This video has helped me so much. My girlfriend and I were together for 8 months and I broke up with her first because of an insecurity of mine, but I realized that I did make her happy after all. So, I asked her if we could get back together. But, then she basically told me with a smile on her face that she never really loved me. I loved her so much. She was my first love. She will always be my first love. I've cried so, so, so much. My heart feels broken. It aches. I have no idea what to do, but I know that I will get through it. I even wrote a song about it. That really helped me. Thank you dodie! I love you so much xoxo


I just broke up with my on-and-off-again boyfriend after 2,5 years of back and forth. It hurts, but I know now that it's what's best for me. This video helps me realize that I'll be ok. Thank you Dodie <3


i am so depressed rn and dodie makes me so happy

Theo Goia girl I can relate 100%, sending love 💗

I feel you, she's such a pure human. Even when she's not happy herself, her honesty is refreshing. Sending love and hugs your way x

stay strong and even though I know it doesn't feel like it, have faith in the fact happiness will come back :)


thank you so much dodie, today was the first day at school of not talking to my old best friend and it’s been absolute hell. thank you


<del>sobbing</del> I appreciate this. And the last one about the time thing made me feel so much secure about how longs its been and how long its taking me to get over this person. I was still crying over them after a month and my friend just made me feel like such shit for still hurting and its been probably 2 now and it is still so shocking to me? I'm still a little in shock and hurt. Lmao oh whale.

-sobbing- I appreciate this. And the last one about the time thing made me feel so much secure about how longs its been and how long its taking me to get over this person. I was still crying over them after a month and my friend just made me feel like such shit for still hurting and its been probably 2 now and it is still so shocking to me? I'm still a little in shock and hurt. Lmao oh whale.


thank you so much dodie. i tried so hard to put this off even though i was told by everyone to do so by everyone. and then i saw this video and took it as a sign. and i slowly cut of contact with this person and i feel free now that i am over him. i cried a lot but now i feel more happier than i ever been in along time. thank you for reminding me not to press my feelings down and let all it out until it was gone xxxx


Can we take time to appreciate Dodie? She is a blessing to this world and helps so many people. :) I'm going through something really hurtful right now with someone I liked and this is helping a lot. Thank you. <3 :)


i'm trying to get through like not having my ex in my life anymore, we dated twice and i honestly felt like i couldn't survive without them but they were so, so toxic, like it's so hard but i know i'll get through it! if they'd leave me alone on social media it'd be easier but hhhh i've unfollowed them and everything, i will get over this eventually, thank you dodie <3


It's been a year and you still made me sob. What ya doing to me dodie, huh?!


When you said,”it’s going to hurt” I started sobbing.


I recently ended a relationship with my best friend. I had relied on her for everything and convinced myself that she was the only person I could trust. Eventually we started having fights over stupid small things (one time she started yelling at me because I was trying to defend someone). The last time she was mad at me because I didn't want to hang out. I had been gone from home for the entire week and I just wanted to sit down. She wouldn't listen to my explanation and told me that I had to make a choice. Either promise to do more stuff with her, or we weren't friends. I told her I needed time. The next day she called me and I didn't answer. I didn't answer because I didn't want her to scream at me like she had done the previous times. Soon after she told all of my friends how selfish and cruel and horrible of a person I was. We stopped talking and I turned to other friends. but everything reminds me of her, and I can't stop dreaming about her.<br>Thank you for making this video, dodie.

I recently ended a relationship with my best friend. I had relied on her for everything and convinced myself that she was the only person I could trust. Eventually we started having fights over stupid small things (one time she started yelling at me because I was trying to defend someone). The last time she was mad at me because I didn't want to hang out. I had been gone from home for the entire week and I just wanted to sit down. She wouldn't listen to my explanation and told me that I had to make a choice. Either promise to do more stuff with her, or we weren't friends. I told her I needed time. The next day she called me and I didn't answer. I didn't answer because I didn't want her to scream at me like she had done the previous times. Soon after she told all of my friends how selfish and cruel and horrible of a person I was. We stopped talking and I turned to other friends. but everything reminds me of her, and I can't stop dreaming about her.
Thank you for making this video, dodie.


I just wanted to share a part of my life too, because cuting ties can only bring good things, even things you didn't expect to happen. I feel like it just applies to a break up situation, but maybe not :
My last girlfriend broke up with me after almost 3 years together. I had to leave our (her) appartment, and sleep on my friends couch for 4 month after that until I could get my own appartment. I was devastated and felt a lot of things : sadness, denial, anger... I embraced those feelings. It's important.

I had to keep touch with her because she still helped me and kept my stuff at her place, received my mail and I just couldn't "break up" with my 2 cats (that I left with her since I didn't have enough money and space for them, among other things).
Anyway, I was at my friends' for a while, and they helped me a lot. I stopped checking her FB after some time, and I shared my feelings with anyone who was ready to listen to me (my mom, strangers on the internet who are now realy good friends, my friends, my collegues...).

It was hard cuting ties, and I couldn't do it properly because of my situation but once I got back my stuff and had my own place, I only contacted her when I needed (forgot things there, still had some mail situation going on...). She sent me pictures of our/her/my cats from time to time because she knew I missed them, but nothing more.
And maybe after 7 or 8 months, I was okay, and asked her how she was doing. Since then we catch up on each other sometimes, she still send me pictures of my cats, we help each other and she supported me when girls played with me. I'm happy she's happy with her girlfriend, and she's happy I'm happy with mine.

We're kind of friends, I think. I don't know. But it doesn't hurt anymore and everything is just clear and simple and healthy.

So maybe, if you want to, you can keep touch with someone you loved :D. Just don't rush it, don't force it and take time for yourself. You'll be alright.

(I think my message is ok but just in case : sorry if my english is not perfect, I'm french :3. At least I tried ! :D)


I remember I lost my only friends two years ago, and I came to this for help. Here I am, now, with some of the best people I could ever ask for. To be honest, they were kinda toxic.


im going through this right now.... its so hard.... thank you dodie... i love you


so, we have been friends for 2 years (he's a guy), I've had 3 boyfriends already but I've never trusted any of them more than I trusted this guy. we were truly inseparable, we chatted 24/7 and I could never get tired of him, we watched movies together (we started watching game of thrones recently dpfpdp). Then I started noticing that he shames me for things like collecting plastic bottles (to recycle them) or trying to drink more water (I downloaded an app to control my drinking discipline and he said that it's stupid or sum). I told him that we have to do something to our friendship and that it becomes unhealthy so he told me that everything was ok, so I've set my mind on rest for a week. Then we started arguing (about politics, we do that pretty often) and then suddenly it became more personal. He said that I'm 'presumptuos and disgusting'. I don't think that these are the words that I should hear from my best friend. I told him that we should break up and he agreed. I broke my heart and <br>I'm gonna miss him, but bitch I love myself more than I love him so I kinda did the right thing

so, we have been friends for 2 years (he's a guy), I've had 3 boyfriends already but I've never trusted any of them more than I trusted this guy. we were truly inseparable, we chatted 24/7 and I could never get tired of him, we watched movies together (we started watching game of thrones recently dpfpdp). Then I started noticing that he shames me for things like collecting plastic bottles (to recycle them) or trying to drink more water (I downloaded an app to control my drinking discipline and he said that it's stupid or sum). I told him that we have to do something to our friendship and that it becomes unhealthy so he told me that everything was ok, so I've set my mind on rest for a week. Then we started arguing (about politics, we do that pretty often) and then suddenly it became more personal. He said that I'm 'presumptuos and disgusting'. I don't think that these are the words that I should hear from my best friend. I told him that we should break up and he agreed. I broke my heart and
I'm gonna miss him, but bitch I love myself more than I love him so I kinda did the right thing


I watched this a few days after me and my ex broke up a little less than a month ago.
I was the one who broke it off, and initially I didn’t know why I was doing it in the first place. I still liked him and enjoyed his presence, so then why did I feel so unhappy?
Then after some time, I realized some things that were wrong in the relationship that I didn’t see before, like how codependent we had become in such a short amount of time and how much I put my sense of self-worth into his perception of me.
It still fucking hurts, and I still think communicating how I felt throughout the relationship would’ve saved me from this happening, but I realize now that this wasn’t the worst choice. My self-esteem is still recovering and it hurts to not be able to talk to him, but I’ll make it.


Everything you have said are sooo true. Have cut ties with a special dear person to me, and have done all those things you have enumerated, and yes everything is OK now. I just went through the process and reminded myself of those people who genuinely cares and love me. ❤ everything heals and I know I have grown from that experience.

PS just discovered you and your channels and I'm totally hooked on your songs and Vlogs


Lately, I've cut ties with my best friend I've known for seven years. For a long time we've been inseparable but last few years were particularly difficult for me not to upset her so I ended up with being so scared of even talking about my opinions because I was either so fucking annoying and was CONSTANTLY complainining about something or (if my opinion was positive) I became addicted to some thing AGAIN and she was so fed up with my excitement she'd considered not to show me anything at all.<br>The worst thing is when I finally decided to let her go, it didn't hurt at all. I expected to be depressed for few months but I felt just free. So I just wonder how toxic our relationship must had been if I don't feel sorry at all.

Lately, I've cut ties with my best friend I've known for seven years. For a long time we've been inseparable but last few years were particularly difficult for me not to upset her so I ended up with being so scared of even talking about my opinions because I was either so fucking annoying and was CONSTANTLY complainining about something or (if my opinion was positive) I became addicted to some thing AGAIN and she was so fed up with my excitement she'd considered not to show me anything at all.
The worst thing is when I finally decided to let her go, it didn't hurt at all. I expected to be depressed for few months but I felt just free. So I just wonder how toxic our relationship must had been if I don't feel sorry at all.


Also, write a letter/text to them about how you feel even if you never send it.<br>This has helped me a lot.

Also, write a letter/text to them about how you feel even if you never send it.
This has helped me a lot.


Thank you. This video brought me back to earth at 4 in the morning when I was alone and breaking down. Thank you. That’s all.


Hey dodie! I love the background of this video (and I'm obsessed without your new ep:))


It's strange, I watched this video when it first came out and I couldn't really relate to this nor did I think I will ever will.

 But I recently had to cut ties with an ex-partner and am finding that I am that it relates to me so much. We were only dating for a couple months, but we were friends for over 3 years. After the breakup my friend had become incredibly clingy and I stopped talking to her for a month. I tried talking to her again but only foubd that she was clingy as ever. She would often say how she hated that I left her alone for a month and if I didn't respond to her messages quick enough she would say that I wasn't trying hard enough and that she felt as though we were drifting apart. Maybe this doesn't sound like a lot, but to me it was giving me severe anxiety. I tried to tell her that I needed more space and that she was placing way too much pressure on me but would simply ignore it saying that she was feeling anxious too and that I needed to make more effort. I tried talking about how I was feeling a couple more time but she would always ignore it saying that she just wanted to be friends again and that I was making it difficult.

Ultimately I decided it was best that we cut ties. In the end I decided to send her a simple message saying that it was too much for me right now and I didn't feel happy being her friend. I almost regret not talking to her beforehand about it, however I know that I would have just stayed friends with her otherwise, causing me to feel more upset. Right now I am a mixture of feeling angry at her for everything she did and upset as she was one of the closest friends I had, but knew that I couldn't handle the stress of being friends with somebody who was so demanding.

Right now I'm just trying to spend time with people who are a lot more to me. While it can be difficult to talk about it find that by talking to my other friends about this has really been a huge help. This video has also helped me as it reminded me that what I am doing is the right thing. I hope that anyone else who is going through a difficult time due to cutting ties are okay and remember to take care of yourself.


i've watched this video countless numbers of times, just because its a really nice video to watch, but its never really applied to me. today one of my closest friends accused me of bullying her after she went through my laptop and bedroom drawers without my permission and everything has blown up in my face as i realize that i have to cut ties with her because she really just drags me down. wow lol i never thought this video would apply to me but here it is. its incredibly helpful tho and it calms me down a lot idk why haha


On behalf of me as well as everyone else who needed this, thank you


I can express with words... how much I love the way you speak, the way you look, the way you express yourself , the way you smile...I can express with words how much I love u! you are my favourite youtuber and you deserve moreee subscribers !!?


I love you so much 😭 Such a pure and genuine person.


I was extremely stressed and had to cut ties with someone and I waited way to long to unfollow them on social media. I kept thing “well we are just acquaintances, acquaintances follow each other on social media” even though this person was toxic, I didn’t want to completely let go. However, every time I saw them make a post or I saw they liked my photo for some reason I felt pained. I needed to let go and seeing notifications on my social media from them was painful. Once I unfollowed them and blocked them things were a lot better. Also when I went through that time it was really rough because my friends didn’t care much and didn’t help me through it, which was upsetting. But I don’t have many friends so I talked to my mom who is my best friend and has always been there for me. So yes unfollow people you are trying to cut ties with and find someone you can talk to. Also thank you dodie for saying it’s okay to cry and feel your emotions because I tried to bottle them up for so long and that only made it worse. Best of luck to anyone else trying to cut ties, and do what makes you happy.


I’m watching a hell ton of your videos and I’ve always been that person who, people distance themselves from and I see that

I’m the toxic one, I’m not blaming myself for pity, I’m blaming myself because I know I’ve always been that person. But I’ve distanced myself from everyone, I didn’t fix it because I’m scared. I don’t have any friends, and I don’t talk to anyone other then the people in my home. I want friends, but I don’t want to hurt anyone else the way I did. I know that, it’s probably simple to just NOT be a shitty person.—but that’s the thing, I look back to myself a few months ago and I used to be kind, I used to let people in without overthinking everything, I used to play games with people and laugh, have conversations and I was a light hearted person.

But now, you see I tend to be self aware, I don’t know if it’s “anxiety” or me being paranoid but I notice when something’s wrong abt me or someone else. Recently I’ve, Ive noticed I’ve become colder? like, honestly I used to never swear but I find myself ranting while cursing. I snap and raise my voice at random times. I never yell at people, not my mom or lil sister. But I notice when I’m talking about something specific, my voice raises. Past year or so I’ve been pushing people away, at this point it’s so easy to cut ties with someone. I see myself as the bad guy, because [these involve online friends ++]

omeone to be rude and such, I thought I could help and be there for her. In the end, it resulted in her calling me a bitch, and idk some other things. I could’ve cut ties with her the second I started feeling bad because of her.

2) someone had left a few years ago, back then their boyfriend really missed them and I tried to find them because their boyfriend was also my friend and he meant a lot to me. Result? They called me creepy, I could’ve just waited because this person said that if I hadn’t found them, they would’ve came back and their boyfriend with suicidal for a while. I still don’t know how to handle this, it’s been 2 in a half years.

3) one of my last friends before I pushed everyone away [jan]
his best friend hated me, for being his friend. She talked shit about me, ranted about me to him, said I was stealing him away but I was just being a friend and he was my only close friend. Plus I wanted to be his friend for the longest time. I loved him, actually but we both knew that we would just be friends. [which I was fine with] but after, January? I just, I put myself on the spot, the blame, even if it was low, now it’s grown a lot. After I pushed him away, he made a new friend, he was happier, and his best friend came back. They are now good friends, thanks to my leaving, because if I was still his friend, she wouldn’t have came back. There’s so much more to add to this, but because I was his friend, his best friend got jealous and got hurt because of me, because I was his friend. He helped me a lot, I felt so weak and he was there. It hurt to push him away, but my absence got him so much better.

4) jul 2017 I got brave, said something about what happened to me and the result was

getting yelled at, saying it was my fault
seeing my mom cry so often
my gookum [grandma] called my mom a failure because I said something
I see my mom cry so often, it’s because of me and I said something
every one of my family members see me a lie, like I lied about what happened, but I wouldn’t lie about that
and there’s so much more, a lot more but I won’t get into that

5) Jan 9 of 2018 I tried to OD, same reason I did this jan 9th.
Result? My dad said it was my moms fault that I tried to OD, saying she should’ve hid the pills. From what they told me, they argued about the house and me. My dad said “this isn’t your house” or something and the next day my mom moved with my lil sister. It was only across the road and I live here now as well. But.
I know it would eventually come to this, but it was my doing that made my dad so angry he said things to my mom that got her to move the very fucking next day. Now my lil sister doesn’t even speak of my dad, we don’t even see him anyone. He’s never tried to be a dad, maybe a few times but that was only a few times. All of us are old enough to know, we are hurt by our dad. I’m mad at him, for a lot of reasons I won’t state. But I’ve always been the problem.

My mom blames herself, one time I had a break down and she said she was a failure, I felt so broke down. My lil sister is 8 and she already feels all the bad emotions you were supposed to feel at this age.

It’s my fault, I put myself in this spot. I’m only 14, turning 15 this June. Am I allowed to be this sad? Am I allowed to be this suicidal? is there something wrong with me? what the fuck do I do? I, don’t feel human sometimes. I feel like a walking time bomb, I have passions but I don’t know. I use art and video editing to cope with this loneliness and “sadness.”
But it’s all a huge cycle I’ve developed since 2016, and it hurts.

I barely eat, I sleep late and sometimes I stay away 24+ hours. I’m always tired and I just, I don’t want to be seen by human eyes.
But my mom pulls me out of that usually, I don’t understand why she’s still like this to me after everything I put her through.
I’m weak, and hurt. And I don’t know what to do anymore.
My break down last week, my mom started crying with me. Again, saying she was a failure, that she also doesn’t know what to do. She mentioned how I might miss my dad but I don’t. She threatened to put me back into counseling but I don’t want to talk to anyone. I don’t know if she will, I hope she doesn’t.

At this point, idk man.

This shit was long. Sorry. Don’t reply, please.


I am going through this myself right now, except we both still love each other a lot and it hurts a lot, and i'm in denial and lying a lot to my brain to make myself feel better. It's just really difficult because I'm not completely sure how far I should go to get over him because, we both still really want to be together but he just had a really hard time being in a relationship because of his mental health situation, so there's nothing I can do except accept it.


I'm in a situation like this with a beautiful person I know called Pizza. I used to hang out with Pizza all the time, but it started to get unhealthy for me and those around me. It was a tough choice but I'm finally starting to get away from Pizza. I even unfollowed Dominoes on Twitter. it was a tough choice, but I'm getting better.

I read "Pizza" as an actual name and i got really confused when you said you unfollowed dominoes lmao

i was crying my eyes out, saw this comment, and thought to myself "the world is a beautifully crafted place" and i'm now chuckling to myself

sex with Pizza was never a good thing.  When the relationship was warm and fresh, it was amazing, but now it's just not the same.

I cut ties with ramen for a few months, I'll still talk to ramen once in a while :')

you are so strong. i believe in you. maybe you and pizza could be friends someday (:

Opuskrokus someone's pizza's best friend lol

@***** oh my god I think Pizza is cheating on me with you

I met up with Pizza for lunch today... I'm weak

You're deluded! You can't live without Pizza, and you know it!


Towards the end of 2016. My best friend (who I had been on and off with since we were pretty young) began to let her jealousy take over our friendship. I was so blind and wrapped up in the fact that I had a friend that I didn't realize that she had gone past a breaking point. She criticized me on almost everything I did. Again, I don't know if I just hadn't realized it before or if it had just gotten worse. What really set it off was when we had a whole conversation (or argument) about whether or not I was underweight. That argument caused me to realize how manipulative she had been. After that argument I developed bad anxiety and took a step back for a few days. In those few days she already found new friends. In the moment I was happy for her. My biggest fear was leaving her and her becoming as lonely as I felt. But now that I have had time away from that whole situation, I realized that she had decided that she couldn't wait a few days for me to get over something hurtful that she said. Now her friends can't hang out with her anymore because their parents found out about something she did. Part of me feels bad again; like there was something I did wrong, or that it's now my problem to fix. I'm worried about her. I still care about her, but I can't play her games anymore. I can't let her walk all over me again to leave me in the dust. I go to a small school, and everyone else has their group of friends. I really don't mind being by myself, but there are several parts of the day that become awkward because I have no one to hang with or I get in the way of other people sitting next to each other in class and things like that. I'm in eighth grade, so I'm graduating in a couple months. I'm soooooo looking forward to going to a big public high school where I am bound to make some real friends who I deserve. :)

mon unnie I hope so too! It's good to know that other people are going through similar things... I'm not alone.

Ellie S everything will be good, I understand how awkward it is. I had similar experiences before and now I hope I can make new friends in college :)


I have watched this so many times the last few years. Thank you.


This video popped up right when I needed it. 💓 thanks dodie


Dodie you should film a morning/ night routine , i find videos like that really calming for some reason lmao


I’ve always had problems cutting ties because I have an emotional attachment to everyone in my life even if I don’t admit it. My bestfriend of 7 years and me had a huge fight and stopped talking to each other but even before that we barely talked or rather they barely replied to me. Today i’ve decided i’m gonna message/call (haven’t decided) them and clearly voice my opinions on why this friendship isn’t working out I’m scared, sad, starting to regret but sometimes friendships just need to be let go.


This video helped me notice that I don't need a dude in my life that I've been with for a year and that I'm gonna be alright and it's gonna take time to heal:)


Thank you so so SO much. This video is so important and I really needed this. Thank you.


what do i do when i have a life problem? i read your book. or i watch your videos. or both! you’re so helpful and ily.


I was born without tear ducts Dodie, how can I cry!!! :(

I was just joking, my tear ducts work just fine.  :)


Thank you for this video by the way. You are very sweet and seeing this truly made me feel better.


How strange that this video should show up in my feed. I'm going through the process of letting an ex go and and a friendship that turned toxic. This video is a much needed one. Thanks...


I had a hard time getting over my ex, I ended up unfollowing on all social medias however for a while I still kept looking back at pictures on his their Instagram which just made me hurt more. If I was in a place where we used to  go together I'd try to say to my friend "me and <b>blank</b> came here for a date" and lucky for me every time I mentioned them my friend would stop me mid sentence. Cutting people out is such a hard and heart breaking thing to do but sometimes you've got to do it for the long  run.

I had a hard time getting over my ex, I ended up unfollowing on all social medias however for a while I still kept looking back at pictures on his their Instagram which just made me hurt more. If I was in a place where we used to  go together I'd try to say to my friend "me and *blank* came here for a date" and lucky for me every time I mentioned them my friend would stop me mid sentence. Cutting people out is such a hard and heart breaking thing to do but sometimes you've got to do it for the long  run.


Thank you for this. I have a (I’m not gonna a call her a friend bc she’s not one) person that I know that is very very insensitive and was very rude after my grandma passed away. She calld me stupid every day and punches me and slaps me with books. I’m trying my best to cut ties with out hurting anyone’s feelings. Thank you for this 💕


I once met this girl online on a Minecraft server back in early 2012, we started chatting a lot and ended up getting incredibly close. She was just finishing up her exams in the Summer of 2013 and was about to go to college (high school for Americans) although she truly wanted to be a YouTuber at heart and loved filming and making videos, you may have heard of her as Leozaurable on here, although her channel isn't huge. She happened to go to the same college as a relatively big YouTuber at the time, some of you may have heard of TheGamingLemon (I think he had around 1M subs at the time, currently sat at about 3.4M) and she began to develop a lust for him. She talked to me about him all the time and I encouraged her to try her best to get close to him and such (as my friendship with her wasn't romantic, and I didn't want it to be), so she eventually did and one thing led to another and they started dating. Gradually she sorta' started speaking to me a lot less frequently and it felt uneasy, to say the least. She always told me she was busy, but from her active social media, it didn't seem like the odd Facebook chat would've been too much hassle. Eventually the messages got shorter, and further apart, and eventually she stopped talking to me completely. She had supported my channel as I'd supported hers, and the day, just last year, I knew it was truly over was when I checked my subscribers and she'd gone. Safe to say I was more than a little heartbroken. I guess the moral of the story is that moving on is crucial in keeping yourself sane. I tried desperately for months on end to reconnect with her, to no avail. The sooner you realise that it's over, and they're gone, the better. Sorry for the long story, just feels good to vent it out on occasion.


I watched this 2 years ago when I was in this situation and it was SO helpful <br>I'm back now I'm in good terms with the person but it was good to cut that person off then thank you so muchhh! <3

I watched this 2 years ago when I was in this situation and it was SO helpful
I'm back now I'm in good terms with the person but it was good to cut that person off then thank you so muchhh! <3


dodie, i love you i love you and i love you i can’t tell you how much i love you for saying everything i’m feeling right now , i LOVE YOU


This made me ball my eyes out after splitting with my boyfriend who was completely toxic. Mainly because this video made me realise so much, I don't need him, my life doesn't revolve around him. I felt broken without him but I'm not! Im a whole without him. I don't need him. I can do this!


I wish I had watched this video when I was going through my break up. Now I tell all these things to other people so at the very least I learnt from it but it was the hard way. I thought seeing my ex with other people on purpose would make me hurt and so somehow I'd get over it faster. Haha no. That was just torturing myself. I just got rid of social media as a whole because they weren't willing to talk to me to have closure as they had already moved on. I'm okay now, I don't like them and I think the way they handled it was quite frankly, shitty, but oh well. Getting rid of social media is a whole other thing though.


"supressing is not healthy" TELL THAT TO DAN

Did you come straight from a Dan Howell video XD


thank you for your wisdom dodie, you are so lovely


We were in a "long distance relationship" you could say, 2weeks ago she cut me off for another guy with no explanation whatsoever. I've cried over it twice since then. The reason being is I'm not sad about not being with her, I'm disappointed that I let her take advantage of my feelings, it seems like she just told me what I wanted to hear. Now I don't know if she ever really loved me the way she said. We shared personal details of our lives together, so there was feeling and trust there for the most part. I accepted every fucked up thing she told me about her life, and her family that most guys would have been out there and then, because I loved her. I guess being a good guy and wanting to do all these nice things girls SHOULD love like going for dinner, getting her flowers, cuddling, walking, etc just weren't good enough for her. Even though she said she wanted all those things. It seems when it came down to it, when I was due to fly to the US in three weeks on Nov 8th, she just got scared, wasn't down for a long distance relationship knowing that I would have to eventually leave, and settled for someone closer. She unfollowed and blocked me on almost everything. I dunno if she's having second thoughts and just won't contact me and wants me to come to her but I really don't know if I should, because she played me, wasted 4 months of my life being hopeful that a relationship would be a possibility, and wasted my money on flights that I can't get refunded on. But The lack of honesty is what hurts the most. She preached about it all the time, saying she'd always tell me the truth and then proceed to do the exact opposite. Tells me she has trust issues, then lies to me. Hypocrite. If thing had gone bad when I was over there it might have been even worse, but I'll always think what if... If she ever contacted me again, being the fool that I am I'd probably give a second chance at it honestly. But for now, it's her loss really, but I'm the one grieving.


I just broke up with my best friend. Thank you for this video, it helped


I really needed this. I did start crying and now I can’t stop


I had to do this exact thing my junior year of high school with my then-best friend. I was stupid and ghosted her instead of explaining anything which I regret now, but ultimately can’t change. I know it was the best decision for me though and I don’t regret cutting them off. I reached out years later to explain myself, but it didn’t help in the long run. Sadly though, this person made it their life mission to pin people against me in anyway possible afterwards. School, church, work, you name it. I even moved across the country to go to college and she actually reached out to people/roommates there too to try and make my life miserable. I understand she was hurt and I’m sad that I hurt her, but your mental health and being treated kindly is more important than sparing someone else’s feelings. So, for people who have been cut off, try to think of why they felt they needed to in the first place and keep an open mind. If someone feels the need to cut you from their life, its not something you need to or should hold onto forever. Move on and find people who are right for you and want you in their life! I know it can be hurtful to experience this, but it’s also important to respect someone’s decision to move on with their life without you. It’ll turn out okay for the both of you, with or without each other 💕


I broke up with my toxic ex. I was going to keep being friends, but I really couldn't deal with what they did to me. I kicked them out of my life.

+Hey Rae im so proud of you. you're such a strong person, especially after doing that.

He still haunts me but at least I'm in a better place. I'm so glad you made this video


Two things:
I'm coming to the realization that I need to do this with a close person in my life who I don't trust anymore because they outed me as Bi. This person is however not mentally stable enough for me to cut ties with them.. I don't think they will understand that this is what I need to do and I fear they will take it out on them self. It also doesn't help I see them everyday in person and the pain won't fully go away for a long time.

The other thing is one of my best friends in the entire world needs to do this with her boyfriend. I've been telling her for almost a year now he is toxic to her and she is being blinded by obsession. I have no clue how to convince her she needs to let go of him..


i know you probably dont check these but dodie you dont know how much this helped me. whenever im seeking for advice on a topic i look through your videos to see if you made anything to talk about it and this video has helped me so much. my boyfriend broke up with me a few months ago and its been the hardest thing in my life and i still am not over it. this video has helped soothe my soul so much, thank you for making content like this <3


I had to cut ties with someone very recently. It was so odd, we were great friends, probably best friends, and suddenly she just stopped contacting me or responding. I had to phone her mum to find out if she was alright.
Turns out she had decided to cut ties with everyone she knows "in real life" in order to dedicate 100% of her time with her online friends.
So on one hand I was relieved. I hadn't done anything wrong, and physically she was alright. But on the other I was pretty angry, as I assume anyone else would.
I'm still trying to put her behind me and move on, but it's tough. Best of luck to anyone else in similar situations.


hey dodie....Thanks for something like this. I would cry but all I feel is numb right now...I don't know maybe I cried too much already for her...But thanks, you rock


haha funny story. currently going through this situation at a young age with somebody who i feel absolutely in love with. i held in and suppressed for soo long and one day lost it and began sobbing in the bathroom stall. so ya its pretty lit.


Your actually amazing I’m going to watch this 10 times a day from now on 🎉🎉


There will be a day where you can say you're ok and mean it ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤


I'm openly writing this after roughly 10 months since a very dear friend cut ties with me. This came to be as I was the one with intense feelings (which I recognised early one weren't necessarily healthy; very mess) and he wanted to start a new chapter given we're going (are now in) to university. In part of that change, he encouraged me to go seek professional help : I've had a struggle with mental health and was in a culture that had traditional views about it.

I'll be honest, I still do have a special part of him in my heart. I didn't take this goodbye well at first, I was very immature, somewhat disrespectful by trying to reach out, and recognised I was going through the 5 stages of grief. Ultimately, this was the best for me and he has every right to have made this decision.

Given my low self-worth and kinda 'man up' attitude, a majority of the time I was either suppressing or burying myself in the perceived guilt that 'I've ruined his life, I was too much, and honestly who would stay I'm a monster'.

Wasn't within the last month that I had a wake up call: that he didn't hate me, and ultimately he cut ties because he cares. That's all he's ever done and prolly ever will at this point. Plus I was finally honest with my CBT practitioner and got the root of my anguish.


Dodie telling me it will be okay is the best thing that could ever happen to me


I'm going through this and I have two "friends" and everytime I do a little mistake about somethig they make a big deal about it and become petty and it happens like all the time and they don't make it obvious that they're being mean but I can just tell and just because I'm in a lower set in maths than them dosent mean they can make fun of it and I'm going to try harder so I'm thinking about cutting ties with them and making new friends but loads of kids in my year are all drama queens so I don't even know if they'll like me but I guess you never know until you try to get to know them. But then when I try to get to know someone I have anxiety and no one ever approaches me so I think they wouldn't like me If I approached them but maybe I'm just paranoid. I just need a friend who understands me and i down to do everything together. (Except from drugs and all that bad stuff).


This was incredibly helpful<br>Thank you


Four months ago my best friend stopped talking to me. We got into this huge fight, and we were both in the wrong. We had so much fun together, after the fight I apologized a million times being sincere with every sorry. I told her something that was very personal, and she still continued slowly slipping away from me. I do not have any social media and she blocked me on I message. Now I don't think she will ever forgive me. She stopping to everyone in her grade including my other friends and I. She started to hang out with the grade 8's even though everyone of them hates her. (They all said they did). I can't even talk to her. But this video helped I need to let go she moved on and it is only fair if I can too. I think I am speaking for a lot of people when I say thank you so much. I found my knew best friend although I have never met her, I know her, her name is Dodie.


Woah. I found your videos today & they’ve all helped so much. I love you<3


This helped so much...thank you so much the ending made me laugh a bit


There was this girl who I was in a group of three with. We'd always hang out during school breaks including lunch breaks and she made sure we also only met up with her in our free time. She was extremely jealous and manipulative and somehow managed to destroy every good mood any of us ever had. Once, I met with the other friend without inviting her while she was on vacation and when she found out, she made it look like she was the victim and said "Look, I just want you to know I feel excluded" in the nicest way, while she had just been on two separate week-long vacations with the other friend. Although she literally constantly made us feel bad if we were happy about anything not involving her, by either telling us about her superior achievements or making us feel guilty because she hadn't done it, I didn't immediately realise something was wrong with our relationship. It was just how she was, a negative person. There were small moments like when she called me sexist for liking turtles or told me to choke for not understanding that by "we don't need to go there" she meant "if I am your friend, you go there with me", when she revealed personal information like my sexuality or my psychologist's results that she had forced me to tell her " because we are friends and friends do that" to complete strangers or cut off every conversation that didn't focus on her by either forcing empathy or pretending to be an expert and own the one real truth that invalidates all other opinions in the least appropriate situations. But she was always very careful not to cross a certain line too often, so that I'd doubt she was anything other than a good friend. It worked until me and the other friend went on a school trip without her (which wasn't our choice but we still avoided talking to her about it because our joy upset her). We befriended a girl from that group and finally felt free to complain about all these situations we had just accepted before and the other girl just asked us "Then why are you friends with her?" We didn't know. We were so caught up in our bubble that we didn't realise how bad it all sounded until we told someone new and we also had stories we hadn't told each other because they had become so normal. Then there was the Christmas party which I attended with her because we were in a club without the other friend, which by the way didn't bother her at all, where she put her head on my lap and made me uncomfortable in front of everyone and when I tried moving away she said, again, "friends do that". (She had previously made an approach at both of us and wanted a relationship, which we declined.) We stayed friends with her until Valentine's when she first told us she hates the day and how bad and commercialised it was and how ridiculous the other friend was for saying "it's also about friendship" then got angry because we didn't buy her a flower in our school and got angry again after not receiving one after we had asked her whether she wanted one to which her response was "no".
Long story short, we chose to write a letter out of fear we wouldn't manage to withstand her manipulation in a conversation. I even made a mind map of things we wanted to say. To be honest, at that time we didn't do it for her but I really wish she will learn how to have a real friendship one day. The worst part of it all was when we handed her the letter after school and she looked happy and said thank you. I felt like I was betraying her.
But I reminded myself why this friendship was toxic, how we had learned to keep anything we were happy about to ourselves and I looked at everything that had happened on the mind map. Honestly, I don't think I could have done it without my friend. She wrote the letter with me, came home with me after we handed it over so we could comfort each other and answer her phone call together and helped me not back out and take it all back.
And now I am happy with that decision and whenever I see her, I don't pity her but I get angry for all the time she didn't let me be happy and I feel like that's progress (although it can be hard because we have a common friend group).
If you are in a similar situation, please realise that friendships can be toxic and they can be bad. There is no excuse for someone to make you feel down or guilty everything you meet them. If you think about cutting someone out, not because it's easier than confronting your problems, but because they don't want to listen, do it. You are not anybody's punching bag and if they didn't listen the first twenty times you told them you felt uncomfortable, they probably won't. Stay safe!


i haven’t “cut ties” per se, we still interact quite often. but the fact that i didn’t cry watching this, gives me some hope. even though it still hurts like hell.


My friends all left me and it was not too bad untill my best friend just stopped interacting with me. And while we weren't dating, she was a really important part of my life for over 12 years
It's been a bit over 2 years. I'm pretty sure she doesn't even realize how much this impacted me. I still have dreams that we're friends and I can't bring myself to take down pictures of us I have on my walls.
And it's stupid cause it shouldn't be like this, friendships fade away all the time so why am I still hurting so much?

en-oo-kaunis hi. I’m so sorry to hear this. I feel the same way.


I have 2 main friends. One of which I liked. The one I liked tricked me into thinking that they liked me back by mouthing the words "I love you", getting me a rose on Valentines, and a bunch more of stupid shit I fell for. It was so hard because for a year I actually thought for the first time someone liked me. I'm only 14 and I know that I will have many more chances at relationships but since I'm transgender it's much harder to believe that. Anyway, I had to cut ties with that person I liked when I found out they asked someone else out to prom(we never were in a "relationship"). So that was fucking difficult..lets move onto my next closest friend. The next one is a toxic friend, they're always bringing me down and never wants to talk to me except whenever they are not in a good mood and needs someone to talk to (which ends up being me). Its pretty much a one-sided friendship but they're my only other friend. I've been considering cutting ties with them too for a couple of months but it's so freaking hard when they are my last actual friend and i have no one else to go for, not even my family because my parents are extremely strict and not good with having conversations and my siblings just wouldn't know what to say. I don't know what to do because cutting ties with the first person was hard enough being (for the most part) alone and my only other "friend" being constantly rude and annoying. I'm trying desperately to find other friends so that leaving my second them isn't as hard. This is incredibly long, thank you to anyone who could've possibly read and understood the mess of my emotions I wrote here.


I wish I could tell you how much this helped. :')


I’ve known and felt so much love for this guy for almost 8 years, although we’ve never met in person.
Skype call after Skype call, we became closer than ever in the beginning of our friendship. Up until maybe two years ago, he began to not speak to me. No calling, no texting, he unfollowed me on Facebook and Instagram as well as snapchat. He didn’t tell me why, and I still have no clue.
Fast forward to last summer, we talked on Skype every night until early in the morning for a week straight. We laughed and caught each other up on what happened during the time we didn’t talk, but, like before, he dropped all conversation with me without a reason. Still to this day, I have a habit of blaming myself for maybe saying the wrong thing and drove him off, but I also know that I’m not the one at fault.
It’s so incredibly hard. All my friends I need to forget about him and move on because I deserve better, but it hurts. I truly thought we had a connection, which he even said he felt that way multiple times.
Every once and a while I get a sharp pain in my chest because something will remind me of him. I can’t help but wonder if that happens to him too.
Thank you, dodie, for this video. I’ll be sure to come back to it whenever I need to.


this video helped a lot. I really want to manage to let a person go in my life for the better.


Just last night I had a meltdown about the first guy I ever felt this way about. I haven't felt this way towards ANYONE before and he meant the absolute world to me. This came up right when I needed it. I believe so much in closure and I believe that's why I need for me to feel at least a tiny bit better but he doesn't want to talk about it. It's been about a month and a half since the split and we have never talked about it. We already act like we were never in a relationship and he already has his new life and me as well so I can't really bring it up. I just don't know what to do. I just feel like cutting him off completely will heal something that could've been healed with closure.


I’m not sure why this video has resurfaced during a time where I need it most, but it’s a sign, and I’m going to try. I’ve been asking how to do this, and dodie, thank you.


tysm dodie. i recently broke up with my bf (around 4 weeks ago) b/c i finally saw the toxicity in the relationship. we're only friends now but i wanna cut him off of good one day. i feel free from him, but im looking forward to being more free.


Thank you, this has helped me so much. I was friends with this group of about 8 people and when they stopped talking to me it hurt. Now thanks to you, I think I will be able to cope a bit more. Thank you

The same thing basically happened to me this year


This video made me cry but it’s helping me do the hardest thing I’ve ever had to


I cut ties with a friend who was around while I was still growing. We met freshman year of uni and she was a big part of me becoming me but the last semester of junior year till even today we drifted. I was becoming less and less a part of her life and felt like I was one the fringe of it instead of the circle where I once was. I guess I started to notice when she would invite friends to her condo and not me. I thought maybe it was my fault, that maybe I wasn't reaching out enough but I would invite her to places and suddenly she'd be too busy even though the entire week she was always out doing things. I never told her how I felt but I wrote a letter that perhaps one day I will give to her. I felt sad but also like I didn't lose her because she wasn't a big part of my life anymore anyway and so her not being in it didn't feel different and I think thats huge. Idk no one is gonna read this comment anyway but if cutting people off is as easy as it was for me they probably dont deserve your love anymore.


I needed this a lot now tbh. I have a very unstable mental health and I recently broke up with my boyfriend because it turns out he lead me on the whole time and didn't want a girlfriend. I miss him a lot because he helped me a great deal with my mental health and it hurts a lot that it ended and he can't be there for me. Thank u for this dodie , I have now u followed him and all his friends on social media and deleted all our pictures and I already feel better for doing it x


I DIDNT EVEN FINISH THE VIDEO YET AND I WANNA CRY. I HONESTLY NEEDED THIS SO MUCH


Okay here's my story...

I previously have watched this like 40 times back when I broke up with my ex and it helped but that was before I realized I was bi or kinda came out to my self and then my friends. (Not yet parents) (keep in mind) long story short ... my best friend which I love more than life itself has moved away. And I would tell her everything we would fight our depression together and tell each other super personal things like DP stuff and therapy sessions almost with each other. And I grew to almost fancying her and it felt wrong but then I did and had a crush and over a year fell head over heels for her. She truly felt like my soulmate. And she dosnt know that I'm hurting and so if I block her because I want to move on she will be confused. Because the reason in blocking her is so I can move on. And my support group is HER so I'm stuck and I cant tell my parents that I'm silently suffering because they would kick me out seems like it by the way they talk. So I'm scared and stuck and worried

Please halp a gal out


i took this advice and i feel much better :) thank you!


What worked for me was realising I wasn't the one with the problem, or rather reminding myself. No contact helped a lot.


I could watch this video a 100 times and it would still helps me a 100 times uwu


I doubt you’ll see this comment cause this an older vid lol but this video helped me a year  ago to cut ties with a really toxic friend and overall lead to me getting emotional help so thank you dodie !


Thank you for making this. At the moment I am trying to come up with a way to tell my somewhat girlfriend that I want to break ties. Yet I am afraid of how she will take it and react to it as she has a habit of self harming. I don't want to feel responsible for her suffering but being with her is severely affecting me mental state and I'm not happy with her anymore. If any of you have advice please respond as soon as you can, but if you don't that's fine. I'm sorry this is way too long.

M N thank you for your advice. I really appreciate your input and assurance. Thanks again (:

Plushy Pilots I was in a similar situation with a (now ex-) friend where she was very mentally unhealthy and also manipulative. There were so many times she did something that hurt me and I just never brought it up and never cut ties with her because I was so scared of what she would do to herself. She never did it to me, but to my other friends she had threatened to self harm if they ever left her. THIS IS A MANIPULATION TACTIC. As much as you may feel it, I promise you are NOT responsible for anyone’s mental health but your own. If she is unhealthy for you, you need to do what’s best for you. If she makes any threats or hints at all about hurting herself, don’t respond to her, but call someone else (Her parents if she lives with them or near them, maybe her roommate, if you’re really worried, 911) but she is NOT your responsibility. You are. I hope this helps


I recently cut ties with a close friend of mine. After watching this video, it made me realize how many times I checked her instagram to try to prove to myself that she life was terrible because we weren't friends anymore. She is now unfollowed and I am moving on. This vid helped a lot


a very close friend of mine posted a post on her instagram about me, (she has over 900 followers), saying how i was toxic. i confronted her about it in a rude manner, as she had insulted me multiple times and left the comments on, so even more people could tell me how bad of a friend i was. she had blocked me on all accounts before she made this post, not wanting me to see it. it was my best friend who screenshotted it and sent it to me. after i told her how fucking hurtful this was, as i thought our friendship was going well, she told me 'you weren't even supposed to see it.' and didnt even try to talk it out with me, to see if i could somehow clean up my act. she once again blocked me, and about an hour after this, she messaged me saying 'sorry.' and i was, obviously, really upset still, and told her how i felt, and she called me 'cold' and 'constantly rude' and then blocked my phone number. she's still talking to a bunch of my closest friends and commenting on their posts ect. and i can barely look at their profiles. this girl used to be my girlfriend, and had never told me that anything i did or said bothered her, and i'm still so fucking upset about it.

this was basically just another side of the story.
please, if you think someone is toxic, tell them why and how they could improve. it really hurts when you dont know you're toxic.

i'm sorry, i just really had to get it out of my system.

a very close friend of mine posted a post on her instagram about me, (she has over 900 followers), saying how i was toxic. i confronted her about it in a rude manner, as she had insulted me multiple times and left the comments on, so even more people could tell me how bad of a friend i was. she had blocked me on all accounts before she made this post, not wanting me to see it. it was my best friend who screenshotted it and sent it to me. after i told her how fucking hurtful this was, as i thought our friendship was going well, she told me 'you weren't even supposed to see it.' and didnt even try to talk it out with me, to see if i could somehow clean up my act. she once again blocked me, and about an hour after this, she messaged me saying 'sorry.' and i was, obviously, really upset still, and told her how i felt, and she called me 'cold' and 'constantly rude' and then blocked my phone number. she's still talking to a bunch of my closest friends and commenting on their posts ect. and i can barely look at their profiles. this girl used to be my girlfriend, and had _never_ told me that anything i did or said bothered her, and i'm still so fucking upset about it.

this was basically just another side of the story.
please, if you think someone is toxic, tell them why and how they could improve. it really hurts when you dont know you're toxic.

i'm sorry, i just really had to get it out of my system.

The exact same thing happened to me. She posted videos and photos of me and said she was “exposing” me. I know you wrote this ages ago and I’m sorry that happened to you


I came back to this video cause I just broke with my boyfriend, it was the first and we really hurt each other while we were together. Funny thing, it hasn't been that hard for me to get over, at least, no since we broke up for good, I mean, we broke up a couple weeks ago, but we did still chat and we meet sometimes, now it's completely over, we don't talk or see each other anymore. What I try to say it's that things will get better and I try to remember that everyday, when it hurts, when it doesn't, when I talk about that with my friends, when I'm alone remembering everything. It will be fine and we'll get through this.


I needed this today. I didn't when you posted it, but I do now, and I wanted you to know (if you ever look at comments on old videos, which I assume you don't really, because my gosh there's a lot of them) that this is a good, helpful video. And also, when you asked at the end if I was crying right now - I had totally just grabbed a tissue to wipe away whatever was welling up, so... stop being so psychic :P


This video is nearly a year old but I’ve just found it and fUCK I love it. So much. It’s helped me realise that I’m doing the right thing in cutting off my best friend of five years.
Ever since this girl and I became friends, she would subtly manipulate me into doing what she wanted. I had to only socialise with her, never anyone else. If I tried to socialise with someone else, she’d whisper poison into my ears and make up loads of reasons why they were an awful person, and I should stop hanging out with them.
I lost all my friends because of her and she used that to make me feel grateful to her for being the only person that stayed.
She tried to make me break up with my boyfriend (this was nearly four years ago now and we’re still together so that didn’t work lmao) because he was supposedly ‘possessive’ and taking me away from her. Then when it didn’t work, it was actually ME at fault, ME who was the root cause of her depression, and ME who was now the bane of her existence. Shortly after all of that, I reached out to her because I heard she was going through financial trouble (we were only 16 and I thought this was really fucked up and I cared about her SO MUCH). I helped her out and everything went back to ‘normal’. She was nice again for a few months but then she started getting controlling, making me fall out with all my new friends, encouraging me to fail my exams just so I would be in the same position as her, and just downright treating me like I was some kind of possession of hers...
I realised that this was unhealthy and distanced myself. I can’t go on like this; I’ve got my own life to live.
She realised what I was doing and posted loads of nasty, spiteful stuff about me online for her internet friends to read. It’s all lies but holy fuck it hurt.
However, it just proved to me that I’m right to do what I’m doing. So I removed her on all my social media.
I miss the good parts of our friendship but I’m better off this way.

Wahey I’ve typed way too long a paragraph here so that’s all folks.


The worst part of cutting ties (losing a friendship in my case) is wanting to go back to them. Sometimes all I want is to run back into that toxic relationship because it's familiar but I have to remember that they were bad for me. I have to realize that I'm so much better without them, but it's hard to not want to go to them and just spill all the things that have happened since I cut ties with them.


You have no idea how bad i needed this video ❤


I needed this. I really did. Somehow i came across this video of yours and im glad i clicked. I am also glad you made it. Thank you(:


Its silly because I like my pain. I crave for sorrow and want to feel bad. I dont want to let go. I still love her. I dont want to forget the way she communicated, her dislikes, her personality and the way it rubbed onto me. I see her every day. Not really of course, but figuratively; I see her in stupid symbolic things like choclate milk and spiders, airports, yellow sweaters and golden brown curly locks. I see her in everything that I do, and every choice that I make. And I keep seeing people talk about how they don't need their exes, and how they're so much better off without them, and how their past relationships do not define them. But I do need her, and I'm not better off without her, and she does- or did- define me. She is all that I am. I could blame it on myself, and I do, but I know deep, deep down that I did everything to keep her in my grasp. I tried, I tried so hard and god it fucked me up so bad but it was worth it. It would have been worth it. She stopped giving me anything but replies without emotion and no effort at all. The most ironoc thing is that she doesn't care. Anymore, at least. It makes me wonder if she ever loved me at all. She told me that she had never been good with words, but I was, so I supposed it would add up. I guess it didn't. I had asked her 'What are we?' for countless of times, but everytime she told me that she didn't understand, and it had become clear after months of torture that she had decided that our relationship was over. She had decided that a long time ago. And sometimes I get mad because that decision wasn't hers to make. It shouldn't have been her, it should have been us. Not that I wouldn't have let her leave me if she said she wanted to, its just that she didn't even tell me. She was ready, she was done, but I was not. I'm not done yet. And sure I've tried to relight the 'flame' but I always knew that it didn't make sense. There was no reason to do it, it was useless and stupid and dumb and sometimes I wonder what would have happened if I wouldn't have met her. If I would have just shut up and not even try to talk to her. I loved her so much and I loved her so quickly, and I never thought it would end. When it did, I vowed myself to never love again.


It feels like you've read my mind and you're talking right to me!


This one definitely isn't as serious as the other ones

But I needed this video to cut a streamer out of my life they were super toxic to me and I was just done with them :(


I told my teacher who’s only like 7 years older than me about so much stress and stuff to do with my gender, which I’d never really told anyone. Plus she helped me with so much, helped me tell my friends and family and she felt so comforting. I got kind of attached to her I think, I found her on facebook and she’s just fantastic. Now I’ve finished school and I’m not going to see her again I feel kinda cold. Even if I wasn’t in love with her I just wish I could stay friends with her. What’s worse is I could technically still go into school one day next week and see her, but I already gave her a bottle of wine and a card as we had our last chat. But when the school term ends and she isn’t there I’m scared for how I’ll feel


Ive had 2 good friends cut me off (at different stages of my life) out of nowhere with no explanation, including an ex partner who i was best friends with, and i have never felt so much pain


I AM crying but i dont have any friends to cry to$:

How are you doing now?Are you alright?does it get better?


TRIGGER WARNING I wish I had this two years ago! there's a cutting ties lesson if you want to read this. my friend had really bad depression to the point that they would keep me up until three in the morning contemplating suicide while I tried to convince them not to. after a while, it got to the point where I couldn't focus on what I needed to, like school or my OWN emotions, and they would confess to me that they kept a blade in their locker at school or they would text me about "I think I'm going to do it tonight. just know it wasn't your fault" or something like that. after WEEKS of my family telling me I was acting different and my sister talked to me about cutting ties with them, I texted them one day. looking back on it, it was really aggressive and probably not the best to text them if they were having a bad day, but I had been DONE with them taking advantage of me and my emotions so, I told them to wake up and stop hurting people. it was really drawn out and lasted two hours but that's about the summary of it. I had cried and worried for weeks afterward, but they had stopped and it was SO MUCH EASIER to get through the day without having to worry over them. before we cut ties, it felt like they were beating me down with a sledge hammer, EVERY DAY! we're alright now, though I don't talk to them unless but we still go to the same school, so I know that they're okay. the thing is, you cannot be afraid to do it. if this person is toxic and beating you down, you HAVE to stop poisoning yourself. this person had changed the way I lived, changed my personality so it revolved around them. me and this person agreed that I needed time, and they backed off after a while. slowly, you will start to get better. it might not be immediately, but don't give up! healing takes time, and you don't want to mess with that process


i always let toxic people stay in my life, because i don't know how to let go of people


this helped me a lot thank you doodie <33


I did not regret watching this video. Thank you! It helped a lot


Recently, a very close best friend, who was like a sister to me, cut ties with me through a letter. She avoided me for months prior and I really tried my best reaching out, but she just disappeared. A couple months after, I'm still in the dark, lost, not knowing what the real reason was for her burning the bridge between us. I had a feeling that it was an incoming thing, considering that I have been a bad person the past year, but it still hurts so much. Now, I have no one to talk to when I see memes that I think she would relate to, or listen to songs that she likes, and I feel completely lost. I want to talk to my therapist about it, but as of the moment I can't.


JESUS I can't believe you've made a video about this because I really needed a video like this so much right now :(

aww this comment thread is so lovely... good luck you guys, it's difficult but I'm hoping it's worth it afterwards :)

You're all so lovely I hope you all feel better once you've cut ties and realised how much happier you are x

Victoria Boston same... i've been in a toxic friendship for three years

me too- toxic friendships are the worst. I hope things go well for you frends - remember it's best for you. stay strong :)


I know this is from a year ago but I really needed this tonight. Thank you dodie


ive watched this video a year ago and since then i was able to get over someone who seemed to be haunting me for the rest of my life and this click of the video and having it in the back of my head probably helped thankyou so much i bet u can imagine a year ago i myself had a uncomfortably long comment with excuses but now i realise that i did it YAY


Dodie is so good at advice and is so nice and truthful.


I freaking love your voice.. Also I cannot stop watching your videos you're so lovely <3


What if this person is genuinely the only person outside of family that makes you feel is worth being alive for? What do you do then?

ive been through this a few months ago, and now i dont even speak to that person, so thats proof that you'll get through it. its hard, its so hard, but you have to come to terms with whats best for you. dont value your life based on someone else (does that make sense??). you'll find other people i promise, but for now focus on your family and let them help you heal. also, listen to what people tell you and take their advice!! i ignored everyone and wish i hadn't. you can't do this by yourself X

if this person is truly toxic in your life, then you probably feel more alone being with them then when you're actually alone. i have been there, and trust me: there are people who would love to be your friend and are worthy of that title. whatever you do, that won't change.

Hm, that's tough. I think the best idea would be to talk with them. Sift through your troubles. If that isn't possible/they don't want to, remember that things <b>do</b> get better. There is beauty in life. There are other friends and opportunities out there that are waiting for you to meet them. I think the main priority is to look after yourself before anyone else. Hope this helps at least somewhat. ❤

Hm, that's tough. I think the best idea would be to talk with them. Sift through your troubles. If that isn't possible/they don't want to, remember that things *do* get better. There is beauty in life. There are other friends and opportunities out there that are waiting for you to meet them. I think the main priority is to look after yourself before anyone else. Hope this helps at least somewhat. ❤


This dosent even apply for romantic relationships, I had a strong platonic relationship with an online friend once. Being friends with her was causing problems with my mother and I, I was constantly checking and holding my phone waiting for her to text back, i began ignoring my real life best friends friends for her. In the end she understood we needed to part and I said my goodbyes. Hopefully one day we can meet and I can apologize for leaving our friendship.


The guy I like told me he liked me and then just told me there would never be anything between us and said he thinks of me as a sister if anything. Thanks dodes.💛


I cut off ties with TWO of my bestest friends about a month ago and I still can't get over it, they made me feel bad about myself but I love them both, we used to be the bestest of friends but things went downhill. They were my only two best friends I trusted everything with. I just checked their social medias and yeah it is harder now, but thank you for your advice. I'm all alone now because well you see, I cut off all their friends as well because we would talk all together. I feel as if that was a dick move, I didn't even say anything. I don't want to go back but I feel like it, it hurts honestly. I won't be going back to them because I know it was a toxic friendship, we argued just about everyday. Oh well, I'll get through it, I hope.


Oh jeez I watched this video just after I cut ties with someone and they did the same to me.

Get ready for a bit of a vent/rant

So a friend of mine (I might even go as far as to call her my best friend) had an argument about something close to 4 months ago. She told me she was fine, but that ended up being a lie. Keep in mind this was at the end of the school year, as this fact is important. In around June, right after school got out she started being very aloof with me and not really answering my texts. I did ask her if I did something, or if there was a problem, but she always said no and brushed it off as the stress of her moving or just being busy. After a while I started to pick up on the fact that she was lying as she was with mutual friends of mine all the time and having an apparent blast. I told her how I felt, and described that I felt that I was being lied to, and that she was hurting my feelings greatly. She ended up going off on me about something I said during the argument that I didn’t mean in the least. It wasn’t very hurtful and it was something that I still believe she needs to get over. She told me that she has no desire to ever speak to me again and she ended up wishing me the best, telling me I was wasting my time trying to fix this issue and leaving me very hurt. I attempted 3 more times to fix this problem and every time she ignored me or told me she was too busy again. In the end I decided that this was ridiculous to be so upset over such a little issue and tried to deal with it once and for all. She read it, blocked me, and had her mother text me to leave her alone and that all this drama was worthless. I feel awful knowing that this “drama” was from me trying to fix a problem in a friendship I deeply cared about. Afterwards I blocked her on everything, deleted all photos of her, untagged myself from photos containing her and removed myself from all group chats with her in them. I still don’t know if it was the right decision but I really do miss our friendship and still cherish all the fun times we had together.

Sorry for all of this lol I just haven’t really had anyone to speak to about this :/
Hope u guys understand


I've been on the other side of this, where I was the one cut off. I wasn't told WHY, just a text saying "we shouldnt do this anymore". I didn't want to force anything so I just said "ok". This was 4 years ago and I still can't seem to get over it. So if you're going to cut ties with someone PLEASE talk to them and explain eveything. It's hell not knowing why, it really is. I havent spoken to this person since that conversation but I still think about it every day?? I feel like I'm grieving a death... and I'm not sure if that's normal.

flower breanna this has happened to me so many times. my parents wonder why i don't reach out anymore. i would ask them why. they wouldn't even message me back. they just cut me off- didn't tell me they were done, why, or what i'd done. i don't know why people don't stick around. they just... leave.

flower breanna Even if you talk to them sometimes it doesn't even work.

flower breanna I know exactly how you feel, it's like constantly living in hell and when it's not explained properly, it makes you think that you're a bad person when you're really not. There's a way of doing things without  leaving someone else in the dark

Putri Noor I feel the same way and it hurts so much i don't know what to do. The only thing is that I was told why, and it hurts so much. I have really awful social anxiety and he told me that he doesn't think the relationship is good for either of us because of the way i am, he thinks i need to get stronger on my own. All these comments say that they left because the other person was toxic and it scares me so much because what if that's what i was? I don't think he understood that things were never going to be perfect in any relationship and that my anxiety was just the not perfect part of ours but i don't think it's best to be with someone who wants to be with me. I feel so lost and sad, my anxiety has ruined everything.

Oh yes, same. Looking back at it, I wish I had the courage to ask for answers before the person ended their chapter with me.

To anyone who is going to cut ties, PLEASE consider having a "final talk" with the person. It's going to be messy and awkward and emotional, but at least do it for the sake of all the good memories you've shared with that person. Believe me, it'll be better for both of you in the long run.

flower breanna I can't believe that we have the exact same problem! Well, almost. This person (my ex) still says hello to me if we were to pass each other but I can't even look at them in the eyes and just ended up saying "Wha-?" as a reply. And we almost never meet and mostly because if I were to be at the same place as them I usually end up with a breakdown.

We still follow each other on our social media but, again, we almost never interact. It really hurts knowing the fact that I am still having feelings for this person and I hate myself (and them) for that. I'm just hoping that they aren't going through what I'm going through (there is a a tiny part of me that wants them to feel the pain as well). I kinda realized that although said person was never toxic, they probably didn't understand that being in a relationship also includes bad moments like fights and stuff. I admit, part of it is my fault but I am upset that they won't talk about it and just said that they wanted to stop.

I honestly think your pain is justified. We both are going through this and I'm sure it'll be okay. Who knows? Maybe you'll find someone who is MUCH better later on.

same old rhymes i really hope you're ok x

no fucking way... the exact same thing happened to me and i replied with your exact words. mine was last month and my mum literally told me it was like i was grieving the girl who cut me off and that that was a completely normal response to it because all the contact we had was over social medias. your comment makes me feel less alone so thank u

flower breanna so it's normal. But just know that you probably didn't do anything wrong, otherwise they would've told you. And if they didn't want to be friends (idk what kind of relationship it was) it's for the best. It has to come from both ways

flower breanna the same thing happened to me and I still think about it sometimes


Im really glad I watched this video before cutting ties (I was already planning on it), because now that the air is cleared with this person, it's so much harder to keep from texting him, but I know that it's still for the best.


Thank you for this video I have a toxic friend so this will help a lot


honestly its so hard to cut contact with someone
i loved someone once who i confided in a lot. i wanted to sit on the floor with them with a glass of red wine and learn everything about them in one night because they were so fascinating. like how dodie says in human, i literally and figuratively wanted to pick this person up, scoop them out and learn all their secrets.
and then we got into an argument.
we had a long and angry conversation and we went back and forth telling each other that the other is an awful retched person when two nights earlier we were pouring our hearts out toward each other
skip to today, i dont talk to them. i dont think about them. i do not care about them.
once again as dodie said in her book, that someone once told her that life is like a bus and people ride the bus longer than others do and some will ride the bus for years upon years and others will ride the bus for a few days.
this person rode the bus for a few months. i wanted them to get on the bus and never hop off but life has its ways and didnt do that. after they got off, many more people have come into my life that were so much better than they were.
for anyone reading this while they’re at the point where i missed that person, you’ll be okay.


Some teas and their smells make me feel things. Like Earl Gray makes me think of my old toxic girlfriend and friends because I used to drink it all the time, and also while texting my friends/gf. And it makes me feel a little hurt, because it was awful and I finally completely stopped talking to them one day and it was all over.


But what do I do if she confronts me and asks me why I don't want to be her friend any more? I've been trying to make her leave me alone but I don't want to be mean, but then again, she's toxic to my friendships and is preventing me from from making other friends. She's super clingy and i don't know what to do. Every time she asks me why we're not as close as we used to be I just chicken out and tell her that we're still friends (but I don't want us to be)<br>I'm sorry if that made no sense I'm just AAAAGH

But what do I do if she confronts me and asks me why I don't want to be her friend any more? I've been trying to make her leave me alone but I don't want to be mean, but then again, she's toxic to my friendships and is preventing me from from making other friends. She's super clingy and i don't know what to do. Every time she asks me why we're not as close as we used to be I just chicken out and tell her that we're still friends (but I don't want us to be)
I'm sorry if that made no sense I'm just AAAAGH

@Amelie Woodhouse what is wrong with cutting someone silence it's not like she was trying to get to be close to you

Sounds like something I'd do, and have done before

Lukeyousmellofmilk going through the exact same thing. Please help

that'swhat happened with me and my friend in 6th grade. you should just tell her why. I know it's super hard bc I'm the same way. also talk to your friends (and if you're in school, your teachers that you like/trust/a counselor). good luck!!

I honestly understand where you're coming from. I had to do that with a friend fairly recently, and I just had to be blunt and tell her why we couldn't be friends. I hate confrontation, but she doesn't really talk to me anymore, so it's worth the awkwardness and (short lived [for at least one of you]) hurt. I hope things get better for you, friend. <3

my friend was extremly vague when teling me why she wanted to cut ties with me (literally just 'i would be happier without you'. she also gave me no warning or indication prior to this), i would've extremely appreciated her telling me more because it took me contacting her once a week on old social media accounts i hadnt used in years which i know pissed her off, but i needed closure because i was having my worst mental breakdown ever. explain why you're cutting ties, it will be better for the both of you in the long run.

Please don't let anyone not allow you to have friends, or make you feel like you cant be friends with anyone else. This actually was something I had to deal with going into high school, and it was partially why I sort of isolated myself from potential friendships. I would just tell them you cannot be friends anymore because you have grown a part and you feel drained and held back in the friendship.

Chintya C thank you, this is pretty much exactly the situation I'm in so this'll really help ❤

i once had a best friend who just deleted me from everything with no explanation, and that really hurt so dont do that. explain to her what your problem is. if she doesnt change, then fair enough, you can do what you like. but at least give her an explanation

I had a similiar situation with you. In the end, I talked to her and explained to her that I think our friendship is toxic and it will be better for us to go our separate ways. She didn't take it too well, cried and begged, even said she'd attempt suicide. I wanted to end it by being 100% honest about how I feel of our friendship but because she said all that, I started feeling bad, and I ended up telling her that "we can still be friends, let's still hang out at school, just not as best friends." The first couple of days after it happened, she still acted like we were best friends, but then I started avoiding her purposefully and time naturally caused us to drift apart. I heard that she's been telling people that I'm the one who left her for other people lately, but lmao, I really don't give two shits about people who even trusts other's judgements before making sure of it themselves.

I think you should be honest about it to her, and don't let what she says make you feel guilty that you backed out of your decision. I'm no longer best friends with the person I'm talking about, and I don't think I can ever be friends with her anymore as I remembered all the bad things she has done to me, but I am more comfortable with how things are right now and I'm no longer feeling heavy-hearted to hold a decent conversation with her. If you keep avoiding confronting her, you'll only be hurting more. The first few days after it will not be the best days, but you'll learn to pick up youself and make more amazing people along the way!

tell her the truth and put yourself first in this situation. it seems it has been the other way round for too long, if you know what i mean.

+doddlevloggle thank you so much for replying to this, everyone has been so helpful ❤❤

_Sarahs_POV _ thank you, it's great advice!

TurtleHeart honestly, thank you so much  for this, I am still in school and I think the fall back friends advice is really going to help. 😝

Just tell her what's bothering you. You don't have to be mean or anything, be friendly, but honest and try explain the things you're telling her, so she can try understand everything, you know? :)<br>(i hope i was a little helpful, sorry if i wasn't, i hope things will work out for you ^-^ )

Just tell her what's bothering you. You don't have to be mean or anything, be friendly, but honest and try explain the things you're telling her, so she can try understand everything, you know? :)
(i hope i was a little helpful, sorry if i wasn't, i hope things will work out for you ^-^ )

I'm doing the exact same thing right now and I have a few things that might help.

-Find a new group.
You need to have someone to fall back onto when you cut ties off with this person (I'm assuming you're still in school and I know that being alone at lunch is the worst so this is important). Having a new group will also give you opportunities for you to make plans with them without said clingy friend and will give you excuses to be busy without them.

-Gradually start to leave them.
Spend less and less time with them every week. That's what I'm doing and a friend actually talked to them and they said that they barely notice when I'm not around anymore so I guess it's working.

And if all else fails.
-Be blunt.
"We can't be friends anymore." It's quite simple. It will hurt their feelings for sure, but if it's for you and your friendships, then you need to focus on you. If they ask why, be honest.
"I need to make new friends, and I can't when you are always with me."
"I don't feel as though our friendship is as good as it used to be" Honestly is the best thing in these kinds of situations.

Harun Nur Sanctania thank you so much😊<br>I know I'm kinda doing the wrong thing by trying to cut her off silently so all this advice is helping ❤

Harun Nur Sanctania thank you so much😊
I know I'm kinda doing the wrong thing by trying to cut her off silently so all this advice is helping ❤

tell her how you feel/think. it will be the best for both of you. it will be off your heart and she will know where it went wrong. just silently cutting her out is not okay. sometimes the truth hurts the most, but a lie just makes it worse. telling the truth is like slapping someone, it hurts for a while but it goes away.

+Lukeyousmellofmilk bumping this up if anyone has any advice!!


Just recently cut ties with my now ex bf. I won't go into details but long story short the relationship was just very toxic. It went on for two years, and I honestly don't know how I dealt with that for so long. It was very very hard to accept that in order for me to move on and for me and him to grow...we needed to go our separate ways. It's very difficult but sometimes you just have to be kind to yourself and do whatever it takes to be happy. for you. :)


I’m so scared I won’t be able to get over him ): it just happened today, though we knew it was coming for a long time <br>I’m scared and hurt, but this helped a lot. Thank you so much.

I’m so scared I won’t be able to get over him ): it just happened today, though we knew it was coming for a long time
I’m scared and hurt, but this helped a lot. Thank you so much.


I have a bit of a sticky situation. I recently (about a month ago) got my heart broken by a guy bc he has commitment issues + just in general a really bad home life and such so a relationship would be too hard. We agreed so stay close friends, and have been doing so- and honestly it's alright

BUUUT

Only because we have agreed to try and get back together in a years time (or we may not, I know time changes people but for now that's where both of us want to be) bc idk just by next year he would have graduated and the whole situation will just be less messy

So it's really weird

Because we both still quite obviously have feelings for eachother, there's still this platonic love and compliments and "flirting" but deep down so obviously has romantic routes. It sucks bc I'm the type of person who's very committed to things, whereas he is the opposite....but this is kind of a good thing bc I'm starting to realise my fear of abandonment and such when in relationships. I'm really hoping this year is a year of personal growth to work on ourselves alone, so hopefully when we are back together it's all happy.

But I'd be lying if that's all I thought. I'm terrified he will find someone else. Or it will get to the end of the year and I will still have feelings and he won't, or we will get back together but then he will just leave me again. Who knows that's probably my (as i mentioned earlier) abandonment issues.

If anyone could have any advice or words of comfort that would be really good! Pretty much no one in my life knows what to say to me lol

Hey girl, I totally understand what you are going through. Hopefully through the year he will learn about commitment but whatever way it goes, it's for the best. It's really nice you both have communicated really well and for now just keep doing that! He is probably thinking the same things as you so just keep talking about these feelings and discover if it's the right option for both of you as months pass


I have a tip: write it down! In a journal, notebook, or even on a napkin. For me it helps if it's more like a poem, but just spill your heart out. And if this helps, tear the page. Into tiny little bits. Sometimes it's therapeutic.


If they try to talk to you, try to contact you etc do NOT respond. Last year I ended a toxic friendship and after I ended the friendship this person continued to try and contact me. They would usually just text me something like "hi" or "hey" out of the blue but I made the choice not to answer any messages from them. About 3 months later they tried to contact me the same way on snapchat but I ignored them and they haven't tried to contact me lately. I have gotten "hate" from people close to this person, even gotten called "a fucking c*nt" but you just have to ignore what others may say because you did what was right for you. It may be tempting to bash this person or be petty but trust me DON'T. By shit talking them you come across as an asshole. And if someone thinks you're an asshole the they're less likely to believe that you ended a friendship for valid reasons and not just because you're an asshole who likes hurting people.

When I was in said situation I surrounded myself with people who would always have my back and would be there for me if I got in a sticky situation. At one point my old "friend" tried to force me into talking to her she wouldn't even let me walk past her till I said something and I was pretty much a nervous wreck and but my friends helped to make the best decision.


I needed this so bad I just ended a year long relationship and its bringing up memories of other ones and im just a mess right now


Its incredible how much I needed to hear this and...my youtube feed just showed me this video and wow. I really really needed this. Thanks


the thing is,,, i've always had this almost emotional/somewhat spiritual bond with my ex who had a lot of mental health problems. there were a lot of times where i'll just be living my life and then all of a sudden i knew there was something wrong with her. i then would text her and, every single time, something would be happening. but i always helped her through it. i remember one time i ended up walking two miles all the way to her place bc i knew she was having hallucinations (she has psychosis). but ever since we broke up bc she needed to focus on her mental health i keep getting these almost physical pains i always got whenever i felt there was something wrong with her but i can't do anything about it. and it really fucking hurts knowing i can't help her. it's like watching someone you love get tortured but your mouth is glued shut and you're glued to the ground


I'm at a point where I'm doubting my decision. I'm struggling with some mental health stuff and some of my friends aren't being the best and I'm starting to doubt whether I made the decision to cut ties with this person or was I pushed in that direction.


i don't think anyone will read this but if you do, thank you

i had to cut ties with someone a few years ago because every single fucking day she would make fun of my body. she would call me too skinny and flat chested, and it really hurt and it still does. but at the time it was difficult to part with her because she lived across the street from me. thankfully, last year we moved and i haven't talked to her since. i see her at school sometimes but i just ignore her. i'm much happier now, and cutting her out of my life was the best decision i made :)

and dodie if you read this, thank you for everything, i love and appreciate you so much 💗


My friend cut ties with me this week  (it was the last thing i expected) i tried to cut ties with her last year but i ended up going back to her after a few months
AND HERE'S WHY: i was part of a group of friends that was toxic, but they literally follow each other around like  soldiers and if i fall out with one of them , i fall out with ALL of them. And if there's tension, the weakest link will be cut (that'll be me). So i currently have 0 friends at school and no one to talk to. I feel like im alone in the  ocean. Im already over half way through secondary school so there's no way i could join another group. If ANYONE is reading this please throw me a rope
Thanks for reading xx


Dude. Ur a kick ass. Thank you for the words. Ur amazing. Love you. I really needed to hear this. ❤


I recently cut ties with my ex who wanted to be friends after breaking up with me and the only reason she wanted to be friends with me was because to her I was a back up plan.  I soon became tired of her hardly being there for me and I knew I had to move on while being with my current boyfriend. I also grew tired of always growing feelings back for her..


every single of her videos are so comforting both for my mind and body especially her voice, does anyone knows what microphone she use?


Your voice and words are soft and considerate. This has definitely helped so many people


I'm also going through this with someone, I have decided recently that it is better for me and my mental state to just forget them. I'm still at the part where I just want to talk to them about how I'm feeling and about how I miss them  and it hurts me so much to not talk to them but they just don't care anymore, especially seeing as this person used to be the one I cried too and tried to make me laugh whenever i was sad and gave me hugs. It's been about 3 months since we last spoke


Thanks for this! I'm still talking to my ex pretty abusive boyfriend. I know he's bad, but I still in a way want him. I'm really going to try to make things better for me. I need to realize he's not good in my life.


“If you’re crying right now keep crying”

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“If you’re crying right now keep crying”

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I had (or rather had) a friend who would talk to me all the time, and we would tell each other shit we’d never tell anyone else. However, a lot of the time if I wanted to go somewhere other than the cinema he’d conveniently ‘forget’, which I believed.
Three months ago we started at the same college, and he’d started to make other friends (which didn’t bother me because it’s his life and our schedules didn’t meet up during the day so we only shared one lunch together). He’d then organise going out with his friends, and in the time since we’ve started college he’s probably gone more places with them than he ever had with me and he the way he acts around them is so much more open and I feel,,, hurt.
I brought up the fact that he ignored me most of the time in favour of other people a month ago and he basically said that I was jealous and never said another word since. I guess he just outgrew me as soon as someone better came along rather than trying to stay my friend, despite all the effort I tried to put in these past 6 months to make sure we saw each other at l e a s t once a month but he couldn’t have given any less of a shit about it.


Aw, I'm still getting over a best friend who absolutely put me out of her life last year and I'm still getting over her 😫

And... I am pleased to report that I am over her - BYE HANNAH I'M OVER YOUUU