I literally did that with my mum, I went home and I just went "so, my friend is getting counselling, what do you think about that? I think I want to go to the doctors" and although she didn't really get why (tbh I didn't really explain why that well because going into the fact that I dont want to live is not something I feel comfortable sharing with my mum) she was kind of okay with it. Though she is still of the view that you should just stick with life and deal with it, you know? But nonetheless, she has mostly supported me so far. And I have a referral for an assessment and possibly a diagnosis with the youth mental health team soon, so whatever comes of that I'll probably need to start being more open with her...


I keep filling out forms to sign up for therapy and planning to go to my gp about getting help for my little brain and then not doing so, I think it's because at the time I feel 'fine' and so just say I'll wait until my next breakdown lols. This video has encouraged me to look into it again thx lads x


getting counseling has been a really scary thing i've wanted to do for a couple years now so i finally went through with mentioning it to my mom a week ago and i've never been prouder of myself??


Such a good vid, ladies! I will seek therapy now


I went to my regular health doctor for something physical I thought was wrong with me and all he said was "I don't think you have that issue but you're sitting in my office crying so here's the contact information for a local therapist" and I went to the place and anonymously filled out a questionnaire that asked how different symptoms resonate with you. I was brought back to an office and told they didn't accept my my insurance 🙃 that woman gave me some information for some therapists that were much farther away then I was willing to travel andddd I never ended up going to any. Idk, I'm in a much better mental state now then i was back then but i still wish I had had some sessions


I’m starting therapy the 5th of August, which is exactly 1 year since the day I realized I had depression. WOW. I’m nervous as hell but videos like this make me feel hopeful and excited about new opportunities. 💛


The more I watch of these, the more I think I struggle with depersonalisation


My mom actually is the one who wanted me to see a therapist, and I thank her everyday for that


Sometimes you just can't figure out your own problems


I went to counseling in 1st grade because my mom and my teacher thought I was lonely. I wasn't, I just liked to draw alone sat recess. I just told the therapist all about Barbie movies, we played with dolls, and then she gave me stickers. Good times!

I make comments cuz this is my commenting channel


I'm about to find therapy, so thanks for this video :)


This video gave me such a push to try my school counselling I know it will help me put it was hard to tell school I wanted to go school counselling is something I can keep in school and my parents don't have to worry about and I'm so scared about it but it will help me so I'm kinda excited about it


I used to go to dog therapy for a year.. it's just as amazing as it sounds.


Trying to muster up the courage to tell my parents I want to talk to a therapist. I don't think they'll be upset or say no, but it's just been really hard for me to go about it. I appreciate this video a lot.


I had counseling when my parents got divorced. I went to my first counseling session when I was 8. My second one was in year 5 about positivity and confidence ( I still have no confidence). My last counseling session was 2 years ago with point one. I'm still in a lot of pain though it cuz my family hates each other and I'm the only one in the middle of it.


I just had my first therapy appointment last thursday, and all the things you guys talked about I could relate to. I needed this video right now more than ever.

Same, I used to be in therapy, then I quit but I have an appointment on Monday


I love listening to you two chatting because you always have such great thoughts and nuggets of wisdom. This was really interesting, because while I don't think I'll ever go to therapy (at least not until I'm out of school), it seems like something that could be really eye opening! Also, I sort of feel what Tessa was saying about feeling like other people are more in need of help. I'm a very anxious person, but don't see my anxiety as serious enough to do anything about, which is something I'm sure many people feel.

Anyway, great video! I'm really enjoying vedif from both of you :)


My first therapy session was the most awkward thing <br>I was on the verge of tears the entire time

My first therapy session was the most awkward thing
I was on the verge of tears the entire time


, i love you and your music to an unhealthy point, every single song, and video you have made has impacted me in the best way anything ever has, every rough patch i go through your the light at the end of the tunnel helping me get through it, i think its amazing how much you have grown as a person and artist so from the bottom of my heart i want to say thank you for being there when nobody else has.I truly mean every word so really, thank you. <3


This was a really nice video. I had counseling in high school, but that was the last time I had it. The biggest issue is affording it of course. I know there are ways around it, but they're not easy to find and not always what you want. I never considered group counseling before, though. I'd be a bit scared to try it. Talking to one person who's paid to help me through my junk is one thing, but having to talk about it with a bunch of strangers seems unsettling even if they share some of my issues. I don't know. I'll have to see what I can do.


It's good that you can both talk about counselling so easily, it will really help a lot of people who are thinking about it :) I had counselling at university and it was one of the best decisions I've ever made.


i have always refused to go to therapy but my girlfriend goes and she said she thinks i should give it a chance<br>but i don't know

i have always refused to go to therapy but my girlfriend goes and she said she thinks i should give it a chance
but i don't know

Therapy is totally terrifying before you go. I know that first hand. And maybe you're right and it isn't for you. But if you're at all curious, give it a shot! You don't have anything to lose for trying, and then you will have given it a chance for your girlfriend. All in all, though, whatever your comfortable with. <3

earthgem Hey, just know that you never have to feel trapped or obligated. You can try it out and leave anytime you want if you feel uncomfortable, but like they said in the video, the first session will always be a little more awkward than the rest. Never be afraid to try it though :) It's like a fun little class where you get to learn about yourself every week or so :) maybe abouts your girlfriend to go with you if you'd be more comfortable!


I've suffered from depression since I was 18 (now 22). I'm trying to recover and I'm feeling better lately. I'm trying not to think too much, trying to eat well and going out more. baby steps but this time I am determined to get better and feel happy with myself. btw Dodie looks so pretty 😍 😊


The listening thing is called "Active listening" and is frequently used in therapy, but can be applied to make just about anyone that is talking feel appreciated, I'd recommend everyone try it in their daily life!


I went to therapy at a pretty young age (7) because I was afraid to go anywhere and I then found out that I had social anxiety. I was so scared to go that I just cried the first day and the only way to get me to talk was to play games. But it honestly helped me so much even though I wasn't exactly sure what I was doing 👌🏼


Aaah thank youuuu therapy is just as important for teens and 20 year olds as regular doctors


'everyone needs therapy' <br>honestly me at school

'everyone needs therapy'
honestly me at school


i myself have been in counseling for a very long time, and one thing that some people don't realize about counseling is that it isn't an immediate fix. this kind of thing takes time and work, and it won't feel good a lot of the time. it gets better, but it takes time.


this made me realise that i do need therapy to be able to help handle my emotions and such. i have been putting it off for a awhile because I thought i was ok mentally and just either blamed it on my hormones or that "it's just you're procratination doing it's thing" but really it's just me not being able to handle my emotions and also my lack of motivation for some reason. now i have to find a way to tell that to my parents lol


I cried so much and talked non stop at my first session with my second therapist because it's the first time I've told someone everything. I felt so good and I felt so validated in my feelings. my trauma from childhood issues have recently been manifesting  themselves as a result of stress. yay so fun.


I'm hoping to get back into counselling soon through my university. I'm trying to be positive but it's never worked in the past so I'm sceptical. I know I need to do this to get to where I want to be though.


6:20 When Dodie said "the doctor" I kept thinking "THE Doctor" HAHA


I've been going to a psychologist for about 2 years and I cannot recommend them enough. They might not be helping you with mental health, but they can just be a person to talk to about anything. Their job is to be an unbiased person to help you rather than a friend or family member with their own agenda. <br>I see my counselling working when I implement the strategies that she suggests without even realising I'm doing it. It really does helps me to get through the times of panic or lowness, as well as preventing them. I think everyone should talk to a counsellor no matter what your mind state is. It is going to get better. I promise x

I've been going to a psychologist for about 2 years and I cannot recommend them enough. They might not be helping you with mental health, but they can just be a person to talk to about anything. Their job is to be an unbiased person to help you rather than a friend or family member with their own agenda.
I see my counselling working when I implement the strategies that she suggests without even realising I'm doing it. It really does helps me to get through the times of panic or lowness, as well as preventing them. I think everyone should talk to a counsellor no matter what your mind state is. It is going to get better. I promise x


I tried councelling at my sixth form (by reccomendation from a teacher and friends) and i really struggled speaking about my issues because i convinced myself i was just being silly and i have nothing to be sad about... this was encouraged by the councellor telling me i should stop because other students need councelling more than i do and im taking up appointment space... i havent gone to anyone else just yet but this video has helped me in realising just because one councellor was bad doesnt mean they all are and i shouldnt let myself believe im not "ill enough" to have therapy....
imagine if we thought we werent physically ill enough to see a doctor if we were coughing up blood... its a mindset i need to get out of and i think im almost out of the hole ive buried myself in!
Thankyou Dodie and Tessa 💛💛


Also remember that there is pretty much always a free helpline for things like depression and anxiety etc in whatever country you live in.


Hi Dodie! I love everything you've ever done and not gonna lie I aspire to be like you ❤ you're so creative and beautiful and that's who I want to be. I especially love you're style and I was wondering if you'd be interested in doing a room tour? I would have suggested another look book but you did one recently but I'm still so obsessed with you're style I like to see more haha.


In terms of the parent thing, I went to counselling through uni and kinda then just told my mum 'yeah I'm doing this, cool' and she was like 'oh.. ok cool glad you're being proactive' and she came to terms with it, and in terms of whether uni counselling is good, my first counsellor at my foundation uni was amaaaaaaaazing for me personally, but my counsellor at the uni i'm at now was a bit shit and like Dodie's she didn't talk back and I hated it, they will only like you like 6 sessions usually through uni but then you can say at the last one hey can you recommend me anywhere to go for a more permanent thing and they should be able to give you that stuff which is awesome so 100% recommend trying it out, and don't give up if the first one's a bit shitty for you, either stick it out til the end of the run while you look for another just to see if it gets better or quit straight up and go somewhere else. It totally depends on the person and you will find someone who understands. Besides that, y'all stay strong now <3


I liked this video a lot ^-^!!! a few years ago, when I was in middle school, I was kind of alone and sad and had nightmares alot, so I decided to go to a child's therapist. it was nice, I got to do crafts and cry and talk about myself, but still the same time she never talked to me. she never told me how to fix my problems, which I guess is what I was looking for all along. I don't feel as depressed any more, so I don't think I ever need to go back, but at the same time I wish that I had found  therapist that I felt helped me.


my mother was the one that wanted me to go to therapy. and I tried one and didn't like her but the next one was amazing and I am so happy that I went!


mind is a very good mental heath charity they helped me finding ways to get thorough things and helped with talking to gp and counsellors a couple years back so when I did ncs our group raised money for them and managed to raise £400. its such a good charity and so helpful


I've been going to therapy for a month now, but it's not helping?? In fact, I feel worse...I'm just going to quit. After listening to you guys, I think I need a different counselor.


I've had two different therapists in the past 2 to 3 years. The first time my mum signed me up, the second time my head of year signed me up because I wanted to move schools but he suggested to stay and think on it a little more and signed me up for therapy at the same time. My first therapist tended to talk a lot and I didn't do much talking to her, she just elaborated on situations she's heard of before. My second therapist made me enjoy it a little more. I still dread the thought of walking into a counsellor's room but once I was there with her she made me feel invited and let me talk and explain (and cry).

I think everyone needs a little therapy in their lives at some point, no matter your situation. Everyone has problems and feelings they need/want to vent to someone. Yes, your pets are handy if you don't want a response but speaking to another human feels more real and like it's really getting things off of your chest.

Anyway lovely video dodie and I love watching your content,


To the question "How do I tell my parents.."
I wanted counseling for a while when I was in college (university) and my parents had a hard time understanding why.  I found that calling/texting them whenever you are feeling off/down.  It shows that you are reaching out to them for help, as well as showing them how often you are not feeling like yourself
Also I told them "sometimes it's nice to get advice from an outside, nonbiased source." That made more sense to them than the idea of going to counseling (even though.. that's what counseling is)
My university had counseling services for a very low cost (some even offer it for free, depending on which school you are at).  My university also had cheaper options where you could go to counseling with a someone who had their Master's degree and is currently working on a doctorate.  You get counseling, they get practice, and some sessions are recorded so that your counselor can get critiqued by their professors!


i'm doing CBT right now and
it's so interesting
just the body and the mind
it's interesting
and i found out a few things
but i completely agree
it all isn't sorted in one therapy session maybe even 4 therapy sessions but
it will be okay and interesting tbqh
i like learning


I seriously love the way you explained things about therapy in this video Tessa! Literally the things you said in these 9 minutes were better than anything any of the therapists have said that I've seen. I've never found therapy helpful and the few I've seen literally just talk about how their day is and ask how my day is and it is such a huge waste of time and money. I've yet to find a "therapist" who has actually helped in any way in my life. (I'm "required" to see a counselor/therapist to try to cope with fighting multiple chronic and terminal illnesses and the reason I became depressed was because of so much abuse from hospitals and surgeons and losing friends etc. And to me therapy will never help because they can't cure me of these illnesses be talking to me. I only see therapy helping when there's not a huge physical mountain and only a mental mountain. I'm in no way trying to downplay people with great lives who are depressed because it totally sucks and it hurts so much but with therapy they can help with little things like the "not checking" like Doddie said. Where for people like me they're just kinda like "look for the rainbow that's a million miles away instead of focusing on the million miles of hurricane." Idk that's the best way I can describe it.... but I adore you girls and I love love love how you're open about mental illness and not pretend like everything is sparkles and smiles. The world has put such a huge negative connotation on mental illnesses and hopefully soon that won't be the case with more advocates like yourselves ❤❤❤


I was nodding the entire time, it's so hard for me to look for professional help, because as Tessa said, I feel like my problems are not worth it. Also I had have this problem (which I don't want to call depression because it's not diagnosed) for so long that I'm kinda feel like it's part of me and I'm scared to losing it


i needed this so much. going to attempt to ask my mom to schedule something. thank you. so much.


It's so funny to hear you guys talk about your counselling, since I've been in cognitive behavioural therapy for.... Four or five years at this point? To deal with my anxiety and depression and ADHD (yay), although I had been in it before when I was 14. And like... My homework was always about like... Checking in with myself and making sure that I could manage and stuff, which I was terrible about the first few years, and I actually had a huge break through last week where I didn't push myself to a panic attack to realize I couldn't manage that day, for the first time! Honestly, maybe I sound brain washed, but therapy has honestly made me a functioning good human being. I honestly believe that if I hadn't been in therapy, I would have ended up back in the emergency room again, because the first meds I was on I don't think worked, and I have clawed my way back. I was an honour roll student in my last year of high school, I had a job, I danced, I played piano, I went back to having a mostly normal life (even if there are bumps now and again)

The last thing I'd say is that if cost is really concerning you and you're in uni or smth, you can go to the chaplain. I had a big health thing with my dad this year and I've been on and off rotating with seeing my psychologist and the chaplain and its honestly been so helpful because it just is... Talking. And crying, lots of crying, but talking. And talking is helpful (also fun fact therapy is better than just medication for helping avoid relapses of depression. Meds alone has a 70% relapse rate, CBT has a 40%, and meds and CBT together has a 30%. Therapy works!)


dodie i want to thank u for inspiring me to go back to therapy. for a while i thought i didnt need it or was better than therapy but u helped me realize that im not better than therapy and its okay to be in therapy so thank u bec im doing so much better than i was before!


OlanRogers it makes me happy that you guys watch each other's videos


I've tried to reach out to my dad to get counseling for two years now, and everytime I bring it up, he just says he has the same issues as well and then leaves. What should I do?


When it comes to parents it's important that you talk to someone totally impartial so you are not unconsciously vetting what you say etc. It's a good way to broach the subject. It takes that failing part out because it shows that it's not due to them or anyone close to you


I've had mixed experiences with counselling/therapy. Initially, I was fast tracked into CAMHS (NHS counselling for under 18s) because I was 'high risk' and they offered CBT, the one that often helps people with depression. Now, this is just my experience but I REALLY DID NOT GET ON WITH CBT. Perhaps it was just the way the counsellor did it, but I found it very very frustrating and ultimately just made me feel like I was doing something wrong. Since then I've not had any specific therapy but have just had regular chatty sessions with my psychiatrist who is also in charge of my meds. I also have a good relationship with a teacher in school and he is always very welcoming and willing to listen. In fact, it was he who I went to in the first place when I first became depressed, and he gave me a more positive perspective on counselling/therapy than I previously had. (little 15yo me had only seen examples in tv and movies of 'crazy' people needing therapy, not 'normal' people like me.) The way he put it was that I might benefit from someone who would listen, but who was a fresh slate as it were, with no previous misconceptions about me. When I heard it put like this, it seemed much more approachable, and it's something I like to explain to other people when they're hesitant about starting therapy: somehow, it feels nice telling all your troubles to a stranger. I'm starting a new therapy, IPT, soon, so let's hope that does more than the last one. I really hope your counselling goes well Dodie xxx


After 12 years of mental health issues i have finally gained the confidence to book a therapy session. I have always been to afraid to go to therapy incase it opened a door i couldn't shut ever again. This video is so helpful to so many people. Its the reason i booked that appointment, so thank you.


my therapist tells me that my feelings are "just because im a growing teenager" so ya kno its great


As a person who's currently getting my masters in counseling, here's some tips on how to find the right counselor for you:

1. Look into counseling theories/styles. There's several different kinds, but these often will tell you what kind of counselor they are. For example, a psychotherapist works under the belief that your thoughts mean something deep about you, so if you struggle with anxious thoughts/OCD, they wont be good for you. Or if you're very religious, an existential therapist wont work for you because they don't believe in an afterlife. So look into the different counseling styles and try to find the one(s) you like the best.

2. Decide what kind of energy you're looking for. Do you want someone who is very energetic, like a best friend or sibling? Do you want someone who is much older than you and has a "wise old man"/expert vibe? Do you want someone who's very maternal/paternal? Do you want someone who is very quiet, or someone who is very talkative? Would you prefer someone male/female/other? You might not be able to get a read on this vibe unless you go into session with them, but its important that you feel comfortable in session, and so if something feels off maybe the vibe is wrong.

3. Look for a counselor who specializes in your specific issue or demographic. This isn't always possible, but there are centers who specialize in anxiety/depression, or certain demographics like students or LGBTQ+. So it might be beneficial to look into that as well.


I have therapy from the NHS. Trust me, it's worth the year long wait. I've only gone 3 times so far, but I already feel better. I say give it a shot


I told my mom today that I wanted to try therapy, and she was nothing but supportive of my choice.


My mum suffers from depersonalization, depression, and PTSD and honestly Dodie it is so nice to hear that you're going through similar things to her because no one ever talks about depersonalization. (She is also going to therapy! :D)


anyone know where i can get dodie's shirt? (or any of dodie's shirts/dresses because ohmygoodness, she has the best style.)

That street art is from Maryland isn’t it in the middle of two other ones (one big colorful one and one small)

im kinda late replying but i think she got the shirt from a brand called lazy oafs ?


I went to counselling when I was in 6th form. I went to see our school nurse, after a particularly bad night/day (she was effectively the school counsellor as well) and she asked if she could make me an appointment with the local NHS counsellor. I went at lunch times or during my free periods. I told my tutor, although I did this on a confidential basis, but never told my parents. I was asked/recommended antidepressants but was terrified my parents would find out if I started taking them. I can not stress enough how good that counselling was for me, how much it got me through and how much better I knew myself after going. It felt horrid not telling my parents, and when I recently started going again I told them everything and it definitely felt a lot better - but I wouldn't change anything. It saved my life, as dramatic as that sounds. Please, if you need help and can see anyone confidentially (school counsellor, nurse, teacher - anyone), do.


I've dealt with severe anxiety, depression, OCD and PTSD for 5 years. It took me about 2 years until I agreed to go to counseling. I have never been a person who found it easy to open up or talk about my feelings. I have been on medication to help but never had good experiences. Most of this journey I've tried to do everything naturally. I've been in counseling for 3 years now and I've started to notice a difference! I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Another affirming part is so many of my friends and family have noticed and tell me "I look so healthy" proof in the pudding mental illnesses are real illnesses. If you're questioning it I really hope you give it a try ❤


I'm new to your channel and I'm loving it ❤


i'm going through anxiety and a type of depression and i feel as if i should go to a therapist but ya know...anxiety. i'm too scared to tell anyone so any advice??

itsanni thank you so much!! i can definitely try this out and i hope for the best with your problem :)

e m i l y r a m o s honestly have the same problem, talking to a close friend/sibling is always my go to but you know, feeling like a burden and stuff... maybe you could try some online chat lines? I've never tried anything like that, but at least you can talk to a stranger and not feel too uncomfortable :)


i've been out of therapy for a couple months now ... you still have bad days or even weeks and i don't think you ever become "cured" or whatever, but as dodie said, you learn a lot about yourself and how you and your brain works, and i think that's very important...


personally with counselling my parents were really supportive of the idea because they don't know a lot about mental health so it was a big help for them knowing that I could get the help that I needed, even if it wasn't from them.


Tessa and dodie, I want to thank you both. I found this video a while ago and cried after watching it. Fast forward to three hours earlier, this was the last video I watched again before going to my dad and asking for help. It almost feels like a dream how simple it was: telling him I’m suffering and asking for help. Tomorrow is my first session with my therapist, ahhhhhh!!! Lots of love to you ladies xxxx


I went to a therapy session once. they said I was fine and don't need therapy and don't have depression. who knows, maybe I don't have or ever had depression, because to be entirely honest I was kind of romanticizing depression at the time... but the point is, I don't think they should have turned me down... it would have been nice to talk... well I guess I'm in a better place now anyway without any therapy


Trotsky and capitalist dogs! <b>queue Soviet anthem</b>

Trotsky and capitalist dogs! *queue Soviet anthem*

Dil and t bags and your grand parents (but Tessa and dodie are iconic too)


dodie , in all of the youtubers that i have watched , your community is the BEST that i have seen . All the comments to your videos are positive and supportive . I honestly feel like we are all just a big group of friends hanging out and chilling whenever you upload lmao


hi, I wanted to specify one thing, as someone who's aspiration is being a therapist: it's not unethical for a therapist to give you a ready advice. It is unethical to indoctrinate or manipulate you into doing something. The advice thing depends on a psychological trend your therapist is supporting, SO, if you're looking for someone who will not give any advice nor share any of their own experience with you (which is commonly seen as the most effective way of therapy) seek someone with psychodynamic perspective. If you want a relationship that is a little bit more similar to partnership or even friendship - you'll want to go to a behaviorist.


I've gone to a few different therapists and I've sadly never had a good experience. Theres things i feel like i cant tell them because i dont want them telling my mum (for example, that i'm trans, which gives me a lot of anxiety trying to hide it)


well literally four days ago my psychologist said that I've been through enough of pills so I'm done with antidepressants but I already feel so depressed... maybe that's just a contract and it'll pass but other pills I started taking after finishing one therapy kinda already make me feel miserable and really aggressive to everyone. an hour ago I bought two nicest african snails to calm myself down and start a new path and they're so cute! they're hermaphroditic so I need to give them an agender names. can someone help me? <3


The reason I love vedif and Vedic and all is because if I'm having a bad day I just watch your video and they instantly make me smile and feel happier xx thank you


after moving away from my home town I needed to look for a new therapist and even though I definatly was not good I was like "naaa its fine...I can handle this on my own"<br>but then I finally got my ass up to look for someone and even though my now therapist wasn't my first choice, she was the only one who had free appointments this year so...yeah

after moving away from my home town I needed to look for a new therapist and even though I definatly was not good I was like "naaa its fine...I can handle this on my own"
but then I finally got my ass up to look for someone and even though my now therapist wasn't my first choice, she was the only one who had free appointments this year so...yeah


I've been going to therapy for the past year or so because I'm someone that often asks to much of herself and is really struggling to keep up with college and expectations. And although I know from experience it's not true, therapy always has this stigma around it like: 'oh, if you go to therapy there must be something broken about you'. And that is not the case. It can simply be a thing you do to to get another perspective on the things you think and feel, and to stop the horrible snowball effect that happens in your brain.

I loved this video because it brought some normalcy to the concept of going to therapy. Because sometimes you start to wonder if the general idea about therapy is really true, and if that means you are indeed broken. So it's nice to be reassured that that's not the case.


I want to go to group therapy cuz it always seems easier talking to more than one person who relates to you at once


I know that counseling is working for me because I'm so much better at figuring out how to deal with issues on my own.  I also have noticed that I'm better at supporting my friends through issues they're encountering.  Counseling has honestly been one of the best things I've done for myself.


Going to a therapist has been the best decision I've ever made


I went to therapy my first year of college and my therapist told me that what I was feeling was completely normal and I shouldn't feel like I'm broken. That was the soundest thing I had heard in awhile. I haven't gone to therapy in a little over two years, but I would like to go back. I learned a lot about myself and it was a great space to be when I didn't feel comfortable talking to family members. I hope the stigma that "if you're going to therapy you must be crazy" ends.


My parents were the ones that encourage me to go and search for therapy and I still haven't done it because I'm scared and it's hard for me to speak in  person with someone


Just wanted to say thanks Dodie! Because you and a few others have been talking about counselling recently, I've decided to book my first appointment which is such a big deal for me progress wise. You've made it all less scary for me and feel like I might finally be able to work through my stuff without feeling any shame about it. This is the first time i've really taken control and I'd like to thank you for giving me that extra nudge in the right direction!


I have seen four counselors over three years and though I have learned a lot I haven't felt much emotional relief from it.


When I was in year 9 I was sent to my school counsellor for pretty serioius reasons and she straight up told me I was just having a bad week and there were other people who needed the sessions more than I did and they've never checked up on me after that. I'm leaving school in May (thank god) and it's taken me ever since I was 14 to feel okay about counselling, but theres also a website called Kooth that I recommend for young people (I'm not sure if its available outside of the UK, but theyre really good in my opinion)


DODIE (or anyone else who knows) I NEED TO KNOW WHERE THAT DRESS IS FROM IT IS AMAZING


therapy helps you see how you think and usually (when you need it) how you think in wrong schemes, that eventually hurt you. also its not someone that is in your daily life so you get like 1h of stepping out of your life and looking at it from the outside with someone that only wants you to get better.

also it takes time, it takes even more time to realise you made progress. don't go in with expectations.

also if that doesn't work don't give up, there are various types of therapies and even more therapists, you need someone you trust, really trust


I had a breakdown a few months ago and was taken away from school for a bit, and my mum suggested I went for counselling and honestly I've never felt better


To all the young ppl here: therapy is great! But just because you’re sad doesn’t mean u have depression


I've been having trouble with depression and anxiety and stuff for like 11 years, and I really need to try therapy. I went to one once, but it was more targeted towards children and my mom was in the room... so it was awful and I never wanted to go back. But now that I'm older, I know I really need some kind of help and find something that works.


I'm pretty sure I have OCD and I have been questioning it for two years.I've told my mom and she told me that it was fine and that I didn't need therapy but now it's been two years and it's just keep going.I'm going to be 15 and I've told my mom again because her advices seemed to work for a while but after two months (maybe?) everything came back so I wanted to tell her again and she told me that I wanted to feel pitied and that I didn't need therapy.WHAT IS THE POINT IN FAKING TO HAVE OCD I LITERALLY AM ASHAMED OF IT AND JUST WANT TO GET RID OF WHATEVER THIS IS.


I had my first therapy session a little over a week ago. Was absolutely terrified, but it went really well, and I realized I just needed to talk about a lot of things. I don't have 'big problems', but after experiencing a high-stress relationship among other things, dealing with life was a bit harder. Fortunately my college has a free counseling deal with the hospital across the street. If you also go to college that's something to look into!


I work in a psych office and it was really an eye opener to see all the people coming thru our office that have problems just like me.  Makes me feel a lot less alone.


after watching this I realised that I have to go to therapy, it wasn't even fully for me it's for my 3 month old to know it's not normal to act how I do sometimes. So I went to my doctor today and she was lovely and has gave me the name of someone to go to to talk to and it was terrifying but I'm so glad I did it. so basically, thank you


when i asked my dad for meds i was so terrified i put it off for so long because i didn't want to have to take them then i told my dad and i was sure he was going to say it's a waste of time but he was seriously so understanding and he even took them too for a time so he was all about getting me what i wanted to try to feel better. don't underestimate your parents folks.


See I went through exposure therapy for my GAD about six years ago and it has damaged me and my anxiety since then- SO JUST PROOF THAT YOU GOTTA TRY OUT DIFFERENT OPTIONS BEFORE YOU FIND A GOOD FIT because now I love my therapist and it's a match made in heaven (six years later)


Where did you get your dress because I am in loveeee

skyport13 i think it's by the brand Lazy Oaf


Honestly, I'd love to try therapy and counseling but my parents always say that I just need to "pray more". And also, I've heard from many credible friends who suffer from mental illnesses that the guidance counselor is better at college counseling than actual counseling. Ugh.


When I was 7, my parents got divorced, and thus I went to my first counseling session. I got out of school once a week for a couple of hours, but she didn't really talk to me. She just let me play with all of the toys in her room until I left. A few years go by, and we move states, causing me to got to a new counselor. He was too pushy for me, always too eager or too straight forward, and always too quick to say "Let's bring your parents in here to talk about this." Then, a couple more years happen, and we move towns this time, and my third and final counselor is visited. She was basically perfect for me, and my parents assumed that since I had said she was so great after a few weeks that I didn't need it anymore. I might ask to go see her again soon, because I could use some outside advice for highschool.


Everybody's talking about how they want to go to therapy... I want to be a therapist.

Just the idea of helping people feel better about themselves seems so appealing to me, even though it will probably be ridiculously difficult, it is kind of my dream.


last year I had a breakdown so my parents were like "okay we're taking you to therapy" and i was happy with that because i have always wanted to go and talk about how i feel and that, so they eventually made me an appointment with a therapist and after the first session they were like "okay you know what? therapist are just people you talk to so if you have a problem, talk to us" and I was like "so I'm not going anymore?" and they told me "you went, you talked with her, you must feeling a lot better and if you have a problem you can tell us" like wtf??? my breakdown started because my parents never pay attention to me and always critizise me so i don't trust them(ofc) and after all that they even tell me to trust them??? they crearly don't understand because like a week later of them telling me this, they went back to criticizing me and just telling me that I'm an attention seeker.Also they told me "we are doing our best, it's all your fault, you're depressed because YOU WANT to be depressed,,, you're not helping" do they think that if I could stop being deppressed I wouldn't stop it already??? being depressed is horrible<br>I wish they could understand how being depressed is, they think just because im smiling at them I'm completely happy but I'm not, and the therapist told them that but apparently they don't care because they don't believe I'm depressed enough to go to a therapist again.well shit,,, that's my story((sorry for the broken english))

last year I had a breakdown so my parents were like "okay we're taking you to therapy" and i was happy with that because i have always wanted to go and talk about how i feel and that, so they eventually made me an appointment with a therapist and after the first session they were like "okay you know what? therapist are just people you talk to so if you have a problem, talk to us" and I was like "so I'm not going anymore?" and they told me "you went, you talked with her, you must feeling a lot better and if you have a problem you can tell us" like wtf??? my breakdown started because my parents never pay attention to me and always critizise me so i don't trust them(ofc) and after all that they even tell me to trust them??? they crearly don't understand because like a week later of them telling me this, they went back to criticizing me and just telling me that I'm an attention seeker.Also they told me "we are doing our best, it's all your fault, you're depressed because YOU WANT to be depressed,,, you're not helping" do they think that if I could stop being deppressed I wouldn't stop it already??? being depressed is horrible
I wish they could understand how being depressed is, they think just because im smiling at them I'm completely happy but I'm not, and the therapist told them that but apparently they don't care because they don't believe I'm depressed enough to go to a therapist again.well shit,,, that's my story((sorry for the broken english))


Was this upload planned with Shawna or is this a crazy coincidence? :)

it wasn't!!!! I'm going to watch her video now!


omg my mom recommended the book women who love too much to me as well after I went through a shitty breakup and still liked the guy and it was messy but I haven't read it yet. I want to now tho. you guys are lovely


My therapist lets me play music during sessions and she’s in love with Dodie, she asks me if I can play more of her stuff every time


I really would love to get therapy for my insane anxiety and depression but I'm really afraid of what people will think ...


I found the right therapist in the third try. I'm glad I didn't give up! She's great.


where did you get your dress??? its so cute!


Excellent to see you both talk so candidly. Seeing a counsellor many years ago was life saving for me. I highly recommend everyone give it a go. And as you both said, you may need to see a few different ones to find someone you like. Same for me. Great video xxx


I love these, it just feels like were just pally pal pals havin a chat about things and stuff


Dodie's VEDIF: Sponsored by the NHS. <3

But really, I'm enjoying these videos so much, please never stop.


watching these videos dont make me feel as lonely as i do now


lol i think my parents would just laugh at me


my school councillor really helps me I would recommend it so much it's amazing to get alot off your chest and learn about yourself


oh my goodness! my grandma wrote "women who love too much" the book tessa was talking about! :) <3


I love how Dodie keeps saying therapy and Tessa keeps saying counselling.


Could you and Tessa start a podcast. When you guys chat about things together, even on your own. I realize things. I realize that I need to talk to people and find friends like you guys❤


why does tessa look like the arthur meme?


I had an odd occurrence where my counselor told me that she felt she couldn't do anything for me because there was nothing really wrong with me than a moderate depression.


Okay so this video made me cry

I was studying abroad alone for a few months and I was desperate and going insane so I thought it would be a good opportunity for therapy, once I could go by myself and didn't have to tell my parents (not an option). It was very good at the beginning because I had no one to talk to and it was good to finally let things out. But all I could do was cry during every session and I couldn't express myself right. Words just wouldn't go out in the right way. And my therapist wasn't understanding things the way I wanted him to and I was just so tired of trying and I just wanted to be fixed but it wasn't working. I started getting paranoid about therapy and about my therapist because he knew so much about me and I was alone and I couldn't tell anyone, I couldn't ask for help, because I didn't want people to know about me and therapy, I didn't have any strength left to explain why I needed it.
It was so bad I was having anxiety about going to therapy and my mind was worse than before, so I decided to quit. And I thought it just wasn't for me. Maybe I'm too far gone, maybe I can't be fixed.
And then this video came, and maybe I can be fixed, but I can't ask for help, I can't go counseling again because I'm not abroad anymore. My school doesn't have counseling. I could never tell my parents. My friends wouldn't understand. Online is not enough, there's just too much shit inside me.
I don't know what to do.

Thank you if you read till this point, I just needed to unload my head a bit. I'll manage it eventually, I hope


When you transmit only positivity and expect nothing in return you will be amazed by how your life develops. Expectation is why we need therapists.


I'm just starting therapy this week as I was just diagnosed with depression recently. I'm partly nervous but excited too


Yeah, I want to go to conseling for my depression/anxiety/self harm/suicidal thoughts but I don't want to tell my parents and we don't have enough money to really pay for it so I would have to pay myself. But I still wanna go idk just thought I would comment, sorry


3:15 ...i didnt really know that- definetly makes me look at the possibility of finding help in therapy. my life is too weird to share with someone i thought was going to just 'correct' my lifestyle. thankyou, great vlog


i cried at least five times while watching this. the first was when i realized i need therapy. the second was that i have to actually get out of my comfort zone to find someone right for me. third, I'm so scared that i'm not going to get better. fourth, i have to save up for uni and i can't afford counseling. fifth, i want to better myself (i need to!) and i know therapy will help but i'm scared. i'm so scared.


this was such an interesting but hard video for me to watch cos lately i've been thinking a lot about my mental health issues and whether or not i want/need/should get therapy. ive been to a few counsellors and have had experiences ranging from "meh" to "this was Very Bad™" but never anything even slightly good and. wow. this was heavy. good vid but very heavy re: my current headspace lol<br>a note on costs tho!!! if ur having a hard time affording things u can sometimes get counselling at a discount if ur dealing with like a key interest of the person u wanna go see!! like. if ur lgbtq and ur counsellor specializes in mental health in lgbtq youth they'll sometimes give u cheaper rates/negotiate rates with u cos u fit their target demographic if that makes sense (the doctor i see for my hrt told me this so!! not just the word of ur local 19 year old nobody lol)

this was such an interesting but hard video for me to watch cos lately i've been thinking a lot about my mental health issues and whether or not i want/need/should get therapy. ive been to a few counsellors and have had experiences ranging from "meh" to "this was Very Bad™" but never anything even slightly good and. wow. this was heavy. good vid but very heavy re: my current headspace lol
a note on costs tho!!! if ur having a hard time affording things u can sometimes get counselling at a discount if ur dealing with like a key interest of the person u wanna go see!! like. if ur lgbtq and ur counsellor specializes in mental health in lgbtq youth they'll sometimes give u cheaper rates/negotiate rates with u cos u fit their target demographic if that makes sense (the doctor i see for my hrt told me this so!! not just the word of ur local 19 year old nobody lol)


DODIE, MAKE A VIDEO ABOUT SONGWRITING!!!!!!

i think she answered the last question of yours im paraphrasing yes

Joanne The Scammer joanne's the real mvp

Gregory Jackson No, make a SONG ABOUT SONGWRITING

You are on a mission to get all the songwriting tips

Gregory Jackson omg PLEASE Dodie!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I decide what I want it to be about and what instrument I want and then I'll like picture it in my head then try out it onto my guitar by trying different chords and stuff then slowly work lyrics into it

ooh, also whats your philosophy for songwriting?

WHEN DID YOUSTART WRITING?
HOW MANY HAVE YOU WRITTEN SO FAR?
HOW DO YOU WRITE USING INSTRUMENTS?
YOUR WRITING PROCESS?
DOES BEING A YOUTUBER MAKE PEOPLE IN THE MUSIC INDUSTRY NOT VALUE YOU AS MUCH AS THEY WOULD OTHER PEOPLE?


My first therapist actually talked a lot about her own issues. I think I knew more about her than she knew about me.

Then I had a really great therapist, but I started getting too anxious to go, even though I was there for anxiety. I just kind of stopped going and then started on some kind of OCD medication to combat the depression and anxiety


It's so weird watching this video because I am in school to become a therapist/counselor, so hearing you guys talk about the techniques therapists/counselors do to help you (like the attentive body language and verbal cues) are all things I know work and am slowly learning how to do. It's just so friggin cool seeing that these techniques actually have helped out people! Thank you so much for this video!


Even though I have dealt with all of my issues to do with my identity i have to go to therapy because im transgender and my counsellor refuses to acknowledge any of my other issues even though my social anxiety is stopping me from getting another counsellor.<br>I had had therapy with a youth charity which was great but was limited to 6 weeks before CAMHS but I'm not allowed to go anywhere else at the same time as CAMHS so I am forced to deal with it all myself despite the fact that I NEED HELP

Even though I have dealt with all of my issues to do with my identity i have to go to therapy because im transgender and my counsellor refuses to acknowledge any of my other issues even though my social anxiety is stopping me from getting another counsellor.
I had had therapy with a youth charity which was great but was limited to 6 weeks before CAMHS but I'm not allowed to go anywhere else at the same time as CAMHS so I am forced to deal with it all myself despite the fact that I NEED HELP


Where is Dodie's dress from omg please I neeed it

georgiavstheworld i think it's by the brand Lazy Oaf


I think I'm going to be getting counselling/ therapy soon for my depression and I'm so worried in case they ask like "what do you think brought this on?" "What do you think might've triggered your depression?" And I have no idea. It makes me doubt myself that I actually have depression, despite going to a doctors and being diagnosed. It's like because I don't have anything that made me like this (that I can think of) it's less significant than people who have an actual reason. I know it's still important but I feel like I'm being stupid and I'm a spoiled brat who needs a slap from reality 😕


I thought I might need therapy as a teen but was so self-conscious about it, I did it on the super DL. Didn't tell my friends or siblings. My mom was kind of weird about it, too, underplaying the bad feelings I'd been feeling. Needless to say, that therapy didn't work. When I went back at age 19, I shouted from the rooftops "I need therapy!" cause I really really did. It was amazing how many people came out of the woodwork to say, "Oh, yea, I love my therapist" or "I went to a therapist for a while after my parents divorced and it was super helpful." The stigma against seeing a therapist is so ridiculous because it's never a bad idea and we all need one at some point (or many points) in our lives.


i waited 2 and a half years for a therapist and when i finally got one, she told me that i didnt need it even though i suffer greatly from social anxiety and depression.


I'm a secretary at a mental health facility, and studying to become a therapist or counselor. It's nice to see people opening up and breaking the stigma that being in therapy is normal and okay. I wish more people could see it's potential!


I had about 6 months of counselling and I found that it was very good to just talk off my feeling but with being in school I feel like I can't say everything and majority of the time I didn't know how to explain what I was feeling, I know that what im feeling isn't good and I have suffered with this for so long but I just don't know how to get the words out. They stopped my counselling without telling me but I need it, I hate having to hide away all of my emotions.


I realised I wanted counselling about a year ago and went straight to the doctors, I can't afford to pay for therapy so I tried the college councillor and she was useless. an angry  old woman who just made me feel worse about myself. and I have been on the nhs councelling waiting list for nearly a year now 😭


Nice vlog! I would love to go to counseling ; but first i have to find some brilliant therapist.... They are so rare.


I stopped watching heavydirtysoul for the 300th time for this.

I'm a YouTube addict // same @ name and comment

I'm a YouTube addict same 😂 nice profile pic

Camilla Forte because the person is a YouTube addict! (duh)

I'm a YouTube addict THE VIDEO IS AMAZING IM IN LOVE

I'm a YouTube addict that's saying a lot👏🏽

I'm a YouTube addict I saw you jaidens video too oml


honestly, how can dodie think that she is not pretty, she's gorgeous on the inside and outside


So I was kind of "forced" into therapy when I was 11/12 bc that was when my parents split up and I really did not like going to it. Every time I went I was very anxious and my whole body shook with anxiety of going in and talking to my therapist. I felt that I had nothing to talk about. I was just not really up to it. Also, when I was that young, there really wasn't anything wrong with me. But now, quite recently (starting in September), I got really depressed and sad and I didn't feel happy. Like, I would be with my friends and be happy but I never felt truly happy??? And with such a bad experience with therapy, I didn't/don't want to start it up again... but I feel as if I should have gone back to therapy in that period of time. I could've coped so much better. Idk how to get back into therapy with all this anxiety of what it was like built up inside me.


I tried to talk to my friends about any problems that I had and every time they would tell me that they weren't "real problems" and how their problems were so much worse and now I feel like a jerk whenever I feel depressed and that just makes it worse


Now I think I need counselling and I feel like going would just take up more time that I can't afford to waste but it's like I should almost probably definitely go.


could either, or both ;), of you do a video about small youtubers at some point during vedif? Because lord knows they don't get enough attention

Just Another Artist that would be wonderful!!!!


I'm so against therapy for myself but I know I need it, I just prefer to lock in all my emotions until I explode lmao


i recently went to the counselor at college and she told me that my problems aren't important enough for therapy 😊 which is probably true but it hurts to hear nonetheless haha


Mind is one of the best - underated charities out there - and it needs more funding


I love the idea of going to therapy but I can't really describe how I'm feeling in words. I feel that they won't take me seriously.


I had counselling sessions at school, and at my 3rd one I was having a good day, so they were like "oh how are you feeling" and I said "actually fab..." and he was like "great, I don't think I need to see you again"...


this is such a important video. please try therapy if you need it 💕


For real though. I've been going to therapy for about 8 months now. Was going through a lot. Got a degree in psychology so I just was self aware of it all but that wasn't helpful. But then more happened and was like huh, I guess it really is about that time huh? Lol. Therapy is very good and does help. I've been more productive with my life in the past half year than I have been literally ever. Haha.


Ugh. They're both making videos this month. It's so wonderful 😭


I got turned down from therapy because I wasn't "bad enough"

same, and then a extremely traumatic event happened where my school and my local council recommended it

Same, I've become distant from most of my friends as whenever I told them they didn't understand they told me I was being "rude" and that "all I have to do is stop being so negative all the time". But they ones that stay have hearts made of pure gold :)

kri S that's true yeah, thanks I appreciate it :') ♡

Laura Antonia I can definitely see why you think that, but if you think you need help then its best to go for it ♡

yasmin garland awh god I'm so so sorry that happened to you that sounds awful, I hope you're feeling better :( your situation sounds a lot like mine to be honest, unfortunately I've completely ran out of friends because they don't understand and I'm not "suited for medication" x

onedeadrOse // that's free therapy for you. Once you pay for sessions, which are quite $$$,  nothing is "not bad enough".

onedeadrOse // The exact same thing happened to me. It was one of the worst experiences I've had with therapy and I still have problems related to that. But I also learned that I'M the only person who can determine if that is true or not. You shouldn't feel discouraged and try to find another therapist. You went for one for a reason. In my case I had trouble warming up tho my therapist, and at that point I couldn't see that that person wasn't the right therapist for me. <br>Sorry for the long message, but I think it is really important that no one should feel that they are not sick enough. It isn't a competition and there is no one who doesn't deserve to get help.

onedeadrOse // The exact same thing happened to me. It was one of the worst experiences I've had with therapy and I still have problems related to that. But I also learned that I'M the only person who can determine if that is true or not. You shouldn't feel discouraged and try to find another therapist. You went for one for a reason. In my case I had trouble warming up tho my therapist, and at that point I couldn't see that that person wasn't the right therapist for me.
Sorry for the long message, but I think it is really important that no one should feel that they are not sick enough. It isn't a competition and there is no one who doesn't deserve to get help.

i got this at counselling at college lmao

the only thing thats holding me back from therapy is the fear of being told that im not "bad enough"

Unfortunately there are too many people who need help and not enough people in the NHS to give it. My mum sent me to the doctor after seeing that I had self harmed and I told her I was having suicidal thoughts regularly. The doctor told me the waiting list was 3 months. A few weeks later I attempted suicide in my bedroom and was sent to hospital. It was only then when I was seen as a priority, and if I had been given the help when I needed it maybe I wouldn't have been in the situation. Now that I have help from the NHS, I don't really find therapy much help a all, in fact I always end up feeling worse. However I have found the medication helpful. Rather than a therapist, I much rather talk to my friend Paige. I'm always too scared that a therapist will judge me, but I know she wont, and sometimes I don't need someone to act like they know what is going on in my head but just let me babble and for them to listen so finding a 'special person' to talk to might help. Also there are many vitamins that can help with mood, anxiety and all sorts in places like holland and barrett. There are anonymous websies online wih councellors or people experiencing similar feelings such childline and Kooth. Even things like meditation could help, and I've found the free app headspace quite helpful. I hope you feel better soon, and remember you are not alone! Make sure to tell people how you feel x

OMG THATS SO FUCKED UP!! im so sorry that happened to you.

There are some brilliant organisations which will offer free counselling. If you leave in Berkshire ARC is brilliant. Nationwide I know that charities such as Mind can help you find free or cheap counselling. I was also rejected for counselling at 14 because I wasn't suicidal. Child and Adolescent Mental Heath Service (CAMHS) is completely overwhelmed due to government cuts and the waiting list for most teens/children is 2 years :(

Yeah my school councillor won't see you unless you tell her you're harming yourself, I was but I only saw her for one session and I never got another because it was a "phase" so I never told her

onedeadrOse // thank you :) just never doubt your own feelings, you know how you feel xx

Shannon I'm sorry to hear that, glad you're doing better though. thank you ♡

Katie Ahronson yup, that's exactly what it was :( I've missed a month of school because no service will help me

Katie Ahronson the NHS isn't shit, it's just underfunded. Which means sadly it's not always possible for them to see everyone.

I experienced that when I was 10, 4 years later and it's worse than ever and I'm finally getting the treatment that I feel is good for me. Please keep trying, don't let it develop xx

onedeadrOse // are you British?? If so it might be to do with the NHS being shit and only taking on really bad cases

amaya lobato at least I'm still here :') ♡

Varun Srivastava I'm trying everything I can atm, thank you for the advice I appreciate it ♡

onedeadrOse // im sorry, that's got to be very traumatic

onedeadrOse // Try another one, maybe? I believe that if you feel you're in need of it, more times than not you are in need of it.


I've been to therapy almost two years and the biggest problem I have with my therapist that since I was an A/B studient a few years ago and I'm quiet and don't get in trouble, she thinks I'm still an A studient who has energy and motivation to go to school and due anxiety and having no self-esteem I can't get myself to tell her that holy shit, I have failed 4 classes this year alone, I can't take school
And she assumes I'm not suicidal if I don't talk about it but... I find it super awkward to go "yeah btw I almost jumped in front of a bus this morning" so I can't tell her if I'm feeling bad
I probably should find a new therapist but hehee anxiety and low self-esteem won't let me say anything to anyone cause I can't be a burden :--D


i can relate to this soo much.<br>i just want to hug you both..

i can relate to this soo much.
i just want to hug you both..


I had the same experience as Dodie. My first counselor didn't talk and just kind of sat there and didn't ask questions or anything and it was really frustrating because it was like she wanted me to keep talking, but I couldn't think of anything else to say. Then I found my current counselor who I have been going to for like four years I think. I don't know, I need it to be a two way conversation and not me just talking at someone.


went to a counsellor in my school, and going into it I new I was going to end up feeling worse about my self. I went in and sat down and opened up about all my personal shit, mostly anxiety and depression, I ended up feeling horrible, since he made me think that it's all my fault and maybe I'm in the wrong school to begin with, and maybe the school is too advanced for me  (basically saying I'm too dumb for the school). When in reality, the school puts far too much pressure on the students. some weeks are chill, and other weeks are jam packed with like 3 tests, and a couple of papers due.<br>I went to a professional psychologist and talked to her about everything, and it was really great. So to conclude, school fucking sucks, and they don't hire the best people.

went to a counsellor in my school, and going into it I new I was going to end up feeling worse about my self. I went in and sat down and opened up about all my personal shit, mostly anxiety and depression, I ended up feeling horrible, since he made me think that it's all my fault and maybe I'm in the wrong school to begin with, and maybe the school is too advanced for me  (basically saying I'm too dumb for the school). When in reality, the school puts far too much pressure on the students. some weeks are chill, and other weeks are jam packed with like 3 tests, and a couple of papers due.
I went to a professional psychologist and talked to her about everything, and it was really great. So to conclude, school fucking sucks, and they don't hire the best people.


dodie! dye! your! hair! pastel! like! tessa's! it! would! suit! you!


I was put into counselling when I was in third grade because I had this one bully that was extra violent and he was mad at someone else, but I was near him and he tried to strangle me for it. My first counselling experience was very welcoming and comfortable because I was just a kid and child councillors are very friendly and he had all these cool toys like dinosaurs and a doll house, but I was always scared to leave his office and go back to school or back home, I just wanted to hide there forever. I was on and off counselling for a long time so I've learned that some councillors suck and others are great, but there's no councillors at home, where my meanest bully and all my biggest problems are.


I remember being like 6 and going to counseling because I had mayor stress issues<br>I did it for a year and when I stopped my counselor gave me a random stuffed animal that someone had left there.

I remember being like 6 and going to counseling because I had mayor stress issues
I did it for a year and when I stopped my counselor gave me a random stuffed animal that someone had left there.


this video was sooooo interesting to me!!! I feel like i share a lot of the questions and problems ennounced? first, like tessa, I don't think i'm "bad enough" too see a therapist, pretty much all my friends or family have had it worst (suicide attempt this kind of shit), second family problem! my dad is my GP (not a good idea but i don't know how to change without vexing him?) and he's super anti-therapy, also my mom has expressed before that maybe one of my brothers should have seen someone, but there was an "over-diagnosis" of depressed teenagers, so i have no idea how to bring it up to her. Finally, I don't live at home anymore, I've moved out for my studies, my school doesn't have a therapist and I don't have enough money/time, all bad excuses but also anxiety stops me from actually asking anyone? (i've been to pre-counseling before they gave me a number i never called) any tips / answers for a confused 20yo not adult that gets super frustrated when good days go away? (im french btw)


dodie and tessa are so lovely to watch together


how often do you go to counseling? what I find is that I'm only able to go like once every other week or once a week at the most but I don't know if that's like enough. I feel better after my session but it's not very often. how often do you go and do you think it's a good amount?


I'm sat here sobbing in my bath because everything Dodie said is me to a T. I have yet to find a therapist that works for me, and, as Dodie said, was beginning to think I am just too broken for counselling to help me. I have two different therapy appointments this week and thanks to this video I'm going to go in with a slightly more positive mindset. I needed this video more than you'll ever know, thank you both so much for this. It's so easy to feel like I'm alone in this.


i started counseling after my mother found out that i selfharm. i didn't want to at first, i only closed up even more. but at some point i started opening up though and it really helped. i'm one month clean now, a new record.


If I ever seek counseling again (besides school counseling, which REALLY helped for me, but of course I had the opportunity to go there before school) I would want a therapists who does a lot of of projects and hands-on stuff with me<br>btw I love Dodie's dress

If I ever seek counseling again (besides school counseling, which REALLY helped for me, but of course I had the opportunity to go there before school) I would want a therapists who does a lot of of projects and hands-on stuff with me
btw I love Dodie's dress


At the beginning of every session, my counselor will briefly go through everything we discussed in the last session, and asks if I've still been having the same thoughts or feelings, and I'll be so surprised to realize that I haven't, and that's how I know it's working for me


With parents that grew up in China therapy was out of the question for all of high school but then I went to uni and everything's nice and secret and I've been on meds for a few weeks and they've started to kick in and my therapist is great and yes I recommend therapy tons thanks kids. But I also realize that having access mental health support is a privilege and I'm really grateful


Also! In the US most private therapists work on a sliding scale, so you pay what you can afford. A lot of therapists range from $5/hour - $100/hour, so it's whatever you can afford at that time and you create a payment plan with the therapists.


one of my friend's mum is a therapist. she talks, mostly, and i add my input. which works great for me because i don't like talking that much. once i get comfortable (needs to happen every. single. time) i talk more, and we work from there. it's great, and since speaking with her i've been so much better as a person. i feel so much better about myself. if you're having a crap time, talking to someone is ideal. find an online friend you can talk to until you feel comfortable talking to someone in person. therapists won't judge you.


a lot of my friends go to therapy and they say it helps and that i should try it but I'm too afraid (in a way) or too nervous to ask my parents if i could try it because i don't want them to think there is anything wrong with me and i don't know if there is anything wrong with me but id like to know and learn more about me but i want to try therapy.


We have something called celebrate recovery at my church. From what I've heard it's really helpful


this is so great i feel like im quite an open person but id like to get it to understand myself better!!

also i love your dress wheres it from!!!!!!????


This is going to sound weird, but I was watching this video and I just suddenly started crying. Like, at first it was just a few tears but then i was full out sobbing and it was kinda scary. Idk if it's because I'm envious of how open you two can be about your mental illnesses (since I have not really mentioned anything to do with mine to anyone for years and even when I did I pretended that I was getting better and everything was fine) or bc I don't think I'll ever go to therapy (every time I think about it I'm completely in denial that what I'm feeling is worthy of getting help), but I feel so bad even though I should totally be happy for you two for doing a great thing. Why brain??


I liked counselling bc I got to offload whatever was on my mind until I had a new one and she was like you don't really need to be coming here but it was more she was asking questions about parts of my life I'd already sorted through with the previous one where as I still had problems yet to discuss


so about 5 months ago my therapist passed i was seeing him on and off for 8 years and my family knew him for ground 11, he died in a bycicle accident he helped me loads even if it was just calls or texts. I went inpatient for a month and 1/2 a few months ago and when i got out i went through 4 therapist and 2 psychiatrist. I kept blocking people out and comparing them to my old therapist. I didn't wanna start trauma work(for sexual assult and abuse) with anyone but my old therapist. but there is a happy ending. My insurance helped me find a therapist and i now see her twice a week we have had about 6 sessions and yes she is very different she is very helpful and understanding. I still have trouble opening up i guess its out of fear to lose another person but I'm getting better


I founded out derealization feeling was a "dis-enlightenment" experience. A lac of light flow / electric flow inside your brain & blood. <br>Deep breathing will give you that flow of electricity that will physically help you to clarify & re-enlighten your perception of life.

I founded out derealization feeling was a "dis-enlightenment" experience. A lac of light flow / electric flow inside your brain & blood.
Deep breathing will give you that flow of electricity that will physically help you to clarify & re-enlighten your perception of life.


Your tip on the parental issue is very. very. important. Great empathetic perspective. Thank you for that one. I started therapy as an adult so their opinion was not impactful to my decision, but looking back, I realize how their concern and sadness when I told them was probably quite connected to that feeling of failure. Thank you for the revelation.


I saw my school counsellor for anxiety, depression, and eating disorder symptoms. He made me feel so much worse, I was self harming so much prior to and after the appointments. Safe to say, I've not returned to any counselling or therapy. I know I should because I am getting worse by the day, but I don't really want to get better in some ways so it's kind of limiting me

sorry to hear that :c don't go back to that specific counsellor if he makes you feel worse beause that goes against the whole point. A lot of people have been saying 7cups is very helpful so you could try that, there are lots of different people on there so there's a high chance you'll be able to find someone who can help you :)<br>When you say you don't really want to get better in some ways, do you know why that is? I just want to understand, to see if I can help you out.

sorry to hear that :c don't go back to that specific counsellor if he makes you feel worse beause that goes against the whole point. A lot of people have been saying 7cups is very helpful so you could try that, there are lots of different people on there so there's a high chance you'll be able to find someone who can help you :)
When you say you don't really want to get better in some ways, do you know why that is? I just want to understand, to see if I can help you out.


the funniest thing that happened to me in therapy was that I drank an entire large iced coffee right before and I had to pee SO BAD that she asked me what was wrong bc I was bouncing my leg so much


Highly recommend Elefriends as an anonymous forum sort of thing where you can write how you're feeling to a very supportive community - I've not sold it very well but do check out the website, they have an introductory video that explains it much better than I have. I've found it very helpful and a great free alternative to therapy


when i was in 8th grade my mom asked if i wanted to see a therapist and i said sure why not and she set me up with literally the perfect person for me to help me through high school and then i came out as transgender and that therapist and my physician helped me find a new therapist who knew more about the subject and again, we got a really good person on the first try. Basically just find someone who makes you feel comfortable and asks the right questions. I find that I am very stubborn and see things from one view and they'll ask the right questions to make me think about things from new perspectives. I've been to therapy long enough that I could almost counsel myself except that it's really nice to have that other person who won't judge you and isn't involved in the situation


this video is really reinforcing for me that I need to find a new therapist. mine is kind of shit: I usually leave appointments feeling invalidated and worse than when I arrived, she seems to think that getting a boyfriend is the solution to all my problems, and whenever I bring up how my parent's behavior cause me emotional distress she passes it off as them just being worried about me


The church I go to hosts a Celebrate Recovery group and they describe it for "anyone that has hurts, habits, and hang-ups."  They make it a point to advertise it for more than just addictions (I haven't been to a meeting because I feel a little to close to the people running it, for anonymity's sake).  It is Christian-based, but the guy who runs my church's chapter has been through it all and is the least judgmental person I know.  I'm sure there are more chapters similar to this.  Thanks, Tessa for mentioning it.


you don't always have to take drugs, such as antidepressant pills can sometimes make you worse and can give an imbalance in your serotonin even more. But seeing a sophrologist or a phycologist is the best choice :)


you will never know how much these two creatures actually mean to me.


hey everyone. this video really did spark up my attention (minus it being dodie and tessa together obviously). i do counselling in my school for around 8 weeks now as i finally got put off the waiting list. i am 15 and in year 10 (grade 9 for all y'all americans) and honestly has really changed how i think now. in all honesty, i dont have an exact reason for counselling- well not a diagnosed, professional, medical reason. i broke down during the year twice in front of my class, and i was recommended by my teachers to have counselling. it wasn't something that was seriously wrong with me. i dont self diagnose and i havent been diagnosed with anything. as a teenager, you experience emotions. people in my school do counselling for their anger issues, or their sadness and self harm and etc. or they are there to talk to someone once a week about how their life is going. it's free in my school. i didnt tell anyone besides my four friends. not even my mum and sister. it was only recently i told my mum- id say last week- and she used to say that people who got therapy needed medical help. but i told her i have counselling, skipping out the why as i still havent completely concluded it. my counsellor agreed for no one to know- all things you talk about with your counsellor stays confidential.

the stigma behind counselling at school:
- all information is shared between teachers and parent. NOT TRUE, all confidential and it is up to you whether you tell them. but, if it becomes dangerous and it puts you and others in danger then it will be conversed between your head of year.

- you have to pay for it. in my school it is free and im sure it is for schools around the UK (thank god the NHS)

- you have to be sad to have counselling. 100% no. people i know do counselling because they have anger issues. some are in with the wrong crowd and their head's of year sign them up with consent.

- if the teacher feels like you need to, you have to. no, it is all your choice you can't be forced into doing it. that's what my counsellor told me.

- you cant quit it. no, you can most certainly quit whenever. if you feel you dont need it anymore.

- the counsellor gives you life advice. no, the counsellor finds a conclusion that best fits your emotion and it only is with you if you agree with it and feel like it makes sense in how you are feeling.

- there is only one type of couselling. there are many different approaches to counselling. one is to let the client talk and the counsellor talk back or the counsellor to give feedback and many more.


My therapist recently told me to think of depression and anxiety as symptoms instead of actual deep-rooted problems, and it actually made a load of sense. She basically said that depression and anxiety are within me because they're trying to tell me that I have something really wrong that I haven't been dealing with correctly, and therefore I am dealing with it through depression and anxiety as a way to forget my actual problems way beneath the surface, and focus on what I cannot explain.


Ive been in a waiting list for months and months... My mum and I started fighting, and all the stuff about me, that my mum was trying to hide got out to all the family. Yes there was many tears, screaming, shouting and one failed suicide attempt, I guess I'm getting better...? I was sexually assaulted and my family only found out a few months ago. It happened a year and 6 weeks ago. I haven't had any sexual contact with a guy since then, but I hope to one day. TMI?


currently, i have been waiting for counselling for...about two years (probably more). I live in the north west of Ireland and (because of a mixture mostly free/cheap healthcare and a medical card i get through my dad's RA) i can pretty much get the whole diagnosis, therapy, etc pro bono. HOWEVER. there is currently nobody in my area who is diagnosing people under 18 (thats a few hundred thousand people btw) and i will probably have to go private for the diagnosis part (like my little brother who has aspergers). i saw a counsellor in my first secondary school (1st-3rd year/12-15) for about a year christmas 2013-june 2014 i think).

i moved schools for unrelated reasons in September of 2016 and have to date seen two counselors (besides the chaplain i saw.) who did not work out and was recently (before christmas) in Dublin (2 hours away) in a clinic my mom got recommended to get the diagnosis that i probably don't have depression or anxiety, it's a psychological problem and they couldn't help me. i disagree about the anxiety thing (but what do i know. it was only an hour long).
i am now waiting for the two TDs (Teachtaí Dála members of the Oireachtas or Irish parliament) and a private psychologist (i think) to get back to my parents about when they'll get the position filled.

i just wanted to say (other than all of that) that it really helped me to watch you talk about all your symptoms and what you are going through and how you're getting through it. i have similar issues with depersonalisation, anxiety, feelings of doom (with an added twist of paranoia nice. i don't know if you get that. if any other that stuff isn' correct i am truly sorry).
so thank you (i honestly was almost in tears writing this i didn't realise how much better your videos made me feel :,D) and please keep making these kinds of videos (thank you to tessa too. i completely relate to the 'kinda attracted to emotional unavailability' thing.
cute claps you do at the start of your vids to bookend my essay

currently, i have been waiting for counselling for...about two years (probably more). I live in the north west of Ireland and (because of a mixture mostly free/cheap healthcare and a medical card i get through my dad's RA) i can pretty much get the whole diagnosis, therapy, etc pro bono. HOWEVER. there is currently nobody in my area who is diagnosing people under 18 (thats a few hundred thousand people btw) and i will probably have to go private for the diagnosis part (like my little brother who has aspergers). i saw a counsellor in my first secondary school (1st-3rd year/12-15) for about a year christmas 2013-june 2014 i think).

i moved schools for unrelated reasons in September of 2016 and have to date seen two counselors (besides the chaplain i saw.) who did not work out and was recently (before christmas) in Dublin (2 hours away) in a clinic my mom got recommended to get the diagnosis that i probably don't have depression or anxiety, it's a psychological problem and they couldn't help me. i disagree about the anxiety thing (but what do i know. it was only an hour long).
i am now waiting for the two TDs (Teachtaí Dála members of the Oireachtas or Irish parliament) and a private psychologist (i think) to get back to my parents about when they'll get the position filled.

i just wanted to say (other than all of that) that it really helped me to watch you talk about all your symptoms and what you are going through and how you're getting through it. i have similar issues with depersonalisation, anxiety, feelings of doom (with an added twist of paranoia nice. i don't know if you get that. if any other that stuff isn' correct i am truly sorry).
so thank you (i honestly was almost in tears writing this i didn't realise how much better your videos made me feel :,D) and please keep making these kinds of videos (thank you to tessa too. i completely relate to the 'kinda attracted to emotional unavailability' thing.
*cute claps you do at the start of your vids to bookend my essay*


I had been in therapy for half a year or so and I made the experience that it didn't help or kind of didn't worked out for me I don't know really why it didn't. My mother decided she needed to do something when she found out that I was cutting and that didn't came up from anywhere. I have panic attacks for like 10 years now and after my sessions when I left my therapist I always felt burnt out and much more depressed because I had to talk about everything that bothered me and I couldn't do anything anymore the rest of the day because I was so stressed out. In the end my therapist decided that it might be better if we didn't continued because it seemed like it didn't help and just made me more depressed. Maybe it didn't help because I haven't been there long enough, I don't know. <br>Anyways, I'm really glad to hear that it helped both of you!

I had been in therapy for half a year or so and I made the experience that it didn't help or kind of didn't worked out for me I don't know really why it didn't. My mother decided she needed to do something when she found out that I was cutting and that didn't came up from anywhere. I have panic attacks for like 10 years now and after my sessions when I left my therapist I always felt burnt out and much more depressed because I had to talk about everything that bothered me and I couldn't do anything anymore the rest of the day because I was so stressed out. In the end my therapist decided that it might be better if we didn't continued because it seemed like it didn't help and just made me more depressed. Maybe it didn't help because I haven't been there long enough, I don't know.
Anyways, I'm really glad to hear that it helped both of you!


I've been to 7 councilors in 4 years and they have all been at least 4 almost hour long sessions so it not like I saw them once and gave up.
But none of it helped, medication hasn't helped me either and I've been on maybe 9 for mood and 4 for sleep.
To my talking to a counselor is about as useful as a prayer or a witch doctor, if you believe in it it'll help because you honestly think it will help you


I told my mother about dodie a whole ago and I was trying to find something in internet history earlier and I found "dodo ukelele" had been searched and she had watched about 20 videos


I love coming back from school or activity and see a Vedif right away


I started therapy at 13 because my mom found some pills I was hiding for "no reason" 🙃


Ahh I just started counseling last month because I saw Rosianna Halas Rojas talking about it and I saw your Snapchat, Dodie, where you just offhandedly mentioned you were walking to a therapy appointment and I was like hmmmm these are people whose opinions I trust and whose judgement usually lines up with my own so I might as well try it too... so I did. And I almost ran away before my first session because I was nervous lmao 😂 but for anyone who isn't sure about it, just try it out! The one I go to is only $55 per session which is expensive but not as much as some of the ones I was looking at before and that's because it's technically part of a family counseling center (so that's another option of cheaper alternatives). Thanks for the video and the openness guys 💕💕💕


SCHOOL COUNSELLING IS AMAZING!! I go to a university in the US and they have a health center and a mental health/counselling department that offers therapy sessions and psychiatric treatment. I go there for my anxiety, OCD, depressive episodes, and emotional baggage from my childhood (I've got a lot going on in my wacko lil brain) and honestly, my therapist and psychiatrists are so incredibly kind and understanding and attentive. I do feel better after my appointments and it really does help to open up to them, even if little by little. These people are trained professionals who are used to dealing with college-aged kids and their problems, like sexuality, mental illnesses, relationships, etc. They really know what they're doing and they're here to help. In the US, you gotta pay for your health insurance though so that's something to factor in, but I'm on financial aid/scholarships, so my health fees are all waived. Besides cost, I think school counselling is definitely worth a shot. Also, patient confidentiality, so your parents won't find out!


this video could not have come at a better time for me - after years and years and years of feeling like I couldn't cope (but putting it down to "being a teenager") I start therapy on Tuesday!! thank you for being so honest about it, you two have taken a lot of my worries away :)


DODIE YOUR DRESS IS AMAZING!!! You are beautiful, as always!!❤❤


Tessa gave such wise advice on the topic of telling parents you want therapy, and how she said they feel it was a failure on their part. Quite a realization! :)


My school just recently started having a therapist on campus everyday, and it was really really helpful for me. It was totally free and confidential. My parents ended up finding out about it eventually, but that's for a whole other reason. It's kinda funny actually, I went to the nurses office for a cough drop and they asked me to take a test, and 10 minutes later they told me I had high levels of anxiety and suggested that I should see her and see how I like it. It's been a really great experience, and I'm always excited for our appointments even if I don't have anything to talk about. I just don't know what I'm going to do when I graduate. :/

And what's crazy is all my life my parents threatened to send me to counseling because I was such a bad kid or whatever and like, I wish they would've lmao


two years ago i told my mom that i want to get therapy because i think i might have anxiety, but she told me that "i've always been shy" and that I "shouldn't be ridiculous, a panic attack here and there is normal"
the past few months were horrible and i kept thinking about death and stuff. a part of me still wants to go to therapy and sort things out but another part of me thinks i'm fine and "what if i just somehow convinced myself i'm not ok"
i just don't really know what to do


Dodie you look so adorable in this video!


wow that actually happened to me... i have severe social anxiety, and i told her that  but she still left way too much time for me to talk. and i would leave therapy feeling so much worse than when i went in because she would bring up hard topics and it would make me cry. but somehow she didnt make it any better... despite her being the therapist.... it also gave me anxiety so??? lol kind of defeats the purpose.  so i kinda just never went back after a while and im scared to go back again


Where was this two years ago??? High school me needed to hear this before things got really bad... but I hope that this can help other people in that place in their life.


I felt like i needed therapy and i told my parents and they said it wasn't necessary and then i went to my school's counselor and they said i needed to be treated by a professional and my parents said IT WASN'T NECESSARY.


So I live in a FREAKING small town and I feel like if I started therapy I would get so much hard core judgment from my school peers. I want to because I know everyone should go and talk to a councillor but I don't know who to go about it. It scares me.


Interesting timing. I am going back to my psychologist for the first time in 2 years tomorrow.


My therapist recently (within the last 3-4 months) stopped practice due to personal reasons. I've had her for 5 years and really built a connection to her. I'm looking to find a new one soon tho!


i love how i learm so much from dodie .Vedif is so fun cause it goves me something to look forward to :)))


i had a therapist for one or two sessions then my dad decided  that depression, anxiety and OCD dont actually exist and the doctor that diagnosed me just wanted to give me a seratonin supplement. i never got a refill and i went through a horrible withdrawl for a week and i still have really bad panic attacks n i still really struggle with my OCD. thankfully i dont deal with depression as much, but its still always there. i dont really know what to do right now going forward but i hope maybe it'll get better. it's slowly gotten better, but i do think maybe a therapist could help me


3:18 shit, I guess I never really thought about it like that. I just got a new therapist after my old one would never shut up about me going back to public school — like, I want to go back to public school, but I have conditions and shit that make it do that going back right now would be terrible for my mental health. She would only talk about that, and she never talked about my depression or anxiety or anything else. She would force it on me, force me to fake a smile and then bawl as soon as I got to the car.


I moved a few years back and need to go back to counseling, but my fear is not finding one as amazing as my last counselor.  Our personalities just jived so well that I made a ton of progress.  But I have been to many others that did not, and made it worse.


wait i relate to tessa.. i have huge anxiety issues that come with being so incredibly shy. i have yet to meet someome who is ss shy and as self conscious as i am.. but i keep feeling like eh my issues arent that bad. what do i do


guys, I need advice.
I recently have been struggling with many mental issues including depersonalisation but I am scared to say that publicly in case someone thinks or says I am copying dodie (as I tend to copy her a lot oops)
what do I do?


My mums a counsellor and I want to be one too because she's so good at it <br>She's a professional in CBT

My mums a counsellor and I want to be one too because she's so good at it
She's a professional in CBT


I'm so glad that therapy is free in Germany


Is it possible to go to a therapist with a friend? I feel like I would be quite a lot more open to the idea of talking with a stranger if I had someone I trust with me.


in some parts of the UK there is a free counseling website thing, I've been using it, it's called KOOTH , you fill in a little questionnaire type of thing (?) then you're given a private counciler it's all anominas and I find it help full ^-^ you talk in texts or emails so you don't have to talk face to face. it's cool ^_^


I see a councillor at school and as much as she is brilliant and very helpful there is also only so much she can do. she has recommended I try and see someone outside of school but I'm honestly so terrified!


I went to therapy when I was 12 because my mother really felt I needed it. and I didn't feel like I needed but turns out I had depression, anxiety, and severe social anxiety. whoOpS and the weird things I felt at some nights were called panick attacks. whOOOOPSS (rn the social anxiety barely exists but the other 2 are still holding on zjshbsf)


Thank You Ladies. Not enough people hear about the positive side of counselling. It's not all raking around in the muck of ones life looking for stuff to be upset about. I see it more as weeding out unwanted things that have taken root in the garden of my mind to make space for a happier me to spread my roots and grow better.


at the beginning of the school year my parents called my school and booked an appointment with a counselor and nothing ever happened with it

they never called me out of class to go like they said they would


Well hello, I’ve got a few questions about therapy. Because I go to therapy because my parents basically forced me to go to it. (Maybe it’s because im a oversharing little shit and I more than sometimes feel really down lol) I usually talk to my parents about stuff etc. and a couple of months ago they said that I should go to a therapist. But the thing is, I have social anxiety. If I am in front of a therapist I think: Idontwanttotalkidontwanttotalkimaidiot Because if I talk about sensitive stuff, I cry really fast. And I don’t want to cry in front of someone because of my social anxiety. I think I just would shut down, system failure 404. And if that happens I think that I just would not be capable to stop with crying. And then I would be really really embarrassed so embarrassed that I just would stay in my bed for a day or two. I’m so messed up lol and I know that’s why I need to talk to someone but I just don’t know how.


school have recently put me in this mentoring/counselling thing every Wednesday(im in year11) and they think I have anxiey/depersonalisation and want me to tell my parents and go to a gp but I really have no idea how i should tell them as they are really strict and wont take it well if you get me haha,do you have any tips on how to tell them


I told my parents I want counseling and they said that it was completely fine but before that I tried talking to my mom about my problems but she's my mom so she thinks she knows me better than I know myself but she doesn't and I don't tell her everything, she doesn't know. I told her and so she now takes me to a counselor


i've wanted to go to therapy for so long. i need it. however i fear that they will tell me i'm wasting their time. i fear this with a lot of situations and i need to stop procrastinating and putting my head in the sand and just f*<b>*ing book it *sigh</b>

i've wanted to go to therapy for so long. i need it. however i fear that they will tell me i'm wasting their time. i fear this with a lot of situations and i need to stop procrastinating and putting my head in the sand and just f***ing book it *sigh*


My parents don’t even know I’m sad 🙃 so I’m gonna tell them and tell them that I do want a therapist.


i didn't know there was therapy specifically for dp/dr!! i'm going to look into that!!


Lately I've been worried I could be developing social anxiety and I find it really funny that the solution is to go talk to a stranger...like hello I'm afraid of talking to people that isn't going to help


ahhhh you're so cute 😍😂<br>these videos makes me so happy ❤

ahhhh you're so cute 😍😂
these videos makes me so happy ❤