I'm doing Neurotherapy and DBT, and I've liked it so far. I HATE CBT I feel as if they're telling you that what you think is wrong, and that was my last therapist and now it scientific so Im  like'<br>YAY

I'm doing Neurotherapy and DBT, and I've liked it so far. I HATE CBT I feel as if they're telling you that what you think is wrong, and that was my last therapist and now it scientific so Im  like'
YAY


I'm about to start seeing someone in a psychiatric hospital and trying to find the right dose of medication to help me with my issues. I still feel uncomfortable talking to my parents about it so I'm not really sure what to expect in these sessions but I want to feel less shit so I'm really going to give it a go.


I LOVE therapy!!! One thing I'd add to this is your therapist is not your teacher. What I mean by that is, if you can't do the homework they give you for whatever reason, they won't berate you. They are there to help you.


I come from a Christian home (yay, Texas) and my parents sent me to "therapy" at a Christian university, because I am bisexual. I convinced them that it was just a "phase" and now, as a 17 year old they think I'm heterosexual. When, in fact, I am more bisexual than ever. Girls are so pretty. Boys are so pretty. Everyone is so pretty. But because of that "week" of "therapy" as a 14 year old, I think if my mental issues ever got bad again (depression & anxiety) I wouldn't go to therapy. Because that period of time was so shameful and stressful that I don't think I can trust something like therapy again.

Cat Dobbs maybe when you turn 18 you could try and go to an LGBT+ support group so you can get back into an environment that you feel safer in (if other bisexual people would make you feel safer) or go with a LGBT friend if you can. You could also try going to specific counselling for LGBT people so that you know you won't be shamed. Any counsellor who is any good will never shame you for anything you do however bad, never mind for something like being gay which is not bad at all. I understand that therapy can be scary especially since you have negative experiences and associations with it but hopefully my suggestions can help you...if not good luck with being out and proud whenever you feel safe enough to be so.


I have seen a councelor at school and I chose not to tell my parents at all. After that I also saw the school psychologist for some time and I'm done with that now. I started feeling better even without realising, we just talked about stuff with the psychologist and she gave me some ideas to try out (which I never did) and it just slowly started helping me and I feel a lot better now than I did at the end of last semester. obvs I'm still not okay I have anxiety and depression but I have learnt to live with them and yeah getting help is a good idea.


thanks for sharing! great video topic!! x


I grew up always being told "You don't need to go to therapy! There's nothing wrong with you!".
There's free counseling on my college campus. I debated on trying it out because why not! But, I hesitated. I finally went to counseling because some old dude in my class was harassing me; I told my friend, who DRAGGED me to make an appointment. IT WAS THE BEST DECISION EVER. I AM GLAD I DIDN'T HOLD IT ALL IN TO MYSELF AND SUFFER.
Not even two minutes into my first session, I began BAWLING MY EYES OUT. Not only did i talk about/report the harassment, I also began talking about all my childhood shit. I don't have depression or anxiety or anything, but PHEW I didn't know i had so much emotional baggage from the past that I was holding on to.
Each session, I would cry the whole way through. I found out we shared the same faith, which was nice because I could never find any church in my area that has counseling. I can talk about my struggles and solutions with my counselor from a biblical perspective, rather than a secular one whiCH IS AMAZING.
All in all, counseling for me has been a BLESSING and i recommend it to everyone. Don't be afraid, it will be okay and it will be so worth it.


Please give a us a room tour your room looks so pretty!!!


I've wanted to go to therapy for probably at least 4 years but I just can't seem to make myself take any steps to get there. I just feel like I have such a hard time having normal conversations with people I know sometimes that it seems totally impossible to talk to a stranger about stuff that is way more intense and intimate. I want to be able to have those conversations and get help in understanding and bettering myself, but it seems pointless to try when I don't think I could ever get there.


Dodie my Godess, thank you for this. And also where did you get this dress? ❤


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that was very clever dodieodieodieoh

*claps hands in a circle*
"round of applause"
that was very clever dodieodieodieoh


i went to my GP and she referred me to some place called CAMHS, to which i waited 6 months to a year for something to happen and when it did CAMHS diagnosed me with autism and discharged me when i went there to get therapy for the fact that i had already been diagnosed with 3 different types of anxiety and they also told my mum she was a shit parent so yeah, i wont be doing that again but im too broke to go private with the NHS


Dodie you look so pretty in this video ❤💗


i went to therapy for about two months last year but it wasn't helping, i always came back home and cried after the therapy session but i  dont know how to feel better

find a better therapist, someone you trust and who knows what theyre doing.


I'm so glad that you decided to do vedif cos this was uploaded on yum birthday and I could Nineveh be happier. - also quality content everyday -


im watching this from inside a big tree infront of my house and my horse came and watched as my dogs tried to climb up too and my mom opened the front door and screamed and they jumped out and ran away and the horse ran away to her stable idk man it was funny and cute i didnt have anywhere to run tho i was just like oh nO


I am so glad that my therapy gets paid by my insurance! I am from Germany though


my mum is insanely pro counselling. I had seen 11 counsellors and 2 psychiatrists (at least 1 court ordered because I got a restraining order against a family member at 13) between 12 and 15 and yet, nothing. I'm 18 now and I think that I can safely conclude that counselling is not for me. if it is for you though thats awesome. If you find it hard to open up psychiatrists can be better cos they push you more but personally I hated it


for a long time I hated counseling because (1) it was being forced on me during a time where I strongly believed nothing would get better and my therapist didn't click with me (2) I was so afraid to let go of my mental illness. because of the fact that I can barely remember not feeling horrible,  I felt like if it went away I wouldn't be me anymore. during the past year I found a therapist I really like and was put on a medication that works for me and I don't feel like my personality has changed, just that there has been a weight lifted off of me


YOUR SHIRT! THE DOTS! MY LIFE! IT SLAYS ME!!!! YASSSS!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾


Oh God. this video is so important. I'm 18. I'm in a VERY bad place. I'm so afraid to admit to myself or anyone else that I need and want help. I think everyone will think I'm crazy.


I've been in therapy since May of 8th grade, and it is now July leading into 11th grade. Still in therapy. Progressively getting sadder though.


4:47 to 5:04 applies a lot to me and i'm struggling a lot with it at the moment :((


so ppl down here in the comments with all their bad experiences with therapists:<br>heres the deal, finding a good therapist and/or psychologist is hard because you cant just say "im gonna go to a therapist and get some medicine" like you would a regular doctor  because that wont help you.  If you're feeling sad, and you dont know what's wrong, that's fine too, you can start out with someone to try to figure out what's wrong and once you know what's wrong you can find someone who is specially trained to help you with that problem.  also, there are loads of psychologists here in the US that take health insurance, my father being one of them.  for those of you who are saying you can't afford one, try getting insurance and figuring out which doctors can be covered by your health insurance plan.  furthermore, please try to think of your brain as an actual health problem where there are doctors out there that can help you learn to heal your own brain.  that's what a good therapist will do and a psychologist has a degree for it.  anyways, dont ignore the way your brain is feeling you'll feel worse in the long run and it'll be harder to heal the longer you wait.

so ppl down here in the comments with all their bad experiences with therapists:
heres the deal, finding a good therapist and/or psychologist is hard because you cant just say "im gonna go to a therapist and get some medicine" like you would a regular doctor  because that wont help you.  If you're feeling sad, and you dont know what's wrong, that's fine too, you can start out with someone to try to figure out what's wrong and once you know what's wrong you can find someone who is specially trained to help you with that problem.  also, there are loads of psychologists here in the US that take health insurance, my father being one of them.  for those of you who are saying you can't afford one, try getting insurance and figuring out which doctors can be covered by your health insurance plan.  furthermore, please try to think of your brain as an actual health problem where there are doctors out there that can help you learn to heal your own brain.  that's what a good therapist will do and a psychologist has a degree for it.  anyways, dont ignore the way your brain is feeling you'll feel worse in the long run and it'll be harder to heal the longer you wait.


dodie i love your dress and your hair and your makeup you look so cute just wow


What worries me the most is that I feel like I can't tell my school counsellor everything and I don't know how else to offload. I feel heavy almost everyday. My mum, bless her, always says that she knows that something's up and she'll ask me why I'm looking blue and the only answer I'll have is that I don't know and I just need time. It feels like something's been taken away from me and I'm disappointing everyone around me and it's all my fault. She asks me why I barely eat at lunch in school but I snack on piles of biscuits late at night and like always, the answer is i don't know. It's so hard to describe but it just feels like everything has no purpose and I can't find any pleasure in hobbies which worries me. And then I tell myself it's just puberty fucking with me. It's just hormones. But it feels like so much more and it feels so confusing and it feels like weight in my shoes, like an invisible person whispering all the things I'm doing wrong to me. Whenever I try explain this to friends, I can't. I break down and I just make it sound less hard and resorting to 'its fine' when every time I say it it's really not and everything jut feels so yuck and ugh... ;..(


In Australia at least, there are a few free counselling places, such as KYDS or Headspace which can be incredibly effective, and they are totally free ^_^


I hated counselling. I felt awful everytime and never wanted to go back.<br>After several sessions, I realised it saved my life. Any mental health problems, be it anxiety, depression or alcoholism, talking helps but it takes longer than you would like.

I hated counselling. I felt awful everytime and never wanted to go back.
After several sessions, I realised it saved my life. Any mental health problems, be it anxiety, depression or alcoholism, talking helps but it takes longer than you would like.


I'm a type of person that everybody knows I have anxiety and stress but I try to make them feel like I'm ok and I'm fine. I recently this week went to a doctor and she said my muscles were really tense bc I was stressed and scared and that I lose my appetite also bc of that. I need a new counselor bc the school one is always busy.


The first counselor I went to told me I was just "sad because I'm growing up into a different person" and I would probably just "not be a happy adult" ????


Excellent stuff; what you guys are doing to normalise therapy and mental illness is amazing.<br>I'm in the place of 'I don't need therapy right now, I'm working out stuff myself and am totes good', but I also recognise that it doesn't always work that well, and that when I do get worse I have a tendency to just go more within myself. But I can see myself going to therapy in the future, so it's something; unfortunately I'll probably need a big kick by something bad happening to do it.

Excellent stuff; what you guys are doing to normalise therapy and mental illness is amazing.
I'm in the place of 'I don't need therapy right now, I'm working out stuff myself and am totes good', but I also recognise that it doesn't always work that well, and that when I do get worse I have a tendency to just go more within myself. But I can see myself going to therapy in the future, so it's something; unfortunately I'll probably need a big kick by something bad happening to do it.


I think that this video could help a lot of people to understand therapy. Many people feel the same, but dont know that they are not alone and are scared of starting therapy, because they don't even know what therapy actually is.<br>Thats why I'd like to do german subtitles for this video. I'd be very happy if you could enable that others can make subtitles.

I think that this video could help a lot of people to understand therapy. Many people feel the same, but dont know that they are not alone and are scared of starting therapy, because they don't even know what therapy actually is.
Thats why I'd like to do german subtitles for this video. I'd be very happy if you could enable that others can make subtitles.


I've been trying to work myself up to going to therapy and i'm just afraid that I'll walk in to the first session and have nothing to say. And the the counselor will just tell me to go home, there's nothing wrong, you're making it up for attention, etc. I know it's ridiculous but that's my brain :/


coincidentally I just set up my very first counciling session the other day. not gonna lie, I'm scared to go. I know I need it and all, but it still scares me. my mentality is kind of like dodie, like therapy wouldn't help me. not really that I'm a lost cause, just that what's wrong with me isn't something that can be fixed that way. but I've been told I really could use it. i feel like im in the way of me and therefore counciling wouldnt help, i just need to be better. in a weird way, I also almost don't WANT to get better. like I've lived this long like this, it feels oddly safer this way. I know it might seem strange to a lot of people, but hopefully people understand. So since it's my first session, any advice? like do I NEED TO know what to talk about or how to talk about things?,I'm scared I'm gonna go in and look stupid cuz I won't know what to say?


This is such a frickin awesome video xxxx


it might just be me but I had counseling from about 12-15 years of age on and off and I never really felt like it help, maybe it was because teachers in my school made me have counseling or that I had talked about it to so many other people that it didn't seem important and I thought that no one cared but for now I'm fine, I hope x


I find it so awkward, maybe that's because I'm forced into it, but I never know what they want me to say


I've been trying to re-learn psychokinetics, and I've realized that you have to be so in touch with your inner, and outer self, heart, mind and personal energy, and your own thoughts to achieve results. And part of psychokinetics is meditation which promotes brain repair and inner peace. Therapeutic? This is why I stopped going to therapy, because I know I'd be on meds, and I won't take anything unless it is Cannabis. or something equally natural and powerful. Could you imagine a world if people practiced psychokinetics? How non-violent it could become? But, no lets put people on meds that literally damage your chakras and third eye. Which is also why I stopped going to therapy, because a very large portion of the earth's population has been con-ed into believing chemicals are good and psychokinetics aren't real.  But I guess that's just me.


Hi Dodie, here is an idea (pretty much dumb but anyway.. ) make a cup of tea and slurp one time after answering a question we send you. Drink the hole thing in the video. Thats it. Love you.


counselling and therapy are different, especially comparing UK and US so just be aware of that when looking into it 😊

sueycoo counseling tends to be more focused on immediate issues and tackling things the client is proactive in overcoming. usually used talking therapies. Therapy also does all the that but can involve more in depth therapy such as CBT to tackle underlying causes of a disorder the client may have. therapy tends to be more drawn out. but there are overlaps. and as they said on the video, many therapists/councillors are different and use different methods so you just need to find what's right for you! I believe, in the UK, if you go through the GP you tend to get placed with therapists. but I'm not 100% on all of this. I'm just citing what I learned during my degree, could be misguided :)


I've had 5 therapists and finially found one i like but our last session was last week and im so so scared to be alone again... i feel like she was the only one who actually understood (or at least pretended to) and i just dont wanna go back to where i was alone 🌼


my school counselor legitimately called me crazy :( haha but I'm sure there are better ones out there.


My issue is I do a lot of self-evaluation, I come to a lot of conclusions on my own, so because of that I convince myself that a therapist wouldn't help? it's also an issue bc on the NHS as it's free you can't really be picky about who you get as a therapist. when I was 14 I had a therapist to help me cope with depression/PTSD/anger issues and she was way too into being my friend. like she was kinda old enough to be my mum or even nan, somewhere between, so she had those motherly instincts i guess and all she'd ever give me was "coping mechanisms". But I didn't need that, I needed someone to tell me what was irrational and what wasn't. "coping mechanisms" weren't going to stop me getting into screaming fights with my dad or with abusive teachers, she kind of treated me like a child rather than a teenager. since then I've been really hesitant to go back even though really terrible things have happened and I've had serious mental breakdowns. I'm sure other therapists are better but one of my biggest issues is that the abusive stuff i've been through has either triggered some pride/self-esteem thing where I can't unload my actual feelings onto people because I'm afraid they'll turn around and say I went too far or shared too much, basically just throw it back in my face. I'm nearly 19 and only just realising that pushing stuff down in your head doesn't work lol, just because things feel better after a while it doesn't mean no damage has been done


"i thought i was so broken that talking wouldn't help" .....i can relate to that so much i wanna cry lol


i want to show this video to my parents (although my mum doesn't understand english oops) but i don't think they understand what mental illnesses are. they'd probably think it's something wrong with me that's only affected by how unappreciative i am of having a good life.

i'm not diagnosed with anything, but i've been experiencing symptoms of anxiety and depression for quite some time and it's scary. i don't know how to tell anyone without seeming like i'm just doing it for sympathy or i'm just overexaggerating.
my parents would probably think that i'm just spouting nonsense because "i look too relaxed to be stressed and have problems" and i get many things that i want.

i don't know. i barely even have the courage to talk to my parents anymore because i'm so afraid of making mistakes.


it's honestly so nice to hear people talk about therapy because it's always such a taboo thing to talk about, at least for me. it's being normalised and it's so good to not feel ashamed about it. I'm going to therapy for a little bit over a year now and I try to be as open as I can about it because I know how hard it is to actually communicate with other people about it, but nevertheless it's still very awkward and uncomfortable. the people I know don't really know how to react and just don't talk about it. they make it awkward by pushing it away. <br>I needed this today, I really did. I needed to know that it is in fact okay to not feel well, to seek help and to actually talk about it. thank youuu

it's honestly so nice to hear people talk about therapy because it's always such a taboo thing to talk about, at least for me. it's being normalised and it's so good to not feel ashamed about it. I'm going to therapy for a little bit over a year now and I try to be as open as I can about it because I know how hard it is to actually communicate with other people about it, but nevertheless it's still very awkward and uncomfortable. the people I know don't really know how to react and just don't talk about it. they make it awkward by pushing it away.
I needed this today, I really did. I needed to know that it is in fact okay to not feel well, to seek help and to actually talk about it. thank youuu


I had a piece of paper with a circle divided into different sections and the sections would say things like school, family, friends, health and hobbies and every week or so give a rating out of ten for how things are for you at that moment and if it's a number below 5/6 then think about why the number is so low and how you can improve it


I'd just like to say that for anyone that is embarrassed about getting counseling:
I get little depressive episodes occasionally, and that's why I have a therapist.
I'm under 18.
Getting a therapist isn't shameful or anything.
It can help more than you think.


my therapist did become such a friend to me. she helped my agoraphobia by going shopping with me and taking buses with me and she'd always tell me about her life if i asked. it was so nice, i miss her


I count myself lucky as I get free neuropsychology appointments from the NHS for my ptsd, but I genuinely feel so bad for those who have to fork out hundreds simply so they can get better😫


your little rounds of applause are so cute


For me, it's weird watching videos in which people are encouraged to look for help by means of counseling, because I have needed counseling since the age of four. Back then I was diagnosed with autism, so I was elligible for therapy and I still require therapy. My parents were not against therapy, because for me it is necessary. And for me, it is not a temporary case. I have to attend therapy all of my life.


I had a terrible experience with counseling and I've been too traumatized to go back lol. She says she had a direct link to God and that if I really really wanted to kill my self then she could make it happen. I walked out.


Thank you so much for talking about this!! People mostly associate only bad things with counseling, even though it's actually about improvement. It's just - as they said - learning more about yourself, and that's always something good. I feel like a lot of people fear to go to therapy, because they don't want to get judged. YouTubers or generally the media don't talk about it that much, at least the way like Dodie and Tessa did. And it's just good to hear people talk about their own experiences, and be open about it. So, again THANKS!! 💞


I’m going to begin going to therapy for ‘underage’ depression and anxiety


okay just a quick Thing fr anyone who may need it: 7 cups of tea is a really great website!! idk if it counts as therapy or counselling but basically you get to talk to someone about ur problems and you get people who either just listen to you or give you solutions depending on what ur actually lookin for!! <3


I have had psychological therapy a few times in my life, it's not bad, but I feel like my personal problems are mostly solved naturally on their own. I know when I talk about how I feel out loud I can feel this unpleasant tension in face and like that my vulnerabilities will spontaneously leak to where it goes out of hand if I continue talking. I'm totally fine with being emotional, it's easy to be both masculine and emotional at the same time, it's not masculine however when you start acting like you're not even a man. Nevertheless, I prefer cutting onions in the privacy of my room where nobody can know too much about me, and neither too little. I have supportive friends also, but still choose not to wear too much on my sleeve.


I spilled my dead aunt all over my counselors shoes, the second time I met with her... She has yet to leave me so if that tells you anything, it should be... Counselors literally give no fucks about what the baggage is, they are just there to help you with it.


Round of applause.<br>HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA <3


So I've been in counselling for almost two years ,I started when I was almost 11 and now I'm almost 13.when I was around 10 I started to get migraines daily.That obviously wasn't healthy but I just thought eventually would go away.They didn't.They got worse I realized this during that summer I got REALLY bad migraine.I got really sick and I couldn't eat anything because I would throw up,so I couldn't take any medicine.I threw up spit because nothing was in my stomach.I went to the hospital to get it checked out and i found it was because I was so stressed.I know a 10 year old shouldn't be stressed  but I'm Emma that's just the way I am so I got medicine to "help" my stress.Yes it did help for a little while,until I didn't have it,and all I wanted was that medicine because I was in severe pain constantly.I was stressed because of the world in general, as a 10 year old wtf. but it didn't help that I have extreme anxiety I didn't know about at the time.But obe day in sixth grade I got a really bad migraine so I went to my school health center.They asked me if I knew why I got migrsines I told the nurse and she recommended me with for therapy,at the time I thought it was so stuid, but more so I as scared I hated being reminded of the fact that I have issues.I never really took too much care of my issues and I only tried to help others.So I went hme that day and just cied.I never let anyone see me cry ever,at that time I don't really care anymore.About a week after that I thought that the nurse forgot about me and I was so hopeful she did , but NOPE they called me to go to the health center and I was so confused.I got there and they told me I had therapy and I just internally broke down.And for a few months I only went like once a month I would say.Ths was because my therapist at the time didn't really know what was going threw my head at the time.I really just wouldn't tell her much.BUT THEN, she got me on just a really bad day and made me go at least once a week for a about 4 months and then things got better and I didn't go after that until this year.I kind of had a really bad break down in class and my teacher told the school councler I looked really sad and depressed.Since then I've been going once a week.I really couldn't thank that teacher enough because there's ALOT going on in my life right now I really cant take so just getting it all out really really helps me.I also found out depression runs in my family recently so that might have something to do with it,and anxiety soooo yeah.If anyon actually raeds just know that it is ok to have issues everyone does and that going to therapy is a really good way to just let go and be yourself with out feeling bad or stressed about it.


I'm in the US -- I have two therapists (one is DBT-influenced and the other is for relationships/social skills). The first was recommended to me my the psychologist who did testing/evaluation for me, and the other I found on PsychologyToday.com's Find A Therapist. Both of them were on that site, and I like to be able to see that they have been checked out and their specialties on there.

Also, as was mentioned, university health centers will often have mental health services, but mine only handled short-term (crisis) stuff, so they got me started and referred me out to community mental health, which offers a sliding pay scale (which I needed back when I was a student without a steady job yet).


I've been getting sick really really easily lately and everyone else has been pointing out that it's probably stress. After a meltdown about how sick and tired I was of being sick, my mum told me to go talk to our school chaplain (who is the guidance counsellor and who isn't pushy at all when it comes to religion) and I've finally decided to do it. I think the fact that it's making me anxious is a sign that I need to go... not making it any easier, but if it helps me stop being sick then it doesn't hurt to try!


im kind of young, but im really sure that i might have depression and anxiety, and i really want to go to therapy, but im really really nervous about that because im very shy around people that i dont know and adults. i would hire one of my friends to be my therapist, but there are things that i need to talk about that i wouldn't even want my parents or really anybody to know about so there's my dilemma and i have no clue how to fix that.


first of all im danish and my english is rusty. second. thank you for talking about mental illness etc. ☺the tabu is causing the world harm.
its "funny" how it makes a huge difference if you instead of a mental illness say a physical illness. 😕
parents would not (in most cases) feel bad for not being able to help a child with forexample a broken leg. why is it different with mental illness?😕 you are supposed to fix yourself (according to some people. "pull your self out of it. man up etc) no one expects you to fix a broken leg. weird.😕
i think that talking to a therapist is good. i think it should be free. so many problems would  n't become huge. ☺


I think everyone should see a therapist because it's good to talk about things to people who don't know you emotionally and can give you the answer you need not the answer you want.


I went to my school counsellor for self-harm and anxiety, but I'm really quiet and she left so much space for me to talk, but I literally hate talking especially to people I barely know, I don't know what to do now


My mum is literally a trained counsellor and I still don't think I'll have the guts to talk about stuff til I've left home - weird shit eh?


i know i have so many mental and emotional issues but its so hard for me to do counselling because i never know what to say about my illness because idk I've kind of just been living like this so i don't really know how to articulate how I'm feeling or what my symptoms are????


the first and only therapist (family therapist) i went to told us that our problems weren't valid and that my sister and i needed to "be disciplined" and that would fix everything. never again. (though now we've worked out our problems ourselves, i am now extremely wary of therapy.)


I've never seen a video with Tessa before, but oh wow, she's lovely!


I eventually told my therapist that she wasn't helping me and making me feel worse, it took me while because I didn't want to hurt her feelings and I didn't know what would happen after, but now I've been put on this waiting list for group therapy, but I've been waiting for a while and it sucks because I could really use the support right now, but it's really helped me understand how useful therapy can be and how important it is to find the right person for you.


BY THE TIME I HAVE MY FIRST THERAPY SESSION  ON THE NHS I
WOULD HAVE STARTED THE PROCESS OF TRYING TO GET ONE 6 MONTHS AGO!!

I've had private CBT and other private therapy in the past for anxiety/OCD. But after also developing depression in the summer and having a breakdown and ditching my friends at the airport where we were meant to be going to Barcelona for a girls holiday, we went back to the doctors and they put me on sertraline.

I made my first call to IAPT on the 23rd of September. My doctor changed my medication to citalopram as I was feeling worse. On the 3rd of October I had an hour long assessment on the phone and they said they'd get back to me but didn't. (Baring in mind I'd told them I self-harm, often feel suicidal and go to bed at about 4 am, along with a string of other shit).
We had to keep calling back iapt repeatedly until they set an appointment date for a different assent, the 7th of November. After that the person who conducted the assessment said I needed secondary phschotherapy and that from now the process would be speedy.
Ha. Ha. Ha.

On the 29th of November I got a phone call telling me there was an appointment available. FOR THE 29TH OF FUCKING MARCH. A FOUR month WAIT added on to the initial two months already spent trying to get therapy on the NHS.

In the meantime I'm seeing a psychotherapist until then because I can't fucking deal with life 🙄🙄


Could you talk more about depersonalisation? The country I live in doesn't really have good therapists and they're very limited to specific set of illnesses and depersonalisation is a very rare thing here so it would be helpful to me if you could share more ways to deal with it???


I think my sister needs therapy but I know my parents will never take her to see a doctor. I've tried talking to them and even though they say it's a good idea they never do anything.<br>A few years ago I needed it really badly myself but I had to find a way to "fix" my problems on my own, I don't want that to happen to her too. What can I do?

I think my sister needs therapy but I know my parents will never take her to see a doctor. I've tried talking to them and even though they say it's a good idea they never do anything.
A few years ago I needed it really badly myself but I had to find a way to "fix" my problems on my own, I don't want that to happen to her too. What can I do?


tessa is that a hickey on your neck lol

but seriously thank you for talking about this. i have had therapy on and off for years, went through like 5 or 6 counsellors before i found one that was actually amazing and he changed my life. but there's still such a stigma around even saying that you're having therapy and it needs to stop.


My dad pressured me to stop therapy, because he thought I was 'better', so I stopped. I'm getting bad again, but don't know how to tell him I need to go back.


Hey kids in the UK that want counselling there's this thing called CAMHS (child and adolescent mental health service) 😊


Two masculine women talk about something I have to do for my major depressive disorder. This just made me want to die sooner


Tessa, I go to Celebrate Recovery and I love it! That's so cool


I love all the 'ved' series' soo much <3


Therapy is so hard for me because I'm absolutely crap at talking to people. It's funny because the reason I started going is because I get anxious talking to people. There has been some progress but it's still weird being honest with another person. It hasn't been too long though, so I'm expecting it to just get better with time


I've done therapy once and it was after I had gone to a mental institution...
I don't really wanna try it again but after this video, I wanna try it again??? But im scared..also when I had therapy, she told me about groups and stuff going on and recommending it to me, but Im always so scared.
So scared of judgement cause my "mental illness" comes from literally nothing so I have no actual reason to be sad. I just became suicidal and depressed for no actual GOOD REAL reason so Im just terrified I'll be made fun of for having a "mental illness" that I shouldn't have.

I wanna try medication just so I won't feel judged for taking it...or maybe I will..I won't
Sorry this is long...whoops


I went to counselling/therapist  from the NHS to get rid of my dog phobia but at the same time I started getting bullied verbally by people in my school and became really shy. She was so amazing that she automatically saw what was going on and she cured my dog phobia and told my mum about my problems at school. Since I had gotten rid of my dog phobia I couldn't see her anymore but we email constantly and it is so brilliant to have a person that you can just explode onto. I am so much happier since I got rid of my dog phobia and moved into a new school.


if only therapy was more available in the UK... I had to wait 16 months to get into camhs as we couldn't afford private. and where I'm from the cut off age is 17. in somewhere like London with postcode lottery it is alot easier to get therapy. butttttt there are alot of online website that are great! I used a website called kooth durring the time I was on the waiting list which is like online councilling. so yeah there are always other sources!!! if only mental health was taken more seriously in the UK.. :')


my mom took me out of therapy and I'm too scared to ask her to go back in. I cry every night and I have to fake being happy at school and with friends. I constantly feel spaced out and nervous of people  new people. old people. I can't walk in the halls without feeling extremely nervous and my friends don't understand and try to get me to try new things and volunteer in class and such but they can't understand that it makes my like so much worse. I wish they could be understanding. advise?


Dodie reminds me so much of a girl I used to like in highschool


My mom really hates when I talk about needing counselling. She feels like she's failed, when really, she is the best parent in the whole world. She's supportive and smart and logical and gentle, and we tell each other every thing. But sometimes, I need to talk to someone that's unbiased and trained to deal with mental illness. :/


Not topic related, but can we talk about how adorable 2:26 was


during therapy my therapist let me make stuff out of clay so being the kid i am i made broccoli out of clay (i fuckin love broccoli actually like BROccoli it's so good) and a thicc bird


Medication for children is very difficult to get in Ireland due to long waiting lists and if you're in a smaller county you've to go to Dublin to see a consultant to get medication


I go to my very first therapy session tomorrow. I am so incredibly nervous and worried about it and I really dont want to go. I don't know what to do


I wish seeing a psychiatrist was financially covered by the government/insurance in Ireland, I've been to three counselors that weren't qualified psychiatrists, and they just haven't worked out because I want to see someone who can give me clarity from a medical/biological standpoint.


I had counselling at school and hated it.  I had CBT a few years ago and it was okay.  I think I need therapy now.


I need a GIF of Tessa as her counselor going  mm  at 6:07

I need a GIF of Tessa as her counselor going  *mm*  at 6:07


My parents didnt want me to go to councilling. I asked and asked. Now im just a mess, covering myself in my own skin.


i want to go to a counselor but the one at my school is a freaking joke and im terrified to tell my parents how i feel about life and my mental stuff. i dont want htem to think im faking or dont actually need it


Does anyone have any tips for me telling my parents I need counselling? <br>They'd be completely open to anything that would help me I just can't open up. I physically can not say what's on my mind. I start to feel sick and wimp out before I can say anything. Any tips?

Does anyone have any tips for me telling my parents I need counselling?
They'd be completely open to anything that would help me I just can't open up. I physically can not say what's on my mind. I start to feel sick and wimp out before I can say anything. Any tips?


I think I could benefit from therapy, but I haven't been able to find a good one. First one I saw was always just "what do you want to talk about?" and offered little to no feedback on anything, it was about as helpful as talking to a wall. The next one I saw always seemed to come to conclusions that seemed very wrong, like whatever I said she always seemed to be on a slightly different page. Also She either kept forgetting things I told her or had an uncomfortably passive way of suggesting things. Like I haven't talked to one of my sisters in years and I had to keep reminding her of this because she kept asking me how she's doing. Like if you think I should talk to her lets discuss that, but for god's sake don't just keep asking me the same thing and expecting my answer to suddenly change.


in my experience group therapy is NOT free. the ones my therapist suggested were always as expensive as the regular therapy, except that insurance wouldn't cover it


The NHS can be difficult to get through if you aren't a really bad case - I was and it was easy but my friends who weren't had a really tough time. Try other stuff before you go to a GP, because they often will just tell you to go to a community counsellor or something like that :-)


Both your hairs? Hairs? Is that the right plural of hair? Hairstyles?

WHAT I'M SAYING IS YOU'RE BOTH ADORABLE AF AND YOU'RE MY  GOALS.


i went to a therapist who was really just bad and she told me how to live ly life and i was dealing with anxiety and she literally, and I quote, said "well, just stop worrying!"
like
oh my lord are you kidding me how did you even become a pROFESSIONAL and luckily I'm with a different woman now so yay


The therapist I went to told my mother that I might just be going through a rebellious phase :/


I lovvve your dress in this vid and also yay for vedif! I'm so excited lol 👍


I've started therepy, and every time I leave the office I feel more and more anxious. Any ideas?

Kat Hawley Hi Kat, I wonder how it's going for you now, I hope better. My therapist explained this to me as getting nearer to the things I don't want to face. Therapy digs things up, you leave your session more aware that those things exist and that you're coming nearer and nearer to meeting them. Often avoiding the feelings created by whatever you've buried is why you've ended up needing therapy in the first place, so of course it's anxiety provoking. Have you told your counsellor that you feel this way at the end of your sessions? Maybe she needs to approach things differently, set aside grounding time for the ens of the appointment,reassure you that you're not going to break into a million pieces etc. I feel for you hugely, it's so hard but I honestly believe you'll get there. Take care, friend x

maybe there's something about the therapist that you dont like or theyre just a bad therapist?  if you're feeling uncomfortable i highly suggest you dont stay with them.


I went to a therapist today and she literally only said like 3 things and left the rest of the hour silent.  I wanted to fall asleep


Please clarify this at some point in the future: YOU DO NOT NEED A REASON TO BE DEPRESSED. Depression is a brain problem, not a logical result of shitty life circumstances. While trauma and adverse life events can definitely make depression worse or spawn a bout/episode, there is no "reason" for anyone to be depressed.

ALSO, I highly recommend Mental Illness Happy Hour (it's a podcast) if you want to hear some interviews and lots of personal sharing about a variety of mental illnesses...so long as you can tolerate some cursing. The 2+ hour episodes have made me feel a lot less alone and more motivated to get back into mental health treatment.


What do I say  when I tell my mum that I want to see a doctor about what I have? Because I don't know it is


Saw my school counsellor and he downplayed my depression because I smiled around him??? I just stopped going, he managed to make me feel like I was faking everything


I do art therapy, where they basically give me paper and pencils and paints and pastels and ART STUFF and it works really well. They let me draw what I want, and I get to keep it  if I like it; if I don't they keep it. It really helps, but it's not considered actual therapy even though it is! When I say I do art therapy, people tell me it isn't therapy and that I don't have problems. Other therapy just doesn't work for me; I can sit and talk my feeling out without something to do, else I scratch my arms to pieces or bend my fingers back.


Even though my mental health and anxiety isn't as bad as it used to be I really want to go to therapy just because of how much good I've heard it does but I'm terrified to ask my parents for it because last time I tried to get therapy and told them about my anxiety they just denied I even have it. I think it's because I don't have MAJOR anxiety but at the time it was big enough to be affecting me a lot even if it isn't as bad as other people's :/ and I'm homeschooled so school counseling isn't an option rn although I will be going to school next year so maybe?


This is v weird. Tessa reminds me sooo much of my guidance counselor


I just love tessa's hair. I just had to say that. OK BYE


CAMHS is great and I go there for CBT for PTSD and therapy for depression and anxiety so yeah but there is currently like an 18 month waiting list in all areas


EXCUSE ME i felt ATTACKED when you mentioned 'being attracted to the same emotionally unavailable man over and over' bc that is so me wtf. also same reason for not going to therapy for a while. literally same. wat


Also, for US people, some councilors/therapists will charge you based on something called a sliding scale that is based on your income, so you pay much cheaper rates, if your lower income but don't qualify for state funded insurance (like AHCCCS, here in AZ) or Obama care etc


my mum a therapist which is great and people think its easy for me to talk to her and sometimes it is but not normally because shes my mum obviously :) everyone should use her 😂💛


I'm saying this to ask for help
I want to start going to therapy but I'm to scared as i  don't trust anyone with my feelings but me. I  also don't know if how i'm feeling can be classed as an issue and don't want to be a burden to anyone. can anyone give me any advice on what to do?

*I'm saying this to ask for help*
I want to start going to therapy but I'm to scared as i  don't trust anyone with my feelings but me. I  also don't know if how i'm feeling can be classed as an issue and don't want to be a burden to anyone. can anyone give me any advice on what to do?


I'm like Tessa - I don't think I'm "bad enough" for therapy. Also despite being plenty old enough to do what I want I know my Mum doesn't like it because of experiences with her Mum so I'd feel like I couldn't tell her but I also can't hide things from her. Also I have SO many out loud conversations with myself (I live alone) I kinda feel like sometimes I'm my own therapist but also I deal with anxiety by ignoring and avoiding all situations that might raise it so I'm clearly not coping but also uuuuuuuugh scary commitment and new people and accepting I'm broken like everyone else but that's not a bad thing. I even have a work objective this year to learn to cope with anxiety better and I expect to achieve that without therapy!? Lol good luck future me


get someone who looks at you the way Tessa looks as Dodie


How do know if the counselor you go to is right for you?


I need therapy I shared all my stuff to my friend and he left me saying I was a negative person who made people feel worse about themselves...


I find it so frustrating to confront the institutionalized stigma against people with mental health issues. I just moved to a new country, and because I'm on an SSRI for my depression (which is in remission), they made it so much more difficult for me to convert my NY driver's license. The woman in the office told me I have mental problems and need a doctor's note saying I can drive-- I went back with a note and she said they needed to send it to their doctor in another city now to confirm that it was ok for my to drive. Then they stapled all the notes to my form that goes to my driving instructor, so that he can know about my medication too. The whole thing was really degrading, and I'm like-- this is the reason people don't get help when they need it! Because of this kind of treatment. 😡


My mum is a psychologist and  even tho she counsels others she still goes to a therapist every week. She says it's really helpful. She loves what she does and says she always has the most interesting patients. It's nice to have a mum who will just sit with you when you're upset to help you through things. :)


I tried talking about it to my parents several times, but every time they're just like "You literally have no reason to get therapy, you have a good life"... Last time I asked, they got really pissed off and were like "Yeah okay, we'll get you freaking therapy so you can pretend you're depressed and feel better, is that what you want?" So I just shut up until now. I guess I'll have to survive without it until I'm eighteen.


school counseling is iffy it always made me feel worse but my friend said it helped her come out so I guess it works for some people


Do you two just go to sort of open counselling sessions or psychologists trained in a particular type of therapy? Or both? :)


i do wish i went to therapy, but i've had a really bad experience with a therapist before, so... no thanks.
and i know you said that you need to find the therapist for you, but the one i met just scared me for life.
the first meeting i had i needed to have with my parents, apparently (cuz im not 18 yet), and when i had a chat with her (this horrible therapist that is) alone, i told her some VERY personal things. and, since she thought this so severe, she immediately wanted to tell my parents.
i said no, and that she wasn't allowed, but she still thought of it as her choice. i was so scared she was going to tell them, and broke down, and wanted to just run away and kill myself. that's how bad it was. but this idiot of a therapist didn't give a fuck!
she didn't tell them anything, but she basically said that something was up, and that got them worried, and they got scared, and blah blah blah... WHICH was EXACTLY what i didn't want to do!!!
the reason i reached out in the first place and wanted a therapist, was because i needed to talk to someone that wasn't directly related to me, and not as close to me.
i felt 2000 times worse after seeing her, and i blame her a lot for me feeling like shit right now. because i wouldn't dare reach out and ask for a therapist again. and i really do need to talk to someone, i really do.

fuck sorry for ranting, even started crying and shit, ffs
anyway, if anyone has any tips, or if they've shared this experience in any way, please help me out...?
Dodie, Tessa, any good advice...?


my friend recently started therapy bc she has depression bc of an unfortunate family situation and I've been thinking about starting going to some kind of therapy bc I get very depressed from time to time and I have other mental issues as well. my mum knows but I really don't want to go tbh bc I hate talking to new people etc (so much I would consider it a problem) asdfghjkl we'll see


We did it! <b>misses each other's hand</b> Noooo! X) Great info! Thanks! :) <3

We did it! *misses each other's hand* Noooo! X) Great info! Thanks! :) <3


I always find that i lie to my therapist, like I'm so used to lying to everyone in my life and I am really not a very trusting person, I don't know maybe it's just me


AHAHAHAHA DODIE YOUR DRESS IS SOOOO CUTE!!!! ALSO TESS'S HAIR IS SUPER PRETTY


Ugh you two together is the best. Also your tours together are the best. Basically what I'm saying is stop being the best because its distracting and I have woRK TO DO. <3


My family (really my parents) are extremely religious, and I know I need therapy, but they say I need to have a religious based counselor. I really don't want to have that type because I need unconnected and unaffected advice. I need therapy but that's the only kind they allow. I have GAD and don't know what to do.


I hate it when people are like "oh no everyone has that feeling, it's normal"<br> When for me the feeling can be COMPLETELY different and control my life and for other people it can be "Oh, I'm a bit stressed sometimes" and for me it's having nightmares and sleep paralysis for weeks

I hate it when people are like "oh no everyone has that feeling, it's normal"
 When for me the feeling can be COMPLETELY different and control my life and for other people it can be "Oh, I'm a bit stressed sometimes" and for me it's having nightmares and sleep paralysis for weeks


I was seeing a therapist aged 12-13 and decided to stop cause it just didn't work for me. I'm realising now that the problem was actually probably my therapist ; she was listening, but it made me feel uncomfortable that she never tried to engage into an actual conversation and try and find sort of solutions. She was there to listen, but not to chat about it.

This video is really making me want to go to therapy again. I constantly feel the need to talk about how I feel but still struggle to 100% open up with my friends and relatives. Thank you for that video!


videos with both tessa and dodie are the best videos


I tried going to therapy but one of my problems is that I struggle communicating with people so... r.i.p me I guess


therapy is so hard for me because i have anxiety which makes it difficult to talk... but i'm at therapy for help with my anxiety & depression... lmao okay


Tessa -What books has your therapist recommended?


I feel so hard to find a psychologist/counsellor. The only good one I had was in high school with my school counsellor. But after that I feel like I had terrible psychologists where they eventually tell me that  they can't help and I should see someone else because they don't deal with trauma/grief. My mum tells me that I can't see one because I won't get a job. I feel horrible. In Australia, I feel like a lot of psychologists are so expensive, even if I go through Medicare/GP.


my friends want me to go to therapy because I think I'm experiencing depersonalisation because of this what I think was depression and anxiety has kind of left like sometimes it comes back but not often and I feel like I've actually lost my mind I can't tell if scared or not I'm numb and my mind is never active anymore and now I'm just a whole ball of confused and lost (I'm 13) what should I do? like my mind atm is making it super hard to explain anything Like the way I explained it to my friends was I showed them dodies video which I think letting someone else know helped but I just don't know what to do now.


If anyone here is from Australia and wants/needs counselling: HEADSPACE. Oh my gosh, headspace. They are so good! They have physical clinics where you can get 10 sessions free per year and they also have online chat options. It's scary, it's daunting, but the folk at headspace are so lovely and welcoming x


I had therapy, but the issue was that my therapist told my parents. I understood she needed to, but I stressed me out and made my life worse because I want a space to be open and free. I wish she just told them how I was mentally rather than telling them everything I tell them cause I could've done that  M Y S E L F


right now im in a situation where my parents dont even know im depressed, i dont even know if im depressed. ive just been guessing that this chronic numbness was depression. i really dont know how to talk to my parents at all, its like i dont want too.


remember this seems very much focused on private therapy- on the nhs you dont really have the option to 'shop around', you have to take what you're given and it certainly doesn't last 6 months + . Just a comment for those that might not be able to afford what they're talking about - definitely dont let this put you off going though.


when you are an adult can't you get therapy for free on the NHS?Or is that just CAMHS before you are 18? ://<br>love you dodie xx

when you are an adult can't you get therapy for free on the NHS?Or is that just CAMHS before you are 18? ://
love you dodie xx


I've got insomnia and I've had it for like four years and I have no idea if it's physical or psychological or if therapy could help, and even then my mental health is nowhere near bad enough to get therapy on the NHS seeing as I don't even know if I need it idek


so fun story, im a mess rn like a total mess but i feel really uncomfortable going to my parents about needing help, and i can’t go to my school because fun story my mom runs the school counseling part, and i just don’t know what to do..


I'm an English speaker in a non-English speaking country - I feel like I need to go to therapy, but feel like doing it in my second language wouldn't be as useful so have avoided it.


the problem with our school councelor is that she is also a normal teacher. so if you're one of her students it's difficult.


Talking therapy doesn't really work for me because I'm very self-reflective and good at understanding my mind anyway so a therapist/ counsellor usually doesn't tell me anything I don't already know and I've already set up a therapy inside my own head if you get what I mean and I'm deciding to try to go down the medication route.


Im pretty sure i need counselling but the councillors in our school aren't very good and I went to see a doctor (Im from the UK) but because I went with my parents i felt pressured and basically lied about some things to make myself seem more 'normal'. I was also told that because im under 18 they can't sign me up for therapy unless the symptoms are a risk to my physical health and because i have my gcses now im not allowed to take medication as it could make me feel more sleepy etc. And i can't feel like that while taking my exams. Help?


This is completely irrelevant but I couldn't stop looking at dodie's hair watching this BECAUSE IT'S SO PRETTY


Ive seen two countries at school and a doctor who recommended more counciling to my mum when she came back in but she hasn't taken me


there's an itty bitty difference between counselling and therapy


Okay so I escaped (that's probably not the right word it's way too negative haha) therapy in August, and I think I want to go back, but at the same time I don't?
Firstly, I don't want to waste their time in case I'm making it all up and don't even realise (that's what my step-mother believes happened last time). If that's the case, I would rather they cared for someone who needs the help, rather than someone who is faking it.
Second, in a way, it feels like admitting defeat, and it makes me feel childish and weak. I know that it doesn't, and I wouldn't judge anyone for going to therapy, but for me to be going, I feel weak within myself. I also don't want to hurt/disappoint my parents.
Thirdly, I have no idea how to make the time. I'm in college, so I'm incredibly busy with studying, and I also have work experience to do, and I need to get a job as well. How do I balance that on top of counseling? Should I prioritise counseling, and possibly risk my grades?
UGHHHHHHHHHHHHH MENTAL ILLNESS SUCKS :)


Australian Thearpy post
so first there is kids helpline which is online or you can call and is free  (but the waiting line has always been a bit much for me) Its good for immediate help, feeling suicidal or wanting to hurt yourself  etc.
Then we have Headspace  (To preface I'm in NSW) Headspace is free if you have a medicare card which is super easy to get (no parents needed) They have a privacy agreement so unless you say then they wont tell your parents anything. You have a regular therapist and get about 10 sessions a year, the space is also super comfortable. Personally Ive been going there for about a year, went in relapsing suicidal thoughts/extreme anxiety and now its just a great place to vent.

Hope this helps, if you want to know anymore @misscupidturtle on twitter and Ill help you set it up (especially if you're not great on phones) xxx


wow I haven't seen tessa in years but somehow randomly thought about her this morning out of nowhere and then this video pops up 😨


I just don't how to tell my parents I want to go to therapy, I tried to talk to my mom but she said "you're okay, you don't need therapy", and even if I told them I'm pretty sure they can't afford it and my school counselor is so insensitive and ahhhhhhhh


I don't know why but when the my said depersonalisation at the same time it was so satisfying. Even though they couldn't even high five 2 seconds after


i've been feeling really crappy lately, and i highkey need to go to therapy. my mom understands that most people just need someone to talk to, but idk how to bring up that i need to go. also, i don't really feel very comfortable talking to my dad about this, idk why but... i don't know.


I've been in therapy for about 3 years. I'm literally 13


Dodie and Tessa, I'm insanely proud of you both. Not only are you smashing the stigma of mental illness/going to therapy, you're doing it TOGETHER. Just great you two!


so this is youtube and as such i doubt anyone will read this HOWEVER: therapy is something that helped me a LOT and i wanted to add some stuff about this too:

i found my therapist by literally googling "therapists in my area" and picking one whose picture looked like someone i could talk to.

it may well feel weird talking about stuff, at least at first. the first appointment i went to, i literally put everything out there right off the bat. this was because i wanted to force myself to get to a point where i could talk about it as quickly as possible because i wanted to stop needing therapy as quickly as possible.
spoiler alert: that should not be your end goal! there is no switch that will be flipped where suddenly you don't need therapy.

view your therapist as a doctor in that you are seeking help that you need in the same way you would seek help for a cold or etc but make sure that you are not expecting it to be like a doctor in that you will leave with a magic cure-all for whatever is going on. i went twice a week for four months, backed down to once a week when i felt ready, and then we tapered off until right now where i am no longer going. this was through months of going as well as the addition of meds. medication is not necessary for everyone but there is suuuuch a stigma around it that i just want to say: if you (and/or your therapist) decide that medication is a good idea for you, please never feel badly about it. i did at first but then someone reminded me that people with diabetes need insulin and etc, so why should i feel badly about needing something that my body doesn't make/doesn't make properly?

ALSO: the mindset of "well what i'm feeling isn't bad enough to need therapy" is one that i've seen a lot of people dealing with. but here's the thing: if you're dealing with anything that is making you consider therapy, chances are it's a good idea! even if you're not dealing with something therapy is a good idea! therapy is great! i def agree with what dodie and tessa said about how everyone needs therapy because it is very, very true.

okay, gonna step down off my soapbox now because i'm realizing how long this is lol, whoops!

so this is youtube and as such i doubt anyone will read this HOWEVER: therapy is something that helped me a LOT and i wanted to add some stuff about this too:

i found my therapist by literally googling "therapists in *my area*" and picking one whose picture looked like someone i could talk to.

it may well feel weird talking about stuff, at least at first. the first appointment i went to, i literally put everything out there right off the bat. this was because i wanted to force myself to get to a point where i could talk about it as quickly as possible because i wanted to stop needing therapy as quickly as possible.
spoiler alert: that should not be your end goal! there is no switch that will be flipped where suddenly you don't need therapy.

view your therapist as a doctor in that you are seeking help that you need in the same way you would seek help for a cold or etc but make sure that you are not expecting it to be like a doctor in that you will leave with a magic cure-all for whatever is going on. i went twice a week for four months, backed down to once a week when i felt ready, and then we tapered off until right now where i am no longer going. this was through months of going as well as the addition of meds. medication is not necessary for everyone but there is suuuuch a stigma around it that i just want to say: if you (and/or your therapist) decide that medication is a good idea for you, please never feel badly about it. i did at first but then someone reminded me that people with diabetes need insulin and etc, so why should i feel badly about needing something that my body doesn't make/doesn't make properly?

ALSO: the mindset of "well what i'm feeling isn't bad enough to need therapy" is one that i've seen a lot of people dealing with. but here's the thing: if you're dealing with anything that is making you consider therapy, chances are it's a good idea! even if you're not dealing with something therapy is a good idea! therapy is great! i def agree with what dodie and tessa said about how everyone needs therapy because it is very, very true.

okay, gonna step down off my soapbox now because i'm realizing how long this is lol, whoops!


Mind also runs pay what you can counselling services which has a shorter waiting list than the NHS services


People are different. Talking didn't help me at all, it made my anxiety worse... (I had a panic attack in the office for almost 3 HOURS)


Dodie, great video as always, just one thing; I NEEEED that dress, where can I get it?


My parents don't agree with/believe with mental disorders and stuff which is very hard for me as I'm constantly forced to hide all my emotions and feelings...i dont think they would agree with me if i said id like to see a counsellor.


I want to go to therapy  but I don't want to as well. I want to change my life, feel better and get better with my social anxiety. But I'm so scared to book that first appointment...


I did not know that Tessa was so damn wise!!


I went to counciling at my school because my teacher made me and I really didn't like it but she wants me to go again but it might be art therapy


also if you're under 18 you can use childline, you can call them or talk online which is great if you're shy about talking to people


My name is Tessa,, too..... Im in a  very similar situation... Thank you


I haven't ever been able to choose myself whether i need therapy or not, because my parents just whisk me away to different therapists, and dont let me have a say in the matter. Tbh, to not be able to have a say in who you see and when you see them is horrible, and i still cant get out of it. <br>If you or someone else is forcing you to go to therapy, it will not help. You need to make your own choices and only then will you know when it's best for you to see a therapist! :)

I haven't ever been able to choose myself whether i need therapy or not, because my parents just whisk me away to different therapists, and dont let me have a say in the matter. Tbh, to not be able to have a say in who you see and when you see them is horrible, and i still cant get out of it.
If you or someone else is forcing you to go to therapy, it will not help. You need to make your own choices and only then will you know when it's best for you to see a therapist! :)


should I talk to someone, around this time last year I went to someone who would help me choose what I wanted to do in college (university for GB ppls, I'm in Ireland) and we went slightly off topic and she full on told me I had social anxiety, or anxiety in general and I just went silent like.....what..... it worried my for weeks and could've effected my exams. should I go even for one session to see what's up. or am I better off believing nothings "wrong" and going about my life


I love both of you. please be my friends!!!!


i avoid talking to my parents about my mental health. its either hormones or me being a hypocondriact who 'has everything wrong with them to them'.
then i find out my brother is depressed. i wasnt aware and had to find his antidepressants myself. at first, i thought my parents were just uneducated. now i feel as if thye think im an attention seeker due to me being a minor hypocondriac which started as i had bad stomach aches when i was 5 which everyone brushed off as nothing. turns out my appendix errupted and i needed emergency surgery. i wish people would understand.

(sorry for all of my stupid anecdotes on your videos. i need to say it somewhere. why not say it somewhere where it is accepted by whom can relate)


i went to therapy but i didn't like talking face to face because i am very anxious

i quit it but today i got a letter from them asking if i want to have a 'check-up' session

i don't know if i wanna go because lately i've been saying (soo much) that i really want to rant to someone who doesn't know me.

but i'm so awkward and anxious about talking to someone face to face. but i really need to talk to someone who isn't my friend..


What if you parents are wanting you to do counseling, but you don't want to?? My friend is going through this situation and I just want to tell her it okay to be in counseling. She thinks that its weird to talk to a stranger


i want to do therapy but im too scared to ask because it might make my parents feel bad :(((


I go twice a week to the therapist at my school before PE for anxiety


there is an app called Pacifica where you can work on your mental illnesses addictions or any other issues, you can join chat rooms with people who have the same problems as you and are willing to listen


let me preface: I have never been depressed and this wasn't my parents ignoring my depression...they did to my sister, later but not me.

There was a counselor at my school for elementary school K-8 and in 7th grade i told my parents I would like to go talk with him. My mom said no and when i pressed her she laughed and said "because I just wanted to talk it wasn't cuz I needed a counselor. The counselor was for kids who were struggling and I was a fine, happy kid." In reality I was starting to have deep emotions against my father but couldn't pin point them. I was watching my family fall apart. My parents, years later, got a divorce, and I was definitely seeing them fight constantly. Do I think I was more damaged by not going? No. But do I think it may have helped, oh yeah! I think all parents should listen to their kids when it comes to talking to a counselor. Take it seriously. And if you just think its because they want to talk, schedule one appointment and see what the counselor has to say about it. Now I am 12 years removed form that little 12 year old girl, and I know for a fact I need to go to counseling and unpack A LOT. But now its a lot harder with money. I will definitely look into the counseling Tessa talked about.


OMG THE SAME THING HAPPENED TO ME WITH THE TIMELINE THING


Yay friends yay therapy feelings emotions words yay


Don't forget hotlines! No matter where you are they're free and confidential and completely on your terms


Would anyone like to tell me where Tessa and Dodie bought their tops? I've been wondering each time they've worn them and I really wanna know <3 (Bonus points if Tessa and Dodie actually respond to this themselves and you're correct!)


could you do a tutorial for your new way of doing eyeliner?


This is so helpful, ALSO WHERE IS YOUR DRESS FROM OMG I LOVE IT


I really am not the person to talk about my feelings with anyone especially to my parents... And really I just want to talk about what I feel like and my life but not wanting to sound selfish:/


About NHS counselling:<br>There are some places in the UK that are part of the NHS (so they're free)and accept self-refferals, you can look up places near you, they should be on the NHS website. They sometimes have different names as this is more comforting and less clinical sounding. Also, if you go via NHS, there may only be a certain amount of times they can see you, my counsellor offered 6 sessions regardless of how much you needed it, if you needed more you would have to go back on the waiting list. Another thing is the waiting list can be no longer than 18 weeks, it is policy for you to be seen within 18 weeks, sometimes it is sooner than that. stay happy x

About NHS counselling:
There are some places in the UK that are part of the NHS (so they're free)and accept self-refferals, you can look up places near you, they should be on the NHS website. They sometimes have different names as this is more comforting and less clinical sounding. Also, if you go via NHS, there may only be a certain amount of times they can see you, my counsellor offered 6 sessions regardless of how much you needed it, if you needed more you would have to go back on the waiting list. Another thing is the waiting list can be no longer than 18 weeks, it is policy for you to be seen within 18 weeks, sometimes it is sooner than that. stay happy x


Someone please tell me where Dodie got her top or dress or whatever it is from!! I am in love with it!


i got myself in a stupid situation because i considered going to a doctor because of my mental health and talked to a friend about it, who now wants me to go, when really i don't know yet and it makes my suicidal thoughts worse because i feel like if i go there, maybe they will limit  my "options" but she will continue to pressure me and might talk to an adult if i don't go (which i guess is the right thing for her to do and i know she only wants the best for me) but i feel so trapped! <br>plus, in order to go to a doctor i will have to ask my mum, who i am not that close with, and i don't want to put a mental weight on her, i'd rather just keep everything to myself or leave. suicide just seems like the best option and i don't want to be forced to live i guess? i have no idea about anything my life is kind of a mess

i got myself in a stupid situation because i considered going to a doctor because of my mental health and talked to a friend about it, who now wants me to go, when really i don't know yet and it makes my suicidal thoughts worse because i feel like if i go there, maybe they will limit  my "options" but she will continue to pressure me and might talk to an adult if i don't go (which i guess is the right thing for her to do and i know she only wants the best for me) but i feel so trapped!
plus, in order to go to a doctor i will have to ask my mum, who i am not that close with, and i don't want to put a mental weight on her, i'd rather just keep everything to myself or leave. suicide just seems like the best option and i don't want to be forced to live i guess? i have no idea about anything my life is kind of a mess


Dodie, PLEASE tell me where you got that shirt! It's so pretty!


I feel sick and disgusting, but I know I'll be wake up to a new Dodie video every morning :) also, Tessa is wearing La La Land Yellow! Hahaha

Sophie Minyard I hope that all goes well! 💛

And aside that- I've been suspicious about myself possibly having bipolar disorder for a while now, and I'm very lucky to have parents who help me and support me all through this :) I'm going to see a psychiatrist to get a diagnosis soon.


Hi, <br>How do I start the conversation with a school counsellor that I need help. She's already swamped with so many other kids

Hi,
How do I start the conversation with a school counsellor that I need help. She's already swamped with so many other kids


can anyone help, I'd love to try therapy but I have social anxiety so I'm not sure how that would work out :3


I like how in the uk there's multiple plausible ways to get affordable mental healthcare through the actual system and the us its like...hmm...well, it's $50 a pop bare minimum even with insurance...good luck...? Sigh.


see my parents noticed that i was having panic attacks daily and was like "yeah you need to see someone"


Wish there were a love button for this vid


dodie : the UK has the NHS so its all cool<br>tessa: the usa doesn't have that but school and church amirite

dodie : the UK has the NHS so its all cool
tessa: the usa doesn't have that but school and church amirite


You look like someone who likes to go to urban outfitters, has little pet cactuses, goes on tumblr and owns a kjallraven backpack XD I love it you're so cute and i love your songs btw


I want to talk to someone. Just... Talking, and being free to say anything without feeling rejected. I have just sO MUCH STUFF INSIDE I CAAAAAAN'T. Also, there is a counselor in my school, and she's... Nice(?) Idk, but I don't want to talk to her. She's also a teacher, and I'm kinda afraid that she might tell the other professors or my parents, and I certainly do not want that. I don't want to lose class either, thank you very much. And... I have no money, neither any idea where I can find a counselor or something. Help c:


Omg my parents have gotten super involved with Celebrate Recovery over the past year.. It's great!


The reason telling parents you want to try counselling bc you're friends are doing it (whether it's true or not) mihgt not work because personally my parents would always say that I'm just following trends and I don't have to be doing everything that my friends are doing. I'm right on the edge of seeking counselling soon because I just really feel like I need it, but I have yet to come up with a good way to approach it with my parents :)

Incidentally, this video was so nice and made me feel warm, thank you girls :))


'Why am I taller than every person in the world?' Same Tessa


I started therapy a while ago but my parents just stopped sending me and I haven't been in months ?? I think they forgot about me /: which sucks bc it was helping


I've been going to therapy for a very long time and have seen very many therapists... unfortunately, it hasn't helped a bit :/


ugh your sound quality is goals. what microphone do you use?


also for lgbt + youth in the us theres the trevor project that has online chat rooms and call services for counseling for things like self harm, depression, suicidal thoughts ext. its really amazing just google the trevor project


is it weird that i am actually friends with my counselor at school


I probably should be in therapy but my insurance is so crap. Like 5 years ago (maybe) I went to a therapist recommended to me by my grandma who picked an older homophobic lady and she said "next week when you come in i want you to have applied for college" but the problem with that was that my a) no money for college and b) my grandparents wouldn't let me drive to classes anyway. I felt better after sessions because I cried the entire time basically. It was just a very weird experience.


I've been to therapy for like a year now .. I've been to alot of therapists ... But it just won't help for me ... What should I do?


I gave up on therapy after trying with 9 different therapists and psychiatrists.


does anyone know where dodie got that dress? it's really pretty and gives me happy vibes and i want to find it :)


how do you tell a friend you think they need therapy without coming off in a 'i don't want to listen to your problems'/'i don't care anymore' way?


It also helps when u have no friends to talk to :)


My parents want to get me into therapy but I don't want to and I'm just getting more anxious because I really don't want to go.


okay this is an amazing video and well done dodie and tess and this is v important BUT does anyone know where dodie got her dress from? again, v important and amazing video but i really need that dress


I always preferred someone who had something to offer me back.


oh my WORD there's like random grinding/thumping noises in the background of this video and I just came from watching someone play a horror game and I was SO FREAKED OUT until I re-played a clip and realized it was just the audio. Geez Dodie, tell your roommates to be quiet! ;)


I tried therapy and I don't think it's for me. The only thing I've only found to work is pills and I'm only 16, is that ok?


It great people talking about therapy! Therapy on the NHS is free but you cannot chose the therapist and so you could not bond so sometimes isn't helpful 🙃. Just in case anyone uk is here


I just hate that my therapist is including my parents in my whole mess bc Im 16. I don't want them to feel like its their fault (even tho it lowkey is) and that they failed as parents (my mom tells me weekly "sorry that im such a bad mom, this is all my fault, blah blah blah") and that makes me feel worse.


Check out the website Big White Wall, they do therapy online and it's actually NHS funded without the ridiculous waiting list! That's where I did my first therapy last year, and my therapist from there literally saved my life!


I've tried counseling and got a bad counselor but I ended up with her because she wasn't expensive. I don't think I have the money to have a good counselor even tho I desperately need it. I live in the US


"a lot of churches have counseling" ... my dads the pastor at my church


Oh god yes a bisexual can be around another girl and they can just be friends


another discounted resource for counseling – a lot of universities will offer discounted rates for therapy since it's done by students who are honing their skills. they're normally monitored by proper doctors so it's still super proper. but that way you get cheap therapy & help someone's education! I did it after I graduated college before I was able to afford my co-pay in the U.S. and my sessions were $10 per hour.


Tessa reminds me of the cool principal from school of rock


I love all of your dresses, where did you get this one Dodz?!


OMG MY HEADPHONES WERE ON FULL AND WHEN SHE CLAPPED FOR HER INTRO MY EARDRUMS EXPLODED


Славяночка как всегда неотразима!

Славяночка как всегда неотразима!

Русский Оккупант


hopefully im not the only one that ships dodie and tessa <3 love them both no matter what


my daughter just told me she is self harming. I want her to go to counselling but she won't go. does anyone have any suggestions about what I can do?


I'm 14 and have been very sad so I went to the doctor with my mum and the doctor said to me to try help myself... how am I meant to help myself? I just feel stuck now because I can't get help :(

Keep talking to your mom about it. You can always seek counseling without a doctor's note, as long as your parents are behind you.


OH MY GOD WHERE CAN I BUY DODIES DRESS ?


Most universities have health and counselling centres and as you usually are paying for this in your tuition may have access to free counselling!!


i love dodie's shirt!! does anyone know where it's from?


Waiting list for Camhs is much big, been waiting since August and I'm now 5th in line. Government needs to give more funding to camhs its been 5 months


Does anyone know where i can find the dress dodies wearing?? Im in love😱


If you find yourself struggling because of a trauma in your past that might be related to sexual assault or domestic violence there are places in the us that offer counseling for free or at a low cost. Or look for nonprofit agencies in your area. In the us you can call 211 and then can help connect you with resources in your area.


Im scared to go to therapy because I dont know if I want to unbarry all the shit I have in my brain


my parents tried to send me to counseling, but I didn't want to go, not because I don't want help, I do, I said no because it was a counselor at our church. I really did not want that, I do not want to be bombarded with prayer and religious propaganda.


how do you learn about words like depersonalisation or codependency? What categories are they in and where can i find something like them so i can 'find' where i 'fit' and as a whole, learn more about myself?


Dodie, where did you get your dress from? It's adorable!!!! Lyl Xx💕


This makes me sad, I'm in therapy but I'm there for evidence and shit and not me. It's not out of my interest and therefore it's ugh, I can't switch it'll be the same situation. Just feel a lil stuck


dodie i absolutly adore your shirt/dress thing.. where did you buy it???


I hated CBT because writing caused me Depression


I REALLY want to know how tall Dodie is for some reason


Its 5:15 AM and I was having a dodie marathon, she uploaded this vid 2 hours ago.
I DIDNT GET THE BLOODY NOTIF LIKE WHAT THE ACTUAL😢😢😢


At my school you have to tell your parents how you feel but I don’t want to tell my parents that’s why I went but it took me so long to go bc I was use to just telling my friends and to I went to group counseling so yea I don’t ever wanna go alone


I have a question; it my sound dumb I'm sorry but I honestly have no idea, anyway.<br>Who actually diagnoses you with things like depression and anxiety? Is it your therapist or a doctor or...?

I have a question; it my sound dumb I'm sorry but I honestly have no idea, anyway.
Who actually diagnoses you with things like depression and anxiety? Is it your therapist or a doctor or...?


WHERE DID YOU GET THAT DRESS IVE BEEN SEARCHING HOPELESSLY EVERYWHERE


awe it's the 2 most beautiful people on the Internet, (no joke they're my actual 2 biggest YouTube crushes)


does anyone know where dodie got her round glasses that she wears in most of her videos? im trying to find them because I want them rlly bad, and this is a bad video to ask on but I need to know because I love them whoops bye


My mom is trying to make me go to therapy, but I really don't feel comfortable with going because I don't want to talk to someone I don't know about my problems. Suggestions?


DODIE Where did you get that dress from? It's soooo my style and I need it :)


my dad wants me to go see a counselor...but I have social anxiety...so seeing a stranger for social anxiety doesn't make sense to me. and the idea of it just makes me feel like I'm not good and helpful and nice when I am, if that makes sense. Also, he's been before and has treated us all a lot better. I think he really needs to go back; I'M not closed mineded/making people feel bad/being a huge religious nut/making people uncomfortable; I'm just a good kid struggling with protecting self-esteem from him. I don't know what to do.


I have a lot of bad days. There are so many days where my brain refuses to shut up, feeding me with thoughts capable of making me go insane. There is this constant knot in my chest that refuses to unfurl and my eyes refuse to give away the tears, which makes it all extra worse. I can't cry, I can't speak about it because I know something is wrong with me I just don't know what it is. But, sometimes I have days which are not that bad. Since Thursday, I have been feeling a little better. Yesterday I was at the park with my best friend and we clicked a lot of pictures(because both of us love photography) and talked about literally everything. You know, just two teenagers laughing their butts off for no absolute reason. It was nice. I came home and ended up with a cold and a fever that still lasts but my mental health seems a little upbeat than it usually is. My physical health though, is a lot worse. However, what I realized is, I would rather be in this physical state of sickness than a mental one. And that just saddens me. I would rather have a terrible cold than have a terrible thought process. <br>Anyways, writing about it made me feel good. I love your videos x

I have a lot of bad days. There are so many days where my brain refuses to shut up, feeding me with thoughts capable of making me go insane. There is this constant knot in my chest that refuses to unfurl and my eyes refuse to give away the tears, which makes it all extra worse. I can't cry, I can't speak about it because I know something is wrong with me I just don't know what it is. But, sometimes I have days which are not that bad. Since Thursday, I have been feeling a little better. Yesterday I was at the park with my best friend and we clicked a lot of pictures(because both of us love photography) and talked about literally everything. You know, just two teenagers laughing their butts off for no absolute reason. It was nice. I came home and ended up with a cold and a fever that still lasts but my mental health seems a little upbeat than it usually is. My physical health though, is a lot worse. However, what I realized is, I would rather be in this physical state of sickness than a mental one. And that just saddens me. I would rather have a terrible cold than have a terrible thought process.
Anyways, writing about it made me feel good. I love your videos x


do therapists ask questions during sessions?


> Wants to go to therapy to address my anxiety disorder.
> Waits for months on NHS waiting list.
> Finally get appointments with psychologist.
> Can't face the appointment due to anxiety.
> Get a voicemail on how I can't miss more than 3 appointments or I'll be taken off the list.
> The voicemail gives me more anxiety thinking I'll be questioned why I didn't go the previous week so I don't go the following week.
> Never end up going.
> Repeat.


Dodie!! where is your dress from also thank you both for videos like this


I don't want to go to therapy because i always think that I'm going to start talking about my problems and the therapist is gonna be like- Oh why the hell is she here!? Nothing is wrong with her she's just a overdramatic and angsty teen who wants attention. So yeah know, fun fun fun


I don't even know where I would go for therapy.


I would need therapy, but I don't have money for that, so I'm watching youtube lol :D


I was I therapy once. They couldn't help me.


I have to go to therapy because I was told I might be bipolar, have anxiety and raise a red flag for severe depression and suicide. bit do not feel depressed in anyway. apart from someday. please help me clarify


i love tessas hair and jumper, anyone know where i can get the jumper?? thankk :-)


The trick to a good high five is to look at the other person's elbow. :{D


When I was 8-10 I was suffering horrible anxiety attacks, and my mum (who has many many problems both mental and not mental) put me into therapy in hopes that it would help. It did, but she didn't. So next, in high school, after some shitty things happened, my dad (the good person he is) booked me an appointment for the school councillor and honestly I hated it. I'm a bit passive and I never want to talk about myself. I think 'maybe I should go to therapy maybe I should try it out' but I know if I did I'd just sit there and not say a word.


I can't understand myself. I always tell myself that I don't need help or counselling because I have everything and more, there are people going through a lot worse than me and I feel guilty for wanting help, I feel I'm not eligible for it? (I can't explain it very well) I know I need help but my mind tells me other things and I hate it. if you read this, thank you I just wanted to get it off my chest and see if any one else can understand what I'm trying to say x


there is a counseling service through my school and last year the person I got with was.... not the best but this year the person I got is just so good and I'm feeling way better about the event and more willing to talk about it so... yay therapy!!!


Okay this video was very enlightening but where is your shirt from?! It's AMAZINGGGGG


what if someone is really cynical about therapy and just really doesn't know how to open up


My counsellor is wrong for me but I can't change as I'm going to camhs so my parents refuse for me to change although I know it's wrong for me. ugh


as for what to do if you can't afford counseling; there is a wonderful website called 7 cups of tea! it offers group chats, forums, guided meditations, and counseling


My mother has a title in psychology but she does not work as a therapyst. The weird part is that she does not takes it seriously when I tell her I want to go to therapy. Well, even if i had a therapyst I think I would probably keep many things to myself, because I wouldn't tell them even to a therapyst.


does anyone know where dodie's dress is from? looooved the video


I know she's not wearing it in this video but can someone tell me where Tessa got her 'lazy' cardigan? It's so cute!


I need therapy, but I don't really have time for it, really. I know I would need to go through uni counselling before I'd get in line for therapy, and even after that I would have to be available for at least a year - and honestly don't know where I'm going to be in a year. So. Yeah. Private therapists cost too much, and there isn't lot to select from in this tiny town, so I just gotta depend on my own research and friends. :/


Where do you both get your clothes from? It sounds kind of creepy but they look really nice...


I WENT TO CELEBRATE RECOVERY BEFORE INDIVIDUAL THERAPY :O


i think i may go back to therapy but the problem is, the woman in my school was my counsellor for 6 months and it didn't help in the end. i could go to my local gp and then be referred but mMM IM TOO NERVOUS, so i'm not really sure what to do. i talk to my old form tutor a lot but because she's a teacher she has to legally say anything if i'm a danger to myself, but the problem is i'm so suicidal that everything i talk about kind of is linked to being a danger to myself hMm


What tessa says about the doctor going "hmm hmm" 2:27 I always find it very like they dont believe me or they're not listening. It's very off putting and makes me feel worse 😅😅


What should you do if you're a teenager (therefore too young to get therapy secretly), your family is a big catalyst to your problem, and you might get exempted from your educational course if you aren't "medically/mentally fit"? Never mind therapy, I'm panicking as to if a doctor seeing (old) scars during my required medical exam will damn me completely. :/


aaaaah where do I start (this is going to be a very long and dramatic comment) I'm 18 (turning 19 in March WHAT), I graduated high school and am currently in the middle of a gap year. About a year ago I figured out that I probably have ADHD. I was on a waiting list FOREVER (5 months actually but it felt like eternity) but now I'm finally seeing a psychiatrist. She concluded that I probably indeed have it and we decided to try methylfenidate (usually sold under the name Ritalin). I'm on 45 mg total per day and it's not fucking helping it just makes my heart beat really fast and I feel anxious as fuck. I'm really scared that I don't actually have it. What if I'm just a stupid lazy good for nothing who will never survive in the real world.

I'm pretty sure I'm depressed? I never feel good and I can't imagine having a future. I'm sort of suicidal? Like in the long run? I'm not going to kill myself tomorrow but I feel like suicide is eventually how I am going to die. A bit of psychiatric history: when I was 4 my parents took me to a therapist or smth for anger issues I think? I never got a proper explanation of what it was about exactly. When I was 9 my school referred me to a child psychologist because they thought I had issues with depression and anxiety. I remember a little bit of that. They focused on my frequent fights with my younger sister and my social awkwardness in school but that was it. The conflicts between me and my sister eventually lessened and they sent me to some silly social skills training. The depression and anxiety thing was discarded as simple shyness.

I remember that when I was 11 I wanted to fall asleep and never wake up again. That feeling never really went away, it became more serious. Just before I found out about ADHD I had pretty serious ideas about killing myself.

I don't know if it's ADHD and depression or just ADHD or just depression. I feel like I really need therapy, the way I think is not good. I'm really scared to talk to my parents about this. I'm scared that my mother will get angry at me for being ungrateful or exaggerating. She'll say that I already saw someone when I was 9, wasn't that enough? I really don't know what to do, sometimes I even feel like I should just end it asap to save myself more suffering, it's never going to get better anyway

I know people will tell me I should just do this and this and that it will help but I don't think I can believe you


Dodie you should do a cover of shape of you!


My parent are wonderful but I don’t really know how to talk to them about stuff in my head. My mom cries easily and my dad is a doctor and comes home really stressed after work and I can’t really talk to him bc he would just brush it off and say that I’m fine when I’m not and I can’t stand seeing my mom cry bc I think I’ve done something wrong. Anyone have advice on how to talk to them without upsetting them?


my school councellor is so bad - like dodie's first councellor, he left loads of spaces but another thing is that i was not comfortable explaining the problems in my life to not only a stranger, but a male stranger. i have NOTHING wrong with male councellors, but i would feel so much more comfortable with a woman. i think she would understand a bit more but like they said, if you need councelling, go xx


Omg my church has talked about “celebrate recovery”


MY highschool actually has counselors and therapists come into the school.


TESSA IS SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO PRETTY AND DODIE IS SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO PRETTY WHY CAN'T I BE PRETTY LIKE THEM


I was going to go to group therapy I signed up but I kept avoiding the classes so never went and now I can't go.


Slightly off topic but does anyone know where Dodie got her lights in the background from?? The lightbulb fairylights?


Anyone know where Dodie's dress is from?


so I need help with my social anxiety but im scared to get help because of my social anxiety so thats fun


oh my gosh where did you get your dress from its beautiful! :0


I feel like I should start going to a therapist, but I don't think I will actually be motivated to put in the work to get better... I kinda just want to know if there's actually something wrong with me or if I'm just lazy...


Churches will more than likely not charge you for counseling by the way. Also don't get freaked out if the try sharing Christianity with you, that's just their way of sharing they care. Just making a side note about that.


If youre in the UK but anxious abiut twlling your GP your problems (or they shot you down which happened to me once), there's an NHS service for counciling that you can apply for online using a self-referral called Let's Talk Wellbeing. And it's free and available all over the country. I hope this is useful x