Free self-referral places in the UK for therapy to google -
IAPT (increasing access to psychological therapies) and the name of your area, like 'IAPT Leeds'
Then the name of the services in your area that deliver that will be called different things.
MIND can also offer local advice.

You can also go via your GP.

Lots of private therapies offer a sliding scale pay scale so it might be only £5/£10 an hour rather than £40+. It is absolutely ok to email all the local portage therapists in your area the same email saying 'these are my struggles...do you offer a sliding pay scale/ a lower rate for those on low income'.

School/ College/ University all have free counselling. If your school only has 1'counsellor and you don't like them then your school is obligated to provide an alternative (this is usually a referral to CAMHS).


all I know is that my motorcycle is my therapy


ahh dodie is so pretty when she is pensive


i went to therapy and it did nothing
i mean like
i told that woman my problems
and she just smiled and said
"well stop that problem"
like
bitch
idk how
teach me


I asked the "what if you can't afford it" question but I'm not in the UK or US :(


i need to know where dodie got that gosh dang dress.


i would love to be in counseling but anytimes i bring it up to my mom she just asks my why i cant talk to her. i need more professional help? i dont feel comfortable enough to talk to my mom sometimes :// I understand what shes thinking because she is worried about me, (im worried about me) but she thinks shes failing and so its hard to let her realize how much it means to me to be able to talk to a professional

i dont know how old you are but maybe you could talk to your regular doctor about wanting to go to a therapist and your doctor will ask why and youll say "_____" and then your doctor will ask, "psychiatrist or psychologist?" and you'll say, "psychologist" because they're the ones who talk you through your problems not give you "medicine" for them and then your doctor will refer you to psychologists who are on your insurance plan and then your doctor will probs have a talk with your mom about why it might be a good thing and your mom might feel bad but if so, just remember that she probably is the reason you need therapy in the first place because our parents are human and they make mistakes even though they want to be perfect.  anyway, even if your mom isnt the reason you need therapy, its not her choice if you think therapy is a medical and mental need.


My mum is the one that is putting me in counselling and I don't want to at all. What to do?


So, 2 years ago when I was 10 my mom took me to a therapist and I HATED HER SO FREAKING MUCH LIKE OMG SHUT UP HAHAHAHAHA YOU DONT KNOW WHAT YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT. She called it "family counseling" because I hated my brother, whos older than me and I know that now, but back then I didn't. I was the only one truly in counseling and I was like WHY OK MY BROTHERS ANNOYING IF HE WOULD SHUT UP I WOULD BE NICE but I was really hateful and spiteful as a younger child (2 years ago wow IM SO MUCH OLDER NOW HAHAH NO). Anyway, since I HATED HER we stopped seeing her. Then when I was 11, we met this other lady and I loved her. I saw her for about a year. She didn't really have a method, but she would just talk to me, and it worked. Because in reality, I had no one to talk to and I still don't. My mom took me out over the summer because she thought I was fine. But my story isn't like "THEN I HAD DEPRESSION AND ATTEMPTED SUICIDE AND THE SCHOOL COUNSELORS GOT INVOLVED AND IT WAS SO TRAUMATIZING (no offense to anyone who that happened to, because that's really tragic and NO ONE deserves to go through anything like that)". But now I'm in junior high, and things happened this year, and I really wish I could see her. It really sucks, because I had shitty friends who taught me I can't trust anyone. Honestly, it sucks. I'm quirky, and weird, and maybe even unique if I'm stretching it, but all my friends pick anyone else around them over me. But my family life is perfect now, I love my brother, my dad, my mom only did what was best for me, and I'm happy all around. Heck, I'm about to be 13. Like life is pretty great. I have a lot of friends, but it's like they're only my friends when no one else is around. And I can't tell anyone, because I cant trust anyone at my freaking school. And that makes me sad. And I know that everyone has a right to be sad an cry, but it feels like I don't. I MAKE STRAIGHT FUCKIN A'S WHY AM I SAD. ALL IM SAYING IS LIFE SUCKS SOMETIMES AND MY BEST FRIEND LIVES A 2 HOUR PLANE RIDE AWAY AND SHES THE ONLY PERSON I CAN TRUST IN THIS UNFAIR WORLD AND I LOVE HER TO DEATH BUT EVERYONE ELSE AT MY SCHOOL CAN SUCK IT

I know no one really cares, but sharing it on the internet is better than telling people at my school. I know a lot of other people feel this way, so I don't judge.


I feel like I should talk to someone about things that are on my mind but how do u know when u should go cause I don't want to go and tell them what's happening and waste there time .... what do I normally talk to a friend but still thinking about it


If you're in the UK and don't want to pay for a private therapist you can get referred to therapy via your doctor and have it through the NHS.


can someone please tell me where is dodie's dress from ?


WHERE IS DODIE'S TOP/DRESS FROM IT IS SO SO CUTE


Where did you get that fantastic dress?!


ive been looking for that jumper and that dress all over!!! where are they from? xxxx


is it coincidence you and Shawna posted videos about therapy on the same day or?


does tessa have an accent or no im so confused


Help! I want to make a list of the bad and good things that happen through out my life but I am so scared of just thinking about the past or the bad times. It just really scare me but I want to face my fears! I just don't know how to. Please help.


Dodie, can you become my knew therapist? I'm very suicidal and my therapist isn't helping. I have tried a few and I've lost all trust for adults and most trust for my friends. I don't know what to do at this point, please help..<br>You know what, I'll probably be fine. Because ya know, suicide is fine. Yay! I need to stop typing, bye💙

Dodie, can you become my knew therapist? I'm very suicidal and my therapist isn't helping. I have tried a few and I've lost all trust for adults and most trust for my friends. I don't know what to do at this point, please help..
You know what, I'll probably be fine. Because ya know, suicide is fine. Yay! I need to stop typing, bye💙


Hello sorry random question where did you get your loft bed from?


Where is your dress from? Does anyone know where Dodie's dress is from?


yeah my phycologist at the moment is realy awkward and quiet and uhh, i don't like it at all. I've had really good ones but she doesn't seem right cause I'm an introvert and its really awkward haha


is there a version of that website for the us?


Idk if I really need therapy because idk if I actually have anxiety or depression or if I just have bad days


i think im probably really lucky bc i can get free therapy (doctor's referral) and ive been going for like at least two years now but i just find it doesn't help??? but i dont know how to tell my therapist that and i feel bad that im taking up places other people my age would kill for and really need?????


Ok so my mum is a therapist and I am like really scared to tell her that I think that I would like to go to one. I just do not want her to feel like she failed raising me and maybe is a good therapist (I know she is) but a bad mum. But I feel like she is the best mum you could ever wish for. My whole life I have been the strong one and I am never showing my break downs to anyone but I feel like I can't handle this anymore. I just feel like a filler friend, nobody's first choice, not even like a 6/10 more like a 4 or 3/10. Don't get me wrong I'm happy on the outside and I got a few things I really enjoy and I'm like always laughing and making jokes but when I'm alone in my room (mostly at night) I just listen to sad music and think that I'm a person I don't want to be but I can't do anything to change that. Thank you if you read my thoughts, I just had to tell it somebody that isn't my bed, my guitar, my dog... well anyway thanks to everybody and I would be very thankful if you would have an advice. (By the way I really love you dodie, yeah and Tessa too)


What place did you go to in Nashville for therapy, Dodie?


this is so weird i just watched the snapchat of Dodie at starbucks.


I don't even know what my mental state is anymore


I did school counseling once. Some where horrible, but some where good. So. It's basically picking something out blind folded.


i'm so so soo confused at where my mindset is right now and has been since i was 11. I just don't knowww ugh


Wait I’m also attracted to the same emotionally unavailable guy for this whole yr w t f my entire recommended page were vids tht I needed


For Australians interested, I believe you can get 10 (or 12, I can't recall) government funded sessions a year. Not a lot, but a start. Look it up for more accurate info, but I can guarantee there is a (limited) number of government funded sessions available per year.


Oh, I would love if you made a video on how to make good YouTube videos. I have a nice camera and I'm wanting to start a channel. I haven't posted any of my videos because I can't find a good and possibly free editing program. Any suggestions? They are cover videos. I would love a little help from professionals! And you are my BIGGEST inspiration to do this. I would have never even started singing in front of people let alone record myself singing and putting it on the internet if I weren't for you.
Thanks,
Kendall❤


Hi Dodie! I just wanna ask if you wanna do a cover with dan howell? he can play the piano and he can sing. Please??


School guidance teachers are very hit and miss.


my parents will not let me see a therapist even tho I've had multiple friends and teachers and adults with past and present mental problems that i should see one. my parents don't believe in therapists but everytime i try to talk about something with someone else they either tell me im boring or brush me off and ignore me (my parents do this to)


I need help. I have very traditional parents who don't believe that depression is not real. But the things is, I do counseling and was told that all my behavior; not eating much, losing weight suddenly, sleepless nights or not being able to wake up, along with some sleep paralysis, heavy weight upon my chest, headaches, shortness of breath, sudden nausea, fatigue; and i am falling behind in everything. i cannot remember most things anymore, and i am super unmotivated in class. I think I might be getting worse which is killing me. I am on a string with my parents and therapy is good but not enough. I have been looking into the option for antidepressants. who thinks this should be something that i should consider according to my situation?


I'm confused. what does emotionally unavailable mean?

Probably somebody who isn't willing to emotionally open up as much as Tessa was. Like, they felt distant or cold. Lacking intimacy. Or maybe they were invested in someone else. Stuff like that that prohibits a connection/relationship.


where is your dress from dodiE i love it


Emotionally unavailable man? I hope it's not rusty he's so cool):


is that yellow sweater that Tessa's wearing the same one Dodie wore in Lollipop?


lol I have been to like 5 different therapists and I'm only 13 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻


It's Tessa Violet, the competition's violent

I'll go home...


Could you do Zain reaction video ! That’s gonna be so emotional video 😭😭💕❤❤ please just see it and u will do it 💙😭💕


I don't know if my therapy is actually working. I have been going evry week since last september and right afterwards I always feel better but a few hours everything is back and if i look on the bigge picture it has only gotten worse but i still like going to that therapist but i just dont think it is helping so yeah don't really know what to do. i am starting a new thing in the hospital this month so maybe that will. i am just so tired of don't feeling any change at all. but now i have shared my story with the internet hahah


What about therapy for people who's parents don't believe in mental illness? School therapists aren't right for me there's to much I can't tell them. My parents don't believe therapy is valid. My doctor recommended therapy and when scheduling the appointment my dad never took me. I was supposed to go to be diagnosed with depression but my dad being a nurse thought "if that's on your record people will think you're unstable and won't hire you. It could ruin your life" he's not the type of person who has feeling at all. So I can't just go in and ask he's not supportive at all.


I'M MISSING THE DODIE YELLOW THING SOMEONE PLS EXPLAIN


I used to go to therapy, but the therapist was absolutely rubbish


I kinda want to try therapy but I don't think I actually need it. I think I'm just overreacting but I don't know. And even if I thought I needed it if I ask my mum she will question me about it and wouldn't be sure what to say to her


Cancelling is not the answer to everything in life.


I went to a school councelor and it was this really stupid old Lady that I hated so I guess I'm kinda traumatized


Hello! when I feel sad, I listen to this:<br>Jonsi  - Boy lilikoi   ✿

Hello! when I feel sad, I listen to this:
Jonsi  - Boy lilikoi   ✿


Ok so this is weird..I think I want therapy but also I don't think that I need it that much (I know,they said everyone can profit of of it but meh:/ ),plus I'm scared.
I have friends that have so much more problems than me and I feel bad for thinking that I have the same problems or that I should even compare my problems to theirs..
Yeah,just rambling I guess


we did the timeline in elementary school wtf


FAVS FAVS FAVS FAVS FAVS FAVS FAVS FAVS FAVS FAVS AGH I LOVE THIS SM TYYYY


Pretty sure i need therapy. Maybe in the future when im not so terrified

I’ve had counselling sessions on the NHS several times now and i think its been helpful?? Im not sure if im just less depressed at the moment


What if your parents don't want to start you with Therapy I don't understand my thoughts and I want to talk about them but none of my friends really understand not even my internet friends and I don't really like my school counselor (I'm American). Could someone please help I'm scared and don't want to resort to attacking myself with my thought and ocd.


Dodieeeeeeeeee where is your dress from? it's so cuuuuuuuuuute


So what kind of therapy are you talking about? Is it more like behavioural therapy, systemic therapy or is it maybe some other type?


school counselors are almost always the worst lmao


Ive always been told, "you dont need therapy, nothing is wrong with you, you arent special, other people have been through worse, you're overreacting, suck it up" ..? I feel like i dont need therapy even though my sister thinks i need therapy too much


is a therapist and a psychologist the same thing? I go to a psychologist


okay so i juST REALISED THEY HAVE THE SWME SWEATER AHHHH (DODIE'S LOLLIPOP VID"


I can't go to therapy because it's too pricey and there's only one therapist around (already went to her, she made things even worse, her ethics weren't good, etc.) I can't go to my school councillor because you have to sign this sheet of paper saying you agree to let the school snoop around all your medical, physical and most importantly psychological problems (N O P E ) and also the councillor of eleven graders is my English teacher, and it'll make things really, really awkward. Advice? Anyone?


I think im depressed but have no reason to be :/


1. where IS that dress from. <br>2. where IS that jumper from

1. where IS that dress from.
2. where IS that jumper from


Tessa kinda looks like Mina from Twice in this vid haha! cute.


omg dodie your dress is so cuuuttttteeeeee


Dodie Where did you get your dress ahhhh


oh heck where's your dress from it's so cute


my school councillor just died. she got hit by a car...I went to her with so much and now I want to go to her because I'm sad she's gone but I can't...cause she's gone


Only a third of Tessa's face reminds me of the ice queen from Narnia????? also you two are rly cute (!friendship goals!)


really off topic but does anyone know what shirt/dress dodie is wearing? i really like it and would want to buy one!


Why did I watch this I’m a) male & b) have no issues with depression. I do now though.


the council of the expressive eyebrows, this vid is


my mom is making me go and I am really scared


Does anyone else think the yellow sweater is a tiny, subconscious sneak peak of things that were still to come?


My schools was not good all they did was tell my parents which just upset me further


Bronwyn Jacobs video everyday in February


i hate therapy,, so much. i have anxiety, depression, bpd, ptsd, and trich. i need help for them. but i cannot talk to people. i can't tell my therapist anything. i haven't told her about my csa. i don't tell her anything useful. i'm so closed off without meaning to be. i hate it so much. at least i got zoloft to help. otherwise there is nothing i can do besides try to open up.


Why talk to a stranger when you can talk to someone you're really close with? The idea of dumping all your problems onto a stranger is odd

It's also really good if you need to work through things with someone who is there for the purpose of helping people unpack and understand what's going on.

sometimes you need a professional who knows how brains work to sort of guide through!


counseling doesn't help<br>me because my anxiety is so bad that i can't talk and we just sit there in complete silence and it's so uncomfortable and i have to go twice a week because i tried to kill myself and I don't know. i just feel like it would be easier if she could ask me questions? instead of me just talking because i don't know how to start a conversation about it? i guess??

counseling doesn't help
me because my anxiety is so bad that i can't talk and we just sit there in complete silence and it's so uncomfortable and i have to go twice a week because i tried to kill myself and I don't know. i just feel like it would be easier if she could ask me questions? instead of me just talking because i don't know how to start a conversation about it? i guess??


talking bout therapy,  the gabbie show comes up on the side lol


the memes in this comments section are so Good


dodge your eyebrows are noice today!!!!!!!


Why am i taller than any person on the planet?

Just meet dan howell....


I've been in for 2 years and unfortunately it's not worked


Does anyone else clapity klick along with her intro


I went to five different therapists over like... 3 years? Only one was good but she couldn't keep me there since it was mostly for kids with ADHD or ADD or similar. My first one yelled at my dad for no reason. The second one didn't know my language and was going to quit in three weeks anyways. The fourth one never helped. The fifth one forgot everything I had ever discussed with her multiple times.


ok i've watched vedif videos before but i haven't figured out what it means lol someone pls help


I don’t think I can do therapy because I have trust issues and also it is too expensive


successful person go thru counseling period


someone know if dodie is in England or in LA ? I just delet mine snapchat so I am a bit lost


Anyone looking for free counseling in the U.S., majority of r*pe crisis centers are free and you can receive completely free counseling without insurance. You don't have to only be a survivor of r*pe trauma, you can just be a mentally ill person who needs help. And if they can't help you, then they can give you referrals to other places that can help you with your distinct issue.


PLEASE someone tell me where her dress is froooooom


I want therapy.. but I don't know what for like i cant pinpoint but i feel like i want to understand myself better..?


Okay this isn't really relevant to the subject of the video (and I don't mean to overlook the topic bc it's a VERY important topic), but pls tell me where u got that dress i want it it's so cute ahh


my school either has not great school counsellors or pay for actual therapists now. i can't afford paying and the school ones just  threaten to send me to a place called 4 rivers which is a mental health hospital thing so im suffering.

i dont want to be stuck in a hospital just because i feel shitty i want help but my school doesnt provide it


I'd like to say that website helped, but it was pretty useless for me. All of the suggestions they give are things I've tried before and they never help.


I'm going to my first appointment tomorrow


Did you go to a place called Onsite in Nashville? I went there.


There's a book called Stardust by Neil Gaiman 👌👌👌👌 lil weird tho just gonna warn you


Does anyone else find the sound very quiet?


In middle school my school hired a therapist for me who I got to see for free, and though it didn't work out I thought that option was very nice! I have gone through 3 therapists and am now looking for the courage to tell my parents I wanna start therapy again. People always say therapy doesn't work, but it does! For me it didn't work out but that's because I haven't found the right person yet.


That round of applause was so cuuuttteee 👏 Love you both


I'm at happy she's doing them daily now I needed someone to make me happy xD


thank you for this im going to therapy soon for my anxiety, self harming, and suicidal thoughts and im really nervous this made me feel better love you xx


I love this so much I love when two of my favorite youtubers get together and have a chat


Thank you for this video, Dodie, I really needed this. I'm in college and was considering going to group therapy, so now I might call and make an appointment.


I LOVE VEDIF!!!  Seeing a video everyday just makes me so happy, it brightens everyday, thank you.


I'm literally going to my first counselling session next Friday and feeling apprehensive about it but this was reassuring thaaaaaanks :) Hoping it goes ok, it's a long time coming


I love the thought of Dodie sitting in a coffee shop, scrolling through comments and feeling happy 💛


You two are honestly two of my favorite musicians and I look up to both of you a lot


this was really helpful, actually. I was in therapy for a bit around this time last year, but since the therapist wasn't a right fit for me, I assumed therapy just wasn't right for me. I think im gonna see if I can find someone else in my area!


I've just started talking to someone from the NHS after my private counsellor referred me for suicidal thoughts. I've only had one session, which I didn't enjoy, but I'm on the list for CBT now so I'm hoping it'll get better :D good luck anyone else going into counselling etc


this video was amazing!! i really loved it. it's very helpful to me, someone who's been considering therapy for while. thank you so much <3


Wonderful video, you and Tessa always feel like older siblings giving advice, it's lovely 💙💙


Thank you dodie. For making videos, they're basically the only things that make me smile.


Thank you so much for addressing these topics and stuff in your videos. Your videos have done so much for me. Thank you for making videos and connecting with your audience as much as you do. ❤❤❤❤


Oh my gosh I love everything about this video. I've been going to therapy for about 5 months and I'm starting to realize how much I've improved my mental health and lifestyle choices. It's such a necessary topic that we need to normalize talking about and I'm so glad that you guys answered all these questions so perfectly! I love your videos Dodie! Thank you for sharing your beautiful face and mind and personality with us! 😊 It really makes my day better! 💕


I'm so happy you're doing vedif, I love you and your vids sm 💕💕


I've seen my psychologist for 5 years now and she's really helped - I've been feeling much better. It's also worth being picky about therapists :) it took me a long time to find someone I connected with


I love this video so much thank you for making this ❤


This video really touched me... thank you Dodie <3


Dodie, I saw your snapchat about going to therapy when you first wanted to go and I want to thank you. You're one of few youtubers that's actually encouraged me to go. I signed up for a psych eval at my college and my appointment is next week. Wish me luck! 😄


i've been in therapy for 4 years now and it's just incredible how much it can help to talk to someone, and obviously drugs do their part in this, but i think probably everyone should go into therapy, like it's really helpful. so high five dodie and tessa, you're doing an amazing job :)


dodie. thank you for making videos about important things that no one else talks about. this is why i love you


Thank you for talking about therapy and where to find ittt I feel as though I need therapy


i'm so glad you made a video about this, thank you both


your videos always makes my day <3 ilysm


thank you for making me smile, dodie.

p.s. you should put our comments on your snapchat ;)


this video made me very calm and happy. thanks dodie and tessa ^_^  Vedif is so lovely cause it feels like      we're Dodie's best friend and we're meeting up everyday to chat. I'm just feeling very happy and calm after watching this! It's quite a nice feeling☺


This was a very important video you guys made. I know therapy and that kind of stuff has a negative stigma behind it but you guys explained your experiences quite well. im glad youtubers like you guys talk about mental illnesses and that kind of stuff in your channels since it is truly helpful to your viewers. I know i was particularly affected by dodies videos when she went through that rough patch since i was going through some stuff at the same time. I felt less alone because of people like you putting these feelings into words. i felt more secure as well since it made me realize that life does on and things do get better!  anyway lovely video and i cant wait for tomorrows :)


Thank you for this video, I am waiting for my therapy and I now feel less alone :) xxx


We need more of these two just sitting and talking.


hi dodie I love you and you are honestly such an inspiration. you helped me so much in facing my anxiety. i know you probably won't see this, but just in case you do i hope you remember how important you are xx


gosh i love you guys. thanks for talking the good words


Glad you put out a video about therapy/counseling. It has had such a negative connotation that I know people stay away from it out of fear of what people think. It needs to become more normal


Your videos really help me relax and calm down so VEDIF is like a bloody godsend thank you 😊😊😢😁


I've felt depressed since I was about 12 or 13 and I finally plucked up the courage (along with a friend) to go and see the school councillor (since I'm not sure how my parents would feel about it) and I had my first session on thursday. It was awkward at first but eventually all these things started pouring out and she was very supportive. A bit quiet and doesn't really ask many questions for my taste but it's better than nothing at all. I have my next session on Monday and I'm trying to pluck up the courage to tell her the deeper things bothering me (rather than homework and workload etc.) but I don't want it to seem too serious?? Idk. Counselling is good for you though in my opinion.


for a long time I was terrified of therapy. felt like it was something to be ashamed of. I was so wrong and it has helped tramendously.


a question: what if you want to try counseling or therapy whatever you wanna call it, but you're not sure whether you actually have issues or whether you're just making mountains out of non existent mole hills?

Emma Cleveland thanks! I'm definitely considering it. next step is getting over myself trying to isolate me and actually reach out ahah

Katie Volker I had the same issue when I was thinking of getting help! I would say give it a shot anyway, often therapists will let you know if they can help or if therapy is not necessary for you at this stage in your life. So let them make that call because by thinking this you might be denying yourself the help you need :)


I love love discussing feelings and emotions and how to deal with them as I feel like I've always been someone that hasn't teally done so in the past just generally to my upbringing and the people I've been around and my thoughts lol but now I'm like when I ask someone how they're feeling I want to like rEALLY KNOW and discuss and learn more about myself and others emotions. It's really interesting and although therapy does seem v v daunting and I'm not sure if it is something for me as I reflect over my emotions in other ways, I think I would like to try it one day and see what it's like 😊 GOOD ON YOU TWO FOR GOING TO THERAPY AND TALKING ABOUT IT <333


I go to "art therapy" where i work through my anxiety disorders using art and i sTRONGLY recommend that- because you're still talking through it, but you also have art projects to help center your mind and stuff :)


I tried therapy once, the counselor was awful so I changed to some other counselor and I absolutely loved it. It made me feel so much better.


I really want to go to therapy, but I'm afraid that my parents will make fun of me. I'm have bad anxiety but they don't think anxiety is real and I really want to tell someone about this problem but I can't cause my anxiety is preventing me from doing that. This video really helped me realize that talking it out is better than keeping it all in. Thanks Dodie❤❤❤❤


honestly JUST what I needed. I just started seeing a counselor through a church (I live in the US) and it only costs me $10 per session, everything else is covered by the church. I am a Christian, so I like it when she prays to start and end the sessions, but she ALWAYS asks first if I'm okay with it. If one day I told her I wasn't okay with it, she would stop no problemo. All this to say that if you live in the US and need cheap counseling, churches might be the way to go, and you don't need to be part of that church or even Christian at all. 😊


I have been on a waiting list for over 2 years, pouring my heart out to people at each stage and being heartbroken when they tell me that they can't help and that I have to wait to see someone higher up.

It makes me sad that the nhs is such a broken system, and I want to become a Psychologist one day to help better it one day at a time


I was too scared to tell my parents so I wrote a letter and left it on the table, and then went for a walk. When I came back, we talked about it and they were quite understanding. There's a weight that gets lifted of your shoulders when you write it down, if you aren't good at talking (as is my case), and let them read it.


everytime you talk about therapy like "everyone needs therapy!" I'm like "yes!!! omg y es " because there's such stigma around therapy like its only for """crazy, insane people"""" and it's truly not,  everybody needs some introspective time to fix themselves and their issues, and therapy is great (if not completely) for that.
also you both are lovely and I hope Tessa feels better soon!
also dodie your hair is so cute lately


i'm studying counselling in college right now and this sorta helped me get better with what i should do as someones counsellor (if that makes sense??) love u <33


A tip:<br>There are lots of free counceling services for children and teens. Do some googling and find one in your area.

A tip:
There are lots of free counceling services for children and teens. Do some googling and find one in your area.


when i started counselling, i went to a free charity service (who i work w on a volunteer level, so i felt safe/comfortable there), but bc im under 18 i needed a consent form, so i was just like to my mam "hey im doing this for stress sign this pls and thank u" and she was just like "???? um ok." and then we didnt talk about it much after


This is really helpful. Tessa's reason as to why she hadn't been to counciling is the exact reason why I've refused to go but she's making me rethink. Thank you dodes for making this video :)


Yo, Tessa and Dodie is in the house 😁💯😇. Nice to know you guys are helping yourselves out with therapy 😊.


So, I've been diagnosed with ADD a while ago and I've been getting medication, which really helped me. However, I noticed that when I'm on medication, I'm more awake/aware of things and I'm more panicky, anxious and insecure. I also have been noticing anxiety and I've had a few panic attacks since the medication started. I realized I've experienced these things all my life, but never really thought much of it. I'm considering therapy, but my parents say I'm overreacting and everyone experiences these things, but I'm not so sure. Any advice?


i started going to therapy a few weeks ago and it helps :)


how did you discover what depersonalization was and that you were experiencing it?<br>it's quite weird actually, right after i had found out the exact name for it and realized that's what was happening to me, I found your channel and heard you mention it a few times

how did you discover what depersonalization was and that you were experiencing it?
it's quite weird actually, right after i had found out the exact name for it and realized that's what was happening to me, I found your channel and heard you mention it a few times


Hi Dodie I Love You And You Have helped me A lot And because of You I started playing ukulele And it makes me really happy!<br>Thank You ❤❤❤

Hi Dodie I Love You And You Have helped me A lot And because of You I started playing ukulele And it makes me really happy!
Thank You ❤❤❤


It's such a shame you have to wait so long for a therapy appointment when you can't afford private care. 😢 I feel like I've been waiting for one forever. There's only so much the Dr can do. 😖


I've never done "real" therapy but I really do need it, I have conversations in my head of what I would say  if I did have someone to talk to, but I just can't come to ask my parents for it. Also I've done the school counseling and it was actually very helpful but once that school counselor left (he was a fill in for our other counselor while she was taking care of her new adopted baby) I just slipped right back to feeling bad and haven't gotten back to that point really


At my school, counselors aren't allowed to talk to us more than life five times about something serious as a time, but we have a guy who goes to all the schools in the county. Unfortunately, he didn't take me on bc I'm actually to economically privileged for one.

He recommended I talk to my parents to get counseling elsewhere, but mental illness is taboo in Asian families


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love you dodie! been subscribed since your little room song.

youre such a huge inspiration in my life and i hope you continue to shine :)


Everyone can benefit from therapy or counseling, you dont need to have a mental "issue". I give therapy.


Why do your vedif videos make me want to respond via my vedif videos. I did one already with the alcohol talk and as a fan, you really inspire me just to be myself and just talk about how I feel at time in my videos and not care abt what others might think.

I realized that even if there's only 1 or 2 people watching my videos, if it helped them a little bit especially my mental health related stuff, that'd be enough. ❤❤


i went to a counselor for a few weeks and we had to stop it because i wasnt comfortable, but i really need it again and theres no one around me who takes my insurance lol lovin it


I have mixed emotions about therapists  because at times I feel like I need the support from a counselor but then I find myself wondering if they're only listening to me because of the money. I mean I quite like having someone to go to and get advise from but at the same time I question whether or not they actually care.


Also, this helps a lot.  I went to therapy once and I hated it, but now I realize it might be  something I need.  Lately I've been journaling a lot, but I have so much on my mind that I'd like to say to a real person.


I've grown up with depression and anxiety. I've been way to scared to go to therapy or be up on drugs. I'm currently on melatonin. Being on that changes me. I'm scared of change i guess...meh.


I've been on councling for over two years and been three different counclers. One was good but more generalised, second kept criticizing things I was doing. The one I have now is good but sometimes he inquires into wierd things about why I brought the pair of shoes I'm wearing. Councling helps me deal with things I never deal with consciously and with my lack of a sense of self. But I have episodes that slowly have gotten worse and worse and far more dangerous and I become emotionally more unstable, so I'm now going after medication (after Paramedics, Doctors and the Police told me I should be on meds) though I will continue to get councling. It's taken a long time for the NHS to take my mental health seriously because it's so all over the place and they handled my suicide attempt very badly , but that's just my area. Privet is expensive (mines £45 per session) but it's quicker and ive found a lot better.  Always try councling before going after medication.


my friend talks me about all of her feelings. so I am practically her therapist


my problem I asked to start therapy when I was in a bad place and when I finally started I was already doing better but it still helps when I have new problems that come up


I LOVE YOU TWO SO MUCH YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW


LOVE THIS and also dodie your shirt is so COOL


I have my first therapy session in two or so weeks. I got bumped up the CAMS list because I tried ending my life on antidepressants (ironic amiright?) so yee


I feel the online world is trying to send me a message this month. Another channel talked about mental stuff across two videos that scared me (about myself). Then a podcast this week went away from the usual topics to talk about therapy and stuff. Now this.


I love your dress dodie! Were did you get it from!

This is just to disguise how much love I have for this video


MY TWO FAVS TY FOR UPLOADING THIS ON MY BIRTHDAY IVE BEEN BLESSED


wow you both have great contour I'm shook


has anybody read the book "all the bright places" because that paints counsellors kinda negatively, which is why it took me so long to actually go to therapy.


ive always wanted to go to counseling but im worried about a couple things. 1) that id cry, i hate crying in front of ppl lol 2) that I would self diagnose like id say things and be like thats probably bc of this thing that happened to me huh? and like wouldn't let them do their job yknow? i feel like im just so used to making my own conclusions about my problems that itll be useless to go.


i have the same thing as dodie with my therapist she always leaves space for like 15 seconds but i have nothing to say. But i'm too shy to ask for a different therapist


this video is exactly 9 min and tessa's is exactly 6 min. i'm pleased tnx


Aaagh I love this. I always have been getting back in and out of therapy, because I've always had the feeling like I didn't really need it, even though I knew I had some mental health issues who were even getting quite bad. But the last year I really have been feeling like I fucking need to get back in it cause I have been feeling so messed up idk. But then when I am in therapy I find it too hard to accept the help and I end up acting like I'm fine alll the time and i hate and i feel scary saying this online aaaagh


I wish I could go to therapy but I don't feel confortable with talking about myself (even to my closest friends)


one of my school counsellors doesn't do anything. She literally introduced herself twice to me and then she never called me in again from December or Novermber (I can't remember). The other one actually asked questions about my friends and stuff, even though it was 10 minutes with my mom in the room.


there are two counselors at my school (you can't choose which one you want, it's. asked on last name) and mine is the really hyper super into their job oneeeee ahhH


is it weird to say that i really wish i had both of your hairstyles?


here I am vacuuming, and I hear the notification for a dodie video. I sprint to the router immediately


legit thought tessa was gonna vomit I just shat myself😂


so i don't think i have mental illness but when talking to my friends i can definitely see that they don't think the same things i do. but i'm too scared to go to therapy and find out i'm just an idiot thinking they are different from everyone else. What should i do? help plz


I love your dress dodie it's so pretty 😍👗


i'm at my third counselor, and i still don't like talking to people who are paid to talk to me. i'd feel more comfortable talking about my anxiety and depression with someone who is friends with me because they actually care, and not in a small crowded room which makes me have even worse anxiety than i usually do :l


what if your parents are asking you if you think you need councilin? what if you dont know what you need. or if your okay or not?


My English teacher does the nodding thing, and you could write her a beautiful, deep essay, but she'd still be like: "WoW! VeRY INTERstING!!!!1". She talks to us like we're babies, and that's why I hate this lesson so much...


I'm getting counselling soon ahh I'm a bit nervous


can we start a petition for a collage with dodie and beckie j brown?


does dodie look extra pretty in this video or????


Shawna just uploaded a video about therapy today. Nanakitty is real.


I've been waiting for this since you tweeted about this vid


The last minute of the video I just realized Tessa isn't from the uk and was like "WAT" for a few seconds😂


Okay I want that sweater please tell me where to get one because oh my gosh it's so cute.


I don't know if this is a good idea but If you want to try counseling and your parents are like ehhh then maybe show them this vid especially the part where they talk about that particular subject. I don't know if that'll help your parents to understand but you can try


WHY CANT YOU HIGH FIVE

I relate to the lack of hand eye coordination


wow i'm having an emotional crisis right now


is this the earliest i've ever been with a dodie vid?
yes
(full stop)


the legend says that if you coment early, doddie answers. Grettings from PERU!! ❤


I want to like learn more about myself and kind of want to try therapy just to understand myself
but I don't want to talk about my problems/ not really open up
and I don't think I really like need it
or like I have friends that's actually mentally ill and  it feels like they're the ones that like should have it and that im not
(I can't really explain it)


I love how I got both notifs at once it was gr8


I hope there's a cheeky grwm in vedif...


WHERE IS THE YELLOW JUMPER FROM!?? also yay therapy


I wish I could get therapy but there are no free options in my country :/ It sucks

Denmark. I've googled and googled, and can't find anything :/


dodie what do you think about boohoo paying it's employees below minimum wage

also I love you two talking about serious stuff


My family finally got a therapist.... but of course it's a christian one and part of our struggle (and part of why I have depression) is because my parents are christian and me and my sibling are pansexual liberals...soooo


Whaaat Shawna legit just uploaded a similar video - you guys planed this or nah? x'D


my school had to get rid of he school therapist because they didn't have enough money to pay her🙃


I realise I need it, I just don't know where to start. I have the money to pay for it and not have to cope with the stress of the NHS but I just don't know where to start. How the fuck do you find someone good I don't KNOW


noting that "dodie yellow" tessa is wearing


I WAS WAITING FOR THE NOTIFICATION AND I GO ON YOUTUBE FOR A SECOND ANF NOW IM LATE AHSHFHAJSDH BUT YAYAYAYAYAYAYAAT I LOVEVTHIS SM THE BEST MONTH EVER


Where'd u get that sweater dodie its so cute

No wait maybe its a shirt?? Regardless its cute


7cupsoftea is a good website,, it has people you can talk to online and it has a whole bunch of stuff


legends say that if you're early dodie will reply


what is the name of the thing that dodie has- like the spaced out and distant thing? just i think i might have that :/


But is Tessa wearing Dodie yellow though???


make a cover of shape of you by ed sheeran


Does anyone else notice that red spot on Tessa's neck? I think it's a hickey, sorry for starting drama lol


What is the name of the book? I'm not native english and I can't catch the title. Please help :C


i j realized Tessa doesn't have a British accent.


If you wake up and you dont feel good those emotions need to be heard, they are there for a reason...I dont personally agree with your therapist. Yes, if you check you will find something, if you dont check that painful emotion will STILL be there but in your subconscious...That makes it impossible for anyone to heal the wounded aspects of yourself. We need to learn to feel, not ignore our feelings.


I find this video just generally sad..NOT because y'all are getting you're therapeutic self-care on (so proud of past/present Dodie & Tessa) but because I truly feel like therapy just might not be for me because I've been going for years and I've only had like 2 therapists who've truly seen me and helped me the way I needed whereas everyone else left me frustrated, sad and empty and feeling like my problems weren't real and I'm just a sensitive Nancy whose only making things hard for herself on purpose. now I feel like all my problems cannot be talked out ergo it's just me and there's something wrong with me and I just need meds or medical help and I'm sad now so..bye.

I find this video just generally sad..NOT because y'all are getting you're therapeutic self-care on (so proud of past/present Dodie & Tessa) but because I truly feel like therapy just might not be for me because I've been going for *years* and I've only had like 2 therapists who've truly seen me and helped me the way I needed whereas *everyone else* left me frustrated, sad and empty and feeling like my problems weren't real and I'm just a sensitive Nancy whose only making things hard for herself on purpose. now I feel like all my problems cannot be talked out ergo it's just me and there's something wrong with me and I just need meds or medical help and I'm sad now so..bye.

You'll never see this because your comment is old but I hope you either feel more positive now or found something that works! There are so many types of therapy, dancing, artwork, focusing on nature etc that arent well known but can help! Maybe you just hadn't found your right fit yet.


Tessa, you really aren't that tall, haha.


this is the first time I have been late so far


Classic case of vitamin D deficiency. Next


Julia S she's currently house hopping as she's on tour

I think she's on UK tour? So she's staying with Dodie. I saw that on another video


Dodie There is this girl on YouTube called Julia capello she's so talented but only has 50 subscribers she deserves so much more. Btw before anyone asks it's not my channel. Could you please check her out.


Jesus can help you with anything and everything.


This new YouTube feature of skipping ten seconds is HORRIBLE. IM JUST TRYING TO MAX SCREEN THE VIDEO


What does vedif mean? Would like to know....


UR DRESS IS SO CUTEEEEE WHERE DID U GET IT


Legend has it that if u comment early dodie replies to ur comment 😆


notification squad but not early enough:(


Idk who tessa is but her hair is fabulous


is tessa wearing dodie yellow, looks a bit like not dodie yellow... or also not dodie yellow . . .


Last time I was this early I though I was straigbt


Hey everyone! Ive seen people mentioning 7Cups, I am a listener on 7Cup and may be able to help you! Find 'Ryan4Help' on 7Cup and hopefully I can help you! :Dx


My therapy was bullshit. It was awkward, horrible. Bluh


Early squad where you at? Well, sort of early. Not really, I guess. Whatever


I've tried so many therapists and I hate it. They all are terrible because I'm a kid under 16 so I need a specific kind of therapist and they. All. Suck. They all treat my problems like lousy teen problems that don't matter and don't have an actual impact because I'm not an adult and my mom keeps trying to make me go to therapy but I hate it with all of my soul.


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Tessa have a bit of a hickey? Is.. Is that.. Is that what that is? Schnaake


As for the school counsellor thing mine are kinda shit because they're not psychologists which is what I need, they're used to people being mildly stressed or having friend problems. I literally said I was feeling depressed because school was horrible and he said that it was all about perspective and that people in Africa would love to go to school. I'm not joking. Like ?????????? Obviously but that doesn't mean my depression likes it


I have mild depression but HORRIBLE social anxiety and I get bad grades because I'm terrible at asking for help and I can't do public presentations. My mom just says "why can't you just do what the other kids do" but she doesn't get how hard it is. It's finally gotten so bad she's considering getting me medication. I talk to the school counsellor but she's no help at all. The school is gonna get a mental health expert to try and figure out what's wrong with me, but she said she'd do it two months ago and she hasn't yet. I'm not getting any help at all and I just want medication so badly. I just want everything to go away


my school counsellor is the worst and most annoying human on plant earth and you can tell her you've been feeling sad lately and empty and she'll rig your parents and tell all the teachers ?¿


Emmy Noether Didn't actually dislike the video. Just wanted to be first for something for once lol