The problem is I don't have anyone else, quite literally no one else to talk with and distract myself from the person I need to cut from my life. Stuck on Stage 2) Don't Torture yourself. I don't know what it'll be like NOT having them on social media. I keep thinking maybe things will change if I endure a couple more weeks of silence, and they'll start talking again. But I'll lose that chance if I remove them. Sometimes they are their old self and hook me back in with sweet words and then instantly it goes back to cold silence.


I suppose this is my last resort.
I think I'm in love with someone
im lost
im scared
does anyone have any advice


now imagine bts and dodie and paramore making a collab?  it would be the masterpiece of "loving yourself" representers


But what if that person who you are cutting ties with was literally the only person in your life?


I did this, to a person and I felt bad about it because that person has been suicidal in the past, I've been there and listened to him but as time goes by, he slowly reveal his true form. He usually go talk w younger girls, do stupid rp w them, hurt their feelings and say really harsh words to them then often go and tell me about those girls. I realised that he's just a bad person, if he talked sit about every other girls then why am I an exception? So I decided to cut him out completely but there's still some guilty feeling somewhere in me.


somehow youtube knew i needed this right now..


Matt Maltese (Paper Thin Hotel) - "You go to heaven once you've been to hell"


recomended to me as im helplesly in love with someone wow


My boyfriend broke up with me today. 5 hours and 40 minutes ago. If I don't remain friends with him, he'll hurt himself or potentially kill himself.. I don't know what to do anymore.


My best friend cut ties with me recently and she won't tell me the reason. She is blocking out everyone in her life. I really want to help her. I worry very deeply about her but it like talking to a brick wall. help please


my best friend broke the contact with me without telling me why and what i did and i don't really have other friends...


Write a letter, but never send them to them. Just cut tie. Otherwise, it will create more drama!


I just hate that they knew the most. They knew more than anyone but they’re gone now so it’s like what was the point on them knowing. Once again I’ve shared the most of myself with someone who’s now a complete stranger


Yes but what if you have to do if you see them everyday?


i go to school with him and im best friends with someone hes close with, so like idk what to do. plus he sits with us during lunch break sometimes and idk how to avoid that because theres nowhere else i can go,,


I watched this video, a couple weeks before it actually happened...


I'm scared, I don't want to lose it cause I'll probably won't feel it again.


THIS is somenthig really really helpful, but I commited the mistake to contacting that person again (to soon) and now I feel like I have to reset all this process  TAT<br>Does anyone have any advice? (if someone is watching this currently haha)

THIS is somenthig really really helpful, but I commited the mistake to contacting that person again (to soon) and now I feel like I have to reset all this process  TAT
Does anyone have any advice? (if someone is watching this currently haha)


this is hard because i see him at school everyday


I still have her social media for those angry wanks.. it's not therapy but I can try your advice and cry at the same time

Don just move on you deserve better . I would of you block her or deleted her if she is not talking to you..  what is your situation may I ask ??


I go to a small school and only really started making friends a year ago but a girl I thought was one of my best friends blocked me on all social media and I still don't even know why but very soon I'm going to have to go to school and I have really really terrible anxiety and every time I even think about having to go to school without her being there to help me through my anxiety/panic attacks I get one, and I have great friends that go to other schools but even though it would be easier for my parents to send me to them they wont and I just don't know how I'm going to make it through the school year because all of my other friends there are better friends with her and aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa


Me and my best friend are both depressed, but she doesn’t know that I am, so she always feels that she’s got it worse than me. She keeps finding other best friends and won’t speak to me for weeks, but always runs back to me when she falls out with her new friends, which makes me feel unwanted and like she’s using me...? I don’t really know how to explain it, but we used to be really close and then life happened and now I feel like we just aren’t working out anymore but I don’t want to talk to her about it because she is so sensitive and easily wound up. Ugh.


The thing is I still go to school and the year isn't over yet so I still am forced to talk to them. And they're trying to steal my bestfriend  from me and  and all she had to say is,"This is awkward," and I cried in front of them. I kinda feel like you and youtube are my therapists and I can just say anything that I'm sad about and people will care.I got rid of that person on snapchat and instagram and now only have 2 weeks of me not finding about all her little tantrums like she's bloody five. In lunch she was annoying my best friend and I told her to stop but she wouldn't, and yes I went dark saying that if she didn't let go in two seconds her and her whole family would die including her dog so I tried saying let go or I'll die and she shrugged again, ohhhhh but when (insert best friend name here) says she'll die she lets go. She was dead serious though about not giving two shits if I died. I'm a girl, so I can say this but yes having girl friends (not in a romantic way)is the worst. TMI, I know but I'm sangry (sad + angry)!


What if they go to your school and you have to see them every day


i liked someone. and never told anyone. we're pretty good friends but turns out he likes someone else. i can't just unfollow him. i'm in a loophole of sadness. ah


I dont know what to do abt some of the people I'm friends with, because I care about them deeply, a whole a lot, but I know their mental illnesses are worsening mine,,I've admitted it to myself but at the same time not


hey, does anyone have any advice for cutting ties with somebody you see everyday? someone who is in my friend group and goes to my school is really problematic and i don't want to be around her anymore.

a little bit more background- she doesn't have a lot of other friends, and im the only person she knows in one of the lunches we have together. i feel bad leaving her by herself, but she says such awful things that i feel like a bad person just from associating with her.


help, someone? this is already difficult past step 1. i love him so much but i dont see us being together forever and i know i need to break up with him at some point. it's hard to talk to him because he has a severe panic disorder and every time that we talk about anything related to breaking up, he has a panic attack and i have to calm him down and help him and we cant talk about it or he'll have another one. he loves me so much and cares about me so much but he has anger issues and we always fight.

he cries a lot now because i've gotten breaks from him before and i've told him he's on his last chance so he's really nervous. he's been manipulative and controlling in the past and it's just a toxic relationship overall but i don't know how to get out of it. he says that i'm his entire life and he can't go on without me. he cries when i mention anything that he's done wrong and has a panic attack when i start saying 'this isn't working'.

does anyone have any advice? i feel stuck because i know i need to be out of this relationship but i still love him and it's hard enough when i love him, but now it's added that he hits my soft spots with his mental health and i feel so weak

plz help


i dont have many people in my life to cut off anyways, but you know what...itss allll gooood


I told him. I love you.
And he told me, i like you tooo, but this is not going to work out.
He knew what i felt, he knew everything.
I told him every.single.day....
i love you,
i love you goodnight,
goodmorning i love you,
go to sleep i love you...
And it was not like cringy, we had talked about love and each other a long time ago.
He told me, what if i dont love you😪?
i just can't the pain is real i can't even sleep anymore.
This is for J;
You confuse me J, it's so hard to understand you, it is extremely complicated. I love you, but i hate you. I want to forget you, but i can't.
I remember when we had this funny conversation after we Kinda broke up (we were still "friends") that i love you as much as i love bread and chocolate and you would always ask me So how much do i love bread and chocolate, But i was so confused, i didn't know what to say anymore. They pain was real. i wanted to Tell you that i still love you very very very much. I still am depressed. i can't. How could you play with me like that!?
I'm sick of you but i love you


I don't have any healthy relationships tho lol


I can’t believe this video is back on her channel


I'm 13 and i have never had a boyfriend or girlfriend. Idek what it feels like tbh..


im homoromantic asexual. i recently had probably the biggest crush on this girl who’s aro, but somehow she liked me back. but we weren’t allowed to date plus she loses feelings easily, so as we were still chatting after we confessed, she continued to lose feelings. then she fully lost feelings and stopped texting me, she blocked my number and im just confused on how she just left me in the dust. she doesn’t even look at me in the classes we have together nor does she attempt to talk to me like she used to. i needed this video because i feel hopeless and lonely. she was my only friend too, so i have no one to go to so im just alone but this video helped me and made me feel like i can get through this and she’s not worth my time. im moving this summer and ill complete myself with someone else, not someone who completely leaves me with no closure or even telling me that she doesn’t want to talk anymore. thank you dodie

i honestly don’t want closure though, because i know it will probably hurt me right now. even if it will help me in the future, closure right now will not help but i won’t be able to get it when i move but im honestly fine with that.


i wish i could’ve seen this video 9-10 months ago


my ex is a really sweet person and is so kind but she was really needy and clingy and i was never ready for a relationship but i felt like i was guilt tripped into the relationship and i was uncomfortable. i told her and she understood perfectly but i dont really want to talk to her anymore because its so awkward. and the same day we split up, i didnt want to post any thing about her or a selfie that may have looked seductive but she posted a "if youre single post this and whoever dms you a blah blah loves you" post and then a suggestive selfie.


I did a really fucking stupid thing where I associated all of the things I love (mainly, dodies music) on the person and it kills me to listen to her even speak now


ok but i have no true friends like... what am i supposed to do i want to talk about it but i always feel like i'm bothering them with my problems like... whats am i supposed to do


This is helpful but what if it’s a group of toxic people? Or toxicish let me explain

I have a group of friends but specifically 2 people, that are so into the “tea” and drama of everything that happens and they criticize everything and I find myself doing it too... a lot. But when they are friendly and we have fun, they are amazing. So I’m so like UGH because like do I just cut them off and spend the rest of 8th grade alone and wait till high school or do I just stay silent when I see that a negative conversation is coming up? Idk


I just have a small crush on someone, but it has festered for the past 5-6 years when he told me he liked me 5-6 years ago. Then i rejected him, told him no when he asked me if i liked him when i did, bc i was scared to confess, even though he confessed to me. So then he moved on, but i didnt and theres still a part of me after 5-6 years that still likes him. I havent talked to him in two years. I see him at school but i dont say hi. I want to be friends and i want to get rid of my crush of him, but im also scared to talk to him. My friends told me hes changed. Hes not the gentleman he once was. I want to tell him straight up through text but he never answers, not cuz he hates me or anything just cuz he sucks at responding ti everyone lol. But i want to get over him, be friends or not doesnt matter. I dont know what to do.


if only i saw this before i messed that other person up


I cant deal with it, it hurts so much dodie and i can't wait for the scar i dont know what to do because its killing me

Averynerdybookworm thanks Avery you were right things are much better now 😊

Angsty Camera man hey it’s been a month since you posted this but if you’re still feeling like this just breathe. You are okay and you don’t need them. It’s hard but just remember you are valid and you don’t need whoever you cut ties with. Just remember that you can get through this.


I juat brpke up with my bf and we are still friends so thats cool


I keep driving by my ex house on purpose hate my self bro


I'm so sad. I don't know what to do and I am so sad.


Is it an open chat when he tells me he doesn’t want anything to do with me


I would call a friend but I don’t really have one :(

I would call a friend but I don’t *-really have-* one :(


Why YouTube is recommending me a lot of Break up video? I'm a single Pringle, I've never dated.


How do you cut ties if you live with them


I always come back to this for different reasons and this may be the worst aaaaaaaah


I like him but he loves another girl, hurts like hell


My boyfriend broke up with me yesterday because he doesn't want to risk us anymore. My parents don't like him but he just broke up with me out of nowhere and I don't know what to do I've been crying for two days I want to talk to him so much but I can't


listen to amy winehouse & dodie, take a breath, cry a lot, all will be better eventually. it is okay to feel, let yourself, you don’t have to be okay yet


watching dodies videos make me realize how much i love her because she's so open with us and hopeful and comforting and there's always something new that she has to say and she makes me so happy because i'm finally getting through my depression and she's my reminder that things really do get better and she's working through her own shit just like we are.


I really needed to hear this right now. I'm going through a hard time and this was really helpful. Thank you ❤


I've been through exactly this, so here are my tips that I wished I knew when going through it.
1. Like Dodie said, surround yourself with healthy, happy relationships.
2. It is okay to put your happiness and mental health first. You don't have to feel guilty.
3. It's okay to be upset. It's okay to cry a lot.
4. You're doing a brave thing, and it's going to get so much better
(Shit I'm tearing up)


Thank you for this dodie, you have helped me more than anyone has in my recent issues. Love you dodie


Omg I wish I'd have had this video to watch about 6 months ago! It's always very useful to see it from another person's perspective and I'm sure that I will be coming back to this video in the future. Very helpful, thank you so much Dodie.My love forever and a merry Christmas to you and your family xxx


Oh. My. God. This freaking video just made me realize and see my situation from a whole new perspective. Thank you so much Dodie, you are by far one my biggest role models in this world. Thanks you.


I'm going through this right now and didn't know what to do, then I remembered you uploaded a video about it. Thank you Dodie <br>I love you!

I'm going through this right now and didn't know what to do, then I remembered you uploaded a video about it. Thank you Dodie
I love you!


I just recently had to cut ties with one of my friends because she was very very toxic towards my life... This video helped me A LOT. I want to thank you, Dodie! :) I also really love watching your channel, and your music is truly amazing :)


I watched this video a few months ago when it came out and it didn't relate to me then, but after splitting from my boyfriend yesterday I really needed to hear this. Everything hurts but in time I will heal, thank you Dodie <3


Dodie, I cannot thank you enough. You have gotten me through so many sad times (sad doesn't feel like the right word but for lack of a better one at the moment let's just leave it). You never fail to calm me down. It's beyond soothing to know that I'm not the only person here. Though we have never met, you are my safe space. I have no words except thank you. I am crying, but I know that is okay. Thank you


I needed this so much. Thank you Dodie. I cried through the whole video.


Dodie youre so amazing ❤ My relationship of 2 years ended and I don't really have anyone to talk to so this video really helped thank you


I just started to watch you and been binge watching your videos. found this and it's everything I thought of before but hearing it from someone else helps immensely. you're amazing  😊💘


Thank you Dodie. My girlfriend and I broke up five months ago and I'm still not over it. I still cry about it. She already had a new girlfriend which hurts me even more. But thank you for making this video. I realize that it's okay to still cry about it after five months. There is no specific time to get over it. I love you dodie, you are amazing.


I really want to thank you for this video dodie . I won't be specific but my friend had a very abrupt end to a not so normal relationship , and it wasn't either of their choice. she told me this video really helped her get over it . shes been my best friend for years , and im glad that this helped her to be happier


Wow you have no idea how much I needed this video right now. One of my best friends just barely decided to cut ties to our friendship without any warning. I am still completely heartbroken but I'm finding  happiness in other friends. Thank you so much for your advice dodie!💖


So I've been healthily obsessed with you for the past few months and I want to thank you so much for this video. I've just had an incredibly hard break up with someone after three years. I needed this video.


Thank you so much Dodie. I honesty appreciate this video because it helped me get over a girl who I was in love with💕this is only day one of us being apart and I'm glad to say that she was not the only person who I had in my life. She ended up cutting out me and another friend because she said we were too negative. This helped so much. Thank you Dodie


I sent this too an old friend when this was first uploaded while she was getting ready to cut a toxic boy out of her life and now I'm revisiting it after my (ex?)boyfriend and I both mutually agreed to take a break/breakup a few days ago(depending on his feelings) and honestly this is what I needed. Thank you Dodie. 💜


How this vlog was recommended to me at such a perfect time in my life, I'll never know. But thank you for reminding Dodie <3


I'm spending the last few minutes of 2016 with you dodie <3


I'm a new subscriber and just stumbled across this video and it couldn't have come at a better time. Going through a breakup with my partner of 2 years. I moved half way across the country with her because she wanted to be closer to home and there are more job opportunities here. Now I'm in the process of saving money so I can move back home to be surrounded by my family and people who love and support me unconditionally. It's been a rough few weeks and every time I think I'm starting to feel okay I panic and feel myself sinking into a hole. This was really great advice and it made me feel a bit better. So thank you! Your videos are so honest and real and I'm glad I found them.


This is the realest and most helpful video that i have ever watched about this topic. Thank you dodie ❤


dodie clark, this video has saved me. your video has saved me. ive come to the fact that i have someone in my life that i have been through a lot with that i need to cut ties with. this becomes difficult because a lot of people hang around this person and a lot of people are friends with this person but im slowly getting through it.this video got me to realise that maybe i need to do this because a lot has happened and i need to get over that person. im so happy i watched this video. im going through that stage of "omg i miss this person so much" but im getting through this.bless you dodie, thank you so so so so much for this video cause it has helped a lot <3


thank you, dodie. so much. i just broke up with my boyfriend of over a year, and it was a really hard decision to make but i had been feeling strange about the relationship for a long time and didn't know why, and i realized that throughout the entire relationship i had not been loved in the way that I was loving him. i was not treated in the way that I should have been. these things were so subtle and hard to catch but i had really long talks with the people that were close to me and i realized that so much of the relationship had been centered around him; it was always a conversation about his day or whatever he wanted to talk about, even when i have so much to talk about. he never asked me any real questions about my day, even when we were doing long-distance. (we would be apart for 1-3 month stretches.) when we weren't long distance, so much of what we did together had to do with his interests or his friends. i felt my independence slipping away. i still care deeply for him, but i need to be loved not because i am there to listen to him or because i am there to take care of him. i need to be loved for my own stories and my own perspective. i need to be loved and respected in an intellectual, conscious sort of way, not just in some blind emotional and physical way (although those ways of loving are completely valid and important). when i asked him why he hadn't asked about what everything was like for me abroad (I am studying in france for a few months), he said he hadn't even thought to. he said he cared, but his actions did not show it. to me it seemed like he was completely disinterested in what i was experiencing, even though i am having the experience of a lifetime! i think the final straw was when i realized i had given him a few of my favorite books to read, and he never read them. i would have done anything for him, but i don't think he would have for me. i am struggling with getting over him at the moment but i know i will be okay. mostly i find myself worrying about him and wanting to talk to him about how hurt i'm feeling (like you talked about) but then remembering i cannot turn to him for that anymore. i am just trying to accept the pain and accept the fact that i will be hurting for a while, but that this is for the best. lots of love. thank you again <3


Dodie I don't know if you'll ever read this but thank you so much. I really needed this and needed to hear everything you just said. Just listening to someone saying "everything is going to be okay" helped numb the pain a little.


THANK YOU SO MUCH DODIE I'm really hurting now, you seem to understand perfectly. You have given me hope that I will be oki. <3


I'm going through something like this with one of my best friends since year 7. We've found ourselves slowly drifting apart as we share no common interests and we've both said stuff in the past that we regret. The other night I lashed out at her for no reason (which was so so wrong of me) and a big argument started. We've had a long chat about it and neither of us know what to do anymore so i think we've decided to call it quits for now. I don't know if we're ever going to be friends again but if we do it's not going to be like it was. The good thing is, we don't hate each other and we didn't leave on such negative terms.

This video helped me so so much. I cried (a lot) while talking to another close friend of mine which really helped. Dodie I love you so so much, you make me feel so strong and you make me know that I'll be okay at the end of the day. Thank you so so much❣


hey dodie if you see this thank you cause this video just popped up when i needed it and I'm trying to get over someone i cut ties with years ago and it's slowly getting there, partially thanks to you


this is so helpful in my situation right now, I'm having to cut a very toxic person out of my life, and that person is my best friend of 13 years, it has been the hardest thing I've ever had to got though so far in life, but this has made me come to peace with it all.

thank you


I'm going through a bff break up right now and here's some advice from my situation: no matter how polite you are, if you are the one cutting off the friendship or something the other party is going to be very angry. you can be so polite, but they're still gonna be pissed and you just have to come to terms with the fact that that is natural and ok. because you just stopped talking to them, it's natural. and if you think you're reasons are petty, I can promise you they are not, even seriously thinking that the relationship needs to be stopped is a sign that it is toxic. I believe in you you can do this.


This video touched me deeply. I've had trouble with my mother for the past 3 years. We were incredibly close up until I moved away for college and started breaking from her. She reacted in a very negative and toxic way, blaming me for her problems, saying I didn't support her enough, and telling me that god is judging me for specific things that she simply didn't like about the person I was becoming. Just a few weeks ago I made the decision to cut ties with her. It has been the hardest thought I have had to think in a REALLY long time and the pain hurts so much. The bad part is I have been suppressing the pain. This video kinda snapped me out of it and I cried for like 10 minutes. I have surrounded myself with true friends and made my own family out of people who love and support me, even if they aren't blood. I don't have closure yet, but this video helped me realize that maybe that's something I need to think about getting. As her only child, I'd love to have a relationship with her again, but her manipulative ways and hurtful words make me think that peace between us won't be possible for a while. Anyway. bluuuuuurg. Thanks dodie :]


This is a really important topic and I know so many people who need to see this video! Closure of dying friendships/relationships is super important, even if it isn't easy! You need to do what's best for you, but try not to hurt other people too much :)


I wish I had this video when I was temporarily cutting ties with someone....But I am glad you made this Dodie thank you💖


I recently had to do this myself, i had to do it without them agreeing which was so hard but has made me so much healthier mentally x


When I first watched this I didn't understand until I went through it. Thank you so much for making it easier for me.


I needed this so much 💜<br>thank you, you are a fabulous human!

I needed this so much 💜
thank you, you are a fabulous human!


can i just say how much positivity in the comments this simple video that dodie created made AHHHH I LOVE HER 💖


Dodie,
I need to thank you..
this has helped me a great deal
Xxx


Right after I watched this video I literally skipped the first step which is "Is it the right decision?" I literally unfollowed them on social media and they all go really mad at me to a point they never really wanted anything with me. They don't even want to be my friends anymore. I cried, I was so hurt. I blamed Dodie for a second but then I thought "No.. it's not her fault! She gave you a wake up call. You made healthier relationship and you couldn't of wasted more time on these people" and I am happy to say. I am finally genuinely happy without them, I've had less anxiety attack and I catch up with old friends. Thank you Dodie. You changed my life for the best and forever. I love you. ❤


2 days before this was uploaded I just got into a relationship and was like "awh lol I don't need this im so happy lol!!" and recently I've just come out of the same one, how ironic. thank you ❤


This has been so much more helpful than I thought it would be.


im rewatching this in feb 2017 and ive just come out of a semi-bad ish kind of not nice relationship. basically the person said they werent ready for a relationship and broke up with me and then went into two other relationships in the space of a month - the same month in which we broke up. it felt like betrayal and for the last month and a half ive been seeing their name pop up everywhere and ive been stewing in the anger and im realizing now that its not healthy and i unfriended them and unfollowed them. if they confront me, ill just have to be honest with them :/

thank you so much, dodie, another perspective is really helpful and im so glad you were the one it came from <3


This video is old now, but I just wanna say thank you, Dodie, I needed something like this.


I just found your channel and I just broke up with my girlfriend so this is veryyy helpful for me, sometimes we need to remember that the pain is not gonna last forever


i just discovered you today and i've probably watched like 30 vids now, you are so amazing and your voice is so calming and all your videos feel so personal and you are so adorable and i think i'm in love


I don't comment on these things the interwebs calls videos. But this is so timely, relevant, and relatable to me that i've had to replay the video four or five times. Doddie you are pretty awesome flawed human being and the fact that you are so aware of it is part of makes you so awesome. So from one flawed human  who is going thru this crap to another who has been there done that... HIGH FIVE!


i never thought this would ever applied to me,
but now it does,
so thanks for this video, it helps a lot <3


when I first saw this video I thought I wouldn't need it anytime soon, but now I do. Thanks dodie x


Such good advice, you're such an inspiration, really.


Rewatching this after my breakup. We'd been together for three years. I though of this vid right away and unfollowed him from all social media. Thank you Doddie.


Going back to this because the person I've been trying to cut off since April last year has found a way to contact me again and its really freaking me out so thank you Dodie for being my hero again and again


I'm going though a huge fight with one of my friends and she ripped all of my other friends and I'm using this for the second time. Thank you so much.


it´s been 2 years, now i´m hopeless. I don´t have someone to talk about it, but anyway the point is that your videos are helping me a LOT so thank you!


I got dumped on valentines, I needed this <br>Thanks dodie 💘

I got dumped on valentines, I needed this
Thanks dodie 💘


this helps so much you have no idea dodes haha! thank you and i love you so much dodie! ❤❤❤


It had been nearly two months since I argued with a few friends and I was actually feeling okay- until one of them texted me and confronted me about what happened and blamed me and accused me of being closed off. All the progress I made was lost. All I wanted was to part on good terms but I also don't want to apologise for something that wasn't my fault. I just want to be left alone, I don't want to see her, talk to her or even think about her. But she just doesn't leave me alone and if I tell her about this everyone else will learn and they'll confront me about it and I'll completely lose it this time. All I can do is just cross my fingers and hope that she doesnt text me again. And please don't tell me to block her, she'll make a fuss about it and it'll get even worse.


I've seen some comments on here that I'd like to discuss, just quickly. i feel that it's very important to be aware of the other person's feelings. sometimes it's not just as simple as that they're bad for you so their feelings become irrelevant, in fact depending on the type of person they are emotionally, you might need to take extra care. it's incredibly important to understand how they feel and what they're going through emotionally, so you can help each other, maybe. I'm kinda talking from experience, so i think i know what I'm trying to say.


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I meet someone on Instagram named(let's call him John)John. At first, it wasn't much but we talked more and more and became absolute best friends. It all seemed to crash about a half a year later when we tried to date. I um. I am a woman. A gay woman and he was a male. I felt like he was just an exception but I did feel somewhat romantic feelings for him. But none sexual. He was sexually attracted to me. I told him that I did not feel sexual towards him and then he made me feel like shit for it. I ended up breaking up with him and being completely honest as to why. I was very unhappy in the relationship. And I started feeling things for my ex-girlfriend because I wanted a woman. I also told him my depression was very bad and a relationship didn't work. He got super pissed and went off. He had depression as well. He yelled at me and pretty much told me he never wanted to talk to me. After awhile we started talking. But this went on and on. We both were not good to each other. I cried for hours. But the only way I tried to handle it was talking to him. His therapist even told him that he should cut ties with me because he relied on me for happiness too much. It was unhealthy for both of us. It was a lot of back and forth.
I know i probably should have talked with him but i couldn't at the time. I was so beaten but i knew i needed to get away from him. For both of our sakes. I created new accounts on everything and didn't tell him. I'm not following him anywhere. It's been about a month. It hurts. It hurts bad but i think with time ill be okay. I have a lovely girlfriend now. Not my ex. She makes me really happy. I am getting a lot better.


I've been confused for a long time with a relationship I'm in. Probably cause I've been in a few the last couple of years and now I just really feel like getting to know myself better. I never thought I'd get so fond of this guy I'm with. It just feels so freakin surreal to not ever speak to him again. I cant stop it, it hurts too much - so why do I feel like I should?<br>He's so great but I feel like I cant relax enough and it's never "enough" being in it. I'm not as happy as I used to be because I expect a lot from it and I just want to.... feel like me and still be able to be open to others instead of being at his place everytime I'm out of my House. We're about to end it and I cant see my way through it... but how can I even fix it... it's like I've tried everything and been waiting to end it but I cannot.... I cannot do it :'(

I've been confused for a long time with a relationship I'm in. Probably cause I've been in a few the last couple of years and now I just really feel like getting to know myself better. I never thought I'd get so fond of this guy I'm with. It just feels so freakin surreal to not ever speak to him again. I cant stop it, it hurts too much - so why do I feel like I should?
He's so great but I feel like I cant relax enough and it's never "enough" being in it. I'm not as happy as I used to be because I expect a lot from it and I just want to.... feel like me and still be able to be open to others instead of being at his place everytime I'm out of my House. We're about to end it and I cant see my way through it... but how can I even fix it... it's like I've tried everything and been waiting to end it but I cannot.... I cannot do it :'(


I recently attempted to cut ties with someone I was in love with. The keyword is attempted. She was my best friend and I was ridiculously in love with her, but she never reciprocated the feelings. I realized that it would be best for the both of us if I cut ties or at least reduced our closeness; it would be good for me because I could fall out of love and be happy again, and then she would be able to date whoever she wanted without feeling guilty because of me. She told me that she understood my decision, and so I tried to begin recovering. Two days later I was scrolling through my Twitter and noticed that none of her stuff that I retweeted was there. Long story short, she blocked me. I figured that maybe she wanted to distance herself from me as well, but when I messaged her she told me to fuck off and that accused me of "walking out of her life" despite the fact that we literally discussed the whole situation. I'm currently miserable while she's having the time of her life for whatever reason, and I'm getting the feeling that I'm being manipulated. Basically, I need advice.


to anyone going through this, it's so sad and it's painful and i'm so sorry you have to experience that but just remember the feeling of finally losing attachment to/being over someone is <b>INCREDIBLE</b> like it makes all of the pain worth it, just wait for that feeling babies

to anyone going through this, it's so sad and it's painful and i'm so sorry you have to experience that but just remember the feeling of finally losing attachment to/being over someone is *INCREDIBLE* like it makes all of the pain worth it, just wait for that feeling babies


I needed this so bad <3 I'm in a tough situation but I can't even speak about it to anyone. 😞


Honestly I have never needed this more. This is sooo helpful


I cried so much from this but it helped. My friends told me that me breaking up was for the best even tho i felt horrible. Well i will try my best for now. good luck to other reading this as well


It's benn like more than 4 months since my breakup. Before I thought it was some sort of break maybe I could work on to fix that or undo the breakup.
But at the end of 2016, I got to know I was cheated and things got pretty ugly, so I made the late decision to cut the person totally out of my life.
I was glad I was not the last one to know that and have some friends who really cheered me up. I know now it is really the DECISION to make, better late than never.
Thank you so much for the advices, really touching.
Hope you all have a best 2017 ahead!


Don't compare the love you feel for the toxic person in your life to your healthy relationships. It's so tempting to do that because if you're dependent on someone, you will feel like their love is the best love, and that will make the love you get from your other relationships feel less than. This makes it really easy to justify going back, so please don't do it. Every love is different. Appreciate the joy your friends and other relationships bring you, and try not to focus on what's missing. It's going to be okay. You'll be better off in the long run.


This is so bizarre, my relationship of 11years just ended and it wasn't my choice, yet I watched this and the person I thought of was a friend that always disappoints me not my ex. I'm sure that says a lot.


I came to this video when I was thinking of cutting ties with these people, I came and watched it right before I knew I was going to do it, and now that it's done I'm back. I hope this will be good for me, but it sucks right now because they hurt me a lot, but they also gave me so much happiness at one point and wondering how it all went so downhill is killing me. I blocked them on all social media before meeting up so I wouldn't have to do it while I was grieving and I'm trying not to log in to my other accounts to check on them. Because the fact is, I still love them dearly, some of them in more ways than one. But they hurt me a lot, and even when we had our big chat they accepted that it just didn't seem possible not to hurt me, simply because they don't care about me as much as I care about them. And that hurts. And I love them. But I don't deserve to put myself through being with people who say they care about me but can't show it. I just need to hear that it'll be okay.


I'm really glad that you said it can take a year. My mom thinks I'm pathetic because I haven't gotten over someone within a few months, but I process things really deeply? Like I'm a functional person, I'm very happy and kind to myself, and I don't look at their pictures or anything, but I miss this person a lot when I'm walking home from class or trying to sleep. It's good to hear that I'm not the only person who takes a while with these things. c:


i'm coming back to this video doddle after a little while and this was a great thing for me that girl killed me it feels like I'm much happier and closer with the real friends I feel closer to ever one then I have ever been before


I just wiped my tears with McDonald napkins. Thanks Dodie, I don't know if I can do it tho lol


I am going through it. It is so painful, so much hurt. I know that there is no possibility between us, but I was so much into him. He just regarded me as his best friend. Now he is leaving to another city, but I just can't help checking his social media. I thought I can go out easily after I can't see him anymore, but the fact is, it will take longer time then I thought. But this video is really inspiring.


<b>get ready for a story time lmao</b> so basically I've been crushing in this person for a long time now and we are really close friends. I told them I liked them (like LOVE liked them lmao) and they just said "k". It was probably the most heart breaking thing ever... so I have decided to just stop talking to them or any of their friends because it will just make me feel worse. I still love them to bits but I have to get over them because I'm not worth the pain. This video will help me thank you Dodie <3333

*get ready for a story time lmao* so basically I've been crushing in this person for a long time now and we are really close friends. I told them I liked them (like LOVE liked them lmao) and they just said "k". It was probably the most heart breaking thing ever... so I have decided to just stop talking to them or any of their friends because it will just make me feel worse. I still love them to bits but I have to get over them because I'm not worth the pain. This video will help me thank you Dodie <3333


Thank you dodie i really need it, thank youuuu 💜💜💜💜


I wish I saw this a while ago... but it still helped. Thank you so much.


every once in a while i have to watch this and it helps every time


i really, really needed this.
i lost two of my best friends because i came out to them. i told them that im female to male transgender, and that im not actually a male. i lied about my age to them but i told them the truth about that, too. i lied about my past, but i came clean, and it took me every ounce of courage, patience, strength and thinking.
i started lying about my identity when i was about 8, four years later, i decided to say fuck it and tell all my internet friends i lied to.
my two best friends left me. i can understand why they would, i mean- for christs sake i lied. i cried and had a panic attack- two actually. they got their friends to message and bug me and i felt like absolute shit.
for weeks, i regretted and hated myself. why did i tell them? why did i even start this circle of lying when i was little? am i worthy of living?
but my other friends helped me, they said that if they were true friends, they wouldnt care about it. they wouldnt care about my past or my gender, they would care about who i am as a person.
i find myself thinking of them often, checking their social media.
its been 4 months.
4 months and i am still in pain, i still regret everything ive lied about.
but im also happy. it shows ive grown, ive grown and gotten more mature. im happy, glad and thankful i know what i did was wrong and i fixed it- even if i lost the two people i loved the most.

im sorry for my rambling, but i needed to find some sort of closure. this video provided me with that, and now i believe i can move on.

thank you, dodie<3


thanks. im going through a rough breakup and this really helped.


This will always be the video I come back to

(esp rn bc im in that heartbreak shit, ya know? ha)

thanks dodes


I needed to cut ties with someone I was in a 'relationship' with, but the problem is, I didn't want to, I didn't want to at all, but he did. A friend of his told me he was starting to lose interest. I knew it was because I was changing (because of my depersonalization) so I told him I knew he didn't fancy me and I told him about my depersonalizations and he said he will still be my friend and if I needed to talk about it, he would still be there for me. I cried. Well, I'm crying right now. But after that, another boy told me I was going to be okay, and he said that I am amazing, so I decided to tell him about my depersonalization and then he told me about his depression. I am so happy that I had someone tell me that it wasn't my fault and that I was going to be okay. He also called my 'ex' a dick which was really funny. 😂


i wished i watched this a long time ago when i had to let go of people that i called my best friends :) thank you


so grateful that this exists idk why but the second dodie starts talking about talking to your friends instead of the person who's left you etc, i just cry automatically and get it all out


i needed this. i think I'll cut ties with a friend of mine that i dont feel like it has a healthy relationship and i honestly dont know how and the feeling hurts so bad ,i dont know what to do. i just feel like crying that i even did in the end of the video, but it made me feel better. and honestly now i feel like i know better what to do. thank you sm, ily.


when she said it takes around a year I thought "ughhhhhh I wanted it to be over next week" 😭😭😭 but thanks Dodie xxx


awesome video, I needed to hear this today. thank you


My (ex) boyfriend broke up with me last week and he was the first person I've actually ever fallen for and this lovely, nice person ended it pretty abruptly and caught me off guard. It's shit since I still can't see anything bad within him and I just want us to be friends at least even though I'd love him back. It's getting easier however, I can't stop being sad. <3


what do you do when they're still your best friend? we dated for a year and decided a break was good. when reconvening I was ready to try again but it was that we ended breaking up. they're my best friend so obviously I want to get to that point of just seeing her like that but I want to know how to apply these things without cutting off


Dodie!!! I go to school with her and she's in all my classes and I can't get away from her she's beautiful help me


i was broken up with today and this made me realize how uncaring my ex was to the point where she didn't even try to work out the problem with me because i know i could've done something about it


I watched this video sometime in the past month thinking I wouldn't have to do this and then something happened to me a few days ago. I'm just so heartbroken at the moment. I really liked this guy, and I thought he really trusted me but I guess not. I just hate feeling like this.


Fell for a person that was not that into me. Decided to take a break from being in contact. Now I'm able to communicate on a friendly basis.


this video is honestly so helpful rn because I have a friend so who just makes me feel like a complete piece of shit for doing nothing to her, I have never been mean to her etc but for some reason she only targets me with her 'jokes'. She ignores me and then talks to my best friends (even tho she claims to not even like them) about things we have in common and I know I sound like an idiot but it hurts. I don't like talking about certain things infront of her because I know she'll put me down for whatever I do. This video made me realise that our relationship is it healthy and she is not my friend and I think I'm now going to surround myself with the people that make me happiest and make me feel good about myself instead of getting stressed over this girl. I love you dodie thank you so much 🖤


Okay, so I have this friend who is 3 years older than me- he is in my sister's year group and we've talked for nearly 4 months. I like him. He told my friend about 3 weeks ago that he loved her and all cute stuff like that. She started to like him too. But he fucked it up and ditched her. I was still talking to him, but made sure it was ok with my other friend. A few days ago he told me he'd fallen in love with this "cute, cold hearted" girl so obviously I was jealous.
My friend told me to text him last night, so I did and he said that we shouldn't talk to each other anymore. I am going through a lot in other aspects of life, and he knows that, because he is the one I talk about it to. He's the one who helps me. But then he's just ditched me and when I asked why he said "don't want bæ to get annoyed"
But I've decided that when he fucks things up with her (seeing as he's messed up with a lot of people) I'm not going to be there for him, because he put a girl who he's not going to be with forever in front of his friends. That's kind of a shitty thing to do. And then it makes me feel bad about the other stuff in my life because I feel like I can't talk to him about it as he won't care- he'll be "too busy" with his new "bæ". Yes, I do sound jealous and I am. I feel embarrassed and I'm hurting 😶


I really appreciate this video. I'm okay now :)


you know what you're talkin about, thanks for your advice, this is useful


I don't like to write comments because my english is really bad but I just thought I needed to say thank you Dodie, I love your videos and this one made me cry a lot because I'm going through some things right now with my friends and I felt extremely alone 'cause no one really cares about me, but I wanted to say thank you because it feels as if you were talking to me and you told me exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you Dodie, not just for this, thank you for being here and for talking to us 💜


this is everything i needed and more. thank you.


I'm in a part where me and my girlfriend broke up because of her mom and it hurts but she promised something and broke it and now she has a boyfriend. One day I asked her when we were dating, if she likes him. She said no. I didn't think she was saying the truth at the time. And my mind was right because he and she are dating now and it hurts to see them together but I know it's okay to move on. And it's making me stronger.


I have this friend (let's call her sea) and I came out to her last year as gay and she told everyone and I had a lot self harm and depression issues last year. And still this year and a lot of toxic relationships. And it still hurts I want to cut ties but I can't I'm around her all the time because our moms are on the theatre board together. And she steals all my friends from me and I can't be happy around her anymore. I can't look her in the eye and think that I'm happy around her anymore. Yes I have a lot of healthy and happy friends ships with people. But if I cut ties she will make them turn against me because every time I'm try it always happens. Anyone I really need help.


youre amazing. Thank you so much. you're so right.


Thank you I know this video is old I'm going through a hard path with my friend I don't know what to do my friend is clueless everything they do hurts me the other night he asked me if I was mad and normally I would say I was fine  but I told him that I can't be friends with him bc it was hurting me to much i feel like I'm broken I was clean for 1 month and bc of this I broke it I hardly have anyone everyone I'm friends is better friends with him I don't know what to do I feel like I'm choking inside if that makes sense he still acts like we're friends when I told him why I was mad at him he just used everything I'd ever done back at me then the next day expected me to be ok with him idk what to do ik dodie won't see this but could someone give me advice


i need to do this with my dad but i feel like everyone thinks thats just insane and unreasonable


I needed this. I just cut ties with someone. I feel like shit but I also feel good.


This will should funny, but here me out I do this and it helps me out when cutting ties or getting over someone. In the TV Show How I Met Your Mother Ted (the main character) writes a letter about why he and the other person are no longer in a relationship or friends. Then when he feels like he is going to call or text or now a days check there social media he reads the letter to remember why they didn't work out in the first place. Trust me it helps a lot!


recently cut ties with my best friend it was so shitty but im over it now thanks to this video


Thank you. I'm trying to do this right now  it's hard.


Any advice if someone cuts you out because of a controlling boyfriend? I live in another state without a car, or else I'd go to them in person to talk about it, but I can't and they won't respond to me on any platform


When I was younger I read a couple of books about people who were in love with gay people who they KNEW were gay and I'd have no sympathy and would be like get over it<br>lol I think slightly get it now

When I was younger I read a couple of books about people who were in love with gay people who they KNEW were gay and I'd have no sympathy and would be like get over it
lol I think slightly get it now


coming back to this video because i just cut ties with my best friend and DAMN THIS HURTS


at the start of December I was broken up with and everything was so shit. I was told by him I was abusive and it really sucks but he was toxic / low key abusive and I realized this at the end if the year and so I just blocked him on everything because I can't deal w him. the thing is, he's in my friend group as I go to a youth group and it's shit cuz I have daily reminders of him (like he's in a group chat with me) and his hard. I became really close with someone else and I'm finally realizing how bad he was for me so yay


what if you're the toxic person someone has cut ties with? What if you are the bad person in the situation, but who knows it's better for the other person if you aren't in their life?


I am in a toxic friendship me and my so called friend stopped talking for a while it felt so so bad at first but then I start to feel better but after a while I hit a point  were I lost all my friends because I had to move schools suddenly and I went back to her and now I'm about to end it again soon I'm just nervous


This girl I had a thing with that I still love just got a new boyfriend. I needed this


I just broke up with my girlfriend. I feel like everything is my fault. I wanna go back to her. And hug her right now. I feel so alone.

I realize. She was a terrible manipulative person and I didn't wanna leave. This video really helped me. Thanks dodie


I'm currently going through this with my boyfriend, I'm too "nice" to break up with him....


How am i supposed to do this when i see that person every day? He's meant to be my best friend, we sit next to each other 3/5 classes and at recess and lunch.


What do you do when the person you want to cut ties with is your only friend?


For the longest time I have been friends with this one girl. She is quite toxic and bad for my mental health we have always either been in a fight or some kind of disagreement or we are on good terms but I tend to get the short end of the stick. Even though they can be small things she is constantly putting me down or making me feel less than her. She can get quite jealous and controlling so whenever I make a new friend or get closer to anyone else she can get angry and if threat doesn't make me give up the friendship she will become really close friends with the person and then feed them negative information about me. It is already quite hard for me to make friends so losing them this easily is tough. I don't know weather or not to break it off with her and if I do how to do it without doing the same to all of my friends except of a select few.


So I am still in secondary school. Previous year I fell in love with someone at school, but I'm sure he does not like me back. However, he is so sweet and nice while we don't talk a lot. I can't do much about it, because we see each other almost every day. I follow him on Facebook and Instagram and such and I'm afraid if I unfriend him he won't like me anymore as a friend. I'm really stuck and really don't know what to do.


I have this friend, we've been friends for  about 5 years, lately I feel like I'm not important to her while she's my only best friend, she has many best friends and I'm okay with that I just don't feel happy like I used to when I'm with her. She and I were fighting for a while so I hung out with a different friend and I was so happy even though my best friend wasn't there. I just feel like cutting ties is the wrong thing to do but idk, can someone help me please? Thank you.


Cutting ties is the hardest thing I've ever had to done. But god, it was the best decision I could have made.


the first point is soo important. You should never just pull yourself completely out of someone's life without warning. it's like a death for them and can be completely devastating.


Is it normal for my heart to still really hurt?


Well shit, I love him so much. I can't do this :(


Well, cutting ties with people you just know isnt that hard... but what if it's half of your family, that  you "have to" see from time to time, because thats what you do with family, even tho those 3 hours with them kills you more than anything else.... It's much harder to suddenly dissapear... I don' see other option to do that than changing the country lol


We never did date, but he said he loved me. He held my hand, we almost kissed, and then he told me he wanted to stop everything. I still love him and I cried so hard that night. I cried and cried, and I told my best friend Matthew and he said I should stop and cut ties. I agreed so I went to his house to tell him and when I saw him I realized I didn't want to let go, so I talked to him. He held my hand again, he hugged me and told me he loved me again and then everything was back to normal. I loved him, and I was waiting for him to ask me out or for him to say something that meant we could be together. He kept telling me he wasn't ready and that there was a lot on his plate. So I was like, okay I'll wait. I kept waiting and my friends kept asking are we together or when we were going to get together. Then he texted me again saying he needed to tell me something. I was worried. He said he might be moving in two years. Then he told me he wanted to date other girls because he cared about me too much too let me go if he moved. Then he told me this girl he LIKED on the bus kissed him. He didn't count it as his first kiss, but he liked her. That's what hurt. He was doing all of this with me while he liked this other girl. It hurts so much, but he didn't want me to hate him so I don't hate him. I love him and I can't let go. But I wish I could go back to him at the same time. I want him. But he doesn't want me and it hurts so much Dodie. What you have said helps so much. I think I need to let go of him, for now, just to get over him. It hurts so much. I love you Dodie and thank you for helping.


This was the best video I've seen for a while


it sounds really stupid, but i lost my soulmate. Me and her were the closest anyone could ever get to another human being without having a romantic relationship. We were friends for a year and a bit, but it felt like we knew each other for years. I sat in the bathroom with her while she showered only about 4 months into the friendship. we were so close. i messed up. i was being petty and we weren't talking as much. i tried messaging her to find that she had blocked me. on everything. instagram, iMessage, snapchat, you name it. after a few days i tried texting her number again. she replied and we talked for about 5 minutes. i asked why she did the things she did and she said "i was going through some stuff and things seemed tense" after that, we stopped talking for good. i hate myself for not saying something like "its ok. lets talk it out we are best friends". but i didn't. i miss her every day and theres still no way for me to contact her. i don't hate her for this. i took her for granted and i hate myself for doing so. not a day goes by when i don't feel guilty about the whole thing. i could have done something to fix this but i didn't. I'm mad at me. i would do anything to get her back. I'm afraid to be friends with other people because I'm afraid of messing up like i did before. but what do i know about love and soulmates I'm only 15 i shouldn't have anything to worry about I'm too young to be stressed haha cool :')


I lost my best friend of 9 years (not friends anymore, she didn't die lol) n I haven't really come to terms with it yet even though it was almost 4 months ago (woah didn't realize it was this long until just now... this is the longest I have ever gone without her...) I'm just numbing it out I guess :///


wow this was very helpful I love you beautiful advise thanks


What if hurt his feelings

What if he apologise

 And what if I'm doing this just to get back at him

Ultimately I'm going to do the same thing that he's doing to me
 Ignore him
 Not care

And maybe come off as mean :(


so.. what if you want to get over someone (romantically), but you also want to keep them in your life? cause you still want this person to be in your life, cause she/he still makes you happy, and you absolutely love his/her personality. is that possible?


This hurts knowing there are a couple people that i should really cut ties with, yet I can't because the memories mean a lot. Idk


how do i cut ties with someone that is still in my family and have no choice but to deal with it?


maybe this will help some: i have a gigantic ego. i dont want people to see me as weak so on and so forth. so when i found out my friend never really liked me i was hurt and humilated and sad. she left me pretending everything was fine. then she left. and she was gone. she never told me why. never gave my closure. me being me, with a gigantic ego, didnt bother to talk to her. i dedicated that time to self harm and blaming myself. but that never did help. what i did, that helped, was write a letter with everythig in it. ask her tell her everything i wanted to, and i saved it. sometimes i would look at her and think "i miss you. what did i do? come back.." and ahe didnt. i kwpt writing and maybe a month later it turned into "i miss you but im not sure if i want you back here with me. now, almost 9 months later, its turned into "thank you for what youve shown me in the time we were together." i would recommend not going to their social media bc i would stalk her to find out how she was doing. please stay safe


i had a horribly toxic 'best friend', to the point where i considered it abusive. i hit my lowest low, she was so horrible to me and was connected to everything in my life so i was trapped. she was around me 24/7. i was obsessed with making her happy so she wouldn't hurt me emotionally, so i just HAD to let go. i came to the conclusion that if i didnt let her go then i would get incredibly depressed, and i dont wanna think about how that would turn out. but now, i have new friends and im pretty happy. she's out of my life 100% and im so proud of myself :-) its been a few months now and we're civil, i ask her about homework and so on. when you posted this, i was in my lowest low. like, so depressed i didnt go on social media because it hurt too much to see others happy or even just ok. im glad i can watch this now with the knowledge of experience and wisdom. ❤


I have tried to cut ties with an old crush for so long because he was also one of my best friends but I have two classes a day with him and a lot of mutual friends, when I first tried I got so depressed we started talking again and then I did it again and finally got over him and so now he's been reaching out again and we're fighting again and I want to cut ties but I can't completely because I still see him every day, I don't know what to do


thank you so much for this video aweeeee


i did not cry for her, not even once. she didn't deserve any of my tears. and deep down, she had hurt me too much for a good cry to help release it. it took me so long to cleanse my blood from her venom and though i think i've achieved it, a part of me still longs for her, even 6 months after. but thinking of the long run is what kept and keeps me going. one day, i'll be completely fine, and i won't even think of her. i can't wait.


You are so adorable...this is so adorable...wow


I have this group of three friends and I know two of them are bad for me and I don't want to be around them anymore I know I'd be happier without them but I want to stay friends with the other person and I know one of the other two won't let me do that. I also sit near them in most of my classes so I can't just stay away from them and I don't really have any other friends and I don't want to be alone.


My ex randomly broke up with me and turned right around to her ex boyfriend, no explanation. So I was horribly hurt and I relasped but she keeps contacting me and says she wants to get back together. I want to get back with her, but she hurt me so fucking much. How did I get into this situation? I would talk about it with a friend or two, but I would feel awkward because they never liked the girl in the first place. I hate this situation. Thank you for the advice


fuck I really needed this thank you so much


UGHHHHHHHH I NEED TO RANT TO SOMEONE AND I FEEL LIKE I NEED TO RANT TO THEM BUT NOOOOO AHHH


Maybe some of you can give me some advice. I have an exboyfriend. We have a dog together that we both take care of (both have him for week, than change). I would be ok with that, but the problem is that we also work in the same office and I see him all the time, because he is in my view. There is no way I could sit somewhere else (company policy), but I also love this job, so I am not quitting. I unfollowed him on social media, we barely speak (mainly about the dog), there is no bad blood, but it's hard because I see him all the time and I look at him for clues like, does he have a new girlfriend? Is he wearing new clothes? How do I deal with this?


i had a big chat but i never told them everything and i want to go back and talk to them and i know i can't


When you have to do this at 11 years old ):


I have no idea if you will see this but what happens if you have to socialize with them on a weekly basis for instance in a band?


Published 4 months ago?! wish I'd seen this back then 😂


but what if you feel you have nobody besides them..


It's been a year. And every guy or girl I know just doesn't compare, I still think of him every now and then and it fucking hurts, I just miss him so much, I just don't know what to do ):


What happens if you don't have anyone besides that person?


My friend has a crush on a person who bullies her, and we (as in me and her other rfriends) keep on saying that he's an ass and doesn't deserve her admiration and love and she needs to move on desperately. She can't seem to stop crushing on him and move on, and she doesn't stop talking about him. He calls her (and he bullied me for 3 years) awful things, like fat c*nt,  bitch, etc etc. (he knows she likes him because one of his friends who knows her told him) and we've reported him and his friends like a bazillion times. He honestly can't seem to grow up and not be a bastard. Do you think I should send my friend this video? she was asking me how to move on earlier today, but I've been single for the entirety of my life.


What if you don't have people to make you feel better


lmao what if you don't have friends or anyone to come home to


I had to cut ties with someone about a week ago. Let's call the person orange. Orange was toxic because they wanted me to themselves and said I was their strength. This is not a good mindset for orange to have. Orange would put down my views on things aswell. I'm friends with oranges best friend watermelon. Watermelon wouldn't leave me alone after I cut ties with orange. They said I was a horrible person. I had to cut ties with watermelon aswell. If anyone is going through something similar, please don't hesitate to talk to me. I'm sorry for the rant I just needed to get this out.


I done this last year, and I did it horribly. A friend of mine for years had started to really get on my nerves and was changing how he acted, his beliefs and attitude were toxic; I thought the best way was to completely ignore him. I should've phased it off lightly, but idiot me thought completely ignoring him was the best idea, when it really just made me the bad guy and it very awkward. I mean it worked, but I felt I was too brutal and an asshole for completely cutting him out of my life.


thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you


where is her “pasta is good, life is sad” video:(

Graciela Lagraba wait did she private it? i just had the same problem with the conan gray i went to my first college party video and it’s so weird


i’m so sad my friend stopped talking to me for no reason and won’t tell me why i want closure ah


Thanks, i deleted Netflix and feel much more free


How can u cut ties if u live in the same apartment?


One of my ex friends did every single one of these things. I actually want to kill myself because I was hoping this would help me but it really isn't.


I feel like your talking to me personally


I see this person every day what do I do?


Honestly, Dodie, thank you so much for making this video. I've recently cut ties with somebody who meant the world to me, and for the past few months I've just been obsessing over them, creating fake social media accounts that they hadn't blocked me from just so I could see them smiling. I now realise how unhealthy this was and this video has helped me make the decision to cut them out of my life. Thank you, Dodie


Dodie, your fans love you so much!! It's amazing you post these kind of videos and share a refreshing and relatible personal side of yourself just as you do in your songs. I adore you for that. You inspire me a lot! This video is very relevant to me at the moment. Cutting ties with a toxic first love is... in a way... madness. It's been over a month since talking to him. <br>Anywho, your video reassured my clarity and I'm glad you posted this!

Dodie, your fans love you so much!! It's amazing you post these kind of videos and share a refreshing and relatible personal side of yourself just as you do in your songs. I adore you for that. You inspire me a lot! This video is very relevant to me at the moment. Cutting ties with a toxic first love is... in a way... madness. It's been over a month since talking to him.
Anywho, your video reassured my clarity and I'm glad you posted this!


This is exactly what I needed because of the situation I'm in so thank you Dodie


I wish I had been told this when I was going through this early this year. Me and a really, really close friend were having so many massive arguments and being really awful to each other. We shared so much personal stuff to each other and they did stuff and said stuff they shouldn't have, as did I . I was depressed at the time which didn't help, I tried to make it better, ended up making it worse but I was clinging on to them because I didn't want to lose a person that I had been so open with and that meant so much to me . But eventually we 'cut ties' and after 4 months we managed to work things out and become ok again, and that would have been so much easier to cope with if I had seen this video. I love u dodie so much, please continue to inspire you're followers by being you ❤❤❤❤


I have been in the process of getting over someone who I almost dated for several months now and this really put things into perspective and made me feel good. Thank you Dodie


Hey doddle, I've been watching you for a while. Watch what you do has inspired me to start my own channel. I haven't got much going for me now, but you have to start somewhere I guess. Anyways, I just wanted to drop by and tell you how much I appreciate you and your music and how inspiring you are to me. Thanks for being you :)


Dodie, thank you. <br>I really needed this right now. I love you and you are an amazing person.

Dodie, thank you.
I really needed this right now. I love you and you are an amazing person.


Just split with my boyfriend of two and a half years. I have the most wonderful friends around me and I can confirm that everything in this video WILL help. Especially the deleting on social media - It's easily the toughest aspect but be kind to yourself, as Dodie wonderfully put it <3 Love you x


dodie, i cannot explained how much this helped. i was going through a tough time when i watched this and i was crying by the 1st minute. this really helped and i didn't know i needed this until i watched it. thank you dodie. much love❤


Thank you Dodie, I've just broken up with my boyfriend as he came out as gay after a year of being together. This is exactly what I needed! You're awesome thanks. Also can I just say I love your music it helps me through everything!


Thank you Dodie, whilst I cut ties with a relationship way back in May, I still really needed this. My worst habit since then has been checking his instagram and whilst I knew it was wrong, it took watching this and you telling me I shouldn't be doing it for me to unfollow him. I'd just like to say to anyone who is/was going through this and for whatever reason needs a crutch, I'm here and I care. I often find it much easier to talk about my feelings to someone I don't then have to face the next day when I'm feeling happy or whatever (idk, I'm just not a fan of people who know one side of me to know the sad side too? probably not healthy but I know a lot of others who feel the same...) Anyway, I'm always here if anyone needs to talk. My twitter is  @ SammySimms14, and if you don't have twitter you can message me on YouTube or any of my other social medias (they're dotted about the descriptions of my videos)But you can get through this. Believe in yourself.


thank you for making this. i watched it when you first uploaded and i didn't think that i would be in this kind of situation. and everything hurts but this is a really kind and supportive thing to do.


I've had to cut several toxic relationships out of my life recently. it was hard to do but I'm happier now and looking back, it was me who started all the conversations and who put all the effort in but never really got anything back from them and yet i was told that they felt i didnt even try. Those relationships were emotionally draining and actually effected my mental health and mood a lot. watching this video and some of your other ones has helped me through this and i can't thank you enough. UPDATE: I'm now watching this in order to help me know what to say to my best friend who's being stressed out and emotionally damaged by her ex that she still has feelings for and still considers as a friend. I want to get involved and tell him what I think but I'm not going to for her sake because I want to protect her. I'm also watching this because, towards the end of this school year (I've just finished year eleven), I managed to find my voice and finally stand up to someone who has put me through hell and has still tried to act as if she hasn't done anything and that nothing has happened. I cried afterwards  and got emotional because I couldn't believe that, after all this time, I'd done it, I'd finally done it and to be completely and utterly honest, it felt so so good. Thank you for the advice Dodie, love you 💗💗💗💗xxxxx


shoot I had a bit of tears leaking when you said "If you're crying keep crying". Thanks so much for this, Dodie. I've been been in a rough patch for a long while and it felt like you totally understood, didn't judge. thank-you, thank-you.


I went through a break up earlier this year and I think that this video would have been very helpful for that. but now that I have finally broke down a few weeks ago and dealt with the letting this person go, I think that this is a really valuable video. everyone goes though this and it's no joke how important the social media things is; it just prolongs the pain.


Thanks for the perfectly timed video Dodie! I have been in a friendship that I've been wanting out of for like a year. It's just that I am only in high school. If I decided not to be friends with this person anymore, I would still see her in most my classes everyday till I graduate in 4 more years. I can't have a talk with her about it because all my other friends are also friends with her and I feel like if i stopped being friends with her that they would talk behind my back about me, and then only stand up for her and think I'm a bad person for wanting to not be friends with her. Sorry, it's all very confusing! I've been friends with her for about 4 years now and I am really done with how she always treats me and I miss how our friendship was when it first started. But if I stopped our friendship it could stop all my other friendships in school as well since they are all friends with her.


this made me cry i love u dodie, i'm in this exact situation and someone who i love a lot is treating me like i'm non-existent and acts as if they don't care, it's so hard to let go because even though i know that they're toxic and i have been having constant breakdowns daily from thinking about the situation i'm in but i can't see myself without them i love them too much


Thank you so much for this. I honestly cried and I really truly thank you so so much even just for existing because you are amazing and perfect and I don't deserve to know about you because you're just so so amazing and thank you so much for this it's honestly the most helpful video I've seen on this topic. Thank you for helping me get through life and deal with things that are sometimes hard to face. You are truly a lovely person with an even lovelier heart and soul.


I watched this before thinking of how I could've used this before with another person. And rewatching this now I think I might need to do this again, thanks for this. I love dodie so much


this helped me a lot. not only how to deal with it, but also made me realize how most of friendships are toxic. thanks <br>xxx

this helped me a lot. not only how to deal with it, but also made me realize how most of friendships are toxic. thanks
xxx


I watched this video when you put it out and now I'm watching it again because I'm cutting ties with a bad relationship thank you Dodie


Even if some of the examples didn't 100% relate to me, I was still able to apply your pieces of advice to scenarios currently relevant to me. :)<br>Thanks, Dodie! :)

Even if some of the examples didn't 100% relate to me, I was still able to apply your pieces of advice to scenarios currently relevant to me. :)
Thanks, Dodie! :)


This is a really great video and so true! Something I wish I'd heard a year or so ago.


youre the sweetest person and are helping so many people (: thanks for all you do


i love you so much. my ex dropped me and immediately went to someone else after putting me through hell, and its been a few months and im still not over it. this is the first time anything on youtube made me cry, anything kind at least, and i just love you so much. thank you for all that you do dodie❤❤


this was really nice to hear. very recently, I cut off my best friend of 12 years because she was being really selfish and just treated me horribly. it became toxic. eventually, I told her I want the friendship to end and she freaked out. she forced me into breaks that could maybe change my mind, they didn't. I finally told her I had to go and she literally was forcing me to stay. she was saying stuff like: "I refuse to let this end". it was really scary... it took a few hours for her to finally give in. that was only last week. I still myself looking at her Twitter all the time even though it makes me really upset. I'm struggling to stop, but that'll take awhile. this video helped a little bit. thank you, Dodie :)


Thank you dodie this really helped me in the place I'm in. I really need this thank you.


I really needed this. I'm really struggling on making this decision. I'm afraid I'll regret it that its a mistake to cut someone out. But at the same time its seriously holding me back and just ahhh!


Wow... I didn't realise how much I needed this! Thanks, Dodie x


I wish this video was out about a month ago. I was dealing with a girl who just made me feel like garbage.. when I did finally tell her she told me i was the reason she was depressed and that she was going to have a psychotic breakdown. I haven't talked to her since and I've been a lot happier.. so I really appreciate this video. Thank you dodie!


Honestly I've been avoiding this video for awhile, mostly because I was ignoring everything like this because I didn't want to deal with it. But I'm so glad you're not dealing with anything like this currently and I'm so glad I remembered this when I was ready to face it and needed to hear this when all my friends are busy. So thank you so much. I hope future you and future other people who watch this are living happy lives


I love you Dodie. I was crying the whole video


You're really the nicest person ever, thanks for making this video ❤


this helps !! i was once in a toxic friendship with someone for a year or two, and i could never get out. when you know it's time to go, then go. tell them why, but if they try to pull you back in and not acknowledge it then leave.


My heart dodieeee, it's in a million tiny pieces. And yes, this made me sob.


You couldn't of posted this at a better time. Thank you ❤


I've heard, scientifically, psychologically, that it takes 11 weeks, 5 days, and 3 hours to get over a breakup. You can do it ^-^ You're strong. It won't be long.


i commented on this video a few weeks ago talking about a friend who was seeming slightly toxic. well it's gotten worse. she literally told my friend and i she was going to leave us for the popular people, but she was going to keep talking to us, so if anything went wrong she could fall back on us. she told us we were her second choice. she brings us down constantly and makes us miserable, and yet i hate the idea of not having her. i don't know what to do, but dodie, thank you for this video <3


Just got broken up with and this is helping so much ❤❤ the tears keep flowing but now I know it's okay


Thank you Dodie for this. I've liked this guy for 5 years and he's nonreciprocated these feelings yet I still feel like I need him. I feel like I still like him even when he's done some pretty shady shit to me. I'm finally going to take him off snapchat since he is toxic to me and I need to forget about him since he doesn't care about me.


can you do another one of these just talking about this? i'm having such a massive problem getting over someone who i knowww is toxic but i just feel so sick at the thought of them with anyone else. i ended our relationship last week and deleted them from social media but this is all so raw..


a very lovely person cut me off and i loved them. i have been crying for so long keeping it inside of me and never saying anything because my friends love her. i finally told someone and i feel hurt but decent. i am content that i got to the point where i understood why i was doing this. thank you dodie. you are a wonderful person.


Wow, I am so thankful that this was uploaded right when I needed it. I really needed to hear this


really really needed this right now. i came to the decision that i wanted to end my relationship because i knew my feelings had faded, even though his were still obviously very strong for me and i was still constantly being told that he was perfect and amazing for me. after realising this, i distanced myself so he would be less hurt and i would feel less guilt for breaking his heart. following this decision to distance myself, i was able to see how unhealthy we were together, how he manipulated me and brought everything back to him and how he felt, and how when i stopped being as touchy, he got very mad (which he had at other small things before but love is blind and all that) and now after breaking up with him and seeing all his 'tactics' to try and make me jealous and how he's dropped his 'perfect guy' act to go back to the jerk he was (as his friends tell me) before we met. :)

it will be okay. things will get better. if you have that nagging feeling in your gut that they are not making you happy, follow it. dont carry on pretending because you cant bare to lose them or the guilt that you feel, it will just hurt you both more. you can get through this. sometimes you have to do hard things like cutting ties or falling out of love with someone to see that. <3


Ah man I really wish I had seen this just a couple months ago, but thank you for this, I will cherish it and come back to this when I need a more objective voice


I needed this. I just cut ties with an abusive friend of mine. We used to be very close but then she became more and more abusive towards me. I was willingly allow myself to be her punching bag, which was a big mistake. She didn't care about me, she kept using the victim card, and the fact that she has some issues. It was a toxic relationship and I started to distance myself away from her. It's still hard to see her alone, she hardly has any friends. It still hurts to see her like this. However, I started hanging out with a new bunch of friends, realising that the hard decision I made was worth the pain because eventually, I receive better frienships and I feel a lot happier than I was before.


Thankful for this and thankful for you 😊❤


I really needed this right now. Thank you x


wow dodie this was much needed, thank you💕


This did make me cry, but i know it's okay to cry now. I cut ties with my bestfriend because we had an extremely toxic relationship. I was really dependent and she was also but she didn't express it, only used my dependency as a tool to manipulate (I'm unsure if it was conscious or not). Not to mention I thought I was in love with her (I later realized it was obsession rather than true love) and when she didn't respond well to that, it took everything I had to suppress it. The only thing I regret is not explaining all this to her but, in my defence I had no idea what was happening, why i felt so overwhelmed with negative emotion. It's been a long time since I cut ties yet it still has it's impacts. i know it won't last forever... or at least I hope it won't.


it's so hard for me to express my thoughts to people especially to someone I wanna cut ties with


It's stupid to react on every YouTube video, but I just wanted to say that I really needed these tips and not that saying these things will help or something but I just wanted to say this, as part of the proces (accepting and stuff) okay bye Dodie, I discovered you and I'm happy about it 😘


was just recently broken up with by someone ive been in a relationship for a year/ best friends for 2. We still talk everyday and he says things like he just needs time and we might get back together and i feel like im just being strung along. I havent talked to him all day by choice and its the first time in years. This video reminds me that ill be okay and i dont need him. Thank you Dodie. X


What someone should do and what someone can do are sometimes entirely different. I am not a stranger to people ghosting on relationships.


Everyone is explaining their stories so here goes mine: There's this boy, he has been my crush for more than a year and a half and he is the person that I liked the most in my whole life.
One day, 6 months ago, I told him that I liked him (I could't wait, normally I'm a very shy person when it comes to that but I couldn't hold it in). He doesn't feel the same and when I realized I was devastated. I think I'm in love with him, I cried a lot because of him.
I really need to stop thinking about him, the thing is that we go together to nearly all our classes and it's hard to ignore that fact (lol, I'm sooo smart), even thought I tried to get over him on summer but it didn't work. But anyways this video is really helpful and I hope someday I read this comment again in the future and I don't feel the same as now,


I need this today aha.. thank you dodie ❤


I'm studying to be a therapist and I couldn't have said it any better. You are a wonderful soul. Thank you.


thank you so much for this video. you posted it when i really needed it.


I had to get rid of my friend group and crush, which were toxic in my life, which was extremely hard because they were all the ones i hung out with at school and everywhere and i had a good cry and than just showered and spilled to my mum and got some cold water. I got some work done, rewatched this and now.... i feel.... better. Already i feel much better.


What happens if you still need to be "involved" with this person in a social, work related setting? When you're not talking but still need to be civil, and every time you look at this person it just hurts?


I fell in love with this boy. We spoke constantly and everything just felt so strong that I rushed to the conclusion of that I was in love. I wasnt. I loved the idea of love, the idea of being able to say I was loved and to be with someone. But then one day, I knew. I was there, in the middle of a conversation with him online, when I just stopped talking. I realised yeah, I loved him, as a friend. No futher. So instead of talking it over with him, I just stopped going online. I ignored his constant worrying and I got so upset that I believed I was a completely evil person for doing it. So about 7 months after no contact except a message i sent somewhere in the middle of that time saying just the word "Sorry" which I straight away unsent yet somehow he still saw, I messaged him. I told him pretty much everything. But whenever he tries to talk to me now, he's like a different person. After I left, a lot happened to both of us. And everything that he said happened to him, I blamed on myself. I told myself he would have been fine if I had stayed. But it helped. Both of us, I think. The relationship never seemed to be legitimate and slightly faked and I think it was good after all. I needed this video, and through the comments I know that it wasn't all my fault, it had to be done, okay maybe in a better manner, but it happened and it's over now, and I see that however hard those months were and how it still is, I'm not the only one, and it was the healthy choice. Thank you for this video


thank you so much dodie <3 I really needed this


"I'm just gonna check their Instagram" yeeeaaaaah that's me almost every day, it doesn't end well people!


you may not be a therapist but these videos about life in general that you make are so therapeutic to me, it's like they're a safe place for broken-hearted, sad, angry people to come to and help them not feel as lonely as they might feel (if that makes sense?)

anyway i just can't put my love for you and your videos into words. i just wish i could meet you and give you a big hug and try to convey into that hug how much of an impact you have in my life. i love you dodie ❤


This is my current situation. And yay I've been doing the things she said so far. ugh


So true. All of this. I had to go through this a couple months ago with a guy I was best friends with but then fell for and for a while it was mutual and then I wasn't sure and the he wasn't sure but then I decided I REALLY liked him and like planned to tell him but within a week he met a girl, went out with her and fell in love. So anyway the day I was gonna tell him he told me about this girl and asked for my oppinion and I couldn't just keep quiet this time so I told him I liked him and he was like "why didn't you tell ne before" and I was like "idk. why didn't you? i know you liked me too" and shit just went down. He seems happy now tbh. He's probably gonna marry this girl. So I had to cut ties completely and now its like we don't know eachother and the first month was HELL. I cried every night to sleep, but I had to remind myself that this too shall pass and anyway I also thought my ex was the love of my life but look at me now. And I know I'm strong and I can go through this and if I can anyone can. So feel the pain. Cry. It's hell, but it's also a gift in disguise. I will give you so many unexpected things like empathy, creativity, character, etc. You just have to be willing to let it be.


Finally broke it off between a very persuasive "best friend" of five years. I literally feel so much better..


i had a best friend and from one day to another he dissapeared, he stopped talking to me and I was so worried. My friends told me he was a jerk and that I should just let it go but I know he has a lot of problems and not to much people to count and I believed he appreciated my company but I guess he didn't. It was so hard to me to cut ties, thanks dodie for the advice, I feel like you are a close friend to me I love you ♡


Got sent this video by a friend. Thank you for the help ❤


about 7 months ago, i became friends with this guy, went through the talking phase for a month, dated him for 3 weeks then he broke up with me saying that he wasn't ready for a relationship. 3 days later, he's chasing after some new girl but a month later it turns out that she rejected him and he stopped talking to her and they got into this fight over social media. i was brought into it, the girl talking about how he only broke up with me to get with her and he insisted that he made a mistake and "downgraded". ever since then, we've had small talk about 3 times, always on social media, but i still see him at least every week and i guess i'm still not over the fact that my first genuine boyfriend who made me feel a different kind of happiness whenever i was with him is still around but just not a part of my life anymore, yet i still batter myself into thinking about him everyday. i think that all i need is closure, i don't think i have any feelings anymore for him but i'm just upset that he lied to why he broke up with me and never apologized for what he did. to this day, i still think about talking to him but i just don't know how and if i should really do it :/


Ok, I have a problem kind of along the lines of cutting ties with someone but it's really different than this.
If anyone could help me with this, it would be great.
I have this friend, and I've gotten to the point where I just can't be around her anymore. In fact, I can barely even call her my friend at this point. But our families are good friends, and I see her almost every week. Plus, my sister is good friends with her, so it would be really hard to remove her from my life.
First of all, I'm polysexual, but I used to identify as pansexual. She was the first person I came out to, and she outed me to everyone at her school. We don't go to the same school, but I'm good friends with a lot of people at the school. It didn't affect those friendships much, though. The problem was, she also outed me to her mom, who told my mom. One of my worst fears is coming out, so I had to make something up to cover it up, which I'm not sure my mom fully believes.
Second of all, I'll just say it plainly: she makes me feel like complete shit. She steals my friends and makes them not talk to me. She's a bitch to me and then wonders why I get mad about it.
Third of all, she's made me lose some of my best friends because she used to be good friends with them, but a secret about her got out and she blamed it on them. Now a bad image of them is implanted in my mom's mind, so she won't let me be friends with them. I still talk to them as often as I can, since they're some of the nicest and most accepting people ever, but I have to be cautious, and it's really hard.
I have no idea what to do and how to get the message across to her and my family that I can't be friends with her anymore.
Sorry for my bullshit emotional garbage, but I need the help. Thanks.


I SO NEEDED TO HEAR THIS THANK YOU DODIE XXXX


I wish I could do more than just like this video. :)


thank you for this💕 it helped me a lot.. Love you💕


thank you for uploading this, i recently broke up with my boyfriend and its nice to get some advice n stuff


what happens if a friend of yours cuts ties with you for the sole purpose that we are no longer on the same soul level, maybe not on the same level with regards to interests as well,but what if you weren't expecting it. People sympathize with those who leave, but what about those who they leave behind.


this came at a weirdly perfect time... thank you!


i was in a 3 years relationship, things started to get bad at the end and we broke up because he wanted to travel to another country.  I think all the shit that he did made me think "What the fuck am I trying to make things work and he just don't want it anymore?" I felt sad at the day, but after I was fine. I'm still surprised. He said he loves me, and I think I really love him, but not with me.


I had a friend who was extremely toxic, she went from being my worst bully to becoming my best friend. I essentially had to befriend her because of all our mutual friends who would've made life hard for me had I not done so. During our friendship she would verbally abuse me; slurs, threats, yelling like I've never heard from anyone. Her family also used to enabled her bad behaviour, cousins and parents. Eventually I became her only friend who she wasn't related to. This year, through many excuses I left that friend and unfriended her entire family IRL. It was the best thing to do and I while I felt like shit during those initial few weeks I feel so much better now. I reconnected with my healthy friends, made new friends (also this friend made me feel like I was traitorous for trying to hangout with anyone else) and now I feel like I can be myself. I don't feel discouraged, I feel like I was being gaslight for years and now I'm free.

For anyone going through it will get better, even the worst of times will pass.