you're under-qualified to give any advice that isn't "seek help" without really actively finding help yourself, I have to draw the line of my understanding. Ms.Clark, I genuinely want to know...What gives you the right to write a book about mental health? That sounds bitchy, but that's not my intention. I genuinely want to know. Because to me there's a difference between writing about your own mental health journey, possibly in a broader autobiography book like other Youtuber's write, one that deals with other subjects, and writing a book that is based on the topic of mental illness. I hold the opinion that if you're not studied and educated with knowledge on how to identify mental illness, and how to actually treat it other than saying "take it easy, go seek professional help" you don't have a right to tell people how to rectify their varying mental illnesses. Because if you're not a professional, if you're not licensed and yet you're giving out advice, you're walking a fine line of doing more harm than doing good to these young viewers of yours.
Especially when you're a young woman, still trying to figure it all out herself, who has proved publicly that you're not taking the best precautions to try and help yourself get better. (By this I mean...Being on medication for one month, drinking and partying in that month according to her snapchat, and then writing off the medication completely, even though most people have to go through several trial and error stages before they find a medication and a dosage that works best for them. That is according to literally every doctor I've spoken to and every other person who has been on some sort of depression/anxiety medication for some time). Not saying that you should keep being on medication. That's totally your choice, and your body. But the way you talked about it almost vilified medication entirely because how you apparently "lost feeling" and immediately got it back when you stopped taking it. (Did you get a doctor's approval to do that, to stop taking it? I genuinely hope so...)
I'm concerned about what you could possibly find to write in your book "Secrets for the mad" that isn't either romanticizing mental illness, or providing skewed advice to young viewers.
I wish you would explain and hold yourself accountable more. It's strange to me that your audience coddles you like you're an immature teenager when in fact you are a young woman doing incredibly well for yourself. And you should be treated like one, both in the best ways, and the not so great ways. In the massive waves of adoration there's got to be at least a few criticizers to keep these public faces in check. (Only if criticism is, you know, constructive, and not asshats being asshats).
Sorry this is so long. I had a lot of thoughts. I hope this came off respectful because that's how I intended it to be. I appreciate the video's public apology. But the book was written before this public revelation and that I think is what's concerning me the most.
dodie we forgive you!!! it happens, and we out of anyone can understand that. it's all good buddio
0 likesi love you dodie!โค๏ธ
0 likesCould you set up a private insta or Twitter so that if you do feel the need to pour your heart out to your phone (because it's near or you just prefer it) nobody but you can see it? Seems like a fair compromise
10 likesEdited to add: love you too, Dodie โค๏ธ
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0 likesi have so so much to say, and i don't know that you'll see it, but thank you. thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. i've struggled with depression for??? probably almost 10 years now (i'm about to be 22) and these past few months have been extremely hard. but in a lot of ways, they haven't. i have gotten up every day and been able to watch a video of yours in which you have opened up and been raw in ways that i can only dream of being. you have tweeted, snapped. and instagramed some really tough things. and most days, i've woken up feeling terrible, and alone, and absolutely nonsensical, for lack of a better word. i've felt like my emotions don't make sense and my thought processes are ridiculous and my existence is a big neon sign saying "WTF". but your sharing has been extremely helpful for me. most days, i've woken up with this giant hole in my heart, but a lot of your content recently has made me feel almost like someone's sitting in that hole with me.
and i know that just because i've benefitted from your content doesn't mean it's been beneficial for other viewers or most importantly yourself. but i just want to gently and kindly remind you that you are Doing Goodโข. i doubt i'm the only viewer who's felt this way the past few months. you have made a positive impact, dodie. i am so grateful for you and your content. you've been raw and honest in a way that very few people are, and it isn't at all sustainable, but you've tried and it's something that i, personally, have appreciated, deeply. so thank you. x
i love you so much dodie. and its ok. your going to be ok. we are all going to be ok. <3
0 likesI love you a lot Dodie.
0 likesYou help me a lot..I'm getting better?
I can't tell and I'm in an unstable place right now but things have been way worse.
I guess things do get better..?๐
Ahhhh
do what you gotta do to feel better. fuck what people might think of it. we're with you <3
0 likesDodie thanks for being so real and honestโก love you
3 likesDo you have a hospital bracelet-thing on your arm?
8 likesAlso, I'm glad that you are keeping track of what's good for you and what's not. I had to step back for a bit, too. I can't stress about those problems and that I know you aren't okay, and some people have screwed perception, so I felt I was getting into some things that I shouldn't know.
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WhoCares IDo it looks like an amusement park band not a hospital one. Usually hospitals are more bulky and plastic and shiny but I couldn't be sure.
3 likesdodie needs accounts for when she is feeling bad so that people who were helped, still get those posts.
2 likesEdit: Mm. Interesting thoughts 6 month ago me. I'm just so proud of her for everything. She's grown so much and I think she's found a good balance now.
There will be a day when you can say you're okay and mean it โคโคโค
0 likesthere is a really good app called vent, which helps if you want to write down your feelings that others can read, whilst being completely anonymous at the same time. the community is really supportive and it helps if you don't want people who know you to respond to how you are feeling.
0 likesDodie I love you soooo much. Every subscriber loves you for you. We love you for your good parts and bad parts. Don't worry, we all love you. I personally didn't understand what I was feeling until I came across your channel. I feel similar to you now and before I found your channel. but you and your post helped me feel better and helped me understand more about me and other people. don't blame yourself you have done more good than bad. so don't be sorry
3 likessincerely,
One of your subscribers
Thank you so much I don't even know how to say how much this video means. Love you ๐๐๐
0 likesI just wanted to say that honestly for me the videos or posts, weren't too graphic or didn't get to me in a negative way. It was nice for a change to see someone sharing their thoughts on their mental state, rather than keeping all of it to themselves. However I can see where people are coming from, and that many people found those posts "toxic" in a way... Dodie maybe you shouldn't go too intensely into everything, however I think if you share your improvements or where you're at from time to time, it won't be too much for those who found the posts triggering, and it will be nice for people who need to know that they are not alone.
0 likesI have to admit I have distanced myself from you recently because of how triggering your posts have been but I know it comes from a place of love and your honesty is truly inspiring so please don't feel like you should stop. Maybe just filter a little bit? โค๏ธ
0 likesYou didn't mess up my friend - its all good in the hood. I can understand why you might feel a bit bad but that's silly and then that just creates a big ol' vicious circle of people feeling bad. It's all cool dude
0 likes3:05 "I'm embarrassed that I messed up so much". Kiddo! You made a minor mistake. That definitely does not count as "messing up so much". It's nothing dramatic. We know you plan on changing your behavior.
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I really hate to say this knowing how uncomfortable or guilty this might make Dodie feel if she reads this, but this mistake isn't as minor as it might be to a normal person. As a person with an audience, Dodie is being viewed under a microscope. But that audience is also very young and impressionable, never really taking what Dodie says with a grain of salt.
1 likeWhen I was only a year or two younger and I first found Dodie, I absolutely adored her and everything she made. I loved how real her videos were. I lapped up everything that she posted. If I had been at that phase of absolute adoration when her oversharing really picked up, I know I would have let that affect me.
Dodie has a way with words. It was so easy to relate to her songs in a way that made me take on that emotion. That isn't a big deal. But on instagram, it could make her mental illness appear like something poetic instead of awful.
I hate to think how her audience might have been affected, but the mistake also
-influences Dodie. She admitted how the gratification was becoming unhealthy. For a couple months, this cycle was leading to a worse state for Dodie. In a bad place, a couple months can feel like a lifetime.
1 likeDodie, sorry if you read that (I don't know how much of the comments you read. Maybe I'm just arrogant, lol). I'm so happy for you moving forward, and I pray that you'll reach a better place eventually. Mental illness absolutely sucks, but hopefully this change will help.
1 likeI really hope you feel better & heal. Take good care of yourself <3
0 likesGood for you sister.....this is good growth ....
21 likesdodie,
0 likesi know you probably won't read this but we all appreciate your apology and i am glad that you recognized that even if sharing your bad thoughts online made you feel better in the moment but in the long run it isn't a great coping mechanism. it is so much better to talk to someone you know and in real life than to pour your feelings out online. you don't have to feel embarrassed, everyone makes mistakes. and i know from time to time it sucks, believe me i know, but when you are feeling down or you aren't in a very good mental state, then talk to a friend or a therapist or write it down and then possibly treat yourself to something; a bath, some chocolate or whatever. i'm not very good at giving advice but i hope this helps somebody, even if it's one person because dodie probably won't read this. we love you dodie, stay strong <3
If holding yourself back isn't so efficient I think putting trigger warnings on your videos and such would help a lot :)
0 likesStay strong dodie!
0 likesIt's ok for you to share your emotions. I love that you do that, but I think sometimes you go a little too far though. I'm not mad. ๐
5 likesI couldn't possibly understand what it must be like. To you. To those around you. Just know we are so proud of you, and your latest Instagram posts have been so lovely and refreshing, it's wonderful to know that you're in a better place. Sometimes it takes somebody one loves to shake you by the shoulders and yell at you to make you realize that there's always a better path, and I'm so happy somebody did this for you. You're an inspiration and I hope that you and your silly little captions will become truly happier and happier. Bless you <3
0 likesI love you Dodie!
0 likesI have never thought of you as "glorifying mental illness". I have PTSD, Chronic Anxiety, Depression, and Depersonalization as well. I think you have so much unsung strength sharing all that you do. Your audience loves how open you are. Sometimes you have really dark moments, sometimes you have grey moments, and sometimes you have beautifully bright times; just as everyone else does. I see how much your friends and loved ones care about you but I do think that them telling you that your recent posts and activity being wrong is not right and it isn't fair to you.
0 likesEveryone has the choice whether or not to read tweets, posts, or watch videos that you may post that are dark and raw. That is part of why so many people love you. You, Dodie, are strong enough to filter out these periods of life like seasons. You know that you will always be learning, you know you have mental illness, you're conscious of those around you and your audience. I'm just worried you care more about what outsiders think or feel rather than what Dodie thinks and feels.
I say if you want to make a post releasing bottled up emotion and thoughts then do it. You can't win them all, however you can't lose them all either.
Love you- let that spark flourish.
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And when I say that I am NOT saying that your friends are being negative. I am just trying to express that I see that their opinions matter ALOT to you and it affects you when they think you are doing something wrong when you are not.
0 likesyou just could put all my feelings and thoughts out with words and made me feel less alone. I think that's why I liked them mostly. some made me scared for the future to be honest. But i'm gonna miss them.
0 likesI went to my first therapy session today. Big steps
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Savvy ? Ommmgggg. That's so cool.
3 likesYour so lucky and courageous and stuff and thing.
I'm very proud. Nice!
Good job ๐ hope you feel better about stuff soon
0 likesGood! I'm so happy for you!๐
0 likesSavvy ? I dont even know u but im proud!!!
3 likesYo! High five, boi! I went to my first one yesterday too!
1 likeCongrats and yis I am also proud of u XD
the first one's always quite scary, well done !
4 likesSavvy ? YES! Well done <3
2 likesIt's so important to take that step. I'm so proud of you
0 likesSavvy ? That's awesome. what a great step. hope you found it ok. it can be a bit weird at first. stick with it. :)
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0 likesProud of you โค๏ธโญ๏ธ
1 likeI hope it goes well for you!
0 likesomg good luck!!!11 im so proud of you
0 likesSavvy ? I went a couple weeks ago
1 likeso so so proud of you. its a really big step
3 likesCongrats! You're on the good way! Good luck <3
0 likesSavvy ? Congrats!!!!! Wooooh PARTY ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐
0 likesI've never actually seen you cry dodie. You've probably made many videos like this one but I've leaned away from them. I love you so very dearly and you are the closest to my heart. It absolutely shatters me to know you are feeling this way and you are going through states like this without any supervision etc. I do not believe you should stop posting videos on snapchat about your mental help because the very reason that by you sharing those types of videos, you are helping many people. People like me.ย I cannot stop nor can I persuade you to keep pursuing these videos, but I can let you know that the content like this is helping people like me and other people in the comments thrive. If people are saying that the impact of your videos on snapchat, Instagram, andย YouTube are too strong maybe add a filter on them but I will forever encourage you too pursuer these videos xxx
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i got off topic a bunch but you get the picture
0 likesHey so I know this is off topic but does anyone know where to find the sunflower shirt Dodie's wearing? I'm crazy in love with it ๐
0 likesthank you, this was incredibly mature of you to admit that you messed up.
0 likesI've found all your snapchats and instagrams helpful tbh because it makes me feel less alone and shit but I guess I can see how for some people may be triggering
0 likesYou might like an app called vent! You can be completely anonymous and write out all your feelings and it really helps me let things go.
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I agree, joining Vent was one of the best decisions I've made
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0 likesObsessiveSongstress TalkLife is good too. It helped me through so much.
2 likesObsessiveSongstress I've just downloaded it, intrigued to see if it helps
0 likesObsessiveSongstress Vent is really good for me and a lot of my friends who use it.
1 likeObsessiveSongstress Hey thanks for the tip! Gotta download it asap.
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0 likesive used vent on and off, it doesnt work for me - but it is still a wonderful app and I would deffo recommend it to dodie!
3 likesI love the idea of apps like that but I've found the vast majority of the people on there to be very young and dealing with the typical issues young teenagers have. It's not really a place for the more complex emotions and thoughts that come with real mental illness.
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0 likesi love vent so freaking much!!!!! can i drop my username? i love talking to people and making them feel better- ( Limyl )
0 likesObsessiveSongstress Talklife is also a really good app too!! It has a similar concept as vent
0 likesObsessiveSongstress omg yes I absolutely love vent and I use it all the time when I'm at my lowest.
1 likeObsessiveSongstress also my username on there is lovetooeasily if anyone wants to talk
0 likesYeah, I just started using TalkLife instead of ranting on Tumblr (which was NOT good for me) and I can already see that it's so much better than what I used to do
0 likesJust a simple suggestion for people who want to, I quite enjoy making poems or general saying everything your thinking as your in tears in bed. I like to use a completely different notebook which I hide when I'm feeling fine and only read when I'm felling bad ๐๐
0 likeshi dodie, there is a new app in the making it is called "replika a. i." and it is an artificial intelligence that you can tell everything to and she responds. my friend uses it and he really loves it. the a i learns from everything you say and you basically make it grow the way it fits your needs.
0 likesi love you, dodie, you are so great.
I love you dodie you are so pure and lovely please don't feel embarrassed too long because we all forgive you everyone makes mistakes and especially when they are not in their correct head space
0 likesoh dodie its okay you dont have to be sorry, sure some people werent comfortable with you "oversharing" and obvs you arent completely fine with it either but youre growing and learning and we love you a lot too and its okay <3
0 likesI was quite surprised to not really see any similar responses in the comments so let me be one of the few to say I am actually grateful for your "over sharing"! As someone who has a brain that sometimes does things I just don't understand I found your posts relatable and human. You helped me to know that I'm not alone for feeling this way and helped me to reach out and get help. I appreciated that you posted some of your dark thoughts that other people may not deem appropriate to be shared. To me it wasn't triggering but constructive as it simultaneously comforted me to know that I'm not crazy for feeling this way (or rather sometimes not feeling any kind of way for a while) while also reminding me that just accepting or ignoring it is no way to spend my life. So THANK YOU DODIE! Do whatever you feel is healthy and right for you but please don't feel as though those posts didn't help anyone!
0 likesYou're human doodie. We all make mistakes. Don't be hard on yourself. In fact, be proud of yourself that you are now seeing it from the other side. You are still a shinning example for tons of young people and allowing yourself to be transparent through your growth is a beautiful thing to watch โฅ๏ธ
0 likesI couldn't love you more even if I tried ๐
0 likesi'm so so proud of you dodie!! a coping mechanism is okay to have but obviously not if it hurts you or others. i love you so much. i always loved your instagram posts because they made me feel less alone in my depression and anxiety and it made the fight easier because someone i looked up to was mentally ill.
0 likeslook after YOURself! ๐
I do this constantly. I can't tell if it's me desperately wanting someone to reach out to me and help me feel less alone, or if it's just me being emotional as fuck and spur of the moment writing things on twitter etc and then straight away after I regret it and wonder why I did it. it's half not wanting to talk to my friends about it but half hoping someone will see and help me?? idk man but its good you recognised what you were doing, maybe i need to take a page out of your book
0 likesFor me it really does help to talk even if your not talking to anyone, so the little voice memo app on your phone really helps.
0 likesYour video saying 'oversharing ' helped me a lot if made me feel like I'm not the only one feeling these things dealing with these things and that yes when I am feel bad that I'm not in the right mind to react and post things but to be honest it help me a lot I can see where people are coming from but I enjoy your videos and those were your to depressed to function shows me that the way I feel is Normal and I shouldn't apoligize for that your strong and dealing with things thank you so much for the help โค๏ธ
0 likesDodie, you've done the right thing. It's ok to be sorry because that means you are growing and learning how to deal with all of this. Reading the comments on your last video really opened my mind to that was happening and showed me that it was not healthy. I'm so glad you've realized it too. I wish you a good journey(life)!
0 likesdodieeee b, please don't be sorry for this!
4 likesyou ARE helping some people by oversharing (example me), even though it's unhealthy to do? even if to some people this is 'inappropriate' and 'too much sharing', who's there to decide what's right and wrong about that?
dodie look at how much of love and appreciation you've grown around you. even with one post you can make some people worry sick, this is how much we all care for you. we've been through this emotional journey WITH you, and we will be with you no matter what happens. seeing you cry like this just made automatic tears fall out of my eyes and that's when i realized, how? much? you? matter? to? me? and how much of an impact you had on my life and how much you helped me. so it's my duty to be with you through out this journey till the end, please be strong dods <3
I love you, Dodie!
0 likesHi Dodie, I find that this is a really common thing among a lot of people in the millennial generation. I myself used to post so much and became fixated on the numbers and responses because it feels like attention. But now, I have found that after taking a step back and realizing that it's very easy to click buttons on a screen and it doesn't necessarily have all this power, I am much less inclined to let social media control my life. I also really try to remember my own personal boundaries, because in the end my life is more than what I post or comment or click on and it's not up to others behind a screen to dictate. I know that these lines get blurred because your job is the internet and within that context it's hard not to share yourself with the world, but it's also important to remember that you are not required to let everyone know everything in your life. You are still able to share your art and your heart and your wonderful stories with us without giving up your privacy. Anyway, idk I just think sometimes it's important to go outside and breathe and leave your phone at home, because you can survive and it's nice sometimes to take a break and quiet your mind. Ily, have a good day and take care of yourself. P.s. petting dogs makes everything better
0 likesPersonally, I don't mind your oversharing. I know it helps you. I just wish there was a way I could help. And I guess that's what a lot of your followers feel like too. It's like watching a sister/ friend suffer trough a break down, it's just too much and I guess the first (understandable) instinct it's to run away from that hurt. It ultimately comes down to self preservation. So yeah, I hope you get better and in my humble opinion, you shouldn't stress too much about it because, after all, it is an ilness and you are not exactly yourself in those moments. Take care and know we love you! <3
0 likesi'm so proud of you. and glad to be your audience. because you not only make mistakes as everyone does, but are brave enough to acknowledge them, and share so openly what you've learnt from them. it not only shows how genuine you are, but its also very inspiring. especially with youtube slowly turning into this fake artificial environment, we are so lucky to have creators like you who are holding onto the roots of this platform which allows the creators to build a connection with the viewers.
0 likesThank you Dodie is all I have to say๐ป
4 likesthe rubber bands on her wrist :( . i love her and i truly hope she is okay . there is no need to apologize for something that helped you through a hard time even if it doesnt seem like it was the best decison now. we all have regrets and it helped at some point in time. All that matters is youve grown since then . And shall continue to
0 likesI understand your reasoning and I think it is right for your younger audience. However, your posts have helped me come to terms with my own mental health issues. I always thought depersonalisation was just a symptom of depression and that everyone who was depressed felt the same as I did, but now I know that that's not true. I always found it comforting to see that someone else can be successful whilst also dealing with mental health issues. Maybe a once a month update on your mental health would be good? Either way, I hope your decision is both right for yourself and your audience in the long-term โค๏ธ
0 likesI found myself agreeing with a lot of the comments on the last video. I don't follow your Snapchat or Insta very closely but from the descriptions being given, I agree that you were oversharing. Even with all good intentions, what you were doing was irresponsible and I'm glad you can see the damage now. You handled this situation very well, so good job ๐๐
0 likesPersonally, I do not think it is negatively influencing. I understand how it can be triggering but so can any post relating to mentaI health. I found your first video about depression and depersonalisation SO validating and I've watched it tonnes of times since. Please keep talking, please keep breaking the stigma. It is so important - this debate about sharing your thoughts shouldn't exist because they are real thoughts. You shouldn't feel guilty. People need to understand that it is a horrible horrible reality. You are not glorifying or romanticising mental illness, you are making people aware. Most of all, I admire how self aware you are. It honestly astonishes and inspires me in the lowest of places. You have helped me so much on my journey with my own mental health issues. Thank you.
0 likesRight, you don't know me because I'm a regular fan. But you don't have to apologise for something you use to cope. If people who don't like the things that you post, they shouldn't look at them. If you feel that you need you do something do it, stand by the fact that you do need to step it back with the morbid posts๐. But babes, you have done nothing wrong, we are your fans and we love you, so don't feel that you have to change for a few shitty people who don't like some things you do. Independent little nugget is what you are, so stay like that xx
1 likepersonally, i did have to unfollow you on instagram, but that it my problem not yours. if the posts were making you feel better you shouldn't have to apologise for that... you find ways to heal that suit you and everyone will try to go with it xxxx pls don't be sorry for trying to get better, and put yourself first ๐we all love you dodie, that's why we still watch.KEEP GOING !!!
0 likesYou don't have to apologise, everyone learns from their mistakes. You have helped people dodie. Talking does help, but you didn't realise the extent to what you were doing it on social media. We love you dodie, we're all here for you x
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Btw, I'm so proud of you for making this video xx
0 likesI don't care that you post about it, I mean I do, because I enjoy reading them and knowing what's happening with you. If it helps you do it every once and a while ๐๐๐
0 likeslove u dodie. dont be sad, be glad :) ๐
4 likesI hope you feel better because you are a beautiful person who deserves to be happy!
0 likesI drew a really cute picture of a witch for Inktober and now I'm happy :) now I have to study for ap world but I'm still happy ๐
0 likesAll I wanna do is make Dodie some tea and give her a big ol hug
0 likesDodie we love you ๐
0 likesIt's okay, it's really okay. :) It's not necessarily that you made a mistake! I've appreciated a lot of the posts. But maybe it is time for a change, like you have said. Time to step in the light!! :)
0 likesDodie, don't forget we all still love you xx
0 likesI also started to over share on snap chat but I realise that it's embarrassing when I look back at my story when I'm no longer feeling as intense as i did when I posted it.. so I record and save and don't post x
0 likesBig hugs from us, we love you just the way you are...flaws and perfections
0 likesI don't know about younger audience, i mean I'm pretty young but the point is that you help me realize what was happening to me was a problem, what was happening shouldn't be taken like a normal everyday feeling, I always thought that feeling like this every second of my life was okay, it wasn't, when you shared about what you thought was happening to you and how you were feeling and how bad was it, I then knew it wasn't alright and I wasn't as stable as I told myself I was.And yeah it is sensitive stuff, some people can't take it, but there are people who need it, just like me, because it's that sensitive that not many talk about it that's the reason why many are confuse of whether their feelings are normal or unstable.Don't be that hard on you, it was a mistake but just like everything it has a bad and a good impact, overall thank you and have a great day :)
0 likesI encourage you to make a different space to share this kind of sensitive content, maybe a blog or a different social media account because I know many other people need someone like you to talk about mental illness.i know I need it.
It's okay Dodie. It is 100% okay.
0 likesDon't blame yourself for things like this. What you learn from your experiences is helpful. It's OKAY to make mistakes. It's OKAY, Dodie.
I love you <3
kid,you're so brave and loved by all of us please don't forget about that
0 likesI never thought that Dodieโs posts were too much. I related to them a lot and made me feel less alone. Idk, thatโs my opinion
0 likesAnyone who ever feels this way, there are multiple online forums that help you pour out your emotions anonymously, please give it a try. Sometimes venting out to someone you can't even see can really help. There are online therapy sessions available as well, you don't even have to travel to see someone or wait in the waiting room. There are many options available please seek them out. If you really want to have an online session feel free to get in contact with me here :)
6 likesI love you Doddie !! ๐๐๐
0 likesThe other side is (and I know it's a bit grim) but you sharing how you feel helps so many people know that they are not alone in this dark day and dark thoughts of course I am not saying keep posting these f**k the other people of course not do what you think is right but don't put all the blame on your self do what you think is best and get well soon ๐คท๐ปโโ๏ธ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐
0 likesI think it is extremely well to understand that you've been sharing too much and to be upset that you could have caused some painful thoughts for some viewers but it is not good to continue to feel bad about it. One thing I'm horrible at is forgiving myself and I think that once you've realised the wrong and you've apologised, don't let it eat away at you. You've said you're sorry and that you've made a mistake and I appreciate your raw honesty but you mentioned that you "feel so bad" and I hope you don't hold that grudge against yourself. I hope that you forgive yourself and keep working on yourself. This might just be advice for me because I have trouble forgiving myself and I need to learn that yes I've made a mistake and I've said my sorries and that should be the end of it. No more feeling bad about it because you've done all you can do. I hope that this is a step in the right direction and that you can find a therapist that will help you and that you find a method of expression without it being detrimental to anyone, including yourself. I love you immensely Dodie and I hope that you love yourself too. You are so genuine and I don't want you to ever take that the wrong way. You are amazing and real and very human. I love you and I know others do too <3
0 likesDon't be embarrassed,we all do things we look back on and think maybe I shouldn't have done that. I am not quoting you on saying "Bad mental health is well shit" <3 You are amazing,nothing more nothing less.
0 likesYou should try writing your darkest thoughts on a sheet of paper, then dissect the thought and if you can manage to do that, scrumple up the paper and throw it in the bin.
25 likesMy learning mentor gave me this idea, and I quite like it. It might not help you but hope it helps you more than social media Xxxxxx
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Niamh Carolan yeah that is really good idea ๐๐
2 likesdamn. you're the most human person here. i really like you. thanks for this video, means a lot. you really don't know how much.
0 likesPlease don't beat yourself up. We love you and we're with you.
0 likesDodie please do a blog where you can write about it where the people who find you talking about it helpful ! You don't have to cut ties with it just get untangled
0 likesdodie dodie it's alright we didn't need this much if an apology and an apology at all, i'm so proud you came to these conclusions and thought about what you've potentially done. your videos when you were feeling low yes made me upset but they also made me feel like i could relate to someone and they calmed me down. i'm glad you found your boundaries but just note that it DID help somebody.
0 likesso i made a comment an hour ago. i was told that it wasn't related to the video and that i didn't even watch the video. basically the comment said that it's okay to share, but don't go overboard. so im here to make a new one:
6 likesi have anxiety and panic disorder. i honestly don't think that you were glorifying mental illness in anyway. you were oversharing, yeah. but it was a mistake. it wasn't a huge mistake that'll ruin everyone forever. it was a tiny mistake. but you got it all out. you helped me reach out to people. yeah, sometimes it was a little much, but that's okay. you're okay, dodie. and if you ever need a break, take one. we'll support you in anyway you need us to. stay safe and stay alive.
In my opinion you haven't been glorifying mental health problems. You are a good person and I know you have never wanted to hurt anyone. And having someone like you who actually talks about mental health makes me realize there are other people out there who have the type of bad, irrational thoughts as me. Before I started watching you I felt crazy nad alone. It's okay if you want to pull back a bit and maybe you should but please help other people like you did me.
1 likeDodie, I think that there is nothing wrong with sharing how you feel online just as long as you advocate for getting better and for helping people find strength even though I know that it can feel hopeless in that type of mental state. I personally liked your videos and watched them when I was feeling down to relate and to feel less alone but when someone is finally getting out of this mental state they don't want to see a video that just pulls them right back in. I hope that you can in the future find a way to both share how you are feeling and advocate for getting better, I also genuinely hope that you do get better because you deserve to be happy. โค๏ธ
0 likesThank you for being so mature about this
0 likesI just want to give her a giant hug because mental illness does suck and I know what it feels like to drag someone down with it.
0 likesDodie. You don't need to be sorry because, as you said, when you're in a bad state of mind, your perception is totally screwed up. Everyone makes mistakes in life and, as my dad says, "The stupid (for a better way to put it) people won't learn from mistakes, the average people will learn only from their own mistakes, the cleverest people will learn from other people's mistakes.". Learn from mistakes instead of dwell and sit on them. Which, is what you've basically said in this video. Having your perception screwed with is hard but as long as you work your way through it, it'll be ok in the end.
I'm 14 and look like a pretty normal geeky nerdy girl. But, I'm really not. But I can tell you this. Literally ten minutes before watching this, I was having a breakdown but I listened to secret for the mad and felt so much better. So I'm gonna quote you because it'll work! There will be a day where you can say you're ok and mean it.
Keep going x
This was perfectly put. Good luck
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Mugmellow the crying shook my heart
2 likesMugmellow nice and compact
3 likesBelated Wishes it made me cry
2 likesDodie, If you keep your main channel this level of intimacy, we will all understand. But your personal channel shouldn't''t be censored, make sure you're OK, and we'll support you. As long as you believe you fell fine, we will help you. Just tell your audience if you're facing issues and because it's so big, someone will be able to help you
0 likesthis won't be helpful to you but i enjoy listening to you talk about these things because it's like you're describing me - to me , and it's oddly comforting
0 likesI've noticed Dodie has deleted a lot of videos that kind of relate to this; angry about her abuse video and the alcoholism video. So hopefully that means she's dealing and moving on.
1 likeI think this was very mature of you. You're posts were never, personally, triggering to me, in fact they did inspire me to write more, which has helped a lot, but I can see how they would be for others. Thinking of what you would/wouldn't say to your little sister is amazing way to go about it. That way it will still be raw, genuine, and personal, but censored (sorry for possible bad wording) and constructive <3 I love you and your channel so much, and good luck in your mental battle, they can be some of the hardest to face!
0 likesDodie, you are wonderful. I don't think you did something really bad. It really helped me to see that I was not alone, that there was someone else who went through the same things as me (although your experience is definitely a lot worse). I think you should mainly think of this as the right decision for you. It's better for you to not get sucked into your phone and share this stuff with us anymore. Dodie Clark, you are a wonderful person and in no way a burden, a disappointment or a bad person. You're just choosing to do what you think is best for you (and when you shared all the things, you were doing the same thing + you were trying to help other people).
0 likesI understand why you're stepping back with sharing on social media, but I don't think you've been doing something bad. It helps me, personally, because I see you struggling with mental illness but still living your life. It so often feels life halting to experience, and as if there's this darkness in you that seeps out everywhere and taints everything, but somehow you manage to still live and have friends and create despite your brain working against you. That's comforting and inspiring to see. I find your posts to help me feel less isolated, personally, and they help me find hope that I can still exist with a fairly full life despite my own brain trying to kill me.
0 likesDodie darling would it be possible to have a video discussing how to turn your shit feelings into art without finding it overwhelming?
0 likeslove you dodie ๐
0 likesI feel this so much. Obviously, I don't have as big an audience as you do, but I do have a number of people following me on tumblr, and when I feel like shit (like I do rn lol) I need to express it, it's like I need to let someone know how I feel, I need to let someone know that I'm hurting, and it's so much easier to make a tumblr post or to use whatever social media to express yourself, than to reach out to a friend. I was just about to make a tumblr post about how I feel right now, and then I thought about this video, and I thought about all the people that were going to see this post, about my friends that follow me on tumblr and were going to see this post, and I decided it was better not to do that. I do feel terrible when you (dodie) post something about how low you've been feeling, because I care about you and these posts just make me feel helpless and worse about myself, and I'm NOT saying that's your fault!! I understand your need to share, and I would never want you to lose that opportunity, but I do think I need to take a page out of your book here, and learn to share less, and more importantly to another demographic. Sharing these feelings publicly isn't going to help me, and it affects a lot of people, who may be triggered or just feel helpless the way I do when I see your posts, and I don't want to cause that. So thank you for making that video (those videos, actually), and I hope you find a way to get better. Hope that therapist Lucy recommended is going to be just right for you. It makes me so sad to know that you're hurting, and I dearly hope that those things you're feeling will not get the better of you, and that you will be successful in fighting them off. With all my love and support xx
0 likesI totally agree with what you said about oversharing being a symptom as such. I can't explain why, but it is, this need to feel heard and understood, and what better way than to put it out there to a large amount of people where, odds are, someone will empathise and understand. don't get upset because you've made a mistake, because not only have you learned a lesson but you've taught one too, as many young people experiencing mental health issues might not know how much they can and can't share.
0 likesWe still love you lots. Everyone makes mistakes and there is no guide for mental health and what to and not to do. You are strong. You are beautiful. You are worth it. We love you. I love you.
0 likesPeople make mistakes, and despite your being a youtuber making you seem a bit more famous then human on occasion, that doesn't invalidate your existence as a mistake making human. I'm not saying that "people make mistakes" should be used as an excuse or a way to wave off your bad decisions, but it is a healthy reminder to people who sometimes forget. Dodie, you have made a mistake but you are learning, and your audience cares about you. I care about you and your health and although I was not personally affected by your intense and inappropriate outreach on social media, other people WERE affected. Regardless, I forgive you and I have faith that other people will do the same. xx
0 likesmuch love
-Danielle
dodie yessss you are so pure
19 likesI think more people need to realize that Dodie (and other YouTubers in general) are human, too. They make mistakes just the same as we do. They are no greater than we are, and putting them up on pedestals and saying that they have no need to apologize isn't a healthy way to go about it. Yes, she can and should apologize. Should she be so hard on herself? No, because she's human and these things are normal. But don't tell her that everything's okay and she shouldn't be sorry because that's not how life works, not for popular/successful people, not for anyone, really. YouTubers can make mistakes and learn from them. Lots of people in the comment section are contradicting themselves by saying "you're not perfect, everyone makes mistakes!" but then also saying "don't be sorry, you're perfectly fine!" I'm personally very proud of Dodie and think she handled this maturely. I love and respect Dodie, but I also acknowledge that she's just as human as I am. I wish you luck, Dods ๐โค
0 likesobviously dont do something if it ultimately makes things worse but please do acknowledge the people you have helped, watching your video on depersonalisation helped me realize that how i was feeling is an actual thing not just me going mad. please dont beat yourself up so much because you make some of us feel less alone :)
0 likesFalling into the deep dark hole of depression and whatnot is much easier than clambering out of it. It's so hard to get out of the hole so don't worry, we all f*ck up sometimes โค๏ธ
0 likesDodie, I know how it feels to have hit rock bottom, I am currently in a bad state regarding my mental illnesses and I have been for quite a few months. But I just want to let you know that everyone makes mistakes that's just what makes us human. Even the most successful people have made mistakes, but their mistakes have brought them to where you are now. Stay strong Dodie, I love youuu xoxo
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0 likesWhen you hit rock bottom, the only way to go is up ๐ Take care!
3 likes+C Montague I guess so, thanks so much :)
0 likesthis video was tough but it's all true and I hope these plans/ideas stick
0 likesthank you for this dude, :) well explained :)
0 likesI cried watching this, because when dodie cries I do ๐ญ I'm not even joking ๐ข
1 likeI don't think you need to apologize to anyone but yourself. You have the right to share as much or as little as you want with your audience, and you will get mixed responses no matter what choice you make. What does matter is how it is influencing you. You shouldn't have to tip toe around mental health but maybe you shouldn't have faced it this either for your own good. As someone who has struggled with mental health issues, I really don't think you owe anyone else an apology. You have the right to say what you want, and others have the right to turn away from the discussion if it doesn't make them comfortable. Mental health can be dark and scary and raw and real, no one is ever going to escape that but what you do about it is all YOU.
0 likesI hope you continue doing what's right for yourself <3
I JUST WANT TO HUG DODIE THROUGH THE SCREEN IS THAT SO MUCH TO ASK
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I cried after reading this
1 likeThis bought tears to my eyes.
0 likescan't you make a special channel where you say what you feel. or make a blog so you can spit out whats stuck in you're mind because you are so interesting and loving. and we all want to help you. because you are worth helping. we love you and we hope you get betterโค
0 likesIt is good that you realize this now and are gonna do something about it. At the same time, I don't think you are to feel so sorry about all this. I think...the part of your audience, that also go through similar experiences and relies on your expression to make them/us feel like we can understand each other, that we are not alone, that 'wow somehow miles and miles away someone I dont know personally managed to put what/how I feel into words, translate my everyday emotional journey into something tangible' did/do benefit from your 'oversharing'. It's only when we're talking in making sense or not, or strictly among rules of being responsible and being someone who have a large following 'should be doing this and that' that somehow it isn't healthy for you or the audience, BUT!!! that's the thing, isn't it? While on the journey to make through another day, be it to recovery or a relapse day, we all make mistake. I can surely recall there were days I so tempted to just pour my darkest thought to a friend or on social media and almost didn't resist. I can surely remember I did regret telling a friend or two about certain things because they won't know how to handle and I felt guilty for leading them kinda away (?) and that's as far as your mistake go. Ultimately, we all have to learn to make decisions of our own, to receive and be exposed to what source of materials and people and that, dodie, that part isn't on you. <3 You deserve all the hugs, blankets and tea we wanna let you have because you let us in on your journey somehow, including this part. We're all gonna make mistake on our way back to recovery, but that's gonna be okay. The world still benefit more as you care and think about it one step at a time. So, thank you and we love you for being exactly how you are and moving onwards. <3
0 likesdodie you are absolutely forgiven. we love you. โค๏ธ
1 likeWhen dodie sounded like she was starting to cry I started to cry
11 likesdont cry!!! youre too good i cant bear to see you cry
0 likesDodie. You are wonderful.
0 likesI believe all of you posts have been extremely helpful for the right audience. However, I do agree that they probably cannot be understood properly by your "little sisters" in your large and broad audience. It's a bit sad that we don't have a forum for actual adult conversation where your willingness to freely share the darkest of the dark can be viewed in the proper light. Keep up the fight. You are an inspiration to many. I have a great deal of respect for your fearlessness and your sensitivity for others as well as yourself.
0 likesDodie, we all make mistakes. I hope you don't begin to beat yourself up about this. You're going through such a shit time, and although at times I have had to avoid your videos because I haven't been feeling too good, I'm glad you have raised awareness of just how shite mental illnesses are. Your audiences love for you has not lessened, only grown. We all feel for you so much. I myself half enjoyed your oversharing, almost felt like we were your safe space, because at times this is mine. On behalf of us all, I wish you absolute possible best... and also wish to give you a cuddle and a bucket load of tea x
0 likesProud of youโค๏ธ
0 likesyou shouldn't be ashamed of how you express your feelings. if you feel that you share too much then do what you feel right for you but you should know that your posts have been helpful for a lot of people. you express feelings and thoughts some of us have but we're not able to put it into words. I m proud of you and how strong you are and how even at your lowest you find a way to come up โคโค
0 likesDodie baby it's okay we love you โค๏ธโจ
0 likesI completely understand that people can be 'influenced' or made feel upset by your posts. But some of us (i'm talking about me specifically) love reading and sometimes rely on reading your posts, especially on instagram, to feel related to. I've never seen/ watched or encountered someone who feels like I do, but mainly writes like I do. So while some people maybe need a bit less, others need IT. love you and all of your works. hope you're well. X
0 likesThis is probably so late but I have to say it.
0 likesI know that your social media is like a journal, I've felt like I'm reading through someone's diary while reading some of your posts. However I really felt less alone while doing so, I felt like someone out there understood what I was feeling and even more impressively managed to put it in a coherent way. I get that it's unhealthy for you so I'm not asking you to keep doing it, do what you think is better and what will help you the most. I just wanted to tell you that not everything that came of your mistake was bad, it gave me a connection to the real world instead of allowing myself to fall on my world of nightmares.
I hope you get better, because you deserve the best.
I think this is a very good response/follow up, please don't blame yourself though!! It's hard to hear that people disagree with something you did, but it by no means was any kind of personal failure. It was just trial and error of how to be candid and connect with your audience and discuss mental health. I think you're doing great and I really appreciate how you keep such an open dialogue with your audience <3
0 likesYou are I N S P I R I N G! People who don't want to read about your feelings just don't wanna read, but they also don't judge you! Feelings are feelings and you shouldn't be embarrassed of it. I'm calm now because of your posts and videos. great warm hugs and crying with you
0 likesHey babe,
0 likesYou don't need to apologise, you expressed your feelings
It got a bit out hand
But that's okay โค๏ธ
You thought you were doing good AND YOU WERE!!!
We all love you and want you to be happy OBVIOUSLY I'm 13 and listening and reading your instagram captions are really inspiring and helpful but it's your choice
Love you lots
Stay safe ๐
remember
395 likeseven tho u messed up
you were genuinely trying to help others
and that is good
even tho the outcome may not have been
(lol love u)
I've been going from bad therapist to bad therapist for near 7 years honestly it's the hardest thing to find a good therapist lmao
0 likes"It's well shit"
3 likescan this be the slogan for mental health because I totally feel dods
I know everyone is saying this, but I honestly can't explain how much respect and admiration I have for you forย posting this video and addressing your mistakes. You are really a very strong and caring person, and Iย don't thinkย that many people would be willing to do the same. Sending all the love in the world your way!!! ย <3
0 likesAlthough we all accept your apology I don't think you should be so sorry that you shared some of your deepest feelings, we all do it!! You just have a bigger audience to see it that's all! We all love you so so soooo much and hope that after feeling so low, when you start to feel a bit better, you will still speak to us and share with us as much as you think appropriate because it actually can help. Just keep doin what's best for you and what you think is right and we will stand by it :)
0 likesIt's a tough topic, but overall I think you should be able to share what you like, especially if it's what feels true to you.
0 likesPeople are going to react in many different ways to honesty - some get offended/upset by it and some find solace in it.
At the end of the day, you're not responsible for the way people react. But if it feels more honest for you to stop sharing this stuff, then carry on. On the other hand if it feels more honest to share these moments, I think you should go right ahead.
dodie i hate how bad you feel ppl make mistakes it's ok๐ please don't stop sharing because it really does help alot of ppl and we want to know how you are and if we can help. and if reading a load of positive comments does that then don't be afraid to post something saying that you aren't feeling great. we're all here for you. thank you for "oversharing" because personally it helped me. ilysm stay strong ๐
0 likesNOO๐ญ๐ญ please don't be so hard on yourself you don't even understand how much you've helped me and how amazing you've been and I just want you to know you are not doing bad and you do not ever mean to hurt anyone and I just want to stress how much I love you!! The best thing that ever happened to me was watching your video "I'm depressed today" because I didn't know what was wrong with me for sooo long and I thought I was broken but I saw your video and started crying because I related to every single word you said and I didn't know anyone else felt the was I did. I was haven't so much trouble and anxiety trying to put how I felt into words and you literally just did it all for me. I can never thank you enough for the ways you have helped me. You have helped me with me dealing with my mental health, sexuality and literally everything so thank you so much and I love you
0 likesI think it's very difficult because nobody talks about the places you have to walk through when you are in the lowest of the lows. And I think that is something positive that comes from you oversharing though because I've had those moments before that you have posted online AND THATS why it's so hard to watch because I know what it's like (and there's the triggering part of it) but think there is a very good version of awareness and way to help people understand by being able to present the lowest of the lows without it being unhealthy to the audience and unhealthy to the sharer. I still thank you for everything you've done within respect of saying your feelings and sharing your illness because it's helped me own my own emotions and experiences with mental health. We all screw up!!! (Especially us early 20 something's because this shit is new and weird)
0 likesHonestly though letting out your feelings helps. Also YOU ARE SO PRETTY WITHOUT MAKE UP ON WHAT
0 likesI think my thoughts are that I would read your posts and feel a bit helpless bc it scares me that I'm watching you struggle but can't do anything to help
0 likesI haven't read those posts. But as someone with GAD, I know how chaotic and dark things can be, and imo such an evil thing shouldnt even exist. But it does and it so unfair to those who have it. I have read somewhere that Mental illnesses are the main cause of disability and I do believe that is true since it prevents a person having them from living a normal life, let alone try to achieve their dreams. So if sharing helps you, then in my own opinion, you should do it, and never be ashamed of it, as long as you are not encouraging people to jump off bridges or anything like that :)
0 likesI feel like everyone needs hugs. so... even though I hate hugs, I give you the glorious internet hug
0 likesI just want to take a plan to London, fine Dodie's apartment well flat as British people say, knock on her door and when she opens it i just give her a big hug and say "It's alright."!
7 likesIt's heart breaking to see someone you love even if you've never seen them in person and they don't even know you!
Wait did I just say that!?
Yep yes I did!!
Hey Dodie, I don't think that you are doing anything wrong when you share your emotional stuff with the online community. What I do think is that it is all about finding the right way to channel your emotions. You and your art provide people with comfort, not because you promise that everything will be alright but because you let us know that someone else feels the same.
0 likesIf posting videos like this helps you then do it. Maybe put a disclaimer at the start warning your younger viewers about what they are going to be seeing.
Much love. You are not alone. Go have some tea and toast.
You can share whatever you want โฅ๏ธ
0 likesDodie you are the best!!
0 likesI just want to give you a hug. May I give you a hug? I give you hug. hug
0 likesLove you Dodie!
Reading through these comments, people are saying like 'You're being too hard on yourself.' and i dont think thats true. I think you had been owing an apology for a long time but the fact you have the guts to speak out on it on youtube and say sorry to people you barely know really shows an amazing personality.
0 likesthank you so much for sharing this dodie, it takes a lot of courage to admit so frankly and publicly that you made a mistake, and to own it without trying to justify it. I'm so proud of you!
0 likesYou aren't alone ๐
2 likesI personally don't think you've done anything wrong and I mean if you still want to write it you should and maybe just add a trigger warning like "trigger warning: graphic depiction of depersonalization" or something like that anyway I love you and I support you and I think you're doing amazing dodie
0 likesDodie it's 1:30 in the morning! ๐
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yeah it's 3:39 here
1 likeIt's 8:39 here
4 likes5:39 here
2 likes7:41 here haha
1 like9:40 pm yall
0 likes2:42 and i can't sleep >_<
1 likeKawaii Kayleigh its 6:43 pm in America
0 likesKawaii Kayleigh and yet I'm watching YouTube videos and tidying my room! O.o
1 likeKawaii Kayleigh 8:44 y'all
1 likeKawaii Kayleigh 8:45pm here!
1 like5:49 here!
0 likesKawaii Kayleigh 8:50am here
0 likesguadagnin_s where u from?
0 likesKawaii Kayleigh 2:50 a.m here
1 likeKawaii Kayleigh its 7:51 pm fer mah
1 likeKawaii Kayleigh 6:30pm here
0 likes8:53 pm
3 likes6:00 pm here in California
2 likesKawaii Kayleigh 9:10pm
0 likes7:11 PM lol
0 likes3:17am here lol
0 likes9:13am lmao
0 likes9:22 PM
1 likeThe Fluffy Dragon/ ayy we're in the same time zone
0 likesI ship it yay time buddies
0 likesOh, sweetie, I hope you're Okay, and i hope you know you're not alone, and thank you for talking about mental health, It's a thing, we should talk about it, but we need help with it :)
0 likesYou should make a blog where you share these kind of posts. If you need to write these posts and share them, then maybe this will help? Plus it can be really helpful for others x
0 likesdon't be embarrassed, we all make mistakes but whatever happens we'll always love you and be there for you, we know your intentions weren't to hurt anyone. To be honest you should be proud of yourself- to be able to step back and evaluate yourself, apologise and recognise that you need to change is a very hard thing to do. You dealt with the situation in a very mature and honest way- something I think we can all learn from and, of course, admireโค
0 likesDodie, I think that if you've shown us your worst, it helps us to appreciate your best. That's not to say that oversharing is good, but we also know now the strength of your character. We miss you, Dodie. I'm sure you do, too. I can't say things that would help, because I don't know what's happening, but let me reassure you: this video shows how much you've progressed. Well done. We all support you, and if you don't, well, I guess that's okay. But I'm here anyway, along with loads of others. (I pray for you before I go to bed. We'll see if that helps.) Xxx -Caitlyn, age 12
0 likesthankful for you.
92 likesYou are a astonishing person so no should ever be able to put you down although you may have it it cant stop you for staying a amazing human so yea stay ๐ช strong. ๐๐
0 likesyou felt that this was your escape AND THATS OKAY. you didn't know that it might have a negative effect. there's not need to say sorry, but you can change it to make you and your audience feel better <<3
0 likesI know that this oversharing is bad, for you and for vulnerable audience members, but I'd just like to thank you Dodie for putting my feelings into words, and making me feel like I'm not bat shit crazy and that I have a rEAL mental illness that needs to be addressed. Because you're oversharing helped me explain to my closest friends, mother and therapist about how I was feeling, and without you I wouldn't have been able to. So thankyou.
0 likesI don't think I ever found your posts/vlogs/snapstories to be trigger so much as.... Informational. Don't get me wrong, I am terribly sorry that you have to go through such things, but it made me feel a bit better to read about it because it made me feel like I wasn't alone. That might be a little... Twisted... I guess, but I just saw you as this super strong figure and on my worst days, I would look at myself in the mirror and think "well if dodie can do it, so can i."
0 likes6/10 is one of my favorite songs and it has gotten me through some of my absolutely worst days. You've really helped me feel like I've had an ally in this, though we've never spoken a word.
I understanding the over sharing for sure (as I have done in this entire paragraph) so I don't think you have much reason to feel guilty about what you've done. Your intentions were not to trigger people or make them feel upset by what they were reading. You just wanted to feel better. I don't think anyone should blame you for doing what you felt was right. Just remember that you are not your mistakes. You are not your mental illness. You are not what other people say you are. You did what you thought was best and nobody should ever blame you for that. That's all you ever can do.
(Sorry this was super long and rambley I just had a lot to say)
please don't be embarrassed. everyone makes mistakes it's a part of life. yes you were telling a lot of details but I feel like a lot of people who had mental illnesses like to open up a lot. but hey we still love you no mater what. take care my love. everything will get better I promise ๐
0 likesPlease don't actually I'm proud of you for sharing n i love you for that...I'm going through bipolar depression and anxiety n i love what you post it's very helpful. You're my idle love u k๐โค๐
0 likesI love you so much, I'm so glad and happy for you.
0 likesDon't be too hard on yourself! Yes maybe it wasn't the best way to deal with the problem but you were just trying to deal with your emotions the best you knew how. Just learn from the experience and realize that even people who were pointing out the negatives in the last video were just tying to help you out.
0 likeslove you Dodie, thank you for apologising
0 likesI love you Dodie.
0 likesI love you Dodie.
0 likesI love you dodie๐๐๐
0 likesAwww I love Dodie โค๏ธ
5 likesThis is tricky because there is no guidebook to mental health + the internet.
0 likesDodie was trying to help herself but in doing so she was treating us (her audience) like a therapist.
At the same time, as viewers we have all the power to close our laptops and exit a video if we don't like it.
Ultimately I'm glad Dodie apologized but I'm not upset with her. Dodie's descriptions of her mental health trouble helped me to be more proactive in my struggles.
Dodie we love you and understand if you are having a harder time if you need take a break if you need just make a few videos or slow down honestly I don't mind listening to your videos or reading your posts in fact I find them helpful and I learn so much about myself but if you want to I support you and I'm sure everyone else does. Stay strong WE LOVE YOU!!!
0 likesDear Dodie, though you don't know there has been a person called Agalya until this moment I've always considered you as my sister. we're the same age and kinda going through the same things.
0 likesI don't want you to be sorry abput anything that you've done. And no, you have not glorified mental illness in any way. Be thankful to yourself because you've decided to share your dark thoughts with someone. Because to me, when I'm in that dark place, i don't feel like talking to anyone about my problems because i feel like I'm bothering them and wasting time. And be glad you have amazing friends. All i have is one good friend and we're kinda drifting apart now. So it's me and my suicidal thoughts most of the time.
You're way way talented than you think and you're the person i aspire to become. If i could do one thing, that would be to fly to United Kingdom and hug you till you and I are both feel relieved. I really love you and adore you โค stay strong and happy :) sending warm love from Sri Lanka โค
I love you dearest! Stay strong and amazing! ๐๐๐๐โค
0 likesDamn I wish I dodie's friend. I want to be there for her. I love her so much. I hope she's okay. I love her. โคโคโคโค
8 likesoh dodie :(( i truly hate seeing you cry, you deserve the world. im sure everyone completely understands, please do not feel embarrassed !! we love you so much !! just keep in mind it's good to talk about your feelings, but like you said, we aren't trained therapists and we don't always know what we're talking about. im sososo happy lucy recommended someone for you, i know things are going to start getting better soon. we're here for you every step of the way !! WE LOVE YOU DODIE <33
0 likesDodie, you are so beautiful. People will take whatever you say however they want, but at the end of the day you have created a safe space for all of those who are unstable in any way. Sometimes all you need on those super breakdown days are someone to connect with, and you have been this little bridge for all of those in alone land. I'll keep watching whether you share it all or not. Your an inspiration<3
0 likesHearing her on the brink of tears HURT
0 likesGod bless you and I wish you all the luck and love and health in your life! God I sound like a Christian mum but I mean it...
1 likei used to do the same thing but with my friends. i would constantly talk to them about my mental health until it became unhealthy & they had to take a step back from me. i completely understand how you feel when you put how you're feeling out in the open & you shouldn't feel embarrassed! it's not something you can completely control most of the time. just know that we're here for you & we love you so so so much. you don't have to shut down completely, we're not annoyed with you at all. we love you dodes, remember that. ๐
6 likesI'm absolutely happy for you to find an unhealthy coping mechanism so you can work on it but please also look out for yourself in a way that you wont feel like you gotta put up a facade for us. We want you to heal! I hope your pain will ease.
0 likesi also have depersonalization, it's the worst thing I've ever encountered in my entire life. I've been living with it for a year and a half now, and it still gets to me sometimes. these few recent months I've learned to live with it, but most importantly I've learned to not let it consume my life. whenever the "dizzy" depersonalization thoughts I always avert my thinking and start thinking about something else, something I really enjoy like my friends or my family, and eventually I calm myself down. I also use my phone as a coping mechanism, because it's a solid distraction and I know that it will let me escape from what's going on around me. it's the only thing that makes me completely forget that I have depersonalization. every other task I do it is still lingering in the back of my brain, but when I'm on my phone the only thing I'm thinking about is what's on the screen. I wish I wasn't so absorbed in my phone all the time but it helps take the edge off so much and it makes me feel real.
0 likesthank you so much for this dodie. I had to unfollow you because I too was in a bad place and the negativity on your posts was beyond hard for me, I'm very grateful that you apologised and stepped back. I'm not attacking you in anyway at all I partly understand your position. this was so brave, I've never been a massive fan, but this is respect so much.
0 likesHey,
3 likesYou are probably not going to see this. But still, i haven't whatched the video yet. ( i'm on a boat and the wifi is BAD) but i have read some comments. Honestly i don't think its that much of a big deal. Yes maybe the posts were a bit to much, but please ( maybe not in particular those posts) that is what i most love about you besides your music. You are soo open and that helps me so much. I need that. I sometimes need a reminder that i'm not alone.
Sometimes our brains go to a dark place. They think dark and you feel bad because of that. These feelings eat us from inside, they sting and we keep most of them to our self. But sometimes we need to share them, it is to much. Someone has to see our pain. And we look for understanding, we just want people to listin. One of the most easy ways to get that understanding is with snapchat or instagram or youtube. And that is probably whay you did. You didn't think about "triggering" people. Your Brain thought it was a way to get understanding.
Yes it wassn't the best move. But that is how humans work! Our lives contain making desicions and making mistakes. But the world doesn't end after a mistake. (That would mean that the world had died around 10.000 times in 1 day probably)
This is hard for u i can totaly feel and see that. But there are still people who love you, familie friends and followers. I love you, you are an inspiration for me. How you deal with your illness and still stuff that makes you happy. I love your musical and i listen to it daily. Please my dear dodie, see that people love you! Stay strong my love! ๐๐๐
GOD
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Me yes
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0 likesDodie, I don't think you're making your mental illness a brand. I think that would mean that us fans would enjoy watching you being sad a thatยดs not how it goes. When i think of you i think about how such a creative and emotional human you are, i always think of you as happy Dodie and as a human who isnยดt perfect and itยดs being supportive to people living with similar problems.
0 likes*note: sorry for my english, love from Guatemala.
dodie, im praying for you
0 likesi really appreciate your snapchats about mental health, they really really help me!!
0 likesdo you ever feel it really strongly in ur chest that someone needs a hug cos I really need to act on that rn dodie needs a hug
0 likesim proud of you
0 likesi just need to say that the stuff you post helps me soooo much
0 likesI think what YouTubers should do is if they do decide to talk about the low points (not necessarily when you're in the dark places but perhaps when you've just come out of it) I think there should be a trigger warning at the beginning and in the description there should be links that may be useful (such as mind or therapyforyou) so if members of your audience are struggling they can start to seek help. Even if it's just a reminder that if they're feeling that bad they should see a dr I think encouraging treatment and support as opposed to just wallowing (not that I'm saying you were doing that) is a lot more productive.
0 likesI've had the exact same problem. What I did was that I created a private instagram account which only my closest friends were allowed to follow (or no-one if you want). There I could feel free to write big ass captions about anything and everything. I highly recommend that for all the people who instantly reach for their phone when they're feeling anxious! (and for you especially, dodie, i really think this might help) <3
0 likesWE ALL LOVE YOU DODIE โค๐๐๐
3 likesJust keep close to your friends so when you can't fall back on social media you will still be OKAY
0 likesokay on an unrelated note she's got a really good mic. it almost sounds like a voice over
0 likesIts ok, although you are right about sharing personal feelings not being the best coping mechanism. But when people feel really down, they can't really think strait and occasionally do things that they may regret ( believe me I've been there.) So what you did wasn't intentionally wrong, but that's ok. You and many others including myself can learn from this. And I hope you (if you ever read this) are having a wonderful day. And sorry for the really long comment.
0 likesI can write only those two words after this video. Love you.
0 likesIt's not something you should feel bad for or apologize for, I believe that it wasn't fully healthy to always post about it cause it would become too much but I feel you are free to talk about it and I think honestly you should make like another account to talk about it cause you really should be able to talk about it. That way you can talk about both and not gain an obsession with it, ofcourse on the other account you won't always post on it but when you are as you two said "up there" you can post on it so you can vent as well as have a open mind and ensure that they are better constructive and less mopey. In the sense you still cover it but not as depressing like and more helpful to yourself as well as the people who find internet in the video. I know how hard it can be cause I struggle with mental illness too but I also know it helps to write down and talk about it more but it's also usually better to talk about it with others when you aren't deep down cause then you have a more clear mind and can be more understanding as well as not seem always down and no up. Everyone who has depression knows you always have downs and up, you can always share a laugh with your friend one day while watching hanging out and another day you can feel no one ever likes you and you'll never be happy and that is normal for people who have depression. I know few people will read this but I am always open for discussion on talking about mental illnesses of all kinds as well as my own experience so if anyone here wants to talk about it wether to discuss, learn, compare, seek guidance or just to talk then just reply to me down below and if needed we can exchange kik or Facebook or snapchat or whatever so we can talk on private message board and not on public comments.
0 likesBless you little sunflower๐
0 likesPlease dont be embarrassed dodie. You are in the process of growing and learning and HEALING above all else. You are wonderful and we are all different and it is very hard to deal with mental illness in general let alone when you have such a large audience. Dont take on more than you can handle please, get a cup of tea and forgive yourself because we forgive you and love you as well โค๏ธ
0 likesdodie seems like the person who would glorify mental illness but then actually suffer from it and regret all of it
0 likesyour trauma is valid you dont need to explain yourself to others xoxoxo
6 likessending you alllll the support!!!!!!! love love love
0 likesim probs just in the same state as you but your posts help me and i somewhat understand why you shouldn't do it but it still does help some people
0 likesdodie youre such a sweetheart, chin up buttercup, we love you <3
0 likesi love you so much and i accept your apology. it was really brave of you to admit your mistakes and look to fix them !! i look up to that so much ๐๐
0 likesi started crying because my smol dodie started crying
24 likesNo need 2 b embarrassed lovely.i hope u realize this now. It is all part of the learning process.u are amazing
0 likesI understand why people don't like that dodie vents so much on instagram and snapchat. Even though it is too much for many people, it has helped me.
0 likesI have struggled with mental health since I was thirteen, long before I knew dodie. And it has helped me to see it's okay to not be mentally ill, I felt like I am okay, like I am not terrible person for having a sick brain.
But I understand that it can be triggering for many people and that for some people it will become "dodie's brand" which I understand she doesn't want. If dodie sees it as unhealthy for her and us, as an audience, it is good that she will think her posts through more, I want her to feel as good as possible and not guilty about what she does.
But I hope the mental health related things will not completely stop because they helped me feel more okay and normal, which is a thing I'm giving up on.
Hope you'll feel better dodie, ily ๐
this is the most beautiful apology
0 likesDODIE STOP! MY CHEEKS ARE COMPLETELY WET FROM MY TEARS YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE SORRY WE LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT!
0 likesThank you for saying sorry. It takes guts to do that.
5 likesI wish virtual hugs where real bear hug
29 likes:(( dodie i love you a lot, thank you for saying sorry, i appreciate you a lot <33
0 likesNo need to apologize Dodie, you're only human doing what you felt was right at the time. Thank you for caring about your impact on your veiwers but you really don't owe us anything. You're still growing and learning, you did the thing, it was great for a while but now it backfired, oops. Now you know to not do that thing again, it's the only way we learn and become better. To be on such a large platform with many people that care about you, it's hard not to feel like sharing will be helpful to you and your audience, which it is for sure, but to an extent and I'm so glad you've come to that realization now.
0 likesI appreciate that you realize that talking rashly when you're upset can be harmful to younger viewers, I just wish you realized it on your own without having a bunch of people tell you.
0 likeswe love you, dodie.
6 likesYour such an inspiration for me and this video makes me want to hug you because we are kinda alike I love you sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much โค๏ธ
0 likesDodie! There is an app called Vent where people talk about mental health in a space where people are prepared to read the things you post. You can use it anonymously or have an account which you share with your audience. Maybe you could use that to cope with your bad days?
0 likesmy stance on this situation was that the posts weren't triggering me or anything of the sort, but it made me very worried and i wanted to be able to give you a hug and be there for you but i obviously couldn't because we aren't close friends or even know each other in real life so i was just very worried so i hope that this makes things a lot healthier and better for you!
0 likesIt's ok. We forgive you. We all love you and we all want to help you and I love you too. I'm glad you decided to help yourself and I'm glad you're taking these steps. You inspire me and (yes I know I'm rambling) I hope you are well with whatever you do. Love you soooo much. I wish I could meet youโค๏ธ
2 likesDodie, I was one of the ones who did think that you were oversharing, and honestly, dealing with mental health issues myself, they did affect me sometimes. I was beginning to kind of lose interest in your videos, mostly bc the vibe coming from you was honestly too similar to my own at some stage and it made me kind of sad and frustrated. Also, I really felt that ur mental health issues were becoming part of your brand, which made me kind of uncomfortable. But this video completely changed my mind - you were totally vulnerable "in the right way", you were genuine about change, self aware, and every inch the kind, endearing, smart, sensitive person I subscribed to. Thank you for this video, it takes real character, strength, and bravery to do this, and I just hope you continue to fix any mistakes you may have made and to grow as a person and creator. I love you so much Dodie <3 :) ๐๐๐๐ and I'm sure everything will turn out great, you are truly a special and amazing human being, if you commit yourself to growth. โจ
7 likesDodie - please... don't beat yourself up about this. Yes, you've made a mistake, and you should acknowledge this and try to make things better but everyone is human and you were well meaning and did help loads of people. I hope you feel better as soon as possible!
0 likesit makes me so sad to see you like this <3
0 likesWhen you cry it breaks my heart please don't cry. You have survived this in the pass you are strong so you can get out this. Everyone makes mistakes and its okey
0 likesdodie dodie dodie. you are the most wonderful person ever and this video is such strong proof of it. you owe up to your mistakes and take responsibility for your actions and im simply thankful to have you to look up to.
0 likesI love you, I'm praying for you xx
0 likesDodie, I really hope you read this. You mean the world to me, and to so many people. You are a brave and kind soul, you have used your resources wisely in my opinion on how you have gotten out of certain things. You give me hope when you talk about what you're going through it makes me feel as if I am going to make it through these shitty teenage years. I have never had to take a step back, but you noticing something about yourself is good that you want to change it! I hope to see you in a better state soon, good luck with your new therapist! love you xo!
0 likesMy love, all I want to do is wipe your tears! Honestly, sometimes you just can't help it. There's so many ways to seek help, and get thoughts out of your brain, and it's more than okay to not know what way of unloading works best. You are not doing anything wrong love, you are a human trying to find out how to take care of herself, and that means mistakes and success will be mixed in there. You are so much like me, in that we both need to get out what's going on in our head to someone. Things will become somewhat clearer, soon in life, and a light will open up for you, no matter how crazy it is now. Thats why life is a journey, there really is no "destination." Love you so so much.
0 likesI get what she means about the phone thing , whenever I'm anxious or just sad I rely on my phone and without it I am lost
0 likesHey! Hey, dodie don't cry. I forgive you x
0 likesI kinda get it, but now I've been drawning away from Dodie lately because she's been showing so much. Im kind of expecting to hear about Dodie's mental health even in little videos like doing instagram makeup or something like that. And that's pretty crazy. I agree with you Dodie, it's getting too much.
0 likesi still feel its more blurry than this, i dont know, youre vulnerable, i hate that as a vulnerable person you have to say sorry, idk its not a well rounded thought just an uneasy feeling in my tummy
0 likesand i love you so much, be safe dove
I think that she should be allowed to post what she wants to, and not feel confined to monitor and be forced to hold back. But a filter (to a point) is needed. And I think she may have been falling into a dangerous pattern and damaging herself further in the process, as well as affecting those around her. It's a difficult thing to interact and share with a countless audience
0 likesFriend be strong you show us what is real and how we can feel better and good
0 likesI love you so much Dodie
0 likesMuch love to youโค๏ธ
0 likesKeep posting, it helps me understand myself
0 likesPersonally, I've never found your posts triggering but rather just quite worrying. I thought that it was interesting to hear your thoughts on what you were dealing with, and it gave me something to think about. I do feel you probably did unintentionally over share sometimes however I really don't think you need to be so apologetic for not having censored thoughts you feel you perhaps should have. On some level people know what they were signing up for, and it's not like they wouldn't be able to find similar content elsewhere should they had the desire to. But it's also completely understandable for not wanting to contribute to said content. I think it's good that you care so much about your audience.
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Green Giraffe well I was going to comment the exact same thought in probably a less well written way, so instead Ill just say that I second this 100% :)
3 likesGreen Giraffe yes! I very much agree
2 likesi disagree, with a platform as big as dodie's she has a moral responsibility to know what is and is not appropriate to post to an audience that is essentially public. with a million followers you don't know how triggering some content can be to someone in a bad head space (and yes to some extent you do know what you're getting into when you follow her, but to say a 13 year old in a depressive episode you can't think straight). and it's a learning curve, there is no guidebook to youtube, we as her audience understand her position. but i think she was right to apologise because it is a real issue that people have been pointing out. she is an adult, and she's acting like one now.
15 likesThat's one perspective; it's hardly the only one. What about the danger of perpetuating an image-driven culture in which all discussions of any real depth or meaning are perpetually constrained to back rooms and hushed tones, in which "mental health" is the dirtiest of all four letter words? Because it seems like the latter is to me where we're all really at.
6 likesCookieCreamCrumble don't get me wrong, this is VERY TRUE. But it's good to know that there are multiple views and it didn't negatively affect absolutely everyone. I just wanted to show that this was my personal experience, sorry if it seemed like I was trying to say this was the one and only true effect of her oversharing.
1 likelove you, dodie !
0 likesIt's a learning process, life is! Don't feel horrible about this, we understand xx
0 likesYou are so amazing dodie. Everyone makes mistakes and you're just trying to find your way. We love you and we are proud of you โค๏ธ
0 likesDodie, yes, I did notice how personal your captions get and to be honest, I don't mind because I'm at a better place now. But yes, it might be triggering for others. By no means should you stop talking about mental health issues, but hold them until one day you're better again. I know, it's hard to say that anyone who's been through depression would ever be okay again, I know this because from time to time I still feel like I'm not okay again. But really, we can't really help you and it's heartbreaking for everyone to feel like we're not helping you. Idk if this is even possible for you to do, but do start a private account. Have your dearest friends on there, but no one else. Spill everything you want to spill, whether they respond or not, leave it up to them. It's a personal vulnerable space, temporary, yet valid. I've been doing this for a while and honestly it's much easier than going up and talking to a friend(it sometimes gets intimidating), and it gives your friends and you a little more space for everything. As always we care about you dearly and wish you the best ๐
0 likeshi im pretty new to this channel and got kind of curious of what informations dodie shared on instagram. can somebody give me some examples or something?
0 likesyou should get the app "what's up" it's a mental health app, it has a forum where you can share in dept your feelings with others experiencing it and they can reply. you can also write to yourself on there if more helpful, and rate how you're feeling - to see your improvements. it also tells you thinking patterns and gives you ways to ground yourself. we all make mistakes and we all still love you. <3 .
0 likesHI Dodie when ur gifted as ur in many ways. a sacrifice is demanded as your brain cannot cope its all part of your growth into life and as a musician best of luck wonderful lady xx
0 likesI think everyone is guilty at some time or another of oversharing and it can be very theraputic.... but it's the kind of thing you have to forgive yourself for because sometimes you just gotta. tru story. but it's also good to hold back a bit, just don't hold back too much. too far in either direction isn't healthy. It's all about balance. Just find the middle ground that works best.
0 likesDodie, I haven't seen your instagram or the comments on your previous video but from what you've said here you have nothing to apologise for. As a 30 year old who has only just come to terms with her own mental health issues I know that there are no rules when it comes to sharing about mental health. On paper I should have no reason to be depressed - I have just got a PhD, landed an amazing job and live in one of the nicest parts of the world, but that means nothing to my brain. I have to say I saw a previous video you did where you said you were depressed today and I did worry at that point that it was sending the wrong message (I knew what you meant but thought it could also be taken as you can just be depressed for one day rather than it being a condition). But seeing you recently in your more vulnerable state my heart goes out to you. I am not very prolific on social media myself but in my worst times over the last year I have finally found relief in sharing instead of bottling it up. I always immediately regret it as sharing too much but two recent posts have prompted a couple of male friends to message me and share their mental health issues - something that no-one else knew about. I no longer regretted the posts. Of course I didn't share anything that they'd told me with anyone else but I knew what triggered bad episodes and so could subtly guide people on what to say/not say to them. I know I'm going on but this is a really important subject to me, not just because of my own mental health but also because just over a year ago I lost one of my best friends to suicide. I felt incredible guilt as I was the only person he spoke to about his issues but I couldn't help him. I really wish he had felt he could be more open about his issues and not feel the stigma. I think it is really good to step back and look at what you are doing and you are in a unique position of having a lot of followers, many of whom are very young. But I just hope you are looking at it from the perspective of number one what actually helps you and then number two are you helping others (even if its only a few people). If sharing helps you then carry on - as I said I haven't seen some of what you've been talking about but maybe make it clear to younger fans that this is not something to aspire to and if they don't have mental health issues then they are the lucky ones. Of course if sharing is making you feel worse then stop. When I was at school social media wasn't a thing but being "depressed" was a phase that a lot of girls went through because it was seen as the in thing - what I'm trying to say is that you are not the reason why some people might see it that way, it will always be there. In videos where you sanitise your feelings there is actually more risk of this happening. In the ones where you show the real dirty, unpleasantness of mental health there is no glamourising - just honesty. I hope I don't see many more videos like this for one reason, which is that I hope you start to get better. A few months ago I was in hopeless despair and thought I'd never feel better, now after getting help I feel like normal me again - still a little bit crazy but happy and hopeful. You are clearly a very kind and thoughtful person with a lot of talent, just remember that and never feel embarrassed. All the best Dodie.
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<333 I am proud of you, and I'm proud that you've been able to open up a little more and that you're learning like me. I hope you don't feel any more guilt about your friend, you don't deserve to. Thank you <333
34 likesI love you๐ thank you for sharing this๐ sending hugs your way
0 likesdodie its okay, breathe its fine, well i mean its not but, just breathe. go smell a bunch of flowers and put stars on your ceiling. why? idk it'll look cool. okay just breathe. ily
0 likesPlease dont hold back.Dodie! you are not too much, i can handle you...always....love you
0 likesI don't usely post under your videos, and this is probably the only time I will. I just wanned to let you know my point of view.
5 likesI don't have snapchat or instagram, and I guess it did prevent me from seen how bad your mental health was, but I do watch what you post online, especially on Youtube.
I don't think that any of your content was misplaced. I am pretty young ( 16 ), and yet, haven't found anything that shocked or traumatised me.
I love your videos. I even refere to them when I need to explain how I feel to someone. If you still consern on how your yonger audience might react, you could forbidden some of them to the under 18. Still, I wish that you will continue making videos like the " I am depressed today ", or the one about the depersonalisation, because someone has to talk about those things here on youtube. And you do such a great job at it... You give us things to think about, you made me question myself, witch is great !
Just think what is the best for you, witch probably include what's best for the viewers !
Courage, les franรงais t'aiment aussi <3
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I miss you and your music Dodie. I want to hear about everything that happens with you. Know you are never alone.
0 likesDodie is wonderful like if you agree ๐๐๐
9 likesso so so so glad that you apologised xx
0 likesyou are right, it IS "well shit", stay strong
0 likesI get why you're sorry, and I get that some people will get triggered by what you say. I never felt triggered because your posts really helped me. I feel like I experience the same thing as you, and reading you while you're in a bad state is nearly comforting because I then know I'm not alone, and you are putting words on the feeling I have.
0 likesBut some people have been triggered, and it's really mature (or nice) of you to listen to these people.
I personally never felt like you were glorifying mental illness. It's not because you put beautiful words on it that it is beautiful.
Clearly, exteriorizing helps you a lot. Dan's idea is really good, I've been doing this for a few months and it really helps me.
I'm glad that you found a therapist, and I really hope he will be as good as you friend says he is. I also hope you realize you are not alone, even though you feel lonely. I know it can be really tough sometimes.
I guess you won't read the comments under this video, and you're right I think, but I felt the need to tell you that. And I don't know, if someone has read all my silly nonsense, there might be a chance that they needed to hear what I said just like I needed your words.
Have a nice day everyone, enjoy the sky and your pet. I love you
while i know that i can handle all of your pouring out, some others cannot. i am glad to see that instead of turning to your phone during your times of need you are turning to your friends.
0 likesI get what she's saying but why are some of her viewers acting like she's like a innocent child / teenager?? she is right to say sorry because she is like 5 years older than most of her audience that she influences and because of her influencer status now she sort of has a moral obligation to avoid harming her followers. I'd recommend Instead of Instagram, write big posts on your iphone notes ( it helps me) and you could put an uncaptioned pic on Instagram at the same time if you feel the association of that would be comforting
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i agree, there's so many kids in this comment section who need someone to remind them this. dodie is an adult. she is an influencer. she needs to own up to mistakes. she needs to avoid unloading so much on social media because most of her followers are SO MUCH YOUNGER than her. they are not her friend.
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0 likesShe is a human being. When you make a youtube channel you don't sign a paper that says "Now I m gonna be perfect so in case there is a younger viewer watching they will get a good example" That's bullshit. She has a channel where she shares her thoughts. If a child is watching it should be their parents job to restrict it if it's dangerous. She lives her own life. She can swear, drink and talk about mental health if she wants to.
18 likesehhh...i didn't say she couldn't talk about mental health (or swear or drink??.) I was directly referring to the damaging "oversharing" on instagram and snapchat that this entire video is about...
9 likesalso what do you mean by "incase younger viewers are watching" her target audience has always been teens?? (and i do agree that young children shouldn't have unsupervised internet access )
smoothie criminal I do the exact thing; write huge notes that is. It really does help me
2 likessmoothie criminal I completely agree! I'm really glad she apologised it's a step in the right direction and it was very much needed. Most of the comments talking about why she doesn't need to apologise are justified by 'because you never triggered me' which isn't sound reason. I hope she doesn't beat herself up about it but at the same time I'm really pleased she is reflecting on this. And I was really glad to find your comment ahhh thank you xxx
8 likesand she has owned up to her mistakes!! that's the whole point of this video. she did something wrong, she apologised and now she'll change her behaviour.
5 likes+Emma Popcorn I know, that's why I said she was right , I was sorta responding to those commenters who said she didn't have to apologise
2 likessmoothie criminal I feel like adding to this comment about 'influencing younger viewers". A lot of Dodie's viewers are younger, certainly between 12-17 at least, and while people in this age bracket feel "grown up" they're still children, and they're still learning the ways of the world. At 12 often you still don't know how to act, particularly as you start 'big schools' and the like. At 12 you look up to people and try to act like them because you often don't know that you can be yourself and be liked, and if you see a really successful you tuber who's well loved, then you're going to want to be like them. As for the comments of "parents should stop kids if they don't want them seeing stuff"- teenagers have a way of getting around the locks and codes and stuff, not to mention a lot of Dodie's youtube is mild and much more filtered than social media, so a parent may therefore find her channel to be 'suitable'. Don't get me wrong, I think a lot of what Dodie talks about is really important (mental health awareness, bullying, sexuality etc) and she's a really wonderful musician and singer, but I'm glad she apologised and is learning from her mistakes ๐ (this is really long oops)
0 likesGosia Berendt 1. Sure, free speech, but once you have a large audience of people who look up to you/are influenced by you, you do morally have an obligation to them. While it may not be acknowledged as such, it is a different position to be in, being a youtuber, compared to just being an ordinary person. They influence people. They are a role model. Often, young people who watch them don't have any other examples of people who deal with, for example, mental illness, so they follow in the youtuber's footsteps. By acknowledging this, Dodie is being responsible and mature.
0 likes2. No, no one is perfect, but what? Does that mean people shouldn't seek to learn and grow and be more healthy and improved? No one said Dodie had to be perfect, people just wanted her not to harm anyone.
People make mistakes and that's just being a human. And that's okay. I get the oversharing thing and I'm proud that you realized that. I hope you don't beat yourself up over this. Think about all the amazing things you've done for so many people. Think about the people dancing in their bedrooms to your songs and forgetting everything for a second. You may not be a perfect person, but nobody is. You changed so many lives, so I'd say that the mistakes you make along the way are worth it. <3
0 likesItโs ok to cry
7 likes@dodie Try to focus what's good in life, and to act rather than feel. Or maybe to feel what you do, instead of feel what you feel. So emotions are important, and showing them to others - even your fans - helps you/us understand them. But some negative mental states can be self enchanting, and you (and me of course) have to OWN them. Accept things. Doesn't mean we can't think about it, but it shall not decide what our future will be, you yourself must decide that.
0 likesRegarding the relation to us, the fans. I think maybe - from what I guess about you - that you 1) want to be loved without argumentation back and 2) that you love without end. This kind of love makes the loving one disregard pain, and when pain comes back it's bigger. I think we need to hold some things holy, and holy and... demonic? at the same time. For example, I love justice, and I really get upset if someone is treated unjust. But I still ACCEPT that this is the case. How could I not accept it? Isn't it this I'm upset about, this that happened?
Also I think it's great if you want to be less dependent on viewers' opinions about you.
I went out side a ran and bit (I love running) and It felt nice cause I haven't done it in a while cause I've been really down.
0 likeshow about making a second instagram just for posts about your mental health where you can rant and everything? people who want to see that can follow you and people who might find your posts triggering don't have to... if it helps you cope with everything there is nothing wrong with it.
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Anna-Lena Sperber yeah so true
7 likesAnna-Lena Sperber that's a good idea
7 likesThat'd still be unhealthy for her though
73 likesAnna-Lena Sperber i think thats an excellent idea!
5 likeslocal dreamer why?? Why would it be unhealthy for her?? We all like to agree to the idea that people should reach out when they arent feeling well but what, theres an extent to it? Conditions? I have panic disorder, counsellors make it worse because of the condescending tone the majority of them talk in. My friends are great but i hate having to keep on about it to them. Theres something very soothing about telling strangers who wont judge me that im not feeling great and could use support. (Not randomly walking up to people but posting pictures online distracting myself from a panic attack which has brought lovely messages of support from people that have helped me calm down without the after thought of "omg ive annoyed my friends with this again" which ultimately spirals into more anxiety.) distraction is a recommended tool for many mental illnesses. So lads leave the goddamn PC "morals" behind until ye have a clue of what the hell ye are preaching about ๐ก
7 likesIt's unhealthy on a long term basis! Might feel great at the moment where she's pouring her heart out but exposing her deep emotions when she's in the middle of a bad moment can cause her regret and guilt. It's just like an addiction, and it's not a solution. That was part of the video, she realizes that as well as being bad for other people, it's also bad for her.
45 likesAnna-Lena Sperber agree. I know I love it.
1 liketerrible idea. just film and delete it.
6 likesrelying on social media for every single time you're feeling low is very unhealthy. Even if no one sees it, it's not healthy. It's the same as what the message dodie recieved that she talked about in her previous video said. They're "empy calories", it might feel good in the moment but it probably doesn't do anything to actually help. It's a coping mechanism and coping mechanisms don't fix the problem.
9 likesMelissa Lozano i totally get what you mean and i respect everything you said but it's also important to note that sometimes it feels good to get things off your chest. yes it's unhealthy and not actually helping but you get it out there if you write it down. if you read through the comments on this video you'll see that a lot of people said, dodie helped them realize, that they have a mental illness. so it's not necessarily a bad thing to overshare.
4 likesAnna-Lena Sperber i think what she said she's going to do is better. Writing it down for herself at her worst, giving it some time to just sit and then, when feeling better, check it out and see if it could help people or of it couldn't. She can help people when she's getting better too, it's not always the low points that help other people, because when you write down your thoughts when you are at your worst you just don't care and will probably not write anything but negativity. Waiting a bit before posting something allows you to see what you can learn from it, and adding that in is most likely to help a lot more people.
4 likeswhile that also might be unhealthy for dodie in the long run, i still don't think it's a good idea, disregarding that!! having a social media account solely based on unleashing her deepest thoughts at her darkest moments for young impressionable people to read is not good!! and yes you might argue that people who would be affected from it can just stay away but like dodie said, there are moments when our perception is skewed and our judgement is bad and if people who are also suffering as much as dodie is stumbles upon this account, they could get addicted to wallowing in the lowest of lows because your head is really hard to fight against. basically, an account dedicated to writing about her bad rants can only breed more negative badness!!
9 likesi think what dodie is planning to do is a good step -- filming and talking just as she has been doing but not posting it and instead using it to reflect on for inspiration later :))
(i hope this doesn't sound mean or patronising!!! just trying to share some food for thought)
Anna-Lena Sperber YESS
0 likesi was thinking along the same lines - a sort of private spam account, not worrying over the theme, just taking a pic and ranting, but i would keep that account private, or at least putting trigger warnings in caps before the rant ?? lmao i use tumblr, reblogging memes and ranting occasionally in the tags :// although this could, like ppl have said above be unhealthy in the long run
0 likesAnna-Lena Sperber but that doesnt solve her problem - she should start making progress instead of staying in one place. She should work with a therapist and not an online void.
11 likesEven though some people might want to read it and see what she has to say, it might be damaging to those reading it especially young people. It's not about whether they want to see it, it's about whether they should.
7 likesthat's still sharing and it could become a kinda oooh this is where I go when I'm feeling crap so it would just make her feel worse maybe, idl
0 likesdon't be too hard on yourself i'm crying โค๐ญ
0 likesDodie you shouldn't apoligise to us . Yes somethings should be private. But really I don't know how to word this. We all love you xxx and I hope your mental state gets better ly โคโคโค
1 likeThere is an online support group that has a Facebook page where you can write how you feel and people who have been there and who are there can reply to you. It's called the Blurt Peer Support Group. You can join in online through there website and I've been finding it helpful
0 likesWE LOVE SO MUCH โค
0 likesOmfg Dodie please don't apologise for the posts! You've really helped me understand that I'm not the only one who has gone through this sort of thing and that I'm not alone. I understand why you feel bad, I really do, but the posts and snapchat melt downs, have been kind of comforting in a way idk I'm bad at explaining things but pls don't feel bad ilysm
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I agree I think she helped more people than she realises. Whilst she probably shouldn't do it again, for the people in her personal life, and for the majority that said she was sharing too much, I think it affected a lot of people positively too.
30 likesLala Bb +
0 likesShe's definitely helped me
1 likeit's great that she has helped you! however it has been harmful/hurtful for others. including me, watching her Snapchat were making me very anxious which ended with me breaking down and having to stop watching her Snapchat etc. I am so glad she has talked about it and addressed it because I 100%understand why she does share so much x
17 likesnikkiireland6 I'm sorry it has a negative effect on you! I totally understand why it's not helpful for some people as it is a very tough subject x
0 likesI love and support you!
0 likesDodie NEVER feel sorry for things like this . If that's a way that you feel better, then that's what you have to do. Even if it's just a short term help and you didn't mess up! You live and learn. You are important and loved ๐๐๐๐
0 likeslove you dodes ๐
0 likesI loveee you and thanks for sharing! <3
0 likesaw dodie it's okay :) <3
5 likesI don't know what to say. Obviously if the videos were hurting other people than you should stop and your making the right choice. Honestly, it had a positive affect on me because I found out that I wasn't alone but whatever's best for you and others. Also I'd love to go outside but it's raining, I've been going outside a lot recently and it's been helping me because I finally feel like I'm kind of in control of my life and my illnesses can't stop me from doing things. If you see this Dodie, and you probably won't, I just want to tell you I support you in all your decisions and I hope you feel better. If your not Dodie but your reading this, thank you a lot I hope this helped you in some kind of way, probably not though. I'm gonna go make myself a cake I've been meaning to for a while and my birthdays coming up.
0 likeslove you dodie <3
0 likesI don't think your mental health problems are your brand, and I don't think you should be embarrassed. I find it helpful to hear your thoughts, it makes me want to express my own, but I understand why there are unhealthy aspects! I don't necessarily think you need to apologize or be embarrassed over something you did! It was a learning curve, and just because it was a public one, doesn't mean it was shameful or anything to be embarrassed by!
0 likesi love this. i love this so much.
0 likesas ๐๐ผlong ๐๐ผas it ๐๐ผmakes you ๐๐ผfeel better ๐๐ผi will ๐๐ผwatch ๐๐ผwhatever ๐๐ผyou๐๐ผmake ๐๐ผbecause i ๐๐ผlove ๐๐ผand respect๐๐ผ you๐๐ผ
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emma +++
0 likesemma +++++ ++++
0 likesemma YES
0 likesNot if it's damaging to a young audience. I can't support anyone if they're using their young impressionable audience as a crutch. That's just not fair.
11 likesAidan Horne I have to agree with you, I'm just not sure I can easily forgive what has happened because it has been so unhealthy for so many people
5 likesemma but some things can really hurt a younger audience who are sensitive to certain things and can hit too close to some people when they touch on subjects like mental illness and even though sharing some stuff is good and helpful it isnt the best idea to ,like she said, overshare
2 likesAidan Horne yah i would have to agree with you guys!
0 likespeople make mistakes yo. at least you are aware of it and will now change for the better x
0 likesIโm crying cause it really really really has been helping me too
0 likesEveryone makes mistakesโค
0 likesIt's okay dods, I hope you won't stop sharing completely. A certain amount does help a lot. Don't be embarrassed. We all love you so much. You were trying to help.
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And we all appreciate your apology and maturity. You're incredible.
0 likeshey its totally okay! we still love you!! its all about moderation! <3 <3
7 likesDodie! i agree with you that you should talk to the people who are affecting you in person instead of spilling it on the internet, because that's just an unhealthy mechanism. BUT, i still believe that you should share what you feel/experience during depressive/depersonalization episodes because we have as much right to exist as others and mental illnesses shouldn't be marginalized; yet, do it without making it seem like mental illnesses are "cute" or "artsy".
1 likeHey dodie...dont worry about making mistakes...thats what being young is like, making mistakes, learning and growing! We are all going to stick by you throughout your stages because we love you!! Every part! Good and bad! Because no one is perfect! Xx but never feel you have to fake being happy for us, be happy be sad!! Just be you! Because thats the person we love xx because you are amazing x your flaws are just as important as your talents..x because thats you, so keep being you! โก because thats who we love, alwaysโกโก
0 likesWe are all works in progress <3
0 likes:)! thank you for listening
0 likesSlightly irrelevant, but before I knew who you were I thought it was dodieodie instead of doddleoddle
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[insert a creative name] dodieodie sounds so cute aweee
2 likes[insert a creative name] I USED TO THINK THAT TOO HAHA
0 likesSAME HERE omg Mandela effectttt
0 likesGlad to know I'm not the only one๐
0 likesi feel bad now! i didnt do anything but other people are making it sound like you are doing to much and its bad.
0 likesits not its ok to talk but talking to much about it is too much, what i do to cope is think to myself about it and accept what has happened and what i think.
Dont feel like your doing to much its ok if people think its too much they dont have to watch the video you have more then just these types of videos.
please don't apologise, why don't you make private venting account on Insta as there is a lovely and supportive community who are going through the same thing and you are never alone ๐
0 likesBLESS YOU
0 likesBLESS YOU
Bless you so much you wonderful human
Maybe you should make an anonymous account on the vent app<3 that way you can still get it out but it would be more private. It's saved me from being emotional on my main social media accounts
0 likesBless you Dodie Clark
0 likesLove & hugs, sweetie.
0 likesJesus is with you, Dodie
0 likesI don't understand why she's apologizing ? She's amazing and we should say "I'm sorry" that you fell like that ๐
2 likesYou're so pure and beautiful i just love you so much โค
3 likesThank you, take care of yourself please <3
0 likesWhy can tomska be depressed and on medication and talk about it all the time, and have conflicted feeling with guns, not having them to be a good influence, then having them again two vlog after.
0 likesAnd express himself on a vlogs every week for like 30 minutes, which is 5 min a day about what dodie post on snap? (I think)
Ok, tom's vlog is edited, and so he probably gets second opinion from friends before posting them and stuff, but it still is very raw and I think it's wonderful that it is.
He's a like one representation of what a person with mental illness can be, and I think that's important.
Because from a outsider point of view, he still is very functional, the funniest youtuber I know and has been that for like 10 years non stop. And I find that very inspiring.
Why are people saying that Dodie can't do that?
Maybe dodie online presence used to be too bubbly, quirky and cute? Even more on her first channel, I was a little bit surprising when I discovered the 2nd channel and her post on other social media.
But she's a human being and human beings have a wide range of emotions!
And I don't think that we should stop her from being herself on HER social media, I don't want her to have to be someone else in order to talk to us. Social media shouldn't be a place where you just perform 24/7.
But whatever, this is probably none of our buisiness, do whatever makes you happy doddodododododlie dodie.
Love you, and tomska also, don't know if he will read this, but he's my role model and keeps my little depressed ass working hard.
Also, mental health, is a recent trending subject in art, it used to be super taboo and you had to make complicated metaphores and say that's it's the devil and stuff and now, it's getting more and more clear, ok and needed.
From Bo Burnham saying that he tries to give people the hapiness that he can't give himself, to Rick and Morty saying that life is meaning less so let's just watch tv and Twenty One Pilots litteraly asking fans to not kill themselves at every concert (or to stay alive if you phrase it their way).
There is a demand for this kind of content and not everyone can get a therapist, not everyone can talk about it with friends, not everyone can even accept that they have thoses feelings etc
So this kind of content is like a cartarsis for them/us and it feels great!
The rambling point I'm trying to make is that role model shouldn't be one dimensional exemple of success.
So the people following them also don't feel the need to be that?
Don't be perfect, please don't try to be perfect, just be yourself, feel what you have to feel, talk about it if you want, try to stay safe, because whoever you are, you're good enough.
(And stay alive... stay alive, with me I-/ )
Thank you Dodie
0 likesyou've said stigma twice - this video and last video - AND ALL I CAN THINK ABOUT IS TAEHYUNG
0 likesOH MY GOSH YOU ARE SO LUCKY TO LIVE IN A CITY AND CHOOSE YOUR THERAPISTS!! I live in the middle of nowhere and I have to go to therapy soooo my only option is whoever is stationed at the nearest doctors. and if by some miracle I like them then they only ever stay stationed there for about 4 months
0 likesConfused at all the posts saying 'you don't need to apologise!??1'
990 likesNo, she did need to apologise. And I'm really glad she did, it's the most responsible thing she has done and I was very happy to see this xxx
Edit: please read my clarification below. I am shocked by the cruel and unkind response to my support of Dodie's apology (something which was brave and the right decision on her part)
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why did she need to? did she bother you with her honesty? (not judging, i just dont get it as im a recent viewer :p)
16 likesMusicfever5 it wasn't just honesty that was the problem, she was sharing things that could be harmful to others of her audience... words have a lot of power, especially with how much of her audience is younger and impressionable
74 likesso she being sad could make other people feel sad etc?
9 likesMusicfever5 it was the way she had been romantisizing her illness. It wasn't just her being sad making others sad, it was her being too forthcoming about what she was facing, which could seriously affect others
67 likesYou people are the reason why people are scared to share their stories...
28 likesChenai Chan it's not a bad thing to talk about it, neccesarily, but she was being really explicit. It was the explicity (idk if that's a word whoops) that was affecting others. There's nothing wrong with talking about this sort of stuff to an extent, but the way she talked about it was the problem, if that makes sense
40 likesShe did not. At all.
35 likesShe is struggling and she was sharing her struggles. She does NOT have to apologise for being a fucking human. What is wrong with you.
If anyone is effected by her darker posts it's on THEM not to watch. Sharing these things is important when it comes to spreading awareness for mental health. It is not Dodie's responsability to parent people. She is not romantising anything. AND SHE IS NOT BEING PROBLEMATIC BY POSTING THESE THINGS. GROW UP!! If you don't like it, don't fucking watch.
How dare you.
Would you ask your family members to apologise if they broke down in front of you? No. You wouldn't because that would be selfish. How is this ANY fucking different? Shame on you.
Just because she has an audience doesn't make her any less of a fucking human being with feelings. LET HER BE HUMAN FFS Geez this kinda bs attiude pisses me off. So fucking gross.
I can't believe you have the fucking audacity to say "it's the most responsible thing she has done". You're fucking disgusting. She DID NOT need to apologise for being fucking human.
Romanticising is when an emo kid cuts their wrist and blasts it all over the internet saying how cool they are. THAT IS NOT AT ALL WHAT DODIE IS DOING. SMFH
why would she neeed to apologize????? why are people suddenly trying to silence mental health sufferers just after it becoming normalized to speak about how you are feeling instead of feeling like you have to pretend to be happy all the time???
20 likesare we now thinking it's ok to shame mental health sufferers again and tell them not to post online unless they are happy???? well newsflash some people have to deal with this every day. Should they not be allowed to post online?? or should they only posts posts pretending they are happy? If dodie was your and she told you how she felt and said exactly what she said in her snapchat, would you tell her to apologize to you??? do you think people should just suffer in silence?? you are making people feel like that they should not speak about their mental health issues and keep them to themselves.
if dodie should apologize for being real, then all the models on my instagram 'discover' page should apologize to me for making me feel like shit and depressed today and everyday I go on their.
I feel like the people complaining about dodie sharing her mental health issues are the same people who say ''just smile' to people when they tell them they are depressed.
It is not okay to make someone feel bad about sharing their struggles. She did not need to apologise.
14 likesI can not believe you people even exsist. Seriously though? Would you expect your loved ones to apologise for confiding in you? I fucking doubt it.
To the people disagreeing,
108 likesDodie really did need to apologize. And we're all very proud of her for doing so. It was really brave of her to upload this video.
No one is telling her to stop opening up about her feelings. It's just that, social media has become her diary and that's good that she can open up BUT it can cause some problems too. People become influenced by what people say on social media. And Dodie has such a young, impressionable audience. What she says can influence younger people. People can start to get the wrong idea of mental illnesses. They could think that they have a mental illness when they don't or they could start to think that in order to be creative you have to be mentally ill, which you don't. Some of the things that Dodie said could've also been triggering to some people. As she said that some people had to stop following her on social media and shy away from her videos because they were so triggering.
The message that Dodie is trying to get across is that you can open up to someone but you also need to have boundaries. Some things just need to remain private, especially when you're a celebrity with such an influential audience
THANK YOU
4 likesI'm honestly distraught at the nasty replies I have received to my comment. Perhaps I should have been more specific but I didn't realise people would see it? I am so broken that people think I am "disgusting" and are "questioning why I exist" (kind of contradictory to the message you're trying to convey about the intrinsic worth of human beings). I'm a former mental health blogger. I think it's great to share. But Dodie had taken it a bit too far and was sharing some really graphic posts combined with aesthetic Instagram photos, some really intense snapchats etc. I have met Dodie - I love her and I really enjoy her music! But the amount she was sharing was quite concerning. Of course we can choose to stop consuming her content. But was the way she was sharing this aspect of her life helpful to her either? Probably not, as she said it was like "empty calories" etc and there are definitely things she will find more helpful. I am PROUD of Dodie for apologising. It was responsible and the most responsible thing she has done in the course of sharing her mental health journey online. It's a fantastic step forward, so let's reflect on it with her instead of denying there was ever a problem :) xoxox
89 likesPoptartisnotonfire thank you aaaah
2 likesOk look people this person was not being rude. She didn't say she can't share her story, she just shared a little too much so she apologized.
25 likesshe did need to apologise, she even said she needed to and I'm very proud she did. it was a VERY unhealthy thing for her to of and you guys are supporting that? you missed the entire point of the video..
15 likeseveryone is always like 'end mental health stigma' 'speak up, it's okay not to be ok' then someone posts about how they are really feeling and people are like 'omg wtf you need to apologize, didn't you know you have to pretend to happy and that your life is perfect online 24/7????' (which is hilarious seeing as instagram is the no.1 cause of mental health problems in young people, because it makes it seem like everyone's life is perfect and better than yours, and NOT because of the few people like dodie who decide to be brave and post how they are really feeling every now and then) Reading about someone's mental health problems - no matter how graphic, is not going to give you mental illnesses, it's like saying that if a friend who tells you there mental health issues is going to cause you to become mentally unwell for listening to them ( and while on that point, if dodie was your friend and told you exactly how she was feeling, would you demand her to apologize ????)
10 likesMermaid Sea ok, look, it's already been stated a billion times, but if you need it spelled out, it's not that talking about mental health in general is bad. She was being over explicit and relying on her audience too much, and the explicitness (let's pretend that's a word) can be harming to her younger audience, who can be influenced about her graphic descriptions. It was unhealthy for both her and her audience to be that reliant and graphic. And if all else fails, lEtS aGrEe To DiSaGrEe
15 likesby over explicit you mean telling people how she was really feeling??, there is nothing more harming to younger audiences (which has been proven by research, than instagram, but I don't see anyone demanding people who use instagram apologise) And as I said just reading about someone else's mental problems is not going to cause you to become mentally ill - if someone sees a pretty picture along with a post about how she is feeling, they are not going to suddenly be like 'omg, it's so cool to be mentally ill, i think I will develop a mental illness , because no one can CHOOSE to develop a mental illness, so people saying she is trying to make mental illness seem cool, is fucking sick, why would ANYONE want to make it look like having a mental illness which tortures you 24/7 seem like a good thing??. Kids read worse on the news everyday, watch movies with suicide in them... it's not going to cause them to suddenly develop the chemical imbalances which causes mental illness - because it's not possible, no matter how many of dodies instagram posts with pictures of flowers they read.
6 likesSaying she should apologize is sending out the message that it's not ok to talk about how you are feeling incase it upsets someone else, and that you should instead keep it to yourself - which is very dangerous. I am actually worried about dodie, as she no longer feels she can tell people how she is really feeling because she was made to feel guilty about it, now I'm worried she is going to bottle it up. If anyone is reading this that is going through a tough time - it's ok to speak up about how you are feeling, don't bottle it up and DON'T feel guilty about it.
to everyone disagreeing; dodie even said it was unhealthy for her. what she has been doing wasn't good for her and showing it as much as she did and with her influence could make some people think 'why arent i feeling this way?' , spiraling themselves in the same loop. what dodie did was very brave but saying she didnt need to apologize is actually not constructive. she worked really hard to make this video and admit her mistakes. she explained how it wasnt healthy for her or her audience. accepting her apology accepts all that hard work when saying she didnt need to discredits her thoughts and realizations she isn't proud of but is so brave for realizing and opening up about.
16 likesIt is very true that young audiences can easily be influenced into thinking that they have a mental health issue when they don't or think that they need to have a mental issue of some sort to be valued or worth anything. I used to feel this way until my mother told me, "just because the people you admire and the people around you have problems, it doesn't mean you do too". I stand by the fact that it is good to speak up abput mental health. But speak about it with the intention of raising awareness that mental health issues exist and news to be dealt with, don't promote or glorify mental health issues. It is so mature and brave of Dodie for apologising for crossing the fine line of oversharing to an impressionable audience. And for the people saying "she didn't need to apologise because if a loved one opened up to you, would you make them apologise? " Please understand that you can't juxtapose those two things and call them the same. If a loved one opens up to you, you support them and offer them a shoulder to lean on or some advice, be there for them. Dodie, as a creator on a public online platform, is sharing personal information to literally anyone who stumbles upon her social media, which means thousands of young, easily persuaded people can read or hear about her personal mental health experiences and be coerced into feeling they are the same even if they are not. Thankfully Dodie realises that there is a limit to her sharing, and is such a respectable human because she is able to realise her mistake and improve herself which is a rare quality to find.
12 likesAnjali Jayanty THANK !!!!!!
1 likei feel like everyone is missing the point here. talking is good, but showing mental health in this way and becoming this obsessed with social media, relying on it and it becoming some sort of addiction is BAD. it will inevitably make things worse which isn't what we want! its not because were all too sensitive about it and would just rather not hear it, it was hurting dodie, and thats the problem.
20 likesIf people are trying to make themselves mentally ill so they can be more creative, it is because they are mis-informed, do not have proper support to help them make the right choices or they're trying to be edgy. Not because Dodie made this video. Do not put the blame of someone making poor life choices on someone who was not even involved. That would be like me trying to say it's my local bakers fault that I have Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, it's illogical. It is not Dodie's job as an entertainer to stop other people from making poor life choices. Nor is it her responsibility to stop children from watching videos they shouldn't be, or to make child friendly content to avoid them seeing something they shouldn't.
2 likesI find it quite concerning that an alarming number of people seem think that the responsibility of protecting your own child is palmed off onto whatever is taking their attention.
And as for the op, so what you're saying is that because you used to blog about mental health that you know best right? I'm sorry but you're being moronic. She did NOT need to apologise. Because there is no such thing as sharing too much. If she needs to get it off her chest, she needs to get it off. Seeing a therapist can't always happen when you need it and even if you see one regularly sometimes you still need to vent about bullshit that a therapist is just going to try and rationalise. Having a mental illness isn't simple, and it isn't pretty. She's allowed to struggle & she's allowed to share it. She can share as much or as little as she want's to. If someone is uncomfortable it is on them not to watch it. Stop trying to silence sufferers. We are allowed to speak up and tell our story and you DO NOT have the right to tell us how much we can share. Stop trying to cover up your personal opinions with fake concern. Dodie did nothing wrong and did not need to apologise.
It wasn't good thing to do, people were not reading her instagrams and watching her snapchats because it was too much. She did do something wrong, and I'm glad she recognized it and apologized. I love Dodie, but sometimes those posts were way too much for me because they went so in depth. And I totally get where she was as well, I used to post a lot about my feelings on tumblr and i realized (actually via the previous video that Dodie and hazel did about this) that i was doing that for the same reason as Dodie. You are 100% allowed to talk about your feelings but there's a point where it's too much and potentially dangerous for other people. I'm glad that Dodie sees that and apologized. As many people have said, there's a lot of people who do this and don't apologize, I've been one of them, so I'm glad that she did.
5 likesMusicfever5 sadly, yes. That's how psychology works.
0 likesI love how you didnโt attack dodie. This comment is so honest and I love it.
1 likewhat is up with this reply section?? even dodie said in the video that it was not good for her, why were people trying to argue that it was?
1 likeI agree. I wasn't personally affected by her posts, but it could have hurt someone. She is quite obviously a lovely human being and sometimes it is good to let things out. But some things should remain private. She learned and apologized and that's good. Very brave.
1 likeAn apology was necessary, but know that you needn't eat yourself up over it. You're a human being, we all make mistakes. Without mistakes, we'd never improve ourselves or the things around us, and always remember that Rome wasn't built in a day. Neither must you be.
0 likesI hold the firm belief that we should never stop learning and growing till the day we die.
Awh dodie! Why are you apologising? It's because of you that I have come to understand mental illness and you truly are an inspiration ๐
0 likesDon't worry, Dodie. It's okay.
0 likesDodie it's ok!! โค๏ธโค๏ธ ๐ฃ
0 likesi tried not to watch this until now and dodie is crying i'm crying i need help oml
0 likesDodie, you don't need to apologise for the past. All you should be thinking about is the present and future. I just wanted to say this because you inspire so many people and the last thing your fans and I want is to see you retracing your steps and not progressing. This comment probably didn't make sense AT ALL but I just felt like I needed to say something, and for all I know my advise could be unwanted bullshit. I love you and your work so much Dodie, and you should be proud of the beautiful things that you have created, and focusing on YOUR happiness. ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐
0 likesYou're a babe, love you so much gal โค๏ธ
0 likesThank you for sharing your story
0 likesThanks, but i really think that, although it may not be the Healthiestโข option, if you feel better and it helps you as you say, maybe don't definitely stop making this posts, but make them more "family friendly" or less triggering, or (as someone else said down below) maybe have a second Instagram acc just to pour out your thoughts.
0 likesAnyway maybe it is for the best, as as you said, the line between awareness and your "brand" it has lately been becoming more and more blurry, and you having a (in majority) not mature audience it may make more damage than help.
But yeah, do whatever it helps to deal with your illness but do it in a healthy way and always aware of the most impressionable part of your audience.
Take care of yourself dodie, and don't be sorry, most of us understand what you're going through; also good luck with your new therapist!! I hope it helps!!!
Your eyes are so beautiful!
0 likesis it bad that her posts about it all dont phase me and just feel normal
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Jax Caspian same
1 likeSome things 'trigger' me but I just don't watch them or read them because it's none of my business. I would begrudge apologising for sharing just because a bunch of people want you to. I'd feel so resentful if I had to apologise and then all these people suddenly all happy because they got what they wanted.
0 likesdodie : close your laptop and go outside
0 likesme : BUT I JUST GOT HOME ;;;;
i'm sorry dodie, i'm not going to follow your advice today x')
Love you love you love you love you love โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ Have I mentioned Love you? I am proud of you and just idk ily have a nice day, I am exited for Veda! โค๏ธ
0 likesA big gentle HUG and KISS!!!
0 likeswe love you, always
4 likesyou're not alone <3
0 likesim hecka down for being treated like im your lil sister (I'm a 6'3 guy)
0 likesYou have a little sister??? Omg please introduce us to her!!
0 likesI have to say your vids do trigger my mental Health but I enjoy you so I keep watching it's really hard to stop Idk
0 likesDepression and mental health problems are so hard to deal with. Its so difficult to go through. You have amazing supportive friends which youre so lucky to have. When I opened up to my friends two of them told me if I wanted to kill myself then I should do it. My friend at that time told me I could talk to her, so I opened up, allowed myself to be vulnerable, broke down in her kitchen and she told me I should just kill myself, she then went to bed leaving me alone in her house in a ball of tears. The night I did attempt suicide my mother had told me she hated me and I was worst thing to happen to her, she then screamed at me for wasting her tablets and didnt speak to me for 4 months, I was in an abusive relationship with a cheating partner at the time while trying to get through my final year of university, it was the worst time in my life. You are so lucky to have people who love you and care about you, people want you to be well and happy and safe, Ive never been so fortunate to have lovely people around me. If I can get through my mental health problems with no support, I have full faith in you that you will come out of this. Youre going to look back on these videos in 10 years from now and realise how far youve come. Dont be so hard on yourself, focus on what you have and the positivity that brings to your life. xx
0 likesSending a virtual hug๐
0 likesthis is why i love dodie. this.
0 likesoh dear, take care of yourself please and let your friends take care of you too, because you're so wonderful and jeez i love you so much honestly i want you to be happy like nothing else in the world, you deserve happiness, it's so painful that i can't help but there are people who can, so it's ok
0 likeshi dodie i love you lol
9 likesDon't think of it as messing up. You pushed out your walls, and you pushed until you found the line, and now you just have to pull them back a little bit. You didn't mess up - you learned. That's growth, babe.
0 likesI love every part of this women.
0 likesthe embarrassment and guilt is normal. you've done something you probably shouldn't have, and because you're a good person you feel embarrassed and guilty. it's fine, it's normal. but don't dwell on it too much.
0 likeswhen i was younger, a boy in my class was talking about how his mum didn't care about anything after she started smoking. i, because when im uncomfortable and upset i laugh, laughed. i was told that it wasn't funny and i was a bad person for doing that. i felt guilty and embarrassed, because i knew that was hurtful. but it didn't really harm anyone, that bad. just me.
since then ive found better ways of coping. i don't do thst again. we all learn, dodes. youre only human. you can't be perfect all the time.
lotta love xxxx
Dodie honeyyyy. If it helps you we will all want you to do so! We only want whats best for you. It helps me to knowing someone understands. Its okay to cry and its okay to be unsure about this. But just know that we are here for you and want whats best for you. if it helps do it!
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Its not healthy to keep it bottled in.
0 likesI would go outside .......... but it is pitch black out there
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The Fluffy Dragon yeah it's 11pm
1 likeErin Fullem 11:26 PM for me
3 likesThe Fluffy Dragon I think we're in the same time zone I rounded down
1 likeErin Fullem yayyyyy
0 likesanother time buddy
0 likesThe Fluffy Dragon do you live in America?
0 likesErin Fullem yass
0 likesThe Fluffy Dragon omg same
0 likesErin Fullem yeeee
0 likesI have to get up early but I am still browsing the internet Lol
0 likeshey dodes :) i have depression and i wanted to say that i did find your posts relatable and they did allow me to feel i wasn't alone and they put into words how i felt which was nice because i could show other people to help them understand what i was going through, but then i started taking meds, and the meds worked, and THEN i found your posts triggering and they pulled me down and i began avoiding reading them. the whole time i thought you were just destigmatising mental illness but now i see after watching this and your vid with hazel that i was subconsciously finding them a bit too much. don't beat yourself up. it was a mistake and mental illness properly fucks up how and what you think so it is completely understandable that you made this mistake. we accept your apology xxxxxxx much love
0 likesUnfortunately there's a blurry line between telling people how you feel in a healthy way and oversharing constantly to the point where its almost an obsession. Love you dodie but a lot of everything you do is about how sad you are with pretty filters and feels like romanticing it. Im happy you want to practice cutting back from it a bit
0 likesI love your videos but watching some of them when im having a good health day would actually make me upset. I do get that its hard to know where the line is though and honestly theres nothing to apologise for
How can u have done something wrong when no one knows it was wrong in the first place? The Internet is so new especially when it comes to sharing your life like you do
How are any of us to know when somethings not right until its been not right already? It was a mistake that had to happen or else no one would know at all where the line is
Basically its Not your fault and it was something that had to have happened eventually to someone, luckily it was you who could be mature and handle it properly <3
The thing is I want to share online. I want to talk about the shit that goes on my head but I feel like I have but a barrier that doesn't let me do that. In school I am the happy go lucky person. I don't frown, get angry or cry even when I feel like im about to break. In class I sit in the back and scratch at my arms to distract me and when someone asks are you okay I instantly plaster a smile on my face. I just can't bring myself to show my mental state. It's not because I'm proud and don't want to be vulnerable, more like when I put a smile on my face it distracts just enough to push the thoughts to the back of my brain because I'm putting all my strength into acting like I'm fine. When someone asks if I'm okay I want to so bad to break down cry and scream that I'm not but I can't because if I don't who can they go to if they need someone to smile and make them laugh. I want to be the person that they would want to go to when they feel like crying, but in the end there is no one there for me to hold onto when I'm crying.
0 likesI agree that you shouldn't go into so much detail about how you're feeling, but you shouldn't force yourself to be positive. That's not helpful for you
0 likesWe love u 2
7 likesWow, this is.. heartbreaking.
0 likesit's okay...we forgive you
0 likesdodie looks so beautiful in this video tho
0 likesI'm not sure if this is just me but I don't find what you post triggering. I don't have the same area of mental illness as you and I've never experienced depersonnalisation, and if I have I just never associated it with the name, and although I do find what you post a little worrying sometimes I am aware that writting helps. that feeling validated, even just by a few people, is amazing when you're feeling low. and if posting on instagram and snapchat helps just a little then i always viewed it as great because you need to feel better somehow. I know that alot of people disagree with my veiw but I just want you to be ok because somehow I have grown to care a whole lot about you and you feeling better a little each day means alot to me for some reason ( that may sound rude but I deffinetly don't mean it to)
0 likesand so I see it as: do whatever makes you feel better. and while you probably should concider revising what you've written/filmed/whatever, post it if you need to and don't if you feel like you can handle not doing so. Dan was probably right. sticking your feeling on the wall is a good idea. you can see how you felt and hopefully in a few years, how you've changed in those feelings.
I hope the new therapist is better than the last ones
"go outside"
3 likesgoes outside at 2am
Na Dodie, why are you crying? Everything is fine. Do what ever you want to do. We love you what ever you do. โค๏ธ
0 likeseven though i agree that perhaps you sharing so much is unhealthy i also think that the comments were quite harsh on your last video. You shouldn't feel so terrible about reaching out to your audience.
0 likesIf you feel like you still wanna talk about your mental health in your worst state, just talk to yourself. Just pretend someone's listening and just speak out your thoughts - I may not have a mental illness but this tactic does help me when I'm angry or scared or upset โคโค
0 likesDodie! As someone who does not have any noticeable or debilitating mental health issues, oftentimes when I get overwhelmed by your heavy posts I would think it came from a place of not understanding and difference of opinion on some things. So I took a step back. I unfollowed most of your social media (I honestly don't know if I'm still subscribed to this channel tbh). I would never ever dare post a hate comment because I do not hate you nor your content. I have been following you closely for multiple years now and though I have taken a step or two back, I am very pleased that you are able to recognize a flaw within yourself while still sticking to your beliefs. I am going to subscribe once again (if I did unsub I really don't know) though I still will hold myself at a bit of a greater distance than I once was. I support you and your mental health journey and I truly hope that you one day get well
0 likesevery ๐equals 1 hug for dodie
3 likesThere's an app called talkspace and it's fairly cheap, and you text a professional on the clock therapist for help and you can voice message them and send videos and it really helps a lot of people I know, and it's good cause you can message them while you're in those states of confusion and anguish because you can talk to someone right away and they can see you in that vulnerable state which is good because it's harder when all they see is you composed and calm while in their office, they don't always get to see you in that situation that can sometimes be very helpful in diagnosis, treatment and overall understanding, you should check it out!
0 likesi feel like we are so similar woah
0 likesdon't worry dodie! it obviously helped you at the time but it probably wasn't the best decision in the long run. however, we all forgive you and love you. like you said, people have had to stop reading/watching your content as it can be triggering but at least now you know what is and isn't too much for other people to deal with, and it will help you in the long run. this made no sense but oh well. i love you!
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also, if you hadn't been so open when talking about mental health, i would've had no idea that i had dpd! your posts have helped me and so many other people, so don't feel like you have to apologise.
0 likesi think you're FUCKING COURAGEOUS! everyone is trying to find their way. so are you. perhaps some folks are correct in that the younger, more vulnerable part of your audience might be adversely affected by seeing someone struggling. but i think if you were to continue to show yourself in your most challenged state, AND THEN demonstrate how you have overcome that challenge, you will continue to be an inspiration to EVERYONE, as well as continue to demonstrate that mental illness is just that, an illness, and with effort and great guidance, you can overcome it. blessings to you and your courageous little spirit!
0 likeslove u bb
9 likeshey I'm always going to be here for you. you need people and you are upset. because you can't keep everything to yourself I'll always be here for you, so if you ever need someone to talk to seriously let me know, I will be more than happy to listen to you. I love you so much darling.
0 likesI love you. Hope u get better xx
0 likesDon't apologize for sharing mental health issues!!! So many people post so much worse on the internet, take logan paul for example.
0 likesIf you want to make changes, you do that and do it proudly. But don't apologize for this. Don't apologize for the lessons you learned and how better of a person this made you
i loved this thank you
0 likesIts okay dodes
3 likesi could listen to anything you say :)
0 likeswhen she started crying i died
0 likesOkay, I have a similar experience. Honey, don't be embarrassed we make mistakes. I'm 15, and bisexual and depressed so we share a couple of things. I like your music and I found out about u from Carrie (even though that doesn't really matter but still I just wanted to share.) I wrote a book, I don't want to boast but it's important to what i'm trying to say. I wrote 500 words a day. Everyday for 139 days,ย apart from two weeks in christmas. If I missed a day i'd do 1000 instead of 500 and so on and so forth. But it was pretty gruelling and stressful. And for a teenager like me that struggles with dark thoughts and actions it meant that I poured out my feelings into the book more than making it a consistent or good story. Using it more of an outlet for my feelings destroyed it as a book to a point where no one wants to read it and although i'm proud of finishing it it's still...a little bit disappointing. My point is, if you need to take a step back to stop yourself oversharing because you don't want to destroy what you created so be it i'm totally with you xxx
0 likesIf you want to share the things you have recorded but don't feel them appropriate to just put out there, perhaps save all the clips you've recorded of yourself, and when you're in a healthier part of your life, create a documentary style film that follows, and educates people on, your journey. Being in a better state would make you more rationally be able to see what's appropriate to share and how to share it in the most informative, educational, and supportive way, rather than it just being shared because in your depressed state you've self justified it by convincing yourself it's helping people. You can, and do, help people.
0 likesI love you
3 likesWHERE DO I FIND THE SHIRT IVE LOOKED EVERYWHERE PLEASE HELP
2 likesHi. I've used an app called Talklife. You can post, get some advice or just support others. It has a great trigger-avoidance feature which hides certain posts, so people can choose to avoid certain topics/issues from appearing on there feed.
0 likesYou did the right thing making this video
0 likes"go outside" Dodie, I love you but it's 12:16am and I'm in nothing but my boxers and a panic! hoodie, not happening
0 likesI think it's sad how society tries to push breaking the mental health stigma and then when public figured such as yourself actually start a real, raw conversation they get backlash. So now we're right back to where we started. Essentially saying you can talk about it....But just as long as its not too much. I personally think she has nothing to be sorry for. Shes real. Shes a person and she feels just like all of us. Good on you for sharing and being honest and straight up about your personal struggles with mental health. I will continue to be a huge fan and wish you nothing but the bestโค
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Kaitlynn McCaig the issue isn't the stigma. we want her to talk about it, but when she posts on snapchat saying "there's no point in living" to a million young people, it's not helpful and t can be very triggering. she doesn't have to apologize in fact, but it's not healthy for anybody when she posts things like that. and it's okay!! everyone does things and they font know they've done anything worse than normal. but she asked for opinions, and people said they were being pushed down and triggered by her posts. so yeah :) i'm rlly glad she addressed it in fact. have a nice day/night hope this cleared it up (?)
19 likesThe problem she had with sharing so much online is that there are quite a few people with their own mental health issues who follow her on social media platforms where she has overshared, and they haven't been able to cope and have felt, frankly, shit or worseafter watching her oversharing. Conversely, there have been people who felt better and not as alone but I digress.
10 likesI disagree with your statement that we're right back where we started, because Dodie isn't going to stop talking about it, she isn't going to suddenly hide the fact that she has mental health issues, but for her own health she has to stop telling social media so much. This is just as much about Dodie's mental health as it is about her audience's mental health, and that of her friends'.
I love Dodie, and I love what she was doing, and I love what she will continue to do, but she has been oversharing and I'm so proud that she has learnt her boundaries of what is healthy and what is not from this before something terrible happened, and I can only hope that this therapist of hers will help her and give her a new outlet.
This isn't about stopping talk around mental health, it's just that we need to have HEALTHY conversations about mental health.
9 likessorry; but it turned me off watching dodie because all she talks about is being depressed and feeling bad for herself
5 likesI couldn't agree more Kaitlynn. As long as she's being honest about it (which of course she was) all she is doing is pointing a flashlight into a dark place. She is not responsible for other people's happiness or lack thereof whether driven by their own mental health issues or just that it was sad to see. You learn a lot more about something if it's uncensored, and Dodie has made me much more interested in mental health than I was before with these posts only amplifying my interest in mental health, my drive to do what I can to help people dealing with such troubles, and my empathy overall.
1 likeThat said, I can't be anything but happy for her that she reached out to her audience for honest feedback and made her decision based on that. If she feels like shedding light on this in such a raw way isn't the right thing to do because of her audience demographics or because she weighs individuals being triggered as greater than that goal, then I absolutely support her even while disagreeing. I would never expect someone to do something they feel morally wrong about just because it might potentially have a positive impact long-term.
Also, I think based on what she has been saying that it also wasn't helping her own struggle to make those posts and was instead making her dwell deeper in the valley of the natural ebb and flow of her mental states. I also would never expect someone to do something that is essentially harmful to themselves just because it might potentially be a positive thing long-term for others.
I am not at all amused with her feeling like she needs to apologize though. YOU DID NOTHING WRONG DODIE! DON'T APOLOGIZE FOR BEING A DODDLEODDLE!
Abominable Snow Panda idk man i feel quite the opposite. if anyone in dodies audience felt triggered or hurt by the content they saw, they shouldve stopped looking at it?? like theres so much fucked up shit on the internet, so everyone needs to draw their own line at whats too much for them. it really shouldnt be dodies responsibility to look out for everyone who sees her content. that said, this isnt a very healthy way for dodie to deal with her mental health struggles. i think its better for her to get real help rather then simply talk about it to an audience that cant do much to help. but that doesnt mean that SHE was in the wrong for sharing this stuff
0 likesShoshana Kaim We agree, but for different reasons. You went with more of a personal responsibility and free speech for Dodie approach than I did. I completely agree with you on that as well and had circled but not actually landed on that same feeling myself. Just commenting because I appreciate the perspective. :)
0 likesWe also agree that it didn't sound like it was healthy for her. I'm so proud of this silly, mixed up, British girl for doing what she thinks is right and good and healthy!
I don't think that you should feel embarrassed and/or sorry for doing something that was helping you cope and deal with the things you were going through. Personally, I related to a lot of what you said in your Insta posts and it did indeed make me feel less alone. But I can see how it became an oversharing problem, and I believe you have all the right to feel like you need to stop that problematic behavior. But please don't feel bad for it! Take care, dodie :)
0 likesi love you so much dodie
0 likesFrom the point of view of someone who hasn't felt triggered by your posts on any of your social media. Well done. I think it's amazing that you have shared such raw emotion, and even if it has been a bit too close to home for some people, it will have at least demonstrated that someone who is strong and talented and successful can be all that and also be struggling. That struggling is not unique and you can still do so much in spite of it. I also agree that maybe it is no bad thing to hold back on some of that in-the-moment sharing with your audience, but please don't feel embarrassed by what you have shared. As you have only said out loud what many of us feel. And lastly, I always found your posts encouraging. Weird maybe. But you always managed to round off a depressive monologue with hope, not defeat. And that is the MOST important thing. Thought are with you and everyone else! Can't wait for August! X
2 likesFirstly, you're amazing. I actually love hearing about how you are, if you're low, it's so raw to me. I love how unfiltered it all is and graphic, many people do tend to shy away from showing that side of them because they're in the public eye. Maybe it is too graphic for some people or maybe it's just the consistency of you're posts that became too much, but honestly I'm overwhelming thankful for you because you made me talk about my brain and its oddities, so thank you Dodie for it all.
0 likesThank you for this. So much love & respect for you, Dodie!
0 likesI'm so proud of you, Dodie. I love the idea of writing or filming when you're in a dark place and then sitting on it for a while to see if it's usable. I think I should start doing that myself. I'm trying to find a way to share about my own experiences with mh issues, and your openness in this video has been really encouraging. I learned a lot from you in your last few videos, and I am also going to make an effort to continue talking about mental health in healthy, appropriate ways. Lots of love.
0 likesWords can't describe how much I love you, and admire you โค๏ธ stay strong Dodie!
0 likesi just got to watch this now, oh gosh i love you so much, i've been thinking some of this stuff about you for a while and i'm so happy you're brave and genuine enough to acknowledge it and apologise. good luck with your brain, you deserve the world <3
1 likeHey Dodie if you see this (you probably won't though) let me just say this. Everything happens for a reason even if we can't even figure out what the reason is! Its a funny story how I first heard this quote but I know from that moment it was the best quote in history!! :)
2 likesProud of you Dodie! I just started therapy again as well. We can do it together.
0 likesI just want you to know that I really enjoyed your sharing :) I found it helpful and relatable so I don't think you should feel like you did anything wrong :) you are wonderful dodie! I also try think of my audience like my younger sister as well
0 likesYou are so wonderful Dodie and we are proud of you for realizing your mistake! I hope to see all the amazing content you will make and no one is mad at you and we are happy you are taking steps to make your life better!
0 likesi love you dodie and i hope you get through this! And we are all here to help you โค
0 likesDodie, your heart is in the right place and i am so proud of you for growing and righting your wrongs. Keep being the fabulous human bean that I know you are <33
0 likesI know this would be hard to create so I am so PROUD of You! Realising your mistakes and saying sorry is the most MATURE response. WELL DONE! Lots of love โค
0 likesAnd Dodie! It's okay! You can tell us anything, we're here for you, though I appreciate you understand that we might find it too much or upsetting, but if there's no one irl you can talk to (which is unlikely) we are here, just remember that!
0 likesthis is a great response, you can see you've really thought this through~ tbh i was one of the fans who had to take a step back from your content for a while but im super glad to watch this video; stay healthy, look after yourself dodie ๐
0 likesim so proud of you, youre truly amazing holy crap
0 likesyou deserve so much.
This is something I can really identify with (though with my friends/acquaintances, not a public audience). I've had to learn when it's appropriate to share and when it's not and as a massive oversharer this has been complicated. This is such a kind & brave move xxx
0 likesThat was really mature and impressive Dodie. I have so much respect and love for you <3
0 likesOh, Dodie! Please stay strong and do what you have to! I (and I'm sure the other million on your channel) will stand behind you every step of the way! Love you so much, and you are really inspiring and beautiful and your songs are moving!
0 likesLove, Jana - from South Africa โคโค
i've seen all of your videos and to be quite frank, i appreciate you opening up about how you feel. it makes me feel like my favorite youtuber is a real fucking human being, you have a life and you're so brave to show the world your state of mind. unlike other people who only show the fans what they want their fans to see which is so wrong. i love you so so much dodie please don't feel like you're disappointing your fandom or whatever because you're really not. i'm here for you x -tala
0 likesyou're still a huge inspiration for me and while u may have been oversharing, it helped me to evaluate my own mental health issues and i feel like i'm getting better at knowing myself. thank you for doing what you do. ur amazing.
0 likesThis is why you're so wonderful. I was scared watching your previous video with Hazel as my own mental health is fragile... But after watching Melanie's response, and now this apology... Wow, you are really incredible. Owning up to your feelings like that is no easy task, and I am very happy to see you'll be seeking help again. <3 wishing you the very best
0 likesAw Dodieee. Thank you for doing this. You're posts and videos have helped me and other people. But there's a fine line and I'm glad you're on the path to stop crossing it. I understand how you feel and if I was in you're position I'd be over sharing too. Thank you for taking a step back. ๐
0 likesI wish you all the best for your new therapy. I really hope it helps you <3ย And btw, you're pretty awesome Dodie. I can imagine that reading about yourself in such detail is painful and weird. (I also felt really weird commenting on the last video, because I felt kind of intrusive and like a smartass... mmh). The way you deal with this is really mature and takes guts.
0 likesGreetings from a stranger on the internet :-*
you are so amazing. the strength it takes to deal with the amount of just overwhelmingly negative thoughts that come with depersonalization, and then post it on line, and then realize that you posted too much online, and then apologize and admit you made a mistake really shows that you have a good heart + soul. and sometimes, that's better than a good brain.
0 likesI LOVE YOU!!! And I'm so proud of you โคโค just wanted to say that. I'll support you through whatever mistakes and successes you'll be going through in the future because you're human, and nobody's perfect, and it is okay. I love you I love you I love you.
0 likesMy darling dodie...I absolutely love how you are so open and so loving and gentle. The fact that through snap chat you talk and shear your life and your thoughts openly can actually be so beneficial to not only you but to so many other people...for a long time I (and I'm sure many other people) felt alone with either mental illness or even life situations and events. The fact that you have confidence in showing how human you are and how vulnerable and funny you normally are is beautiful and so rare because we life in a very self-conscious and scared world. If you truly want to become less vulnerable and "serious" ( I didn't know what other word) I will support you just promise me that you will keep being yourself. People will love you loads more when you are just being you because you are amazing๐๐. The amount of people who love you and your work and you posts and your tweets and snapchats is a lot larger and far more supportive then the people who think the opposite. I have been praying for you and your mental illness and I hope that one day it will all be gone๐๐
0 likesboundaries, woo! I've recently started saying to myself, whenever I see some kind of shitty transphobic news or posts (being a trans guy),
0 likes"y'know what? I'm not going to put myself through this today. I'm not going to set myself off and I'm not going to make myself feel even worse by looking at this."
and it has helped a lot. it's helped me to figure out what sets me off and it's helped to keep my mood stable. I have less and less days where I feel existentially awful about everything, and I'm more productive and generally happier. go boundaries!
hey dodie! i'm so sorry that it gets so bad. please know that we love you dearly ! you have been such an incredible source of inspiration for me , even though i got to know you quite late. i just want you to know that we are here for you always no mater where in the world we may be . you must know that you are loved , even by people who don't know you or seen like my brother , he said that you were the cute girl with the uke who sang beautifully. i honestly was the happiest person in the world ( because i was blaring your ep from my room) .i know , i have started feeling quite low too , even though generally i am a happy person due to the loss of the people i loved just within this year . its people like you who become up lifting and give hope. i love you soo much and i'm sending you the biggest hug ever! please take care of yourself . oxox
0 likesYou're amazing. We are all here to support you. Since I turned 18 a few years ago, the way I combat depression is by becoming depersonalized, and I stop reaching out to friends/family for support. I don't write or sing either, which is awful. It's hard, but you have to keep writing music. Spend time with yourself. Learn what gives you little highs so you can finish out your day. It's so so hard. I watch your snapchats every day, and I understand exactly how you've been feeling. There was a point where I honestly didn't think people ever got that way like I did, and I've even been called lazy before because of it. You are lucky you are so self-aware. Definitely looking forward to watching you grow as a person and an artist from all of this. We've all got your back!!!!! <3
0 likesYou are so strong and so caring and so helpful in so many ways, I am very happy that you found a better way to deal with mental health issues. Love you <3
0 likesLove you Dodie; I hope you feel better soon โฅ๏ธ
0 likesYou should definitely still talk about depression though, because it's helpful to hear about the way someone who has more experience in life is dealing with it.
0 likesWe all love you Dodie ๐
You really helped me with your posts because it was nice knowing other ppl were feeling the same as me, but I never post stuff when I'm down, I go to look at your songs and look at ppl playing games and just look at stuff....
0 likesI wish you only the best Dodie, you do what's best for you
Thanks for making these two videos Dodie. Because I completely know you never had any intention of hurting anyone the idea didn't even cross your mind. But there definitely was a fine line between sharing to get it out and going way in depth and to be honest I was worried for not only you but your younger viewers too. Mainly just a little worried for you cuz your awesome dodes :) but also thinks for letting us know even if it was a bit much. It takes courage to put those kinds of posts up and also a lot of courage to stop doing something that had for so long given you comfort and help in a way. I hope that coming to this realization helps you in the long run. Also I just want to say that I see someone regularly when I want to talk about what's going and it really does help. They are always on your side in a way and always understanding but also sometimes say what needs to be said. I love you lots Dodie!
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Dear Dodie, I love you and your work so much. It is devastating watching you cry. I'm heartbroken, but I will always support you, always. Though you have been talking a lot, perhaps too much, about your emotions and mental health, you shouldnt regret it - at one point it was exactly what you needed.
0 likesHonestly im so proud of you Dodie. Im really happy that you understand that sometimes things can go too far. This video has really made me happy and really hopeful because i feel like anyone can get better. not because they were struggling really really hard, but because everyone knows themselves better than anyone. Example: Dodie, you know your boundaries and you know what your audience needs. not because they tell you but more or less because they are here because they love you and support you. I just want to thank you for being so strong and so inspiring and so helpful in many many ways. I love you Dodie Clark
0 likesYou can do this dodie ... I love you ... stay strong!!!
0 likesHugs for Dodie! Love you very much Dodie, I hope you have a delightful day. <3
0 likes~Lu
We all want u to feel safe and happy. It's okay to mess up once in a while, u learn from it afterwards. Even if it's in front of people who don't know you that well there are moments where this happens. We luv u <3
1 likehonestly Dodie, no matter what you tell us, we love you unconditionally and we will always be there when you need someone to listen โค
0 likesi wanna give a biiiig hug! i can relate to a lot of things you tell us about you and your mental health/illness. it makes me feel less alone in this "crazy" place. i didn't feel triggered by it, though i didn't see/watch everything - but i do understand that other people do feel triggered and therefore thank you for taking this in concern and doing something about it. โฅ๏ธ
0 likesfirst time i've cried when watching one of your posts. usually on snapchat i'm like, 'oh, i feel bad for dodie. oh well, this is every day.' and i shouldn't say that but it's been like this for a long time. but this video was so honest and so... emotional . but in a different way. you probably won't see this but, my heart hurts with you this time, and i'm so confident that this is such a good decision for you :)
0 likes<3 We love you dodie, stay strong<3
0 likesdodie were here for you. we will always try our best to make you happy and help you overcome what you're going through. love you <3
0 likesi'm so proud of you ๐๐
0 likesthank you for this video Dodie. if i'm gonna be honest i was really mad at you when i read the comments on your last video stating how many fans couldn't even watch your videos anymore and then your initial reaction on snapchat was like "yeah it was too much but i can't be objective in these situations i just don't care then" because having an audience like this means you HAVE to care. it's your responsibility and if you can't do it then you can't be on the internet. i'm glad you are realizing that now so thank you again
0 likesthank you so much for your apologies for posting too graphic of content, we all love and appreciate that you want to keep your content healthy. but dodie, don't ever ever forget that we are not mad at you for doing that. if we were we all would have unsubscribed and unfollowed. we are all worried about you. and we love you. and speaking for myself, as someone going through a very tough time with my depression and especially my depersonalization, seeing someone else in the thick of it has given me a weird sort of comfort. we know you were trying to do something good and we know you will always be trying to be better. we love you. i love you.
0 likesHello Dodie,
0 likesFirst of all, I just wanted to say how much of an inspiration and human wonder you are. It is clear from your responses and audience that you are helping a lot of people. The way you word things and the way you describe your experiences, good and bad is like taking a breath of fresh air. I know that you will continue to make fantastic videos and songs.
Second of all, there is no way I or anyone else will know how you are feeling. Only you can know how you feel, so I am not going to say the clichรฉ, "I understand" or "I totally know what you are saying" because that would be a big fat lie. All I can say is that, I hope you can find the help and support you and I'm sure a lot of other people with mental health are craving. I can also offer to be a pair of ears to listen to what you have to say as I have done with all of your videos and posts through the years of following you. I realise that talking aloud about how you are feeling and knowing that people are listening is a comforting thought, which I hope it is. :)
May I make a suggestion to an idea I had? You mention that you keep a journal, which is a great friend to have. Your journal will always be there to encourage and invite any kind of emotion that you are feeling. But whilst watching this video it occurred to me that you enjoy recording your feelings at the time because talking aloud makes you feel better too. My suggestion is this... you could perhaps make a video diary? Not one for public eyes and ears but just for your own. That way you can play it back to yourself. Again, this would just be for your benefit, no one else's. :)
If you decide to try it out, I hope it helps. :) Thank you again for your openness and honesty. That is one of the things that I and I'm sure most of your audience love about you. Also, you are hilarious and talented amongst many other things.
I wish you all the best. Keep smiling, the smiles look great on you! :)
Thanks again. Much love, Aimรฉe ๐๐ป xxxx
Dodie, it's okay. everyone makes mistakes and I totally understand you.
0 likesYou don't have to feel bad about it and I am glad, that this video helped you realise what an impact you have. but it's okay now. we still love you. we really do.
feel hugged. <3
We love you, Dodie. Going into that much depth in your posts might not have been great, but just look at how you've realised that and dealt with it; so many people would have reacted negatively to the criticism, unable to push past their personal feelings, but you have shown your audience that you care so much, and that is not something to be underestimated. You're an incredibly brave and special sunflower ๐
0 likesI love you Dodie and you don't need to be sorry! Though I am glad you've realised that sharing mental illness so deeply is not always the best thing to do. As someone who is recovering from anxiety and depression, it's sometimes super hard to read your instagram posts and as much as I love and support all that you do, I've had to take a step back recently and stop reading them because it brings back memories. At the same time, I can see from the comments how helpful your posts have been to those who are currently suffering, which is great that people have taken something from it and you have had an outlet for your feelings (or lack of, isn't depression fun!) Your heart is always in the right place with everything you do so there's no need to be sorry! โค๏ธ
0 likesfor me it really help to see you talk about how you felt. It really help me realise that I had a problem and I weren't just being ridicules and what I felt was real. it helped me come to terms with my mental health problem.
0 likesDodie seeing you cry makes me cry omg. I love you so much and will always support you ๐๐๐
0 likesthe way you've spoken about derealization helped me understand what it is. I understand it can be triggering though. Take care Dodes, we love you
0 likesWell done Dodie! It's hard to admit you're wrong, especially when all you were trying to do was good. I'm so happy cause I am one of those people who has had to take a step back from what you've been posting online. It started to feel like your mental problems were becoming 'your brand' which was really disheartening because you are so much more than your mental illness. You have a lot more to share. I hope the therapy works out this time! ๐ค
0 likesOh dodes ๐ I'm sorry for the way you're feeling and how hard it is. I love you :)
0 likesI'm so, so proud of you. The posts that you posted never bothered me, but I always worried about you. You may not even read this, but seriously, Dodie Clark, you are one of the strongest people in the world, and I'm so proud that you've taken a step forward in handling your illness. I'm going through depression and anxiety, and I constantly worry if I'm sharing too much or if I'm not sharing enough, and I'm constantly learning just like you are. We love you, Dodie. It all gets better. In the meantime, I sincerely look forward to VEDA and other content that you make, because you're fucking brilliant and the world is a better place with you in it. Much love <3
0 likesI think of anxiety and depression (for me personally) as an anxious and upset friend- so I remind myself to be kind and say positive words. Be kind to yourself and others <3 (Love you dodie) xx
0 likesyou've handled this so maturely, i love you
0 likesThanks for this it was really strong to apologise and say this, it's appreciated x
0 likesOk time to share my thoughts now.
0 likesYo I don't know if I really comment all that much but im so proud of you for being so mature and not being rude or defensive. That's why we love you Dodie. As someone who struggles with mental health I too used to post a lot of stuff when I was at my worst. Maybe not on YouTube but on Facebook and Pinterest and other places. And I look back on it and I feel like it wasn't good to do that. When at the time it seemed so helpful. We love you Dodieโค๏ธ
I warned you about this on Twitter when you first started talking about finding a therapist. It's so important to keep certain things to yourself and work through them in private, with a maximum of a couple close people, especially given your public job. I suppose this is a demonstration of how sharing your life as your job can become a problem. I hope you find a better path.
0 likesI love you dodie you will always have my love and support even though it probably doesn't mean much
0 likesI am so proud of you for realising that the way you shared your problems wasn't always healthy and learning from it. This apology is one of the only honest apologies I've seen someone make after they've realised they made a mistake and it is so important that you made this.
0 likesaesthetically talking, personally, i think your long posts on instagram are so grammatically flawless and emotionally deep that they truly make each one of your posts so unique and just intresting to read and appreciate... But, seriously talking, all you sayd in this video is right, we all make mistakes, and you came to such a perfect solution, that's definitely a doodie level up, congrats!
0 likesYou don't have to apologise for being yourself! You're a wonderful human and if you feel like sharing how you feel create another account to vent it all out. God damn it Dodie! Why you so amazing and making us cry with you ๐ข
0 likesim very glad you've come to this realisationโค๏ธ
0 likeswhen you almost cried i started crying dodie noo we love you ๐๐although it was a bit of oversharing it really helped me! it was so refreshing and helpful to see a youtuber i look up to that went through similar things as me. i really hope you do those things, i do a diary and it helps so much oh my goodness. yeah anyway ily and you are forgiven
0 likesI honestly didn't mind your posts at all. I was going through a semi ok time when u were posting them and they didn't cause me to think about things too much or 'trigger' me. I just liked to know how u were doing really. Now i'm going through a worse time and starting medication and therapy. I look back at your posts and just read because i find it nice to know your going through the same thing and it helps me to read about it. I've posted alot about my mental health on twitter which may have been too much but honestly it's my way of coping. Just wanted to let you know im sure im not the only person who isn't affected by your sharing of your mental health. I don't want you thinking it's everyone who is following you on social media :) Much Love <3
0 likesSo proud of you!
0 likesThank you. I think I needed to hear this too. ๐
0 likesI love you, so keep your head up high dodie โค๏ธ
0 likesWe love you Dodie ๐๐๐
0 likeshonestly, it doesn't trigger ME at all. your videos are quite helpful, actually. but i understand completely and it's so nice of you to acknowledge the issue. you're amazing
0 likesEveryone messes up sometimes, I understand every word you are saying. It's not your fault, the brain can mess with our ideas on what is healthy and what is not. Much love, you are truly an amazing person Doddie.
0 likesWe love you no matter what Dodie!
0 likesi love u doddie,
0 likesi've been watching u for like a week,
and you made my week again. i was so sad about something
that happened in my week, but u made me smile again,
and i wanna than you so much for that.:)
like, you're my favourite youtuber in like a fucking week, lol.
and its actually kinda funny, but thank u so much,
for making me smile <3
and i want you to feel the same.
you are strong, ad we all believe in you.
and we all love you <3
We all deal with things differently. We all heal differently. Mental illness consumes you so much so that the only release is sometimes social media. You shouldn't be embarrassed by how you dealt with your brains toxic moments in that moment. We all still love your videos and support you. You've been empowered by making this decision ๐
0 likesI just wanted to say that, at least for me, I never felt triggered or anything by your videos. It just kind of felt like listening to a friend. But I do think that this change will be healthier for you & I wish you good luck. Love you bunches โค๏ธโค๏ธ
0 likesYou and tomska are very brilliant for showing your mental health publically and this video shows just more of your integrity and strength than anything else. Very lovely
0 likesThank you. Thank you for being who you are. You are caring to all of us and protective of us. Don't worry about what you do, everyone is still learning. If life was easy and nobody learnt anything from it - way would be the point? Keep living, keep learning and stay true to you. We don't want to see anyone other than you.
0 likesLove you Dodie ๐
0 likesHonest I really liked when you posted on Snapchat when you weren't in your best because it made me feel like I wasn't alone with my state of mental health. If I ever met you I'd thank you for all of the help that you have given me in the past few years and in helping me realize that I'm not alone with my mental illness and that I can always talk about it
0 likesWe love you Dodie. Remember, you're only human.
0 likesYour candor is really brave and it's also brave to reevaluate how healthy your habits are. Good on ya.
0 likesI think you're pretty cool โบ๏ธ thanks for always willing to share and be vulnerable and such. You cool girl you cool โค๏ธ
0 likesI just wanna hug you and don't let go until you're ready and happy. Please never stop existing. I love you and everyone on this channel loves you. <3 Write down/record yourself everything you need, just don't share it with everyone. Sometimes that helps a lot.
1 likelove you Dodie โค๏ธ
0 likesLove you kid ! The storm will pass! And the fairies will come ! ๐
0 likesHi Dodie, to me, I do think what you share is in depth and I see how it could trigger sone people but to just show you the other side, I have learnt so much with your snapchat and Instagram. I'm lucky enough to not have struggled with mental illness so watching/reading something that really shows how you feel helped me understand what people suffering from it actually go through. It's taught me how mental health effects people, and shows just how scary it can be. It really proved to me how real these illnesses are and how getting help should not be shamed in anyway.
0 likesObv, graphic and intense descriptions could very easily trigger people so I totally understand why you'd stop. I just wanted to thank you for sharing what you did because it really helped me learn.
Side note, mental illness will not become your brand. Your music is fucking kickass and I love everything about it. The art you create is beautiful and don't ever stop. โฅ๏ธ
it's a good good thing that you can admit your mistakes and apologise for them so maturely. we just want you to take care of yourself Dodie and nobody gets taught how to be a YouTube celebrity. you weren't really given lessons on this and it's ok to mess up, thank you for still putting the effort into talking about mental health and thank you also for showing us how to own up to our mistakes.
0 likeswe LOVE you dodie! LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE
0 likesAgreed. To everything you said but please don't beat yourself up over it. We can't change the past we can only keep moving forward. You have accepted it and now stay in motion. You're a wonderful human being! Stay strong. ๐
1 likeYou make a mistake, you learn, you do better. It's okay dodie
0 likesMy god, it makes me so sad that you are this sorry. You have made me feel so much less alone. The "graphic" content may have been difficult for some people & for your friends but in a world where social media is full of "perfect" images, you gave us the truth.
0 likesLike you said in your other video mental health / sickness is so much more difficult to prove than having a cold etc, and in a post of a video you mentioned that you can be in the thick of it, of a dark moment and still wonder at yourself, wonder if you're lying and faking it all, because the jungle of your own darkness has got you so turned around you don't know what is true and you don't know if you can trust your own thoughts anymore. So in this world, where mental sickness is literally your own personal pit & the solace of our distracting phones brings us images of "perfect bodies" and lives, lives to which we do not know the pain or the struggles and only see the sunshine, not the rain, you showed us the rain. You solidified and confirmed my experience. That I am not crazy, not lying to myself, that my thoughts are bad and have a hold on me and immobilise me... You demonstrated that. You demonstrated what deamons do, they keep you in your flat alone, they stop you from showering, so on, so forth. Dodie I am saddened to see you apologise for that because your videos were raw and real (not too raw, not too far for me) you showed what other people were afraid to and I am so grateful. To know that I am not alone. To be shown someone who is a rising star has days just like me, where walking, moving, where going out the door is just a mountain you don't have the motivation to climb. Thank you for a window into your darkness as well as your light. Your videos were not heavy on me, they made me lighter, they reflected some of me, they stole my breath because I thought I was totally alone in my madness but you showed me and told me enough , enough to prove I was not the only one.
Before you I was alone. After your videos, I am not. Thank you
Doodie you are so strong and the fact that you can admit you were wrong shows great character and very inspired.
0 likesPlease don't feel guilty for sharing. You are doing so much good in social media for people with mental health issues. Please don't dwell on oversharing and forget all the people you've helped already and all the people who love you. You're one of my favorite people. Please rise above this rather than letting it drag you down. I love you!!!
0 likesSweetheart, you don't have to apologize you even shouldn't have to. I watch your videos because it helps me to see someone being so honest about something a lot of us are scared to talk about but are living. Mental health can be very taboo. People watch your videos to criticize you afterwards, knowing that your mental state can be delicate? Shame on them. They should be the ones to blame. You are who you are with your amazing personality and voice. You have the courage to talk about difficult subjects and I can tell you that it's helping a lot of us. You are beautiful and I love who you are. Your are rightful to feel what you feel when you feel it and to express it when you want to and if you want to. Please don't be sorry. The ones that judge don't deserve that. <3
0 likesthe fact that you accept criticism instead of defending yourself and pointing out your wrongs shows so much about your amazing character ilysm dodie <3
0 likesI think it's good that you are sharing your journey. Another people going through the same thing sometimes feel like they are alone in the world and seeing your posts can help people know they aren't alone. I agree that there should be a line between your journals and your posts. You are an amazing and beautiful human and I look up to you. You are strong and I'm glad you share these little things
0 likesHonestly I don't mind you being so open and talking about very deep things. Over the 7 years of my experience going to therapists, undergoing self esteem classes and being sent to hospital, I do get the negative vibe when reading some of your posts, but on the other hand I've been doing what you did for some time. I go over the paperwork I've done with therapists etc and it keeps my mind sane. I don't mind you going into deep posts. But a large majority of your audience are teens, it's right that you did admit you were wrong to share the deep posts especially cause some fans are so young.
0 likesI'm happy that you've reached a point of reflection and understanding. I hadn't been disappointed in your actions or anything. Yes you were making me avoid your snapchats. But ultimately I was just more concerned for you like person-to-person not bc you're a YouTuber. I could tell it was becoming an addiction for you to post all this stuff. It was becoming your outlet and coping mechanism for you. It wasn't the big issue with me that ppl will watch and experience whatever. It was that I worried for you becoming dependent on that release and the feedback from others instead of other healthier ways to cope. Hope that therapist works out xx
0 likesdon't be too harsh on yourself!
0 likesdo what you need to do to cope with what you've got & don't feel bad for exploring different ways of coping
Dodie my love you're amazing and brave and I adore you
0 likesI love you dodie ๐
0 likesHi Dodie. Good video - I saw the previous video you did with Hazel about oversharing. If you still feel yourself reaching for your phone, make a DM group with just your friends in it (so Hazel, Dan, Jack, Lucy, etc.) and just write stuff there if you're not feeling OK - it wouldn't be for general public consumption, but it would let your friends know where you're at all at once. Also, you can make private youtube videos if you just wanna talk to a camera about how you feel and then send just your friends the link. Just some other practical ideas in there for you. Also, write a big sign on your wall that says: No matter how I feel, I can always reach out to my friends.
0 likesPlease don't apologise Dodie! It helped you for a while there was nothing wrong with that. As long as you are happy and taking care of yourself. Wishing you all of the best ๐
0 likesI've noticed how in depth your poster were getting, and yes I realized it was worrying me and others, but I just trying to keep comforting you. I even DM'd you, doing what I do best, trying to make people happy, or feel better about themselves, feel loved. But dodes, you scared me so much. I was so worried.
0 likesAnd I didn't want to tell you it was triggering, or wrong to write these things, because I didn't know what mental state you were in, and I didn't want it to seem like I was telling you to shut up. And though it sounds like I'm being defensive, I'm not, all this is to say I'm very very very proud of you. I'm so very proud of you for realizing what you were saying, and that maybe it's not the best for everyone because it's either triggering, or your audience it just too young.
I am so proud of how you made this video as well. You didn't get defensive, you didn't sound like you were blaming us, or anything, you were grown up, vunrable and powerful in your word. And those things might sound like they counteract each other, but they really don't. You can be both at the very same time.
I also want to say that when you said "I don't want to glorify mental illness" the first time, mascara a mess, eyeliner running, you were so very vunrable and so very very powerful in those word. That the whole time I've been typing those words have been echoing in my head.
I struggle with a small chunk of derealization, it comes and it goes, but it mostly comes when I think about it, and I hate it. It makes me cry at the thought of it, so maybe I can understand, maybe I can't. But I want you to knwoy you aren't alone in whatever you are feeling. Even though not all of the internet might not be a great place for all your words and thoughts a support group, therapist, family member or friend are.
We are in this with you dodes. Not because you've made us, but because we want to.
We love you terribly and want nothing but the best for you. ๐
Dodie! I had noticed that you were different and more down lately I would constantly say to myself where did dodie go...I found her
0 likesWe love you dodie with all of our
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Firstly, DON'T FEEL SHITTY OR EMBARRASSED ABOUT THIS! As Hazel said, every single one of us has sent that text or tweet we slightly regret but it doesn't help to regret.
0 likesI love your vids which share your feelings and experiences in a structured video setting because you give advice and let people know they aren't alone. It's when it gets more like a diary that I struggled. This sounds weird but a thing I struggled with seeing your posts is that I felt like I was dealing with my stuff and your stuff AND I'm more alone than you. Like you post and thousands of people tweet and comment wishing you well and checking you're okay. It can be kinda shitty to see that when you're feeling shit yourself bc you know you won't get the same people reaching out to you? I don't know if I'm making sense but bc YouTube isn't reciprocal, it can make the relationship unhealthy. Normal friends lean on eachother when their mh is bad or for whatever the reason. However, obvs YouTube subscribers and creators aren't the same. So to see and take on such sad descriptions of somebody's mental state (which is triggering itself) in such an unreciprocated manner is hard. It's like just remembering that viewers also have mental health shut to struggle with and youtube can be a very one sided Tool for support. As a 21yo I feel I can handle it but perhaps younger viewers would find it harder.
I LOVED this follow up tho bc you were so undefensive and fab in responding to 'criticism'- I wouldn't be able to do it! X
dodie! do not be sorry that you have feelings and need to express them! everyone at one time or another has bad days and they get through them differently. i am so glad that you share your raw feelings because it makes me feel that i am not totally alone in this world. just know that your fans will love and support you no matter what. have an absolutely lovely day filled with lots of tea :))) love you!! โค๏ธ
0 likesTurn your feelings into art, that's what I do. When I'm sad, I either scribble, draw a picture, write a poem, write a story, write a song, colour a picture or just do something creative. Sometimes involving my thoughts and sometimes distracting myself from them. That helps me ALOT!! Also, u could try writing your feelings in your iPhone notes, I also do this, and I cry a lot whilst doing it but I feel a lot better afterwards! I hope this helps, and I hope you're okay ๐
0 likesYou are SO brave. So so brave dodie. Never forget that. We all get kicks and healing from people's comments and words. Do not be ashamed of that x
0 likesI suffer from depersonalisation sometimes too, but as you said you ground yourself with your phone even though its an unhealthy coping mechanism I disagree, I've tried to push myself out of these turns I have an it ends up getting worse for it, so distracting myself is the only way I can get through it. However my opinion could be biased because I've never had any real friends until recently so I've learned to deal with my issues alone
0 likesI love you dodieโค
0 likesi think it's good you can tell people your feelings and thoughts but there is a line and it was crossed. i don't think you should stop you should just lower it if you get me. we're always here for you and don't let this make you worse. seek help from other people and other healthy ways <3
0 likesWe love you sooooooo much Dodie
0 likesDon't be embarrassed you needed to talk about it and you did what you know how to do best make a video about it because you're comfortable with it. I love you and everything you stand for you are such a wonderful person but don't feel bad about sharing. Sometimes sharing experiences helps people because there are many kids going through the same thing
0 likesWe love you and wish you the best in life! Know that!โค๏ธโค๏ธ
0 likesDodie. yes, you made a mistake, yes it was wrong but I'm glad that you can realize and acknowledge that. It seems impossible, I know, but you will be happy. Take care :) <3
0 likesDodie, if you need help just ask x say you feel bad, we WILL help you x โค
0 likesI don't think you should be blasted for sharing your feelings and using that to help yourself. I do understand partially how it could affect others but I just feel that you shouldn't have to justify your actions to others you know. This is so mature though, to admit what you feel that you did wrong and that's such a step! We're all here for you!
0 likeslove you. look after yourself, and when you need us, we'll be here.
0 likesI don't even care honestly, you could always write a blog and pour your emotions out there, then anyone that wants to read can, and no one can complain as it is their choice to go onto the blog and read the entries.
0 likesPersonally I did not realize that your posts were triggering, I just thought they were things you need to get off your chest while you're not in your best state. However, by bringing up the conversation about this you've made me realized; though it wasn't you, but it was my friend who created an Instagram spam account where she pours whatever thought she has as she is clinically depressed. It's a private account, and I'm one of the few who gets to see the content in it. At first I didn't think much of the bio of her account as she did warn that her contents are graphic. But lately I've had experiences where I felt my anxiety crippling while reading her posts but I've never think much of it. I do talk to her and react to the posts by commenting words of comfort when I can. But yeah thanks for bringing this up. You made me realize that maybe posting things online isn't the best way to treat oneself, and that there are even better ways to get the same effect as posting personal thoughts online. ๐
0 likesStay true to yourself but try to keep it healthy. Don't feel guilty or ashamed for sharing because it can be really helpful and healthy. You should keep in mind that your audience can be younger but you don't need to cater it only to them. Being open and honest will help them as long as it is actually helping you. If you find some good coping mechanisms in the process please share!
0 likesWe love you, Dodie! <3
completely and utterly beautiful
0 likesDodie, although I may not entirely get why you feel like you have to make this video, I do partially get it. I too over share, and not all of my friends want to see that because it makes them feel like they're doing a shit job of being a friend. But they aren't, its just me, I can't put myself in a mental state to not put that out there, and when I try to directly talk to them I feel like I am complaining, they have problems, and some of my friends take their problems and do un healthy things with them. One of my friends has cut her thighs. And if I feel like I have failed as her best friend when she tells me shes done it again, how might she feel when she sees my oversharing. But I want to help you, I want to be the one you vent to, because even though I feel shit too, I always come up with a solution for other people.
0 likesv mature dodie! i love u and keep doing good things! ๐๐
0 likesI love you Dodie.
0 likesomg dodie, you precious creature, love you smol little bean <3
0 likesAw. Watching this made me very sad. I guess just watching dodie cry makes me cry. I absolutely hate that jake Paul and other vloggers are getting so much attention. Dodie is such an amazing person and she's real we can't all be happy and energetic all time
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AGH I'm done ranting
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21 likesAw... This is so relatable to everyone. We luv u!
0 likes#SELF~CARE
3 likesLove you ๐๐๐๐บ๐ธ
3 likesSUMMER IN THE CITY WILL BE A BOP!!!!!!!!!!! WOOOOP
0 likesNo dodie its absolutely fine your posts help me because they tell me that its not just me going through this and when you started crying so did i x
5 likeswe love you so much dodie
0 likesLast time I was this early
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13 likesJadeosaurus look my fellow phannies are here :3
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0 likesspooky jim wait what? i havent actually watched the video, cant im at school
0 likesCan I just ask an honest question?
7 likesWhat spurs you guys to say awful things? Dodie is one of the sweetest most pure souls on earth, and she doesn't deserve that. She's struggling. So what, on God's great Earth, would make you want to say awful things to her or about her?
Like honestly, I'm so confused. You can't be doing it for personal gain, because what could you possibly gain from bullying an already struggling girl? She's done nothing to you. She's never expressed opinions that would cause drama over differing views and standpoints.
If it's because you're homophobic: don't watch her videos.
You don't like her content? Don't watch her videos.
YOU put yourself in the position of viewing her content, so don't you dare, for even one moment, think you have the right to say something awful simply because you didn't like what you watched. There's no excuse for being mean to Dodie. And while this may not mean much, but all the hate comments I see? I instantly lose all respect and care for the people who write them.
To Dodie: We love you so much. I love you so much. You've given me courage, and because of you I know what I am, and I know who I am. I recently discovered I was bisexual, and you helped me discover that. I've been diagnosed with OCD, anxiety, depression, sensory overload disorder, and a bunch of other medical disorders throughout my life, and it makes SO so happy to know that someone out there knows what I'm going through. Your videos and posts about your mental disorders help me so much.
These days, it's so hard to get me to smile, yet every time I watch one of your videos, I just manage a grin.
And it's all thanks to you, love.๐โค๏ธ๐๐๐๐๐
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Who's writing hate comments? I haven't seen any (so far)
4 likesI don't think what she references in the vid was exactly hate more like people speaking their minds and having harsh opinions, not expecting her to ever see.
2 likesCaptain Prism I haven't seen any on this video, but people say mean things on her other videos and Instagram.
0 likesNaomi Elias okay but that has nothing to do with why I wrote what I wrote. I wrote it because I've seen people hate on her for several things and I don't like it, and now that I know she's struggling so much I feel really bad that people do that. (I'm not mad at you or anything, I'm just trying to explain why I said that:)
0 likesSweetheart be strong!!! It's going to be tough but the love inside of you is going to make you fell better bit by bit. I's a process don't be afraid... you are going to be just ok! Wonderful girl! ๐๐๐
0 likesHey Dodie,
0 likes(potential trigger warning regarding mental illnesses)
I'm 20, and I am pretty much suffering from (diagnosed) depression since I was 15.
I had my own "breakdown" in November 2015 and had a pretty f*cking hard time for over half a year and eversince then I also live with (diagnosed) anxiety.
I just wanted to say, that because I can relate to you so much regarding just having to live with mental illnesses every single hour, every single day of the year, I personally found it very interesting and helpful wo watch your videos, watch your snapchat stories and read your instagram posts eversince your breakdown.
Even though I don't have diagnosed depersonalisation and depression/anxiety and depersonalisation are defnitely different things, I found it really helpful to be reminded that other people are struggling very hard too. I guess I feel like I can understand you and if we met you could understand me too and for me it is good to know that there are other people that are having such a hard time too. My friends/ family/ boyfriend are here for me, but I feel like they don't get why I am so "nervous" and "over emotional" etc, but your too personal posts were always a reminder for me that these things happen, and that I am not alone.
So I just wanted to say, even though you might never read this, thank you for being so personal about your mental state. I understand and respect your decision and I also think it is right to do that, I just wanted to tell you that I am thankful for you being so personal over the last months. I hope that recommended therapist will work for you!
ily ~ โฅ
Dodie you should create a separate account just for mental health so if people don't want to see it they don't have to but it still helps you
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Because it's okay to share a little
7 likesAnd you are helping people
9 likesAnd dodie we will always love you even if your at your worst
10 likesAnne Meyers Agreed. I did that
2 likesshe's talked about this, not only is oversharing unhelpful to some others to see/read it's also an unhealthy coping mechanism for herself, so creating a separate account where she can overshare isn't the solution since oversharing is the problem in the first place
38 likesYES
1 likeSomeone said something similar to this on the other video and someone else responded saying that it would still be bad for some people because they would still seek out those Snapchats in order to feel sad, and again the young and impressionable don't know what's unhealthy yet
13 likesAnne Meyers YES
1 likeself-destruction is very addictive, and I know that if she did that, I would probably be tempted to watch her videos even though I know that could affect me in a negative way, especially since i pretty much use entertainment as a way to distract me from my issues, and there's also that this isn't just unhealthy for the audience but also unhealthy for herself. this is only my take on it though
23 likesAnne Meyers i
0 likesSome people will get "triggered" by the simplest, most innocuous things. It's not the responsibility of everyone else to bite their tongue. Mental illness is rarely anybody's fault and it's generally constructive to spread the feeling of community among people who suffer.
17 likesYou're doing a good thing, just find a degree to which you're comfortable sharing and we'll be here when you need us.
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tho i agree, that a lot of random things can trigger people (like for me it's amusement parks or childerns books), almost all of these people are also triggered by suicide mention, self harm mention etc.ย
2 likesso; of course you can't bite your tongue all the time; but when your talking about mental health stuff: be careful
dear dodie:
0 likesyou probably won't see this, but i have a little bit of advice. learning to know what is appropriate to put online is hard. opening up to people is easy at first, but when you're told you're telling too much, it is very embarrassing. but please, please don't close yourself off completely. because what will happen is you might begin to not trust anyone with what you go through and that is what happened to me. always stay a little open because sometimes you need support from friends and family and even the internet. but learn what to say and how to say it. please don't completely close yourself off, however. that is super duper unhealthy, and situations like these may lead to that. we love you, so much.
mom
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Sophia Smith Stop stealing my profile photo
8 likesDODIE YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL HUMAN BEING. MENTAL ILLNESSES ARE OKAY. you have helped me so much. You mean so much to me babe. But I can't wait to see you in belfast. You do you boo. ๐
0 likesi got here at 4 views??? hell yeah
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isityellow isi dodie yello tho.
1 liketwitter squad where u at
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right heeereeee
1 likeHayyy
1 likeJadeosaurus mE
0 likesI'm going to give some tough love real quick:
158 likesSome people are saying you have no need to be apologetic. But in all honesty, you DO need to be sorry. What you did helped a lot of people, but also harmed many people. Most of us are young, I'm talking 13 years old. And are easily rubbed off on us. I'm not sure if you should stop talking about mental illness, because it does need to be talked about, but you seem to talk about it in the way of "Depression is cute and makes you seem creative" which is NOT IT. I love you, i really do. But we aren't a therapist. Our emotions can be hurt as much as yours can. Please understand that.
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Ashlyn Kind she does understand that that's exactly why she made this video. She understands that perfectly well and she has apologized and she is sorry. The people that need to understand that are the ones saying she shouldn't be sorry at all, not her.
36 likesAshlyn Kind that's a very good point and I think that's what she was trying to say in this video
17 likesi agree with what you said here, but, this is essentially what she apologized for and talked about in this video. your point is great, and i think she got it across in her video as well, which is a good thing :)
12 likesAshlyn Kind she NEVER said that unless it was a joke. I agree she may have triggered people seeing her snaps etc but she didn't romanticize it at all at least not intentionally
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0 likesI don't think she has ever said it was cute. AT ALL. Everytime she talked about it, some people said it was even a bit scary. Saying stuff like "I would never wish this on another person" and stuff about being held back constantly and being missing out on basically living is the opposite of romanticizing. Just because she wrote captions about depression on aesthetic pictures it doesn't mean the captions matched the pictures at all. They actually rarely ever even matched.
2 likesI know what you all mean, and i do agree with aspects of your argument. All i meant was that this video is necessary. Some people are saying,"Don't be sorry" in saying the fact she didn't need to make this video, which she did. I'm very sorry for not agreeing with your opinion. I'm really not trying to start anything. I'm sorry.
0 likesI do think she did romanticize depression quite a lot, actually. Maybe thats just me thinking that, I'm not sure.
1 likeDodie you don't have to be sorry !!!You are a wonderful human being, that is always learning and that's normal to make mistakes !!!!Don't be too hard on yourself ! We love you so much !
0 likesHey mom.
13 likesThe last time i was this early i didnt read fanfic.
Dodie๐i think you should put up whatever you want. I want to hear everything your going through and im sure your followers will too. Dont care about what people are saying share whatever you like๐ill always support you
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With a big audience, it just doesn't work like this...sorry. Some things should really just be kept in private or talked to with friends and family. No, her audience shouldn't have to hear everything she's going through, because as much as we believe we are close friends of her and know her inside out, we do not.
7 likesedwardtwins i understand thats your opinion but i have gone through similar stuff to dodie and i think we can all benefit from listening to each other
2 likesjess k and I have gone through similar things too. I just think it's counter productive to say she shouldn't apologise when she's triggered a handful or people...While it can make people feel less alone, I think it's important to seek proper support and help from people actually close to you, like a therapist, friends or family. Not put it up all online and not work through it healthily, especially because her audience can't really do much to help her. I'm really proud of her for realising this and apologising though. Takes a lot to read some of the comments people were saying .
6 likesjess k Like Dodie said in her video, at the beginning sharing her thoughts was a healthy outlet, but the lines between what was meant to be kept personal and public blurred. She began sharing her deepest thoughts to the world instead of keeping it to herself. I'm very very proud of her for opening up, realizing her mistake, and apologizing. It's extremely honorable and sets an amazing impression. But, please, while I completely understand you just want to support her (who doesn't, she's Dodie!), encouraging this behavior is not a supportive action. It's damaging to Dodie and to her audience.
6 likesLady Lynn wow๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐how long did it take you to wrtie that crap
0 likesjess k I'm really not trying to be aggressive or anything, I just want people to actually understand the point Dodie is trying to make through this video. Your comment disregarded everything Dodie was trying to apologize for. Not crap, just facts.
6 likesLady Lynn she is a youtube she decides what goes up and if her followers dont want to watch stuff about depression then dont watch her at all it helps me and im sure it helps others
0 likesjess k She is a youtuber, she does decide what she posts and what she doesn't, you're right. But in this video, she explicitly states that, in order to protect her audience, she will try to keep her most damaging thoughts to herself. It wasn't healthy anymore to share during her panic attacks because, "your perception is blurred." Now, she has decided that she won't post her damaging thoughts on social media in order to protect her young, impressionable audience. Just respect her decision.
7 likesi can't wait for your book.
0 likesDON'T BE SORRY DODIE!
74 likesPlease please please don't be sorry! These videos help me so damn much, you have no idea! If you didn't upload such "graphic" and "intense" videos, I don't think I'd be here today!
Please don't be sorry Dodie, you're an inspiration to us all๐
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Talking for everybody in this way isn't very true. From many comments you can see people are very hurt by her ways. She should be apologetic, honestly. I'm glad she's handling this like an adult, but she does need to be sorry. Maybe not to you, but to others.
18 likesIt's important for her to be sorry because she made a mistake, but she's learning from it and acknowledging it and the effect it's had on her viewers (especially the young ones) which is what matters the most.
12 likesI completely agree. Aren't there ways to allow these conversations to exist, without deleting or never posting them completely? Can't there simply be trigger warnings at the beginning, or something?
0 likesIn saying Dodie should be sorry, YOU'RE speaking for everyone. There are many like myself that completely disagree and think she has nothing to apologize for.
1 likeplease don't think that you can't talk to us at all. we love you dodie. please talk to us if you really need to. i. love. you.
0 likesYour friend dan?!
44 likesME: (DANIEL HOWELL????)
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Wrong dan lol
23 likesNoodle Paege aw sweety,no
12 likesI thought Daniel J Layton but idrk?
12 likesBoi its Daniel J Layton . They're like close friends lol
16 likesNot every Daniel is a howell
23 likesgod. leave the phandom alone for one video. this is about a serious matter not about daniel bloody howell.
37 likesPlanetary Immy chill lol
0 likesDaniel J Layton..
10 likesstop
9 likessimple question its not a big deal...
0 likesI did think of howell originally but I'm pretty sure it's daniel j layton
5 likesDodie, please don't apologise for what you have shared with the world. You are a beautiful and intelligent young woman who is struggling with something that can make anyone feel very alone and confused. It's hard to know what to do with all those feelings, and sometimes, sharing them with friends and relatives can feel a little too personal and too close for comfort.
47 likesI know that I, myself, and many people I know have posted feelings and thoughts on social media on several occasions. It's not necessarily a cry for help (and definitely not for attention, for those of you that think that way), it's like putting it out there into the abyss. Almost as if you think that letting it go so far means it won't come back. It doesn't feel like that at the time, but I think that's a deep root of it.
You may feel guilty because you have an audience. You are a musical and internet sensation. However, that doesn't mean you feel things any less than the rest of us, or that you know how to handle it. You can't lock it up inside and I totally get that.
Never feel like you need to say sorry. Never feel like you're putting a downer on anyone's day. And never EVER feel irresponsible. Fuck that. Fuck what people have said to make you feel worse. Maybe it will help you find a new route to recovery, but never let it make you feel guilty.
You are you, and you are hurting. I definitely think there are different ways to go about things, but sometimes we need an instant release. You are only human. You don't know the answer to everything. And you certainly don't know the answers to your mental health. Nobody does. Otherwise there would be no issues.
Despite how you feel inside, you still have a wonderful vibe about you that makes me feel happy whenever I hear you talk about whatever. That's something very special. I know that, to be in your presence, would be a very uplifting experience, and it's just very sad to know you don't feel as bright as you make others feel. I wish you the very best for the future. Better days are coming.
lots of love, beautiful girl. A xx
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honestly, it kind of did need to be addressed. it's more than just "putting a downer on someone's day" it's possibly making someone uncomfortable or maybe even triggering someone, especially since there usually aren't any warnings
2 likesbut yeah, I agree that she shouldn't be blaming herself so much for it, she seems to be very guilty about it which makes me sad :(
0 likesFatima .K I totally get what you mean about the lack of trigger warnings, but other than that, to be fair no one is gonna come out of it and say "the illness I have been struggling to battle relapsed because I watched Dodie's snapchat story". Her raw words helped so many people who felt like they couldn't tell anyone about whatever problem they were facing. And if her Snapchat/Instagram posts were affecting someone THAT much they could've just unfollowed...
0 likesSorry if I came across as rude but I feel like this matter has been blown out of proportion, and the fact that Dodie is crying making a video repeatedly apologising breaks my heart :(
you're human. we all make mistakes.
2 likesangel. thank you so much for rethinking this.
0 likesI wanna talk to someone irl about the breakdowns and issues I've been having but I can't ;-;
0 likesYou are wonderful you are not a bad person for doing this you are trying your best to work through your issues and it's hard to realise when your symptoms are present even in moments you think that you're helping. You have a responsibility to not overstate dangerous thoughts to a potentially impressionable audience but you recognise that and you are wonderful and don't be too harsh on yourself you are wonderful
0 likesthank u for this i can now enjoy ur content again yay
0 likesDon't apologise, say "thank you".
0 likes"Sorry" = associated with negative feelings ("I have done something wrong").
"Thank you" = associated with positive feelings ("You have helped me get better").
Saying "sorry" multiple times in a row makes you feel bad. Saying "thank you" mulitple times makes you feel better.
Try it out sometime. Good luck!
i don't have much to say but i don't want to watch this video and not say anything and all i can think of is that i love you so much from the bottom of my heart โก
0 likesI think your amazing ๐ xx
0 likesALSO I LOVE YOUR T-SHIRTS WHERE CAN WE BUY IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
0 likesloved this
0 likesPlease do not feel bad for sharing or feel like you need to apologize to people who want to criticize you. I went through a lot and shared online because my abuser would control me thru social media, and this was me taking it back. Addiction? Release. You are allowed to do that. Unhealthy coping mechanisms? You were doing what you needed to do. Please do not feel badly or let friends make you feel like you needed to share with them and not the media. People do not need to listen if it is hurting them. Of course things need to be private sometimes, but this is your channel and yes you carry a platform but I do not want you to feel badly or be made to feel badly about sharing. You can edit your privacy settings so certain people do not see it. I have changed mine to eliminate all my family members and cousins, so it's helped. Again, not a critique of you or whoever has an opinion on how you share, but believe me, sharing is healthy. In certain settings, maybe not so much, but I hope you know you are loved and not feel shame because of this.
0 likesbless you i love you.you are so strong
0 likesThe apology felt real but some of the parts like " I can't do this! No I have to!" Felt very fake
0 likesI WANT TO GIVE YOU A HUG DODIE I LOVE YOU
0 likesAs far as the problem of your posts triggering people or making people feel down in the dumps, you could try writing a letter about what you're feeling. You could write it to yourself in the future and seal it in an envelope with a time to read it (not a specific time of year or anything, just something like "when I'm not feeling so shit"). I know you don't get the feeling of getting it out there maybe as much in the way that no one else is seeing it, but I find it does help to physically write things out on paper instead of typing. That being said, I don't know if things you write when you're feeling very low would send you back into a spiral if you read them when you're feeling good.
0 likesdodie, this may be a stupid suggestion, but have you ever considered starting an anonymous blog? or an anonymous social media account? That way you can just spill everything you're thinking whenever you feel the need to without making boundaries. you don't even have to tell us about it, and whoever finds it will find it, and they don't know its you, so they can't tell you that 'it's too much'
0 likesi'm sorry if this is stupid but, you can get through this, we believe in you. and we love you x
Oh, dude...I feel bad that you feel embarrassed. I think this is a cool lesson that you got to learn, and I think you're on the right track but this is SUUUUUUCH a tiny thing, in the grand scheme of the universe. Not worth embarrassment at all. Just an "oops," at the very most. Just shake it off, regroup, and move on, reminding yourself that the internet has a VERY short term memory, and the number one thing people ACTUALLY remember you for? Your beautiful, beautiful music! I promise! (Aaaaaand Mom Mode off, because why would you take advice from a random internet stranger, anyway?)
0 likesso thankful for you baby.
0 likesI JUST WANNA GIVE HER A HUGE HUG
0 likesI love you too Dodie
0 likesAll I wanted to do this entire video is giver her a hug
0 likesTbh I used to really love you and ur videos but then it felt like you craved attention and sympathy and it seemed like you made it out like you were the only person in the world going through shit when every person does. It started to get annoying. But it's good that your addressing it and hopefully it will help u get better
0 likesGod I balled the whole way through
0 likesi think you should create a secret wattpad. you can put the things youve been putting on your instagram there (thats what i do). then its nowhere near as public and people don't know its YOU but you can still get responses from strangers.
0 likesYou'er making me cry :( if you cry, i cry :( i love you so much <3
0 likesI'm very very glad you made this video
0 likesI don't follow you on any social media. Only YouTube. But I can relate to everything you say. I'm not a public figure and I don't have any audience lol. But I have my friends and I'm also learning to set boundaries and to maybe not share everything about me, specially when I'm feeling down because I know I will regret it later when I'm in a different state of mind and things won't look as bad lol. But you are human you know? And I have the same urgency in me to express, to say how I feel and I overreact and sometimes I am melodramatic but fuck it. But I understand, and it is good that you make those mistakes because you learn, and I learn everyday and you are not perfect and nobody is. But I really think that is much better to be too open than too close. Yeah extremes are not good. But being vulnerable is so good and shows how brave you are. It ain't easy to be soooo open when you have a BIG audience and I also respect that you acknowledge what you did.
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You came to the right conclusion and I am so happy for that. I support you 100% ๐
0 likeswrite music everyday. post daily songs...the songs will be cathartic and heal the masses. :)
0 likesYou are lovely and deserve to feel lovely
0 likesi understand this more than i should
0 likesyou need a hug, i need a hug, everyone needs a hug :)
0 likesDon't be embarrassed, people make mistakes and it's okay you've apologised and mental health itself is not embarrassing
0 likesThis is the first real apology video
0 likesBut i find it good that you do it . If it helps you then do it. PEOPLE NEED TO KNOW ABOUT IT . If they don't like it then they don't have to watch or look at it
0 likesbro i cried at this
0 likesawh awh awh love u dodie !!!
0 likesThis is really hard ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ
0 likesI'm confused. You say you're overhearing the worst and yet also glamorising it? That sounds hard to do at the same time. I feel like that's more people misusing the word glamorising. Yeah maybe creating a side blog or Snapchat for that kind of stuff might be a good idea.
0 likesyoure so precious <3
0 likesYOU ARE FANTASTIC DODIE.
0 likesYOU ALL ARE FANTASTIC DODIE FANS.
I HOPE YOU HAVE A GREAT DAY!
Love you so much Dodie! You've helped me in many ways with my mental health to feel comfortable and not alone! We've all got each other's backs โค๏ธ
0 likesI'm so proud of you for understanding and learning, we love you so much dodie and i accept your apology. I'm so glad you have found out and are going to fix this issue even though it was painful to discuss. You're amazing Dodes <3
0 likesThank you so much Dodie- this must've been hard for you but I'm so so so happy you've said this โค๏ธโค๏ธ
0 likesIm so proud of you for making this. U r so amazing. Remember we all struggle and thats ok. Use your music to share, write a song about how you feel.
0 likesI love you so much Dodie, i am so happy you exist. I am so proud of you for doing this. Thank you.
0 likesAwww Dodie I love you so much, you have so much integrity and grace, you're doing so well โค๏ธ
1 likeDead Dodie, I've been on and off following you for a couple of years with recently actually subscribing to your channel.
1 likeApart from that I've had a lot of personal struggles throughout my childhood and teenage years. I've honestly just started calming down within my so-called-grown-up-years (I really don't count that as grown-up since I'm 21 but okay).
Anyway, what I wanted to say - I'm really glad that you made a decision to differentiate what you want to share with your followers and to which extent; as well as differentiating what is a part of mental health awareness and what isn't. And in a way I'm really happy for you and proud of you. A lot of people who struggle with mental health issues find it difficult to realize what is for sharing and what isn't. Usually it consists of sharing random, personal things to people you don't really know and it tends to backfire - and once it does you feel pretty shitty about what you did. Your situation was much tougher, since you don't share things with random acquaintances, but with the internet, so your struggle was also much tougher than it usually is.
What my point here is - there is nothing to be sorry for or nothing to feel ashamed about. A lot of people follow that same pattern, yours is just more visible. And nothing about the fact that you do youtube should make you feel more guilty about sharing these things that almost everyone feels the need to share at a certain point in life. Your need is respected and valuable just as much as everyone else's, the platform you use isn't relevant.
And the last point; don't be sorry. Even if you did share things you feel aren't really to be shared with such a young audience, you made a lot of people learn about a lot of stuff. This video where you explain what the problem with oversharing is and how you're trying to find this middle line of it - it teaches people. It helps others that will find themselves in a similar situation.
It's wonderful that you found your ground to stand on and I am tremendously happy about you because of that, but don't be sorry about having your own ups and downs and don't be sorry for actively trying to figure out who you are and where you fit. That's one of the things that makes you human; it makes you a great role-model because you are real and you try to be the best possible version of yourself.
Be proud of yourself for this, not sorry.
Lots of love <3
Stay strong Dodie โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ We are all here for you and love you so much . You are special to us so stay strong ๐ช ๐ช๐ช๐ช๐ช๐๐๐
0 likesFor me, having you go into detail (especially when talking about depression) helps me put my feelings into words. I've never been good at explaining how I'm feeling, so having you do it for me is great. I take bits and pieces of your videos and make them my own and use those to describe to my friends how I'm feeling in that moment. I appreciate it.
0 likesHowever, I also understand how it hinders others, or triggers them. And my heart hurts for them.
I don't envy you the situation you're in, having to figure out what you should and shouldn't share. All I can do is let you know that I support you and appreciate you.
You are so wise and strong! Thank you for your apology, you're so brave to say sorry to such a big audience and to openly say you were wrong. I didn't personally feel overwhelmed by your posts (I only follow you on Instagram though) although I do understand how people feel it is too much and think it is an important step for you to be more aware of what your posting. This awareness will be very beneficial for YOU as well as your followers and I'm so impressed with your clear headed thoughts on oversharing. This video was so honest and pure. I admire you're bravery to be so truthful with so many people Dodie! I wish you good luck with oversharing less and the new therapist helps you tackle your feelings in this tough time. We love you. Stay strong ๐๐๐
0 likesBy opening and sharing you made me realize who I really am and I'm so thankful Dodie. You don't need to feel sorry about the things you did, just move on and stay strong and do what you think you should do. Love you and I'm so thankful, because instead of staying in your comfort zone, you devote yourself to the others in order to help. God you're an angel sweetheart
0 likesI am very proud of you! โค๏ธ Please don't feel embarrassed, everyone makes a whole lot of mistakes! You have learned and you will always be the amazing Dodie I love. The Dodie who gives me inspiration to write poetry and make videos. Keep going like this โค๏ธ
0 likesI just want you to know that I (and probably many, many of us) am super proud of you for making this video. Cutting off coping meganisms is incredibly difficult, especially one that is such a big part of your life (in this case part of your job). I personally believe that you will indeed help and support your audience better by addressing mental ilness in a more censored way, and I am sure that in the end it will benefit you too. Again, I'm super proud of you, and I hope you feel better soon! Xx
0 likesOh sweet sweet Dodie, you are such a wonderful being. I hope with all of my heart that you will find a way to hopefully treat or at least learn to live with your mental health struggles. I can only say that you are an inspiration and that all I see when I watch your videos is a young female trying to cope and finding her path whilst also creating beautiful things. You made mistakes, sure, but everyone does and that's the way we learn and we grow, so we cannot blame you (literally no one can). It has never been clearer to me that you have such a big heart and that you are growing and learning and listening and caring and maturing. And that you are so strong, even if you may not feel that way all the time. I know I don't know you personally, but I know that I do have so much love and admiration for you. You are such a beautiful soul, Dodie. Thank you for staying true to who you are and for sharing this - we all get to learn with you and I think that that's a beautiful thing. Lots of love from The Netherlands x
0 likesdodie, i just want you to know that we all love you, i love you and i am always going to be here for you, i understand why you were doing what you were doing and I'm so proud of you for everything, and reacting to the comments very maturely, ilysm.
0 likesI love you, and you have helped me through a lot of my own mental illness related problems, so thank you.
0 likesHonestly dodie I'm so impressed how you managed to turn this around and into a learning and growing experience even though that must be incredibly hard. You're doing great.
0 likesThe discussion under the last video and this second video are so great! Dodie, I don't think that you, as you said, 'messed up' , I think that you helped a lot of people, me included, by doing what you do. A lot of the things you said in this video were so smart and I'm glad that you started this oversharing discussion!
0 likesI love this and I'm so happy you're taking this mature response. I stopped watching your snapchat story a while ago, because I found it often upsetting (though also because it's so damn long and I don't have time for that) and I really think this is a great step forward. It's important to break down stigma of mental health in our society and it's important to talk about it, but like you said you don't want it to become your "brand". I think talking about it online is pretty unhealthy for you and your audience and when you said you want to treat the audience like a little sister it made me really happy ๐ thanks so much and I hope you get a good therapist!
0 likesThis was such a big thing for you to do Dodie. I'm proud of you that you're able to say this and own up that you've made a few mistakes. I love you very much Dodie and you deserve to be so so happy. I look up to you and if you ever need anything, all of the Dodie fans will help you and stand by you no matter what. โค๏ธ๐
0 likesI love you a lot too dodie (sincerely). I can't wait to see what you have for us in the future and it's great to know now rather than possibly never. I hope we can all support you in this time of you discovering your boundaries and knowing where and when to share some of your experiences.
0 likes~It's ok we still love you Dodie! I feel proud of you <3~
0 likesSuper proud of you for this Dodie! :D
0 likesProud of you dodie for growing and learning from your mistakes! xx
0 likesit's ok dodie, I'm here for you, thank you for making this video ^-^
0 likesThankyou so much for this , I've been doing this too recently and I've felt really alone about doing it and knowing that you do it has helped me to be accept that I'm imperfect and that's okay. I'm learning to control and this has really help. So thankyou โค๏ธ๐
0 likesI've always admired you because you're an excellent role model as you break the stigma of talking about mental health issues which helps a lot of people, including me, and helps you and your audience realise they're not alone. However, I'm also happy that you're now going to learn more about boundaries because when you're at your worst it's not always best to share it :) Thank you Dodie
0 likesi'm very happy you've realised this dodie - i suffer from similar issues as you and admittedly had to take a step back from your content because it was bit much to handle. i'm happy for you and happy that i can dive back into enjoying the stuff you make !! this is one of the steps to recovery and we know that you can get there โค๏ธโค๏ธ all love and smiles !!
0 likeswe love you dodie. YOU ARE LOVED. that's all you need to know.
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Love you Dodie ๐
0 likesYou have helped me so much xx
Oh my gosh dodie. I want to tell you that you are honestly such a good person and pretty brave to be admitting your mistakes and apologising because that's really hard especially to a lot of people that have given you so much criticism. I'm honestly just wowed.
0 likesi appreciate this video dodie โค๏ธ you are so strong but i have to admit that i often found myself avoiding your snaps and that sort of stuff. sharing feelings is a very good thing but sometimes there can be a line. im so proud of you and the person you are ๐ and that you are coming up with new ways to deal with your mental illness. love you
0 likesDodie, I think you are so lovely and brave to have made this video. Before watching the 'am i oversharing too much' video I hadn't really thought of your videos and snapchat stories on mental health in the same way that many seem to have, I enjoyed watching them and craved watching more. They made me feel like I'm not alone, and I have a lot of admiration and respect for your for uploading all that you have, because it was and is really brave to show that vulnerable side of yourself and the journey you go through.
0 likesI also want to add that I really do understand where people are coming from when they say they found it difficult to watch your videos and snapchat stories or read your Instagram posts and I think uploading an update video like this is amazing and really shows that you genuinely love your audience and care how they feel.
I just want to say that we are all human and we all make mistakes, even if we don't know they are mistakes in the time of making them. Dodie, you are a wonderful person and I admire and appreciate you and your connect so much. And just remember that your audience loves you and will always support you ๐๐๐
a very very mature response, we're all so proud of you. it takes a lot of courage to admit to your mistakes and take the effort to try and make things right, and i'm grateful that you were able to reflect in this video without being defensive or trying to make excuses. you're doing great and we love you lots
0 likesI love you SO SO SO Much and your posts helped me a lot. I will respect and love whatever content you put out as much as I love and respect you Dodie.
0 likesI'm super proud of you Dodie. It can be hard to acknowledge what you may have done wrong, but you did it and with such grace. You only had a heart full of good intentions and I appreciate that. I love you ๐
0 likesDodie I love you so much you are such a beautiful soul and it is just so clear you just really care for your audience, your friends and yourself. <3
0 likesI wish I was your friend so badly just to tell you that you're great and you're making a really good choice. All the love to you dodie.
0 likesSending love. I think you've made the right decision but have admired your openness over the years but it's good to find the line. You're a wonderful human โค xx
0 likesmy heart goes out to you dodie - i have so much respect for you. the way you have handled yourself in this situation is so mature and wonderful. sending you so much love sweetheart xxxx
0 likesThanks for apologizing Dodie. I love you a lot and until you video with Hazel I didn't even realize why I'd been pulling away from our videos and this was probably why. I'm super proud of you for doing this and being so mature and strong. You're awesome girl.
0 likesI just found out that I'm meeting you at sitc and I'm just so happy because I can finally...thank you. Not only for inspiring me with your gorgeous music, but for helping me with my mental health, you showed me that I'm not alone, and that its "normal" to feel this way, normal isn't the best word but I can't think of a better one right now. Of course, anxiety and depression and all that shiz fucking sucks, and nobody deserves to have to live with it, but people do, more often than not, and in a weird way, I find it almost comforting when I find someone else like me, because I feel like I can share stuff. You've gotta be careful, obviously, with what you share, but, please don't feel sorry, please don't feel bad. I understand, we all understand, and, well, I'm not very good and putting my thoughts into words, but just know that you've got heaps of support and love from me, as I'm sure you do with many other people xxx
0 likesI understand this feeling so much, writing when you're at your lowest is the best way possible to turn that feeling into something productive. You have something to show for it and in a way you feel like you've won some sort of battle against the thing that cripples you mentally. The only problem is when you share that with someone they assume that is how you feel all the time, which isn't true, but it's the only representation that they get.
0 likesHere's the thing, I don't think you 100% need to stop making these posts, I'm not saying you don't need to cut back on the amount of oversharing you do, but it doesn't need to be nil because they do help some people. Instead, it may be equally as good to make sure that the posts have appropriate trigger warnings, and that you don't post them while you're in that mood - go back later and reevaluate how true it is of mental illness.
Thank you so much for making this video because it's made me realise that I need to do a similar thing as an aspiring writer, a page and pen shouldn't be my therapy for the shittiest of my emotions.
Don't beat yourself up about this, you have helped people as well as the negative side, you're just making mistakes and learning like the rest of the fuckin world. We all love you and are here for you โค๏ธ
The fact that your apologising when you're the one who's struggling shows how thoughtful you are! You should never ever have to apologise for sharing how you feel it's so normal and I wish people were as comfortable to speak out as you are, it's so brave of you!!! But I understanding taking a step back, especially as you don't want your mental illness to become your identity, as long as you don't feel like you have to close yourself off. You've actually helped me so much by being so open and made me realise it's okay and I'm not alone, take care of yourself!!! ๐
0 likesI broke down. I don't want you to apologise for this, I'm sure everybody just wants you to be okay. I hope you're okay Dodie xx
0 likesI'm so proud of you dodie, I hadn't realised I was doing it but I had been avoiding reading your instagram captions. I don't want to do that because a lot of your content makes me really happy or gives me amazing advice for when I feel low. You are a wonderful person. I am so glad you've realised what you are doing. I think this decision will help you significantly as well as us, your audience. We love you and support you. Good luck with your new therapist x
0 likespersonaly, your videos and instagram captions helped me a lot because i feel just the same as you and i feel better seeing someone understands me but on the other hand i can see why some people don't think it's good. i will always support all of your desicions as long as you do what makes you happier๐
0 likesYou've handled this really maturely, and I think it's difficult to hit a balance between what to say and when to stop. Just don't beat yourself up over this!
0 likesoh my goodness dodie! its okay! stop apologising so much!yes i understand the whole thing about over sharing, and this whole video, and why you think you shouldnt be so grafic and get help from an actual therapist. yes, i understand. but dodie!!! its okay!!! im sure everyone understands (i sure do) and that this is all a learning experience. as someone who suffers from mental illness, i understand the fact of just wanting to spill your emotions to your audience, for someone to read, to relate, to understand. ive sometimes had the urge to do that on social media, but never have because i always was afraid of oversharing, or triggering others. i understand! love you dodie, take care of yourself.
0 likesI think you're so right and oh my god thank you for acknowledging that. So many people don't know how to apologize when they've messed up a bit and feel embarrassed, and I think this is a great example for the younger people in your audience. You've gotta remember that you're young too, you're still learning and it's okay to make mistakes. There are far worse things you could have done to your audience. Without you talking about mental health, I would never have realized I have depersonalization, and I never would have reached out for help. Like you said, I think there's a healthy way of talking about this online. All the love, and thank you xxx
0 likesStay strong dodie you're an amazing person. The great Littke community you have will help you through this becuase you're helping us through similar problems. (I'm sorry if I didn't make any sense becuase I don't have mental illness I just love dodie and her content) โคโค
0 likesTo me, part of what you're sharing definitely helps because sometimes, mental illnesses feel so damn lonely and what you're doing acts as a reminder that, no we're not alone, there are others who are also hurting and also healing. As well as that, when we see that you're happy, we know that for someone who has hurt so much, you're still capable of being happy which means we could have our happy days too.
0 likesOn the other hand, the posts leaves me in a state where I feel lost. A little small reminder that I, too, am unwell and a sense of helplessness to see someone who we care for yet can't physically reach out to and help them, hurt so so much.
To me, it's difficult because I know how much it fucking hurts and it's so difficult to see you go through the same.
Well done for acknowledging and addressing it so honestly, this is a positive to the conversation around YouTube and it in no ways lessen our affections for you. Please take care of yourself <3 x
Honestly if it was me (and has been) I would have denied it. I'm glad you've handled this so maturely and I'm proud of you.โ๐
0 likesI'm so so glad that you have decided on this; as i am sorry to say I had to stop watching because I am too sensitive and impressionable. I am so happy that you are doing better. You are so strong Dodie. All my wishes to you.
0 likesHey dodie I just thought I'd like to say that your sharing online helped me aswell.... but I don't have depression, anxiety or depersonalisation. I don't know how that feels and I can't relate to you like that. But your videos and snapchats and Instagram posts showed me what life is really like for you and others in your situation. It helped me see how so many people may be feeling! Of course not everyone is the same but your sharing gave me an insight I'd never had before. This has given me the chance to better understand what it's like to have a mental illness and loose ANY stigma I had around that from before... and for that I am forever grateful to you, loads of love xxx
0 likesThis is the bravest thing you could do. I've been where you are and I ended up deleting my tumblr (where I was posting) but I continued to do it on my lesser known social media accounts and that's not a good shout because it's also hard for friends to see. It's not going to be easy and you may feel more empty for a while but it is also better for YOU. do not feel bad - you have handled this well and you are allowed to make mistakes - it's what's you do after that matters. All my love xxx
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PS I can't wait to give you the biggest hug at SITC
0 likesI'm so proud of you xx
0 likesI am so glad this is where your re-evaluation is heading. Like many comments say, I think it shows that you're definitely growing and learning from this period - a growth we can all be inspired by! Thank you for taking the thoughts of the people watching you to heart and then adding your own 2 cents.
0 likesI also struggle with mental health, mainly anxiety and depression. You have been such an important part of helping me work through it! I could find comfort in your songs, texts and videos. But recently, yeah, I did have to stop reading your instagram texts and watching your snapchats. They sometimes risked making me go down a bad spiral and they definitely always made me feel so sorry that you were in such a bad place! But I want you to know that it's ok that you overshared. Like you say, when your brain is in that dark dark place, you have no judgement whatsoever and all you try to do is survive through it. Of course, that means you use whatever coping mechanisms you've got - no matter the consequences! It might not always be healthy, but it's definitely so so understandable. I want you to know that many of us don't blame you, we know that it's inexplicably hard to deal with this shit. And most of all: we hope you can find other ways to get the horrible darkness out of your system, ways that also help you in the long run. I wish you all the luck in the world with finding a good therapist! Continue to be brave and please make sure to keep your support system of friends and family close. All the best!
awwww dodie, your posts have helped me a lot though, I know a lot of people thinks it's bad, but it has helped me with my mental health, I feel less alone. But I do understand why you are stopping posting some of it. Love you dodie๐๐
0 likesI love how you weren't defensive and it speaks volumes about the kind of person you are, we know that glorification wasn't an intention of yours, but it was a result and I'm glad you recognised that and was brave enough to address this. Please don't feel too embarrassed, we all make mistakes and again the fact that you've addressed this and planned to take care of us and yourself better is a great thing xxx
0 likesWe understand that we became your hand to hold. We want to be there to hold that hand. You and your channel grew because of how honest and lovely you were. You did help people and I know you will continue to do so. That is the important part.
0 likesHave a smooth recovery Dodie xxx
To me you haven't messed up. Thank you so much for sharing because it helped me with my own scary moments. Reading your posts did for me what they were doing for you. so thank you.
0 likesYour heart was always in the right place, just appears your mind got confused in regards to boundaries which are there not just for your audience but for you. So much respect for your lack of defensive attitude in this video and your integrity is so apparent with your apology. So much support & love ๐
0 likesDodie you're such a wonderful person and this just shows how mature you are. I had a similar situation when I was at my worst mental state when I was much younger, I had no idea how to cope so I just overshared too much with people who didn't even care about me and it just made me feel so much worse and I'll always feel embarrassed for it because when I see their faces now I think "they must be judging me, they probably haven't forgotten anything.." I know that in your case its so much more complex because of the people involved but please don't be hard on yourself for this, it's such a normal thing to screw up when you're this ill I understand you very well and I don't blame you for this.
0 likesBut you're so strong to apologise out loud and I'm really happy that you're working on healthier ways to cope. You inspire me and help me a lot so much I cannot thank you enough.
Big hugs from Spain I love you.
I admire you so much Dodie and I'm so proud of you. Just try not to beat yourself up about this situation, because your brain convinced you that you were helping yourself and other people, and that played a key part in it. We still love you and are proud of you, and just want you to do what's best for you ๐
0 likesYou are so brave to share this and to apologise, I love you so much really ๐
0 likesThis is the way people should deal with 'drama' situations. This is why people look up to you, Dodie! You are a responsible, mature and beautiful soul xxx
0 likesThis might be the most selfish comment left on this video - but I genuinely love the fact that you share so much, Dodie. I've yet to come across a Youtuber who shares so much of themselves in an honest, realist light in the entire time I've been on Youtube, and honestly, it really really helps. Watching some of the most brutally real videos on the days where my own mental health is making everything feel messy has really really helped me, especially on the days where the last thing I want to watch is someone pretending to be happy and smiley when really their head is just as bad as mine. I don't see what you share as 'oversharing', I see it as just sharing - Youtube culture has formed around this era of secrecy and lying and 'this exciting thing is happening that I can't tell you about', and it's so frustrating to watch these people just censor their entire personality and hide some of the best, most human parts of themselves. One of the reasons I've watched Dodie for so long is her honest approach to herself, and her own self awareness. Perhaps I've been exposed to mental illness for too long that nothing you could throw at us would ever be triggering or upsetting for me, but lying about it and sugar coating it really won't help anyone.
0 likesHowever - if sharing your thoughts and bad days with your audience is causing more harm than good to your own mental health, then I 100% support your move to restrict how much you share, and hope that this decision only helps to make things better for you. <3
You've learnt from your mistakes and that's okay; don't let this make you feel worse! It's okay, we're okay and you're okay :)
0 likesThank you so much for this video. But remember that your posts are very beneficial for a lot of people (within reason). Perhaps it would be helpful to have some read your post before you post it? A second pair of eyes is always better than one! I really value how open and honest you are, although of course that can be detrimental to some people's health. There have been times where I have seen that you posted (you already know I've got those post notifications on) and have to wait until I am in a good headspace to read it. But never doubt that you have helped many people who struggle with similar things as you do. So many times I have watched your videos to overcome a depressive episode and you have done SO many good things that you shouldn't let this blip take that away. If you read this, I love you, stay strong.
0 likesOh sweetheart, bless you. This is such a mature and introspective take on something that is very difficult to deal with. Good on you for recognising unhealthy behaviour and taking steps to correct it. And I love that you care about all of us so much.
0 likesMaybe as a bridge, if you need it, you could have a password protected blog or something? So it's still expressing these thoughts and feelings in a way that is familiar, but without exposing people to them. If you need a way to transition into relying on your phone/social media less.
And please never never feel like you are glorifying mental illness. Even by posting during your absolute worst moments, you are not doing that. And I really hate that the onus is so often on us as mentally ill people to guard against romanticising our conditions, rather than on neurotypicals. I don't know a mentally ill person out there than doesn't think it sucks arse, that wouldn't rather be healthy. Not saying that it's terrible 24/7 =/= romanticising it. I'm not glorifying mental illness just because I can recognise that anxiety benefits me in certain very specific ways that are almost always outweighed by all the negatives
Sorry, that ended up being a rant. Anyway, love you Dodie <3
I'm proud of you <3
0 likes@dodleodle I'm so happy that you made this video and that your ok and you understand yourself and why you post online and that you are going to do it for you โค๏ธ
0 likesProud of you Dodie x
0 likesPlease still tell us how you feel, we don't want you to stop, just less graphic โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
1 likelove you Dodie, take care of yourself xx
0 likesPlease don't apologize! Every Instagram post, and Snapchat story about your mental illness has helped me so much. I am well messed up too, and hearing that someone else is going through similar stuff in their headspace was so good for me! I never got the feeling that you were glorifying mental illness, so please don't apologize, it's been so helpful. Made me feel less alone and helpless. So thank you for sharing as much as you did
0 likesah Dodie, you are honestly great. I'd love to know you in real life. Don't be sorry. You reached out for opinions, and obviously the internet is keen to give them (me included) - but don't fret over it. Personally I just was concerned for how it was affecting you, you cant beat yourself up for how other people take things - if that was the case none of us should watch the news or watch horrible films or listen to any music that isnt super happy. YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE. I really hope you feel better soon xxx
0 likesdodie stop being so hard on yourself you are amazing the way you are and you are very brave to share this things with us and if anybody thinks that is too much they should fuck off and just not read the posts and watch your snapchats
0 likesIt won't solve your problems Dodie, but you should know that I love you!
0 likesโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ you're learning and growing, as all of us are xxx
0 likesI've seen myself """"coming over"""" depression
0 likesI think it's kind of a pause, it's done completely donebut now I know, how to deal with it, with those thoughts and feeling. Was pretty hard, but I'm proud of me when I look back. I was such a mess.I think everyone is capable of that. I'd like to make videos about my journey but I'm still too shy. - I know it would help but i'm not ready.
I love seeing people """"coming over""" like that. You're not coming over but you noticed that you were doing something triggering for yourself. That is a big big step you've done, Dodie. Be proud of yourself.
I love you all, keep in mind that you are going to be ok.
<3 <3 <3
dodie this is insane!! u slipped up u didnt kill a man. and you recovered from it so well. give yourself some credit
0 likesDodie it's great that your telling the truth on the internet unlike so many people. You may be oversharring but at least your truthfully talking to us. As someone without mental illnesses I find your videos very interesting and quite emotionly up-lifting. God bless you Dodie and remember we your audience will always love you xx
0 likesI know this is simplistic but, I love u Dodie, no matter what. โค๐
0 likesI love you dodie, mental health is never easy to go through. It's hard to realize your putting to much into someone or relying on something to much to help you. It really is healthy to talk to someone about it, but truthfully most people don't know how to deal with that and they do get closed off toward a person dealing with mental health.
0 likesJust know, your audience adores you and will stand behind you, but this is healthy choice you are making. Can't wait for VEDA!!! ๐๐๐
I'm proud of you Dodie, it sounds weird because I don't know you personally but I am. It's hard for people to realise their mistakes and even harder to share that. Being able to switch between over sharing and sharing just enough is a big leap and amazing thing to do, I think that's why I'm proud๐
0 likesI have SO much respect for your response to this, most people would have probably been defensive about this but you were so open and engaged in such an important discussion even when it puts you in a bad place, you are unbelievably strong for this. This is the best response you could have had, thank you for being so lovely! <3
0 likesI've been online for so long I forgot what genuine apologies look like. They're not a quick, defensive, "I'm sorry YOU got all offended" followed by an explanation of why it wasn't REALLY their fault. It's about calming down, understanding that what you did was wrong and trying to explain why it happened, what you learned, and most importantly saying "I'm sorry I messed up". I mean, I don't think Dodie was glorifying it, however, I have been triggered myself by some of the really dark, frightening stuff she said. She's done a good thing by making this video.
0 likesAlso, when it comes to anxiety, I find it best to talk about it aloud to myself, and instead of wallowing in how scared I am and how paralysed I feel, I prefer to go back into my head and hide there while I analyse and consider the reasons and possible solutions/things I can do to help. Separating myself from the fear and bad thoughts really seems to help.
Dodie you are amazing and have helped so many people by sharing. It hadn't even crossed my mind that what you could be doing wasn't beneficial to everyone. You shouldn't at all be embarrassed or sad, especially with the amount of people you have helped. No one is born knowing how much or little sharing is perfect and I think it's amazing that you care so much about your audience to consider this. Your posts have always helped me and made me feel less alone. Please don't be hard on yourself, you don't deserve to feel unhappy ๐
0 likesso proud of you <3
0 likesAwwwww Dodie we understand. We love you
0 likesI'm glad your finding a line about sharing. Please don't feel bad for sharing because most of your fans take it on as part of you but if you feel like you need to step back and stop sharing so much that's okay. Love you dodie. ๐
0 likesDodie MATE, I'm so glad you made this video. I didn't even realise that you may have been spilling too much feelings but we grow, we change and we learn and we make mistakes as a result of that. I'm glad that talking about your feelings to your audience has helped you in the past and I'm glad that you're also finding better ways to deal with it too. Mental health is fucking scary, it's complex and most people don't really know how to deal with it properly, you have nothing to be sorry about. We love and respect you so muchโค๏ธ
0 likesI understand. I really fucking do. I read your posts and sometimes they make me cry because I've been in that exact situation, I've felt that way, and I know how much it fucking hurts. I am so glad you have such amazing friends and an amazing space on youtube and instagram where you can share your feelings and people understand you and can bring you up with nice comments. I feel like you're actually my friend when watching your videos. Sorry if this comment is messy I know you read through these sometimes and I hope you read this one I love you so much hopefully soon I'll send you a proper physical letter that you can read. You are such a strong person and if there was one person I would want to have a cup of tea with before I die, it would be you. x
0 likesLove you dodie โค๏ธ
0 likesOhhhh dodie we love u so much don't get sad life is all about growing and learning from mistakes. I'm glad you had this discussion with us because I've been scared to say for a when my true feelings of u over sharing and I didn't want to not watch you anymore because your a lovely creative person but it was getting a tad too much as I see with other people. Doesn't mean you can't share your journey in a postie way just don't make ur brand mental health because you are dodie you aren't just depression and depersonalisation that is is something your dealing with- not what makes you, you. What makes you is your a lovely caring person with a big heart, you have outstanding musical and writing talents and your such a creative soul, don't let your mental health defeat that! Glad to see you making an active effort with over sharing it will be good for us all and I'm looking forward to following you along with videos knowing that they won't make me sad but instead will leave me feeling positive!
1 likei'm currently on a social media break (from twitter, ig, snapchat)... just like you described, i've been very unstable and used social media as an outlet. when i would rant about my mental illness and nobody would reply, it made me feel even worse. i decided yesterday that because nobody was reaching out, there was no point in clogging people's timelines with my posts. i also use art like poetry and painting to get out my emotions, but sometimes i have writer's block or paintings don't turn out how i like them.. and it makes me feel worse that i don't feel good at the things i'm normally good at. hopefully this break from social media helps me out, and if anyone else has any tips and tricks for dealing with things like depression, anxiety, or depersonalization, let me know!
0 likesDon't be embarrassed - that's one thing you should never feel about your mental health - becuase of it, you've understood yourself, your audience, and how to manage the boundaries between these two things. Love u lots Dodie xxx keep hopeful xx
0 likesi'm so proud of u dodes!!
0 likesWe love you Dodie <3
0 likesdodie !! please don't feel bad about this, don't be embarrassed ! i love that you share how you feel, but i understand that it has been too much. you don't need to hide everything from us, but you don't need to feel obliged to share everything either.
0 likesI do like to read those Instagram posts because it does help me come to terms sometimes with how I'm feeling as you almost put it into words for me, however sometimes it can trigger those feelings when I'm not expecting it. So first of all thank you for helping me realise how I was feeling because I was a confused shitty mess a lot of the time but yes it did get to the point of triggering it but that's not your fault at all so don't feel so bad about it, I understand how difficult it is to keep it to yourself because you want to share and to tell people to make them see that it's real not fake and that you're hurting. But it can be so unhealthy as you now know. I hope the new therapist works out for you and that you feel better and that things get better for you because you deserve so much better ๐
0 likesI'm so relieved I'm so so relieved but also so sad to see you sad about this. i just want to give you a massive massive hug, I'm glad i can now keep up with you again!! love you!!
0 likesHi Dodie, I follow you because of who you are and mental health problems are all wrapped up in one package along with bad times there are also good times. Your music uplifts me, your voice soothing. So never apologise we all love you THE WHOLE PACKAGE. Find whatever medium is perfect for you and never bottle things up. I noticed that someone said Vent is good, I am going to check it out.
0 likesDoodie you are a soft cinammon roll that must be protected!!!! I know that when you are mentally unstable it's tough to work and all that stuff but if you need to take some time that's okay! You deserve to be happy๐.
0 likesPlease don't be sad Dodie, I hope things get better for you. You don't have to be embarrassed for sharing your feelings online, we (your fans) should be embarrassed for shaming you for it. I love you Dodie, and please don't give up hope.
0 likesWe love you no matter what, this whole thing wasn't a mistake if you learn from it-which you have xx
0 likesI'm gonna go to costa for a smoothie, love you dodie xx
0 likesThe last bit almost made me cry you're so kind
0 likesI absolutely understand that you've done something wrong (obviously), but I also absolutely understand why you've done it.
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0 likesi just want to hug you and tell you its okay
i agree that what youve done may not have been the best, but please dont beat yourself up about it, everyone makes mistakes, please dont feel like this is a disaster or that youve done something unforgivable
youre okay, hun, we all have bad days and hard times and we all complain and rant about it
i never stopped watching your videos or reading your ig posts because of that
still love you <3
I don't think anyone else would have apologised like this so that's really nice of you dodie
0 likesi love u so much and im proud of you !!!!!! ๐
0 likesIts alright dodie, everyone goes through a phase where hope is no longer a word that you can hold onto. I am going to through it right now due to the demise of someone I really really cared about. I know it is really difficult but gotta pull through for her soul to rest in peace. I don't wanna cling to her memories so that she is somehow troubled. May god be with everyone. Amen and take care dodie.
0 likesI loved your little oversharing because I found it relatable. I shouldn't be something to help me more then it is to help you but I felt less alone too. But if you feel it is the best for you to be healthy then it is fine.
0 likesMy friends recently added to our discord channel to have a group therapy chat. We can say if we want comments or help or if we want no one to comment on what we say. This way we can vent if we want and it to just be known, or we can ask for help. It's lovely.
0 likesYes yes, hope is key!!!
0 likesI used to share way too much personal issues/feelings on twitter instead of going to friends. It was graphic and I was way too honest about how I was feeling. I'm not saying I completely understand or that we're going through the same thing at all. I just know what it's like to turn to social media and let out more than you should and more than what's healthy.
0 likesI love you and I wish all the love and happiness possible to surround you and embrace you.
See you in October Dodie, I love you ๐
Dodie, it's ok. Really.
0 likesLove you
You shouldn't have to explain yourself dodie. This is your channel and it's your Instagram and your snapchat and you choose what to put out there. If someone doesn't want to read about this then they should just unfollow, but those who do get something out of these posts will always remain loyal and supportive. We love you dodie! โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
0 likesI just wanted to say that it's not completely your fault at all. Social media and Youtube haven't been around for very long and no one knows what the rules are yet, we're just finding our way through it all, as we go. This is such a new field, untouched by sociologists, philosophers, psychologists, people with expert knowledge who can give us insights that can help us navigate our way through it all.
0 likesBest of luck with everything Dodie! All my love <3
You inspire me so much ๐ข๐
0 likesawh it's alright dodie, i love you
0 likesYou are wonderful... please stop feeling ashamed about sharing yourself with the world.. im pretty sure that it helped a lot of people...
0 likeswe love u so much u are so strong dods. thank u๐
0 likesdodie makes me feel so much better about myself, I did the same with posting stuff online that maybe I shouldn't and people were mostly responding quite negatively to it as they just thought I was looking for attention which was horrible because I couldn't really talk about it one to one but posting it seemed to help. I'm more careful now with what I post but it's not such a terrible thing if it makes you feel okay
0 likesPlease don't apologize for that. It gives you a sense of reality. There's nothing wrong with realizing you did something wrong but don't hold yourself accountable. You are a lovely, sweet girl no matter what you tell yourself.
0 likesSo many people love you sweetie. I hope that you can start feeling better again. It's a rollercoaster ๐ but you can do it, I promise you! ๐๐ฑ
You HAVE been helping people. You've helped me so damn much. Don't apologize to the assholes who are giving you a hard time. You're not glorifying mental illenss. Don't put a filter on your feelings because other people are uncomfortable with metal illness. They're just perpetuating the stigma behind sharing your feelings and it makes people want to keep issues to themselves, which just bottles it up and applies mental pressure until you pop. Fuck those assholes who made you feel bad for doing something that helps you feel less alone. It's YOUR channel, NOT theirs, and you can talk about whatever you damn well want to. If they take issue with that, they can just stick to your main channel. This one is for vlogs, for personal thoughts. It's for you to say how you've been feeling. Don't be shamed into filtering your soul.
0 likesI think I speak for everyone here when I say all I want right now is to wrap you in a blanket and hold you <3
0 likesIm glad you spoke about this because it was coming to the point where i was convinced you were just romantisicing mental health and being edgy. This helps me, but rather than writing why don't you type it on your laptop? It's much less time consuming, and usually where typing is much faster you can just vent all in one go. You don't need to post it anywhere, maybe just keep a file of your vents, or print them and stick them on your wall so when your in a better mental state and you see them you can just think 'what the hell was I thinking?', and you'll feel so much better (idk tho it helps me)
0 likesTbh we love you, and is really hard to.understand you, since im not a celebrity, but I do know the pain and the struggling. Drink green tea, get a dog, or a cat, or something, It helps so much to be responsible for someone else's life. My dog changed me, I'm still depressed, but I go out, I walk, I have a shedule, and even manage to study and get into the uni I wanted. Because you see the simplicity of life, our natural instincts, and meet new people, everything builds up. Idk, you can even adopt an animal so people can rescue it and then give it to someone.
0 likesAlso getting into philosophy, and especially stoicism is the best.
Love you dearly
An 19 years old depressed, anxious, secretly an extrovert, Chilean girl.
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YES SO MANY UPLOADS SO QUICKLY IM FALLING INTO A VORTEX OF LA LA LAND AND DODIE YELLOW ๐
1 likeI hope those people who pointed out your flaws feel horrible, We love you dodie๐
0 likesI get what you mean completely because I do the same thing . I think the problem with over sharing is that a lot of people get triggered by talking about it and because there aren't any trigger warnings its hard for people to know what to watch/look at / read. We all care about you and we want to know if youre ok and knowing that you aren't makes us sad? I'm not saying close off completely I'm just saying when youre feeling down you have so many friends you can reach out to. We all love you .
0 likesYou're such a considerate and kind person. Don't dwell on past decisions, it's all part of learning. And you listened to those around you and looked at yourself - and that's not someone everyone can manage (healthily) while also dealing with their own feelings and own pointy fingers of self-deprecation. I wish you all the best and I do think that's what you'll get, because you're good, you seem inherently good. And the universe can't be that fucked up that it would ignore that. "Here's to the hearts that ache, here's to the mess we make" - stay strong, you're beautiful.
0 likesYour previous video was very disappointing to me to be honest and i agreed with the general negative response to your attitudes in it as well as your online posting habits. however this is very mature and responsible of you and i highly respect you for it. It shows a lot about your character, please do not beat yourself up about it you are a good and brave person. you are loved dearly x
0 likesI think my heart broke a bit, don't be sorry for trying to get healthier. However if you think that you need to take a step back. Then we are all with you! Love ya.
0 likesi'm so proud of you dodie and understand that taking a step back is what's good and healthy for you, but honestly i still respected you even when you talked so graphically about your mi because no one else online did. no one 'normalised' it as much as you, which really helped me to come to terms with my own problems and not feel as if i had to be ashamed of them because all the people i looked up to online hid them away. so now it's good that you're taking a step back to stop the unhealthy behaviour and turning instead to your friends which should be really beneficial, but know that you don't need to be ashamed of how you acted, because you did help people.
0 likesI started crying when Dodie broke down. :(
0 likesDont be fucking sorry for doing what makes you feel stable Dodie, youve helped people and drawn them away,. Focus on the people youve helped!!
0 likesI made that mistake before. I usually rant in my notes and delete it after I feel better. It makes me feel better
1 likeIt's really weird but I did what you discriped, I stepped back because of these posts but I never realised like, conscious? I didn't watch the oversharing video and I guess because of that as well. And I feel sorry for it.
0 likesYou are so strong and I love you so much. Even if you have these problems you are on the right track (seeking help, living life to the fullest nontheless) and I often thing of your 'letter to the future'(?) when you were unsure about the future and think 'past Dodie would be so happy to know how great her life will be' - of course I just know what I see and not your whole life but.. yeah. youllmaybenotreadthisbutiloveyou
you dont have to be embarrassed, talking about mental health is important- but try to pour out to your friends instead of the audience as you dont know who will see it. I hope that you will find your happiness and peace, best wishes and sending you lots of love and support xxx
0 likesThe deepest of the dark should be heard and should have light brought to it . Just maybe put a trigger warning โ ๏ธ there's no use in censoring something that many people don't understand because if it is hidden they will never understand
0 likesThank you I can tell you how much I love you and really appreciate what you do. So thank you .. so much
0 likesi want to hug you so much and youre so brave xx
0 likesthis is so good, I'm so proid of you
0 likesI know this might to be helpful but, I love when you post something about you mentally State. it helps me but hear what you say, honestly i now see i have a addiction. when I'm down I go searching for people that are down. then that leads to my unhealthy thoughts but, I can't not look at that stuff because I rely on it witch is not healthy again but I can't talk to anyone so that why
0 likesYou are 100% an awesome human being and should for sure not feel embarrassed about making a mistake. 1) people build wisdom on making their own mistakes and watching others mistakes so now you have learnt something valuable. (Geek time: learned behaviour and attitudes, Social Learning Theory, Albert Bandura, 1963 or something) 2) you're only bloody 22 ๐ I'm 21, almost 22 and have recently graduated. I was looking at all these adults who seem to have everything together and was asking myself 'why am I not like that'. It's because I have barely even begun to adult yet. Same with you. There is so much pressure for us to get things right all the time but to get things right sometimes we need to make a mistake first. 3) social media and specifically YouTube is a new platform and our generation don't really have anyone to learn from on 'how to use it'. There's no Dummy handbook on it. We are therefore going to be making more mistakes because we are learning first hand.
0 likesNever forget you are worth it. Never forget that you are loved.
You have done an amazing thing in listening to your friends and acting on it thoughtfully which is an incredible skill not everyone has.
I admit im not a huge fan, i dont watch or read everything you post. But there are definitely been times with almost every youtuber or people i follow where i re-evaluate why imย watching them, and if i am enjoying the experience, and whether its negatively affecting me. Sometimes it is and i stop following them, or just dont watch as many videos. Sometimes its not them, or their emotional state, its just the direction they chose to go in with their content or what they talk about or their lifestyle and its just not relatable anymore. I understand if you think this method of vlogging is negatively effection you or your audience, why you would want to change it. But i just want you to know, i think its normal for an audience to re-evaluate their enjoyment, or what they get out of their experience when following someone on social media or even with tv shows. And sometimes the content differs between platforms so i only watch someone on a particular platform. So i just want you to know, however you feel about oversharing and what you chose to do about it, that its not abnormal for people to feel differently about what you are sharing and take a step back from it.
0 likes6:08 But I just got on my laptop. Now you're telling me to close it. You sound like my dad. He's a good man.
0 likesThe Power of Now helped me the most.
0 likesthis is still a little bit intense and personal ...
0 likesomg Dodie stop apologizing, whatever made you feel better was worth it. You needed to share, and a lot of people needed to feel understood, needed to receive all your feelings. You looked back on it and questioned it and that's great ! because by questioning and seeing the flaws ie what you did, you'll only move forward, and that is i'm sure, a thing your whole audience wishes to you <3 But PLEASE stop apologizing :'( Spilling out our emotions and our problems is something we all happen to do, and even if to you it was a little too much, there's really no just and no crime in that. love you ๐
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no hurt and no crime*
0 likesI just want to give you a big hug x
0 likesCan I be appointed the head of "Emergency Long-distance Dodie Cuddles"? I think you have enough followers here who would like to help you, that you could set up a group you could message in every timezone :D I'm completely fine with reading/hearing about mental health struggles, the worst thing is just not being able to actively listen/react. You are a wonderful human being who has a lot going on, so don't feel bad about slipping up here and there.
0 likesI want to give you a hug. A big hug. ๐๐๐
0 likesMaybe you could still use your phone, just use the notes? You don't have to post them, but it's still getting it out <3
0 likeslove you dodie
0 likesyou had to go through too much for your age.. i feel like looking at myself and it hurts and it hurt me that i couldnt be in touch with you anymore because yes you did overshare yes it did make me overthink and not feel good. i feel like i have this weird bond or addiction to you i like you so much but you dont even know me it is so weird dodie i like you so much and do whats best for you please!
0 likesoh my poor bby, it's okay, everyone has does days, everyone make mistakes
0 likesVEDA WE'RE SO READY
0 likesDodie, do you want a hug? xx
0 likesEveryone has doubts and everyone make mistakes. So many mistakes everyday.
0 likesEverybody has someone who is or was feeling bad about this mistake. The clue is to find out that it wasnt right and to be honest to yourself. To be brave and strong enough for thinking about it in a fair way. And to do something to make it right again. Maybe to change if it is necessary.
You are doing all of this. And absolutely because of that you are such a good person with such a strong and nice and lovely character.
You are doing well. I totally understand you... But you're just human with all those feelings and doubts and sometimes it causes mistakes... Just remember the clue. You always find it.
I actually don't think you should be sorry in the least. While there is prudence to be found in a robust discretion, it can also play too much into the hands of those bearing delicate sensibilities. What society can not glamorize, it carefully places under quarantine. Being real has become something of a marketing scheme to push entertainment, politics, and self-help. However, when confronted with the genuine article, the backlash can be unforgiving. Your frank disclosure is the antidote to trite and trendy spirituality. I watched a philosophical video that packaged suffering as a form of excitement in the midst of well adjusted tedium. It angered me because this sort of romanticism can easily lead to dismissal. In other words, don't weep, you're misinterpreting the zest of life. It's an adventure! Your confessions are sobering. I fear we endulge an overly manicured perception to stay the call of introspection. The agony is just as much apart of you as the silly, fun, and creative facets. If you do not peg pardon for them, do not peg pardon for the hurt.
1 likeIf you decide hold back, do it for your own piece of mind, and not for the sake of making it easy on voluntary viewers.
You have not burdened them, they are burdening you with unrealistic hemlines. Your uncompromised breath comes before their designer reality that they mean to squeeze you in to for their viewing and listening pleasure. The only pain that is permissible to these detractors is one that is fodder for humor. You don't have to submit to their quotas for lightness. Let them see to it without troubling you.
if you catch yourself on your phone, try writing it in your notes app, instead of on social media.
0 likesHow about the people like me that you have helped. Real life can suck. Even if things are you going your way. !!!!
0 likesOh Dodie I love you
0 likesI love this.
0 likesI just want to wrap her in a blanket and give her a big hug.
0 likesthe only thing we want is for you to process everything - but more importantly, get real help for long term rather than "empty calories" that snapchating etc can become xx
0 likesWe love you โก
0 likesoh god dodie dodie dodie don't be sorry, we all just want u to be happy
0 likesYou do not need to stay sorry at all. You help people feel less alone, like they aren't the only one.
0 likesItโs ok, you will be ok.
0 likesi literally cannot stand to see you almost cry.
0 likesDODIE please can you check out Abbey Glover??? she makes her own music and it's absolutely beautiful and I think you would really like it
0 likesfollow up, i made tea and watched ur songs ahah
0 likesi just wanna make her tea and fairy bread and watch disney movies with her ;-;
0 likesaww dodie โค๏ธ
0 likesthis helped me a lot
0 likesIโm late but I really want to talk to my friends about mental health n shit, but a lot of them are already in horrible places, and I would feel so bad....I talk to my family but my friends deserve to know, I donโt know what to do
1 likedodiee i'm sorry if i hurt you @ my comment at that video, i didn't say anything rude, but i just trying to be honest.... but now i feel guilty :(( it's heart breaking to see you cry.. :'( i love you i do, you're not perfect so am i. i'm trash. love you dods. sorry so sorry if i said anything wrong....
0 likessending u lots of hugs!!!
0 likesanyone else feel slightly bad for not turning off the technology after watching this? coz itโs nighttime and i canโt go outside or take a bath or anything like that or iโll get in trouble.
0 likesCompare this with fucking Logan Paul. You're doing amazing sweetie, truly
1 likeI just wanna give you a hug.
0 likesI actually am going to intensive therapy shortly so eyyy self care
0 likesAre these past few videos a result of watching To The Bone? (it's just that it reminds me of it slightly)
0 likesdodie i love you so much. so so much.
0 likesi love u dodie :( u can share whatever u like
0 likesI'm a little upset. Not at you Dodie, but at the random people getting angry at you for posting those things. Yes sometimes you shared things that could possibly harm another's mental being. I understand why you would apologize for that. But I really hate when people criticize others for being "emotional". We are human beings with all percentages of mental health issues and strong/weak sense of emotions. They are there for a reason. I'm really thankful for you opening up about depersonalization because I didn't know what it was prior. Because of you, I became knowledgeable about it. Yes maybe you could have shared it in s healthy way, but you made a mistake and humans make mistakes. You just have to learn from it and better yourself which you obviously have by making this video. Ily Dodie thank you for being you
0 likesSmile Dodie :)
0 likesya did good Dodie
0 likesItโs well shit is honestly my mood
0 likesIt's okayโค๏ธ
0 likesI used to rant/emotional tweet then save it to drafts rather than publish or find that website where you can type and type and it floats off
0 likes...dodie is THIS video just you randomly, oversharing your feelings again?
0 likesI love I LOVE your posts
0 likesDodie, you've helped me so much. I have been struggling with anxiety and depression for a long time and your "oversharing" helped me so much. It made me feel like I wasn't alone. So thank you and keep being you <3
1 likeI think it's good that you're bringing attention to mental health, but as you said, you have a young and impressionable audience and for example, I have a friend who is now trying to get depression and faking it after seeing your snapchats and posts. It's great that you're drawing a line :)
2 likesThank you so much for this dodie, I'm so glad that you're now in a place where you can see the extent of how much you were sharing. Really putting all my hope into your therapy being useful and healing, you deserve it <3
0 likesI'm so proud of you Dodie. You're wonderful. โค๏ธ we love you. You've learnt from your mistakes, and you've faced the truth; that takes incredible courage. Best wishes โค๏ธ๏ธ
0 likesi'm sending you lots of love dodie โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ i'm happy you learned something from this and i think lots of people watching your videos have as well and i'm just glad you are here, love you
0 likesAt the same time as the oversharing has been unhelpful, seeing the parts of you going to therapy or treatment and getting help has encouraged me to try to do the same. I've been mentally shit for a good 3 years, and I've let myself get low before, but seeing that you're struggling with similar things and working through them and getting the help you need gave me the push to do the same. So thank you for that.โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
1 likeit's okay. that's all i'm going to say. we love you and it's amazing to see you grow. i'm sorry you have to go through all this, dodie. i really am. i wish i could squeeze all the negativity out of your life but unfortunately, i can't. you do what you need to do and i hope you find the right balance. i hope you feel better soon.
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okay don't cry please you'll make me cry too
0 likesDodie, you are slaying the game with this personal growth. Much love <3
0 likesI'm so proud of you for doing this video. You know what you've done and it was not intentional but you have come forward and apologised and that is amazing of you Xx thank you for learning from your mistakes and growing as a person. We love you and we are proud of you Dodie :)
0 likesI can't express how much I love you dodie, always remember that <3
0 likesDodie I am so, so proud of you. The fact that you dealt with this so well, and that you took into your stride what people were saying, and have done something about it makes me so proud of you.
0 likesYou know what, this is the perfect follow up video. Yes, maybe you made a mistake, but everybody does that, and you have taken time and effort to figure out what it is you are doing wrong, how you can improve and you apologised but still stood by what you believe in, not many people are brave enough to do that, most people struggle with criticism. So I just want you to know that you shouldn't be embarrassed, just continue doing what's best for you and as you have been saying sharing everything is not that. Well done on making this video.
1 likeWell done Dodie, it's so brave and strong of you to try to take a step back from a coping mechanism. It's hard to admit a mistake and you've not only taken it upon yourself to stop doing the potentially harmful thing but you've also publicly apologised. We're all so proud of you โค๏ธโค๏ธ
0 likesI have always loved how open you are with your emotions and mental health and it has helped me out. But I'm so proud of you for taking a step back. I hope everything goes well with the therapist x
0 likesalthough it was incredibly heartbreaking to see this I am so proud of you for growing and learning, you are one of the strongest people I've ever seen.
0 likesThis is really great Dodie. I'm glad that you have been able to get to the point where you can see where boundaries need to be applied. Of course talking about Mental Health is amazing and I am a huge advocate, but in healthy ways.
0 likesAnd as a wise person once said to me, "make mistakes with pride" -it's the best way to learn ๐
This is really great Dodie. I'm glad that you have been able to get to the point where you can see where boundaries need to be applied. Of course talking about Mental Health is amazing and I am a huge advocate, but in healthy ways.
0 likesAnd as a wise person once said to me, "make mistakes with pride" -it's the best way to learn ๐
Although, personally, you sharing your feelings online has really helped me, I understand that others reacted differently. Please still make music about mental health because your songs are so reassuring and remind me that I'm not alone. Despite all of this, I think that you should just be yourself and post videos about the issue whenever you feel like you need to because the odd video would still really help me. Thank youโก
0 likesYour videos actually really do help me. It's great to feel like you can relate to someone xx
0 likesThrough Dodie's advice I'm heading off to my second therapy session tomorrowโค๏ธ
0 likesWow, I got so upset watching this from how upset you are - from my perspective, you have absolutely nothing to apologise for and even for those who this has affected, I'm sure they will agree for you not to be so hard on yourself, we know you have learnt from this now and will prehaps now move on in a way that it better for everyone. From me personally, you will never know how utterly grateful I am that you did share so much because without that I would never have found out I have mental illness or at what capacity that is. I think I have identified that I had Borderline Personality Disorder, although I have not been diagnosed or anything. Reading and listening to pretty much everything you've talked about with dp/dr I have related to and without that I think I would have felt truly alone and prehaps never have put what I'm feeling down to a physical condition. I truly do thank you for everything, but despite that I absolutely understand why you're stepping away - the people in your life love you and are there to support you in a way we can't. I also absolutely understand that oversharing isn't healthy, when I am in my worst place I overthink what I am feeling way too much and then when I am in a better place I overthink and overshare then too, which brings me back down into a bad place when I could've been picking myself up, almost as if in my brain I want to be back down in that bad place to prove to the people I'm telling about it that I am actually feeling that bad, when I don't have to be. Obviously I don't actually want to be feeling bad when my sanity comes back and I regret oversharing everything. Anyway, I just wanted to say I'll never be able to thank you enough for all you have enabled me to learn about myself, and I'm sure so many others feel the same, but now I know I'm not alone and so do they so we can pass on that message and you concentrate on yourself. Again, please don't apologise and feel bad over this because you have done so much good too and we have all learnt some things. Much much love ๐๐๐ -Alice
1 likeWell done on realise your mistakes, we love you too dodie โก
0 likesYou're so inspiring Dodie owning up to your mistakes takes a lot and I'm proud of you โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
0 likesHey Dodie. It's okay. You've learned a lot and I'm proud of you. And you're very brave for making this video. You're fixing the problem, you're doing great. You're awesome.
0 likesLove you dodie, it is so strong of you to make this video, you are showing truly how you can realise and identify what is going on in your life, keep going we absolutely love you and always will. โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
0 likesI'm proud of you Dodie ๐โบ๏ธ
0 likesyou have been an extremely responsible and mature adult, for realising your mistakes and apologising. you're learning from what you've done wrong, and not many people realise that you have to be SO brave to do that. i'm proud of you. be strong ๐
0 likesHonestly, your videos helped me sooo freaking much... Even your real deep instagram texts... And I seriously think I would miss them. But maybe it is too much to share, I don't know... Did u thought about creating your own blog where you can write down everything you want too and everyone can decide if they want to read it or not? I think that would help a lot of people ... Thank you for everything Dodie โค
0 likesIt's ok, Dodie. It really is. It's really great that you have realized this and only jerks will think less of you for making a mistake when you apologize for that. Love you โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
0 likesI think it's great you have used this experience to learn from your mistakes โค we all make mistakes and get stuck in identifying too much in our pain sometimes.
0 likesTHANK YOU DODIE!!! You are such an incredible human being. I love youuu
0 likesYou have got the purest, kindest soul that I have ever come across. I wish you all the best, Dodie.
0 likesI am so proud of you rn Dodie you've done so well
0 likesI can tell how much you've matured, and i'm glad you apologized even though your posts never bothered me personally. That being said you have helped me a lot, and I could recognize myself in a lot of your posts talking about how you were feeling, so thank you for making me feel less alone when I needed it most.
0 likesThat's good that, as an audience, we were comfortable to not just blindly say "it's okay we love you so whatever" but in fact feel comfortable to go "actually This isnt right" or "no I am actually happy" without fear of being attacked, particularly by Dode herself. Congrats Dodie on the openness of the community you have, it's so very important
1 likeI think I simply want to say to you after this beautiful video is that Dodie, it's okay! It's fine! We've all gone too far and we've all messed up online and it's okay. What's really inspiring is that you've taken a step back and gone "yes okay, I see that wasn't healthy and it was over the line and I'm sorry" because that isn't an easy thing to do and you're so so brave. I'm glad you're going to keep breaking the stigma of mental health and are going to talk about your experiences but just in a more healthy way which is wonderful because in the past your music and opening up about mental health has helped me understand a few things about myself. We need more people like you in this world!
0 likesI hope this time around the therapy will help and you'll get somewhere with it. Keep making art and music and vlogs and being amazing now that you have drawn a line over this wobble. But most importantly take care and look after yourself.
All my love. Looking forward to your Glasgow gig! Eilidh x
I love you so much dodie โค Please don't feel guilty, we're all humans and nobody is perfect. Even if it wasn't good for everyone that you overshared, it still doesn't make you a bad person, please please remember that โค We all make mistakes, and we all try to find things in this big and cruel world that eases our pain, even for just a minute.
0 likesWe'll always love you, Dodie. Your highs and lows. You're never alone. hugs hugs hugs
0 likesAwh poor Dodie โค๏ธโค๏ธ I think you are helping up to a certain point, it was really helpful for me to know I'm not the only one. I do think there is a place to stop and a healthy balance though.
0 likesDodie, sending you so much love. Thank you for this video. โค๐๐
0 likesWe understand and we love you no matter what and if that means you need to express your feelings online to an audience we're going to be there to support you and try to help even though personally I know it feels like nothing can but I hope you know that everyone in this fandom, this family, loves you endless amounts no matter what ๐
0 likesDodie , when your feeling low we will support any time you need to take off. Your mental health is more important that us getting videos to watch xx
0 likesdodie, your posted have helped me so much. I might be one of the people that feels this way judging by the response of you last video but reading all of those posts and watching all of your snapchats made me feel so much less alone and like I knew someone that felt the same way I had been feeling for so long. Having those extremely painful emotions put into words helped me understand them and encoded me to seek help, and I don't think I would have done that without you. Knowing someone that I admire so much has some of the most painful problem in common with me gives me confidence and hope, when I see you around your friends in videos smiling and laughing knowing that you feel the same way I do gives me hope that I will be able to smile like that one day. I understand that it is different from most people, but I want to thank you. For making amazing content and for inspiring me. I owe you my happiness.
0 likesdodie, i can only imagine how hard it must've been for you to confront these realisations and deal with the pressures of learning exactly how to restrain yourself from a source of comfort in a short space of time - holding back can be just as hard as letting go - so it makes me glad that you have a strong network of friends with you in real life, and i hope you know that even if you feel you need to see us as your impressionable little sisters from whom you hope to hide some of your burdens, we will love and support you through it - more so for how much you care about us. it's okay, you fucked up, but you didn't shy away from recognising your responsibility or your mistake, and you're trying to find better solutions, and we respect you all the more for your maturity and selflessness because we can see how hard it is for you. so take the time you need, give only what you can, and we'll be here waiting. <3 sending you love and all the best from this 21yo baby sis
0 likesI think you are a very brave person for admitting this. I respect you greatly and you are one of my favourite youtubers. This shows how much of a good person you are. You recognised this, and no one hates you for what you did. You are brave ๐๐
0 likesI want to thank you for this video. Because, you did trigger me with your last video, but the thing was, that I didn't notice you had triggered me until I was having an anxiety attack out of the blue. I was just getting more and more anxious as you talked, but I was paying no attention to it. So, thanks! I now know, that some very deep videos like that are triggering, but I know it from the creator itself saying sorry. Either way, I wanted to say how proud I am dodie, that you poured your heart out to us. The thing was that you did it from rock bottom, and maybe overshared too much. But, you've apologized and honestly its so refreshing to see someone on youtube owning up to their mistakes. In my opinion you're incredibly brave to say sorry publicly.
1 likeI LOVE YOU DODIE, I HOPE YOU HAVE A NICE DAY,WEEK,YEAR AND LIFE! But, remembering a bit of madness is key hehe. Love you xxx
this is exactly what growth as an adult is about, you've acknowledged your mistake and not made excuses. you've explained reasoning and have promised to make it better.
0 likesand from this experience you've learnt more about yourself and how you personally deal with difficult situations. and i am SO FUCKING PROUD. it takes one hell of a lot of guts and gumption to do that and i am so proud of you. โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
That took a lot of courage Dodie ๐
0 likesyour videos have helped me... honestly, your songs have made me happy and cry uncontrollably because they are so real and raw.. that's what I love about you, that you can something bad into something not so bad.. this whole situation to me was really a cry for help, whether you wanted it to be or not, it was. So i'm glad you are going to give therapists another shot, because the way the world has shaped mental illness isn't great especially when you are dealing with it. I don't want you to turn into another 'youtuber' who has 'emotions'.. because this isn't for you to get attention, but for your mental state.. it's important you check up on yourself and to just turn off positively, instead of turning off until you don't know whats going on... you have explained it perfectly and I couldn't say any of that better... but I thought I should just pop in join the discussion again, because the more awareness, the better.. xxxxxxxxx
0 likesdon't be embarrassed, you've dealt with this so well, everybody is so proud to see you actively grow and learn. even tho being publicly called out on your own video must be pretty tough you've been really brave, mature and understanding about it. what a good egg
0 likesProud of you for making this <3
0 likesThis video was clearly very hard to make, but I think you've done a really good job of reflecting on people's responses. We all have our unhealthy coping mechanisms, and it's much harder being so in the public eye. You are doing wonderful things in terms of raising awareness, and I pray that you continue to have all the support you need, because you seem like a person who deserves some good in her life xox
0 likesWell done dodes, this had to happen eventually. Spread joy x
0 likesAw dodie, please don't apologise for sharing your feelings online๐ we all completely understand what you were and still are going through and that sharing it online was like a support for you, honestly, your post helped me and allowed me to understand more things so please don't feel bad about it, I understand why you made this video and I understand where your friends are coming from, so please just do what you think is best and what you think will help you the most, just remember that we all love and support you!!๐๐๐๐๐
0 likesWe love you. We all make mistakes. In some way it helped you, but short time like how that one person said 'empty calories'. Your posts did help me and yet they also maybe worsen it in the process. I love you Dodie, I'm extremely glad you're getting more help. We all support you.
0 likesI love you and it's not your fault for reaching out to your audience when in that moment you know that's who you have at hand.
0 likesWe love you dodie, and we understand. You helped me to a point, but it did go to far. It's all okay though we're all fine. โคโคโค
0 likesWhen you said "I'm sorry" I started crying because you have nothing to be sorry about , people make mistakes and you were helping people you were helping me . So much
1 likeHuge respect to you Dodie. 1) for admitting when you're wrong and taking on someone else's advice especially when it was hard to hear. and 2) for then admitting this to your audience and even APOLOGISING to them. That takes real guts Dodie. I feel like informing them of what is healthy is super helpful. We're all growing and maturing as people and babe, if you continue down this track I'm sure you'll go very far in life. Love you!
0 likesDodie you've helped me on the lowest of the low seeing you at that low point made me realise what my mum and family see when I'm there too you'll never know how much 6/10 affected me and made me acknowledge that this isn't a normal way to fell so often Dodie I love you please always know that and you'll never do wrong in my eyes for speaking your mind we can fight this together eventually it will just take time love you ๐๐๐๐๐
0 likesPersonally, your videos really do help me. I get anxious very easily (I'm not going to say 'anxiety' because I haven't been diagnosed) and it makes me feel a bit better that other people do and not all YouTubers are perfect and stable and happy all the time, however I do agree with you. I'm 12 and sometimes it doesn't help knowing that someone you really care about isn't feeling good and it can make me worry about you even though I don't personally know you (which I know isn't really a bad thing, but it can be when it makes me feel nervous).
0 likesI might delete this because I think that I have now opened up too much. Sorry if I have.
Woooo! This is great. Do what makes you happy and I'm excited for new content โจโจ
0 likesDon't worry at all Dodie, I always thought that you were so brave for talking about your mental illness, and they always helped me to realise that I am not alone.
0 likesIt hurts so much knowing you're struggling so much. I understand how you feel even though I always deny to myself the fact that there was the time I felt the same way you feel now. And whenever I was having a mental breakdown nobody wanted to listen. So I wrote things down. All the dark thoughts and feelings. And after a year and a half later I found those notes and I started reading them, but it was too much to handle so I stopped and threw them away. I honestly don't want to remember how bad I was feeling. I wish I could just snap my fingers or whatever and make you feel better instantly. You're such a wonderful and talented person and... I don't know where was I going with this. Anyways, I really hope you get better SOON cause I really want to see you happy and not sad cause it makes me sad, I cried during this video. I love youuu
0 likesOkay Dodie but we love you soooo much, I personaly find your way of expressing your feelings very good, I mean you think it's "easier" to do it online, but expressing feelings is NEVER easy. So maybe it's not the best thing to do, and maybe it's not the best thing you've done, but if it helped you get better, it's not a completly bad thing. And the way you managed the audience's answer is perfect, so is your reaction and your decision. God you're so amazing, and you also make me feel amazing. Thank you Dodie.
1 likeNow i'm gonna take a bath, take care :)
I do a similar thing, I overshare and pour out my darkest thoughts on the internet in a way that doesn't mean anything bad to me, but maybe would mean something else to other people. When I found your Instagram account, I was relieved and thought 'Dodie is like me!!!'
0 likesI agree with what you said about your journal and online captions leaking into each other - I am exactly the same.
I still watch your videos, read your captions, watch your Snapchat etc because it doesn't get too much for me, but I guess that's just my personality and how if I already felt that way, I can't be dragged down more??? I find them as educational, as well, and interesting to see things from your point of view, because a lot of it reminds me of me, makes me feel even more 'connected' with you and I feel like you're my big sister (even though I've never met you).
(Not trying to glorify mental illness, or say that it's a good thing!!)
It is REALLY good and brave of you to take that step back though, and change things. That is good of you. โค๏ธ
I'd say, maybe you could make separate YouTube/Snapchat/Instagram accounts - one account without the negativity, and one account with it? Because separating it would allow audience to filter out what they want to see, and for those who get comfort/reassurance or want to read your more intense feelings, it would still be there but separate and more subtle??
- But, if you want to take a step back, I definitely respect that, and it may be tempting, with that idea ^, to get back into sharing more 'private' information, which might not necessarily be a good thing!
It's your choice and decision, and I admire you for it โค๏ธโค๏ธ
Thank you so much, I know that you shouldn't show your lowest of your lows but when I am in that place, I almost enjoy watching your videos, they make me feel less alone and not to be that scared anymore. So thank you so much
1 likeDodie I'm so so proud of you for addressing this and saying sorry. I often rewatch your videos but somehow, even unconsciously, I keep myself away from the 'heavy' ones, because some of those (a small amount in comparison with how many videos you've made) make me feel anxious (anxiety is something that I struggle with and I've been going to therapy to try and get better).
0 likesI also hope that you don't give up on medication. There's a beautiful ted talk about depression with writer Andrew Solomon and I suggest watching it if you haven't already. I hope things will get better for you, 'cause you're an amazing person and, as I said, I'm really proud of you and this video imo is the evidence that you're a very strong and beautiful human being.
I love dodie so incredibly much because she is someone i can relate and turn to because of my depression/anxiety. I really hope she comes to vidcon Australia because it would make my birthday the best day if i get to see my favorite emotional human and just have a little chat with her (if I'm not happy crying of course)
0 likesLove you Dodie โค๏ธ
0 likesDodie you are an amazing person don't ever think other wiseโค ily๐น p.s can't wait to see you in October x
0 likesI just want you to know Dodie, ily so much, you are sooo strong, you are so positive even when it's difficult to be that way. No matter what, we'll always be there to support. And it's ok, it's all going to be o k. Just want you to know I love you a lotโฅ๏ธโฅ๏ธโฅ๏ธโฅ๏ธโฅ๏ธโฅ๏ธโฅ๏ธโฅ๏ธโฅ๏ธโฅ๏ธ
0 likesDodie you are doing brilliantly at the moment, and it's fine to share your feelings. If people don't like to read them then they don't have to, but if it's helpful to you then continue as I think i can speak for all of your viewers when I say we want to help you even if it's just a small comment. When I found your channel it made me realise a lot about my self, and I am very grateful for it. We love you very much Dodie โค๏ธ stay strong โค๏ธ
0 likesOh, I am so proud of you. I wanna give you the biggest hug in the entire world. โค
0 likesI've got maybe five months of knowing who you are and what you do, so I'm pretty fresh to all this. This is jumping from another platform, but just reading all the comments from an instagram post of "I'm saving my words. Can you give me yours in the time being?". It's a lot. It's all just heavy stuff. I had this massive medical event a few years ago that I'm now just sharing bits of. I saw the Snapchats over VidCon and I was like, I saw an implosion. If I was posting on twitter, youtube, and Facebook all of everything when I was hospitalized 2 years ago. That's way too much. Glad the wi-fi was spotty in the hospital.
0 likesI'm glad that you engage with the social circles that know you best and you're participating, you're moving forward. You're very aware of just not everyone can handle the amount of sharing. I'm working through my tent pole moment of "this big event happened but it's not the be all, end all". Turning it into something to advocate about can't happen now, it happens later.The control mechanism wasn't working in the moment, and I knew it and nobody outside of that time didn't need to know. Maybe for you this moment you get the controls back. I know I posted something similar on IG, and now I feel a bit redundant posting this..
Good on you for checking in with yourself with this follow up. Don't excuse yourself for being emotional. Just one day at a time. It gets better. You'll get through this.
I'm part of your young audience taht you were talking about and i suffer from anxiety. I love watching you and i love to keep up to date with your vlogs. But to watch your vlogs i also need to sit through the really deep stuff which just makes me anxious! I'm glad you made this video and I can't wait to see your content in the future!
0 likesThis is amazing. Just... so, so amazing. Thank you
0 likesHonestly I don't think there's anything wrong with what you've posted. I know I shouldn't really have a say, because I haven't had depression or anything but recently I've been in such a bad place mentally and idk your posts just made me feel like we got to know you more and like we learnt more about you. But I understand where other people come from and take care of yourself Dodieโค๏ธ
0 likesI go to Tumblr when I'm really upset and pour my heart out, it's an outlet, it's easy.. so I understand where the feeling to pick up your phone comes from. Obvs I don't have a following but it does worry my friends, and every time it does I feel horrible!
0 likesIt's all a learning experience dodie, please don't continue to be hard on yourself about this now that you've apologizedโก we're all just doing the best we can(:
I'm gunna go have a bath!!!
I feel so sad that you feel like you need to hide your feelings away from us but we are always there for you as you are for us. WE love you โค
0 likesWell put, and well learned, Dodie. Actually, a lot of people learn something similar about sharing when we're low, you're not the only one who goes through that curve. You just have an audience.
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Also, with therapy, remember that it probably won't help immediately. It's not an instant fix, sometimes it means you have to go through lows before you can get better again. Just stick it out and you'll learn a lot!
0 likesI'm so proud of you for figuring this out. Now I'm gonna have a cup of teeeaaaa!!!
0 likesI could spend a hundred hours talking about this topic but the only thing I think it's right to be said is that I'M SO PROUD OF YOU
0 likesI think you are making the best decision for you and your audience with this, that being said I know for me personally it was very helpful to see even your worst posts because to me, also a depressed person who recently started meds, they showed me I wasn't alone, and there are other people feeling and thinking the things I do. I didn't think they were too extreme, but that is obviously influenced by my own 'depression goggles' and you have a way bigger audience to be mindful of. so yeah i think being a bit more careful is probably best in that sense.
0 likesSo much love from Belgium Dodie :,)
0 likesHonestly, please don't stop writing songs about your struggles. That's the kind of stuff we want to hear.
0 likesYou help me a LOT with your sharing because I feel so much less alone. However I don't have Instagram or Snapchat so I haven't seen all of that. But please don't apologise, you're only human you're going through a lot and that's okay. You're still growing as a person and we're all still behind you every step of the way ๐๐
0 likesdon't be sorry we all love you so much and want to help support you when ever we can xx
1 likeLove to you, Dodie! <3
0 likesDodes, be careful with phone usage. I think overusing my phone (and my pc) has caused me to actually develop derealization and depersonalization.
0 likesHello!! So, I have a small suggestion that has helped me more than I can say: make a private, password protected tumblr blog. I've never been able to keep a diary, but for some reason the blog just works. It means you can post more of a feeling: you're not limited to words, you can use songs or art instead. And if you can't kick the phone habit at first, you can just write on the blog instead. You can give the password to a few very close friends if you like, that way you don't feel alone in it all. Good luck!! <3
0 likesDodie I forgive you. It's ok. Everyone does bad things sometimes. The good thing is that you learned from it. โค
0 likesdodie i, we, all of us as your fans, friends and family, care and love you so much. we completely understand, and please don't be embarrassed. just try and focus your energy on you! don't feel like you have to always keep us informed, but then if you need to express yourself we completely understand! just smile please we all love you so much.
0 likesdodes, dont be pissed at yourself or feel guilty, im glaad you have realised your mistake of course it is important to talk about mental health but maybe just hold off until your mind is feeling a little bti better, so you can process your thoughts more clearly, i really liked dans idea because you'll still be flooding all the shit out but keeping it safe so others cant be hurt by it, dont ever stop completely talking about mental health, just maybe approach it more sensitivel, love you lots :) xx
1 likeI actually will say that when I go through hard times and I see you do as well, it makes me feel a little more connected to you- but for all the wrong reasons. It makes me relate in- some may say- poisonous way to what you're saying, and sometimes I see you have problems I've dealt with a while back and I JUST WANT TO SEND YOU A POSITIVE SNAP BUT IT WON'T SEND BECAUSE SNAPCHAT DOESN'T WORK LIKE THAT I T IS FRUSTRATING GRR (not u the whole "y'all should follow each other to talk" thingy) But when I am going through really hard times, I do feel much, much worse seeing that people I care about, my friends, people from online, also go through them. It makes me a little guilty in a way, makes me feel like I should give out more than I physically or mentally can atm and all I want to say is- well, everything should come in a measure. Eating a little bowl of ice cream us fun, eating a huge box and wanting more after is too much and kind of dangerous for sugar levels- just like sharing is. People want to know if you're okay or not okay, but there are some things in our minds that should stay to our eyes only. The first people you should tell stuff to is your family and friends, not people online that won't know every complicated thing about a story and won't be there to go through it and understand it with you.
0 likesWhat I'm saying is- it's good to open up, it really is, but to a certain point and in certain ways. I am happy you made this video and I am happy to know you are trying to keep going โค๏ธ
Hey Dodie โก
0 likesAlright, I'll try to get a structure into this:
1. Kudos to you for making this video. It surely wasn't easy :)
2. I suffer from depression and bpd and anxiety too and sometimes your videos helped me. Especially your "depersonalisation" video because I can send it out when I try to explain depersonalisation.
3. I do too overshare online. As a nobody this isn't so problematic obviously. I reblog dramatic depressed stuff on tumblr on my side blog for half an hour and that will help me get my negativity out.
4. About you: Firstly, don't feel like you should feel embarrassed. You are allowed to mess up. We all do โก Every single day.
5. I don't follow your snapchat and instagram and twitter because yes, sadly I too found many of your posts triggering or "mental illness glorifying". And it was often simple stuff like putting a super aesthetic photo with a long text about feeling miserable or that you often posted positively about drinking (that may have been a while ago). Which I found unfortunate considering the age of your audience.
6. I think it's not bad to need an outlet for your MI thoughts and all that. I just think that if you maybe opened secret accounts and posted there you'd still get some relief but not possibly trigger/lose parts of your audience.
7. I think it's fantastic that you will look for another therapist now! And honestly I look forward to content that is not either music or you having a breakdown, because in the latter case I get worried โก
8. This should NOT mean though, that I want you to become one of those fake-happy youtubers! God no. I liked you best when you were real and a little bit crazy and odd and all of that made you so lovable :)
9. This feels very unstructured anyway and I apologise if it wasn't very helpful. I just wanted to let you know my two cents on the matter.
And please take care and be good to yourself and get professional assistance and do what you think will longterm help you improve and feel better :)
dodie. I doubt you will read this but I really appreciate everything you say and post on sc. I enjoy seeing the background to YouTube because you are a human too !! We have brought you to where you are and you shouldn't feel guilty for relying on us ? In a way idk. I love you with all my heart and care deeply for you. I hope you manage to become happier and in a state where you can eventually be like 'lol remember when ghekdndi' so I really really want you to know that you're appreciated and your Brain is too!! you help me understand that I don't have to be perfect and the people I look up to aren't. because as I already said, we are all human beings just trying be human beings and if you've got a lil bit of depersonalisation clinging on for the ride, idk what I'm saying aH
0 likesTHIS is what a good role model does. Being able to recognise their mistakes and rectify them is an important characteristic.
0 likesAs a relatively older (?? I'm 19) viewer of yours, and fortunate enough to not have suffered mental problems, I can tell you with conviction that your posts have not affected me in a negative way. Rather it opened up my eyes to the world of mental illnesses and that there should be no shame in them. The "darkest of the dark" moments convinced me that mental issues are not to be brushed off or taken lightly; rather they are valid. That being said, I completely understand that lines have to be drawn somewhere and that people who may not have been as fortunate as me might not have needed to see certain things at certain times. It has been very interesting to watch you go through that personal growth and let go on something that, for lack of a better way to put it, has been "part of your brand" for so long. It is a shift in character and the taking on of responsibility has further built my admiration for you. I sincerely hope you do find an answer to your troubles x
0 likesFor those who don't read the description-
0 likesDodie's next video will talk about her journey with mental health so she wanted to say you don't have to watch it x if it's a touchy subject to hear for you then try to avoid it and stay safe โก
proud dodie:) you did good
0 likesI think this will be helpful for you too, if we let mental health issues into all of our interactions then we never get a break from them ourselves - sometimes it can be helpful to have a place to go and do something else and not think about it for a little bit. It would be REALLY good to see you talk about what you learn when you're in therapy e.g. "I'm finding x thing helpful" as that is giving helpful suggestions to others and is inherently hopeful. Well done for being so brave, I know this must really hurt. I'M PROUD OF YOU DODIE - YOU SHOULD FEEL PROUD OF YOURSELF TOO.
0 likesWhen dodie crys I cry โค๏ธ
0 likesDodie we all love you so why else would we be here. But I know how you feel about social media and at the end of the day it is your choice no matter what โค๏ธโค๏ธ we all love you
i honestly ever thought that you were oversharing too much but i really think that you'd feel better with these new boundaries you've set between you and us, the audience. i really hope you feel a lot better dodes. have a great day
0 likesI think the one problem I ever had with you over sharing was you'd never tell us anything about you feeling better, or you having a good day, or any positive things. It made me feel helpless. I wasn't sure what to do with all that information. I was reading what felt like the complete collapse of such a wonderful person and there's just absolutely nothing I could do. I really hope things are improving for you gradually, I don't want you to lie and make things sound better than they are, but if you are ever in an honestly positive state no matter how temporary I'd really like to see more of your gratitude towards those days, just so there's some balance x
0 likesDear Dodie,
0 likesI'm always the listener and almost never the talker. I wish i could let out the way you do and just.. talk. Boundries are very much necessary and i'm very glad you found yours but i want you to know that your posts did speak to me a lot, stated things i wish i could say out loud, the lyrics of your songs talk to me and when i sing them, i feel like i'm letting out, i'm finally talking. Just know the positive side behind your posts and vids and know that you beautiful human being, did help a lot of us too. Thank you for being you. I love you to the moon and back.
Yours,
A small emotinal potato
if you have a need to vent to social media, you could make a seperate private account, so that people who are willing to see it and help can. You'd get the acknowledgement that people have seen it so you feel like youre not alone. you are loved dodie, thank you for everything.
0 likesYou don't have to apologize for any of this. You help a lot of people sharing your experiences of what you're going through. The things you share might not always be as positive, but isn't that how life is? You have helped me a lot throughout this little time I've been following you and I just love how open you are. It's good. I love you, take care x
0 likesI really think the way you share on YouTube is appropriate because it comes with context and I guess you don't go as far (e.g. saying life isn't worth living). The difficulty seems to be more with Instagram and Snapchat, which have less time for you to reflect (and Insta is about creating beautiful images). Please don't completely stop sharing. Share what is helpful to you.
0 likesi had a dream last night that i met u and we had a big old conversation about mental health, that will forever be my dream and ily dodie.... were always here for u no matter what '
0 likesas someone who doesn't have any extreme metal illnesses like depression or depersonalisation, I actually find your videos super interesting. I know people who have the same sort of things and it's hard for them to open up and how in depth you go it can help me understand these sorts of things better and can help other people understand these that don't have depression or anxiety etc. However I think there's always a cut of point of how in depth you can go because your brain is always in a different state when you're in your lowest and highest moments. (Also glad that you now know the depths you can go into) โค๏ธโค๏ธ
0 likesI honestly can't believe you are taking blame for this. I just want you to do what's best for you, but I disagree so so strongly with what most people said.
1 likeReminder: you are not forced to follow anyone. You can stop. And something I feel is never stressed enough: a content creator should not have to change their content for their audience. Their audience should grow because they chose to consume that content.
I hope you are okay dodie. I hope you do not feel ashamed or embarrassed or guilty. Sharing should not be shamed.
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Ralalaize Agree!!!!
0 likesWhile Dodie has definitely helped to clear up stigma of mental health issues by talking openly about it and by turning her thoughts into beautiful works of art that her songs are, this is a step towards the right direction. While experiencing someone's ultimate lows may give you something to relate to, in the end it hurts Dodie and her dearest. My ex had these similar moments when he would just say that no one loves him and the world would be better of without him, and it felt awful to hear that face to face, being there with him and loving him. But imagine finding that on his diary or social media? If I could barely help him face to face, experiencing it "through a wall" would have been unimaginable.
0 likesYour loved ones are your safety net, and you don't want to push them away. You can still talk about it and post it online, but when you are in the moment and feeling sad and need someone to hear you out, call a friend or your therapist and face the moment with them. โค๏ธ
The thing is, YouTubers and online creators, as they, themselves, often say, only share the best parts of their day/ life, so, it can be refreshing to see the worst parts of your day (occasionally), even if it is upsetting to watch. Finding a balance is important, but, that doesn't mean you should refrain from talking about real-life issues because some of your viewers don't want to hear it.
0 likesHonestly I'm not sure that you need to feel bad, you did what you felt was right for you at the time and to be honest that's all we can do in this life.
1 likeHowever, I think the thing that pushed me away from your emotional posts was the repeated idea that people who make art can empathise and that your posts as a self proclaimed "artist" should be some what identifiable to those who wish to/also make "art". I know that this wasn't your intention and though as an older member of your audience I saw through that claim to what I imagine was your intent, I feel that as you mentioned a lot of your audience are much younger than you, at a point in their lives where they're already unsure where they fit in, so hearing messages such as these are not particularly helpful to their development.
I understand that you don't want to glorify mental health and I truly don't believe that's what you've been trying to do, but I think that in talking about this so openly you're starting to understand where it started to go a bit wrong. Talk about your mental health, share your experiences, it will be so helpful to some to know that they're not alone, but just do it from an objective place, we're a faceless void not a trusted friend, don't put anything here without trying your best to remember that you have no control over who sees it.
I'm sorry if this sounds patronising I really don't mean it to be, I've struggled with my own mental health in the past and I feel like we're all learning how much is too much when it comes to sharing, so I just wanted to drop in my 2 centsโค๏ธ
my heart is slowly breaking listening to you talk. You sound so hurt and sad and I just can't. dodie we love you and remember that
0 likesdodie don't be embarrassed, you did what you did to help others & although it went wrong, you tried & that's all you can do!!
0 likesI just want to give her a big hug ๐
0 likesDodie, you shouldn't be blaming yourself, or apologizing! People make mistakes, you thought you were helping and in some cases, yes you were! I'm 13 and when my doctor told me I had depression, I didn't know anyone who understood, I also felt like councelling was embarrassing, but then you showed me that I wasn't alone and I felt less embarrassed about the way my brain was. So yes you did help in many ways for me, I cut my hair short and brought a uke because I wanted to learn your songs and I loved your short hair style videos๐. But for those people you didn't help, they are understanding and although they can't read,watch or listen sometimes, they still love you the same because you are just trying your best to make things better for yourself (because you are your priority remember that!) and your viewers. Love you loads dodie! I couldn't get tickets for your show because i turn 14 in December and your shows are in October but next time!๐ love youuu! Also I just learned sick of loosing soulmates on uke and guitar and I love it so much!๐ถ๐ฝ
1 likeOh my god dodie I just wanna give u a hug, your so cute x
0 likesi have so much respect for you and for how you admit youve fucked up but still learn from it and also share how youve learned from it
0 likesI personally never had a problem with her sharing her problems with us. I think it's good to know that these things can happen, to anyone, and as long as they help Dodie heal I really don't mind reading something or watching something that isn't all happy and glamorous and "perfect". One of the reason why I love Dodie so much is because she is so real, so honest and so down-to-earth. She makes me feel like she's my friend, not just some faceless human being with no personality and flaws. Whatever you decide to do Dodie, I'm sure your audience will always support your decisions.
0 likesI just love it how all of the comments are super long supporting messages and that is so amazingโค๏ธ
0 likesTHANK YOU FOR BEING TRUTHFUL
0 likesPart 1- I think it's brilliant that you talk about mental health and remove the stigma because it takes balls to do that kind of thing. However, I do agree that you need to be aware of what you're sharing and when you're sharing it. Not just because it can be quite unhealthy for you (like the empty calories metaphor) but also I sometimes find it's a thin line between showing others they're not alone and saying there's no hope. I watched other YouTubers, who still talk about their mental health problems very publicly and sometimes quite graphically, and it constantly made me feel like there was little hope for people like me who were struggling with a mental health problem, and essentially it would depress me more so I learnt to stop watching them. I'm in no way saying that mental health illness should be glorified because it's awful and there's no way in going round that, and that definitely should be addressed when talking about mental illness but at the same time I think when talking about that kind of thing you need to make sure you're being constructive and saying nothing extremely triggering as well making sure bit of love is spread
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Part 2- additionally I think that although it's important to say you should be careful about talking so publicly on social media when you're at your very lowest, you should always try (and I know it's bloody hard) to talk about it with someone you trust or just getting it out privately in some way. I stopped talking about my mental health publicly on social media but it ended up in me not talking or getting my feelings out at all, because I felt like I was attention seeking, which obviously wasn't healthy.
0 likesYou're an incredible person dodie and we will all support you and understand when you can't upload or need to take a break from the internet. You're human and you're learning and as long as you're honest and own up to times when you've messed everyone will understand and support you on that. You're a brilliant person for trying to remove the stigma around mental health, and you deserve all the cups of tea and hugs in the world. Lots of love x
Oh Dodie.. Please go and get help.. It's gotten to the point where its uncontrollable, I know, I've been though is recently too. And that's fine, it happens.. We all still love you and want to see you get better..
0 likesGet well Soon. X
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Love ya dude. You do you. :)
0 likesThere is nothing to be sorry about. We always support you. This is your platform. Your place to share your thoughts and feelings.
0 likesAre you kidding!?!? You talking about your depersonalisation made me realise that what I was going through was the same, and now I'm getting help for it. If you hadn't have shared about your mental state my recovery would have been set back by YEARS. I am SOOOO grateful for you sharing your experiences, it taught me everyone has problems and mental health isn't something only I have a problem with, you taught me I am not alone!!!
0 likesproud of you xxx
0 likesI wish wish wish I had dodie as an older sister ๐ฃ๐
0 likesIt helped me to not feel so alone however sometimes it was sad because you were so sad๐
0 likesOkay. I know people are going to disagree with me and probably hate on me for saying this but Dodie, I know that you overshared, I know that some people could have been affected by this, but by oversharing you helped me so much because a few months ago I didn't know what was wrong with me and I felt alone and I thought I wasn't someone who could be helped. After listening and watching you talking about your mental health it showed that my problems are real and I shouldn't just repress them and because of this I had the confidence to reach out to a friend of mine. Now I'm going to clarify, I'm not saying that overcharging is good I just wanted you to see that you did do some good even if it was only someone as small and kinda shit as me. You have helped someone, so thankyou so, so much. โค
0 likesdodie, don't be sorry.
0 likesYou've learnt, still share but break it down. make it simple. obviously, yes make it appropriate.
You haven't done anything bad, like you've learnt something here.
I'm glad you've been talking about mental health though.
yea. boundaries.
I'm so happy you've possibly found a therapist.
you're doing great, this is a big step. keep moving forward, no matter how big the steps. keep moving forward.
See..when I listen to her Snapchat stories or her videos I..I don't know how to explain this..I think they help me but at the same time I'm listening to dodie being super unhappy ughhh Idk โค๏ธ
0 likesi just love you too much! are you going to talk about your book a bit more in depth soon? <3
0 likesdodie there's no need to feel sorry, please don't be sad about all of this you're so strong and i love you so so much you're so strong, and honestly i didn't even see anything wrong with what you're doing, i found them helpful and have lead me to find help, so thank you, and please don't apologise, you're not glorifying mental illness dodie! you've taught me so so much about awareness and empathy for others and before i found you i didn't even know what depersonalisation wasโค๏ธso thank you, and you're very strong for doing this๐ธ
0 likesI love you dodie x
0 likesoh dodie! you shouldn't feel that sorry:((( sure it may not be the best way but if there are things you really want to express then go ahead and do so. you haven't messed up that much and it's alright. hope you're feeling better:///
0 likesLove you Dodie Xxx
0 likesI wouldn't have realized I had depression if you hadn't talked openly about yours.
0 likesIt's okay. We all make mistakes. We forgive you.
0 likesWe love you dodes ๐
0 likesSo damn proud dodie
0 likesI don't think you need to apologise for oversharing. It's your brain it can't be helped. You haven't done anything wrong. If anything your graphic tweets/insta posts/snapchats are actually refreshing for me, they make me feel like I'm not alone. It's not a "trigger" it's the opposite, I watch/read what you post and it makes me happy knowing that recovering from a mental illness is hard and that it's "not in my head" (lol). It's also a difficult thing to be open up to people and share your mental health issues, let alone an online audience.
0 likesWhen you made the video saying you were oversharing I was like "what?when?". However I do see how it could look to a young audience who haven't ever experienced these things. I think someone who shares as much as you do is important for breaking down that stigma and saying, "hey I'm a real person with real problems and poor mental health is a real problem". Idk maybe put a trigger warning on insta or snapchat so that younger audiences (or any age audience) don't have to read or watch it.
You've helped me a lot to come to terms with my mental illness, and I don't want to have to watch you pretend to be happy (or not post at all and make us all worry about you). Ups and downs are part of life and with mental illness sometimes that down can be intense, so yeah maybe stick with a trigger warning and don't apologise.
Sorry for the essay, just want you to know it's not something else you need to worry about on top of your illness (if you read this, or for anyone reading this for that matter). Keep unapologetically being you โค๏ธ
DODIE I WANT TO GIVE YOU A BIG OLD HUG โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
0 likesI just wanted to say that a good coping mechanism is turning off all electronicย devices and just writing it all down in a diary instead of social mediaย as you can read it when its over and just find the things you need to focus onย when its happening, or just watch ASMR
0 likesDorothy Clark, you are loved and are allowed to make mistakes.
0 likesPlease don't be embarrassed and I don't think you're glorifying anything. Maybe just a bit to much detail. If your audience knows you're mentally ill but you never go in depth about how it feels then they might think they are coping poorly or being to emotional with their own mental health. Idk of that makes sense but yeah. Sending you all my loveee โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
1 likeI am so so proud of you and I love you so much
0 likesI think of "depression brain" as another presence that lies and wants to hurt you. And when you're at the bottom your depression brain is the one speaking. It's valuable for people, I think, to see that the depression brain spews a lot of untrue things. Your audience knows that you are a wonderful light so your worst thoughts aren't real. I think a real framing of those posts, through the lens of your "normal brain", could be a great benefit. Keep tripping on.
0 likesI know it hurts to think you've made a mistake or done wrong by people or hurt them unintentionally. But you're incredibly wise for having realised it and for apologising for it. Even really dark and painful thoughts can be made into something valuable and beautiful. I've read and seen some extremely confronting plays and songs about mental illness. And they're hard to engage with, but they're also important works because they create insight and empathy. Sharing is ok, and is great, but it's all about context. I hope you can move forward and find healthier and more constructive ways to share, and I think you will. You have so much to give and the power to make the world a more beautiful place. That seems like an odd thing to say seeing as we've never met, but it rings true. โค๏ธ
0 likesI think that your videos have been helpful on mental illness but if your not fully comfortable sharing then don't share.
0 likesI think this is the most mature response possible. People will appreciate it
0 likesSee... This is such bullshit to me. First, lemme introduce myself. I'm turning 20 in some few weeks, I've been severely depressed and suicidal for a large portion of my life, and was diagnosed with PTSD last year. I also developed an eating disorder when I was in middle school, and I weighed 95lbs in my freshman year of highschool. I was addicted to the pro-ana tag on Tumblr and alllll the bad tags on Instagram. Now that y'all know who I am, allow me to say how I feel about this: This is so fucking wrong. The issue I have with this is I feel it is unnecessary self censorship. Nobody should have to stop doing something they want to do because it might upset someone else. Purposely showing someone something upsetting, forcing them to look at it, is fucked up. But everyone has a choice when it comes to what they view on social media. They choose to read captions on instagram and watch Snapchat stories. No one is obligated to baby anybody else. No one is forcing anyone to finish your in-depth, "possibly triggering" Instagram posts. You are not responsible for other people's actions. I learned this when my ex-girlfriend attempted suicide because she was upset by the things I put on my personal, private Instagram. She found it on my phone, made an account with a fake name, followed me for months, and then tried to kill herself. It took over a year to get it through my head that it was not my fault. If you're older than 4 or 5, you know right from wrong. You know what you should and shouldn't do. It is no one's responsibility to tiptoe around you, so they don't upset you. If you're mentally ill, and you purposely look at things you know are triggering, then that speaks even further about the severity of your illness. If you are that ill, you need help or you will die. Do not follow down that path. Mental illness is very serious, but for the ill, it is part of us. The real world will not cater to our sickness, and we shouldn't expect it to. Some things are not intended for all audiences, and that's okay. But when you get pissy with someone because you don't like what they post, or it upsets you, you need to stop. When we talk about having self confidence, and wearing certain clothes even though others may judge us, why is the phrase "Don't like it, then don't look" tossed around? If that's valid in that situation, why not here?
0 likesNothing to be sorry for like the rest of us your doing the best you can.
0 likesHey can you try to cover blackbird by the beatles with a ukulele?
0 likesI have a tumblr account I use just to vent, it has no followers and I hope it never does but it satisfies the need to share things online without the potential to upset my friends and family, I find it helps a lot and typing it is a lot less time consuming and more therapeutic to me than physically writing it down on paper. Maybe this could work for someome else!
0 likesI dont really have an opinion on what you post social media wise. All i do know is that when you post at your low points I want to be able to reach out and try to comfort you and give you tips that help me that may (or may not) help you, but I can't respond to you on snapchat, my comment would be washed away in the sea of others supporting you (which is absolutely amazing to see the amount of support you have) and maybe its just me but i feel like my comment is a shot in the dark (much like this one). But just so you know: I care, dodie.
0 likesThis was so refreshing
0 likeslove u dodie! <3
0 likesDon't worry about having to go to many different doctors and therapists before finding the right person to help you. I have been to so many different ones. It depends so much on your personality and their way of dealing with their patients. It's about your mental health, so you and that person somehow have to "click"... I wish you the best of luck <3
0 likesI love you so much dodie
0 likesWrite it in a diary and give it to your friends and loved ones, stop looking for the adulation of strangers
0 likesIt's okay Dodie,you are learning,but don't stop posting your depression,anxiety,sadness,etc. on social media completely,it helps many people,especially your young audience(me too),your videos and sharing do help me a lot and do help people,so please don't stop sharing it.You don't need to share too much everything if you don't want to but don't stop,when you share it we know what's "behind camera"I mean on your real feelings,but if you start treating usย like your cute little sister completelyย we won't know how do you actually feel(maybe you don't want us to actually know,but at least don't stop, share sometimes, it helps thousands of people).It helps us a lot,responses to your posts are good,everyone tries to cheer you up,it's okay to share it(for me at least),but it's your choose.Do whatever you want,it's your life,live it,fully :),love you Dodie <3
0 likesyou go girl
0 likesDodie is just the cutest
0 likesWe love youโค๏ธ
0 likesU are the cutest person in the world and u are a human being its ok if u did a fault โค why dont you take a lil break from media ๐๐
0 likesDear dodie
0 likesAt first I didn't really understand I didn't get why people over shared but I get it now as someone with a mental disability (learning disability) you often get people who don't understand even drs because it's not happen to them and they can't see it happen to you so you feel the need to tell them no this is a real thing that effects my everyday life but that could totally get out of hand and lead to oversharing ok I am just rambling but pleas keep spreading awareness of mental health issues because some one has to just find a healthy balance virtual hug
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0 likesDodie I love you
0 likesyou are a beautiful human being
0 likesthe only thing that i want to do right now is hug you and say how much you mean to me
0 likesThat's ok โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธwe love you โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
1 likeplease remember that i love you amd you are loved my thousands and thousands and a thousaaaands more
0 likesGenuinely love u so much
0 likesTo be honest the sharing made me turn of your social media accounts. Not that it matters, I totally think you are free to share whatever you want but the extreme highs and extreme lows were so weird and difficult for me to see. I barely know you, you don't know me and sharing with my closest friends is difficult to me. You sharing so much made me uncomfortable at times and was sometimes even triggering for my own mental issues. That said, I simply 'unfollowed' you and that was that. I barely saw it anymore and it didn't bother me. (still followed your music and youtube though) I feel like that whatever you share is yours to share. Do what feels good to you, don't apologize because you don't need to. If I don't like it, I will unfollow and the people who don't mind are there to follow and help you. Anyway, I think you are amazing, an amazing artist and I really hope you'll find whatever works for you. If that is social media that's fine, if that's a therapist and a journal, also fine!
0 likesI'm not going to lie, but we suffer with the same stuff and I'm 13 - what does that say about you. I'm not against you, as you really can be helpful sometimes, but you have to stop posting stuff, such as that video with Hazel, because that video sounded like a conversation that you would have over a bottle of wine and some pizza. Your Instagram posts are ok to post every now and again but not everyday, keep it between you; your journal and Hazel (perhaps some other friends too but you get the point). I adore your content but keep it happy, because (not to sound like an ass) younger people what these videos and it can really upset them, maybe only post this content on a separate account, because this can only help people like me - not the people who signed up for cheery Dodie. This content can be helpful - but not for everyone. Please don't take this as offence, but consider everyone and not just yourself: even though we have depression (ect) it doesn't make it ok to pull everyone else down with you. We love you, but you need to learn to loveyourself! <3 <3 <3
0 likesyoure wonderful
0 likesThis this this.
0 likesThis was very good. Very good video.
I ate like three bagels thank you
0 likesoh honey, good for you <3
0 likesRage post incoming...
0 likesWhat the hell is wrong with you people chiding her for "oversharing" and saying she's made a mistake? She is a person, a human being, who has problems and when she is feeling down she shares the way she is feeling in an effort to reach out for support or understanding. By telling her that you don't want to hear her problems, you are basically saying that you don't actually care about how she as a person is, only that you care about what content or entertainment she can provide for you. Stop putting her up on a pedestal and treating her like she isn't a person. All you damn fan bases do this and it's infuriating.
And she may have a young and impressionable audience, but if they have problems too, why aren't they turning to friends, family, school counselors? Why are they turning to a random person on YouTube that they don't know and have most likely created a romanticized version of in their head? Also, last I checked this is her channel, her Instagram is her own, her Snapchat is hers, etc. and she can put whatever content on them that she pleases.
Also, before anyone tells me, "I don't understand", I do. I suffer from horrible depression and anxiety and have for a long time. I have been in those dark places that you are not sure you'll ever be able to crawl out of. When I see Dodie's content though, it doesn't make me sad, it instead makes me angry at some of the comments I see. Many of you should be ashamed for not just letting the girl feel and live.
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I think there's something to be said about holding oneself responsible for the way which information that is (potentially) deeply triggering is shared and specifically who you are sharing, too. I don't think anyone is saying that potentially triggering material/the realities of living with mental illness shouldn't be shared, but that if it's going to be going to out to reach such a massive audience and also a massive audience of young people, I think you have an obligation to curate what you put out a little more. With a subject matter like mental illness, I think people should know what they're getting into when they... get into it. That's why trigger/content warnings are so important.
0 likesAlso, different mediums are good for different things. Video can be an excellent way of talking about mental health, but that doesn't mean that all videos about mental health are healthy and liberating for creator and/or audience. With something like snapchat, which is hard to provide trigger warnings for, and that are so instant and off-the-hook, you are much more likely to put something out into the world quickly and without reflecting on it. That can lead to you saying things that you don't really mean, or that are greatly heightened by the intense emotion that you are feeling, which can be alarming, especially when you don't even know who you are reaching with your snaps.
I think raw outpourings of emotion, that are not otherwise scripted/edited/sent around to sensitivity viewers or readers/not properly labelled/published on the internet without in depth consideration of who is going to be seeing are a little irresponsible. That's not to say that I think this is a grievous offense. I think dodie is honestly so lovely and earnest and genuine, but still, not above learning new things. I think that there are objectively healthier alternatives for getting out intense, in-the-moment emotions such as diary entries, filming something and then deleting the footage or keeping a personal video diary, or talking with a friend/therapist, etc. While I don't in any way mean to associate anything dodie has done with this phenomenon, I don't think we can have this conversation while ignoring the fact that suicide/drug abuse/unhealthy coping mechanisms being shown or even saturating the media as they often do when a related event is propelled into the news, can and have had real-life consequences. The fact of that matter is that as much as we'd like to believe that just sharing our real and raw emotions on social media can only be good and bring ppl together, or that self-censorship can only be bad... it's simply more complicated than that.
Can you please walk around at sitc coz I'm not meeting you and I really wanna give you a hug โคโค
0 likesTrigger warning โ ๏ธ
0 likesPlease don't read if you're harmed by sad shit or self harm...
Dodie, thank you. You and your channel means so much to me.... honestly. I had one day where I just felt empty. I had no feelings. I was emotionally drained. It scared me so much. But, I got through it. However.... quite recently I could not stop the voices or the thoughts. Not at all. I tried so hard. But I just got tired of it all. I got tired of trying and I ended up relapsing and self harming again. I hate myself for it. I know it was stupid. But.... I was fed up of my mental health scaring me so much and getting me down. Now, I have depression and anxiety. The anxiety isn't as bad as the depression. But they both gang up on me at my weakest point. Always early hours in the morning. Yes, my boyfriend and best friends are there to help..... but..... I don't want them to help because of how scared i get, it makes me push people away. I hate it. I need help. However, I tell myself it won't work as I've tried so many therapists and counselling. They don't work. They work whilst I'm doing them but when the sessions end.... I'm back in a loop again. I'm just fed up and I know this sounds like a shit story but, just know that you help me through so much. You really do. So thank you! Keep doing what you're doing. I hope I get to meet you sometime. Love from Lauryn~
you're brave xoxoo
0 likesDon't change yourself too much for critics. They can easily unsubscribe
0 likesDODIE FOUND THE LINE!
0 likesgah! love you doddiieeee!
0 likesVery good video!
0 likesOh dodie i love you so much i don't even know what to say UH
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0 likes"IT'S WELL SHIT"
0 likesThank you dodie clark.
0 likesaw Dodie its okay ^-^
0 likesOk I don't know if you'd be allowed, but my Nana has depression and her doctor told her to get a pet. It gives you something to live for and look after and a purpose. She's getting a cat, but if you're not allowed something like that you could get a hamster or something.
0 likesThis is so sad Dodie. We all love you no matter what and completely understand. This is amazing personal growth and I, and all your audience, are so so proud of you
2 likesThis is melting my heart. I love you so much Dodie, you're doing great. I don't really understand mental health issues as I'm young and I don't have any, but I do understand that you're struggling. Stay strong. That's all I can say. We'll all stay strong for you Dodie โฅ๏ธ
1 likeI'm so proud of you for uploading this after having done this for so long. It feels a bit like a wake up call. I hope your new therapist helps you get into a better mental state and helps you be as happy as you possibly can because that's what you deserve. We love you dodie ๐
0 likesThey help us too we love you a lot โค๐ don't worry you not alone you have us and ignore the haters they don't mean anything to you love you a lot dodie can not wait to meet you in Australia vidcon ~ these videos and snapchats help me xx you didn't mess up ๐๐
2 likesWe love you so much Dodie! Its okay to share what you want, and we appreciate what you do share with us. You are such a inspiration. ๐
0 likesIt is ok to mess up sometimes :) as your audience we love you to pieces and personal growth is just a very human inevitability :) <3 thankful to have you in our lives Dodie!
0 likesSo so proud of your growth, and so thankful for you x we love you Dodie, and this sort of growth is hard, so well done x
0 likesHey, Dodie! I'm glad you feel like you've understood yourself and your relationship with social media a bit better. Don't be too hard on yourself, though! We're all just human. <3
0 likesI am so proud of you for handling this like you did. You are an inspiration to others dealing with mental health issues. I love you Dodie ๐
0 likesI'm proud of you Dodie ๐โค๏ธ Nothing lasts forever, therefore you are going to get better ๐ป
0 likesDodie I'm so proud of you for doing this, very mature. I know this was hard and I agree with everything you say. Thank you and well done ๐
0 likesThanks for this Dodie :) it's incredible mature to take this on and listen to your audience!!
0 likesThis video was painful to watch, and my heart broke when your voice did. I wish I could say that you haven't done anything you think you've done wrong; but I can't. Just because I wasn't affected the way some of your audience was, doesn't mean that your actions did not have the impact it did. What I can do is stay and support you, and that is something I will proudly continue to do. You really inspire and encourage and create and I hope that's something you will never stop doing. We love you, dodie. โฅ๏ธ
0 likes<3 thank you for being so open. despite what may have been too much or oversharing, knowing we're a little less alone in the world is super hopeful. so thankful for everything you do and everything you stand for.
0 likesThis video made me cry, in time things will brighten up, love you dodie <3
0 likesI'm so with you now! I'm so glad you've made these couple of videos and so glad you're coming to this conclusion without misunderstanding what people are saying! <3 Romanticisation was the thing I worried was happening, not because of you, but because young people can get things skewed, especially in a climate that already glorifies it. I'm just so glad you know because it means I can come back to your vids again!
0 likesDear Dodie,
0 likesI'm proud of you <3 Realizing something is the first step. But doing something with it comes next and it might be the hardest. I think it's smart of you to take a step back or atleast filter more what you're posting. I hope you are stay happy with your own content. And don't be too sorry, everyone makes mistakes and that's okay as long as we learn from them.
Lots of love
Honestly I was really happy to watch your videos and how you explain how you felt and how it made me feel like I wasn't alone. Thanks to your videos I realized that I'm not insane and that I have depersonalization disorder as well. I'm glad that you're establishing your boundaries now but don't beat yourself up too much over everything.
0 likesMy therapist once said to me: " growing up means becoming guilty" I guess that's a truth spoken out easily. Wish you all the best Dodie ๐
0 likesDodie, you are so brace to post this video. I'm so proud of you. I have been watching for years and I love you so much. I hope that you feel better. It's ok, we understand. Everyone makes mistakes.
0 likesThis is such an amazing thing too see. You're growing as a person. You are starting to see what you can share and what should remain private. But please never apologise for your mental health.... please don't. I love you โค๏ธ๐ค
0 likesDodie, I just want to say that you've handled this beautifully. It's really hard coming to such a tough realisation about what you've been doing- I know when I realise I've done something I regret I get super defensive and upset, but you've taken it really maturely and I'm really glad you're getting a new therapist and that although there may be less of your struggles online, that doesn't mean you don't have a way to deal with them. You're doing amazing. Thank you :)
0 likesI love you Dodie! You're a total inspiration!!
0 likesI'm so proud to be your follower cause you are growing up so much and I love that you stand up for mental health, and you recognize the mistakes and wanted to talk with us about it!
0 likesAww Dodie I am so proud of you for even trying to make an apology. And it just shows that sometimes we do make mistakes and that's ok. And it is nice to know that you had the strength and courage to apologise to some people even in the state that you are in. And even though I do not experience what you have, I find it interesting and I like to listen to you about your issues and it makes me love you more as no one is perfect x
0 likesSooo glad that you decided to make this video. This just shows how mature and responsible you are. So thankful to have you as a role model.
0 likesPromoting self care rather than promoting depression. You're awesome ๐ please don't feel bad about what you've shared in the past. You're on a journey, and this is a very positive step โค๏ธโค๏ธ
0 likesI'm so glad you said this, thank you. It started to feel like we were your therapists rather than your fans. Want to be there for u always but it just isn't healthy and it means a lot that u realized it xoxo
0 likesI love you so so much this is perfect ๐ Your posts have helped me SO MUCH but you're totally right. You can write the posts but save publishing them until you can incorporate them into something healthier and more helpful - to you and others. I can definitely relate to this; it's so hard to know what to do with mental illness and social media and not knowing how or when to share, especially when in an irrational and scared state.
0 likesI respect you so so much for making this video AS WELL AS the posts. I'm so sorry they triggered some people and for those who couldn't read them (I had to find a positive post of yours afterwards to remind myself we'll be ok!) but it wasn't a full mistake. You were and are brave and helped and will continue to help so many. This is a huge step and helpful for everyone to see. It's so important to understand what and why you're doing something and admitting when you've not been good to yourself and others. It's not black and white and you're so brave for posting in the first place and with good intentions (and outcomes a lot of the time) and for analysing and listening to difficult criticism and then apologising.
Thank you for all you do and I hope your new therapist helps and you find writing your book helpful too. So much love ๐
Proud of you dodie,โค๏ธ I'll admit I've been one of the people who has had to step back from reading and watching your posts because I found it a bit hard and I was worrying that it wasn't healthy for you but I'm glad you've recognised it now and I hope the therapist works!! Xxx
0 likesthis is relatable. when my depression first settled in, I definitely discussed it openly on social media, because I felt like if I myself didn't tackle the task of telling people what was wrong with me, they'd get to questioning, and I'd be triggered somehow and get even worse. Like I used it to explain myself. Looking back on it, I see it was ridiculous of me to feel like I owed people an explanation.
0 likesAlthough I was never personally triggered by your videos. Wow. Thank you so much for saying sorry and recognizing the impact you can make. Not everyone is humble and strong enough to do that. I love you. We love you. And look forward to your future videos and endeavors <3
0 likesNever have I seen a youtuber dealing with mistakes with such dignity and honesty. Thank you for this dodie !
0 likesThis is such a mature way of dealing with this stuff. I'm v v proud and happy you're finding a new step towards dealing with your illness.
0 likesWell done Dodie, I like listening to your life but I do feel like this is the right decision. Please keep us updated on social media. I look forward to reading your book and hope to see you perform in the near future. I send my love <3
0 likesI understand it has been difficult for you recently when finding the boundary between what should stay personal and what should be shared online, and yes, you may have shared things that were a little too graphic, but please don't beat yourself up about it. It's done now, and the best thing you could have done was notice the problem, make a change and move on, which is exactly what you're doing. It's incredibly kind of you to acknowledge the discomfort of some of your audience and to try to make a change. Thank you dodie, you're amazing :)
0 likesThank you for being your usual lovely amazing self well dealing with such a difficult issue. please don't let yourself get too upset or guilty about this, or about any mistake; we're humans, we make mistakes, but as a youtuber your mistakes are publicised for all to see. Naturally, people will pick up on any mistakes, and people can be horrible, but i hope some of the hard to read comments will make you stronger. xxxx
0 likes"Poetry is emotion, recollected in tranquility." - William Wordsworth
0 likesdodie, i think this whole experience is so, so telling of your growth, maturity and willingness to change and be better. thank you for so readily admitting that you've messed up, despite the embarrassment, instead of just defending your actions. i (and countless others!) love and appreciate you and your transparency. best of luck with this next therapist!!!! i'm rooting for you!!!! ๐๐๐
0 likeshello dodie, you lovely little flower! thank you for all that you do, you're wonderful and talented, i love you. good luck on your journey to becoming a better version of yourself- i know you can do it!
0 likesThank you, Dodie. Thank you for opening this discussion and taking the comments from your previous video on board. Thank you for realising your mistakes and dealing with them in a mature and subjective manner.
0 likesI have loved you for a long time and it's good to know I won't have to avoid your social media anymore. I'm really happy for you and I hope your new therapist is helpful. Good luck, Dodie. xx
I'm very proud of you Dodie for being so mature and handling yourself in such a mature way. Xx
0 likesI'm still proud of you Dodie, it is still so difficult dealing with mental health. It's very easy to get into a cycle, particularly when you find something which gives you a moment of relief even for a moment. You should not feel bad for that, just learn, which you have. It's a journey always, and we will be here to support you. I'm off to drink my Peppermint tea, and watch younger because self care is everything!
0 likesDodie, I am so glad that you are doing this. Sometimes I benefitted from you talking about your mental health but other times it made me think about my own brain after I was ignoring my dpd. I hope that the therapist works out for you and I'm coming to see you perform in october! Stay strong dodie<3
0 likesI'm so incredibly proud of you for this, there are very few people who would have the strength to so deeply look at their flaws and mistakes and then let other people discuss them. We all make stupid decisions online as non of us truly know how to handle it, but the way your handling this makes me see how strong you are. You should see it too :) xx
0 likesI'm so proud of you.
0 likesAs much as you ARE open on social media - I think this is maybe the gutsiest thing I've ever seen you do. โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
Seeing you cry is so heartbreaking, ahh! You know, some people have issues with undersharing. Others with oversharing. And it's all okay! Everyone makes mistakes, and this is not even an ENORMOUS mistake. It's just a mishap and you didn't know, and you can change it. You handled this in the most mature way imaginable. We love you so much Dodie โค๏ธ
0 likesReally glad to hear you'll be holding off on things a little more now! I've been staying away from your insta posts a lot lately not because they're triggering, but just because reading them felt too personal and invasive, even though you're the one that shared them. They did read too much like a private diary. I really hope this new therapist is brilliant and I'm really looking forward to seeing what you'll be putting out there from now on <3
0 likesI personally love hearing you talk about struggles because it makes me feel less alone. But I guess that's just me.
0 likesYou're really strong and also still really young and you're still learning and figuring things out I'm so proud of you
0 likesThank you Dodie for being so honest. I love that you talk about your mistakes and it makes you even more wonderful because you are famous but still a human. Yeah sounds a bit weird but many famous people seem to have a perfect life and post it on social media and in my opinion that's why especially young people get mental issues. So although you made a mistake you are wonderful and helpful because you don't pretend to have a perfect life. <3
0 likesHey, I think this was a really great video and you handled a potentially volatile situation with extreme grace.
0 likesPersonally, because I've been in a similar place as you, I never found your content too confronting or too dark, it was comforting to know somebody else was going through it. I could certainly see that it wasn't for everyone though, so I think this is a healthy step.
Just wanted to let you know that you were doing SOME of that good you intended. You're wonderful <3
I think this is such a good way of dealing with this, making it into art. I personally have seen little problems with what you've been sharing, but that may be because I have dealt with derealisation in the past and so I have been exposed to it first-hand, meaning that I find your snapchats and instagrams less alarming (if that's even the right word?) Also, just on a side note, I do not experience DR nearly as much as I used to- it is vitrually gone! This just proves that it IS possible to recover your brain from this, just keep going and doing what you're doing Dodie โก
0 likeshey dodie,
0 likesthis was really mature and im proud of you for making this. im happy that you realised what was wrong with what you were doing.
i feel like my comment was one that was probably hard to hear, and i want to let you know that watching this video actually made me want to be part of your community again. im glad that you don't want mental health to be part of how you're seen - like I said in my comment, I felt like it had unintentionally become part of your branding. im glad you're taking steps to fix that and I do genuinely believe this will help you as much as it helps your audience.
-hannah xx
Dear Dodie, I see the responses to this video and the last and I know how hard it must be to hear. It even makes me squirm and just makes me so sad because I don't know how I would cope with responses like that. I really understand how posts and writing help and make you feel less alone, especially when you're feeling so alone. I know how much it hurts to receive any kind of criticism when you're so unstable/breakable. It makes you feel so trapped and so scared of doing anything wrong, which makes everything worse. And it sucks to be told to go to a therapist or to friends, or to write a journal when you're feeling so awful and everyone is treating it so clinically, like that will make it all better. I know you won't see this but i hope you are okay and I really really understand, and the responses from people feel like blows to the stomach even to me. Love you and your videos and don't worry and don't go crazy overthinking this. It's okay. ๐
0 likesdodie, we're all proud of you and how mature you are. you're human, you make mistakes and you learn from it all. you're so close with your audience and we all have a mutual love and understanding. we appreciate you dodie <3 and we're always here with you
0 likesAw Dodie. I'm sorry you're sad about this. I have loved all of your posts, and have never felt like you share too much. As someone struggling with these disorders as well, it feels nice to see you speaking about it, like we're in the fight together. Every Snapchat and instagram has made me feel understood and related to. I hope you are finding the balance that is right for you, but I hope you know that there are many viewers out there who have connected to and truly truly appreciated hearing your thoughts, even the darkest ones. I value your influence on the internet and on the world. Thank you.
0 likesAw seeing dodie so sad is heart breaking, I hope you can fight this and stay strong!
0 likesI appreciate this so much! Thank you and I love you x
0 likeswe are so proud of you dodie, your fans are here for you, always xx
0 likesI actually love your videos, I enjoy watching your videos about mental health because it reminds me that I'm not alone, I really hope you get better and find happiness in yourself ๐
0 likeshonestly though it's very mature and responsible that you've recognised and issue and have seeked out ways to resolve it, i've recently started watching your videos and therefore i haven't seen much about your mental health, however watching both of your videos i feel like it's made me respect you even more
0 likesDodie, I think you are wonderful. So strong and so brave and I really really hope that when you do get low, you don't start thinking of this and making yourself feel bad for making a mistake. You are still young and you are allowed to make mistakes, especially when those mistakes were attempts to help yourself and others. Please remember that learning something is not a bad thing and that you are not a bad person for trying to help yourself and others. I know everyone is different but in my experience with anxiety and depression, I know if I were you, I would probably return to this and over think it, making myself feel worse and I just wanted to give you some important things to remember if you were to do that. I hope your next therapist works for you! I know how you feel, I'm also waiting on my 5th therapist but we can't lose hope that this one will work.
0 likesThank you for sharing your experiences, I have never once thought you glamourised mental health issues. It is really difficult to know what to say and what not to say to both avoid oversharing and glamourising so pleaseeeee do not feel bad for trying to do good.
Good luck for the future, I'm sure this hard time will pass soonโค
I am very much like you when it comes to dealing with mental problems online, and I want to thank you for making this and that other video about it. I think it is very important that we are clear in the mind when sharing something hard, and not be unstable. And good for you on the therapy! I went to therapy for a couple of years and I freaking LOVED IT! It really can be wonderful and I wish you all the best with it <3 :-)
0 likesProud of you dodie and just know that I we know you ment no harm and your intentions were good even when you crossed the line. It's so good to see you being so welcome to opinions that were difficult for you to read. Someone else could have been defensive about it but you are willing to try to help yourself and others in a healthier way and that's wonderful. It's honestly so inspiring to see how you keep trying to get better (I have given up many times). Good luck with everything much love !xx๐
0 likesThis is really brave of you and I think you handled it really well :)
0 likesDodie, the videos you have posted on YouTube is fine. They are all beautiful, well thought out, and honest so please don't feel bad about them.
0 likesSnapchat was the real issue with oversharing and it was just too much.
dodie, I love you and I want to thank you so much for doing veda despite your poor mental health. I appreciate that so much. Just get through, you will be fixed.
0 likesJust to be clear you've never glorified it in terms of making it sound like anything other than something you want to get over, but it is good to recognize young impressionable audiences who may not understand fully. I hope you don't feel too badly or let it weigh on you, you were a huge help in me starting to heal from my mental health issues and learning to open up about them (which was a hue part of it), so thank you :)
0 likesI feel like something you could do is, record a video talking about how you're feeling but keep it to yourself so you can still have that outlet but without sharing it online.
0 likesPersonally when reading/watching your posts it has made me feel less alone in everything to do with my mental health but I understand why some people would find it over bearing. I have a private Tumblr in which I pour my heart out but only I can see it so it is like an online diary I guess...
Stay strong Dods, you have a loving and caring audience as well as so many friends and family that love and support you! It will get better but there will be ups and downs but that is part of recovery..i only wish there was more I could do but my words on here are all I have. Much love x
Personally I find your videos helpful for my mental illness as it makes me feel less alone and less mad however people handle mental illness in different ways and if your videos are triggering for some people I want your videos to be comfortable for you and all areas of your audience
0 likesI'm so proud of u babe ! Love u lots โคโคโค know that u have our support at all times and that it's okay to make mistakes !
0 likesdodie, you are such a lovely person. i love that you care for your audience so so much and i love that you always try to do the right thing. we make mistakes and that is just what happens in life. so please PLEASE don't feel bad for too long. x
0 likesThat must've been hard for you to admit, i admire that you did that. I send you Lots of love and strengh. Hold on Doddie :)
0 likesDear Dodie, I honestly love you so so much more than i could ever put in to word i don't think you'd even know if i tried to explain. Seeing you like this breaks my heart but i had to take a step back not necessarily for myself but because holy shit it broke me to see you in this way even made me feel incredibly down. I don't want you to feel embarrassed. I love you endlessly. โค๏ธ
0 likesPs. If its any consolation it helped in a sense that despite your YouTube fame you were also human and you still feel things like us. Idk if that make sense. Feel better, love๐น
this was a great follow up video. I think until I watched that video you made with Hazel it never really occurred to me why exactly I stopped watching your snapchat and reading your instagram captions. It was never clear that I was a tiny bit almost about to be triggered and I'm glad that I just subconciously stepped back from that. I'm still a huge supporter of you and I still love your videos though!! I think is great that you realised that oversharing can be a triggering to some and that youre taking the step to move on from sharing that extremely personal and taking that step to be more open to those that know your personally (your friends and such). Now..to end the longest comment I've ever written on any youtube video ever, I hope you (and Hazel too) get mentally stable soon and I can't wait for more healthier content from you!! Sending you all my love!!
0 likesI'm really proud of you Dodie. It takes a lot to own up and admit you did something wrong. I know lots of people would have reacted with anger and defensiveness. That fact that you were upset and obviously cared about what the impact it was having really shows how much you're willing to grow. As someone your age, I'm super impressed and inspired by this.
0 likesIM SO PROUD OF YOUUUUU
0 likesI literally stopped watching your videos a few months ago because I did feel like your mental health was becoming your "brand" but I was so happy when I saw your video with Hazel and now this one. You've grown so much Dodie and I'm really happy that you have recognised what was happening and are making a change for you. Love u dodes ๐
0 likesYou didn't mess up Dodie. We all cope as best we can. You've done incredibly well. You're not glorifying anything, in my opinion. Your strength is an inspiration.
0 likesHi Dodie
0 likesI'm your sister's age and I like these videos because it's something that I really relate to. It's the main reason why I love your videos. I know it isn't healthy for you to share this much but these do help some people. Also I will be at summer in the city and will be there on Sunday
I think this decision is very healthy for you. Boundaries are important!! I actually had to stop watching your sc's for a while because I just couldn't handle them... But I'm so glad you'll help and nurture yourself in a healthy way now. Ilysm Dodie, keep swimming ๐
0 likesAdmitting that you were indeed doing something wrong and learning from it is so mature and strong of you to do, especially since being open with your audience and sharing this stuff has been a big part of your "brand". Now it's time to not slip back into old behaviors and move forward, and I know that you are more than capable of doing so. God bless Dodes, I really hope you are able to one day find peace through the madness, Love you loads!
0 likesDo what ever you want to do Dodie. You help me, and you might help otherS. It's up to you to decide if you don't want to do it. I have to share a lot too to process. If people need to stop reading and seeing your content, that's their problem. You aren't in charge of what they do. Do you!
0 likesDodie you are not alone. We love you. โค๏ธ
0 likesPROUD OF YOU DODES LOVE YOU
0 likesDodie don't feel sorry. You learned a lot from your mistakes and so did we (I).
0 likesWe (I) won't love you less, remember that <3
Thank you for apologizing to your audience. A lot of other people have shared the same thoughts as me already so I'll just say that - as embarrassed as you might feel about this whole thing, coming out with a video like this also models the kind of self-awareness that even many adults lack, especially when it comes to how we conduct ourselves online! So thank you also for sharing this part of your journey <3
0 likesdodie, I have sent you an insta message (slytherita64 ๐๐) about the vid with Hazel, and I am so so so proud of you for this. For an up and coming youtuber (ech), more and more people have their eyes on you everyday, to make a video like this, it's honestly applaud worthy. For once! A YouTuber owning up to their mistakes and acknowledging that they had fucked up and might not be the perfect human being! wOw!
0 likesI'm so glad that I have stuck with you and grown with you. You really have helped people like me who have struggled with brain shit in the past. Thank you for being so brave dodie. I love you so much.
Dodie I think treating us like your wee sister is a good idea. It's good to know when you're not doing okay and it does make us feel like we're not alone, but you are right, you don't want it to become part of your brand and you don't want to trigger people who have already come so far with dealing with their mental illness or people who are still having a hard time with it. I'm so glad that you're getting help and that sharing online makes your weight a bit lighter, and I'm also glad you're finding that balance between informing and over sharing. I'm off to do some self care and have a cup of tea. Love you dodieโค๏ธ
0 likesI think it really helped me too. Like I was looking at someone who I aspire to be like, who's wonderful and kind and loved by so many who's still having these same damaging thoughts as me. It made me feel less alone and less like a monster. I'll be really upset if you do start treating us like your "little sister" dodie, but I'll understand why if you need to do that
0 likesYou are so 'mentaly smart', its amazing. Thank you for this vidio. I have been watching you since you were seventeen (im seventeen, and im nearly eight ;))
0 likesYou are growing to be a beautiful, talented, smart, kind, and sensetive young woman. I am 19 years old, dealing with borderline personality didorder, anxiety disorder, pannic attacs, depresdion and anorexia.
My mom died from cancer this year, your song 'I knew you once' fits her perfectly. When i went to visit her at her grave i put on that song on my phone for her to listen, with my therapist beside me.
You are a true insparation to me.
Sending love from israel xxxx
Doddie... THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS. I was honestly debating over the unsubscribe/subscribe button at the start of this video, I truly was not sure of what to expect. I love you, but lately the snaps and the vlogs became too much. It pained me to see all your talent to be shadowed by your depression, as if your mental illness was all you were. It hurt. I'm sixteen, and altho I do not suffer from mental illness I've had friends who have... And I've had friendships crushed because they've slipped out of my hands, helplessly. And this reminded me of her, and it hurt. Thank you so much for being mature and confronting your doubts face to face. I love you, and I accept your apology. While it did hurt to see you go on angsty rants, I know we are not perfect. Again, thank you so much. (Oh, and the part that you said you'll treat us like ur lil sis, that just melted my heart!) Xx
0 likesHey Dodie๐,
0 likeshere's a tip: when I'm depressed or I have anxiety or whatever, it really works for me to talk and share as you say, but since I don't want to influence my friends or concern my family, I usually talk to the wall ๐ and I respond to myself as if I were someone else, you can even record it if you feel more comfortable but then you don't have to edit it or upload it, although you can keep it for yourself and watch it months later when you already are okay and then trust me you will feel proud, cause it will be like" I wasn't okay but right now I really am" it will be proof of your strength and development . I'm sorry I can't help with more than that but I really wish you get better. Xoxo๐
I really admire your honesty and strength. Im assuming to speak for many people when I say that were not mad at you at all. I it helps, do it. When not, dont. Love you Dodie, hope you will be okay :3
0 likesI'm happy that you realized all of this but don't feel ashamed or bad. It's ok to make mistakes, who are we to judge. I love you โค๏ธ
0 likesIt's okay, we understand why, I overshare whenever I am suffering too! It's really hard because you just want somebody to hear you! And when you feel bad you feel like people need to know how you feel!! (I always delete posts like that the next morning whoops) Your posts are so relatable and I wanna scoop you up and give you a cuddle! I know how you feel and why you post things when you feel the way you do! Unlike you though when I post things, I can delete them and for the most part people don't really see them so I don't have to be as careful - look after yourself too x x
0 likesexcited to see your personal growth. i just hope you don't feel that you CAN'T share. i just want you to be happy, whatever it takes
0 likesWE LOVE U DODIE!!! NO MATTER WHAT!!!! โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
0 likesIt's up to you how much you share. I know social media can be really unhealthy, but if it helps you, then do it. Maybe do it in a more censored way - less harrowing detail and more general "I'm not okay". It's helped me so much to hear I'm not alone. The honesty might be over the top, but it's really helped in some ways. No one gives you that clarity and honesty, and I know when I'm in the depths of it, I feel like I'm mad. Thank you for making me/us not feel so mad - but good luck with therapy and with the tremendous support from your friends, and I look forward to your videos as per. Here's to a hopefully healthier and happier you :) x
0 likesMy younger sister recently started watching your videos, and I got so scared lol that she was going to fall into patterns or thoughts that you have, I recommended that she stopped watching because I thought it was unsuitable. She didn't listen, so I'm glad you made this dodie. It makes my sisters YouTube a bit safer for her age.
0 likesI really want to give you a big long hug rn Dodie!!
0 likes"Preach from your scars not your wounds." - Nadia Bolz Webber
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Wounds can often be so flooded with so emotion that it becomes unhealthy to share such graphically personal thoughts. We have to give ourselves time to heal so that we can learn and look back and then talk about the injury in a healthier manner. Watching this video just made me think about this.
So proud of you dodie. So so proud.
0 likesDon't worry Dodie. I respect that you've noticed the problem and not let it get any worst. Thank you for acknowledging your flaws because we all have them.Xx
0 likeseveryone does dumb things that they regret dodie. i love you and i know that you are trying so hard and hurting so much. thank you.
0 likesI will love and support you no matter what Dodie xx๐
0 likesi am very thankful for you, i appreciate you a lot โค๏ธ
0 likesyour such a nice person, please don't worry! you'll get through thisx
0 likeshonestly for me you talking about all that is going on in your head i can relate to and its good for me because i feel like there is someone out there who feels the same as i do and who understands what goes in my brain and in a way it inspires me try and get better because i dont really care a lot about myself but i care about you so much dodie and i want you to be happy and healthy and so it kinda inspires me to be happy and healthy the same way i want you to be
0 likes(sorry if this made no sense)
Stop apologising!!! You have every right to do what what you do! It actually helps other people to!!
0 likesI actually really apreciate your posts about mental helth,they are really eye opening and honest.really prefered your uncut version,youtubers edit themselvrs so much they dojt seen real.
0 likesDodie fucking Clark god damn it i am so in love with you. the amount of shit you and your songs have dragged me through recently is amazing you are amazing so fucking amazing. i just ugh i wish more people were like you i wish i had my own pocket sized Dodie for when times get shit. keep being awesome were all gonna get there in the end.
0 likesAs a person who doesn't have social media, but I believe I am old enough to get it, I have not seen all the post and snapchats- but i believe what you have posted on YouTube has been a right amount of letting us know how you have been and what you are feeling like- but obviously I have not seen these post so I do not know what that is like. I just hope everything goes okay Dodie that you manage to tell someone how it is in a controlled environment and where it is safe. Good luck we love you
1 likewe all love you dodie!!! no matter what
0 likesI hadn't even thought you oversharing that much, I actually found it kind of helpful (for myself) because I'm going through something similar, and I don't have the courage to post anything about it online, or the much needed understanding friends and/or family to help. But if this is what you think will be best for you (and for the majority of your audience, which is also important), then by all means, do it! That's our goal as well: to make you feel good! About yourself, about anything anyone could feel good about. Enjoy life!
0 likesI love you dodie โค
0 likesDon't be embarassed that you've messed up, Dodie! Unfortunately, our mistakes and other people's mistakes, finally lead us to understand what's right and what's not. We wouldn't have learnt otherwise. So, know that it wasn't just a mistake to embarassed for. It was a lesson. I hope you are well! Kisses <3
1 likeIt's okay to mess up Dodie, it's okay to make mistakes. It's human and we're all humans. Don't be too harsh on yourself for making mistakes, you have realised that maybe it wasn't the best thing to do, you have apologised and you're trying to not do it again, that's all you can do really, and it really means a lot. We love you too, a lot, take care โค๏ธ
0 likesDodie we all love and support u and u have made me more aware of mentel health and i thank u for that and no matter what u do on snapchat or instagram we will still be crazy dodie fans u r so inspiring and brave and hedy must have the best sister in ther world to have someone so amazing and strong
0 likesI had stopped following you a bit for a while because it was too overwhelming for me. I felt bad because I couldn't relate, I felt like everybody was supporting you and I couldn't. I couldn't because that's not who I am. I feel obviously bad for you, but it made me feel worse to read all these posts. So I'm sorry I got away a bit and wasn't maybe the best supporter. But I'm glad you took that decision. I didn't dare to suggest it before because who am I to judge ? But I really think it's the best decision you could take. I love you dodie !
0 likesdon't be embarrassed no one's perfect!! โก
0 likesDodie you are an amazing person celebrate yourself for learning this lesson really and truly celebrate yourself lime eat a load of cake learning this lesson I think is part of your road to recovery (but I might get know fucking nothing) do the cheesy stuff for yourself girlfriend remember we are all still here for you.
0 likesLove u, Dods! ๐๐๐
0 likesIn contrast to what many people said, I actually want to say that your posts helped me so much. I myself suffer from generalized anxiety disorder and disassociation. Being on social media I always see perfect lives with no problems in them. But by reading your posts and by seeing how you do have this perfect life, but also have problems with mental health, made me feel less alone. I don't have anyone in my surroundings who has something similar to me. So reading your descriptions of how you felt made me feel like: my problems are real, they are relevant, and I'm not just making it up in my head. Instead of being a person that was avoiding your posts I was actually searching for a post of you on instagram everyday, because it was one of the few things that made me feel at peace and calmer.
0 likesI know you are going to stop with oversharing now and I'm happy that it will make you feel better. But please don't be embarrassed about the things you shared, because they helped me immensely. I love you
Dodie you're god damn fucking lovely and i don't have a real explanation as to why but this video made me feel happier than it should've. I agree that your oversharing was a bit much and not the healthiest for you or some members of your audience, but from my point of view (and now thanks to this video too) it all in a way increased the respect i have for you. I'm glad you've taken a step back and now you're taking 3 steps forward, and i'm happy you're learning. Again you're a wonderful human being and i appreciate everything you do and create and share
0 likesI love you, Dodie!
0 likesPlease dont feel tooo sorry and bad. Your over sharing made me feel a lot less alone when I was down! Thanks for that.
0 likesLove you Dodie <3
0 likesI am not on instagram or snapchat, so I never felt you were oversharing at all. I guess it's all in there, but in youtube you haven't. We love you and support you.
0 likesThis is what you need to do. Go on and record your feelings. But wait at least 24 hours before you post the video. Also watch it all the way through before you decide to finally post it. I once knew an old black gentleman. And he would always say about what bad things that were or had happened. Things will be different in 24 hours. And you know... he was always right. In 24 hours my thoughts or feelings had changed. The event or my feelings were not as bad as I originally thought.
0 likeslove this video, love doddle โค๏ธ
0 likesI totally get the criticism you've had but also want to say that I get your inclination to share lol I have constant dpdr too and vent on tumblr probably a bit too much - I feel dp is v isolating because no ones very familiar with it so airing this to people irl can sometimes feel more alienating. Personally I've liked watching your vids because it was something to relate to but i do see where others are coming from due to the size/age of your audience :) wish ya well
0 likeslove you dodie๐
0 likesReally related to the part where you go to your phone as a coping mechanism. And It's easy not to realise it. I think if I didn't have distractions like these I would have to look at all my sadness in the face and the idea is much better buried
0 likesYaaaaay veda also love you and you did the right thing dodie
0 likesWhat were the pictures she posted where she shared too much?
0 likesAnyways, dodie I'm very proud that you took everyone's advice and made a sincere apology and see your mistake and adjusted them :).
Head up girl, sending a looottttaa love X
0 likesi love you dodie โคโค
0 likesi feel like you need this app called 'project toe'. it is where you can rant about your mental health in every detail and real people can message you or comment helpful and constructive comments on your post.
0 likesthere are alot of people on there who could seem triggering to some people as there are thousands of posts about what people are feeling however i feel like this is what dodie needs. it helped me and still does a year on.
remember, we're here for you <3
Uff, I really think you can give yourself a break!!! You are a human being and of course sometimes you make mistakes. I appreciate the fact that you are not pretending to be flawless or to have that perfect life. Try to share it in a healthy way, which does not harm you. I dunno if that helps, but I always imagine my far in the future kids to look at my Instagram posts . I want them to understand parts of me, but I do not want them to be scared or concerned or confused.
0 likesDodie if it helps to talk about it do but if you want to stop sharing a lot less that's ok tooโค๏ธ
0 likesAnyone else want to jump into the screen and just give the smol bean a hug?
0 likesgorgeous girl, don't feel guilty for oversharing. yes you may have said too much, and yes it is probably for the best to tone it down from now on, but try not to blame yourself for anything. you couldn't have known the effect it was going to have on some people. you learnt from this experience, you are still growing as a person and discovering what it truly means to be YOU, so just make sure you don't beat yourself up for oversharing a little. we care about you a lot, even if we are a whole bunch of strangers. keep communicating the thoughts from that head of yours, but through less direct ways: your gorgeous music is a perfect example of this, as lyrics and poetry have to be analysed to understand what they mean. that way, only people who either know what you are going through/ people who are determined to find out what your lyrics mean, will be able to understand. music is a beautiful language to communicate our painful thoughts, without people feeling overwhelmed, and you (an extremely talented musician i must say!!) know that best of all. keep fighting dodie, things get better. even when it feels like nothing ever will again, i promise you they do, and your audience will always have your back and be here to support you. i love you and thank you for being a huge inspiration to me <3
0 likesi love you dodie. i love you sm.
0 likesDon't be sorry, if it helps you then anyone who doesn't like it doesn't have to watch xxx
0 likesI'm sorry for you. I love you. Don't cry. You deserve to be happy.
0 likesDear dodie,
0 likesI can tell that you like to talk about your problems on camera, so why not try and record yourself on camera but don't post it! Although it does help a lot of people when you talk about it (like me), there are alot of people who dont like seeing you that way! Also, look for positive things that you are doing in the future, like sitc or veda! Remember that its healthy to talk about your problems and not bottle them up!
I love you dodie! You're a real inspiration๐๐
I really hope your next therapist is better โฅ๏ธ
0 likesStay strongโก
0 likesOkay, this Video is wonderful in a way that you deal with the comments under the last one. But some of the videos under the last one were just totally unfair and not true at all and it makes me hurt, that you seem to feel sad and guilty about sharing how you felt. Like, I get it when people get triggered. For everyone the trigger can be something completely ridiculous to someone else, so I am in no position to say they shouldn't get triggered by something. This does not work like that. But I am sitting here, crying my eyes out because I am having right now a bad phase while I am with friends (well atm I am alone bc my friends is off to work, but you get it), I am crying because you seem feel so bad about your mental health issues. This might be completely wrong, but I am getting this vibes from the video. And while it is completely right and important to take a step back, look at the mistakes and correct them, to say sorry for everyone that might be hurt by them, it is also for me hard to accept that those were such horrible mistakes to be sorry off.
0 likesBecause I your posts always helped me Dodie and alone you posting a lot yesterday without ANYTHING about your mental health made my crazy, because I am in a down phase and idk your posts strangely comforted me. Showed me I am not alone. When you aren't depressed then you din't have to share something about it, share your happy moments. But idk, maybe I relied on your posts also a bit to much, in form of comfort etc. But the comments under your last video were wrong, you never glorified mental health issues and idk why they think that. Only because you shared a good looking picture with something sad? Why is that problem? It is more of a problem to constantly pretend that you have perfect life, so that people then feel horrible compared to someone else. But showing flaws or how you feel makes you just more human and everyone else more relate to you and not comparing. Idk this makes me really sad right now. Like the comments under the other video made me so angry and this makes me just fucking cry my eyes out.
you! are! so!! brave!!!!
0 likesI just want to give you a huge hug and get you a cup of tea and some chocolate x
0 likesI love you, I always will xx you have my full support xx
0 likesthere's an app out there called vent, i use it and its basically for pouring your feelings out and feeling better
0 likesdodie they help me too it may sound weired but it does and ive had depression since i was 11 and it helps
0 likesPersonally I haven't had any issue with your sharing because what you talk about has substance and an insight HOWEVER there is a large culture of youtubers now who do see their channels as personal dairies and use them to share all the negativity they have in their life. It gets justified a lot as being "real" but there are so many people I've had to stop watching because it's not helpful content, it's damaging having to hear about so many people's problems (or just boring moans) all the time, when to so many YouTube is an escape from all that. I'm not looking for someone to be happy all the time but for a few it comes across as a self obsession to the point where I feel real like friends would be bored of it and want to talk about something else.
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The first person I think of when I read this is VelvetGh0st haha ๐๐
0 likesDodie, you did nothing wrong knowingly.
0 likesMental health blurs the lines of perception and it really isn't your fault.
I have so many mental health problems and for me, you were someone to relate to, not someone to shy away from!
I adore you. I have tickets for your tour, I met you last year, I watch every video religiously, and for me in particular, despite my own problems, you were someone to relate to.
Not everyone who has these problems takes a step back, I know me and my friends haven't.
You haven't done anything wrong on purpose! You have to remember that, you have to give yourself some leeway. I think yes, don't use social media as an outlet because some people could be triggered from it etc., but you already have other ways to deal with it from the sounds of it, and if you think about it, by gaining that therapist and that advice from Dan, you are already dealing with it.
You can do this.
I believe in you.
I love you.
Be safe.
Xxxxxxxxxx
DODIE !!!! hun I think you've forgotten your a mudcian !!! turn it into a song !!! get well soon babe your so strong
0 likesdodie, you don't need to apologise, because if people really like you, then they would understand and just let you do whatever you need to do to feel better. we all care about you here and will support you no matter what, and if some people don't, then they don't truly like you. you don't need to be so sorry about this because it's not your fault, just your minds way of coping. i'm not saying that it's right that people are feeling like it makes them upset reading it, but maybe they can just not read the captions (just an idea) โค๏ธ
0 likesThis was very important, but u do not have to feel sorry, we were only worried for your own mental wellbeing, love you
0 likesI don't really understand how it's bad, you're just sharing your own feelings? It's not like you're encouraging others to feel that way, but I guess I don't know how it effects other people who might think differently
0 likeswell done dodes :)x
0 likesWe love you ๐
0 likesWe are all flawed humans who all make mistakes, try not to be too upset about it, there's no point in worrying about the past because there's absouloutly nothing you you can do to change it. As long as you learn from it that's what matters. We all hate seeing you upset so please, if you're feeling shit talk to someone they won't think you're being a burden I know that's hard to believe but trust me๐
0 likesi love you dodie;) fullstop.
0 likesDodie, Dodie, Dodie... You don't have to feel so shattered by this. Everyone struggles with something. It's just especially hard when you have 640,000+ people watching your every social media move. I'm sure most of us understand that things are hard. And I'm sure most of us just want you to do what you need to feel better. But yes, you do need to be careful. Learn from this and move forward. You're lovely, as always. Don't stress too much. Let's just paint the world yellow and move on. :)
0 likesAww we love you๐
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0 likesAlso, love your nail varnish.
dear dodie, (please try and get dodie to see this)
0 likesi do think you did overshare. but that's fine (especially now that you've pointed out). to be honest i never could read your captions but even though i know it wasn't healthy to share as much as you were but it's better than storing it inside and keeping it in you until end up worse than you were.
there's no need for you to feel bad. i guess sometimes it's easy to forget that you have a large audience who can be easily effective. now please just don't do the complete opposite thing and close up. if you do begin to feel guilty for passing on your "emotional baggage", (talking from experience) talk more.
at this part of the comment i was going to type up my personal experiences and how i can relate but, i've become so uptight about the way my brain works, i can't even type it out on a youtube comment that isn't even in the slightest way related to my personal life.
don't become like me and become so closed off where you can't even write about it.
the main thing to remember is it's okay but, just in the right place at the right time.
(and yes dodie i forgive you and you HAVE NO REASON to feel guilty. it wasn't you typing those captions)
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also i didn't proofread this so yeah
0 likesLove you, I think this is better x
0 likesplease dont be so hard on yourself :(
0 likesDodie you shouldn't be sorry. All you have done is show people what mental illness actually looks like! It's got a stigma that needs to be thrown out the window. Xx
0 likesDodie , you talk about your mental health soooo much but then you talk about how that doesn't define you even though it's basically all you talk about
0 likeslove you so much dodie baby
0 likesIt's a different sort of oversharing. What's begun to happen is you discussing the difficulties and all the struggles- but over time you've given less and less morals with it. Which is just because u got ahead of yourself and we all do that sometimes. There was just less and less proof of your progress which can hurt yourself- to focus on how little good u have. And for ur audience. Anyway- you're doing great ok?
0 likesBabe. You have so many people who care so deeply about you. All of us, we care so, so deeply. But we can't help you, however much we want to, we can't be there, with you, to tell you it's going to be ok. You have people who love you so much, and can help you heal. Find that person who you can spill out everything inside you onto. Let them put there arms around you, let them tell you everything's going to be ok. Let yourself believe it. Let yourself break. Let yourself break into hundreds of thousands of pieces, pick them up, and make them beautiful again.
0 likesThere's a beautiful Japanese ancient art called kintsukoroi, where broken pottery is taken and repaired with gold. it's believed that the more breaks a piece has, the more resilient and beautiful it is. We all have broken inside of us, and that what makes us beautiful. That pot can't fix itself. Find the gold in your life, and find those artists to help you fix it. We love you โค๏ธ
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0 likesoh wow I'm crying now. i also have don't things like this. on my Twitter i sometimes have some of my frustrations with my identity and my stressful life and health leak through and i don't want people to see that side of me because i overshare to much... I'm doin it now got DANM
0 likesI SWEAR TO THE LORD I WILL PERSONALLY FIGHT EVERYONE WHO SAID SHE WAS OVERSHARING my baby was so close to crying so many times in this video and I can't handle that. I know some people don't like to see mental stuff but that's who dodie is and it's so fucking dangerous to tell someone to stop sharing. I don't talk to anyone bc my friends told me I was annoying when I would tell them when I was feeling anxious and I was too embarrassed to tell other people. For the sake of everything good and holy let dodie talk about what she wants.
0 likesMessed up? I'm not sure that's a right expression. What you did wasn't that bad. You are being too harsh on yourself
0 likescalm down
0 likestake it slow
and you dont need to be sorry
Today has been the worst day I can remember. I woke up early(ish), tired and cranky, bc i had to bring my friend back home bc she'd stayed over last night after we went to a party. I'm tired and cranky, my mum drags me to the shops to get a Christmas tree and other shit after we've dropped my friend off, I get home and have a nap bc I'm too tired. I wake up from the nap still knackered, quite frankly feeling worse than before, feeling awfully depressed and like complete shit. I continue on with my day feeling terrible, crying every 10 mins. I decide I need to talk to my mum and ask for a couple of days off school because I'm not mentally well at the moment and i need a break. I burst into tears in front of her and try to tell her I'm feeling worse and worse everyday, but all she says is "it's part of life and being a teen, we're gonna try that therapist I met" and continues on with her day. So I feel worse than before, i decide to do my hw (in tears) until my eyes are red and puffy and hurt the shit out of me. I finally decide fuck it I need a bath; I make my way to the bath and start running it. I leave it for about 5 mins until it's half full and I check the temperature of the water only to find out it's ABSOLUTELY FREEZING so I think Fuck there's not hot water so I burst into tears again bc I can't deal with anything. I then decide to make myself a cup of tea and try some new tea. Turns this wasn't my cup of tea (pun unintended), it was gross. So now I'm here, sat on my bed writing this while crying, again, my head hurting like hell, my eyes bulging out of my head. Dodie has been my therapy all day, I've paused everything today just to watch her videos and lift my spirits up a bit.
0 likesIt's okay <3
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0 likesOh doddie I love you
0 likesGood luck on your way
0 likesyou shouldn't be embarrassed at all. i understand why you would share all this. but maybe put a trigger warning on some videos.
1 likesweet baby angel <3
0 likesthis is so important jesus christ
0 likesHer face and voice calms me...Is that weird? :d
1 likeSweety... its Okay. Its Okay. <3
0 likesBoundaries will be good for you but don't think you needed to be so very sorry my dear
0 likesim so sorry for making such a harsh comment on your last video :(
0 likesNO DODIE DONT CRY NO
0 likesI needed that. :)
1 likei love you i love you i love you i love you i love you i love you i love you.
0 likesI don't think you are glorifying mental illness in any way.
1 likeI'm so happy for you Dodie! I know it's hard and I understand the embarrassment hindsight can give you (I've also been too open on social media) but I'm really really happy that you're feeling better enough to take this step and I'm so looking forward to veda โค love you!!
1 likeDodie we love you! I love that you're able to talk about what's going on in you're head, but yes, it's not always the best to put your low thoughts out there. Either way, I love you, we all love you, keep being you ๐
0 likesOh Dodie I just want to reach through the screen and give you a hug. I'm so proud of you for all the learning you're doing. It's so positive to see people acknowledging their mistakes and talking about them. Best of luck to you on your journey!
0 likesI can't watch Dodie crying without crying my eyes out. Mate, hang in there, we love you!
0 likesReally appreciate your thoughts on this. It's been a balance I've been thinking about a lot lately. Still learning what may be healthy for me. It's encouraging to hear your process so far and how different or similar our process looks like. Thanks for sharing D โบ๏ธ
0 likesi appreciate you. and this. and this discussion. i never comment on videos, but i really truly appreciate you addressing this. as someone with depression, it did become hard for me to hear you talk so graphically about these episodes due to the fact that i have similar awful atrocious episodes and the rest of the time, i can deal. but when they are bad, they are terrible, and it became difficult for me to watch you, someone ive loved for three years now, go through these episodes and make it a normal thing. while removing stigma is such a goal, im so so proud of you for being mature enough to realize your platform and see the difference between the amazing videos youve made about mental health and the graphic snapchats detailing the hardest of nights. thank you thank you thank you and i wish you so much love and joy and hopefully some peace after all this. you truly are a role model, even to an 18 year old.
1 likeDodie I love you for this, I love that you're caring for your viewers even in your darkest place. It's a learning curve I know, but everything in life is. Some people may be saying that they were fine with you sharing so much but not realise how much of an impact it was having subconsciously (myself included). Thank you so much for looking out for us and I look forward to watching you grow further (Also...VEDA YAAAAAAAY)
0 likesThis video was everything I needed to hear. I am so glad that you are growing in your life journey thingy โค๏ธ
0 likesi love you so much for this. you're such a strong person for being able to admit your faults and learn from them xx
0 likesI'm super proud of you dodie, I really am. โค๏ธ
0 likesI have so much love for you, Dodie. You've become such a role model for me in so many ways, and this just strengthens that more than ever. It take a great deal of courage to put your whole vulnerable mess of thoughts on social media and then take a step back, realize the consequences and do something about it. You're stronger than you know, and I hope you can remember during hard times how many people love and support you. Good luck with therapy. It cleanses my mind and soul and I hope it does the same for you. โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
0 likesI love you, Dodie! I hope the new therapist works out. I hope your mental state gets better. I think it's great that you're admitting your wrongs and correcting them. Seeing you go through these struggles are really inspiring because I struggle myself with depression and OCD. It's nice (but also not nice) to see youtubers that I look up to go through this type of stuff because it makes me feel not alone and that I can make it through this stuff.
0 likesthank you for letting us see your growth, however embarrassing it may have been. we're all grateful for how much thought and sympathy you have for your audience. please know that we don't think lesser of you because of your mistakes. and please don't beat yourself up too much because of this ๐๐๐
0 likesi've been watching you for a few years now. i've watched you grow and you've helped me grow. this video brought tears to my eyes because i'm so proud of you to choose to make this kind of change for others not just for yourself. I love you and i know it can only get better ๐ญ๐
0 likesI'm very proud of you and this video Dodie :)
0 likesI'm really proud of you for learning and growing as a human! I want you to know it never bothered me or triggered me (I fight with depression). But I do think it was unhealthy. I hope this doesn't keep you from reaching out and trying to find something to pull you out of the well! Now that you know this can help and make you feel better you can find a healthier outlet for these experiences! I love you dodie and I'm rooting for you! You're so strong and you're so brave and you WILL get through this and have a happy stable life! This won't last forever :) certainly not at the intensity it's at. โฅ๏ธโฅ๏ธ
0 likes(Also it made me cry when you told me to take care of myself today. It's been a crazy week of taking care of everyone else and I do need to take care of myself now. Thank you!)
i'm so proud of you dodie ๐๐๐i love you so much ๐ stay strong xx
0 likesI'm so proud that you've come to this conclusion!! I have so much admiration for you but was concerned about some of the things you were posting and how they could affect some of your audience. Though, I'm so glad you're now trying to draw the line. Please don't feel devastatingly bad about this situation, it's a small mistake, you learned, you apologized, we appreciate it. I love you dods and wish you the very best!!
0 likesThis is the sweetest video ever. I love you so so so much Dodie. Thank you
0 likesI am here for you, I have been through a lot of the same things you are going through and I know how bad it can get at times. It's ok to not know what to do. It's ok to mess up. I love you for you; I'm sure we all do! I admire your courage and hope one day we can meet and I can give you a hug in person!
0 likesIt's okay!! It's okay to make a mistake and you're handling it in a mature and thoughtful way. You're an amazing part of this community!
0 likesHey Dodie,
0 likesWe love you. We are proud of you. We appreciate you.
Thank you.
I'm so proud of you Dodie. Being open and true about yourself can be a wonderful thing, but sometimes too much of something is harmful. But even then, I'm proud that you could learn from your mistakes and use this experience to do something good. I've supported you for a long time now and I will continue doing so no matter what. Thank you for being you ๐
0 likesDodie I love you so much and I just want you to know that I support you ๐ thank you for being so open about your mental health, because there such a negative stigma around mental illness. and personally I don't feel like you were glorifying it. You haven't been doing something bad, but I agree that it would be healthier for you and for us as your fans if you step back when you're not feeling well. I hope that you start feeling better soon and that your new therapist works out!! Again, I love you so much ๐๐
0 likesdodie, darling, I love you and what you do here on YouTube so much, and I really admire the way you've handled this. I've had an issue with oversharing on snapchat, too, recently, and have finally had to step back for myself. I mean, I only had maybe 20 people seeing my oversharing rants and darkness and really felt the guilt later, when I was feeling lighter. I don't think anyone can really fault you for this, necessarily. In this age of media, it's already hard enough to find boundaries, let alone when you've got such a huge following. Anyway. I think you're doing good in the world, and I hope you see this, and can go easy on yourself a bit. Hope your days get lighter, too.
0 likesDodie, I'm glad that you're going to step back a little, and please remember that we are not asking you to stop advocating for mental health! It is good to see someone talk abt it! Also please don't beat yourself up because of this!
0 likesI'm so proud of you and I know that this is hard but I know you will get through this and fight it because you are amazing and strong
0 likesI love the idea of treating us like a little sister. We don't want you to just go into your shell and not speak to us, so I think that's a very good medium x
0 likes๐I'm so happy for you doddie!๐ป
0 likesOh Dodie, wish I could just give you a hug. Your words and the things you have shared have helped me so much. I never knew there was a word for how I feel, much less that other people (especially those I admire/obtain some sort of celebrity) feel the same. Thank you for what you have done and for letting us be able to help heal you a little too. As for this new, refined chapter in your life, you have every right to feel and act how you please. If you need to start filtering what gets put out into the world, please don't let other people make you feel like that's what they have been waiting for. Do it because it's healthy and it's what you need. However you live your life, we are here to support you, and believe you will make the best choices for yourself. Illegitimi non carborundum. โค๏ธ
0 likesDodie! When you are better, can you make more Asmr videos? I really love your beautiful voice
0 likesComing from a young audience member, I truly didn't understand what mental illness was like until you said something about it on social media. It made me more aware of how some people have mental illnesses and depression. It made me think of how many people have sadness become their normal. You made me truly understand how much this world needs happiness and joy.
0 likesI didn't understand the importance of being happy and staying happy until you told me what it was like to not be happy. There is a lot of negativity that came from the posts ,but at the same time It made some of us aware of how important it is to reach out to people and support them through anything, even if we don't like them or it goes against what society says is "cool". Because it is unhuman to let someone suffer like that.
Basically you helped me understand how truly important just talking to someone who is alone at lunch or someone who doesn't really have friends, because they could need help.
(sorry if none of that made since.)
i love you so much and i'm so proud of you and it will get better, it always does even if it sometimes doesn't feel like it :)
0 likesit's alright, i think we all can relate to this. you never ever had ill intentions- it's ok to make a mistake. stay safe. โค๏ธ
0 likesi'm so proud. you don't even know. i literally am going through the same thing. i would talk to random people about my problems bc i didn't want to go through it alone. depressing thought, suicidal thought, stressful times and i go to my snapchat when i'm at my worst. don't be sorry. it's okay. it's human. it's you but it is true for people who gets triggered by sensitive stuff you know. i mean sometimes i feel like it might make me in my feels. it's okay girl. you go :)
0 likesDodes i know you feel bad right now and as a viewer with a lot of the same mental health issues you have, it has been hard for me to see you go through what you've been going through but I feel it's important to recognize all the good you do for people like me. You help make mental illness something that isn't taboo or something to be ashamed of. Plus, I've been struggling a lot with my mental state for the past several months and your music has gotten me through. I listen to it on the train to and from work, while I fall asleep, while I'm showering or cooking or doing anything that leaves me alone with my thoughts. Your voice and your words make me feel less alone. We love you and I really hope you don't feel too bad because you are a good person and even the best of people slip up sometimes <3 much love to ya
0 likesSweetheart, do what you feel is right. I know it's hard for you right now, and I'm proud of you for trying to do whatever can help you. You do overshare some on social media that you shouldn't, but it's fine because we get it. Try to write it in notes, or a piece of paper, or even (I do this) type out a instagram post. Look at it for a bit, then delete it. Delete all of it. Rewrite and make it more positive. Write down what you want to hear. Then post that. Help yourself while helping others. Post what you want to hear, and what you would want to tell others. I love ya dodie. You're great. Be positive, share positivity. :)
0 likesthis is so so admirable dodie, sending love xxxx
0 likesyou are a sweet, well-meaning human with your head in a bad place but your heart in the right one. we will always love and support you dodie, and we know that you love and support us as well. โค๏ธ
0 likesyou deserve all the advice and love that you get <3 we'll always be here for you love
0 likesalmost every single post about your mental health had made me think differently. and more times than less, you have helped me. your song, your art, and your deep words have always helped me or make me think. please dont feel bad. i love you and i can understand where youre coming from. please get better because i love you <3
0 likesDodie, it's ok. You're great, don't go too hard on yourself. If it helps you, it's ok, please don't cry
0 likesugh i love you dodie. keep being strong
0 likesdont feel bad dodie :-( jst know we are all here for u โค๏ธ
0 likesI am so inspired by you Dodie and I am super duper excited to see at vidcon australia and I am honestly in the worst position ever and you have always made me happy and I love you so much โค๏ธ
0 likesLove you so much Dodie !! Take care
0 likesexpression comes in many forms. It's okay to express in the form of online sharing. The amount of it should be looked at but you're human Dodie and that's the downside of social media. Humans make mistakes. You are not alone Dodie. You are forgiven and those who truly see you as who you are will keep you accountable. :)
0 likesI really appreciate you being honest about all this and realizing your mistakes and owning up to them. Talking about mental illness is hard and realizing that you're oversharing can feel so embarrassing and burdensome. Its hard because you wanna destigmatize it and talk about it and be personal, but you dont wanna romanticize it and trigger people. And then realizing youre oversharing makes you feel even more worthless and worse than you were already feeling. But i really admire you for actually owning up and realizing what was happening. I hope that you start feeling better as well, youre very sweet and talented and even though you make mistakes i think youre a great person.
0 likeshonestly this has made me take a step back and think about what I share online as well, so thank you. It's okay that you made a mistake, I do it all the time. It's just something to learn from. sometimes I don't really see how my posts affect other people who are also mentally ill so I think it's important for everybody to be hearing this. when I'm in my lowest of lows my first instinct is to post something or go to something and be like haha I'm so depressed I want to die!! but you're right, there are better ways to deal. I really respect where you're coming from and I'm proud of you. I really hope things get better for you in the future. โค๏ธ
0 likesAww Dodes!! Seeing you cry genuinely makes me cry! Please don't feel bad for sharing online, we know that it didn't come from a bad place. You were alone and desperate and we understand that. It breaks my heart to see you struggle like this I wish you health, happiness and recovery โค๏ธโค๏ธ
0 likesDodie please know that your audience will always support you and stand by you. We are so proud of everything you do and everything you've done and we understand that you're only human and you're gonna make mistakes. We as an audience apologyse if we encourage any unhealthy behaviours, but sometimes love blind, we're trying to work on that. The truth is we just want you to be healthy and happy but it's also okay when you're sad. I know this is just a faceless text on your screen but please know the person on the other end truly cares about you even if we haven't met. I think you're a beautiful and talented person who deserves everything in this world, and please know that I believe and feel everything I'm writing.
0 likesSo much love from this corner of the world,
A person that thinks you're great.
I don't know if you'll ever see this, but to me, you have helped me endlessly in learning how to open up, share my problems and open up. Thank you for that. You are always and forever forgiven dodie, because you have done so much more good than bad, and you recognised your mistake and you are learning and growing from it. I'm really proud of you for that. Please don't feel embarrassed or ashamed, you've done a good thing. Thanks again for helping me and my messed up head โค
0 likesDodie, you may not know me, but I just wanted to say that I love you and I am very proud of you ๐
0 likesOh ily dodie! I just want you to be happy and whatever helps you be happy I'm all for. I will support you 100% and so will so many other people ily
0 likesI'm not sure what to comment here but i'm so glad you've realised where the boundaries lie, and in a very mature way. I'm 15 so not entirely sure whether i'm allowed to call someone older than me mature, but as part of your audience i think that you're dealing with this issue incredibly well; i'm sure it's not at all easy to find the boundary as a 'social media influencer'. we all support you and think you are an amazing, inspiring human being (and everyone makes mistakes) xxx
0 likesI love you Dodie I'm always here for you xoxox
0 likesI think this is a very interesting discussion on so many fronts. It seems unfair to call sharing your mental health an attempt to made mental illness part of your brand when it is an experience so inseparable from oneself. I also think it's unfair to assume the actions/feelings of your viewers are entirely your responsibility either. If you feel that's true then maybe adding content/trigger warnings might be helpful. That said, I still think sharing your mental health burdens online is a lot like talking about politics online; you're free to express your feelings as long as you can take the heat and reactions and live with them. But, if you feel it's unhealthy or unsatisfying then I think the idea of drafting posts and making a deal with yourself to sit on them for at least a day might help.
0 likesThis is a long roundabout comment to say that I don't think this is a problem that you created. The internet is hard and we are all learning how to use it the best we can. Take a breath and you'll figure it out alongside us. Best of luck! <3
I love you so much dodie! We are all mistake making humans okay and you shouldn't feel bad for making mistakes because you are learning from them and becoming a better person because of them xxx
0 likesyour descriptions were very real and deep, i know what you're talking about. it's okay, much love โค๏ธ
0 likesHonestly all of your talking about it has helped me and I can understand that its hurting others or bringing others down. I do. But all of what you have been going through has helped me, even the little things you complained about. If i saw on snapchat that you were lying in bed at 4am staring blankly at a wall not even knowing what sleep was, i felt less alone. When i saw you with your friends on a vacation in the places you should be having the best of times and you felt not there and just generally like shit, i felt less alone. So yes sharing less will be helping the younger malleable audience but know that all that youve done was not in vain... No matter how you look at it YOU HAD GOOD INTENTIONS. You're Dodie. You're human. Your brain grows tired more often, your emotions aren't there half of the time and you miss them, your life isnt the way you wish it would be and you dont understand WHY. but its okay. No one can rightfully blame you for wanting to express your situation. Thank you, thank you so very much for being you, for being real.
0 likesIM PROUD OF YOU DODIE
0 likesthis video shows how good of a person you are. Most people on the internet are not mature or intelligent enough to do something like this. I'm inspired
0 likesI think it's responsible of you that you're owning up to this. This reminds me of Jane Austen's Emma. I just finished watching the BBC version with my sister. I feel like you've been told "Badly done", and you're realizing what you did wrong. But this is how you grow to be a better person, YouTuber, and rolemodel. Nobody has a handbook saying exactly what and what not to do. You learn it.
0 likesYou're not alone in having made this mistake. As a sensitive person it can be hard to draw lines between what to share and not when it all feels like so much. Hang in there and good job addressing the situation.
0 likesDear Dodie Clark,
0 likesI stumbled upon your music channel last year on a rainy day in my room in NYC and my life has never been the same since. I want you to know that I love you and we, your audience, love you. As you continue to grow, change, and discover yourself, we will support you and be there to help guide you as best we can. You are human, you are in pain, you are learning, you are growing and once again you are human. This is just apart of your life that you WILL get through eventually. Whether it takes weeks, months, or years, you will get through it.
personally, i never had a problem with your snapchat stories because i was glad that you had a place to vent. i tend to hold all of my emotions within myself until i break (alone), which is why i looked up to you for being able to openly share your feelings. but i do see how oversharing can be just as unhealthy for both yourself and the people around you. anyways, i'm excited to see where your mental health journey takes you. love you dodie!
0 likesI can understand how you feel about this (not completely of course) and I'm sorry for your embarrassment and the all realization thing and I know this won't help BUT your posts helped me a lot. Reading that a successful person like you, feels like I do sometimes made me realize that yes, bad mental health is the worst but also that I could keep going and make my dreams come true or at least try to!!! I don't know if I shouldn't have said this but I do believe that you were doing a good thing that maybe needed filters. Btw thank you
0 likesMy dear, dear Dodie,
0 likesRemember, there is no guidebook to how much to share about personal mental health.
You, and others alongside you, are writing that guidebook through this process.
Especially when you feel you crossed a boundary or line.
Be proud of recognizing what you're doing and how you want to change that in the future to better for you and for your followers.
Much love.
You truly are an incredible person dodie
0 likesThank you, dodie. We love you.
0 likesno need to feel bad!! you don't need to be perfect for your audience, we're all human and know how people can make mistakes. It is natural for a lot of people to share a lot about their mental health online and you're not the only one. Just because you have a large audience doesn't mean there isn't room for mistakes, and I think it's really great how you've kept an open dialogue about this situation and how you feel.
0 likesI don't have you on snapchat so can't speak for those, but your videos (even the really sad ones) have really helped me. Please don't feel guilty for over sharing online, it's a coping mechanism and like others have pointed out, most people encourage us to talk about mental health online and it's hard to know what's over the line. We are all learning and changing as we learn. Well done for looking at this in such a mature way and trying to change for your fans x
0 likesI seriously love you, and don't feel bad about doing certain things I think most of it, you are a WONDERFUL human, everything you truly are and the message I get from you is not something bad, rather I can see the light in your words even coming from a bad state of mental health. We all suffer, we all have pains and that only should make everyone feel more human instead of feeling weak.
0 likessweet dodie, i complete understand what it's like to deal with mental health issues and to find ways to cope with them that work for you but might not be the most healthy in general. i've always stayed updated to see how you've been doing and i've tried my best to support you through both your highs and lows and i always will. the only part that bothered me about you sharing all of your feelings is that it broke my heart that i couldn't help you in the ways i wish i could. but you have so many amazing people ready and 100% willing to support you through anything (i know you're aware of that and i know that doesn't always help, but it's just a reminder). i love you so much and i know we all just want you happy and healthy. i'm sorry this comment isn't very helpful or constructive but i just want you to know that i understand to a certain extent and i will always support you. i love you dodie, you are such an amazing woman and you have inspired me and helped me in so many unimaginable ways. its my number one wish to meet you and make sure i express how much you really mean to me. i love you dodie, thank you for everything and please stay strong โญ๏ธ๐ป
0 likesThat was the best possible way to handle the situation, I don't know you obviously, but I'm so proud of you. You've acknowledged where you went wrong and articulated many different levels and sides of this so well. Best of luck with processing all of this, moving on and continuing to improve your own health! Just know that mistakes can be made up for and you're doing it perfectly. <3
0 likesbabe, you're doing a good thing.. i know it's difficult but you're going to get through and i'm proud of u and i love u
0 likesDodie I love you and your channel and videos and I had a similar thing this school year. I was oversharing about my mental health or situation to my friends, and I had a youtube channel where I shared that a bit too. My "friends" ended up bullying and outcasting me for it, which fucking sucks and im realizing now that it wasn't my fault, but I still know that I need to change and become more emotionally independent. Now I've deleted that youtube channel and im planning to make a new one soon, still making vids about mental health but in a less specific, and more growth focused way. I'm also trying to learn how to be happy without relying on others, not only bc I found that I met the wrong unreliable people before but also even around my reliable friends, I should be able to be happy on my own.
0 likesu handled this so maturely & bravely & i hope you're okay
0 likesI feel like "Don't Let Me Be Misunderstood" by Lana del Rey (original version is beautiful too)is a good song to relate too in times like this. ๐โจ๐ฆ
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0 likesi fucking love you dodie, so much. i'm so sorry but you have helped me beyond measure. just, thank you
0 likesDodie, even if you felt uncomfortable after sharing your feelings online, you have at least tried to handle these situations on your own way.
0 likesYes, you have a responsibility, to look after yourself and your audience.
That you have been thoughtful about the way you were posting your feelings online, and feeling embarrassed after it, shows me, that you are caring and not ignoring.
You don't have to feel embarrassed. You are a human, you are allowed to make false decisions. I have seen, that you look them in the eye.
You can feel proud of yourself!
It sounds good to me, if you would make a video diary for yourself.
That could be a healthy way, to handle your feelings.
I think you are very brave.
That you have friends, who are actually care about you, is good to know. I think you are in good hands. Sounds that you are very lucky to have them. I love that you are emotional and that you let us now, if you are not feeling alright. I appreciate your honesty.
From the bottom of my heart, I wish you all the best, Dodie. x
So much respect for you.
0 likesDear Dodie,
0 likesPlease don't feel so bad about this. You made a mistake and it's ok, everyone makes mistakes. I'm not even a little bit mad. I just want you to feel better and I think everyone else here feels the same way.
-Charlotte
good job dodes :) i hope you'll find some bit more healthy coping mechanisms and i wish you the best.
0 likesdodie, usually people who are upset don't understand how hard it can be. I, a person just about as young as hedy I completely understand I feel you.
0 likesI think what worried me the most was that not only did it become your brand for a while, it became part of your identity. And if you let that happen for too long, you feel safe within your mental illness and unsafe without it. And that can't be healthy.
0 likesBut Dodie, I know you try and you mean well and this was a very mature video to make. <3
Love you dodie๐ค
0 likesI really hope you don't beat yourself up about any of this too much... Making mistakes is the absolute worst and it feels awful, but it doesn't define you and you're genuinely so kind and so gentle... Shit happens, but you're learning and growing and that's amazing.
0 likesThat is okay don't beat yourself up on what you shared or didn't while you were going through it. That is okay! You are doing it right by fixing it as per your realization. Don't stress over it. We all understand. :)
0 likesHug!
i did have to step back and unfollow on instagram/twitter, but i didn't realize why until now..... i never stopped listening to your music though, because you truly are a poetic writer.
0 likesOmg dodie so much maturity in this video,
0 likesidek if it means anything but I'm so proud of you!
You ever just wanna cuddle someone and just hug them and comfort them and let them cry out their feelings and you just be there and listen. Cause I really wish there was a way for me to be there for you rather than just being one of the other hundreds of thousands subscribers leaving a motivational comment you'll never see. Good luck dodie
0 likesDodie! Don't feel bad. You were self-aware enough to recognize the need for change, and that says a lot about you. I think you should read "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. It talks a lot about how we make our anxiety so much worse because we let ourselves become completely identified by those feelings rather than just observing them, which stops us being able to live in the present moment (aka the only moment that ever exists.) I made a video talking about how I think mainstream anxiety advice misses the mark, check it out if you feel inclined! Good luck moving forward. ๐
0 likesUnrelated to the video but thank you for the reminder of self-care, in the last couple days I helped my big brother pack to move in with my papa, picked my papa up from the hospital, made sure my great-grandma safely moved from hospital to her retirement home, went grocery shopping for my papa, applied to two jobs, started packing to move houses, worked and had a full day of online classes, so today was a freak out day where I did important things and now I'm going to make tea and listen to your music,:) so thanks and sorry if this is the oversharing you were talking about:/
0 likesDodie it's okay. this is person growth mentally and maybe go over things you think people might feel triggering just try your best
0 likesDodie
0 likesIt's okay
I'm glad it helped you
To be honest I couldn't look at your stuff for a long time because it would trigger me into being depressed and depersonalize
I wouldn't want to tell you to stop though
I know how it helps but also how it hurts yourself as well as others
But you did help me realize I have issues with depersonalization and I talked about it to my therapist which is helping me
dodie, you having nothing to be sorry for. personally, I never was affected in a negative way by your posts because you need to know that you're never alone. you need to take care of yourself first. you're handling all of this so well, it's crazy. you're strong. you can make it through. you are beautiful not only on the inside, but as well as out. you have accomplished so much in life. you are doing everything just as it should be handled. you're getting through it. and you deserve so much more love for it. you truly have no need to apologize for your own feelings. all that matters is that you love yourself before others. you need it. just know I and all of us are always here for you. ๐
0 likeswe could never never never be mad at you for doing something that was a way to ease you're own pain please don't beat yourself up about being someone who has so much on their plate, you are loved and you are light ๐ผ๐ผ๐ผ
0 likesNo @doddlevloggle post anything you want because that is what makes you who you are, let the weak people weed themselves out the people who really care about you will not judge you for how deep you share! Keep up what ever makes you happy because it is not hurting anyone!
0 likesYo Dodie, I have an idea that might help too (you won't read this but oh well)
0 likesI have a similar problem to you, the whole sharing too much, and because I'm quite arty, I was told by my therapist to draw how I was feeling in the moment.
If I were feeling upset in anyway, I would draw my emotions, but I wouldn't be in that drawing for more than half an hour. If you're doing the drawing for too long you could start to ponder in your own sadness, which is bad.
But, if it's a happy drawing, you can stay in it for as long as you like :)
I don't know if you like to draw or not, but I know you like to write. What you could to as an alternative is to write a description of a person or scenery that represents how you're feeling.
I've also heard of people writing in comic strips, which is cool too.
The next time, when you feel upset and you aren't able to write or draw about it, look back at your descriptions or drawings that you did when you were in a good mood, and think about how you can achieve that good mood.
Hope that helps! Maybe...
I think it's awful that comments made you feel like you made a mistake. This is your life and you don't owe it to your followers to filter it. Mental illnesses are hard and people (at least around me) make light of how difficult it is but you always had a way with explaining the hardships with words that brought home all the feelings I'm experiencing without trivialising it. I'm glad you're growing as a person but don't let anyone make you feel guilty for trying to improve yourself. Love you, Dodie ๐
0 likesDodie, you are without a doubt one of the most influential people in my life. When I was thinking of what I wanted to help the world with when choosing a platform as Miss Gem County (A part of the Miss America Organization), I watched your videos heavily. My thoughts were very similar to yours and I decided to use my status as a way to talk about mental illness and the stigma around it. You greatly affected that decision. You show mental illness in the most real manner I have ever seen. You have shown the best and worst and I really appreciate that. Further, I appreciate this video. You are accepting a mistake you have made and you're fixing it. I can see you trying, and actively working to get better. I love you for that. You mean a lot to me and I hope one day I can meet you in person and hug you for all of the help you've given me. If it helps, when I was at my worst I watched your videos for the first time and you showed me that I wasn't crazy and I could reach out for help, and I did. After struggling for six years I can say confidently that my brain is balanced again and I am happy. I recovered, and you helped me get here. You make mistakes, you are human, but Dodie...you do so much good. Stay safe, beautiful. I hope you smile today.
0 likesI think it's really useful to talk about mental health as it is a topic that must be discussed and has helped me a lot because I suffer with awful anxiety. However I do not think putting really graphic stuff is neither helping you or your audience. I do love you and the rest of your content though
0 likesOMG DODIE YOU ARE SUCH AN ADORABLE CRIER LIKE EVEN WHEN YOU're BREAKING DOWN YOU'RE ADORABLE. <3 (Also don't cry I love youuuuu)
0 likesHUGS please don't feel bad. We all have our ways of coping, you st least now know what to do. I hope that you are happier with the new ways with help. No neep to apologise, your so strong. Thank you Dodie X ๐
0 likesyou're so brace, love you dodes โค๏ธ
0 likesDodie. It's okay to talk about your feelings. We will listen. It doesn't bother me, it helps me tbh. It makes me feel less alone. Depression is a hard thing to explain and when you explain it, it's like you can look into my eyes and see a part of my mind. Don't worry,love. It will all be okay
0 likesi saw a comment like this so im summing it up in hopes of you seeing it: youre aware that its good to break the mental health stigma, and you've become to comfortable in that that you've pushed it into something unhealthy. but this was such a good way to deal with this and to apologize, and i think that your mental health just might take a turn for the better :-)
0 likesDodie feel better. Please take care of yourself please. I know it's hard but keep working at it.
0 likesi was in a bad place when you uploaded the am i over sharing video so i never made my opinion clear but i don't have snapchat so i don't see that. therefore the instagram posts were in moderation. to me they were like unfinished songs with thoughts and feelings jumbled up on a page. i am only emotional in the sense of myself so none of them had that bigger impact on my other than knowing that i'm not alone. if you do read this i understand you can't and shouldn't pour your heart out like this but please can you turn some of your stories into (more appropriate) songs (or recover social dance i love that to pieces)
0 likesIly dodie ur an amazing person :)
0 likesDODIE! There is no way, no matter how "graphic" your descriptions of your feelings are, NO ONE CAN POSSIBLY UNDERSTAND WHAT IS GOING ON IN THAT BIG BEAUTIFUL HEAD OF YOURS!!!ย You say you don't want to negativelyย influence your impressionable audience but it is healthy for them to know that there are people walking around with similar thoughts and feelings. It is important that they learn how deep depression can plant itself in someone and, if an audience member has depression, knows that they aren't alone. I findย everything you expressย is beneficial in some way because you areย essentiallyย talking to yourselfย and posting what you said. Its kind of amazing to peek into someone's mindย and I'm not trying to justify your decision to be at least mindful of what you post, but you should take a deep breath and know that you are not scarring anyone...you shouldn't bully yourself.ย I'm only 17 and I know a lot less than everything but I doย know that you deserve to express yourself. Its up to everyone else to decide whether or not to listen.
0 likesdodie, i love you. i love you i love you i love you. and i hope that maybe when you're feeling lonely, you know i'm out there- and that so many of us are out there- loving you. unconditionally. i love you so much.
0 likesAm I the only one who doesn't agree with this? Reading & listening to you about your mental health has helped me. It has made me realize that I'm not alone in feeling so fucking terrible.
0 likesDodie, I want you to know that you helped me. I want you to know that you did not trigger me; instead, you helped me be more in touch with how I'm feeling. I thank you for it.โค๏ธ
Dear Dodie,
0 likesI know you're probably not reading this, but if you are I want you to know that you are like a role model for me. You accomplish such great things and have wonderful friends that love and care for you. Now I may not know what you're going through but I have a lot of friends who have depression and suicidal thoughts, and I'm always there to help them out some way, some how. You being like a role model to me it feels like as if I know what you're going through because of the experience I have had with depression. Now even though you might have messed up with oversharing to much I still see you as a person I love dearly and will always will because nobody's perfect and we all make mistakes, I know I have, and I think a lot of people are willing to forgive you. It's also sort of a good thing because it does bring awareness to others. It also let people know that they're are other people in the world who go through the exact same thing.
I just want to say thank you even if it was a mistake of you oversharing it made me realize just how much some people are suffering and that there is always going to be someone to pick you up when you fall. I love you very much Dodie, keep up the good work๐๐ผ๐๐ผ
honestly if that was an outlet for you, you shouldnt feel bad. if anyone in your audience felt that your content was triggering in any way, (i personally feel) that they should know themselves enough to take a break from the things that might be harming them. you should not have to take responsibility for other people's state of mental health while already dealing with so much on your own. that being said, if sharing in such a way on social media has become more of a crutch that a coping mechanism, i completely understand that you want to end that. (also that its part of your brand. ive noticed that becoming something that i associate you with, so i get if you want to prevent that from being your whole presence online). i really think that you should first focus on whats beneficial for your metal health without having to carry the burden of you entire audience's. anyways, i love you and support you and i hope that however this works out, you become more stable and happy. (agh one last thing. around the time i was first introduced to your stuff, i was going through some serious ocd shit. like not-being-able-to-leave-the-house-because-i-would-break-down type of stuff. and seeing someone older and more mature coping with mental illness and facing similar hardships really helped me. not that i enjoy to see you or anyone else in pain. but that i felt like i finally wasnt alone in my mental health struggles. so yeah. thank you thank you thank you, and i wish you the best
0 likesI wish I could just give you a big hug <3
0 likesyou are so brave โค๏ธ
0 likesaw dodie sweetheart don't feel bad. it's obvious that u don't want to glorify it,idk how some ppl got that idea. I understand where you're coming from. I hope it gets better for u and that u ultimately feel better in the end. love you and we'll always support you ๐
0 likesDodie it's okay, you haven"t done as much wrong as you think and I think some of the stupider comments are getting to you! As I said elsewhere, do what is healty and makes YOU happy!
0 likesaw, dodie its completely fine ;; i think i get where youre coming from. its okay! im really glad you brought up this topic :)
0 likesYou shouldn't feel bad. I, like other people did as you said had to step back. But only because people care, we will follow you back one day when you feel like your full self and that's okay
0 likesi couldn't even get through this video. you shouldn't have to feel sorry for anything you do and what you are.
0 likesYou don't have to be sorry ,i love your snapchat i love your instagram all the thing you say about mental Health really help me to realize i'm not alone so for that i want to say thank you for helping me thank you for being so amazing carring and lovely i love you a lot . โค๏ธSorry for the English i'm frenchโค๏ธ
0 likesDodie Clark you are an amazing human
0 likesI'm really sorry that people have tried to tell you that you should be quiet about what's going on in your head. I think it's beautiful and inspiring that you can share your feelings and thoughts so openly. Most of the time when you post things about how you are feeling, I can relate to it in some way and it makes me feel a lot less alone in the world. You shouldn't have to be embarrassed and apologetic. You should be proud that by saying these things you are helping yourself feel better while helping others at the same time. Again I'm really sorry that you're so sad because I honestly think you're an amazing and intelligent person and you do not deserve to feel like that.
0 likesWho else wants the happy doddie back come on doddie we miss you
0 likesit makes me hurt to see you cry
0 likesbut you are doing amazing
Can I just say that I haven't felt you've glorified mental illness all that much. Your posts, while maybe not wise, did show that mental illness is shit and is there a lot and showed just how bad some of the thoughts you get from said illness are. Most of what you said in this video was correct and I'm glad you're able to find another coping mechanism other than your audience but please don't feel you did bad in glorifying mental illness.
0 likesI'm sorry and i cant stand seeing you cry... it makes me cry and i just want to say you can't pleas everyone because it was helpful for me knowing what some friends are going though and what that feeling was when i was low but i also don't mind you stoping because its what you want and understand why. i also want to say that its ok that you spilled your thoughts because you learned from them and now know this its not the way to fix things if you wouldn't have done this you maybe would of just locked the feelings away and felt worse. this is just my idea love you lots babe xxx
0 likesI don't think you've done anything wrong. If you feel that you've shared too much, that's fine and up to you. Don't feel bad for sharing your mental health, though. I can't speak for everyone, but for me, there is no need to apologize.
0 likesWe all still love you โค๏ธ
0 likesDon't feel bad nooo :( it's perfectly okay, I do this a lot, and overshare, when I shouldn't, I suggest downloading the app Pacifica, please look it up because I've found that the most helpful app, everyone on that app is struggling with anxiety and depression mostly and you can share as much as you want there because it's anonymous, hope this helps ๐
0 likesIt's all part of the learning process. Don't feel bad because you "messed up". If it helps you deal with stuff keep making videos about how you feel, just don't post them! I promise you will feel better someday. There is always another day and the sun will rise again tomorrow.
0 likes๐ Love you dodie ๐ send my love ๐
0 likesMuch love for you my dear๐๐ป
0 likesSo I haven't even looked at Dodie's Instagram or Twitter in months, and just look at her video uploads instead -- so, exactly what triggered these two videos...? Could someone please tell me?
0 likesits all ok dodie we (or at least i) arent mad at u its not something to be ashamed of
0 likesthis made me cry ilysm please talk to us i support u 100% ๐
0 likesHonestly love, everyone makes mistakes but we are forever faithful to you, we will always be with you
0 likesApology not accepted because you didn't do anything wrong. Glad to hear that you're doing what you think is healthy and moral, though! Grow Dodie grow!
0 likesIm always getting sad when she starts to cry, ugh im trash.
0 likesLove you.
It's so hard to convey pain, and yes atm I'm pretty fucked up (so maybe I should question my judgement), but my artist side is sad that you will stop conveying pain with words so effectively cos it's such a hard thing to do.
0 likesIt stops my pain being a lonely pain; I feel it with you (not in a creepy way) and God it helps me not feel so fucking alone. even though I am. It's helps...; it helped.
Don't feel bad that you've overshared! You've helped a lot of people and we are extremely grateful. If you ever feel like you need to share things online but want to remain anonymous, try an app like moodtrack. It's basically a diary but you can leave comments (not much of this happens). It's a really lovely app that could potentially help with over sharing, so please try it if you want to!
0 likesI love you Dodie
0 likesDodie its okay babe.
0 likesWe love you and thats that.
So smile darling it suits you <3
please don't feel bad. even if you did overshare at times your talking about mental illness made me feel less alone. I, too, overshare on twitter and stuff when I'm in one of my depressive episodes, and immediately regret it the next day or so bc it makes my friends uncomfortable. It's hard, because in the moment all you want to do is vent and let the world know what you're struggling with, and it's easy to make that mistake. I guess because you have such a large audience, the impact is tenfold for you. But please don't feel awful, you haven't worsened anyone's mental health by talking about your own, even if it was in too much detail. We love you dodes ๐
0 likesi both agree that you should but shouldn't have put all your emotions on the internet?? ok, firstly,, i think its good to kinda have us, your audience to have a little peak at what you're dealing with on social media because it's telling that you're not okay and that you're comfortable enough to share that with us which is totally okay.. but then it also isn't alright because yes the audience on instagram can be young and start to read gory thoughts you write on there which will probably effect them and us. also, it can come off as a cry for help which your friends can see and think that you're not open enough to share with them which isn't the case. it was both a mistake that effected us but was helpful for you. but in the end, it doesn't really matter. what matters is that, you find a way to treat yourself healthily and not on social media. we'll be right here โก
0 likesWhen dodie started to cry I started to tear up oof ow ow ow . I just wanted to hug her and kiss her head and give her tea and tell her it's okay. Oof ow Dodieeeeee :'( nooooo its like watching a little puppy crying
0 likesOhhhhhhh Dodes, don't worry about oversharing. This is probably just me because I am mentally stable but I adore seeing your posts. I feel more connected to you as a person. I love that you are so open about your mental illnesses and I feel like I can enjoy your music even more then I already do because I know about this aspect of you. However, considering that I am mentally stable seeing your posts doesn't trigger me as it might someone who is not completely stable. So, what ever you need to do for you I will support you in. I hope that your new therapist can help you and I hope that you feel much better because of this whole experience. I'm wishing you the best and sending lots of love.
0 likesI agreed with all you are saying. Don't be afraid to share how you feel, but it is a really good idea to take some time to think about what you should upload and what you shouldn't. We all know you have problems so it would be lying if you stopped making depression videos, just keep them a bit more private. I have some minor mental problems and I have been influenced negatively by watching your videos, so I think having the talk with Hazel and thinking about it and then uploading this vodeo was the right choice.
0 likesFinally, something you already know: we all love and support you and don't stop being amazing and lovely and beautiful even on your snapchat, without makeup, after seven days in bed with no showers.
This might help, might not, I don't know... But I know a person in a mental health support group on Facebook, for their specific condition. It's a place they can go to discuss their experiences, within a well-regulated rule set to keep everyone safe. Finding one for you might be a potential healthy outlet... But then again with so many people knowing who you are maybe not, I dunno. Just thought I should put that information out there.
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0 likesI think that you are a bit hard on yourself. People make mistakes. Its worse to keep all those emotions inside. Its good to vent. Just put it all out there. I completly understand why you would do this. Its okay. We all love you and wish you the best. Do what you gotta do
0 likesHoney, you don't have to feel bad AT ALL. After all, you are only human, and humans make mistakes, humans cry, humans develop mental health issues and that is OKAY. Just remember that bottling up your emotions is never a good thing, if you have to skip a day of vedif you DO THAT. Mental health is real, and you have six hundred and forty THOUSAND people who love and support you and will help you through this. WE LOVE YOU xxxxx
0 likesLowkey I maintain your not oversharing and it's super cool that you do it, but if that is what you think you need to do cool cool cool :)))))) :')
0 likesnot everyone is the same. don't be too ashamed of what you did...I read all of the comments on your "over sharing video talk" with your friend. I mean I'm not saying that they're wrong maybe it's triggering to them..but the other part of me is saying that they overreact so much on your videos and everything that you shared. .sorry..I'm sorry, no offense tho...just..you know the videos and things you share online seem fine to me...your videos and songs make me feel less lonely and very relatable...that's all I had to say..love you Dodie.
0 likesAwwwww I just want to hug you! You crying made me want to hug you and drown you in teddy bears and rainbows and yummy foodsโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
0 likesDODIE ITS OK WE ARE HERE FOR YOU YOUR NOT DOING NOTHING WRONG BUT IF YOU FEEL AS IF YOU SHOULD STOP WE ARE STILL GOING TO BE HERE FOR YOU
0 likesDodie, do NOT beat yourself up about this. You have to forgive yourself. Holding on to it is 100% unhealthy. Everyone here forgives you and loves you, and now you need to do the same for yourself, focus on the future and how your going to improve things, feeling bad does nothing useful. We all love you <3
0 likeswe love u dodie
0 likes:( YouTube's comment section needs a "Give a Hug" button. It's all good Dodie. :)
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Dodie fans are so nice we would break that button on every video (:
0 likesYou're totally right. (gives a hug)
0 likesOh, darling. This was beautiful. Trust me, you are not hurting people at all, and even when you did, your intentions were still the best. You are human, and humans make mistakes. And this is why we all admire you so much, or at least why I do. Only a human being that is growing up everyday would admit this and find something to learn from it. I really hope the therapist works out, love. And actually, the fact that you found the courage to film this shows how things can get better; things will get better because you want them to and you are working very hard on it. We all have our breakdowns, and maybe they'll never go away, but to learn how to endure them, that's growing up, that's healing and certainly that's is life. All I can say is thank you for your words. You apologised, and now the matter is over. Keep looking forward and healing everyday. And again, as humans we are conditioned to make mistakes, but as long as we learn from them, there's nothing wrong with stumbling on errors some here and there. I deeply admire you and adore you, Dodie.
0 likes(Maybe Dodie won't read this, but we all need words sometimes. So why not lol)
I really really loved all your posts, but I'm afraid that might be because I might've been using them as a substitute for talking to actual friends and people in my life (because I don't have friends, lol (not lol, I push people away and it's actually a bad problem)).
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~this comment accidentally started to be all about me so I wrote the rest here~ Hearing you talk probably reminded me of the slightly abusive one way friendships I used to have. I would try to open up to people but they had their own mental problems so to conversation would always turn to them. I enjoyed listening and helping them all I could but this resulted in a really bad "no one cares about me" sort of complex. So I stopped talking to people all together, because they don't care and must not want to talk to me, and the fact that no one has ever reached out to me or tried to talk just reaffirms that mindset. Every time I try to start a conversation I feel annoying, so I just stop. That's why I've got to get my feelings out in a YouTube comment, that no one will ever see. Because no one cares about me.
0 likesYou learned from your mistakes and it๐is๐okay๐boo
0 likesI have a leather diary in which i pour my soul and dark thoughts out if needed. it's my personal un-magical pensieve if you will. My only rule is to never re-read because i figured out that as soon as i read it again it comes back into my mind and the cycle starts again. That's why i write my positive stuff into another diary, which i am allowed to re-read.
0 likesbabe, please don't feel bad for sharing and telling us how you feel. At least to me it feels like I'm not alone in feeling crappy and stuff like that. But i understand when you say that you don't want it to be so out there. Your most inner thoughts can be a but dark but it's just a coping mechanism. I'm sure you will be able to find a "healthy" one but just know that all of your audience is here for you always
0 likesI don't really see a problem with your oversharing, to your fans at least, sometimes you just need to vent!! But some people are mean so just fck them. I didn't have to stop watching cause I felt like I was just getting to know you on a more personal level, but you do whatever you want and we'll be here!
0 likesthis is a mistake a lot of people make. i have friends that overshare about their traumas and mental illness online as (a bad) way to cope. you have bigger vulnerabilities and responsabilities than my friends when you do this bc of your large audience, but its still a comprehensible mistake. we're all still learning how to navigate the relationship between the internet and ourselves. dont beat yourself up too much!
0 likeswhy is it that you think that sharing shitty thoughts when you're in a bad state of mind = glorifying mental illness?? it's not? surely it can be triggering to some people but how in the world is it equal to saying "this is mental illness it's fun and trendy and you should all have it" ?
0 likesDodie we understand completely and in a way I feel like some of your fans would like to know how your mental state is? So we can help out? Does that make sense? You're our friend and friends help friends :)
0 likesThe only reason I disliked this video is because you have nothing NOTHING to be sorry about. If nothing your posts on instagram have helped comprehend a little bit more what's going on not only with you but also with me, I am forever thankful for that. Don't ever think again that you're being over dramatic because trust me you aren't.
0 likesWas gunna write a big comment but i just wanna give you a hug tbh
0 likesi deactivated my instagram, what types of posts is she referring to?
0 likesmaybe you should put trigger warnings on your posts and stuff
0 likesAlso, I think you're being too hard for yourself. You didn't mean to hurt us! And you didn't hurt us
0 likesi want to hug you so much right now consider urself hugged a million times
0 likesi have nothing to add except the you are the loveliest person on this entire website
0 likesMaybe try doing what all youtubers do: write a book
0 likesGod Dodiee, stop being so hard on yourself, just because you overshared a bit doesn't mean that you need to take it so seriously. I get that people don't like it that much, but they are acting like 5 year olds, Like we get it, yes, you don't like content that talks about mental health, okay, But like to get triggered about it?, it's a bit too far. So you don't need to apologise if oversharing helps you, then nobody has the right to tell you not to do that.
0 likesIly <3
On a completely different note... are those edits you chopping out all the 'ummmms'?? Just curious as I have never seen that done and that would definite help my videos. :D
0 likesAnd don't worry so much. What you do is you. And like the girl with the rainbow backpack, you are loved as you are.
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Let me also add. People having trouble dealing with mental health issues is not anything new. We talk about it more today than in generations past. Old people, when I was growing up in the 20th century, were often described as 'crazy old' people. They didn't have the medications we have today. Heck people didn't even understand some of the things they were suffering from. I can't tell you how many people I know are now (in later life) are dealing with mental health issues. You are one of the unlucky that are having to cope with it in your youth, but trust me all the people who might be in the "I just don't get it" crowd now, will be singing a different tune as they get older.
0 likesYay VEDIA!
0 likesOh my baby๐ข
0 likesI hate seeing dodie sad, or anyone sad or hurt for that matter. but heres the thing. life happens to different people in different ways. we can't shy away from things that make us uncomfortable or sad because life is uncomfortable and sad. but it doesn't always have to be. we can help. we just have to stop thinking about ourselves and lend a hand. when u fall, u r going to want to get back up. if there is no one to help u, it gets harder. I'm here to help u get back up, so r millions of other people. were all still learning but sometimes, we need to learn the scary things. they will come eventually. its better to be prepared.
0 likesLike I would close my laptop and read a book but I'm currently reading american psycho and that probs isn't the best thing to read for self care..
0 likesoh I do love you dodie
0 likesbabs my heart aches just wanna give u big hugs
0 likesIf trisha paytas would make this kind of video
0 likesI love you!!
0 likesPls, you don't have to apologies!
0 likesActually bless your heart
0 likesSidenote: You're trending
0 likesYou should NEVER have to apologise for this, I love you <3
1 likeHello. I'm gonna do pretty much somewhat of wut u just said not to do... if that makes sense..
0 likesI get u, and keep about everything that hurts, or any emotions to myself. Yah sure I've got my family and close frend to talk to, but I don't like opening up to my parents and always feel like I'm being annoying when I text my fren. I hold it all in and don't know how to let it out without feeling embarrassed or cruddy. Meh. idek. im sry for these words of trash, I only want to relate to someone. goes to balcony and sings softly to herself
Dodie <3
0 likesDid...did she just checked her pulse in the beginning of her video
0 likesYou remind me of a puppy.
0 likeswhen I watch your videos they seem to jump cut, which is distracting...๐ may I ask you to stop cutting them like that. But I like the content. If you could just record them in one long shot . I think they would be easier to watch. anyway good luck with the future ones...๐ love Brian.
0 likesI JUST WANNA HUG YOU
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