Hey guys! I just wanted to share whats going on with me and maybe you guys can learn, idk. So last year i got involved in a super unhealthy relationship with a boy. But before we were romantic we were really really close friends. He was my best friend. Long story short he was my everything one day and the next he dropped me. Like i was nothing. Like we never met. This hurt more than anything I've ever felt. And my friends at the time couldn't have cared less. None of them bothered to help me even though i was drowning. This year when school started i cut ties with them and met some of the most amazing people. I have an amazing boyfriend now. He was and is huge a huge part of letting go. It only took 4 months to get over the romantic break. I'm still trying to get over the friendship break. I think that hurt the most. And of course I'm sure it will always hurt to be treated like a stranger by him. But when so many other people are always there for me it makes it all better. Its not an open wound just a bruise that will fade.


wowowow i wish youd made this vid months ago when i cut out my ex bff (also ex gf) from my life completely.. she made me feel bad about myself and she pressured me into missing a band rehearsal (which was the first sign that made me realise she wasnt good for me).... i had been wanting to do it for almost a year and im glad i did.. our moms were bffs and so were our sisters so my mom and sister would constantly tell me to be friends with her again and they told me that she didnt make me depressed (but how do they know? they arent me and they dont know emily as well as i did, they dont know..) she only comes up in conversation every once and a while now but it used to be all the time.... im just glad i did bc i started hanging our with my two best friends now Raymond and Logan.. i definitely dont regret leaving her.... writing this was rlly therapeutic even though its probably all over the place and doesnt make much sense.. thx for reading if you did.


Dodie your intertwined single on Spotify is on the viral 50 in Canada I am so proud


Thanks. This is helping a lot. I hope it gets better because it hurts a lot.


Not like anyone is gonna read this but nvm lol - I watched this when you first uploaded and I was in a relationship where I really wasn't happy with a certain trait of him (let's say) and all my friends were saying it wasn't healthy so I thought I could be strong and ending the relationship would be the right thing. I broke up with him last night and I've honestly never felt so sad in my entire life and I just want to be with him now😭 i feel extremely guilty about it all too as he was begging me not to end it. if this is what is meant to be, it will be okay in the end, right?😔


Am I the only one that cried more when she said " if you're crying right now, keep crying" I think I need to man up lol


What if my toxic relationship is with a girl that I do sports with and who is in my class and I see almost every day?


What if I did all that except for the talk? I've already done it all, but they refused to talk to me at all, and now I'm just thinking about it constantly with so many things left unsaid. Unfollowing and turning to my better friends helped a lot, but even after months, I cannot stop thinking about the things I've been wanting to say.


can someone maybe give me some advice from the other perspective? just last week one of my best friends of like 2+ years cut me off completely because i'm "too negative for her" (regarding mental health stuff), she "doesnt like talking to me anymore" and i know from previous conversations that her girlfriend is "jealous of me" and thinks i'm "competition for her attention", so i feel like that could've played a part in it too. we talked every single day non stop pretty much and used to call and skype all the time (she was an internet friend). i want to pretend i don't care about what she did but i'm just so hurt by it, yet i know that if she messaged me again now saying sorry i'd forgive her in a heart beat. does anyone have any advice on what i can do?


i started highschool this year and i feel like a friend i was really close to the past 2 years isnt really a real friend anymore. ive always felt like i was never their "#1" as a friend but i know for sure this year im definitely not and am at no stance to be one. they have been starting to get boyfriends and that is all they had talked about till we just stopped talking. they also made a bunch of new friends and i tried to sit near them but they wouldnt talk to me muchr only the newer. i messeged them on about 2-3 diff social media at different times but no response. that was a couple months ago. they were my only close friend but as i look back, it didnt seem like they cared much for me at all. i have really no friends or at least close ones at this point in my life and it hurts. dont think id be able to comepletely break ties or communicate irl considering we have 2 academies together and this year they sit in front of me in 1st period. sorry i know no one cares just need to vent...


dodie it's been so long and i'm still not over it. i'm scared i never will be


What about knowing when to stop? Or knowing when you'll need to cut your ties? How do you know the limit?


Could you do another favorites video soon? Like maybe holiday related?


i just ended my 9 month relationship as i just am not happy with this person anymore. call me selfish or whatever but my morals are " the only person that will be in your life forever is you, so look after yourself and do what you think will make you happy"  but it was a 1 side break up as she didn't want to and thought we were perfect. <br>hearing her beg and cry, knowing she's most probably crying her self to sleep. makes me feel like shit. i know it's harder for her and she's got it worse but i feel like a fucking monster :/

i just ended my 9 month relationship as i just am not happy with this person anymore. call me selfish or whatever but my morals are " the only person that will be in your life forever is you, so look after yourself and do what you think will make you happy"  but it was a 1 side break up as she didn't want to and thought we were perfect.
hearing her beg and cry, knowing she's most probably crying her self to sleep. makes me feel like shit. i know it's harder for her and she's got it worse but i feel like a fucking monster :/


(Ik this video is a few days old but lemme just spill) so I have a crush on this girl. no big deal. but she's my friend. one of my best friends. and I love her so much, she's so beautiful and talented. I don't want to not embrace the love I feel for her or not embrace the gay or whatever.. but it's hard because she "doesn't swing that way" and whenever the topic of liking a girl comes up, she "doesn't swing that way". and because we're really good friends, she's a sarcastic twat sometimes and really does make me feel somewhat worse about myself. but at the same time she helps me through those problems ? and knowing she "doesn't swing that way" (literally, she's gotta change her vocabulary) hurts because no matter if I like her or not or… whatever happens. me telling her I fancy her or-- if anything happens; she will not like me back like i like her. and it sucks. but I can't keep myself isolated from her because she's still a big part of my life…? idk idk idk, issues :,) wonderful video though, dodie. important topic that should be spoken about more :3


i got out of an incredibly manipulative relationship. this person convinced me they're more worthy of pity. they're more worthy off all the attention. they shrugged off the abusive family situation i was in at the time. they made me feel so small, insignificant, and even ignored me when i needed someone the most.

this person broke up with me the day i had to bury a dear family member of mine. they found another person 4 days later. 4 days to forget me and months spent together. they broke up with me saying, "I only fell in love with the attention you gave me. I never fell in love or really loved you. Goodbye."

i've tried killing myself due to this person. but your video is helping me process all this. you're really helping me get through all this. taking your advice right now and deleting him off social media.

i'll be okay. eventually. i just need myself to be happy.


I can't. I really, really, really can't. What about when you're this person's only healthy friend? I am the only person they know who isn't a toxic person. Even if they're toxic themselves, how could I do that to them? It's just- that's abandoning them to be lost. It's hurting me terribly, draining me, suppressing me, but it would kill them.


What if it's been a few years but the cutting ties was messy and I feel like I need closure? Do you/anyone have any advice for that sort of situation? Cause bleh.


One of my close friends has been so bad to me lately, dismissing me as a person, the things I've liked to do and the things I've always done. She's done and called me terrible things and even told me she doesn't feel any remorse at all. She doesn't know I don't want to be friends because i don't want to let her know she gets to me. She still thinks we're friends but I don't think we can be after how she's treated me. The worst part is that the only times she talks to me nicely or at all these days is when she isn't on good terms with the few friends she has left, treats me like a shitty plan b. She's a completely different person to the one I thought I knew. I needed this so much today. Thank you ❤


Iam new to this fandom but boy i flipping love it


A couple of months ago I met this boy over the internet and we both liked each other but now I have different feelings and I want to tell him really badly but I don't want to hurt him! I don't know what to do (I'm only 13 and he is 16)


thanks dodes, i really needed this this week :') <br><3 u

thanks dodes, i really needed this this week :')
<3 u


this has really helped me, but what if the person you are trying to get rid of is friends with your amazing friends? what do you do when your bestfriend posts photos with the person you are trying to cut off?


This person refuses to talk about it. I might write him a letter of some sort. I took down all of our photos, the things he gave me, the wine bottle we shared once, everything that immediately reminded me of him. I just spent hours talking with my other friend who already cut him out a while ago. She Skyped me while I packed everything. I'll be okay. Of course I will.


well, I doubt Dodie will see this, so maybe someone else can help me out? what do you do when you start to lose interest in someone but they haven't in you?<br>recently, one of my friends who I've been close with since kindergarten just kind of stopped talking to me, until recently and she just kind of walked back into my life and I don't really want to be her friend anymore, and I told her that, but it hurt her a lot and I feel really guilty. I don't hate her or dislike her, I just lost interest and I'm not sure if I did the right thing or not. can someone help? or offer me some advice?

well, I doubt Dodie will see this, so maybe someone else can help me out? what do you do when you start to lose interest in someone but they haven't in you?
recently, one of my friends who I've been close with since kindergarten just kind of stopped talking to me, until recently and she just kind of walked back into my life and I don't really want to be her friend anymore, and I told her that, but it hurt her a lot and I feel really guilty. I don't hate her or dislike her, I just lost interest and I'm not sure if I did the right thing or not. can someone help? or offer me some advice?


This is a video from me to me. I need to get away from myself


I need to get over my ex boyfriend, with which I can't stay friends anymore. There is too much pain in between us. Problem is, we are colleagues and we sit few steps next to each other in the office, which means I see him everyday and try to see if he has already new girlfriend. It's torturing me, but I love this job, I can't get another office and I don't know what to do.


I've had to cut ties so many times:(  it makes you wonder if it's you that's the problem


Never have I watched a video that I needed so much


Hi Dodie can you please make a "how to start playing ukulele" tutorial? your my idol and id love to learn but I dont know where to start or how to tune a ukulele


tbh, this video is part of my morning routine.


i really fucking needed this. thank you.


I watched this after it was posted, and it didn't apply. and now it does. and it sucks. but thank you for this. you are a gem


i really needed this. i need to cut ties with a guy i used to like and i need to do this for myself. he used to be so nice and amazing and a wonderful person to be around. but, now thats he's moved to a different school, he's a huge stoner and smoker. i don't need someone like that in my life. not now. but, i'm still in love with the old him. not the person he is now. i need to process the reason and i need to convince myself that he is toxic to me.


My best friend left me for someone else and now I'm just a third wheel. I don't have many friends to talk about it to and I don't know what to do. I've been thinking about this problem for months but I don't know what to do :_(


this help me cut off my best friend. thank you so much oh man


you need to do a vloggle on "secret for the mad" you need to


When you first uploaded this I watched it because hey its dodie she's great not knowing it would be very relevant only two weeks later :(


i broke up w a friend today because they were toxic and mean . irdc about them anymore and ik it sounds harsh but if youre the one cutting ties you have to tough but fair x stay strong xx


he is my first love... I love him more than anyone and anything, I'd kill, die, live, do it all for him. The thing is: he has a girlfriend. I cry more than I should about it, and absolutely can't get over him. I keep craving and it is probably annoying him how much I tell him that I'm in love with him. I just feel so unimportant and not enough. I wish for him more than I wish to live, someone help me.


What if you're a guy, and equally close, but not really good at emotions?


I wish I saw this a week ago when it came out and I was really depressed


I just had this happen and the person won't even talk to me so I'm just telling her that I need to have a break from our friendship. But I'm not sure if it's still a friendship and I criED


What if you don't have any friends? And the person has new friends and your left alone and you used to have a crush on the person but you just realised? And you have to see them everyday in school...


i'm sorry to be negative, because i do appreciate this video and i find it helpful, but... what if i don't have any other friends to rely on in this process?


How do I cut ties with someone who I go to class with?


I delt with this am dealing with this tried to cut off from a best freind who had been there my whole life but became sort of toxic to me it wasent anything she did or said she meant well i know that but people grown up and change and just being around her diddent make me happy anymore and it broke my heart but i still see her sometimes now we are not so close anymore its not the same and it still hurs sometimes but there are other people in the world. It took me forever to take that step of im sorry but i cant do this anymore its weird how a breaking up of a freidship can be even more complecated that a romatic relationship sometimes in retrospect i wish i done it soon would of got the pain over and done with trust you got dont lets the other person convise you your being rediculous only you know you


Dodie, do you like Jon? 'Cause I think that Jon have a crush on you :D


How can I do that if the person i need to cut ties with is a close physical life friend who I'm with daily (we are in the same class in school and our seats are next to each other) and is obsessed with me???


Not quite ready for this yet but hot dang am I going to be glad this exists when I am ready


i need a dodie-friend please (don't we all though seriously)


everyone going through this listen to Heal Over by KT Tunstall - sooo good for a little cry and very relevant


how about cutting ties with a family member? Like a brother...


Youtube unsubscribed me from his channel. How dare they. Lol


how do you come out to a strict Catholic Family that your bi


hi dodie. i have this friend, best friend actually. but she is very two-faced. she doesn't treat me well all the time and she doesn't know when to keep quiet. she tells me im really nerdy and that there's a reason i have no friends. she told me that im lucky to be friends with her. but she does a lot for me and she is also very nice to me sometimes. i always get close to cutting ties with her. and when i do ignore her and drop hints she just come back to me, but then she goes back to treating me badly. and we're both very dependent on each other. over 2016 she has started to bully people and treat them in the cruelest way that i have ever seen someone treat another. im trying to cut ties with her, but she wants to stay in touch with me as we are going to different high schools. im young and stupid and don't know what to do. if im not capable of keeping my depression and anxiety in one little compact box, i don't feel capable enough to cut ties.


but I don't have a lot of people to make me feel better I literally have no one


Funny how this video on how to cut ties has so many jumpcuts...


my best friend in the whole world is becoming toxic. she only talks to me when it's convenient for her/ when her new friends aren't hanging out with her. whenever I try to talk to her when she's around these people she gets angry and she never listens to my problems but manipulates me into talking about her problems instead... she's always reaching for popularity and boys to like her but I'm not really into those kinds of things so she just kinda left me behind which sucks. like I said before, she talks to me on the rare occasion but it's really hard cuz we have a bunch of the same classes and in some of those classes she's the only one I know and I'm gonna try to talk to her so thank you Dodie for this video❤


i'm back here after i'm not sure how long since i liked this video maybe 2-3 years ago idk it's it's been an effing long while alright mate


fuck I trusted her and told her almost all my secrets but I think it's her plan to fuck with my head and if it's not I'm so confused


What if the people you need to cut ties with are your only friends...


I want to stop loving a boy but he has to sit next to me in 6 classes an is in every single class of mine except for one elective and he is the brother of my best friend and even she doesn't know i like him I never thought about him this way until this year I don't know why and this is all so confusing I wish this was all so easier please help


If you've been using drugs and alcohol for a while. When.you quit you are gonna drop at least 80 percent of the people you know like flies.


I thought it scarred over but I’ve started to talk to them again and it’s opened again


Well I tried unfollowing them but they did that for me....... by blocking me.


me trying to get over a character death like


Heyyy I’ve seen this girl sing with John cozart


i have a toxic friend that i need to get rid of help me mother


This showed up in my reccomendation at a perfect time o.o


I have personal experience with this. Not a lot of people talk about cutting ties because you and that person are both toxic for each other. That's ok too. You can do that. If you come to that realization, then do those things dodie mentioned and add apologizing. Let that person know that you are trying to better both of your lives. Let them know that you know that you fucked up. It's human. You're human. No one's perfect. You got this.


Kinda sucks when you don't have good friends lollllllll 🙃 I hate my life


THank u.. Shit sucks but feels like a load off shoulders


Thanks, Dodie, I really needed this. I few months ago my ex broke up with me and I'm still dealing with getting over him. It's really hard to stop talking and seeing someone that you love, but if there is something that I know from experience is that with time it gets better, patience is key. Thanks again for your wonderful and encouraging words, I love you!


I needed this so much right now! You always have the most perfect timing, I love you dodie! <3


Thank you so much for this video Dodie, I've recently left my partner and this has really helped me get through 😃


I didn't even know how much I needed this after being alone and going through this exact incident. I'm still not over it, and I know that the other person isn't either, which makes it harder because I still want them to be happy. Thank you so much, Dodie, you mean more to me than you will ever know.


Thank you for this video Dodie, it really helped me process and decide what I need to do ❤


I'm not really good with words but I can tell you that I needed this so much, I am just really beyond thankful for you Dodie. Hope you have a nice day! 💖✨


Awesome vid Dodie :) As somebody who's in the 'healing phase' rn, from a 2yr relationship that broke when he just left me for another girl, and left me without closure or a chance, All the things she's saying is true. It's been a couple months since that happened, and I have done all the things she's mentioned, and I'm delighted to say I'm not that much of a wreck than I used to be :) I'm still getting there, but I have hope in myself and my future. Thanks for the confirmation Dodie


i was recently cut off completely from a group of my best friends over unfair circumstances in the cruelest of ways & it's been extremely hard to deal with. I really needed this video at this point in my life right now, you have no idea. so thank you dodie, you've made me start to believe that eventually i will be okay again. much love. xx


I wonder how different my life would be if I'd seen this video when I needed it. Absolutely perfect advice, thank you!


Dodie... you had no idea how important this was to me today. Literally last night I had to be reminded of this certain tie I am cutting and I am proud to say I got through it. There have been rough times today, and I'll be honest and say it has not been easy, but this video truly helped me out. You're just the besssssst and I could listen to you telling that 'it'll be okay' all day. <3


I'm going through the hardest breakup of my life right now and this video came at such good timing, thank you Dodie <3


This video was so wonderful. I'm going through this and it's really hard, it hurts a lot; but this is really good advice and has helped me want to move on. Also, as cliché as it sounds, it reminded me of two quotes from Adiós by Gustavo Cerati:
from this pain, there will be a new tomorrow ("del mismo dolor vendrá un nuevo amanecer")
saying goodbye is to grow ("poder decir adiós es crecer")
basically, the pain we suffer today is temporary, as we are passing onto something different. So we've got to make some sacrifices, and if that means suffering from cutting ties with someone who we love but who is hurting us, we have to know that that is going to help us grow and get over hard times in our lives, like closing a chapter and starting a new one. As soon as we get over what's making us suffer, there will be a new tomorrow.
(so cliché lol)


I needed this video about a year ago. Hearing you say "it will be ok" hit me SO hard and when you said to cry, I then realized, I was already crying


i really really needed this, thank you so much dodie. im going through my first heartbreak and christ its not easy, but this made me feel better. thank you <3


I wish I had someone to tell me this  a year ago...I had to cut ties with 7 people who I thought were friends.. But even now it still aces somewhere to remember what they did and it's nice to hear and be reminded of what doddie said in this video...thank u doddie and a piece of advice I would give to someone that has to cut ties is that you've got to be strong for yourself cause no can make this decision but you and for once in your life listen to your gut and listen well because it is speaking in the back of your brain what you really really want deep down for yourself(sorry if all this sounded a bit creepy I'm not to good with words but I hope it made some sense to someone) work hard, move on, it will get better and thank you doddie, thank you😊


As someone who's gone through this, but not recently, you could've read my mind. This is solid advice and 100% true, so thank you, Dodie. Iwish i had this years ago. =)


It's like the video was made for me.<br>I wasn't crying, and I was trying to forget which is where I messed up. So right now I've been crying a lot and hopefully that sort of gets things out of my system. Thank you for this video Dodie ❤

It's like the video was made for me.
I wasn't crying, and I was trying to forget which is where I messed up. So right now I've been crying a lot and hopefully that sort of gets things out of my system. Thank you for this video Dodie ❤


I can relate do much to what you just said. A month ago I cut ties with my old friend who I wasn't happy with and know I have new friends and I'm so much happier. You just gave the perfect advise and I wish someone would have told me this some time ago.<br>I love your vids so much.

I can relate do much to what you just said. A month ago I cut ties with my old friend who I wasn't happy with and know I have new friends and I'm so much happier. You just gave the perfect advise and I wish someone would have told me this some time ago.
I love your vids so much.


Dodie this video helped me so much, thank you so much for talking about this. I know what you mean by it hurting, I recently lost a friend who meant so much to me and it hurt so much, we ended so abruptly and I still don't feel I've had closure. Though I did end up moving school because of it :( But this has really helped me Thank you so much Grace xx


Seeing that you might be very busy and all I know you might never read this, but I want to thank you for being who you are and for doing what you do. I started watching about a year ago when my whole world was destroyed and I lost everyone I loved and everything I had including  my home. I locked myself in a room and started watching your videos and also Evan's.  I didn't have anything else but I had that. It didn't make me feel happy right away as that was impossible after loosing so much, but it helped numb the pain to see you go through your life. But now a year in, I still am hurting alot, but you were there to help me through the worst parts, the darkest parts, even if you don't know it. I might not be here today if it weren't for things like that. So Thank you for everything. Thank you for being you.


This means a lot for me so thank you. I went through a cycle of breaking up with my ex and dropping things and then getting back together and i eventually did it properly and dropped contact and explained to her through a letter and to be honest i did it in a horrible way and i never really let myself hurt from it because i did and do still see myself as the bad guy in this situation but there was a reason i did it and i should remember that. and now it's been about 7 months since i started dropping contact and a couple months since we last had a conversation and now i have let myself hurt over it and now i don't feel angry really. now i can see that it was a thing that happened in my life and i can move forward from it. I like that this video will help other people cut ties quicker and less harsh than i did. well done dodie u did good


This could not have come at a better time! Thank you Dodie, you are an absolute angel :')


I actually needed this. Thank you Dodie 💜


i absolutely love you dodie. thank you for all you do.


I really wish this video existed back in 2014 when I went through this myself. I love you, dodie.


This is great. I had 2 seriously toxic 'friends' who I've ditched in the last year. They were dragging me down and I felt like crap. One I just deleted from social media, and the other I texted with a massive explanation of why I needed to cut it off. I'm so much happier now - I've got less friends but I trust them all wholeheartedly and I'm meeting awesome new people.


you make me feel all the feels dodie <3 ilysm


I went through something like this last year. All of these tips really help. It used to hurt a lot, a lot of the time but now it only hurts sometimes. I haven't talked to the person in almost a year (except for wishing them a happy birthday) and I feel so much better


I need to remember to do some of these steps... Thanks for making this video Dodie <3


I lost my best friend (of 6 years) three years ago. My life felt like it had gone down a downward spiral, but looking back on it now I'm proud that I've finally moved on. Thinking about all those nights where I'd just break down and cry is really upsetting, yet I know it made me stronger as a person and was for the best. It was unfortunate circumstances but I'm glad I've gotten over it.


I just had someone I really care about tell me that he never wants to be friends with me again after telling me my anxiety wasn't normal and saying we were never really friends to begin with and as someone who has never learned how to let go of people-even when they have hurt me- I've been dealing with it horribly. I really needed this video, and I'm sure many others do too. To see so many other people going through the same thing is empowering because we can see we're not alone. Thank you for making this video, you are lovely beyond words.


This is exactly what I needed, Thank you Dodie <3333


Definitely agree with everything you say in this video, especially about talking it out if you can. I skipped that part  in cutting someone out of my life and because of that I didn't get closure. That makes it really easy to start thinking "what if" and that is frustrating because you don't talk to them anymore. There's a lot I still want to tell the person in question but I can't and that sucks because it prevents me from moving on


Dodie. This video is the sweetest most adorable thing ever. I've been going through this pain for a year now..But you're right, it does feel like a scab by now...I wont yet say scar, because I know if i peel or dig at it, I will start to bleed again. Thankyou for this video. You're an absolute sweetheart! Much love, from Pakistan :)


This is perfect timing thank you. I am trying to decide whether to cut ties with a person and this is perfect timing thank you. This helps a lot!


your videos always seem like talking to a very close friend. i appreciate you very much, dodie. have a lovely lovely lovely day.


I recently cut ties with someone who I'd been friends with for 7 1/2 years. She never cared about the friendship, always lowkey bullying me, only ever coming to me when her circle of really salty friends got boring, wanting her way all the time. It was so toxic for me but I clung on because she was familiar and consistent, someone who I'd known since I was a young child. It was very difficult for me emotionally at first, but this was a few months ago and I feel so much better now. <br>All I can say is, If you're going through something like this, follow Dodie's advice. It's pretty spot on.

I recently cut ties with someone who I'd been friends with for 7 1/2 years. She never cared about the friendship, always lowkey bullying me, only ever coming to me when her circle of really salty friends got boring, wanting her way all the time. It was so toxic for me but I clung on because she was familiar and consistent, someone who I'd known since I was a young child. It was very difficult for me emotionally at first, but this was a few months ago and I feel so much better now.
All I can say is, If you're going through something like this, follow Dodie's advice. It's pretty spot on.


I love all of your videos. Keep going they are all so good. Can't get enough


Makes me sad you posted this, as I know he watches your videos too. I know hearing it from you will help him move on. You're too in sync, Dodie. Love you <3


I needed this to get me through a traumatic breakup, thank you so much


This is perfect. I wish I had this a couple of months ago...Listen to Dodie, guys, she speaks the truth!


Ooh this was a slap in the face to watch, a good kind of slap though like a wake up call. I recently cut ties with a friend, she blocked me on twitter, but never got rid of me on any other social media, and every once in a while, I get curios and peruse her Instagram. I realize now that that's not a healthy thing for me to do. Thank you, Dodie. This honestly helped a lot. And yes, I was crying by the end, and even though I sort of hate myself for it, the tears needed to come because I haven't let them. Thanks once again. I'm gonna be alright :)


I loved this so much! Please do more! Love u <3


I'M IMPLODING THANK YOU SO MUCH YOU ARE REALLY SO AMAZING THIS IS WHY I LOVE YOU DODIE


I just broke up with my boyfriend last night, and this is EXACTLY what I needed to hear. Thank you so so much <3


I just broke up with my boyfriend last week, so your video is what I need right now. Thank you so much Dodie, I know what I will have to do, now!


This is great, one thing I would add, is that if you are going to cut ties with someone for the specific reason that they have hurt you is to remain as kind as you can to them while you are saying your piece and cutting them off, you don't want to be too bitter and cruel because that just makes for more bad memories. You can still put a person in their place with out being straight up mean.Its classier this way.


it's funny how the universe works. i watched your video yesterday and thought: ok, I am happy I don't need this type of advise at the moment, but I'll watch it anyway because Dodie always has a point and maybe I can get sth out of it. well, today I got bad news, about someone I've been thinking about. we had gone on a couple of dates, but they didn't seem very affectionate, even if in texts they would be very flirty and sweet. in short, they told me they are in love with somebody else, so no future with them for me. so I guess your advise applies to me right now. I'll take it day by day and try to get over it/them.


Fantastic advice, I really agree with everything you said


this is... a really important video dodie, i wish someone could have told me these things a year ago


I know the relationship is toxic but I'm afraid to give up on it. I still have this fantasy in my head that it will work out.


A year ago this month, I broke ties with my emotionally abusive boyfriend who left me traumatized and later diagnosed PTSD. Today, I am in love with someone else, but more importantly, in love with myself. Things are still hard. I'm still affected everyday by the trauma I went through - but I'm getting better, slowly, yet surely. And on days like today, when everything feels a little bit harder than it should be and the past seems a little bit better than it was and I feel a little bit like I made the wrong choice and that maybe I should have stayed where I was back then because it was all I knew, videos like this help remind me that I did the right thing for me. And that I'm gonna be okay.


I have a question. How do you cope and move on from having a close friend cut ties with you (without having discussed anything with you)?

I had a very close friend just flat out tell me that she didn't want me around anymore a few months ago and i'm still hurting a lot over it. i keep trying to move on but she keeps finding ways to edge back in just when things are looking up for me.

can i have some advice on how to move on from the receiving end?


Needed to hear this. That you so much for making this 😌


About seven months ago I told one of my best friends that I couldn't be friends with him anymore. Not because he was a bad person but his friendship style was very laid back and flaky, and I just could not feel comfortable with that, it made me feel paranoid about if he wanted me around or if I thought more of this friendship then what was there. We're on the same (small) uni course so theres no proper getting away from him but I'm getting there, already others are noticing how much better I am mental health wise. Cutting ties is always hard, but its gonna be one of the best things you can do for yourself :)


my boyfriend broke up with me yesterday aha, you uploaded this the day before, this is really what I needed rn dodie. Thank you from the bottom of my heart <3


Thank you so much for this, it really helped me with this.


dodie i can't express how much i love you. thank you.


Question: Can we chat/can you make a video about cutting ties with someone without closure?
In April/May, I had a really bad conflict with one of my two best friends where we both hurt each other but I recognized that I had hurt her very deeply and apologized and kept apologizing for the sake of maintaining our friendship. She responded to this my reiterating everything I did wrong (which is fair I really hurt her) and I responded to that by explaining my emotional state (my depression relapsed making me selfish and needy) and why I did what I did but also apologizing, apologizing, and accepting responsibility. However, she never really apologized for hurting me (by distancing herself from me with absolutely no explanation). Anyway, the conflict ended with her saying that "of course" we are still friends because she will always care for me-- except-- she hasn't contacted me since then. Sometimes, she responds if I contact her, but it's nothing more than courtesy and now she doesn't respond at all. I'm assuming she wants to cut ties with me but I wouldn't know because we've *never talked* about it. I love this girl very much and I respect her decision to distance herself from me because of her own self-care needs, however, this limbo that I'm in is so incredibly painful because there was no closure of our friendship. I want to move on so badly, but she won't let me in to even begin to have to the "this is over" conversation. For the last 6 months, I've been devastated, crying for days straight over the loss of our friendship and all the harm I did to her but also about the fact that she will never see the pain she is causing me by not being honest/talking it out/providing closure. I've already unfollowed her from social media, but she still watches my snapchats (why would she do this if she wasn't interested in how I was doing?), so occasionally I work up the courage to message her to try and have a conversation but I never get a reply. At this point, there is only so much guilt and shame that I can bury myself in before I need to forgive myself and move on. But there is no closure, and I can't help but find myself hoping that "she's just not seeing my messages", or "she's just really busy", or "she just forgot to respond". This lack of closure/ambiguous friendship status is literally making me lose my mind and I just don't know how to move on or if I'm even allowed to want to move on.
SOS. HELP PLEASE.

Question: Can we chat/can you make a video about cutting ties with someone without closure?
In April/May, I had a really bad conflict with one of my two best friends where we both hurt each other but I recognized that I had hurt her very deeply and apologized and kept apologizing for the sake of maintaining our friendship. She responded to this my reiterating everything I did wrong (which is fair I really hurt her) and I responded to that by explaining my emotional state (my depression relapsed making me selfish and needy) and why I did what I did but also apologizing, apologizing, and accepting responsibility. However, she never really apologized for hurting me (by distancing herself from me with absolutely no explanation). Anyway, the conflict ended with her saying that "of course" we are still friends because she will always care for me-- except-- she hasn't contacted me since then. Sometimes, she responds if I contact her, but it's nothing more than courtesy and now she doesn't respond at all. I'm assuming she wants to cut ties with me but I wouldn't know because we've **never talked** about it. I love this girl very much and I respect her decision to distance herself from me because of her own self-care needs, however, this limbo that I'm in is so incredibly painful because there was no closure of our friendship. I want to move on so badly, but she won't let me in to even begin to have to the "this is over" conversation. For the last 6 months, I've been devastated, crying for days straight over the loss of our friendship and all the harm I did to her but also about the fact that she will never see the pain she is causing me by not being honest/talking it out/providing closure. I've already unfollowed her from social media, but she still watches my snapchats (why would she do this if she wasn't interested in how I was doing?), so occasionally I work up the courage to message her to try and have a conversation but I never get a reply. At this point, there is only so much guilt and shame that I can bury myself in before I need to forgive myself and move on. But there is no closure, and I can't help but find myself hoping that "she's just not seeing my messages", or "she's just really busy", or "she just forgot to respond". This lack of closure/ambiguous friendship status is literally making me lose my mind and I just don't know how to move on or if I'm even allowed to want to move on.
SOS. HELP PLEASE.

kmaya1024 you are definitely allowed to move on from her, i had the same doubts.. you will feel bad and the people that were friends with you and her will either ignore you or make you feel bad (or maybe hopefully support you, but that didnt happen to me), but if its the best thing for YOU to do the DO IT. you will be ten tomes happier after a few months of being away from her i promise. it will give you time to find out who you are without her and to find things that make you a better you bc she obviously isnt one. trust me okay it will get easier.


I've just subscribed and you've already helped me a shit ton. Thank you. I love you💕


I cut ties with the person I love almost four months ago. I was kinda in the same situation as Dodie was when she was 17 and I finally realized after 3 years that he would not be the one to save me, but rather to drag me down even more. And I'm still not over him. There are nights where I cry myself to sleep, because I miss him so much. But it gets better. I'm already better than I was four months ago and in four more months I will be even more better. Maybe I will be fully over him, maybe not. But that is okay. It is important to take your time. You still have your whole life to figure out who your truly soulmate is. Because that person obviously wasn't even if it felt like it.

Also, if you are like me you might feel like you have no one left after you cut ties with that person, because their friends became your friends and now you don't have anyone left. Inform yourself which activities are possible in your town. I just met some lovely people who I can talk to and have fun with. You might be alone now, but it won't stay like this. I promise.


A few months ago I had to cut ties with someone. My best friend became friends with another girl in my class. We soon became the inseparable three. Always trying to evenly split when pairs were needed. We were so close, very crazy , not afraid of what people thought and absolute best friends. However, this girl soon became a bit funny. She would make big deals out of small things and ignore advice from everyone. She had bad eating habits and refused to change them. We would end up having arguments, her parents wouldn't talk to us and were difficult to reach. It just ended up in a relationship where I was constantly walking on eggshells. We had so many argument and in the end I'd had enough. I told her that I felt miserable around her and that she wasn't being kind and took no advice from her closest friends. It was a shock to all of us, girls in my class and especially me and my other friend. It dragged on for a long time with me and my other friend, who to this day is still the most amazing loving friend. I do still sometimes wish we were friends again but I know for certain it would end the same way. My best friend still does talk to her a lot and they get on, but not the same. My only advice to anyone dealing with this is to accept what has happened and don't drag it on like I did. It's good and alright to be sad and talk to people about it but don't continue to talk to people about how awful they are and things they did as this can (and this almost happened to me) lose the other friends you have. I know how hard it is for anyone going through this and I just want to say how strong and brave you are. <br>P.S, Dodie you are the MOST amazing person ever. I love you sooo much and your EP is incredible. Thank you for all you do😊😊😊😚😚😚😍😍😍

A few months ago I had to cut ties with someone. My best friend became friends with another girl in my class. We soon became the inseparable three. Always trying to evenly split when pairs were needed. We were so close, very crazy , not afraid of what people thought and absolute best friends. However, this girl soon became a bit funny. She would make big deals out of small things and ignore advice from everyone. She had bad eating habits and refused to change them. We would end up having arguments, her parents wouldn't talk to us and were difficult to reach. It just ended up in a relationship where I was constantly walking on eggshells. We had so many argument and in the end I'd had enough. I told her that I felt miserable around her and that she wasn't being kind and took no advice from her closest friends. It was a shock to all of us, girls in my class and especially me and my other friend. It dragged on for a long time with me and my other friend, who to this day is still the most amazing loving friend. I do still sometimes wish we were friends again but I know for certain it would end the same way. My best friend still does talk to her a lot and they get on, but not the same. My only advice to anyone dealing with this is to accept what has happened and don't drag it on like I did. It's good and alright to be sad and talk to people about it but don't continue to talk to people about how awful they are and things they did as this can (and this almost happened to me) lose the other friends you have. I know how hard it is for anyone going through this and I just want to say how strong and brave you are.
P.S, Dodie you are the MOST amazing person ever. I love you sooo much and your EP is incredible. Thank you for all you do😊😊😊😚😚😚😍😍😍


So I watched this, and cried for a bit, but it helped. While it's lobbed in with other people's opinions of what I should do, it's helped. Essentially, my old secondary school/high school group splintered since we all left for college. We don't really see each other anymore, but I'm only really upset over the fact that one of them has blocked me on Facebook and I don't even know why. I'm an anxious person, so of course I went into panic mode of thinking "what did I do/I'm a terrible person/I'll never be happy again", but after asking a few others about it...I came to the conclusion that, if that could be done to me without even telling me about it, I didn't need that person in my life. And while it still hurts to think about it, I've made my peace with it.


i had a best friend who understood me to my core.  recently i realized that my mental health depended on her presence in my life.  i dont feel like i could ever love someone as much as i loved her (let alone have anyone love me that much).  I'm scared.  And this video was made in perfect timing, i really needed this.


My best friend and I tried dating and it didn't work out. He ended it and I still liked him TONS. We stayed friends just like nothing had ever happened, but I could t handle it. I eventually told him that I needed to distance myself for a while and he totally understood :) I feel a lot better now and we are still friends!!


Thank you so so much for this. I was in love with a wonderful wonderful boy and he loved me too. He broke up with me because we were going to be long distance for at least 2 and a half more years and that made him really unhappy. I've been better than before but I'm still hurting a lot which I know is what I need to do to move on. Sometimes I get exhausted from all the hurting but friends help a lot. I don't know you personally, but thank you so much for this advice. I know I'm not alone.


I didn't know I wasn't over it. Thanks so much for this.


Perfect time to talk about this - thank you.


If this had come out a few months ago, I would have cried so much watching it... But I'm okay now. At least I think I am


this could not have been uploaded at a better time for me. a close friend of mine recently admitted they have romantic feelings for me (they know I'm in a committed relationship) and then harassed me after I said that it'd be better if we stayed friends. I've been considering cutting ties with them for a few days but now I know it has to be done. thanks dodie 💛


This couldn't have come at a better time for me. Let's just say I have a bit of an abusive "best friend" so this will really help me. Thank you!


You have no idea how much I needed this today. Thanks, mate.


Dodie, are you psychic?? like, this is EXACTLY what I needed! I've been trying to get over this guy but it hasn't been working so well. Thank you so much for this video, I love ya Dodie ❤❤❤❤


I've recently have had to cut ties with someone who I used to consider one of my best friends. She would constantly use me for her own benefit and then push me to the side when she no longer needed me, but always came back when she had a problem of her own. She was never there for me, but I was always there for her. Besides this, she did unforgivable things and completely betrayed my trust on multiple occasions and just a month or two ago, I made the decision to cut ties with her. I tried talking to her about it, but she continued to be unreasonable and then turned into a bully to me. She attempted to turn my own friends against me and even though it didn't work, it definitely hurt.

After watching this, I unfollowed her on all social media and talked to some of closest friends about it and I honestly feel much better.

And I know that she will continue to harass me, but Im happy Im out of the toxic friendship.

Thank you, Dodie <3 You've helped me so much :)

I've also recently taken up ukulele because of you and it really has made me feel a lot better. I found something that has made me really happy so, once again, thank you!


Shit... I was asking for a sign on whether or not to let a relationship go. Here it is. Thank you Dodie.


Oh Dodie, I needed it so much right now in this moment of MY LIFE, LOV


I wish I had this video 3 years ago.... so good. Thanks dodie


j'eez i didnt realize that what i've done this year is exactly what you've just explained. I cut ties with my best friend of 5 years and its been horrible for the past year and a bit. i didn't do it well as i didn't even know it was happening (she started cutting me off without telling me before i could even see it was happening) so i kept trying to talk to her only to have it thrown in my face time and time again. now we havent spoken in over a month and even though it still hurts and i still think about her, i don't feel the constant need to go to her to talk to. i never got closure however and thats still something i want, but i can never get because she wont give it to me... if you can, get closure, it will be the best thing you can do. point no.1 is so so important!


i needed this more than anything right now, thank you <3


OMG, Doddie, how come you always know what to say and when to do so??? this is way soo magic, so needed, right now... THANKS A LOT DOR EXISTING.


This made me really think and realise how unhappy I am with a certain person in my life...


For about a year now I have had a off and on relationships with just a friend. Yeas I liked him but thats not the point this whole time till a few months back I thought he couldn't do wrong and now I see this and its time to cut ties right now. Thank you doddle! <3


This is also good advice for getting over breakups


Dodie, I was wondering if I can send you a letter because what you say helps me so much. You don't have to reply to it but all I would love is for you to read it.❤


I need your voice in my life its so soothing and calming <3 xx


a comedy type lady, Emily Gordon (she does a lot of stuff, kind of hard to describe how she do), put it as "the only closure you get as an adult is the closure you give yourself." life rarely wraps things up in a neat little box for you. you have to make decisions to act or process things differently if you want to get by. it's hard, it sucks, but it's a crucial skill for Being Alive.


I found it hard not to fall asleep during this video because your voice is so soothing and calming, the apocalypse could be happening and if you made a video about it I'd be like "everything's going to be okay" I swear


Me and my partner don't want to cut ties but we need to get over each other. Like we have spoken about it loads and loads and we both defo agree we don't want / need to cut ties. So how else do we get over each other?


This made me cry because I'm pretty sure my old best friend want to break ties with me. I haven't seen her in months and every time I ask to hang out she says she's too busy. I'm too afraid to ask her if she still wants to be friends because if she doesn't I have nobody left to talk to since I'm not comfortable enough with my other friends to talk about my problems and every friend I've talked to about my problems cut ties with me. I don't think I can go through losing another really close friend again


Could this video apply to friendships as well? (I have a kind of toxic friendship)


I don't know if I have unhealthy relationships. I feel as if I can't talk to my friends about anything and I'm scared to tell them how I feel because I think they won't care or they'll think I'm joking ( I feel depressed all the time ). I tend to put on a mask and act all happy so they're happy but I don't know what to do about it now. Any advice?

Satchel Healey I am feeling the same way right now. I've never told my friends how I feel even though I'm depressed all the time as well. I fear my friends may talk about me behind my back.


dodie, what do you when you don't have healthier relationships to indulge in? like I literally AM ALONE - it's not just me being like hey I'm depressed and I think everyone hates me lolol like I literally have no friends.


This video is just making me sad. I have a really toxic friendship I've been in ft years and years now and I've wanted to cut ties for months now but I still care about her. She means a lot to me but at the same time being around her keeps just hurting me


This was everything that I needed to hear right now


I remember when my friend moved away I kept in contact with them for a while until,
they stopped talking to me and most of the time my messages wouldn't go through.
So,
I sent them a long message which got through and left it for a month and... no reply. I then deleted their number and cried a lot afterwards as they were a great friend. I miss her.


it's been almost a year since i talked to him. we were best friends (at least in my eyes) for years(maybe 5), on again off again because of the evident feelings i would be too afraid to tell him about. the worst thing is when they cut ties with you out of the blue and you're left along wondering what you did wrong. he never explained why he stopped talking to me. nothing ever made sense as to why he did it. maybe i was just someone he didn't care about anymore, just some girl he could talk to about music or text me late at night when he was feeling frisky and plan losing our virginity to each other. we never did go through with it, but then again i never thought we would. a few months before my 18th birthday i asked if i could make a pact with him, that if i didn't get my first kiss before i turned 18 that he would be the one to do it, to ease me into adulthood. i'm nearly 20 now and i still haven't received that kiss. he forgot about it. or at least never acknowledged it to me. i've been thinking of him a lot more recently (i had gone nearly 6 months without thinking of him) as people have mentioned his name in passing or his girlfriend coming back home for thanksgiving break and coming into the cafe i work at. it hurts. it hurts so much thinking about him. we dated for a week in the 7th grade but thought staying friends was a better route. now here i am, sitting on my bed with my laptop, thinking about someone that never thinks about me.
i don't know why i'm writing all of this in the comments of this video, maybe because i just need to spill everything and start fresh. maybe because i wish things were different.
i'm trying to go to school overseas, not because of him, but because i want to. sometimes i'll think about saying goodbye to everyone. is it worth it to tell him goodbye? to pick up my phone and text him? sometimes i think "maybe i can have some lasting words like in new girl. 'sayonara, sammy.'" but that might just leave me feeling empty, waiting for a reply as i fly over the ocean to start fresh with my old problems clinging on for dear life. none of this makes sense but i'll leave it here anyways. here's to hoping i can leave him behind.


I agree with you saying that closure is important. I didn't get closure when they left me. They just said it had to end then blocked me on everything and won´t look at me. All I want to do is talk to them about it to see what I did wrong and to get forgiveness and forgive them. All I want is closure. What do I do?


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this is literally exactly what i need right now. guys, please help me. :-( my ex and i broke up a month ago, he's telling me that he still loves me but then i keep on seeing him flirting with another person. i have to admit, i really really still love him and somehow my heart wants him to stay and it keeps on telling me that "it's okay to love him again" but my mind is telling me its enough and that im being stupid here and that i should just stop ugh. the worst part here is that, he's flirting with his opposite sex (i have nothing with the LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY I SWEAR I LOVE YOU) but its making things a lot awkward you know :--( he's gay, he flirts with another man, and he comes back to me telling me that he loves me. UGH I FCKNG WANT TO MOVE ON AND GET OVER HIM OR AT LEAST TRY TO BUT I CAN'T AND IT SUCKS SO MUCH. stay alive, frens. i love you dodie. thank you.

Chesca Howell look it sounds like he was just trying to make you jealous but idk.. idk if this goes for everybody but i know that even though i like identify as lesbian i have had a crush on my bestfriend whos a guy for months.. if your ex is gay maybe youre his exception but still i dont think you should go back to him unless you are 100% hes not going to keep flirting with whoever behind ur back


well this is ironic just a couple hours ago I was watching this shaking my head like “wow this’ll never happen to me anytime soon” yet here I am and my now ex girlfriend of 9 months just broke up with me, isn’t this just great


That bit about going to the person to talk about how bad you feel is so me last year it's embarrassing


This gets even more difficult when it's a family member :(


just watched this twice! love you for this.


I've had to do this recently with 4 people for various reasons. It's not an easy thing to do but after doing it, I feel much better about stuff. Though, there does come a point where you think "maybe I'm the issue" :/


I know nobody is going to see this but whatever. This is really weird because I just got out of a friend group that was bringing me down and I did this without any insight. This whole list is exactly what I did. It really funny to see that we think the same way. 😂 Thank you Dodie for telling everyone this because it is really hard to get out of a really good relationship with a friend(s) I know and understand how hard this is so again thank you for helping all of us in this crazy, messed up, world that we live in. <br>Love you, Dodie and not in a creepy way.

I know nobody is going to see this but whatever. This is really weird because I just got out of a friend group that was bringing me down and I did this without any insight. This whole list is exactly what I did. It really funny to see that we think the same way. 😂 Thank you Dodie for telling everyone this because it is really hard to get out of a really good relationship with a friend(s) I know and understand how hard this is so again thank you for helping all of us in this crazy, messed up, world that we live in.
Love you, Dodie and not in a creepy way.


this is so painful but so therapeutic. 💔


That crazy moment when dodie uploaded she when i was questioning sexuality, uploaded adored by him when your crush liked your friend, went on tour w jon when i <b>officially</b> became best friends with a childhood friend, and now uploads this when i need to cut this girl out of my life ???? CLICHE BUT WILD AHH

That crazy moment when dodie uploaded she when i was questioning sexuality, uploaded adored by him when your crush liked your friend, went on tour w jon when i *officially* became best friends with a childhood friend, and now uploads this when i need to cut this girl out of my life ???? CLICHE BUT WILD AHH


wow i uh really needed this thank you Dodie thank you so much


thank you thank you so so much, this was just what i needed <33


Okay. So. I've been sitting here, crying my eyes out, trying to figure out what to do. Yesterday, my girlfriend of less than a week tried to commit suicide. Honestly? I'm dating her because I make her happy. I can't stop myself from trying to help her. But. It's not healthy for me. So, I'm sitting here, crying out for a sign, listening to sad music, when out of no where, this video is the next video on the autoplay. I asked for a sign, and it came to me. Thank you so much, Dodie, for giving me the strength to put myself first.


I've got a crush on someone that is  completely unreachable like ever, so snip snip snip gotta cut my heart out 🔪🔪🔪💗🔪🔪🔪


you look so pretty, dodie! this video was lovely! xoxo


Am I allowed to move on? I feel so awful, I loved them with my whole being. Am I allowed to move on?


thank you. that's all I'm gonna say. thank you.


can you please do another love related or how to deal with crushes or unrequited love typed video please? my request is in.


I'm in a very small friendship group of four or so. I'm not exactly swimming in friends and if I cut ties with this one person then the other two would probably take her side and it'd cause tension and drama (i'm guessing you know what secondary school id like). I'd have to see her every single day and if I dont have that friendship group then i practically have no one. It's not really like cutting them off and never having to see them again and i'd feel selfish ruining my friendship group like that. Help??


Paused at 2:27 and went straight to social media to unfollow and unfriend a couple of people who made my life hell. Feels like a new start


I have a /life long/ friend who I am trying to cut ties with. She is very homophobic but not blatantly. She will instead say how I will see the wrong of my ways or will tell people that its all to be trendy. This is despite my previous and current serious relationships. She still believes I will 'find the light' and talks about my wedding to a man in a church. It really hurts after struggling for years to accept my sexuality she only pulls me back so I think, even after two decades of knowing each other, it's time to go. Bye girl bye.


I have a crush on my best friend and I'm stuck. I realised this the other week that repressing it had made it worse and worse and now I can't hang out with him without going home later and crying, since he sees me as a sister and has a crush on my friend. I don't know how to move past it. I just want to be his friend again, and for him to be happy. I'm stuck 😐


advice?
my first boyfriend and i broke up 3 years ago, we took months apart to move on, and now he is my best friend. i don't think i have any romantic feelings for him anymore, although i just hurt a little bit whenever he mentions the new girl he likes (who is a lot like me actually...) but i just try to stay out of it... i've always wanted to stay close friends with him, but am i just making my life more complicated by letting him be so close as a friend now?

thanks, i'm never the kind of person who poors my soul into youtube comments xD


like one week ago i had a kind of friend but then i realised she'd blocked me from all the social media, so first i got shocked but then i asked her for an explanation and she won't tell me why, i swear this is the only thing i wanna know :-( so if you are going to cut ties with someone, pleeeaase tell him/her the reason because it sucks even more if you don't :-'(


is it sad that i did that with my crush of a few years, but also with really good shows or fandoms?


"And if you are crying now..." how did she know?


I need... advice please. So, I've been best friends with this girl (lets call her Pam) for three years now. last year I started to like her... a lot. Recently I found out that she likes one of my other friends  (Let's call him Alex) She is obsessed with him. (she's bi and I'm gay) I was devastated when I found out. Now all she does is talk about him and our conversations are awkward. One of my other friends(lets call her beth) told me to get over it, that she knew last year that I liked her. Now I don't know what to do, I feel like I should get over Pam but it's really hard...

Deana Winchester i get what you mean.. me and emily my ex bff of four years dated for a while and after we broke up (she decided she was straight after like 6 months meanwhile im still gay) we stayed friends and in our freshman year she dated a boy that i didnt like and talked about him all the time. i tried to be supportive but it was rlly hard bc i still loved her. i eventually got over her though.. if you want to fall out of love with your "Pam", just give it time, but if you want to give "Pam" time to possibly fall in love with you then you just hold onto her and dont let your friendship slip like mine and Emily's did.

rossiago ay yeah, I guess you're right. Thanks.

Deana Winchester I sort of get what you're going through. in the long run, this'll all be a paragraph of a chapter in your life. it'll hurt now, and it's good to hurt. without sadness their can't be happiness. a friend of mine, which I'm now second guessing if they are a good friend, is best friends with someone I don't like as a person. lately they have been different, acting standoffish to me. I was upset, still am, but I'm now thinking about cutting ties with them. you just have to think about the best thing for you, and realize you are human. it's okay to cry, healthy even. but later you'll realize that this will all become old stories. it'll be okay, just learn to think for the best.


I would love to be able to cut someone off, but they'll be with me till the end of high school and there's nothing I can do about it because we work together (not a job I can quit it's an extracurricular) so <b>sigh</b>

I would love to be able to cut someone off, but they'll be with me till the end of high school and there's nothing I can do about it because we work together (not a job I can quit it's an extracurricular) so *sigh*


This is irrelevant but God you're so gorgeous Dodie 😍😍😍


Ms. Dodie, can you make a cover of Build me up buttercup by the foundation?


MY issue with cutting ties is that I have built in space for everyone in my brain and when I stop talking to people that part of my brain is just empty because I'm not talking to them or hearing about them so that's why I avoid it sbsgowhswons


Alright, Dodie.....I'll try my best......


ahahhahah cutting ties lol never had to do that never tied any, best solution


Trying to get my Mom to send this to my sister because she broke up with her boyfriend 4 or 5 months ago, and started crying a few days ago when she saw on Facebook that he got another girlfriend. Hope it helps :)


I wish I had this video last may.  the person I cut Ties with is being so rude to me because I didn't know how to close the friendship I just stopped communicating with her


While I'm watching this I'm just scrolling through the comments and crying


WHAT IF THEY GO TO YOUR SCHOOL AND ARE IN YOUR CLASS AND YOU HAVE TO BE NICE TO THEM BECAUSE THEY ARE NICE


What if you've cut your tie a year ago (a year ago exactly on the soon approaching 2nd of December) but since then you still see that one person practically everyday as they're in your working environment but they haven't spoken to you since and there's no possible way to talk to them cos of many other factors and you're just feeding off of information and your own self of paranoia through the information in which receiving/concluding off of people who can talk to that one person and that one person is still apart of their lives. and everyone thinks you're ok cos it's been a year right? Time heals? Yet every time I'm reminded or I see that one person it hurts so much it feels like it's happening again the hurting hasn't stopped and everyone sees you as annoying if you ever bring that person up, yet they like to always ironically constantly remind me. I'm so scared to love the 2nd of December ever again as I'm scared that the pain will feel the same? Is that silly.


This came up straight after I decided to block someone I've loved for a year or so and its horrible but this helped and its from Dodie so??


The same day i watched this video he talked to me again after soooo long ahahaha wHY


It sucks how they can talk to you for hours on end, smile and wave at you. Be really kind to you...and suddenly just stop. Says that they don't talk to people like you..what does that mean? We talked 24/7 sometimes night to day, and now you don't want to do it anymore and never tell me why?? I unfriended this person, and stay away from them, just waiting until my heart stops crying for them.


Hey do you think you'll do any more ASMR videos?


the convenience of this video and what just happend is kinda halarious


I want to cut ties with this person but it's impossible because I can't avoid them. I have almost every class with them and 0 classes with my best friends. The sad thing is that they believe that I'm their best friend but I want to get away from them. helppppp


what if the people you need to break away from are the only people you know? and yes they are my family. I haven't had a friends in over 8 years, but i cannot stand my family. They mean well and are nice, but they are christian. their religion comes before loving me, i'm gender fluid and not religious and i know they will note embrace me if i tell them. it is slowly eating at me, i have no one else to turn to. im in college and know no one, i live 20min from town so its hard to be around anyone other than my family.

i just want to leave, i just want this over. it hurts that i've never been able to be myself, not since i was born. im not even sure i can be myself due to how much i've been conditioned.


what if you have no one else and the person you're cutting ties with is the only person you trusted?


what if someone did this to me and i dont know why? My best friend just stopped talking to me. I tried to keep contact but she just doesnt answer my texts. I have a theory that her boyfriend pressured her to do it he doesn't like me AT ALL) but i never knew what happened and now we dont talk anymore... what do i do? I miss her


This doesn't really have anything to do with the video, but i really need help. I have two friends who are saying that they have depression. The first one is really nice. She has always been tankful for her family and is very optimistic. I have never seen her without a smile on her face. The other one, i dont typically favor. After she discovered the internet, she starts saying that she has OCD and depression. Now, I know for a fact that the doesn't have OCD, and I am wondering if she is faking depression. She really does like attention, and she always jokes about how her life is terrible (it isn't) and how she is going to kill herself because she failed a geography essay or something. I really want to learn about depression and i want to know if my friends are actually depressed, or if they are just trying to get attention. I am not trying to belittle any people who have a mental illness, and i hope you get through it! Thank you to anyone who reads this. Even if you dont know if my friends are depressed or not, try to make someone aware about mental illnesses and how they affect people! Thanks so much!


You couldn't of posted this at a better time


thank you thank you thank you i love you


My person is my very best friend. If i burn that bridge i do loose the rest of my friend group.


Okay so what if you still really want to be friends with them? Because you were friends before and hate that you have to lose them? All my friends say when he fucks me over again and again is to block him, be rude, never speak again.. but that is not the type of person I am. And it sounds stupid but he needs me and I need him. I first met him through a friend who wanted me to speak to him about mental health reasons. I kept him alive, and he kept me alive through all the shitness we've both gone through in our lives. But recently he hasn't been talking to me... because I'm bad again and my sadness makes him sad because he thinks it's his fault I'm sad.. and it's been so fucking tough. he has been a little cause of sadness recently, but not everything, and the way he makes me happy counteracts that completely. I'm trying so hard not to be selfish because well I never as selfish until I told him how I was feeling at the moment and look where it has got me. I feel like I've lost such an amazing friend, even though he says he doesn't not want to be friends... but still, he really has been my best friend for so long and I can't bare it for much longer.


But what if I have no one else than that toxic friend..


i think im actually cutting ties with some people and i feel terrible


This is great but you assume that everyone has plenty of friends and I don't:/


I have a friend that just, is mentally ill and leans on me but i don’t want to be friends with them anymore?? She’s a nice person but she is TOXIC TO ME. I want to leave her but i’ll ruin her life that way.. help!!


But... I don't have friends or other relationships.


how do you cut ties with yourself? i am the person who is toxic to me.


This is like the fifth time I’m watching this


I cut my ties with him and I have to see him next week.

why


Dodie, will you be my best friend? 😍 xxx


Dodie always seems like a friend you can talk to, someone who would start crying just 'cause you did. These videos are like a very soft therapy for the soul <3


It is very beautiful how you use the 'power' being a YouTuber and thus knowing that you have an audience, for good :D Cheers to Dodie :D and may you be blessed all the way :) Stay Smooth, Stay you, Stay Dodie xoxoxo


This has helped so much. I'm going through losing all my friends unexpectedly.   Thank you dodie. Xx


one of my best friends is going through a rough breakup with her fiancé. I can't wait to show her this video. thank you Dodie! and thank you to the lovely people in the comments that are always just as awesome! ❤


This was such a great video to watch for me right now, I'm in the same position as you Dodie (I have friends going through this while I'm not right now) and these are points I told them exactly! As well as Acknowledge what you're feeling, ALLOW yourself to feel the hurt and process it. it is going be painful and hard. Remember you deserve love and people that care about you and you deserve to feel safe. Great video Dodie!


thank you for making important videos like these dodie, it's like a lovely sense of warmth and support, and I really really appreciate it <3


This is so perfect in timing. I really appreciate you and what you do. Thank you dodie, love u. <3


Thank you, Dodie! Honestly! That's everything I needed to hear! I love you much! 💖


Thank you so much <3 am currently healing from a really bad end of an amazing relationship and even though it's been half a year and I've come really far I'm still not entirely okay again. This helped a lot! <br>Especially hearing that in the end it definitely will be okay again

Thank you so much <3 am currently healing from a really bad end of an amazing relationship and even though it's been half a year and I've come really far I'm still not entirely okay again. This helped a lot!
Especially hearing that in the end it definitely will be okay again


I needed this a few months ago, but this has still helped me. Thanks Dodie ❤


Dodie, this helps a lot as I had a best friend who was making my life hell... I did exactly what you said and I am really happy so far! Thank you and I wanted to let you know how amazing your advice is😊


I've already gone through all this and learnt most of this from experience but this is still a great video and I'm sure I would have found this extremely helpful if I was still going through it.


thank you Dodie you don't know how much I just needed someone to tell me that it's going to be okay. you hit the right spots so softly. thank you. I wish I could talk to you in person and tell you my story about this. I am awestruck how this is so timely for me.


Doddie you're so lovely :) I love what you do, you've helped with so much! please keep doing what you do !


I cut ties with someone about a month ago and it's been the best thing, and I have realised that I need to stop looking at their social media and stop checking in on what they are doing. This video related to me a lot and was a very helpful reminder saying don't go back to them. I am better off without people that impact me in a negative way. Thank you dodie, and keep up the amazing work you do in these videos xx


When I moved to a bigger city, I had to cut ties with most of my "friends". It felt so good. I genuinely felt so much better and more positive. Personally, I didn't find it that hard, which made it easier for me to move on with my life, but the fact that they want to keep in contact with me made me think twice about my choice. But now that I think about it, I'd rather stay away from them permanently and avoid their toxicity than let them ruin me more as an individual, but make me momentarily 'happy' at the same time.

I am much better now, and in a better state compared to two years ago. It does get better. It may not be easy for most of you, but it'll be worth it. Do it. Follow Dodie's advice. You won't regret it.


This video really hit home with me. I've had a friend (well, ahem, "friend") for about three years now and our relationship consists of her bullying me and me being too pathetic to say anything back. I could write paragraphs and paragraphs about her and about how I missed so many warning signs and how for those three years she treated me so, so badly and how I was too oblivious and smitten with her (but in the friend way - like you see a person that you so desperately want to be friends with that you'll strive to get their attention in any way WHICH MY LOVELIES IS NOT HOW FRIENDSHIP WORKS) and I really needed this video to realise that the relationship is unhealthy. And even though it hurt I know I'll be thankful in the future when I'm surrounded by people who love me and not following her around like a lost puppy dog.
Dodie's right. It'll hurt. It'll hurt a lot.
But if it's toxic it won't be like the pain of falling over and scraping your knee. It'll be like the pain of peeling a plaster off after the cut has healed.
Thank you Dodie xx


After being in a long and ultimately bad relationship, this is actually helpful.

Big up Dodie Clark :P


Thanks for the reminder doddie x this speaks so close to the heart :)


As a trainee therapist, this was a great video. 💛


This is very well considered and, personally speaking, very useful advice.
You seem like a very genuine, kind and empathetic human being.
It'd be nice if more people were like this.
#belikedodie


my best friend just cut ties with me bc she just found my anxiety and depression annoying and even though its been 3 weeks, it still hurts. all i needed was this to make me feel better. thank you dodie 💘


As someone who has recently been through this (4 months ago), it does get better. You will probably have multiple wobbles along the way. You will probably think you've fixed yourself only to suddenly realised you really haven't. Its okay, keep going. Everything will be okay in the end <3


The most important thing I learnt was to put my mental health first and now, looking back, it seems silly that I never did. Cutting ties is very hard and even now I have moments when I think about reaching out to people but then I remember how they made me feel and it shows how much I've grown over a year that I feel like I know what's best for me.


I really needed this rn. I got dumped a few months ago after being with the person for three years and I had already cut them out of my life completely despite them saying that they still wanted to be friends. This just confirms ive done the right thing cause i have had my doubts about it and i do miss them like crazy. Thank you dodie <3

Edit
Over a year on and honestly cutting ties with that person, and subsequently several other people, was the best thing I ever did. It does get better, just stick it out and you'll get there


Thank You Dodie, I cut ties with my two best friends before going to university because they were depressing to be around and i had nothing in common with them anymore, this has been nearly 2 years, and i still think to this day did i make the right decision? but i know not to look at their social media because i am happy now with new friends here at university and i couldn't ask for more :)


"There's really no shortcut to forgetting someone. You just have to endure missing them everyday until you don't anymore."


Thank you so much, I needed that video. You're timing was perfect. I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday, it hurts so much but you motivated me. I love you so much, you are wonderful and keep making videos, it means us a lot..you're meaing us a lot. ❤ sorry for my english, I'm from Hungary. Thank you again❤


I recently cut ties with many toxic people and this just reassures me that I made the right decision. Thank you Dodie


I just recently went through a break up with someone who was also basically my only good friend. It wasn't hard in the first couple of weeks, I got a lot closer to some other friends. And then suddenly it hit me and I was depressed for about two weeks. Then I got to talk to them, and also about them to these sorta new good friends, and everything is completely okay now. Sure I lost this person that used to be my world, but what I got back from ending this relationship, which was pretty damn toxic, is about two-three of the closest friendships I have ever had.


I've had to cut some people out of my life and somehow remained objective throughout it all and have done everything you listed in this video. Let me tell you, it's the right thing to do in the end if it makes you happier.

But trust me, sometimes you won't always be able to be objective in these sort of situations but try! Or talk to a good friend who will definitely have a some ideas for you :)

Keeping up  relationships are hard enough without the drama so if who you're surrounding yourself with is in any way toxic or just doesn't make you happy most of the time, then it's not worth the stress.


I really needed this video to realize some things about the relationship between me and one of my good friends. I didn't really cut the ties with her but we had a 3-4-month period of not talking and there definitely still is tension between us that we don't talk about. However she messaged me a month ago about some very personal things. At the moment I need to support her and I want to get back to being friends again.<br>I don't know what my point is, but I hope everyone is having a good day <3

I really needed this video to realize some things about the relationship between me and one of my good friends. I didn't really cut the ties with her but we had a 3-4-month period of not talking and there definitely still is tension between us that we don't talk about. However she messaged me a month ago about some very personal things. At the moment I need to support her and I want to get back to being friends again.
I don't know what my point is, but I hope everyone is having a good day <3


recently, one of my best friends completely cut ties with me. i had no warning whatsoever and it wasn't mutual and watching this video (over and over and over) is helping me realise that maybe that's okay. it was just SO HARD because i'd built my life around him and then all of a sudden he was gone and i just. thank you, dodie.


Thank you Dodie <3 <br>I've been waiting for a video like this for 2 years, just thank you.

Thank you Dodie <3
I've been waiting for a video like this for 2 years, just thank you.


I've tried to cut ties with a person (I called them a friend once upon a time) who is absolutely toxic for me to be around quite a few times now, and I'm really hoping I'm strong enough this time.. I'm in a good place with everything and everyone else in my life, I don't need them right??? thanks for the tips Dodie ♡


this is the most perfect video for me right now. someone who i have been best mates/just friends/in love with has just screwed me around for the 7673rd time and at first i was like okay when they choose to come and say sorry we can work things out (because that has worked all the other times) and now im starting to think, as much as i want them, they only ever cause me pain. hopefully one day they will understand that they have lost someone who has cared for them and listened to them more than anyone else ever has, but right now i need to do what's best for me and sitting around waiting for them to change isnt good for me. thank you dodie, i love you lots xxx


This is an amazing video with some really good advice! I am going to save this video for when I need this advice.


After watching this video I finally feel ready enough to properly brake ties with my so called "best friend".for the last 4-5 years everyone who knows us have seen us as the closest any two friends possibly could be but it couldn't be further from the truth. Throughout the years this "friend" has frequently ignored me and pushed me to the sidelines whenever anything else came up regardless of how small, but I always put up with it because they would always tell me that they would always be there for me and being the idiot I am I always believed them. The final nail in the coffin happened at the start of the year, around April, when I needed to talk to said friend about something that had a massive impact on my life and now almost 7 months later I still haven't gotten a single response asking what I needed or even an indication that I'm worth anything in their eyes.

So thank you Dodie, from the bottom of my heart. Thank you so much for giving me the confidence to move on from this so called "best friend" that now when I look back on things never really felt like a true friend at all. You are an inspiration to many people, at least from what I can see in the comments of just this video alone and I habe to say keep up the amazing work.

But I cant put it into words how thankful I am that you made this video as now I can stop making myself focus on what did I do wrong and what can I do to fix this and instead move on with my life and do what I want to make me happy, not focus on a "friend" who won't even give me a second thought.

If anyone has managed to work their way through my nonsensical rambling and feels that someone in their life is like my "friend" that I have talked about, try to talk t0o them and try to understand whats happening between the two of you before it gets to the stage that I'm in. But of course if you are at the stage I'm in you don't need that type of friend in your life as they'll only drag you down.

Once again though Dodie, if you're reading this, Thank you so much you helped me free myself and I will never be able to overstate my gratitude.


A couple of months ago I broke ties with probably one of the closest friends. After my GCSE's I promised myself to start fresh with a new school, new friends and everything because my last few years of secondary really brought me down and put my mental health in such an awful state.

I went on to join sixth form and I was perfectly happy and everything was brilliant but there was still that small part of me knowing that this friendship I had since I was 4 was not working. It was always toxic. Looking back I shouldn't have kept in contact through secondary school as I don't think that helped me at all. But after a bit more counselling I came to the conclusion that it was time to cut it off. We had a couple of chats before I officially cut everything and she didn't agree and didn't understand at all. She couldn't see how my mental health could be affected by her friendship so I left it and slowly started to unfriend and unfollow her on social media as just seeing her negatively wasn't what I wanted to see.

Eventually she noticed (I think I know why but I don't think I should put write that on here) and she had a go at me and I told her, as politely as I could, why I did it and how I had been feeling better for doing so. The 'being nice' bit was hard because I just wanted to let rip at her but I knew for any chance of getting back in contact in the future I had to be polite.

She wasn't happy with me at all and some of the things she put on twitter about me after (I didn't check it I was told by my sister as they are very close and go to school together) we're horrible but I cried and got over it.

It's still healing but I have found I'm enjoying everything a lot more now. Especially knowing that I'm doing what I want to without any judgement from her over my choice to study musical theatre instead of anything academic like her.

Brilliant video Dodie. Even though I don't need the help right now, I may come back to it in the future 💕


This video was just so comforting at a time in my life where there doesn't seem to be much comfort, so thank you.


I needed this so badly last year in October and this year in April, so now it'll be easier in the future thank you so much!


The best advice I can give is: JUST DO IT. You'll feel so much better and be so much happier! There are times where you'll miss what you had, but remember the things they did that made you decide to cut ties


I'Ve gone through this this summer because my best friend died and it showed my who my real friends are. And just two days ago I realiesed how much happier I am without them. Unfollowing them everywhere was really a part of it


I find talking about your feelings, a couple of weeks after cutting ties, to the person you cut ties with, as well as other people, really helps with the pain, a lot. That sentence has a lot of commas.


i really needed this advice right now. thank you, dodie


I cut ties with my best friends around march 2016 and if i had seen this video a year ago it would've been so helpful. Thanks dodie <3


im just here to remind you that if you feel like you won't be able to live without someone just know that you lived fine without them. you're just used to having them around but it's not impossible to be without them as well<br>put yourself first 💓

im just here to remind you that if you feel like you won't be able to live without someone just know that you lived fine without them. you're just used to having them around but it's not impossible to be without them as well
put yourself first 💓


this is so true and made me cry a lot! do you have any advice for what to do if cutting ties completely is impossible? my ex is part of my group of friends from home, and while we are all away at uni at the moment it's easy to have no contact, but once we are all home for christmas they will be at all the same social events as me.


much love and support to ppl gg through tough times rn <3


I had to cut ties with a friend of mine 3 months ago and im still not quite over it.
Some days i just need a good cry and a reminder of what kinds of people not to have in my life
I kept checking his twitter even though i already unfollowed him, because i was refusing to accept what happened and this video opened my eyes
Thank you so much for making this. It helped


I'm not even cutting ties with anyone at the moment, but I cried... GODDAMN IT DODIE, HOW DO YOU DO THIS?


fifty on trending! so proud of little dodie! 💘


i needed to hear this more than i thought. thank you, dodie. really.


more life advice from dodie? yes please<333


I went through this sort of thing, I had a friend and for over a year we had a really nice friendship but she started hanging out with some really dodgy people. Suddenly after about a month of hanging out with the dodgy group she just started calling me fat, saying she hated my favourite coat, my tie length was stupid, I ate too much and it hurt a lot I had taken my time to show her round the school made sure she wasn't being picked on and suddenly she snapped and called me all of those things. It hurts so after about a week of crying before bed I just sent her a long text telling her what she had been doing to me for the past week or so. I told her not to come round to mine before school until I had healed. I completely cut off contact from her, but it's been about 2 months now and I feel bad because everyone makes these sort of mistakes and maybe I over reacted but she still hangs out with the dodgy people so I don't dare go up to her and apologise. Anyways moral of my situation is don't rush the end because some people can realise, only do this in my situation though, I'm only 13 so I haven't had a boyfriend so I don't know about exes


dodie ur just in time for what i actually really needed rn 💘


thank you dodie. I'm trying to get over my crush and then I see you made this video. thanks


I love and needed this now and I doubt will in the future thank you dodie


I have never seen any of your videos before, I've never really known anything about you but a friend sent this to me because she knows that I'm going through a tough time and h o l y  c r a p that was exactly what I needed to hear, I need to start watching you more😂


My current issue is with "the guy I lost my virginity to is just the greatest and I want to be with him" thoughts I had two years ago that still happen to this day. it's super hard because my friends are his friends and it's hard to play video games or hang out without him being there too. I've tried deleting him off all socials but he just kept me on this super short "it may happen" leash for two years. I tried having a physical note stating "he always regrets it the morning after, don't let it get to that and you'll both be happier" but people told me it was a toxic way of thinking but I thought it was different despite it being in line with my other self-destructive thoughts (anxiety/depression party whoop whoop). My mindset now is I don't have to be friends but I can be friendly.


This is fantastic! Went through a bit of a rough patch with someone who had bad intentions in regards to me, I cut her off a few months ago, for anyone else who is going through the same thing that I did (KEYWORD: DID - It doesn't last forever) these tips are the best advice you can follow.


Completely agree. Past few years I have been trying, practically begging, my best friend to talk to me. We used to be the best of friends, but things just fell out of place. (He got a girlfriend).  This past year, I needed him badly, and he wasn't there. He started even talking to me less.. I just couldn't do that anymore with him. It was hard thinking he had my back when I knew he didn't, and I just decided that he will always have been a good part of my life, but I couldn't keep going on with that relationship imagining it eventually getting to the point of me despising him. I wanted to end things before it got to that point. It was a good release to let him go. I told him that maybe he will be a part of my life again, but right now he couldn't be, and that was that.


Good job Doddie! Thanks for the good perspective.


the person who i thought was the love of my life and i broke up on the exact same day as this was posted. thank you dodie, thank you thank you this is just what i need x


Thanks for sharing - I'm not in this position but from the comments this was a well-spoken-into-video <3 :)


This is genuinely helpful. My ex broke up with me just over 5 months ago and it broke me and he has a new girlfriend and is really happy yet I wanna die so it's just very frustrating. We both wan to stay friends but we never talk anymore and I haven't talked to him in 2 months and it really fucking hurts. I unfollowed him from everything. But my friends just said he did the right thing because he didn't make me happy but they know fuck all because he helped me through some hard times. Thank you Dodie. Honestly I feel shit now but I really just have to hold on to the thought that things get better.


Thankyou.. I really needed this ❤

I cut ties with one of my close friends a couple of months ago and I was doing fine for awhile but I kind of miss her now and I want to go back but she doesn't want me back.. so thank you for this video it really helps.


dodie you have no clue how much i needed this. my best friend told me that we couldn't be friends because his now ex girlfriend looked through mine and his messages. were super affectionate and she didn't trust him, so she broke up with him. he 'broke up' with me over a hella long paragraph over a text. it happened last Saturday. ive been crying every day since, and when im not crying i feel numb. thank you, dodie.


I'm gonna do it. I have broken up with my ex for a month now but I keep on thinking about him. I ended it I should realise its for the best and realise its for the best. Thanks Dodie I'm gonna talk to him and pour it all out then give your advices a chance. 😌😌


Goddamn you and your magic powers, after you said you're gonne be okay i just burst out. Thank you so much, I've been struggling with an ex and this made me feel so much better.