i cut ties with my best friend and then one of my other closest friends became her best friend. not everyone was raised to be as nice as you and people mostly care more about themselves than others, this isn't a pessimistic or salty view but just something i've learnt. cutting ties is hard and you want as much support as you can get, but you have to make sure you're asking for support from real friends because it can be hard to know which friends are real friends


My best friend of 11 years and boyfriend of almost 2, and I just broke up after the first step, (trust me, the big chat is so very necessary) but because we've been friends for such a long time (and he's honestly one of my only friends), we decided not to just stop our platonic relationship. I can't stop talking to him, I can't stop seeing him, I can't stop being friends with him, but at the same time all the steps Dodie listed are so healthy and helpful in the moving on process, but I can't just cut him out; it's not what would help me or him. I so desperately want to follow Dodie's advice, but I feel like this situation is more convoluted than just cutting someone out of your life and healing from that... Dodie suggested putting advice in the comments below, so if anyone has anything, trust me when I say I'm out of ideas...


I feel like this can also fit for friends break ups because i just realized that it took me one year to fully get over my best friend who kind of broke my heart


thank you dodie. i seriously needed this at this moment. thank you


my boyfriend dumped me today because of my personality disorder. thank you, dodie. i love you.


I "broke up" with one of my best friends in May-ish because of trust, I tried to get back with her a lot I tried everything possible thing you can imagine. At the end of June we went to the park and we talked for the last time (I moved countries). When I got on the plane I thought ok out of sight out of mind im over her. But every now and then I think about her and what she's doing and our memories. The last time it cried about her was at the end of june.....until this video.

thank you dodie this is why we love you


Just what I needed right now. Thank you <3


are we twinning?????? you basically read my mind and said exactly what I really needed to hear today. so thank you for always being there for me


this came at the exact right time for me ;:______:; thank you so much, dodie


dodie your voice is so calming to listen to ily


i really needed this. thank you so much dodie, wish i could give u a big ol hug!!


A problem occurs when there is a person you're really close with, that you want to cut ties with, that is in your main friend group. Because then you can't really cut ties completely, you have to distance yourself from them, which I find is way harder.
Also, it becomes harder to talk about with other friends, since they are also their friends.
And it's also just very hard to talk badly about someone you love(d).


i really needed this. my ex broke up w/ me ages ago, they've moved on and they're ok. but i keep checking their social media. i have decided that what happened, happened for a good reason and i do not want to be sad like that again. i'm finally going to let myself breathe and cut ties, completely, with her. i need to be happy. i need to focus on myself and moving on.


When I was 13 my best friend completely stopped talking to me and she hasn't said anything to me since march this year. It has hurt a lot especially without closure. I still see her all the time and she always gives me looks. It has been a long and hard process but I've finally come to terms with it and I'm a better person for it


This video is absolutely wonderful. Where was this video 3 months ago? But really, cutting ties can be one of the best things a person can do when they're hurting. Yesterday, I went to get coffee with a boy I cut ties with. All I remember is crying over him for weeks on end, wondering how in the world I thought of getting rid of him. But it was okay! I was okay. Here I am, three months later, sipping a latte while thinking "he missed out". He admitted it he treated me badly, and the fact that I cut ties ACTUALLY helped him realize he had to change. So if you have the chance and are hurting, at least think about it. It's better to be healthy and sad for a bit rather than unhealthy and happy every once in a while. Your mental health is always more important than a toxic friendship.


i just did this (a few months ago). i just skipped the first step because these people hurt me so much. it really seemed they got to learn the deep ugly stuff, to throw it in my face the second they thought i was being bratty/ungrateful. i wanted to talk, they didn't. unfortunately i still have to see them once a week, but the more i look at them, the more i realize i'm so much better off. i don't have any friends, but my support system is my family and the internet. so thank you you and all my amazing online friends and other inspiring people and work i found.


I had a best friend a few years ago, and we'd been super close for 3 years (which isn't a massive amount of time but she's the only best friend I've ever truly had) and about a year and a half ago she shut me out, she blocked me on all social media and won't even look at me in school anymore and I don't understand why. I get that she may not want me around anymore, she's changed, but I know what I have not done anything to hurt her or upset her or make her angry with me, as I always tried to help her whenever she needed me. <br>The thing that really bugs me is that she never gave me a reason for doing this, I feel if she had come up to me and told me why she no longer wanted to be friends then I'd completely understand, it's happened before. Does anyone have advice on how I could get closure on this, as it still hurts me and obviously does not concern her as much as it does me. :(

I had a best friend a few years ago, and we'd been super close for 3 years (which isn't a massive amount of time but she's the only best friend I've ever truly had) and about a year and a half ago she shut me out, she blocked me on all social media and won't even look at me in school anymore and I don't understand why. I get that she may not want me around anymore, she's changed, but I know what I have not done anything to hurt her or upset her or make her angry with me, as I always tried to help her whenever she needed me.
The thing that really bugs me is that she never gave me a reason for doing this, I feel if she had come up to me and told me why she no longer wanted to be friends then I'd completely understand, it's happened before. Does anyone have advice on how I could get closure on this, as it still hurts me and obviously does not concern her as much as it does me. :(


I've been best friends with this girl for five years and I don't like it. I cant just leave her she means everything to me but makes me feel horrible. Time to cut the tie. thanks dodie 😊


I wish I had this advice this time last year, when I had to break off a friendship for my own health, and boy did it hurt. I'm still hurting. I think- I'm not sure. I don't know how to move forward from it, even though it's been like 11 months.
If anyone has advise that'd be much appreciated
-S.C


I haven't talked to or had any interactions with my best friend in six months. Our relationship wasn't healthy, it was a one-way relationship and she never showed me she cared about me or my life. I was always there for her but she wasn't for me.. At the beginning i only wanted to see how long it would take her to text me if i don't text her but i realized she genuinely doesnt care so i decided to cut ties and unfollowed her on all social medias.. it hurts less now than it did two or three months ago but i still find myself looking through her instagram to see if she posted anything recently :/ i still find myself wondering how's her life going, what is she doing, who are her new friends.... im so not over her and i still cry thinking about her but idk :( six months and she hasn't found the time to text me or snapchat me.. six months


thank you for this video i really needed it......a really close friend of mine basically told me he hated my guts and didn't want to be my friend anymore......he is in the same class as me (EVERY SINGLE ONE) and god it was horrible.....but thanks for this video really needed it..


18,579 likes vs 26 little unlikes.<br>So much love in this community! <3

18,579 likes vs 26 little unlikes.
So much love in this community! <3


I had to do this two years ago and this video is 100% accurate. It feels like shit


I'm crying so much rn, I needed this so much


I really needed to hear this right now. In February this year me and my boyfriend broke up, one week before our anniversary. We had been living together at he time. Long story short, he was unfaithful, manipulative, controlling and mentally and physically abusive. But I loved him more than id ever loved anyone before. I eventually broke up with him, but after a couple of chats realised it wasn't what I wanted, so we both agreed we would have a break, and start over. This was fine until I went on facebook one day to see he was in a relationship with another girl. he blocked me on everything, and my world was shattered. I never thought I would be happy again. So I took some time off work, and tried to figure out what to do next. I ended up moving 300 miles away and starting university, something my ex wouldn't allow me to do. it was difficult, but up until last Tuesday I was genuinely happy, for the first time in a long time. But last Wednesday at 1am I get a message on twitter, which I thought was odd so I checked it, and its him. we end up speaking on the phone all night, and in the morning he had a few hours sleep, then started his drive to see me, 6 hours. When he got here we chatted for hours, eventually went to sleep. the next day I had university so he went out to occupy his time. When I was done I text him, and got no reply. I try phoning him and still nothing. Hours go by and I eventually phone his mum, in case anything had happened. She phones him and he answered, and she texts me to say hes fine and will text me soon. Another 4 hours go by. So I text him and say I just need to know what happened, and where you are. he phones me, offers no explanation as to why he just left, and says he's about an hour from home. I let him into my life again, and as usual ended up regretting it. I don't fully know what he wanted, and I probably never will.


dodie its like u knew this was happening to me, Ive had terrible anxiety lately about finally getting rid of an ex out of my life (social media and what not and just in general AND EVEN THE STUFF ABOUT CHECKING IG) and i just napped all day and this was first in my sub box and i cant thank u enough<3


so i had this huge crush on my best friends for years and this year, around may, he knew about it. he kinda stopped talking to me for a while and when he did talked to me he explained that he was just trying to help me get over him. although, it seems like a logic thing to do; to get over him, I can't seem to stop thinking about him which had brought me to several heartbreaks due to the fact that he now has a girlfriend. and so here i am. and geez i needed this thank you💖


What if the one you know you need to cut ties with, is your friend. And you feel forced to keep being friends with the person?


"if you're crying right now" holy SH dodie how does she do that </3


never been in a relationship or kissed someone, but still watching this (-':


Last year me and one of my best friends started to not talk as much and i didnt know why, i tried to find out but she ws just more and more distant and closer and closer to another girl. So i thought, okay that's it, she has someone else to make her happy, she doesnt need me. I cried so much realizing this. but when i was really to cut ties she texted me saying she missed me. I was actually kinda pissed. but we discuss and hen she talked to me personally and she had been throught a very hard time so she pulled me away. We are now close again. I'm really grad she spoke to me or we would still be in pain right now. Thanks for this video Dodie, it have helped alot, and now I know where to come next time I'm in pain because of something like this


One of my close friends (I'll call her A) likes/loves this guy who's also her best friend, but he only views her as best friends and not more than that, and he said he can't ever like her back that way. She's been crying over him so much these past months, and she developed a personality that's almost unrecognizable. A fought with her best friend (also my best friend) because A was jealous that this guy is close friends with the other girl.

Before all this, A was not the type to be like that. Ever since they fought, the guy decided to talk to A and told her to move on. A didn't take it very well and it has been getting worse. She barely eats, her grades are dropping like crazy, she said she has no will to live, and even said that she can't bring herself to trust anyone. She keeps saying that no one understands her.  Most of her friends, including me, told her to move on, but she don't want to. Eventually, this guy told her that if she won't move on, he'll avoid her and he did just that.

Now, I don't know what to do anymore. Anytime someone gives A a sound advice as to why she should move on, she'd say trying to move on hurts her too much and he's the only guy who can makes her feel this comfortable that she wants to hold on to him. We've tried everything. Some of my friends have said to just give up and let her do what she wants, she'll get tired of it one day. But what if she doesn't get tired of it? What if she doesn't get better? I don't want her to be in a worse state than she's already in, but I'm also getting tired of dealing with her attitude and trying to make her use some logic.


i really needed to hear this from someone but myself i love you


Wowwy wow. Didn't realize how much i needed this. Thanks much, dods. ❤


My issue currently is that her current BF is my best friend and part of the group I make videos with. It's hard for me to cut her out completely. I've tried getting rid of physical items that bind us together still. I gave one of the most important things I got for the both of us to the current guy. I showed up at his house in tears and almost made him take it so I could have it away. Others are just hidden away from everything I see regularly. We still see each other because of him and our other friends. I have more I want to say but I really don't want to get ranty... Thank you for this video, I'm going to try to push myself through detaching her from certain things to reduce the frequency of my fits of depression and hopefully make my life a bit happier.


I needed this more then you'll ever know


Ok so whilst this is helpful I still have a problem. The person I feel I need to cut ties with is/was one of my best friends. They started dating an ex (didn't bother me I encouraged it cause I thought they'd be good for each other) then after a while my best friend (I'll call him friend A) started to not talk to me and ignore me. I later found out from a mutual friend (B) of me and friend A that my ex has been saying that I'm a bad person and I did all sorts of horrid things that I didn't. I confronted friend A about this as well as my ex and initially they both denied it but it became clear that my ex thought I should stay away from friend A. Later friend A ended up saying horrible things about how he is too good for me and loads of stuff. Then the next day I found that a few of my friends didn't want to talk to me and friend B told me that friend A was saying they had to choose between me or him. Now I want to cut ties with friend A (I already have done with my ex) but we go to the same college and are in the same friendship kind of group and it's causing a divide. I've already told people who have stayed by me that I don't want them to lose any friends and that I don't mind if they are friends with person A but I see him every day and I don't know what to do


i needed this. my best friend for 2 years just told me randomly she didnt want to be friends anymore and well.... it hurts so fucking much. tanks <3


I did this (albeit badly) over the summer to a toxic <del>former</del> best friend who has eventually guilt tripped me into reconciling the friendship. Now to do it properly all over again...

I did this (albeit badly) over the summer to a toxic -former- best friend who has eventually guilt tripped me into reconciling the friendship. Now to do it properly all over again...


less than 24 hours ago I cut ties with someone,thank you <3


I've been wanting to cut ties with one of my friends for a few months but I can't really do that because we work in close proximity, so that would really fuck up my relationships with everyone I work with. lol hating myself


There are some really aggressive jump cuts in this one. How do you go about them anyway? is it about removing thinking time or about removing the 0.5 seconds between sentences?


I had a toxic friend, she was always needing me for things, such as; a house to stay at when she ran away from home, a person to get on the train with (we didnt fucking pay and i hated that i told her) to meet her boyfriend and do drugs (i dont do drugs so i hated going), and when i had a depressive episode, she wasnt there for me and she told me that its all my head and that i wasnt really sad i was just doing it for attention etc., and she also always "borrowed" money that she could never pay back, and my other friends and my mum were telling me to cut ties with her but i couldn't because i did love her, she was like a sister to me and in the past, before all the shit she dragged me into happened, we had great times together and we grew up together, and because i could help her with her horrible parents i wanted to stick around, but it was wearing me down, so i had to cut ties with her, ive done it now and im better without her (sorry for the lack of full stops oops)


oh boi, perfect timing doddie, thank you so much <3


I have a crush on this girl that I know, and we're close friends. I'm pretty sure that she doesn't like girls that way but I don't know if I should try and get over her yet, and I'm not sure how to go about it.


i watched this while not sober and spent the entirety of the video genuinely thinking the context was cutting shoelaces


I'm crying now and I had a lot of thoughts about this matter like a million times but I keep thinking that my (ex?) best friend will want to be my friend again. I made a lot of stupid mistake and I tried to stop talking to her for a while because I felt like our friendship became one sided for a moment...I lasted 3 month (yes I unfollowed her at that time and my phone was even broken back then) and I still didn't feel comfortable not talking to her. She's the first true friend I ever had and all my current "friends" don't actually care as much. I keep thinking about her 24/7 I can't stop thinking that maybe it's for the better. I would have that chat with her but she keeps ignoring me after I said something so so so stupid without knowing why she wasn't replying at the time and now I'm lost and sad all the time because of her. I just love her so much and I don't want to let her go because after all I won't have someone other than her In my life and I would have to face my fear of being alone even if it's just for a short time


Theirs a girl that ive loved for 6 years now and ive only talked to her mabye 20 times all together but im constantly infactuated with her and this really helped. The horrible thing is, she doesnt even notice me and she's thousands of social ranks above me so I never even get a chance. Just writing this helped. Cheers dodie.


i don't know if one of my best friends of 4 years is toxic to my three-way friendship and i'm always the odd one out. they spend so much time together it's like they're attached to the hip. i feel more sorry for the other friend because she can't interact with other people or else that friend will turn stone cold towards her and come running to me, claiming that i'm her best friend now. as if i wasn't there for both of them this whole time. and when they get over their argument they go right back to straight up ignoring me. and the cycle continues.
i don't know if i fell out of love with my boyfriend of two years or is it just because i'm proudly accepting my pansexuality and allowing myself to admire pretty boys and pretty girls and calling them crushes. and i don't know if that's considered cheating. we're only young, barely 15, and yet i question why i've caught myself up in this predicament.
i don't know if my newly best friend is going to commit suicide. i don't know if she was serious in that letter she wrote to her brother which she showed me one literature class. i don't know  if she's going to write a letter to me next.
i don't know if anybody in this world truly loves me. anyone who has ever been a good friend ends up moving to another continent, my parents and extended family constantly compare with my older sister and shaming me just because i'm shy and i don't like to interact with other people, people in school bully me sometimes calling me fat and stupid (thinking that i can't understand anything they say in that other language but really it's my native language)  but they say it's all good fun.
 i don't know if i'm going to end up picking up that pen and writing a letter of goodbyes to everyone i know and actually doing the do, before my new best friend does it first.
i don't know and i'm running out of time.
help.


So I have a whole lot of romantic feelings for my best friend in the whole world, and they aren't mutual and it hurts so much and has been hurting for a year. She's the one person in the world who I fully trust, I don't have any other friends who I know I can rely on. I know breaking ties with her will help me get over my feelings, but I don't want to lose that trust I've been able to build as I find it extremely hard to trust people. She knows about these feelings but does anyone have any advice on what I should do, or any tips on getting rid of romantic feelings?


I know that people are mostly talking about relationships, but... I have had this one friend. They are the only "friend" that I've ever had. Sure, I've had the offhand conversation with people in classes and online and all that good stuff... but in real life they are the only friend I've ever known. I'm afraid to let them go even though I know that they're hurting me and my mental state. I guess I've just known nothing else? I'm afraid that once they're gone.. I won't have anything to cling to anymore. I don't know where I'm going with this... I guess I just wanted to say thank you. Thank you so much Dodie (and all of the wonderful people in this community!). Even though I have no where near the courage to do this.. I think I might be one day. And when that day comes I can thank you all. Ah anyway, that's my little story. Thanks for reading if you made it this far, haha.


i recently ended a friendship with someone who cheated on his girlfriend with me without her knowing anything, and me being totally obliviois thay she exists. i needed this. thank you.


The real question is how to get over Dodie. I just can't.


is there any way I can translate this video ? I think it would really help a friend and she doesn't really understand english.... thanks dodie, love you xx

or at least participate in the english to french translation ahah


'you're not alone. you've got plenty of friends and you've got plenty of healthy relationships' can't relate


It's been 2, maybe 3, years since i was close with my best friend from then and i deleted her from everything 2 years ago but i miss her and i was worried about her so i looked her up on instagram and i just never got closure and  idk if i ever will


But if you're thinking about breaking up with your boyfriend (who's been your bf for 2 years) and he's your best friend too and will always be a part of your life.. I can't cut ties or get over them. Just be more passive towards them and adapt to that. I guess.


why did I expect a video of dodie literally cutting ties


hey dodie I love your videos and all but like W h a t   d o   when your S.O. cheats on ya? and lies over a long period about it? with promises on your life etc?

and you still love them to bits? and theyre really sorry?


dodie is my favourite person in the world tbh


I wanna get over the guy I want but I'm in the same school and classroom as him soooooooooo I'm screwed


What to do if there's no friends to count on?


13,699 views and 19,222 thumbs up i guess too many people liked before even watching the whole vid? xD<br>but very good advice, dodie. in a afew months im moving away and i needed to let go of the attachments i have now. its hard and your vid helped alot. thanks.

13,699 views and 19,222 thumbs up i guess too many people liked before even watching the whole vid? xD
but very good advice, dodie. in a afew months im moving away and i needed to let go of the attachments i have now. its hard and your vid helped alot. thanks.


wow a month or a year i feel like a bitch now i broke up with my boyfriend and got over it after about 3 weeks


I once cut ties with a best friend but I know I did it very horribly and suddenly. I just sort of panicked


My problem is that my ex hurt me so much but wants to stay friends. We have mostly the same friends so not staying friends would be even more difficult for everyone else. Why is life so difficult man


I don't know if it is a good thing or a bad thing but I am disturbingly good at severing ties.


didn't mean for this to be my life story but it kinda Is.. sorry

about a year and a half ago I got out of a extremely toxic and abusive relationship from my experience when I was in that relationship he would make me feel dependant on him, he waited until I lived with him before the physical abuse started and made it so I saw my mum (the best person in my life) once a week, he'd be mad if I saw friends any one who wasn't him he'd be mad at me for seeing, I'd get everything from him... It was my last year of secondary through to my second year of college so I was dependant on him for food, a place to sleep, money for anything I needed all because he'd persuade me to move out and pretty much cut ties with my family. it makes me so angry that someone could manipulate a 15-17 year old girl like that and make me feel like I have literally no where to go but one night after one of the more severe things happened I phoned a friend that I had from school at 3 in the morning I hadn't spoke to him in months but he picked up and he skated to the house I shared with my boyfriend and got me out, from then he let me stay at his for the night and then the next day took me back to my mums who honestly cried for hours and said I could of come home at any time throughout the past two years and she would of welcomed me..for the first month I felt like I needed to go back to this boyfriend, he'd message me everyday.. find excuses to meet for my things (my friend went instead)  then it turned to threats and I just sent him a message with print screens of all the apologies he'd sent me after hitting me, raping me and everything else and threatened to go to the police if he didn't leave me alone... and he did. slowly by making new friendships and going to therapy I got better and now I'm in the best relationship I've ever had and  the boy from school who came and saved me that night is still my best friend.. no matter how dependant you are on a person you can get out of it, I promise.. it takes time but you just need to be strong for a little while

*didn't mean for this to be my life story but it kinda Is.. sorry*

about a year and a half ago I got out of a extremely toxic and abusive relationship from my experience when I was in that relationship he would make me feel dependant on him, he waited until I lived with him before the physical abuse started and made it so I saw my mum (the best person in my life) once a week, he'd be mad if I saw friends any one who wasn't him he'd be mad at me for seeing, I'd get everything from him... It was my last year of secondary through to my second year of college so I was dependant on him for food, a place to sleep, money for anything I needed all because he'd persuade me to move out and pretty much cut ties with my family. it makes me so angry that someone could manipulate a 15-17 year old girl like that and make me feel like I have literally no where to go but one night after one of the more severe things happened I phoned a friend that I had from school at 3 in the morning I hadn't spoke to him in months but he picked up and he skated to the house I shared with my boyfriend and got me out, from then he let me stay at his for the night and then the next day took me back to my mums who honestly cried for hours and said I could of come home at any time throughout the past two years and she would of welcomed me..for the first month I felt like I needed to go back to this boyfriend, he'd message me everyday.. find excuses to meet for my things (my friend went instead)  then it turned to threats and I just sent him a message with print screens of all the apologies he'd sent me after hitting me, raping me and everything else and threatened to go to the police if he didn't leave me alone... and he did. slowly by making new friendships and going to therapy I got better and now I'm in the best relationship I've ever had and  the boy from school who came and saved me that night is still my best friend.. no matter how dependant you are on a person you can get out of it, I promise.. it takes time but you just need to be strong for a little while


How do you always come at the right time?


What if I don't know if I would be better off without them?


dodie, I don't know what to do.... I've been friends with someone on the internet for two years now and i have a crush o  them now and i found out a few months ago that they're 19..... I'm only 14 and i don't think she likes me like that..... do you think I should cut ties? please help!!

and i mean not like just a crush I mean I really love her


this helps a lot, but i need more advice. I have to see the person that is making me feel unhappy every day and i don't know what to do. They hang around the group that i sit with, which is then giving me negative thoughts about those people and i just don't know how I'm going to block them out. I've done the things like not talk to them and unfollow them, i just need some more help if anyone has it


Well today i deleted everything about my EXboyfriend with remembering how he cheated on me, how i found all those messages about every disgusting sexual things he did. Do i feel better? Well, i think nope. Feeling in that weird space doesnt make me feel happy. I just cant get used to sleep in the bed he slept many many times. Also i just cant talk to people about it all the time. Next time am i gonna be happy? Am i not gonna think "Is he gonna cheat on me?" I really need luck in that way. Trying to believe in me. Also not to eat too much <b>.</b>

Well today i deleted everything about my EXboyfriend with remembering how he cheated on me, how i found all those messages about every disgusting sexual things he did. Do i feel better? Well, i think nope. Feeling in that weird space doesnt make me feel happy. I just cant get used to sleep in the bed he slept many many times. Also i just cant talk to people about it all the time. Next time am i gonna be happy? Am i not gonna think "Is he gonna cheat on me?" I really need luck in that way. Trying to believe in me. Also not to eat too much *.*


can you just make a video of you saying reassuring things??


Dodie. god. I was like saying stop the whole time. jesus christ. O.O ugh. and i wish I had healthy around me all over to do this. damnit.


the thing is if i cut ties with this girl, i won't be able to speak with my crush and my best friend. help?


But I really miss her, I just want to go back to being Friends with her but she's not a good Friend in so many ways. But in other small ways, she has been a great Friend. Idk what to do.


dodie im sobbing and i have to be at school in 5mins asdfnjiflfvj


I am not following that person on social media, but I just have their contact saved on my device. So I just happen to see their face on my whatsapp contact list.


she broke up with me. im broken. completely broken.


It's even worse if you go to the same school as them


This was so relatable and pertinent to me - thank you Dodie you've affirmed that I've done the right thing.


Dodie, thank you. I am crying and I needed to hear this. I love you and everyone that spreads good things to the world. Thank you.


This is exactly what I've been dealing with all year. Thank you dodie


Absolute great advice! Especially about letting it hurt, about processing it and not suppressing it. Soooo true and soooo important!!


needed this so much Dodie, thank you for being you and always giving genuine great advice. You've impacted me in such a big way n thank u for having such a huge heart


Dodie, every time you make a video, I relate to it on such a high level.. so I don't know if you've gone hardcore relatable or if we are just in similar life positions and dealing with stuff similarly but thanks for making it obvious I'm not alone ❤


Watching your videos and watching the way you try to help others always warms my heart ❤ thank you for always being so kind Dodie


Thank you so much for making the video Dodie!!! <3 xx
About 3 months ago, my ex broke up with me. There was no particular reason, he just wasn't happy in the relationship, and I did the most stupid thing and blamed myself for his unhappiness. After going through a long 2 months of depression, I decided that was enough.
Yeah, I still get anxiety and sad about it sometimes (which - like Dodie said - is NORMAL!) and I'm still on the mend and trying to open myself up to people again, but I realised that I'm in charge of my own happiness. And while it still (really) hurts, I'm healing. Like Dodie said, it could take a year for me to get over it, but I'm okay with that. I'm learning to find myself again, but I'm not doing it alone. I have friends and family who are helping me - even a social worker! (there's no shame in needing to see someone when you need to. And there's no shame if sometimes talking to your friends and family isn't enough)

LOVE YOURSELF, AND FORGIVE YOURSELF! Because how do you expect to love and forgive others, if you haven't loved and forgiven yourself first? <3 x


this actually makes me feel so happy/sad. Super glad that you discussed this with us.


This is something that I needed to seriously needed to hear right now. I was having a hard time cutting ties recently with someone and glad to hear someone say that it will be ok.


Last year around this time I started dating who is now my ex, I had already gone back to them after breaking it off. It was the only healthy relationship I'd ever had and I started mulling over them again. Thank you for this video, helps a lot as well as the comments here. Finally going to get out of this unhealthy loop


I was just having a fight with my significant other and this video made me realize what I had to do  and I was crying right now and yeah thank you dodie and I really appreciate you.


Great video. I had to do this a few years ago when I was in a bad situation, and I spent like a year and way over still hurting, but now I look back and I don't feel anything but happiness that I made that choice and had the strength to get out. It's gonna be okay.


thank you, dodie <3 this vid is shockingly relevant for me rn. my situation is kinda different from the things you've mentioned but ultimately it's still about cutting ties. it's a relationship between me and one of my friends, and the problem is we are constantly hurting each other without meaning to. we've managed somehow to spend a great year together but now it's just too much. idk why im whining about this in the youtube comments section but whelp here it is!


I was legitimately just talking about this to my friend today. I need to cut ties with my other friend, but I love her so much and I can't picture life without her. I'm also scared of driving her over the edge by doing this, but as you've said our relationship is... Toxic. I can't believe you uploaded this video at the perfect time, thank you so much.


dodie thank you so much for this I was really struggling with trying to fall out of love with someone and this is just perfect timing but thank you so much


I had to experience this about 7 months ago.
One could say that I saw it coming, but it was still difficult to accept. There were a lot of factors that were brought into account when deciding this-too much drug use (I have no problem with people if they want to smoke weed, but there is a point when I think it becomes excessive, if you decide to smoke it during a 10min walk to get food after smoking all day), not taking my roommate into consideration, the lack of respect for my sexuality (I'm ace), and disrespect towards me as a person.
We had been friends for 6 years, but over the last 3 they really changed and while we weren't as close as before, we still confided things to each other that we didn't with other people.
If anything, I think I was surprised by the lack of upset in me. Again, it probably had to do with the fact that I had been anticipating, but I still thought I needed to feel some sort of sadness considering how we had been friends for a while.
Anyhow, I did vent to a few people, so maybe that was me unleashing any feelings of anger I had, but I am glad to have cut them off when I did. They tried to reach out a few months later, and I didn't reply. I don't regret it. It was simply our time to drift apart, being involved in different circles and wanting to experience life differently.
I have met better people prior and since this "friend break up" and I have never felt better. It needed to be done, and I'm glad we didn't let anything continue longer than it did.
Thanks for making this video Dodie. Truly.


I really needed this. I need to do this and I've tried and tried and failed but I'm hoping to get there at some point. Thank you so much Dodie. ❤❤❤


dodie thank you. im in so many toxic relationships right now and this is perhaps what i need to become myself socially again


dodie I feel like youre our big sister like you help us with a lot of stuff. you help us (or maybe just me) feel valid and accepted and yeah. thanks dodie :*


thank you for making this video. im actually in this situation and this really helped, a lot. love you lots x.


Personally for me, this video came at a bad time. But it reminded me that I did a good thing. Recently I cut ties with my "bestfriend" and this just made me realize why I did it in the first place. So, thank you Dodie :) 💕


im fully crying so hard and honestly this is the weirdest day for you to have uploaded this because im experiencing having to cut ties with someone for the first time in my life, so thank you for that dodie <3


i started crying just as you said "if you're crying right now, keep crying." haha thank you for this video i love you ❤


I AM GOING THROUGH THIS RIGHT NOW THANK YOU SO MUCH DODIE


i could not avoid crying while watching this. this means so much. I just want to say thank you dodie for understanding that people are going through shit and thank you for trying to help us through. thank you.


I really needed this today. Thank you Dodie!


Couldn't have uploaded this video at a better time. You don't know how much I needed this. Thank you Dodie.


I need to know,
there are these sisters that I've been friends with for almost two years, we go to school together and there is not a time where I can avoid them. We've had our bad times like everyone has... ours just seem to be worse. I tried to leave once, but I couldn't handle the hate they felt for me because it made me anxious. Since being friends with them I have gotten anxiety, been emotionally abused by them and I am no longer content with how I feel because of all the thing they have said. I still hang out with them, I'm told things will get better (again and again, but soon enough I get hurt once more) I've been told I need to move on and forget, I learned to keep my feelings inside and it's actually tearing me apart. This isn't all but I need to know.
What do I do?


This is exactly what I needed today dodie💕


After watching this video, I deleted my ex friend off of Facebook. We ended our friendship probably 6 months ago but I kept her on Facebook. I don't know why. It was torture seeing her posts, her new life, her friends, boyfriends etc. Thank you for giving me this push Dodie! xx


when you look into the camera and say things as if you're having a conversation with the viewer like, "I love you, you can do it, etc." it makes me feel so much better, thank you


wow...i'm speechless...when she looked in the camera and said "it's going to be okay" i felt like I just received the biggest hug I've ever gotten. no one has told me that. my boyfriend broke up with me on July 25th, 2016 at 11:39 pm...and I feel like I can never be happy again and what she just said was everything i needed to hear and that you do much Dodie....you are a blessing from God thank you so so much I love you


Thank you! I needed this for so long. I've been trying for the longest but kept going back thinking i needed them in my life bc it would be absurd to kick them out since they've been there for so long and through so much. They were a a best friend who turned into that weird "romantic talking stage of wanting to be a couple". I would always get excuses to why he didn't want to make it work. "He didn't want to lose me as a friend" "he didn't know how to make a relationship work" "he wasn't ready". Yet a couple of weeks later he'd get with someone else. Then I'd confront him for it and he'd say "I just don't want to lose you as a friend, I still want to be with you" and I'd be mad at him but ultimately forgive him for at least not being upfront about it and take some time and resume our friendship(it was so hard for me to see him parading with his new love). Once he was done with her, he'd talk to me again always making it sound like he loved me again and that I was special to him. This time, he went for my best friend. That was when I realized I couldn't stay this way. Especially with someone who I love the most. She's my best friend and she's always been there for me and although I don't want her to get hurt by his stupid ass,  I'm angry that she's still going in with him after I told her how I felt about it and him. I decided to cut ties with him. He claimed he cared about me but why would he do something he knew would hurt. From a friend stance, why would he hurt me like that? So I made it clear that enough was enough and that I was over the whole situation.


this is so good to have for future reference. i have gotten rid of toxic people in my life this year and it felt so good. just having this ultimately is so helpful. thank you dodie.


thank you so much Dodie 💚 my best friend had left for unknown reasons without saying anything to me about it and it just hurts a lot. it's made me what to attempt suicide and it is horrible so this video helps me so much. thank you Dodie, really.


I needed this. Dodie is such a good person. :)


Dodie telling me that it's going to be okay makes me really happy


Wow, you actually made this video at the perfect time...  I really needed to hear this right now, thank you <3


I cut ties with a toxic group of friends a few months ago, and even though I only have 3 or 4 friends now I'm so much happier. They were always so depressed, and that negativity reflected in how I acted. There was always some sort of drama or someone wanted to kill themselves  (which was terrible, but it became too much). I'm really glad I don't hang out with them anymore.


It's like you always know what I need to hear. Thank you so much.


About 2 years ago I had to cut ties with a person who's been my best friend for years. There is a lot of reasons for it, but I guess she didn't see it that way. The hardest part was the aftermath. She tried guilt trip me and make me feel horrible about my decision, but there was no going back. I felt so much relief when I was able to let everything go and I never let her get to me. We were both hurting but it was definitely for the best.


this is exactly what i needed right now. thank you so much dodie❤ (ps: i'm absolutely in LOVE with Intertwined)


Dodie. today I met up with someone that means a lot to me (and in the current situation, we cannot be together really), and I got home and felt so lost and sad and trapped again and this video popped up just at the right time and I'm so grateful for it, I'm a little teary right now but thank you so so so much


Genuinely needed this so much, my boyfriend just broke up with me two days ago and have been sitting around crying ever since!!! <3 love you


i seriously needed this rn. last september i broke things off with my best friend. most of the things dodie said helped me since i actually did the things she said not to do. i tried my best to give me and my friend closure by writing a letter, since she blocked me in all social media accounts. clearly it didn't give me good closure because i'm still thinking about her and asking my other friend updates about her. i'll definitely watch this video everytime i want to reach out to my friend. thanks dodie💕


These steps are great for those that are cutting friendships too. I was best friends with this person for 7 years but we had a huge falling out, and looking back, I should have ended the friendship years before because she was not very good to me. Take care everybody <3


Thank you, I didn't know how much I needed this. So thanks a lot for the advice, you lovely human being <3!


Thank you dodie, this video helped a lot! :)


It took me a year to cut ties with my ex. After all the emotional trauma he has put me through I'm finally done.  He's moved on 1 week after the relationship,  and I'm here still in love even after a year of being a part. We tried being friends but it was a one Sided friendship. it was like I was wounded and I kept picking at the scab, so I never got the chance to fully heal.


this was really helpful. thank you Dodie!


this video made me cry. thank you so much, dodie :)


I just had a traumatic experience and I just turned to you Dodie I love you


i love you,dodie. this is just what I needed at the moment.


Very relevant for me right now, thank you Dodie <3


I've watched this video 4 times today. I needed this and I'm so glad this was posted when it was.


I needed this right now. Thank you Dodie, thank you......


C:<br>I not going through this atm, but this made me smile, because of how much I can relate from the past :D <3

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I not going through this atm, but this made me smile, because of how much I can relate from the past :D <3


this is such a helpful video because i recently cut off from a really toxic and mean person that i've been waiting to get away from them forever and this is exactly what i needed to help myself. that person was terrible and i feel i deserve better friends.


Me and my best friend recently decided to end our four year friendship. We're in our first year of uni, and we ended up at the same school. It was apparent within the first few weeks that for many reasons, our relationship had become toxic. It hurt, because although I knew it was a long time coming I didn't expect to get a text saying that we shouldn't be friends anymore. It sucked, because I couldn't indulge in other relationships. I had spent the first few weeks with this friend and the friends she was making, so by the end of the first month I had no friends. Even my friends from high school were closer with her. It's like we got divorced and she got full custody of the kids. I was depressed, I wanted to transfer schools or drop out altogether. By now looking at the new friends I've made, and the decisions I've made purely for myself, I don't regret anything.


pretty crazy.... yesterday i decided to subscribe because i like your videos. now, you posted a video about this topic, and this is exactly what i needed. the situation you describe is exactly one i am in right now. this video helps a lot :)


Ahh, I nearly cried for the first time after three non-crying days, which took a month to get to. But thank you! In my case, we broke up, and I thought it was a normal break up. He told me he wanted to stay friends but started acting super hostile and defensive. I found out he started seeing someone new immediately, and that he was possibly seeing/talking to her even before the breakup. Also found out he cheated on me at least once (not counting the new girl) while we were together. And to think that I loved him. I'm a complete mess of feelings, I haven't been able to think straight for the past weeks, but I will push through.


I was literally thinking and stressing about this exact topic this morning and then you uploaded this and goodness me thank you so much you beautiful human.


no joke, this is really helping me right now. thank you. much love to you all


Thank you so much Dodie! <3 I really needed this rn, and i love you soosososo much! thank you


I had to do this about two months ago wth my ex, we tried being friends, though it was killing me, and I kept falling for him, though I knew that I shouldn't cos he hurt me, and I wanted to go back. I finally told him, don't talk to me unless it is really important, I needed to heal from what he had done. I'm better now. We still have those awkward passing by and eye contact but it sucks. <br>Also love your hair ❤

I had to do this about two months ago wth my ex, we tried being friends, though it was killing me, and I kept falling for him, though I knew that I shouldn't cos he hurt me, and I wanted to go back. I finally told him, don't talk to me unless it is really important, I needed to heal from what he had done. I'm better now. We still have those awkward passing by and eye contact but it sucks.
Also love your hair ❤


i love you so much Dodie <3 thank you for everything


This applies to me too. For seven months i spoke to a person (well, wrote actually, we were far away) and now she has given up with me after our second attempt to see each other has failed. Sadly she didn't talk about cutting ties, just started to not answering about the meeting anymore. I tried to talk to her about that and she said 'there is nothing to speak of'. T_T
I still can't think about her with another person. I hope someday we will return to be friends, she's a good person :)
Oh yeah, thanks Dodie. I forgot about the social media :O (I mean, really forgot)


This could not have come at a better time. Thank you Dodie.


It took me literally nearly 1 and a half painful years to get over THAT special person. We tried to be in good terms but, probably we're better off separated. true, it was painful, and it might take awhile, but the time is worth taken. End up, you're gonna be a better person.


having cut ties with someone earlier on in the year, this video would've been so helpful to past me! hope it helps someone who needs it now though :)))


This is exactly what I did a couple of months ago with my best friend/ crush. I wish I had kept the distance because I fell back into what felt natural thinking it was all completely fine with in like 2 weeks and now I'm stuck back in the same circle I was before except this time I can't leave because I don't want to hurt her more than I already have. I doesn't help that we go to school together and we're in a few of the same classes and in the same friendship group. God help me


I never got closure from my ex, even after telling him what I wanted to tell him. He never said anything back to me, and so I was left to wonder what I did wrong and it built up a lot of self-doubt. That was on my birthday. It's been 6 months since then, and I still miss him sometimes. But I'm better now. Thank you Dodie, I'll take on your advice for the future.


I got dumped on Friday so thank you for this, haven't watched it yet but the title says enough and I love you


She is just the sweetest person. I admire so much about her.


I actually really needed this. I'm sure you won't read this comment but I'm going through a rough friendship to where I feel like I'm being ignored and I love this person to death but they don't love me back. I didn't know how to handle the situation and it really put me into a funk. Thank you so much, your videos impact me so much and give me great advice for moving forward .


Does anyone else feel like they just want to reach through the screen, grab her face and kiss her on the cheek? Dodie you're an angel I love you!.......


So I could do it...I loved him (I don't use love lightly) for 4 years, stronger at some times, weaker at others. When we hung out we had real fun, but he treated me awfully, most of the time...but then again he had familly stuff and his own friendship issues. I considered moving schools to get away from what I saw as unrealistic situation. However when I mentioned I might move (not the reason why) he had one of his many heart to hearts and opened up to me. When after some personal time away, or at least kind of more distantly - he told me that he loved me...he said he had for 2 years...told me when he felt this, told me why, told me how I am different (I know cheesy... but I really believed him...However I turned him down. the concept of being his girlfriend terrified me (I don't know why) and now I am in the same boat of hating him then adoring him. this probably sounds like some unhealthy psychological manipulation but I don't think it is. I see him everyday, I can't completely cut him out. I get that him acknowledging he has treated me badly and apologising isn't enough but...[wow I'm realising how bad this sounds as I type] People always have said we are the perfect couple since early high school and tbh I can't see why we wouldn't be...If we were together I reckon it would be different...


I really needed this right now, thank you!


Why are you so wise? <br>thank you thank you thank you! this helped so much dodie <3

Why are you so wise?
thank you thank you thank you! this helped so much dodie <3


I feel this way about an on and off friend.. she's not good for me but I keep finding myself trying to fix things and taking all the blame. I know I shouldn't be friends with her but there's something that just keeps drawing me in no matter how toxic she is and how much she hurts me. We're actually good right now and I feel like it's going to happen again though.


This is hitting very close to home. Cut ties w/ my best friend & roommate of many years earlier on this year and I find myself in a bit of a "what is she up to?" "does she miss me?"  phase and this really helped me realise, it's NOT good to find out. I should really leave it alone and go heal. You're right, it's an absolute bitch! But I will be fine :) Thanks, Dodie!


I'm getting Golden by Lucy vibes from watching this video, I think it's the association with the word "cut ties". Great video, it was a much needed reality check.


I just moved this summer and I started my freshman year of high school this August. I didn't have any friends for the first 2 weeks and it was pretty bad.... I ended up meeting a girl at a neighbors party and we realized we had the same math class! We talked and talked and she slept over that same night. She introduced me to her friends and we all grew very close, but a lot of drama went on and she has been talking behind my back saying I "ruined the system" and that I'm taking places. I realized that she was double sided and I sadly lost 2 out of 3 friends tonight. It may seem weird but I'm not that upset. If anything I'm glad I left them. I really support leaving people that give you grief it takes weight of your shoulders!!


wish i could've seen this 6 months ago :// super helpful video, dodie!!


I didn't really date this guy, but we were in love, we've been "broken up" for months but I still can't get over him and it hurts to know he's moved on.


So I moved out of home for the first time in Jan and have cut one person in particular out of my life. This person has tried to reach out to me but I've just ignored it. I've probably done a really shitty job of cutting ties by just flipping this emotion switch and not wanting to talk about it and just move on with my life. I don't know. But this year I realised that our friendship wasn't something I wanted to continue having and that certain things she said and did over the years just got brought up in my head and I wanted nothing more to do with it. She aparrently has moved back home where we grew up and she's run into my family a few times asking about me. My mum tells me she feels like she's in the middle of it but she's not. My mum said "But she was your best freind" and it was just so frustrating to try and explain that y'know, you've only seen that person on certain occasion. You haven't seen those words come out of her mouth or seen her be in a situation where you've questioned who she is as a person. We've both changed a lot by the looks of things and that's okay. I have definitely checked her instagram like you said Dodie and you're exactly right. I deleted all of my social media in October and I am such a happier person because of it. Although I have been checking your page for updates and it makes me so happy that you're doing well c: Thanks again for this video and if anyone takes the time to read my rambling haha. <br>Much love xxoo.

So I moved out of home for the first time in Jan and have cut one person in particular out of my life. This person has tried to reach out to me but I've just ignored it. I've probably done a really shitty job of cutting ties by just flipping this emotion switch and not wanting to talk about it and just move on with my life. I don't know. But this year I realised that our friendship wasn't something I wanted to continue having and that certain things she said and did over the years just got brought up in my head and I wanted nothing more to do with it. She aparrently has moved back home where we grew up and she's run into my family a few times asking about me. My mum tells me she feels like she's in the middle of it but she's not. My mum said "But she was your best freind" and it was just so frustrating to try and explain that y'know, you've only seen that person on certain occasion. You haven't seen those words come out of her mouth or seen her be in a situation where you've questioned who she is as a person. We've both changed a lot by the looks of things and that's okay. I have definitely checked her instagram like you said Dodie and you're exactly right. I deleted all of my social media in October and I am such a happier person because of it. Although I have been checking your page for updates and it makes me so happy that you're doing well c: Thanks again for this video and if anyone takes the time to read my rambling haha.
Much love xxoo.


this adequate me rethink just about every relationship no matter what type... crying...


watching your videos makes me feel like ur actually my friend lmao


What great perfect timing. This video popped up in my Recommended and I totally needed this. THANK YOU


i needed a video like this right now thank you so much <3


I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago. And although we only dated a few months it felt to right. It felt like we had been together forever because we clicked. I don't think I had ever met a person I had been like that with, ever. For me to trust him so much and care so much about him was huge for me. Due to some stupid person not wanting us to be together and was not only torturing me  mentally on the daily, but she was poising his mind as well. And because he had been so co dependent on her he couldn't see what she was doing. And even though I still loved him I broke up with him in a rage fit because I snapped. I regretted it a few days later after I calmed down and tried to get back to him, and he didn't want me back. He wouldn't talk to me. And now he's with someone else. And so now I'm having to try and deal with it with no closure, still loving him when everyone else says I'm not, and not even being able to talk it out, I'm left trying to get over it by myself. And I feel like literally no one seems to get why I'm still hurting months later, or Why he's still my first reaction to call when I'm sad, or something bad happens. Dodie I kinda feel like you're my big sister. Always there for me even if we've never met. Thank you for making this. Rn it's 1am and I'm in the bathroom crying my eyes out because I'm tired of people telling me I shouldn't feel things. So I'm gonna sit here and cry. I will bask in the suck until the suck goes away.


i'm so in love with my ex and he ended things for no reason like we literally never even fought but now he hates me so much it hurts so bad but we share a lot of friends so it's hard to just cut him off and never hear about him again (online friends, it was a ldr sort of) and i find myself going to his account to make sure he's okay and it makes me so so sad


I cut ties with someone bc our friendship was really unhealthy. I can't completely avoid them though, we have classes together, and they keep coming back to me even though I established my boundaries...And I don't want to come off as rude.  How do I commit to cutting ties?


I've been cut off enough to know how much it sucks so I will never do that to anyone. If it's going to happen in my control it's going to happen naturally or gradually. I refuse to hurt anyone as horribly as I've been hurt. I've been on both ends and I just can't do it and won't do it. To me it's just not within my morals. I deeply feel people and value all connections so I find it so artificial and wrong to cut someone off or cut ties completely. My two cents.


the unfollow on social medias and not 'take a peek' at their instagram is really true, i kept looking at a certain exes instagram, and now we're talking again. but they were toxic. don't do it.


very relevant right now. oh dodie, how you have a way of always being on the same page as i. thank you


I find it pretty ironic that I was going through my subscription feed earlier and this came up and I was thinking "oh I got a girlfriend who loves me when will I ever need this " apparently that time is now since she broke up with me and I can't stop crying. yay me


man i wish i had this like 5 months ago but this was still v helpful:'))


Dodie,
Can't help but to giggle in a weird way since i am going through a situation with a friend, well this person doesnt know-know, but has the feeling, we havent talked,, but i have cut this person off contact wise, and I've been going through a situation exaclty like this and been lost with it and kind of hiding from the fact, but i truly needed this, exaclty right now.

Thank you, sincerely! Thank u....


I feel like crying not because I miss the people I cut ties with but I wish I had the trust i feel with dodie with other people. I feel like she would get my explications which are complex and would know how to say it because she just always seems to make me feel better. I don't know I just wish I could just have a sit down with her and talk to her about everything because her words are so assuring to me


I had to cut ties with a really close guy friend a while ago. We where best friends, goofing around all the time, and we totally were happy hanging out together. But then he confessed he had romantic feelings for me. I didn't. I feel like I should have been more careful and mindful of his feelings, but I figured if we spent some time apart, maybe those feelings would go away. They didn't, and he confessed that he was in love with me. That made things 10 times worse because I wanted my best friend back so badly, but all he wanted was for us to be together as a couple. Finally I just exploded because he wouldn't stop being so pushy, even though I'd made my feelings very clear. We got into an argument over the phone, and both said things we shouldn't. That was earlier on during the summer. Now I'm a freshman in college and he's a senior in high school. We don't talk. I miss my best friend, but not the possessive, pushy guy whose feelings he couldn't control. Sometimes relationships, friend or more, just don't work. We where extremely compatible as friends for a few months, and then it just didn't work. It's sad, but looking back on it I'm glad we had those good times. And know that if you're going through some form of breakup, that it does get better. It hurts for a while, but you'll heal and become wiser. Sorry for the rant😂😂


:( broke up with my first boyfriend of 6 years like 4 years ago. but it still hurts every day. every single day. :(


i'm tearing up just thinking about when me and my current bf split up. i mean we're back together and are stronger than ever!! but just the thought of never getting back with him hurts! i was in such a bad place!! i literally had no one. and then when he asked me back out i was in a much better place! i didn't think it was real!


wow perfect timing. i needed this so bad. thank you


i needed this so so much rn! bless ur heart i love you!


I rly needed this. I need to cut ties with this girl I've liked for a year and a half. She is the most beautiful person I've ever met and I don't mean looks-wise. (Even though she is incredibly stunning) I really need to get over her so I can finally stop obsessing over her... I'm going to tell her how I feel and never talk to her again. Because I know she doesn't like me. Thx Dodie :)


Is anyone else just very in love with Dodie Clark


i think breaking up with my friends is 10x harder than anything :/ , did your advices already, and still shitty after 2 years


I'm going through the situation right now and it is so confusing what to do and i don't want to hurt anyone but at the same time i can't let myself hurt


How do you get over someone that you're living with?


I have a friend who calls me names, and just always hold grudges over the tiniest of things. Sure, shes nice 20% of the time but in all honesty i can't stand it. I don't know if this video is only about love, but i feel horrible like i'm a doormat that can just be stepped on. I'll try to follow this, but how can i when she's is the same class as me? Should i just ignore her? Or should i just talk to her to see if she'll change? I really don't know, but ill try to follow what you said :)


I know I need to fall out of love with my ex but I don't want to


I'm in the process of this with both a group of friends and an ex at the same time right now. very alone but on the mend


does anyone have additional advice for me? like, everything Dodie said was perfect and I will take that into consideration but, the thing is, the person I'm trying to get away from is a friend and me and her go to the same school and we have a few of the same classes so I can't just break away from her. She just hurts me all the time, mentally and physically, and it really really messes with my mental state. I don't know what to do. she's in my friend group so I can't exactly break away from her. I'm sorry, my problem isn't probably that bad but, she hurts me so much and I want to find a way to get her out of my life, you know? so, if anyone has maybe just the smallest advice to add on to what Dodie said, pls help me. please.


I LOVE YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO HOLY HECK


Way late, Dodie.  Could've used this like a YEAR ago.  Gahhh!

Seriously though, good video for people in need.  Hopefully I won't be revisiting it, but I know where to find it if I need it!


Omfg thank you so much this helped a million thank you so much xxxxxx


I've watched this 3 times today but I can't be mad him for to long know I'm just crying my eyes out and Snapchatting him saying I'm not mad.


Great Message. Can I have more of Russian Dodie please ?


I have classes with my crush, so how would I get over them if I can't avoid them.


Dodie:Go do something fun with your friends<br>Me:but i only have one

Dodie:Go do something fun with your friends
Me:but i only have one


When you realise someone is kinda doing this with you and you need to do it with them...oops


I have an old friend that I'm trying to cut myself off from because I asked them to maybe invite me to more things like when they hang out with people we're both friends with??? And they didn't even respond, they just had their friend tell me that she doesn't want to talk about it because it makes her upset. Maybe I'm in the wrong here, I just feel like this is equally shitty for us. It makes her feel like shit because she doesn't like people talking about how worthless they feel, but her actions (or lack of) were the ones making me feel unwanted and unneeded. Anyway, now she's telling all our mutual friends that I'm mad at her even though I stay away from her because being around her makes me feel anxious and, again, unwanted


This is the most perfect timing for me and this video


I have this person who decides to follow me around and I mean I can deal with being followed... but she is VERY rude. I feel like she thinks she's just joking around when she makes fun of me but she is actually super hurtful. She prevents me from talking to other people by following me and annoying whoever I'm speaking with to the point they feel they need to walk away. I would tell her how she makes me feel but she has literally no friends and I feel really responsible for how she feels. any advice is welcome XD It's been going on for 3 years and I'm desperate.


"if you're crying right now, keep crying"
me, mascara running all down my face fUCK

"if you're crying right now, keep crying"
*me, mascara running all down my face* fUCK


A letter to you:

Dear person,

   I remember when I was sitting here writing a letter to you about how much I was gonna miss you after we first met. Now I'm writing a letter about how I'm gonna miss you after this. But i had the biggest crush on you and I thought you felt the same way, but after you left you started to push me away. It hurt so bad for so long but It's getting better. Today I unfollowed you on all social media after four months of torturing my self and I feel stronger now for some reason. I just wish you told me what you were thinking and feeling cause then I wouldn't be writing this. You say you still want to be my friend but you never talk to me. You never made an effort. I don't think you ever cared TBH. I just want closure. I want to know if you ever cared. You said I was fake, but look at us now. Your the one who's making up excuses and lying. Ignoring me and making me feel like shit. All I wanted was you, but now all I want is to forget you.


Fuck..<br>I can't bring myself to unfollow my ex and I thought I was over her but I'm not fully over her and now I'm crying and shaking and I just.. I miss her. I miss her so much. I don't even just miss her romantically, I miss her as my best friend as well and I'm having a really tough time right now and she used to be the one I could cry to and I feel s o a l o n e

Fuck..
I can't bring myself to unfollow my ex and I thought I was over her but I'm not fully over her and now I'm crying and shaking and I just.. I miss her. I miss her so much. I don't even just miss her romantically, I miss her as my best friend as well and I'm having a really tough time right now and she used to be the one I could cry to and I feel s o a l o n e


Guys, I'd like some help, please.
I like a guy. In the early stages, I didn't know he had a girlfriend, so I thought I was allowed to think of him in that light. But now that I know that he does, I've already grown very fond of him in the way that I shouldn't. I know it's wrong now, the way that I feel, so I've been trying to distance myself and it's been a struggle to me coz he's become a dear friend to me and I miss him when we're not talking. I was wondering where I draw the line when I'm interacting with him, coz I don't want to ruin anything for anyone. Like, I don't know if I should cut ties or just limit how much I contact him. So yeah. Of any of y'all can help me out on how to stop feeling this way, and how to find the right balance on letting myself like him as a friend and keeping my distance, that'd be rad.
Please.


I'm a freshman in high school, and right now I would only want to stay friends with 3 people that I currently hang out with. it's so difficult for me to leave people, so many people have left me in my life (I won't get into that) but, I also have trust issues. I can't be mean to people, I really feel like I can't be honest to people and I have to make everything a joke and I really hate it. i can't be serious and I'm aware of it. I hate it about myself and I suppress a lot of feelings. I'm so sensitive, you can make me hurt so easy. I want to cut ties with someone but they'll still hang out with my friend group. my friends have given her wayy too many "second chances" and I'm fucking sick of it honestly. we all don't like her, and now my best friend is trying to be best friends with her again when she treats my best friend like shit. I hate this so much, I'm so stuck at the moment. do any of you have any advice? thanks for letting me ramble for a bit


this is exactly what i needed. how does she know? lol


HELP?i was on a very toxic relationship for about two years and after about a year of constant emotional games I suddenly dropped everything and moved away. I blocked her in everyway but I have no closure but I'm afraid if i talk to her it will only make things more awkward than me constantly ovoids get her?!? And I'm also afraid because most of the harmful things that happened have been over social media/ technology so I'm afraid that that will affect the way the interaction goes...


I love you sososo much. perfect timing. thank. you. so. much.


IT'S BEEN LIKE 2 YEARS LMAO IM SO BROKEN


There's a person who I want to cut ties with who deeply hurt me but I'm going to be seeing him for the next few years, maybe for the rest of my life so what do I do. If I delete him off of social media he will notice and I don't want to hurt him even tho he hurt me. And when I see him it will be so awkward and sad so what do I do then. I really need some good advice


I had to cut ties with my best friend of three years last year

I have had to do this with a close friend I had for four years. It was the longest friendship I have every had. It was hard, but eventually you do get over it. I understand the feeling. It does get better though.

Bella Sander I hope you are okay! Just know there are plenty of people out there who will support you :)


If you do start thinking about them call a friend and talk about anything


This video appeared at the perfect time.


Shit I needed this and its been over since August


any advice for what to do if someone does it to you, and the reason just doesn't make sense


I think 23 people had their phones upside down and accidentally pressed "dislike"


I love him but my parents are making my life hell because of him,, what do?


A year later I stumbled across this again when I really needed it as well. I can’t remember why I was sad last year but right now everything feels fresh and newly broken and sad for some other boy and broken relationship  and this was really amazing to hear. Thank you dodie


did anyone else think she was going to cut actual ties? no? just me? I'll see myself out


the timing of this could not be better holy shit


yes. yes. yes. everything about this video is a big fat yes.


aw fuck i just spilt my cereal all over my bed


If only you would've made this sooner :/


ok so i need some advice. I have a friend. Don't get me wrong shes not a bad friend. But she drags me into other toxic relationships. she has a friend group and they all talk behind my back. but she forces me to go and hang out with them. she always thinks she entitled to an explanation if i dont come and will literally make sure i come. shes actually put me through a alot that i wont mention but i dont know how to cut ties...


Can I cut ties with myself please and thank you


Mine didn’t hurt too much. Maybe it is because that person tortured me so much they thought I was so weak that she could just sexually assault me. (I know I’m late whatever)


Doorslam them. Imagine that they're dead to you. Have nothing to do with them. ⚰