do you know if there is a place that you can get online counselling for free?

Kooth is a website that offers online counselling for 11-25 year olds. Be careful though, they offer different types of service depending on which area of the UK you are based in.

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I'm in the UK and when I was under 18, I was recommended Kooth. Which was a counselling website for those under 18. It's free and from what I remember, you can speak to a counsellor there and then and they set up like lil goals for you to achieve and that sort of thing. I found it quite helpful with my anxiety

Try kooth. It's a free online counseling service where u can privately message couselers. Other people can post their issues and u can give them advice. Give it ago. At first I was sceptical but it's really grown on me. Whatever is happening will pass and will get better. U can make it through and u will.

on some places, like the wings of fire amino (i know, oddly specific), there are emotional support groups, of untrained people who are usually also struggling and they are willing to help give advice and talk to anyone struggling (on wofa, specifically, they're called the carewings, i'm a member currently)

There's a website I use called 7 cups of tea. It's very helpful, it works for me most of the time

Amy Williams there's an app called silvercloud by the nhs I think which keeps getting advertises at my school along with the help lines for adult counselling with self referrals and stuff all on the nhs

I wouldn't recommend online. I would consult with your GP as services are available through the NHS.

Amy Williams I only get my counselling for free cos my school and doctor essentially told me I needed it, so like try and get it recommended on NHS maybe?

Thanks everyone! I've been using 7 cups now and its been very helpful

Ok so childline is shit they don't help at all<br>I use 7cupsoftea (there's an app too where you can track your progress and stuff) and it's actually quite good

Ok so childline is shit they don't help at all
I use 7cupsoftea (there's an app too where you can track your progress and stuff) and it's actually quite good

In the U.K. you can go to your doctor and they can refer you, or you can self refer as far as I know, to something called ieso digital health which is literally online therapy through the NHS so it's free and it's with a trained counsellor. They book you in at a time that's best for you and you just log on and go. Any 'homework' is set through there and done online and it's usually a weekly session at the same time but you can have it more frequently if needed. I'd definitely recommend having a look! I used that for a good 6 months or so - it works well!

Amy Williams 7 cups of tea, samartians are good for emergency stuff, childline is good if you are a child.

Amy Williams kooth is an anonymous free online site thing (it may only be for younger users however like up till 18)

Amy Williams www.emotionbh.com I think. It's not exactly that but it's something like that.

I love being apart of this lovely and supportive community! 15 suggestions for free online counselling. Says a lot about us all haha :)

There's an app on the iTunes app store (idk if it's on android, it most likely is though.) called Vent. You talk to other users and they give you advice that can help. <3

7cups is amazing! they have both have professionals and you can either talk by text or by video-your choice. you type in what your symptoms are, and you choose whether you want a professional or user. you also have the option to have two separate accounts at the same time on the same email, one for user and one for listening, so even if you feel like you want to be a listener but you also have some stuff to work out, 7cups is perfect. a listener is a user who is not a professional, but 7cups does run a series of 'tests' and gives guidelines and tips on how to effectively listen even when you've finished the tests. you can only become a listener after you've been qualified to do so.
online counseling aside, they have a 'growth path', community center, and incredibly effective meditation tapes!

as someone who really doesn't have enough money for proper therapy, 7cups really helps, and i hope it helps you too!

Amy Williams you can text the word VOICE to 20121 and you can get someone to talk to you, it may take a while for them to answer because they always have busy lines but when they get ahold of you it's helpful! And if they don't hear back from you in a certain amount of time (I Believe it's 10-15 minutes) they will text back and check on you

In the UK, you can email or call the Samaritans (aimed at adults) or childline (if you're under 18), and there's lots of advice forums like Mind, not sure about actual counselling other than that though

I definitely have to reccommend 7cups. They aren't actual therapists but they get trained to talk to you in a way that helps. Each listener has a profile with their strong points and there's always someone online to talk to. It helped me through so much that I decided to get trained to be a listener and stuff to sort of return the favor of what the site did for me. It's amazing and I think its worth a shot for everyone tbh

Amy Williams yes, there's an organisation called "headspace". If you're in Australia you may have a local branch of it but they can also talk to you online if that's not an option. Also it's less pressure when you're online, you can be more honest about how you feel because there's less of a feeling that you're being judged

Amy Williams if you're under 18 and in the uk on the childline website they have trained counsellors you can talk to anonymously, they won't be able to help as much as actual ones but they are good for unloading your problems on something


I absolutely loved this. Yay for more people talking about mental health. Yay for more people talking about therapy. Yay, just yay.


i went to the doctor about how im feeling and she literally said "you're 19, you're young and pretty you have nothing to be sad about" and pulled up a webpage on PMS and offered to put me on the pill, ive never felt so patronised and i dont wanna go back but idk what to do :(

Omg same mine said i was just stressed and needed to sleep more! Turns out i have depression, anxiety and my stress got so bad my body started like hurting itself lol

I hate when people assume pretty people have no problems, as if appearances are the only thing you could struggle with. There are much bigger and deeper problems in life.

Amy J thank you sm, ive never heard of 7cupsoftea i think ill try it, sounds pretty good. I dont really talk about this stuff so it might be good for me.

Leia gosh im sorry that happened to you, im glad you're getting the help you need now!! I definitely know something is wrong, its gotten to a point where its affecting my physical health so maybe they will finally listen to me haha. Thank you <3

emmarose literally the same thing happened to me when I was 19, doc told me to "grow up" and I didn't try to go back for years. I'm 21 now and finally got the bravery to go back and now I'm on anti depressants and doing counselling and omg I wish I forced my doctor to listen to me all those years ago. If you know something is wrong, force that doctor to listen to you, do not take no for an answer!

maybe ask to see a different doctor - not all are this bad x

Yeah I think I need to shop around, I was hoping to get referred by a doctor because that sort of makes everything quicker, by I think I'll just have to do it on my own! Just sucks when you're a pretty sensitive person haha<br>Thank you :)

Yeah I think I need to shop around, I was hoping to get referred by a doctor because that sort of makes everything quicker, by I think I'll just have to do it on my own! Just sucks when you're a pretty sensitive person haha
Thank you :)

thank you, i think it's more i feel silly going to see somebody now because she made me feel like i was being dramatic :/

Maybe try to book a coin let by yourself, In many of my experiences it takes awhile to get in, but you don't need a doctors note to get into counciling


"do i want to better understand my life" <br>YOU GUYS

"do i want to better understand my life"
YOU GUYS


tessa seems like a reeeally nice person and i love her hair and clothes.


I love vedif because it feels like we're all friends just out for coffee and chatting.☕

Tana Yup well I know what I'm drinking during Vedif today

+Bathroom Jams I'd love to do the same- the audience and Dodie and Tessa are so lovely! ☕☕

Abbey Christine yeah I agree. I adore tessa and dodie but I also adore the community they inspire. I'd love to have coffee with many of their subscribers just as much as them :)

Tana Yup and with a lovely community in the comments

Tana Yup Yaaaasss a<br>It make me feel so happy I just love it so much

Tana Yup Yaaaasss a
It make me feel so happy I just love it so much

Tana Yup this is literally what I feel when I watch Dodie's videos. I feel like we are long time friends and just chatting so it makes me want to make videos responding to her videos or something with the same topic.


This is a tad off topic, but I love just how this video was made. Also, therapy is important.

I definitely wouldn't recommend my school counselor. I went because I was feeling depressed all the time, but then after the second time I went, it started to get a little better - not because of her, I hated her - but because my friends were including me in more things, and as I wasn't as upset anymore, she just said 'Oh, I don't think you'll need to come back anymore'. Well, she was horrible and then my friends started ditching me again and she never really listened properly, so now I don't want to ask for her again, so I am now stuck with doing nothing, as I go to a boarding school so I don't have an amazing relationship with my parents, so I can't ask them to book a doctor's appointment.

Also I would highly um. You know, not recommend school counsellors for some things, but it couldn't hurt to try I suppose.


I am 15 and have had extreme anxiety disorder since I was 5. However we didn't know I had anxiety till just a couple years ago. Last summer I was at a very low point and my parents started getting scared. They didn't know how to help me..my mom asked if I wanted to go to counseling. I said no so many times that she eventually gave up and stopped asking. Looking back on it now..I wonder if it really would have helped..my anxiety  recently has been better in the sense that I don't wake up every day with an attack-however when things like trips or social engagements come up, I suffer with very hard, very intense attacks. Do you think I should take my moms offer and go see someone?

Yes, look into it. If not just to get to know your own head, and the illness in it, a little bit better. Like Tessa mentioned, that's the most important reason, because understanding what is really happening to you is so unbelievably helpful in every way, and will give you the confidence to seek the help that is right for you in the long run.

Rachel Watkins I do think you should seek help because the longer you feel that way the harder it will be to try and get over it. I realize it's already been a little while but it is never too late.

I think you should go see someone because that helps a lot of people, but that's just my opinion, you should do whatever you think will be best for you.


On the thing of telling your parents (my personal experience):

My parents are really busy, and I was incredibly anxious over Christmas. I've always been anxious, but this was the kind of anxious that made me actually ill for weeks. I finally broke in front of both my Mum and Dad the day before school started again. In my head they'd never been the first people I turn to because of being busy with my siblings and work, but they were incredible. They spoke to school to let me leave classes to try to calm down if I needed to and even said that I could have counselling with one of our psychiatrist friends. I though they'd pull some 'anxiety isn't real' 'you're making it up' crap, but they didn't. Shows that even if you don't think talking to them will help, give it a try.


I have been in a psychiatric unit for nearly three weeks now since I tried to end my life. Anyone who is feeling this way, please hang in there. Nothing is worth that. I know it feels like no one can possibly understand but you need to give them the opportunity to try. You have made an impact on this world whether you realise it or not. Depression is a state of complete hopelessness but realise that the mental illness is what's influencing your thoughts. There is hope. You can get better.


I emailed a counselor asking to book a meeting while watching this video. Thank you. At age 27, this marks the first time in my life trying to get professional help.

its been two years since you've posted this so I am here to ask you: how is it going? and im proud of you for trying

Erik Runnakko I hope it goes well for you!


Something that really helped me is to think that if you are not feeling good sometimes that is ok, and to not stress about it. Because if you are not feeling well, most of the time, it just means you are going to feel better eventually! Love you dodie, you really inspire me to create videos and make me smile! <33

"if you are not feeling well, most of the time, it just means you are going to feel better eventually!" I love that :)

About a movie good advice. And I checked out your channel and really love the way you edit your videos!

About a movie so true!! Love your channel btw!


my therapy session yesterday was very difficult..i broke down and kept crying and i couldn't breathe, but she is so lovely and helpful. she's the third one i've seen and she is so easy to talk to. x


I've had a pretty bad experience with therapy. I think it's mostly because I have bad social anxiety and talking to a stranger for an hour definitely did not help that. But I've been on meds for a few months and it's been so so much better. So really therapy is not for everyone and can't fix everyone.

Hi, aren't meds not over the counter for anxiety?

That weird Geek I have anxiety and like social anxiety and I I've talked about it to my mom a bit and just thinking of the process of medicine and therapy skills the living hell out of me which is why I should do it but like I know realistically therapy or whatever would help but it's just uhh I feel like it's would make it worse but I also feel like I'm wrong but idk sorry

people with anxiety should really read this comment because that was my experience too.

While now that you're on meds and feel a lot better a lot of people recommend people with anxiety or something like that go on meds first and see therapist when they are more comfortable talking


I'm actually still in therapy via a program with my school and I love my therapist, she knows how to make me feel like I'm not being annoying or boring or like I'm rambling and she somehow hears like a half hour of rambling about my feelings and  is able to pull out a few minutes of analysis and she always says, "I wonder if..." which makes me feel like I'm not being spoon fed my epiphanies but rather led to them which is nice.


Ya see I tried going to my school counselor about my depression and anxiety, mainly depression, and she talked a lot about anxiety but I left feeling worse about my depression than before so that's dandy

Rebecca Ogden If I could recommend anything just don't go to a school counsellor. At least if you go, do not tell them about self harm or thoughts of suicide because they will call your parents WITHOUT your consent. Found out the hard way, but there is a big loophole in the mental health system where there is a massive misunderstanding that people who self harm are unable to control their actions which puts them at risk, and so the school can legally, even if you beg them, phone home and tell your parents, because the child is 'at risk'. The problem with this is so many parents are misunderstanding or unsupportive, they will shout at their children which will cause them to self harm again and feel even more isolated, or perhaps the parents are the reason they self harmed in the first place, and so telling them puts the child at risk even more.


i tried out therapy once and hated it. this taught me that the councillor  i had wasn't right for me

youre a smart cookie. most people think after one therapy session that it doesnt work for them but like, yes its not therapy its the counselor that either a) doesnt know what theyre doing or b) you just dont trust them for some reason


Went to my first session of therapy today. Had this video on repeat and I felt a lot better about going. Thx dodie for helping me get through this madness.❤


who wore it better: arthur or tessa violet.

anna jade i shouldn't have laughed so hard at this but i did

The real question is where's the difference?


From somebody who's never been in counseling this is very interesting. About the parents perspective on therapy I have to say that my situation is a little different. Ever since I was eleven and suicide started becoming this thing I would wonder about more and more, I've wanted therapy. I cant tell you how many times I've come to the conclusion that therapy would help me but then was talked out of the idea by my mother. She is so convinced that if anything should happen the government can use your therapy against you or what if I should be arrested and they could make the argument that I'm crazy. She needs therapy as well lol. But as a young impressionable kid I really took these concerns to heart and now there's this irrational fear that some unforeseen problem will arise if I try therapy. <br>Now that I'm part of adulthood and I have my own health insurance I'm going to try it out and hopefully it will go well. <3

From somebody who's never been in counseling this is very interesting. About the parents perspective on therapy I have to say that my situation is a little different. Ever since I was eleven and suicide started becoming this thing I would wonder about more and more, I've wanted therapy. I cant tell you how many times I've come to the conclusion that therapy would help me but then was talked out of the idea by my mother. She is so convinced that if anything should happen the government can use your therapy against you or what if I should be arrested and they could make the argument that I'm crazy. She needs therapy as well lol. But as a young impressionable kid I really took these concerns to heart and now there's this irrational fear that some unforeseen problem will arise if I try therapy.
Now that I'm part of adulthood and I have my own health insurance I'm going to try it out and hopefully it will go well. <3


For those who live in Australia (and possibly other countries okay sh) and are currently in school, counselors are pretty much available at a heap of schools and are probably at the school you are currently going to.

I know that my school that I currently go to and the other places I went had counselors readily available for me and the other students, so have a check with your home room/pastoral teachers (if you have them) or any other reliable teachers to see if your school has a guidance counselor. I know mine has a little bit of a wait for booking appointments, but then again this will vary between schools and is absolutely and completely worth it.

Even though it might seem a little taboo to go to counseling to some, its actually really great that there is a place where people can go to open up and find out a little more about themselves and, if you're worried about privacy, counselors will never tell anyone, not even teachers or parents, about what you tell them unless it's completely necessary and unless you give them consent. Don't forget there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of when going to counseling. Counselors are there to help you and listen, so there's no reason to be embarrassed!

Anyway, hopefully this helps the younger viewers here. Make sure you look after yourselves ;D lol

Yeah I'm Australian and my school counsellor is really nice


I've been in therapy since I was about 13 dealing with major depressive episodes, GAD and a panic attack disorder. I've been with the same therapist for 7 years now and even when I'm in a much better place I still want to work on myself, and having someone who knows me so so well and who I'm comfortable which is immensely helpful. I'm a big encourager of therapy, especially since I know howuxh its helped me. I think its important to remember that if you can, stay in therapy. Therapy is not just for crisis moments, but to help prevent complete mental breakdowns from happening. When I was about 15 I stopped seeing my therapist because I was no longer in danger of jumping off a bridge but stopping is what contributed to my first hospitalization. Therapy is expensive, especially in America and the best thing if you can't afford therapy is to know your resources. I'm glad you guys put this video up. Love you both!!


My god, what Tessa said about looking at your friends and going "well I'm not as bad as them so I'm fine" was SO RELATABLE. I have friends with clinical depression, suicidal tendencies, extreme anxiety, anorexia, self-harm, PTSD, dead parents, abusive parents, and so much more, and I'm kinda just sitting in the middle with my little fucked up mind all "I'm fine :)", even when I'm so not.


8 minutes of amazing advice that I don't need myself but will DEFINITELY be storing up for friends


you're both such positve people in this space and i love it


For people in Australia seeking therapy  I would highly recommend Headspace! It's a youth mental health clinic, and you get 10 free sessions on your mental health care plan every year (which doesn't sound like a lot, but I've been going since last July and only just used up my 10 last week.) You don't need a referral from a doctor before going there - first they get you to speak to a youth member who is not a therapist/doctor, then you speak to a doctor at the centre who with then refer you to a counsellor. They're really helpful and the waiting list (at least in my area) isn't too bad (I had to wait about 2 weeks at a time, though at times there were larger gaps)<br>hope this helps :)

For people in Australia seeking therapy  I would highly recommend Headspace! It's a youth mental health clinic, and you get 10 free sessions on your mental health care plan every year (which doesn't sound like a lot, but I've been going since last July and only just used up my 10 last week.) You don't need a referral from a doctor before going there - first they get you to speak to a youth member who is not a therapist/doctor, then you speak to a doctor at the centre who with then refer you to a counsellor. They're really helpful and the waiting list (at least in my area) isn't too bad (I had to wait about 2 weeks at a time, though at times there were larger gaps)
hope this helps :)


Dodie that's such a cute dress!!! You always look so nice!!!


Hey, how do you, like, tell people... things?
I mean, everybody is like, "so I was sad and my parents did something" but, like... how do they know? How do you tell people you are sad? I don't have this ability
I'm not capable of asking for help and it's not even because of pride, I just have no idea how you do it


When I was in highschool I use to go to the school counsellor, during a really rough time, my parents never knew, but it was amazing being able to talk  about how i felt


How do I tell my mother that I need therapy too without making her depression worse?

@Willow Song Thank you. The problem is, that I'm not just <i>part</i> of her support circle, but I'm kinda the only member of that club.

@Willow Song Thank you. The problem is, that I'm not just _part_ of her support circle, but I'm kinda the only member of that club.

Hmm. That's hard. But if you need therapy yourself, and are part of her support circle, it would be a disservice to both of you if you don't get the support YOU need so you can keep supporting HER. Either way, its a hard choice, and people will understand no matter what you do. <3

@Willow Song She was in therapy, isn't anymore. But not because she feels better now, but because she can't go because oft various reasons. So no, she doesn't actually have support herself.

This sounds like your mother is already in therapy? If so, don't worry about her, because she already has support, and it's not your job to sacrifice your mental health for hers. If you're both in therapy, you will probably both be happier. It won't be a fun conversation, but go for it. Be as kind as possible. Because it will be for the best.


I don't think I could have Tessa as my therapist.  I might fall for her too easily.  I try to keep my therapists as "not my type".

Also, I've explicitly told my therapist to tell me what to do.  I'm amazingly good at following directions.  And that's why she said, "I know that.  That's why I won't issue challenges to you.  You'll actually do them no questions asked."

But seriously, mental illness has physical causes.  If it feels like there's a thunderstorm going on in your head, complete with lightning bolts and thunder claps, and while that's happening your mood is tanking severely, THAT IS NOT NORMAL.  That's a serious medical condition.


I'm about to start counseling and this helped assuage my fears so much! thank you for being so open!


When Tessa said "when children go to therapy it makes the parents feel like they've failed on their part" or something like that, I remember my friend who goes to therapy but she's only 10 and her parents talked of mine and my mom told me that my friend's mom said she felt like she failed at helping my friend feel happy. I just started to cry, srry for the long thing.


This video was exactly what I needed. I have been planning on making an appointment for a therapy session for weeks and this video was the push I needed to actually take action. Thank you!!!


Group therapy is actually amazing! I'm in it through my school, and it has helped me so much through so much. It's always a safe space and you get multiple opinions on things or even just a lot of ears listening. I would recommend it to anyone :)


Love how openly you speak about this! So inspiring. I (finally) started psychotherapy this week. Last year was hell for me and although I've recovered a lot I still feel I have a long way to go. I live in Finland so the government pays like 50-80% of the therapy once my application goes through. (If any finnish people here wants to pop a question about this feel free~)


i remember watching this video when i was 16 (i'm currently 19) and i remember being so against counsellors because i had 1 who wasn't necessarily looking at how i could deal with issues but trying out game-like techniques with me instead, when all i wanted to do was talk about things realistically and not make it a game. i finally found someone afterwards who did ask about my own feelings and ways i could deal with things without turning them into small mini games. coming back to this video, what Tessa says is so true; just because one person doesn't work for you, doesn't mean everyone won't, someone IS out there who can provide the help that you want. you just gotta keep searching and you will find them.


Really helpful to calm down my fear about my first session coming up in two weeks! Thank you two! <3


I've recently been debating on going to therapy, this video helped me a lot. Thanks, guys!! Love ya xx


This was so cool to rewatch now that I've been through 6 months of therapy myself.


That was such a great and important video ! I've been going to therapy for a month and it's helping me lots. You two are great <3


I just recently starting going to therapy (and by recently, I mean I've had exactly one session) for anxiety and depression. Your openness about this makes me feel less weird for seeking help, so thank you.


BLESS. I love my therapist and I'm so thankful for his help. I'm so happy you guys are talking so highly about it, because I always tell people that ANYONE can benefit from it.


Thank you for this! I recently started therapy, and I've been so scared to share about it to others because I feared that they would treat me like a freak, which was a stupid thought. This has helped me a ton with being more open about how I feel and what I need.


This came at such a useful time! I've recently seen a counsellor at my university and they want me to decide between 3 different types of therapy but I have no idea which one will help me. I'm the same as Tessa in the fact that I've kept putting therapy off because my friends have always seemed to have bigger issues than me so I've never thought I've needed it although I've been told for years that I do :/


I love the positivity in this video! I've been going to free counseling at my school but once my mom found out I was getting suicidal again she booked me an appointment with a professional psychiatrist and I was so scared to go and feeling like I didn't need it or it wouldn't help and this video made me feel better about going :)


okay but dodie looks so gOOD IN THIS VIDEO

LizzyTheThief I think it's from lazy oaf but I could be mistaken😌

But honestly dodie looks good in every video XD


Thank you so much for this. I'm on a waiting list currently for therapy and before watching this I was so worried about it and whether it would help or whether I really need it but now I feel like I'm really going to benefit from it!


You've encouraged me to look back into therapy. Thank you


I had my first therapy session today. Looking forward to improving my mood and stuff as time goes on, I think this will help me.


I have felt depressed on and off since age 10 (2011) and I started feeling really anxious. In 2014 I went to my GP about it and nothing really happened until last year when my mum thought I had depression and I went to my GP again. They referred me to CAMHS.

Several months later they called me said it was just exam stress and that was that.

Several weeks after that I went to my other doctor told them what happened and they re-referred me to CAMHS. Many months later I actually got to talk to them and they diagnosed me with generalised anxiety, social anxiety and mild depression. However they told me there was no point being put on their waiting list because in less than a year I turn 18. So they referred me to talking therapies and sent their diagnosis over.

A while later I got an appointment with talking therapies where they knew nothing baout me like they never got the information from CAMHS and they acted like a person could only have one type of anxiety? They told me it did not sound like I had social anxiety but I had "panic anxiety".
WTF IS PANIC ANXIETY? ALL anxiety is panicky on some level. Is it not?!
So now I am doing Cognitive Behavioural Therapy online for anxiety and I have no idea what i'm supposed to be doing tbh because you don't really have the opportunity to talk to anyone. I mean every two weeks a person looks at your progress and makes some statements that aren't very helpful. Like they don't really do anything which I don't understand.

I go to Camhs, and tbh for me personally its done me some good, me and my councilor genuinely get along. I dont see her every week, because its busy you know. Maybe I'm just lucky and got a good councilor idk?? But if you find the right person to talk to, then its fine, some people in Camhs do genuinely want to help, then some others just sit there and don't even care tbh

CAMHS is awful. maybe by panic anxiety they actually meant panic disorder? which is a definite form of anxiety based around panic attacks?

Urgh that sucks! Waiting lists are evil but i'm sure you will get the help soon. While you wait you could look for other counselling services in your area by asking your GP or someone and googling if you haven't already.
Before I got an appointment with CAMHS another psychiatrist suggested looking at a place in my area that might have a shorter waiting list but after I got to talk to talking therapies and that I told them I didn't need the help anymore so I wouldn't be in the way in the waiting list.
Honestly I love the idea of the NHS but it is often so frustrating in practice.
Hope you get better soon.

cookietiger I was referred to camhs by my doctor and diagnosed with mild depression and several anxiety disorders. camhs put me on a waiting list for CBT. It was supposed to be three months maximum before I would be seen for treatment but it's now been five and I've still heard nothing.

I'm sorry, that sounds frustrating. :( <br>I'd recommend researching counseling places in your area where you can get direct care/communication. After you turn 18 you're free to go yourself. Shop around, see what kind of counselor is right for you. The administrative system will always be annoying and cold, but I assure you that lots of the actual practitioners are wonderful.

I'm sorry, that sounds frustrating. :(
I'd recommend researching counseling places in your area where you can get direct care/communication. After you turn 18 you're free to go yourself. Shop around, see what kind of counselor is right for you. The administrative system will always be annoying and cold, but I assure you that lots of the actual practitioners are wonderful.


I adore both of you so much. Thank you for everything you speak about and do. I really appreciate both of you


I've been in counselling through my school for the past 5 years and it has honestly helped so much 💖


Thanks for making this video , I'm having CBT at the moment and I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only one having all these thoughts about it 😊 x


This is actually so helpful! On Thursday I (finally) went to see my gp about my mental health after a year and a half of hell. I immediately got put on antidepressants and have to go to therapy and the thought of it terrifies me... I have no idea what to expect or do and I'm scared. But I've taken that first step by talking to someone in the first place so I guess therapy is the best and positive thing even though it is scary :)


I needed this video. Thank you for making this. Cause I’m having the exact same type of situation. But this is one of the reasons why I finally told my family that I was depressed and sucidal and then I got therapy so your one of the reasons why I am a lot better now. So thank you Dodie! 😇💕😊


I'm so glad YouTubers are talking about this, it's so healthy to normalise therapy and just encourage people to get help in a way that isn't patronising 💕 Thank you for being so honest in these vids Dodie 💕


oh my gosh this is something so great to bring attention to !! thanks so much for sharing this & helping normalize/de-stigmatize therapy/counseling.


Thank you lovely ladies for this video. I recently have been considering going to therapy and i booked an appointment for it... I've never been to therapy but i feel like i just need to give it a try since i've been feeling so down and anxious lately. So thank you girls for not making this a taboo topic to talk about <3


Thanks so much. I've recently started counseling and it was hard on my mom. Great video!


I’m starting therapy soon and this video really helped. Thank you so so so much.


This video was wonderful, thank you! After seeing you being brave enough to admit you needed help, so did I (along with a couple other things). My first session was last week and while I am nervous, I am really thankful that I get the chance to make myself better. Thank you for helping me understand how valuable therapy is.


you two are the MOST amazing people on youtube and probably on earth. thank you for posting things and sharing you're thoughts with us!


This video came out just at the right time for me :3 I've been putting off phoning the therapy place my GP referred me to (phoning people is scary) but this has given me the little bit of extra strength I needed to do it so thank you both 💛


This is really helpful as I'm looking into getting therapy soon. Thank you


thank you for this video, I wish more people did videos like this, just talking honestly about therapy and sharing their experience. I love therapy!! everyone should go :)


This was the best time to make this video. I'm starting therapy in a few days and I'm so anxious about it, thanks.


Finally after 3 years I went to find help. One of the best choices I've made for myself. My parents don't know about this and that's okay. I don't want to worry them since I'm already working on it myself. The "failure as a parents"-part in the video is also a good point. I don't live at home anymore, but if you do, it is harder to hide and maybe you should tell them about it.


Thank you so much for opening up about this recently, Dodie ❤ I've struggled with depression for about 4 years now, and I'm about to leave secondary school and also am only just now beginning to realise how much it's affected me. You've encouraged me a whole lot to get help and also made me understand how much of me is the way it is because of my depression. Now I know that I want to get better because I don't want it to screw up university the way it has secondary school. Thank you so much for all of this :) You are an absolute saint, and I'm so happy for your getting better.


I love Tessa, and I love seeing her in Dodie's vids! Dodie you are amazing


i just started going to a therapist for the first time in a year💕💕<br>im still hurting but ill be better soon

i just started going to a therapist for the first time in a year💕💕
im still hurting but ill be better soon


I loved this video so much, thank you for making it. 💟 (I would really enjoy more mental health chats, or even a series on mental health from you two, just throwing that out there - no pressure 💕) have a lovely day! 🌿


I love videos like this, where YouTubers talk about real things in front of the camera. They make me feel like I am more normal than I think. Especially with Dodie, and especially this video. I don't really enjoy my therapy sessions and have been starting to feel like therapy is not my thing, but this video makes me feel like maybe my therapist just isn't right for me.


I'm gonna start therapy really soon, and I gotta hand it to you Dodie. You made me realize that asking for help is okay and I can't thank you enough. ❤


Thank you dodie for being the first person who taught me about my depersonalisation. You've saved my life. I cant thank you enough


dodie you're the reason i'm finally gonna get myself some help i'm finally going to go to therapy because of all the good things you've said about it so thank you for being such a positive influence on my life


i hate therapy, cause i'm always about to cry, but i feel like it'd be awkward if i did, and i feel like i'm not supposed to or not allowed to since i'm a guy, so it sucks.

I'm too anxious during therapy to feel sad

crying is literally your bodies method of releasing chemicals and energy that creates sadness. its your body helping you and making you feel better. don't hold it back.

Jessica Lin thank you so much. i will try.

kaleioli I know this sounds weird but please cry. I am actually asking you to cry in front of your therapist because it is so good for you - it's so healing, and cathartic, and you will feel so authentic towards yourself when you walk out of their office that day. Trust me, you will be in such a better headspace, you will be nicer and more present with other people because you have dealt with your inner demons that day. It is actually responsible to acknowledge whatever's bringing you hurt! I know this all sounds strange but it works - oh GOD it works. If it helps, you don't have to look at your counsellor when you cry - just do what feels right, and remember that it is their job to not judge you.I should note - I am in therapy. So this advice is from personal experience! All the best!

AMaliciousMoose thank you so much for the support and advice, i appreciate it a lot.

I am NOT a crier and I balled my eyes out during my first session. Honestly, I think my therapist was relieved. <br>Psychologists know that gender norms like "men can't cry" are complete bollocks, so I encourage you to sob away if/when you are comfortable. :)

I am NOT a crier and I balled my eyes out during my first session. Honestly, I think my therapist was relieved.
Psychologists know that gender norms like "men can't cry" are complete bollocks, so I encourage you to sob away if/when you are comfortable. :)

Raphael Motta i know, but it can be nerve-racking, ya know? but thank you.

Who ever or whatever made you think you can't cry because you are a guy is so wrong it's not even funny . We all cry , even if it's not with tears coming  down our faces .

Glenda Tan oKAY BUT THAT'S SO TRUE I'M LAUGHING

kaleioli tbh after i watched dodie i realised how gay i am, literally everyone has a crush on dodie

TheSofiify thank you so much, honestly. i appreciate it. i will try.

I get you, I've been the same for years and still struggle with being vulnerable in front of people now. it's probably even worse for you because you're a boy and all that "men don't cry" bullshit is so pressuring.. I can only speak from my experience - it took me a looong time to first cry in front of a counselor (like 2 years?), but once you do and you see that nothing bad happens and they still treat you the same way, it's so relieving. so please don't give up, even if it may take a long time for you to finally feel comfortable around them, it'll happen eventually and it's the key to getting better. have you told them about your struggles with crying in front of them? it's super hard, I know, but when they know the problem they can probably help you overcome it, that's what they're trained for <3

Glenda Tan i had a feeling! haha! hiiii. and of course i watch dodie, she's like the only youtuber i'm straight for. she's gr8.

kale i'm pakapanda on wattpad haha. i didn't know you watch dodie omg

Frances Ivy thank you. and i have had some male therapists before but it kinda felt the same so idk, but thanks for the suggestion.

Glenda Tan you know me? and thank youuu.

Glenda Tan you know me? and thank youuu.

kaleioli cry all you want just because you're a guy doesn't mean you can't cry. Crying isn't a sign of weakness it's just your body saying hey I feel like shit right now so let's conduct water from our eyes you'll also find that crying makes you feel better.  if you bottle it up inside it won't get any better. :)

kaleioli maybe try and find a male therapist, I don't know if that would help you express yourself more. But also don't keep to the stereotypes, I know it's easy for me to say and not so much to do, but if you feel the need to cry then cry.

kale is this you omg

ok but it's okay to cry you know, it's normal!! guys can cry too!!! it doesn't make you any less masculine or whatever. crying should make you feel better, not worse. :)

Councillors have seen a lot worse, trust me.

Rachel Webster Well everyone tries to hold back tears when around random friends/peers/people in general.  Find those who you're comfortable with crying in front of though and their company will give you support and comfort.  It's good to have someone to cry in front of, I wish I had someone for that rn bc the only person who I could do that with is the only person I can't.  Long story that I'll explain if u want me to.

Rachel Webster i do that a lot as well it's so stressful oh my

I am a girl and I even feel insecure and weak when I cry in front of people. I normally try not to cry especially in front of my friends or peers because I know if I start to heavily cry I will not stop till I run out of tears🙃

Amir Palamar thank you, i appreciate the support.

kaleioli Look once you allow yourself to cry in front of those who won't judge you (close friends, not to be stereotypical but girls are generally more open to it) or your therapist who absolutely won't judge you, you realize that guys not being supposed to cry is a bunch of bullshit.  Allow your emotions to come out and you'll feel better, it definitely helps me to not hold it in.

You are allowed to cry. I give you permission. I hope this helps! <3

crying releases toxins and stuff that are good for you and make you feel better. counsellors are use to people crying/getting aggressive/breaking down so they won't judge you and they can help you when they know how you react to things. Good luck with future sessions, let yourself go and try not to think too much about it in your sessions

I get that its hard. Maybe you're judging yourself for crying at all? Something to think about. <3

Willow Song idk, i feel like i'm only allowed to cry when i'm alone or not at all. i try to keep in touch with my emotions, but it's hard when i constantly have the feeling i'm being judged, ya know? but thank you.

My Name's Yours, What's Aimee? thank you! i just feel trapped, ya know? so it can be hard sometimes. thank you though, i appreciate it.

The best guys are the kind who can cry in front of people. Therapists are paid not to judge you, and they have by-far seen worse. Give yourself permission to be vulnerable, and I promise you will feel better in the long run.

They're completely used to and it's kind of what you're supposed to do. Just let out all of your emotions!


I had my first therapy session during a mental assessment and I was crying before I even knew it like she really brought stuff out of me


dodie i love you so much you helped me trough the toughest times of my life and i can never thank you enough  ❤


I just want to thank you both from the bottom of my heart for talking about this and making a video. You are so not alone in this experience! I thought that I was going to therapy because I currently wasn't worth anything and that I wasn't normal and that there was something wrong with me. Lies! Everyone isn't "normal" and everyone could use therapy to learn more about themselves and take care of their mental and emotional health. Also, Celebrate Recovery is amazing! I have a friend who is a leader of one group and it's is good for all the people involved. Her group was centered around body image but there are tons of wonderful groups that are non-judgmental because you're all just there to get better and understand each other.


In the past week, I've realized I've been repressing feelings for six years, had those feelings resurface, become excited about actually sharing those feelings for once in my life, and gotten shot down back into the rabbit hole of the emotions and being silent about it, so I now feel lonelier than I ever have in my entire existence.

So, needless to say, I really needed this video. Thank you.


i love the fact that you did this talk!!! i hear so little from Youtubers about therapy and if they are doing IT. I did myself just started two months ago and this talks  this problems and this struggle about listening to them is very familiar for me <3 love you Doddle and Tessa <3


This was a great video. I think it's very important to take away all of the stigma associated with therapy. It can really help most people.


I love that you made a video on this! I'm currently going through school to become a therapist, so, as you'd guess, I'm a big advocate for therapy! haha Also, a bit off topic, but your hair looks SO GOOD in this video! <3


I'm so glad you guys made this video, I have a friend that can definitely benefit from therapy/counselling but feels like it won't help her. I know she'll watch this video and hopefully it may change her mind <3


I'm starting CBT in the next few weeks, I'm nervous for the first session, but excited to get some help! This video really helps, thanks Dodie and Tessa! I love you guys! Xx


So proud of you Dodie! I went through therapy to help with my anxiety and it was super helpful for me! (P.S where is your really cool dress from) :) x


I really like that you're breaking down the negative connotations around therapy. Thank you 💜


I had counselling in my first years of secondary school, obviously it depends on who you have but I loved it. It was really nice to have someone to talk to that I didn't feel found what I was saying boring, I'd say it helped 💜✌


Aww I loved this video so much! I struggle with my thoughts and feelings a lot, and always got put off of counselling and talking about my issues. However, I began seeing a counselor free of charge through my University Mental Health Centre, and have seen her like 3 times now.
I did feel quite comfortable with her, for numerous reasons, including the fact that she could read right through the fact that I was trying to be polite and not swear in front of her, even though (unfortunately) it is part of my everyday vocabulary! But she has recently gone on maternity leave as she is having a baby, and as happy as I am that she is welcoming a new person into the world, I'm also bummed out because it literally always seems like something good enters my life then gets pulled away just as fast...
I think my issue now is do I return and see another counselor, or do I just do what I've always done and bottle up my emotions inside and pray that I don't explode in a big ball of fists and anger?! Well I think it's pretty obvious as to which option is better, but I am just worried that I will not feel comfortable with this counselor and then have to make excuses not to see them any more because I don't gel well with them.
Any tips on this issue?

Oh also, we are having a puppy-petting-day at my University in a couple of days (this coming Tuesday), and quoting their facebook page on the event: "The day will be in support of Mind, a charity who work to support and improve the lives of people with experience of mental health problems". Just thought I'd mention that as it was something which you spoke of in the video :) :) :)

Also, forgot to add this at the end of this comment; I love Tessa's hair! Have always loved coloured hair but this is just :O !!! Not even sure what colour it is. Like salmon or pastel pink?!!


I've definitely been needing to make an appointment with my college's counseling center but I've been putting it off for months. This both reminded me and convinced me to finally act on it. Thanks to you both!


This video is so helpful oh my goodness thank you for this this gives me more courage to ask my parents to go to a therapist


dodie, oh my god, you have no idea how much I've needed this, I was just thinking about telling my parents last night but I chickened out. you're literally always there when i need you


this was actually an incredibly helpful video :) thank you dodie


This made me realize that I needed go to therapy again. I have yet to start but I'm looking into it. Thank you


I just got out of counseling, and it made me so happy. I feel like I got over something big


6:16 I actually had the complete opposite experience. I had major anxiety when I was little (still do tho but eh) and would get sick every time I went out, and they both realized that and made me go to therapy. I may have been really young (7) but it really did help a lot so if you are afraid to go just do it it can really help even if you feel like you don't need it


I went through 13 therepists, in the end I leaned more on my friends as my form of therapy and found out that I actually bottled it up so much and tried to keep it to myself and  I couldn't unload that on the therapist but I could on my friends that were there for me. And that's also important to know that you can talk to your friends as well as family if you don't get on well to get her with a therapists.


When I decided to go to therapy, I told my parents that I wanna go to seek help for manage stress. That was actually one of the reasons why I wanted to go (not the only one), but also wasn't so awkward when I told them that I wanna go. So maybe is something you can say at first if you don't feel comfortable when you are telling them.


your outfits are the aesthetic I never knew I wanted but now NEED DESPERATELY


i've got my first therapy session this week, so thanks for making this video, it's really calmed my nerves 😊


I love this video so so so so so much, it's so amazing you give attention to mental illnesses


in my experience, i went to school counseling a few times and after a while the counselor told me shes really there for students who cant get therapy and shes more there for students with immediate problems rather than for support. im not sure about the other counsellors as my school, but she made me feel guilty for going so that was it


LOVE that you are starting a conversation about therapy. there is still much to much stigma about it in our society!


Our school councellor has such a lack of empathy

You guys are really makin me think I need to go into High School or Middle School counseling next year. It always infuriated me how some counselors treated some of my friends (driving them towards suicide and self harm in those cases). Just reminding me it's not so rare. Granted, I've gotta get past feeling like I don't know what I'm doing lol

Honestly I feel like my school counselor is amazing ! She is a really great woman , the only problem is , that she is so hard to get to . I have seven periods and two of those are performing arts classes , during my lunch break I can't reach her because she too is on lunch and after school she has meetings . She knows I have issues ( this sounds like I'm complaining I'm not trying to I'm sorry ) I have talked to her before , but our school just never gives us students the time to talk to her :( .

Oh god same -.- the only good thing about going to see her was that she gave me a list of real counselors in my area and I found my first one because of that. I literally talked to that school woman once and she accused me of faking it for attention, she was a nightmare. don't give up though, four years of really good therapy later (and three years out of school) and I've had so amazing and validating experiences with counselors, you'll find the right one eventually <3

I went to my school counselor bc of trouble at home and I didn't know what to do and he just said "I'm not a therapist I can't help you with anything. except bullying maybe" but all of my teachers tell my to go to the counselor with those problems?!

yea thats often what i hear about school counselors. Like in my school (US) you got assigned to a counselor based on the  alphabetical order of your last name. Mine was a douche. And basically their main purpose is to set you up for colleges. I forget why, but there was a few times i had to go to him outside of the whole college schtick. This was also during a time where my parents were requiring i go to a therapist and take pills for the mental illness they (the doctors)had diagnosed me with(depression), so with the local turnover rate, i was well associated with actual therapists...and gawd.. i was not impressed. I think he may have pissed off my mom at some point as well. But then again ive run into a few therapists or just people in the mental health field  that i was not a fan of... or maybe shouldnt have been in the field. And that was a learning process for both me and my mom, only later learning how shitty they were when we met a good one.

Sivolia mine told one of my classmates that he shouldn't listen to rap because it's bad for him and that's why he has anger issues

mine doesn't even talk to me, she just sends me home

damn i'm sorry guys. i feel your pain though, mine was so bad she actually made me feel so much worse about myself rather than better. she also called me transphobic slurs which was obviously just great

Same same same... mine implied I was wasting her time because people have it worse... she also was super dismissive of anything I would say to justify myself

mine told me to bottle up my problems, put them away and focus on my school work lmaoo

this is so true. My friend went to a school counsellor because of home troubles that were leading to anxiety and she basically said that everybody goes through home troubles and that other people have it worse

Sivolia same. I don't even know if mine has a councilor that's not an old woman that'll be like "oh your fine go to class" and even if I did go to her I feel like my friends and peers would treat me differently


How old is Tessa? Love the vlogs!! Thank you for sharing your experiences with us and being so candid ❤


Thanks for helping me be happy in those moments where I felt like shit. When I feel like my friends hate me. When I feel like I just want to cry. When I want to talk to someone who is really, really special to me, but I can't. You're music and you're voice helped me through. So again, thanks. A lot. 💖🌷


My brother literally walked in my room and I was like look Billy it's DODIE and he was like "dude dodies shirt is on fleek status" 😂😂 we are so strange! We love you Dodie!!! 💕


i wrote this today when i was meant to be doing my homework:

dodie makes me happy because-
she's so open and honest and doesn't sugar-coat depression like 'oh i'm a lil depressed but i'm fine'
she writes such deep and meaningful songs that so many people can relate to
but aside from being deep and meaningful she is funny, kind, and she giggles so much - her laughter is so contagious and i love it
she is never embarrassed about having a 'naked face' on youtube
she isn't a show-off like youtubers who are like 'hey look at me i have so many subscribers and i'm hot i never post my ugly naked face on youtube that would be totes gross'
she swears and gets angry and sad like a normal human being and isn't afraid to show it
she isn't embarrased about crying in front of people, unlike me
she is so so so so so inspirational in so many ways, and not many people notice her. some youtubers just need to take a break and be more like doddleoddle. be more open. be less embarrassed and hot-headed. chill out and just relax in videos instead of feeling like they're being forced to film.


I really love your videos :D Been watching Tessa for years now and subscribed to you now as well round of applause

It's very interresting to listen to you both talk about this stuff so openly. Thank you for this :) Keep your head up and be prepared for more comments from me :D

I really love your videos :D Been watching Tessa for years now and subscribed to you now as well *round of applause*

It's very interresting to listen to you both talk about this stuff so openly. Thank you for this :) Keep your head up and be prepared for more comments from me :D


thank you dodie i was considering therapy for some time after a fight with someone i used to call a friend. i thought something was wrong with me, so i just wanted to say thanks cause this video helped me a lot


Ive been going to therapy for the past 9 years, since i was 5, and its amazing, i love it


Ladies, I cannot thank you enough, for this video. I suffer from PTSD, and my experience was similar to Tessa's. It took me many years to realize that I needed therapy. But, just as your experiences differed, so do those of most people. It is VERY IMPORTANT that people understand that. Just because one has a different experience of their condition, it does not mean that they need therapy less than others. Also, the hardest part for many is swallowing their pride, and asking for help. I know that I fought that battle for a very long time. But, there is no shame in seeking understanding from a trained professional, even if you THINK you know what is going on.


Thank you for these little chatty videos. They make me a feel a little more comfortable about my illness. It made me re reflect about when you feel down and hating it. Now I can separate it from myself as the culprit but rather recognise it as signs of illness that I cant control


This was a wonderful wonderful video. Thank you<3


I'm hopefully going to be starting therapy for my confidence issues and I hope it goes well.


Thank you so much for this! I know its just a coincidence but I have hoped you might make a video about it at some point! I have been booked a counselling appointment but I have always been afraid of whether I actually need it or not, and like you mentioned my parents aren't keen but trying to explain it to them I'm afraid they'll get upset or angry or something. xxxx


This video is EXACTLY 9 minutes long...thank you Dodie for the perfect time of a video


I love Dodie's videos because they're so laid back and calm.


Thank you for this video, ladies.
I've been to counselling for grief as well as anxiety/depression and I never find it helpful because I experience what you said Dodie, feeling spaced out during sessions and not really getting anything out of it. I've been on meds for two years and I'm trying to get off them now. This video has inspired me to re-consider counselling as an option for dealing with everything.
Love you both so much x


I went to therapy for a little over 3 months, once a week for my anxiety. My councilor was sooooo nice and I've learned so much about myself 😄😄


therapy was something that has been on my mind a lot recently. I've had all sorts of personal issues with my mind, environment, personality for the half past year, but I always told myself "oh well, you're only exaggerating, other people are at a far worse place than you, you'll be fine!" it's so dumb, I KNOW AHH! my mum had gone to therapy for a year, thanks to HI she didn't have to pay too much, but I'm really anxious about the idea? I already have trust issues and opening up to a complete stranger is such an absurd idea... especially as a minor, who's problems seem insignificant. I suppose I should give it a try, but honestly, I don't think my problems can actually get fixed through talking? It seems so uncomfortable. <br>no, but I'm proud of you girls!

therapy was something that has been on my mind a lot recently. I've had all sorts of personal issues with my mind, environment, personality for the half past year, but I always told myself "oh well, you're only exaggerating, other people are at a far worse place than you, you'll be fine!" it's so dumb, I KNOW AHH! my mum had gone to therapy for a year, thanks to HI she didn't have to pay too much, but I'm really anxious about the idea? I already have trust issues and opening up to a complete stranger is such an absurd idea... especially as a minor, who's problems seem insignificant. I suppose I should give it a try, but honestly, I don't think my problems can actually get fixed through talking? It seems so uncomfortable.
no, but I'm proud of you girls!


Hey! I wanted to tell you that your videos about depression and anxiety are the ones that helped me admit to myself that I had a problem, after years of anxiety and months of being sad all the time I finally took an appointment with a therapist. So thank you for talking so freely about it, I think you helped a ton of people like me. Love and kisses from France <3


I wish I could have a friendship like these two. Been on a sappy/depressed video binge and I just can't help but admire their friendship. Especially since they seem so open with each other and can share that kind of stuff. Hope I can find a friend and a friendship like this.


This is so great. Thank you so much for sharing this.


I just want to thank you, because this is VERY helpful!!


why is Tessa Violet dressed like the Arthur meme


This video helps a lot. Ive been going through a lot of emotions lately and I don't know why. I had a good day to day but the minute I realized I was in a good mood I started asking myself why. I feel like I really really want therapy. Like bad. I want to know if I have a mental illness, I want to know where all my sadness comes from. I feel like therapy will help me figure out a lot of questions. I just feel like I don't need it and that it's unfair that I think I need it when I'm not as bad as Another person who needs it. I also don't want to tell my mom. My mom knows I have some heightened anxiety and she kind of self diagnosed me which is kind of another reason I want to go to therapy cause I want to figure out if the self diagnoses was true. No but anxiety runs in our family but even so it's so hard for me to ask for therapy and I don't know why. Maybe it's cause she'll have to sit in the room with me, or maybe cause I don't want to tell her I feel depressed along with the other feelings. Maybe it's cause I don't want to come to terms with the fact that I might need it or maybe im just scared of what the therapist will say. I don't want him or her to tell me that there's nothing wrong with me and I need to leave and I also don't want him or her to tell me theres tons wrong with me and I need medication. I also don't want to pour all my feelings out. I know it's there job but I always feel like a burden. There is so much keeping me from going. I want help and this vid helped some but maybe someone with the same experience as me can give me some advice?


6:37 "can't hurt to try" (in reference to school counseling) Yes it can. I almost went to a school counselor for something I am going through, but after close examination at the last minute, I realized what I was about to jump into. My school is not a public school and they use a certain specific program for counseling. This program can either work really well for some or make things a lot worse. For me and my situation, it would have made things a lot worse. I know most schools aren't like this and this isn't meant to steer away from school counseling or make you worry. I am just saying that you should check out what you are about to get into. If you do and it seems alright, it probably is and there is no need to worry.


I'm 14 and have anxiety and depression. I've been in therapy since 2nd grade. Its good. People shouldnt judge therapy before they try it.


When I was in elementary school we had a group counseling program for girls.  It was great to be with my friends and be able to talk about the ruff bumps in school and life


tessa, i like how you brought up that you tried celebrate recovery! my church has a CR program and i was asked to sing at an anniversary meeting once; really cool experience being there. everyone seemed more genuine than i had ever seen at my church. 👌🏻 this specific event was definitely more christian oriented but i know that CR may not necessarily be so religious all the time. cool and different experience though!


I'm currently on my 4th mind CBT session and it's really helping, I definitely recommend to anyone in the uk except you have to be 18 to do it


Dodie I literally got into therapy about 3 weeks ago and I felt the same way! I felt too broken as well


After I had watched this video I went to bed feeling so confident and happy and I woke up feeling positive. You need to make more of these videos because they are so calming and make you feel like you aren't alone. Therapy is such a great thing!! I'm in it also and I'm glad you guys are too. You just make me so happy Dodie (and Tessa!) I can't even describe it!


I've been going to therapy for a few months and I love it. But, I'm scared to tell my parents what I talk about with my counselor  because I don't want to worry them.


This video made me cry, and I feel so silly about it, but it's just so sweet and relieving to hear such beautiful people (inside and out) talking about things like this in such a positive way <3


This was very insightful and i hope i get the courage and bravery to start going to therapy at some point this year because of anxiety mostly. But i'm kind of scared of being vulnerable and telling a complete stranger my problems hehe


I was also so totally convinced I couldn't fix my head with talking but I finally started cbt two weeks ago and already feel so much more in control. Makes me feel even more confident to see someone else talking about having the same experience, thanks dodie 💕💕💕


I started therapy around a week ago and I'm actually so excited to continue it


@doddlevloggle after watching this video, i was inspired to talk to my mom about therapy fro my anxiety-something i have struggled with for years but kept hidden. and she said yes! thanks to you i'm gonna be able to work through stuff i have bottled up for years and finally live a happy life. thank you so much. you are such an inspiration


going on like two years with my therapist. she cares. highly recommend.


Thanks so much for taking about and normalising counselling and therapy; it's always a bit awkward to tell people I have a counsellor, but  youtubers talking about it is so comforting, and as an aspiring therapist myself (off to do counselling psychology at uni, if I get my grades!) it brings me hope for the future 💛


I'm so grateful for these videos. I used to think that I wasn't depressed just because I would look at pictures and videos of myself and say "See, look, I'm smiling. I'm laughing and hanging out with friends. I'm obviously not depersonalized or depressed. I don't even look anxious." Then I found your videos where you would be smiling and laughing with friends while talking about mental illness, and I realized that a person can look happy and still be sick. I've started trying harder to reverse my depression now. It can be hard for me to get help because I'm fairly young, I've had therapists hear that I'm depressed, look at me and go "I don't think so." My current therapist is helpful, but I haven't actually used the word depression yet. I rely on your videos a lot to get advice and to remind myself that I need to work on getting better and be patient with myself. You've helped me realize that a lot of things I struggle with that I thought were separate are all interconnected. Thanks so much.


This is such a lovely video and you both look so great in this as well!


Dodie honestly I feel like your channel was introduced to me for a reason literally like a week ago I realized that therapy is probably the only thing I can do at this point and hearing someone who I look up to reaffirm how good it will be for me was all I needed.


Yay! I've been going to therapy for almost six months now but I took a break over my school holidays. I'm pretty anxious and uncomfortable right now so I'm really happy to be seeing my therapist/psychologist again on Tuesday!


Is Tessa wearing dodie yellow or just regular yellow??<br>(asking for a friend)

Is Tessa wearing dodie yellow or just regular yellow??
(asking for a friend)

Ellart ••••••• or also also also not dodie yellow?

urmum She's wearing also also not Dodie yellow.

MissyM i think la la land yellow is more of a bright yellow and dodie yellow is a warmer yellow, if that makes sence

Daniela Urie you're in the phandom you should be used to this kind of stuff

dodie yellow or not dodie yellow

or also not dodie yellow?

itsanni  it's a limited edition zara jumper....

No it's not Dodie yellow, more La La Land yellow

(guys do you know where that jumper is from?)

urmum looks like la la land yellow to me


this was so helpful! i will soon be going to concelling at the school because past councelling FAILED BADLY. THANKS DODIE AND TESSAAAAAAAA <3333


thank you for this vid! I'm struggling with the question of how do I help someone else get counseling - or help them seriously consider it as a possibility


coming back to this because I love you both so much and I've learned so so much from you as artists. So glad that there are two powerful, talented, vulnerable women making amazing music. Ya'll are UNSTOPPABLE.


I've always been like "i want to know what's going on with me! I wanna know what's wrong" and you just solved my problem. Therapy would help me understand more abput myself and how i feel :D i always thought that what i needed was psychology but my friends hate those lol so yay therapy


It's nice to see you talking about seeking help. There's already so much stigma surrounding mental health so it's good that these conversations are being encouraged particularly when you talk about your own experiences. It sets a good example to your audience. No one deserves to suffer in silence. ❤


great video! I was really lucky and managed to find an anxiety class that had funding, the class wasnt the best for me but I got introduced to a trainee therapist while I was there who was brilliant. Just so everyone realises that might be a more affordable option too :) yay for talking it out! ps dodie I love your top xxc


Thank you for using your platform to talk about therapy and mental illnesses positively! It's so reassuring to hear people, who inspire me, talking about things that I can relate to! I highly recommend therapy to everyone, it's such a brilliant way to learn about youself and to normalise the way you feel. Love you loads Dodie and thank you💜💜


I wish I had friends that I can talk heart to heart about things like this. Everyone seems to think the only emotion I have is happy and that I always laugh but I feel really alone.


I'm sitting in the computer room/office at a cemetery (my uncle works here and I live with him, so) eating cereal, watching this and thinking about everything that Dodie has taught me. Thank you Dodie for teaching me so much.


I LOVE TESSA I LOVE THIS I LOVE HER HAIR

do you find that it helps? I've been sick recently and one of the doctors decided to send me to a psychologist because they think part of why i'm sick, is because I'm stressed. I've got group counselling(?) kind of? coming up on the 15th of march/may/can't remember. It's supposed to be focusing on mindfulness, but I'm so so scared for that alone. I might talk to the psychologist about organising some sessions some time, if I work up the nerve :) Thank you so much for your support

I was feeling really down at the beginning of this year, and I was absolutely terrified of going to counseling, but I did. I was lucky because I got paired with a guy who was very helpful to me, so it was a great first impression. But all in all, go for it. It's so scary, but also so worth it. And you've got all of us to support your decision.

also this helps me quite a bit because i think i really do need therapy but i've been scared to go


Can I just say how amazing your hair looks in this Dodie?!?! I just recently got mine cut like yours and I love it!!!!


Honestly this video timing couldn't have been better, I have my first therapy appointment in Monday and I am terrified but this video helped a lot


This video is what inspired me to go to therapy and I'm such a happier person because of it, so cheers lads


I find your videos really helping me in hard situations (basically hard anything)


Thank you so much for all this insight and advice. And thank you for being such beautiful souls. (Also I want to steal both your outfits, but Tessa that sweater is just too beautiful for words.)


I have an interesting relationship with therapy. I went for a few months and it genuinely helped, but I realized it was helping for a reason that wasn't really what therapy is supposed to do. I'm very analytic and logical about who I am and what I'm feeling. I don't know if it's because I'm a writer and I'm used to picking apart people's thought processes, but if I'm feeling something I can always reason with myself and know exactly why I'm feeling it and that I will be fine. I never really needed a therapist to help me understand myself. As it turned out, what I needed was just someone to talk to! My family is supportive, but I could never really talk about everything I needed to with them, and therapy finally gave me that outlet. I then found an internet friend who I poured out my soul to and we've been friends for years. It wasn't until I realized that my therapy sessions were literally just friendly chats that I knew I didn't need to go anymore because I had more or less replaced them with a true friendship. All in all, though, for whatever you need it for, therapy is amazing. 10/10 would recommend :)


I have a therapist I've been seeing for fourish years now, and even though I only see her once a month and have been for the past year, it's good to have that contact in case things get bad again and I need to talk to somebody/need resources.


I've been going to counselling for quite a while now, I tried multiple times but never found one i liked, gave up for a few years and recently tried again and i'm going weekly now and actually like my counselor. It can be draining and scary to talk about your deep dark feelings or whatever but it can be surprisingly helpful x


i've been dealing with an overload of emotions recently until i opened up to a teacher who noticed something was wrong.<br>after i did my story to him, he sent me to the student council and he literally said "i can't help you if YOU don't know what's wrong" and now i have no idea what to do cause my mom is 150% against therapy so i'm lost :(

i've been dealing with an overload of emotions recently until i opened up to a teacher who noticed something was wrong.
after i did my story to him, he sent me to the student council and he literally said "i can't help you if YOU don't know what's wrong" and now i have no idea what to do cause my mom is 150% against therapy so i'm lost :(


Listening to you gals talk about this stuff is my favorite type of video. I've been in counseling for a bit over a year now. I'm doing much better than I was before I started but I know I still have a lot to go. It's a process, and one I don't think ever truly "ends" but evolves. Listening to you talk always rejuvenates my ambition to learn more about myself. Definitely going to check out that book!


love how you talked about therapy and mental illness(how is So important)(more like this pls)!!! love your outfits!!! lOVE YOU BOTH <3333333333


HOW DARE YOU MAKE ME CHOOSE BETWEEN TESSA OR DODIE WITH YOUR UPLOADS AT THE SAME TIME AHHHHHHH

Just A Group Of Friends <br>That's what I thought!

Just A Group Of Friends
That's what I thought!


I'm really glad you guys talked about this because I'm going to therapy soon and I've been quite nervous about it! You guys talking about it really helped relieve some of my stress and fears on it :)


Thank you for the video ❤ I realized lots of my friends love your channel like me and whenever they gave me advice it sounded like what you would say to me 😆😆 if that makes sense :/ anyway thank you for the video ❤


i love seeing that in the uk there are lots of resources and options on counseling! really hope Spain catches up sometime soon. Nice advice on telling parents! It really helped <3


I went to therapy last year and it was pretty good. She helped me with my social problems and mental breakdowns and other stuff , now I'm better but I've considered going again.


I'm currently going to group therapy, it's interesting and I guess it's kinda helpful because other people are dealing with the same thing. I recommend it


I've recently been to my GP about anxiety, depersonalisation and depression and been prescribed medication as well as being referred for talking therapy with Mind.... this video couldn't have come at a better time as I've booked the first session and have been overthinking it so much!! Thank you for helping me sort out my irrational worries lol love u


I went to see my GP in May last year and have only just started seeing someone but feel so lucky that I can see someone who helps so much on the NHS. Just wanted to leave this here incase anyone is feeling disheartened by the waiting list through the NHS, for me it has definitely been worth the nearly 8 month wait.


I'm going to my first counciling session this week and I'm really nervy about it...I'm really bad at expressing my feelings so that's what I'm scared of most. <br>After watching this I feel slightly more at ease ^-^ hopefully I'll find it just as helpful 💙

I'm going to my first counciling session this week and I'm really nervy about it...I'm really bad at expressing my feelings so that's what I'm scared of most.
After watching this I feel slightly more at ease ^-^ hopefully I'll find it just as helpful 💙


My best friend said she was going to therapy in our school and she recommended the same for me and I was having a hard time deciding if I want to go and this video really hoped me so thank you 😊


I've been in therapy for four years because of depression and anxiety :) my therapist honestly saved my life

Also, therapy in Quebec is free so, that's how I can afford it


That whole "don't check yourself" is such good advice. I've been doing that for years and getting really frustrated but been trying not to do it and when i didn't I felt so much better. But I never had a name for it so that's awesome.


I don't cry in my therapy sessions. I laugh. And then I come away from the session and BOOM! DEPRESSION!

I go to counselling at my school and she is the most AMAZING AMAZING lady. She's like my second mum.


my school counselor is very very horrible, when a teacher saw my scars, the counselor called my mom and dad and told them lies. They forced me to tell them that I tried to "overdose" and that I tried to kill myself. they wouldn't let me leave / locked the room until i confessed to something i didn't do.

amaya lobato Did you tell your parents the truth later on?

Michelle Kim thank you so much! ill definitely look into it

amaya lobato That's absolutely awful, and that monster deserves to be fired for pulling a stunt like that.

school counselors are veryveryvery different from actual psychologists or counselors/therapists. Trust me, people who have gone through the proper training and education will know that doing what your school counselor did was FUCKED UP both ethically and in terms of confidentiality. I had a very similar situation with my school counselor and learned the difference when I went to see an actual therapist who was wonderful and understanding and patient and compassionate. And, sure, there may still be some shitty therapists or psychologists, but finding one whos the right fit for you is a journey and, trust me, so so so worth it. So I really hope you don't give up on counseling altogether because of one shitty school counselor. Your well-being is so important and there ARE therapists and counselors and psychologists who know how to help and can help is an impactful way.

Aesthetic Howell // I tried, but she's recognized as a "great counselor" that honestly if I tried, they wouldn't believe me.

Kaylee Touw thank you for understanding.

amaya lobato you should complain to your school about this, so she will get fired.

Not all counselors are like that, I can assure you. That's incredibly disgusting of her, and she sure as heck should have listened to you before talking to your parents. Of course after seeing the scars she pretty much had to say something to your parents because, you know, legal reasons. But ew, awful, I'm so sorry you went through that crap with a bad counselor. I hope that in the future if you do decide to pursue counseling you have better luck, it can be helpful with the right person.

amaya lobato I'm so sorry.....That's absolutely horrible.

Katie Ahronson yeah, i can't trust therapists anymore. kinda sucks because it was my only means of help

Katie Ahronson I couldn't tell you, because I didn't know why either

Mind you, they were scars. Not current cuts.


I love therapy, been to therapy before and it just didn't work for me both times but forth time round I had therapy through work and then carried on with private paid sessions and it's just amazing support and feel I have changed so much and don't want to go back to the way I was!


I've been seeing a therapist every week for the last 2 months and sometimes it does feel like it's not helping at all, but it really does make a difference because I'm finding things about myself that I had no idea at all before :D Still figuring out ways to cope with my depression but I think things are going well. And a part of it is thanks to you Dodie because of the video where you suggested everyone should go to therapy from last year. I didn't want to try therapy at all because I was scared but I'm glad that I listened to you :)


I spent most of my afternoon googling for a therapist and getting a bit discouraged because I'm worried about not finding the right person and wasting my energy/time/money and getting even more down because of it :( Anyway this video came out at a really good time ehehe. I really love Dodie+Tessa chatty videos <3


I am currently on the waiting list for counselling through the NSH and i'm really nervous just because of the long wait until i get it but overall im exited that im going to get the help that i need


I'm trying to be nicer to myself and my therapist has said that it's nice to imagine someone else telling you those things. I hadn't realised but Dodie's the voice in my head!


This year I'm going to talk to my old councillor who is still at my school, when I was in year 7 my problems were far more minuscule  in comparison to now, and when I left I was like "Oh I'm ready to leave now I'm fine!" So I was and still am afraid that I'll disappoint her because I've only gotten worse since but I'm sure she'll help

Yeah hey, future you. Uhm you cancel your therapy appointments because you feel like a burden...sorry :(


Been in and out of counselling and therapy since 2011. 2011 was my breaking point attempted suicide but thankfully I was still in CAMHS so I had free services. After I was past the age limit I had gone into Mind. Yes they are really good at their services (apart from the long ass waiting list). Had 3 different therapists from Mind. Also had a group therapy for self-esteem and confidence (free) through Mind and a thirdparty service.  Most of the homework you got given Dodie is what I've been going through atm :P HOWEVER ONE WEIRD ThinG  I GOTTA TELL YOU ...my new therapist is finishing her High Intensity CBT course at Uni and my sessions are being filmed (with my consent) so she can get feedback and advice from higher ups(and my video may be used for future students) ...WEIRD RIGHT? I feel like I'm being used as an experiment but at the same time I feel like I'm okay with it IDK IM CONFUSED ABOUT MY FEELINGS ohmygash


I recently started going to therapy too 😌

Alexa S that's amazing, just don't give up! I've been in therapy for over three years now and the first two counselors I had I didn't really feel comfortable with. the one I have now though is so great and I love talking to her - just take your time and get used to it and also don't be afraid to say what makes you uncomfortable to try and work it out together, that's what they're there for ^^

Elsie Stech thank you!! So far, I don't love it but I think it's mostly bc I'm still uncomfortable crying in front of someone I don't know but I think it's starting to help!

Alexa S That's amazing! congrats! are you enjoying it?


I went to counselling when I was in primary school for depression, I went to one on one sessions intially and the councillor was nice but I just felt super awkward so i went to group counselling at school once a week and it was so good, I'm 23 now and still reflect on some of the excersises I got taught then. I'm considering talking to my doctor about going to counselling again, while I could deal with flare ups of my depression in the past, I struggle more with anxiety now and I now deal with a chronic rare illness which can be isolating. I remember how rewarding it was back then and i'd love to get that now. This was a lovely chat ladies :) x


I just started therapy/counseling and she told me to do the same thing with the timeline and for people who made me who I am, good/bad. and it's rly helpful. I just feel bad bc my parents are paying so much for weekly sessions. I don't like people spending money on me yet here I am. I have my 2nd session this Saturday and I'm kinda nervous BUT prepared


so I have a few thoughts on that topic and I am happy you made that video! I have been feeling weird on and off for about two years! there are times when I think I should probably see a counselor and other times when I think there are other people who  need it way more. anyway when I first talked to my parents they were totally against the idea of counselling but a few months back (maybe a year after my suggest) they asked me if I wanna go. At first I said no bc I was very surprised but then I decided that I should say yes! when I told my mom she was totally against it again. the problem is I can't go without their approval bc they pay my doctor bills! I also would quite love the support of the people who's opinion and support I value and need to most in life.. so yeah


I've been going to a counselor for about a month for OCD and Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and I can say that it definitely works. I used to stay up until 5 am washing my hands and checking the locks on my house and crying, and I'm so much better now. if you have the opportunity to do counseling, do it. it's literally one of the best things that have ever happened to me.


Why did this video make me feel so much closer to both of you? Like I feel like we're all friends and we're hanging out and having a chat about therapy and I love it


yesterday i asked my parents if i could get therapy and they said yes, so for me progress is being made. :)


My parents dragged me kicking and screaming into counseling years ago. It's one of the best things they've ever done for me.


DODIE I'M OBSESSED SO MUCH MY FRIENDS HATE ME AND CALL YOU DOODIE

OMG SAME I HATE IT WHEN THEY CALL HER DOODIE I GET SO ANNOYED


i start CBT with Mind in 11 days for my extreme social anxiety & mild Depression and I'm shitting bricks tbh.

@Katy Bugg thank you, i am a very open minded person so i will :) I'm glad it helped you! :)

My CBT course helped me sooooo much. Not just with my depression but also with my school work, how I approach different things etc. I learnt more than I was dreaming I could and didn't understand it until this year when I had the first course 5 years ago. Go into it with an open mind and really just let yourself understand what you are there for :) good luck!!

Martha Jane Edwards Thats great :) thank you, i hope it helps me too :)

Mell S Hey! CBT for social anxiety made such a difference for me :) Good luck ❤ x


We are all so proud of you for going to therapy Dodie, you deserve health and happiness and it's ok to need a little help. I love your laugh and those moments when you're truly happy I love it so so much!!! :)


My brother has previously had counselling, so when I told my mum about my mental health she has given me the option to go, however we both know it would take a while to get booked in.


Thanks! You are both so wonderful and amazing. Perhaps someday soon I will have my 501 c on Forbes and I would take you guys on a wonderful world tour of awesome.


Appreciate you girls so much. I'm the opposite kind of parent,Mumma of 4 and I'm all for councelling,I actually keep an eye on wether my children need it,never would think I was failing but just know that I am not fully equipped to help them through the bigger stuff.


I dont know which name would be cuter..
Tessa Clark,
Or Dodie Violet...💛🧡


I love how candid and warm this conversation is. It shouldn't be a rarity to find such normalizing of the topic of therapy, but I understand we need to break down the stigma surrounding it first. I am so glad you shared this with us!


This makes me feel so much better. I have just finished a six week course of counselling, and I felt so awkward about it, because I thought that my case wasn't extreme enough, and telling my mum was so difficult, but you two sharing experiences makes me feel so much better. Hearing people that I look up to discussing mental health, and going to therapy just makes it feel less horrible. Knowing that you were brave enough to go to the doctors was what motivated me to find help in the first place, and this makes it feel like I can treat therapy like a good thing, and feel less ashamed , so I just want to say thank you.


I started therapy about 12 weeks ago and god damn, it was probably one of the best things i've ever decided to do. I had shitty hypnotherapy experiences when i was small and they put a negative light on all therapy. BUT now i recommend it to EVERYONE, and so many of the things you've mentioned in this are things i've experienced ah. I actually scripted a video on therapy this morning so i'll be filming that soon eee, seeing this has made me even more sure that i should film and post the video idea i have. c:


I feel so blessed to have the mom that I do because when I was emitted into the hospital, the doctor recommended me to be an out-patient at the mental health facility at their hospital for a week. I didn't want to do it at all, but my mom talked to me and convinced me that it would be very helpful and it was! I discovered so many new things about myself and that's even where I first learned about depersonalization because there was kid named Tyler who was in my therapy group who had this problem. Even just meeting the other people there and sharing what was wrong with them was good to hear because I could relate to a lot of them. If I hadn't had gone, I would probably be doing a lot worse than I am now especially because the doctors there had prescribed me medication to help with my anxiety and depression that helps really well and they got me with my therapist that I go to now. There are always bad days but the number of those is gradually decreasing thanks to the people I have gotten help from. Even watching Dodie's videos is like really tiny therapy sessions.


i never leave youtube comments but i remember watching your video in summer, realising i had the same thing (well, derealisation) and then crying for hours after watching it and looking it up because i could finally verbalise the weird state i'd been in for months - literally didn't know other people had it/it had a name. i was already in therapy & knew it was something other than just anxiety but couldn't put it into words and i just wanted u to know i was so grateful for that vid because i was so scared & confused before it


You two really talk a lot of sense! I like the change from 'I Need therapy' to 'maybe this could help me'. I know that when I was going through depression, it took me a long time to call it what it was - and lowering the bar, as such, for who could benefit from that kind of help, is one thing that could really help end this whole 'Am I depressed/anxious/etc. ENOUGH for it to count???' thing society's got going on, and encourage people to catch the signs earlier and get better sooner.

p.s. I'm better now. My depression was situational - since leaving Sixth Form, and gaining some distance (time-wise) from the events that led to depression, I'm pretty much back to normal.
p.p.s. Dodie, your dress is goddamn beautiful.


I love my school counselor xD he's helped so much and enjoys talking to me. It has definitely helped a lot. Best part is it's free


I like having action plans, and what Tessa says about how her therapy helps.<br>Edit: I have the codependency too!

I like having action plans, and what Tessa says about how her therapy helps.
Edit: I have the codependency too!


Dodie I really appreciated this, thank you


I recently started counceling at my school and I'm not used to it yet but it feels like it's a good place. it's good to pinpoint where bad feelings start.


I came out with something hard for me and telling my friends that.<br>I can get very violent when i am upset or having a mental breakdown and that has gone up by falling out with a lot of my friends and home issues

I came out with something hard for me and telling my friends that.
I can get very violent when i am upset or having a mental breakdown and that has gone up by falling out with a lot of my friends and home issues


I've been in therapy for months now and it's such a weird feeling, because I always think "I'm too young for this." I'm only 15 years old, my life is good, nothing too bad has happened to me, I'm okay. But also I have to take deep breaths and remind myself that my perception of "okay" is why everyone else decided I needed counseling.


your camera and lighting makes everything feel so warm and lovely


I have had different kinds of therapy on and off since I was 14 and I have never found them to help, however when I was in hospital last year the mental health nurses were fantastic and I found them very easy to talk to and got very comfortable around them even though the therapist I had while there is didn't like and couldn't speak to easily. I think the reason behind this is because the nurses where much younger than any of the therapists I have had and some where student nurses and they took care of me everyday for a few months whereas the therapist only spoke to me twice weekly so I didn't get to bond with them very much.


this video really helped a lot and I'm considering going to therapy


tessa is wearing a nice shade of 'also not dodie yellow'


I had my first therapy appointment when I was fourteen, and I was soooo guilty going in it. Now let me explain: I was going thro alot at that time but I had friends who have tried killing themselves, had abusive parents, drug use. My problems seemed so insignificant to theirs, so i felt like i wasnt "worthy." But I realized that your problems, sadness, and depressed isnt weighed by pounds but by how heavy your heart it. Dont invalidate your problems. Well theres my little inspiration comment, that no one is gonna read oh well lol.


I am so glad that you've posted this so recently because I am in the process of getting a therapist myself and am also scared that it might not help or will make things worse, but then again that's the anxiety talking. It's mainly the fear that I have lived so long with anxiety by myself or just simply sharing with people who can't really relate like my mum or my boyfriend, that I cannot imagine living without it. Its like, mental illness is a trap that just grabs hold of you and makes you feel like you need it. It makes you scared that fixing it means...losing it. Then I'm scared again that I won't fix it. Anxiety is literally a vicious cycle of just repetitive overthinking that just leads you into a downward spiral of just fear and terror. So, again I am so happy that you have posted this because it was around the time that you did that I finally asked my mum about therapy and she was really supportive and it was really great. She went straight to the computer and helped me find someone in our area right away. Thanks for posting stuff about this. It makes me feel normal and understood.


I used to watch Tessa's youtube channel all the time years ago when she was called Meekakitty and seeing her with you (my new favorite youtuber) makes me feel so happy because i had no idea you two were friends


I love your Doddleoddle videos but doddlevloggle videos are so intimate and nice and sweet and beautiful. I feel like I'm sitting down with a cup of tea and just being able to listen without having to talk. Honestly, thank you.