Amy Williams if you're under 18 and in the uk on the childline website they have trained counsellors you can talk to anonymously, they won't be able to help as much as actual ones but they are good for unloading your problems on something
Amy Williams yes, there's an organisation called "headspace". If you're in Australia you may have a local branch of it but they can also talk to you online if that's not an option. Also it's less pressure when you're online, you can be more honest about how you feel because there's less of a feeling that you're being judged
I definitely have to reccommend 7cups. They aren't actual therapists but they get trained to talk to you in a way that helps. Each listener has a profile with their strong points and there's always someone online to talk to. It helped me through so much that I decided to get trained to be a listener and stuff to sort of return the favor of what the site did for me. It's amazing and I think its worth a shot for everyone tbh
In the UK, you can email or call the Samaritans (aimed at adults) or childline (if you're under 18), and there's lots of advice forums like Mind, not sure about actual counselling other than that though
Amy Williams you can text the word VOICE to 20121 and you can get someone to talk to you, it may take a while for them to answer because they always have busy lines but when they get ahold of you it's helpful! And if they don't hear back from you in a certain amount of time (I Believe it's 10-15 minutes) they will text back and check on you
7cups is amazing! they have both have professionals and you can either talk by text or by video-your choice. you type in what your symptoms are, and you choose whether you want a professional or user. you also have the option to have two separate accounts at the same time on the same email, one for user and one for listening, so even if you feel like you want to be a listener but you also have some stuff to work out, 7cups is perfect. a listener is a user who is not a professional, but 7cups does run a series of 'tests' and gives guidelines and tips on how to effectively listen even when you've finished the tests. you can only become a listener after you've been qualified to do so. online counseling aside, they have a 'growth path', community center, and incredibly effective meditation tapes!
as someone who really doesn't have enough money for proper therapy, 7cups really helps, and i hope it helps you too!
There's an app on the iTunes app store (idk if it's on android, it most likely is though.) called Vent. You talk to other users and they give you advice that can help. <3
In the U.K. you can go to your doctor and they can refer you, or you can self refer as far as I know, to something called ieso digital health which is literally online therapy through the NHS so it's free and it's with a trained counsellor. They book you in at a time that's best for you and you just log on and go. Any 'homework' is set through there and done online and it's usually a weekly session at the same time but you can have it more frequently if needed. I'd definitely recommend having a look! I used that for a good 6 months or so - it works well!
Ok so childline is shit they don't help at all I use 7cupsoftea (there's an app too where you can track your progress and stuff) and it's actually quite good
Amy Williams I only get my counselling for free cos my school and doctor essentially told me I needed it, so like try and get it recommended on NHS maybe?
Amy Williams there's an app called silvercloud by the nhs I think which keeps getting advertises at my school along with the help lines for adult counselling with self referrals and stuff all on the nhs
on some places, like the wings of fire amino (i know, oddly specific), there are emotional support groups, of untrained people who are usually also struggling and they are willing to help give advice and talk to anyone struggling (on wofa, specifically, they're called the carewings, i'm a member currently)
Try kooth. It's a free online counseling service where u can privately message couselers. Other people can post their issues and u can give them advice. Give it ago. At first I was sceptical but it's really grown on me. Whatever is happening will pass and will get better. U can make it through and u will.
I'm in the UK and when I was under 18, I was recommended Kooth. Which was a counselling website for those under 18. It's free and from what I remember, you can speak to a counsellor there and then and they set up like lil goals for you to achieve and that sort of thing. I found it quite helpful with my anxiety
Kooth is a website that offers online counselling for 11-25 year olds. Be careful though, they offer different types of service depending on which area of the UK you are based in.
i went to the doctor about how im feeling and she literally said "you're 19, you're young and pretty you have nothing to be sad about" and pulled up a webpage on PMS and offered to put me on the pill, ive never felt so patronised and i dont wanna go back but idk what to do :(
Maybe try to book a coin let by yourself, In many of my experiences it takes awhile to get in, but you don't need a doctors note to get into counciling
Yeah I think I need to shop around, I was hoping to get referred by a doctor because that sort of makes everything quicker, by I think I'll just have to do it on my own! Just sucks when you're a pretty sensitive person haha Thank you :)
emmarose literally the same thing happened to me when I was 19, doc told me to "grow up" and I didn't try to go back for years. I'm 21 now and finally got the bravery to go back and now I'm on anti depressants and doing counselling and omg I wish I forced my doctor to listen to me all those years ago. If you know something is wrong, force that doctor to listen to you, do not take no for an answer!
Amy J thank you sm, ive never heard of 7cupsoftea i think ill try it, sounds pretty good. I dont really talk about this stuff so it might be good for me.
Leia gosh im sorry that happened to you, im glad you're getting the help you need now!! I definitely know something is wrong, its gotten to a point where its affecting my physical health so maybe they will finally listen to me haha. Thank you <3
I hate when people assume pretty people have no problems, as if appearances are the only thing you could struggle with. There are much bigger and deeper problems in life.
Omg same mine said i was just stressed and needed to sleep more! Turns out i have depression, anxiety and my stress got so bad my body started like hurting itself lol
Tana Yup this is literally what I feel when I watch Dodie's videos. I feel like we are long time friends and just chatting so it makes me want to make videos responding to her videos or something with the same topic.
Abbey Christine yeah I agree. I adore tessa and dodie but I also adore the community they inspire. I'd love to have coffee with many of their subscribers just as much as them :)
I definitely wouldn't recommend my school counselor. I went because I was feeling depressed all the time, but then after the second time I went, it started to get a little better - not because of her, I hated her - but because my friends were including me in more things, and as I wasn't as upset anymore, she just said 'Oh, I don't think you'll need to come back anymore'. Well, she was horrible and then my friends started ditching me again and she never really listened properly, so now I don't want to ask for her again, so I am now stuck with doing nothing, as I go to a boarding school so I don't have an amazing relationship with my parents, so I can't ask them to book a doctor's appointment.
I am 15 and have had extreme anxiety disorder since I was 5. However we didn't know I had anxiety till just a couple years ago. Last summer I was at a very low point and my parents started getting scared. They didn't know how to help me..my mom asked if I wanted to go to counseling. I said no so many times that she eventually gave up and stopped asking. Looking back on it now..I wonder if it really would have helped..my anxiety recently has been better in the sense that I don't wake up every day with an attack-however when things like trips or social engagements come up, I suffer with very hard, very intense attacks. Do you think I should take my moms offer and go see someone?
I think you should go see someone because that helps a lot of people, but that's just my opinion, you should do whatever you think will be best for you.
Rachel Watkins I do think you should seek help because the longer you feel that way the harder it will be to try and get over it. I realize it's already been a little while but it is never too late.
Yes, look into it. If not just to get to know your own head, and the illness in it, a little bit better. Like Tessa mentioned, that's the most important reason, because understanding what is really happening to you is so unbelievably helpful in every way, and will give you the confidence to seek the help that is right for you in the long run.
On the thing of telling your parents (my personal experience):
My parents are really busy, and I was incredibly anxious over Christmas. I've always been anxious, but this was the kind of anxious that made me actually ill for weeks. I finally broke in front of both my Mum and Dad the day before school started again. In my head they'd never been the first people I turn to because of being busy with my siblings and work, but they were incredible. They spoke to school to let me leave classes to try to calm down if I needed to and even said that I could have counselling with one of our psychiatrist friends. I though they'd pull some 'anxiety isn't real' 'you're making it up' crap, but they didn't. Shows that even if you don't think talking to them will help, give it a try.
I have been in a psychiatric unit for nearly three weeks now since I tried to end my life. Anyone who is feeling this way, please hang in there. Nothing is worth that. I know it feels like no one can possibly understand but you need to give them the opportunity to try. You have made an impact on this world whether you realise it or not. Depression is a state of complete hopelessness but realise that the mental illness is what's influencing your thoughts. There is hope. You can get better.
I emailed a counselor asking to book a meeting while watching this video. Thank you. At age 27, this marks the first time in my life trying to get professional help.
Something that really helped me is to think that if you are not feeling good sometimes that is ok, and to not stress about it. Because if you are not feeling well, most of the time, it just means you are going to feel better eventually! Love you dodie, you really inspire me to create videos and make me smile! <33
my therapy session yesterday was very difficult..i broke down and kept crying and i couldn't breathe, but she is so lovely and helpful. she's the third one i've seen and she is so easy to talk to. x
I've had a pretty bad experience with therapy. I think it's mostly because I have bad social anxiety and talking to a stranger for an hour definitely did not help that. But I've been on meds for a few months and it's been so so much better. So really therapy is not for everyone and can't fix everyone.
While now that you're on meds and feel a lot better a lot of people recommend people with anxiety or something like that go on meds first and see therapist when they are more comfortable talking
That weird Geek I have anxiety and like social anxiety and I I've talked about it to my mom a bit and just thinking of the process of medicine and therapy skills the living hell out of me which is why I should do it but like I know realistically therapy or whatever would help but it's just uhh I feel like it's would make it worse but I also feel like I'm wrong but idk sorry
I'm actually still in therapy via a program with my school and I love my therapist, she knows how to make me feel like I'm not being annoying or boring or like I'm rambling and she somehow hears like a half hour of rambling about my feelings and is able to pull out a few minutes of analysis and she always says, "I wonder if..." which makes me feel like I'm not being spoon fed my epiphanies but rather led to them which is nice.
Ya see I tried going to my school counselor about my depression and anxiety, mainly depression, and she talked a lot about anxiety but I left feeling worse about my depression than before so that's dandy
Rebecca Ogden If I could recommend anything just don't go to a school counsellor. At least if you go, do not tell them about self harm or thoughts of suicide because they will call your parents WITHOUT your consent. Found out the hard way, but there is a big loophole in the mental health system where there is a massive misunderstanding that people who self harm are unable to control their actions which puts them at risk, and so the school can legally, even if you beg them, phone home and tell your parents, because the child is 'at risk'. The problem with this is so many parents are misunderstanding or unsupportive, they will shout at their children which will cause them to self harm again and feel even more isolated, or perhaps the parents are the reason they self harmed in the first place, and so telling them puts the child at risk even more.
youre a smart cookie. most people think after one therapy session that it doesnt work for them but like, yes its not therapy its the counselor that either a) doesnt know what theyre doing or b) you just dont trust them for some reason
Went to my first session of therapy today. Had this video on repeat and I felt a lot better about going. Thx dodie for helping me get through this madness.❤️
From somebody who's never been in counseling this is very interesting. About the parents perspective on therapy I have to say that my situation is a little different. Ever since I was eleven and suicide started becoming this thing I would wonder about more and more, I've wanted therapy. I cant tell you how many times I've come to the conclusion that therapy would help me but then was talked out of the idea by my mother. She is so convinced that if anything should happen the government can use your therapy against you or what if I should be arrested and they could make the argument that I'm crazy. She needs therapy as well lol. But as a young impressionable kid I really took these concerns to heart and now there's this irrational fear that some unforeseen problem will arise if I try therapy. Now that I'm part of adulthood and I have my own health insurance I'm going to try it out and hopefully it will go well. <3
For those who live in Australia (and possibly other countries okay sh) and are currently in school, counselors are pretty much available at a heap of schools and are probably at the school you are currently going to.
I know that my school that I currently go to and the other places I went had counselors readily available for me and the other students, so have a check with your home room/pastoral teachers (if you have them) or any other reliable teachers to see if your school has a guidance counselor. I know mine has a little bit of a wait for booking appointments, but then again this will vary between schools and is absolutely and completely worth it.
Even though it might seem a little taboo to go to counseling to some, its actually really great that there is a place where people can go to open up and find out a little more about themselves and, if you're worried about privacy, counselors will never tell anyone, not even teachers or parents, about what you tell them unless it's completely necessary and unless you give them consent. Don't forget there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of when going to counseling. Counselors are there to help you and listen, so there's no reason to be embarrassed!
Anyway, hopefully this helps the younger viewers here. Make sure you look after yourselves ;D lol
I've been in therapy since I was about 13 dealing with major depressive episodes, GAD and a panic attack disorder. I've been with the same therapist for 7 years now and even when I'm in a much better place I still want to work on myself, and having someone who knows me so so well and who I'm comfortable which is immensely helpful. I'm a big encourager of therapy, especially since I know howuxh its helped me. I think its important to remember that if you can, stay in therapy. Therapy is not just for crisis moments, but to help prevent complete mental breakdowns from happening. When I was about 15 I stopped seeing my therapist because I was no longer in danger of jumping off a bridge but stopping is what contributed to my first hospitalization. Therapy is expensive, especially in America and the best thing if you can't afford therapy is to know your resources. I'm glad you guys put this video up. Love you both!!
My god, what Tessa said about looking at your friends and going "well I'm not as bad as them so I'm fine" was SO RELATABLE. I have friends with clinical depression, suicidal tendencies, extreme anxiety, anorexia, self-harm, PTSD, dead parents, abusive parents, and so much more, and I'm kinda just sitting in the middle with my little fucked up mind all "I'm fine :)", even when I'm so not.
For people in Australia seeking therapy I would highly recommend Headspace! It's a youth mental health clinic, and you get 10 free sessions on your mental health care plan every year (which doesn't sound like a lot, but I've been going since last July and only just used up my 10 last week.) You don't need a referral from a doctor before going there - first they get you to speak to a youth member who is not a therapist/doctor, then you speak to a doctor at the centre who with then refer you to a counsellor. They're really helpful and the waiting list (at least in my area) isn't too bad (I had to wait about 2 weeks at a time, though at times there were larger gaps) hope this helps :)
Hey, how do you, like, tell people... things? I mean, everybody is like, "so I was sad and my parents did something" but, like... how do they know? How do you tell people you are sad? I don't have this ability I'm not capable of asking for help and it's not even because of pride, I just have no idea how you do it
When I was in highschool I use to go to the school counsellor, during a really rough time, my parents never knew, but it was amazing being able to talk about how i felt
This sounds like your mother is already in therapy? If so, don't worry about her, because she already has support, and it's not your job to sacrifice your mental health for hers. If you're both in therapy, you will probably both be happier. It won't be a fun conversation, but go for it. Be as kind as possible. Because it will be for the best.
@Willow Song She was in therapy, isn't anymore. But not because she feels better now, but because she can't go because oft various reasons. So no, she doesn't actually have support herself.
Hmm. That's hard. But if you need therapy yourself, and are part of her support circle, it would be a disservice to both of you if you don't get the support YOU need so you can keep supporting HER. Either way, its a hard choice, and people will understand no matter what you do. <3
I don't think I could have Tessa as my therapist. I might fall for her too easily. I try to keep my therapists as "not my type".
Also, I've explicitly told my therapist to tell me what to do. I'm amazingly good at following directions. And that's why she said, "I know that. That's why I won't issue challenges to you. You'll actually do them no questions asked."
But seriously, mental illness has physical causes. If it feels like there's a thunderstorm going on in your head, complete with lightning bolts and thunder claps, and while that's happening your mood is tanking severely, THAT IS NOT NORMAL. That's a serious medical condition.
When Tessa said "when children go to therapy it makes the parents feel like they've failed on their part" or something like that, I remember my friend who goes to therapy but she's only 10 and her parents talked of mine and my mom told me that my friend's mom said she felt like she failed at helping my friend feel happy. I just started to cry, srry for the long thing.
This video was exactly what I needed. I have been planning on making an appointment for a therapy session for weeks and this video was the push I needed to actually take action. Thank you!!!
Group therapy is actually amazing! I'm in it through my school, and it has helped me so much through so much. It's always a safe space and you get multiple opinions on things or even just a lot of ears listening. I would recommend it to anyone :)
Love how openly you speak about this! So inspiring. I (finally) started psychotherapy this week. Last year was hell for me and although I've recovered a lot I still feel I have a long way to go. I live in Finland so the government pays like 50-80% of the therapy once my application goes through. (If any finnish people here wants to pop a question about this feel free~)
i remember watching this video when i was 16 (i'm currently 19) and i remember being so against counsellors because i had 1 who wasn't necessarily looking at how i could deal with issues but trying out game-like techniques with me instead, when all i wanted to do was talk about things realistically and not make it a game. i finally found someone afterwards who did ask about my own feelings and ways i could deal with things without turning them into small mini games. coming back to this video, what Tessa says is so true; just because one person doesn't work for you, doesn't mean everyone won't, someone IS out there who can provide the help that you want. you just gotta keep searching and you will find them.
I just recently starting going to therapy (and by recently, I mean I've had exactly one session) for anxiety and depression. Your openness about this makes me feel less weird for seeking help, so thank you.
BLESS. I love my therapist and I'm so thankful for his help. I'm so happy you guys are talking so highly about it, because I always tell people that ANYONE can benefit from it.
Thank you for this! I recently started therapy, and I've been so scared to share about it to others because I feared that they would treat me like a freak, which was a stupid thought. This has helped me a ton with being more open about how I feel and what I need.
This came at such a useful time! I've recently seen a counsellor at my university and they want me to decide between 3 different types of therapy but I have no idea which one will help me. I'm the same as Tessa in the fact that I've kept putting therapy off because my friends have always seemed to have bigger issues than me so I've never thought I've needed it although I've been told for years that I do :/
I love the positivity in this video! I've been going to free counseling at my school but once my mom found out I was getting suicidal again she booked me an appointment with a professional psychiatrist and I was so scared to go and feeling like I didn't need it or it wouldn't help and this video made me feel better about going :)
Thank you so much for this. I'm on a waiting list currently for therapy and before watching this I was so worried about it and whether it would help or whether I really need it but now I feel like I'm really going to benefit from it!
I have felt depressed on and off since age 10 (2011) and I started feeling really anxious. In 2014 I went to my GP about it and nothing really happened until last year when my mum thought I had depression and I went to my GP again. They referred me to CAMHS.
Several months later they called me said it was just exam stress and that was that.
Several weeks after that I went to my other doctor told them what happened and they re-referred me to CAMHS. Many months later I actually got to talk to them and they diagnosed me with generalised anxiety, social anxiety and mild depression. However they told me there was no point being put on their waiting list because in less than a year I turn 18. So they referred me to talking therapies and sent their diagnosis over.
A while later I got an appointment with talking therapies where they knew nothing baout me like they never got the information from CAMHS and they acted like a person could only have one type of anxiety? They told me it did not sound like I had social anxiety but I had "panic anxiety". WTF IS PANIC ANXIETY? ALL anxiety is panicky on some level. Is it not?! So now I am doing Cognitive Behavioural Therapy online for anxiety and I have no idea what i'm supposed to be doing tbh because you don't really have the opportunity to talk to anyone. I mean every two weeks a person looks at your progress and makes some statements that aren't very helpful. Like they don't really do anything which I don't understand.
I'm sorry, that sounds frustrating. :( I'd recommend researching counseling places in your area where you can get direct care/communication. After you turn 18 you're free to go yourself. Shop around, see what kind of counselor is right for you. The administrative system will always be annoying and cold, but I assure you that lots of the actual practitioners are wonderful.
cookietiger I was referred to camhs by my doctor and diagnosed with mild depression and several anxiety disorders. camhs put me on a waiting list for CBT. It was supposed to be three months maximum before I would be seen for treatment but it's now been five and I've still heard nothing.
Urgh that sucks! Waiting lists are evil but i'm sure you will get the help soon. While you wait you could look for other counselling services in your area by asking your GP or someone and googling if you haven't already. Before I got an appointment with CAMHS another psychiatrist suggested looking at a place in my area that might have a shorter waiting list but after I got to talk to talking therapies and that I told them I didn't need the help anymore so I wouldn't be in the way in the waiting list. Honestly I love the idea of the NHS but it is often so frustrating in practice. Hope you get better soon.
I go to Camhs, and tbh for me personally its done me some good, me and my councilor genuinely get along. I dont see her every week, because its busy you know. Maybe I'm just lucky and got a good councilor idk?? But if you find the right person to talk to, then its fine, some people in Camhs do genuinely want to help, then some others just sit there and don't even care tbh
This is actually so helpful! On Thursday I (finally) went to see my gp about my mental health after a year and a half of hell. I immediately got put on antidepressants and have to go to therapy and the thought of it terrifies me... I have no idea what to expect or do and I'm scared. But I've taken that first step by talking to someone in the first place so I guess therapy is the best and positive thing even though it is scary :)
I needed this video. Thank you for making this. Cause I’m having the exact same type of situation. But this is one of the reasons why I finally told my family that I was depressed and sucidal and then I got therapy so your one of the reasons why I am a lot better now. So thank you Dodie! 😇💕😊
I'm so glad YouTubers are talking about this, it's so healthy to normalise therapy and just encourage people to get help in a way that isn't patronising 💕 Thank you for being so honest in these vids Dodie 💕
Thank you lovely ladies for this video. I recently have been considering going to therapy and i booked an appointment for it... I've never been to therapy but i feel like i just need to give it a try since i've been feeling so down and anxious lately. So thank you girls for not making this a taboo topic to talk about <3
This video was wonderful, thank you! After seeing you being brave enough to admit you needed help, so did I (along with a couple other things). My first session was last week and while I am nervous, I am really thankful that I get the chance to make myself better. Thank you for helping me understand how valuable therapy is.
This video came out just at the right time for me :3 I've been putting off phoning the therapy place my GP referred me to (phoning people is scary) but this has given me the little bit of extra strength I needed to do it so thank you both 💛
This video came out just at the right time for me :3 I've been putting off phoning the therapy place my GP referred me to (phoning people is scary) but this has given me the little bit of extra strength I needed to do it so thank you both 💛
thank you for this video, I wish more people did videos like this, just talking honestly about therapy and sharing their experience. I love therapy!! everyone should go :)
Finally after 3 years I went to find help. One of the best choices I've made for myself. My parents don't know about this and that's okay. I don't want to worry them since I'm already working on it myself. The "failure as a parents"-part in the video is also a good point. I don't live at home anymore, but if you do, it is harder to hide and maybe you should tell them about it.
Thank you so much for opening up about this recently, Dodie ❤ I've struggled with depression for about 4 years now, and I'm about to leave secondary school and also am only just now beginning to realise how much it's affected me. You've encouraged me a whole lot to get help and also made me understand how much of me is the way it is because of my depression. Now I know that I want to get better because I don't want it to screw up university the way it has secondary school. Thank you so much for all of this :) You are an absolute saint, and I'm so happy for your getting better.
I loved this video so much, thank you for making it. 💟 (I would really enjoy more mental health chats, or even a series on mental health from you two, just throwing that out there - no pressure 💕) have a lovely day! 🌿
I love videos like this, where YouTubers talk about real things in front of the camera. They make me feel like I am more normal than I think. Especially with Dodie, and especially this video. I don't really enjoy my therapy sessions and have been starting to feel like therapy is not my thing, but this video makes me feel like maybe my therapist just isn't right for me.
I'm gonna start therapy really soon, and I gotta hand it to you Dodie. You made me realize that asking for help is okay and I can't thank you enough. ❤️
dodie you're the reason i'm finally gonna get myself some help i'm finally going to go to therapy because of all the good things you've said about it so thank you for being such a positive influence on my life
i hate therapy, cause i'm always about to cry, but i feel like it'd be awkward if i did, and i feel like i'm not supposed to or not allowed to since i'm a guy, so it sucks.
The best guys are the kind who can cry in front of people. Therapists are paid not to judge you, and they have by-far seen worse. Give yourself permission to be vulnerable, and I promise you will feel better in the long run.
Willow Song idk, i feel like i'm only allowed to cry when i'm alone or not at all. i try to keep in touch with my emotions, but it's hard when i constantly have the feeling i'm being judged, ya know? but thank you.
crying releases toxins and stuff that are good for you and make you feel better. counsellors are use to people crying/getting aggressive/breaking down so they won't judge you and they can help you when they know how you react to things. Good luck with future sessions, let yourself go and try not to think too much about it in your sessions
kaleioli Look once you allow yourself to cry in front of those who won't judge you (close friends, not to be stereotypical but girls are generally more open to it) or your therapist who absolutely won't judge you, you realize that guys not being supposed to cry is a bunch of bullshit. Allow your emotions to come out and you'll feel better, it definitely helps me to not hold it in.
I am a girl and I even feel insecure and weak when I cry in front of people. I normally try not to cry especially in front of my friends or peers because I know if I start to heavily cry I will not stop till I run out of tears🙃
Rachel Webster Well everyone tries to hold back tears when around random friends/peers/people in general. Find those who you're comfortable with crying in front of though and their company will give you support and comfort. It's good to have someone to cry in front of, I wish I had someone for that rn bc the only person who I could do that with is the only person I can't. Long story that I'll explain if u want me to.
ok but it's okay to cry you know, it's normal!! guys can cry too!!! it doesn't make you any less masculine or whatever. crying should make you feel better, not worse. :)
kaleioli maybe try and find a male therapist, I don't know if that would help you express yourself more. But also don't keep to the stereotypes, I know it's easy for me to say and not so much to do, but if you feel the need to cry then cry.
kaleioli cry all you want just because you're a guy doesn't mean you can't cry. Crying isn't a sign of weakness it's just your body saying hey I feel like shit right now so let's conduct water from our eyes you'll also find that crying makes you feel better. if you bottle it up inside it won't get any better. :)
I get you, I've been the same for years and still struggle with being vulnerable in front of people now. it's probably even worse for you because you're a boy and all that "men don't cry" bullshit is so pressuring.. I can only speak from my experience - it took me a looong time to first cry in front of a counselor (like 2 years?), but once you do and you see that nothing bad happens and they still treat you the same way, it's so relieving. so please don't give up, even if it may take a long time for you to finally feel comfortable around them, it'll happen eventually and it's the key to getting better. have you told them about your struggles with crying in front of them? it's super hard, I know, but when they know the problem they can probably help you overcome it, that's what they're trained for <3
Who ever or whatever made you think you can't cry because you are a guy is so wrong it's not even funny . We all cry , even if it's not with tears coming down our faces .
I am NOT a crier and I balled my eyes out during my first session. Honestly, I think my therapist was relieved. Psychologists know that gender norms like "men can't cry" are complete bollocks, so I encourage you to sob away if/when you are comfortable. :)
kaleioli I know this sounds weird but please cry. I am actually asking you to cry in front of your therapist because it is so good for you - it's so healing, and cathartic, and you will feel so authentic towards yourself when you walk out of their office that day. Trust me, you will be in such a better headspace, you will be nicer and more present with other people because you have dealt with your inner demons that day. It is actually responsible to acknowledge whatever's bringing you hurt! I know this all sounds strange but it works - oh GOD it works. If it helps, you don't have to look at your counsellor when you cry - just do what feels right, and remember that it is their job to not judge you.I should note - I am in therapy. So this advice is from personal experience! All the best!
crying is literally your bodies method of releasing chemicals and energy that creates sadness. its your body helping you and making you feel better. don't hold it back.
I just want to thank you both from the bottom of my heart for talking about this and making a video. You are so not alone in this experience! I thought that I was going to therapy because I currently wasn't worth anything and that I wasn't normal and that there was something wrong with me. Lies! Everyone isn't "normal" and everyone could use therapy to learn more about themselves and take care of their mental and emotional health. Also, Celebrate Recovery is amazing! I have a friend who is a leader of one group and it's is good for all the people involved. Her group was centered around body image but there are tons of wonderful groups that are non-judgmental because you're all just there to get better and understand each other.
In the past week, I've realized I've been repressing feelings for six years, had those feelings resurface, become excited about actually sharing those feelings for once in my life, and gotten shot down back into the rabbit hole of the emotions and being silent about it, so I now feel lonelier than I ever have in my entire existence.
So, needless to say, I really needed this video. Thank you.
i love the fact that you did this talk!!! i hear so little from Youtubers about therapy and if they are doing IT. I did myself just started two months ago and this talks this problems and this struggle about listening to them is very familiar for me <3 love you Doddle and Tessa <3
I love that you made a video on this! I'm currently going through school to become a therapist, so, as you'd guess, I'm a big advocate for therapy! haha Also, a bit off topic, but your hair looks SO GOOD in this video! <3
I'm so glad you guys made this video, I have a friend that can definitely benefit from therapy/counselling but feels like it won't help her. I know she'll watch this video and hopefully it may change her mind <3
I'm starting CBT in the next few weeks, I'm nervous for the first session, but excited to get some help! This video really helps, thanks Dodie and Tessa! I love you guys! Xx
I had counselling in my first years of secondary school, obviously it depends on who you have but I loved it. It was really nice to have someone to talk to that I didn't feel found what I was saying boring, I'd say it helped 💜✌️
Aww I loved this video so much! I struggle with my thoughts and feelings a lot, and always got put off of counselling and talking about my issues. However, I began seeing a counselor free of charge through my University Mental Health Centre, and have seen her like 3 times now. I did feel quite comfortable with her, for numerous reasons, including the fact that she could read right through the fact that I was trying to be polite and not swear in front of her, even though (unfortunately) it is part of my everyday vocabulary! But she has recently gone on maternity leave as she is having a baby, and as happy as I am that she is welcoming a new person into the world, I'm also bummed out because it literally always seems like something good enters my life then gets pulled away just as fast... I think my issue now is do I return and see another counselor, or do I just do what I've always done and bottle up my emotions inside and pray that I don't explode in a big ball of fists and anger?! Well I think it's pretty obvious as to which option is better, but I am just worried that I will not feel comfortable with this counselor and then have to make excuses not to see them any more because I don't gel well with them. Any tips on this issue?
Oh also, we are having a puppy-petting-day at my University in a couple of days (this coming Tuesday), and quoting their facebook page on the event: "The day will be in support of Mind, a charity who work to support and improve the lives of people with experience of mental health problems". Just thought I'd mention that as it was something which you spoke of in the video :) :) :)
Also, forgot to add this at the end of this comment; I love Tessa's hair! Have always loved coloured hair but this is just :O !!! Not even sure what colour it is. Like salmon or pastel pink?!!
I've definitely been needing to make an appointment with my college's counseling center but I've been putting it off for months. This both reminded me and convinced me to finally act on it. Thanks to you both!
dodie, oh my god, you have no idea how much I've needed this, I was just thinking about telling my parents last night but I chickened out. you're literally always there when i need you
6:16 I actually had the complete opposite experience. I had major anxiety when I was little (still do tho but eh) and would get sick every time I went out, and they both realized that and made me go to therapy. I may have been really young (7) but it really did help a lot so if you are afraid to go just do it it can really help even if you feel like you don't need it
I went through 13 therepists, in the end I leaned more on my friends as my form of therapy and found out that I actually bottled it up so much and tried to keep it to myself and I couldn't unload that on the therapist but I could on my friends that were there for me. And that's also important to know that you can talk to your friends as well as family if you don't get on well to get her with a therapists.
When I decided to go to therapy, I told my parents that I wanna go to seek help for manage stress. That was actually one of the reasons why I wanted to go (not the only one), but also wasn't so awkward when I told them that I wanna go. So maybe is something you can say at first if you don't feel comfortable when you are telling them.
in my experience, i went to school counseling a few times and after a while the counselor told me shes really there for students who cant get therapy and shes more there for students with immediate problems rather than for support. im not sure about the other counsellors as my school, but she made me feel guilty for going so that was it
Sivolia same. I don't even know if mine has a councilor that's not an old woman that'll be like "oh your fine go to class" and even if I did go to her I feel like my friends and peers would treat me differently
this is so true. My friend went to a school counsellor because of home troubles that were leading to anxiety and she basically said that everybody goes through home troubles and that other people have it worse
Same same same... mine implied I was wasting her time because people have it worse... she also was super dismissive of anything I would say to justify myself
damn i'm sorry guys. i feel your pain though, mine was so bad she actually made me feel so much worse about myself rather than better. she also called me transphobic slurs which was obviously just great
yea thats often what i hear about school counselors. Like in my school (US) you got assigned to a counselor based on the alphabetical order of your last name. Mine was a douche. And basically their main purpose is to set you up for colleges. I forget why, but there was a few times i had to go to him outside of the whole college schtick. This was also during a time where my parents were requiring i go to a therapist and take pills for the mental illness they (the doctors)had diagnosed me with(depression), so with the local turnover rate, i was well associated with actual therapists...and gawd.. i was not impressed. I think he may have pissed off my mom at some point as well. But then again ive run into a few therapists or just people in the mental health field that i was not a fan of... or maybe shouldnt have been in the field. And that was a learning process for both me and my mom, only later learning how shitty they were when we met a good one.
I went to my school counselor bc of trouble at home and I didn't know what to do and he just said "I'm not a therapist I can't help you with anything. except bullying maybe" but all of my teachers tell my to go to the counselor with those problems?!
Oh god same -.- the only good thing about going to see her was that she gave me a list of real counselors in my area and I found my first one because of that. I literally talked to that school woman once and she accused me of faking it for attention, she was a nightmare. don't give up though, four years of really good therapy later (and three years out of school) and I've had so amazing and validating experiences with counselors, you'll find the right one eventually <3
Honestly I feel like my school counselor is amazing ! She is a really great woman , the only problem is , that she is so hard to get to . I have seven periods and two of those are performing arts classes , during my lunch break I can't reach her because she too is on lunch and after school she has meetings . She knows I have issues ( this sounds like I'm complaining I'm not trying to I'm sorry ) I have talked to her before , but our school just never gives us students the time to talk to her :( .
You guys are really makin me think I need to go into High School or Middle School counseling next year. It always infuriated me how some counselors treated some of my friends (driving them towards suicide and self harm in those cases). Just reminding me it's not so rare. Granted, I've gotta get past feeling like I don't know what I'm doing lol
Thanks for helping me be happy in those moments where I felt like shit. When I feel like my friends hate me. When I feel like I just want to cry. When I want to talk to someone who is really, really special to me, but I can't. You're music and you're voice helped me through. So again, thanks. A lot. 💖🌷
My brother literally walked in my room and I was like look Billy it's DODIE and he was like "dude dodies shirt is on fleek status" 😂😂 we are so strange! We love you Dodie!!! 💕
i wrote this today when i was meant to be doing my homework:
dodie makes me happy because- she's so open and honest and doesn't sugar-coat depression like 'oh i'm a lil depressed but i'm fine' she writes such deep and meaningful songs that so many people can relate to but aside from being deep and meaningful she is funny, kind, and she giggles so much - her laughter is so contagious and i love it she is never embarrassed about having a 'naked face' on youtube she isn't a show-off like youtubers who are like 'hey look at me i have so many subscribers and i'm hot i never post my ugly naked face on youtube that would be totes gross' she swears and gets angry and sad like a normal human being and isn't afraid to show it she isn't embarrased about crying in front of people, unlike me she is so so so so so inspirational in so many ways, and not many people notice her. some youtubers just need to take a break and be more like doddleoddle. be more open. be less embarrassed and hot-headed. chill out and just relax in videos instead of feeling like they're being forced to film.
I really love your videos :D Been watching Tessa for years now and subscribed to you now as well round of applause
It's very interresting to listen to you both talk about this stuff so openly. Thank you for this :) Keep your head up and be prepared for more comments from me :D
thank you dodie i was considering therapy for some time after a fight with someone i used to call a friend. i thought something was wrong with me, so i just wanted to say thanks cause this video helped me a lot
Ladies, I cannot thank you enough, for this video. I suffer from PTSD, and my experience was similar to Tessa's. It took me many years to realize that I needed therapy. But, just as your experiences differed, so do those of most people. It is VERY IMPORTANT that people understand that. Just because one has a different experience of their condition, it does not mean that they need therapy less than others. Also, the hardest part for many is swallowing their pride, and asking for help. I know that I fought that battle for a very long time. But, there is no shame in seeking understanding from a trained professional, even if you THINK you know what is going on.
Thank you for these little chatty videos. They make me a feel a little more comfortable about my illness. It made me re reflect about when you feel down and hating it. Now I can separate it from myself as the culprit but rather recognise it as signs of illness that I cant control
Thank you so much for this! I know its just a coincidence but I have hoped you might make a video about it at some point! I have been booked a counselling appointment but I have always been afraid of whether I actually need it or not, and like you mentioned my parents aren't keen but trying to explain it to them I'm afraid they'll get upset or angry or something. xxxx
Thank you for this video, ladies. I've been to counselling for grief as well as anxiety/depression and I never find it helpful because I experience what you said Dodie, feeling spaced out during sessions and not really getting anything out of it. I've been on meds for two years and I'm trying to get off them now. This video has inspired me to re-consider counselling as an option for dealing with everything. Love you both so much x
therapy was something that has been on my mind a lot recently. I've had all sorts of personal issues with my mind, environment, personality for the half past year, but I always told myself "oh well, you're only exaggerating, other people are at a far worse place than you, you'll be fine!" it's so dumb, I KNOW AHH! my mum had gone to therapy for a year, thanks to HI she didn't have to pay too much, but I'm really anxious about the idea? I already have trust issues and opening up to a complete stranger is such an absurd idea... especially as a minor, who's problems seem insignificant. I suppose I should give it a try, but honestly, I don't think my problems can actually get fixed through talking? It seems so uncomfortable. no, but I'm proud of you girls!
Hey! I wanted to tell you that your videos about depression and anxiety are the ones that helped me admit to myself that I had a problem, after years of anxiety and months of being sad all the time I finally took an appointment with a therapist. So thank you for talking so freely about it, I think you helped a ton of people like me. Love and kisses from France <3
I wish I could have a friendship like these two. Been on a sappy/depressed video binge and I just can't help but admire their friendship. Especially since they seem so open with each other and can share that kind of stuff. Hope I can find a friend and a friendship like this.
This video helps a lot. Ive been going through a lot of emotions lately and I don't know why. I had a good day to day but the minute I realized I was in a good mood I started asking myself why. I feel like I really really want therapy. Like bad. I want to know if I have a mental illness, I want to know where all my sadness comes from. I feel like therapy will help me figure out a lot of questions. I just feel like I don't need it and that it's unfair that I think I need it when I'm not as bad as Another person who needs it. I also don't want to tell my mom. My mom knows I have some heightened anxiety and she kind of self diagnosed me which is kind of another reason I want to go to therapy cause I want to figure out if the self diagnoses was true. No but anxiety runs in our family but even so it's so hard for me to ask for therapy and I don't know why. Maybe it's cause she'll have to sit in the room with me, or maybe cause I don't want to tell her I feel depressed along with the other feelings. Maybe it's cause I don't want to come to terms with the fact that I might need it or maybe im just scared of what the therapist will say. I don't want him or her to tell me that there's nothing wrong with me and I need to leave and I also don't want him or her to tell me theres tons wrong with me and I need medication. I also don't want to pour all my feelings out. I know it's there job but I always feel like a burden. There is so much keeping me from going. I want help and this vid helped some but maybe someone with the same experience as me can give me some advice?
6:37 "can't hurt to try" (in reference to school counseling) Yes it can. I almost went to a school counselor for something I am going through, but after close examination at the last minute, I realized what I was about to jump into. My school is not a public school and they use a certain specific program for counseling. This program can either work really well for some or make things a lot worse. For me and my situation, it would have made things a lot worse. I know most schools aren't like this and this isn't meant to steer away from school counseling or make you worry. I am just saying that you should check out what you are about to get into. If you do and it seems alright, it probably is and there is no need to worry.
When I was in elementary school we had a group counseling program for girls. It was great to be with my friends and be able to talk about the ruff bumps in school and life
tessa, i like how you brought up that you tried celebrate recovery! my church has a CR program and i was asked to sing at an anniversary meeting once; really cool experience being there. everyone seemed more genuine than i had ever seen at my church. 👌🏻 this specific event was definitely more christian oriented but i know that CR may not necessarily be so religious all the time. cool and different experience though!
After I had watched this video I went to bed feeling so confident and happy and I woke up feeling positive. You need to make more of these videos because they are so calming and make you feel like you aren't alone. Therapy is such a great thing!! I'm in it also and I'm glad you guys are too. You just make me so happy Dodie (and Tessa!) I can't even describe it!
I've been going to therapy for a few months and I love it. But, I'm scared to tell my parents what I talk about with my counselor because I don't want to worry them.
This video made me cry, and I feel so silly about it, but it's just so sweet and relieving to hear such beautiful people (inside and out) talking about things like this in such a positive way <3
This was very insightful and i hope i get the courage and bravery to start going to therapy at some point this year because of anxiety mostly. But i'm kind of scared of being vulnerable and telling a complete stranger my problems hehe
I was also so totally convinced I couldn't fix my head with talking but I finally started cbt two weeks ago and already feel so much more in control. Makes me feel even more confident to see someone else talking about having the same experience, thanks dodie 💕💕💕
@doddlevloggle after watching this video, i was inspired to talk to my mom about therapy fro my anxiety-something i have struggled with for years but kept hidden. and she said yes! thanks to you i'm gonna be able to work through stuff i have bottled up for years and finally live a happy life. thank you so much. you are such an inspiration
Thanks so much for taking about and normalising counselling and therapy; it's always a bit awkward to tell people I have a counsellor, but youtubers talking about it is so comforting, and as an aspiring therapist myself (off to do counselling psychology at uni, if I get my grades!) it brings me hope for the future 💛
I'm so grateful for these videos. I used to think that I wasn't depressed just because I would look at pictures and videos of myself and say "See, look, I'm smiling. I'm laughing and hanging out with friends. I'm obviously not depersonalized or depressed. I don't even look anxious." Then I found your videos where you would be smiling and laughing with friends while talking about mental illness, and I realized that a person can look happy and still be sick. I've started trying harder to reverse my depression now. It can be hard for me to get help because I'm fairly young, I've had therapists hear that I'm depressed, look at me and go "I don't think so." My current therapist is helpful, but I haven't actually used the word depression yet. I rely on your videos a lot to get advice and to remind myself that I need to work on getting better and be patient with myself. You've helped me realize that a lot of things I struggle with that I thought were separate are all interconnected. Thanks so much.
Dodie honestly I feel like your channel was introduced to me for a reason literally like a week ago I realized that therapy is probably the only thing I can do at this point and hearing someone who I look up to reaffirm how good it will be for me was all I needed.
Yay! I've been going to therapy for almost six months now but I took a break over my school holidays. I'm pretty anxious and uncomfortable right now so I'm really happy to be seeing my therapist/psychologist again on Tuesday!
thank you for this vid! I'm struggling with the question of how do I help someone else get counseling - or help them seriously consider it as a possibility
coming back to this because I love you both so much and I've learned so so much from you as artists. So glad that there are two powerful, talented, vulnerable women making amazing music. Ya'll are UNSTOPPABLE.
I've always been like "i want to know what's going on with me! I wanna know what's wrong" and you just solved my problem. Therapy would help me understand more abput myself and how i feel :D i always thought that what i needed was psychology but my friends hate those lol so yay therapy
It's nice to see you talking about seeking help. There's already so much stigma surrounding mental health so it's good that these conversations are being encouraged particularly when you talk about your own experiences. It sets a good example to your audience. No one deserves to suffer in silence. ❤
great video! I was really lucky and managed to find an anxiety class that had funding, the class wasnt the best for me but I got introduced to a trainee therapist while I was there who was brilliant. Just so everyone realises that might be a more affordable option too :) yay for talking it out! ps dodie I love your top xxc
Thank you for using your platform to talk about therapy and mental illnesses positively! It's so reassuring to hear people, who inspire me, talking about things that I can relate to! I highly recommend therapy to everyone, it's such a brilliant way to learn about youself and to normalise the way you feel. Love you loads Dodie and thank you💜💜
I wish I had friends that I can talk heart to heart about things like this. Everyone seems to think the only emotion I have is happy and that I always laugh but I feel really alone.
I'm sitting in the computer room/office at a cemetery (my uncle works here and I live with him, so) eating cereal, watching this and thinking about everything that Dodie has taught me. Thank you Dodie for teaching me so much.
I was feeling really down at the beginning of this year, and I was absolutely terrified of going to counseling, but I did. I was lucky because I got paired with a guy who was very helpful to me, so it was a great first impression. But all in all, go for it. It's so scary, but also so worth it. And you've got all of us to support your decision.
do you find that it helps? I've been sick recently and one of the doctors decided to send me to a psychologist because they think part of why i'm sick, is because I'm stressed. I've got group counselling(?) kind of? coming up on the 15th of march/may/can't remember. It's supposed to be focusing on mindfulness, but I'm so so scared for that alone. I might talk to the psychologist about organising some sessions some time, if I work up the nerve :) Thank you so much for your support
Thank you so much for all this insight and advice. And thank you for being such beautiful souls. (Also I want to steal both your outfits, but Tessa that sweater is just too beautiful for words.)
I have an interesting relationship with therapy. I went for a few months and it genuinely helped, but I realized it was helping for a reason that wasn't really what therapy is supposed to do. I'm very analytic and logical about who I am and what I'm feeling. I don't know if it's because I'm a writer and I'm used to picking apart people's thought processes, but if I'm feeling something I can always reason with myself and know exactly why I'm feeling it and that I will be fine. I never really needed a therapist to help me understand myself. As it turned out, what I needed was just someone to talk to! My family is supportive, but I could never really talk about everything I needed to with them, and therapy finally gave me that outlet. I then found an internet friend who I poured out my soul to and we've been friends for years. It wasn't until I realized that my therapy sessions were literally just friendly chats that I knew I didn't need to go anymore because I had more or less replaced them with a true friendship. All in all, though, for whatever you need it for, therapy is amazing. 10/10 would recommend :)
I have a therapist I've been seeing for fourish years now, and even though I only see her once a month and have been for the past year, it's good to have that contact in case things get bad again and I need to talk to somebody/need resources.
I've been going to counselling for quite a while now, I tried multiple times but never found one i liked, gave up for a few years and recently tried again and i'm going weekly now and actually like my counselor. It can be draining and scary to talk about your deep dark feelings or whatever but it can be surprisingly helpful x
i've been dealing with an overload of emotions recently until i opened up to a teacher who noticed something was wrong. after i did my story to him, he sent me to the student council and he literally said "i can't help you if YOU don't know what's wrong" and now i have no idea what to do cause my mom is 150% against therapy so i'm lost :(
Listening to you gals talk about this stuff is my favorite type of video. I've been in counseling for a bit over a year now. I'm doing much better than I was before I started but I know I still have a lot to go. It's a process, and one I don't think ever truly "ends" but evolves. Listening to you talk always rejuvenates my ambition to learn more about myself. Definitely going to check out that book!
I'm really glad you guys talked about this because I'm going to therapy soon and I've been quite nervous about it! You guys talking about it really helped relieve some of my stress and fears on it :)
Thank you for the video ❤ I realized lots of my friends love your channel like me and whenever they gave me advice it sounded like what you would say to me 😆😆 if that makes sense :/ anyway thank you for the video ❤
i love seeing that in the uk there are lots of resources and options on counseling! really hope Spain catches up sometime soon. Nice advice on telling parents! It really helped <3
I went to therapy last year and it was pretty good. She helped me with my social problems and mental breakdowns and other stuff , now I'm better but I've considered going again.
I'm currently going to group therapy, it's interesting and I guess it's kinda helpful because other people are dealing with the same thing. I recommend it
I've recently been to my GP about anxiety, depersonalisation and depression and been prescribed medication as well as being referred for talking therapy with Mind.... this video couldn't have come at a better time as I've booked the first session and have been overthinking it so much!! Thank you for helping me sort out my irrational worries lol love u
I went to see my GP in May last year and have only just started seeing someone but feel so lucky that I can see someone who helps so much on the NHS. Just wanted to leave this here incase anyone is feeling disheartened by the waiting list through the NHS, for me it has definitely been worth the nearly 8 month wait.
I'm going to my first counciling session this week and I'm really nervy about it...I'm really bad at expressing my feelings so that's what I'm scared of most. After watching this I feel slightly more at ease ^-^ hopefully I'll find it just as helpful 💙
My best friend said she was going to therapy in our school and she recommended the same for me and I was having a hard time deciding if I want to go and this video really hoped me so thank you 😊
That whole "don't check yourself" is such good advice. I've been doing that for years and getting really frustrated but been trying not to do it and when i didn't I felt so much better. But I never had a name for it so that's awesome.
my school counselor is very very horrible, when a teacher saw my scars, the counselor called my mom and dad and told them lies. They forced me to tell them that I tried to "overdose" and that I tried to kill myself. they wouldn't let me leave / locked the room until i confessed to something i didn't do.
Not all counselors are like that, I can assure you. That's incredibly disgusting of her, and she sure as heck should have listened to you before talking to your parents. Of course after seeing the scars she pretty much had to say something to your parents because, you know, legal reasons. But ew, awful, I'm so sorry you went through that crap with a bad counselor. I hope that in the future if you do decide to pursue counseling you have better luck, it can be helpful with the right person.
school counselors are veryveryvery different from actual psychologists or counselors/therapists. Trust me, people who have gone through the proper training and education will know that doing what your school counselor did was FUCKED UP both ethically and in terms of confidentiality. I had a very similar situation with my school counselor and learned the difference when I went to see an actual therapist who was wonderful and understanding and patient and compassionate. And, sure, there may still be some shitty therapists or psychologists, but finding one whos the right fit for you is a journey and, trust me, so so so worth it. So I really hope you don't give up on counseling altogether because of one shitty school counselor. Your well-being is so important and there ARE therapists and counselors and psychologists who know how to help and can help is an impactful way.
I love therapy, been to therapy before and it just didn't work for me both times but forth time round I had therapy through work and then carried on with private paid sessions and it's just amazing support and feel I have changed so much and don't want to go back to the way I was!
I've been seeing a therapist every week for the last 2 months and sometimes it does feel like it's not helping at all, but it really does make a difference because I'm finding things about myself that I had no idea at all before :D Still figuring out ways to cope with my depression but I think things are going well. And a part of it is thanks to you Dodie because of the video where you suggested everyone should go to therapy from last year. I didn't want to try therapy at all because I was scared but I'm glad that I listened to you :)
I spent most of my afternoon googling for a therapist and getting a bit discouraged because I'm worried about not finding the right person and wasting my energy/time/money and getting even more down because of it :( Anyway this video came out at a really good time ehehe. I really love Dodie+Tessa chatty videos <3
I am currently on the waiting list for counselling through the NSH and i'm really nervous just because of the long wait until i get it but overall im exited that im going to get the help that i need
I'm trying to be nicer to myself and my therapist has said that it's nice to imagine someone else telling you those things. I hadn't realised but Dodie's the voice in my head!
This year I'm going to talk to my old councillor who is still at my school, when I was in year 7 my problems were far more minuscule in comparison to now, and when I left I was like "Oh I'm ready to leave now I'm fine!" So I was and still am afraid that I'll disappoint her because I've only gotten worse since but I'm sure she'll help
Been in and out of counselling and therapy since 2011. 2011 was my breaking point attempted suicide but thankfully I was still in CAMHS so I had free services. After I was past the age limit I had gone into Mind. Yes they are really good at their services (apart from the long ass waiting list). Had 3 different therapists from Mind. Also had a group therapy for self-esteem and confidence (free) through Mind and a thirdparty service. Most of the homework you got given Dodie is what I've been going through atm :P HOWEVER ONE WEIRD ThinG I GOTTA TELL YOU ...my new therapist is finishing her High Intensity CBT course at Uni and my sessions are being filmed (with my consent) so she can get feedback and advice from higher ups(and my video may be used for future students) ...WEIRD RIGHT? I feel like I'm being used as an experiment but at the same time I feel like I'm okay with it IDK IM CONFUSED ABOUT MY FEELINGS ohmygash
Elsie Stech thank you!! So far, I don't love it but I think it's mostly bc I'm still uncomfortable crying in front of someone I don't know but I think it's starting to help!
Alexa S that's amazing, just don't give up! I've been in therapy for over three years now and the first two counselors I had I didn't really feel comfortable with. the one I have now though is so great and I love talking to her - just take your time and get used to it and also don't be afraid to say what makes you uncomfortable to try and work it out together, that's what they're there for ^^
I went to counselling when I was in primary school for depression, I went to one on one sessions intially and the councillor was nice but I just felt super awkward so i went to group counselling at school once a week and it was so good, I'm 23 now and still reflect on some of the excersises I got taught then. I'm considering talking to my doctor about going to counselling again, while I could deal with flare ups of my depression in the past, I struggle more with anxiety now and I now deal with a chronic rare illness which can be isolating. I remember how rewarding it was back then and i'd love to get that now. This was a lovely chat ladies :) x
I just started therapy/counseling and she told me to do the same thing with the timeline and for people who made me who I am, good/bad. and it's rly helpful. I just feel bad bc my parents are paying so much for weekly sessions. I don't like people spending money on me yet here I am. I have my 2nd session this Saturday and I'm kinda nervous BUT prepared
so I have a few thoughts on that topic and I am happy you made that video! I have been feeling weird on and off for about two years! there are times when I think I should probably see a counselor and other times when I think there are other people who need it way more. anyway when I first talked to my parents they were totally against the idea of counselling but a few months back (maybe a year after my suggest) they asked me if I wanna go. At first I said no bc I was very surprised but then I decided that I should say yes! when I told my mom she was totally against it again. the problem is I can't go without their approval bc they pay my doctor bills! I also would quite love the support of the people who's opinion and support I value and need to most in life.. so yeah
I've been going to a counselor for about a month for OCD and Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and I can say that it definitely works. I used to stay up until 5 am washing my hands and checking the locks on my house and crying, and I'm so much better now. if you have the opportunity to do counseling, do it. it's literally one of the best things that have ever happened to me.
Why did this video make me feel so much closer to both of you? Like I feel like we're all friends and we're hanging out and having a chat about therapy and I love it
My CBT course helped me sooooo much. Not just with my depression but also with my school work, how I approach different things etc. I learnt more than I was dreaming I could and didn't understand it until this year when I had the first course 5 years ago. Go into it with an open mind and really just let yourself understand what you are there for :) good luck!!
We are all so proud of you for going to therapy Dodie, you deserve health and happiness and it's ok to need a little help. I love your laugh and those moments when you're truly happy I love it so so much!!! :)
My brother has previously had counselling, so when I told my mum about my mental health she has given me the option to go, however we both know it would take a while to get booked in.
Thanks! You are both so wonderful and amazing. Perhaps someday soon I will have my 501 c on Forbes and I would take you guys on a wonderful world tour of awesome.
Appreciate you girls so much. I'm the opposite kind of parent,Mumma of 4 and I'm all for councelling,I actually keep an eye on wether my children need it,never would think I was failing but just know that I am not fully equipped to help them through the bigger stuff.
I love how candid and warm this conversation is. It shouldn't be a rarity to find such normalizing of the topic of therapy, but I understand we need to break down the stigma surrounding it first. I am so glad you shared this with us!
This makes me feel so much better. I have just finished a six week course of counselling, and I felt so awkward about it, because I thought that my case wasn't extreme enough, and telling my mum was so difficult, but you two sharing experiences makes me feel so much better. Hearing people that I look up to discussing mental health, and going to therapy just makes it feel less horrible. Knowing that you were brave enough to go to the doctors was what motivated me to find help in the first place, and this makes it feel like I can treat therapy like a good thing, and feel less ashamed , so I just want to say thank you.
I started therapy about 12 weeks ago and god damn, it was probably one of the best things i've ever decided to do. I had shitty hypnotherapy experiences when i was small and they put a negative light on all therapy. BUT now i recommend it to EVERYONE, and so many of the things you've mentioned in this are things i've experienced ah. I actually scripted a video on therapy this morning so i'll be filming that soon eee, seeing this has made me even more sure that i should film and post the video idea i have. c:
I feel so blessed to have the mom that I do because when I was emitted into the hospital, the doctor recommended me to be an out-patient at the mental health facility at their hospital for a week. I didn't want to do it at all, but my mom talked to me and convinced me that it would be very helpful and it was! I discovered so many new things about myself and that's even where I first learned about depersonalization because there was kid named Tyler who was in my therapy group who had this problem. Even just meeting the other people there and sharing what was wrong with them was good to hear because I could relate to a lot of them. If I hadn't had gone, I would probably be doing a lot worse than I am now especially because the doctors there had prescribed me medication to help with my anxiety and depression that helps really well and they got me with my therapist that I go to now. There are always bad days but the number of those is gradually decreasing thanks to the people I have gotten help from. Even watching Dodie's videos is like really tiny therapy sessions.
i never leave youtube comments but i remember watching your video in summer, realising i had the same thing (well, derealisation) and then crying for hours after watching it and looking it up because i could finally verbalise the weird state i'd been in for months - literally didn't know other people had it/it had a name. i was already in therapy & knew it was something other than just anxiety but couldn't put it into words and i just wanted u to know i was so grateful for that vid because i was so scared & confused before it
You two really talk a lot of sense! I like the change from 'I Need therapy' to 'maybe this could help me'. I know that when I was going through depression, it took me a long time to call it what it was - and lowering the bar, as such, for who could benefit from that kind of help, is one thing that could really help end this whole 'Am I depressed/anxious/etc. ENOUGH for it to count???' thing society's got going on, and encourage people to catch the signs earlier and get better sooner.
p.s. I'm better now. My depression was situational - since leaving Sixth Form, and gaining some distance (time-wise) from the events that led to depression, I'm pretty much back to normal. p.p.s. Dodie, your dress is goddamn beautiful.
I recently started counceling at my school and I'm not used to it yet but it feels like it's a good place. it's good to pinpoint where bad feelings start.
I came out with something hard for me and telling my friends that. I can get very violent when i am upset or having a mental breakdown and that has gone up by falling out with a lot of my friends and home issues
I've been in therapy for months now and it's such a weird feeling, because I always think "I'm too young for this." I'm only 15 years old, my life is good, nothing too bad has happened to me, I'm okay. But also I have to take deep breaths and remind myself that my perception of "okay" is why everyone else decided I needed counseling.
I have had different kinds of therapy on and off since I was 14 and I have never found them to help, however when I was in hospital last year the mental health nurses were fantastic and I found them very easy to talk to and got very comfortable around them even though the therapist I had while there is didn't like and couldn't speak to easily. I think the reason behind this is because the nurses where much younger than any of the therapists I have had and some where student nurses and they took care of me everyday for a few months whereas the therapist only spoke to me twice weekly so I didn't get to bond with them very much.
I had my first therapy appointment when I was fourteen, and I was soooo guilty going in it. Now let me explain: I was going thro alot at that time but I had friends who have tried killing themselves, had abusive parents, drug use. My problems seemed so insignificant to theirs, so i felt like i wasnt "worthy." But I realized that your problems, sadness, and depressed isnt weighed by pounds but by how heavy your heart it. Dont invalidate your problems. Well theres my little inspiration comment, that no one is gonna read oh well lol.
I am so glad that you've posted this so recently because I am in the process of getting a therapist myself and am also scared that it might not help or will make things worse, but then again that's the anxiety talking. It's mainly the fear that I have lived so long with anxiety by myself or just simply sharing with people who can't really relate like my mum or my boyfriend, that I cannot imagine living without it. Its like, mental illness is a trap that just grabs hold of you and makes you feel like you need it. It makes you scared that fixing it means...losing it. Then I'm scared again that I won't fix it. Anxiety is literally a vicious cycle of just repetitive overthinking that just leads you into a downward spiral of just fear and terror. So, again I am so happy that you have posted this because it was around the time that you did that I finally asked my mum about therapy and she was really supportive and it was really great. She went straight to the computer and helped me find someone in our area right away. Thanks for posting stuff about this. It makes me feel normal and understood.
I used to watch Tessa's youtube channel all the time years ago when she was called Meekakitty and seeing her with you (my new favorite youtuber) makes me feel so happy because i had no idea you two were friends
I love your Doddleoddle videos but doddlevloggle videos are so intimate and nice and sweet and beautiful. I feel like I'm sitting down with a cup of tea and just being able to listen without having to talk. Honestly, thank you.
I literally did that with my mum, I went home and I just went "so, my friend is getting counselling, what do you think about that? I think I want to go to the doctors" and although she didn't really get why (tbh I didn't really explain why that well because going into the fact that I dont want to live is not something I feel comfortable sharing with my mum) she was kind of okay with it. Though she is still of the view that you should just stick with life and deal with it, you know? But nonetheless, she has mostly supported me so far. And I have a referral for an assessment and possibly a diagnosis with the youth mental health team soon, so whatever comes of that I'll probably need to start being more open with her...
I keep filling out forms to sign up for therapy and planning to go to my gp about getting help for my little brain and then not doing so, I think it's because at the time I feel 'fine' and so just say I'll wait until my next breakdown lols. This video has encouraged me to look into it again thx lads x
getting counseling has been a really scary thing i've wanted to do for a couple years now so i finally went through with mentioning it to my mom a week ago and i've never been prouder of myself??
I went to my regular health doctor for something physical I thought was wrong with me and all he said was "I don't think you have that issue but you're sitting in my office crying so here's the contact information for a local therapist" and I went to the place and anonymously filled out a questionnaire that asked how different symptoms resonate with you. I was brought back to an office and told they didn't accept my my insurance 🙃 that woman gave me some information for some therapists that were much farther away then I was willing to travel andddd I never ended up going to any. Idk, I'm in a much better mental state now then i was back then but i still wish I had had some sessions
I’m starting therapy the 5th of August, which is exactly 1 year since the day I realized I had depression. WOW. I’m nervous as hell but videos like this make me feel hopeful and excited about new opportunities. 💛
I went to counseling in 1st grade because my mom and my teacher thought I was lonely. I wasn't, I just liked to draw alone sat recess. I just told the therapist all about Barbie movies, we played with dolls, and then she gave me stickers. Good times!
This video gave me such a push to try my school counselling I know it will help me put it was hard to tell school I wanted to go school counselling is something I can keep in school and my parents don't have to worry about and I'm so scared about it but it will help me so I'm kinda excited about it
Trying to muster up the courage to tell my parents I want to talk to a therapist. I don't think they'll be upset or say no, but it's just been really hard for me to go about it. I appreciate this video a lot.
I had counseling when my parents got divorced. I went to my first counseling session when I was 8. My second one was in year 5 about positivity and confidence ( I still have no confidence). My last counseling session was 2 years ago with point one. I'm still in a lot of pain though it cuz my family hates each other and I'm the only one in the middle of it.
I just had my first therapy appointment last thursday, and all the things you guys talked about I could relate to. I needed this video right now more than ever.
I love listening to you two chatting because you always have such great thoughts and nuggets of wisdom. This was really interesting, because while I don't think I'll ever go to therapy (at least not until I'm out of school), it seems like something that could be really eye opening! Also, I sort of feel what Tessa was saying about feeling like other people are more in need of help. I'm a very anxious person, but don't see my anxiety as serious enough to do anything about, which is something I'm sure many people feel.
Anyway, great video! I'm really enjoying vedif from both of you :)
, i love you and your music to an unhealthy point, every single song, and video you have made has impacted me in the best way anything ever has, every rough patch i go through your the light at the end of the tunnel helping me get through it, i think its amazing how much you have grown as a person and artist so from the bottom of my heart i want to say thank you for being there when nobody else has.I truly mean every word so really, thank you. <3
This was a really nice video. I had counseling in high school, but that was the last time I had it. The biggest issue is affording it of course. I know there are ways around it, but they're not easy to find and not always what you want. I never considered group counseling before, though. I'd be a bit scared to try it. Talking to one person who's paid to help me through my junk is one thing, but having to talk about it with a bunch of strangers seems unsettling even if they share some of my issues. I don't know. I'll have to see what I can do.
It's good that you can both talk about counselling so easily, it will really help a lot of people who are thinking about it :) I had counselling at university and it was one of the best decisions I've ever made.
earthgem Hey, just know that you never have to feel trapped or obligated. You can try it out and leave anytime you want if you feel uncomfortable, but like they said in the video, the first session will always be a little more awkward than the rest. Never be afraid to try it though :) It's like a fun little class where you get to learn about yourself every week or so :) maybe abouts your girlfriend to go with you if you'd be more comfortable!
Therapy is totally terrifying before you go. I know that first hand. And maybe you're right and it isn't for you. But if you're at all curious, give it a shot! You don't have anything to lose for trying, and then you will have given it a chance for your girlfriend. All in all, though, whatever your comfortable with. <3
I've suffered from depression since I was 18 (now 22). I'm trying to recover and I'm feeling better lately. I'm trying not to think too much, trying to eat well and going out more. baby steps but this time I am determined to get better and feel happy with myself. btw Dodie looks so pretty 😍 😊
The listening thing is called "Active listening" and is frequently used in therapy, but can be applied to make just about anyone that is talking feel appreciated, I'd recommend everyone try it in their daily life!
I went to therapy at a pretty young age (7) because I was afraid to go anywhere and I then found out that I had social anxiety. I was so scared to go that I just cried the first day and the only way to get me to talk was to play games. But it honestly helped me so much even though I wasn't exactly sure what I was doing 👌🏼
i myself have been in counseling for a very long time, and one thing that some people don't realize about counseling is that it isn't an immediate fix. this kind of thing takes time and work, and it won't feel good a lot of the time. it gets better, but it takes time.
this made me realise that i do need therapy to be able to help handle my emotions and such. i have been putting it off for a awhile because I thought i was ok mentally and just either blamed it on my hormones or that "it's just you're procratination doing it's thing" but really it's just me not being able to handle my emotions and also my lack of motivation for some reason. now i have to find a way to tell that to my parents lol
I cried so much and talked non stop at my first session with my second therapist because it's the first time I've told someone everything. I felt so good and I felt so validated in my feelings. my trauma from childhood issues have recently been manifesting themselves as a result of stress. yay so fun.
I'm hoping to get back into counselling soon through my university. I'm trying to be positive but it's never worked in the past so I'm sceptical. I know I need to do this to get to where I want to be though.
I've been going to a psychologist for about 2 years and I cannot recommend them enough. They might not be helping you with mental health, but they can just be a person to talk to about anything. Their job is to be an unbiased person to help you rather than a friend or family member with their own agenda. I see my counselling working when I implement the strategies that she suggests without even realising I'm doing it. It really does helps me to get through the times of panic or lowness, as well as preventing them. I think everyone should talk to a counsellor no matter what your mind state is. It is going to get better. I promise x
I tried councelling at my sixth form (by reccomendation from a teacher and friends) and i really struggled speaking about my issues because i convinced myself i was just being silly and i have nothing to be sad about... this was encouraged by the councellor telling me i should stop because other students need councelling more than i do and im taking up appointment space... i havent gone to anyone else just yet but this video has helped me in realising just because one councellor was bad doesnt mean they all are and i shouldnt let myself believe im not "ill enough" to have therapy.... imagine if we thought we werent physically ill enough to see a doctor if we were coughing up blood... its a mindset i need to get out of and i think im almost out of the hole ive buried myself in! Thankyou Dodie and Tessa 💛💛
Hi Dodie! I love everything you've ever done and not gonna lie I aspire to be like you ❤ you're so creative and beautiful and that's who I want to be. I especially love you're style and I was wondering if you'd be interested in doing a room tour? I would have suggested another look book but you did one recently but I'm still so obsessed with you're style I like to see more haha.
In terms of the parent thing, I went to counselling through uni and kinda then just told my mum 'yeah I'm doing this, cool' and she was like 'oh.. ok cool glad you're being proactive' and she came to terms with it, and in terms of whether uni counselling is good, my first counsellor at my foundation uni was amaaaaaaaazing for me personally, but my counsellor at the uni i'm at now was a bit shit and like Dodie's she didn't talk back and I hated it, they will only like you like 6 sessions usually through uni but then you can say at the last one hey can you recommend me anywhere to go for a more permanent thing and they should be able to give you that stuff which is awesome so 100% recommend trying it out, and don't give up if the first one's a bit shitty for you, either stick it out til the end of the run while you look for another just to see if it gets better or quit straight up and go somewhere else. It totally depends on the person and you will find someone who understands. Besides that, y'all stay strong now <3
I liked this video a lot ^-^!!! a few years ago, when I was in middle school, I was kind of alone and sad and had nightmares alot, so I decided to go to a child's therapist. it was nice, I got to do crafts and cry and talk about myself, but still the same time she never talked to me. she never told me how to fix my problems, which I guess is what I was looking for all along. I don't feel as depressed any more, so I don't think I ever need to go back, but at the same time I wish that I had found therapist that I felt helped me.
mind is a very good mental heath charity they helped me finding ways to get thorough things and helped with talking to gp and counsellors a couple years back so when I did ncs our group raised money for them and managed to raise £400. its such a good charity and so helpful
I've been going to therapy for a month now, but it's not helping?? In fact, I feel worse...I'm just going to quit. After listening to you guys, I think I need a different counselor.
I've had two different therapists in the past 2 to 3 years. The first time my mum signed me up, the second time my head of year signed me up because I wanted to move schools but he suggested to stay and think on it a little more and signed me up for therapy at the same time. My first therapist tended to talk a lot and I didn't do much talking to her, she just elaborated on situations she's heard of before. My second therapist made me enjoy it a little more. I still dread the thought of walking into a counsellor's room but once I was there with her she made me feel invited and let me talk and explain (and cry).
I think everyone needs a little therapy in their lives at some point, no matter your situation. Everyone has problems and feelings they need/want to vent to someone. Yes, your pets are handy if you don't want a response but speaking to another human feels more real and like it's really getting things off of your chest.
Anyway lovely video dodie and I love watching your content,
To the question "How do I tell my parents.." I wanted counseling for a while when I was in college (university) and my parents had a hard time understanding why. I found that calling/texting them whenever you are feeling off/down. It shows that you are reaching out to them for help, as well as showing them how often you are not feeling like yourself Also I told them "sometimes it's nice to get advice from an outside, nonbiased source." That made more sense to them than the idea of going to counseling (even though.. that's what counseling is) My university had counseling services for a very low cost (some even offer it for free, depending on which school you are at). My university also had cheaper options where you could go to counseling with a someone who had their Master's degree and is currently working on a doctorate. You get counseling, they get practice, and some sessions are recorded so that your counselor can get critiqued by their professors!
i'm doing CBT right now and it's so interesting just the body and the mind it's interesting and i found out a few things but i completely agree it all isn't sorted in one therapy session maybe even 4 therapy sessions but it will be okay and interesting tbqh i like learning
I seriously love the way you explained things about therapy in this video Tessa! Literally the things you said in these 9 minutes were better than anything any of the therapists have said that I've seen. I've never found therapy helpful and the few I've seen literally just talk about how their day is and ask how my day is and it is such a huge waste of time and money. I've yet to find a "therapist" who has actually helped in any way in my life. (I'm "required" to see a counselor/therapist to try to cope with fighting multiple chronic and terminal illnesses and the reason I became depressed was because of so much abuse from hospitals and surgeons and losing friends etc. And to me therapy will never help because they can't cure me of these illnesses be talking to me. I only see therapy helping when there's not a huge physical mountain and only a mental mountain. I'm in no way trying to downplay people with great lives who are depressed because it totally sucks and it hurts so much but with therapy they can help with little things like the "not checking" like Doddie said. Where for people like me they're just kinda like "look for the rainbow that's a million miles away instead of focusing on the million miles of hurricane." Idk that's the best way I can describe it.... but I adore you girls and I love love love how you're open about mental illness and not pretend like everything is sparkles and smiles. The world has put such a huge negative connotation on mental illnesses and hopefully soon that won't be the case with more advocates like yourselves ❤️❤️❤️
I was nodding the entire time, it's so hard for me to look for professional help, because as Tessa said, I feel like my problems are not worth it. Also I had have this problem (which I don't want to call depression because it's not diagnosed) for so long that I'm kinda feel like it's part of me and I'm scared to losing it
It's so funny to hear you guys talk about your counselling, since I've been in cognitive behavioural therapy for.... Four or five years at this point? To deal with my anxiety and depression and ADHD (yay), although I had been in it before when I was 14. And like... My homework was always about like... Checking in with myself and making sure that I could manage and stuff, which I was terrible about the first few years, and I actually had a huge break through last week where I didn't push myself to a panic attack to realize I couldn't manage that day, for the first time! Honestly, maybe I sound brain washed, but therapy has honestly made me a functioning good human being. I honestly believe that if I hadn't been in therapy, I would have ended up back in the emergency room again, because the first meds I was on I don't think worked, and I have clawed my way back. I was an honour roll student in my last year of high school, I had a job, I danced, I played piano, I went back to having a mostly normal life (even if there are bumps now and again)
The last thing I'd say is that if cost is really concerning you and you're in uni or smth, you can go to the chaplain. I had a big health thing with my dad this year and I've been on and off rotating with seeing my psychologist and the chaplain and its honestly been so helpful because it just is... Talking. And crying, lots of crying, but talking. And talking is helpful (also fun fact therapy is better than just medication for helping avoid relapses of depression. Meds alone has a 70% relapse rate, CBT has a 40%, and meds and CBT together has a 30%. Therapy works!)
dodie i want to thank u for inspiring me to go back to therapy. for a while i thought i didnt need it or was better than therapy but u helped me realize that im not better than therapy and its okay to be in therapy so thank u bec im doing so much better than i was before!
I've tried to reach out to my dad to get counseling for two years now, and everytime I bring it up, he just says he has the same issues as well and then leaves. What should I do?
When it comes to parents it's important that you talk to someone totally impartial so you are not unconsciously vetting what you say etc. It's a good way to broach the subject. It takes that failing part out because it shows that it's not due to them or anyone close to you
I've had mixed experiences with counselling/therapy. Initially, I was fast tracked into CAMHS (NHS counselling for under 18s) because I was 'high risk' and they offered CBT, the one that often helps people with depression. Now, this is just my experience but I REALLY DID NOT GET ON WITH CBT. Perhaps it was just the way the counsellor did it, but I found it very very frustrating and ultimately just made me feel like I was doing something wrong. Since then I've not had any specific therapy but have just had regular chatty sessions with my psychiatrist who is also in charge of my meds. I also have a good relationship with a teacher in school and he is always very welcoming and willing to listen. In fact, it was he who I went to in the first place when I first became depressed, and he gave me a more positive perspective on counselling/therapy than I previously had. (little 15yo me had only seen examples in tv and movies of 'crazy' people needing therapy, not 'normal' people like me.) The way he put it was that I might benefit from someone who would listen, but who was a fresh slate as it were, with no previous misconceptions about me. When I heard it put like this, it seemed much more approachable, and it's something I like to explain to other people when they're hesitant about starting therapy: somehow, it feels nice telling all your troubles to a stranger. I'm starting a new therapy, IPT, soon, so let's hope that does more than the last one. I really hope your counselling goes well Dodie xxx
After 12 years of mental health issues i have finally gained the confidence to book a therapy session. I have always been to afraid to go to therapy incase it opened a door i couldn't shut ever again. This video is so helpful to so many people. Its the reason i booked that appointment, so thank you.
As a person who's currently getting my masters in counseling, here's some tips on how to find the right counselor for you:
1. Look into counseling theories/styles. There's several different kinds, but these often will tell you what kind of counselor they are. For example, a psychotherapist works under the belief that your thoughts mean something deep about you, so if you struggle with anxious thoughts/OCD, they wont be good for you. Or if you're very religious, an existential therapist wont work for you because they don't believe in an afterlife. So look into the different counseling styles and try to find the one(s) you like the best.
2. Decide what kind of energy you're looking for. Do you want someone who is very energetic, like a best friend or sibling? Do you want someone who is much older than you and has a "wise old man"/expert vibe? Do you want someone who's very maternal/paternal? Do you want someone who is very quiet, or someone who is very talkative? Would you prefer someone male/female/other? You might not be able to get a read on this vibe unless you go into session with them, but its important that you feel comfortable in session, and so if something feels off maybe the vibe is wrong.
3. Look for a counselor who specializes in your specific issue or demographic. This isn't always possible, but there are centers who specialize in anxiety/depression, or certain demographics like students or LGBTQ+. So it might be beneficial to look into that as well.
My mum suffers from depersonalization, depression, and PTSD and honestly Dodie it is so nice to hear that you're going through similar things to her because no one ever talks about depersonalization. (She is also going to therapy! :D)
I went to counselling when I was in 6th form. I went to see our school nurse, after a particularly bad night/day (she was effectively the school counsellor as well) and she asked if she could make me an appointment with the local NHS counsellor. I went at lunch times or during my free periods. I told my tutor, although I did this on a confidential basis, but never told my parents. I was asked/recommended antidepressants but was terrified my parents would find out if I started taking them. I can not stress enough how good that counselling was for me, how much it got me through and how much better I knew myself after going. It felt horrid not telling my parents, and when I recently started going again I told them everything and it definitely felt a lot better - but I wouldn't change anything. It saved my life, as dramatic as that sounds. Please, if you need help and can see anyone confidentially (school counsellor, nurse, teacher - anyone), do.
I've dealt with severe anxiety, depression, OCD and PTSD for 5 years. It took me about 2 years until I agreed to go to counseling. I have never been a person who found it easy to open up or talk about my feelings. I have been on medication to help but never had good experiences. Most of this journey I've tried to do everything naturally. I've been in counseling for 3 years now and I've started to notice a difference! I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Another affirming part is so many of my friends and family have noticed and tell me "I look so healthy" proof in the pudding mental illnesses are real illnesses. If you're questioning it I really hope you give it a try ❤️
i'm going through anxiety and a type of depression and i feel as if i should go to a therapist but ya know...anxiety. i'm too scared to tell anyone so any advice??
e m i l y r a m o s honestly have the same problem, talking to a close friend/sibling is always my go to but you know, feeling like a burden and stuff... maybe you could try some online chat lines? I've never tried anything like that, but at least you can talk to a stranger and not feel too uncomfortable :)
i've been out of therapy for a couple months now ... you still have bad days or even weeks and i don't think you ever become "cured" or whatever, but as dodie said, you learn a lot about yourself and how you and your brain works, and i think that's very important...
personally with counselling my parents were really supportive of the idea because they don't know a lot about mental health so it was a big help for them knowing that I could get the help that I needed, even if it wasn't from them.
Tessa and dodie, I want to thank you both. I found this video a while ago and cried after watching it. Fast forward to three hours earlier, this was the last video I watched again before going to my dad and asking for help. It almost feels like a dream how simple it was: telling him I’m suffering and asking for help. Tomorrow is my first session with my therapist, ahhhhhh!!! Lots of love to you ladies xxxx
I went to a therapy session once. they said I was fine and don't need therapy and don't have depression. who knows, maybe I don't have or ever had depression, because to be entirely honest I was kind of romanticizing depression at the time... but the point is, I don't think they should have turned me down... it would have been nice to talk... well I guess I'm in a better place now anyway without any therapy
dodie , in all of the youtubers that i have watched , your community is the BEST that i have seen . All the comments to your videos are positive and supportive . I honestly feel like we are all just a big group of friends hanging out and chilling whenever you upload lmao
hi, I wanted to specify one thing, as someone who's aspiration is being a therapist: it's not unethical for a therapist to give you a ready advice. It is unethical to indoctrinate or manipulate you into doing something. The advice thing depends on a psychological trend your therapist is supporting, SO, if you're looking for someone who will not give any advice nor share any of their own experience with you (which is commonly seen as the most effective way of therapy) seek someone with psychodynamic perspective. If you want a relationship that is a little bit more similar to partnership or even friendship - you'll want to go to a behaviorist.
I've gone to a few different therapists and I've sadly never had a good experience. Theres things i feel like i cant tell them because i dont want them telling my mum (for example, that i'm trans, which gives me a lot of anxiety trying to hide it)
well literally four days ago my psychologist said that I've been through enough of pills so I'm done with antidepressants but I already feel so depressed... maybe that's just a contract and it'll pass but other pills I started taking after finishing one therapy kinda already make me feel miserable and really aggressive to everyone. an hour ago I bought two nicest african snails to calm myself down and start a new path and they're so cute! they're hermaphroditic so I need to give them an agender names. can someone help me? <3
The reason I love vedif and Vedic and all is because if I'm having a bad day I just watch your video and they instantly make me smile and feel happier xx thank you
after moving away from my home town I needed to look for a new therapist and even though I definatly was not good I was like "naaa its fine...I can handle this on my own" but then I finally got my ass up to look for someone and even though my now therapist wasn't my first choice, she was the only one who had free appointments this year so...yeah
I've been going to therapy for the past year or so because I'm someone that often asks to much of herself and is really struggling to keep up with college and expectations. And although I know from experience it's not true, therapy always has this stigma around it like: 'oh, if you go to therapy there must be something broken about you'. And that is not the case. It can simply be a thing you do to to get another perspective on the things you think and feel, and to stop the horrible snowball effect that happens in your brain.
I loved this video because it brought some normalcy to the concept of going to therapy. Because sometimes you start to wonder if the general idea about therapy is really true, and if that means you are indeed broken. So it's nice to be reassured that that's not the case.
I know that counseling is working for me because I'm so much better at figuring out how to deal with issues on my own. I also have noticed that I'm better at supporting my friends through issues they're encountering. Counseling has honestly been one of the best things I've done for myself.
I went to therapy my first year of college and my therapist told me that what I was feeling was completely normal and I shouldn't feel like I'm broken. That was the soundest thing I had heard in awhile. I haven't gone to therapy in a little over two years, but I would like to go back. I learned a lot about myself and it was a great space to be when I didn't feel comfortable talking to family members. I hope the stigma that "if you're going to therapy you must be crazy" ends.
My parents were the ones that encourage me to go and search for therapy and I still haven't done it because I'm scared and it's hard for me to speak in person with someone
Just wanted to say thanks Dodie! Because you and a few others have been talking about counselling recently, I've decided to book my first appointment which is such a big deal for me progress wise. You've made it all less scary for me and feel like I might finally be able to work through my stuff without feeling any shame about it. This is the first time i've really taken control and I'd like to thank you for giving me that extra nudge in the right direction!
When I was in year 9 I was sent to my school counsellor for pretty serioius reasons and she straight up told me I was just having a bad week and there were other people who needed the sessions more than I did and they've never checked up on me after that. I'm leaving school in May (thank god) and it's taken me ever since I was 14 to feel okay about counselling, but theres also a website called Kooth that I recommend for young people (I'm not sure if its available outside of the UK, but theyre really good in my opinion)
therapy helps you see how you think and usually (when you need it) how you think in wrong schemes, that eventually hurt you. also its not someone that is in your daily life so you get like 1h of stepping out of your life and looking at it from the outside with someone that only wants you to get better.
also it takes time, it takes even more time to realise you made progress. don't go in with expectations.
also if that doesn't work don't give up, there are various types of therapies and even more therapists, you need someone you trust, really trust
I had a breakdown a few months ago and was taken away from school for a bit, and my mum suggested I went for counselling and honestly I've never felt better
I've been having trouble with depression and anxiety and stuff for like 11 years, and I really need to try therapy. I went to one once, but it was more targeted towards children and my mom was in the room... so it was awful and I never wanted to go back. But now that I'm older, I know I really need some kind of help and find something that works.
I'm pretty sure I have OCD and I have been questioning it for two years.I've told my mom and she told me that it was fine and that I didn't need therapy but now it's been two years and it's just keep going.I'm going to be 15 and I've told my mom again because her advices seemed to work for a while but after two months (maybe?) everything came back so I wanted to tell her again and she told me that I wanted to feel pitied and that I didn't need therapy.WHAT IS THE POINT IN FAKING TO HAVE OCD I LITERALLY AM ASHAMED OF IT AND JUST WANT TO GET RID OF WHATEVER THIS IS.
I had my first therapy session a little over a week ago. Was absolutely terrified, but it went really well, and I realized I just needed to talk about a lot of things. I don't have 'big problems', but after experiencing a high-stress relationship among other things, dealing with life was a bit harder. Fortunately my college has a free counseling deal with the hospital across the street. If you also go to college that's something to look into!
I work in a psych office and it was really an eye opener to see all the people coming thru our office that have problems just like me. Makes me feel a lot less alone.
after watching this I realised that I have to go to therapy, it wasn't even fully for me it's for my 3 month old to know it's not normal to act how I do sometimes. So I went to my doctor today and she was lovely and has gave me the name of someone to go to to talk to and it was terrifying but I'm so glad I did it. so basically, thank you
when i asked my dad for meds i was so terrified i put it off for so long because i didn't want to have to take them then i told my dad and i was sure he was going to say it's a waste of time but he was seriously so understanding and he even took them too for a time so he was all about getting me what i wanted to try to feel better. don't underestimate your parents folks.
See I went through exposure therapy for my GAD about six years ago and it has damaged me and my anxiety since then- SO JUST PROOF THAT YOU GOTTA TRY OUT DIFFERENT OPTIONS BEFORE YOU FIND A GOOD FIT because now I love my therapist and it's a match made in heaven (six years later)
Honestly, I'd love to try therapy and counseling but my parents always say that I just need to "pray more". And also, I've heard from many credible friends who suffer from mental illnesses that the guidance counselor is better at college counseling than actual counseling. Ugh.
When I was 7, my parents got divorced, and thus I went to my first counseling session. I got out of school once a week for a couple of hours, but she didn't really talk to me. She just let me play with all of the toys in her room until I left. A few years go by, and we move states, causing me to got to a new counselor. He was too pushy for me, always too eager or too straight forward, and always too quick to say "Let's bring your parents in here to talk about this." Then, a couple more years happen, and we move towns this time, and my third and final counselor is visited. She was basically perfect for me, and my parents assumed that since I had said she was so great after a few weeks that I didn't need it anymore. I might ask to go see her again soon, because I could use some outside advice for highschool.
Everybody's talking about how they want to go to therapy... I want to be a therapist.
Just the idea of helping people feel better about themselves seems so appealing to me, even though it will probably be ridiculously difficult, it is kind of my dream.
last year I had a breakdown so my parents were like "okay we're taking you to therapy" and i was happy with that because i have always wanted to go and talk about how i feel and that, so they eventually made me an appointment with a therapist and after the first session they were like "okay you know what? therapist are just people you talk to so if you have a problem, talk to us" and I was like "so I'm not going anymore?" and they told me "you went, you talked with her, you must feeling a lot better and if you have a problem you can tell us" like wtf??? my breakdown started because my parents never pay attention to me and always critizise me so i don't trust them(ofc) and after all that they even tell me to trust them??? they crearly don't understand because like a week later of them telling me this, they went back to criticizing me and just telling me that I'm an attention seeker.Also they told me "we are doing our best, it's all your fault, you're depressed because YOU WANT to be depressed,,, you're not helping" do they think that if I could stop being deppressed I wouldn't stop it already??? being depressed is horrible I wish they could understand how being depressed is, they think just because im smiling at them I'm completely happy but I'm not, and the therapist told them that but apparently they don't care because they don't believe I'm depressed enough to go to a therapist again.well shit,,, that's my story((sorry for the broken english))
omg my mom recommended the book women who love too much to me as well after I went through a shitty breakup and still liked the guy and it was messy but I haven't read it yet. I want to now tho. you guys are lovely
Excellent to see you both talk so candidly. Seeing a counsellor many years ago was life saving for me. I highly recommend everyone give it a go. And as you both said, you may need to see a few different ones to find someone you like. Same for me. Great video xxx
Could you and Tessa start a podcast. When you guys chat about things together, even on your own. I realize things. I realize that I need to talk to people and find friends like you guys❤️
I had an odd occurrence where my counselor told me that she felt she couldn't do anything for me because there was nothing really wrong with me than a moderate depression.
I was studying abroad alone for a few months and I was desperate and going insane so I thought it would be a good opportunity for therapy, once I could go by myself and didn't have to tell my parents (not an option). It was very good at the beginning because I had no one to talk to and it was good to finally let things out. But all I could do was cry during every session and I couldn't express myself right. Words just wouldn't go out in the right way. And my therapist wasn't understanding things the way I wanted him to and I was just so tired of trying and I just wanted to be fixed but it wasn't working. I started getting paranoid about therapy and about my therapist because he knew so much about me and I was alone and I couldn't tell anyone, I couldn't ask for help, because I didn't want people to know about me and therapy, I didn't have any strength left to explain why I needed it. It was so bad I was having anxiety about going to therapy and my mind was worse than before, so I decided to quit. And I thought it just wasn't for me. Maybe I'm too far gone, maybe I can't be fixed. And then this video came, and maybe I can be fixed, but I can't ask for help, I can't go counseling again because I'm not abroad anymore. My school doesn't have counseling. I could never tell my parents. My friends wouldn't understand. Online is not enough, there's just too much shit inside me. I don't know what to do.
Thank you if you read till this point, I just needed to unload my head a bit. I'll manage it eventually, I hope
Yeah, I want to go to conseling for my depression/anxiety/self harm/suicidal thoughts but I don't want to tell my parents and we don't have enough money to really pay for it so I would have to pay myself. But I still wanna go idk just thought I would comment, sorry
3:15 ...i didnt really know that- definetly makes me look at the possibility of finding help in therapy. my life is too weird to share with someone i thought was going to just 'correct' my lifestyle. thankyou, great vlog
i cried at least five times while watching this. the first was when i realized i need therapy. the second was that i have to actually get out of my comfort zone to find someone right for me. third, I'm so scared that i'm not going to get better. fourth, i have to save up for uni and i can't afford counseling. fifth, i want to better myself (i need to!) and i know therapy will help but i'm scared. i'm so scared.
this was such an interesting but hard video for me to watch cos lately i've been thinking a lot about my mental health issues and whether or not i want/need/should get therapy. ive been to a few counsellors and have had experiences ranging from "meh" to "this was Very Bad™" but never anything even slightly good and. wow. this was heavy. good vid but very heavy re: my current headspace lol a note on costs tho!!! if ur having a hard time affording things u can sometimes get counselling at a discount if ur dealing with like a key interest of the person u wanna go see!! like. if ur lgbtq and ur counsellor specializes in mental health in lgbtq youth they'll sometimes give u cheaper rates/negotiate rates with u cos u fit their target demographic if that makes sense (the doctor i see for my hrt told me this so!! not just the word of ur local 19 year old nobody lol)
WHEN DID YOUSTART WRITING? HOW MANY HAVE YOU WRITTEN SO FAR? HOW DO YOU WRITE USING INSTRUMENTS? YOUR WRITING PROCESS? DOES BEING A YOUTUBER MAKE PEOPLE IN THE MUSIC INDUSTRY NOT VALUE YOU AS MUCH AS THEY WOULD OTHER PEOPLE?
I decide what I want it to be about and what instrument I want and then I'll like picture it in my head then try out it onto my guitar by trying different chords and stuff then slowly work lyrics into it
My first therapist actually talked a lot about her own issues. I think I knew more about her than she knew about me.
Then I had a really great therapist, but I started getting too anxious to go, even though I was there for anxiety. I just kind of stopped going and then started on some kind of OCD medication to combat the depression and anxiety
It's so weird watching this video because I am in school to become a therapist/counselor, so hearing you guys talk about the techniques therapists/counselors do to help you (like the attentive body language and verbal cues) are all things I know work and am slowly learning how to do. It's just so friggin cool seeing that these techniques actually have helped out people! Thank you so much for this video!
Even though I have dealt with all of my issues to do with my identity i have to go to therapy because im transgender and my counsellor refuses to acknowledge any of my other issues even though my social anxiety is stopping me from getting another counsellor. I had had therapy with a youth charity which was great but was limited to 6 weeks before CAMHS but I'm not allowed to go anywhere else at the same time as CAMHS so I am forced to deal with it all myself despite the fact that I NEED HELP
I think I'm going to be getting counselling/ therapy soon for my depression and I'm so worried in case they ask like "what do you think brought this on?" "What do you think might've triggered your depression?" And I have no idea. It makes me doubt myself that I actually have depression, despite going to a doctors and being diagnosed. It's like because I don't have anything that made me like this (that I can think of) it's less significant than people who have an actual reason. I know it's still important but I feel like I'm being stupid and I'm a spoiled brat who needs a slap from reality 😕
I thought I might need therapy as a teen but was so self-conscious about it, I did it on the super DL. Didn't tell my friends or siblings. My mom was kind of weird about it, too, underplaying the bad feelings I'd been feeling. Needless to say, that therapy didn't work. When I went back at age 19, I shouted from the rooftops "I need therapy!" cause I really really did. It was amazing how many people came out of the woodwork to say, "Oh, yea, I love my therapist" or "I went to a therapist for a while after my parents divorced and it was super helpful." The stigma against seeing a therapist is so ridiculous because it's never a bad idea and we all need one at some point (or many points) in our lives.
i waited 2 and a half years for a therapist and when i finally got one, she told me that i didnt need it even though i suffer greatly from social anxiety and depression.
I'm a secretary at a mental health facility, and studying to become a therapist or counselor. It's nice to see people opening up and breaking the stigma that being in therapy is normal and okay. I wish more people could see it's potential!
I had about 6 months of counselling and I found that it was very good to just talk off my feeling but with being in school I feel like I can't say everything and majority of the time I didn't know how to explain what I was feeling, I know that what im feeling isn't good and I have suffered with this for so long but I just don't know how to get the words out. They stopped my counselling without telling me but I need it, I hate having to hide away all of my emotions.
I realised I wanted counselling about a year ago and went straight to the doctors, I can't afford to pay for therapy so I tried the college councillor and she was useless. an angry old woman who just made me feel worse about myself. and I have been on the nhs councelling waiting list for nearly a year now 😭
So I was kind of "forced" into therapy when I was 11/12 bc that was when my parents split up and I really did not like going to it. Every time I went I was very anxious and my whole body shook with anxiety of going in and talking to my therapist. I felt that I had nothing to talk about. I was just not really up to it. Also, when I was that young, there really wasn't anything wrong with me. But now, quite recently (starting in September), I got really depressed and sad and I didn't feel happy. Like, I would be with my friends and be happy but I never felt truly happy??? And with such a bad experience with therapy, I didn't/don't want to start it up again... but I feel as if I should have gone back to therapy in that period of time. I could've coped so much better. Idk how to get back into therapy with all this anxiety of what it was like built up inside me.
I tried to talk to my friends about any problems that I had and every time they would tell me that they weren't "real problems" and how their problems were so much worse and now I feel like a jerk whenever I feel depressed and that just makes it worse
Now I think I need counselling and I feel like going would just take up more time that I can't afford to waste but it's like I should almost probably definitely go.
i recently went to the counselor at college and she told me that my problems aren't important enough for therapy 😊 which is probably true but it hurts to hear nonetheless haha
I had counselling sessions at school, and at my 3rd one I was having a good day, so they were like "oh how are you feeling" and I said "actually fab..." and he was like "great, I don't think I need to see you again"...
For real though. I've been going to therapy for about 8 months now. Was going through a lot. Got a degree in psychology so I just was self aware of it all but that wasn't helpful. But then more happened and was like huh, I guess it really is about that time huh? Lol. Therapy is very good and does help. I've been more productive with my life in the past half year than I have been literally ever. Haha.
I experienced that when I was 10, 4 years later and it's worse than ever and I'm finally getting the treatment that I feel is good for me. Please keep trying, don't let it develop xx
Yeah my school councillor won't see you unless you tell her you're harming yourself, I was but I only saw her for one session and I never got another because it was a "phase" so I never told her
There are some brilliant organisations which will offer free counselling. If you leave in Berkshire ARC is brilliant. Nationwide I know that charities such as Mind can help you find free or cheap counselling. I was also rejected for counselling at 14 because I wasn't suicidal. Child and Adolescent Mental Heath Service (CAMHS) is completely overwhelmed due to government cuts and the waiting list for most teens/children is 2 years :(
Unfortunately there are too many people who need help and not enough people in the NHS to give it. My mum sent me to the doctor after seeing that I had self harmed and I told her I was having suicidal thoughts regularly. The doctor told me the waiting list was 3 months. A few weeks later I attempted suicide in my bedroom and was sent to hospital. It was only then when I was seen as a priority, and if I had been given the help when I needed it maybe I wouldn't have been in the situation. Now that I have help from the NHS, I don't really find therapy much help a all, in fact I always end up feeling worse. However I have found the medication helpful. Rather than a therapist, I much rather talk to my friend Paige. I'm always too scared that a therapist will judge me, but I know she wont, and sometimes I don't need someone to act like they know what is going on in my head but just let me babble and for them to listen so finding a 'special person' to talk to might help. Also there are many vitamins that can help with mood, anxiety and all sorts in places like holland and barrett. There are anonymous websies online wih councellors or people experiencing similar feelings such childline and Kooth. Even things like meditation could help, and I've found the free app headspace quite helpful. I hope you feel better soon, and remember you are not alone! Make sure to tell people how you feel x
onedeadrOse // The exact same thing happened to me. It was one of the worst experiences I've had with therapy and I still have problems related to that. But I also learned that I'M the only person who can determine if that is true or not. You shouldn't feel discouraged and try to find another therapist. You went for one for a reason. In my case I had trouble warming up tho my therapist, and at that point I couldn't see that that person wasn't the right therapist for me. Sorry for the long message, but I think it is really important that no one should feel that they are not sick enough. It isn't a competition and there is no one who doesn't deserve to get help.
yasmin garland awh god I'm so so sorry that happened to you that sounds awful, I hope you're feeling better :( your situation sounds a lot like mine to be honest, unfortunately I've completely ran out of friends because they don't understand and I'm not "suited for medication" x
Same, I've become distant from most of my friends as whenever I told them they didn't understand they told me I was being "rude" and that "all I have to do is stop being so negative all the time". But they ones that stay have hearts made of pure gold :)
I've been to therapy almost two years and the biggest problem I have with my therapist that since I was an A/B studient a few years ago and I'm quiet and don't get in trouble, she thinks I'm still an A studient who has energy and motivation to go to school and due anxiety and having no self-esteem I can't get myself to tell her that holy shit, I have failed 4 classes this year alone, I can't take school And she assumes I'm not suicidal if I don't talk about it but... I find it super awkward to go "yeah btw I almost jumped in front of a bus this morning" so I can't tell her if I'm feeling bad I probably should find a new therapist but hehee anxiety and low self-esteem won't let me say anything to anyone cause I can't be a burden :--D
I had the same experience as Dodie. My first counselor didn't talk and just kind of sat there and didn't ask questions or anything and it was really frustrating because it was like she wanted me to keep talking, but I couldn't think of anything else to say. Then I found my current counselor who I have been going to for like four years I think. I don't know, I need it to be a two way conversation and not me just talking at someone.
went to a counsellor in my school, and going into it I new I was going to end up feeling worse about my self. I went in and sat down and opened up about all my personal shit, mostly anxiety and depression, I ended up feeling horrible, since he made me think that it's all my fault and maybe I'm in the wrong school to begin with, and maybe the school is too advanced for me (basically saying I'm too dumb for the school). When in reality, the school puts far too much pressure on the students. some weeks are chill, and other weeks are jam packed with like 3 tests, and a couple of papers due. I went to a professional psychologist and talked to her about everything, and it was really great. So to conclude, school fucking sucks, and they don't hire the best people.
I was put into counselling when I was in third grade because I had this one bully that was extra violent and he was mad at someone else, but I was near him and he tried to strangle me for it. My first counselling experience was very welcoming and comfortable because I was just a kid and child councillors are very friendly and he had all these cool toys like dinosaurs and a doll house, but I was always scared to leave his office and go back to school or back home, I just wanted to hide there forever. I was on and off counselling for a long time so I've learned that some councillors suck and others are great, but there's no councillors at home, where my meanest bully and all my biggest problems are.
I remember being like 6 and going to counseling because I had mayor stress issues I did it for a year and when I stopped my counselor gave me a random stuffed animal that someone had left there.
this video was sooooo interesting to me!!! I feel like i share a lot of the questions and problems ennounced? first, like tessa, I don't think i'm "bad enough" too see a therapist, pretty much all my friends or family have had it worst (suicide attempt this kind of shit), second family problem! my dad is my GP (not a good idea but i don't know how to change without vexing him?) and he's super anti-therapy, also my mom has expressed before that maybe one of my brothers should have seen someone, but there was an "over-diagnosis" of depressed teenagers, so i have no idea how to bring it up to her. Finally, I don't live at home anymore, I've moved out for my studies, my school doesn't have a therapist and I don't have enough money/time, all bad excuses but also anxiety stops me from actually asking anyone? (i've been to pre-counseling before they gave me a number i never called) any tips / answers for a confused 20yo not adult that gets super frustrated when good days go away? (im french btw)
how often do you go to counseling? what I find is that I'm only able to go like once every other week or once a week at the most but I don't know if that's like enough. I feel better after my session but it's not very often. how often do you go and do you think it's a good amount?
I'm sat here sobbing in my bath because everything Dodie said is me to a T. I have yet to find a therapist that works for me, and, as Dodie said, was beginning to think I am just too broken for counselling to help me. I have two different therapy appointments this week and thanks to this video I'm going to go in with a slightly more positive mindset. I needed this video more than you'll ever know, thank you both so much for this. It's so easy to feel like I'm alone in this.
i started counseling after my mother found out that i selfharm. i didn't want to at first, i only closed up even more. but at some point i started opening up though and it really helped. i'm one month clean now, a new record.
If I ever seek counseling again (besides school counseling, which REALLY helped for me, but of course I had the opportunity to go there before school) I would want a therapists who does a lot of of projects and hands-on stuff with me btw I love Dodie's dress
At the beginning of every session, my counselor will briefly go through everything we discussed in the last session, and asks if I've still been having the same thoughts or feelings, and I'll be so surprised to realize that I haven't, and that's how I know it's working for me
With parents that grew up in China therapy was out of the question for all of high school but then I went to uni and everything's nice and secret and I've been on meds for a few weeks and they've started to kick in and my therapist is great and yes I recommend therapy tons thanks kids. But I also realize that having access mental health support is a privilege and I'm really grateful
Also! In the US most private therapists work on a sliding scale, so you pay what you can afford. A lot of therapists range from $5/hour - $100/hour, so it's whatever you can afford at that time and you create a payment plan with the therapists.
one of my friend's mum is a therapist. she talks, mostly, and i add my input. which works great for me because i don't like talking that much. once i get comfortable (needs to happen every. single. time) i talk more, and we work from there. it's great, and since speaking with her i've been so much better as a person. i feel so much better about myself. if you're having a crap time, talking to someone is ideal. find an online friend you can talk to until you feel comfortable talking to someone in person. therapists won't judge you.
a lot of my friends go to therapy and they say it helps and that i should try it but I'm too afraid (in a way) or too nervous to ask my parents if i could try it because i don't want them to think there is anything wrong with me and i don't know if there is anything wrong with me but id like to know and learn more about me but i want to try therapy.
This is going to sound weird, but I was watching this video and I just suddenly started crying. Like, at first it was just a few tears but then i was full out sobbing and it was kinda scary. Idk if it's because I'm envious of how open you two can be about your mental illnesses (since I have not really mentioned anything to do with mine to anyone for years and even when I did I pretended that I was getting better and everything was fine) or bc I don't think I'll ever go to therapy (every time I think about it I'm completely in denial that what I'm feeling is worthy of getting help), but I feel so bad even though I should totally be happy for you two for doing a great thing. Why brain??
I liked counselling bc I got to offload whatever was on my mind until I had a new one and she was like you don't really need to be coming here but it was more she was asking questions about parts of my life I'd already sorted through with the previous one where as I still had problems yet to discuss
so about 5 months ago my therapist passed i was seeing him on and off for 8 years and my family knew him for ground 11, he died in a bycicle accident he helped me loads even if it was just calls or texts. I went inpatient for a month and 1/2 a few months ago and when i got out i went through 4 therapist and 2 psychiatrist. I kept blocking people out and comparing them to my old therapist. I didn't wanna start trauma work(for sexual assult and abuse) with anyone but my old therapist. but there is a happy ending. My insurance helped me find a therapist and i now see her twice a week we have had about 6 sessions and yes she is very different she is very helpful and understanding. I still have trouble opening up i guess its out of fear to lose another person but I'm getting better
I founded out derealization feeling was a "dis-enlightenment" experience. A lac of light flow / electric flow inside your brain & blood. Deep breathing will give you that flow of electricity that will physically help you to clarify & re-enlighten your perception of life.
Your tip on the parental issue is very. very. important. Great empathetic perspective. Thank you for that one. I started therapy as an adult so their opinion was not impactful to my decision, but looking back, I realize how their concern and sadness when I told them was probably quite connected to that feeling of failure. Thank you for the revelation.
I saw my school counsellor for anxiety, depression, and eating disorder symptoms. He made me feel so much worse, I was self harming so much prior to and after the appointments. Safe to say, I've not returned to any counselling or therapy. I know I should because I am getting worse by the day, but I don't really want to get better in some ways so it's kind of limiting me
sorry to hear that :c don't go back to that specific counsellor if he makes you feel worse beause that goes against the whole point. A lot of people have been saying 7cups is very helpful so you could try that, there are lots of different people on there so there's a high chance you'll be able to find someone who can help you :) When you say you don't really want to get better in some ways, do you know why that is? I just want to understand, to see if I can help you out.
the funniest thing that happened to me in therapy was that I drank an entire large iced coffee right before and I had to pee SO BAD that she asked me what was wrong bc I was bouncing my leg so much
Highly recommend Elefriends as an anonymous forum sort of thing where you can write how you're feeling to a very supportive community - I've not sold it very well but do check out the website, they have an introductory video that explains it much better than I have. I've found it very helpful and a great free alternative to therapy
when i was in 8th grade my mom asked if i wanted to see a therapist and i said sure why not and she set me up with literally the perfect person for me to help me through high school and then i came out as transgender and that therapist and my physician helped me find a new therapist who knew more about the subject and again, we got a really good person on the first try. Basically just find someone who makes you feel comfortable and asks the right questions. I find that I am very stubborn and see things from one view and they'll ask the right questions to make me think about things from new perspectives. I've been to therapy long enough that I could almost counsel myself except that it's really nice to have that other person who won't judge you and isn't involved in the situation
this video is really reinforcing for me that I need to find a new therapist. mine is kind of shit: I usually leave appointments feeling invalidated and worse than when I arrived, she seems to think that getting a boyfriend is the solution to all my problems, and whenever I bring up how my parent's behavior cause me emotional distress she passes it off as them just being worried about me
The church I go to hosts a Celebrate Recovery group and they describe it for "anyone that has hurts, habits, and hang-ups." They make it a point to advertise it for more than just addictions (I haven't been to a meeting because I feel a little to close to the people running it, for anonymity's sake). It is Christian-based, but the guy who runs my church's chapter has been through it all and is the least judgmental person I know. I'm sure there are more chapters similar to this. Thanks, Tessa for mentioning it.
you don't always have to take drugs, such as antidepressant pills can sometimes make you worse and can give an imbalance in your serotonin even more. But seeing a sophrologist or a phycologist is the best choice :)
hey everyone. this video really did spark up my attention (minus it being dodie and tessa together obviously). i do counselling in my school for around 8 weeks now as i finally got put off the waiting list. i am 15 and in year 10 (grade 9 for all y'all americans) and honestly has really changed how i think now. in all honesty, i dont have an exact reason for counselling- well not a diagnosed, professional, medical reason. i broke down during the year twice in front of my class, and i was recommended by my teachers to have counselling. it wasn't something that was seriously wrong with me. i dont self diagnose and i havent been diagnosed with anything. as a teenager, you experience emotions. people in my school do counselling for their anger issues, or their sadness and self harm and etc. or they are there to talk to someone once a week about how their life is going. it's free in my school. i didnt tell anyone besides my four friends. not even my mum and sister. it was only recently i told my mum- id say last week- and she used to say that people who got therapy needed medical help. but i told her i have counselling, skipping out the why as i still havent completely concluded it. my counsellor agreed for no one to know- all things you talk about with your counsellor stays confidential.
the stigma behind counselling at school: - all information is shared between teachers and parent. NOT TRUE, all confidential and it is up to you whether you tell them. but, if it becomes dangerous and it puts you and others in danger then it will be conversed between your head of year.
- you have to pay for it. in my school it is free and im sure it is for schools around the UK (thank god the NHS)
- you have to be sad to have counselling. 100% no. people i know do counselling because they have anger issues. some are in with the wrong crowd and their head's of year sign them up with consent.
- if the teacher feels like you need to, you have to. no, it is all your choice you can't be forced into doing it. that's what my counsellor told me.
- you cant quit it. no, you can most certainly quit whenever. if you feel you dont need it anymore.
- the counsellor gives you life advice. no, the counsellor finds a conclusion that best fits your emotion and it only is with you if you agree with it and feel like it makes sense in how you are feeling.
- there is only one type of couselling. there are many different approaches to counselling. one is to let the client talk and the counsellor talk back or the counsellor to give feedback and many more.
My therapist recently told me to think of depression and anxiety as symptoms instead of actual deep-rooted problems, and it actually made a load of sense. She basically said that depression and anxiety are within me because they're trying to tell me that I have something really wrong that I haven't been dealing with correctly, and therefore I am dealing with it through depression and anxiety as a way to forget my actual problems way beneath the surface, and focus on what I cannot explain.
Ive been in a waiting list for months and months... My mum and I started fighting, and all the stuff about me, that my mum was trying to hide got out to all the family. Yes there was many tears, screaming, shouting and one failed suicide attempt, I guess I'm getting better...? I was sexually assaulted and my family only found out a few months ago. It happened a year and 6 weeks ago. I haven't had any sexual contact with a guy since then, but I hope to one day. TMI?
currently, i have been waiting for counselling for...about two years (probably more). I live in the north west of Ireland and (because of a mixture mostly free/cheap healthcare and a medical card i get through my dad's RA) i can pretty much get the whole diagnosis, therapy, etc pro bono. HOWEVER. there is currently nobody in my area who is diagnosing people under 18 (thats a few hundred thousand people btw) and i will probably have to go private for the diagnosis part (like my little brother who has aspergers). i saw a counsellor in my first secondary school (1st-3rd year/12-15) for about a year christmas 2013-june 2014 i think).
i moved schools for unrelated reasons in September of 2016 and have to date seen two counselors (besides the chaplain i saw.) who did not work out and was recently (before christmas) in Dublin (2 hours away) in a clinic my mom got recommended to get the diagnosis that i probably don't have depression or anxiety, it's a psychological problem and they couldn't help me. i disagree about the anxiety thing (but what do i know. it was only an hour long). i am now waiting for the two TDs (Teachtaí Dála members of the Oireachtas or Irish parliament) and a private psychologist (i think) to get back to my parents about when they'll get the position filled.
i just wanted to say (other than all of that) that it really helped me to watch you talk about all your symptoms and what you are going through and how you're getting through it. i have similar issues with depersonalisation, anxiety, feelings of doom (with an added twist of paranoia nice. i don't know if you get that. if any other that stuff isn' correct i am truly sorry). so thank you (i honestly was almost in tears writing this i didn't realise how much better your videos made me feel :,D) and please keep making these kinds of videos (thank you to tessa too. i completely relate to the 'kinda attracted to emotional unavailability' thing. cute claps you do at the start of your vids to bookend my essay
I had been in therapy for half a year or so and I made the experience that it didn't help or kind of didn't worked out for me I don't know really why it didn't. My mother decided she needed to do something when she found out that I was cutting and that didn't came up from anywhere. I have panic attacks for like 10 years now and after my sessions when I left my therapist I always felt burnt out and much more depressed because I had to talk about everything that bothered me and I couldn't do anything anymore the rest of the day because I was so stressed out. In the end my therapist decided that it might be better if we didn't continued because it seemed like it didn't help and just made me more depressed. Maybe it didn't help because I haven't been there long enough, I don't know. Anyways, I'm really glad to hear that it helped both of you!
I've been to 7 councilors in 4 years and they have all been at least 4 almost hour long sessions so it not like I saw them once and gave up. But none of it helped, medication hasn't helped me either and I've been on maybe 9 for mood and 4 for sleep. To my talking to a counselor is about as useful as a prayer or a witch doctor, if you believe in it it'll help because you honestly think it will help you
I told my mother about dodie a whole ago and I was trying to find something in internet history earlier and I found "dodo ukelele" had been searched and she had watched about 20 videos
Ahh I just started counseling last month because I saw Rosianna Halas Rojas talking about it and I saw your Snapchat, Dodie, where you just offhandedly mentioned you were walking to a therapy appointment and I was like hmmmm these are people whose opinions I trust and whose judgement usually lines up with my own so I might as well try it too... so I did. And I almost ran away before my first session because I was nervous lmao 😂 but for anyone who isn't sure about it, just try it out! The one I go to is only $55 per session which is expensive but not as much as some of the ones I was looking at before and that's because it's technically part of a family counseling center (so that's another option of cheaper alternatives). Thanks for the video and the openness guys 💕💕💕
SCHOOL COUNSELLING IS AMAZING!! I go to a university in the US and they have a health center and a mental health/counselling department that offers therapy sessions and psychiatric treatment. I go there for my anxiety, OCD, depressive episodes, and emotional baggage from my childhood (I've got a lot going on in my wacko lil brain) and honestly, my therapist and psychiatrists are so incredibly kind and understanding and attentive. I do feel better after my appointments and it really does help to open up to them, even if little by little. These people are trained professionals who are used to dealing with college-aged kids and their problems, like sexuality, mental illnesses, relationships, etc. They really know what they're doing and they're here to help. In the US, you gotta pay for your health insurance though so that's something to factor in, but I'm on financial aid/scholarships, so my health fees are all waived. Besides cost, I think school counselling is definitely worth a shot. Also, patient confidentiality, so your parents won't find out!
this video could not have come at a better time for me - after years and years and years of feeling like I couldn't cope (but putting it down to "being a teenager") I start therapy on Tuesday!! thank you for being so honest about it, you two have taken a lot of my worries away :)
Tessa gave such wise advice on the topic of telling parents you want therapy, and how she said they feel it was a failure on their part. Quite a realization! :)
My school just recently started having a therapist on campus everyday, and it was really really helpful for me. It was totally free and confidential. My parents ended up finding out about it eventually, but that's for a whole other reason. It's kinda funny actually, I went to the nurses office for a cough drop and they asked me to take a test, and 10 minutes later they told me I had high levels of anxiety and suggested that I should see her and see how I like it. It's been a really great experience, and I'm always excited for our appointments even if I don't have anything to talk about. I just don't know what I'm going to do when I graduate. :/
And what's crazy is all my life my parents threatened to send me to counseling because I was such a bad kid or whatever and like, I wish they would've lmao
two years ago i told my mom that i want to get therapy because i think i might have anxiety, but she told me that "i've always been shy" and that I "shouldn't be ridiculous, a panic attack here and there is normal" the past few months were horrible and i kept thinking about death and stuff. a part of me still wants to go to therapy and sort things out but another part of me thinks i'm fine and "what if i just somehow convinced myself i'm not ok" i just don't really know what to do
wow that actually happened to me... i have severe social anxiety, and i told her that but she still left way too much time for me to talk. and i would leave therapy feeling so much worse than when i went in because she would bring up hard topics and it would make me cry. but somehow she didnt make it any better... despite her being the therapist.... it also gave me anxiety so??? lol kind of defeats the purpose. so i kinda just never went back after a while and im scared to go back again
Where was this two years ago??? High school me needed to hear this before things got really bad... but I hope that this can help other people in that place in their life.
I felt like i needed therapy and i told my parents and they said it wasn't necessary and then i went to my school's counselor and they said i needed to be treated by a professional and my parents said IT WASN'T NECESSARY.
So I live in a FREAKING small town and I feel like if I started therapy I would get so much hard core judgment from my school peers. I want to because I know everyone should go and talk to a councillor but I don't know who to go about it. It scares me.
My therapist recently (within the last 3-4 months) stopped practice due to personal reasons. I've had her for 5 years and really built a connection to her. I'm looking to find a new one soon tho!
i had a therapist for one or two sessions then my dad decided that depression, anxiety and OCD dont actually exist and the doctor that diagnosed me just wanted to give me a seratonin supplement. i never got a refill and i went through a horrible withdrawl for a week and i still have really bad panic attacks n i still really struggle with my OCD. thankfully i dont deal with depression as much, but its still always there. i dont really know what to do right now going forward but i hope maybe it'll get better. it's slowly gotten better, but i do think maybe a therapist could help me
3:18 shit, I guess I never really thought about it like that. I just got a new therapist after my old one would never shut up about me going back to public school — like, I want to go back to public school, but I have conditions and shit that make it do that going back right now would be terrible for my mental health. She would only talk about that, and she never talked about my depression or anxiety or anything else. She would force it on me, force me to fake a smile and then bawl as soon as I got to the car.
I moved a few years back and need to go back to counseling, but my fear is not finding one as amazing as my last counselor. Our personalities just jived so well that I made a ton of progress. But I have been to many others that did not, and made it worse.
wait i relate to tessa.. i have huge anxiety issues that come with being so incredibly shy. i have yet to meet someome who is ss shy and as self conscious as i am.. but i keep feeling like eh my issues arent that bad. what do i do
guys, I need advice. I recently have been struggling with many mental issues including depersonalisation but I am scared to say that publicly in case someone thinks or says I am copying dodie (as I tend to copy her a lot oops) what do I do?
Is it possible to go to a therapist with a friend? I feel like I would be quite a lot more open to the idea of talking with a stranger if I had someone I trust with me.
in some parts of the UK there is a free counseling website thing, I've been using it, it's called KOOTH , you fill in a little questionnaire type of thing (?) then you're given a private counciler it's all anominas and I find it help full ^-^ you talk in texts or emails so you don't have to talk face to face. it's cool ^_^
I see a councillor at school and as much as she is brilliant and very helpful there is also only so much she can do. she has recommended I try and see someone outside of school but I'm honestly so terrified!
I went to therapy when I was 12 because my mother really felt I needed it. and I didn't feel like I needed but turns out I had depression, anxiety, and severe social anxiety. whoOpS and the weird things I felt at some nights were called panick attacks. whOOOOPSS (rn the social anxiety barely exists but the other 2 are still holding on zjshbsf)
Thank You Ladies. Not enough people hear about the positive side of counselling. It's not all raking around in the muck of ones life looking for stuff to be upset about. I see it more as weeding out unwanted things that have taken root in the garden of my mind to make space for a happier me to spread my roots and grow better.
Well hello, I’ve got a few questions about therapy. Because I go to therapy because my parents basically forced me to go to it. (Maybe it’s because im a oversharing little shit and I more than sometimes feel really down lol) I usually talk to my parents about stuff etc. and a couple of months ago they said that I should go to a therapist. But the thing is, I have social anxiety. If I am in front of a therapist I think: Idontwanttotalkidontwanttotalkimaidiot Because if I talk about sensitive stuff, I cry really fast. And I don’t want to cry in front of someone because of my social anxiety. I think I just would shut down, system failure 404. And if that happens I think that I just would not be capable to stop with crying. And then I would be really really embarrassed so embarrassed that I just would stay in my bed for a day or two. I’m so messed up lol and I know that’s why I need to talk to someone but I just don’t know how.
school have recently put me in this mentoring/counselling thing every Wednesday(im in year11) and they think I have anxiey/depersonalisation and want me to tell my parents and go to a gp but I really have no idea how i should tell them as they are really strict and wont take it well if you get me haha,do you have any tips on how to tell them
I told my parents I want counseling and they said that it was completely fine but before that I tried talking to my mom about my problems but she's my mom so she thinks she knows me better than I know myself but she doesn't and I don't tell her everything, she doesn't know. I told her and so she now takes me to a counselor
i've wanted to go to therapy for so long. i need it. however i fear that they will tell me i'm wasting their time. i fear this with a lot of situations and i need to stop procrastinating and putting my head in the sand and just f**ing book it *sigh
Lately I've been worried I could be developing social anxiety and I find it really funny that the solution is to go talk to a stranger...like hello I'm afraid of talking to people that isn't going to help
I'm doing Neurotherapy and DBT, and I've liked it so far. I HATE CBT I feel as if they're telling you that what you think is wrong, and that was my last therapist and now it scientific so Im like' YAY
I'm about to start seeing someone in a psychiatric hospital and trying to find the right dose of medication to help me with my issues. I still feel uncomfortable talking to my parents about it so I'm not really sure what to expect in these sessions but I want to feel less shit so I'm really going to give it a go.
I LOVE therapy!!! One thing I'd add to this is your therapist is not your teacher. What I mean by that is, if you can't do the homework they give you for whatever reason, they won't berate you. They are there to help you.
I come from a Christian home (yay, Texas) and my parents sent me to "therapy" at a Christian university, because I am bisexual. I convinced them that it was just a "phase" and now, as a 17 year old they think I'm heterosexual. When, in fact, I am more bisexual than ever. Girls are so pretty. Boys are so pretty. Everyone is so pretty. But because of that "week" of "therapy" as a 14 year old, I think if my mental issues ever got bad again (depression & anxiety) I wouldn't go to therapy. Because that period of time was so shameful and stressful that I don't think I can trust something like therapy again.
Cat Dobbs maybe when you turn 18 you could try and go to an LGBT+ support group so you can get back into an environment that you feel safer in (if other bisexual people would make you feel safer) or go with a LGBT friend if you can. You could also try going to specific counselling for LGBT people so that you know you won't be shamed. Any counsellor who is any good will never shame you for anything you do however bad, never mind for something like being gay which is not bad at all. I understand that therapy can be scary especially since you have negative experiences and associations with it but hopefully my suggestions can help you...if not good luck with being out and proud whenever you feel safe enough to be so.
I have seen a councelor at school and I chose not to tell my parents at all. After that I also saw the school psychologist for some time and I'm done with that now. I started feeling better even without realising, we just talked about stuff with the psychologist and she gave me some ideas to try out (which I never did) and it just slowly started helping me and I feel a lot better now than I did at the end of last semester. obvs I'm still not okay I have anxiety and depression but I have learnt to live with them and yeah getting help is a good idea.
I grew up always being told "You don't need to go to therapy! There's nothing wrong with you!". There's free counseling on my college campus. I debated on trying it out because why not! But, I hesitated. I finally went to counseling because some old dude in my class was harassing me; I told my friend, who DRAGGED me to make an appointment. IT WAS THE BEST DECISION EVER. I AM GLAD I DIDN'T HOLD IT ALL IN TO MYSELF AND SUFFER. Not even two minutes into my first session, I began BAWLING MY EYES OUT. Not only did i talk about/report the harassment, I also began talking about all my childhood shit. I don't have depression or anxiety or anything, but PHEW I didn't know i had so much emotional baggage from the past that I was holding on to. Each session, I would cry the whole way through. I found out we shared the same faith, which was nice because I could never find any church in my area that has counseling. I can talk about my struggles and solutions with my counselor from a biblical perspective, rather than a secular one whiCH IS AMAZING. All in all, counseling for me has been a BLESSING and i recommend it to everyone. Don't be afraid, it will be okay and it will be so worth it.
I've wanted to go to therapy for probably at least 4 years but I just can't seem to make myself take any steps to get there. I just feel like I have such a hard time having normal conversations with people I know sometimes that it seems totally impossible to talk to a stranger about stuff that is way more intense and intimate. I want to be able to have those conversations and get help in understanding and bettering myself, but it seems pointless to try when I don't think I could ever get there.
i went to my GP and she referred me to some place called CAMHS, to which i waited 6 months to a year for something to happen and when it did CAMHS diagnosed me with autism and discharged me when i went there to get therapy for the fact that i had already been diagnosed with 3 different types of anxiety and they also told my mum she was a shit parent so yeah, i wont be doing that again but im too broke to go private with the NHS
i went to therapy for about two months last year but it wasn't helping, i always came back home and cried after the therapy session but i dont know how to feel better
im watching this from inside a big tree infront of my house and my horse came and watched as my dogs tried to climb up too and my mom opened the front door and screamed and they jumped out and ran away and the horse ran away to her stable idk man it was funny and cute i didnt have anywhere to run tho i was just like oh nO
my mum is insanely pro counselling. I had seen 11 counsellors and 2 psychiatrists (at least 1 court ordered because I got a restraining order against a family member at 13) between 12 and 15 and yet, nothing. I'm 18 now and I think that I can safely conclude that counselling is not for me. if it is for you though thats awesome. If you find it hard to open up psychiatrists can be better cos they push you more but personally I hated it
for a long time I hated counseling because (1) it was being forced on me during a time where I strongly believed nothing would get better and my therapist didn't click with me (2) I was so afraid to let go of my mental illness. because of the fact that I can barely remember not feeling horrible, I felt like if it went away I wouldn't be me anymore. during the past year I found a therapist I really like and was put on a medication that works for me and I don't feel like my personality has changed, just that there has been a weight lifted off of me
Oh God. this video is so important. I'm 18. I'm in a VERY bad place. I'm so afraid to admit to myself or anyone else that I need and want help. I think everyone will think I'm crazy.
so ppl down here in the comments with all their bad experiences with therapists: heres the deal, finding a good therapist and/or psychologist is hard because you cant just say "im gonna go to a therapist and get some medicine" like you would a regular doctor because that wont help you. If you're feeling sad, and you dont know what's wrong, that's fine too, you can start out with someone to try to figure out what's wrong and once you know what's wrong you can find someone who is specially trained to help you with that problem. also, there are loads of psychologists here in the US that take health insurance, my father being one of them. for those of you who are saying you can't afford one, try getting insurance and figuring out which doctors can be covered by your health insurance plan. furthermore, please try to think of your brain as an actual health problem where there are doctors out there that can help you learn to heal your own brain. that's what a good therapist will do and a psychologist has a degree for it. anyways, dont ignore the way your brain is feeling you'll feel worse in the long run and it'll be harder to heal the longer you wait.
What worries me the most is that I feel like I can't tell my school counsellor everything and I don't know how else to offload. I feel heavy almost everyday. My mum, bless her, always says that she knows that something's up and she'll ask me why I'm looking blue and the only answer I'll have is that I don't know and I just need time. It feels like something's been taken away from me and I'm disappointing everyone around me and it's all my fault. She asks me why I barely eat at lunch in school but I snack on piles of biscuits late at night and like always, the answer is i don't know. It's so hard to describe but it just feels like everything has no purpose and I can't find any pleasure in hobbies which worries me. And then I tell myself it's just puberty fucking with me. It's just hormones. But it feels like so much more and it feels so confusing and it feels like weight in my shoes, like an invisible person whispering all the things I'm doing wrong to me. Whenever I try explain this to friends, I can't. I break down and I just make it sound less hard and resorting to 'its fine' when every time I say it it's really not and everything jut feels so yuck and ugh... ;..(
In Australia at least, there are a few free counselling places, such as KYDS or Headspace which can be incredibly effective, and they are totally free ^_^
I hated counselling. I felt awful everytime and never wanted to go back. After several sessions, I realised it saved my life. Any mental health problems, be it anxiety, depression or alcoholism, talking helps but it takes longer than you would like.
I'm a type of person that everybody knows I have anxiety and stress but I try to make them feel like I'm ok and I'm fine. I recently this week went to a doctor and she said my muscles were really tense bc I was stressed and scared and that I lose my appetite also bc of that. I need a new counselor bc the school one is always busy.
The first counselor I went to told me I was just "sad because I'm growing up into a different person" and I would probably just "not be a happy adult" ????
Excellent stuff; what you guys are doing to normalise therapy and mental illness is amazing. I'm in the place of 'I don't need therapy right now, I'm working out stuff myself and am totes good', but I also recognise that it doesn't always work that well, and that when I do get worse I have a tendency to just go more within myself. But I can see myself going to therapy in the future, so it's something; unfortunately I'll probably need a big kick by something bad happening to do it.
I think that this video could help a lot of people to understand therapy. Many people feel the same, but dont know that they are not alone and are scared of starting therapy, because they don't even know what therapy actually is. Thats why I'd like to do german subtitles for this video. I'd be very happy if you could enable that others can make subtitles.
I've been trying to work myself up to going to therapy and i'm just afraid that I'll walk in to the first session and have nothing to say. And the the counselor will just tell me to go home, there's nothing wrong, you're making it up for attention, etc. I know it's ridiculous but that's my brain :/
coincidentally I just set up my very first counciling session the other day. not gonna lie, I'm scared to go. I know I need it and all, but it still scares me. my mentality is kind of like dodie, like therapy wouldn't help me. not really that I'm a lost cause, just that what's wrong with me isn't something that can be fixed that way. but I've been told I really could use it. i feel like im in the way of me and therefore counciling wouldnt help, i just need to be better. in a weird way, I also almost don't WANT to get better. like I've lived this long like this, it feels oddly safer this way. I know it might seem strange to a lot of people, but hopefully people understand. So since it's my first session, any advice? like do I NEED TO know what to talk about or how to talk about things?,I'm scared I'm gonna go in and look stupid cuz I won't know what to say?
it might just be me but I had counseling from about 12-15 years of age on and off and I never really felt like it help, maybe it was because teachers in my school made me have counseling or that I had talked about it to so many other people that it didn't seem important and I thought that no one cared but for now I'm fine, I hope x
I've been trying to re-learn psychokinetics, and I've realized that you have to be so in touch with your inner, and outer self, heart, mind and personal energy, and your own thoughts to achieve results. And part of psychokinetics is meditation which promotes brain repair and inner peace. Therapeutic? This is why I stopped going to therapy, because I know I'd be on meds, and I won't take anything unless it is Cannabis. or something equally natural and powerful. Could you imagine a world if people practiced psychokinetics? How non-violent it could become? But, no lets put people on meds that literally damage your chakras and third eye. Which is also why I stopped going to therapy, because a very large portion of the earth's population has been con-ed into believing chemicals are good and psychokinetics aren't real. But I guess that's just me.
Hi Dodie, here is an idea (pretty much dumb but anyway.. ) make a cup of tea and slurp one time after answering a question we send you. Drink the hole thing in the video. Thats it. Love you.
sueycoo counseling tends to be more focused on immediate issues and tackling things the client is proactive in overcoming. usually used talking therapies. Therapy also does all the that but can involve more in depth therapy such as CBT to tackle underlying causes of a disorder the client may have. therapy tends to be more drawn out. but there are overlaps. and as they said on the video, many therapists/councillors are different and use different methods so you just need to find what's right for you! I believe, in the UK, if you go through the GP you tend to get placed with therapists. but I'm not 100% on all of this. I'm just citing what I learned during my degree, could be misguided :)
I've had 5 therapists and finially found one i like but our last session was last week and im so so scared to be alone again... i feel like she was the only one who actually understood (or at least pretended to) and i just dont wanna go back to where i was alone 🌼
my school counselor legitimately called me crazy :( haha but I'm sure there are better ones out there.
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Lau Ste2017-02-04 22:29:13 (edited 2017-02-04 22:29:39 )
My issue is I do a lot of self-evaluation, I come to a lot of conclusions on my own, so because of that I convince myself that a therapist wouldn't help? it's also an issue bc on the NHS as it's free you can't really be picky about who you get as a therapist. when I was 14 I had a therapist to help me cope with depression/PTSD/anger issues and she was way too into being my friend. like she was kinda old enough to be my mum or even nan, somewhere between, so she had those motherly instincts i guess and all she'd ever give me was "coping mechanisms". But I didn't need that, I needed someone to tell me what was irrational and what wasn't. "coping mechanisms" weren't going to stop me getting into screaming fights with my dad or with abusive teachers, she kind of treated me like a child rather than a teenager. since then I've been really hesitant to go back even though really terrible things have happened and I've had serious mental breakdowns. I'm sure other therapists are better but one of my biggest issues is that the abusive stuff i've been through has either triggered some pride/self-esteem thing where I can't unload my actual feelings onto people because I'm afraid they'll turn around and say I went too far or shared too much, basically just throw it back in my face. I'm nearly 19 and only just realising that pushing stuff down in your head doesn't work lol, just because things feel better after a while it doesn't mean no damage has been done
i want to show this video to my parents (although my mum doesn't understand english oops) but i don't think they understand what mental illnesses are. they'd probably think it's something wrong with me that's only affected by how unappreciative i am of having a good life.
i'm not diagnosed with anything, but i've been experiencing symptoms of anxiety and depression for quite some time and it's scary. i don't know how to tell anyone without seeming like i'm just doing it for sympathy or i'm just overexaggerating. my parents would probably think that i'm just spouting nonsense because "i look too relaxed to be stressed and have problems" and i get many things that i want.
i don't know. i barely even have the courage to talk to my parents anymore because i'm so afraid of making mistakes.
it's honestly so nice to hear people talk about therapy because it's always such a taboo thing to talk about, at least for me. it's being normalised and it's so good to not feel ashamed about it. I'm going to therapy for a little bit over a year now and I try to be as open as I can about it because I know how hard it is to actually communicate with other people about it, but nevertheless it's still very awkward and uncomfortable. the people I know don't really know how to react and just don't talk about it. they make it awkward by pushing it away. I needed this today, I really did. I needed to know that it is in fact okay to not feel well, to seek help and to actually talk about it. thank youuu
I had a piece of paper with a circle divided into different sections and the sections would say things like school, family, friends, health and hobbies and every week or so give a rating out of ten for how things are for you at that moment and if it's a number below 5/6 then think about why the number is so low and how you can improve it
I'd just like to say that for anyone that is embarrassed about getting counseling: I get little depressive episodes occasionally, and that's why I have a therapist. I'm under 18. Getting a therapist isn't shameful or anything. It can help more than you think.
my therapist did become such a friend to me. she helped my agoraphobia by going shopping with me and taking buses with me and she'd always tell me about her life if i asked. it was so nice, i miss her
I count myself lucky as I get free neuropsychology appointments from the NHS for my ptsd, but I genuinely feel so bad for those who have to fork out hundreds simply so they can get better😫
For me, it's weird watching videos in which people are encouraged to look for help by means of counseling, because I have needed counseling since the age of four. Back then I was diagnosed with autism, so I was elligible for therapy and I still require therapy. My parents were not against therapy, because for me it is necessary. And for me, it is not a temporary case. I have to attend therapy all of my life.
I had a terrible experience with counseling and I've been too traumatized to go back lol. She says she had a direct link to God and that if I really really wanted to kill my self then she could make it happen. I walked out.
Thank you so much for talking about this!! People mostly associate only bad things with counseling, even though it's actually about improvement. It's just - as they said - learning more about yourself, and that's always something good. I feel like a lot of people fear to go to therapy, because they don't want to get judged. YouTubers or generally the media don't talk about it that much, at least the way like Dodie and Tessa did. And it's just good to hear people talk about their own experiences, and be open about it. So, again THANKS!! 💞
okay just a quick Thing fr anyone who may need it: 7 cups of tea is a really great website!! idk if it counts as therapy or counselling but basically you get to talk to someone about ur problems and you get people who either just listen to you or give you solutions depending on what ur actually lookin for!! <3
I have had psychological therapy a few times in my life, it's not bad, but I feel like my personal problems are mostly solved naturally on their own. I know when I talk about how I feel out loud I can feel this unpleasant tension in face and like that my vulnerabilities will spontaneously leak to where it goes out of hand if I continue talking. I'm totally fine with being emotional, it's easy to be both masculine and emotional at the same time, it's not masculine however when you start acting like you're not even a man. Nevertheless, I prefer cutting onions in the privacy of my room where nobody can know too much about me, and neither too little. I have supportive friends also, but still choose not to wear too much on my sleeve.
I spilled my dead aunt all over my counselors shoes, the second time I met with her... She has yet to leave me so if that tells you anything, it should be... Counselors literally give no fucks about what the baggage is, they are just there to help you with it.
So I've been in counselling for almost two years ,I started when I was almost 11 and now I'm almost 13.when I was around 10 I started to get migraines daily.That obviously wasn't healthy but I just thought eventually would go away.They didn't.They got worse I realized this during that summer I got REALLY bad migraine.I got really sick and I couldn't eat anything because I would throw up,so I couldn't take any medicine.I threw up spit because nothing was in my stomach.I went to the hospital to get it checked out and i found it was because I was so stressed.I know a 10 year old shouldn't be stressed but I'm Emma that's just the way I am so I got medicine to "help" my stress.Yes it did help for a little while,until I didn't have it,and all I wanted was that medicine because I was in severe pain constantly.I was stressed because of the world in general, as a 10 year old wtf. but it didn't help that I have extreme anxiety I didn't know about at the time.But obe day in sixth grade I got a really bad migraine so I went to my school health center.They asked me if I knew why I got migrsines I told the nurse and she recommended me with for therapy,at the time I thought it was so stuid, but more so I as scared I hated being reminded of the fact that I have issues.I never really took too much care of my issues and I only tried to help others.So I went hme that day and just cied.I never let anyone see me cry ever,at that time I don't really care anymore.About a week after that I thought that the nurse forgot about me and I was so hopeful she did , but NOPE they called me to go to the health center and I was so confused.I got there and they told me I had therapy and I just internally broke down.And for a few months I only went like once a month I would say.Ths was because my therapist at the time didn't really know what was going threw my head at the time.I really just wouldn't tell her much.BUT THEN, she got me on just a really bad day and made me go at least once a week for a about 4 months and then things got better and I didn't go after that until this year.I kind of had a really bad break down in class and my teacher told the school councler I looked really sad and depressed.Since then I've been going once a week.I really couldn't thank that teacher enough because there's ALOT going on in my life right now I really cant take so just getting it all out really really helps me.I also found out depression runs in my family recently so that might have something to do with it,and anxiety soooo yeah.If anyon actually raeds just know that it is ok to have issues everyone does and that going to therapy is a really good way to just let go and be yourself with out feeling bad or stressed about it.
I'm in the US -- I have two therapists (one is DBT-influenced and the other is for relationships/social skills). The first was recommended to me my the psychologist who did testing/evaluation for me, and the other I found on PsychologyToday.com's Find A Therapist. Both of them were on that site, and I like to be able to see that they have been checked out and their specialties on there.
Also, as was mentioned, university health centers will often have mental health services, but mine only handled short-term (crisis) stuff, so they got me started and referred me out to community mental health, which offers a sliding pay scale (which I needed back when I was a student without a steady job yet).
I've been getting sick really really easily lately and everyone else has been pointing out that it's probably stress. After a meltdown about how sick and tired I was of being sick, my mum told me to go talk to our school chaplain (who is the guidance counsellor and who isn't pushy at all when it comes to religion) and I've finally decided to do it. I think the fact that it's making me anxious is a sign that I need to go... not making it any easier, but if it helps me stop being sick then it doesn't hurt to try!
im kind of young, but im really sure that i might have depression and anxiety, and i really want to go to therapy, but im really really nervous about that because im very shy around people that i dont know and adults. i would hire one of my friends to be my therapist, but there are things that i need to talk about that i wouldn't even want my parents or really anybody to know about so there's my dilemma and i have no clue how to fix that.
first of all im danish and my english is rusty. second. thank you for talking about mental illness etc. ☺the tabu is causing the world harm. its "funny" how it makes a huge difference if you instead of a mental illness say a physical illness. 😕 parents would not (in most cases) feel bad for not being able to help a child with forexample a broken leg. why is it different with mental illness?😕 you are supposed to fix yourself (according to some people. "pull your self out of it. man up etc) no one expects you to fix a broken leg. weird.😕 i think that talking to a therapist is good. i think it should be free. so many problems would n't become huge. ☺
I think everyone should see a therapist because it's good to talk about things to people who don't know you emotionally and can give you the answer you need not the answer you want.
I went to my school counsellor for self-harm and anxiety, but I'm really quiet and she left so much space for me to talk, but I literally hate talking especially to people I barely know, I don't know what to do now
i know i have so many mental and emotional issues but its so hard for me to do counselling because i never know what to say about my illness because idk I've kind of just been living like this so i don't really know how to articulate how I'm feeling or what my symptoms are????
the first and only therapist (family therapist) i went to told us that our problems weren't valid and that my sister and i needed to "be disciplined" and that would fix everything. never again. (though now we've worked out our problems ourselves, i am now extremely wary of therapy.)
I eventually told my therapist that she wasn't helping me and making me feel worse, it took me while because I didn't want to hurt her feelings and I didn't know what would happen after, but now I've been put on this waiting list for group therapy, but I've been waiting for a while and it sucks because I could really use the support right now, but it's really helped me understand how useful therapy can be and how important it is to find the right person for you.
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K A2017-02-04 18:57:12 (edited 2017-02-04 19:13:18 )
BY THE TIME I HAVE MY FIRST THERAPY SESSION ON THE NHS I WOULD HAVE STARTED THE PROCESS OF TRYING TO GET ONE 6 MONTHS AGO!!
I've had private CBT and other private therapy in the past for anxiety/OCD. But after also developing depression in the summer and having a breakdown and ditching my friends at the airport where we were meant to be going to Barcelona for a girls holiday, we went back to the doctors and they put me on sertraline.
I made my first call to IAPT on the 23rd of September. My doctor changed my medication to citalopram as I was feeling worse. On the 3rd of October I had an hour long assessment on the phone and they said they'd get back to me but didn't. (Baring in mind I'd told them I self-harm, often feel suicidal and go to bed at about 4 am, along with a string of other shit). We had to keep calling back iapt repeatedly until they set an appointment date for a different assent, the 7th of November. After that the person who conducted the assessment said I needed secondary phschotherapy and that from now the process would be speedy. Ha. Ha. Ha.
On the 29th of November I got a phone call telling me there was an appointment available. FOR THE 29TH OF FUCKING MARCH. A FOUR month WAIT added on to the initial two months already spent trying to get therapy on the NHS.
In the meantime I'm seeing a psychotherapist until then because I can't fucking deal with life 🙄🙄
Could you talk more about depersonalisation? The country I live in doesn't really have good therapists and they're very limited to specific set of illnesses and depersonalisation is a very rare thing here so it would be helpful to me if you could share more ways to deal with it???
I think my sister needs therapy but I know my parents will never take her to see a doctor. I've tried talking to them and even though they say it's a good idea they never do anything. A few years ago I needed it really badly myself but I had to find a way to "fix" my problems on my own, I don't want that to happen to her too. What can I do?
but seriously thank you for talking about this. i have had therapy on and off for years, went through like 5 or 6 counsellors before i found one that was actually amazing and he changed my life. but there's still such a stigma around even saying that you're having therapy and it needs to stop.
My dad pressured me to stop therapy, because he thought I was 'better', so I stopped. I'm getting bad again, but don't know how to tell him I need to go back.
Therapy is so hard for me because I'm absolutely crap at talking to people. It's funny because the reason I started going is because I get anxious talking to people. There has been some progress but it's still weird being honest with another person. It hasn't been too long though, so I'm expecting it to just get better with time
I've done therapy once and it was after I had gone to a mental institution... I don't really wanna try it again but after this video, I wanna try it again??? But im scared..also when I had therapy, she told me about groups and stuff going on and recommending it to me, but Im always so scared. So scared of judgement cause my "mental illness" comes from literally nothing so I have no actual reason to be sad. I just became suicidal and depressed for no actual GOOD REAL reason so Im just terrified I'll be made fun of for having a "mental illness" that I shouldn't have.
I wanna try medication just so I won't feel judged for taking it...or maybe I will..I won't Sorry this is long...whoops
I went to counselling/therapist from the NHS to get rid of my dog phobia but at the same time I started getting bullied verbally by people in my school and became really shy. She was so amazing that she automatically saw what was going on and she cured my dog phobia and told my mum about my problems at school. Since I had gotten rid of my dog phobia I couldn't see her anymore but we email constantly and it is so brilliant to have a person that you can just explode onto. I am so much happier since I got rid of my dog phobia and moved into a new school.
if only therapy was more available in the UK... I had to wait 16 months to get into camhs as we couldn't afford private. and where I'm from the cut off age is 17. in somewhere like London with postcode lottery it is alot easier to get therapy. butttttt there are alot of online website that are great! I used a website called kooth durring the time I was on the waiting list which is like online councilling. so yeah there are always other sources!!! if only mental health was taken more seriously in the UK.. :')
my mom took me out of therapy and I'm too scared to ask her to go back in. I cry every night and I have to fake being happy at school and with friends. I constantly feel spaced out and nervous of people new people. old people. I can't walk in the halls without feeling extremely nervous and my friends don't understand and try to get me to try new things and volunteer in class and such but they can't understand that it makes my like so much worse. I wish they could be understanding. advise?
My mom really hates when I talk about needing counselling. She feels like she's failed, when really, she is the best parent in the whole world. She's supportive and smart and logical and gentle, and we tell each other every thing. But sometimes, I need to talk to someone that's unbiased and trained to deal with mental illness. :/
during therapy my therapist let me make stuff out of clay so being the kid i am i made broccoli out of clay (i fuckin love broccoli actually like BROccoli it's so good) and a thicc bird
Medication for children is very difficult to get in Ireland due to long waiting lists and if you're in a smaller county you've to go to Dublin to see a consultant to get medication
I wish seeing a psychiatrist was financially covered by the government/insurance in Ireland, I've been to three counselors that weren't qualified psychiatrists, and they just haven't worked out because I want to see someone who can give me clarity from a medical/biological standpoint.
i want to go to a counselor but the one at my school is a freaking joke and im terrified to tell my parents how i feel about life and my mental stuff. i dont want htem to think im faking or dont actually need it
Does anyone have any tips for me telling my parents I need counselling? They'd be completely open to anything that would help me I just can't open up. I physically can not say what's on my mind. I start to feel sick and wimp out before I can say anything. Any tips?
I think I could benefit from therapy, but I haven't been able to find a good one. First one I saw was always just "what do you want to talk about?" and offered little to no feedback on anything, it was about as helpful as talking to a wall. The next one I saw always seemed to come to conclusions that seemed very wrong, like whatever I said she always seemed to be on a slightly different page. Also She either kept forgetting things I told her or had an uncomfortably passive way of suggesting things. Like I haven't talked to one of my sisters in years and I had to keep reminding her of this because she kept asking me how she's doing. Like if you think I should talk to her lets discuss that, but for god's sake don't just keep asking me the same thing and expecting my answer to suddenly change.
in my experience group therapy is NOT free. the ones my therapist suggested were always as expensive as the regular therapy, except that insurance wouldn't cover it
The NHS can be difficult to get through if you aren't a really bad case - I was and it was easy but my friends who weren't had a really tough time. Try other stuff before you go to a GP, because they often will just tell you to go to a community counsellor or something like that :-)
i went to a therapist who was really just bad and she told me how to live ly life and i was dealing with anxiety and she literally, and I quote, said "well, just stop worrying!" like oh my lord are you kidding me how did you even become a pROFESSIONAL and luckily I'm with a different woman now so yay
maybe there's something about the therapist that you dont like or theyre just a bad therapist? if you're feeling uncomfortable i highly suggest you dont stay with them.
Kat Hawley Hi Kat, I wonder how it's going for you now, I hope better. My therapist explained this to me as getting nearer to the things I don't want to face. Therapy digs things up, you leave your session more aware that those things exist and that you're coming nearer and nearer to meeting them. Often avoiding the feelings created by whatever you've buried is why you've ended up needing therapy in the first place, so of course it's anxiety provoking. Have you told your counsellor that you feel this way at the end of your sessions? Maybe she needs to approach things differently, set aside grounding time for the ens of the appointment,reassure you that you're not going to break into a million pieces etc. I feel for you hugely, it's so hard but I honestly believe you'll get there. Take care, friend x
Please clarify this at some point in the future: YOU DO NOT NEED A REASON TO BE DEPRESSED. Depression is a brain problem, not a logical result of shitty life circumstances. While trauma and adverse life events can definitely make depression worse or spawn a bout/episode, there is no "reason" for anyone to be depressed.
ALSO, I highly recommend Mental Illness Happy Hour (it's a podcast) if you want to hear some interviews and lots of personal sharing about a variety of mental illnesses...so long as you can tolerate some cursing. The 2+ hour episodes have made me feel a lot less alone and more motivated to get back into mental health treatment.
Saw my school counsellor and he downplayed my depression because I smiled around him??? I just stopped going, he managed to make me feel like I was faking everything
I do art therapy, where they basically give me paper and pencils and paints and pastels and ART STUFF and it works really well. They let me draw what I want, and I get to keep it if I like it; if I don't they keep it. It really helps, but it's not considered actual therapy even though it is! When I say I do art therapy, people tell me it isn't therapy and that I don't have problems. Other therapy just doesn't work for me; I can sit and talk my feeling out without something to do, else I scratch my arms to pieces or bend my fingers back.
Even though my mental health and anxiety isn't as bad as it used to be I really want to go to therapy just because of how much good I've heard it does but I'm terrified to ask my parents for it because last time I tried to get therapy and told them about my anxiety they just denied I even have it. I think it's because I don't have MAJOR anxiety but at the time it was big enough to be affecting me a lot even if it isn't as bad as other people's :/ and I'm homeschooled so school counseling isn't an option rn although I will be going to school next year so maybe?
CAMHS is great and I go there for CBT for PTSD and therapy for depression and anxiety so yeah but there is currently like an 18 month waiting list in all areas
EXCUSE ME i felt ATTACKED when you mentioned 'being attracted to the same emotionally unavailable man over and over' bc that is so me wtf. also same reason for not going to therapy for a while. literally same. wat
Also, for US people, some councilors/therapists will charge you based on something called a sliding scale that is based on your income, so you pay much cheaper rates, if your lower income but don't qualify for state funded insurance (like AHCCCS, here in AZ) or Obama care etc
my mum a therapist which is great and people think its easy for me to talk to her and sometimes it is but not normally because shes my mum obviously :) everyone should use her 😂💛
I'm saying this to ask for help I want to start going to therapy but I'm to scared as i don't trust anyone with my feelings but me. I also don't know if how i'm feeling can be classed as an issue and don't want to be a burden to anyone. can anyone give me any advice on what to do?
I'm like Tessa - I don't think I'm "bad enough" for therapy. Also despite being plenty old enough to do what I want I know my Mum doesn't like it because of experiences with her Mum so I'd feel like I couldn't tell her but I also can't hide things from her. Also I have SO many out loud conversations with myself (I live alone) I kinda feel like sometimes I'm my own therapist but also I deal with anxiety by ignoring and avoiding all situations that might raise it so I'm clearly not coping but also uuuuuuuugh scary commitment and new people and accepting I'm broken like everyone else but that's not a bad thing. I even have a work objective this year to learn to cope with anxiety better and I expect to achieve that without therapy!? Lol good luck future me
I find it so frustrating to confront the institutionalized stigma against people with mental health issues. I just moved to a new country, and because I'm on an SSRI for my depression (which is in remission), they made it so much more difficult for me to convert my NY driver's license. The woman in the office told me I have mental problems and need a doctor's note saying I can drive-- I went back with a note and she said they needed to send it to their doctor in another city now to confirm that it was ok for my to drive. Then they stapled all the notes to my form that goes to my driving instructor, so that he can know about my medication too. The whole thing was really degrading, and I'm like-- this is the reason people don't get help when they need it! Because of this kind of treatment. 😡
My mum is a psychologist and even tho she counsels others she still goes to a therapist every week. She says it's really helpful. She loves what she does and says she always has the most interesting patients. It's nice to have a mum who will just sit with you when you're upset to help you through things. :)
I tried talking about it to my parents several times, but every time they're just like "You literally have no reason to get therapy, you have a good life"... Last time I asked, they got really pissed off and were like "Yeah okay, we'll get you freaking therapy so you can pretend you're depressed and feel better, is that what you want?" So I just shut up until now. I guess I'll have to survive without it until I'm eighteen.
i do wish i went to therapy, but i've had a really bad experience with a therapist before, so... no thanks. and i know you said that you need to find the therapist for you, but the one i met just scared me for life. the first meeting i had i needed to have with my parents, apparently (cuz im not 18 yet), and when i had a chat with her (this horrible therapist that is) alone, i told her some VERY personal things. and, since she thought this so severe, she immediately wanted to tell my parents. i said no, and that she wasn't allowed, but she still thought of it as her choice. i was so scared she was going to tell them, and broke down, and wanted to just run away and kill myself. that's how bad it was. but this idiot of a therapist didn't give a fuck! she didn't tell them anything, but she basically said that something was up, and that got them worried, and they got scared, and blah blah blah... WHICH was EXACTLY what i didn't want to do!!! the reason i reached out in the first place and wanted a therapist, was because i needed to talk to someone that wasn't directly related to me, and not as close to me. i felt 2000 times worse after seeing her, and i blame her a lot for me feeling like shit right now. because i wouldn't dare reach out and ask for a therapist again. and i really do need to talk to someone, i really do.
fuck sorry for ranting, even started crying and shit, ffs anyway, if anyone has any tips, or if they've shared this experience in any way, please help me out...? Dodie, Tessa, any good advice...?
my friend recently started therapy bc she has depression bc of an unfortunate family situation and I've been thinking about starting going to some kind of therapy bc I get very depressed from time to time and I have other mental issues as well. my mum knows but I really don't want to go tbh bc I hate talking to new people etc (so much I would consider it a problem) asdfghjkl we'll see
I always find that i lie to my therapist, like I'm so used to lying to everyone in my life and I am really not a very trusting person, I don't know maybe it's just me
Ugh you two together is the best. Also your tours together are the best. Basically what I'm saying is stop being the best because its distracting and I have woRK TO DO. <3
My family (really my parents) are extremely religious, and I know I need therapy, but they say I need to have a religious based counselor. I really don't want to have that type because I need unconnected and unaffected advice. I need therapy but that's the only kind they allow. I have GAD and don't know what to do.
I hate it when people are like "oh no everyone has that feeling, it's normal" When for me the feeling can be COMPLETELY different and control my life and for other people it can be "Oh, I'm a bit stressed sometimes" and for me it's having nightmares and sleep paralysis for weeks
I was seeing a therapist aged 12-13 and decided to stop cause it just didn't work for me. I'm realising now that the problem was actually probably my therapist ; she was listening, but it made me feel uncomfortable that she never tried to engage into an actual conversation and try and find sort of solutions. She was there to listen, but not to chat about it.
This video is really making me want to go to therapy again. I constantly feel the need to talk about how I feel but still struggle to 100% open up with my friends and relatives. Thank you for that video!
therapy is so hard for me because i have anxiety which makes it difficult to talk... but i'm at therapy for help with my anxiety & depression... lmao okay
I feel so hard to find a psychologist/counsellor. The only good one I had was in high school with my school counsellor. But after that I feel like I had terrible psychologists where they eventually tell me that they can't help and I should see someone else because they don't deal with trauma/grief. My mum tells me that I can't see one because I won't get a job. I feel horrible. In Australia, I feel like a lot of psychologists are so expensive, even if I go through Medicare/GP.
my friends want me to go to therapy because I think I'm experiencing depersonalisation because of this what I think was depression and anxiety has kind of left like sometimes it comes back but not often and I feel like I've actually lost my mind I can't tell if scared or not I'm numb and my mind is never active anymore and now I'm just a whole ball of confused and lost (I'm 13) what should I do? like my mind atm is making it super hard to explain anything Like the way I explained it to my friends was I showed them dodies video which I think letting someone else know helped but I just don't know what to do now.
If anyone here is from Australia and wants/needs counselling: HEADSPACE. Oh my gosh, headspace. They are so good! They have physical clinics where you can get 10 sessions free per year and they also have online chat options. It's scary, it's daunting, but the folk at headspace are so lovely and welcoming x
I had therapy, but the issue was that my therapist told my parents. I understood she needed to, but I stressed me out and made my life worse because I want a space to be open and free. I wish she just told them how I was mentally rather than telling them everything I tell them cause I could've done that M Y S E L F
right now im in a situation where my parents dont even know im depressed, i dont even know if im depressed. ive just been guessing that this chronic numbness was depression. i really dont know how to talk to my parents at all, its like i dont want too.
remember this seems very much focused on private therapy- on the nhs you dont really have the option to 'shop around', you have to take what you're given and it certainly doesn't last 6 months + . Just a comment for those that might not be able to afford what they're talking about - definitely dont let this put you off going though.
I've got insomnia and I've had it for like four years and I have no idea if it's physical or psychological or if therapy could help, and even then my mental health is nowhere near bad enough to get therapy on the NHS seeing as I don't even know if I need it idek
so fun story, im a mess rn like a total mess but i feel really uncomfortable going to my parents about needing help, and i can’t go to my school because fun story my mom runs the school counseling part, and i just don’t know what to do..
I'm an English speaker in a non-English speaking country - I feel like I need to go to therapy, but feel like doing it in my second language wouldn't be as useful so have avoided it.
Talking therapy doesn't really work for me because I'm very self-reflective and good at understanding my mind anyway so a therapist/ counsellor usually doesn't tell me anything I don't already know and I've already set up a therapy inside my own head if you get what I mean and I'm deciding to try to go down the medication route.
Im pretty sure i need counselling but the councillors in our school aren't very good and I went to see a doctor (Im from the UK) but because I went with my parents i felt pressured and basically lied about some things to make myself seem more 'normal'. I was also told that because im under 18 they can't sign me up for therapy unless the symptoms are a risk to my physical health and because i have my gcses now im not allowed to take medication as it could make me feel more sleepy etc. And i can't feel like that while taking my exams. Help?
Okay so I escaped (that's probably not the right word it's way too negative haha) therapy in August, and I think I want to go back, but at the same time I don't? Firstly, I don't want to waste their time in case I'm making it all up and don't even realise (that's what my step-mother believes happened last time). If that's the case, I would rather they cared for someone who needs the help, rather than someone who is faking it. Second, in a way, it feels like admitting defeat, and it makes me feel childish and weak. I know that it doesn't, and I wouldn't judge anyone for going to therapy, but for me to be going, I feel weak within myself. I also don't want to hurt/disappoint my parents. Thirdly, I have no idea how to make the time. I'm in college, so I'm incredibly busy with studying, and I also have work experience to do, and I need to get a job as well. How do I balance that on top of counseling? Should I prioritise counseling, and possibly risk my grades? UGHHHHHHHHHHHHH MENTAL ILLNESS SUCKS :)
Australian Thearpy post so first there is kids helpline which is online or you can call and is free (but the waiting line has always been a bit much for me) Its good for immediate help, feeling suicidal or wanting to hurt yourself etc. Then we have Headspace (To preface I'm in NSW) Headspace is free if you have a medicare card which is super easy to get (no parents needed) They have a privacy agreement so unless you say then they wont tell your parents anything. You have a regular therapist and get about 10 sessions a year, the space is also super comfortable. Personally Ive been going there for about a year, went in relapsing suicidal thoughts/extreme anxiety and now its just a great place to vent.
Hope this helps, if you want to know anymore @misscupidturtle on twitter and Ill help you set it up (especially if you're not great on phones) xxx
I just don't how to tell my parents I want to go to therapy, I tried to talk to my mom but she said "you're okay, you don't need therapy", and even if I told them I'm pretty sure they can't afford it and my school counselor is so insensitive and ahhhhhhhh
I don't know why but when the my said depersonalisation at the same time it was so satisfying. Even though they couldn't even high five 2 seconds after
i've been feeling really crappy lately, and i highkey need to go to therapy. my mom understands that most people just need someone to talk to, but idk how to bring up that i need to go. also, i don't really feel very comfortable talking to my dad about this, idk why but... i don't know.
Dodie and Tessa, I'm insanely proud of you both. Not only are you smashing the stigma of mental illness/going to therapy, you're doing it TOGETHER. Just great you two!
so this is youtube and as such i doubt anyone will read this HOWEVER: therapy is something that helped me a LOT and i wanted to add some stuff about this too:
i found my therapist by literally googling "therapists in my area" and picking one whose picture looked like someone i could talk to.
it may well feel weird talking about stuff, at least at first. the first appointment i went to, i literally put everything out there right off the bat. this was because i wanted to force myself to get to a point where i could talk about it as quickly as possible because i wanted to stop needing therapy as quickly as possible. spoiler alert: that should not be your end goal! there is no switch that will be flipped where suddenly you don't need therapy.
view your therapist as a doctor in that you are seeking help that you need in the same way you would seek help for a cold or etc but make sure that you are not expecting it to be like a doctor in that you will leave with a magic cure-all for whatever is going on. i went twice a week for four months, backed down to once a week when i felt ready, and then we tapered off until right now where i am no longer going. this was through months of going as well as the addition of meds. medication is not necessary for everyone but there is suuuuch a stigma around it that i just want to say: if you (and/or your therapist) decide that medication is a good idea for you, please never feel badly about it. i did at first but then someone reminded me that people with diabetes need insulin and etc, so why should i feel badly about needing something that my body doesn't make/doesn't make properly?
ALSO: the mindset of "well what i'm feeling isn't bad enough to need therapy" is one that i've seen a lot of people dealing with. but here's the thing: if you're dealing with anything that is making you consider therapy, chances are it's a good idea! even if you're not dealing with something therapy is a good idea! therapy is great! i def agree with what dodie and tessa said about how everyone needs therapy because it is very, very true.
okay, gonna step down off my soapbox now because i'm realizing how long this is lol, whoops!
My parents don't agree with/believe with mental disorders and stuff which is very hard for me as I'm constantly forced to hide all my emotions and feelings...i dont think they would agree with me if i said id like to see a counsellor.
I want to go to therapy but I don't want to as well. I want to change my life, feel better and get better with my social anxiety. But I'm so scared to book that first appointment...
I haven't ever been able to choose myself whether i need therapy or not, because my parents just whisk me away to different therapists, and dont let me have a say in the matter. Tbh, to not be able to have a say in who you see and when you see them is horrible, and i still cant get out of it. If you or someone else is forcing you to go to therapy, it will not help. You need to make your own choices and only then will you know when it's best for you to see a therapist! :)
should I talk to someone, around this time last year I went to someone who would help me choose what I wanted to do in college (university for GB ppls, I'm in Ireland) and we went slightly off topic and she full on told me I had social anxiety, or anxiety in general and I just went silent like.....what..... it worried my for weeks and could've effected my exams. should I go even for one session to see what's up. or am I better off believing nothings "wrong" and going about my life
i avoid talking to my parents about my mental health. its either hormones or me being a hypocondriact who 'has everything wrong with them to them'. then i find out my brother is depressed. i wasnt aware and had to find his antidepressants myself. at first, i thought my parents were just uneducated. now i feel as if thye think im an attention seeker due to me being a minor hypocondriac which started as i had bad stomach aches when i was 5 which everyone brushed off as nothing. turns out my appendix errupted and i needed emergency surgery. i wish people would understand.
(sorry for all of my stupid anecdotes on your videos. i need to say it somewhere. why not say it somewhere where it is accepted by whom can relate)
What if you parents are wanting you to do counseling, but you don't want to?? My friend is going through this situation and I just want to tell her it okay to be in counseling. She thinks that its weird to talk to a stranger
there is an app called Pacifica where you can work on your mental illnesses addictions or any other issues, you can join chat rooms with people who have the same problems as you and are willing to listen
let me preface: I have never been depressed and this wasn't my parents ignoring my depression...they did to my sister, later but not me.
There was a counselor at my school for elementary school K-8 and in 7th grade i told my parents I would like to go talk with him. My mom said no and when i pressed her she laughed and said "because I just wanted to talk it wasn't cuz I needed a counselor. The counselor was for kids who were struggling and I was a fine, happy kid." In reality I was starting to have deep emotions against my father but couldn't pin point them. I was watching my family fall apart. My parents, years later, got a divorce, and I was definitely seeing them fight constantly. Do I think I was more damaged by not going? No. But do I think it may have helped, oh yeah! I think all parents should listen to their kids when it comes to talking to a counselor. Take it seriously. And if you just think its because they want to talk, schedule one appointment and see what the counselor has to say about it. Now I am 12 years removed form that little 12 year old girl, and I know for a fact I need to go to counseling and unpack A LOT. But now its a lot harder with money. I will definitely look into the counseling Tessa talked about.
Would anyone like to tell me where Tessa and Dodie bought their tops? I've been wondering each time they've worn them and I really wanna know <3 (Bonus points if Tessa and Dodie actually respond to this themselves and you're correct!)
I really am not the person to talk about my feelings with anyone especially to my parents... And really I just want to talk about what I feel like and my life but not wanting to sound selfish:/
About NHS counselling: There are some places in the UK that are part of the NHS (so they're free)and accept self-refferals, you can look up places near you, they should be on the NHS website. They sometimes have different names as this is more comforting and less clinical sounding. Also, if you go via NHS, there may only be a certain amount of times they can see you, my counsellor offered 6 sessions regardless of how much you needed it, if you needed more you would have to go back on the waiting list. Another thing is the waiting list can be no longer than 18 weeks, it is policy for you to be seen within 18 weeks, sometimes it is sooner than that. stay happy x
i got myself in a stupid situation because i considered going to a doctor because of my mental health and talked to a friend about it, who now wants me to go, when really i don't know yet and it makes my suicidal thoughts worse because i feel like if i go there, maybe they will limit my "options" but she will continue to pressure me and might talk to an adult if i don't go (which i guess is the right thing for her to do and i know she only wants the best for me) but i feel so trapped! plus, in order to go to a doctor i will have to ask my mum, who i am not that close with, and i don't want to put a mental weight on her, i'd rather just keep everything to myself or leave. suicide just seems like the best option and i don't want to be forced to live i guess? i have no idea about anything my life is kind of a mess
And aside that- I've been suspicious about myself possibly having bipolar disorder for a while now, and I'm very lucky to have parents who help me and support me all through this :) I'm going to see a psychiatrist to get a diagnosis soon.
I like how in the uk there's multiple plausible ways to get affordable mental healthcare through the actual system and the us its like...hmm...well, it's $50 a pop bare minimum even with insurance...good luck...? Sigh.
You look like someone who likes to go to urban outfitters, has little pet cactuses, goes on tumblr and owns a kjallraven backpack XD I love it you're so cute and i love your songs btw
I want to talk to someone. Just... Talking, and being free to say anything without feeling rejected. I have just sO MUCH STUFF INSIDE I CAAAAAAN'T. Also, there is a counselor in my school, and she's... Nice(?) Idk, but I don't want to talk to her. She's also a teacher, and I'm kinda afraid that she might tell the other professors or my parents, and I certainly do not want that. I don't want to lose class either, thank you very much. And... I have no money, neither any idea where I can find a counselor or something. Help c:
The reason telling parents you want to try counselling bc you're friends are doing it (whether it's true or not) mihgt not work because personally my parents would always say that I'm just following trends and I don't have to be doing everything that my friends are doing. I'm right on the edge of seeking counselling soon because I just really feel like I need it, but I have yet to come up with a good way to approach it with my parents :)
Incidentally, this video was so nice and made me feel warm, thank you girls :))
I started therapy a while ago but my parents just stopped sending me and I haven't been in months ?? I think they forgot about me /: which sucks bc it was helping
also for lgbt + youth in the us theres the trevor project that has online chat rooms and call services for counseling for things like self harm, depression, suicidal thoughts ext. its really amazing just google the trevor project
I probably should be in therapy but my insurance is so crap. Like 5 years ago (maybe) I went to a therapist recommended to me by my grandma who picked an older homophobic lady and she said "next week when you come in i want you to have applied for college" but the problem with that was that my a) no money for college and b) my grandparents wouldn't let me drive to classes anyway. I felt better after sessions because I cried the entire time basically. It was just a very weird experience.
okay this is an amazing video and well done dodie and tess and this is v important BUT does anyone know where dodie got her dress from? again, v important and amazing video but i really need that dress
oh my WORD there's like random grinding/thumping noises in the background of this video and I just came from watching someone play a horror game and I was SO FREAKED OUT until I re-played a clip and realized it was just the audio. Geez Dodie, tell your roommates to be quiet! ;)
It great people talking about therapy! Therapy on the NHS is free but you cannot chose the therapist and so you could not bond so sometimes isn't helpful 🙃. Just in case anyone uk is here
I just hate that my therapist is including my parents in my whole mess bc Im 16. I don't want them to feel like its their fault (even tho it lowkey is) and that they failed as parents (my mom tells me weekly "sorry that im such a bad mom, this is all my fault, blah blah blah") and that makes me feel worse.
Check out the website Big White Wall, they do therapy online and it's actually NHS funded without the ridiculous waiting list! That's where I did my first therapy last year, and my therapist from there literally saved my life!
I've tried counseling and got a bad counselor but I ended up with her because she wasn't expensive. I don't think I have the money to have a good counselor even tho I desperately need it. I live in the US
another discounted resource for counseling – a lot of universities will offer discounted rates for therapy since it's done by students who are honing their skills. they're normally monitored by proper doctors so it's still super proper. but that way you get cheap therapy & help someone's education! I did it after I graduated college before I was able to afford my co-pay in the U.S. and my sessions were $10 per hour.
I'm 14 and have been very sad so I went to the doctor with my mum and the doctor said to me to try help myself... how am I meant to help myself? I just feel stuck now because I can't get help :(
Waiting list for Camhs is much big, been waiting since August and I'm now 5th in line. Government needs to give more funding to camhs its been 5 months
If you find yourself struggling because of a trauma in your past that might be related to sexual assault or domestic violence there are places in the us that offer counseling for free or at a low cost. Or look for nonprofit agencies in your area. In the us you can call 211 and then can help connect you with resources in your area.
my parents tried to send me to counseling, but I didn't want to go, not because I don't want help, I do, I said no because it was a counselor at our church. I really did not want that, I do not want to be bombarded with prayer and religious propaganda.
how do you learn about words like depersonalisation or codependency? What categories are they in and where can i find something like them so i can 'find' where i 'fit' and as a whole, learn more about myself?
This makes me sad, I'm in therapy but I'm there for evidence and shit and not me. It's not out of my interest and therefore it's ugh, I can't switch it'll be the same situation. Just feel a lil stuck
At my school you have to tell your parents how you feel but I don’t want to tell my parents that’s why I went but it took me so long to go bc I was use to just telling my friends and to I went to group counseling so yea I don’t ever wanna go alone
I have a question; it my sound dumb I'm sorry but I honestly have no idea, anyway. Who actually diagnoses you with things like depression and anxiety? Is it your therapist or a doctor or...?
does anyone know where dodie got her round glasses that she wears in most of her videos? im trying to find them because I want them rlly bad, and this is a bad video to ask on but I need to know because I love them whoops bye
My mom is trying to make me go to therapy, but I really don't feel comfortable with going because I don't want to talk to someone I don't know about my problems. Suggestions?
my dad wants me to go see a counselor...but I have social anxiety...so seeing a stranger for social anxiety doesn't make sense to me. and the idea of it just makes me feel like I'm not good and helpful and nice when I am, if that makes sense. Also, he's been before and has treated us all a lot better. I think he really needs to go back; I'M not closed mineded/making people feel bad/being a huge religious nut/making people uncomfortable; I'm just a good kid struggling with protecting self-esteem from him. I don't know what to do.
I have a lot of bad days. There are so many days where my brain refuses to shut up, feeding me with thoughts capable of making me go insane. There is this constant knot in my chest that refuses to unfurl and my eyes refuse to give away the tears, which makes it all extra worse. I can't cry, I can't speak about it because I know something is wrong with me I just don't know what it is. But, sometimes I have days which are not that bad. Since Thursday, I have been feeling a little better. Yesterday I was at the park with my best friend and we clicked a lot of pictures(because both of us love photography) and talked about literally everything. You know, just two teenagers laughing their butts off for no absolute reason. It was nice. I came home and ended up with a cold and a fever that still lasts but my mental health seems a little upbeat than it usually is. My physical health though, is a lot worse. However, what I realized is, I would rather be in this physical state of sickness than a mental one. And that just saddens me. I would rather have a terrible cold than have a terrible thought process. Anyways, writing about it made me feel good. I love your videos x
> Wants to go to therapy to address my anxiety disorder. > Waits for months on NHS waiting list. > Finally get appointments with psychologist. > Can't face the appointment due to anxiety. > Get a voicemail on how I can't miss more than 3 appointments or I'll be taken off the list. > The voicemail gives me more anxiety thinking I'll be questioned why I didn't go the previous week so I don't go the following week. > Never end up going. > Repeat.
I don't want to go to therapy because i always think that I'm going to start talking about my problems and the therapist is gonna be like- Oh why the hell is she here!? Nothing is wrong with her she's just a overdramatic and angsty teen who wants attention. So yeah know, fun fun fun
I have to go to therapy because I was told I might be bipolar, have anxiety and raise a red flag for severe depression and suicide. bit do not feel depressed in anyway. apart from someday. please help me clarify
When I was 8-10 I was suffering horrible anxiety attacks, and my mum (who has many many problems both mental and not mental) put me into therapy in hopes that it would help. It did, but she didn't. So next, in high school, after some shitty things happened, my dad (the good person he is) booked me an appointment for the school councillor and honestly I hated it. I'm a bit passive and I never want to talk about myself. I think 'maybe I should go to therapy maybe I should try it out' but I know if I did I'd just sit there and not say a word.
I can't understand myself. I always tell myself that I don't need help or counselling because I have everything and more, there are people going through a lot worse than me and I feel guilty for wanting help, I feel I'm not eligible for it? (I can't explain it very well) I know I need help but my mind tells me other things and I hate it. if you read this, thank you I just wanted to get it off my chest and see if any one else can understand what I'm trying to say x
there is a counseling service through my school and last year the person I got with was.... not the best but this year the person I got is just so good and I'm feeling way better about the event and more willing to talk about it so... yay therapy!!!
as for what to do if you can't afford counseling; there is a wonderful website called 7 cups of tea! it offers group chats, forums, guided meditations, and counseling
My mother has a title in psychology but she does not work as a therapyst. The weird part is that she does not takes it seriously when I tell her I want to go to therapy. Well, even if i had a therapyst I think I would probably keep many things to myself, because I wouldn't tell them even to a therapyst.
I need therapy, but I don't really have time for it, really. I know I would need to go through uni counselling before I'd get in line for therapy, and even after that I would have to be available for at least a year - and honestly don't know where I'm going to be in a year. So. Yeah. Private therapists cost too much, and there isn't lot to select from in this tiny town, so I just gotta depend on my own research and friends. :/
i think i may go back to therapy but the problem is, the woman in my school was my counsellor for 6 months and it didn't help in the end. i could go to my local gp and then be referred but mMM IM TOO NERVOUS, so i'm not really sure what to do. i talk to my old form tutor a lot but because she's a teacher she has to legally say anything if i'm a danger to myself, but the problem is i'm so suicidal that everything i talk about kind of is linked to being a danger to myself hMm
What tessa says about the doctor going "hmm hmm" 2:27 I always find it very like they dont believe me or they're not listening. It's very off putting and makes me feel worse 😅😅
What should you do if you're a teenager (therefore too young to get therapy secretly), your family is a big catalyst to your problem, and you might get exempted from your educational course if you aren't "medically/mentally fit"? Never mind therapy, I'm panicking as to if a doctor seeing (old) scars during my required medical exam will damn me completely. :/
aaaaah where do I start (this is going to be a very long and dramatic comment) I'm 18 (turning 19 in March WHAT), I graduated high school and am currently in the middle of a gap year. About a year ago I figured out that I probably have ADHD. I was on a waiting list FOREVER (5 months actually but it felt like eternity) but now I'm finally seeing a psychiatrist. She concluded that I probably indeed have it and we decided to try methylfenidate (usually sold under the name Ritalin). I'm on 45 mg total per day and it's not fucking helping it just makes my heart beat really fast and I feel anxious as fuck. I'm really scared that I don't actually have it. What if I'm just a stupid lazy good for nothing who will never survive in the real world.
I'm pretty sure I'm depressed? I never feel good and I can't imagine having a future. I'm sort of suicidal? Like in the long run? I'm not going to kill myself tomorrow but I feel like suicide is eventually how I am going to die. A bit of psychiatric history: when I was 4 my parents took me to a therapist or smth for anger issues I think? I never got a proper explanation of what it was about exactly. When I was 9 my school referred me to a child psychologist because they thought I had issues with depression and anxiety. I remember a little bit of that. They focused on my frequent fights with my younger sister and my social awkwardness in school but that was it. The conflicts between me and my sister eventually lessened and they sent me to some silly social skills training. The depression and anxiety thing was discarded as simple shyness.
I remember that when I was 11 I wanted to fall asleep and never wake up again. That feeling never really went away, it became more serious. Just before I found out about ADHD I had pretty serious ideas about killing myself.
I don't know if it's ADHD and depression or just ADHD or just depression. I feel like I really need therapy, the way I think is not good. I'm really scared to talk to my parents about this. I'm scared that my mother will get angry at me for being ungrateful or exaggerating. She'll say that I already saw someone when I was 9, wasn't that enough? I really don't know what to do, sometimes I even feel like I should just end it asap to save myself more suffering, it's never going to get better anyway
I know people will tell me I should just do this and this and that it will help but I don't think I can believe you
My parent are wonderful but I don’t really know how to talk to them about stuff in my head. My mom cries easily and my dad is a doctor and comes home really stressed after work and I can’t really talk to him bc he would just brush it off and say that I’m fine when I’m not and I can’t stand seeing my mom cry bc I think I’ve done something wrong. Anyone have advice on how to talk to them without upsetting them?
my school councellor is so bad - like dodie's first councellor, he left loads of spaces but another thing is that i was not comfortable explaining the problems in my life to not only a stranger, but a male stranger. i have NOTHING wrong with male councellors, but i would feel so much more comfortable with a woman. i think she would understand a bit more but like they said, if you need councelling, go xx
I feel like I should start going to a therapist, but I don't think I will actually be motivated to put in the work to get better... I kinda just want to know if there's actually something wrong with me or if I'm just lazy...
Churches will more than likely not charge you for counseling by the way. Also don't get freaked out if the try sharing Christianity with you, that's just their way of sharing they care. Just making a side note about that.
If youre in the UK but anxious abiut twlling your GP your problems (or they shot you down which happened to me once), there's an NHS service for counciling that you can apply for online using a self-referral called Let's Talk Wellbeing. And it's free and available all over the country. I hope this is useful x
Free self-referral places in the UK for therapy to google - IAPT (increasing access to psychological therapies) and the name of your area, like 'IAPT Leeds' Then the name of the services in your area that deliver that will be called different things. MIND can also offer local advice.
You can also go via your GP.
Lots of private therapies offer a sliding scale pay scale so it might be only £5/£10 an hour rather than £40+. It is absolutely ok to email all the local portage therapists in your area the same email saying 'these are my struggles...do you offer a sliding pay scale/ a lower rate for those on low income'.
School/ College/ University all have free counselling. If your school only has 1'counsellor and you don't like them then your school is obligated to provide an alternative (this is usually a referral to CAMHS).
i went to therapy and it did nothing i mean like i told that woman my problems and she just smiled and said "well stop that problem" like bitch idk how teach me
i would love to be in counseling but anytimes i bring it up to my mom she just asks my why i cant talk to her. i need more professional help? i dont feel comfortable enough to talk to my mom sometimes :// I understand what shes thinking because she is worried about me, (im worried about me) but she thinks shes failing and so its hard to let her realize how much it means to me to be able to talk to a professional
i dont know how old you are but maybe you could talk to your regular doctor about wanting to go to a therapist and your doctor will ask why and youll say "_____" and then your doctor will ask, "psychiatrist or psychologist?" and you'll say, "psychologist" because they're the ones who talk you through your problems not give you "medicine" for them and then your doctor will refer you to psychologists who are on your insurance plan and then your doctor will probs have a talk with your mom about why it might be a good thing and your mom might feel bad but if so, just remember that she probably is the reason you need therapy in the first place because our parents are human and they make mistakes even though they want to be perfect. anyway, even if your mom isnt the reason you need therapy, its not her choice if you think therapy is a medical and mental need.
So, 2 years ago when I was 10 my mom took me to a therapist and I HATED HER SO FREAKING MUCH LIKE OMG SHUT UP HAHAHAHAHA YOU DONT KNOW WHAT YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT. She called it "family counseling" because I hated my brother, whos older than me and I know that now, but back then I didn't. I was the only one truly in counseling and I was like WHY OK MY BROTHERS ANNOYING IF HE WOULD SHUT UP I WOULD BE NICE but I was really hateful and spiteful as a younger child (2 years ago wow IM SO MUCH OLDER NOW HAHAH NO). Anyway, since I HATED HER we stopped seeing her. Then when I was 11, we met this other lady and I loved her. I saw her for about a year. She didn't really have a method, but she would just talk to me, and it worked. Because in reality, I had no one to talk to and I still don't. My mom took me out over the summer because she thought I was fine. But my story isn't like "THEN I HAD DEPRESSION AND ATTEMPTED SUICIDE AND THE SCHOOL COUNSELORS GOT INVOLVED AND IT WAS SO TRAUMATIZING (no offense to anyone who that happened to, because that's really tragic and NO ONE deserves to go through anything like that)". But now I'm in junior high, and things happened this year, and I really wish I could see her. It really sucks, because I had shitty friends who taught me I can't trust anyone. Honestly, it sucks. I'm quirky, and weird, and maybe even unique if I'm stretching it, but all my friends pick anyone else around them over me. But my family life is perfect now, I love my brother, my dad, my mom only did what was best for me, and I'm happy all around. Heck, I'm about to be 13. Like life is pretty great. I have a lot of friends, but it's like they're only my friends when no one else is around. And I can't tell anyone, because I cant trust anyone at my freaking school. And that makes me sad. And I know that everyone has a right to be sad an cry, but it feels like I don't. I MAKE STRAIGHT FUCKIN A'S WHY AM I SAD. ALL IM SAYING IS LIFE SUCKS SOMETIMES AND MY BEST FRIEND LIVES A 2 HOUR PLANE RIDE AWAY AND SHES THE ONLY PERSON I CAN TRUST IN THIS UNFAIR WORLD AND I LOVE HER TO DEATH BUT EVERYONE ELSE AT MY SCHOOL CAN SUCK IT
I know no one really cares, but sharing it on the internet is better than telling people at my school. I know a lot of other people feel this way, so I don't judge.
I feel like I should talk to someone about things that are on my mind but how do u know when u should go cause I don't want to go and tell them what's happening and waste there time .... what do I normally talk to a friend but still thinking about it
Help! I want to make a list of the bad and good things that happen through out my life but I am so scared of just thinking about the past or the bad times. It just really scare me but I want to face my fears! I just don't know how to. Please help.
Dodie, can you become my knew therapist? I'm very suicidal and my therapist isn't helping. I have tried a few and I've lost all trust for adults and most trust for my friends. I don't know what to do at this point, please help.. You know what, I'll probably be fine. Because ya know, suicide is fine. Yay! I need to stop typing, bye💙
yeah my phycologist at the moment is realy awkward and quiet and uhh, i don't like it at all. I've had really good ones but she doesn't seem right cause I'm an introvert and its really awkward haha
i think im probably really lucky bc i can get free therapy (doctor's referral) and ive been going for like at least two years now but i just find it doesn't help??? but i dont know how to tell my therapist that and i feel bad that im taking up places other people my age would kill for and really need?????
Ok so my mum is a therapist and I am like really scared to tell her that I think that I would like to go to one. I just do not want her to feel like she failed raising me and maybe is a good therapist (I know she is) but a bad mum. But I feel like she is the best mum you could ever wish for. My whole life I have been the strong one and I am never showing my break downs to anyone but I feel like I can't handle this anymore. I just feel like a filler friend, nobody's first choice, not even like a 6/10 more like a 4 or 3/10. Don't get me wrong I'm happy on the outside and I got a few things I really enjoy and I'm like always laughing and making jokes but when I'm alone in my room (mostly at night) I just listen to sad music and think that I'm a person I don't want to be but I can't do anything to change that. Thank you if you read my thoughts, I just had to tell it somebody that isn't my bed, my guitar, my dog... well anyway thanks to everybody and I would be very thankful if you would have an advice. (By the way I really love you dodie, yeah and Tessa too)
For Australians interested, I believe you can get 10 (or 12, I can't recall) government funded sessions a year. Not a lot, but a start. Look it up for more accurate info, but I can guarantee there is a (limited) number of government funded sessions available per year.
Oh, I would love if you made a video on how to make good YouTube videos. I have a nice camera and I'm wanting to start a channel. I haven't posted any of my videos because I can't find a good and possibly free editing program. Any suggestions? They are cover videos. I would love a little help from professionals! And you are my BIGGEST inspiration to do this. I would have never even started singing in front of people let alone record myself singing and putting it on the internet if I weren't for you. Thanks, Kendall❤️
my parents will not let me see a therapist even tho I've had multiple friends and teachers and adults with past and present mental problems that i should see one. my parents don't believe in therapists but everytime i try to talk about something with someone else they either tell me im boring or brush me off and ignore me (my parents do this to)
I need help. I have very traditional parents who don't believe that depression is not real. But the things is, I do counseling and was told that all my behavior; not eating much, losing weight suddenly, sleepless nights or not being able to wake up, along with some sleep paralysis, heavy weight upon my chest, headaches, shortness of breath, sudden nausea, fatigue; and i am falling behind in everything. i cannot remember most things anymore, and i am super unmotivated in class. I think I might be getting worse which is killing me. I am on a string with my parents and therapy is good but not enough. I have been looking into the option for antidepressants. who thinks this should be something that i should consider according to my situation?
Probably somebody who isn't willing to emotionally open up as much as Tessa was. Like, they felt distant or cold. Lacking intimacy. Or maybe they were invested in someone else. Stuff like that that prohibits a connection/relationship.
I don't know if my therapy is actually working. I have been going evry week since last september and right afterwards I always feel better but a few hours everything is back and if i look on the bigge picture it has only gotten worse but i still like going to that therapist but i just dont think it is helping so yeah don't really know what to do. i am starting a new thing in the hospital this month so maybe that will. i am just so tired of don't feeling any change at all. but now i have shared my story with the internet hahah
What about therapy for people who's parents don't believe in mental illness? School therapists aren't right for me there's to much I can't tell them. My parents don't believe therapy is valid. My doctor recommended therapy and when scheduling the appointment my dad never took me. I was supposed to go to be diagnosed with depression but my dad being a nurse thought "if that's on your record people will think you're unstable and won't hire you. It could ruin your life" he's not the type of person who has feeling at all. So I can't just go in and ask he's not supportive at all.
I kinda want to try therapy but I don't think I actually need it. I think I'm just overreacting but I don't know. And even if I thought I needed it if I ask my mum she will question me about it and wouldn't be sure what to say to her
Ok so this is weird..I think I want therapy but also I don't think that I need it that much (I know,they said everyone can profit of of it but meh:/ ),plus I'm scared. I have friends that have so much more problems than me and I feel bad for thinking that I have the same problems or that I should even compare my problems to theirs.. Yeah,just rambling I guess
What if your parents don't want to start you with Therapy I don't understand my thoughts and I want to talk about them but none of my friends really understand not even my internet friends and I don't really like my school counselor (I'm American). Could someone please help I'm scared and don't want to resort to attacking myself with my thought and ocd.
Ive always been told, "you dont need therapy, nothing is wrong with you, you arent special, other people have been through worse, you're overreacting, suck it up" ..? I feel like i dont need therapy even though my sister thinks i need therapy too much
I can't go to therapy because it's too pricey and there's only one therapist around (already went to her, she made things even worse, her ethics weren't good, etc.) I can't go to my school councillor because you have to sign this sheet of paper saying you agree to let the school snoop around all your medical, physical and most importantly psychological problems (N O P E ) and also the councillor of eleven graders is my English teacher, and it'll make things really, really awkward. Advice? Anyone?
my school councillor just died. she got hit by a car...I went to her with so much and now I want to go to her because I'm sad she's gone but I can't...cause she's gone
i hate therapy,, so much. i have anxiety, depression, bpd, ptsd, and trich. i need help for them. but i cannot talk to people. i can't tell my therapist anything. i haven't told her about my csa. i don't tell her anything useful. i'm so closed off without meaning to be. i hate it so much. at least i got zoloft to help. otherwise there is nothing i can do besides try to open up.
It's also really good if you need to work through things with someone who is there for the purpose of helping people unpack and understand what's going on.
counseling doesn't help me because my anxiety is so bad that i can't talk and we just sit there in complete silence and it's so uncomfortable and i have to go twice a week because i tried to kill myself and I don't know. i just feel like it would be easier if she could ask me questions? instead of me just talking because i don't know how to start a conversation about it? i guess??
I went to five different therapists over like... 3 years? Only one was good but she couldn't keep me there since it was mostly for kids with ADHD or ADD or similar. My first one yelled at my dad for no reason. The second one didn't know my language and was going to quit in three weeks anyways. The fourth one never helped. The fifth one forgot everything I had ever discussed with her multiple times.
Anyone looking for free counseling in the U.S., majority of r*pe crisis centers are free and you can receive completely free counseling without insurance. You don't have to only be a survivor of r*pe trauma, you can just be a mentally ill person who needs help. And if they can't help you, then they can give you referrals to other places that can help you with your distinct issue.
Okay this isn't really relevant to the subject of the video (and I don't mean to overlook the topic bc it's a VERY important topic), but pls tell me where u got that dress i want it it's so cute ahh
my school either has not great school counsellors or pay for actual therapists now. i can't afford paying and the school ones just threaten to send me to a place called 4 rivers which is a mental health hospital thing so im suffering.
I'd like to say that website helped, but it was pretty useless for me. All of the suggestions they give are things I've tried before and they never help.
In middle school my school hired a therapist for me who I got to see for free, and though it didn't work out I thought that option was very nice! I have gone through 3 therapists and am now looking for the courage to tell my parents I wanna start therapy again. People always say therapy doesn't work, but it does! For me it didn't work out but that's because I haven't found the right person yet.
thank you for this im going to therapy soon for my anxiety, self harming, and suicidal thoughts and im really nervous this made me feel better love you xx
Thank you for this video, Dodie, I really needed this. I'm in college and was considering going to group therapy, so now I might call and make an appointment.
I'm literally going to my first counselling session next Friday and feeling apprehensive about it but this was reassuring thaaaaaanks :) Hoping it goes ok, it's a long time coming
this was really helpful, actually. I was in therapy for a bit around this time last year, but since the therapist wasn't a right fit for me, I assumed therapy just wasn't right for me. I think im gonna see if I can find someone else in my area!
I've just started talking to someone from the NHS after my private counsellor referred me for suicidal thoughts. I've only had one session, which I didn't enjoy, but I'm on the list for CBT now so I'm hoping it'll get better :D good luck anyone else going into counselling etc
Thank you so much for addressing these topics and stuff in your videos. Your videos have done so much for me. Thank you for making videos and connecting with your audience as much as you do. ❤❤❤❤
Oh my gosh I love everything about this video. I've been going to therapy for about 5 months and I'm starting to realize how much I've improved my mental health and lifestyle choices. It's such a necessary topic that we need to normalize talking about and I'm so glad that you guys answered all these questions so perfectly! I love your videos Dodie! Thank you for sharing your beautiful face and mind and personality with us! 😊 It really makes my day better! 💕
I've seen my psychologist for 5 years now and she's really helped - I've been feeling much better. It's also worth being picky about therapists :) it took me a long time to find someone I connected with
Dodie, I saw your snapchat about going to therapy when you first wanted to go and I want to thank you. You're one of few youtubers that's actually encouraged me to go. I signed up for a psych eval at my college and my appointment is next week. Wish me luck! 😄
i've been in therapy for 4 years now and it's just incredible how much it can help to talk to someone, and obviously drugs do their part in this, but i think probably everyone should go into therapy, like it's really helpful. so high five dodie and tessa, you're doing an amazing job :)
this video made me very calm and happy. thanks dodie and tessa ^_^ Vedif is so lovely cause it feels like we're Dodie's best friend and we're meeting up everyday to chat. I'm just feeling very happy and calm after watching this! It's quite a nice feeling☺
This was a very important video you guys made. I know therapy and that kind of stuff has a negative stigma behind it but you guys explained your experiences quite well. im glad youtubers like you guys talk about mental illnesses and that kind of stuff in your channels since it is truly helpful to your viewers. I know i was particularly affected by dodies videos when she went through that rough patch since i was going through some stuff at the same time. I felt less alone because of people like you putting these feelings into words. i felt more secure as well since it made me realize that life does on and things do get better! anyway lovely video and i cant wait for tomorrows :)
hi dodie I love you and you are honestly such an inspiration. you helped me so much in facing my anxiety. i know you probably won't see this, but just in case you do i hope you remember how important you are xx
Glad you put out a video about therapy/counseling. It has had such a negative connotation that I know people stay away from it out of fear of what people think. It needs to become more normal
I've felt depressed since I was about 12 or 13 and I finally plucked up the courage (along with a friend) to go and see the school councillor (since I'm not sure how my parents would feel about it) and I had my first session on thursday. It was awkward at first but eventually all these things started pouring out and she was very supportive. A bit quiet and doesn't really ask many questions for my taste but it's better than nothing at all. I have my next session on Monday and I'm trying to pluck up the courage to tell her the deeper things bothering me (rather than homework and workload etc.) but I don't want it to seem too serious?? Idk. Counselling is good for you though in my opinion.
a question: what if you want to try counseling or therapy whatever you wanna call it, but you're not sure whether you actually have issues or whether you're just making mountains out of non existent mole hills?
Katie Volker I had the same issue when I was thinking of getting help! I would say give it a shot anyway, often therapists will let you know if they can help or if therapy is not necessary for you at this stage in your life. So let them make that call because by thinking this you might be denying yourself the help you need :)
I love love discussing feelings and emotions and how to deal with them as I feel like I've always been someone that hasn't teally done so in the past just generally to my upbringing and the people I've been around and my thoughts lol but now I'm like when I ask someone how they're feeling I want to like rEALLY KNOW and discuss and learn more about myself and others emotions. It's really interesting and although therapy does seem v v daunting and I'm not sure if it is something for me as I reflect over my emotions in other ways, I think I would like to try it one day and see what it's like 😊 GOOD ON YOU TWO FOR GOING TO THERAPY AND TALKING ABOUT IT <333
I go to "art therapy" where i work through my anxiety disorders using art and i sTRONGLY recommend that- because you're still talking through it, but you also have art projects to help center your mind and stuff :)
I really want to go to therapy, but I'm afraid that my parents will make fun of me. I'm have bad anxiety but they don't think anxiety is real and I really want to tell someone about this problem but I can't cause my anxiety is preventing me from doing that. This video really helped me realize that talking it out is better than keeping it all in. Thanks Dodie❤❤❤❤
honestly JUST what I needed. I just started seeing a counselor through a church (I live in the US) and it only costs me $10 per session, everything else is covered by the church. I am a Christian, so I like it when she prays to start and end the sessions, but she ALWAYS asks first if I'm okay with it. If one day I told her I wasn't okay with it, she would stop no problemo. All this to say that if you live in the US and need cheap counseling, churches might be the way to go, and you don't need to be part of that church or even Christian at all. 😊
I have been on a waiting list for over 2 years, pouring my heart out to people at each stage and being heartbroken when they tell me that they can't help and that I have to wait to see someone higher up.
It makes me sad that the nhs is such a broken system, and I want to become a Psychologist one day to help better it one day at a time
I was too scared to tell my parents so I wrote a letter and left it on the table, and then went for a walk. When I came back, we talked about it and they were quite understanding. There's a weight that gets lifted of your shoulders when you write it down, if you aren't good at talking (as is my case), and let them read it.
everytime you talk about therapy like "everyone needs therapy!" I'm like "yes!!! omg y es " because there's such stigma around therapy like its only for """crazy, insane people"""" and it's truly not, everybody needs some introspective time to fix themselves and their issues, and therapy is great (if not completely) for that. also you both are lovely and I hope Tessa feels better soon! also dodie your hair is so cute lately
i'm studying counselling in college right now and this sorta helped me get better with what i should do as someones counsellor (if that makes sense??) love u <33
when i started counselling, i went to a free charity service (who i work w on a volunteer level, so i felt safe/comfortable there), but bc im under 18 i needed a consent form, so i was just like to my mam "hey im doing this for stress sign this pls and thank u" and she was just like "???? um ok." and then we didnt talk about it much after
This is really helpful. Tessa's reason as to why she hadn't been to counciling is the exact reason why I've refused to go but she's making me rethink. Thank you dodes for making this video :)
So, I've been diagnosed with ADD a while ago and I've been getting medication, which really helped me. However, I noticed that when I'm on medication, I'm more awake/aware of things and I'm more panicky, anxious and insecure. I also have been noticing anxiety and I've had a few panic attacks since the medication started. I realized I've experienced these things all my life, but never really thought much of it. I'm considering therapy, but my parents say I'm overreacting and everyone experiences these things, but I'm not so sure. Any advice?
how did you discover what depersonalization was and that you were experiencing it? it's quite weird actually, right after i had found out the exact name for it and realized that's what was happening to me, I found your channel and heard you mention it a few times
It's such a shame you have to wait so long for a therapy appointment when you can't afford private care. 😢 I feel like I've been waiting for one forever. There's only so much the Dr can do. 😖
I've never done "real" therapy but I really do need it, I have conversations in my head of what I would say if I did have someone to talk to, but I just can't come to ask my parents for it. Also I've done the school counseling and it was actually very helpful but once that school counselor left (he was a fill in for our other counselor while she was taking care of her new adopted baby) I just slipped right back to feeling bad and haven't gotten back to that point really
At my school, counselors aren't allowed to talk to us more than life five times about something serious as a time, but we have a guy who goes to all the schools in the county. Unfortunately, he didn't take me on bc I'm actually to economically privileged for one.
He recommended I talk to my parents to get counseling elsewhere, but mental illness is taboo in Asian families
Why do your vedif videos make me want to respond via my vedif videos. I did one already with the alcohol talk and as a fan, you really inspire me just to be myself and just talk about how I feel at time in my videos and not care abt what others might think.
I realized that even if there's only 1 or 2 people watching my videos, if it helped them a little bit especially my mental health related stuff, that'd be enough. ❤❤
i went to a counselor for a few weeks and we had to stop it because i wasnt comfortable, but i really need it again and theres no one around me who takes my insurance lol lovin it
I have mixed emotions about therapists because at times I feel like I need the support from a counselor but then I find myself wondering if they're only listening to me because of the money. I mean I quite like having someone to go to and get advise from but at the same time I question whether or not they actually care.
Also, this helps a lot. I went to therapy once and I hated it, but now I realize it might be something I need. Lately I've been journaling a lot, but I have so much on my mind that I'd like to say to a real person.
I've grown up with depression and anxiety. I've been way to scared to go to therapy or be up on drugs. I'm currently on melatonin. Being on that changes me. I'm scared of change i guess...meh.
I've been on councling for over two years and been three different counclers. One was good but more generalised, second kept criticizing things I was doing. The one I have now is good but sometimes he inquires into wierd things about why I brought the pair of shoes I'm wearing. Councling helps me deal with things I never deal with consciously and with my lack of a sense of self. But I have episodes that slowly have gotten worse and worse and far more dangerous and I become emotionally more unstable, so I'm now going after medication (after Paramedics, Doctors and the Police told me I should be on meds) though I will continue to get councling. It's taken a long time for the NHS to take my mental health seriously because it's so all over the place and they handled my suicide attempt very badly , but that's just my area. Privet is expensive (mines £45 per session) but it's quicker and ive found a lot better. Always try councling before going after medication.
my problem I asked to start therapy when I was in a bad place and when I finally started I was already doing better but it still helps when I have new problems that come up
I have my first therapy session in two or so weeks. I got bumped up the CAMS list because I tried ending my life on antidepressants (ironic amiright?) so yee
I feel the online world is trying to send me a message this month. Another channel talked about mental stuff across two videos that scared me (about myself). Then a podcast this week went away from the usual topics to talk about therapy and stuff. Now this.
has anybody read the book "all the bright places" because that paints counsellors kinda negatively, which is why it took me so long to actually go to therapy.
ive always wanted to go to counseling but im worried about a couple things. 1) that id cry, i hate crying in front of ppl lol 2) that I would self diagnose like id say things and be like thats probably bc of this thing that happened to me huh? and like wouldn't let them do their job yknow? i feel like im just so used to making my own conclusions about my problems that itll be useless to go.
i have the same thing as dodie with my therapist she always leaves space for like 15 seconds but i have nothing to say. But i'm too shy to ask for a different therapist
Aaagh I love this. I always have been getting back in and out of therapy, because I've always had the feeling like I didn't really need it, even though I knew I had some mental health issues who were even getting quite bad. But the last year I really have been feeling like I fucking need to get back in it cause I have been feeling so messed up idk. But then when I am in therapy I find it too hard to accept the help and I end up acting like I'm fine alll the time and i hate and i feel scary saying this online aaaagh
one of my school counsellors doesn't do anything. She literally introduced herself twice to me and then she never called me in again from December or Novermber (I can't remember). The other one actually asked questions about my friends and stuff, even though it was 10 minutes with my mom in the room.
there are two counselors at my school (you can't choose which one you want, it's. asked on last name) and mine is the really hyper super into their job oneeeee ahhH
so i don't think i have mental illness but when talking to my friends i can definitely see that they don't think the same things i do. but i'm too scared to go to therapy and find out i'm just an idiot thinking they are different from everyone else. What should i do? help plz
i'm at my third counselor, and i still don't like talking to people who are paid to talk to me. i'd feel more comfortable talking about my anxiety and depression with someone who is friends with me because they actually care, and not in a small crowded room which makes me have even worse anxiety than i usually do :l
My English teacher does the nodding thing, and you could write her a beautiful, deep essay, but she'd still be like: "WoW! VeRY INTERstING!!!!1". She talks to us like we're babies, and that's why I hate this lesson so much...
I don't know if this is a good idea but If you want to try counseling and your parents are like ehhh then maybe show them this vid especially the part where they talk about that particular subject. I don't know if that'll help your parents to understand but you can try
I want to like learn more about myself and kind of want to try therapy just to understand myself but I don't want to talk about my problems/ not really open up and I don't think I really like need it or like I have friends that's actually mentally ill and it feels like they're the ones that like should have it and that im not (I can't really explain it)
My family finally got a therapist.... but of course it's a christian one and part of our struggle (and part of why I have depression) is because my parents are christian and me and my sibling are pansexual liberals...soooo
I realise I need it, I just don't know where to start. I have the money to pay for it and not have to cope with the stress of the NHS but I just don't know where to start. How the fuck do you find someone good I don't KNOW
I WAS WAITING FOR THE NOTIFICATION AND I GO ON YOUTUBE FOR A SECOND ANF NOW IM LATE AHSHFHAJSDH BUT YAYAYAYAYAYAYAAT I LOVEVTHIS SM THE BEST MONTH EVER
If you wake up and you dont feel good those emotions need to be heard, they are there for a reason...I dont personally agree with your therapist. Yes, if you check you will find something, if you dont check that painful emotion will STILL be there but in your subconscious...That makes it impossible for anyone to heal the wounded aspects of yourself. We need to learn to feel, not ignore our feelings.
I find this video just generally sad..NOT because y'all are getting you're therapeutic self-care on (so proud of past/present Dodie & Tessa) but because I truly feel like therapy just might not be for me because I've been going for years and I've only had like 2 therapists who've truly seen me and helped me the way I needed whereas everyone else left me frustrated, sad and empty and feeling like my problems weren't real and I'm just a sensitive Nancy whose only making things hard for herself on purpose. now I feel like all my problems cannot be talked out ergo it's just me and there's something wrong with me and I just need meds or medical help and I'm sad now so..bye.
You'll never see this because your comment is old but I hope you either feel more positive now or found something that works! There are so many types of therapy, dancing, artwork, focusing on nature etc that arent well known but can help! Maybe you just hadn't found your right fit yet.
Dodie There is this girl on YouTube called Julia capello she's so talented but only has 50 subscribers she deserves so much more. Btw before anyone asks it's not my channel. Could you please check her out.
Hey everyone! Ive seen people mentioning 7Cups, I am a listener on 7Cup and may be able to help you! Find 'Ryan4Help' on 7Cup and hopefully I can help you! :Dx
I've tried so many therapists and I hate it. They all are terrible because I'm a kid under 16 so I need a specific kind of therapist and they. All. Suck. They all treat my problems like lousy teen problems that don't matter and don't have an actual impact because I'm not an adult and my mom keeps trying to make me go to therapy but I hate it with all of my soul.
As for the school counsellor thing mine are kinda shit because they're not psychologists which is what I need, they're used to people being mildly stressed or having friend problems. I literally said I was feeling depressed because school was horrible and he said that it was all about perspective and that people in Africa would love to go to school. I'm not joking. Like ?????????? Obviously but that doesn't mean my depression likes it
I have mild depression but HORRIBLE social anxiety and I get bad grades because I'm terrible at asking for help and I can't do public presentations. My mom just says "why can't you just do what the other kids do" but she doesn't get how hard it is. It's finally gotten so bad she's considering getting me medication. I talk to the school counsellor but she's no help at all. The school is gonna get a mental health expert to try and figure out what's wrong with me, but she said she'd do it two months ago and she hasn't yet. I'm not getting any help at all and I just want medication so badly. I just want everything to go away
my school counsellor is the worst and most annoying human on plant earth and you can tell her you've been feeling sad lately and empty and she'll rig your parents and tell all the teachers ?¿
do you know if there is a place that you can get online counselling for free?
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Amy Williams if you're under 18 and in the uk on the childline website they have trained counsellors you can talk to anonymously, they won't be able to help as much as actual ones but they are good for unloading your problems on something
95 likesgodbless dodie for pinning this
179 likes+RainySam lmao
7 likesAmy Williams yes, there's an organisation called "headspace". If you're in Australia you may have a local branch of it but they can also talk to you online if that's not an option. Also it's less pressure when you're online, you can be more honest about how you feel because there's less of a feeling that you're being judged
34 likesI definitely have to reccommend 7cups. They aren't actual therapists but they get trained to talk to you in a way that helps. Each listener has a profile with their strong points and there's always someone online to talk to. It helped me through so much that I decided to get trained to be a listener and stuff to sort of return the favor of what the site did for me. It's amazing and I think its worth a shot for everyone tbh
34 likesIn the UK, you can email or call the Samaritans (aimed at adults) or childline (if you're under 18), and there's lots of advice forums like Mind, not sure about actual counselling other than that though
8 likesAmy Williams 7cupsoftea
2 likesOr Pacifica
3 likesAmy Williams you can text the word VOICE to 20121 and you can get someone to talk to you, it may take a while for them to answer because they always have busy lines but when they get ahold of you it's helpful! And if they don't hear back from you in a certain amount of time (I Believe it's 10-15 minutes) they will text back and check on you
10 likes7cups is amazing! they have both have professionals and you can either talk by text or by video-your choice. you type in what your symptoms are, and you choose whether you want a professional or user. you also have the option to have two separate accounts at the same time on the same email, one for user and one for listening, so even if you feel like you want to be a listener but you also have some stuff to work out, 7cups is perfect. a listener is a user who is not a professional, but 7cups does run a series of 'tests' and gives guidelines and tips on how to effectively listen even when you've finished the tests. you can only become a listener after you've been qualified to do so.
14 likesonline counseling aside, they have a 'growth path', community center, and incredibly effective meditation tapes!
as someone who really doesn't have enough money for proper therapy, 7cups really helps, and i hope it helps you too!
There's an app on the iTunes app store (idk if it's on android, it most likely is though.) called Vent. You talk to other users and they give you advice that can help. <3
13 likesI love being apart of this lovely and supportive community! 15 suggestions for free online counselling. Says a lot about us all haha :)
21 likesi'm giving this a try! thank you
3 likesAmy Williams www.emotionbh.com I think. It's not exactly that but it's something like that.
2 likesAmy Williams kooth is an anonymous free online site thing (it may only be for younger users however like up till 18)
1 likeReally reccomend kooth if your under 18
6 likesAmy Williams 7 cups of tea, samartians are good for emergency stuff, childline is good if you are a child.
3 likesIn the U.K. you can go to your doctor and they can refer you, or you can self refer as far as I know, to something called ieso digital health which is literally online therapy through the NHS so it's free and it's with a trained counsellor. They book you in at a time that's best for you and you just log on and go. Any 'homework' is set through there and done online and it's usually a weekly session at the same time but you can have it more frequently if needed. I'd definitely recommend having a look! I used that for a good 6 months or so - it works well!
4 likesOk so childline is shit they don't help at all
16 likesI use 7cupsoftea (there's an app too where you can track your progress and stuff) and it's actually quite good
Thanks everyone! I've been using 7 cups now and its been very helpful
12 likesAmy Williams I only get my counselling for free cos my school and doctor essentially told me I needed it, so like try and get it recommended on NHS maybe?
1 likeYuki Hiyashi is this just for the u.k ?
0 likesI wouldn't recommend online. I would consult with your GP as services are available through the NHS.
0 likesAmy Williams huh
0 likesAmy Williams there's an app called silvercloud by the nhs I think which keeps getting advertises at my school along with the help lines for adult counselling with self referrals and stuff all on the nhs
16 likesThere's a website I use called 7 cups of tea. It's very helpful, it works for me most of the time
1 likeon some places, like the wings of fire amino (i know, oddly specific), there are emotional support groups, of untrained people who are usually also struggling and they are willing to help give advice and talk to anyone struggling (on wofa, specifically, they're called the carewings, i'm a member currently)
0 likesTry kooth. It's a free online counseling service where u can privately message couselers. Other people can post their issues and u can give them advice. Give it ago. At first I was sceptical but it's really grown on me. Whatever is happening will pass and will get better. U can make it through and u will.
1 likeI'm in the UK and when I was under 18, I was recommended Kooth. Which was a counselling website for those under 18. It's free and from what I remember, you can speak to a counsellor there and then and they set up like lil goals for you to achieve and that sort of thing. I found it quite helpful with my anxiety
0 likesalguien sabe de esto pero en español ? Jaja
0 likesKooth is a website that offers online counselling for 11-25 year olds. Be careful though, they offer different types of service depending on which area of the UK you are based in.
0 likesI absolutely loved this. Yay for more people talking about mental health. Yay for more people talking about therapy. Yay, just yay.
333 likesi went to the doctor about how im feeling and she literally said "you're 19, you're young and pretty you have nothing to be sad about" and pulled up a webpage on PMS and offered to put me on the pill, ive never felt so patronised and i dont wanna go back but idk what to do :(
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Maybe try to book a coin let by yourself, In many of my experiences it takes awhile to get in, but you don't need a doctors note to get into counciling
18 likesthank you, i think it's more i feel silly going to see somebody now because she made me feel like i was being dramatic :/
16 likesYeah I think I need to shop around, I was hoping to get referred by a doctor because that sort of makes everything quicker, by I think I'll just have to do it on my own! Just sucks when you're a pretty sensitive person haha
13 likesThank you :)
maybe ask to see a different doctor - not all are this bad x
11 likesemmarose literally the same thing happened to me when I was 19, doc told me to "grow up" and I didn't try to go back for years. I'm 21 now and finally got the bravery to go back and now I'm on anti depressants and doing counselling and omg I wish I forced my doctor to listen to me all those years ago. If you know something is wrong, force that doctor to listen to you, do not take no for an answer!
23 likesAmy J thank you sm, ive never heard of 7cupsoftea i think ill try it, sounds pretty good. I dont really talk about this stuff so it might be good for me.
4 likesLeia gosh im sorry that happened to you, im glad you're getting the help you need now!! I definitely know something is wrong, its gotten to a point where its affecting my physical health so maybe they will finally listen to me haha. Thank you <3
I hate when people assume pretty people have no problems, as if appearances are the only thing you could struggle with. There are much bigger and deeper problems in life.
6 likesOmg same mine said i was just stressed and needed to sleep more! Turns out i have depression, anxiety and my stress got so bad my body started like hurting itself lol
5 likes"do i want to better understand my life"
148 likesYOU GUYS
tessa seems like a reeeally nice person and i love her hair and clothes.
147 likesI love vedif because it feels like we're all friends just out for coffee and chatting.☕️
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Tana Yup this is literally what I feel when I watch Dodie's videos. I feel like we are long time friends and just chatting so it makes me want to make videos responding to her videos or something with the same topic.
15 likes^_^
110 likesTana Yup Yaaaasss a
0 likesIt make me feel so happy I just love it so much
Tana Yup ikr
1 likeTana Yup yes oh my gosh. ☕☕☕☕
1 likeTana Yup ugh, i just love that
0 likesTana Yup ☕️☕️☕️
0 likesTana Yup yes yes that's true I love it
0 likesTana Yup and with a lovely community in the comments
4 likesAbbey Christine yeah I agree. I adore tessa and dodie but I also adore the community they inspire. I'd love to have coffee with many of their subscribers just as much as them :)
9 likes+Bathroom Jams I'd love to do the same- the audience and Dodie and Tessa are so lovely! ☕️☕️
6 likesTana Yup well I know what I'm drinking during Vedif today
3 likesThis is a tad off topic, but I love just how this video was made. Also, therapy is important.
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Also I would highly um. You know, not recommend school counsellors for some things, but it couldn't hurt to try I suppose.
2 likesI definitely wouldn't recommend my school counselor. I went because I was feeling depressed all the time, but then after the second time I went, it started to get a little better - not because of her, I hated her - but because my friends were including me in more things, and as I wasn't as upset anymore, she just said 'Oh, I don't think you'll need to come back anymore'. Well, she was horrible and then my friends started ditching me again and she never really listened properly, so now I don't want to ask for her again, so I am now stuck with doing nothing, as I go to a boarding school so I don't have an amazing relationship with my parents, so I can't ask them to book a doctor's appointment.
1 likeI am 15 and have had extreme anxiety disorder since I was 5. However we didn't know I had anxiety till just a couple years ago. Last summer I was at a very low point and my parents started getting scared. They didn't know how to help me..my mom asked if I wanted to go to counseling. I said no so many times that she eventually gave up and stopped asking. Looking back on it now..I wonder if it really would have helped..my anxiety recently has been better in the sense that I don't wake up every day with an attack-however when things like trips or social engagements come up, I suffer with very hard, very intense attacks. Do you think I should take my moms offer and go see someone?
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I think you should go see someone because that helps a lot of people, but that's just my opinion, you should do whatever you think will be best for you.
17 likesRachel Watkins I do think you should seek help because the longer you feel that way the harder it will be to try and get over it. I realize it's already been a little while but it is never too late.
14 likesYes, look into it. If not just to get to know your own head, and the illness in it, a little bit better. Like Tessa mentioned, that's the most important reason, because understanding what is really happening to you is so unbelievably helpful in every way, and will give you the confidence to seek the help that is right for you in the long run.
7 likesOn the thing of telling your parents (my personal experience):
34 likesMy parents are really busy, and I was incredibly anxious over Christmas. I've always been anxious, but this was the kind of anxious that made me actually ill for weeks. I finally broke in front of both my Mum and Dad the day before school started again. In my head they'd never been the first people I turn to because of being busy with my siblings and work, but they were incredible. They spoke to school to let me leave classes to try to calm down if I needed to and even said that I could have counselling with one of our psychiatrist friends. I though they'd pull some 'anxiety isn't real' 'you're making it up' crap, but they didn't. Shows that even if you don't think talking to them will help, give it a try.
I have been in a psychiatric unit for nearly three weeks now since I tried to end my life. Anyone who is feeling this way, please hang in there. Nothing is worth that. I know it feels like no one can possibly understand but you need to give them the opportunity to try. You have made an impact on this world whether you realise it or not. Depression is a state of complete hopelessness but realise that the mental illness is what's influencing your thoughts. There is hope. You can get better.
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Little P Thank. You.
4 likesPsychiatrists unit?
0 likesI emailed a counselor asking to book a meeting while watching this video. Thank you. At age 27, this marks the first time in my life trying to get professional help.
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Erik Runnakko I hope it goes well for you!
7 likesErik Runnakko how is it going?
1 likeits been two years since you've posted this so I am here to ask you: how is it going? and im proud of you for trying
2 likesSomething that really helped me is to think that if you are not feeling good sometimes that is ok, and to not stress about it. Because if you are not feeling well, most of the time, it just means you are going to feel better eventually! Love you dodie, you really inspire me to create videos and make me smile! <33
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About a movie so true!! Love your channel btw!
5 likesJohn Maco aww thank you! x
1 likeAbout a movie good advice. And I checked out your channel and really love the way you edit your videos!
6 likes"if you are not feeling well, most of the time, it just means you are going to feel better eventually!" I love that :)
0 likesmy therapy session yesterday was very difficult..i broke down and kept crying and i couldn't breathe, but she is so lovely and helpful. she's the third one i've seen and she is so easy to talk to. x
14 likesI've had a pretty bad experience with therapy. I think it's mostly because I have bad social anxiety and talking to a stranger for an hour definitely did not help that. But I've been on meds for a few months and it's been so so much better. So really therapy is not for everyone and can't fix everyone.
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While now that you're on meds and feel a lot better a lot of people recommend people with anxiety or something like that go on meds first and see therapist when they are more comfortable talking
12 likespeople with anxiety should really read this comment because that was my experience too.
2 likesThat weird Geek I have anxiety and like social anxiety and I I've talked about it to my mom a bit and just thinking of the process of medicine and therapy skills the living hell out of me which is why I should do it but like I know realistically therapy or whatever would help but it's just uhh I feel like it's would make it worse but I also feel like I'm wrong but idk sorry
0 likesHi, aren't meds not over the counter for anxiety?
0 likesI'm actually still in therapy via a program with my school and I love my therapist, she knows how to make me feel like I'm not being annoying or boring or like I'm rambling and she somehow hears like a half hour of rambling about my feelings and is able to pull out a few minutes of analysis and she always says, "I wonder if..." which makes me feel like I'm not being spoon fed my epiphanies but rather led to them which is nice.
5 likesYa see I tried going to my school counselor about my depression and anxiety, mainly depression, and she talked a lot about anxiety but I left feeling worse about my depression than before so that's dandy
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Rebecca Ogden If I could recommend anything just don't go to a school counsellor. At least if you go, do not tell them about self harm or thoughts of suicide because they will call your parents WITHOUT your consent. Found out the hard way, but there is a big loophole in the mental health system where there is a massive misunderstanding that people who self harm are unable to control their actions which puts them at risk, and so the school can legally, even if you beg them, phone home and tell your parents, because the child is 'at risk'. The problem with this is so many parents are misunderstanding or unsupportive, they will shout at their children which will cause them to self harm again and feel even more isolated, or perhaps the parents are the reason they self harmed in the first place, and so telling them puts the child at risk even more.
27 likesgreenteawithbees thanks so much
6 likesi tried out therapy once and hated it. this taught me that the councillor i had wasn't right for me
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youre a smart cookie. most people think after one therapy session that it doesnt work for them but like, yes its not therapy its the counselor that either a) doesnt know what theyre doing or b) you just dont trust them for some reason
10 likesWent to my first session of therapy today. Had this video on repeat and I felt a lot better about going. Thx dodie for helping me get through this madness.❤️
9 likeswho wore it better: arthur or tessa violet.
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anna jade impossible question
3 likesThe real question is where's the difference?
11 likesanna jade i shouldn't have laughed so hard at this but i did
3 likesHAHAHAHAA
0 likesFrom somebody who's never been in counseling this is very interesting. About the parents perspective on therapy I have to say that my situation is a little different. Ever since I was eleven and suicide started becoming this thing I would wonder about more and more, I've wanted therapy. I cant tell you how many times I've come to the conclusion that therapy would help me but then was talked out of the idea by my mother. She is so convinced that if anything should happen the government can use your therapy against you or what if I should be arrested and they could make the argument that I'm crazy. She needs therapy as well lol. But as a young impressionable kid I really took these concerns to heart and now there's this irrational fear that some unforeseen problem will arise if I try therapy.
27 likesNow that I'm part of adulthood and I have my own health insurance I'm going to try it out and hopefully it will go well. <3
For those who live in Australia (and possibly other countries okay sh) and are currently in school, counselors are pretty much available at a heap of schools and are probably at the school you are currently going to.
13 likesI know that my school that I currently go to and the other places I went had counselors readily available for me and the other students, so have a check with your home room/pastoral teachers (if you have them) or any other reliable teachers to see if your school has a guidance counselor. I know mine has a little bit of a wait for booking appointments, but then again this will vary between schools and is absolutely and completely worth it.
Even though it might seem a little taboo to go to counseling to some, its actually really great that there is a place where people can go to open up and find out a little more about themselves and, if you're worried about privacy, counselors will never tell anyone, not even teachers or parents, about what you tell them unless it's completely necessary and unless you give them consent. Don't forget there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of when going to counseling. Counselors are there to help you and listen, so there's no reason to be embarrassed!
Anyway, hopefully this helps the younger viewers here. Make sure you look after yourselves ;D lol
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Yeah I'm Australian and my school counsellor is really nice
1 likeI've been in therapy since I was about 13 dealing with major depressive episodes, GAD and a panic attack disorder. I've been with the same therapist for 7 years now and even when I'm in a much better place I still want to work on myself, and having someone who knows me so so well and who I'm comfortable which is immensely helpful. I'm a big encourager of therapy, especially since I know howuxh its helped me. I think its important to remember that if you can, stay in therapy. Therapy is not just for crisis moments, but to help prevent complete mental breakdowns from happening. When I was about 15 I stopped seeing my therapist because I was no longer in danger of jumping off a bridge but stopping is what contributed to my first hospitalization. Therapy is expensive, especially in America and the best thing if you can't afford therapy is to know your resources. I'm glad you guys put this video up. Love you both!!
3 likesMy god, what Tessa said about looking at your friends and going "well I'm not as bad as them so I'm fine" was SO RELATABLE. I have friends with clinical depression, suicidal tendencies, extreme anxiety, anorexia, self-harm, PTSD, dead parents, abusive parents, and so much more, and I'm kinda just sitting in the middle with my little fucked up mind all "I'm fine :)", even when I'm so not.
2 likes8 minutes of amazing advice that I don't need myself but will DEFINITELY be storing up for friends
3 likesyou're both such positve people in this space and i love it
4 likesFor people in Australia seeking therapy I would highly recommend Headspace! It's a youth mental health clinic, and you get 10 free sessions on your mental health care plan every year (which doesn't sound like a lot, but I've been going since last July and only just used up my 10 last week.) You don't need a referral from a doctor before going there - first they get you to speak to a youth member who is not a therapist/doctor, then you speak to a doctor at the centre who with then refer you to a counsellor. They're really helpful and the waiting list (at least in my area) isn't too bad (I had to wait about 2 weeks at a time, though at times there were larger gaps)
5 likeshope this helps :)
Dodie that's such a cute dress!!! You always look so nice!!!
89 likesHey, how do you, like, tell people... things?
26 likesI mean, everybody is like, "so I was sad and my parents did something" but, like... how do they know? How do you tell people you are sad? I don't have this ability
I'm not capable of asking for help and it's not even because of pride, I just have no idea how you do it
When I was in highschool I use to go to the school counsellor, during a really rough time, my parents never knew, but it was amazing being able to talk about how i felt
1 likeHow do I tell my mother that I need therapy too without making her depression worse?
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This sounds like your mother is already in therapy? If so, don't worry about her, because she already has support, and it's not your job to sacrifice your mental health for hers. If you're both in therapy, you will probably both be happier. It won't be a fun conversation, but go for it. Be as kind as possible. Because it will be for the best.
4 likes@Willow Song She was in therapy, isn't anymore. But not because she feels better now, but because she can't go because oft various reasons. So no, she doesn't actually have support herself.
2 likesHmm. That's hard. But if you need therapy yourself, and are part of her support circle, it would be a disservice to both of you if you don't get the support YOU need so you can keep supporting HER. Either way, its a hard choice, and people will understand no matter what you do. <3
10 likes@Willow Song Thank you. The problem is, that I'm not just part of her support circle, but I'm kinda the only member of that club.
6 likesI don't think I could have Tessa as my therapist. I might fall for her too easily. I try to keep my therapists as "not my type".
4 likesAlso, I've explicitly told my therapist to tell me what to do. I'm amazingly good at following directions. And that's why she said, "I know that. That's why I won't issue challenges to you. You'll actually do them no questions asked."
But seriously, mental illness has physical causes. If it feels like there's a thunderstorm going on in your head, complete with lightning bolts and thunder claps, and while that's happening your mood is tanking severely, THAT IS NOT NORMAL. That's a serious medical condition.
I'm about to start counseling and this helped assuage my fears so much! thank you for being so open!
0 likesWhen Tessa said "when children go to therapy it makes the parents feel like they've failed on their part" or something like that, I remember my friend who goes to therapy but she's only 10 and her parents talked of mine and my mom told me that my friend's mom said she felt like she failed at helping my friend feel happy. I just started to cry, srry for the long thing.
2 likesThis video was exactly what I needed. I have been planning on making an appointment for a therapy session for weeks and this video was the push I needed to actually take action. Thank you!!!
3 likesGroup therapy is actually amazing! I'm in it through my school, and it has helped me so much through so much. It's always a safe space and you get multiple opinions on things or even just a lot of ears listening. I would recommend it to anyone :)
0 likesLove how openly you speak about this! So inspiring. I (finally) started psychotherapy this week. Last year was hell for me and although I've recovered a lot I still feel I have a long way to go. I live in Finland so the government pays like 50-80% of the therapy once my application goes through. (If any finnish people here wants to pop a question about this feel free~)
0 likesi remember watching this video when i was 16 (i'm currently 19) and i remember being so against counsellors because i had 1 who wasn't necessarily looking at how i could deal with issues but trying out game-like techniques with me instead, when all i wanted to do was talk about things realistically and not make it a game. i finally found someone afterwards who did ask about my own feelings and ways i could deal with things without turning them into small mini games. coming back to this video, what Tessa says is so true; just because one person doesn't work for you, doesn't mean everyone won't, someone IS out there who can provide the help that you want. you just gotta keep searching and you will find them.
1 likeReally helpful to calm down my fear about my first session coming up in two weeks! Thank you two! <3
0 likesI've recently been debating on going to therapy, this video helped me a lot. Thanks, guys!! Love ya xx
0 likesThis was so cool to rewatch now that I've been through 6 months of therapy myself.
0 likesThat was such a great and important video ! I've been going to therapy for a month and it's helping me lots. You two are great <3
0 likesI just recently starting going to therapy (and by recently, I mean I've had exactly one session) for anxiety and depression. Your openness about this makes me feel less weird for seeking help, so thank you.
0 likesBLESS. I love my therapist and I'm so thankful for his help. I'm so happy you guys are talking so highly about it, because I always tell people that ANYONE can benefit from it.
0 likesThank you for this! I recently started therapy, and I've been so scared to share about it to others because I feared that they would treat me like a freak, which was a stupid thought. This has helped me a ton with being more open about how I feel and what I need.
0 likesThis came at such a useful time! I've recently seen a counsellor at my university and they want me to decide between 3 different types of therapy but I have no idea which one will help me. I'm the same as Tessa in the fact that I've kept putting therapy off because my friends have always seemed to have bigger issues than me so I've never thought I've needed it although I've been told for years that I do :/
1 likeI love the positivity in this video! I've been going to free counseling at my school but once my mom found out I was getting suicidal again she booked me an appointment with a professional psychiatrist and I was so scared to go and feeling like I didn't need it or it wouldn't help and this video made me feel better about going :)
0 likesokay but dodie looks so gOOD IN THIS VIDEO
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K Corona i say that in every video 😫😂
19 likesK Corona YES
1 likeBut honestly dodie looks good in every video XD
18 likesLizzyTheThief I think it's from lazy oaf but I could be mistaken😌
2 likesTotally agree.
2 likesThank you so much for this. I'm on a waiting list currently for therapy and before watching this I was so worried about it and whether it would help or whether I really need it but now I feel like I'm really going to benefit from it!
0 likesYou've encouraged me to look back into therapy. Thank you
0 likesI had my first therapy session today. Looking forward to improving my mood and stuff as time goes on, I think this will help me.
0 likesI have felt depressed on and off since age 10 (2011) and I started feeling really anxious. In 2014 I went to my GP about it and nothing really happened until last year when my mum thought I had depression and I went to my GP again. They referred me to CAMHS.
14 likesSeveral months later they called me said it was just exam stress and that was that.
Several weeks after that I went to my other doctor told them what happened and they re-referred me to CAMHS. Many months later I actually got to talk to them and they diagnosed me with generalised anxiety, social anxiety and mild depression. However they told me there was no point being put on their waiting list because in less than a year I turn 18. So they referred me to talking therapies and sent their diagnosis over.
A while later I got an appointment with talking therapies where they knew nothing baout me like they never got the information from CAMHS and they acted like a person could only have one type of anxiety? They told me it did not sound like I had social anxiety but I had "panic anxiety".
WTF IS PANIC ANXIETY? ALL anxiety is panicky on some level. Is it not?!
So now I am doing Cognitive Behavioural Therapy online for anxiety and I have no idea what i'm supposed to be doing tbh because you don't really have the opportunity to talk to anyone. I mean every two weeks a person looks at your progress and makes some statements that aren't very helpful. Like they don't really do anything which I don't understand.
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I'm sorry, that sounds frustrating. :(
6 likesI'd recommend researching counseling places in your area where you can get direct care/communication. After you turn 18 you're free to go yourself. Shop around, see what kind of counselor is right for you. The administrative system will always be annoying and cold, but I assure you that lots of the actual practitioners are wonderful.
cookietiger I was referred to camhs by my doctor and diagnosed with mild depression and several anxiety disorders. camhs put me on a waiting list for CBT. It was supposed to be three months maximum before I would be seen for treatment but it's now been five and I've still heard nothing.
0 likesUrgh that sucks! Waiting lists are evil but i'm sure you will get the help soon. While you wait you could look for other counselling services in your area by asking your GP or someone and googling if you haven't already.
0 likesBefore I got an appointment with CAMHS another psychiatrist suggested looking at a place in my area that might have a shorter waiting list but after I got to talk to talking therapies and that I told them I didn't need the help anymore so I wouldn't be in the way in the waiting list.
Honestly I love the idea of the NHS but it is often so frustrating in practice.
Hope you get better soon.
CAMHS is awful. maybe by panic anxiety they actually meant panic disorder? which is a definite form of anxiety based around panic attacks?
0 likesI go to Camhs, and tbh for me personally its done me some good, me and my councilor genuinely get along. I dont see her every week, because its busy you know. Maybe I'm just lucky and got a good councilor idk?? But if you find the right person to talk to, then its fine, some people in Camhs do genuinely want to help, then some others just sit there and don't even care tbh
0 likesI adore both of you so much. Thank you for everything you speak about and do. I really appreciate both of you
10 likesI've been in counselling through my school for the past 5 years and it has honestly helped so much 💖
0 likesThanks for making this video , I'm having CBT at the moment and I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only one having all these thoughts about it 😊 x
0 likesThis is actually so helpful! On Thursday I (finally) went to see my gp about my mental health after a year and a half of hell. I immediately got put on antidepressants and have to go to therapy and the thought of it terrifies me... I have no idea what to expect or do and I'm scared. But I've taken that first step by talking to someone in the first place so I guess therapy is the best and positive thing even though it is scary :)
0 likesI needed this video. Thank you for making this. Cause I’m having the exact same type of situation. But this is one of the reasons why I finally told my family that I was depressed and sucidal and then I got therapy so your one of the reasons why I am a lot better now. So thank you Dodie! 😇💕😊
0 likesI'm so glad YouTubers are talking about this, it's so healthy to normalise therapy and just encourage people to get help in a way that isn't patronising 💕 Thank you for being so honest in these vids Dodie 💕
6 likesoh my gosh this is something so great to bring attention to !! thanks so much for sharing this & helping normalize/de-stigmatize therapy/counseling.
0 likesThank you lovely ladies for this video. I recently have been considering going to therapy and i booked an appointment for it... I've never been to therapy but i feel like i just need to give it a try since i've been feeling so down and anxious lately. So thank you girls for not making this a taboo topic to talk about <3
0 likesThanks so much. I've recently started counseling and it was hard on my mom. Great video!
0 likesI’m starting therapy soon and this video really helped. Thank you so so so much.
0 likesThis video was wonderful, thank you! After seeing you being brave enough to admit you needed help, so did I (along with a couple other things). My first session was last week and while I am nervous, I am really thankful that I get the chance to make myself better. Thank you for helping me understand how valuable therapy is.
0 likesyou two are the MOST amazing people on youtube and probably on earth. thank you for posting things and sharing you're thoughts with us!
0 likesThis video came out just at the right time for me :3 I've been putting off phoning the therapy place my GP referred me to (phoning people is scary) but this has given me the little bit of extra strength I needed to do it so thank you both 💛
0 likesThis video came out just at the right time for me :3 I've been putting off phoning the therapy place my GP referred me to (phoning people is scary) but this has given me the little bit of extra strength I needed to do it so thank you both 💛
0 likesThis is really helpful as I'm looking into getting therapy soon. Thank you
0 likesthank you for this video, I wish more people did videos like this, just talking honestly about therapy and sharing their experience. I love therapy!! everyone should go :)
0 likesThis was the best time to make this video. I'm starting therapy in a few days and I'm so anxious about it, thanks.
0 likesFinally after 3 years I went to find help. One of the best choices I've made for myself. My parents don't know about this and that's okay. I don't want to worry them since I'm already working on it myself. The "failure as a parents"-part in the video is also a good point. I don't live at home anymore, but if you do, it is harder to hide and maybe you should tell them about it.
0 likesThank you so much for opening up about this recently, Dodie ❤ I've struggled with depression for about 4 years now, and I'm about to leave secondary school and also am only just now beginning to realise how much it's affected me. You've encouraged me a whole lot to get help and also made me understand how much of me is the way it is because of my depression. Now I know that I want to get better because I don't want it to screw up university the way it has secondary school. Thank you so much for all of this :) You are an absolute saint, and I'm so happy for your getting better.
0 likesI love Tessa, and I love seeing her in Dodie's vids! Dodie you are amazing
0 likesi just started going to a therapist for the first time in a year💕💕
4 likesim still hurting but ill be better soon
I loved this video so much, thank you for making it. 💟 (I would really enjoy more mental health chats, or even a series on mental health from you two, just throwing that out there - no pressure 💕) have a lovely day! 🌿
0 likesI love videos like this, where YouTubers talk about real things in front of the camera. They make me feel like I am more normal than I think. Especially with Dodie, and especially this video. I don't really enjoy my therapy sessions and have been starting to feel like therapy is not my thing, but this video makes me feel like maybe my therapist just isn't right for me.
0 likesI'm gonna start therapy really soon, and I gotta hand it to you Dodie. You made me realize that asking for help is okay and I can't thank you enough. ❤️
1 likeThank you dodie for being the first person who taught me about my depersonalisation. You've saved my life. I cant thank you enough
0 likesdodie you're the reason i'm finally gonna get myself some help i'm finally going to go to therapy because of all the good things you've said about it so thank you for being such a positive influence on my life
0 likesi hate therapy, cause i'm always about to cry, but i feel like it'd be awkward if i did, and i feel like i'm not supposed to or not allowed to since i'm a guy, so it sucks.
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They're completely used to and it's kind of what you're supposed to do. Just let out all of your emotions!
36 likesThe best guys are the kind who can cry in front of people. Therapists are paid not to judge you, and they have by-far seen worse. Give yourself permission to be vulnerable, and I promise you will feel better in the long run.
30 likesMy Name's Yours, What's Aimee? thank you! i just feel trapped, ya know? so it can be hard sometimes. thank you though, i appreciate it.
6 likesWillow Song idk, i feel like i'm only allowed to cry when i'm alone or not at all. i try to keep in touch with my emotions, but it's hard when i constantly have the feeling i'm being judged, ya know? but thank you.
10 likesI get that its hard. Maybe you're judging yourself for crying at all? Something to think about. <3
1 likeWillow Song thank you so much
3 likeskaleioli she
0 likeszoe rodrigues what
1 likecrying releases toxins and stuff that are good for you and make you feel better. counsellors are use to people crying/getting aggressive/breaking down so they won't judge you and they can help you when they know how you react to things. Good luck with future sessions, let yourself go and try not to think too much about it in your sessions
11 likesYou are allowed to cry. I give you permission. I hope this helps! <3
7 likesJoanne Dalima thank you so much
4 likesxzonia1 thank you!
4 likeskaleioli Any time!
1 likekaleioli Look once you allow yourself to cry in front of those who won't judge you (close friends, not to be stereotypical but girls are generally more open to it) or your therapist who absolutely won't judge you, you realize that guys not being supposed to cry is a bunch of bullshit. Allow your emotions to come out and you'll feel better, it definitely helps me to not hold it in.
7 likesAmir Palamar thank you, i appreciate the support.
2 likesI am a girl and I even feel insecure and weak when I cry in front of people. I normally try not to cry especially in front of my friends or peers because I know if I start to heavily cry I will not stop till I run out of tears🙃
4 likesRachel Webster i do that a lot as well it's so stressful oh my
1 likeRachel Webster Well everyone tries to hold back tears when around random friends/peers/people in general. Find those who you're comfortable with crying in front of though and their company will give you support and comfort. It's good to have someone to cry in front of, I wish I had someone for that rn bc the only person who I could do that with is the only person I can't. Long story that I'll explain if u want me to.
5 likesCouncillors have seen a lot worse, trust me.
2 likeskale is this you omg
6 likesok but it's okay to cry you know, it's normal!! guys can cry too!!! it doesn't make you any less masculine or whatever. crying should make you feel better, not worse. :)
kaleioli maybe try and find a male therapist, I don't know if that would help you express yourself more. But also don't keep to the stereotypes, I know it's easy for me to say and not so much to do, but if you feel the need to cry then cry.
1 likekaleioli cry all you want just because you're a guy doesn't mean you can't cry. Crying isn't a sign of weakness it's just your body saying hey I feel like shit right now so let's conduct water from our eyes you'll also find that crying makes you feel better. if you bottle it up inside it won't get any better. :)
2 likesGlenda Tan you know me? and thank youuu.
1 likeFrances Ivy thank you. and i have had some male therapists before but it kinda felt the same so idk, but thanks for the suggestion.
1 likeChristina Howlter thank you (:
1 likekale i'm pakapanda on wattpad haha. i didn't know you watch dodie omg
1 likeGlenda Tan i had a feeling! haha! hiiii. and of course i watch dodie, she's like the only youtuber i'm straight for. she's gr8.
4 likesI get you, I've been the same for years and still struggle with being vulnerable in front of people now. it's probably even worse for you because you're a boy and all that "men don't cry" bullshit is so pressuring.. I can only speak from my experience - it took me a looong time to first cry in front of a counselor (like 2 years?), but once you do and you see that nothing bad happens and they still treat you the same way, it's so relieving. so please don't give up, even if it may take a long time for you to finally feel comfortable around them, it'll happen eventually and it's the key to getting better. have you told them about your struggles with crying in front of them? it's super hard, I know, but when they know the problem they can probably help you overcome it, that's what they're trained for <3
3 likesTheSofiify thank you so much, honestly. i appreciate it. i will try.
2 likeskaleioli tbh after i watched dodie i realised how gay i am, literally everyone has a crush on dodie
3 likesGlenda Tan oKAY BUT THAT'S SO TRUE I'M LAUGHING
2 likesWho ever or whatever made you think you can't cry because you are a guy is so wrong it's not even funny . We all cry , even if it's not with tears coming down our faces .
4 likesImA Landfill thank you.
0 likesRaphael Motta i know, but it can be nerve-racking, ya know? but thank you.
0 likesI am NOT a crier and I balled my eyes out during my first session. Honestly, I think my therapist was relieved.
5 likesPsychologists know that gender norms like "men can't cry" are complete bollocks, so I encourage you to sob away if/when you are comfortable. :)
AMaliciousMoose thank you so much for the support and advice, i appreciate it a lot.
1 likekaleioli I know this sounds weird but please cry. I am actually asking you to cry in front of your therapist because it is so good for you - it's so healing, and cathartic, and you will feel so authentic towards yourself when you walk out of their office that day. Trust me, you will be in such a better headspace, you will be nicer and more present with other people because you have dealt with your inner demons that day. It is actually responsible to acknowledge whatever's bringing you hurt! I know this all sounds strange but it works - oh GOD it works. If it helps, you don't have to look at your counsellor when you cry - just do what feels right, and remember that it is their job to not judge you.I should note - I am in therapy. So this advice is from personal experience! All the best!
31 likesJessica Lin thank you so much. i will try.
8 likeskaleioli Cry. Trust me it'll help you.
2 likesGoddamn gender roles
1 likecrying is literally your bodies method of releasing chemicals and energy that creates sadness. its your body helping you and making you feel better. don't hold it back.
8 likesI'm too anxious during therapy to feel sad
2 likesI had my first therapy session during a mental assessment and I was crying before I even knew it like she really brought stuff out of me
0 likesdodie i love you so much you helped me trough the toughest times of my life and i can never thank you enough ❤
0 likesI just want to thank you both from the bottom of my heart for talking about this and making a video. You are so not alone in this experience! I thought that I was going to therapy because I currently wasn't worth anything and that I wasn't normal and that there was something wrong with me. Lies! Everyone isn't "normal" and everyone could use therapy to learn more about themselves and take care of their mental and emotional health. Also, Celebrate Recovery is amazing! I have a friend who is a leader of one group and it's is good for all the people involved. Her group was centered around body image but there are tons of wonderful groups that are non-judgmental because you're all just there to get better and understand each other.
0 likesIn the past week, I've realized I've been repressing feelings for six years, had those feelings resurface, become excited about actually sharing those feelings for once in my life, and gotten shot down back into the rabbit hole of the emotions and being silent about it, so I now feel lonelier than I ever have in my entire existence.
0 likesSo, needless to say, I really needed this video. Thank you.
i love the fact that you did this talk!!! i hear so little from Youtubers about therapy and if they are doing IT. I did myself just started two months ago and this talks this problems and this struggle about listening to them is very familiar for me <3 love you Doddle and Tessa <3
0 likesThis was a great video. I think it's very important to take away all of the stigma associated with therapy. It can really help most people.
0 likesI love that you made a video on this! I'm currently going through school to become a therapist, so, as you'd guess, I'm a big advocate for therapy! haha Also, a bit off topic, but your hair looks SO GOOD in this video! <3
0 likesI'm so glad you guys made this video, I have a friend that can definitely benefit from therapy/counselling but feels like it won't help her. I know she'll watch this video and hopefully it may change her mind <3
0 likesI'm starting CBT in the next few weeks, I'm nervous for the first session, but excited to get some help! This video really helps, thanks Dodie and Tessa! I love you guys! Xx
0 likesSo proud of you Dodie! I went through therapy to help with my anxiety and it was super helpful for me! (P.S where is your really cool dress from) :) x
0 likesI really like that you're breaking down the negative connotations around therapy. Thank you 💜
0 likesI had counselling in my first years of secondary school, obviously it depends on who you have but I loved it. It was really nice to have someone to talk to that I didn't feel found what I was saying boring, I'd say it helped 💜✌️
0 likesAww I loved this video so much! I struggle with my thoughts and feelings a lot, and always got put off of counselling and talking about my issues. However, I began seeing a counselor free of charge through my University Mental Health Centre, and have seen her like 3 times now.
0 likesI did feel quite comfortable with her, for numerous reasons, including the fact that she could read right through the fact that I was trying to be polite and not swear in front of her, even though (unfortunately) it is part of my everyday vocabulary! But she has recently gone on maternity leave as she is having a baby, and as happy as I am that she is welcoming a new person into the world, I'm also bummed out because it literally always seems like something good enters my life then gets pulled away just as fast...
I think my issue now is do I return and see another counselor, or do I just do what I've always done and bottle up my emotions inside and pray that I don't explode in a big ball of fists and anger?! Well I think it's pretty obvious as to which option is better, but I am just worried that I will not feel comfortable with this counselor and then have to make excuses not to see them any more because I don't gel well with them.
Any tips on this issue?
Oh also, we are having a puppy-petting-day at my University in a couple of days (this coming Tuesday), and quoting their facebook page on the event: "The day will be in support of Mind, a charity who work to support and improve the lives of people with experience of mental health problems". Just thought I'd mention that as it was something which you spoke of in the video :) :) :)
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Also, forgot to add this at the end of this comment; I love Tessa's hair! Have always loved coloured hair but this is just :O !!! Not even sure what colour it is. Like salmon or pastel pink?!!
0 likesI've definitely been needing to make an appointment with my college's counseling center but I've been putting it off for months. This both reminded me and convinced me to finally act on it. Thanks to you both!
0 likesThis video is so helpful oh my goodness thank you for this this gives me more courage to ask my parents to go to a therapist
0 likesdodie, oh my god, you have no idea how much I've needed this, I was just thinking about telling my parents last night but I chickened out. you're literally always there when i need you
0 likesthis was actually an incredibly helpful video :) thank you dodie
0 likesThis made me realize that I needed go to therapy again. I have yet to start but I'm looking into it. Thank you
0 likesI AM SO PROUD OF YOU DODIE!!!!!!💕
0 likesI just got out of counseling, and it made me so happy. I feel like I got over something big
1 likeY'ALL ARE SO GOOD WITH WORDS GOSH
9 likes6:16 I actually had the complete opposite experience. I had major anxiety when I was little (still do tho but eh) and would get sick every time I went out, and they both realized that and made me go to therapy. I may have been really young (7) but it really did help a lot so if you are afraid to go just do it it can really help even if you feel like you don't need it
0 likesI went through 13 therepists, in the end I leaned more on my friends as my form of therapy and found out that I actually bottled it up so much and tried to keep it to myself and I couldn't unload that on the therapist but I could on my friends that were there for me. And that's also important to know that you can talk to your friends as well as family if you don't get on well to get her with a therapists.
0 likesAww love hearing your conversations :)
0 likesWhen I decided to go to therapy, I told my parents that I wanna go to seek help for manage stress. That was actually one of the reasons why I wanted to go (not the only one), but also wasn't so awkward when I told them that I wanna go. So maybe is something you can say at first if you don't feel comfortable when you are telling them.
0 likesyour outfits are the aesthetic I never knew I wanted but now NEED DESPERATELY
12 likesi've got my first therapy session this week, so thanks for making this video, it's really calmed my nerves 😊
0 likesI love this video so so so so so much, it's so amazing you give attention to mental illnesses
0 likesin my experience, i went to school counseling a few times and after a while the counselor told me shes really there for students who cant get therapy and shes more there for students with immediate problems rather than for support. im not sure about the other counsellors as my school, but she made me feel guilty for going so that was it
0 likesLOVE that you are starting a conversation about therapy. there is still much to much stigma about it in our society!
0 likesOur school councellor has such a lack of empathy
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Sivolia same. I don't even know if mine has a councilor that's not an old woman that'll be like "oh your fine go to class" and even if I did go to her I feel like my friends and peers would treat me differently
8 likesthis is so true. My friend went to a school counsellor because of home troubles that were leading to anxiety and she basically said that everybody goes through home troubles and that other people have it worse
10 likesmine told me to bottle up my problems, put them away and focus on my school work lmaoo
7 likesSame same same... mine implied I was wasting her time because people have it worse... she also was super dismissive of anything I would say to justify myself
8 likesdamn i'm sorry guys. i feel your pain though, mine was so bad she actually made me feel so much worse about myself rather than better. she also called me transphobic slurs which was obviously just great
7 likesmine doesn't even talk to me, she just sends me home
0 likesSivolia mine told one of my classmates that he shouldn't listen to rap because it's bad for him and that's why he has anger issues
1 likeyea thats often what i hear about school counselors. Like in my school (US) you got assigned to a counselor based on the alphabetical order of your last name. Mine was a douche. And basically their main purpose is to set you up for colleges. I forget why, but there was a few times i had to go to him outside of the whole college schtick. This was also during a time where my parents were requiring i go to a therapist and take pills for the mental illness they (the doctors)had diagnosed me with(depression), so with the local turnover rate, i was well associated with actual therapists...and gawd.. i was not impressed. I think he may have pissed off my mom at some point as well. But then again ive run into a few therapists or just people in the mental health field that i was not a fan of... or maybe shouldnt have been in the field. And that was a learning process for both me and my mom, only later learning how shitty they were when we met a good one.
1 likeI went to my school counselor bc of trouble at home and I didn't know what to do and he just said "I'm not a therapist I can't help you with anything. except bullying maybe" but all of my teachers tell my to go to the counselor with those problems?!
1 likeOh god same -.- the only good thing about going to see her was that she gave me a list of real counselors in my area and I found my first one because of that. I literally talked to that school woman once and she accused me of faking it for attention, she was a nightmare. don't give up though, four years of really good therapy later (and three years out of school) and I've had so amazing and validating experiences with counselors, you'll find the right one eventually <3
6 likesHonestly I feel like my school counselor is amazing ! She is a really great woman , the only problem is , that she is so hard to get to . I have seven periods and two of those are performing arts classes , during my lunch break I can't reach her because she too is on lunch and after school she has meetings . She knows I have issues ( this sounds like I'm complaining I'm not trying to I'm sorry ) I have talked to her before , but our school just never gives us students the time to talk to her :( .
2 likesYou guys are really makin me think I need to go into High School or Middle School counseling next year. It always infuriated me how some counselors treated some of my friends (driving them towards suicide and self harm in those cases). Just reminding me it's not so rare. Granted, I've gotta get past feeling like I don't know what I'm doing lol
6 likesHow old is Tessa? Love the vlogs!! Thank you for sharing your experiences with us and being so candid ❤️
0 likesThanks for helping me be happy in those moments where I felt like shit. When I feel like my friends hate me. When I feel like I just want to cry. When I want to talk to someone who is really, really special to me, but I can't. You're music and you're voice helped me through. So again, thanks. A lot. 💖🌷
0 likesMy brother literally walked in my room and I was like look Billy it's DODIE and he was like "dude dodies shirt is on fleek status" 😂😂 we are so strange! We love you Dodie!!! 💕
2 likesi wrote this today when i was meant to be doing my homework:
1 likedodie makes me happy because-
she's so open and honest and doesn't sugar-coat depression like 'oh i'm a lil depressed but i'm fine'
she writes such deep and meaningful songs that so many people can relate to
but aside from being deep and meaningful she is funny, kind, and she giggles so much - her laughter is so contagious and i love it
she is never embarrassed about having a 'naked face' on youtube
she isn't a show-off like youtubers who are like 'hey look at me i have so many subscribers and i'm hot i never post my ugly naked face on youtube that would be totes gross'
she swears and gets angry and sad like a normal human being and isn't afraid to show it
she isn't embarrased about crying in front of people, unlike me
she is so so so so so inspirational in so many ways, and not many people notice her. some youtubers just need to take a break and be more like doddleoddle. be more open. be less embarrassed and hot-headed. chill out and just relax in videos instead of feeling like they're being forced to film.
I really love your videos :D Been watching Tessa for years now and subscribed to you now as well round of applause
0 likesIt's very interresting to listen to you both talk about this stuff so openly. Thank you for this :) Keep your head up and be prepared for more comments from me :D
thank you dodie i was considering therapy for some time after a fight with someone i used to call a friend. i thought something was wrong with me, so i just wanted to say thanks cause this video helped me a lot
0 likesIve been going to therapy for the past 9 years, since i was 5, and its amazing, i love it
0 likesLadies, I cannot thank you enough, for this video. I suffer from PTSD, and my experience was similar to Tessa's. It took me many years to realize that I needed therapy. But, just as your experiences differed, so do those of most people. It is VERY IMPORTANT that people understand that. Just because one has a different experience of their condition, it does not mean that they need therapy less than others. Also, the hardest part for many is swallowing their pride, and asking for help. I know that I fought that battle for a very long time. But, there is no shame in seeking understanding from a trained professional, even if you THINK you know what is going on.
0 likesThank you for these little chatty videos. They make me a feel a little more comfortable about my illness. It made me re reflect about when you feel down and hating it. Now I can separate it from myself as the culprit but rather recognise it as signs of illness that I cant control
0 likesThis was a wonderful wonderful video. Thank you<3
0 likesI'm hopefully going to be starting therapy for my confidence issues and I hope it goes well.
0 likesThank you so much for this! I know its just a coincidence but I have hoped you might make a video about it at some point! I have been booked a counselling appointment but I have always been afraid of whether I actually need it or not, and like you mentioned my parents aren't keen but trying to explain it to them I'm afraid they'll get upset or angry or something. xxxx
0 likesThis video is EXACTLY 9 minutes long...thank you Dodie for the perfect time of a video
0 likesI love Dodie's videos because they're so laid back and calm.
0 likesThank you for this video, ladies.
0 likesI've been to counselling for grief as well as anxiety/depression and I never find it helpful because I experience what you said Dodie, feeling spaced out during sessions and not really getting anything out of it. I've been on meds for two years and I'm trying to get off them now. This video has inspired me to re-consider counselling as an option for dealing with everything.
Love you both so much x
I went to therapy for a little over 3 months, once a week for my anxiety. My councilor was sooooo nice and I've learned so much about myself 😄😄
0 likestherapy was something that has been on my mind a lot recently. I've had all sorts of personal issues with my mind, environment, personality for the half past year, but I always told myself "oh well, you're only exaggerating, other people are at a far worse place than you, you'll be fine!" it's so dumb, I KNOW AHH! my mum had gone to therapy for a year, thanks to HI she didn't have to pay too much, but I'm really anxious about the idea? I already have trust issues and opening up to a complete stranger is such an absurd idea... especially as a minor, who's problems seem insignificant. I suppose I should give it a try, but honestly, I don't think my problems can actually get fixed through talking? It seems so uncomfortable.
3 likesno, but I'm proud of you girls!
Hey! I wanted to tell you that your videos about depression and anxiety are the ones that helped me admit to myself that I had a problem, after years of anxiety and months of being sad all the time I finally took an appointment with a therapist. So thank you for talking so freely about it, I think you helped a ton of people like me. Love and kisses from France <3
0 likesI wish I could have a friendship like these two. Been on a sappy/depressed video binge and I just can't help but admire their friendship. Especially since they seem so open with each other and can share that kind of stuff. Hope I can find a friend and a friendship like this.
0 likesThis is so great. Thank you so much for sharing this.
0 likesI just want to thank you, because this is VERY helpful!!
0 likeswhy is Tessa Violet dressed like the Arthur meme
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11 likesThis video helps a lot. Ive been going through a lot of emotions lately and I don't know why. I had a good day to day but the minute I realized I was in a good mood I started asking myself why. I feel like I really really want therapy. Like bad. I want to know if I have a mental illness, I want to know where all my sadness comes from. I feel like therapy will help me figure out a lot of questions. I just feel like I don't need it and that it's unfair that I think I need it when I'm not as bad as Another person who needs it. I also don't want to tell my mom. My mom knows I have some heightened anxiety and she kind of self diagnosed me which is kind of another reason I want to go to therapy cause I want to figure out if the self diagnoses was true. No but anxiety runs in our family but even so it's so hard for me to ask for therapy and I don't know why. Maybe it's cause she'll have to sit in the room with me, or maybe cause I don't want to tell her I feel depressed along with the other feelings. Maybe it's cause I don't want to come to terms with the fact that I might need it or maybe im just scared of what the therapist will say. I don't want him or her to tell me that there's nothing wrong with me and I need to leave and I also don't want him or her to tell me theres tons wrong with me and I need medication. I also don't want to pour all my feelings out. I know it's there job but I always feel like a burden. There is so much keeping me from going. I want help and this vid helped some but maybe someone with the same experience as me can give me some advice?
0 likes6:37 "can't hurt to try" (in reference to school counseling) Yes it can. I almost went to a school counselor for something I am going through, but after close examination at the last minute, I realized what I was about to jump into. My school is not a public school and they use a certain specific program for counseling. This program can either work really well for some or make things a lot worse. For me and my situation, it would have made things a lot worse. I know most schools aren't like this and this isn't meant to steer away from school counseling or make you worry. I am just saying that you should check out what you are about to get into. If you do and it seems alright, it probably is and there is no need to worry.
0 likesI'm 14 and have anxiety and depression. I've been in therapy since 2nd grade. Its good. People shouldnt judge therapy before they try it.
0 likesWhen I was in elementary school we had a group counseling program for girls. It was great to be with my friends and be able to talk about the ruff bumps in school and life
0 likestessa, i like how you brought up that you tried celebrate recovery! my church has a CR program and i was asked to sing at an anniversary meeting once; really cool experience being there. everyone seemed more genuine than i had ever seen at my church. 👌🏻 this specific event was definitely more christian oriented but i know that CR may not necessarily be so religious all the time. cool and different experience though!
2 likesI'm currently on my 4th mind CBT session and it's really helping, I definitely recommend to anyone in the uk except you have to be 18 to do it
0 likesDodie I literally got into therapy about 3 weeks ago and I felt the same way! I felt too broken as well
0 likesAfter I had watched this video I went to bed feeling so confident and happy and I woke up feeling positive. You need to make more of these videos because they are so calming and make you feel like you aren't alone. Therapy is such a great thing!! I'm in it also and I'm glad you guys are too. You just make me so happy Dodie (and Tessa!) I can't even describe it!
0 likesI've been going to therapy for a few months and I love it. But, I'm scared to tell my parents what I talk about with my counselor because I don't want to worry them.
0 likesThis video made me cry, and I feel so silly about it, but it's just so sweet and relieving to hear such beautiful people (inside and out) talking about things like this in such a positive way <3
0 likesThis was very insightful and i hope i get the courage and bravery to start going to therapy at some point this year because of anxiety mostly. But i'm kind of scared of being vulnerable and telling a complete stranger my problems hehe
0 likesI was also so totally convinced I couldn't fix my head with talking but I finally started cbt two weeks ago and already feel so much more in control. Makes me feel even more confident to see someone else talking about having the same experience, thanks dodie 💕💕💕
0 likesI started therapy around a week ago and I'm actually so excited to continue it
0 likes@doddlevloggle after watching this video, i was inspired to talk to my mom about therapy fro my anxiety-something i have struggled with for years but kept hidden. and she said yes! thanks to you i'm gonna be able to work through stuff i have bottled up for years and finally live a happy life. thank you so much. you are such an inspiration
0 likesgoing on like two years with my therapist. she cares. highly recommend.
4 likesThanks so much for taking about and normalising counselling and therapy; it's always a bit awkward to tell people I have a counsellor, but youtubers talking about it is so comforting, and as an aspiring therapist myself (off to do counselling psychology at uni, if I get my grades!) it brings me hope for the future 💛
0 likesI'm so grateful for these videos. I used to think that I wasn't depressed just because I would look at pictures and videos of myself and say "See, look, I'm smiling. I'm laughing and hanging out with friends. I'm obviously not depersonalized or depressed. I don't even look anxious." Then I found your videos where you would be smiling and laughing with friends while talking about mental illness, and I realized that a person can look happy and still be sick. I've started trying harder to reverse my depression now. It can be hard for me to get help because I'm fairly young, I've had therapists hear that I'm depressed, look at me and go "I don't think so." My current therapist is helpful, but I haven't actually used the word depression yet. I rely on your videos a lot to get advice and to remind myself that I need to work on getting better and be patient with myself. You've helped me realize that a lot of things I struggle with that I thought were separate are all interconnected. Thanks so much.
1 likeThis is such a lovely video and you both look so great in this as well!
0 likesDodie honestly I feel like your channel was introduced to me for a reason literally like a week ago I realized that therapy is probably the only thing I can do at this point and hearing someone who I look up to reaffirm how good it will be for me was all I needed.
0 likesYay! I've been going to therapy for almost six months now but I took a break over my school holidays. I'm pretty anxious and uncomfortable right now so I'm really happy to be seeing my therapist/psychologist again on Tuesday!
0 likesIs Tessa wearing dodie yellow or just regular yellow??
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or wait is this la la land yellow???
61 likesurmum looks like la la land yellow to me
65 likesi thought the same lmao
12 likes(guys do you know where that jumper is from?)
6 likesNo it's not Dodie yellow, more La La Land yellow
20 likesit is from zara :)
4 likesitsanni it's a limited edition zara jumper....
3 likesdodie yellow or not dodie yellow
15 likesor also not dodie yellow?
^ or also also not dodie yellow?
6 likes+Red Sun or also also not dodie yellow?
2 likesi think it's also also not dodie yellow
63 likesurmum y'all are too much
7 likesDaniela Urie you're in the phandom you should be used to this kind of stuff
7 likesPaula C. thank you!
1 likei love this comment section
7 likesurmum what's the difference?!
0 likesMissyM i think la la land yellow is more of a bright yellow and dodie yellow is a warmer yellow, if that makes sence
3 likesregular, dodie yellow is lighter
7 likesurmum She's wearing also also not Dodie yellow.
36 likesEllart ••••••• or also also also not dodie yellow?
10 likesthis was so helpful! i will soon be going to concelling at the school because past councelling FAILED BADLY. THANKS DODIE AND TESSAAAAAAAA <3333
0 likesthank you for this vid! I'm struggling with the question of how do I help someone else get counseling - or help them seriously consider it as a possibility
0 likescoming back to this because I love you both so much and I've learned so so much from you as artists. So glad that there are two powerful, talented, vulnerable women making amazing music. Ya'll are UNSTOPPABLE.
0 likesI've always been like "i want to know what's going on with me! I wanna know what's wrong" and you just solved my problem. Therapy would help me understand more abput myself and how i feel :D i always thought that what i needed was psychology but my friends hate those lol so yay therapy
0 likesIt's nice to see you talking about seeking help. There's already so much stigma surrounding mental health so it's good that these conversations are being encouraged particularly when you talk about your own experiences. It sets a good example to your audience. No one deserves to suffer in silence. ❤
6 likesgreat video! I was really lucky and managed to find an anxiety class that had funding, the class wasnt the best for me but I got introduced to a trainee therapist while I was there who was brilliant. Just so everyone realises that might be a more affordable option too :) yay for talking it out! ps dodie I love your top xxc
0 likesThank you for using your platform to talk about therapy and mental illnesses positively! It's so reassuring to hear people, who inspire me, talking about things that I can relate to! I highly recommend therapy to everyone, it's such a brilliant way to learn about youself and to normalise the way you feel. Love you loads Dodie and thank you💜💜
0 likesI wish I had friends that I can talk heart to heart about things like this. Everyone seems to think the only emotion I have is happy and that I always laugh but I feel really alone.
0 likesI'm sitting in the computer room/office at a cemetery (my uncle works here and I live with him, so) eating cereal, watching this and thinking about everything that Dodie has taught me. Thank you Dodie for teaching me so much.
0 likesI LOVE TESSA I LOVE THIS I LOVE HER HAIR
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also this helps me quite a bit because i think i really do need therapy but i've been scared to go
1 likeI was feeling really down at the beginning of this year, and I was absolutely terrified of going to counseling, but I did. I was lucky because I got paired with a guy who was very helpful to me, so it was a great first impression. But all in all, go for it. It's so scary, but also so worth it. And you've got all of us to support your decision.
2 likesdo you find that it helps? I've been sick recently and one of the doctors decided to send me to a psychologist because they think part of why i'm sick, is because I'm stressed. I've got group counselling(?) kind of? coming up on the 15th of march/may/can't remember. It's supposed to be focusing on mindfulness, but I'm so so scared for that alone. I might talk to the psychologist about organising some sessions some time, if I work up the nerve :) Thank you so much for your support
1 likeCan I just say how amazing your hair looks in this Dodie?!?! I just recently got mine cut like yours and I love it!!!!
0 likesHonestly this video timing couldn't have been better, I have my first therapy appointment in Monday and I am terrified but this video helped a lot
0 likesThis video is what inspired me to go to therapy and I'm such a happier person because of it, so cheers lads
0 likesI find your videos really helping me in hard situations (basically hard anything)
0 likesThank you so much for all this insight and advice. And thank you for being such beautiful souls. (Also I want to steal both your outfits, but Tessa that sweater is just too beautiful for words.)
0 likesI have an interesting relationship with therapy. I went for a few months and it genuinely helped, but I realized it was helping for a reason that wasn't really what therapy is supposed to do. I'm very analytic and logical about who I am and what I'm feeling. I don't know if it's because I'm a writer and I'm used to picking apart people's thought processes, but if I'm feeling something I can always reason with myself and know exactly why I'm feeling it and that I will be fine. I never really needed a therapist to help me understand myself. As it turned out, what I needed was just someone to talk to! My family is supportive, but I could never really talk about everything I needed to with them, and therapy finally gave me that outlet. I then found an internet friend who I poured out my soul to and we've been friends for years. It wasn't until I realized that my therapy sessions were literally just friendly chats that I knew I didn't need to go anymore because I had more or less replaced them with a true friendship. All in all, though, for whatever you need it for, therapy is amazing. 10/10 would recommend :)
0 likesPerfect timing for me. Thank you Dodie.
0 likesI have a therapist I've been seeing for fourish years now, and even though I only see her once a month and have been for the past year, it's good to have that contact in case things get bad again and I need to talk to somebody/need resources.
0 likesI've been going to counselling for quite a while now, I tried multiple times but never found one i liked, gave up for a few years and recently tried again and i'm going weekly now and actually like my counselor. It can be draining and scary to talk about your deep dark feelings or whatever but it can be surprisingly helpful x
0 likesi've been dealing with an overload of emotions recently until i opened up to a teacher who noticed something was wrong.
0 likesafter i did my story to him, he sent me to the student council and he literally said "i can't help you if YOU don't know what's wrong" and now i have no idea what to do cause my mom is 150% against therapy so i'm lost :(
Listening to you gals talk about this stuff is my favorite type of video. I've been in counseling for a bit over a year now. I'm doing much better than I was before I started but I know I still have a lot to go. It's a process, and one I don't think ever truly "ends" but evolves. Listening to you talk always rejuvenates my ambition to learn more about myself. Definitely going to check out that book!
0 likeslove how you talked about therapy and mental illness(how is So important)(more like this pls)!!! love your outfits!!! lOVE YOU BOTH <3333333333
0 likesHOW DARE YOU MAKE ME CHOOSE BETWEEN TESSA OR DODIE WITH YOUR UPLOADS AT THE SAME TIME AHHHHHHH
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2 likesThat's what I thought!
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0 likesPlay both at once :D
10 likesbut they're both in both of them so
8 likesI'm really glad you guys talked about this because I'm going to therapy soon and I've been quite nervous about it! You guys talking about it really helped relieve some of my stress and fears on it :)
0 likesThank you for the video ❤ I realized lots of my friends love your channel like me and whenever they gave me advice it sounded like what you would say to me 😆😆 if that makes sense :/ anyway thank you for the video ❤
0 likesi love seeing that in the uk there are lots of resources and options on counseling! really hope Spain catches up sometime soon. Nice advice on telling parents! It really helped <3
0 likesI went to therapy last year and it was pretty good. She helped me with my social problems and mental breakdowns and other stuff , now I'm better but I've considered going again.
0 likesI'm currently going to group therapy, it's interesting and I guess it's kinda helpful because other people are dealing with the same thing. I recommend it
0 likesI've recently been to my GP about anxiety, depersonalisation and depression and been prescribed medication as well as being referred for talking therapy with Mind.... this video couldn't have come at a better time as I've booked the first session and have been overthinking it so much!! Thank you for helping me sort out my irrational worries lol love u
0 likesI went to see my GP in May last year and have only just started seeing someone but feel so lucky that I can see someone who helps so much on the NHS. Just wanted to leave this here incase anyone is feeling disheartened by the waiting list through the NHS, for me it has definitely been worth the nearly 8 month wait.
0 likesI'm going to my first counciling session this week and I'm really nervy about it...I'm really bad at expressing my feelings so that's what I'm scared of most.
0 likesAfter watching this I feel slightly more at ease ^-^ hopefully I'll find it just as helpful 💙
My best friend said she was going to therapy in our school and she recommended the same for me and I was having a hard time deciding if I want to go and this video really hoped me so thank you 😊
1 likeI've been in therapy for four years because of depression and anxiety :) my therapist honestly saved my life
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Also, therapy in Quebec is free so, that's how I can afford it
0 likesThat whole "don't check yourself" is such good advice. I've been doing that for years and getting really frustrated but been trying not to do it and when i didn't I felt so much better. But I never had a name for it so that's awesome.
0 likesI don't cry in my therapy sessions. I laugh. And then I come away from the session and BOOM! DEPRESSION!
0 likesI go to counselling at my school and she is the most AMAZING AMAZING lady. She's like my second mum.
my school counselor is very very horrible, when a teacher saw my scars, the counselor called my mom and dad and told them lies. They forced me to tell them that I tried to "overdose" and that I tried to kill myself. they wouldn't let me leave / locked the room until i confessed to something i didn't do.
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Mind you, they were scars. Not current cuts.
18 likes... That's awful. I'm so sorry <3
10 likesamaya lobato why???
2 likesKatie Ahronson I couldn't tell you, because I didn't know why either
1 likeamaya lobato that's terrible
5 likesKatie Ahronson yeah, i can't trust therapists anymore. kinda sucks because it was my only means of help
1 likeamaya lobato I'm so sorry.....That's absolutely horrible.
4 likesNot all counselors are like that, I can assure you. That's incredibly disgusting of her, and she sure as heck should have listened to you before talking to your parents. Of course after seeing the scars she pretty much had to say something to your parents because, you know, legal reasons. But ew, awful, I'm so sorry you went through that crap with a bad counselor. I hope that in the future if you do decide to pursue counseling you have better luck, it can be helpful with the right person.
21 likesamaya lobato you should complain to your school about this, so she will get fired.
13 likesKaylee Touw thank you for understanding.
1 likeAesthetic Howell // I tried, but she's recognized as a "great counselor" that honestly if I tried, they wouldn't believe me.
2 likesschool counselors are veryveryvery different from actual psychologists or counselors/therapists. Trust me, people who have gone through the proper training and education will know that doing what your school counselor did was FUCKED UP both ethically and in terms of confidentiality. I had a very similar situation with my school counselor and learned the difference when I went to see an actual therapist who was wonderful and understanding and patient and compassionate. And, sure, there may still be some shitty therapists or psychologists, but finding one whos the right fit for you is a journey and, trust me, so so so worth it. So I really hope you don't give up on counseling altogether because of one shitty school counselor. Your well-being is so important and there ARE therapists and counselors and psychologists who know how to help and can help is an impactful way.
16 likesamaya lobato That's absolutely awful, and that monster deserves to be fired for pulling a stunt like that.
2 likesMichelle Kim thank you so much! ill definitely look into it
0 likesJohn Reynolds i agree.
0 likesamaya lobato Did you tell your parents the truth later on?
5 likesI love therapy, been to therapy before and it just didn't work for me both times but forth time round I had therapy through work and then carried on with private paid sessions and it's just amazing support and feel I have changed so much and don't want to go back to the way I was!
0 likesI've been seeing a therapist every week for the last 2 months and sometimes it does feel like it's not helping at all, but it really does make a difference because I'm finding things about myself that I had no idea at all before :D Still figuring out ways to cope with my depression but I think things are going well. And a part of it is thanks to you Dodie because of the video where you suggested everyone should go to therapy from last year. I didn't want to try therapy at all because I was scared but I'm glad that I listened to you :)
0 likesAwwwww I love this ❤ I love you Dodie!
0 likesI spent most of my afternoon googling for a therapist and getting a bit discouraged because I'm worried about not finding the right person and wasting my energy/time/money and getting even more down because of it :( Anyway this video came out at a really good time ehehe. I really love Dodie+Tessa chatty videos <3
0 likesbeing so happy about dodie ♡
3 likesI am currently on the waiting list for counselling through the NSH and i'm really nervous just because of the long wait until i get it but overall im exited that im going to get the help that i need
0 likesI'm trying to be nicer to myself and my therapist has said that it's nice to imagine someone else telling you those things. I hadn't realised but Dodie's the voice in my head!
0 likesThis year I'm going to talk to my old councillor who is still at my school, when I was in year 7 my problems were far more minuscule in comparison to now, and when I left I was like "Oh I'm ready to leave now I'm fine!" So I was and still am afraid that I'll disappoint her because I've only gotten worse since but I'm sure she'll help
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Yeah hey, future you. Uhm you cancel your therapy appointments because you feel like a burden...sorry :(
0 likesBeen in and out of counselling and therapy since 2011. 2011 was my breaking point attempted suicide but thankfully I was still in CAMHS so I had free services. After I was past the age limit I had gone into Mind. Yes they are really good at their services (apart from the long ass waiting list). Had 3 different therapists from Mind. Also had a group therapy for self-esteem and confidence (free) through Mind and a thirdparty service. Most of the homework you got given Dodie is what I've been going through atm :P HOWEVER ONE WEIRD ThinG I GOTTA TELL YOU ...my new therapist is finishing her High Intensity CBT course at Uni and my sessions are being filmed (with my consent) so she can get feedback and advice from higher ups(and my video may be used for future students) ...WEIRD RIGHT? I feel like I'm being used as an experiment but at the same time I feel like I'm okay with it IDK IM CONFUSED ABOUT MY FEELINGS ohmygash
0 likesI recently started going to therapy too 😌
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Alexa S stay strong ^-^
1 likeK Is a toll gay awwww thank you 💕
0 likesAlexa S yay good for you!!
1 likeAlexa S That's amazing! congrats! are you enjoying it?
4 likesElsie Stech thank you!! So far, I don't love it but I think it's mostly bc I'm still uncomfortable crying in front of someone I don't know but I think it's starting to help!
1 likeAlexa S that's amazing, just don't give up! I've been in therapy for over three years now and the first two counselors I had I didn't really feel comfortable with. the one I have now though is so great and I love talking to her - just take your time and get used to it and also don't be afraid to say what makes you uncomfortable to try and work it out together, that's what they're there for ^^
0 likesI went to counselling when I was in primary school for depression, I went to one on one sessions intially and the councillor was nice but I just felt super awkward so i went to group counselling at school once a week and it was so good, I'm 23 now and still reflect on some of the excersises I got taught then. I'm considering talking to my doctor about going to counselling again, while I could deal with flare ups of my depression in the past, I struggle more with anxiety now and I now deal with a chronic rare illness which can be isolating. I remember how rewarding it was back then and i'd love to get that now. This was a lovely chat ladies :) x
0 likesI just started therapy/counseling and she told me to do the same thing with the timeline and for people who made me who I am, good/bad. and it's rly helpful. I just feel bad bc my parents are paying so much for weekly sessions. I don't like people spending money on me yet here I am. I have my 2nd session this Saturday and I'm kinda nervous BUT prepared
0 likesso I have a few thoughts on that topic and I am happy you made that video! I have been feeling weird on and off for about two years! there are times when I think I should probably see a counselor and other times when I think there are other people who need it way more. anyway when I first talked to my parents they were totally against the idea of counselling but a few months back (maybe a year after my suggest) they asked me if I wanna go. At first I said no bc I was very surprised but then I decided that I should say yes! when I told my mom she was totally against it again. the problem is I can't go without their approval bc they pay my doctor bills! I also would quite love the support of the people who's opinion and support I value and need to most in life.. so yeah
0 likesI've been going to a counselor for about a month for OCD and Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and I can say that it definitely works. I used to stay up until 5 am washing my hands and checking the locks on my house and crying, and I'm so much better now. if you have the opportunity to do counseling, do it. it's literally one of the best things that have ever happened to me.
0 likesWhy did this video make me feel so much closer to both of you? Like I feel like we're all friends and we're hanging out and having a chat about therapy and I love it
0 likesyesterday i asked my parents if i could get therapy and they said yes, so for me progress is being made. :)
0 likesMy parents dragged me kicking and screaming into counseling years ago. It's one of the best things they've ever done for me.
0 likesDODIE I'M OBSESSED SO MUCH MY FRIENDS HATE ME AND CALL YOU DOODIE
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OMG SAME BUT THEY CALL HER DOODOO
1 likeOMG SAME I HATE IT WHEN THEY CALL HER DOODIE I GET SO ANNOYED
1 likei start CBT with Mind in 11 days for my extreme social anxiety & mild Depression and I'm shitting bricks tbh.
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you can do it!!! <3
14 likesOmg you replied, what😅😂 thank you, ily❤
1 likeMell S Hey! CBT for social anxiety made such a difference for me :) Good luck ❤ x
1 likeMartha Jane Edwards Thats great :) thank you, i hope it helps me too :)
0 likesMy CBT course helped me sooooo much. Not just with my depression but also with my school work, how I approach different things etc. I learnt more than I was dreaming I could and didn't understand it until this year when I had the first course 5 years ago. Go into it with an open mind and really just let yourself understand what you are there for :) good luck!!
0 likes@Katy Bugg thank you, i am a very open minded person so i will :) I'm glad it helped you! :)
0 likesWe are all so proud of you for going to therapy Dodie, you deserve health and happiness and it's ok to need a little help. I love your laugh and those moments when you're truly happy I love it so so much!!! :)
0 likesMy brother has previously had counselling, so when I told my mum about my mental health she has given me the option to go, however we both know it would take a while to get booked in.
0 likesThanks! You are both so wonderful and amazing. Perhaps someday soon I will have my 501 c on Forbes and I would take you guys on a wonderful world tour of awesome.
0 likesAppreciate you girls so much. I'm the opposite kind of parent,Mumma of 4 and I'm all for councelling,I actually keep an eye on wether my children need it,never would think I was failing but just know that I am not fully equipped to help them through the bigger stuff.
0 likesI dont know which name would be cuter..
10 likesTessa Clark,
Or Dodie Violet...💛🧡
I love how candid and warm this conversation is. It shouldn't be a rarity to find such normalizing of the topic of therapy, but I understand we need to break down the stigma surrounding it first. I am so glad you shared this with us!
0 likesThis makes me feel so much better. I have just finished a six week course of counselling, and I felt so awkward about it, because I thought that my case wasn't extreme enough, and telling my mum was so difficult, but you two sharing experiences makes me feel so much better. Hearing people that I look up to discussing mental health, and going to therapy just makes it feel less horrible. Knowing that you were brave enough to go to the doctors was what motivated me to find help in the first place, and this makes it feel like I can treat therapy like a good thing, and feel less ashamed , so I just want to say thank you.
0 likesI started therapy about 12 weeks ago and god damn, it was probably one of the best things i've ever decided to do. I had shitty hypnotherapy experiences when i was small and they put a negative light on all therapy. BUT now i recommend it to EVERYONE, and so many of the things you've mentioned in this are things i've experienced ah. I actually scripted a video on therapy this morning so i'll be filming that soon eee, seeing this has made me even more sure that i should film and post the video idea i have. c:
0 likesI feel so blessed to have the mom that I do because when I was emitted into the hospital, the doctor recommended me to be an out-patient at the mental health facility at their hospital for a week. I didn't want to do it at all, but my mom talked to me and convinced me that it would be very helpful and it was! I discovered so many new things about myself and that's even where I first learned about depersonalization because there was kid named Tyler who was in my therapy group who had this problem. Even just meeting the other people there and sharing what was wrong with them was good to hear because I could relate to a lot of them. If I hadn't had gone, I would probably be doing a lot worse than I am now especially because the doctors there had prescribed me medication to help with my anxiety and depression that helps really well and they got me with my therapist that I go to now. There are always bad days but the number of those is gradually decreasing thanks to the people I have gotten help from. Even watching Dodie's videos is like really tiny therapy sessions.
0 likesi never leave youtube comments but i remember watching your video in summer, realising i had the same thing (well, derealisation) and then crying for hours after watching it and looking it up because i could finally verbalise the weird state i'd been in for months - literally didn't know other people had it/it had a name. i was already in therapy & knew it was something other than just anxiety but couldn't put it into words and i just wanted u to know i was so grateful for that vid because i was so scared & confused before it
0 likesYou two really talk a lot of sense! I like the change from 'I Need therapy' to 'maybe this could help me'. I know that when I was going through depression, it took me a long time to call it what it was - and lowering the bar, as such, for who could benefit from that kind of help, is one thing that could really help end this whole 'Am I depressed/anxious/etc. ENOUGH for it to count???' thing society's got going on, and encourage people to catch the signs earlier and get better sooner.
0 likesp.s. I'm better now. My depression was situational - since leaving Sixth Form, and gaining some distance (time-wise) from the events that led to depression, I'm pretty much back to normal.
p.p.s. Dodie, your dress is goddamn beautiful.
I love my school counselor xD he's helped so much and enjoys talking to me. It has definitely helped a lot. Best part is it's free
0 likesI like having action plans, and what Tessa says about how her therapy helps.
0 likesEdit: I have the codependency too!
Dodie I really appreciated this, thank you
0 likesI recently started counceling at my school and I'm not used to it yet but it feels like it's a good place. it's good to pinpoint where bad feelings start.
0 likesI came out with something hard for me and telling my friends that.
0 likesI can get very violent when i am upset or having a mental breakdown and that has gone up by falling out with a lot of my friends and home issues
I've been in therapy for months now and it's such a weird feeling, because I always think "I'm too young for this." I'm only 15 years old, my life is good, nothing too bad has happened to me, I'm okay. But also I have to take deep breaths and remind myself that my perception of "okay" is why everyone else decided I needed counseling.
0 likesyour camera and lighting makes everything feel so warm and lovely
1 likeI have had different kinds of therapy on and off since I was 14 and I have never found them to help, however when I was in hospital last year the mental health nurses were fantastic and I found them very easy to talk to and got very comfortable around them even though the therapist I had while there is didn't like and couldn't speak to easily. I think the reason behind this is because the nurses where much younger than any of the therapists I have had and some where student nurses and they took care of me everyday for a few months whereas the therapist only spoke to me twice weekly so I didn't get to bond with them very much.
0 likesthis video really helped a lot and I'm considering going to therapy
0 likestessa is wearing a nice shade of 'also not dodie yellow'
12 likesI had my first therapy appointment when I was fourteen, and I was soooo guilty going in it. Now let me explain: I was going thro alot at that time but I had friends who have tried killing themselves, had abusive parents, drug use. My problems seemed so insignificant to theirs, so i felt like i wasnt "worthy." But I realized that your problems, sadness, and depressed isnt weighed by pounds but by how heavy your heart it. Dont invalidate your problems. Well theres my little inspiration comment, that no one is gonna read oh well lol.
0 likesI am so glad that you've posted this so recently because I am in the process of getting a therapist myself and am also scared that it might not help or will make things worse, but then again that's the anxiety talking. It's mainly the fear that I have lived so long with anxiety by myself or just simply sharing with people who can't really relate like my mum or my boyfriend, that I cannot imagine living without it. Its like, mental illness is a trap that just grabs hold of you and makes you feel like you need it. It makes you scared that fixing it means...losing it. Then I'm scared again that I won't fix it. Anxiety is literally a vicious cycle of just repetitive overthinking that just leads you into a downward spiral of just fear and terror. So, again I am so happy that you have posted this because it was around the time that you did that I finally asked my mum about therapy and she was really supportive and it was really great. She went straight to the computer and helped me find someone in our area right away. Thanks for posting stuff about this. It makes me feel normal and understood.
0 likesI used to watch Tessa's youtube channel all the time years ago when she was called Meekakitty and seeing her with you (my new favorite youtuber) makes me feel so happy because i had no idea you two were friends
0 likesI love your Doddleoddle videos but doddlevloggle videos are so intimate and nice and sweet and beautiful. I feel like I'm sitting down with a cup of tea and just being able to listen without having to talk. Honestly, thank you.
0 likesBut is Tessa's sweater #dodieyellow tho
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4 likesGutentag nope, la la land yellow
3 likesI literally did that with my mum, I went home and I just went "so, my friend is getting counselling, what do you think about that? I think I want to go to the doctors" and although she didn't really get why (tbh I didn't really explain why that well because going into the fact that I dont want to live is not something I feel comfortable sharing with my mum) she was kind of okay with it. Though she is still of the view that you should just stick with life and deal with it, you know? But nonetheless, she has mostly supported me so far. And I have a referral for an assessment and possibly a diagnosis with the youth mental health team soon, so whatever comes of that I'll probably need to start being more open with her...
0 likesI keep filling out forms to sign up for therapy and planning to go to my gp about getting help for my little brain and then not doing so, I think it's because at the time I feel 'fine' and so just say I'll wait until my next breakdown lols. This video has encouraged me to look into it again thx lads x
0 likesgetting counseling has been a really scary thing i've wanted to do for a couple years now so i finally went through with mentioning it to my mom a week ago and i've never been prouder of myself??
0 likesSuch a good vid, ladies! I will seek therapy now
0 likesTHE ICONIC DUO
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1 likeI went to my regular health doctor for something physical I thought was wrong with me and all he said was "I don't think you have that issue but you're sitting in my office crying so here's the contact information for a local therapist" and I went to the place and anonymously filled out a questionnaire that asked how different symptoms resonate with you. I was brought back to an office and told they didn't accept my my insurance 🙃 that woman gave me some information for some therapists that were much farther away then I was willing to travel andddd I never ended up going to any. Idk, I'm in a much better mental state now then i was back then but i still wish I had had some sessions
1 likeI’m starting therapy the 5th of August, which is exactly 1 year since the day I realized I had depression. WOW. I’m nervous as hell but videos like this make me feel hopeful and excited about new opportunities. 💛
0 likesThe more I watch of these, the more I think I struggle with depersonalisation
0 likesMy mom actually is the one who wanted me to see a therapist, and I thank her everyday for that
0 likesSometimes you just can't figure out your own problems
7 likesI went to counseling in 1st grade because my mom and my teacher thought I was lonely. I wasn't, I just liked to draw alone sat recess. I just told the therapist all about Barbie movies, we played with dolls, and then she gave me stickers. Good times!
0 likesI'm about to find therapy, so thanks for this video :)
0 likesThis video gave me such a push to try my school counselling I know it will help me put it was hard to tell school I wanted to go school counselling is something I can keep in school and my parents don't have to worry about and I'm so scared about it but it will help me so I'm kinda excited about it
0 likesI used to go to dog therapy for a year.. it's just as amazing as it sounds.
0 likesi love this i love this i love this
9 likesTrying to muster up the courage to tell my parents I want to talk to a therapist. I don't think they'll be upset or say no, but it's just been really hard for me to go about it. I appreciate this video a lot.
0 likesI had counseling when my parents got divorced. I went to my first counseling session when I was 8. My second one was in year 5 about positivity and confidence ( I still have no confidence). My last counseling session was 2 years ago with point one. I'm still in a lot of pain though it cuz my family hates each other and I'm the only one in the middle of it.
0 likesI just had my first therapy appointment last thursday, and all the things you guys talked about I could relate to. I needed this video right now more than ever.
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Same, I used to be in therapy, then I quit but I have an appointment on Monday
0 likesSo this video was great ❤️
0 likesI love listening to you two chatting because you always have such great thoughts and nuggets of wisdom. This was really interesting, because while I don't think I'll ever go to therapy (at least not until I'm out of school), it seems like something that could be really eye opening! Also, I sort of feel what Tessa was saying about feeling like other people are more in need of help. I'm a very anxious person, but don't see my anxiety as serious enough to do anything about, which is something I'm sure many people feel.
0 likesAnyway, great video! I'm really enjoying vedif from both of you :)
This is SO important. Wow.
7 likesMy first therapy session was the most awkward thing
0 likesI was on the verge of tears the entire time
, i love you and your music to an unhealthy point, every single song, and video you have made has impacted me in the best way anything ever has, every rough patch i go through your the light at the end of the tunnel helping me get through it, i think its amazing how much you have grown as a person and artist so from the bottom of my heart i want to say thank you for being there when nobody else has.I truly mean every word so really, thank you. <3
0 likesThis was a really nice video. I had counseling in high school, but that was the last time I had it. The biggest issue is affording it of course. I know there are ways around it, but they're not easy to find and not always what you want. I never considered group counseling before, though. I'd be a bit scared to try it. Talking to one person who's paid to help me through my junk is one thing, but having to talk about it with a bunch of strangers seems unsettling even if they share some of my issues. I don't know. I'll have to see what I can do.
0 likesIt's good that you can both talk about counselling so easily, it will really help a lot of people who are thinking about it :) I had counselling at university and it was one of the best decisions I've ever made.
0 likesi have always refused to go to therapy but my girlfriend goes and she said she thinks i should give it a chance
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earthgem Hey, just know that you never have to feel trapped or obligated. You can try it out and leave anytime you want if you feel uncomfortable, but like they said in the video, the first session will always be a little more awkward than the rest. Never be afraid to try it though :) It's like a fun little class where you get to learn about yourself every week or so :) maybe abouts your girlfriend to go with you if you'd be more comfortable!
7 likesTherapy is totally terrifying before you go. I know that first hand. And maybe you're right and it isn't for you. But if you're at all curious, give it a shot! You don't have anything to lose for trying, and then you will have given it a chance for your girlfriend. All in all, though, whatever your comfortable with. <3
4 likesI've suffered from depression since I was 18 (now 22). I'm trying to recover and I'm feeling better lately. I'm trying not to think too much, trying to eat well and going out more. baby steps but this time I am determined to get better and feel happy with myself. btw Dodie looks so pretty 😍 😊
0 likesThe listening thing is called "Active listening" and is frequently used in therapy, but can be applied to make just about anyone that is talking feel appreciated, I'd recommend everyone try it in their daily life!
0 likesI went to therapy at a pretty young age (7) because I was afraid to go anywhere and I then found out that I had social anxiety. I was so scared to go that I just cried the first day and the only way to get me to talk was to play games. But it honestly helped me so much even though I wasn't exactly sure what I was doing 👌🏼
0 likesAaah thank youuuu therapy is just as important for teens and 20 year olds as regular doctors
0 likes'everyone needs therapy'
13 likeshonestly me at school
i myself have been in counseling for a very long time, and one thing that some people don't realize about counseling is that it isn't an immediate fix. this kind of thing takes time and work, and it won't feel good a lot of the time. it gets better, but it takes time.
0 likesthis made me realise that i do need therapy to be able to help handle my emotions and such. i have been putting it off for a awhile because I thought i was ok mentally and just either blamed it on my hormones or that "it's just you're procratination doing it's thing" but really it's just me not being able to handle my emotions and also my lack of motivation for some reason. now i have to find a way to tell that to my parents lol
0 likesI cried so much and talked non stop at my first session with my second therapist because it's the first time I've told someone everything. I felt so good and I felt so validated in my feelings. my trauma from childhood issues have recently been manifesting themselves as a result of stress. yay so fun.
0 likesI'm hoping to get back into counselling soon through my university. I'm trying to be positive but it's never worked in the past so I'm sceptical. I know I need to do this to get to where I want to be though.
0 likes6:20 When Dodie said "the doctor" I kept thinking "THE Doctor" HAHA
3 likesI've been going to a psychologist for about 2 years and I cannot recommend them enough. They might not be helping you with mental health, but they can just be a person to talk to about anything. Their job is to be an unbiased person to help you rather than a friend or family member with their own agenda.
0 likesI see my counselling working when I implement the strategies that she suggests without even realising I'm doing it. It really does helps me to get through the times of panic or lowness, as well as preventing them. I think everyone should talk to a counsellor no matter what your mind state is. It is going to get better. I promise x
I tried councelling at my sixth form (by reccomendation from a teacher and friends) and i really struggled speaking about my issues because i convinced myself i was just being silly and i have nothing to be sad about... this was encouraged by the councellor telling me i should stop because other students need councelling more than i do and im taking up appointment space... i havent gone to anyone else just yet but this video has helped me in realising just because one councellor was bad doesnt mean they all are and i shouldnt let myself believe im not "ill enough" to have therapy....
0 likesimagine if we thought we werent physically ill enough to see a doctor if we were coughing up blood... its a mindset i need to get out of and i think im almost out of the hole ive buried myself in!
Thankyou Dodie and Tessa 💛💛
Also remember that there is pretty much always a free helpline for things like depression and anxiety etc in whatever country you live in.
0 likesHi Dodie! I love everything you've ever done and not gonna lie I aspire to be like you ❤ you're so creative and beautiful and that's who I want to be. I especially love you're style and I was wondering if you'd be interested in doing a room tour? I would have suggested another look book but you did one recently but I'm still so obsessed with you're style I like to see more haha.
0 likesTessa is such a ravenclaw I love it
3 likesIn terms of the parent thing, I went to counselling through uni and kinda then just told my mum 'yeah I'm doing this, cool' and she was like 'oh.. ok cool glad you're being proactive' and she came to terms with it, and in terms of whether uni counselling is good, my first counsellor at my foundation uni was amaaaaaaaazing for me personally, but my counsellor at the uni i'm at now was a bit shit and like Dodie's she didn't talk back and I hated it, they will only like you like 6 sessions usually through uni but then you can say at the last one hey can you recommend me anywhere to go for a more permanent thing and they should be able to give you that stuff which is awesome so 100% recommend trying it out, and don't give up if the first one's a bit shitty for you, either stick it out til the end of the run while you look for another just to see if it gets better or quit straight up and go somewhere else. It totally depends on the person and you will find someone who understands. Besides that, y'all stay strong now <3
0 likesI liked this video a lot ^-^!!! a few years ago, when I was in middle school, I was kind of alone and sad and had nightmares alot, so I decided to go to a child's therapist. it was nice, I got to do crafts and cry and talk about myself, but still the same time she never talked to me. she never told me how to fix my problems, which I guess is what I was looking for all along. I don't feel as depressed any more, so I don't think I ever need to go back, but at the same time I wish that I had found therapist that I felt helped me.
0 likesmy mother was the one that wanted me to go to therapy. and I tried one and didn't like her but the next one was amazing and I am so happy that I went!
0 likesmind is a very good mental heath charity they helped me finding ways to get thorough things and helped with talking to gp and counsellors a couple years back so when I did ncs our group raised money for them and managed to raise £400. its such a good charity and so helpful
0 likesI've been going to therapy for a month now, but it's not helping?? In fact, I feel worse...I'm just going to quit. After listening to you guys, I think I need a different counselor.
4 likesI've had two different therapists in the past 2 to 3 years. The first time my mum signed me up, the second time my head of year signed me up because I wanted to move schools but he suggested to stay and think on it a little more and signed me up for therapy at the same time. My first therapist tended to talk a lot and I didn't do much talking to her, she just elaborated on situations she's heard of before. My second therapist made me enjoy it a little more. I still dread the thought of walking into a counsellor's room but once I was there with her she made me feel invited and let me talk and explain (and cry).
0 likesI think everyone needs a little therapy in their lives at some point, no matter your situation. Everyone has problems and feelings they need/want to vent to someone. Yes, your pets are handy if you don't want a response but speaking to another human feels more real and like it's really getting things off of your chest.
Anyway lovely video dodie and I love watching your content,
To the question "How do I tell my parents.."
0 likesI wanted counseling for a while when I was in college (university) and my parents had a hard time understanding why. I found that calling/texting them whenever you are feeling off/down. It shows that you are reaching out to them for help, as well as showing them how often you are not feeling like yourself
Also I told them "sometimes it's nice to get advice from an outside, nonbiased source." That made more sense to them than the idea of going to counseling (even though.. that's what counseling is)
My university had counseling services for a very low cost (some even offer it for free, depending on which school you are at). My university also had cheaper options where you could go to counseling with a someone who had their Master's degree and is currently working on a doctorate. You get counseling, they get practice, and some sessions are recorded so that your counselor can get critiqued by their professors!
i'm doing CBT right now and
0 likesit's so interesting
just the body and the mind
it's interesting
and i found out a few things
but i completely agree
it all isn't sorted in one therapy session maybe even 4 therapy sessions but
it will be okay and interesting tbqh
i like learning
I seriously love the way you explained things about therapy in this video Tessa! Literally the things you said in these 9 minutes were better than anything any of the therapists have said that I've seen. I've never found therapy helpful and the few I've seen literally just talk about how their day is and ask how my day is and it is such a huge waste of time and money. I've yet to find a "therapist" who has actually helped in any way in my life. (I'm "required" to see a counselor/therapist to try to cope with fighting multiple chronic and terminal illnesses and the reason I became depressed was because of so much abuse from hospitals and surgeons and losing friends etc. And to me therapy will never help because they can't cure me of these illnesses be talking to me. I only see therapy helping when there's not a huge physical mountain and only a mental mountain. I'm in no way trying to downplay people with great lives who are depressed because it totally sucks and it hurts so much but with therapy they can help with little things like the "not checking" like Doddie said. Where for people like me they're just kinda like "look for the rainbow that's a million miles away instead of focusing on the million miles of hurricane." Idk that's the best way I can describe it.... but I adore you girls and I love love love how you're open about mental illness and not pretend like everything is sparkles and smiles. The world has put such a huge negative connotation on mental illnesses and hopefully soon that won't be the case with more advocates like yourselves ❤️❤️❤️
0 likesyou guys a so adorable together
4 likesI was nodding the entire time, it's so hard for me to look for professional help, because as Tessa said, I feel like my problems are not worth it. Also I had have this problem (which I don't want to call depression because it's not diagnosed) for so long that I'm kinda feel like it's part of me and I'm scared to losing it
0 likesi needed this so much. going to attempt to ask my mom to schedule something. thank you. so much.
0 likesIt's so funny to hear you guys talk about your counselling, since I've been in cognitive behavioural therapy for.... Four or five years at this point? To deal with my anxiety and depression and ADHD (yay), although I had been in it before when I was 14. And like... My homework was always about like... Checking in with myself and making sure that I could manage and stuff, which I was terrible about the first few years, and I actually had a huge break through last week where I didn't push myself to a panic attack to realize I couldn't manage that day, for the first time! Honestly, maybe I sound brain washed, but therapy has honestly made me a functioning good human being. I honestly believe that if I hadn't been in therapy, I would have ended up back in the emergency room again, because the first meds I was on I don't think worked, and I have clawed my way back. I was an honour roll student in my last year of high school, I had a job, I danced, I played piano, I went back to having a mostly normal life (even if there are bumps now and again)
0 likesThe last thing I'd say is that if cost is really concerning you and you're in uni or smth, you can go to the chaplain. I had a big health thing with my dad this year and I've been on and off rotating with seeing my psychologist and the chaplain and its honestly been so helpful because it just is... Talking. And crying, lots of crying, but talking. And talking is helpful (also fun fact therapy is better than just medication for helping avoid relapses of depression. Meds alone has a 70% relapse rate, CBT has a 40%, and meds and CBT together has a 30%. Therapy works!)
dodie i want to thank u for inspiring me to go back to therapy. for a while i thought i didnt need it or was better than therapy but u helped me realize that im not better than therapy and its okay to be in therapy so thank u bec im doing so much better than i was before!
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OlanRogers it makes me happy that you guys watch each other's videos
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0 likesI've tried to reach out to my dad to get counseling for two years now, and everytime I bring it up, he just says he has the same issues as well and then leaves. What should I do?
0 likesWhen it comes to parents it's important that you talk to someone totally impartial so you are not unconsciously vetting what you say etc. It's a good way to broach the subject. It takes that failing part out because it shows that it's not due to them or anyone close to you
0 likesI've had mixed experiences with counselling/therapy. Initially, I was fast tracked into CAMHS (NHS counselling for under 18s) because I was 'high risk' and they offered CBT, the one that often helps people with depression. Now, this is just my experience but I REALLY DID NOT GET ON WITH CBT. Perhaps it was just the way the counsellor did it, but I found it very very frustrating and ultimately just made me feel like I was doing something wrong. Since then I've not had any specific therapy but have just had regular chatty sessions with my psychiatrist who is also in charge of my meds. I also have a good relationship with a teacher in school and he is always very welcoming and willing to listen. In fact, it was he who I went to in the first place when I first became depressed, and he gave me a more positive perspective on counselling/therapy than I previously had. (little 15yo me had only seen examples in tv and movies of 'crazy' people needing therapy, not 'normal' people like me.) The way he put it was that I might benefit from someone who would listen, but who was a fresh slate as it were, with no previous misconceptions about me. When I heard it put like this, it seemed much more approachable, and it's something I like to explain to other people when they're hesitant about starting therapy: somehow, it feels nice telling all your troubles to a stranger. I'm starting a new therapy, IPT, soon, so let's hope that does more than the last one. I really hope your counselling goes well Dodie xxx
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Woops that was long, ah well ^_^
0 likesAfter 12 years of mental health issues i have finally gained the confidence to book a therapy session. I have always been to afraid to go to therapy incase it opened a door i couldn't shut ever again. This video is so helpful to so many people. Its the reason i booked that appointment, so thank you.
0 likesmy therapist tells me that my feelings are "just because im a growing teenager" so ya kno its great
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Julia Haney try switching therapists!
0 likesAs a person who's currently getting my masters in counseling, here's some tips on how to find the right counselor for you:
2 likes1. Look into counseling theories/styles. There's several different kinds, but these often will tell you what kind of counselor they are. For example, a psychotherapist works under the belief that your thoughts mean something deep about you, so if you struggle with anxious thoughts/OCD, they wont be good for you. Or if you're very religious, an existential therapist wont work for you because they don't believe in an afterlife. So look into the different counseling styles and try to find the one(s) you like the best.
2. Decide what kind of energy you're looking for. Do you want someone who is very energetic, like a best friend or sibling? Do you want someone who is much older than you and has a "wise old man"/expert vibe? Do you want someone who's very maternal/paternal? Do you want someone who is very quiet, or someone who is very talkative? Would you prefer someone male/female/other? You might not be able to get a read on this vibe unless you go into session with them, but its important that you feel comfortable in session, and so if something feels off maybe the vibe is wrong.
3. Look for a counselor who specializes in your specific issue or demographic. This isn't always possible, but there are centers who specialize in anxiety/depression, or certain demographics like students or LGBTQ+. So it might be beneficial to look into that as well.
I have therapy from the NHS. Trust me, it's worth the year long wait. I've only gone 3 times so far, but I already feel better. I say give it a shot
1 likeI told my mom today that I wanted to try therapy, and she was nothing but supportive of my choice.
1 likeMy mum suffers from depersonalization, depression, and PTSD and honestly Dodie it is so nice to hear that you're going through similar things to her because no one ever talks about depersonalization. (She is also going to therapy! :D)
0 likesanyone know where i can get dodie's shirt? (or any of dodie's shirts/dresses because ohmygoodness, she has the best style.)
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Natalie Røberts check on BooHoo! :D
1 likeim kinda late replying but i think she got the shirt from a brand called lazy oafs ?
1 likeThat street art is from Maryland isn’t it in the middle of two other ones (one big colorful one and one small)
0 likesI went to counselling when I was in 6th form. I went to see our school nurse, after a particularly bad night/day (she was effectively the school counsellor as well) and she asked if she could make me an appointment with the local NHS counsellor. I went at lunch times or during my free periods. I told my tutor, although I did this on a confidential basis, but never told my parents. I was asked/recommended antidepressants but was terrified my parents would find out if I started taking them. I can not stress enough how good that counselling was for me, how much it got me through and how much better I knew myself after going. It felt horrid not telling my parents, and when I recently started going again I told them everything and it definitely felt a lot better - but I wouldn't change anything. It saved my life, as dramatic as that sounds. Please, if you need help and can see anyone confidentially (school counsellor, nurse, teacher - anyone), do.
0 likesI've dealt with severe anxiety, depression, OCD and PTSD for 5 years. It took me about 2 years until I agreed to go to counseling. I have never been a person who found it easy to open up or talk about my feelings. I have been on medication to help but never had good experiences. Most of this journey I've tried to do everything naturally. I've been in counseling for 3 years now and I've started to notice a difference! I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Another affirming part is so many of my friends and family have noticed and tell me "I look so healthy" proof in the pudding mental illnesses are real illnesses. If you're questioning it I really hope you give it a try ❤️
0 likesI'm new to your channel and I'm loving it ❤
0 likesi'm going through anxiety and a type of depression and i feel as if i should go to a therapist but ya know...anxiety. i'm too scared to tell anyone so any advice??
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e m i l y r a m o s honestly have the same problem, talking to a close friend/sibling is always my go to but you know, feeling like a burden and stuff... maybe you could try some online chat lines? I've never tried anything like that, but at least you can talk to a stranger and not feel too uncomfortable :)
2 likesitsanni thank you so much!! i can definitely try this out and i hope for the best with your problem :)
1 likei've been out of therapy for a couple months now ... you still have bad days or even weeks and i don't think you ever become "cured" or whatever, but as dodie said, you learn a lot about yourself and how you and your brain works, and i think that's very important...
0 likespersonally with counselling my parents were really supportive of the idea because they don't know a lot about mental health so it was a big help for them knowing that I could get the help that I needed, even if it wasn't from them.
0 likesTessa and dodie, I want to thank you both. I found this video a while ago and cried after watching it. Fast forward to three hours earlier, this was the last video I watched again before going to my dad and asking for help. It almost feels like a dream how simple it was: telling him I’m suffering and asking for help. Tomorrow is my first session with my therapist, ahhhhhh!!! Lots of love to you ladies xxxx
0 likesI went to a therapy session once. they said I was fine and don't need therapy and don't have depression. who knows, maybe I don't have or ever had depression, because to be entirely honest I was kind of romanticizing depression at the time... but the point is, I don't think they should have turned me down... it would have been nice to talk... well I guess I'm in a better place now anyway without any therapy
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Dil and t bags and your grand parents (but Tessa and dodie are iconic too)
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0 likesdodie , in all of the youtubers that i have watched , your community is the BEST that i have seen . All the comments to your videos are positive and supportive . I honestly feel like we are all just a big group of friends hanging out and chilling whenever you upload lmao
1 likehi, I wanted to specify one thing, as someone who's aspiration is being a therapist: it's not unethical for a therapist to give you a ready advice. It is unethical to indoctrinate or manipulate you into doing something. The advice thing depends on a psychological trend your therapist is supporting, SO, if you're looking for someone who will not give any advice nor share any of their own experience with you (which is commonly seen as the most effective way of therapy) seek someone with psychodynamic perspective. If you want a relationship that is a little bit more similar to partnership or even friendship - you'll want to go to a behaviorist.
0 likesI've gone to a few different therapists and I've sadly never had a good experience. Theres things i feel like i cant tell them because i dont want them telling my mum (for example, that i'm trans, which gives me a lot of anxiety trying to hide it)
0 likeswell literally four days ago my psychologist said that I've been through enough of pills so I'm done with antidepressants but I already feel so depressed... maybe that's just a contract and it'll pass but other pills I started taking after finishing one therapy kinda already make me feel miserable and really aggressive to everyone. an hour ago I bought two nicest african snails to calm myself down and start a new path and they're so cute! they're hermaphroditic so I need to give them an agender names. can someone help me? <3
0 likesDodie's shirt reminds me of inside out.
7 likesThe reason I love vedif and Vedic and all is because if I'm having a bad day I just watch your video and they instantly make me smile and feel happier xx thank you
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Vedim *******
0 likesafter moving away from my home town I needed to look for a new therapist and even though I definatly was not good I was like "naaa its fine...I can handle this on my own"
0 likesbut then I finally got my ass up to look for someone and even though my now therapist wasn't my first choice, she was the only one who had free appointments this year so...yeah
I've been going to therapy for the past year or so because I'm someone that often asks to much of herself and is really struggling to keep up with college and expectations. And although I know from experience it's not true, therapy always has this stigma around it like: 'oh, if you go to therapy there must be something broken about you'. And that is not the case. It can simply be a thing you do to to get another perspective on the things you think and feel, and to stop the horrible snowball effect that happens in your brain.
0 likesI loved this video because it brought some normalcy to the concept of going to therapy. Because sometimes you start to wonder if the general idea about therapy is really true, and if that means you are indeed broken. So it's nice to be reassured that that's not the case.
WHERE DID DODIE GET THIS DRESS
5 likesI want to go to group therapy cuz it always seems easier talking to more than one person who relates to you at once
0 likesI know that counseling is working for me because I'm so much better at figuring out how to deal with issues on my own. I also have noticed that I'm better at supporting my friends through issues they're encountering. Counseling has honestly been one of the best things I've done for myself.
0 likesGoing to a therapist has been the best decision I've ever made
1 likeI went to therapy my first year of college and my therapist told me that what I was feeling was completely normal and I shouldn't feel like I'm broken. That was the soundest thing I had heard in awhile. I haven't gone to therapy in a little over two years, but I would like to go back. I learned a lot about myself and it was a great space to be when I didn't feel comfortable talking to family members. I hope the stigma that "if you're going to therapy you must be crazy" ends.
0 likesMy parents were the ones that encourage me to go and search for therapy and I still haven't done it because I'm scared and it's hard for me to speak in person with someone
0 likesJust wanted to say thanks Dodie! Because you and a few others have been talking about counselling recently, I've decided to book my first appointment which is such a big deal for me progress wise. You've made it all less scary for me and feel like I might finally be able to work through my stuff without feeling any shame about it. This is the first time i've really taken control and I'd like to thank you for giving me that extra nudge in the right direction!
0 likesI have seen four counselors over three years and though I have learned a lot I haven't felt much emotional relief from it.
0 likesWhen I was in year 9 I was sent to my school counsellor for pretty serioius reasons and she straight up told me I was just having a bad week and there were other people who needed the sessions more than I did and they've never checked up on me after that. I'm leaving school in May (thank god) and it's taken me ever since I was 14 to feel okay about counselling, but theres also a website called Kooth that I recommend for young people (I'm not sure if its available outside of the UK, but theyre really good in my opinion)
0 likesDODIE (or anyone else who knows) I NEED TO KNOW WHERE THAT DRESS IS FROM IT IS AMAZING
3 likestherapy helps you see how you think and usually (when you need it) how you think in wrong schemes, that eventually hurt you. also its not someone that is in your daily life so you get like 1h of stepping out of your life and looking at it from the outside with someone that only wants you to get better.
0 likesalso it takes time, it takes even more time to realise you made progress. don't go in with expectations.
also if that doesn't work don't give up, there are various types of therapies and even more therapists, you need someone you trust, really trust
I had a breakdown a few months ago and was taken away from school for a bit, and my mum suggested I went for counselling and honestly I've never felt better
0 likesTo all the young ppl here: therapy is great! But just because you’re sad doesn’t mean u have depression
0 likesI've been having trouble with depression and anxiety and stuff for like 11 years, and I really need to try therapy. I went to one once, but it was more targeted towards children and my mom was in the room... so it was awful and I never wanted to go back. But now that I'm older, I know I really need some kind of help and find something that works.
0 likesDODIE HELLO I LOVE YOU
5 likesI'm pretty sure I have OCD and I have been questioning it for two years.I've told my mom and she told me that it was fine and that I didn't need therapy but now it's been two years and it's just keep going.I'm going to be 15 and I've told my mom again because her advices seemed to work for a while but after two months (maybe?) everything came back so I wanted to tell her again and she told me that I wanted to feel pitied and that I didn't need therapy.WHAT IS THE POINT IN FAKING TO HAVE OCD I LITERALLY AM ASHAMED OF IT AND JUST WANT TO GET RID OF WHATEVER THIS IS.
0 likesI had my first therapy session a little over a week ago. Was absolutely terrified, but it went really well, and I realized I just needed to talk about a lot of things. I don't have 'big problems', but after experiencing a high-stress relationship among other things, dealing with life was a bit harder. Fortunately my college has a free counseling deal with the hospital across the street. If you also go to college that's something to look into!
0 likesI work in a psych office and it was really an eye opener to see all the people coming thru our office that have problems just like me. Makes me feel a lot less alone.
0 likesteSSA YOURE SO WISE WHAT THE HELL
4 likesafter watching this I realised that I have to go to therapy, it wasn't even fully for me it's for my 3 month old to know it's not normal to act how I do sometimes. So I went to my doctor today and she was lovely and has gave me the name of someone to go to to talk to and it was terrifying but I'm so glad I did it. so basically, thank you
0 likeswhen i asked my dad for meds i was so terrified i put it off for so long because i didn't want to have to take them then i told my dad and i was sure he was going to say it's a waste of time but he was seriously so understanding and he even took them too for a time so he was all about getting me what i wanted to try to feel better. don't underestimate your parents folks.
0 likesSee I went through exposure therapy for my GAD about six years ago and it has damaged me and my anxiety since then- SO JUST PROOF THAT YOU GOTTA TRY OUT DIFFERENT OPTIONS BEFORE YOU FIND A GOOD FIT because now I love my therapist and it's a match made in heaven (six years later)
0 likesWhere did you get your dress because I am in loveeee
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skyport13 i think it's by the brand Lazy Oaf
1 likeLaura sweet thanks
0 likesHonestly, I'd love to try therapy and counseling but my parents always say that I just need to "pray more". And also, I've heard from many credible friends who suffer from mental illnesses that the guidance counselor is better at college counseling than actual counseling. Ugh.
0 likesWhen I was 7, my parents got divorced, and thus I went to my first counseling session. I got out of school once a week for a couple of hours, but she didn't really talk to me. She just let me play with all of the toys in her room until I left. A few years go by, and we move states, causing me to got to a new counselor. He was too pushy for me, always too eager or too straight forward, and always too quick to say "Let's bring your parents in here to talk about this." Then, a couple more years happen, and we move towns this time, and my third and final counselor is visited. She was basically perfect for me, and my parents assumed that since I had said she was so great after a few weeks that I didn't need it anymore. I might ask to go see her again soon, because I could use some outside advice for highschool.
0 likesEverybody's talking about how they want to go to therapy... I want to be a therapist.
0 likesJust the idea of helping people feel better about themselves seems so appealing to me, even though it will probably be ridiculously difficult, it is kind of my dream.
last year I had a breakdown so my parents were like "okay we're taking you to therapy" and i was happy with that because i have always wanted to go and talk about how i feel and that, so they eventually made me an appointment with a therapist and after the first session they were like "okay you know what? therapist are just people you talk to so if you have a problem, talk to us" and I was like "so I'm not going anymore?" and they told me "you went, you talked with her, you must feeling a lot better and if you have a problem you can tell us" like wtf??? my breakdown started because my parents never pay attention to me and always critizise me so i don't trust them(ofc) and after all that they even tell me to trust them??? they crearly don't understand because like a week later of them telling me this, they went back to criticizing me and just telling me that I'm an attention seeker.Also they told me "we are doing our best, it's all your fault, you're depressed because YOU WANT to be depressed,,, you're not helping" do they think that if I could stop being deppressed I wouldn't stop it already??? being depressed is horrible
0 likesI wish they could understand how being depressed is, they think just because im smiling at them I'm completely happy but I'm not, and the therapist told them that but apparently they don't care because they don't believe I'm depressed enough to go to a therapist again.well shit,,, that's my story((sorry for the broken english))
Was this upload planned with Shawna or is this a crazy coincidence? :)
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it wasn't!!!! I'm going to watch her video now!
25 likesdoddlevloggle hi dodieeeeee
0 likesomg my mom recommended the book women who love too much to me as well after I went through a shitty breakup and still liked the guy and it was messy but I haven't read it yet. I want to now tho. you guys are lovely
0 likesMy therapist lets me play music during sessions and she’s in love with Dodie, she asks me if I can play more of her stuff every time
0 likesI really would love to get therapy for my insane anxiety and depression but I'm really afraid of what people will think ...
0 likesI found the right therapist in the third try. I'm glad I didn't give up! She's great.
0 likeswhere did you get your dress??? its so cute!
5 likesExcellent to see you both talk so candidly. Seeing a counsellor many years ago was life saving for me. I highly recommend everyone give it a go. And as you both said, you may need to see a few different ones to find someone you like. Same for me. Great video xxx
0 likesI love these, it just feels like were just pally pal pals havin a chat about things and stuff
0 likesDodie's VEDIF: Sponsored by the NHS. <3
1 likeBut really, I'm enjoying these videos so much, please never stop.
watching these videos dont make me feel as lonely as i do now
0 likeslol i think my parents would just laugh at me
3 likesmy school councillor really helps me I would recommend it so much it's amazing to get alot off your chest and learn about yourself
0 likesoh my goodness! my grandma wrote "women who love too much" the book tessa was talking about! :) <3
0 likesI love how Dodie keeps saying therapy and Tessa keeps saying counselling.
0 likesCould you and Tessa start a podcast. When you guys chat about things together, even on your own. I realize things. I realize that I need to talk to people and find friends like you guys❤️
0 likeswhy does tessa look like the arthur meme?
5 likesI had an odd occurrence where my counselor told me that she felt she couldn't do anything for me because there was nothing really wrong with me than a moderate depression.
0 likesOkay so this video made me cry
0 likesI was studying abroad alone for a few months and I was desperate and going insane so I thought it would be a good opportunity for therapy, once I could go by myself and didn't have to tell my parents (not an option). It was very good at the beginning because I had no one to talk to and it was good to finally let things out. But all I could do was cry during every session and I couldn't express myself right. Words just wouldn't go out in the right way. And my therapist wasn't understanding things the way I wanted him to and I was just so tired of trying and I just wanted to be fixed but it wasn't working. I started getting paranoid about therapy and about my therapist because he knew so much about me and I was alone and I couldn't tell anyone, I couldn't ask for help, because I didn't want people to know about me and therapy, I didn't have any strength left to explain why I needed it.
It was so bad I was having anxiety about going to therapy and my mind was worse than before, so I decided to quit. And I thought it just wasn't for me. Maybe I'm too far gone, maybe I can't be fixed.
And then this video came, and maybe I can be fixed, but I can't ask for help, I can't go counseling again because I'm not abroad anymore. My school doesn't have counseling. I could never tell my parents. My friends wouldn't understand. Online is not enough, there's just too much shit inside me.
I don't know what to do.
Thank you if you read till this point, I just needed to unload my head a bit. I'll manage it eventually, I hope
When you transmit only positivity and expect nothing in return you will be amazed by how your life develops. Expectation is why we need therapists.
0 likesI'm just starting therapy this week as I was just diagnosed with depression recently. I'm partly nervous but excited too
0 likesYeah, I want to go to conseling for my depression/anxiety/self harm/suicidal thoughts but I don't want to tell my parents and we don't have enough money to really pay for it so I would have to pay myself. But I still wanna go idk just thought I would comment, sorry
6 likes3:15 ...i didnt really know that- definetly makes me look at the possibility of finding help in therapy. my life is too weird to share with someone i thought was going to just 'correct' my lifestyle. thankyou, great vlog
0 likesi cried at least five times while watching this. the first was when i realized i need therapy. the second was that i have to actually get out of my comfort zone to find someone right for me. third, I'm so scared that i'm not going to get better. fourth, i have to save up for uni and i can't afford counseling. fifth, i want to better myself (i need to!) and i know therapy will help but i'm scared. i'm so scared.
0 likesthis was such an interesting but hard video for me to watch cos lately i've been thinking a lot about my mental health issues and whether or not i want/need/should get therapy. ive been to a few counsellors and have had experiences ranging from "meh" to "this was Very Bad™" but never anything even slightly good and. wow. this was heavy. good vid but very heavy re: my current headspace lol
0 likesa note on costs tho!!! if ur having a hard time affording things u can sometimes get counselling at a discount if ur dealing with like a key interest of the person u wanna go see!! like. if ur lgbtq and ur counsellor specializes in mental health in lgbtq youth they'll sometimes give u cheaper rates/negotiate rates with u cos u fit their target demographic if that makes sense (the doctor i see for my hrt told me this so!! not just the word of ur local 19 year old nobody lol)
THIS IS SO GOOD I LOVE THIS
0 likesDODIE, MAKE A VIDEO ABOUT SONGWRITING!!!!!!
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WHEN DID YOUSTART WRITING?
8 likesHOW MANY HAVE YOU WRITTEN SO FAR?
HOW DO YOU WRITE USING INSTRUMENTS?
YOUR WRITING PROCESS?
DOES BEING A YOUTUBER MAKE PEOPLE IN THE MUSIC INDUSTRY NOT VALUE YOU AS MUCH AS THEY WOULD OTHER PEOPLE?
Gregory Jackson SAW YOU ON TESSAAAs VId
11 likesooh, also whats your philosophy for songwriting?
5 likesI SAW YOU ON TESSAS VIDEOOOOOOOoo oMG
4 likesI decide what I want it to be about and what instrument I want and then I'll like picture it in my head then try out it onto my guitar by trying different chords and stuff then slowly work lyrics into it
4 likesGregory Jackson omg PLEASE Dodie!!!!!!!!!!!!!
0 likesYou are on a mission to get all the songwriting tips
1 likeGregory Jackson No, make a SONG ABOUT SONGWRITING
39 likesWhy hello there, Onion.
8 likesJoanne The Scammer joanne's the real mvp
0 likesMega Margaux Yep :D
0 likesi think she answered the last question of yours im paraphrasing yes
1 likeGregory Jackson nice profile pic
0 likesPLS
0 likesMy first therapist actually talked a lot about her own issues. I think I knew more about her than she knew about me.
0 likesThen I had a really great therapist, but I started getting too anxious to go, even though I was there for anxiety. I just kind of stopped going and then started on some kind of OCD medication to combat the depression and anxiety
You two seem so cool to hang out with!
0 likesIt's so weird watching this video because I am in school to become a therapist/counselor, so hearing you guys talk about the techniques therapists/counselors do to help you (like the attentive body language and verbal cues) are all things I know work and am slowly learning how to do. It's just so friggin cool seeing that these techniques actually have helped out people! Thank you so much for this video!
0 likesEven though I have dealt with all of my issues to do with my identity i have to go to therapy because im transgender and my counsellor refuses to acknowledge any of my other issues even though my social anxiety is stopping me from getting another counsellor.
0 likesI had had therapy with a youth charity which was great but was limited to 6 weeks before CAMHS but I'm not allowed to go anywhere else at the same time as CAMHS so I am forced to deal with it all myself despite the fact that I NEED HELP
Where is Dodie's dress from omg please I neeed it
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3 likesSamee
Philseyelash also I love your name haha
3 likesgeorgiavstheworld i think it's by the brand Lazy Oaf
1 likeI think I'm going to be getting counselling/ therapy soon for my depression and I'm so worried in case they ask like "what do you think brought this on?" "What do you think might've triggered your depression?" And I have no idea. It makes me doubt myself that I actually have depression, despite going to a doctors and being diagnosed. It's like because I don't have anything that made me like this (that I can think of) it's less significant than people who have an actual reason. I know it's still important but I feel like I'm being stupid and I'm a spoiled brat who needs a slap from reality 😕
0 likesI thought I might need therapy as a teen but was so self-conscious about it, I did it on the super DL. Didn't tell my friends or siblings. My mom was kind of weird about it, too, underplaying the bad feelings I'd been feeling. Needless to say, that therapy didn't work. When I went back at age 19, I shouted from the rooftops "I need therapy!" cause I really really did. It was amazing how many people came out of the woodwork to say, "Oh, yea, I love my therapist" or "I went to a therapist for a while after my parents divorced and it was super helpful." The stigma against seeing a therapist is so ridiculous because it's never a bad idea and we all need one at some point (or many points) in our lives.
0 likesi waited 2 and a half years for a therapist and when i finally got one, she told me that i didnt need it even though i suffer greatly from social anxiety and depression.
0 likesI'm a secretary at a mental health facility, and studying to become a therapist or counselor. It's nice to see people opening up and breaking the stigma that being in therapy is normal and okay. I wish more people could see it's potential!
0 likes7 Cups of Tea!!!
12 likesYES, Mental health for the win!
0 likesI had about 6 months of counselling and I found that it was very good to just talk off my feeling but with being in school I feel like I can't say everything and majority of the time I didn't know how to explain what I was feeling, I know that what im feeling isn't good and I have suffered with this for so long but I just don't know how to get the words out. They stopped my counselling without telling me but I need it, I hate having to hide away all of my emotions.
0 likesI realised I wanted counselling about a year ago and went straight to the doctors, I can't afford to pay for therapy so I tried the college councillor and she was useless. an angry old woman who just made me feel worse about myself. and I have been on the nhs councelling waiting list for nearly a year now 😭
0 likesNice vlog! I would love to go to counseling ; but first i have to find some brilliant therapist.... They are so rare.
0 likesI stopped watching heavydirtysoul for the 300th time for this.
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2 likeshonestly, how can dodie think that she is not pretty, she's gorgeous on the inside and outside
1 likeSo I was kind of "forced" into therapy when I was 11/12 bc that was when my parents split up and I really did not like going to it. Every time I went I was very anxious and my whole body shook with anxiety of going in and talking to my therapist. I felt that I had nothing to talk about. I was just not really up to it. Also, when I was that young, there really wasn't anything wrong with me. But now, quite recently (starting in September), I got really depressed and sad and I didn't feel happy. Like, I would be with my friends and be happy but I never felt truly happy??? And with such a bad experience with therapy, I didn't/don't want to start it up again... but I feel as if I should have gone back to therapy in that period of time. I could've coped so much better. Idk how to get back into therapy with all this anxiety of what it was like built up inside me.
0 likesI tried to talk to my friends about any problems that I had and every time they would tell me that they weren't "real problems" and how their problems were so much worse and now I feel like a jerk whenever I feel depressed and that just makes it worse
0 likesNow I think I need counselling and I feel like going would just take up more time that I can't afford to waste but it's like I should almost probably definitely go.
0 likescould either, or both ;), of you do a video about small youtubers at some point during vedif? Because lord knows they don't get enough attention
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Just Another Artist that would be wonderful!!!!
0 likesI'm so against therapy for myself but I know I need it, I just prefer to lock in all my emotions until I explode lmao
0 likesi recently went to the counselor at college and she told me that my problems aren't important enough for therapy 😊 which is probably true but it hurts to hear nonetheless haha
0 likesMind is one of the best - underated charities out there - and it needs more funding
0 likesI love the idea of going to therapy but I can't really describe how I'm feeling in words. I feel that they won't take me seriously.
0 likespastel beauties xo
3 likesI had counselling sessions at school, and at my 3rd one I was having a good day, so they were like "oh how are you feeling" and I said "actually fab..." and he was like "great, I don't think I need to see you again"...
0 likesthis is such a important video. please try therapy if you need it 💕
1 likeFor real though. I've been going to therapy for about 8 months now. Was going through a lot. Got a degree in psychology so I just was self aware of it all but that wasn't helpful. But then more happened and was like huh, I guess it really is about that time huh? Lol. Therapy is very good and does help. I've been more productive with my life in the past half year than I have been literally ever. Haha.
0 likesUgh. They're both making videos this month. It's so wonderful 😭
1 likeI got turned down from therapy because I wasn't "bad enough"
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onedeadrOse // Try another one, maybe? I believe that if you feel you're in need of it, more times than not you are in need of it.
8 likesonedeadrOse // im sorry, that's got to be very traumatic
10 likesVarun Srivastava I'm trying everything I can atm, thank you for the advice I appreciate it ♡
1 likeamaya lobato at least I'm still here :') ♡
1 likeonedeadrOse // are you British?? If so it might be to do with the NHS being shit and only taking on really bad cases
8 likesI experienced that when I was 10, 4 years later and it's worse than ever and I'm finally getting the treatment that I feel is good for me. Please keep trying, don't let it develop xx
5 likesKatie Ahronson the NHS isn't shit, it's just underfunded. Which means sadly it's not always possible for them to see everyone.
16 likesKatie Ahronson yup, that's exactly what it was :( I've missed a month of school because no service will help me
0 likesShannon I'm sorry to hear that, glad you're doing better though. thank you ♡
0 likesIndia Kilbride yup
0 likesonedeadrOse // thank you :) just never doubt your own feelings, you know how you feel xx
1 likeYeah my school councillor won't see you unless you tell her you're harming yourself, I was but I only saw her for one session and I never got another because it was a "phase" so I never told her
1 likeThere are some brilliant organisations which will offer free counselling. If you leave in Berkshire ARC is brilliant. Nationwide I know that charities such as Mind can help you find free or cheap counselling. I was also rejected for counselling at 14 because I wasn't suicidal. Child and Adolescent Mental Heath Service (CAMHS) is completely overwhelmed due to government cuts and the waiting list for most teens/children is 2 years :(
3 likesOMG THATS SO FUCKED UP!! im so sorry that happened to you.
11 likeswhat the fuck that's terrible....
10 likesoh my god, that's fucking horrible
1 likeE-J Thompson oh god dude :(
0 likesNikki D :((
0 likes6756popcorn it's okay, thank you :)
0 likesstay alive frens yup
0 likesUnfortunately there are too many people who need help and not enough people in the NHS to give it. My mum sent me to the doctor after seeing that I had self harmed and I told her I was having suicidal thoughts regularly. The doctor told me the waiting list was 3 months. A few weeks later I attempted suicide in my bedroom and was sent to hospital. It was only then when I was seen as a priority, and if I had been given the help when I needed it maybe I wouldn't have been in the situation. Now that I have help from the NHS, I don't really find therapy much help a all, in fact I always end up feeling worse. However I have found the medication helpful. Rather than a therapist, I much rather talk to my friend Paige. I'm always too scared that a therapist will judge me, but I know she wont, and sometimes I don't need someone to act like they know what is going on in my head but just let me babble and for them to listen so finding a 'special person' to talk to might help. Also there are many vitamins that can help with mood, anxiety and all sorts in places like holland and barrett. There are anonymous websies online wih councellors or people experiencing similar feelings such childline and Kooth. Even things like meditation could help, and I've found the free app headspace quite helpful. I hope you feel better soon, and remember you are not alone! Make sure to tell people how you feel x
5 likesthe only thing thats holding me back from therapy is the fear of being told that im not "bad enough"
3 likesi got this at counselling at college lmao
1 likeonedeadrOse // The exact same thing happened to me. It was one of the worst experiences I've had with therapy and I still have problems related to that. But I also learned that I'M the only person who can determine if that is true or not. You shouldn't feel discouraged and try to find another therapist. You went for one for a reason. In my case I had trouble warming up tho my therapist, and at that point I couldn't see that that person wasn't the right therapist for me.
2 likesSorry for the long message, but I think it is really important that no one should feel that they are not sick enough. It isn't a competition and there is no one who doesn't deserve to get help.
onedeadrOse // that's free therapy for you. Once you pay for sessions, which are quite $$$, nothing is "not bad enough".
2 likesyasmin garland awh god I'm so so sorry that happened to you that sounds awful, I hope you're feeling better :( your situation sounds a lot like mine to be honest, unfortunately I've completely ran out of friends because they don't understand and I'm not "suited for medication" x
0 likesLaura Antonia I can definitely see why you think that, but if you think you need help then its best to go for it ♡
0 likeskri S that's true yeah, thanks I appreciate it :') ♡
1 likeJoey Fun exactly :((
0 likesSame, I've become distant from most of my friends as whenever I told them they didn't understand they told me I was being "rude" and that "all I have to do is stop being so negative all the time". But they ones that stay have hearts made of pure gold :)
5 likesI pray for a child like you 😃😃
0 likessame, and then a extremely traumatic event happened where my school and my local council recommended it
0 likesI've been to therapy almost two years and the biggest problem I have with my therapist that since I was an A/B studient a few years ago and I'm quiet and don't get in trouble, she thinks I'm still an A studient who has energy and motivation to go to school and due anxiety and having no self-esteem I can't get myself to tell her that holy shit, I have failed 4 classes this year alone, I can't take school
0 likesAnd she assumes I'm not suicidal if I don't talk about it but... I find it super awkward to go "yeah btw I almost jumped in front of a bus this morning" so I can't tell her if I'm feeling bad
I probably should find a new therapist but hehee anxiety and low self-esteem won't let me say anything to anyone cause I can't be a burden :--D
i can relate to this soo much.
0 likesi just want to hug you both..
I had the same experience as Dodie. My first counselor didn't talk and just kind of sat there and didn't ask questions or anything and it was really frustrating because it was like she wanted me to keep talking, but I couldn't think of anything else to say. Then I found my current counselor who I have been going to for like four years I think. I don't know, I need it to be a two way conversation and not me just talking at someone.
0 likeswent to a counsellor in my school, and going into it I new I was going to end up feeling worse about my self. I went in and sat down and opened up about all my personal shit, mostly anxiety and depression, I ended up feeling horrible, since he made me think that it's all my fault and maybe I'm in the wrong school to begin with, and maybe the school is too advanced for me (basically saying I'm too dumb for the school). When in reality, the school puts far too much pressure on the students. some weeks are chill, and other weeks are jam packed with like 3 tests, and a couple of papers due.
0 likesI went to a professional psychologist and talked to her about everything, and it was really great. So to conclude, school fucking sucks, and they don't hire the best people.
dodie! dye! your! hair! pastel! like! tessa's! it! would! suit! you!
35 likesI was put into counselling when I was in third grade because I had this one bully that was extra violent and he was mad at someone else, but I was near him and he tried to strangle me for it. My first counselling experience was very welcoming and comfortable because I was just a kid and child councillors are very friendly and he had all these cool toys like dinosaurs and a doll house, but I was always scared to leave his office and go back to school or back home, I just wanted to hide there forever. I was on and off counselling for a long time so I've learned that some councillors suck and others are great, but there's no councillors at home, where my meanest bully and all my biggest problems are.
0 likesI remember being like 6 and going to counseling because I had mayor stress issues
0 likesI did it for a year and when I stopped my counselor gave me a random stuffed animal that someone had left there.
this video was sooooo interesting to me!!! I feel like i share a lot of the questions and problems ennounced? first, like tessa, I don't think i'm "bad enough" too see a therapist, pretty much all my friends or family have had it worst (suicide attempt this kind of shit), second family problem! my dad is my GP (not a good idea but i don't know how to change without vexing him?) and he's super anti-therapy, also my mom has expressed before that maybe one of my brothers should have seen someone, but there was an "over-diagnosis" of depressed teenagers, so i have no idea how to bring it up to her. Finally, I don't live at home anymore, I've moved out for my studies, my school doesn't have a therapist and I don't have enough money/time, all bad excuses but also anxiety stops me from actually asking anyone? (i've been to pre-counseling before they gave me a number i never called) any tips / answers for a confused 20yo not adult that gets super frustrated when good days go away? (im french btw)
0 likesdodie and tessa are so lovely to watch together
0 likeshow often do you go to counseling? what I find is that I'm only able to go like once every other week or once a week at the most but I don't know if that's like enough. I feel better after my session but it's not very often. how often do you go and do you think it's a good amount?
0 likesI'm sat here sobbing in my bath because everything Dodie said is me to a T. I have yet to find a therapist that works for me, and, as Dodie said, was beginning to think I am just too broken for counselling to help me. I have two different therapy appointments this week and thanks to this video I'm going to go in with a slightly more positive mindset. I needed this video more than you'll ever know, thank you both so much for this. It's so easy to feel like I'm alone in this.
0 likesi started counseling after my mother found out that i selfharm. i didn't want to at first, i only closed up even more. but at some point i started opening up though and it really helped. i'm one month clean now, a new record.
0 likesIf I ever seek counseling again (besides school counseling, which REALLY helped for me, but of course I had the opportunity to go there before school) I would want a therapists who does a lot of of projects and hands-on stuff with me
0 likesbtw I love Dodie's dress
At the beginning of every session, my counselor will briefly go through everything we discussed in the last session, and asks if I've still been having the same thoughts or feelings, and I'll be so surprised to realize that I haven't, and that's how I know it's working for me
0 likesWith parents that grew up in China therapy was out of the question for all of high school but then I went to uni and everything's nice and secret and I've been on meds for a few weeks and they've started to kick in and my therapist is great and yes I recommend therapy tons thanks kids. But I also realize that having access mental health support is a privilege and I'm really grateful
0 likesAlso! In the US most private therapists work on a sliding scale, so you pay what you can afford. A lot of therapists range from $5/hour - $100/hour, so it's whatever you can afford at that time and you create a payment plan with the therapists.
2 likesone of my friend's mum is a therapist. she talks, mostly, and i add my input. which works great for me because i don't like talking that much. once i get comfortable (needs to happen every. single. time) i talk more, and we work from there. it's great, and since speaking with her i've been so much better as a person. i feel so much better about myself. if you're having a crap time, talking to someone is ideal. find an online friend you can talk to until you feel comfortable talking to someone in person. therapists won't judge you.
0 likesa lot of my friends go to therapy and they say it helps and that i should try it but I'm too afraid (in a way) or too nervous to ask my parents if i could try it because i don't want them to think there is anything wrong with me and i don't know if there is anything wrong with me but id like to know and learn more about me but i want to try therapy.
0 likesWe have something called celebrate recovery at my church. From what I've heard it's really helpful
0 likesthis is so great i feel like im quite an open person but id like to get it to understand myself better!!
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also i love your dress wheres it from!!!!!!????
2 likesThis is going to sound weird, but I was watching this video and I just suddenly started crying. Like, at first it was just a few tears but then i was full out sobbing and it was kinda scary. Idk if it's because I'm envious of how open you two can be about your mental illnesses (since I have not really mentioned anything to do with mine to anyone for years and even when I did I pretended that I was getting better and everything was fine) or bc I don't think I'll ever go to therapy (every time I think about it I'm completely in denial that what I'm feeling is worthy of getting help), but I feel so bad even though I should totally be happy for you two for doing a great thing. Why brain??
0 likesI liked counselling bc I got to offload whatever was on my mind until I had a new one and she was like you don't really need to be coming here but it was more she was asking questions about parts of my life I'd already sorted through with the previous one where as I still had problems yet to discuss
0 likesYou two are a great pairing
0 likesso about 5 months ago my therapist passed i was seeing him on and off for 8 years and my family knew him for ground 11, he died in a bycicle accident he helped me loads even if it was just calls or texts. I went inpatient for a month and 1/2 a few months ago and when i got out i went through 4 therapist and 2 psychiatrist. I kept blocking people out and comparing them to my old therapist. I didn't wanna start trauma work(for sexual assult and abuse) with anyone but my old therapist. but there is a happy ending. My insurance helped me find a therapist and i now see her twice a week we have had about 6 sessions and yes she is very different she is very helpful and understanding. I still have trouble opening up i guess its out of fear to lose another person but I'm getting better
0 likesI founded out derealization feeling was a "dis-enlightenment" experience. A lac of light flow / electric flow inside your brain & blood.
0 likesDeep breathing will give you that flow of electricity that will physically help you to clarify & re-enlighten your perception of life.
Your tip on the parental issue is very. very. important. Great empathetic perspective. Thank you for that one. I started therapy as an adult so their opinion was not impactful to my decision, but looking back, I realize how their concern and sadness when I told them was probably quite connected to that feeling of failure. Thank you for the revelation.
0 likesI love this so much ❤️
0 likesI saw my school counsellor for anxiety, depression, and eating disorder symptoms. He made me feel so much worse, I was self harming so much prior to and after the appointments. Safe to say, I've not returned to any counselling or therapy. I know I should because I am getting worse by the day, but I don't really want to get better in some ways so it's kind of limiting me
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sorry to hear that :c don't go back to that specific counsellor if he makes you feel worse beause that goes against the whole point. A lot of people have been saying 7cups is very helpful so you could try that, there are lots of different people on there so there's a high chance you'll be able to find someone who can help you :)
0 likesWhen you say you don't really want to get better in some ways, do you know why that is? I just want to understand, to see if I can help you out.
the funniest thing that happened to me in therapy was that I drank an entire large iced coffee right before and I had to pee SO BAD that she asked me what was wrong bc I was bouncing my leg so much
0 likesHighly recommend Elefriends as an anonymous forum sort of thing where you can write how you're feeling to a very supportive community - I've not sold it very well but do check out the website, they have an introductory video that explains it much better than I have. I've found it very helpful and a great free alternative to therapy
0 likeswhen i was in 8th grade my mom asked if i wanted to see a therapist and i said sure why not and she set me up with literally the perfect person for me to help me through high school and then i came out as transgender and that therapist and my physician helped me find a new therapist who knew more about the subject and again, we got a really good person on the first try. Basically just find someone who makes you feel comfortable and asks the right questions. I find that I am very stubborn and see things from one view and they'll ask the right questions to make me think about things from new perspectives. I've been to therapy long enough that I could almost counsel myself except that it's really nice to have that other person who won't judge you and isn't involved in the situation
0 likesthis video is really reinforcing for me that I need to find a new therapist. mine is kind of shit: I usually leave appointments feeling invalidated and worse than when I arrived, she seems to think that getting a boyfriend is the solution to all my problems, and whenever I bring up how my parent's behavior cause me emotional distress she passes it off as them just being worried about me
0 likesThe church I go to hosts a Celebrate Recovery group and they describe it for "anyone that has hurts, habits, and hang-ups." They make it a point to advertise it for more than just addictions (I haven't been to a meeting because I feel a little to close to the people running it, for anonymity's sake). It is Christian-based, but the guy who runs my church's chapter has been through it all and is the least judgmental person I know. I'm sure there are more chapters similar to this. Thanks, Tessa for mentioning it.
2 likesyou don't always have to take drugs, such as antidepressant pills can sometimes make you worse and can give an imbalance in your serotonin even more. But seeing a sophrologist or a phycologist is the best choice :)
0 likesyou will never know how much these two creatures actually mean to me.
0 likeshey everyone. this video really did spark up my attention (minus it being dodie and tessa together obviously). i do counselling in my school for around 8 weeks now as i finally got put off the waiting list. i am 15 and in year 10 (grade 9 for all y'all americans) and honestly has really changed how i think now. in all honesty, i dont have an exact reason for counselling- well not a diagnosed, professional, medical reason. i broke down during the year twice in front of my class, and i was recommended by my teachers to have counselling. it wasn't something that was seriously wrong with me. i dont self diagnose and i havent been diagnosed with anything. as a teenager, you experience emotions. people in my school do counselling for their anger issues, or their sadness and self harm and etc. or they are there to talk to someone once a week about how their life is going. it's free in my school. i didnt tell anyone besides my four friends. not even my mum and sister. it was only recently i told my mum- id say last week- and she used to say that people who got therapy needed medical help. but i told her i have counselling, skipping out the why as i still havent completely concluded it. my counsellor agreed for no one to know- all things you talk about with your counsellor stays confidential.
0 likesthe stigma behind counselling at school:
- all information is shared between teachers and parent. NOT TRUE, all confidential and it is up to you whether you tell them. but, if it becomes dangerous and it puts you and others in danger then it will be conversed between your head of year.
- you have to pay for it. in my school it is free and im sure it is for schools around the UK (thank god the NHS)
- you have to be sad to have counselling. 100% no. people i know do counselling because they have anger issues. some are in with the wrong crowd and their head's of year sign them up with consent.
- if the teacher feels like you need to, you have to. no, it is all your choice you can't be forced into doing it. that's what my counsellor told me.
- you cant quit it. no, you can most certainly quit whenever. if you feel you dont need it anymore.
- the counsellor gives you life advice. no, the counsellor finds a conclusion that best fits your emotion and it only is with you if you agree with it and feel like it makes sense in how you are feeling.
- there is only one type of couselling. there are many different approaches to counselling. one is to let the client talk and the counsellor talk back or the counsellor to give feedback and many more.
My therapist recently told me to think of depression and anxiety as symptoms instead of actual deep-rooted problems, and it actually made a load of sense. She basically said that depression and anxiety are within me because they're trying to tell me that I have something really wrong that I haven't been dealing with correctly, and therefore I am dealing with it through depression and anxiety as a way to forget my actual problems way beneath the surface, and focus on what I cannot explain.
0 likesIve been in a waiting list for months and months... My mum and I started fighting, and all the stuff about me, that my mum was trying to hide got out to all the family. Yes there was many tears, screaming, shouting and one failed suicide attempt, I guess I'm getting better...? I was sexually assaulted and my family only found out a few months ago. It happened a year and 6 weeks ago. I haven't had any sexual contact with a guy since then, but I hope to one day. TMI?
0 likescurrently, i have been waiting for counselling for...about two years (probably more). I live in the north west of Ireland and (because of a mixture mostly free/cheap healthcare and a medical card i get through my dad's RA) i can pretty much get the whole diagnosis, therapy, etc pro bono. HOWEVER. there is currently nobody in my area who is diagnosing people under 18 (thats a few hundred thousand people btw) and i will probably have to go private for the diagnosis part (like my little brother who has aspergers). i saw a counsellor in my first secondary school (1st-3rd year/12-15) for about a year christmas 2013-june 2014 i think).
0 likesi moved schools for unrelated reasons in September of 2016 and have to date seen two counselors (besides the chaplain i saw.) who did not work out and was recently (before christmas) in Dublin (2 hours away) in a clinic my mom got recommended to get the diagnosis that i probably don't have depression or anxiety, it's a psychological problem and they couldn't help me. i disagree about the anxiety thing (but what do i know. it was only an hour long).
i am now waiting for the two TDs (Teachtaí Dála members of the Oireachtas or Irish parliament) and a private psychologist (i think) to get back to my parents about when they'll get the position filled.
i just wanted to say (other than all of that) that it really helped me to watch you talk about all your symptoms and what you are going through and how you're getting through it. i have similar issues with depersonalisation, anxiety, feelings of doom (with an added twist of paranoia nice. i don't know if you get that. if any other that stuff isn' correct i am truly sorry).
so thank you (i honestly was almost in tears writing this i didn't realise how much better your videos made me feel :,D) and please keep making these kinds of videos (thank you to tessa too. i completely relate to the 'kinda attracted to emotional unavailability' thing.
cute claps you do at the start of your vids to bookend my essay
I had been in therapy for half a year or so and I made the experience that it didn't help or kind of didn't worked out for me I don't know really why it didn't. My mother decided she needed to do something when she found out that I was cutting and that didn't came up from anywhere. I have panic attacks for like 10 years now and after my sessions when I left my therapist I always felt burnt out and much more depressed because I had to talk about everything that bothered me and I couldn't do anything anymore the rest of the day because I was so stressed out. In the end my therapist decided that it might be better if we didn't continued because it seemed like it didn't help and just made me more depressed. Maybe it didn't help because I haven't been there long enough, I don't know.
0 likesAnyways, I'm really glad to hear that it helped both of you!
I love you both!! <3
1 likeI've been to 7 councilors in 4 years and they have all been at least 4 almost hour long sessions so it not like I saw them once and gave up.
0 likesBut none of it helped, medication hasn't helped me either and I've been on maybe 9 for mood and 4 for sleep.
To my talking to a counselor is about as useful as a prayer or a witch doctor, if you believe in it it'll help because you honestly think it will help you
I told my mother about dodie a whole ago and I was trying to find something in internet history earlier and I found "dodo ukelele" had been searched and she had watched about 20 videos
0 likesI love coming back from school or activity and see a Vedif right away
0 likesI started therapy at 13 because my mom found some pills I was hiding for "no reason" 🙃
0 likesAhh I just started counseling last month because I saw Rosianna Halas Rojas talking about it and I saw your Snapchat, Dodie, where you just offhandedly mentioned you were walking to a therapy appointment and I was like hmmmm these are people whose opinions I trust and whose judgement usually lines up with my own so I might as well try it too... so I did. And I almost ran away before my first session because I was nervous lmao 😂 but for anyone who isn't sure about it, just try it out! The one I go to is only $55 per session which is expensive but not as much as some of the ones I was looking at before and that's because it's technically part of a family counseling center (so that's another option of cheaper alternatives). Thanks for the video and the openness guys 💕💕💕
0 likesSCHOOL COUNSELLING IS AMAZING!! I go to a university in the US and they have a health center and a mental health/counselling department that offers therapy sessions and psychiatric treatment. I go there for my anxiety, OCD, depressive episodes, and emotional baggage from my childhood (I've got a lot going on in my wacko lil brain) and honestly, my therapist and psychiatrists are so incredibly kind and understanding and attentive. I do feel better after my appointments and it really does help to open up to them, even if little by little. These people are trained professionals who are used to dealing with college-aged kids and their problems, like sexuality, mental illnesses, relationships, etc. They really know what they're doing and they're here to help. In the US, you gotta pay for your health insurance though so that's something to factor in, but I'm on financial aid/scholarships, so my health fees are all waived. Besides cost, I think school counselling is definitely worth a shot. Also, patient confidentiality, so your parents won't find out!
0 likesthis video could not have come at a better time for me - after years and years and years of feeling like I couldn't cope (but putting it down to "being a teenager") I start therapy on Tuesday!! thank you for being so honest about it, you two have taken a lot of my worries away :)
0 likesDODIE YOUR DRESS IS AMAZING!!! You are beautiful, as always!!❤❤
1 likeTessa gave such wise advice on the topic of telling parents you want therapy, and how she said they feel it was a failure on their part. Quite a realization! :)
0 likesMy school just recently started having a therapist on campus everyday, and it was really really helpful for me. It was totally free and confidential. My parents ended up finding out about it eventually, but that's for a whole other reason. It's kinda funny actually, I went to the nurses office for a cough drop and they asked me to take a test, and 10 minutes later they told me I had high levels of anxiety and suggested that I should see her and see how I like it. It's been a really great experience, and I'm always excited for our appointments even if I don't have anything to talk about. I just don't know what I'm going to do when I graduate. :/
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And what's crazy is all my life my parents threatened to send me to counseling because I was such a bad kid or whatever and like, I wish they would've lmao
0 likestwo years ago i told my mom that i want to get therapy because i think i might have anxiety, but she told me that "i've always been shy" and that I "shouldn't be ridiculous, a panic attack here and there is normal"
0 likesthe past few months were horrible and i kept thinking about death and stuff. a part of me still wants to go to therapy and sort things out but another part of me thinks i'm fine and "what if i just somehow convinced myself i'm not ok"
i just don't really know what to do
Dodie you look so adorable in this video!
0 likeswow that actually happened to me... i have severe social anxiety, and i told her that but she still left way too much time for me to talk. and i would leave therapy feeling so much worse than when i went in because she would bring up hard topics and it would make me cry. but somehow she didnt make it any better... despite her being the therapist.... it also gave me anxiety so??? lol kind of defeats the purpose. so i kinda just never went back after a while and im scared to go back again
0 likesWhere was this two years ago??? High school me needed to hear this before things got really bad... but I hope that this can help other people in that place in their life.
0 likesI felt like i needed therapy and i told my parents and they said it wasn't necessary and then i went to my school's counselor and they said i needed to be treated by a professional and my parents said IT WASN'T NECESSARY.
0 likesSo I live in a FREAKING small town and I feel like if I started therapy I would get so much hard core judgment from my school peers. I want to because I know everyone should go and talk to a councillor but I don't know who to go about it. It scares me.
0 likesInteresting timing. I am going back to my psychologist for the first time in 2 years tomorrow.
0 likesMy therapist recently (within the last 3-4 months) stopped practice due to personal reasons. I've had her for 5 years and really built a connection to her. I'm looking to find a new one soon tho!
0 likesi love how i learm so much from dodie .Vedif is so fun cause it goves me something to look forward to :)))
1 likei had a therapist for one or two sessions then my dad decided that depression, anxiety and OCD dont actually exist and the doctor that diagnosed me just wanted to give me a seratonin supplement. i never got a refill and i went through a horrible withdrawl for a week and i still have really bad panic attacks n i still really struggle with my OCD. thankfully i dont deal with depression as much, but its still always there. i dont really know what to do right now going forward but i hope maybe it'll get better. it's slowly gotten better, but i do think maybe a therapist could help me
0 likes3:18 shit, I guess I never really thought about it like that. I just got a new therapist after my old one would never shut up about me going back to public school — like, I want to go back to public school, but I have conditions and shit that make it do that going back right now would be terrible for my mental health. She would only talk about that, and she never talked about my depression or anxiety or anything else. She would force it on me, force me to fake a smile and then bawl as soon as I got to the car.
0 likesI moved a few years back and need to go back to counseling, but my fear is not finding one as amazing as my last counselor. Our personalities just jived so well that I made a ton of progress. But I have been to many others that did not, and made it worse.
0 likesI want Tessa as my therapist!!
0 likeswait i relate to tessa.. i have huge anxiety issues that come with being so incredibly shy. i have yet to meet someome who is ss shy and as self conscious as i am.. but i keep feeling like eh my issues arent that bad. what do i do
0 likesguys, I need advice.
0 likesI recently have been struggling with many mental issues including depersonalisation but I am scared to say that publicly in case someone thinks or says I am copying dodie (as I tend to copy her a lot oops)
what do I do?
My mums a counsellor and I want to be one too because she's so good at it
0 likesShe's a professional in CBT
LOVE you guys. So cute <3
1 likeI'm so glad that therapy is free in Germany
0 likesIs it possible to go to a therapist with a friend? I feel like I would be quite a lot more open to the idea of talking with a stranger if I had someone I trust with me.
0 likesin some parts of the UK there is a free counseling website thing, I've been using it, it's called KOOTH , you fill in a little questionnaire type of thing (?) then you're given a private counciler it's all anominas and I find it help full ^-^ you talk in texts or emails so you don't have to talk face to face. it's cool ^_^
0 likesYouTube is my therapy 😂 love Gabbie
0 likesI see a councillor at school and as much as she is brilliant and very helpful there is also only so much she can do. she has recommended I try and see someone outside of school but I'm honestly so terrified!
0 likesTHIS IS SUCH A GREAT VIDEO WOW
0 likesI went to therapy when I was 12 because my mother really felt I needed it. and I didn't feel like I needed but turns out I had depression, anxiety, and severe social anxiety. whoOpS and the weird things I felt at some nights were called panick attacks. whOOOOPSS (rn the social anxiety barely exists but the other 2 are still holding on zjshbsf)
0 likesThank You Ladies. Not enough people hear about the positive side of counselling. It's not all raking around in the muck of ones life looking for stuff to be upset about. I see it more as weeding out unwanted things that have taken root in the garden of my mind to make space for a happier me to spread my roots and grow better.
0 likesat the beginning of the school year my parents called my school and booked an appointment with a counselor and nothing ever happened with it
0 likesthey never called me out of class to go like they said they would
Well hello, I’ve got a few questions about therapy. Because I go to therapy because my parents basically forced me to go to it. (Maybe it’s because im a oversharing little shit and I more than sometimes feel really down lol) I usually talk to my parents about stuff etc. and a couple of months ago they said that I should go to a therapist. But the thing is, I have social anxiety. If I am in front of a therapist I think: Idontwanttotalkidontwanttotalkimaidiot Because if I talk about sensitive stuff, I cry really fast. And I don’t want to cry in front of someone because of my social anxiety. I think I just would shut down, system failure 404. And if that happens I think that I just would not be capable to stop with crying. And then I would be really really embarrassed so embarrassed that I just would stay in my bed for a day or two. I’m so messed up lol and I know that’s why I need to talk to someone but I just don’t know how.
0 likesschool have recently put me in this mentoring/counselling thing every Wednesday(im in year11) and they think I have anxiey/depersonalisation and want me to tell my parents and go to a gp but I really have no idea how i should tell them as they are really strict and wont take it well if you get me haha,do you have any tips on how to tell them
0 likesI told my parents I want counseling and they said that it was completely fine but before that I tried talking to my mom about my problems but she's my mom so she thinks she knows me better than I know myself but she doesn't and I don't tell her everything, she doesn't know. I told her and so she now takes me to a counselor
0 likesi've wanted to go to therapy for so long. i need it. however i fear that they will tell me i'm wasting their time. i fear this with a lot of situations and i need to stop procrastinating and putting my head in the sand and just f**ing book it *sigh
0 likesMy parents don’t even know I’m sad 🙃 so I’m gonna tell them and tell them that I do want a therapist.
0 likesi didn't know there was therapy specifically for dp/dr!! i'm going to look into that!!
0 likesLately I've been worried I could be developing social anxiety and I find it really funny that the solution is to go talk to a stranger...like hello I'm afraid of talking to people that isn't going to help
0 likesahhhh you're so cute 😍😂
0 likesthese videos makes me so happy ❤
I'm doing Neurotherapy and DBT, and I've liked it so far. I HATE CBT I feel as if they're telling you that what you think is wrong, and that was my last therapist and now it scientific so Im like'
0 likesYAY
I'm about to start seeing someone in a psychiatric hospital and trying to find the right dose of medication to help me with my issues. I still feel uncomfortable talking to my parents about it so I'm not really sure what to expect in these sessions but I want to feel less shit so I'm really going to give it a go.
0 likesI LOVE therapy!!! One thing I'd add to this is your therapist is not your teacher. What I mean by that is, if you can't do the homework they give you for whatever reason, they won't berate you. They are there to help you.
0 likesI come from a Christian home (yay, Texas) and my parents sent me to "therapy" at a Christian university, because I am bisexual. I convinced them that it was just a "phase" and now, as a 17 year old they think I'm heterosexual. When, in fact, I am more bisexual than ever. Girls are so pretty. Boys are so pretty. Everyone is so pretty. But because of that "week" of "therapy" as a 14 year old, I think if my mental issues ever got bad again (depression & anxiety) I wouldn't go to therapy. Because that period of time was so shameful and stressful that I don't think I can trust something like therapy again.
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Cat Dobbs maybe when you turn 18 you could try and go to an LGBT+ support group so you can get back into an environment that you feel safer in (if other bisexual people would make you feel safer) or go with a LGBT friend if you can. You could also try going to specific counselling for LGBT people so that you know you won't be shamed. Any counsellor who is any good will never shame you for anything you do however bad, never mind for something like being gay which is not bad at all. I understand that therapy can be scary especially since you have negative experiences and associations with it but hopefully my suggestions can help you...if not good luck with being out and proud whenever you feel safe enough to be so.
0 likesI have seen a councelor at school and I chose not to tell my parents at all. After that I also saw the school psychologist for some time and I'm done with that now. I started feeling better even without realising, we just talked about stuff with the psychologist and she gave me some ideas to try out (which I never did) and it just slowly started helping me and I feel a lot better now than I did at the end of last semester. obvs I'm still not okay I have anxiety and depression but I have learnt to live with them and yeah getting help is a good idea.
0 likesthanks for sharing! great video topic!! x
0 likesI grew up always being told "You don't need to go to therapy! There's nothing wrong with you!".
0 likesThere's free counseling on my college campus. I debated on trying it out because why not! But, I hesitated. I finally went to counseling because some old dude in my class was harassing me; I told my friend, who DRAGGED me to make an appointment. IT WAS THE BEST DECISION EVER. I AM GLAD I DIDN'T HOLD IT ALL IN TO MYSELF AND SUFFER.
Not even two minutes into my first session, I began BAWLING MY EYES OUT. Not only did i talk about/report the harassment, I also began talking about all my childhood shit. I don't have depression or anxiety or anything, but PHEW I didn't know i had so much emotional baggage from the past that I was holding on to.
Each session, I would cry the whole way through. I found out we shared the same faith, which was nice because I could never find any church in my area that has counseling. I can talk about my struggles and solutions with my counselor from a biblical perspective, rather than a secular one whiCH IS AMAZING.
All in all, counseling for me has been a BLESSING and i recommend it to everyone. Don't be afraid, it will be okay and it will be so worth it.
Please give a us a room tour your room looks so pretty!!!
0 likesI've wanted to go to therapy for probably at least 4 years but I just can't seem to make myself take any steps to get there. I just feel like I have such a hard time having normal conversations with people I know sometimes that it seems totally impossible to talk to a stranger about stuff that is way more intense and intimate. I want to be able to have those conversations and get help in understanding and bettering myself, but it seems pointless to try when I don't think I could ever get there.
0 likesDodie my Godess, thank you for this. And also where did you get this dress? ❤
0 likesclaps hands in a circle
0 likes"round of applause"
that was very clever dodieodieodieoh
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Margot l-/
0 likesHello fellow tøp fan |-/
i went to my GP and she referred me to some place called CAMHS, to which i waited 6 months to a year for something to happen and when it did CAMHS diagnosed me with autism and discharged me when i went there to get therapy for the fact that i had already been diagnosed with 3 different types of anxiety and they also told my mum she was a shit parent so yeah, i wont be doing that again but im too broke to go private with the NHS
0 likesDodie you look so pretty in this video ❤️💗
0 likesi went to therapy for about two months last year but it wasn't helping, i always came back home and cried after the therapy session but i dont know how to feel better
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find a better therapist, someone you trust and who knows what theyre doing.
0 likesI'm so glad that you decided to do vedif cos this was uploaded on yum birthday and I could Nineveh be happier. - also quality content everyday -
0 likesim watching this from inside a big tree infront of my house and my horse came and watched as my dogs tried to climb up too and my mom opened the front door and screamed and they jumped out and ran away and the horse ran away to her stable idk man it was funny and cute i didnt have anywhere to run tho i was just like oh nO
0 likesI am so glad that my therapy gets paid by my insurance! I am from Germany though
0 likesI want more Tessa on the show
0 likesmy mum is insanely pro counselling. I had seen 11 counsellors and 2 psychiatrists (at least 1 court ordered because I got a restraining order against a family member at 13) between 12 and 15 and yet, nothing. I'm 18 now and I think that I can safely conclude that counselling is not for me. if it is for you though thats awesome. If you find it hard to open up psychiatrists can be better cos they push you more but personally I hated it
0 likesYay for being so open!
0 likesfor a long time I hated counseling because (1) it was being forced on me during a time where I strongly believed nothing would get better and my therapist didn't click with me (2) I was so afraid to let go of my mental illness. because of the fact that I can barely remember not feeling horrible, I felt like if it went away I wouldn't be me anymore. during the past year I found a therapist I really like and was put on a medication that works for me and I don't feel like my personality has changed, just that there has been a weight lifted off of me
1 likeYOUR SHIRT! THE DOTS! MY LIFE! IT SLAYS ME!!!! YASSSS!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
0 likesDodie's makeup looks so good here
0 likesOh God. this video is so important. I'm 18. I'm in a VERY bad place. I'm so afraid to admit to myself or anyone else that I need and want help. I think everyone will think I'm crazy.
0 likesI've been in therapy since May of 8th grade, and it is now July leading into 11th grade. Still in therapy. Progressively getting sadder though.
0 likes4:47 to 5:04 applies a lot to me and i'm struggling a lot with it at the moment :((
0 likesThis was a therapy session in itself
0 likesso ppl down here in the comments with all their bad experiences with therapists:
2 likesheres the deal, finding a good therapist and/or psychologist is hard because you cant just say "im gonna go to a therapist and get some medicine" like you would a regular doctor because that wont help you. If you're feeling sad, and you dont know what's wrong, that's fine too, you can start out with someone to try to figure out what's wrong and once you know what's wrong you can find someone who is specially trained to help you with that problem. also, there are loads of psychologists here in the US that take health insurance, my father being one of them. for those of you who are saying you can't afford one, try getting insurance and figuring out which doctors can be covered by your health insurance plan. furthermore, please try to think of your brain as an actual health problem where there are doctors out there that can help you learn to heal your own brain. that's what a good therapist will do and a psychologist has a degree for it. anyways, dont ignore the way your brain is feeling you'll feel worse in the long run and it'll be harder to heal the longer you wait.
dodie i love your dress and your hair and your makeup you look so cute just wow
0 likesWhat worries me the most is that I feel like I can't tell my school counsellor everything and I don't know how else to offload. I feel heavy almost everyday. My mum, bless her, always says that she knows that something's up and she'll ask me why I'm looking blue and the only answer I'll have is that I don't know and I just need time. It feels like something's been taken away from me and I'm disappointing everyone around me and it's all my fault. She asks me why I barely eat at lunch in school but I snack on piles of biscuits late at night and like always, the answer is i don't know. It's so hard to describe but it just feels like everything has no purpose and I can't find any pleasure in hobbies which worries me. And then I tell myself it's just puberty fucking with me. It's just hormones. But it feels like so much more and it feels so confusing and it feels like weight in my shoes, like an invisible person whispering all the things I'm doing wrong to me. Whenever I try explain this to friends, I can't. I break down and I just make it sound less hard and resorting to 'its fine' when every time I say it it's really not and everything jut feels so yuck and ugh... ;..(
0 likesIn Australia at least, there are a few free counselling places, such as KYDS or Headspace which can be incredibly effective, and they are totally free ^_^
0 likesI hated counselling. I felt awful everytime and never wanted to go back.
0 likesAfter several sessions, I realised it saved my life. Any mental health problems, be it anxiety, depression or alcoholism, talking helps but it takes longer than you would like.
I'm a type of person that everybody knows I have anxiety and stress but I try to make them feel like I'm ok and I'm fine. I recently this week went to a doctor and she said my muscles were really tense bc I was stressed and scared and that I lose my appetite also bc of that. I need a new counselor bc the school one is always busy.
0 likesThe first counselor I went to told me I was just "sad because I'm growing up into a different person" and I would probably just "not be a happy adult" ????
0 likesExcellent stuff; what you guys are doing to normalise therapy and mental illness is amazing.
0 likesI'm in the place of 'I don't need therapy right now, I'm working out stuff myself and am totes good', but I also recognise that it doesn't always work that well, and that when I do get worse I have a tendency to just go more within myself. But I can see myself going to therapy in the future, so it's something; unfortunately I'll probably need a big kick by something bad happening to do it.
I think that this video could help a lot of people to understand therapy. Many people feel the same, but dont know that they are not alone and are scared of starting therapy, because they don't even know what therapy actually is.
0 likesThats why I'd like to do german subtitles for this video. I'd be very happy if you could enable that others can make subtitles.
I've been trying to work myself up to going to therapy and i'm just afraid that I'll walk in to the first session and have nothing to say. And the the counselor will just tell me to go home, there's nothing wrong, you're making it up for attention, etc. I know it's ridiculous but that's my brain :/
0 likesTessa, you're so on brand with Dodie!!
0 likescoincidentally I just set up my very first counciling session the other day. not gonna lie, I'm scared to go. I know I need it and all, but it still scares me. my mentality is kind of like dodie, like therapy wouldn't help me. not really that I'm a lost cause, just that what's wrong with me isn't something that can be fixed that way. but I've been told I really could use it. i feel like im in the way of me and therefore counciling wouldnt help, i just need to be better. in a weird way, I also almost don't WANT to get better. like I've lived this long like this, it feels oddly safer this way. I know it might seem strange to a lot of people, but hopefully people understand. So since it's my first session, any advice? like do I NEED TO know what to talk about or how to talk about things?,I'm scared I'm gonna go in and look stupid cuz I won't know what to say?
0 likesThis is such a frickin awesome video xxxx
0 likesit might just be me but I had counseling from about 12-15 years of age on and off and I never really felt like it help, maybe it was because teachers in my school made me have counseling or that I had talked about it to so many other people that it didn't seem important and I thought that no one cared but for now I'm fine, I hope x
0 likesI find it so awkward, maybe that's because I'm forced into it, but I never know what they want me to say
0 likesI've been trying to re-learn psychokinetics, and I've realized that you have to be so in touch with your inner, and outer self, heart, mind and personal energy, and your own thoughts to achieve results. And part of psychokinetics is meditation which promotes brain repair and inner peace. Therapeutic? This is why I stopped going to therapy, because I know I'd be on meds, and I won't take anything unless it is Cannabis. or something equally natural and powerful. Could you imagine a world if people practiced psychokinetics? How non-violent it could become? But, no lets put people on meds that literally damage your chakras and third eye. Which is also why I stopped going to therapy, because a very large portion of the earth's population has been con-ed into believing chemicals are good and psychokinetics aren't real. But I guess that's just me.
0 likesHi Dodie, here is an idea (pretty much dumb but anyway.. ) make a cup of tea and slurp one time after answering a question we send you. Drink the hole thing in the video. Thats it. Love you.
1 likecounselling and therapy are different, especially comparing UK and US so just be aware of that when looking into it 😊
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I am intrigued! What do you mean? :)
0 likessueycoo counseling tends to be more focused on immediate issues and tackling things the client is proactive in overcoming. usually used talking therapies. Therapy also does all the that but can involve more in depth therapy such as CBT to tackle underlying causes of a disorder the client may have. therapy tends to be more drawn out. but there are overlaps. and as they said on the video, many therapists/councillors are different and use different methods so you just need to find what's right for you! I believe, in the UK, if you go through the GP you tend to get placed with therapists. but I'm not 100% on all of this. I'm just citing what I learned during my degree, could be misguided :)
0 likesI've had 5 therapists and finially found one i like but our last session was last week and im so so scared to be alone again... i feel like she was the only one who actually understood (or at least pretended to) and i just dont wanna go back to where i was alone 🌼
0 likesmy school counselor legitimately called me crazy :( haha but I'm sure there are better ones out there.
0 likesMy issue is I do a lot of self-evaluation, I come to a lot of conclusions on my own, so because of that I convince myself that a therapist wouldn't help? it's also an issue bc on the NHS as it's free you can't really be picky about who you get as a therapist. when I was 14 I had a therapist to help me cope with depression/PTSD/anger issues and she was way too into being my friend. like she was kinda old enough to be my mum or even nan, somewhere between, so she had those motherly instincts i guess and all she'd ever give me was "coping mechanisms". But I didn't need that, I needed someone to tell me what was irrational and what wasn't. "coping mechanisms" weren't going to stop me getting into screaming fights with my dad or with abusive teachers, she kind of treated me like a child rather than a teenager. since then I've been really hesitant to go back even though really terrible things have happened and I've had serious mental breakdowns. I'm sure other therapists are better but one of my biggest issues is that the abusive stuff i've been through has either triggered some pride/self-esteem thing where I can't unload my actual feelings onto people because I'm afraid they'll turn around and say I went too far or shared too much, basically just throw it back in my face. I'm nearly 19 and only just realising that pushing stuff down in your head doesn't work lol, just because things feel better after a while it doesn't mean no damage has been done
0 likes"i thought i was so broken that talking wouldn't help" .....i can relate to that so much i wanna cry lol
0 likesi want to show this video to my parents (although my mum doesn't understand english oops) but i don't think they understand what mental illnesses are. they'd probably think it's something wrong with me that's only affected by how unappreciative i am of having a good life.
0 likesi'm not diagnosed with anything, but i've been experiencing symptoms of anxiety and depression for quite some time and it's scary. i don't know how to tell anyone without seeming like i'm just doing it for sympathy or i'm just overexaggerating.
my parents would probably think that i'm just spouting nonsense because "i look too relaxed to be stressed and have problems" and i get many things that i want.
i don't know. i barely even have the courage to talk to my parents anymore because i'm so afraid of making mistakes.
I LOVE BOTH OF YOU
0 likesit's honestly so nice to hear people talk about therapy because it's always such a taboo thing to talk about, at least for me. it's being normalised and it's so good to not feel ashamed about it. I'm going to therapy for a little bit over a year now and I try to be as open as I can about it because I know how hard it is to actually communicate with other people about it, but nevertheless it's still very awkward and uncomfortable. the people I know don't really know how to react and just don't talk about it. they make it awkward by pushing it away.
0 likesI needed this today, I really did. I needed to know that it is in fact okay to not feel well, to seek help and to actually talk about it. thank youuu
I had a piece of paper with a circle divided into different sections and the sections would say things like school, family, friends, health and hobbies and every week or so give a rating out of ten for how things are for you at that moment and if it's a number below 5/6 then think about why the number is so low and how you can improve it
0 likesI'd just like to say that for anyone that is embarrassed about getting counseling:
0 likesI get little depressive episodes occasionally, and that's why I have a therapist.
I'm under 18.
Getting a therapist isn't shameful or anything.
It can help more than you think.
my therapist did become such a friend to me. she helped my agoraphobia by going shopping with me and taking buses with me and she'd always tell me about her life if i asked. it was so nice, i miss her
0 likesI count myself lucky as I get free neuropsychology appointments from the NHS for my ptsd, but I genuinely feel so bad for those who have to fork out hundreds simply so they can get better😫
1 likeyour little rounds of applause are so cute
0 likesI LOVE YOU GUYS SO MUCH
0 likesI want Tessa to be my therapist too
0 likesFor me, it's weird watching videos in which people are encouraged to look for help by means of counseling, because I have needed counseling since the age of four. Back then I was diagnosed with autism, so I was elligible for therapy and I still require therapy. My parents were not against therapy, because for me it is necessary. And for me, it is not a temporary case. I have to attend therapy all of my life.
0 likesI had a terrible experience with counseling and I've been too traumatized to go back lol. She says she had a direct link to God and that if I really really wanted to kill my self then she could make it happen. I walked out.
0 likesThank you so much for talking about this!! People mostly associate only bad things with counseling, even though it's actually about improvement. It's just - as they said - learning more about yourself, and that's always something good. I feel like a lot of people fear to go to therapy, because they don't want to get judged. YouTubers or generally the media don't talk about it that much, at least the way like Dodie and Tessa did. And it's just good to hear people talk about their own experiences, and be open about it. So, again THANKS!! 💞
0 likesI’m going to begin going to therapy for ‘underage’ depression and anxiety
0 likesokay just a quick Thing fr anyone who may need it: 7 cups of tea is a really great website!! idk if it counts as therapy or counselling but basically you get to talk to someone about ur problems and you get people who either just listen to you or give you solutions depending on what ur actually lookin for!! <3
0 likesI have had psychological therapy a few times in my life, it's not bad, but I feel like my personal problems are mostly solved naturally on their own. I know when I talk about how I feel out loud I can feel this unpleasant tension in face and like that my vulnerabilities will spontaneously leak to where it goes out of hand if I continue talking. I'm totally fine with being emotional, it's easy to be both masculine and emotional at the same time, it's not masculine however when you start acting like you're not even a man. Nevertheless, I prefer cutting onions in the privacy of my room where nobody can know too much about me, and neither too little. I have supportive friends also, but still choose not to wear too much on my sleeve.
0 likesI spilled my dead aunt all over my counselors shoes, the second time I met with her... She has yet to leave me so if that tells you anything, it should be... Counselors literally give no fucks about what the baggage is, they are just there to help you with it.
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0 likesHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA <3
So I've been in counselling for almost two years ,I started when I was almost 11 and now I'm almost 13.when I was around 10 I started to get migraines daily.That obviously wasn't healthy but I just thought eventually would go away.They didn't.They got worse I realized this during that summer I got REALLY bad migraine.I got really sick and I couldn't eat anything because I would throw up,so I couldn't take any medicine.I threw up spit because nothing was in my stomach.I went to the hospital to get it checked out and i found it was because I was so stressed.I know a 10 year old shouldn't be stressed but I'm Emma that's just the way I am so I got medicine to "help" my stress.Yes it did help for a little while,until I didn't have it,and all I wanted was that medicine because I was in severe pain constantly.I was stressed because of the world in general, as a 10 year old wtf. but it didn't help that I have extreme anxiety I didn't know about at the time.But obe day in sixth grade I got a really bad migraine so I went to my school health center.They asked me if I knew why I got migrsines I told the nurse and she recommended me with for therapy,at the time I thought it was so stuid, but more so I as scared I hated being reminded of the fact that I have issues.I never really took too much care of my issues and I only tried to help others.So I went hme that day and just cied.I never let anyone see me cry ever,at that time I don't really care anymore.About a week after that I thought that the nurse forgot about me and I was so hopeful she did , but NOPE they called me to go to the health center and I was so confused.I got there and they told me I had therapy and I just internally broke down.And for a few months I only went like once a month I would say.Ths was because my therapist at the time didn't really know what was going threw my head at the time.I really just wouldn't tell her much.BUT THEN, she got me on just a really bad day and made me go at least once a week for a about 4 months and then things got better and I didn't go after that until this year.I kind of had a really bad break down in class and my teacher told the school councler I looked really sad and depressed.Since then I've been going once a week.I really couldn't thank that teacher enough because there's ALOT going on in my life right now I really cant take so just getting it all out really really helps me.I also found out depression runs in my family recently so that might have something to do with it,and anxiety soooo yeah.If anyon actually raeds just know that it is ok to have issues everyone does and that going to therapy is a really good way to just let go and be yourself with out feeling bad or stressed about it.
0 likesI'm in the US -- I have two therapists (one is DBT-influenced and the other is for relationships/social skills). The first was recommended to me my the psychologist who did testing/evaluation for me, and the other I found on PsychologyToday.com's Find A Therapist. Both of them were on that site, and I like to be able to see that they have been checked out and their specialties on there.
0 likesAlso, as was mentioned, university health centers will often have mental health services, but mine only handled short-term (crisis) stuff, so they got me started and referred me out to community mental health, which offers a sliding pay scale (which I needed back when I was a student without a steady job yet).
I've been getting sick really really easily lately and everyone else has been pointing out that it's probably stress. After a meltdown about how sick and tired I was of being sick, my mum told me to go talk to our school chaplain (who is the guidance counsellor and who isn't pushy at all when it comes to religion) and I've finally decided to do it. I think the fact that it's making me anxious is a sign that I need to go... not making it any easier, but if it helps me stop being sick then it doesn't hurt to try!
0 likesim kind of young, but im really sure that i might have depression and anxiety, and i really want to go to therapy, but im really really nervous about that because im very shy around people that i dont know and adults. i would hire one of my friends to be my therapist, but there are things that i need to talk about that i wouldn't even want my parents or really anybody to know about so there's my dilemma and i have no clue how to fix that.
0 likesfirst of all im danish and my english is rusty. second. thank you for talking about mental illness etc. ☺the tabu is causing the world harm.
0 likesits "funny" how it makes a huge difference if you instead of a mental illness say a physical illness. 😕
parents would not (in most cases) feel bad for not being able to help a child with forexample a broken leg. why is it different with mental illness?😕 you are supposed to fix yourself (according to some people. "pull your self out of it. man up etc) no one expects you to fix a broken leg. weird.😕
i think that talking to a therapist is good. i think it should be free. so many problems would n't become huge. ☺
I think everyone should see a therapist because it's good to talk about things to people who don't know you emotionally and can give you the answer you need not the answer you want.
0 likesI went to my school counsellor for self-harm and anxiety, but I'm really quiet and she left so much space for me to talk, but I literally hate talking especially to people I barely know, I don't know what to do now
0 likesMy mum is literally a trained counsellor and I still don't think I'll have the guts to talk about stuff til I've left home - weird shit eh?
0 likesi know i have so many mental and emotional issues but its so hard for me to do counselling because i never know what to say about my illness because idk I've kind of just been living like this so i don't really know how to articulate how I'm feeling or what my symptoms are????
0 likesthe first and only therapist (family therapist) i went to told us that our problems weren't valid and that my sister and i needed to "be disciplined" and that would fix everything. never again. (though now we've worked out our problems ourselves, i am now extremely wary of therapy.)
0 likesI've never seen a video with Tessa before, but oh wow, she's lovely!
0 likesI eventually told my therapist that she wasn't helping me and making me feel worse, it took me while because I didn't want to hurt her feelings and I didn't know what would happen after, but now I've been put on this waiting list for group therapy, but I've been waiting for a while and it sucks because I could really use the support right now, but it's really helped me understand how useful therapy can be and how important it is to find the right person for you.
0 likesBY THE TIME I HAVE MY FIRST THERAPY SESSION ON THE NHS I
0 likesWOULD HAVE STARTED THE PROCESS OF TRYING TO GET ONE 6 MONTHS AGO!!
I've had private CBT and other private therapy in the past for anxiety/OCD. But after also developing depression in the summer and having a breakdown and ditching my friends at the airport where we were meant to be going to Barcelona for a girls holiday, we went back to the doctors and they put me on sertraline.
I made my first call to IAPT on the 23rd of September. My doctor changed my medication to citalopram as I was feeling worse. On the 3rd of October I had an hour long assessment on the phone and they said they'd get back to me but didn't. (Baring in mind I'd told them I self-harm, often feel suicidal and go to bed at about 4 am, along with a string of other shit).
We had to keep calling back iapt repeatedly until they set an appointment date for a different assent, the 7th of November. After that the person who conducted the assessment said I needed secondary phschotherapy and that from now the process would be speedy.
Ha. Ha. Ha.
On the 29th of November I got a phone call telling me there was an appointment available. FOR THE 29TH OF FUCKING MARCH. A FOUR month WAIT added on to the initial two months already spent trying to get therapy on the NHS.
In the meantime I'm seeing a psychotherapist until then because I can't fucking deal with life 🙄🙄
Could you talk more about depersonalisation? The country I live in doesn't really have good therapists and they're very limited to specific set of illnesses and depersonalisation is a very rare thing here so it would be helpful to me if you could share more ways to deal with it???
1 likeI think my sister needs therapy but I know my parents will never take her to see a doctor. I've tried talking to them and even though they say it's a good idea they never do anything.
0 likesA few years ago I needed it really badly myself but I had to find a way to "fix" my problems on my own, I don't want that to happen to her too. What can I do?
tessa is that a hickey on your neck lol
0 likesbut seriously thank you for talking about this. i have had therapy on and off for years, went through like 5 or 6 counsellors before i found one that was actually amazing and he changed my life. but there's still such a stigma around even saying that you're having therapy and it needs to stop.
My dad pressured me to stop therapy, because he thought I was 'better', so I stopped. I'm getting bad again, but don't know how to tell him I need to go back.
0 likesHey kids in the UK that want counselling there's this thing called CAMHS (child and adolescent mental health service) 😊
0 likesTwo masculine women talk about something I have to do for my major depressive disorder. This just made me want to die sooner
0 likesTessa, I go to Celebrate Recovery and I love it! That's so cool
0 likesI love all the 'ved' series' soo much <3
0 likesTherapy is so hard for me because I'm absolutely crap at talking to people. It's funny because the reason I started going is because I get anxious talking to people. There has been some progress but it's still weird being honest with another person. It hasn't been too long though, so I'm expecting it to just get better with time
0 likesI've done therapy once and it was after I had gone to a mental institution...
0 likesI don't really wanna try it again but after this video, I wanna try it again??? But im scared..also when I had therapy, she told me about groups and stuff going on and recommending it to me, but Im always so scared.
So scared of judgement cause my "mental illness" comes from literally nothing so I have no actual reason to be sad. I just became suicidal and depressed for no actual GOOD REAL reason so Im just terrified I'll be made fun of for having a "mental illness" that I shouldn't have.
I wanna try medication just so I won't feel judged for taking it...or maybe I will..I won't
Sorry this is long...whoops
I love you two SoO MUCH
0 likesI went to counselling/therapist from the NHS to get rid of my dog phobia but at the same time I started getting bullied verbally by people in my school and became really shy. She was so amazing that she automatically saw what was going on and she cured my dog phobia and told my mum about my problems at school. Since I had gotten rid of my dog phobia I couldn't see her anymore but we email constantly and it is so brilliant to have a person that you can just explode onto. I am so much happier since I got rid of my dog phobia and moved into a new school.
0 likesif only therapy was more available in the UK... I had to wait 16 months to get into camhs as we couldn't afford private. and where I'm from the cut off age is 17. in somewhere like London with postcode lottery it is alot easier to get therapy. butttttt there are alot of online website that are great! I used a website called kooth durring the time I was on the waiting list which is like online councilling. so yeah there are always other sources!!! if only mental health was taken more seriously in the UK.. :')
0 likesmy mom took me out of therapy and I'm too scared to ask her to go back in. I cry every night and I have to fake being happy at school and with friends. I constantly feel spaced out and nervous of people new people. old people. I can't walk in the halls without feeling extremely nervous and my friends don't understand and try to get me to try new things and volunteer in class and such but they can't understand that it makes my like so much worse. I wish they could be understanding. advise?
0 likesDodie reminds me so much of a girl I used to like in highschool
0 likesMy mom really hates when I talk about needing counselling. She feels like she's failed, when really, she is the best parent in the whole world. She's supportive and smart and logical and gentle, and we tell each other every thing. But sometimes, I need to talk to someone that's unbiased and trained to deal with mental illness. :/
0 likesNot topic related, but can we talk about how adorable 2:26 was
0 likesduring therapy my therapist let me make stuff out of clay so being the kid i am i made broccoli out of clay (i fuckin love broccoli actually like BROccoli it's so good) and a thicc bird
0 likesMedication for children is very difficult to get in Ireland due to long waiting lists and if you're in a smaller county you've to go to Dublin to see a consultant to get medication
0 likesI go to my very first therapy session tomorrow. I am so incredibly nervous and worried about it and I really dont want to go. I don't know what to do
0 likesI wish seeing a psychiatrist was financially covered by the government/insurance in Ireland, I've been to three counselors that weren't qualified psychiatrists, and they just haven't worked out because I want to see someone who can give me clarity from a medical/biological standpoint.
0 likesI had counselling at school and hated it. I had CBT a few years ago and it was okay. I think I need therapy now.
0 likesI need a GIF of Tessa as her counselor going mm at 6:07
0 likesMy parents didnt want me to go to councilling. I asked and asked. Now im just a mess, covering myself in my own skin.
0 likesDodie looks so pretty here <3
0 likesi want to go to a counselor but the one at my school is a freaking joke and im terrified to tell my parents how i feel about life and my mental stuff. i dont want htem to think im faking or dont actually need it
0 likesDoes anyone have any tips for me telling my parents I need counselling?
0 likesThey'd be completely open to anything that would help me I just can't open up. I physically can not say what's on my mind. I start to feel sick and wimp out before I can say anything. Any tips?
I think I could benefit from therapy, but I haven't been able to find a good one. First one I saw was always just "what do you want to talk about?" and offered little to no feedback on anything, it was about as helpful as talking to a wall. The next one I saw always seemed to come to conclusions that seemed very wrong, like whatever I said she always seemed to be on a slightly different page. Also She either kept forgetting things I told her or had an uncomfortably passive way of suggesting things. Like I haven't talked to one of my sisters in years and I had to keep reminding her of this because she kept asking me how she's doing. Like if you think I should talk to her lets discuss that, but for god's sake don't just keep asking me the same thing and expecting my answer to suddenly change.
0 likesin my experience group therapy is NOT free. the ones my therapist suggested were always as expensive as the regular therapy, except that insurance wouldn't cover it
0 likesThe NHS can be difficult to get through if you aren't a really bad case - I was and it was easy but my friends who weren't had a really tough time. Try other stuff before you go to a GP, because they often will just tell you to go to a community counsellor or something like that :-)
0 likesBoth your hairs? Hairs? Is that the right plural of hair? Hairstyles?
0 likesWHAT I'M SAYING IS YOU'RE BOTH ADORABLE AF AND YOU'RE MY GOALS.
i went to a therapist who was really just bad and she told me how to live ly life and i was dealing with anxiety and she literally, and I quote, said "well, just stop worrying!"
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oh my lord are you kidding me how did you even become a pROFESSIONAL and luckily I'm with a different woman now so yay
The therapist I went to told my mother that I might just be going through a rebellious phase :/
0 likesI lovvve your dress in this vid and also yay for vedif! I'm so excited lol 👍
0 likesI've started therepy, and every time I leave the office I feel more and more anxious. Any ideas?
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maybe there's something about the therapist that you dont like or theyre just a bad therapist? if you're feeling uncomfortable i highly suggest you dont stay with them.
0 likesKat Hawley Hi Kat, I wonder how it's going for you now, I hope better. My therapist explained this to me as getting nearer to the things I don't want to face. Therapy digs things up, you leave your session more aware that those things exist and that you're coming nearer and nearer to meeting them. Often avoiding the feelings created by whatever you've buried is why you've ended up needing therapy in the first place, so of course it's anxiety provoking. Have you told your counsellor that you feel this way at the end of your sessions? Maybe she needs to approach things differently, set aside grounding time for the ens of the appointment,reassure you that you're not going to break into a million pieces etc. I feel for you hugely, it's so hard but I honestly believe you'll get there. Take care, friend x
0 likesI went to a therapist today and she literally only said like 3 things and left the rest of the hour silent. I wanted to fall asleep
0 likesPlease clarify this at some point in the future: YOU DO NOT NEED A REASON TO BE DEPRESSED. Depression is a brain problem, not a logical result of shitty life circumstances. While trauma and adverse life events can definitely make depression worse or spawn a bout/episode, there is no "reason" for anyone to be depressed.
0 likesALSO, I highly recommend Mental Illness Happy Hour (it's a podcast) if you want to hear some interviews and lots of personal sharing about a variety of mental illnesses...so long as you can tolerate some cursing. The 2+ hour episodes have made me feel a lot less alone and more motivated to get back into mental health treatment.
What do I say when I tell my mum that I want to see a doctor about what I have? Because I don't know it is
0 likesSaw my school counsellor and he downplayed my depression because I smiled around him??? I just stopped going, he managed to make me feel like I was faking everything
0 likesI do art therapy, where they basically give me paper and pencils and paints and pastels and ART STUFF and it works really well. They let me draw what I want, and I get to keep it if I like it; if I don't they keep it. It really helps, but it's not considered actual therapy even though it is! When I say I do art therapy, people tell me it isn't therapy and that I don't have problems. Other therapy just doesn't work for me; I can sit and talk my feeling out without something to do, else I scratch my arms to pieces or bend my fingers back.
0 likesEven though my mental health and anxiety isn't as bad as it used to be I really want to go to therapy just because of how much good I've heard it does but I'm terrified to ask my parents for it because last time I tried to get therapy and told them about my anxiety they just denied I even have it. I think it's because I don't have MAJOR anxiety but at the time it was big enough to be affecting me a lot even if it isn't as bad as other people's :/ and I'm homeschooled so school counseling isn't an option rn although I will be going to school next year so maybe?
0 likesThis is v weird. Tessa reminds me sooo much of my guidance counselor
0 likesI just love tessa's hair. I just had to say that. OK BYE
0 likesCAMHS is great and I go there for CBT for PTSD and therapy for depression and anxiety so yeah but there is currently like an 18 month waiting list in all areas
0 likesOMG İ LOVE YOU BOTH A LOT
0 likesUghh Dodie looks so good in this video
0 likesEXCUSE ME i felt ATTACKED when you mentioned 'being attracted to the same emotionally unavailable man over and over' bc that is so me wtf. also same reason for not going to therapy for a while. literally same. wat
0 likesAlso, for US people, some councilors/therapists will charge you based on something called a sliding scale that is based on your income, so you pay much cheaper rates, if your lower income but don't qualify for state funded insurance (like AHCCCS, here in AZ) or Obama care etc
1 likemy mum a therapist which is great and people think its easy for me to talk to her and sometimes it is but not normally because shes my mum obviously :) everyone should use her 😂💛
0 likesI'm saying this to ask for help
0 likesI want to start going to therapy but I'm to scared as i don't trust anyone with my feelings but me. I also don't know if how i'm feeling can be classed as an issue and don't want to be a burden to anyone. can anyone give me any advice on what to do?
I'm like Tessa - I don't think I'm "bad enough" for therapy. Also despite being plenty old enough to do what I want I know my Mum doesn't like it because of experiences with her Mum so I'd feel like I couldn't tell her but I also can't hide things from her. Also I have SO many out loud conversations with myself (I live alone) I kinda feel like sometimes I'm my own therapist but also I deal with anxiety by ignoring and avoiding all situations that might raise it so I'm clearly not coping but also uuuuuuuugh scary commitment and new people and accepting I'm broken like everyone else but that's not a bad thing. I even have a work objective this year to learn to cope with anxiety better and I expect to achieve that without therapy!? Lol good luck future me
0 likesget someone who looks at you the way Tessa looks as Dodie
0 likesHow do know if the counselor you go to is right for you?
0 likesI need therapy I shared all my stuff to my friend and he left me saying I was a negative person who made people feel worse about themselves...
0 likesthis video calms me, i love this sm
0 likesI find it so frustrating to confront the institutionalized stigma against people with mental health issues. I just moved to a new country, and because I'm on an SSRI for my depression (which is in remission), they made it so much more difficult for me to convert my NY driver's license. The woman in the office told me I have mental problems and need a doctor's note saying I can drive-- I went back with a note and she said they needed to send it to their doctor in another city now to confirm that it was ok for my to drive. Then they stapled all the notes to my form that goes to my driving instructor, so that he can know about my medication too. The whole thing was really degrading, and I'm like-- this is the reason people don't get help when they need it! Because of this kind of treatment. 😡
0 likesMy mum is a psychologist and even tho she counsels others she still goes to a therapist every week. She says it's really helpful. She loves what she does and says she always has the most interesting patients. It's nice to have a mum who will just sit with you when you're upset to help you through things. :)
0 likesI tried talking about it to my parents several times, but every time they're just like "You literally have no reason to get therapy, you have a good life"... Last time I asked, they got really pissed off and were like "Yeah okay, we'll get you freaking therapy so you can pretend you're depressed and feel better, is that what you want?" So I just shut up until now. I guess I'll have to survive without it until I'm eighteen.
0 likesschool counseling is iffy it always made me feel worse but my friend said it helped her come out so I guess it works for some people
0 likesDo you two just go to sort of open counselling sessions or psychologists trained in a particular type of therapy? Or both? :)
0 likesi do wish i went to therapy, but i've had a really bad experience with a therapist before, so... no thanks.
0 likesand i know you said that you need to find the therapist for you, but the one i met just scared me for life.
the first meeting i had i needed to have with my parents, apparently (cuz im not 18 yet), and when i had a chat with her (this horrible therapist that is) alone, i told her some VERY personal things. and, since she thought this so severe, she immediately wanted to tell my parents.
i said no, and that she wasn't allowed, but she still thought of it as her choice. i was so scared she was going to tell them, and broke down, and wanted to just run away and kill myself. that's how bad it was. but this idiot of a therapist didn't give a fuck!
she didn't tell them anything, but she basically said that something was up, and that got them worried, and they got scared, and blah blah blah... WHICH was EXACTLY what i didn't want to do!!!
the reason i reached out in the first place and wanted a therapist, was because i needed to talk to someone that wasn't directly related to me, and not as close to me.
i felt 2000 times worse after seeing her, and i blame her a lot for me feeling like shit right now. because i wouldn't dare reach out and ask for a therapist again. and i really do need to talk to someone, i really do.
fuck sorry for ranting, even started crying and shit, ffs
anyway, if anyone has any tips, or if they've shared this experience in any way, please help me out...?
Dodie, Tessa, any good advice...?
an amazing video <3
0 likesmy friend recently started therapy bc she has depression bc of an unfortunate family situation and I've been thinking about starting going to some kind of therapy bc I get very depressed from time to time and I have other mental issues as well. my mum knows but I really don't want to go tbh bc I hate talking to new people etc (so much I would consider it a problem) asdfghjkl we'll see
0 likesWe did it! misses each other's hand Noooo! X) Great info! Thanks! :) <3
0 likesI always find that i lie to my therapist, like I'm so used to lying to everyone in my life and I am really not a very trusting person, I don't know maybe it's just me
0 likesAHAHAHAHA DODIE YOUR DRESS IS SOOOO CUTE!!!! ALSO TESS'S HAIR IS SUPER PRETTY
0 likesYour dress brings me pure joy!!
0 likesUgh you two together is the best. Also your tours together are the best. Basically what I'm saying is stop being the best because its distracting and I have woRK TO DO. <3
0 likesMy family (really my parents) are extremely religious, and I know I need therapy, but they say I need to have a religious based counselor. I really don't want to have that type because I need unconnected and unaffected advice. I need therapy but that's the only kind they allow. I have GAD and don't know what to do.
0 likesI hate it when people are like "oh no everyone has that feeling, it's normal"
0 likesWhen for me the feeling can be COMPLETELY different and control my life and for other people it can be "Oh, I'm a bit stressed sometimes" and for me it's having nightmares and sleep paralysis for weeks
omg just thank you for this video
0 likesI was seeing a therapist aged 12-13 and decided to stop cause it just didn't work for me. I'm realising now that the problem was actually probably my therapist ; she was listening, but it made me feel uncomfortable that she never tried to engage into an actual conversation and try and find sort of solutions. She was there to listen, but not to chat about it.
0 likesThis video is really making me want to go to therapy again. I constantly feel the need to talk about how I feel but still struggle to 100% open up with my friends and relatives. Thank you for that video!
videos with both tessa and dodie are the best videos
0 likesI tried going to therapy but one of my problems is that I struggle communicating with people so... r.i.p me I guess
0 likestherapy is so hard for me because i have anxiety which makes it difficult to talk... but i'm at therapy for help with my anxiety & depression... lmao okay
0 likesTessa -What books has your therapist recommended?
0 likesI feel so hard to find a psychologist/counsellor. The only good one I had was in high school with my school counsellor. But after that I feel like I had terrible psychologists where they eventually tell me that they can't help and I should see someone else because they don't deal with trauma/grief. My mum tells me that I can't see one because I won't get a job. I feel horrible. In Australia, I feel like a lot of psychologists are so expensive, even if I go through Medicare/GP.
0 likesmy friends want me to go to therapy because I think I'm experiencing depersonalisation because of this what I think was depression and anxiety has kind of left like sometimes it comes back but not often and I feel like I've actually lost my mind I can't tell if scared or not I'm numb and my mind is never active anymore and now I'm just a whole ball of confused and lost (I'm 13) what should I do? like my mind atm is making it super hard to explain anything Like the way I explained it to my friends was I showed them dodies video which I think letting someone else know helped but I just don't know what to do now.
0 likesIf anyone here is from Australia and wants/needs counselling: HEADSPACE. Oh my gosh, headspace. They are so good! They have physical clinics where you can get 10 sessions free per year and they also have online chat options. It's scary, it's daunting, but the folk at headspace are so lovely and welcoming x
0 likesI had therapy, but the issue was that my therapist told my parents. I understood she needed to, but I stressed me out and made my life worse because I want a space to be open and free. I wish she just told them how I was mentally rather than telling them everything I tell them cause I could've done that M Y S E L F
0 likesright now im in a situation where my parents dont even know im depressed, i dont even know if im depressed. ive just been guessing that this chronic numbness was depression. i really dont know how to talk to my parents at all, its like i dont want too.
0 likesremember this seems very much focused on private therapy- on the nhs you dont really have the option to 'shop around', you have to take what you're given and it certainly doesn't last 6 months + . Just a comment for those that might not be able to afford what they're talking about - definitely dont let this put you off going though.
0 likesdodie looks so pretty ❤
0 likeswhen you are an adult can't you get therapy for free on the NHS?Or is that just CAMHS before you are 18? ://
0 likeslove you dodie xx
I've got insomnia and I've had it for like four years and I have no idea if it's physical or psychological or if therapy could help, and even then my mental health is nowhere near bad enough to get therapy on the NHS seeing as I don't even know if I need it idek
0 likesso fun story, im a mess rn like a total mess but i feel really uncomfortable going to my parents about needing help, and i can’t go to my school because fun story my mom runs the school counseling part, and i just don’t know what to do..
0 likesI'm an English speaker in a non-English speaking country - I feel like I need to go to therapy, but feel like doing it in my second language wouldn't be as useful so have avoided it.
0 likesDodie's shirt is so cute I love it
0 likesthe problem with our school councelor is that she is also a normal teacher. so if you're one of her students it's difficult.
0 likesTalking therapy doesn't really work for me because I'm very self-reflective and good at understanding my mind anyway so a therapist/ counsellor usually doesn't tell me anything I don't already know and I've already set up a therapy inside my own head if you get what I mean and I'm deciding to try to go down the medication route.
0 likesIm pretty sure i need counselling but the councillors in our school aren't very good and I went to see a doctor (Im from the UK) but because I went with my parents i felt pressured and basically lied about some things to make myself seem more 'normal'. I was also told that because im under 18 they can't sign me up for therapy unless the symptoms are a risk to my physical health and because i have my gcses now im not allowed to take medication as it could make me feel more sleepy etc. And i can't feel like that while taking my exams. Help?
0 likesThis is completely irrelevant but I couldn't stop looking at dodie's hair watching this BECAUSE IT'S SO PRETTY
0 likesIve seen two countries at school and a doctor who recommended more counciling to my mum when she came back in but she hasn't taken me
0 likesRound of Applause
0 likesI loooooved your dress dodie ❤
0 likesNHS 😊 Wonderful Team & Staff 💙
0 likesthere's an itty bitty difference between counselling and therapy
0 likesOkay so I escaped (that's probably not the right word it's way too negative haha) therapy in August, and I think I want to go back, but at the same time I don't?
1 likeFirstly, I don't want to waste their time in case I'm making it all up and don't even realise (that's what my step-mother believes happened last time). If that's the case, I would rather they cared for someone who needs the help, rather than someone who is faking it.
Second, in a way, it feels like admitting defeat, and it makes me feel childish and weak. I know that it doesn't, and I wouldn't judge anyone for going to therapy, but for me to be going, I feel weak within myself. I also don't want to hurt/disappoint my parents.
Thirdly, I have no idea how to make the time. I'm in college, so I'm incredibly busy with studying, and I also have work experience to do, and I need to get a job as well. How do I balance that on top of counseling? Should I prioritise counseling, and possibly risk my grades?
UGHHHHHHHHHHHHH MENTAL ILLNESS SUCKS :)
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0 likesso first there is kids helpline which is online or you can call and is free (but the waiting line has always been a bit much for me) Its good for immediate help, feeling suicidal or wanting to hurt yourself etc.
Then we have Headspace (To preface I'm in NSW) Headspace is free if you have a medicare card which is super easy to get (no parents needed) They have a privacy agreement so unless you say then they wont tell your parents anything. You have a regular therapist and get about 10 sessions a year, the space is also super comfortable. Personally Ive been going there for about a year, went in relapsing suicidal thoughts/extreme anxiety and now its just a great place to vent.
Hope this helps, if you want to know anymore @misscupidturtle on twitter and Ill help you set it up (especially if you're not great on phones) xxx
wow I haven't seen tessa in years but somehow randomly thought about her this morning out of nowhere and then this video pops up 😨
0 likesI just don't how to tell my parents I want to go to therapy, I tried to talk to my mom but she said "you're okay, you don't need therapy", and even if I told them I'm pretty sure they can't afford it and my school counselor is so insensitive and ahhhhhhhh
0 likesI don't know why but when the my said depersonalisation at the same time it was so satisfying. Even though they couldn't even high five 2 seconds after
0 likesi've been feeling really crappy lately, and i highkey need to go to therapy. my mom understands that most people just need someone to talk to, but idk how to bring up that i need to go. also, i don't really feel very comfortable talking to my dad about this, idk why but... i don't know.
0 likesI've been in therapy for about 3 years. I'm literally 13
0 likesyou guys should start a podcast!!!
0 likesDodie and Tessa, I'm insanely proud of you both. Not only are you smashing the stigma of mental illness/going to therapy, you're doing it TOGETHER. Just great you two!
0 likesso this is youtube and as such i doubt anyone will read this HOWEVER: therapy is something that helped me a LOT and i wanted to add some stuff about this too:
0 likesi found my therapist by literally googling "therapists in my area" and picking one whose picture looked like someone i could talk to.
it may well feel weird talking about stuff, at least at first. the first appointment i went to, i literally put everything out there right off the bat. this was because i wanted to force myself to get to a point where i could talk about it as quickly as possible because i wanted to stop needing therapy as quickly as possible.
spoiler alert: that should not be your end goal! there is no switch that will be flipped where suddenly you don't need therapy.
view your therapist as a doctor in that you are seeking help that you need in the same way you would seek help for a cold or etc but make sure that you are not expecting it to be like a doctor in that you will leave with a magic cure-all for whatever is going on. i went twice a week for four months, backed down to once a week when i felt ready, and then we tapered off until right now where i am no longer going. this was through months of going as well as the addition of meds. medication is not necessary for everyone but there is suuuuch a stigma around it that i just want to say: if you (and/or your therapist) decide that medication is a good idea for you, please never feel badly about it. i did at first but then someone reminded me that people with diabetes need insulin and etc, so why should i feel badly about needing something that my body doesn't make/doesn't make properly?
ALSO: the mindset of "well what i'm feeling isn't bad enough to need therapy" is one that i've seen a lot of people dealing with. but here's the thing: if you're dealing with anything that is making you consider therapy, chances are it's a good idea! even if you're not dealing with something therapy is a good idea! therapy is great! i def agree with what dodie and tessa said about how everyone needs therapy because it is very, very true.
okay, gonna step down off my soapbox now because i'm realizing how long this is lol, whoops!
Mind also runs pay what you can counselling services which has a shorter waiting list than the NHS services
0 likesPeople are different. Talking didn't help me at all, it made my anxiety worse... (I had a panic attack in the office for almost 3 HOURS)
0 likesDodie, great video as always, just one thing; I NEEEED that dress, where can I get it?
1 likeMy parents don't agree with/believe with mental disorders and stuff which is very hard for me as I'm constantly forced to hide all my emotions and feelings...i dont think they would agree with me if i said id like to see a counsellor.
0 likesI want to go to therapy but I don't want to as well. I want to change my life, feel better and get better with my social anxiety. But I'm so scared to book that first appointment...
0 likesI did not know that Tessa was so damn wise!!
0 likesI went to counciling at my school because my teacher made me and I really didn't like it but she wants me to go again but it might be art therapy
0 likesi want group therapy so much omg
0 likesI want them to counsel me😢
0 likesalso if you're under 18 you can use childline, you can call them or talk online which is great if you're shy about talking to people
0 likesMy name is Tessa,, too..... Im in a very similar situation... Thank you
0 likesI haven't ever been able to choose myself whether i need therapy or not, because my parents just whisk me away to different therapists, and dont let me have a say in the matter. Tbh, to not be able to have a say in who you see and when you see them is horrible, and i still cant get out of it.
0 likesIf you or someone else is forcing you to go to therapy, it will not help. You need to make your own choices and only then will you know when it's best for you to see a therapist! :)
should I talk to someone, around this time last year I went to someone who would help me choose what I wanted to do in college (university for GB ppls, I'm in Ireland) and we went slightly off topic and she full on told me I had social anxiety, or anxiety in general and I just went silent like.....what..... it worried my for weeks and could've effected my exams. should I go even for one session to see what's up. or am I better off believing nothings "wrong" and going about my life
0 likesI love both of you. please be my friends!!!!
0 likesi avoid talking to my parents about my mental health. its either hormones or me being a hypocondriact who 'has everything wrong with them to them'.
0 likesthen i find out my brother is depressed. i wasnt aware and had to find his antidepressants myself. at first, i thought my parents were just uneducated. now i feel as if thye think im an attention seeker due to me being a minor hypocondriac which started as i had bad stomach aches when i was 5 which everyone brushed off as nothing. turns out my appendix errupted and i needed emergency surgery. i wish people would understand.
(sorry for all of my stupid anecdotes on your videos. i need to say it somewhere. why not say it somewhere where it is accepted by whom can relate)
i went to therapy but i didn't like talking face to face because i am very anxious
1 likei quit it but today i got a letter from them asking if i want to have a 'check-up' session
i don't know if i wanna go because lately i've been saying (soo much) that i really want to rant to someone who doesn't know me.
but i'm so awkward and anxious about talking to someone face to face. but i really need to talk to someone who isn't my friend..
What if you parents are wanting you to do counseling, but you don't want to?? My friend is going through this situation and I just want to tell her it okay to be in counseling. She thinks that its weird to talk to a stranger
0 likesi want to do therapy but im too scared to ask because it might make my parents feel bad :(((
0 likesI go twice a week to the therapist at my school before PE for anxiety
0 likesI love therapy
0 likesi love these two
0 likesthere is an app called Pacifica where you can work on your mental illnesses addictions or any other issues, you can join chat rooms with people who have the same problems as you and are willing to listen
0 likeslet me preface: I have never been depressed and this wasn't my parents ignoring my depression...they did to my sister, later but not me.
0 likesThere was a counselor at my school for elementary school K-8 and in 7th grade i told my parents I would like to go talk with him. My mom said no and when i pressed her she laughed and said "because I just wanted to talk it wasn't cuz I needed a counselor. The counselor was for kids who were struggling and I was a fine, happy kid." In reality I was starting to have deep emotions against my father but couldn't pin point them. I was watching my family fall apart. My parents, years later, got a divorce, and I was definitely seeing them fight constantly. Do I think I was more damaged by not going? No. But do I think it may have helped, oh yeah! I think all parents should listen to their kids when it comes to talking to a counselor. Take it seriously. And if you just think its because they want to talk, schedule one appointment and see what the counselor has to say about it. Now I am 12 years removed form that little 12 year old girl, and I know for a fact I need to go to counseling and unpack A LOT. But now its a lot harder with money. I will definitely look into the counseling Tessa talked about.
OMG THE SAME THING HAPPENED TO ME WITH THE TIMELINE THING
0 likesYay friends yay therapy feelings emotions words yay
0 likesDon't forget hotlines! No matter where you are they're free and confidential and completely on your terms
0 likesWould anyone like to tell me where Tessa and Dodie bought their tops? I've been wondering each time they've worn them and I really wanna know <3 (Bonus points if Tessa and Dodie actually respond to this themselves and you're correct!)
0 likescould you do a tutorial for your new way of doing eyeliner?
0 likesThis is so helpful, ALSO WHERE IS YOUR DRESS FROM OMG I LOVE IT
0 likesI really am not the person to talk about my feelings with anyone especially to my parents... And really I just want to talk about what I feel like and my life but not wanting to sound selfish:/
0 likesAbout NHS counselling:
0 likesThere are some places in the UK that are part of the NHS (so they're free)and accept self-refferals, you can look up places near you, they should be on the NHS website. They sometimes have different names as this is more comforting and less clinical sounding. Also, if you go via NHS, there may only be a certain amount of times they can see you, my counsellor offered 6 sessions regardless of how much you needed it, if you needed more you would have to go back on the waiting list. Another thing is the waiting list can be no longer than 18 weeks, it is policy for you to be seen within 18 weeks, sometimes it is sooner than that. stay happy x
Someone please tell me where Dodie got her top or dress or whatever it is from!! I am in love with it!
0 likesi got myself in a stupid situation because i considered going to a doctor because of my mental health and talked to a friend about it, who now wants me to go, when really i don't know yet and it makes my suicidal thoughts worse because i feel like if i go there, maybe they will limit my "options" but she will continue to pressure me and might talk to an adult if i don't go (which i guess is the right thing for her to do and i know she only wants the best for me) but i feel so trapped!
0 likesplus, in order to go to a doctor i will have to ask my mum, who i am not that close with, and i don't want to put a mental weight on her, i'd rather just keep everything to myself or leave. suicide just seems like the best option and i don't want to be forced to live i guess? i have no idea about anything my life is kind of a mess
Dodie, PLEASE tell me where you got that shirt! It's so pretty!
0 likesI feel sick and disgusting, but I know I'll be wake up to a new Dodie video every morning :) also, Tessa is wearing La La Land Yellow! Hahaha
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And aside that- I've been suspicious about myself possibly having bipolar disorder for a while now, and I'm very lucky to have parents who help me and support me all through this :) I'm going to see a psychiatrist to get a diagnosis soon.
1 likeSophie Minyard I hope that all goes well! 💛
0 likes@Eilidh Johnson Thank you :)
1 likeHi,
0 likesHow do I start the conversation with a school counsellor that I need help. She's already swamped with so many other kids
can anyone help, I'd love to try therapy but I have social anxiety so I'm not sure how that would work out :3
0 likesI like how in the uk there's multiple plausible ways to get affordable mental healthcare through the actual system and the us its like...hmm...well, it's $50 a pop bare minimum even with insurance...good luck...? Sigh.
0 likessee my parents noticed that i was having panic attacks daily and was like "yeah you need to see someone"
0 likesWish there were a love button for this vid
0 likesdodie : the UK has the NHS so its all cool
0 likestessa: the usa doesn't have that but school and church amirite
You look like someone who likes to go to urban outfitters, has little pet cactuses, goes on tumblr and owns a kjallraven backpack XD I love it you're so cute and i love your songs btw
0 likesI want to talk to someone. Just... Talking, and being free to say anything without feeling rejected. I have just sO MUCH STUFF INSIDE I CAAAAAAN'T. Also, there is a counselor in my school, and she's... Nice(?) Idk, but I don't want to talk to her. She's also a teacher, and I'm kinda afraid that she might tell the other professors or my parents, and I certainly do not want that. I don't want to lose class either, thank you very much. And... I have no money, neither any idea where I can find a counselor or something. Help c:
0 likesOmg my parents have gotten super involved with Celebrate Recovery over the past year.. It's great!
0 likesThe reason telling parents you want to try counselling bc you're friends are doing it (whether it's true or not) mihgt not work because personally my parents would always say that I'm just following trends and I don't have to be doing everything that my friends are doing. I'm right on the edge of seeking counselling soon because I just really feel like I need it, but I have yet to come up with a good way to approach it with my parents :)
0 likesIncidentally, this video was so nice and made me feel warm, thank you girls :))
'Why am I taller than every person in the world?' Same Tessa
0 likesI love your shirt!! 💛💛
0 likesI ❤️ your top Dodie 😘
0 likesI started therapy a while ago but my parents just stopped sending me and I haven't been in months ?? I think they forgot about me /: which sucks bc it was helping
0 likesI've been going to therapy for a very long time and have seen very many therapists... unfortunately, it hasn't helped a bit :/
0 likesugh your sound quality is goals. what microphone do you use?
0 likesalso for lgbt + youth in the us theres the trevor project that has online chat rooms and call services for counseling for things like self harm, depression, suicidal thoughts ext. its really amazing just google the trevor project
0 likesis it weird that i am actually friends with my counselor at school
0 likesI probably should be in therapy but my insurance is so crap. Like 5 years ago (maybe) I went to a therapist recommended to me by my grandma who picked an older homophobic lady and she said "next week when you come in i want you to have applied for college" but the problem with that was that my a) no money for college and b) my grandparents wouldn't let me drive to classes anyway. I felt better after sessions because I cried the entire time basically. It was just a very weird experience.
0 likesI've been to therapy for like a year now .. I've been to alot of therapists ... But it just won't help for me ... What should I do?
0 likesI gave up on therapy after trying with 9 different therapists and psychiatrists.
0 likesdoes anyone know where dodie got that dress? it's really pretty and gives me happy vibes and i want to find it :)
1 likehow do you tell a friend you think they need therapy without coming off in a 'i don't want to listen to your problems'/'i don't care anymore' way?
0 likesI LOVE YOUR SHIRT DODIE
0 likesI wanna have a Tessa.
0 likesIt also helps when u have no friends to talk to :)
0 likesMy parents want to get me into therapy but I don't want to and I'm just getting more anxious because I really don't want to go.
0 likesokay this is an amazing video and well done dodie and tess and this is v important BUT does anyone know where dodie got her dress from? again, v important and amazing video but i really need that dress
0 likesI always preferred someone who had something to offer me back.
0 likesdodie looks so beautiful
1 likeoh my WORD there's like random grinding/thumping noises in the background of this video and I just came from watching someone play a horror game and I was SO FREAKED OUT until I re-played a clip and realized it was just the audio. Geez Dodie, tell your roommates to be quiet! ;)
0 likesI tried therapy and I don't think it's for me. The only thing I've only found to work is pills and I'm only 16, is that ok?
0 likesI LOVE DODIES DRESSS!!!!!
0 likesIt great people talking about therapy! Therapy on the NHS is free but you cannot chose the therapist and so you could not bond so sometimes isn't helpful 🙃. Just in case anyone uk is here
0 likesI just hate that my therapist is including my parents in my whole mess bc Im 16. I don't want them to feel like its their fault (even tho it lowkey is) and that they failed as parents (my mom tells me weekly "sorry that im such a bad mom, this is all my fault, blah blah blah") and that makes me feel worse.
0 likesCheck out the website Big White Wall, they do therapy online and it's actually NHS funded without the ridiculous waiting list! That's where I did my first therapy last year, and my therapist from there literally saved my life!
0 likesI've tried counseling and got a bad counselor but I ended up with her because she wasn't expensive. I don't think I have the money to have a good counselor even tho I desperately need it. I live in the US
0 likes"a lot of churches have counseling" ... my dads the pastor at my church
1 likeOh god yes a bisexual can be around another girl and they can just be friends
0 likesanother discounted resource for counseling – a lot of universities will offer discounted rates for therapy since it's done by students who are honing their skills. they're normally monitored by proper doctors so it's still super proper. but that way you get cheap therapy & help someone's education! I did it after I graduated college before I was able to afford my co-pay in the U.S. and my sessions were $10 per hour.
0 likesTessa reminds me of the cool principal from school of rock
0 likesI love all of your dresses, where did you get this one Dodz?!
0 likesOMG MY HEADPHONES WERE ON FULL AND WHEN SHE CLAPPED FOR HER INTRO MY EARDRUMS EXPLODED
0 likesСлавяночка как всегда неотразима!
1 likedodie, your shirt is adorable xx
0 likeshopefully im not the only one that ships dodie and tessa <3 love them both no matter what
0 likesmy daughter just told me she is self harming. I want her to go to counselling but she won't go. does anyone have any suggestions about what I can do?
0 likesI'm 14 and have been very sad so I went to the doctor with my mum and the doctor said to me to try help myself... how am I meant to help myself? I just feel stuck now because I can't get help :(
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Keep talking to your mom about it. You can always seek counseling without a doctor's note, as long as your parents are behind you.
0 likesgosh tessa's accent is just lovely
0 likesOH MY GOD WHERE CAN I BUY DODIES DRESS ?
0 likesMost universities have health and counselling centres and as you usually are paying for this in your tuition may have access to free counselling!!
0 likesTessa makes the best faces.
0 likesi love dodie's shirt!! does anyone know where it's from?
0 likesMy dream job is to be an art therapist!
0 likesWaiting list for Camhs is much big, been waiting since August and I'm now 5th in line. Government needs to give more funding to camhs its been 5 months
0 likesDoes anyone know where i can find the dress dodies wearing?? Im in love😱
0 likesIf you find yourself struggling because of a trauma in your past that might be related to sexual assault or domestic violence there are places in the us that offer counseling for free or at a low cost. Or look for nonprofit agencies in your area. In the us you can call 211 and then can help connect you with resources in your area.
0 likesIm scared to go to therapy because I dont know if I want to unbarry all the shit I have in my brain
0 likesmy parents tried to send me to counseling, but I didn't want to go, not because I don't want help, I do, I said no because it was a counselor at our church. I really did not want that, I do not want to be bombarded with prayer and religious propaganda.
0 likeshow do you learn about words like depersonalisation or codependency? What categories are they in and where can i find something like them so i can 'find' where i 'fit' and as a whole, learn more about myself?
0 likesDodie, where did you get your dress from? It's adorable!!!! Lyl Xx💕
0 likesThis makes me sad, I'm in therapy but I'm there for evidence and shit and not me. It's not out of my interest and therefore it's ugh, I can't switch it'll be the same situation. Just feel a lil stuck
0 likesdodie i absolutly adore your shirt/dress thing.. where did you buy it???
0 likesI hated CBT because writing caused me Depression
1 likeI REALLY want to know how tall Dodie is for some reason
0 likesIs therapy free in the UK? :)
0 likesso much love!!!
0 likesIts 5:15 AM and I was having a dodie marathon, she uploaded this vid 2 hours ago.
0 likesI DIDNT GET THE BLOODY NOTIF LIKE WHAT THE ACTUAL😢😢😢
I needed this video
0 likesAt my school you have to tell your parents how you feel but I don’t want to tell my parents that’s why I went but it took me so long to go bc I was use to just telling my friends and to I went to group counseling so yea I don’t ever wanna go alone
0 likesI have a question; it my sound dumb I'm sorry but I honestly have no idea, anyway.
0 likesWho actually diagnoses you with things like depression and anxiety? Is it your therapist or a doctor or...?
WHERE DID YOU GET THAT DRESS IVE BEEN SEARCHING HOPELESSLY EVERYWHERE
0 likesI love tessa's peach hair
0 likesawe it's the 2 most beautiful people on the Internet, (no joke they're my actual 2 biggest YouTube crushes)
0 likesdoes anyone know where dodie got her round glasses that she wears in most of her videos? im trying to find them because I want them rlly bad, and this is a bad video to ask on but I need to know because I love them whoops bye
0 likesMy mom is trying to make me go to therapy, but I really don't feel comfortable with going because I don't want to talk to someone I don't know about my problems. Suggestions?
0 likesDODIE Where did you get that dress from? It's soooo my style and I need it :)
0 likesmy dad wants me to go see a counselor...but I have social anxiety...so seeing a stranger for social anxiety doesn't make sense to me. and the idea of it just makes me feel like I'm not good and helpful and nice when I am, if that makes sense. Also, he's been before and has treated us all a lot better. I think he really needs to go back; I'M not closed mineded/making people feel bad/being a huge religious nut/making people uncomfortable; I'm just a good kid struggling with protecting self-esteem from him. I don't know what to do.
0 likesI have a lot of bad days. There are so many days where my brain refuses to shut up, feeding me with thoughts capable of making me go insane. There is this constant knot in my chest that refuses to unfurl and my eyes refuse to give away the tears, which makes it all extra worse. I can't cry, I can't speak about it because I know something is wrong with me I just don't know what it is. But, sometimes I have days which are not that bad. Since Thursday, I have been feeling a little better. Yesterday I was at the park with my best friend and we clicked a lot of pictures(because both of us love photography) and talked about literally everything. You know, just two teenagers laughing their butts off for no absolute reason. It was nice. I came home and ended up with a cold and a fever that still lasts but my mental health seems a little upbeat than it usually is. My physical health though, is a lot worse. However, what I realized is, I would rather be in this physical state of sickness than a mental one. And that just saddens me. I would rather have a terrible cold than have a terrible thought process.
0 likesAnyways, writing about it made me feel good. I love your videos x
depression is a luxury we can't afford
0 likesdo therapists ask questions during sessions?
0 likes> Wants to go to therapy to address my anxiety disorder.
0 likes> Waits for months on NHS waiting list.
> Finally get appointments with psychologist.
> Can't face the appointment due to anxiety.
> Get a voicemail on how I can't miss more than 3 appointments or I'll be taken off the list.
> The voicemail gives me more anxiety thinking I'll be questioned why I didn't go the previous week so I don't go the following week.
> Never end up going.
> Repeat.
Dodie!! where is your dress from also thank you both for videos like this
0 likesI don't want to go to therapy because i always think that I'm going to start talking about my problems and the therapist is gonna be like- Oh why the hell is she here!? Nothing is wrong with her she's just a overdramatic and angsty teen who wants attention. So yeah know, fun fun fun
0 likesI'm doing the timeline thing noww wow
0 likesI don't even know where I would go for therapy.
0 likesI would need therapy, but I don't have money for that, so I'm watching youtube lol :D
0 likesI was I therapy once. They couldn't help me.
0 likesI actually need Tessa's hair
0 likesI have to go to therapy because I was told I might be bipolar, have anxiety and raise a red flag for severe depression and suicide. bit do not feel depressed in anyway. apart from someday. please help me clarify
0 likesi love tessas hair and jumper, anyone know where i can get the jumper?? thankk :-)
1 likeThe trick to a good high five is to look at the other person's elbow. :{D
0 likesWhen I was 8-10 I was suffering horrible anxiety attacks, and my mum (who has many many problems both mental and not mental) put me into therapy in hopes that it would help. It did, but she didn't. So next, in high school, after some shitty things happened, my dad (the good person he is) booked me an appointment for the school councillor and honestly I hated it. I'm a bit passive and I never want to talk about myself. I think 'maybe I should go to therapy maybe I should try it out' but I know if I did I'd just sit there and not say a word.
0 likesTessa, do you know what a comb is?
0 likesI can't understand myself. I always tell myself that I don't need help or counselling because I have everything and more, there are people going through a lot worse than me and I feel guilty for wanting help, I feel I'm not eligible for it? (I can't explain it very well) I know I need help but my mind tells me other things and I hate it. if you read this, thank you I just wanted to get it off my chest and see if any one else can understand what I'm trying to say x
1 likethere is a counseling service through my school and last year the person I got with was.... not the best but this year the person I got is just so good and I'm feeling way better about the event and more willing to talk about it so... yay therapy!!!
0 likesOkay this video was very enlightening but where is your shirt from?! It's AMAZINGGGGG
0 likes"Damn;
0 likesI love the world."
what if someone is really cynical about therapy and just really doesn't know how to open up
0 likesMy counsellor is wrong for me but I can't change as I'm going to camhs so my parents refuse for me to change although I know it's wrong for me. ugh
0 likesas for what to do if you can't afford counseling; there is a wonderful website called 7 cups of tea! it offers group chats, forums, guided meditations, and counseling
0 likesMy mother has a title in psychology but she does not work as a therapyst. The weird part is that she does not takes it seriously when I tell her I want to go to therapy. Well, even if i had a therapyst I think I would probably keep many things to myself, because I wouldn't tell them even to a therapyst.
0 likesdoes anyone know where dodie's dress is from? looooved the video
0 likesTESSA I LOVE YOUR SWEATER
0 likesYous 2 are so gorg😍
0 likesI know she's not wearing it in this video but can someone tell me where Tessa got her 'lazy' cardigan? It's so cute!
0 likesI need therapy, but I don't really have time for it, really. I know I would need to go through uni counselling before I'd get in line for therapy, and even after that I would have to be available for at least a year - and honestly don't know where I'm going to be in a year. So. Yeah. Private therapists cost too much, and there isn't lot to select from in this tiny town, so I just gotta depend on my own research and friends. :/
0 likesWhere do you both get your clothes from? It sounds kind of creepy but they look really nice...
1 likeI WENT TO CELEBRATE RECOVERY BEFORE INDIVIDUAL THERAPY :O
0 likesi think i may go back to therapy but the problem is, the woman in my school was my counsellor for 6 months and it didn't help in the end. i could go to my local gp and then be referred but mMM IM TOO NERVOUS, so i'm not really sure what to do. i talk to my old form tutor a lot but because she's a teacher she has to legally say anything if i'm a danger to myself, but the problem is i'm so suicidal that everything i talk about kind of is linked to being a danger to myself hMm
0 likesI LOVE your dress! Where is it from?
1 likeWhat tessa says about the doctor going "hmm hmm" 2:27 I always find it very like they dont believe me or they're not listening. It's very off putting and makes me feel worse 😅😅
0 likesWhat should you do if you're a teenager (therefore too young to get therapy secretly), your family is a big catalyst to your problem, and you might get exempted from your educational course if you aren't "medically/mentally fit"? Never mind therapy, I'm panicking as to if a doctor seeing (old) scars during my required medical exam will damn me completely. :/
0 likesaaaaah where do I start (this is going to be a very long and dramatic comment) I'm 18 (turning 19 in March WHAT), I graduated high school and am currently in the middle of a gap year. About a year ago I figured out that I probably have ADHD. I was on a waiting list FOREVER (5 months actually but it felt like eternity) but now I'm finally seeing a psychiatrist. She concluded that I probably indeed have it and we decided to try methylfenidate (usually sold under the name Ritalin). I'm on 45 mg total per day and it's not fucking helping it just makes my heart beat really fast and I feel anxious as fuck. I'm really scared that I don't actually have it. What if I'm just a stupid lazy good for nothing who will never survive in the real world.
0 likesI'm pretty sure I'm depressed? I never feel good and I can't imagine having a future. I'm sort of suicidal? Like in the long run? I'm not going to kill myself tomorrow but I feel like suicide is eventually how I am going to die. A bit of psychiatric history: when I was 4 my parents took me to a therapist or smth for anger issues I think? I never got a proper explanation of what it was about exactly. When I was 9 my school referred me to a child psychologist because they thought I had issues with depression and anxiety. I remember a little bit of that. They focused on my frequent fights with my younger sister and my social awkwardness in school but that was it. The conflicts between me and my sister eventually lessened and they sent me to some silly social skills training. The depression and anxiety thing was discarded as simple shyness.
I remember that when I was 11 I wanted to fall asleep and never wake up again. That feeling never really went away, it became more serious. Just before I found out about ADHD I had pretty serious ideas about killing myself.
I don't know if it's ADHD and depression or just ADHD or just depression. I feel like I really need therapy, the way I think is not good. I'm really scared to talk to my parents about this. I'm scared that my mother will get angry at me for being ungrateful or exaggerating. She'll say that I already saw someone when I was 9, wasn't that enough? I really don't know what to do, sometimes I even feel like I should just end it asap to save myself more suffering, it's never going to get better anyway
I know people will tell me I should just do this and this and that it will help but I don't think I can believe you
Tessa please stay in the UK with Dodie!
0 likesDodie you should do a cover of shape of you!
0 likesMy parent are wonderful but I don’t really know how to talk to them about stuff in my head. My mom cries easily and my dad is a doctor and comes home really stressed after work and I can’t really talk to him bc he would just brush it off and say that I’m fine when I’m not and I can’t stand seeing my mom cry bc I think I’ve done something wrong. Anyone have advice on how to talk to them without upsetting them?
0 likesmy school councellor is so bad - like dodie's first councellor, he left loads of spaces but another thing is that i was not comfortable explaining the problems in my life to not only a stranger, but a male stranger. i have NOTHING wrong with male councellors, but i would feel so much more comfortable with a woman. i think she would understand a bit more but like they said, if you need councelling, go xx
0 likesOmg my church has talked about “celebrate recovery”
0 likesMY highschool actually has counselors and therapists come into the school.
0 likesTESSA IS SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO PRETTY AND DODIE IS SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO PRETTY WHY CAN'T I BE PRETTY LIKE THEM
0 likesI was going to go to group therapy I signed up but I kept avoiding the classes so never went and now I can't go.
0 likesGives all the hugs.
0 likesSlightly off topic but does anyone know where Dodie got her lights in the background from?? The lightbulb fairylights?
0 likesI'M SEEING TESSA ON TUESDAY
0 likesevery inch of u is just "goals" !!!😍😍😍
0 likesAnyone know where Dodie's dress is from?
0 likesso I need help with my social anxiety but im scared to get help because of my social anxiety so thats fun
0 likesoh my gosh where did you get your dress from its beautiful! :0
0 likesI feel like I should start going to a therapist, but I don't think I will actually be motivated to put in the work to get better... I kinda just want to know if there's actually something wrong with me or if I'm just lazy...
0 likesChurches will more than likely not charge you for counseling by the way. Also don't get freaked out if the try sharing Christianity with you, that's just their way of sharing they care. Just making a side note about that.
0 likesIf youre in the UK but anxious abiut twlling your GP your problems (or they shot you down which happened to me once), there's an NHS service for counciling that you can apply for online using a self-referral called Let's Talk Wellbeing. And it's free and available all over the country. I hope this is useful x
0 likesFree self-referral places in the UK for therapy to google -
1 likeIAPT (increasing access to psychological therapies) and the name of your area, like 'IAPT Leeds'
Then the name of the services in your area that deliver that will be called different things.
MIND can also offer local advice.
You can also go via your GP.
Lots of private therapies offer a sliding scale pay scale so it might be only £5/£10 an hour rather than £40+. It is absolutely ok to email all the local portage therapists in your area the same email saying 'these are my struggles...do you offer a sliding pay scale/ a lower rate for those on low income'.
School/ College/ University all have free counselling. If your school only has 1'counsellor and you don't like them then your school is obligated to provide an alternative (this is usually a referral to CAMHS).
all I know is that my motorcycle is my therapy
0 likesahh dodie is so pretty when she is pensive
0 likesi went to therapy and it did nothing
0 likesi mean like
i told that woman my problems
and she just smiled and said
"well stop that problem"
like
bitch
idk how
teach me
I asked the "what if you can't afford it" question but I'm not in the UK or US :(
0 likesi need to know where dodie got that gosh dang dress.
0 likesI NEED YOUR SHIRT
0 likesi would love to be in counseling but anytimes i bring it up to my mom she just asks my why i cant talk to her. i need more professional help? i dont feel comfortable enough to talk to my mom sometimes :// I understand what shes thinking because she is worried about me, (im worried about me) but she thinks shes failing and so its hard to let her realize how much it means to me to be able to talk to a professional
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i dont know how old you are but maybe you could talk to your regular doctor about wanting to go to a therapist and your doctor will ask why and youll say "_____" and then your doctor will ask, "psychiatrist or psychologist?" and you'll say, "psychologist" because they're the ones who talk you through your problems not give you "medicine" for them and then your doctor will refer you to psychologists who are on your insurance plan and then your doctor will probs have a talk with your mom about why it might be a good thing and your mom might feel bad but if so, just remember that she probably is the reason you need therapy in the first place because our parents are human and they make mistakes even though they want to be perfect. anyway, even if your mom isnt the reason you need therapy, its not her choice if you think therapy is a medical and mental need.
0 likesMy mum is the one that is putting me in counselling and I don't want to at all. What to do?
0 likesSo, 2 years ago when I was 10 my mom took me to a therapist and I HATED HER SO FREAKING MUCH LIKE OMG SHUT UP HAHAHAHAHA YOU DONT KNOW WHAT YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT. She called it "family counseling" because I hated my brother, whos older than me and I know that now, but back then I didn't. I was the only one truly in counseling and I was like WHY OK MY BROTHERS ANNOYING IF HE WOULD SHUT UP I WOULD BE NICE but I was really hateful and spiteful as a younger child (2 years ago wow IM SO MUCH OLDER NOW HAHAH NO). Anyway, since I HATED HER we stopped seeing her. Then when I was 11, we met this other lady and I loved her. I saw her for about a year. She didn't really have a method, but she would just talk to me, and it worked. Because in reality, I had no one to talk to and I still don't. My mom took me out over the summer because she thought I was fine. But my story isn't like "THEN I HAD DEPRESSION AND ATTEMPTED SUICIDE AND THE SCHOOL COUNSELORS GOT INVOLVED AND IT WAS SO TRAUMATIZING (no offense to anyone who that happened to, because that's really tragic and NO ONE deserves to go through anything like that)". But now I'm in junior high, and things happened this year, and I really wish I could see her. It really sucks, because I had shitty friends who taught me I can't trust anyone. Honestly, it sucks. I'm quirky, and weird, and maybe even unique if I'm stretching it, but all my friends pick anyone else around them over me. But my family life is perfect now, I love my brother, my dad, my mom only did what was best for me, and I'm happy all around. Heck, I'm about to be 13. Like life is pretty great. I have a lot of friends, but it's like they're only my friends when no one else is around. And I can't tell anyone, because I cant trust anyone at my freaking school. And that makes me sad. And I know that everyone has a right to be sad an cry, but it feels like I don't. I MAKE STRAIGHT FUCKIN A'S WHY AM I SAD. ALL IM SAYING IS LIFE SUCKS SOMETIMES AND MY BEST FRIEND LIVES A 2 HOUR PLANE RIDE AWAY AND SHES THE ONLY PERSON I CAN TRUST IN THIS UNFAIR WORLD AND I LOVE HER TO DEATH BUT EVERYONE ELSE AT MY SCHOOL CAN SUCK IT
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I know no one really cares, but sharing it on the internet is better than telling people at my school. I know a lot of other people feel this way, so I don't judge.
0 likesMy therapist plays uno with me
2 likesI feel like I should talk to someone about things that are on my mind but how do u know when u should go cause I don't want to go and tell them what's happening and waste there time .... what do I normally talk to a friend but still thinking about it
0 likesIf you're in the UK and don't want to pay for a private therapist you can get referred to therapy via your doctor and have it through the NHS.
0 likesI need dodie’s shirt
0 likescan someone please tell me where is dodie's dress from ?
0 likesAnyone know where Dodie got her shirt?
0 likesWHERE IS DODIE'S TOP/DRESS FROM IT IS SO SO CUTE
0 likesWhere did you get your dress, dodie? :)
0 likesWhere did you get that fantastic dress?!
0 likesive been looking for that jumper and that dress all over!!! where are they from? xxxx
0 likesis it coincidence you and Shawna posted videos about therapy on the same day or?
0 likesdoes tessa have an accent or no im so confused
0 likesi think i might start therapy
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go for it! <3
1 likeHelp! I want to make a list of the bad and good things that happen through out my life but I am so scared of just thinking about the past or the bad times. It just really scare me but I want to face my fears! I just don't know how to. Please help.
0 likesDodie, can you become my knew therapist? I'm very suicidal and my therapist isn't helping. I have tried a few and I've lost all trust for adults and most trust for my friends. I don't know what to do at this point, please help..
0 likesYou know what, I'll probably be fine. Because ya know, suicide is fine. Yay! I need to stop typing, bye💙
Hello sorry random question where did you get your loft bed from?
0 likesWhere is your dress from? Does anyone know where Dodie's dress is from?
0 likesyeah my phycologist at the moment is realy awkward and quiet and uhh, i don't like it at all. I've had really good ones but she doesn't seem right cause I'm an introvert and its really awkward haha
0 likesis there a version of that website for the us?
0 likesI love your dress!!!!
0 likeshow is tessa so wise tho
0 likesIdk if I really need therapy because idk if I actually have anxiety or depression or if I just have bad days
0 likesi think im probably really lucky bc i can get free therapy (doctor's referral) and ive been going for like at least two years now but i just find it doesn't help??? but i dont know how to tell my therapist that and i feel bad that im taking up places other people my age would kill for and really need?????
0 likesOk so my mum is a therapist and I am like really scared to tell her that I think that I would like to go to one. I just do not want her to feel like she failed raising me and maybe is a good therapist (I know she is) but a bad mum. But I feel like she is the best mum you could ever wish for. My whole life I have been the strong one and I am never showing my break downs to anyone but I feel like I can't handle this anymore. I just feel like a filler friend, nobody's first choice, not even like a 6/10 more like a 4 or 3/10. Don't get me wrong I'm happy on the outside and I got a few things I really enjoy and I'm like always laughing and making jokes but when I'm alone in my room (mostly at night) I just listen to sad music and think that I'm a person I don't want to be but I can't do anything to change that. Thank you if you read my thoughts, I just had to tell it somebody that isn't my bed, my guitar, my dog... well anyway thanks to everybody and I would be very thankful if you would have an advice. (By the way I really love you dodie, yeah and Tessa too)
0 likesSCREAMS I LOVE VEDIF
0 likesWhat place did you go to in Nashville for therapy, Dodie?
0 likesthis is so weird i just watched the snapchat of Dodie at starbucks.
0 likesDodie, where did you get that dress?
0 likesI don't even know what my mental state is anymore
0 likesI did school counseling once. Some where horrible, but some where good. So. It's basically picking something out blind folded.
0 likesdodies face at 1:10 EDIT: and 1:11
0 likesi'm so so soo confused at where my mindset is right now and has been since i was 11. I just don't knowww ugh
0 likesWait I’m also attracted to the same emotionally unavailable guy for this whole yr w t f my entire recommended page were vids tht I needed
0 likesFor Australians interested, I believe you can get 10 (or 12, I can't recall) government funded sessions a year. Not a lot, but a start. Look it up for more accurate info, but I can guarantee there is a (limited) number of government funded sessions available per year.
0 likesOh, I would love if you made a video on how to make good YouTube videos. I have a nice camera and I'm wanting to start a channel. I haven't posted any of my videos because I can't find a good and possibly free editing program. Any suggestions? They are cover videos. I would love a little help from professionals! And you are my BIGGEST inspiration to do this. I would have never even started singing in front of people let alone record myself singing and putting it on the internet if I weren't for you.
0 likesThanks,
Kendall❤️
Hi Dodie! I just wanna ask if you wanna do a cover with dan howell? he can play the piano and he can sing. Please??
0 likesSchool guidance teachers are very hit and miss.
0 likesmy parents will not let me see a therapist even tho I've had multiple friends and teachers and adults with past and present mental problems that i should see one. my parents don't believe in therapists but everytime i try to talk about something with someone else they either tell me im boring or brush me off and ignore me (my parents do this to)
0 likesI need help. I have very traditional parents who don't believe that depression is not real. But the things is, I do counseling and was told that all my behavior; not eating much, losing weight suddenly, sleepless nights or not being able to wake up, along with some sleep paralysis, heavy weight upon my chest, headaches, shortness of breath, sudden nausea, fatigue; and i am falling behind in everything. i cannot remember most things anymore, and i am super unmotivated in class. I think I might be getting worse which is killing me. I am on a string with my parents and therapy is good but not enough. I have been looking into the option for antidepressants. who thinks this should be something that i should consider according to my situation?
0 likesI'm confused. what does emotionally unavailable mean?
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Probably somebody who isn't willing to emotionally open up as much as Tessa was. Like, they felt distant or cold. Lacking intimacy. Or maybe they were invested in someone else. Stuff like that that prohibits a connection/relationship.
9 likesDODIE WHERES YOUR DRESS FROM?!
0 likesTessa is so attractive, holy noodles.
0 likesOMG DODIE'S DRESS
0 likeswhere is your dress from dodiE i love it
0 likesDODIE WHAT A DRESS
0 likesEmotionally unavailable man? I hope it's not rusty he's so cool):
0 likesis that yellow sweater that Tessa's wearing the same one Dodie wore in Lollipop?
0 likeslol I have been to like 5 different therapists and I'm only 13 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻
0 likesIS TESSA WEARING DODIE YELLOW?
0 likesIt's Tessa Violet, the competition's violent
0 likesI'll go home...
Could you do Zain reaction video ! That’s gonna be so emotional video 😭😭💕❤️❤️ please just see it and u will do it 💙😭💕
1 likedodie where did you get your dress omg
0 likesI don't know if my therapy is actually working. I have been going evry week since last september and right afterwards I always feel better but a few hours everything is back and if i look on the bigge picture it has only gotten worse but i still like going to that therapist but i just dont think it is helping so yeah don't really know what to do. i am starting a new thing in the hospital this month so maybe that will. i am just so tired of don't feeling any change at all. but now i have shared my story with the internet hahah
0 likesWhat about therapy for people who's parents don't believe in mental illness? School therapists aren't right for me there's to much I can't tell them. My parents don't believe therapy is valid. My doctor recommended therapy and when scheduling the appointment my dad never took me. I was supposed to go to be diagnosed with depression but my dad being a nurse thought "if that's on your record people will think you're unstable and won't hire you. It could ruin your life" he's not the type of person who has feeling at all. So I can't just go in and ask he's not supportive at all.
0 likesI'M MISSING THE DODIE YELLOW THING SOMEONE PLS EXPLAIN
0 likesNormalize counseling and therapy
0 likesI used to go to therapy, but the therapist was absolutely rubbish
1 likesubbed, we all need couseling
0 likesI kinda want to try therapy but I don't think I actually need it. I think I'm just overreacting but I don't know. And even if I thought I needed it if I ask my mum she will question me about it and wouldn't be sure what to say to her
0 likesCancelling is not the answer to everything in life.
0 likesive had 10 therapists. im 15.
0 likesI went to a school councelor and it was this really stupid old Lady that I hated so I guess I'm kinda traumatized
0 likes2:41 so cute
0 likesHello! when I feel sad, I listen to this:
0 likesJonsi - Boy lilikoi ✿
Ok so this is weird..I think I want therapy but also I don't think that I need it that much (I know,they said everyone can profit of of it but meh:/ ),plus I'm scared.
0 likesI have friends that have so much more problems than me and I feel bad for thinking that I have the same problems or that I should even compare my problems to theirs..
Yeah,just rambling I guess
we did the timeline in elementary school wtf
0 likesFAVS FAVS FAVS FAVS FAVS FAVS FAVS FAVS FAVS FAVS AGH I LOVE THIS SM TYYYY
0 likesPretty sure i need therapy. Maybe in the future when im not so terrified
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I’ve had counselling sessions on the NHS several times now and i think its been helpful?? Im not sure if im just less depressed at the moment
0 likesWhat if your parents don't want to start you with Therapy I don't understand my thoughts and I want to talk about them but none of my friends really understand not even my internet friends and I don't really like my school counselor (I'm American). Could someone please help I'm scared and don't want to resort to attacking myself with my thought and ocd.
0 likesDodieeeeeeeeee where is your dress from? it's so cuuuuuuuuuute
0 likesSo what kind of therapy are you talking about? Is it more like behavioural therapy, systemic therapy or is it maybe some other type?
0 likesVedif is giving me liffeeee
0 likesI can't help but ship reaaally hard
0 likeswait what is depersonalization?
0 likesschool counselors are almost always the worst lmao
0 likesWhat happens when I know too much?
0 likesI. SHIP. THIS. FRIENDSHIP. SO. MUCH.
0 likesthank you
0 likesi want a tessa
0 likesIve always been told, "you dont need therapy, nothing is wrong with you, you arent special, other people have been through worse, you're overreacting, suck it up" ..? I feel like i dont need therapy even though my sister thinks i need therapy too much
0 likeshow about a video about songwriting?
0 likesyour dress is beautiful!!!!!!
0 likesactual fave people💙💙💙
0 likesis a therapist and a psychologist the same thing? I go to a psychologist
0 likesokay so i juST REALISED THEY HAVE THE SWME SWEATER AHHHH (DODIE'S LOLLIPOP VID"
0 likes<33
0 likesI can't go to therapy because it's too pricey and there's only one therapist around (already went to her, she made things even worse, her ethics weren't good, etc.) I can't go to my school councillor because you have to sign this sheet of paper saying you agree to let the school snoop around all your medical, physical and most importantly psychological problems (N O P E ) and also the councillor of eleven graders is my English teacher, and it'll make things really, really awkward. Advice? Anyone?
0 likesWhat is depersonalization?
0 likesI think im depressed but have no reason to be :/
0 likes1. where IS that dress from.
0 likes2. where IS that jumper from
perfect
0 likesHow tall is Tessa?
0 likesTessa kinda looks like Mina from Twice in this vid haha! cute.
0 likesomg dodie your dress is so cuuuttttteeeeee
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0 likesWAIT WAIT WAit i kind of ship it
0 likesDodie Where did you get your dress ahhhh
0 likesoh heck where's your dress from it's so cute
0 likesmy school councillor just died. she got hit by a car...I went to her with so much and now I want to go to her because I'm sad she's gone but I can't...cause she's gone
0 likesWhere is the dress from? :D
0 likesOnly a third of Tessa's face reminds me of the ice queen from Narnia????? also you two are rly cute (!friendship goals!)
0 likesI hate my therapy I just hate going
0 likesreally off topic but does anyone know what shirt/dress dodie is wearing? i really like it and would want to buy one!
0 likesWhy did I watch this I’m a) male & b) have no issues with depression. I do now though.
0 likesthe council of the expressive eyebrows, this vid is
0 likesthe council of the expressive eyebrows, this vid is
0 likes1:08
0 likesPlease don't be Rusty.
my mom is making me go and I am really scared
0 likesDoes anyone else think the yellow sweater is a tiny, subconscious sneak peak of things that were still to come?
0 likesMy schools was not good all they did was tell my parents which just upset me further
0 likesMy counsellor was crap so I gave up
0 likesuni counselling!!!
0 likeswhat does VEDIF stand for?
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Bronwyn Jacobs video everyday in February
0 likesThe road less Traveled <3!!
0 likesi hate therapy,, so much. i have anxiety, depression, bpd, ptsd, and trich. i need help for them. but i cannot talk to people. i can't tell my therapist anything. i haven't told her about my csa. i don't tell her anything useful. i'm so closed off without meaning to be. i hate it so much. at least i got zoloft to help. otherwise there is nothing i can do besides try to open up.
0 likesOMG WHERE IS YOUR DRESS FROMM!!??
0 likesWhy talk to a stranger when you can talk to someone you're really close with? The idea of dumping all your problems onto a stranger is odd
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sometimes you need a professional who knows how brains work to sort of guide through!
18 likesIt's also really good if you need to work through things with someone who is there for the purpose of helping people unpack and understand what's going on.
0 likescounseling doesn't help
0 likesme because my anxiety is so bad that i can't talk and we just sit there in complete silence and it's so uncomfortable and i have to go twice a week because i tried to kill myself and I don't know. i just feel like it would be easier if she could ask me questions? instead of me just talking because i don't know how to start a conversation about it? i guess??
Where is that blouse from ?
0 likestalking bout therapy, the gabbie show comes up on the side lol
0 likeshow tall is Tessa:)
0 likesplease post on doddleoddle too :(
0 likesthe memes in this comments section are so Good
0 likesdodge your eyebrows are noice today!!!!!!!
0 likesI can't afford therapy
0 likesWhy am i taller than any person on the planet?
1 likeJust meet dan howell....
Omg where is your dress from?
0 likesI've been in for 2 years and unfortunately it's not worked
0 likesDoes anyone else clapity klick along with her intro
0 likesI went to five different therapists over like... 3 years? Only one was good but she couldn't keep me there since it was mostly for kids with ADHD or ADD or similar. My first one yelled at my dad for no reason. The second one didn't know my language and was going to quit in three weeks anyways. The fourth one never helped. The fifth one forgot everything I had ever discussed with her multiple times.
0 likesok i've watched vedif videos before but i haven't figured out what it means lol someone pls help
0 likesI don’t think I can do therapy because I have trust issues and also it is too expensive
0 likessuccessful person go thru counseling period
0 likesDodie where is your dress from?????!!
0 likessomeone know if dodie is in England or in LA ? I just delet mine snapchat so I am a bit lost
0 likesAnyone looking for free counseling in the U.S., majority of r*pe crisis centers are free and you can receive completely free counseling without insurance. You don't have to only be a survivor of r*pe trauma, you can just be a mentally ill person who needs help. And if they can't help you, then they can give you referrals to other places that can help you with your distinct issue.
0 likesPLEASE someone tell me where her dress is froooooom
0 likesI want therapy.. but I don't know what for like i cant pinpoint but i feel like i want to understand myself better..?
0 likesthey both look gr8
0 likesHi Snapchat Dodie :D
0 likesOkay this isn't really relevant to the subject of the video (and I don't mean to overlook the topic bc it's a VERY important topic), but pls tell me where u got that dress i want it it's so cute ahh
0 likesWhere did you get your dress?????
0 likesThat dress 😍
0 likesmy school either has not great school counsellors or pay for actual therapists now. i can't afford paying and the school ones just threaten to send me to a place called 4 rivers which is a mental health hospital thing so im suffering.
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i dont want to be stuck in a hospital just because i feel shitty i want help but my school doesnt provide it
0 likesis that DODIE YELLOW
0 likesI'd like to say that website helped, but it was pretty useless for me. All of the suggestions they give are things I've tried before and they never help.
0 likesI'm going to my first appointment tomorrow
0 likesCould somebody tell me what Vedif is??
0 likesDid you go to a place called Onsite in Nashville? I went there.
0 likesThere's a book called Stardust by Neil Gaiman 👌👌👌👌 lil weird tho just gonna warn you
0 likeswhere is your dress from ?
0 likesIs Tessa's jumper Dodie yellow tho?
0 likesDoes anyone else find the sound very quiet?
0 likesIn middle school my school hired a therapist for me who I got to see for free, and though it didn't work out I thought that option was very nice! I have gone through 3 therapists and am now looking for the courage to tell my parents I wanna start therapy again. People always say therapy doesn't work, but it does! For me it didn't work out but that's because I haven't found the right person yet.
2 likesThat round of applause was so cuuuttteee 👏 Love you both
1 likeI'm at happy she's doing them daily now I needed someone to make me happy xD
1 likethank you for this im going to therapy soon for my anxiety, self harming, and suicidal thoughts and im really nervous this made me feel better love you xx
0 likesI love this so much I love when two of my favorite youtubers get together and have a chat
0 likesThank you for this video, Dodie, I really needed this. I'm in college and was considering going to group therapy, so now I might call and make an appointment.
0 likesI LOVE VEDIF!!! Seeing a video everyday just makes me so happy, it brightens everyday, thank you.
1 likeI'm literally going to my first counselling session next Friday and feeling apprehensive about it but this was reassuring thaaaaaanks :) Hoping it goes ok, it's a long time coming
0 likesI love the thought of Dodie sitting in a coffee shop, scrolling through comments and feeling happy 💛
0 likesYou two are honestly two of my favorite musicians and I look up to both of you a lot
0 likesthis was really helpful, actually. I was in therapy for a bit around this time last year, but since the therapist wasn't a right fit for me, I assumed therapy just wasn't right for me. I think im gonna see if I can find someone else in my area!
0 likesI've just started talking to someone from the NHS after my private counsellor referred me for suicidal thoughts. I've only had one session, which I didn't enjoy, but I'm on the list for CBT now so I'm hoping it'll get better :D good luck anyone else going into counselling etc
1 likethis video was amazing!! i really loved it. it's very helpful to me, someone who's been considering therapy for while. thank you so much <3
0 likesWonderful video, you and Tessa always feel like older siblings giving advice, it's lovely 💙💙
0 likesThank you dodie. For making videos, they're basically the only things that make me smile.
0 likesThank you so much for addressing these topics and stuff in your videos. Your videos have done so much for me. Thank you for making videos and connecting with your audience as much as you do. ❤❤❤❤
0 likesOh my gosh I love everything about this video. I've been going to therapy for about 5 months and I'm starting to realize how much I've improved my mental health and lifestyle choices. It's such a necessary topic that we need to normalize talking about and I'm so glad that you guys answered all these questions so perfectly! I love your videos Dodie! Thank you for sharing your beautiful face and mind and personality with us! 😊 It really makes my day better! 💕
0 likesI'm so happy you're doing vedif, I love you and your vids sm 💕💕
0 likesI've seen my psychologist for 5 years now and she's really helped - I've been feeling much better. It's also worth being picky about therapists :) it took me a long time to find someone I connected with
0 likesI love this video so much thank you for making this ❤️
0 likesThis video really touched me... thank you Dodie <3
0 likesTHIS IS SO HELPFUL THANK YOU SO MUCH 😘
0 likesDodie, I saw your snapchat about going to therapy when you first wanted to go and I want to thank you. You're one of few youtubers that's actually encouraged me to go. I signed up for a psych eval at my college and my appointment is next week. Wish me luck! 😄
0 likesi've been in therapy for 4 years now and it's just incredible how much it can help to talk to someone, and obviously drugs do their part in this, but i think probably everyone should go into therapy, like it's really helpful. so high five dodie and tessa, you're doing an amazing job :)
0 likesdodie. thank you for making videos about important things that no one else talks about. this is why i love you
0 likesThank you for talking about therapy and where to find ittt I feel as though I need therapy
0 likesi'm so glad you made a video about this, thank you both
0 likesyour videos always makes my day <3 ilysm
1 likethank you for making me smile, dodie.
0 likesp.s. you should put our comments on your snapchat ;)
this video made me very calm and happy. thanks dodie and tessa ^_^ Vedif is so lovely cause it feels like we're Dodie's best friend and we're meeting up everyday to chat. I'm just feeling very happy and calm after watching this! It's quite a nice feeling☺
0 likesThis was a very important video you guys made. I know therapy and that kind of stuff has a negative stigma behind it but you guys explained your experiences quite well. im glad youtubers like you guys talk about mental illnesses and that kind of stuff in your channels since it is truly helpful to your viewers. I know i was particularly affected by dodies videos when she went through that rough patch since i was going through some stuff at the same time. I felt less alone because of people like you putting these feelings into words. i felt more secure as well since it made me realize that life does on and things do get better! anyway lovely video and i cant wait for tomorrows :)
0 likesThank you for this video, I am waiting for my therapy and I now feel less alone :) xxx
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Priya Hanspal stay strong xD
1 likeEleanor Dance Aw thanks ❤️
0 likesWe need more of these two just sitting and talking.
1 likehi dodie I love you and you are honestly such an inspiration. you helped me so much in facing my anxiety. i know you probably won't see this, but just in case you do i hope you remember how important you are xx
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Also I'm the 1st comment ??
0 likesgosh i love you guys. thanks for talking the good words
0 likesGlad you put out a video about therapy/counseling. It has had such a negative connotation that I know people stay away from it out of fear of what people think. It needs to become more normal
0 likesYour videos really help me relax and calm down so VEDIF is like a bloody godsend thank you 😊😊😢😁
0 likesI've felt depressed since I was about 12 or 13 and I finally plucked up the courage (along with a friend) to go and see the school councillor (since I'm not sure how my parents would feel about it) and I had my first session on thursday. It was awkward at first but eventually all these things started pouring out and she was very supportive. A bit quiet and doesn't really ask many questions for my taste but it's better than nothing at all. I have my next session on Monday and I'm trying to pluck up the courage to tell her the deeper things bothering me (rather than homework and workload etc.) but I don't want it to seem too serious?? Idk. Counselling is good for you though in my opinion.
0 likesfor a long time I was terrified of therapy. felt like it was something to be ashamed of. I was so wrong and it has helped tramendously.
0 likesa question: what if you want to try counseling or therapy whatever you wanna call it, but you're not sure whether you actually have issues or whether you're just making mountains out of non existent mole hills?
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Katie Volker I had the same issue when I was thinking of getting help! I would say give it a shot anyway, often therapists will let you know if they can help or if therapy is not necessary for you at this stage in your life. So let them make that call because by thinking this you might be denying yourself the help you need :)
2 likesEmma Cleveland thanks! I'm definitely considering it. next step is getting over myself trying to isolate me and actually reach out ahah
1 likeI love love discussing feelings and emotions and how to deal with them as I feel like I've always been someone that hasn't teally done so in the past just generally to my upbringing and the people I've been around and my thoughts lol but now I'm like when I ask someone how they're feeling I want to like rEALLY KNOW and discuss and learn more about myself and others emotions. It's really interesting and although therapy does seem v v daunting and I'm not sure if it is something for me as I reflect over my emotions in other ways, I think I would like to try it one day and see what it's like 😊 GOOD ON YOU TWO FOR GOING TO THERAPY AND TALKING ABOUT IT <333
0 likesI go to "art therapy" where i work through my anxiety disorders using art and i sTRONGLY recommend that- because you're still talking through it, but you also have art projects to help center your mind and stuff :)
0 likesI tried therapy once, the counselor was awful so I changed to some other counselor and I absolutely loved it. It made me feel so much better.
0 likesI really want to go to therapy, but I'm afraid that my parents will make fun of me. I'm have bad anxiety but they don't think anxiety is real and I really want to tell someone about this problem but I can't cause my anxiety is preventing me from doing that. This video really helped me realize that talking it out is better than keeping it all in. Thanks Dodie❤❤❤❤
0 likeshonestly JUST what I needed. I just started seeing a counselor through a church (I live in the US) and it only costs me $10 per session, everything else is covered by the church. I am a Christian, so I like it when she prays to start and end the sessions, but she ALWAYS asks first if I'm okay with it. If one day I told her I wasn't okay with it, she would stop no problemo. All this to say that if you live in the US and need cheap counseling, churches might be the way to go, and you don't need to be part of that church or even Christian at all. 😊
0 likesI have been on a waiting list for over 2 years, pouring my heart out to people at each stage and being heartbroken when they tell me that they can't help and that I have to wait to see someone higher up.
0 likesIt makes me sad that the nhs is such a broken system, and I want to become a Psychologist one day to help better it one day at a time
I was too scared to tell my parents so I wrote a letter and left it on the table, and then went for a walk. When I came back, we talked about it and they were quite understanding. There's a weight that gets lifted of your shoulders when you write it down, if you aren't good at talking (as is my case), and let them read it.
0 likeseverytime you talk about therapy like "everyone needs therapy!" I'm like "yes!!! omg y es " because there's such stigma around therapy like its only for """crazy, insane people"""" and it's truly not, everybody needs some introspective time to fix themselves and their issues, and therapy is great (if not completely) for that.
0 likesalso you both are lovely and I hope Tessa feels better soon!
also dodie your hair is so cute lately
i'm studying counselling in college right now and this sorta helped me get better with what i should do as someones counsellor (if that makes sense??) love u <33
0 likesYou are both so SO STRONG ❤
0 likesA tip:
2 likesThere are lots of free counceling services for children and teens. Do some googling and find one in your area.
when i started counselling, i went to a free charity service (who i work w on a volunteer level, so i felt safe/comfortable there), but bc im under 18 i needed a consent form, so i was just like to my mam "hey im doing this for stress sign this pls and thank u" and she was just like "???? um ok." and then we didnt talk about it much after
0 likesThis is really helpful. Tessa's reason as to why she hadn't been to counciling is the exact reason why I've refused to go but she's making me rethink. Thank you dodes for making this video :)
0 likesYo, Tessa and Dodie is in the house 😁💯😇. Nice to know you guys are helping yourselves out with therapy 😊.
0 likesSo, I've been diagnosed with ADD a while ago and I've been getting medication, which really helped me. However, I noticed that when I'm on medication, I'm more awake/aware of things and I'm more panicky, anxious and insecure. I also have been noticing anxiety and I've had a few panic attacks since the medication started. I realized I've experienced these things all my life, but never really thought much of it. I'm considering therapy, but my parents say I'm overreacting and everyone experiences these things, but I'm not so sure. Any advice?
0 likesi started going to therapy a few weeks ago and it helps :)
0 likeshow did you discover what depersonalization was and that you were experiencing it?
0 likesit's quite weird actually, right after i had found out the exact name for it and realized that's what was happening to me, I found your channel and heard you mention it a few times
Hi Dodie I Love You And You Have helped me A lot And because of You I started playing ukulele And it makes me really happy!
0 likesThank You ❤❤❤
It's such a shame you have to wait so long for a therapy appointment when you can't afford private care. 😢 I feel like I've been waiting for one forever. There's only so much the Dr can do. 😖
1 likeI've never done "real" therapy but I really do need it, I have conversations in my head of what I would say if I did have someone to talk to, but I just can't come to ask my parents for it. Also I've done the school counseling and it was actually very helpful but once that school counselor left (he was a fill in for our other counselor while she was taking care of her new adopted baby) I just slipped right back to feeling bad and haven't gotten back to that point really
0 likesAt my school, counselors aren't allowed to talk to us more than life five times about something serious as a time, but we have a guy who goes to all the schools in the county. Unfortunately, he didn't take me on bc I'm actually to economically privileged for one.
1 likeHe recommended I talk to my parents to get counseling elsewhere, but mental illness is taboo in Asian families
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2 likeslove you dodie! been subscribed since your little room song.
youre such a huge inspiration in my life and i hope you continue to shine :)
this is so helpful thank you
0 likesEveryone can benefit from therapy or counseling, you dont need to have a mental "issue". I give therapy.
0 likesWhy do your vedif videos make me want to respond via my vedif videos. I did one already with the alcohol talk and as a fan, you really inspire me just to be myself and just talk about how I feel at time in my videos and not care abt what others might think.
0 likesI realized that even if there's only 1 or 2 people watching my videos, if it helped them a little bit especially my mental health related stuff, that'd be enough. ❤❤
i went to a counselor for a few weeks and we had to stop it because i wasnt comfortable, but i really need it again and theres no one around me who takes my insurance lol lovin it
0 likesI have mixed emotions about therapists because at times I feel like I need the support from a counselor but then I find myself wondering if they're only listening to me because of the money. I mean I quite like having someone to go to and get advise from but at the same time I question whether or not they actually care.
0 likesAlso, this helps a lot. I went to therapy once and I hated it, but now I realize it might be something I need. Lately I've been journaling a lot, but I have so much on my mind that I'd like to say to a real person.
0 likesI've grown up with depression and anxiety. I've been way to scared to go to therapy or be up on drugs. I'm currently on melatonin. Being on that changes me. I'm scared of change i guess...meh.
0 likesI've been on councling for over two years and been three different counclers. One was good but more generalised, second kept criticizing things I was doing. The one I have now is good but sometimes he inquires into wierd things about why I brought the pair of shoes I'm wearing. Councling helps me deal with things I never deal with consciously and with my lack of a sense of self. But I have episodes that slowly have gotten worse and worse and far more dangerous and I become emotionally more unstable, so I'm now going after medication (after Paramedics, Doctors and the Police told me I should be on meds) though I will continue to get councling. It's taken a long time for the NHS to take my mental health seriously because it's so all over the place and they handled my suicide attempt very badly , but that's just my area. Privet is expensive (mines £45 per session) but it's quicker and ive found a lot better. Always try councling before going after medication.
0 likesmy friend talks me about all of her feelings. so I am practically her therapist
0 likesmy problem I asked to start therapy when I was in a bad place and when I finally started I was already doing better but it still helps when I have new problems that come up
0 likesI LOVE YOU TWO SO MUCH YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW
0 likesLOVE THIS and also dodie your shirt is so COOL
0 likesI have my first therapy session in two or so weeks. I got bumped up the CAMS list because I tried ending my life on antidepressants (ironic amiright?) so yee
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And turns out I have to wait until JULY
0 likesI feel the online world is trying to send me a message this month. Another channel talked about mental stuff across two videos that scared me (about myself). Then a podcast this week went away from the usual topics to talk about therapy and stuff. Now this.
0 likesLOVE YOU BOTHHH
1 likeI love your dress dodie! Were did you get it from!
0 likesThis is just to disguise how much love I have for this video
yes! celebrate recovery is excellent
0 likesi appreciate this so much
0 likesLove this!
0 likesMY TWO FAVS TY FOR UPLOADING THIS ON MY BIRTHDAY IVE BEEN BLESSED
0 likeswow you both have great contour I'm shook
1 likehas anybody read the book "all the bright places" because that paints counsellors kinda negatively, which is why it took me so long to actually go to therapy.
0 likesive always wanted to go to counseling but im worried about a couple things. 1) that id cry, i hate crying in front of ppl lol 2) that I would self diagnose like id say things and be like thats probably bc of this thing that happened to me huh? and like wouldn't let them do their job yknow? i feel like im just so used to making my own conclusions about my problems that itll be useless to go.
1 likei have the same thing as dodie with my therapist she always leaves space for like 15 seconds but i have nothing to say. But i'm too shy to ask for a different therapist
0 likesthis video is exactly 9 min and tessa's is exactly 6 min. i'm pleased tnx
0 likesAaagh I love this. I always have been getting back in and out of therapy, because I've always had the feeling like I didn't really need it, even though I knew I had some mental health issues who were even getting quite bad. But the last year I really have been feeling like I fucking need to get back in it cause I have been feeling so messed up idk. But then when I am in therapy I find it too hard to accept the help and I end up acting like I'm fine alll the time and i hate and i feel scary saying this online aaaagh
0 likesI wish I could go to therapy but I don't feel confortable with talking about myself (even to my closest friends)
0 likesone of my school counsellors doesn't do anything. She literally introduced herself twice to me and then she never called me in again from December or Novermber (I can't remember). The other one actually asked questions about my friends and stuff, even though it was 10 minutes with my mom in the room.
0 likesthere are two counselors at my school (you can't choose which one you want, it's. asked on last name) and mine is the really hyper super into their job oneeeee ahhH
0 likesGOD TESSA'S HAIR IS SO CUTE
0 likesis it weird to say that i really wish i had both of your hairstyles?
1 likehere I am vacuuming, and I hear the notification for a dodie video. I sprint to the router immediately
0 likeslegit thought tessa was gonna vomit I just shat myself😂
1 likeso i don't think i have mental illness but when talking to my friends i can definitely see that they don't think the same things i do. but i'm too scared to go to therapy and find out i'm just an idiot thinking they are different from everyone else. What should i do? help plz
0 likesI love your dress dodie it's so pretty 😍👗
0 likesi'm at my third counselor, and i still don't like talking to people who are paid to talk to me. i'd feel more comfortable talking about my anxiety and depression with someone who is friends with me because they actually care, and not in a small crowded room which makes me have even worse anxiety than i usually do :l
0 likeswhat if your parents are asking you if you think you need councilin? what if you dont know what you need. or if your okay or not?
0 likesIs Dodie still in the coffee shop?
1 likeMy English teacher does the nodding thing, and you could write her a beautiful, deep essay, but she'd still be like: "WoW! VeRY INTERstING!!!!1". She talks to us like we're babies, and that's why I hate this lesson so much...
0 likesNow I'm happy !!
0 likesAhhh my two favourite people☺
0 likesi love you guys sm omg
0 likesI'm getting counselling soon ahh I'm a bit nervous
0 likescan we start a petition for a collage with dodie and beckie j brown?
0 likesdoes dodie look extra pretty in this video or????
0 likesIly both❤
0 likesShawna just uploaded a video about therapy today. Nanakitty is real.
0 likesI've been waiting for this since you tweeted about this vid
0 likesI love u soooooooooo much!!!
1 likeThe last minute of the video I just realized Tessa isn't from the uk and was like "WAT" for a few seconds😂
0 likesOkay I want that sweater please tell me where to get one because oh my gosh it's so cute.
0 likesI don't know if this is a good idea but If you want to try counseling and your parents are like ehhh then maybe show them this vid especially the part where they talk about that particular subject. I don't know if that'll help your parents to understand but you can try
0 likesI LOVE UR DRESS DODIE
0 likesI love you!!!!! 🙀
0 likesthank you!!!!
0 likesWHY CANT YOU HIGH FIVE
1 likeI relate to the lack of hand eye coordination
wow i'm having an emotional crisis right now
0 likesi love your guys outfits sm
0 likesis this the earliest i've ever been with a dodie vid?
1 likeyes
(full stop)
i'm lovin' the dotty dress
0 likesthe legend says that if you coment early, doddie answers. Grettings from PERU!! ❤
0 likesOmg your shirt is so pretty
0 likesI want to like learn more about myself and kind of want to try therapy just to understand myself
0 likesbut I don't want to talk about my problems/ not really open up
and I don't think I really like need it
or like I have friends that's actually mentally ill and it feels like they're the ones that like should have it and that im not
(I can't really explain it)
I love how I got both notifs at once it was gr8
0 likesI hope there's a cheeky grwm in vedif...
0 likesWHERE IS THE YELLOW JUMPER FROM!?? also yay therapy
0 likesI wish I could get therapy but there are no free options in my country :/ It sucks
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Denmark. I've googled and googled, and can't find anything :/
0 likesdodie what do you think about boohoo paying it's employees below minimum wage
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also I love you two talking about serious stuff
0 likesMy family finally got a therapist.... but of course it's a christian one and part of our struggle (and part of why I have depression) is because my parents are christian and me and my sibling are pansexual liberals...soooo
0 likesWhaaat Shawna legit just uploaded a similar video - you guys planed this or nah? x'D
1 likemy school had to get rid of he school therapist because they didn't have enough money to pay her🙃
1 likeI realise I need it, I just don't know where to start. I have the money to pay for it and not have to cope with the stress of the NHS but I just don't know where to start. How the fuck do you find someone good I don't KNOW
0 likesHOW WAS THE COFFEE SHOP
1 likeUES DODIE YES TESSAAAA
0 likeslonger vids pls
0 likesI have been waiting for ages
0 likesmuch needed
0 likesnoting that "dodie yellow" tessa is wearing
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0 likesDodie where did you get your dress?
0 likesGo. On. Tour. Again!11!!11!!
0 likesDO COLAB WITH DAN AND PHIL
1 likeI WAS WAITING FOR THE NOTIFICATION AND I GO ON YOUTUBE FOR A SECOND ANF NOW IM LATE AHSHFHAJSDH BUT YAYAYAYAYAYAYAAT I LOVEVTHIS SM THE BEST MONTH EVER
0 likesHI DODIE
0 likesHI DODIE
0 likesWhere'd u get that sweater dodie its so cute
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No wait maybe its a shirt?? Regardless its cute
0 likes7cupsoftea is a good website,, it has people you can talk to online and it has a whole bunch of stuff
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velvet skies thanks!
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2 likesthank u
0 likeslegends say that if you're early dodie will reply
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yasmin SKAM
1 likeY E S
0 likeswhat is the name of the thing that dodie has- like the spaced out and distant thing? just i think i might have that :/
0 likesBut is Tessa wearing Dodie yellow though???
0 likesmake a cover of shape of you by ed sheeran
0 likesDoes anyone else notice that red spot on Tessa's neck? I think it's a hickey, sorry for starting drama lol
0 likesTessa has stolen dodie's brand
0 likesWhat is the name of the book? I'm not native english and I can't catch the title. Please help :C
0 likesi j realized Tessa doesn't have a British accent.
0 likesadult homework?? what is this hell????
1 likeIf you wake up and you dont feel good those emotions need to be heard, they are there for a reason...I dont personally agree with your therapist. Yes, if you check you will find something, if you dont check that painful emotion will STILL be there but in your subconscious...That makes it impossible for anyone to heal the wounded aspects of yourself. We need to learn to feel, not ignore our feelings.
1 likeLy dodie
0 likesHow old is dodie?
0 likesmy FAVS
0 likesI find this video just generally sad..NOT because y'all are getting you're therapeutic self-care on (so proud of past/present Dodie & Tessa) but because I truly feel like therapy just might not be for me because I've been going for years and I've only had like 2 therapists who've truly seen me and helped me the way I needed whereas everyone else left me frustrated, sad and empty and feeling like my problems weren't real and I'm just a sensitive Nancy whose only making things hard for herself on purpose. now I feel like all my problems cannot be talked out ergo it's just me and there's something wrong with me and I just need meds or medical help and I'm sad now so..bye.
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You'll never see this because your comment is old but I hope you either feel more positive now or found something that works! There are so many types of therapy, dancing, artwork, focusing on nature etc that arent well known but can help! Maybe you just hadn't found your right fit yet.
0 likesThe pink mark on Tessa's neck 👀
0 likesTessa, you really aren't that tall, haha.
0 likesbbys :'( ❤
0 likesbut is it dodie yellow tho?
1 like7:36 cbt yes
0 likesum was that a hickey on tessa's neck ??
0 likesi ship them a little bit tbh
0 likesi'm... concentrated. yissa?
0 likesI see phil in tessa. weird.
0 likesthis is the first time I have been late so far
0 likesClassic case of vitamin D deficiency. Next
0 likesPreettyy giirllss!
0 likesdoes tessa live in the UK now?
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I think she's on UK tour? So she's staying with Dodie. I saw that on another video
3 likesJulia S she's currently house hopping as she's on tour
0 likesIs tessas sweater tho?
0 likesYayy 😊
0 likesDoes she live in Tennessee?
0 likesDodie your sweater looks like a google
0 likesDodie There is this girl on YouTube called Julia capello she's so talented but only has 50 subscribers she deserves so much more. Btw before anyone asks it's not my channel. Could you please check her out.
0 likeshow tall is tessa
0 likesNASHVILLE!? I LIVE IN NASHVILLE!!!
0 likesTessa is me
0 likesDodie yellow!!
0 likesJesus can help you with anything and everything.
0 likesI ship it
0 likessmol bean and tol meme
0 likesSame dodie :/
0 likesnotification squad
0 likesThis new YouTube feature of skipping ten seconds is HORRIBLE. IM JUST TRYING TO MAX SCREEN THE VIDEO
0 likestessa is cute
0 likeshey dodie
0 likesI ship them
0 likesDodie your dress is the pengest
0 likesWhat does vedif mean? Would like to know....
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Video every day in febuary
0 likesCaitlynn Henson Thank you!
0 likesTessa, how tall are You I'm 6'7 💋💋❤
0 likesI LOVE YOU DODIE!
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your vlogs calm me
2 likesYay thanks for talking about this 💕❤
0 likesI need this in my life, thank you love
0 likesStayed up just to watch this 💖
0 likesI NEEDED THIS SO MYCH THANK YOU
0 likesI'm just loving all these videos omg
1 likeI love both of you sooo much
0 likesI needed this ty ❤❤
0 likesyou are so amazing
0 likesyou're both so beautiful!!!
0 likesI love you so much!!! 😊
0 likesI LOVE YOU TWO SM
0 likesLove u dodie❤❤💓💓
0 likesYAY A DODIE AND TESSA COLLAB
0 likesu guys are so great
0 likesilysm dodieee<3
0 likesI love your dress Dodie!!!
0 likesyus yus yus this is what I needed ❤
0 likesDODIE AND TESSA CHATS YES
0 likeslovely lovely lovely !!!❤
0 likesdodie you're so pretty omg
0 likesLove tessa
0 likesLOVE YOU😍😍😍
0 likesyayy dodie every dayyy!!!!!
0 likesI LOVE YOU OH SO MUCH
0 likesUR DRESS IS SO CUTEEEEE WHERE DID U GET IT
0 likesBeautiful omg
0 likesClicked on this notification so fast
0 likesI lOVE yOU sO mUCH
0 likesLegend has it that if u comment early dodie replies to ur comment 😆
0 likeslove you
0 likes💗💗💗
0 likesHey dodzzzz.❤️
0 likesomg I love dodie's top aaaa
0 likesHi Dodie!
0 likesooh I'm excited
0 likeshi doddie!!
0 likesYay notification squad
1 likedessa or todie HMM
1 likeOmg I'm early?!
2 likesYAY
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i love tessa ❤️
0 likesDo you still go?
0 likesMOM
0 likesI don't know what to do.
0 likesnotification squad but not early enough:(
0 likesI hate talking, so I just write
0 likesIdk who tessa is but her hair is fabulous
0 likesAhahahahaha
1 likeSchool counselors are the worst
0 likesI'm so early! Aaahhhh
0 likesKINDA EARLYYYYYY
0 likesWhere is ur dress from
0 likesnotif squad
0 likesis tessa wearing dodie yellow, looks a bit like not dodie yellow... or also not dodie yellow . . .
0 likesIs tessa wearing dodie yellow
0 likesboy howdy
0 likesim scared
nhs is cheeky
0 likesYAYY HELLO
0 likesDESSA DESA DESSA DESSA DHISHFIDSHG
0 likesI'm early woooo
0 likesYeey!!
0 likesyeeaassss
0 likesm8 im here!
0 likesLast time I was this early I though I was straigbt
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0 likes15th comment 36th view 😂😂
0 likesBut is it dodie yellow
0 likesYess
0 likeshElllloooo
2 likesHey everyone! Ive seen people mentioning 7Cups, I am a listener on 7Cup and may be able to help you! Find 'Ryan4Help' on 7Cup and hopefully I can help you! :Dx
1 likeMy therapy was bullshit. It was awkward, horrible. Bluh
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0 likesyay.
0 likesEarly squad where you at? Well, sort of early. Not really, I guess. Whatever
0 likesmom
0 likeshow's starboobs??
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LukeIsNotEmma good question
0 likesI've tried so many therapists and I hate it. They all are terrible because I'm a kid under 16 so I need a specific kind of therapist and they. All. Suck. They all treat my problems like lousy teen problems that don't matter and don't have an actual impact because I'm not an adult and my mom keeps trying to make me go to therapy but I hate it with all of my soul.
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0 likesTessa have a bit of a hickey? Is.. Is that.. Is that what that is? Schnaake
2 likesAs for the school counsellor thing mine are kinda shit because they're not psychologists which is what I need, they're used to people being mildly stressed or having friend problems. I literally said I was feeling depressed because school was horrible and he said that it was all about perspective and that people in Africa would love to go to school. I'm not joking. Like ?????????? Obviously but that doesn't mean my depression likes it
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0 likesI have mild depression but HORRIBLE social anxiety and I get bad grades because I'm terrible at asking for help and I can't do public presentations. My mom just says "why can't you just do what the other kids do" but she doesn't get how hard it is. It's finally gotten so bad she's considering getting me medication. I talk to the school counsellor but she's no help at all. The school is gonna get a mental health expert to try and figure out what's wrong with me, but she said she'd do it two months ago and she hasn't yet. I'm not getting any help at all and I just want medication so badly. I just want everything to go away
0 likesYaayay
0 likesmy school counsellor is the worst and most annoying human on plant earth and you can tell her you've been feeling sad lately and empty and she'll rig your parents and tell all the teachers ?¿
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0 likesFirst dislike. Sorry, I just had to
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Adam Shepherd Uhm, may I ask why?
0 likesEmmy Noether Didn't actually dislike the video. Just wanted to be first for something for once lol
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