Dodie- If you're crying rn keep crying
Me- crys harder

Dodie- If you're crying rn keep crying
Me- *crys harder*

Me - reads your comments<br>Me - cries even harder

Me - reads your comments
Me - cries even harder

Morgan S She said it as soon as the tears caaammeee

Same haha. I’m laughing but I’m actually crying really hard rn. Like so hard 😂

I’ve been crying for six years I think I need to avoid that advice


Whoever is watching this now - I love you and I'm crying along with you.


I keep coming back to this video. People guilt me for cutting ties, but they really hurt me and I needed to do it. They still come back to hurt me later through telling other people my weaknesses.


@Miya Hockenhull I liked you and I love him

@flower I 'm late to this sing along,  now I'm sad as well  (┳Д┳)

unimportant i’ll be in the middle while you two get along

We could all be the best kind of friends

Liva Ozolina it could be weird but I think I’m into to it...

@Eden tz This could be a lot of fun, so cut the akward, come undone.

<b>S k å ï</b> oh it was shared despite our flaws I held his hand like I hold yours

*S k å ï* oh it was shared despite our flaws I held his hand like I hold yours

@Anjali Vishwakarma while you two get along.

you've got so much in common talk about your taste in women

I'll be in the middle. You two get along.

I like you, and I loved him, we could all be the best kind of friends...

It could be weird but, I think I'm into it. You know I'm one for the overly passionate...


I loved this video. It felt like we were sitting down, drinking coffee, and just chatting.☕ Like I was getting advice from a friend.

I felt the same to, what I love about YouTube. It gives you the friendships you need 24/7 x


dodie, you don't understand how much this means to much to me. my (now) ex boyfriend of four years broke up with me and it was because he loved me. and that made it extremely hard. and i wasn't expecting it. my heart hurts so much and i immediately went and watched this video after it happened cause i remember watching it before. thanks for being there for all of us and caring. it hurts but you made it a bit better. xoxo

I actually went through the same thing this year and I'm curious to know how you are feeling now... If you even come across this comment I'd love to know :)

@bea Your respective partners left you because they had feelings for you... Clearly you had them too, so they were reciprocated... Why did they choose to leave then? I fail to understand, personally I am considering breaking off a friendship because I'm not letting go of my feelings for her despite thinking I had... I don't see that we're talking the same thing here.

i’m going through the same thing. But after this comment of two years I hope everything is happy with you


4 years later and I'm sat here crying, watching this video to remind me that there's healing after friendships have fallen apart and that not speaking to certain people anymore indefinitely is for the best.


I'm sitting on my floor sobbing in their sweatshirt, why are humans so hard

blonde in a sweatshirt • so happy for you ❤❤keep on going hope your still doing well

Samah Amara I completely forgot about this comment to be honest. Thank you all for the well wishes, I am MUCH better now. This made me chuckle, I didn’t realize.. I named myself this now because I feel so cozy and safe in sweatshirts. They are my go to when I don’t feel confident or when I want to be comfortable. I find it now extremely ironic. It wasn’t my name at the time. this was a good revisit :)

Hey you. I hope you're okay, that's all.

U named yourself that too!? I'm sorry but that's awful

blonde in a sweatshirt • hope ur doing better now 💛💛


Watching this almost a year later because I needed someone to talk me through what I'm experiencing.  I remember watching this when it was uploaded and thinking "yeah, I'll come back to this when I'm going through something like that"... It helped.  When you said at the end "if you're crying right now, keep crying", I did, and it helped.  Thank you Dodie for being a sort of online support for all of us.

Watching this almost two years later because im going through it again after just getting over someone i had cut ties with. And of course, dodie gives the best advice yet.

(Also, i hope youve had an easy time getting over it. Good luck with that :) )


for anyone going through this right now, i'm proud of you. you are so so strong. you are amazing. you matter. you'll be okay (:

Trash Kid Noooo, don't let anyone (including yourself) tell you that you are weak for doing this at your own pace. Sometimes it can take quite a lot of time and that's okay. People don't have to unterstand. You are doing this for yourself. You are taking your happiness back. This decision will leave you vulnerable, but you are strong for caring enough for yourself to let toxic people go, and you will be even stronger in the long run. It's a struggle worth fighting. Stay brilliant. 🌻

funny how much a comment from eight months ago can really affect me lmao,, saw this and burst into tears because nobody's ever really said that i was strong for doing this, i felt more that it was only a weaker descision. thank you.

crowntheaj you are literally so sweet! i asked a lot of people for some confort and all they gave me was some rude words. i don't know you and you made me feel so better, thank you❤

Such a great video!!! Talking really helps though

@Cyara Wilsenach of course you can! my username is @sy.cophantic

if any of you need to talk to anyone, i'm always listening! just ask for my social media n we can talk c:


I got broken up with 12 days ago and it's been really difficult trying to move on from her. I am still crying every day. Luckily, this video and Dodie's songs are somehow soothing me as I go through this process. Thank you and love you always Dodie!

Hi friend :) I hope you're doing better now


Today I finally cut ties with someone who has caused me a lot of pain, but watching this video helped me so, so much. Deep down I know it's the right decision, I will get over this, and I will be happier without her in my life.


I always always find my way back to this video after a breakup. Thank you dodie.


oh boy, I watched this when it came out two years ago, because it was relevant for me and now, two years later, I'm going over a very painful break up, and, again, this video popped into my head and once again, it's helping. Thank you dodie 🧡


thank you so much dodie for sharing this. exactly what I needed at this very moment. one day, when I look back at all the pain I’m feeling right now, I’m going to remember you and your words and how much this video has helped me realize a bunch of things. we love you 🌻


I straight up told a girl that I wanted to break ties off with her, because she had hurt me badly (badmouthing me with no reason to all of my close friends, lying to me about it, etc.) and she made it seem like it wasn't the best idea. she continued to say "if that's what <b>you</b> want," when in reality it was clear she wanted it too. we have a pretty healthy relationship, we took a break for about 6 months and she apologized for what she had done. sometimes I'm conflicted because its clear she is trying to make a change, but a lot of the time I'm still angry about what she did. I'm sure ill be okay, thanks for this dodie (even though I'm a whole 3 YEARS LATE WOAH)

I straight up told a girl that I wanted to break ties off with her, because she had hurt me badly (badmouthing me with no reason to all of my close friends, lying to me about it, etc.) and she made it seem like it wasn't the best idea. she continued to say "if that's what *you* want," when in reality it was clear she wanted it too. we have a pretty healthy relationship, we took a break for about 6 months and she apologized for what she had done. sometimes I'm conflicted because its clear she is trying to make a change, but a lot of the time I'm still angry about what she did. I'm sure ill be okay, thanks for this dodie (even though I'm a whole 3 YEARS LATE WOAH)


I've been holding myself from crying for the past month and a half, and now that video helped me to realize that this is actually what I needed to do - to cry. Thank you, very helpful, exactly what I needed right now


I've watched this video at least over 15 times in the past few years and every time Im going through this sort of situation I always seem to come back to this video. You speak like a friend, its so comforting <3 thank u dodie


i was really worried when i saw the title, i thought she was going through this herself, and it kind made me realise how much i care about her even though i've never met her

Siri Bjørnæs but she is the sweetest bean on earth she deserves the best <3

Siri Bjørnæs oml don't remind me it's been a week since I last meet her

doddlevloggle oml Dodie, I can't tell you how helpful this is


i just finished watching this and i'm sobbing. i'm considering ending things with someone i love very much, and i really don't want to do it. but i feel like, especially after tonight, i need to. i really need to do this.

Mary Ghazi you can do this, if you believe it’ll be better for you in the long run do it 💛


A year ago I watched this video and cried, and now several months later, im grateful and so much more happy after following your advice. Thank you so much Dodie, you are lovely!


I remember watching this when you uploaded it and thinking "this will never apply to me, everyone in my life is so good for me" and now i need this video more than ever. Thank you so much dodie.


Getting me through my first break up! Thanks so much, Dodie. I’ve always found a way to get better after watching your videos :)


This helps so much even though his name still rolls off my lips, his face is still burnt into my minds eye and the love I had for him is still in my heart :/


Dodie I think you should watch this again, it's soul medicine 💕💖


I remember watching this video when it came out and younger me having never cut ties with someone. 3 years later I forgot bout this video 4 months after cutting ties. This was very cathartic and helpful. Still healing. To anyone out there who sees this, you are loved


The only reason I have a problem with cutting people off is because I know they'll attain phsycological damage too. Just as they've given me. And I hate that about myself. That I'm too nice and loving to cut people off although their presence angers me to the point where I scream pointlessly in the cafeteria at lunchtime (at nothing and no one in particular). And such a thing like this is stressful when I have Regents coming up. (Regents is a series of tests that New York thinks is a great way to test knowledge of high schoolers. My school is special so we do it in middle school). I don't have the time or mental preparation for this. But I know that I have to do this (I can't go through another year with these toxic relations with these people).

Hey! I know you posted this a year ago but I wanted to check in and see how you're doing! I know how hard it is to cut people off and it just adds to school stress, but.. yeah.. how are you, sis?


after watching this video (and crying... alot) I deleted my ex off of everything. I need to realise that she doesn't want me and that's okay. the feelings I have are not mutual and I have to cut the ties that I ever had with her to be able to move forward. I think it's for the best.

thank you Dodie 💞

@High&Lows Actually, it shows how strong they are for allowing themself to feel that pain. Allowing themself to be human and feel. While you putting that down as if it's a bad thing, that shows your weakness, not theirs. Have a nice day

I’m still getting over her after a year.  Unfortunately I see her everyday at work.  She had bought me alot of cool, heartfelt gifts while we were together that I couldn’t bring myself to get rid of until recently.  It was tough throwing them away because they were unique to me and they were very thoughtful.  Holding onto them though was only making things worse, like a small part of me was holding onto the memory of her, even though they were stuffed in the back of a drawer.

Same I miss my ex so much but I have to get over her, thankyou so much dodie 😪❤

Its hard but don't go back to them. If you know that you two can be friends and not get back together or still feel feelings then that's good, be friends. If you still love them and know they still love you, don't see them. Cut them out of your life and let them and you move on.

i broke up with my ex, now my ex is engaged with someone else. i was pretty much devastated when i first know bout it. my ex still wanna see me but i dont know if i can handle it. what should i do kind people from the internet?

Chloe Carr i wish u so much luck and just know that we all believe in u! Let's eat icecream..:3 idk

you're definitely a lot stronger than i can say i am

reese a. Stay strong girl, a lot of stuff can happen but life is gonna keep moving no matter what, life isn't a dress rehearsal and as long as we are moving with the times we will always be a whole lot better than those who hurt us

Chloe Carr your comment is basically me right now. i feel like not letting anyone in because of what happened between me the person i fell in love. it sucks.

Chloe Carr I'm in the same position, I love her, her not so much and it really sucks and hearing that you have seen this is for the best, I'm feeling that I will do the same, thank you

And thank you Dodie

Time heels everything, be kind to yourself, and surround yourself with good people :D

You go, girl!! “The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it." <3

thank you everyone, you're all so kind 💞

you're so strong and I'm sure you'll find someone better...I wish you luck and happiness💕

Ouch!  It's rough but just remember that a year from now that pain will be a memory that you've learned a bunch from.  It'll fade in time

Chloe Carr  I'm proud of you I have recently just got over my ex so it'll get better in the end ! Hope you all have a wonderful night/day 😄

i'm happy u did that. you own it to yourself. I hope u feel better :)

good luck, you're very strong and i wish you the best💞💞

that was a big step, you're doing great! <3

Thank you so much! At least now I know somebody does 💞


I love this video and I rewatch this video whenever I'm in a similar situation. thank you so much dodie ♡


I truly fell in love with my best friend. With all my heart. We met on a game and talked over Skype and it all continued from there. I was just so afraid of hurting her feelings that I never spoke a word when she had done something that hurt me (but I know it was always unintentional), plus we felt obligated to talk to each other all day without a break since that sort of established itself as a schedule and we were too afraid to switch it up, as that might hurt the other one. It collected over three years, and a few months ago we decided we had to stop talking because our friendship had just grown way too toxic. But everything about her... she lived a life I really wanted the whole time I've been alive; with good friends at a great school in a gorgeous country. She was the most beautiful girl I've ever seen and so sweet and I was so scared of losing her. She honestly was my everything... she was fulfilling in the times where I felt reduced to nothing. I doubt that if we ever meet again the old traces of our memories together could be repaired and we could have something healthy. I just can't seem to let it go at that. I wish so badly I could've instead known her in real life... I know I keep hoping for something I'll never get as it's far too late. But it's so hard to leave something so painful AND so great at the same time behind.


I  was recently on the other end of this, where I was the one who was cut off. Watching this has made me come to terms with the fact that even though it hurts, I will be okay. Thanks, Dodie!


Thanks for this dodie! Went through a breakup today, and needed this! 💛


When watching Dodie just sit and talk to the camera I feel like she's talking to me and like she's my friend even though she doesn't even know me and just that simple feeling is so comforting. Between that and how loving and helpful everyone in the comments is, I feel so overwhelmed by so much positivity.

CallMeMargo exactly, i feel like it is just one on one.


i used this video to help me get over my very first breakup when i was 15, i’m 20 this year and i’m still using it for right now. it’s so beautiful and comforting and just thank you dodie for this <3 i’ll probably be watching this when i’m 30 lol


Dodie you're so inspirational, your advice is WONDERFUL! I needed this so much I love you.


I watched this video 2 years ago to help get over my first heartbreak. Watching it again to help with my second heartbreak. Thank you so much for this video, dodie. It really does help put things into perspective and focus on the bigger picture ❤❤


I wish I had a friend like you, Dodie. Sometimes my friends do not listen to me and they are just kind of there to be there. Someone like you being in peoples lives as good friends would be great. The best we have is your help and hard work now. Thanks Dodie!


"If you're crying right now, keep crying." Yes, I am crying. Because this helps so much. I was doing some of these things already, but it wouldn't stop to hurt. It still hurts. And hearing you say that it's going to be okay made me believe in that more. Thank you. Thank you so much.
It's still gonna be hard for me, because I was cut out of 6 people's lives who meant the world for me, and I was replaced, but I'm gonna be okay eventually. Hopefully.
Thank you, Dodie, for keeping my head up a little higher. Thank you so, so much.


i remember watching this the day it came out and wondering if i'd ever be able to use this advice. and now, im finally trying to cut ties with the most toxic friend ive ever had and now i found myself back here. thanks for everything you do, dodie.


I needed to hear this today. I put way too much energy and time into someone that I shouldn't have. I had some unmet expectations. We're probably not going to have a big chat. But that's okay. Respect and trust were not equal which I now know what the issue was. I'm glad I put myself "out there" and I'll do it again sometime sooner than later.


Dodie your channel has always been here when I needed it and this is evident now more than ever thank you❤


Thank you for this video, Dodie ♥ I'm going through my first breakup and it feels so overwhelming. I hope I'll be okay someday.


This got me out of a really abusive relationship and I can't thank you enough


I don’t know how but you always manage to come up with the perfect video when I’m going through something. I appreciate this so much dodie, you’ve said pretty much everything I needed to hear. ❤


When you uploaded this I couldn't relate. Now, it's like I told you what's going on and you're giving me advice on how to deal with this. Thank you dodie for being you. I love you ❤


thank you so much, dodie. I’m in my lowest of my lows and this helps so much. I’m going through this with a friend, and I just want to say thank you. you’ve really helped


I went through cutting ties with a best friend/major crush who was actually really horrible to me and I had to give them up. It was awful. At the time I wasn't in the best mental state and I wasn't talking to anyone about it.
FOLLOW DODIE'S ADVICE. Everything she says is true but you will get through it.
I rang my other best friend crying, we skyped (while I cried), I never shut up about how much everything hurt.
But it gets better. So. Much. Better.

It was his birthday recently and I had completely forgot.
I call that progress.

SweetasSugar42 Oh my, that's awful, I'm glad you have friends who love and support you. I really hope you never go through this again~ ♡

Wow!! This got so big I'm so glad I could reach out to so many!! I hope all is well with you all <3
Ironically I've gone through all this again but with the best friend mentioned before. She was even more toxic than the crush I had and made me feel horrible for more than a year. Know the signs of a toxic relationship and apply it to your friendships too.
I'm surrounded by a lovely group of friends who care for me and look out for me when people try to manipulate me. I even burst into tears in front of them about the whole thing, haha. I love them all to bits.

It's going to be okay.

Been through the exact same thing last year. It does get better! If anyone reading this feels like it's too hard and they can't do it, just know you'll feel so much happier afterwards.

i've been through the exact same thing and it still hurt even if it was two years ago, but i'm stronger now and really hope i'll completely get over her someday

I'm going through the exact same thing right now. Congrats on your progress, thanks for sharing <3

i know how that is, but i couldnt get over them and now theyre my best friend. i made it so much harder for myself.

SweetasSugar42 me too! it feels so much better after a while.

Cedey AJ ah wow tbh I was thinking of myself while commenting, lol. I'm so happy I've helped you make an important decision in your life. Good luck and you are so brave <3

SweetasSugar42 OKAY I don't think you would've thought that your comment would help someone but I'm here and boy did it help me, after watching the video I really didn't know if I should cut ties with them but I think it's time... byebye best friend/major crush

Lucy Nielsen wow I'm so sorry you had to go through that, you sound a lot better now however. stay positive :-) xx

SweetasSugar42 I went through the same thing! I even had some short term memory loss due to the sort of trauma I had to go through, and I'm still working on returning to the happy person I was before. (this sounds really dramatic, but as you said, they weren't the nicest) I wish you the best of luck with further progressing, and I know we'll both get through this! ❤❤❤

doddleoddle awh you replied!! your advice was great :-)


After watching this I'm actually smiling sadly, as I did exactly this. I watched this before after cutting ties with someone I truly care...cared? about and I'm feeling better now. Much better with better people in my life. Thank you for the help, dodie <3


Hello Dodie! (Or everyone reading this) This is a wonderful, mostly because there's not a lot of advice out there for people to look up during this situation. I would like to bring up one thing; If the person you are with is very possessive or you fear they will yell/harm you if you try to bring up this subject, it might not be the best idea to have a chat with them. To be honest, it will most likely be better (not guaranteed, I'm not perfect) to walk out, stay with someone close or a safe place, and I would recommend seeking professional help, as it can be rather scary. Anyways, love the video!


Dodie, thank you for making this, I have been listening to this on repeat for the last few minutes and it's helping me, even if I don't realise it. Thank you!


I really needed this. I'm currently going through a pretty crap heartbreak, so this is so great thing to watch💕


she made this video at the best time for me and it literally applied to my situation so perfectly I really needed it 💖


Hey! So I'm coming from a different point of view on this, I understand that if you're cutting ties you want to maybe consult with them, but being on the receiving end of that was horrible. I was actually feeling the same way as this person was, but the way they went about it was just heart breaking. Basically telling me it was my fault that we fell out of a healthy friendship. If you're going to consult with them please just be polite. And if you're school with them, you can't really pretend they don't exist, because it just comes off as rude. I have cut ties with someone before, and I didn't consult them. I simply was still friendly to them but just slowly overtime distanced myself. We are still friendly to this day, and I don't regret it at all. It was better for me in the long run but just remember this person has feelings too and it might stir up a lot of drama amongst peers if you attempt to pretend they don't exist.

I'm so glad to see a comment like this bc I also just had the experience of being on the receiving end of someone cutting ties. One of my best friends of ten years just decided to stop talking to me, even when we were sitting together in lessons at school. They avoided me at break times, never bothered to say hi unless I said it first and made me feel absolutely awful, as I had no idea what was wrong, and began to fear even trying to talk to them. It was all made worse by the fact that we had both recently cut ties with some of our other mutual friends so I had very few friends left at school at the time. I understood that they had joined another group at school, and I had often worried about holding them back so I just kept my distance and waited for them to start talking again.

But ultimately they finally texted me (note: didn't even try to talk to me in person) and told me that they hadn't felt supported by me and were going through their own problems, and wanted to take a break from our "toxic" friendship for a while. I tried to offer my support (they didn't want it) but eventually felt so angry that I bluntly wished them luck in the future and stated I didn't want to continue our friendship due to how much they had hurt me. I realise now that our relationship probably was becoming toxic but I'm still heartbroken over how they went about it. Luckily, the whole experience has taught me to be more independent and a few months later I feel a lot stronger and more confident in myself.

Allie Griffin I know you wrote this a year ago, but I’m gonna respond because what the heck. You got that right, when I broke up with some of my friends I did it in the wrong way that you described. At this point I kinda regret it because anytime I’m around them at school it gets pretty uncomfortable and I feel bad because one of my best friends is still friends with them (and I feel horrible that she has to choose who to be with at different points and I know I shouldn’t feel bad when she goes to them more often since there’s more of them than me and in those cases I’m still with other friends and it’s dumb but it still kinda hurts y’know). I’ll admit at certain parts of this friendship I was the toxic one and I acknowledge that, but honestly the level of insecurities I have got to my head and I over thought every little action that happened, and I know it doesn’t excuse some of the stuff I did but it kinda explains why I was dumb. Idk I always just felt like an outsider in my friend group so the instance where I wasn’t invited to something that basically everyone else was I went off on everyone and ignored them for a week. Afterwards I messaged them to apologize for my outburst and I explained my insecurities (one friend said he just didn’t want tension in the friend group, two apologized for what happened, and the third said it wasn’t his fault that I overreacted over something so small and it wasn’t his problem) and idk things were kinda okay after I apologized. But afterwards things just kinda got slowly worse and I felt like even more of an outcast to our group and I started doing dumb things to feel like I had a sense of control in my life again. My breaking point kinda got to the point where said friend group didn’t really include us in stuff on our class trip. And then after we got back from said trip I kinda just went off and just told them that they never cared about me and that I was nothing more than a convenience friend. One said he didn’t want to deal with me anymore and that I was too dramatic, I can’t remember what the second said, and the third said she was just gonna keep her distance until I wasn’t mad anymore. Two weeks later I kinda made a bold move I messaged the one girl and told her I was never gonna be anything more than a replacement for when her one friend wasn’t around or when the other friends she was better friends with were mad/left her out of things/didn’t want to talk to her so I kinda rudely said I was cutting her out and unfollowed everyone I decided to cut out on social media. I will admit I wasn’t totally right in how I chose to handle things, but being a kinda dramatic person it kinda just happened. I wish I would’ve watched videos like this one so I could’ve planned it out better and not acted so impulsively. I don’t know why I’m telling this to a completely random person on the internet but idk I guess I just want to get it off my chest since I can’t really rant about it irl to most people I know.


I watched this video before my first relationship and now watching it after my first relationship. Cried a little this time. I'm glad to know a year is more normal than a few months because it's been a few months and I don't feel healed. Thank you, Dodie xx


Thank you dodie. I cut ties with someone a few weeks ago that was toxic and I'm still dealing with it. I know it's for the best and it will be better and it is better actually, but it still hurts. Thank you for your words of encouragement. I hope you have a wonderful day. 😊


I got out of an abusive friendship a few months before this video was uploaded and I wish I could've seen it sooner. I think I could have used a bit of support and you know, just someone to tell me that I would be okay in the long run. I got over them anyway, but it was so painful and I felt so lonely. Thank you for making this video, I'm sure it'll help a lot of other people going through this. Love you always x


I always have to come back to this video for different people and damn it hurts, but it’s always helpful, thankyou x


I remember watching this when it first came out. I was in a very toxic friendship at the time and this video inspired me to end that relationship. Two days later I completely stopped talking to that person and cut them entirely out of my life. It’s been over a year and I’m okay. My self esteem is so much better and I’m so much happier.

I T  W I L L  B E  O K A Y .


I cried a lot, but this is my favourite video forever.
Thanks Dodie♥
I'll play this on replay to remember that all bad times will pass, wounds heal & time will help & that at last the only person that can make me (yourself) happy is me :) & that's fine because depending on someone sucks & it's toxic & hurting. People come & go, and there's always going to be that one friend that stays & loves you for who you are & really cares about you. I'll be fine with just 1 or 2 friends as long as our relationship is healthy, honest, loyal & full of love. I think I just write this as a catarsis. Lol.


I love how she posts this when I need it the most

lmao and i'm back at this video again 2 years later :)


I'm cutting ties with a girl who was one of my best friend for years and I'm going to see her every day in school but this video helped me so much and now I know it's for the better. Thank you Dodie!💛


I watched this last Christmas when I was going through a breakup and guess who’s back the same time a year later with a different guy

edit:
LOL back again ouch

💓 good luck aha hope your doing better this xmas

holy shoot me of the past look who it is again lmao

This comment is relatable content.

Hope you’re doing better now.


i recently got out of a v toxic long term relationship and rewatched this video. it honestly feels like chatting with a friend and i appreciate that. dodie is so honest but also calming and i love that she keeps saying "it will hurt im sorry for that" it just feels real. thank you for helping me.


I just want you to know that I remember this video from the first time I watched it and I made a mental note to remember this for when I need it. Today I cut off my toxic friend and confronted her and I needed this video to make me feel better. I don’t necessarily feel bad about cutting her off for myself but I’ve been avoiding it because of concern for her mental health but today I came to the conclusion that if it doesn’t happen now it’s just going to build up and blow up. Thank you dodie everything you say always makes me feel better and I hope you know how much of a help you are to people.


dear Dodie.
thank you, you are a true inspiration thank you for being like a big sister, someone i can look up to an come to for advice (in a sense). i (not so recently) cut ties with someone whom i was in a platonic relationship with.
this person was very self conceited and liked telling me that she'd be the only person who will ever really and honestly care for me. she kept me insecure, so she'd feel better about herself and i'd keep coming back to her, (because only she cared... right?)
you were the one who finally made me pluck up the courage to cut her out of my life and for that i want to thank you. (oh my gosh i'm crying)
anyway. like you said, it hurts and on a daily i want to go back to her and talk to her, make excuses yo justify her actions to make her "not that toxic". and i can't because she is...  but then my real friends (with whom I've now formed a much stronger bond) would remind me that i don't owe her anything
i guess i'm just trying to say thank you for being you and sharing your experiences they really do help people

melomaniac yeah, thank you again. it means alot<3 <br>also you're channel is great I subbed

melomaniac yeah, thank you again. it means alot<3
also you're channel is great I subbed

+Just Tea Covers you're welcome, cutting ties is always a tough thing to do and you're very brave and strong to have done so<3 (and dodie is absolutely wonderful, you're completely right)

melomaniac,  thank you, you honestly have no idea how happy you've made me. just knowing you took the time to read my sad soppy long ass message. Even just hearing (reading) that you're proud makes me feel better <3<br>i think we can both agree Dodie is an amazing person and she's a true inspiration <3

melomaniac,  thank you, you honestly have no idea how happy you've made me. just knowing you took the time to read my sad soppy long ass message. Even just hearing (reading) that you're proud makes me feel better <3
i think we can both agree Dodie is an amazing person and she's a true inspiration <3

I'm sososo proud of you well done it makes me so happy to see the affect dodie can have aw

sorry it's such a long message... i didn't even notice.


I just started falling in love with this guy for the first time in years but I have severe abandonment issues & my mind has instantly supplied me with reasons on why He’ll never feel that way for me & why I don’t deserve it...this really sucks.

Same.. Today i just blocked him on every social media and i just feel so selfish but it'll get better in the long run

Bailey B how’d it turn out yo? Hopefully well!💛


This was really nice to hear. Someone I considered my best friend recently cut ties with me, and so I'm really glad I came across this video. It's really hard, because I still have to see her every day, but I know I can get through it


I appreciate this video so much. I've rewatched it many times over the past 9 months in my process of getting over someone. I finally fully cut them off last month and it has been really good for me but it still hurts. I rewatch this every time I cry about it because it's a wonderful reminder that I'm doing the right thing and that It's ok.


When I first watched this, I had just been broken up with by a boyfriend of three years. I didn’t want to do anything Dodie said because I was in denial. More than a year later, I can strongly agree with everything she says. It took me a while, but eventually I did all of these things and I felt a lot better. And it took me a year to fully recover.


when Dodie said "if you're crying right now...." it made me laugh while i was in the middle of sobbing. really needed this video ❤


thank you for making this..i was in an abusive relationship and I was struggling so hard to leave. now I have the help of family and friends and I've taken the proper steps to leave. blocking him on everything and blocking his number permanently at the phone company. I know it'll hurt but I have family and friends which I'm so thankful for. last night I watched this video crying and it helped a lot. everything you said in this video was completely true and I'll be watching it many times over again, especially on those bad days to help me get through it. so thank you so much for making this ♡


I've watched this before, during and after the end of a relationship and each time understood and appreciated everything said in this video all the more. You are a wise and smart lil bean dodes, tyvm for making shit like this to guide me and others. Okay bye


Thank you so much dodie. I've been watching this video a lot for the same situation. It's really helpful, I love you a lot


I watched this at the start of my break up. It’s been three months and I’m making a lot of progress without that person now. Thank you Dodie :)


Thank you so much for this video Dodie. I had a lot of really bad fall outs with the same friend, and this recent one was the one that did it. This has helped me so much.


genuinely thank you so much for this video it has helped me personally and when my friends are going through things like this even if they don’t know you i show this to them and it helps so much and i just am so grateful for this, thank you <3


tips
-write poems; just getting your feelings out in a understanding way has helped me a ton so try it even if you aren't poetic!
-crying & letting go; express the hurt and pain will help relief it.  stop wearing something they gifted you with and throw it out or give it to a relative you trust and are close with.
-practice self love; just in general we should being doing this but looking up some healthy ways to help yourself grow will be better in the long run.


i'm beyond grateful for you and your videos and the people they attract. you and everyone in the comments are real and supportive and it gives me so much hope. thank you, dodie and fans of dodie.


Haha, two years after breaking off a really close friendship and I am glad to say that I followed a lot of Dodie's steps and... they've worked pretty well! Some days I look back on my decision and wonder if I was right, because it's in my nature to reflect on the shit I've done and occasionally, regret some of it. The one sad thing is that I dumped an entire year worth of a friendship as well as any possibility of a relationship, over a text. Cringe. And I'll never get closure. :^)


Hi, Dodie.<br>I just want to say how grateful i am to find this video when i'm scrolling through my youtube home. Thank you so much, you have no idea how much i need this. I'm in the process of getting over someone, and somehow i need reassurance that what i'm doing now it's a good thing for me and after i watch your video i'm feeling a little better. So i just want to say thank you so much❤

Hi, Dodie.
I just want to say how grateful i am to find this video when i'm scrolling through my youtube home. Thank you so much, you have no idea how much i need this. I'm in the process of getting over someone, and somehow i need reassurance that what i'm doing now it's a good thing for me and after i watch your video i'm feeling a little better. So i just want to say thank you so much❤


I've recently become enemies with my best friend and have been going to therapy for more than a year to get over it, especially at Xmas time when my mental health hit me most and my "best friend" helped me last year. I just wanted you to know that this video really helped me and that no one is alone in their post-suffering relationships/ friendships/ etc...


YouTube recommended this to me exactly when I’m going through this exact situation, I’m so glad dodie says it takes time coz I felt so pathetic for still feeling rubbish months later, ugh heartbreaks hurt ❤🩹


Hey Dodie, just wanted to let you know that this video came at an incredibly good timing for me. I just broke up with my boyfriend, of a year, a couple of days ago. It's bad but know it'll get better. Also, your EP has been on replay in my headphones since it came out! Absolutely love it! Keep up the fantastic work and thank you for your lovely words. ♥


4:01
That "you're gonna be okay". I needed that more than I realized. I started tearing up.


I cannot even begin to describe how much this has helped me. Thank you. I'm not going into details, I'm unsure of who out the of the people that I know watch your videos and may come across this comment, but recently I've had to cut ties with my best friend because everything ((as in, the way I felt and the fact that she basically stopped caring about me)) just got too much. Nobody, out of a couple of friends that I talked to about it, was able to fully talk to me about it. Listen, yes. Say anything back, no. Watching this video has made me feel 98.9% better and I can't thank you enough.
I was crying watching this video for two reasons:
1) when I tried to get over this person, I blocked them on everything and tried to talk to them. I thought I was doing the wrong thing. Of course, you're no therapist and your advice isn't always right but I'm so happy that the advice that you gave is the same as what I did because it reassured me that what I did was okay.
2) at one point I was listening really really intensely to everything you were saying. Then you told us that it was going to be okay and i juST LOST IT. For so long I've been waiting to hear somebody else say it and then BOOM you did and out came the tears and every last piece of emotion that came with the tears and omg I'm so dramatic.

I honestly love you so much Dodie. Thank you


I really needed this...thanks, Dodie. Love you! You are truly an amazing person!


I watched this video needing it almost 9 months ago, and rewatching it now, thank you so much. I didn’t follow all the tips exactly, because of the situation, but this video helped me so much back then and I can honestly say I feel so much between now


Dude
I literally
I can't right now
I'm going through this right now and I really really needed that
thank you very very much
It is very nice to know
that there are
others like
me


Thanks Dodie, this was wonderful to listen to, needed it 💕


thank you dodie for this wonderful video! it means the world to me and a lot of people <3


Ththank you dodie, I really needed this. I have a really toxic friendship with a girl who is not necessarily the best influence, and we both agreed a while ago that we aren't the best for each other. This is really helping me cope with losing her


Thank just helped me so much! Not even with a romantic relationship but I've had a bit of a fall-out with my friend group and I'm having trouble being okay with that because none of it really happened on my terms but I think I'm feeling better after watching this :)


I watched this a year ago when I wasn't going through this, it popped up on my recommended today, and it's perfect timing, thank you Dodie


HOW DID YOU DO THAT?! I fell better after all you said and... I just wanna say a big thank you, Dodie. Sadly, I don't have a person who can have a conversation with me now (cause I don't really have any friends really). Thank you for being so open, thank you for saying all this things to your audience.

Даша Макарова


I started crying right before you said it’s okay to cry. When I watch your videos I feel like you’re the only person on Earth who can possibly understand my feeling and calm me down. Thank you. So. Much.


i always seem to come back to this video every single time i go through something like this and it always makes me finally stop suppressing how i’m feeling and actually allows me to cry about it and be upset and move forward from it


you made this video the week im going through a 4 year breakup, i needed this more than anything.

Ditto!OMG, IT FUCKEN HURTS. Four years of tired of defending someone and unsure If I made the right choice cuz I still care about them. }x

Oh no, I’m sorry girlie. It’s been a year since you commented so I hope things have gotten a bit better ♥♥

wallflowerstories 5 years. Fuck, this hurts.

Can I ask how you are feeling 10 months later? I need hope that this hurt will end

i feel like a douche because im going through a 1 year breakup

Same here... 7.5 year break up. I literally knew him since I was 12. This isn't going to be easy but I know it'll get better over time :)

i'm going through this after a 3 year relationship

@wallflowerstories Happy to hear you're doing better hun. Imagine how you'll be feeling in another month, and another, and another. May be weird to hear from a stranger, but I'm really proud of you.

It's been over a month for me now and I will say that things will get better eventually. Its still really hard rn even when I try to ignore it, but as cheesy as it sounds - time really does heal all wounds. I know you can get through it.

My girlfriend and I of 3 years just broke up yesterday... I feel completely lost. I'm sorry for anyone who has gone through this.

@wallflowerstories You're very welcome hun <3

@NinjaBunni13 thank you for kind comment <3 the little things like this help me a lot.

wallflowerstories I can't even imagine what that's like :( I'm sorry love. I hope you learn, grow heal, and flourish from this. Best of luck xx


i was having a hard time getting over my ex who broke up with me (over text i might add) and thought i would turn to the wise and kind words of my dear dodie, and i stumbled upon this video. thank you so much for your thoughts, its really nice to have a solid list of things to start with rather than just being like "im upset. im losing this person. what do i do. how do i cope??" you are such a wonderful ray of sunshine and i am immensely appreciative of you.


I watched this video a few months back.. I had an ex that I had been with for a year.. and after 8 months I still wasn't over him.. nothing was happening I just couldn't get over him.. and then I stumbled upon this video.. and it did wonders for me.. I can't tell you how thankful I am dodie!!! It pushed me up in the right direction!! and I went back to school and saw my ex and I didn't feel like crying.. my heart didn't really feel much at all for him really.. and I think I'm finally ready to let my heart love again! thank you dodie!^-^


I still remember watching this last November, I cried a lot and felt so hard to move on from her. But now I am able to smile and live my life happily coz past and experience only makes you stronger. I'm so grateful that i find this channel <3


Thank you so much❤ This really helped me. I have to cut ties with my 'best friend' which I know since 7 years but she's always jealous when I'm doing something with other friends, talks behind my back and don't appreciate the things I archieve. The thing to write everything down and let them know will really help me I think


I just found this video, and I can't tell you how much this helped. I'm cutting ties with someone, and I need to take the final step. thanks dodie❤


It’s hard when I still love him and he still loves me :(

ouch, that hit me really hard. it’s the exact reason why i’m here. :/

SigneRosa Nord you will both find other people to love. maybe sooner than you think, maybe not. but you will, and then you’ll look back at now and wonder why it hurt so much

I’m in the same situation... any tips since you went through this two years ago? I hope it turned out okey for you xx


I have been watching you for almost a year now and watched this video when I began listening to your songs. I made a new friend who we will call Destiny, this year and she has watched you for a long time too. We're best friends and have a very healthy friendship. My school is a charter for the arts and she got in because someone else who we will call michelle, introduced her to it. "Michelle" has been in this school since last year and I've heard things about her which got me excited to meet her (since I have never had a class with her). I met her and she was pretty nice and we both love musical theatre. After a while she kind of became annoying and has become super clingy. I was also told that she lies a lot and is terrible with secrets which made me even more uncomfortable. I told "Destiny" about the fact that I didn't want to be so close of a friend to "Michelle" any more and asked what I should do. She told me to watch this, in which has given me an idea but, she is really sensitive and want to give it to her in the nicest way possible. I've tried to tell her that I don't wanna be that close to her but she kind of just ignored it a while later. If anyone can try to help me out asap please feel free to reply. Ily dodie thank you so much!


okayyy, so this video literally feels like a hug from a friend, and after a lot of tears I feel like this was the hug I needed. feeling like you're stuck in limbo when you still feel for someone and you know its coming to an end is incredibly difficult but everything is going to be okay and everything happens for a reason and every heartache is a lesson


What if the person you need to cut it off with somebody you fucking love who hurt you but you constantly forgive them but you just can't let go because you cant

Same honey same, I would cut ties if that's possible. I can't because I see them everyday and I can't avoid that. Helllppp

juicy leaves literally my situation. The person did not do anything too bad but hurt me and I can't let it go even though they've tried all their best... I feel guilty for not being able to let things go and I feel like it's all my fault because I can't move on easily and get stuck on the most little insignificant things. So I'm hurt and I also feel guilty... I'm such a failure

juicy leaves I'm literally in the same situation atm

WordsWithSam thank you so much :) that made it seem a little bit easier then it is. I have a lot of worries tbh because I don't know how to do it but thank you.

I can imagine how you're feeling right now is really shit, I've been through a very similar sounding thing, but honestly, however bad it hurts, however may times it takes, you need to cut those ties. Please, cut them. It took me over a year to cut ties with a previous relationship but now, despite not being over him fully, I am doing so much better with my mental health and general wellbeing.

juicy leaves  cut ties. please cut ties. cut those ties


I needed this more than ever today!! thank you Dodie!!!! <3


I recently ended a friendship that was toxic in both ways (me to her, her to me) and I was getting a bit teary eyed through the video, but when dodie said to cry and let it all out I broke down in tears, because everything she said was so true, I try to act like im not in pain but it hurts so much. I miss my friend but it was for the best.

Thank you so much dodie this video really helped


It had been 2 months since I did this with someone and I honestly thought I was just overreacting cause it’s been so long and then you said it might take a year and I’m like ugh that it’s gonna take that long, but I’m also glad to know that I’m not like crazy or something — thank you so much for this Dodie


When this video came out,it had been almost a year since my ex and I broke up and I still wasn't over him. And I was actually getting very legitimately depressed over this. I followed the tips in this video and now,I'm completely over him and we're completely just friends and I feel great. Thank you Dodie :)


I am going through something like this now and this video is ssooo helpful, thank you doddie


I watched this the night before I made the decision to cut ties with someone who was very toxic but I was also very close with and I cannot tell you how helpful it was<3


"I'm not a therapist" DODIE YES YOU ARE OML😂


this is amazing. thank you. i recently cut ties with one of my good friends because of how toxic she was being towards me. it was an unhealthy relationship, so much so that i felt myself suffocating. it was obsessive, almost, the way she couldn't let me go or insisted in going out with me everywhere, the way she followed everything i did and couldn't let me have anything for myself. it hurt to cut ties with someone i never dreamt i would lose, but ultimately, it came up to be a decision i don't regret. i feel free again, free to be with other people and friends, free to not feel controlled by somebody. i have made so many new friends over the course of this time and if you're reading this and are going through a similar relationship, i know how scary things can be to drop a relationship you spent so much time on. but it helped me so much, and it WILL help you too. don't hurt yourself anymore, cut those ties :)


Almost two years later this video is still just as impactful as when i first saw this back when it was posted. I've experienced this from both sides and it's completely heartbreaking, I've been the toxic person before without understanding that it was me not them. I've accepted that I've done so much wrong but i'm horrified that i put the person i loved through hell and experiencing the same thing she did from another person i thought i loved opened an old wound. I lived in fear of my last girlfriend after the one i was toxic to, i was scared to leave the house in case i saw her and my anxiety just went out of control. She'd threaten to kill herself if i wasn't constantly with her or behaving in a certain way that couples do but i knew i didn't love her and i wasn't comfortable with those things. The girl i made miserable was the only person i could talk to because of my mental health but i depended on her, i was jealous of how she could talk to other people and i didn't like not being able to talk to her but in doing so i never realised i restricted her or i didn't want to accept that i was to blame. I was to blame, i held her back but she's recovered and i will never hold her back again and i'm so glad she's okay because she's the last person on earth who would deserve to be sad. Now i see that she's happy and i'm so so proud of her, i haven't spoken to her in years because i don't want to hurt her again the way i did before and i hope that this is best for her. My mental health is crumbling but now i know what is toxic behaviour and i am changing, i only realised my mistakes watching this back in 2016 and watching it again i see how far i've come. If anyone reads this please just make sure you don't hurt the ones you care about and do what's best for both of you because to this day it's the worst thing i've done. Dodie's advice is really accurate for me and so are the comments so thank you.


"You're gonna be okay. Alright." that got me.. i teared up.. then if ur crying right now, keep crying. yup that started it THANKS


This video really helped, a lot.🙂I felt like I was talking to a friend who truly cares.


Love u dodie this advice was perfect... happy that I'm not alone or crazy for feeling the way I do abt someone


How can i just found out about your channel now, you're just perfect. I like your music, your personality, your vlog, everything. Your excitement and happiness are contagious and i really need it right now, thank you so much.


I cannot even begin to explain how important it is that this video popped up in my recommended section today. I always find your videos so helpful and I had no idea that this one existed. I'm happy I know now. Thank you Dodie. <3


I used to repeat this video again and again for weeks. I listened to it to go to sleep, when I was really sad. And now I returned to it and I'm so happy!! So so happy and proud of myself. I got over him and I feel sooo free. I still love him but it doesn't hurt, not a little bit.


Needed to rewatch this video today! Thanks for the advice Dodie! :)


The world is a brighter place for you being in it, Dodie. Thank you for being a kind, uplifting person :)


I just "broke up" with my best friend. This helped me so much. I love you so much dodie and you've made me so much happier


I love you Dodie, thank you so much for this kind of videos!


i had this really big fight with one of my friends and i didn’t know who to deal with it and when i saw this video i immediately removed him from snapchat and instagram. and cried for like an hour 😂😭. thank you so much for this Dodie!


All these comments, I feel so bad but happy at the same time to know that we all are finding comfort through this video. Her voice is so gentle and calm and I can't even. Sigh. Love can be a good thing but when it leaves it hurts so much. So much.


Thank you. This video is exactly what I needed to let go. ❤


i remember when dodie uploaded this, and it made me realise how long ive been putting of and pushing down my thoughts about my best friends. wow. I'm glad that I've cut ties with her.


I really needed this video. I fought with my best friend and we've been friends for years. I know she's toxic for me but I still held on because the friendship I had with her was there for so long. She's ditched me and insulted me more times than I can imagine. She kicked me out of her house when I first told her I was bisexual. She used her boyfriend to look cool and fit in, called me a slut because my best friend was a dude. Called me a depressed freak who is obsessed with dramatic situations and likes attention. Even after this I remained her friend but I watched this video today and realised how much of a toxic person she is. I sent her a long text message and blocked her from all social media accounts and cried. Thank you dodie for being there more than she ever was.


youtube just recommended me this in the day i had the conversation with my best friend about our relationship. we need to take a break. I already talked to him 2 times in this year about this, but only now when i was sure i had feelings for him i could honestly speak about the situation. the harderst part of it all is that we love each other so much and it seems like we are neglecting the other's feeling. this already happened before and truly the only thing that made move on was all the topics you doddie said. it wasnt easy at the age, so won't be now, but i'm hope we'll be able to find a way to overcome the things without needing to pull us back from our friendship. thank you for the video, doddie, it comes in a freaking good time for me. peace and love


I've recently had to cut ties with a girl I thought was my best friend. Going through this I have some advice for all of you. Here we go: You don't need them in your life. I thought I could never live without them yet I'm still standing here stronger than ever. There will be those nights were you cry your eyes out and you wanna give up but those nights make you stronger. You are loved and you are cherished. Love the friends you have now and appreciate them and go to them in your time of need. No matter how hard it gets remember you are a warrior and you can get through this. I did and if I did then you can too. I bet whoever you are that you are a great and beautiful and you should be treated with respect and whoever your cutting ties with doesn't treat you like that so their not needed in your life. Stay around those who love you and get through this with them by your side.


I watched this a few months ago and it motivated me to cut ties with my closest friend who was very toxic and constantly hurt me so thanks:)


one of the best advice vids ever. im going through this rn and you’ve helped a lot. thank u


dodie i’m so glad i found this. ive just broken up with a friend i’ve had for about a year. i never realized how much it affected me for the things that she did, but in the long run i know it’s what’s best. it’s really difficult, because she was one of my only friends. over a year later i’ve finally realized how toxic it was and she didn’t even realize. the bullying was completely ok to her, she didn’t think it did anything to me at all. she’s still consistent on trying to get me to be her friend again and no matter how many times i say no she’s still trying. so i took your advice. all of it. i’ve been watching a lot of your videos again lately and, i don’t know. sorry for the rant <3


Thanks for this:) I'm kind of going through a breakup right now. Basically she wasn't in love with me anymore, and it just didn't work out overall. But we decided to stay close friends, and I'm actually seeing her again in like two weeks.
I thought this would work out fine, because we have pretty great chemistry and have a lot in common and stuff, and I thought it would be a shame to let that go.
But after watching this video, I'm kind of worried that we're just doing this because we're too scared to actually "get over" each other for real. Does anyone have any advice concerning this? Do you know, if it's possible to just go over to being friends right away? Or does it sound unhealthy to you? Have you been in the same situation? Would love to hear someones advice on this, and thanks in advance:)


Watching this on the verge of tears....I know it's time, but I can't bring myself to do it. I'm broken.

Makenna Maxwell the first heart break is always the hardest. its such a new pain youve never really felt before and youre not sure how to fix it. honestly time heals all. Youre also just another step close to meeting the person you're meant to be with who will make you a million times happier than your first significant other ever made you feel.

WooHoo507 I just ended my first ever relationship like an hour ago and god it hurts so bad

Jaime Collier im about three months away from ending my first serious relationship and im far far better than i ever was during it. I remember the first month i felt so vulnerable and almost ran back but I stood strong and so glad i did. I know you dont know me, but if I could do it, you could do it. Like dodie said, you can be happy and you will be happy!

Jaime Collier I'm in the same situation I just can't do it even though I know I should

+Jaime Collier you can do it. Look after yourself. I believe in you <3


If the relationship is one sided and you have had a chat with that person and they are dismissive of your needs  and feelings and they don't seem to want to then, let go.
 It's okay to let go of this person even for a short while( take as long as you need to) it will be much better for you mental well-being and you will like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders.

i hope this helps>:


Oh dodie. You have no idea how good it feels for you to be making this video, it feels like a best friend or a sister is talking to me and it's very comforting. I've been going through a sort of break-up because i was seeing a guy who told me he didn't want anything serious after two months which is not alot but it's still sucky... i miss him everyday but i know that this was gonna happen eventually. I'm kinda glad it was sooner than later. I just wish to be friends with him but i can't right now because it hurts, it stings. I just hope that maybe someday we can actually be friends and everytime that i look at him, it won't hurt like hell 😔<br>Thank you again, you da best.

Oh dodie. You have no idea how good it feels for you to be making this video, it feels like a best friend or a sister is talking to me and it's very comforting. I've been going through a sort of break-up because i was seeing a guy who told me he didn't want anything serious after two months which is not alot but it's still sucky... i miss him everyday but i know that this was gonna happen eventually. I'm kinda glad it was sooner than later. I just wish to be friends with him but i can't right now because it hurts, it stings. I just hope that maybe someday we can actually be friends and everytime that i look at him, it won't hurt like hell 😔
Thank you again, you da best.


I've had a 'friend' who I would talk with for hours on end on text or calling or just talking in person. She would dump all her problems on me and I would just let it happen, trying to solve every problem she threw at me. It went on for a year, with some weird breaks in between and I was in love with her for a while until I realized how manipulative she was being and I'm just now beginning to cut her out.
Watching you, Dodie, talk about this is making me feel better about myself when I felt guilty about leaving her. You've opened doors for me and showed me that it's okay to cut out someone I was so close with and release those emotions I've been repressing for so long.
So thank you, Dodie


I needed this SO MUCH. Thank you dodie 💗


I saw this a while ago, and it didnt apply to me so I wasnt that affected by it. Now I am going through this exact process, cutting ties with my first love because it’ll hold me back if I wont. So a friend, who is amazing just sent this to me cause she knows Im hurting. Thank you dodie for making this video, thank you friend for sending it to me :) I might be crying right now but its good, its gonna be okay. Can’f wait to see you preform in Bristol <3


5 months ago I watched this video, crying. the time and distance really works  I feel 80% better now, it was one of the most hurtful processes I've ever expirienced. Thanks for this video, time does  really work❤ you, the one reading this, you'll get better ❤❤ its not the end of the World


In the summer of 2018, I cut ties with my best friends of 5 years. I grew up with these people and they were the only “best friends” I’d ever known.

Now, it’s March 2020 and I’ve been able to make many different small groups of friends that are kind and support me, no matter the challenge. This is especially new and beautiful considering that one of my ex-friends was quite jealous any time that any of us would make new friends, and, for that reason, none of us were ever able to.

If that person is reading this, I wish you all of the happiness in the world.
I wish you less pain than you gave me and more fulfillment than our years together has left me with.
I value all that we shared, but I’m proud that I’ve been able to move on from that toxic setting, and I hope you’re able to as well.

It can and will get better y’all. I’ve been able to grow from the pain, and sticking it out has been so much more rewarding than it would’ve been had I given up when my depression was at its worst.

I love you all and will adopt you as a friend on the spot when you cut them ties 💛💛💛


I really needed this... see, I'm going through this with a friend that I've known for only a year, almost two, but has come to be a really really important person in my life. This year we started having trouble and arguments at the beginning of the year. We had a huge fight around christmas and a few other friends got involved and that was that... then we had another huge fight and AGAIN other friends got involved (her best friend literally told of one of my best friends and cause her to be mad at me) but anyways... this fight kind of got the relationship go down hill wayyyy faster than it was before. She made a comment on something I said about my anxiety and she told me (basically, not directly.. this is how i took it.) that because this is involving her my anxiety or how the fight will affect me and my anxiety didn't matter because she was more important.. i wish now i could've told myself then and there this behavior isn't ok... but i didn't. So i talked to my teacher about it. I talked to my teacher because he understands and actually cares unlike most teachers in my school and i didn't want to talk to my friends about it because who knows who it'd get around to. We would keep getting into fights and life would get harder and eventually i just didn't feel the friendship anymore.. so I just changed my behavior when i was around her. Let me get this straight... i did not mean to change my behavior every time she came around, it just happened. So i decided one day when i heard her talking about me and one of my best friends to one of my best friends that that was the last straw. I guess i was a little bit over dramatic with it but i said something to her about it and told her we should take a break. (this was a week ago as i write this but thats ok) i felt so bad. I didn't cry, i couldn't pull myself to, i was just a mess. This showed on her face too, so i gave in.. I went back to her... i made myself do it. I have no idea what to do. Summer is almost here and I'm gonna be going into high school, as is she, and we're going to the same high school and I'm hoping maybe it'll branch off but i don't know if i should just end it or make myself stop it now or wait. I don't know if I'm over reacting or not. I just don't know... I've been through this type of thing before but it was far worse and that girl moved away so it was forced to end. I don't know how much sense this whole thing made but i hope it made a bit of sense because i really need advice... thanks for reading, much love! -Katie <3


its been nine months since I cut my best friend out of my life and it was really really tough for me. I've never had to do anything like it before and I didn't expect it to hurt so much for so long. Ultimately I know I was right to do it, and I think we've both been better since, but I still get moments when I remember some of the really great moments we had together. A big thing for me when I hit a particularly tough spot is I remind myself that sure, some of my best memories were with her, but there was a reason we don't talk anymore. it wasn't a healthy relationship in the end. I find it helps a lot to keep reminding yourself of who you cut ties with them in the first place because the desire to just forget about it and go back to them can be really overwhelming at times. This video was spot on though. Thank you for once again creating something that has helped me to feel more okay about myself and my own feelings and emotions :)


Thank you for making this video <br>It has helped a lot and I know it has helped a lot of other people xx

Thank you for making this video
It has helped a lot and I know it has helped a lot of other people xx


Oh my gosh I just found this video and it has helped me so much. I just had to cut ties with someone really important with me and I feel so much better with this advice! (also I'm crying so hard right now.)


I didn't know this is what I needed. Thank you so much Dodie, thank you.


Thank you dodie. Going through a really awful breakup now, I loved him so much and then all of a sudden he doesn’t love me and broke up with me in a text message. I won’t get into the rest as it won’t help but I’m going to try to be okay. Thank you


thx dodie, i have recently had to cut ties with my best friend. i realized how toxic she was and it has been really hard but i have come back to this video so many times and it has helped a lot ily <3


this really helped me when i was debating leaving my ex (we lived together) it was an awful time and this video was uploaded with such great timing, thanku so much dodes


You don't know how much this helped me. Everyday I tell myself that it's going to get better


I found Dodie when I was just starting to fall for my ex boyfriend and now I found Dodie again at the end of that relationship..


Thank you so much dodie. For about a year I’ve been trying to get over and cut someone out of my life because if I was with him I had no one else, he convinced me he was all I had and I was all he had but he always said and did awful things to me. I’ve been so happy now but every once and a while I still miss him. This helped so much just to know it’s gonna be okay and that this is normal and allowed.


dodie is like a big sister who sits and talks with you about things they've learned in her life.<br>I feel like she'd make you a cup of tea and just chat and listen to you.

dodie is like a big sister who sits and talks with you about things they've learned in her life.
I feel like she'd make you a cup of tea and just chat and listen to you.


Can I just say that your videos help me calm down and even get a bit happier.


You posted this video exactly on the day i cut ties with my toxic best friend and looking back i nvr thought i could be happy ever again but now ive met wonderful people in college and a lovely boy who likes me for who I am and I dont know what I would do without this video giving me strength that it will all pass soon and pain heals with time, im living breathing proof that it does get better so thank you so much dodie for being there for me youve helped me so much in growing with pain and moving on


I feel like people on the internet are better than the people in real life. I probably only feel this way because you can't see me nor I can see you. But then there is people you can see who want you to see them, they're comforting to watch and admire but I'm still scared because no one knows who I am.

You might think this because on the internet we search for people and things that we can relate to, I can assure you I've also seen a lot of horrible people out there on the internet .. but yeah it's easier to find people like you here because we find each other through things we value and like so when you meet people like that it's not like in real life,because in real life we kinda meet people randomly especially before uni so yeah.. (I hope I made sense because I'm not native and I'm not sure my English followed my thinking ahah )

well, not all people on the internet, but people on dodies channel are ;)


looking back, this video came out on the day my now ex boyfriend decided to end our long term relationship. i used this as a crutch, and while i am coming back to it again now, i am able to see how much i've changed with both the aid of this video, and growing independently from him. thank you for giving me what i needed to move on


A few more specific tips -
When it comes to abusive friends, relationships who are online- just go without saying ANYTHING. Unfriend, block, unfollow, do everything.

If you don't know if someone is toxic to you, these are good signs ; they stress you out too much
They insult you when arguments happen and often go too far
They ignore you when you try to fix the toxic relationship, either ignoring the advice, putting blame on you, or etc.

There's other indepth info online, but SIGNS OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE is what you gotta look for. Online relationships mostly result in emotional abuse, or sometimes sexual abuse if you feel obliged to do a certain task for them, like they've manipulated you to feel this way.


This really helped me. I REALLY needed to hear this.❤


I love how right when I need this, I open up YouTube and see this. Thanks dodie! <3


I wish I had this video a few months ago as I cut ties with someone very toxic and it was quite messy and I feel terrible about it  but thank you for uploading this so many people need it x

+Bobbi Gibbs thank you I am glad you are out of this horrible situation too. I am lucky my friends supported my decision especially as one of them had got out of it a few months earlier so I had to deal with all of the backlash from that. I feel bad because she was a very vulnerable person but I just couldn't stay friends with her. I am sorry your friends were such dicks

niamh scott you shouldn't feel terrible about it ❤. you did it for you and to get yourself to a better state of mind and life. (I've had to do this and I felt like the worst person ever. because my "friends" around me convinced me that I was the bad guy and that I shouldn't have ended things the way I did or at all. I eventually learned that others especially those "friends" who just half analyze the situation then shove blame are really bad to be around. and that you need to be extra careful on who all you listen to and take advice from.)


I’m going through something very similar with my ex-boyfriend, whom I just got out of a relationship with. He wanted to still be close friends right after the break up, but after a week of back and forth between torturing myself while watching him fall in love with my best friend or just get him out of my life, I chose the latter for myself, and after a long conversation with him, we both unfollowed each other on all social medias. I know this will be better in the long run, even though right now, it hurts like hell. This gave the courage to do all of this. And for that I cannot thank you enough.


Thanks Dodie. A really good friend of mine didn’t talk to me for about 9 months and when I finally saw him at camp, he pretended like I didn’t exist. Most of the session I spent crying. But I have a bunch of new, very loyal friends who are supporting me through it.


Just found this 2 years later and couldn't have come at a better time! Thank you Dodie!!!


I used to be friends with some people who weren't really that good for me and looking back I realise I felt negative all the time because I was friends with them and it was basically a one-way street at one point and it was just really toxic and escalated to bullying. I eventually cut ties with the people concerned and, three (almost four) years later, I'm glad I did and I'm grateful for what that whole experience taught me about myself and how healthy friendships and relationships in general should work. It was actually around this time that you posted this video and it really helped me a lot and it was a comfort to know that I wasn't the only one going through a situation like that. Thank you Dodie <3


Its hard to cut ties with someone when they are going through a tough time because you want to be there for them, but there is a point in time where there negativity starts getting to you and you can't do anything except cut ties. That is what I have learned over this year and a half of finding out who I am.


this helped me about 4 months ago with one of my best friends that i had for 9 years of my life. now i think i have to do this again with someone who i have been friends with for 6 years. leaving your friends that you feel like you have known for your whole life is the hardest thing to do but i will get through it just like i got through it with that friend i was friends with for 9 years.


i have watched this video at least 5 times. and each time i have watched this has made me realize how much i needed this video. when i first watched it, i had recently broken up with my boyfriend and at first it wasnt hard. but as time has gone on i've realized that what she's saying is true and very, very helpful. i didn't think i needed to unfollow him, i didn't think it would hurt this much, or that it would take this long. but watching this video has helped me realize that it does hurt and it does take time.
then there's the point where she says that you're gonna want to keep going back to them saying i'm hurting and that's exactly how i felt!
you depend on a person for so long and suddenly it just ends.
thank you dodie because this video has helped me so much. you are amazing!


It's my one year anniversary of cutting ties with my best friend! I had been friends with her for 10 years, we were as close as two people could be, and I was in love with her. She stopped talking to me and cut contact and it absolutely broke my heart, I knew I could either push to keep the friendship going or I could let it be and move on. I chose to move on and cut ties with her. I was absolutely broken because she was not only my first love (even though it wasn't reciprocated) she had been my friend for most of my life so it was like double heart break. Now I'm so unbelievably happy that it happened. The friendship was really bad for me. She was manipulative and the only reason I stayed with her for so long was because I was hoping that she would feel the same way and I couldn't let my fantasy go. When this first happened I felt like no one could ever understand how hard this situation was and that no matter what anyone said I would never get over it, but I did. It's going to take so much time. I didn't stop checking her Facebook and I friend her until about 6 months in. Just go at your own pace and remember that tomorrow you'll be one day closer to moving on completely.


Last week I cut contact with my father. It hurt but it was the best thing to do. My advice to any others going through this: Be strong, it will be okay again


I recently cut ties with a good friend and I see her everyday because of school& sometimes I want to turn to her and tell her a joke I heard or ask how her day's going but then I remember we don't talk anymore. It's been a month now& I was the one who initiated the end of the friendship but I had to. I wasn't happy with the friendship and it hurts. But I know in the end it'll feel much better getting rid of the toxicity

I keep looking  at her for support, then I see her literally posting rumors about me and those I'm close to. She said things about being bi after I came out to her, and i was done. I had come out before, but had been hiding after she would treat me differently. I am happy with who I am, and a social floater who isnt comfortable with who I am xant leave me alone. The only problem is that she is trying to start more drama by showing around  a text my friend send defending me. I cut her out, and I'm not going back.

i did it last year though, and i still had to sit across from my ex friend everyday at lunch, because there was no where else to sit. its so hard but once school is over in a month you'll be so happy i promise

im so happy for you and i wish i could bring myself to do the same. this  makes me believe its actually possible to remove toxic friends from my life even if I'm lonely

I'm going through this right now and I have no clue how to get over loosing all of my immediate friend group because of one person. They used to hit me and now I'm the toxic one because these people don't like that I had friends that aren't them.

Jasmine Flora  I know what you mean. i still had to see my ex (friend) throughout my last year of secondary school and it was hard but then I stopped caring about what they thought of me and what they were saying and it was hard at first but it gets easier and better trust me 💜💜

Jasmine Flora I am going through this with my old best friend and school is not helping

I know exactly how you feel, but, I guess it's the right thing to do. I've learnt that it takes a long time to heal, but that eventually, you'll look back and think of the good times you've had with them and how they've changed you as a person. Stay strong <3

Jasmine Flora same thing happened to me months ago (but we dont have any classes together thankfully).. just give it time i promise you will feel better after a few months or so


Literally came straight to this video right after my girlfriend broke up with me after 8 months and it really helped. Thanks a bunch, Dodie. ❣


i find myself coming back to this video every so often and honestly it’s been the best help♡


Replaying this and crying. Thank you, I really needed this. <3


I love you and I love that you exists to give so good advices!! also you have really great songs so it's a whole package!


im going through this at the moment.<br>it hurts so freaking much.

im going through this at the moment.
it hurts so freaking much.

ik you left this comment a year ago and i’m going through it now and it’s tearing me apart. did it get better?


Thanks Dodie. You helped me get rid of a toxic friendship.


I love you so much you’re such a phenomenal person. You make me feel at ease.


Last night I think I ended my toxic friendship with one of my best friends. It feels like an open wound and I haven’t stopped crying. My friends literally came to my rescue and I love them so much ❤ thank you so much for this video, I really needed it right now


My best friend and I have a lot of history. We've been through bullying,leaving friends,being alone and I thought we were friends forever.

But she did so many things behind my back:

Talked about me
Told my friends I didn't want to see them
Liked my Ex (who she's now in the flirty stages with only 2 months after we ended it)
Got extremely jealous when I would try and make other friends
Force me to be like her
Force me to make decisions I didn't want to
Force me to be a different person

Secondary school rolled around and she left me.

All alone without anybody and I was a puppy trying to find an owner.

She worried for so long about popularity she thought I would stick around but then I looked back and realised why am I still here?

Why am I still in this toxic friendship when there's so many more nice people I could be with

Let her be crazy and be 'popular'

Immediately after I left her she's come running back to me.

I'm still in the stages of confusion but I'm better now

And not outspoken for once 💗

Love Alicia xoxo


I have a really bad habit of picking at scabs. I guess I do the same to myself emotionally, as well. I'm trying to get over someone who was never interested in me, and I needed to hear this. Thanks, Dodie.


this came up in my suggested at a time in my life where i’m considering breaking up with my long term boyfriend. i’m sobbing right now because it hurts so much but Dodie you’re so amazing what thank you so much for giving me faith that some people aren’t meant to stay in your life forever


trying to get past a friendship. i’ve tried talking to her but she doesn’t want to. we fought and stopped being friends many times but the good times we had just masked all of that because they were so perfect. we planned parts of our future together and it feels impossible to go on without her. we both have mental illnesses and it felt so good to have someone who understood things that i was going through. this is going to fucking suck.

madison rae on the same road as u... how are u! it’s been 13 months for me and i still cry haha


This was extremely helpful I love you Dodie


This is a really hard thing for me to do, and I value your opinions and advice as if you were my own friend (or mother, teehee), so thank you for making this video, you're an angel! ❤

Also, I apologize for this, but that accent you did at the end sounded suspiciously like Shrek ^-^


Dear Dodie from the future and from this video, I am going through this right now over someone who I had a thing with but didn't have a label. He now has a girlfriend now and it still hurts be because I felt cheated on which I should feel anymore anyway. I thank you for this. I needed this. I now believe I will be okay ❤ I have become suicidal because of it but I realised my friends have been keeping me alive or trying to keep me alive for the past few days while I just wanted to end it coz it hurts so much. Thank you, Dodie<br> I will be okay ❤

Dear Dodie from the future and from this video, I am going through this right now over someone who I had a thing with but didn't have a label. He now has a girlfriend now and it still hurts be because I felt cheated on which I should feel anymore anyway. I thank you for this. I needed this. I now believe I will be okay ❤ I have become suicidal because of it but I realised my friends have been keeping me alive or trying to keep me alive for the past few days while I just wanted to end it coz it hurts so much. Thank you, Dodie
 I will be okay ❤


I will watch this video probably a hundred times, thank you for being so nice,<br>you're like a really glowing angel. Thanks for saying all those things.

I will watch this video probably a hundred times, thank you for being so nice,
you're like a really glowing angel. Thanks for saying all those things.


I watched this vid when you put it up, and loved it simply because I enjoy your videos but didn't have anything to apply it to. Fast forward to today, May 1st 2017, and I very very much am right in the middle of something like this, which makes this very helpful <3 the weird part was I'd forgotten all about this video, and AS I'm reading a text from the person I need to separate from asking me to hang out, and I'm struggling to say no and scrolling through youtube..... this 5 month old video for some reason comes up as suggested. so big thanks to the universe for reminding me of this, and to Dodie for posting it, it's showed up in an incredibly well timed way for me and i appreciate it a lot

There was a lot of crying involved, but Im proud that i did it. thank you dodie

update:  i managed to tell him no :) harder than it sounds, but I'm proud


thank you so much dodie. I'm going though a breakup and this helped a lot


"You don't need someone to fix yourself" got me emotional, I think I needed to hear that


I have been through this exact process but, like you said everything got better!


I remember watching this 3 years ago with no idea of what love was. The fact that this video popped up in my recommended so many years later is a sign. A sign It was a good thing I let go.


I’ve been sitting on this video for about 4 months now and I couldn’t even bare to press play on the video but this has made things a little bit more clear but I’m still going to have to take steps first before I decide what the best course of action is. Thank you very much Dodie :)


this showed up in my feed at the exact time in my life when I needed it. thank you dodie <3


I’ve recently been trying to break off a very toxic friendship with someone I’ve known my entire life and she keeps holding on. I can’t keep doing this anymore 😞


Going through this right now. Thanks, even gay friends have falling out. I ultimately love this person, but the interactions and communications have become toxic for me. So I walked away. And it still hurts. But it will be okay. We're both adults. Because I love him as a friend I didn't want to continue hurting him so I think it's best I let go of our friendship. (Currently crying)


A post to my future self...<br>I cut off my best friend recently, she wasn't toxic in a sense, we both loved each other very much but I was becoming obsessive over her. She was all I talked about, all I cared for, and all I ever depended on. Basically, the pure love we had in our friendship became toxic because we couldn't live separate lives from each other, even after we both moved to different countries. This video helps a lot and reminds me that there will be a day when this wound will heal and we may be friends again and that I have done the right thing, maybe even for the both of us.

A post to my future self...
I cut off my best friend recently, she wasn't toxic in a sense, we both loved each other very much but I was becoming obsessive over her. She was all I talked about, all I cared for, and all I ever depended on. Basically, the pure love we had in our friendship became toxic because we couldn't live separate lives from each other, even after we both moved to different countries. This video helps a lot and reminds me that there will be a day when this wound will heal and we may be friends again and that I have done the right thing, maybe even for the both of us.


I'm rewatching this in 2018 because I have recently dealt with a toxic friendship. Not just a friendship-- but someone who was my BEST friend. Anyway. It really sucks because I want to tell her how rude she's coming off but that will only make things worse. <br>Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU, Dodie, for this video. It means a lot.

I'm rewatching this in 2018 because I have recently dealt with a toxic friendship. Not just a friendship-- but someone who was my BEST friend. Anyway. It really sucks because I want to tell her how rude she's coming off but that will only make things worse.
Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU, Dodie, for this video. It means a lot.


I started to cry when you said I should let myself do it. <br>Btw I'm glad I found you, thanks.

I started to cry when you said I should let myself do it.
Btw I'm glad I found you, thanks.


I remember watching this quite some time ago, when I was in pain. I was friends with someone for almost a year i think, I thought they were my soulmate. This person knew every little detail about me, we were so so so close. And then earlier this summer, they just stopped replying to my messages. I thought it was nothing. But then i realized, that they were ignoring me completely. I messaged them on every social network, asking if they were okay, because I was just plain worried. But no response. I never found out why they cut me off like that, I never found out why they just suddenly decided that I shouldn't be a part of their life anymore, and for a while this really pushed me down. I never knew how hard it is to find closure without it being given. And then I found this video. I had doubted myself for weeks, and then I realized that it wasn't my fault. I would've done it in a healthy way, I'd never just ignore someone, someone that hadn't done anything. Thank you very much Dodie. At this point I'm pretty much over it, but this did teach me a lesson. I deleted them off of most of my social media, and it has made everything so much easier, not seeing subtweets about me feels great. Thank you. x


About 2 weeks ago I got broken up with by my fiance of 4 years. Now that I'm out of it I can see that it was an unhealthy relationship. I went homeless for a couple of days so i slept on a friends couch. That friend dropped everything and moved to a new place that i could live in. Its day two in out moving process and I'm so liberated . This video just solidified that I'm doing this right and I'll be okay. It hurts like hell losing somone you live to find out they were bad for you but I think it's worth it. I'll be okay


This is literally perfect because a girl I really liked broke me

Alyssa Romero thanks for the kind words and stay stong

+Miss Social Experiment omg the same thing happened to me a few months ago, but don't worry :). It really does get a lot better in the future. What's great is I'm still friends with my ex-crush and almost all my feelings have depleted. I realized how boring he is and that I won't be able to live a happy life if I constantly worry about being to childish around him.

Rainbow Hoarder  I feel you, stay strong ♡

Rainbow Hoarder. dame here but it was a guy. who destroyed me completely. I couldn't even look at something that reminded me of him I would cry and then continue to think about him . but then after I watched this video I realized. how much I missed out on around me . Thank you Dodie

I'm sorry, I understand how you're feeling. It'll be alright <3


This video is so true 😊 thank you Dodie🕊🐻


I'm trying to cut ties with somebody I was really close to, I actually dated, but I now see she's somebody who isn't good for me and during out relationship I was very cut off from everything and one else because of her. It's hard and I know I need to do it because I don't want to be pushed down any more, I want to be a free person. She, however, noticed the distance between us appearing and is trying to heal it (or was? Idk she has been acting different around me later in that aspect and I really hope she isn't dependant on me anymore). Thanks for this, Dodie, I think it will really help ❤


I know I'm late to watching this, but thank you. I'm currently going through a break up from a toxic breakup. Or I am at least because they lashed out and in my mind they forgot me. And for some reason that hurts more than anything because I'm dealing with paranoia every day. We had a really weird relationship where I was blamed for each problem and he was super clingy and possessive, and it brought back my depression and anxiety that I am still recovering from. Short story: I was in a dark place. ANYWAY, I prompted the break up, which was a long time coming in my mind. He was sad but understood, yet the next day he flipped the script, saying he broke up with me and started bullying from a far. Now my hands shake when I see him and I have a friend protect me if I know he's gonna be there, but my mind still romanticized our relationship, which also happened to be my first, so I'm dealing with the fact that I'm going to remember this forever. I've been questioning this decision because all the breakup videos I watch on YouTube say the person who broke up with the other person is in the wrong. But, this helped so much. You are probably never going to see this, but I still love you. Thanks Dodie 💕


I needed this soo so much. I know this isn't a recent video, but its still having an impact. Good job dodie!


I broke up with my first-ever-relationship-human at the end of September. She was my absolute best friend. I broke it off for many reasons and I think in the long run it was the best thing for both of us. It's been 2 months and I still think about it a lot. They don't tell you this but even if you are the one breaking up with someone, IT STILL SUCKS AND HURTS A LOT. It's important to grieve and recognize that it sucks but time and good friends will help you heal, just like ya said Dodes. Much love xo


Thank you for the help, and confidence. You're right. I'm healthier without them. :) <3


This is helping me come to terms with who I am as a person and that it is okay to feel the way I'm feeling, the person I was dating has long moved on. He never really cared about me because of how quickly he had moved on. I'm not over it yet because I still hurt from what happened but I am proud of how I handled things. I'm over him but not over what  had happened. So thank you, things have been moving slow but they are slowly getting better


my boyf broke up w me today,, I've been crying for the last 3 hours and then i remembered the existence of this video and i came to rewatch it and i just want to thank dodie for literally saving my life by saying that it's okay to cry. i needed to hear all of this ty <3


hi! i love love love your videos you are such an amazing human being ive struggled w suicide and mdd my whole life im 26 now but watching your videos makes me feel, not so alone. xoxo so thank you. also what lens do you use if you dont mind me asking?


Thank you Dodie. This generally really helped me


I really needed this video. Thank you so so much. ❤


You’re honestly the only person who really gets things like this on a personal level I really feel like you know me


Honestly that fact that i see so much stuff like this going through socail media helps SO much. Like when i got dumped i thought to do this stuff just because i had exposure to it. And it makes it a lot easier. I really hope this becomea normalized


my childhood best friend became very toxic and after I broke ties with her. She got a group of girls that I didn't know to hate me and bully me for years.

hi. i know this was 6 months ago but i feel this a lot. my childhood best friend made our friend group turn against me. honestly it sucked but i made new friends in my other classes and while yes i missed my old friends i realized that if they hated me because of what she said they weren't really my friends to begin with. just know that it will be okay. :)


three years later and still the most genuineness i have heard recently <3 i luv u and this, thank you


I'm crying :( but I'm so thankful for you and this video. You're lovely