Today, my boyfriend was suposed to come back from a party so that we could go see a movie since tonight and tomorrow is our 3 years anniversary. He just came home, it's 22:00 , he stayed 5 minutes and then went away because he's high as fuck and told me he "just don't want to talk " to me right know. I'm at home, crying, because during the week he works, and during the week end he's taking drugs with his friends . I've lost all my friends and they don"t answer my calls because I was busy trying to save my couple. Yay, i'm alone, and everytime i try to cut  ties with my bf, I end up getting back with him because i'm scared of being alone.

So you're alone and unhappy in the weeks and alone and unhappy on the weekends? Why not be alone and happy instead? Or get together with someone who makes you happy? Crazy idea, huh?

Aurore Grace H i was madly in love with a very similar ex and i have to be honest. it took me well over 6 months to stop hurting but i am happy and free now. not worrying about him doing drugs all the time is so freeing

Aurore Grace H hi there. I only have sympathy for this level of abuse I have been in a lighter level of it and trapped. try to get a hold of your family. most times (cause I don't know your family) your family is gonna be your best bet and will care for you in the long run. let them know what is going on and how your feel and how badly you need help out. give them examples of what he does and how you don't know what to do. it gets rough and you feel terrible then your misrabel again. if you can get your family to help call an abuse hotline. (I've never personally used it but I've heard good things. crisis text line) if he goes through your stuff often (phone computer ect.) use an incognito tab and delete the history afterwards. be safe, end things, find help. we believe in you ❤❤❤

Calling or texting a help line for abusive relationships might help. I don't know what country you live in so you should probably google that. If you're afraid of your boyfriend seeing your search history search it in an incognito window. Possibly after that, call/text your family/friends. I know you said that they don't talk to you but contact them anyway. Even if they don't respond right away tell them what's going on. Then they will see it and they could possibly help from the outside of the relationship. I'm not a therapist or anything so don't take my words as gospel but I honestly think this might help you. No matter what you're first priority should be keeping yourself safe. I hope you can get out of this soon. <3   : )

I know i'm in an abusive relationship... but I don't know what to do..

It sounds like you might be in an abusive relationship, maybe check dodie's video on this channel called 'angry' and some of the links in that videos description? Idk what it's like to be in your position but I feel like that might help you. I wish you the best with your situation! : )

I am so sorry for you, I wish I could help... For me, it indeed seems better that you cut ties with him, so that you can discover the force and love within yourself. But I understand that that's sooo difficult. But PLEASE be kind to yourself, you deserve the very best, really!


So I had this friend and in this story we are calling her Holly.

So I met Holly in kindergarten along with her friend Skylar(skylar is still my friend). I can't remember much of Holly being my friend in kindergarten through fourth grade because she was the shy kid in elementary school also she wasn't in my classes. But then in our last year of elementary school in fifth grade we got closer. Even though it wasn't that long ago I can't remember because it's replaced with sadness. Holly was still shy in fifth grade but I had known her better now (even though at the time I didn't realize it was anxiety bc it wasn't a thing to me). That summer when we were going to middle school, Holly and I were basically inseparable. We hung out nearly every day and we talked on FaceTime when she went home. School starts. Holly and I only have one class together but that's fine, I have other friends, she has other friends. Everything was fine and dandy. In about January/February Holly kind of drifted away for a bit which made me really sad because we talked a the time and now she barely talked to me. But it's fine it's all fine she started talking to me again and now it was back to fine and dandy. We were best friends we told each other nearly everything. Holly was sort of a "bad" influence I guess you could say. She kissed boys, I thought no one should have a boyfriend at this age. But I wasn't in school one day and the next day at school I found out that she had moved. My best friend. The one Who told me everything. Gone. Without a sound. Without a goodbye. I was devastated. I was so confused. She had told me they always thought of moving but this was two months before she moved. No other information until school had ended. After school had ended I found out that she didn't move and they had just recently put their house on the market. So she really just didn't finish the rest of the school year for unknown reasons (i suspect that she was suspended). Also I was left with being depressed for about a month. So yay.


for those of us who don't have friends, it can help to talk to a supportive family member (if there is one), or maybe a counselor, teacher, a priest? or if you just don't wanna talk, you could write it all down. it really helps clear your mind. also focus on the things that you love, be it music, art, cooking, sports, movies, whatever it may be. utilize these feelings to create/achieve something wonderful. and most importantly, remember to take care of yourself! i know you may feel like sleeping all day and may be nauseous at the thought of food, but your body will thank you. eat a warm meal, take a shower, go for a walk, do some stretching, organize your space, go shopping! whatever might help make you feel like yourself again. best of luck!!


I broke up with my ex because he was so dependent on me for his own happiness. He needed me to be happy. In a way,he kinda subconsciously blamed me every time he wasn’t happy. And we loved each other a lot. He was my first love. I poured a year and almost 5 months of myself into that relationship and I had to cut it off. I broke up with him just last week. And I know this video was made awhile ago,I watched it when I had to cut ties with my best friend and I’ve just come back to it. And it really does help to hear someone say “it’s gonna take time,but it’s gonna get better”. Breakups are tough. Even if you’re the one who ended it sometimes. But you just have to deal and try and move on.


We broke up so sudden. I loved him for 8 years and we were together for 6years. This video is so therapeutic


I cut ties with my best friend and I find myself wishing she was still my friend everyday. I always find myself trying to text her then realising we don't talk while hovering over the send button, but I know my current friends are so much better for me


it's an old video, but exactly what I needed rn. thank you. ♥


this video really helped me. thank you so much!<3


last year was a cutting ties year as I found out a lot of unfaithful bitches in my social group, I just felt nauseous whenever I saw them, I am quite sick of it. Thanks Dodie for being mentor to us 💞💞💞,not much youtubers care about their followers. Dodie is truly one of a kind.


I'm watching this video almost every night at the moment. Just got broken up with... I know it's for the best, and I need it, but I'm hurting so much


a few months ago i started to develop a friendship with a boy and we quickly became best friends. he ended up leading me on for almost 2 months, and i am in so much pain. the fact that someone flirted with me and made me feel good and lovable and then walked right out. i put so much time and care into this person, and all i got in return was heartbreak. i feel used. i feel insecure. i'm afraid i'll never be loved again. i'm afraid he never loved me to begin with. i'm regretful for being so kind and for letting this person hurt me. i just want this pain to go away. i hope one day i can come back to this comment and feel relieved that the pain is gone


I know this is an old video but felt like commenting anyway. This video made me think, not cry. Thinking about a person I love a lot but don't know in what way I love her but I know she only likes me as a good friend.
For anyone reading this, got any tips for stuff like this?.
When you don't really wanna cut ties with someone that does respect your feelings, still is well.. there (at times..college is a bitch) and has helped you through depression yet has hurt you in some way... Known this person for 5years, she's been a great friend. ~Loony


Why am I crying? I have not even cut ties with anyone!!! I just cry so much. I am sorry. That was such a nice video. (I loved that Russian actsent at the end) I say as a sob my little heart out!

U make me feel so happy. Really thanks dodie


I just came back to this video after cutting ties with a really loved friend ... Because I'm in such pain and i need some Dodie


“if you’re crying right now, keep crying.”<br>me, in public, putting on sunglasses: send help

“if you’re crying right now, keep crying.”
me, in public, putting on sunglasses: send help


im doing this bc i feel like it might help even though the situation isn’t the same, basically me and my best friend of 3 years just drifted apart. we talked non stop and we’re inseparable, but when we joined high school we went down separate paths (him swim me band) I had quit swim for a little to do band but when marching season was over he just started completely ignoring me, he had got a new gf but i dont to believe that is why since he had gfs before. i tried a few times to get back to how we were but he always is dry or doesn’t carry out the convo. now I have to see him all the time since I joined swim again and it used to be fun but now it’s different. idk why but it hurts so bad that we don’t talk at all anymore, I don’t know what to do. i feel like crying every time someone bring him up. but my other best friend doesn’t get it when I try to tell her abt it, no one understands, or maybe they do and I’m the one in the shadows. i really just don’t want to let go, but it might be for the best. we just never really ended things.


I was broken up with recently, And I've actually done most of the things said in this video, but I'm actually terrified I'll run into my ex.


You just told me the things I needed to hear


how do you deal with getting over someone you're still in love with? context: my boyfriend is going to uni, im staying for year 13. i hate the idea of holding him back from the whole process of growing at uni, so i want him to let go. is that even possible?


Thank you sooo mich you help me to come over my ex girlfriend


Oh lord, I'm back again to this video and I need to cut ties with a friend who's making my anxiety worse. She also has anxiety and it is so triggering for me. Its making me feel worse about my job and life when I talk with her, its so negative and I NEED positivity for my mental health


I wish I had friends as smart as you but most people are stupid and immature at 15

Jamie Ojendi i have those too but they are so hard to find? i met them on the internet and only see them every two months so

+Jamie Ojendi Me too! I do have immature friends as well though - I suppose you can find both in all ages if you search hard enough ...

@Rowyn Bass yeah! This has been incredibly encouraging

Becca Stubbs now I feel like we should all get in contact😆😆😆

@A Bardeft I'm in England but at least we know that there's others out there

@Becca Stubbs very true, I'm in upstate NY

A Bardeft I feel. And I'm 14 so I totally get it

@A Bardeft well I mean, us lot found each other so we are out there somewhere!

I know for sure there are DEFINITELY really smart and mature younger people I just can't seem to find any where I live

PixelKidd it's alright these days, I've learnt to cope (with only a tad of anxiety 😂) thank you anyway, we all have out role to play ❤

same I'm sixteen and its nearly impossible to find cool people who aren't clowns in my school bc they all suck :-(

Becca Stubbs oh thats completely understandable then, i went through the same thing, i watched youtubers because they got it honestly haha, keep your head up! 💖

Jamie Ojendi I need some of these friends!!!

A Bardeft , I'm friends with a bunch of 14-16 year olds and they are the most intelligent, deepest people I know. They are all so amazing and mature. I love my friends. We have daily talk about the universe and stuff. Find yourself some good friends.

Alice Butter I'm not smart at all really

PixelKidd I totally agree, and it's more about me than them. They're normal and it's lead to me feeling ostracised from an early age. The issue lies with me, not them

A Bardeft i mean maturity is all relative to life experience, you may have faced tougher situations than the people youre calling immature but its hardly fair to call someone immature/dumber because they havent dealt with as many hardships, eventually those people will learn the lessons youve learnt it just might take longer, until then try not to put people down for this, people cant help the amount of life experience theyve had

@Alice Butter I think I meant just more towards maturity rather than intelligence since immature people usually seem dumber to me

I knoow , I am 16 and it's still the same thing , I know it sounds like I think too much of myself , but mentally I truly feel above them

* 5 with 30x as much thestostherone running through their bodies

A Bardeft every other 15 yr old is actually 5 dude


K, so I need a bit of help.
About three or four years ago, I met this girl online who was about two years older than me. At first we just chatted every once in a while, but eventually we grew closer and started talking more. I know she's around my age because we have voice chatted and video chatted, and I can tell she's a tween. The thing is, even though we claim we're best friends, I feel like we're not that close. We have shared a couple moments, and we do know each other pretty well, but I feel uncomfortable talking to her about certain subjects that I'm comfortable to talking about with my other friends (like religion, sexuality, touchy things like that) that aren't my "best friends." I don't like to start conversations in general sometimes with her because she never lets me leave. Sometimes I'm forced to stay up to 2 or 3 am just to keep talking. I love her and sometimes she makes me laugh, but she's just really controlling and sometimes manipulative. She's not really sympathetic either, and when I tell her that I'm depressed or upset, she just says "K?" I have brought up that she's not that sympathetic to her once, and her reply was "Please don't leave, I don't want to lose another friend," which I just... I don't know how to reply to. I always assure her that we're friends, but she seems to doubt it. She says she doesn't have any friends irl, and also has anxiety, depression, and I think asbergers, so I feel guilty whenever I say I'm busy and can't talk. She's actually really funny and smart, and she's always on when I message her. She's also stood up for me and protected me, but other times she just teases me with no mercy. I just feel like she needs me more than I need her, and that if I leave, that she'll feel hopeless.
So is this toxic, or am I being a jerk?


I think I've been toxic to a really close friend. And we ended the friendship. It hurts so fucking much until now. But I'm full of remorse. I'm deeply sorry. I don't know what to do.


I know I need to cut ties with my main friendship group. It's really difficult but ik it's for the best. They make me sad and hurt a lot more than they make me feel happy


my ex best friend and i were really really close in such a short amount of time. closer than ive ever been with anyone. i loved her. she loved me. we eventually started drifting apart and i could see that and it hurt so bad to watch her slip through my fingertips. we kept getting into fights. she meant so much to me and it was so scary to think that we were actually fighting. we kept betraying my trust and i did that to her too. she went behind my back and i loved her. she replaced me. i did the same to her because i thought it would be the only way to make myself feel better. we decided to not talk to each other anymore, and it worked for a while. and then she messaged me saying she wanted to fix things again. we did and it worked for a little bit. until the cycle repeated itself over and over. i kept getting hurt and hurting her in return. i felt like i deserved every bit of hurt i was feeling. two days ago we cut ties again. i miss her, but this is for the best and i know it's right


but what if this person is always with your healthy freinds and you see them everyday


Honestly, as someone who's struggling with self-discipline, I've got to say this sound like great life advice in general. Thx for that dodes


Mixed issues. I have a group of friends. One of them I've fallen madly in love with. We are never going to happen and there's not a day i dont think about the person. I need to let go.


our relationship was so toxic all i want to do is escape but i hurt him a lot and he doesnt want me to go


I'm not sure if you know how much this helps me, I thank you very much.


I'm trying to figure out if I need to cut ties with someone.

Sasser Creations just ask yourself if the relationship is toxic or not? are they the only one happy in the relationship/friendship? are you happy? :) hope you are happy with your decision whatever it may be

Sasser Creations i hope you can come to a conclusion soon:)


Thank you, I really needed this right now...


thank you Dodie. I'm doing this tomorrow. ohgoddd


I was just watching a few of your videos and damn you talk about some important things and I wish I could just watch your videos all night long


feeling pretty awful at 1am and just googled this topic looking for some kind of comfort and found this video and need to vent. I met a girl on an online chat room when we were both young, this was about 9 years ago (?) and is probably the only person I ever truly had a connection with. over the years we got intimate and shared things with each other I've never shared with anyone else.

when we first started talking we were both in high school and we grew up together, we would skype everyday for hours on end answer just got closer over time. she left for university at Cambridge and I left school and got a job l. when we were younger we would always talk about the future and what we thought we would be doing in 5 or 10 years time, about how we could be together. I miss those times a lot and it fucks me up thinking about it.

when she left for university she was not in the best headspace. she was having troubles at home with family and confidence issues that she couldn't get around. I didn't understand what she was going through and I wasn't really a great friend at the time. I felt every conversation we had was dominated by her own insecurities projecting onto me. she was very introverted and I think she needed some support because she told shy to ask for it. looking back I wish i acted differently

over time we started talking less and less, during the years of her at university we would try to talk everyday but it was difficult. she was bogged down with lectures and exams and I was working a lot so we didn't have a lot of time for each other. we argued a lot when we did talk over really stupid things and we cut ties with each other a few times but we always gravitated back to the same routine we'd fallen into.

I got back from work one evening after a really bad day and wasn't in the mood to be bogged down by her problems so I spoke to her like shit, that was the last time we spoke . I still have the skype logs on my computer and read through them every once in a while as the last contact we ever had, it fucks me up knowing she was hurting and she relied on me as her only out

im 22 now. this was 3 and a half years ago and I'm still not over it. to lose the only person you regularly talk to is suffocating, I feel like any semblance of my personality has completely washed up ever since. I was never a social person and didn't make friends easily, so to lose your only friend is something I've never truly gotten over. she didn't use social media so I've never been able to contact he directly, only the names of the friends and family she told me about in conversation but it never amounts to anything.

I often go on sprees of listening to the music we used to listen to for hours on end to at least try and feel something. I leave voicemails to her old phone that have probably never been listened to. I think at a certain point I got past being angry or upset and just settled on realising I'll never speak to her again, and that I'll probably have to live with trying to be ok with that. I just hope she's happy now whatever she's doing, even if it's not with me

I'm going to cry myself to sleep now, later


Okay. Ive had to cut ties with 2 people. One of them stalked me because they loved me. The other i had known for 11 years and they started to bully my best friend.

It took so long. One of them threatened to kill themselves if I cut off ties with them. The other started to shit talk me.


For a few seconds I thought this video was going to be about literally cutting ties what am I doing with my lifs

abbie grassi-hoying after i saw the word cut in the title i was like "nope im not watching this one" but im glad i read the whole title bc this was a very nice vid that made me feel a bit better


i just broke up with someone who i would’ve done anything for. they felt like the love of my life and i wanted to be able to stay with them forever. in my eyes they were perfect to me but in reality the relationship often made me feel sad and anxious over time. i wish things were different and i wish my mental health wasn’t awful.


my friend joe made me watch this everyday for a week 2 years ago and now theyre making me do it again HAHAHAHAH


How do i cut ties with someone whos friends with all of my best friends

very late but for those who might still need it–few personal tips because i went through this! (which was hell)

- first i'd say to follow dodie's advice first from the vid. ur main priority is to cut ties with this person, or that you've considered it
- talk to those best friends / mutuals about the situation. explain to them that you cut ties with the person, and if you can, why you did it. it's better to talk about it so you can understand each other.
- if you're not ready to talk about it yet, then tell them that too! your friends would also understand that, so take your time!
- when you are ready, tell them about your need of cutting contacts with that person. be open abt how it's better if they don't mention that person's name and tease you about it, or you'd not be in the same place together, or warn you if they must speak or associate with them etc
- their relationship may not be similar as yours, so don't force them to also cut ties with that person. but if you notice any red flags that their relationship might be toxic or not good, you can also offer some words. + you are not responsible for their problems, but they are your friends too (and u might help)
- like dodie said, it's going to take time. it's going to hurt now, but it will be okay.
- that's all i can give, hope this helps and good luck!


This is hard because even though the way I was thinking before wasn’t good, the person was not toxic. It’s not fair to me to just stop being their friend, but it’s hard to be mentally and emotionally distant from someone I still share so much with.


how to get over some one
go to an aeronautical school
learn to fly
when you start flying you are over everyone


My best friend sarah and me broke up and I'm really stressed about it and this helped a lot


what if you have a friend who is suicidal and is making you feel horrible by texting you things like "I want to die". what if you want to let them go because you can't take much more but, you're so scared of being alone and you don't have anyone else. what if that person is the only one you have but you just can't survive with them

you need to leave but you're too scared of being alone

what do I do then?

i dont think you should leave them, if they are suicidal thy are feeling alone and worthless. Leaving them could make them kill themselves


I recently cut ties with my old best friend. It was honestly a toxic friendship. But, when I was with her, I was friend's with her friends and for the first time I actually had a group of friends. Now, I have no idea what this next year is going to bring. If I'll even have friends. Sometimes when I hear something that makes me think of her, I really want to text her and tell her. Sometimes I want to tell her that sometimes I was only with her for the friendships she brought along. Looking back, I'm really glad we aren't friends. I'm still nervous for school, but worse case, I'll make new friends. 🙂


Thanks dodes I actually for the first tip or whatever I spaced out a bit thinking about this person bc they r a friend and when I hang out with other friends they get jealous and make me feel guilty by saying oh your hanging out with this person I say I can hang out with u and she says no I say ok after I talk to these people I wanted to talk she says why did u talk to them

Or another time when she started a conversation and asked why me and her were having this bicker and I said u started it because she started the entire conversation but then she blames it on me and I told her before you r just mad at me because you can’t handle the fact that you r wrong sometimes and she completely backs this up by saying no I am not wrong sometimes especially when WE r bickering I get mad and start getting sassy and go away then she comes over to me like nothing happened then when I am still mad she gets mad at me for not getting over something that she started and this is the only “friend” that I always get into arguments the most about the most stupid of things


I know that this is an old video, but I have recently had to cut out one of my closest friends who refuses to stop being friends with my partner's rapist. Other than this one thing, he is a great person. It's been super hard, but I just can't have him in my life.


Didn't think I'd ever have to come back to this, but I'm glad it exists lol


i just broke up with my boyfriend of almost 3 years, we've been together through so much and through our entire adolescence basically. i realized i do not share his feelings anymore but i love him so much as a person and my only real and best friend <br>i'm so scared he will cut ties and never talk to me again. i wish we would be able to be on good terms again in the future. i just cant picture my life alone but continuing the relationship would not have worked out for me (us). i made him so sad and probably devastated, i know i need to give him time to figure things out but i just miss him so much. i feel like no one else is there for me the way he was. even though i made the right decision and i wasn't an asshole about it and its not my fault in the end, i just feel so bad. i am so scared i will be alone forever now. i'm 18, trans and he is the first person that ever truly loved me and cared for me. i can't convince myself that i'll just find someone else because of my prior experience.

i just broke up with my boyfriend of almost 3 years, we've been together through so much and through our entire adolescence basically. i realized i do not share his feelings anymore but i love him so much as a person and my only real and best friend
i'm so scared he will cut ties and never talk to me again. i wish we would be able to be on good terms again in the future. i just cant picture my life alone but continuing the relationship would not have worked out for me (us). i made him so sad and probably devastated, i know i need to give him time to figure things out but i just miss him so much. i feel like no one else is there for me the way he was. even though i made the right decision and i wasn't an asshole about it and its not my fault in the end, i just feel so bad. i am so scared i will be alone forever now. i'm 18, trans and he is the first person that ever truly loved me and cared for me. i can't convince myself that i'll just find someone else because of my prior experience.


I know I‘m just a nobody, but thanks for your thoughts! I don‘t even know why I‘m sharing this...well I know...there are no friends who are listening and I‘m drunk at the moment...<br>Thank you for your last words...I can cry now...

I know I‘m just a nobody, but thanks for your thoughts! I don‘t even know why I‘m sharing this...well I know...there are no friends who are listening and I‘m drunk at the moment...
Thank you for your last words...I can cry now...


i'd do this but i'm scared the person will kill themselves. it hurts to talk with this person but i can't live with the blame

phil tøps me too she's been dealing with those thoughts for so long now but she's hurt me and I'm dealing with them too. I should stop it for me but it'll make it worse for her and I can't bring myself to do that.

+Addison S this sounds so similar to my situation but my friend did that when I mentioned hanging out with other people and the guy was actually an ex who thought he couldn't live without me and met me at the park by us and then jumped off a bridge there as soon as I walked up to him

You have the right to enjoy your life and to feel safe. The only life you need to look after is your own. I know it hurts and is scary, but you have to do what is best for YOU. Its not Selfish its Selfworth. Get them support in some other form, tell someone else, get them to see someone, even call emergency services or hotlines for help. You can't go down with their ship, its not their right to own and control your life. It will hurt, you will feel awful, but if you have tried everything thing you can to help them, and they are NOT trying to help themselves you have full right and the responsibility to walk away. You walking away can be the best wake up call they need. I've been there, stay strong, you are a wonderful person and you deserve a life you love.

phil tøps I had a guy who was 'madly in love' with me. When he started getting creepily obsessed with me - within the first day - and I tried to cut ties with him he legitimately tried to kill himself and sent me pictures of his cuts and a video of taking all of the pills he had and holding a gun to his head. All because I didn't want to be in a relationship with him - we had only met once at school ONCE and texted for like three days prior and then tried to kill himself because I backed off and had second thoughts.. my best friend who I knew since third grade was super toxic and once I met my boyfriend (not just a fling it's been a year and a half now), she tried to make me feel guilty for finally being happy again. And she tried on multiple occasions to make me feel guilty for getting out of that deep dark hole and 'leaving her'. Cut the ties quick. And cut them real damn short. It's not worth the heartache. Take this from someone whose only got one person left in there life.. it is YOUR life. You can't live for anyone else. And if they're so self centered to kill themselves over a lost relationship fuck them. And fuck their guilt tripping because they don't deserve someone as gracious as you in their life. Have a WONDERFUL fucking day 😂❤

thanks to everyone who replied, im glad to know someone understands <3

I feel exactly the same way about my current situation. my friend has a ton of mental illnesses and they live in an abusive household, so they can't talk to any professional. it hurts a lot, and I'm sorry I don't have any advice for you. I don't know what to do myself. all I look forward to is when we go to college. they've said that's when they'll get professional help. we're both freshmen in high school in America, so that's four more years. I honestly don't know if I can make it.

I've been in this situation and it's really hard but you have to put yourself first in situations like these. Obviously I don't know completely what's going on but no one should use suicide as a bargaining chip. You can't let them drag your happiness down

i went through a very similar situation. i know how painful and difficult this must be and i wish you all the very best. i know you can pull through

phil tøps no problem,, i hope you have a lovely day, dude.

phil tøps if they act like or say they will kill themselves without you, that is manipulative & horrible of them. you cannot put yourself through a bad relationship/friendship because they've manipulated you into feeling too bad to leave them. it's not right, i know from experience.

try to get them help, tell someone they are close to, and then help yourself. you do not need to put yourself in harms way for someone like that.

stay safe, love.

phil tøps Encourage them to get professional help. It's not fair to you to feel like someone's life is in your hands. That's not your job. Good luck!


the person i’m dealing with makes me feel sad and brings down my self esteem everyday i see her or just generally talk to her “ur a pussy” “stop being sensitive” she always makes me feel sad and brings me into dangerous situations and is a bad influence she made me smoke weed and drink she said you made me steal this but she stole it herself i wasn’t there she just brought it up and made me do it, whenever we are in a fight she brings up all the stuff that i’ve done wrong but really she’s the one who is leading me into this whenever i’m paranoid or talking about my problems she’ll bring up her own and she’ll act like i’m not there she constantly screams at me and generally makes me feel like shit so pretty much it’s impossible to fight with her and whenever we do, her mom gets involved and brings up how she cuts herself how she has adhd how she has depression makes me feel like if u stop talking to her she’ll kill herself and it’s even harder because she’s family. what do i do, should i just stop taking to her after time just become less and less her friend because if i do “break up with her” all the stuff will come out and i don’t want my parents to know all the horrible shit i’ve done. what. do. i. do. please someone respond and tell me what i should do.

okay so i just said this to her i love u i love you so fucking much and i just wanted to let u know i know this entire paragraph is going to sound stupid but we need to sit down and just talk and figure out what we can change how I can fix myself and how u can adjust some things because the way we deal with fights is completely inhuman okay i love u so fucking much and whenever we are in a fight i’m always scared we need to just talk and get everything off our chest even if it ends with us balling our eyes out or us beating each other we just need to sort stuff out and understand each other’s differences and weaknesses so that next fight it will go easier and i can understand what’s the matter and you can understand my problems i know i sound way to dramatic but seriously we need to sort it out because if we don’t i’m scared we won’t be the same friends, if you leave this on read i completely understand you just aren’t ready to show you’re true emotions which is fine okay i love u so much and we grew up together i couldn’t imagine who i would be without u and again i’m sorry for being so dramatic but I LOVE U 🥰❤


I didn't realize how much I actually needed this


I tried to send this to my friend but I accidentally sent the underwear ad instead.

she said it was the best 30 seconds of her life

Hahahahaha I hope your friend liked that


okay so let me tell you all a story.

So I have had this friend for around three years now, since 6th grade/year 6 and now we're going to be in 9th grade/year 9 together. We already know that we have at least two classes together as freshmen, so that doesn't really help, but this past year has been the worst year of my life while being her "best friend." She constantly talks about me behind my back and even says mean things to my face (to which she hasn't apologized for anything), rubs all of her awards in my face, thinks that she's better than me and everyone else just because she's "special," and worst of all, pretends to be my friend. She always invites my other best friend (who is the kindest, purest person I have ever met) to everything and leaves me behind. She once ignored me the entire summer because she assumed I would be busy THE ENTIRE SUMMER, when in reality, I was alone all summer. I told her and she got mad, saying that I'm playing the victim card and that she doesn't have to invite me to everything that she does. In my eighth grade year I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt, but I can't be friends with someone as toxic as her. She acts like the most perfect girl around all of her teachers, but in reality, she is a disgusting human being. She only values herself and her one best friend who is too nice to stop being friends with her. I feel like I can't talk to anybody because my friend group is all connected, and they wouldn't appreciate me trying to cut ties because "Noooo, she's so sweet though!" because, No. She. Isn't. and it really sucks. I'm pretty much stuck in this friendship with her, because if I try to stop being friends with her, she'll spread rumors and lies about me so no one will be my friend. Just like she wants. I can't talk to her about it either, because she'll get all defensive and then she'll try to be sad and hurt so I won't not be friends with her. I've only really told one person and they agree with me, but they aren't as close of friends (even though she has also talked about said person in a negative way) and so it doesn't really affect her as much but she's willing to support me if something happens. I want to start brand new in high school, but I have no idea how and I don't know if I can keep going like this. If I cut ties with her, I risk losing almost everyone in my social life and I'm not ready to deal with that kind of isolation. Not now, or ever, really.

Thank you for reading this if you did. I needed to get some of this off of my chest.

okay so let me tell you all a story.

So I have had this friend for around three years now, since 6th grade/year 6 and now we're going to be in 9th grade/year 9 together. We already know that we have at least two classes together as freshmen, so that doesn't really help, but this past year has been the worst year of my life while being her "best friend." She constantly talks about me behind my back and even says mean things to my face (to which she hasn't apologized for anything), rubs all of her awards in my face, thinks that she's better than me and everyone else just because she's "special," and worst of all, pretends to be my friend. She always invites my other best friend (who is the kindest, purest person I have ever met) to everything and leaves me behind. She once ignored me the entire summer because she assumed I would be busy THE ENTIRE SUMMER, when in reality, I was alone all summer. I told her and she got mad, saying that I'm playing the victim card and that she doesn't have to invite me to everything that she does. In my eighth grade year I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt, but I can't be friends with someone as toxic as her. She acts like the most perfect girl around all of her teachers, but in reality, she is a disgusting human being. She only values herself and her one best friend who is too nice to stop being friends with her. I feel like I can't talk to anybody because my friend group is all connected, and they wouldn't appreciate me trying to cut ties because "Noooo, she's so sweet though!" because, No. She. Isn't. and it really sucks. I'm pretty much stuck in this friendship with her, because if I try to stop being friends with her, she'll spread rumors and lies about me so no one will be my friend. Just like she wants. I can't talk to her about it either, because she'll get all defensive and then she'll try to be sad and hurt so I won't *not* be friends with her. I've only really told one person and they agree with me, but they aren't as close of friends (even though she has also talked about said person in a negative way) and so it doesn't really affect her as much but she's willing to support me if something happens. I want to start brand new in high school, but I have no idea how and I don't know if I can keep going like this. If I cut ties with her, I risk losing almost everyone in my social life and I'm not ready to deal with that kind of isolation. Not now, or ever, really.

Thank you for reading this if you did. I needed to get some of this off of my chest.


I just broke up with a very good friend of mine that I loved so so so much. They were my pen pal and I moved to another country in a city close to them, only for a year on a scholarship which gave us a very short time to be able to meet up. It was a lucky coincidence that I could finally meet my important friend! But they refused to. So I had to let them go. My friend told me they’ll still be open to talk, they won’t block me or cut me off if I decide not to talk to them, that they’ll be there if I need them again later and it makes this even more difficult. ... it would be easier if they would be angry at me too ... But I know it’s for the best.

So I need to watch this video everyday now :’)

Thanks for it Dodie ❤


i had a bestfriend
we've been friends for more than 10 years
we do almost everything together
we travel overseas together, we lived together for 3 years
then .. i dont know what happened we just suddenly fell apart
one morning I woke up and realize I dont have a bestfriend anymore
i dont know who started it, what started it
was it me who cut ties? was it her? i dont know
i dont know what to say when people ask me about her, we used to be always together so people got used to asking where is the other one when we are not together
but now i dont even know anything about her
it just hurts to think that the person you used to call your bestfriend, that one person who knows you more than you know yourself suddenly becomes a stranger


Okay so I guess I’m gonna rant??
So, this girl and I both liked each other so we started dating. It was perfect. Nothing could ever ruin it.
She broke up with me.
I acted like it was fine and she said she still wanted to be friends so we stayed close. So I distanced myself a little telling myself I was over her and there was nothing too it, but I only pushed it to the back of my brain. I accidentally got to close and fell for her again. We’re really close friends and I don’t want to end that. She flirts with me but I don’t know if she means it or not. Honestly, I just don’t know what to do.


that was wonderful. i am still fighting with my breakup six months ago, not because i still love him, but because he hurted me in so many ways. after only one or two weeks (or maybe just days) he got in a new relationship with a now former friend of mine who he always said that she is just his best friend and like a sister to him. And that after i was jealous of her for several months because of diffrent things and he always said the same thing. Even after the break up he dared to say to me, that i mean a lot to him and that he never cheated or lied. but considering how everything went i just can't believe that, because it is not possible that nothing happend before that between them. the only thing i regret is, that i never really told him what i really thought and now it is too late because he doesn't see his mistakes...<br>And i never planned to write such a long comment and turn this into a therapy, but i guess i needed to write it down. So brave you if you decided to read through this^^

that was wonderful. i am still fighting with my breakup six months ago, not because i still love him, but because he hurted me in so many ways. after only one or two weeks (or maybe just days) he got in a new relationship with a now former friend of mine who he always said that she is just his best friend and like a sister to him. And that after i was jealous of her for several months because of diffrent things and he always said the same thing. Even after the break up he dared to say to me, that i mean a lot to him and that he never cheated or lied. but considering how everything went i just can't believe that, because it is not possible that nothing happend before that between them. the only thing i regret is, that i never really told him what i really thought and now it is too late because he doesn't see his mistakes...
And i never planned to write such a long comment and turn this into a therapy, but i guess i needed to write it down. So brave you if you decided to read through this^^


I'm going through this now and it hurts so Much


im going through a breakup and i really needed this


My ex messaged me today saying she wanted to be my friend, but I know for both of us it isn’t the best thing at all. But now I feel so harsh for saying no we shouldn’t what do I do!


Realising that cutting off ties with a friend yesterday wasn't a good idea because NOW I HAVE THIS I'M THINKING THAT I DID ALL THE WRONG THINGS AHHH

you can do it. be strong. it's hard, but it had to happen if you saw that it was the right choice to make initially.


I don't want to break up with him but it's something we both agreed on. After a year and half of going out I fell in love and I just can't accept that it took so long to fall in love with him and it's come to this point and it's over.


i broke up with my parter a while ago because i was in a terrible mental state. i told them that it wasn’t permanent and that i needed time to fix myself. we talked and were still friends during this time but then when i was ready to talk about our relationship it all went downhill. they played the victim in the situation and made it seem like i treated them badly when it was because of my anxiety, and we both knew that. they brought all our other friends into it and had them all come at me. anyway, i didn’t want to cut ties, but we had to. with them AND the rest of my friends. it’s a couple months later now and i was nearly over it, but now i have a class with the person that they’re currently dating and it’s gotten so much more painful. me and her are very friendly with each other but i’m constantly thinking about my old partner now and what they might say about this situation and what they do together. i wonder if they even know if been talking to their partner. and i keep thinking about all our common interests and the fact that we could really still get a long amazingly as friends (we were best friends in the past). anyway, i’m hoping i can get past this, i just wish i could still be friends with them.


What's strange is my ex is the one that introduced me to dodie and now I'm watching this, wondering if she did after she left me for someone else.


I don't know how to cut ties with my ex, seeing as though he's my best friend's brother. We still talk about him, I follow his siblings on social media, I still see him quite often. I liked him a lot, and I told him deep shit and trusted him, but he broke up with me in a letter. He made his brother (my best friend) give it to me. What a jerk. He goes from girl to girl, but somehow in my mind I still like everything about him. His hair, his voice, just him. I want him. I felt open with him. But all that's shit now. No going back because it'll just be shittier. It's impossible to cut ties, and I'm just stuck constantly feeling impaled by self hatred everytime I see him.


a have a friend who i was very close with for a long time. we didn’t fight about anything big, it was always something small that we laughed about immediately after.

that was all until i moved. our cities were close by but not close enough for me to see her as much as i’d wanted. we could no longer fight about small things, it always felt like that fight would be the end of it. that wasn’t true until i fought with her again yesterday. i said some things that i should feel bad about but i definitely don’t. she said things that hurt like hell, and she was always the only one who could hurt me as much as she always did. i came to the realization that i wasn’t happy in our friendship, i could not be happy in our friendship, and she failed to care about me until i attempted suicide . and i attempted it a lot. she never intercepted it, she never started conversations, it was always me telling her i was down again and her telling me she didn’t know what to say. over and over. she never even tried to say anything, her excuses were always that she was bad with feelings and couldn’t help me, when all i needed was for her to try.

i neglected to watch this video for a long time. i didn’t want to put this idea in my head that i needed to cut ties with anyone, when the person i needed to finish with was right there, in the body of my best friend.

i’m sending her a letter tomorrow. i can’t bear to text her because she’d 100% message back with an eye roll emoji and then something like “I DONT WANT TO TALK TO YOU”. i need to stop putting myself through a friendship that consistently includes me feeling hurt. i need to stop surrounding myself with people who keep me up at night hating myself because they said something that hurt. i need to stop letting people turn me into the enemy.


Thanks for this video , I need this right now


I had a “ friend “ we were friends since 5th since I started getting bullied I only had her and one other girl the other girl didn’t get accepted so I only had one then I met another girl and we three were “ best friends “ and she had hacked into a account I spent money on and blamed it all on someone else and also she lied to me and didn’t let me talk to the other girl because she wanted the other girl to herself keep in mind me and the other girl are way closer than she will ever be so I got mad and she started telling the other girl fake stuff about me and im taking her life away which doesn’t make any sense since I only study and talk about the work and she says im a bad friend and she also says that I don’t want to see her bad side which is referenced to riverdale and she has said that many times to another girl and she hasn’t done anything to her for a year and im talking her away from the other friend even though she dosent own her and also because I too her spot even tho we don’t have assigned seat and also she copies me and it getting annoying should i cut her off my life?


i am trying to fall out of love with my crush who is now dating one of my friends, and i dont think i have had this much hurt since i broke up with my girlfriend of 9 months.


My (now ex-) boyfriend broke up with me yesterday. We'd only been going out for 2 months, but it feels longer. I loved him, I dunno if maybe it was just platonic or if it was really romantic love, but now that the relationship is over, I've lost one of my best freinds. We used to talk about everything and I don't know what I'm going to do when he's not there. I hope we stay freinds, but I don't know if that can happen now. Going back to school in a month is going to be hard, seeing him in most of my classes will hurt. I know I'll eventually get over it, but he was my first boyfriend, and right now, it feels like I never will.


i still wonder if it was the right thing to end it with my ex but i just have to remember it wasn’t normal for me to cry at least 5 times a night because of how he made me feel


i'm not even going through this. well, I guess I am. I don't know. but I still cried. I still couldn't stop crying. it still hurts and I don't even know what hurts anymore


these things i already know, but' it's 10x more bearable watching you talk about it x

:) x


Boyfriend of 7 years left me via text last night.. I needed this..

Ellen22Peters sorry to hear that. everything will be okay soon enough <3


I want to cut ties with someone, they're one of my old friends who are toxic and I can't be around their personality they just drag me into all of this unnecessary drama. They have manipulated me into thinking I caused mental health issues for them and that and she fed me lies about other people that were my family and people I cared about. But she has just recently lost one of her oldest friends and boyfriend because of this problem and I don't want to cut ties because of her mental health. She has caused me stress and sleepless night and I feel like I had to tip-toe around her. She still has multiple friends but I still feel guilty and horrible...


My mother was dating somebody and it was toxic, they didn't talk at all for at least 2 years, they would ALWAYS fight.. and recently they've been talking again, i'm quite scared.


I know it’s been a while since this video was posted but I need some advice. How do you get over someone that you see everyday at school?

My ex and I were dating for a year and we broke up because he didn’t love me anymore but he still wants to be friends. It’s been a month since we broke up and it still hurts so fucking much. And I know that I need to stop talking to him but idk how since we see and talk to each other everyday. And I still love him.


Last night I told the girl that I love I need time to think about everything. She's blaming me because I need time to care for myself. I'm angry and destructive to myself and I just need to learn to love myself first. I hate how she only wants a relationship. Does she care? I just want everything to stop


My only friend is mad at me and I've done nothing wrong.. I even made her a cake for her to forgive me but she told me straight to my face "I don't want you're fucking cake" she's semi ok with me now but I can't deal with her treating me like a rat but if I let her go than I have no friends and I will be alone my freshman year of high school.. Any advice?

I let her go today... it feels like a huge relief that went away I actually stood up for myself for once and it felt really amazing because I've always had her take over me theirs allot of drama right now in my school but hey in maybe a few months I'll have a new best friend whoever that may be I hope they treat me like a real human not some object they can abusive like her

Try to learn on how to enjoy the time by your own then, let her go no matter how toxic she is. It's pointless to have so many friends that are toxic to you, when it's better to have a few who truly cares about you or not having any at all. I've been through this phase before and trust me, it hurts but I'd cried about it from time to time but I'm all okay now. Just take your time :)

I will only tell you one thing. Be friends with her if you are sure she gives you happiness, connection and compatibility. If you feel the friendship is worth salvaging.<br>If you bear with her only not to let your own insecurity creep into your head, to hear taunts or sniggers in the hallways, or only because you are scared of being on your own - cut off.

I will only tell you one thing. Be friends with her if you are sure she gives you happiness, connection and compatibility. If you feel the friendship is worth salvaging.
If you bear with her only not to let your own insecurity creep into your head, to hear taunts or sniggers in the hallways, or only because you are scared of being on your own - cut off.

If all else fails I'll be your friend and you can be allowed in my swamp. also keep us updated or get shrekt😂😂😂

Its your freshman year, that means its going to be probably the easiest time to make friends with people. The same type of thing happened to me, where this said peraon spread rumours about me to my older friends and made md stop being friends with them even though I didnt know why so I left that person and went out of my comfort zone to talk to other people. They were so much better people. My grades improved, I had a better social life. Just remember the old doctor seuss quote "be who you are and say what you feel because the people that mind don't matter and the people that matter dont mind". So just be who you are and talk to new people because they might have the same interests as you :)
Just make sure you try again to talk to them about it, and if they don't want to say to them "I don't know what I have done wrong and you are making it difficult for me to find what I can improve on and I have tried talking to you so none of this is my fault" (or somehing along those lines)
Anyway I hope it goes well! Keep us updated!

Alyssa Thomas sounds like a potentially abusive and manipulative relationship. you have the right idea to let her go. don't be afraid of not having friends when you go into high school, it's actually the perfect chance to make new and better friends. <br>for me the friend group I had in high school was made up of people who had never met before freshmen year but turned out to be some of the best friends I've ever had. it's the perfect time to turn over a new leaf

Alyssa Thomas sounds like a potentially abusive and manipulative relationship. you have the right idea to let her go. don't be afraid of not having friends when you go into high school, it's actually the perfect chance to make new and better friends.
for me the friend group I had in high school was made up of people who had never met before freshmen year but turned out to be some of the best friends I've ever had. it's the perfect time to turn over a new leaf

Join a club f you can. Make a new friend. Get rid of the toxic waste.


since others are, im going to rant here.

i met a girl in 6th grade- well our moms had met over facebook and we went to the same school and started talking. we had became really close, having sleepovers all the time, she would always come over to my house on wednesdays after school, and we would text for ours, about anything really- school, crushes, harry potter, miraculous ladybug, roblox, you know. normal things 11 year olds talk about.

then in february of 2017, our moms got into a fight, about our friendships, which meant that my best friend and i stopped being friends. but that time, we both still cared about each other, and wanted to be friends again. in may we became friends again, after i had given her a note secretly at lunch the day before.

 everything was perfect again, we were close as ever. everything was that way until march of last year.

she had moved schools, and had became so busy with homework and her other friends, and she was in the school musical there. slowly, she just stopped caring. we barely talked and i blamed myself, like i normally do. but in june, our friendship was almost exactly like it was before. just careless, and happy. we talked every day just about, and went to the park a lot to see each other.

then, after i had come back from choir camp in july, where i had met some new friends who i right away was close to. i had talked to her about them once, and suddenly she thinks i don't love her anymore. in fact, she also said "IF YOU LOVE ME LET ME GOOOO" very clearly quoting This Is Gospel by P!ATD. and, we use to play minecraft a lot. she asked me the monday after i came back from camp (i got back on a saturday) if i wanted to play. i said no, because i was still too tired and trying to adjust back into everything. if you go to a camp that you love a lot you'd know what i mean. anyways, she was just like "okay whatever talk to you eventually" after she had tried to convince me and  kept saying no. the same thing happened the next night, except my mom had the laptop (we use to share one) so i obviously couldn't go on. then the next day, she blocked me on Hangouts, instagram, wattpad and discord. without any say. it was so bad, i couldn't stop crying. it was over. i distracted myself over the next few days- luckily i saw panic! at the disco that saturday (july 14th) but after that it went back to hurting. i know she was bad for me, but i still just miss her. i miss the memories really. but im glad she left, because otherwise i wouldn't be who i am. also, a lyric that reminds me so much of her is "i cried tears you'll never see, so fuck you, you can go cry me an ocean and leave me be" because that's exactly how it was.

point is, i wish i had cut ties with her myself, but im glad she did because i never would have had the courage to anyways


My girlfriend has recently (past few months) been mean to me and only been selfish, I don’t understand what’s happening and I’ve done all the work and she still acts like me texting her is the worst thing in existence. I am trying to cut ties for a while. She’s my best friend and it’s so hard because I love her but honestly, I need to be away from this pain. Thank you for sharing this Dodie, this helped so much.


It's been a year and a half and im still not over her , she was the only person that loved me for who I was the only person that understood me and tried to fix me.
My life is in shambles and I'm depressed , there's not a day that goes by that I don't think about her.

Getting into a relationship when youve been through a traumatic childhood is the worst , you unknowingly begin to imprint on the person you're with and when it ends , its like your whole world dies along with them .

I don't know when this suffering will end but I'm trying


dodie darling please dont private this,  so many people need this <3


It’s been more than a year and I still think about my ex a lot. I go through our old messages sometimes and it makes me depressed as shit lol. I’m content with myself.. or maybe I’m not. I just don’t know what’s wrong with me. I go through this cycle of being confident and thinking I’m over it and then being isolated and alone again. Every month for the past year. Any advice?


I actually just found out that my Crush doesnt like me back...i Know this isnt nearly as bad as giving up a relationship, but...I'm crying really bad atm. I really liked him and i want to get over him...thank you for the Video...and i will try.


Thank u so much <br>This was really helpful


Ugh I have to see the person I'm trying to get over every day kms


See how you helped my best friend. You’re helping me now.


almost all my friends are toxic and I have no one to go to if I do cut ties with them

You need to understand that being alone is better than surrounding yourself with toxicity and anxiety! It's been a year, I hope thing went well


I think I need to break up with my boyfriend. Neither of us are happy anymore and it's just...sad. There are times when I'm happy but there's so many where I'm not and I just don't think it's worth it anymore. Well stay friends but still, he's my first boyfriend so it hurts. This video helped a lot and made me feel a bit low comfort. Thank you dodie ❤


as i checked the date you uploaded this, i was not a subscriber of yours because i haven't heard of you until about two months ago, anyways, you posted this when i would've needed it the most. happy in a relationship, i still have lingering feelings for my ex, who i still haven't gotten around to stop loving. really, it hurts, it hurts bad. this video made me realize i should do something now, and stop living in the past. i'll cry, i'll cry a lot, i'll finally get around to deleting their number, all the messages, the pictures, and unfollowing them on all social media. i'll take the things that remind me of them to the place that reminds me the most of them and throw them into the waterfront. it's going to be hard, but just know that you are the one that gave me the motivation to finally do these things. thank you so much dodie ♡


Idk how many comments ive left on this video but whatever i just want to thank dodie for a video like this. This kind of advice coming from her means so much sosososo much. I come back to this to remind my self where i am in the healing process and that even though I've barely started after what 2 months that at least ive started something. I've stopped talking to the person im cutting ties with completly for 2 months which has been hard. im not sure if it's the right thing but I've made it this far. Tonight i was looking at photos with her and it hurt so much. I need to stop doing that. I need to. My chest feels so tight and my throat feel so like bsjjjsnsnsndkkdknn. But i will be fine


I've done this before but am watching this for the future. Thank u :)


I've been in a long distance relationship for 2 years. We're meant to be closing the distance in less than 4 weeks. But he isn't a nice person. He tells me things like "I'm a nice person, I just can't be nice to you" and "How i feel about you is how I could feel about anyone", I flew to the U.S from Australia 3 times for him in less than a year. He lies about stupid things like he told me his ex (who he was with when we first met) was a stalker, broke into his Mums house, and constantly insulted him, turns out she was extremely nice. He told me everyone at his work was making disrespectful sexual jokes about me, which obviously upset me and made me feel uncomfortable, yelled at me for it, turns out it wasn't true. He constantly needs to make me feel like I'm worthless "because I'm out of his league" according to him. And my happiness doesn't mean anything to him but I have to make him happy even if what's upsetting him has nothing to do with me. I know the likelihood of him changing is next to impossible and it's probably for the best to cut ties, especially since when he comes here I'll be the one working and supporting him. I also have a heart condition and had minor heart attacks from stress, he says that he had nothing to do with the stress and my health problems are just another thing he needs to worry about. I may need heart surgery and instead of being worried about me or being there for me all he said was "Great, you'll be out of work and I'll need to find a job". He's nothing like this in person though which makes it so hard. I know this is alot to read and no one will probably even bother but I need help..


I wish I saw this sooner. My boyfriend just dumped me because apparently, he's too tired of hurting me.


i don't know if i should cut ties with this friend i have. i mean everyone around me is telling me it's like an abusive relationship, i mean it hasn't been as bad lately but idk every time i hang out with her i'm just not happy.. at all. like i love her, she was like a sister but i don't think it's healthy but i'd be hard for me since i've never cut someone out of my life and i'm a very forgiving person and i've known her and been best friends with her for 12 years. idk i really need advice

thanks, you all really helped. i definitely think it's time for me to let her go, and i am. i texted her a few minutes ago and waiting for her to respond. let's hope it goes good

You can do it. Believe me and you need to, for your own sanity and health :) Of course it's awful but once you truly realize that it is the only thing that will make you feel better in the end, then it won't be the worst thing for long. And then you can have friends that only make you feel great. And that's how it's supposed to be <3

Fantaisha i had a friend like that, i did so much to help her and all she did was made me feel like shit and like my mental illness was all in my head, so trust me you'll be way better off without her

yeah you're right.. idk I'm probably just looking for a reason not to. it's gonna be really hard though, isn't it? I guess ill start by talking to her, wish me luck :(

Fantaisha read what you've written. It sounds like you know that you need to remove them from your life.


I've been avoiding to watch this video, since I watch every dodie video. But now my girlfriend and I have broken up and I think I'm ready.


You're better than any therapist i've had girl.. ilu2 ;--;

This helped me more than.. it'll be what.. a billion years of therapy okay.. a lot, alot of therapy and they just kept making me drink tea and saying stupid shhhh that didn't help me. they've made me 10 times worse and legit it's you and a couple of other peoples that have dragged me outta the hell I was in more so than they ever did.


My problem is that I want to cut ties with my whole class. This is a small class so if I cut ties, I won't be talking with anyone. So I'm waiting for graduation and just walk away silently. And no they don't deserve my explanation, they are just toxic.


Half way through doing this rn, it sucks, basically theres this girl, who for years I was BEST friends with, but she essentially used me all the time, and blamed me for all her problems, and like used me as her therapist, like I have my own shit to deal with, and other stuff too but I won't go into details, but now she's realised I'm tryna get away lol and has started slagging off all my good pals to me and is tryna get back in and I cannot let her it's bad for my mental health I can't.

Update on this, I've now left school and will only ever see her on results day for maybe 10 minutes then I never have to talk to her again!! I honestly feel so relieved rn

The same thing happened to me. Literally blamed me for everything, got with any guy I said I liked/found interesting etc. About 8 months ago I talked with her and said that I didn't really want to be friends anymore and then she started becoming depressed and suicidal and that I was the only one who understood her. It made me feel obligated to stay. I shouldn't have because she then spread dumb af rumours about me that were in no way believable but people still believed them. So glad I'm moving to uni next year haha

Betsy Goodfellow Aw you sweetheart, thank you! I shall follow you back ☺

sophiepophie1295 I'm gonna go follow you ☺

Betsy Goodfellow You're very welcome, and thank you for the positive reply! ☺

doddlevloggle thanks dodes, this video in general is so helpful and lovely xoxox

sophiepophie1295 thank you so much this is really nice and supportive <3

doddlevloggle Thank you so much for replying, Dodie (you're an absolute darling by the way and I hope you're as happy as you can be right now) <3 And Betsy try and stay as positive as you can throughout all of this. I know it's hard, but it's the right thing to do <3

Betsy Goodfellow I've gone through the similar thing and what I'm going to say is remember you're not a slave to this person. You have your own thoughts and feelings that shouldn't be overridden with their wants and needs. You're your own person and make sure you don't get walked over anymore. Keep your chin up <3


I unfollowed him in everything today and now I'm watching this and it kind of really gave me courage to do this properly from now on


i fell in love with someone 4 years ago. he was my best friend at the time, but kept coming and leaving out of my life, which hurt me a lot, and i never fully realized i loved him in a romantic way. a year ago, he came back again and told me all this time he had been in love with me and just didn't know how to deal with it. i didn't trust him right away, i kept a wall over my heart. still, our "thing" progressed and i just couldn't help but bring my guard down, i knew things would end some day so i decided to live our romance to the fullest and make the most out of it.
it was amazing, like i was truly happy for the first time in my life.
months later, we still weren't "officially" dating, but he started becoming distant again. i decided to confront him and find out what was happening, only to be told that he couldn't be with me anymore. it hurt like a motherfucker but i accepted it because i knew we couldn't last forever. i tried to be friends with him but he kept replying and ignoring me, until january of this year when he never replied and i never sent another message to him.
in november of last year i found out he was seeing someone else (by stalking his facebook) and everything was so official and all those beautiful things he had once said to me were now directed to someone else.
i was NOT angry at him for finding someone else, i think that's actually healthy, but because their relationship started so so so shortly after our "thing" ended, i couldn't help but wonder if he had actually never fallen in love with me, because you can't fall out of love in 2 months... you just can't get over someone you reeeally love that fast.
the lies and the illusion are what kills me.
i felt/feel incredibly foolish.
it's been over a year since we came back into my life and our "thing" started. i was doing so much better at recovering from the heartbreak, but my mental health has slowly worsened over the past months and when im at my darkest place, i can't help but cling on to those who hurt me and repeating the cicle.
i was in a path of getting over him and i've just lost my way.
objectively, i know that we will never get back, that i deserve someone who loved me better, that i am just fond of the memories and that they don't actually represent him.
but there's this tiny bit of... hope.
and it's destroying me.
but alas, this too shall pass.

i fell in love with someone 4 years ago. he was my best friend at the time, but kept coming and leaving out of my life, which hurt me a lot, and i never fully realized i loved him in a romantic way. a year ago, he came back again and told me all this time he had been in love with me and just didn't know how to deal with it. i didn't trust him right away, i kept a wall over my heart. still, our "thing" progressed and i just couldn't help but bring my guard down, i knew things would end some day so i decided to live our romance to the fullest and make the most out of it.
it was amazing, like i was truly happy for the first time in my life.
months later, we still weren't "officially" dating, but he started becoming distant again. i decided to confront him and find out what was happening, only to be told that he couldn't be with me anymore. it hurt like a motherfucker but i accepted it because i knew we couldn't last forever. i tried to be friends with him but he kept replying and ignoring me, until january of this year when he never replied and i never sent another message to him.
in november of last year i found out he was seeing someone else (by stalking his facebook) and everything was so official and all those beautiful things he had once said to me were now directed to someone else.
i was NOT angry at him for finding someone else, i think that's actually healthy, but because their relationship started so so so shortly after our "thing" ended, i couldn't help but wonder if he had actually never fallen in love with me, because you can't fall out of love in 2 months... you just can't get over someone you reeeally love that fast.
the lies and the illusion are what kills me.
i felt/feel incredibly foolish.
it's been over a year since we came back into my life and our "thing" started. i was doing *so* much better at recovering from the heartbreak, but my mental health has slowly worsened over the past months and when im at my darkest place, i can't help but cling on to those who hurt me and repeating the cicle.
i was in a path of getting over him and i've just lost my way.
objectively, i know that we will never get back, that i deserve someone who loved me better, that i am just fond of the memories and that they don't actually represent him.
but there's this tiny bit of... hope.
and it's destroying me.
but alas, this too shall pass.


He doesn't need closure so I'm being as selfish as I need to be with this. This love/obsession is ruining my life and it will always be unrequited 💔


I brokeup with my "friend" but it was an ongoing effort to be friends.  I tried my best but he was just so dominating, narcissist and overall a toxic person.He said things that hurt me,even though I said that whatever you'll say will only hurt me.  I just wanted him to listen and understand my point of view,but no!  He was freaking narcissist and said the meanest things. The thing that annoyed me the most was is that he always pretends to forget what he said and just point fingers at me


I really needed this but it hurts to unfollow them on social media..

Jelly- Kun i know it's hard, but you'll get through it:)


Well so I knew this person for a year and a half. He was a really close friend and my boyfriend. We broke up. He ended up hurting me thrice. Each time I felt like someone had ripped my heart out and burned it brutally beaten it up and put it back inside. But now finally We don't talk anymore. He's dating someone else now. I was in depression for two months but now I have a few depressive episodes..I am getting better. Thank you Dodie. <br>~As if venting everyday in my journal wasn't enough.

Well so I knew this person for a year and a half. He was a really close friend and my boyfriend. We broke up. He ended up hurting me thrice. Each time I felt like someone had ripped my heart out and burned it brutally beaten it up and put it back inside. But now finally We don't talk anymore. He's dating someone else now. I was in depression for two months but now I have a few depressive episodes..I am getting better. Thank you Dodie.
~As if venting everyday in my journal wasn't enough.


Okay actually thank you. I needed this video.


A friend of mine just fought with me and I keep begging him to forgive me although I think he’s kind of toxic. But he’s always with my friends who I want to get close to but it’s so hard because he doesn’t even talk to me and every time I try to talk to him he just cuts me off in the middle of the sentence and says that he doesn’t care.i don’t know what to do. Also my best friend is a really good friend of his and she knows him better than me and I’m scared he’s gonna make her hate me some how. I honestly don’t know what to do. It’s so hard for me to talk in class or something bc I’m scared of what he will say.


This video had been in my recommended for so long and only just now did I watch it. I really needed to hear this though. But I can't cut off this guy that I used to like, he's dating a friend of a friend of mine and I see him every so often and stuff. So I just can't get over him


It usually takes about a year

is going to see the person in a year

It usually takes about a year

*is going to see the person in a year*


I’m letting go of my best friend because she has s a toxic person. I used to think toxic people were just awful humans, but sometimes they can be the nicest person you know.


one of the best friends ive ever had is kinda slipping away and making new friends and im really happy for her but she never wants to hang out with me and all and none of my friends really ever do. and then when we do hang out something typically makes me get this sort of detached feeling of loneliness despite the group setting and i don't know if i should cut ties and i always end up trying to earn their attention back but at least this video will be there if i decide that is the route i should take


Dodie cut ties to all the hufflepuffles she has left :`(

Hufflepuffle aw man, I thought I was the first one to say that😂 yeah whatever

Lele I cant quite remember my username on yt but im sure it's along this line of hufflepuffness- on some websites my name is hufflepuffle <br>Edit- SURPRISE ITS THIS ONE. I genuinely forgot my yt name

Lele I cant quite remember my username on yt but im sure it's along this line of hufflepuffness- on some websites my name is hufflepuffle
Edit- SURPRISE ITS THIS ONE. I genuinely forgot my yt name

Charlie Brooks ikr I think it sounds a lot more like the whole Hufflepuff spirit😂 <br>(I actually came up with this myself. ugh, ain't I genius?!😂)

Charlie Brooks ikr I think it sounds a lot more like the whole Hufflepuff spirit😂
(I actually came up with this myself. ugh, ain't I genius?!😂)

I refuse to say hufflepuff now. It is now and forever to be called hufflepuffle

opdelecroix she said on her snapchat that she has realised that she is actually a ravenclaw... :(

Lele That really hurt me 😂😂 Hufflepuff for ever!!

Lele she's still got me hehe I'm her friend (fantasies <b>sigh</b>)

Lele she's still got me hehe I'm her friend (fantasies *sigh*)


I'm so stressed :(( I deleted them from everywhere, and I was happy for those few days , then I thought about them again. And it's all come back! All the crying, the emotions, my head is so compact right now and I can't think of anything else :(( I'm now speaking to them again, and it's the worst thing but I love it. I want to ignore the, but it's so hard.


the person I used to consider my "best friend" cut ties with me completely. Maybe he should have watched the video and followed the advice of having an open chat or writing a letter. Because he left without saying a word and completely out of the blue and I never saw him again


my ex boyfriend of two years and I broke up in February and I am still madly in love with him but he's over me and I don't know how to move on ;-;

@Arianna Keating
You're more than welcome. I just speak from experience, and I'd hate you to waste as much time and energy on someone who clearly doesn't care if you are hurting as I did. Not only isn't that a good friend or partner, it's not even a good human being. If I saw my behaviour hurt someone that way, I'd feel guilt and I'd want to make sure they healed as soon as possible, not have them following me around pining. That seems to be someone who enjoys having power over others more than they care about hurting people.
I'd say just take care of yourself, do things you like, and take comfort in the people who do love you and the contrast will soon show you what love actually looks like, and then you'll be ready to notice it when it comes a calling again :)
Have a nice day too x

Thank you so much Katie <3 you're absolutely right I love your bluntness with it, I love you guys so much and Dodie for allowing me to have this outlet to vent to such wonderful people, I hope you're having a great day Katie and thank you for taking time out of it for me <3 you take care too

Arianna Keating Someone who loves and respects you won't mess you about like that. They won't hurt you. I advise you don't waste your love on a tool like that.  Put all that love into loving yourself. Take really good care of yourself. Vent, create, heal and forge a stronger you. Someone far better will love you for that and not treat you like shit.<br>Take care.

Arianna Keating Someone who loves and respects you won't mess you about like that. They won't hurt you. I advise you don't waste your love on a tool like that.  Put all that love into loving yourself. Take really good care of yourself. Vent, create, heal and forge a stronger you. Someone far better will love you for that and not treat you like shit.
Take care.

Arianna Keating you're very very welcome, i wish you all the best in dealing with this situation <3 <3

Lady Cakes Arianna Keating i also subscribed to you both, if either of you need help or support sometimes, i'm here

wow guys seriously, you have warmed my heart with how loving and caring you are towards me I cannot express how grateful I am. I will talk to them and if they still want him in their lives them maybe they shouldn't be in mine. thank you so much for the kind words and yes I would love to keep in touch with you both, I've never had internet friends myself and I'd love to xx <3

Arianna Keating oh my god, that sounds terrible! please talk to your friends about this, and tell them how much that hurts you! if they are true friends to you, they'll understand. if they don't, then maybe it's time you let them go. i'm so so sorry that you had to go through that, and please do remember that there will always be someone who's willing to listen and be there for you when you need it most. <3

I subscribed to you both , I don't know if that means we can talk , because I never really had any internet friends , but we can maybe keep in  touch

Oh My Gosh !! You are so right to be upset about that , I am so sorry ,you should have a proper sit down with your friends ,because the ones that care would never ever even make eye contact , I sure wouldn't , that must be so terrible for you . Be with the friends that truly care even if they are few . And you don't need to thank , I know how it is to feel alone and sometimes when you have no one to talk to we go look for a helping hand ,from people we don't even know . 💜

Thank you guys, you're so supportive I'm actually crying <3 <br>October of 2015 a guy took advantage of me while I was drunk at a party and when my friends found out they all hated him and they were really supportive. Now though most of them talk to him even my ex who I was with at the time, they are all proper friends with him. One of my friends said that it's because he's so charismatic and my ex said it was easier to be friends with him. It just really hurts and I can't cut them all out but..I don't know how they can be friends with him after that, it's like they don't care

Thank you guys, you're so supportive I'm actually crying <3
October of 2015 a guy took advantage of me while I was drunk at a party and when my friends found out they all hated him and they were really supportive. Now though most of them talk to him even my ex who I was with at the time, they are all proper friends with him. One of my friends said that it's because he's so charismatic and my ex said it was easier to be friends with him. It just really hurts and I can't cut them all out but..I don't know how they can be friends with him after that, it's like they don't care

Arianna Keating feel free to ask whatever you want here!

There is something else I want to ask about because I don't know who to talk to about it if that's okay?..

Yeah, it's very confusing and ultimately it just leaves me feeling awful, he's really flirtatious with me in school but when I text him he is a dick. I just want to move on but you're right he just wants me to love him because it makes himself feel good. Thank you, you are all such sweethearts and I really appreciate your advice, I hope you're all having a wonderful day :3

@Arianna Keating  Oh My ! Yes you should !! I once went through the same thing ! He wanted me to keep liking him , and I'm thinking your ex does too , you truly should break ties with him , tell some of your close friends , and say that you just want to distance yourself , and that means you have to let go of some other people too , but he is truly trying to mess with you ,don't let him

you're welcome! i hope this advice helps you at least a little bit

Thank you, I will try my best to though he's in my friend group in school and he plays with my emotions a lot, like kissing me at a party and got angry at me when I got upset at confused by what he wanted. He causes me so much emotional pain and stress I think I should cut him out ;-;

like Dodie said it will be hard but you must move on  , think about all the bad things he has done

Arianna Keating i encourage you to cut ties and move on. yes, it'll be so difficult and painful at first, but ultimately you'll heal and end up feeling much better, and as impossible as it seems now, you will find someone else soon


Coming back to this video now because I need it and it’s gonna help


i don’t want to let go. i love her so much. but it hurts me so much to see what she’s doing and saying to other people. it’s a lose-lose either way :(


I had a two bestfriend and they ditched me they said I was really mean to them.. We also fought sometimes but I loved them like sisters I am really hurt  they didn't even try to save our relationship they just ditched me they  said that they were friends with me out pity cause I had no friends they said that my words hurt them how am I supposed to know if you don't tell me? I know that they hate me never even liked me but why do I miss THEM? I can't see how they can be so happy without me being there. I got new friends and I love them soo much but I also miss my old friends but I just can't get over them it's been 5 months since it happened


I finally unfollowed my friend on social media today who I have been in love with for years. This came up on my recommendations so I guess it’s a sign.


I don't think I'll ever love anyone ever again due to the hurt and stress I experienced.


what if the person you love is ur friend and they want to keep in touch with you but this has happened to you before and you know that it won't end up well and it will just hurt even more. But they don't believe that and they feel hurt that you have such little faith in this relationship but you're just trying to make the experience less painful. How do you explain it to them?


when i watched this video all i thought was “take notes this is how you heal from the MCR breakup”


I haven't cut ties but I've tried distancing myself. However, she kind of caused a big mess in my friend group so it might be time for all of us to either confront her, cut her off, or both


Since i started school I've had this girl as my ( former) best friend but lately shes been being mean, she calls my best friend mean things because he likes to wear dresses amd is constantly criticising me and if i dont hang out with her she gets mad at me, although shes constantly ditching me for other people. Whenever I'm not at school the next day all she talks about is how much fun she had without me, its like she doesnt realise how much it hurts to see how replaceable i am.


tasminemma I thought when I got the video it said "How to Cuties" 😂


My best friend recently became toxic and I had to unfollow her and cut her out after being basically sisters and hanging out every week to cutting her out has been hard but I’m slowly getting better mentally after unfollowing her form social media and moving on


I don't really have many friends at the moment, but it's nice reading other people's comments.. I hope it works out for you all.


I was in love with someone. I thought he might like me too. But no. He’s gay. I still love him. At least we’re still great friends

woah what the hell that's exactly what happened to me... talk to me on here if you need to x


My best friend isn't being the greatest person right now and I kinda don't want to be in the friendship anymore, but if she turns around and starts acting like her old self again and it's too late, I'll feel even worse. I need a little advice. Also thank you for making this, it really helped.

+AGhost PassingBy im so glad everything worked out for you, congrats :)

@PersonYouDon'tKnow I talked to her recently and it all worked out. I'm so glad cause i didn't want to lose her.

+Masked Facade i think talking to her about it and confronting her about it will help you see what type of relationship you have by her reaction. if she's willing to become a better person and shows you she's trying, then that isnt a toxic relationship, she's just hasnt realized what she's doing wrong or sth. however, if she isnt willing to change herself or is says she'll do sth but she wont, it seems like it might be a bad relationship.

+AGhost PassingBy awh it makes me feel so good knowing that. no problem fren |-/

Whenever I see my "best friend" all she does is control whatever situation we're in, or let me know how much better she has it than I do. Otherwise, I do enjoy her company...is this a toxic friendship or just the way some people are and I shouldnt over react?

@PersonYouDon'tKnow wow this actually helped a lot. Thank you fren.

AGhost PassingBy i've been in a friendship where they change the way they act all the time. Sometimes it's best if you leave them, because it might keep happening.

personally, im going through this right now, and from experience, i've learned that staying around for just that bit longer is worth it. however, if you arent happy, or this is causing you to be extremely mentally and emotionally tired, then you must put yourself first and cut it off. before you do any of this though, talk it out with them. tell them you're thinking of ending it if they keep acting this way. give them a chance. if they fail yet again, cut it off if that is what you feel needs to happen, considering whether or not you'll be happy after doing so. most importantly, question yourself, is this the right choice? will i be happy after cutting it off? did i give them a chance to fix everything? do they know and understand how the messed up? etc.

whatever you decide to do, be strong. i know it's hard, all of it is, but you'll get through this


i just threw away all the gifts my ex gave me, blocked all her contacts, and it was hard and hurt a lot. but this is whats gotta happen. she changed and wasn't the person i fell in love with anymore. i have to keep reminding myself that to not run back to her.


I'm so sad. I think "future Dodie" (now past Dodie) used this video. 😢


why do i always watch this video and think of a single person. and then why do i always let them back into my life and let them continue to be toxic towards me. hMmMmM


I’m not even sure if I should cut ties with one of my friends...<br>She’s been into partying and vaping and alcohol lately and we’re still young teenagers. We used to be really close, and we kind of still are, but I feel like we should drift apart a bit. I’ve always given her advice and told her “okay, that’s not right, maybe don’t do that” or “those people aren’t the best influence so maybe don’t hang around them”. Now I realize I sound controlling, and if our friendship is going to be a lot about me trying to control her and her mostly complying or not complying with my advice at all. I’ve tried and tried to not let her get influenced by bad things, and she’s still really nice to me, and the only reason I’m having doubts about cutting ties with her is because it would probably make her sad or mad and completely cut out? I know that’s the point, but I don’t know if what’s happening with her right now is worth completely turning off a close friendship that has been going on for a few years for. Help??

I’m not even sure if I should cut ties with one of my friends...
She’s been into partying and vaping and alcohol lately and we’re still young teenagers. We used to be really close, and we kind of still are, but I feel like we should drift apart a bit. I’ve always given her advice and told her “okay, that’s not right, maybe don’t do that” or “those people aren’t the best influence so maybe don’t hang around them”. Now I realize I sound controlling, and if our friendship is going to be a lot about me trying to control her and her mostly complying or not complying with my advice at all. I’ve tried and tried to not let her get influenced by bad things, and she’s still really nice to me, and the only reason I’m having doubts about cutting ties with her is because it would probably make her sad or mad and completely cut out? I know that’s the point, but I don’t know if what’s happening with her right now is worth completely turning off a close friendship that has been going on for a few years for. Help??

And I don’t even feel that sad about it... eeeeeeeee idk what to do


1 second after I started crying, she said "if you're crying right now..."


In august, me and the guy i love broke up... then we got back together in September, and last Thursday, we broke up for good. its been a long, upsetting week but he was such an abusive boyfriend, and i realise that now. everybody was studying how he acted towards me and they were telling me that he was no good for me. However, I didn't listen because i loved him. its still very hard for me, i cry everyday and i think about how we could of been happy. I know I feel like this now but later, I'll feel happier. maybe he cut ties with me because he thought it was for the best.


sort of random, but you should make a video to your future self, partner, or kids? I think it'd be Com


Ugh I've watched this like 20 times in the last 24 hours ahhhhh


Ah Dodie. I was just looking for a way that get you very my crush, and I found this video


Oh my god I love you ;-; <br>This is helping me a lot !!

Oh my god I love you ;-;
This is helping me a lot !!


It's 5am and I still can't sleep. earlier tonight I finally cut ties with my boyfriend/best friend in the whole world. I loved him dearly, and he did for me as well. But I broke up with him during the day, yet he asked to hang out tonight still and I agreed so I could see if we could still be friends. The night went well, til I had to get him home, when he got upset over something minor. Then it turned out he was already texting another girl, a friend he thought seemed to have a crush on him before. Comments were made, and I had had enough. I took all my belongings and left. I'm home, in bed, but cannot sleep. I'm hurt, and I hate that I'm hurt.<br>He moved on in less than a day. I hate it. I shouldn't feel sad. It's not fair. I want to move on as quickly as he did, so SO badly... I feel that I've fallen out of love with him and I feel so sure of it, yet here I am still wide awake. It's not fair, it's absolutely not fair. I know I have the strength to move on, but the time is simply passing too slowly. I hate this so so much

It's 5am and I still can't sleep. earlier tonight I finally cut ties with my boyfriend/best friend in the whole world. I loved him dearly, and he did for me as well. But I broke up with him during the day, yet he asked to hang out tonight still and I agreed so I could see if we could still be friends. The night went well, til I had to get him home, when he got upset over something minor. Then it turned out he was already texting another girl, a friend he thought seemed to have a crush on him before. Comments were made, and I had had enough. I took all my belongings and left. I'm home, in bed, but cannot sleep. I'm hurt, and I hate that I'm hurt.
He moved on in less than a day. I hate it. I shouldn't feel sad. It's not fair. I want to move on as quickly as he did, so SO badly... I feel that I've fallen out of love with him and I feel so sure of it, yet here I am still wide awake. It's not fair, it's absolutely not fair. I know I have the strength to move on, but the time is simply passing too slowly. I hate this so so much


i’ve watched this like four times in a row just crying lol


recently i've realized there's some people in my life that arent very very very good for me and i cant have them in my life anymore simply because im so condependent on them but they dont really care about me as much as i care about them.