"I once went sober for 11 years!"
Then what happened?
"I turned 12."


"I made out with a reaaaally hot girl. Wasn't the best kisser.."


At home : Hey, I've been home for summer for 4 months and haven't had a single drink<br>At Uni: Yeh, friday morning sounds like a great time to start doing shots

At home : Hey, I've been home for summer for 4 months and haven't had a single drink
At Uni: Yeh, friday morning sounds like a great time to start doing shots

@Ellen Jade i know its a year late but man was that me, between exams drowning my failure

BlitzBro Razgriz or start on Monday morning of exam week?


i love how like "user friendly" dodie's videos are; she constantly makes topics that might seem scary but are actually easy to hear about without sugarcoating the topic U R THE BOMB AT DIS


I always find that you don't really realize how drunk you are until you go to the toilet, sit down and realize how much the world actually is spinning

I have a slow metabolism in general, so in college I'd often drink way too much just to be at the same level of drunk/having fun as my friends, get horribly sick whenever I got home late at night, and wake up with horrendous hangovers. I was regularly drinking a bottle of rum or vodka at parties where everyone else was getting by on like, a couple beers. I'd lay down in bed at 3 AM, realize I'm about to get sick, and have to practically crawl to the bathroom because all of a sudden the room is spinning and I'm stumbling way worse than I was when I was at the party

Because I'm in the real world and showing up to my job hungover is WAY more problematic for me than showing up to class that way, I've had to learn how to control that - learn that I don't have to smashed to have fun and consider that the alcohol won't really fully hit me until probably the end of the night.

Especially if the bathroom has a mirror, and you notice that your face looks really WEIRD and also kinda better than usual (only that it doesn't, it's just your vision).

That's true for any drug. If you're ever on something and not sure how you feel, go to the bathroom and sit there for a few minutes.

Totally. Or when you just go to the toilet and starts laughing at yourself for feeling so funny (Maybe just me)

For me it's usually when I lie down with the light off. I have a bad tendency of jumping into bed, sending my head spinning, and the suddenly incline makes all the acid from the alcohol shift in my stomach and I feel vommy. I've never thrown up standing or sitting down, it's always after I lie down for a second then bolt upright and leg it for the bathroom.

Clara Bane For me it's if I stand up and walk.


Dodie: I mAdE OUt WiTH A reALly Hot gUrL
Me: i love you dodie.

ALSO lucazade is the best thing for illness :D


Man I really stan Dodie's friends,  they're so caring and ready to care for her on the drop of a dime. I really hope to one-day to have friends like that


I'm so pleased youtubers are making videos like this. I'm 20 and have grown up with an alcoholic dad. We've had many screamed conversations and forced trips to the doctors. This year he's cut out red wine completely. He can control his drinking with everything else but with red wine it gets bad very quickly. It's been a hard road but I know it was even worse when my brothers were young (they're 20+ years older than me) <br>If you don't think you could go without drinking alcohol, please have a think. It's a terrifying problem to have, as most addictions are. I for one haven't drunk anything this year so far, but that isn't saying much because I only have 1 or 2 when I'm out anyway. Good luck Dodie!

I'm so pleased youtubers are making videos like this. I'm 20 and have grown up with an alcoholic dad. We've had many screamed conversations and forced trips to the doctors. This year he's cut out red wine completely. He can control his drinking with everything else but with red wine it gets bad very quickly. It's been a hard road but I know it was even worse when my brothers were young (they're 20+ years older than me)
If you don't think you could go without drinking alcohol, please have a think. It's a terrifying problem to have, as most addictions are. I for one haven't drunk anything this year so far, but that isn't saying much because I only have 1 or 2 when I'm out anyway. Good luck Dodie!


Honestly that's nothing to joke about, I get your humor but at the same time if you can stay sober, stay sober. Smoke some weed but stay away from alcohol.

It's been 3 years since I've been sober, I'm 17

i’ve been sober for 3 months, i’m eleven... don’t ask

i’ve been sober for like 10 hours and i’m 15🤪

I've been sober for 12 and a half years<br>I am 12 and a half years old

I've been sober for 12 and a half years
I am 12 and a half years old

so now you're about 16, arent you? me too. and i just... won't drink alcohol. NEVER. I have once, because my father was drinking some beer, and i thought - let's see, so he gave me this tiny winy amount, and i HATED it!

Same ish. I’m 15 but I accidentally chugged a glass of whiskey a year ago because i thought it was something else. I was really really disgusting but still 😂

AngelsOfMinds
You sure you didn't mean 14?
Drinking at the age of 4 is very problematic

Nabbcat haha I'm 14 and I've been drunk like 4 times which to some of my friends is loads and to some of my friends is hardly any 😂😂

i started drink strong 3 year old stealing granddads gin

Nabbcat I've been sober for 2 years.

I'm ten.
Before you say anything bad, I only took like 2 sips of my dad's beer once when I was 8 and that was the only time I wasn't sober

I'm also 14 but where I'm from it's "normal" to see kids at this age drinking and I've never actually drank only like a sip in a 15 birthday lol

i have been for... 2 years? i had a small drink at a graduation party. Ive never been like - drunk, but i had definitely had alcohol. (oh btw im 14 next month haha)

Nabbcat haha 😂 I was 15 when I had my first drink, there's no rush, u might decide you never want to drink, that's fine! 🙂

i'm not as strong as you, i'm 12 and have only been sober for 10 years:(

I've been sober for 14 years...I'm not 14.

this is the funniest thing I've seen all day thanks for the laugh

Nabbcat I've been sober for 13 years, I'm 4

Nabbcat Hah. I went 13.8 billion years without getting drunk.

Cuz I didn't exist

Same lol (I'm 18)

I stopped drinking at the age of 4.

Nabbcat i laughed waaaaaay too hard at this comment


England, and Europe in general, has a much more involved drinking culture than in the U.S. I think in the U.S. most people start getting drunk consistently in college (University). Personally, I don't have a high dependence on alcohol because being drunk doesn't give me a personality or confidence like it does with most people. It makes me feel good, and I'm generally happier, but outwardly I'm almost the same. For a university student, I drink less than average, since most people drink from Thursday until Saturday every week, but I still have a few of tips in addition to Dodie's.
1. Flavored vodka tastes good, so don't be fooled and drink a lot of it.
2. Mixed drinks also taste good, and they hide the amount of alcohol in them so always make sure to mix them yourself or watch when someone else mixes it for you.
3. You're gonna pee a lot when you drink, so make sure you know where the bathroom is. This serves a dual purpose in case you need to vomit.
4. Keep track of your friends. They are your lifeline and they may also need your help as the night goes on.
5. Just don't go overboard. Keep in mind that it's completely fine to drink less than your friends, and if they legitimately don't like you for being like that then they aren't really your friends.


as a muslim, it's forbidding for us to drink alcohol or anything could affect the mind in general because it may end up in a terrible outcome that you couldn't have foreseen, so I haven't tried alcohol and I don't think I would if I could, I just don't like the idea of not controlling my actions properly

Very true. I'm atheist and the idea of poison circulating through my veins and killing cells, especially those of the brain is not pleasant.

As a member of the church of Jesus Christ of latter-day saints, I also am forbidden to drink but I agree that it's better to stay in control of your actions. I also don't like being dependant on substances. I like that that's something both of our religions have in common!


here’s the link if you still wanna listen! https://youtu.be/iGtw6EPdYd4

Rachel Heselgrave btw I’ve seen it on this website that shows you unlisted and deleted vids. It is indeed very good

Brenna Williama its unlisted but ive watched and trust me its art


honestly, the culture around alcohol for university students in america is... so bad :/ the thing is, the drinking age here is 21, so the majority of students can't legally drink. i feel like this makes binge drinking more common, because when the weekend rolls around, everyone wants to go places where binge drinking is encouraged (like, say, frat parties). also it's really weird because drinking is expected and everyone encourages you to DRINK DRINK DRINK but then as soon as someone crosses over into being <b>too</b> drunk and gets sloppy, everyone is like, "oh, look, they can't handle their alcohol. what a lil bitch. get them out of here before they puke on the floors."

honestly, the culture around alcohol for university students in america is... so bad :/ the thing is, the drinking age here is 21, so the majority of students can't legally drink. i feel like this makes binge drinking more common, because when the weekend rolls around, everyone wants to go places where binge drinking is encouraged (like, say, frat parties). also it's really weird because drinking is expected and everyone encourages you to DRINK DRINK DRINK but then as soon as someone crosses over into being *too* drunk and gets sloppy, everyone is like, "oh, look, they can't handle their alcohol. what a lil bitch. get them out of here before they puke on the floors."


This is super cool and I'm so glad she's being honest and open about going sober for the month. Go Dodie!


None of my family drinks, so it's never been in my life. I am very proud of you for doing this Dodie. Hopefully you'll learn that you don't have to be drunk to have a good time in life:)


So proud of you for taking this big step! You got this Dodie! ❤👍👍


I hope you can make it Doodie. No judgements, No criticism... I just hope you can do it :)


I still can't even finish a drink :"D normally one sip and I'm like "yep nope tastes bad nope" :')

soulcatch I just think the cyanide and happiness “you don’t like Alcohol, you have Stockholm syndrome”

@Richelle de Neef Malibu in hot Cocoa with whipped cream and shredded coconut on top YUUUM! 😍 <br>I drank only Bailey when I started going to parties and well.. I gained some weight, but at least it tasted alot better than beer and vodka/rum/gin!😅 Also the fat seemed to absorb most of the alcohol cause I never had hangovers 😀

@Richelle de Neef Malibu in hot Cocoa with whipped cream and shredded coconut on top YUUUM! 😍
I drank only Bailey when I started going to parties and well.. I gained some weight, but at least it tasted alot better than beer and vodka/rum/gin!😅 Also the fat seemed to absorb most of the alcohol cause I never had hangovers 😀

what are yall drinking😂 I loveee malibu tho its just like coconut soda?

I’m like that so much and my parents are exasperated by it. I’m 13 and they act like that.😂

BananaJamana I have the same relationship with alcohol I mean it tastes bad why why'd you even wanna drink it

Jamie you don't need alcohol to have a good time right! I love your videos 🖤🖤

lol yes this is another reason I don't drink very much

an obvious answer to your question; because it gets you drunk.

Same I'd rather just have a soda or something at least it tastes good.

Nothing wrong with that, if you don't like the taste you don't have to drink it. There's lots of tasty beverages available, I don't see why the alcohol is a necessity  : )

It's an acquired taste.  Keep with it and you will begin to like it.  Also there are many different choices of drinks, such as the aforementioned jello shots.

one of the reasons I don't drink alcohol. my mindset is like, why should I drink something that tastes bad?


I love your pretty flower in your hair!! I try not to drink, just makes me feel sick without ever having that buzzed feeling people talk about. I know this may sound posh, but try a tea bar (okay, it may be a normal thing around London and Derby, but they are rare here in the US xD). It's really cozy in winter, and I like to take my laptop with me and just mess around on it while trying different teas.

Doddy, I just want to say thank you for your example and sharing your experience with mental illness. It has encouraged me to admit my problem and to take care of it rather than skirting around the problem. Lots of love to you <3

@BellaGini, as Alexander Zarris said, you're confounding the pharmacological term depressant (aka a sedative) with the psychological term depression. Alcohol is a depressant and lowers CNS activity, but I cannot find any evidence to suggest that regular (but responsible) alcohol consumption causes depression. Alcohol abuse and the accompanying withdrawal can cause depression and anxiety, but again this does not in any way suggest that alcohol causes depression.
I was also not suggesting in anyway that self-medicating anxiety with alcohol is a good thing, only that that may be what draws people to drinking. This can clearly be seen in that benzodiazepines are commonly prescribed for GAD, but can lead to worsened anxiety when abused.
I don't appreciate being patronized because I was skeptical of a poorly worded (and seemingly unfounded) claim. Even if I were wrong, dismissing people by saying "just google it" does not help educate people about the topic.

A depressant is a drug that slows the central nervous system and its functions (ex. Slower heart rate, slower respiration, impaired speech and movement, slow reaction time). A depressant is not called that for it being known to cause depression. Just letting you guys know:) But yeah, alcohol coincidentally happens to be a depressant that ALSO causes depression if used frequently, so I second that fact👍

@MoosiePoo Well, alcohol is a depressant. Just google it and you find a lot of information on how it causes and increases existing depression. Of course it's not the one and only cause, but it definitely doesn't help, I'm sure we can agree on this one ;) <br>I would, however, not go as far as to think that general anxiety disorder is preferable to alcoholism. They both suck in different ways and it's so important to acknowledge them as diseases which people need help for.

@MoosiePoo Well, alcohol is a depressant. Just google it and you find a lot of information on how it causes and increases existing depression. Of course it's not the one and only cause, but it definitely doesn't help, I'm sure we can agree on this one ;)
I would, however, not go as far as to think that general anxiety disorder is preferable to alcoholism. They both suck in different ways and it's so important to acknowledge them as diseases which people need help for.

i love this video, i think it's very honest, insightful, and helpful. thank you! don't be sad and keep making videos!

That's... I don't believe that unless you give me a source. To imagine that we've found a such a simple and direct source to depression seems highly unlikely.<br>Regardless I'm just suggesting what Dodie might enjoy about drinking and why she might feel such a strong desire to drink. Knowing what might be causing your problems is helpful in trying to deal with them. Alcoholism is fucked, and I would highly suspect that general anxiety disorder is preferable to it.

That's... I don't believe that unless you give me a source. To imagine that we've found a such a simple and direct source to depression seems highly unlikely.
Regardless I'm just suggesting what Dodie might enjoy about drinking and why she might feel such a strong desire to drink. Knowing what might be causing your problems is helpful in trying to deal with them. Alcoholism is fucked, and I would highly suspect that general anxiety disorder is preferable to it.

alcohol has also been proven to cause depression

doddlevloggle that's sad sweetie..sending only love to you💙

alcohol has been proven to help people with anxiety, so that's what you might be enjoying when you drink.

I'm sorry Dodie. Don't listen to them. What you're doing is outrageously brave, and even more so because you chose to share it with us. I was raised by an alcoholic, and I can appreciate how much effort it can take to wean yourself off something so "addictive." You're amazing, and i'm sure you can do it. Much love xx

i like how you're honest with us. You choose to share this with us, and some may judge but at least you're not being fake. I support your honesty and I still love the real Dodie. Nothing you said changes that

Hello Dodie ❤ Could you please make a video about your derealization? I have anxiety and get dp/dr on my bad days. It'd be nice to hear about how someone else experiences it.

Hi Dodie. I just wanted to let you know that I love you so very much and you are a huge inspiration for me. You are an amazing and talented person and there is no one else like you in the world. And just know that you have followers here for you no matter what. :)

I'm so surprised by how different the comments are today than normal :(. Thanks for being honest and lovely dodie ♥

doddlevloggle I think it's a good thing you do this Dodie. Drinking to get wasted sounds like a waste to me.. So I'd advise you to, after January, only drink when you're with friends and you're feeling happy. <br>Depression or loneliness are even worse combined with alcohol ;)

doddlevloggle I think it's a good thing you do this Dodie. Drinking to get wasted sounds like a waste to me.. So I'd advise you to, after January, only drink when you're with friends and you're feeling happy.
Depression or loneliness are even worse combined with alcohol ;)

ahh don't listen to them though, there's a ton of people that are here to support you :) some people just like causing drama and being mean for no reason :~)


Dodie, I'm so proud of you for testing the waters and making sure you're alright! :) I hope this month goes well for you, and I'm so excited for your VEDIF! Woo!


Just saying you look so cute with your hair up in a messy bun


I started drinking when I was 12 years old. At first, it was only sips of fireball whiskey because it tasted so good. By the time I was 13, i had started taking shots of vodka. I would take one every other night just to have the feeling of doing something rebellious because I thought it was cool and I wanted to fit in with the people around me. My life had taken a turn for the worst when I was about to turn 14 though, so instead of drinking to look cool or fit in, I started drinking to numb the pain. I started drinking alone and drinking a lot. I didn't see this as a bad thing because I didn't get bad hangovers and I thought "i'm not going out to parties drinking and getting raped so whats the big deal?" I started to gain more weight from it and when I turned 15 I got extremely suicidal I had three suicide attempts due to being depressed and worrying about what happened when I was 13 almost 14. I started to drink just to get that feeling of being numb and also to have the idea of "if i drink this whole bottle of vodka, i might not wake up in the morning because of alcohol poisoning." I really just wanted to die. But one night I got so numb that I couldn't  move at all and I ended up spending three days sitting in one chair vomiting. I'm glad I experienced this because I absolutely hate alcohol now and the thought of drinking makes me sick to my stomach. Im 16 now and i'm in a better place mentally and physically, and im glad that i survived because I would have missed so much if i would have taken my life. This is to anyone out there who drinks to be numb. Don't drink, its so bad for you and I know that it numbs you  but so do other things. You can get anti-depressants or you could have medical marijuana. Just be safe and know that its okay to talk about it. If you don't have anyone to talk to about your problems, reply to my comment and Ill try to help. dodie's comment section is always and accepting and safe place for you to rant and get things off of your chest because we all understand. I love you all <3


As someone who has an alcoholic father, can I just say that I am so so so proud of you and Lucy for acknowledging your problems early on before things can escalate further (I personally don't think you two are alcoholics but this is just an outsider's perspective so ahh). As for my feelings about alcohol, I've had to make the decision to not drink because I'm afraid of the genetic predisposition I have. Currently at uni, so some people find it really odd that I don't drink at all. Also having to balance being the sober friend. I want to help people but some people take advantage of that since they can rely on a sober person to be there to keep them from getting into too much trouble. Difficult dynamic really.

i have this same problem dude, i can't tell you how many weird comments people make towards me at parties about not drinking. my dad's an alcoholic as well. sucks being taken advantage of to be the DD for reasons like that


I'm so glad you've decided to do this. When you first started talking about your depersonalization and depression, I was always concerned about how much you drink because really, you aren't supposed to have much alcohol at all when you have mental illness because it very easily makes it worse, as a depressed person who had to be told by my doctor to not drink I know it's hard but I'm so proud that you are trying this, love you!


I'm so proud of you for acknowledging this and making such a hard choice. you can do it!<br>I'm from Canada and alcohol is definitely such a normalized lifestyle. I made the choice to stop drinking about five years ago for some similar reasons to you, and the hardest part (still) is the expectation that everyone over the age of 16th drinks. people just don't understand when I tell them I choose not to. But hey, after a few years of trying to use alcohol to fit in and feel "normal" I realized it wasn't right for me and I've been sober since. you can do it :)

I'm so proud of you for acknowledging this and making such a hard choice. you can do it!
I'm from Canada and alcohol is definitely such a normalized lifestyle. I made the choice to stop drinking about five years ago for some similar reasons to you, and the hardest part (still) is the expectation that everyone over the age of 16th drinks. people just don't understand when I tell them I choose not to. But hey, after a few years of trying to use alcohol to fit in and feel "normal" I realized it wasn't right for me and I've been sober since. you can do it :)


Hi Dodie, I love you so much xx This video actually made me realise how in Sydney, Australia getting 'trashed' on the weekend and drinking every night is just a normal part of the culture and it is quite overwhelming. Me and my friends still aren't legally allowed to drink but its normal for people to sneak alcohol into parties and every Friday or Saturday night get horribly drunk and then have to deal with the consequences of what their 'drunken self' did. I have grown up in a family where I have noticed what alcohol can do to relationships and I don't want to really get into drinking (that might change as I get older). It is quite intense for me to be the person that says "I'm okay" when offered alcohol and I end up being the friend that cleans up the vomit or deals with the emotional surrounding people being too drunk. Anyway, back to the point, I think what you are doing is so amazing and it is so strong of you to understand and evaluate situations. All your videos make me so happy and your singing gives me chills. Keep being awesome xx


Thanks for sharing this!! The introspection required for this is so important and seeing it from a vlogger that I watch is really inspiring!


I honestly adore you for putting those actual footages in the beginning I think it was very brave and I think it's so You that you won't just talk about it you actually show how it really is I think it made the message stronger. Thank you for not making the truth look nicer


omg Dodie you have been such a help you bring happiness to me your so pure and to know someone so beautiful and pure as you is suffering from similar things i am is amazing thank you !


I started to have second thoughts on my alcohol consume lately and then I stumbled across Lucy's video and loved it. It was so brave and made it a "thing" I could reflect on. That you put a video up now too makes it even more real. Nobody really talks about it. But I do feel like i may have a problem (i had the exact same reaction as you at Lucy's video, I was like "I could never ever go sober") and I want to talk about it and I want other people to talk about it to shed some light on it. So thank you for this


Thank you for being open about this. When I went through a rather bad time, dealing with family losses and depression, and my only solution was to drink. I could last two days at most without drinking before I'd have to drink again. I didn't face my problems and it was mainly because of some friends who pulled me from the gutter and looked after me. That was rock bottom. I spent a year sober before reintroducing alcohol and ice learned my limits. But because of the stigma around it, I found it difficult to admit to. Now that I'm older, it's easier to talk about but these type of issues need to be brought up in daily conversations. It needs to be normalised so people are able to see the symptoms better.


Student alcohol culture is weird. On the one hand, it can be a bit worryingly blazé sometimes to drinking a LOT, but on the other hand, I'm not much of a drinker and I've never met resistance to that. As in, if I say that I don't want any more or I'm not drinking at all that night, I've never had people encouraging me with that "peer" pressure schools always warn you of. I don't think student drinking has to be as scary as people think it is, as long as you surround yourself with the right people (which seems to be the answer to everything haha)

Peer pressure is a real, subtle thing. I went straight edged for my first year of college, but slipped up twice at the end of the year. Drinking is enticing when everyone around you is having fun with it, and I guess that's why I did. I also found a safe space to do it, so that helps.<br>In colleges in Brazil, there's a bit of pressure for freshmen to get drunk at parties from the older students but, at least where I studied, a couple of no's and I wasn't even offered anything.

Peer pressure is a real, subtle thing. I went straight edged for my first year of college, but slipped up twice at the end of the year. Drinking is enticing when everyone around you is having fun with it, and I guess that's why I did. I also found a safe space to do it, so that helps.
In colleges in Brazil, there's a bit of pressure for freshmen to get drunk at parties from the older students but, at least where I studied, a couple of no's and I wasn't even offered anything.

As a uni student who is straight edge, I very rarely feel pressured by peers or others my own age, however I do often feel pressured and almost shunned by my parents and their friends. Adults seem to have a way bigger problem with my choice than my friends ever have 😂

Some people are arseholes about it if you don't want to drink, or want to stop drinking, but they're usually toxic people in general. I've met a few people who like to get other people drunk but aren't usually that interested in drinking much themselves, and they get shunned pretty quickly because they're also the kind of people who think it's funny to spike drinks or get with people who are clearly out of it. <br>In general, and in my experience, people are pretty chill about how you decide to have fun, and don't attempt to pressure you into things you don't want to do. The worst example of 'peer pressure' I've seen is a playful 'oh you're being boring tonight, right?' or something. I imagine it could be a little intimidating as a non-drinker to go out with a group of people who like drinking (or something else, this applies to a lot of things) but I drink plenty so I have no first hand experience there. I have been out with straight edge people before, though, and I've never got the impression they felt pressured to drink or weren't enjoying themselves because everyone else was shitfaced.

Some people are arseholes about it if you don't want to drink, or want to stop drinking, but they're usually toxic people in general. I've met a few people who like to get other people drunk but aren't usually that interested in drinking much themselves, and they get shunned pretty quickly because they're also the kind of people who think it's funny to spike drinks or get with people who are clearly out of it.
In general, and in my experience, people are pretty chill about how you decide to have fun, and don't attempt to pressure you into things you don't want to do. The worst example of 'peer pressure' I've seen is a playful 'oh you're being boring tonight, right?' or something. I imagine it could be a little intimidating as a non-drinker to go out with a group of people who like drinking (or something else, this applies to a lot of things) but I drink plenty so I have no first hand experience there. I have been out with straight edge people before, though, and I've never got the impression they felt pressured to drink or weren't enjoying themselves because everyone else was shitfaced.

Finding the right people who won't judge you either way is key. I've experienced people shaming me and calling me boring for not drinking (which really doesn't make me any more inclined to drink tbh). Thankfully I've found people who doesn't care and will enjoy my company no matter what I choose that night.

Yeah, I think the pressure is more of a society / group thing (like, you feel like you have to drink because lots of people do it, and because it's sometimes seen as the way to have fun at parties) than pressure from individual people.

You're so right! The amount of times you're warned about alcohol and drugs at university and 'pressure to get drunk/high' is crazy then you actually get to uni and no one actually cares whether or not you drink or take anything else. Students are a lot more chill about other people's choices than most people give us credit for. (Or at least in my experience anyway!) :)

Agreed! The only influence I've seen was actually people telling me to drink slower and to get glasses of water lol

I've had exactly the same experience. I've still gone out with people or gone round for pres but I'll chose to only have a couple of drinks (or sometimes none) and I've never got any grief from anyone about it


I'm so glad you were able to make such a good positive video for a pretty serious topic ✨


im actually allergic to alcohol, but i honestly think that thats an amazing thing, but i know almost for sure that if i could drink, id almost definitely have a problem, which scares me tbh.<br>im so proud of you for doing this dodie, wishing u all the best!!

im actually allergic to alcohol, but i honestly think that thats an amazing thing, but i know almost for sure that if i could drink, id almost definitely have a problem, which scares me tbh.
im so proud of you for doing this dodie, wishing u all the best!!


I took a very similar journey taking a break from alcohol. It's so good to be reassured that you are capable of being a social person without it!


I'm so proud of you Dodie, for recognizing this in yourself and that it's important and deciding to do this little experiment!! I hope you learn lots about yourself and it goes well, whether you decide to drink again or not. I'm 20 so not quite legal in the states but I drink every now and again. I definitely don't think I have a problem but that's because I'm very aware of it: my grandpa was an alcoholic and my boyfriend doesn't drink because his whole family has problems with it. I try to just drink things socially if I actually like the taste and occasionally I'll get drunk but never very often or to the point of puking. I used to smoke weed so I do enjoy the feeling of being "out of control" but luckily enough I've never needed to do any of these things often and can stop whenever I like. Good luck!


this is so good!!

re: my own relationship to alcohol - I used to never want to drink for fear of losing control, then I did start drinking some, then enough that I got sick pretty much every time. and at that point, I realized that I'd gotten into this mindset that I had to have alcohol to have a Fun Time and if the time wasn't fun enough it meant I hadn't had enough alcohol, so I just decided to stop pretty much completely and haven't missed it at all.

this is so good!!

re: my own relationship to alcohol - I used to never want to drink for fear of losing control, then I did start drinking some, then enough that I got sick pretty much every time. and at that point, I realized that I'd gotten into this mindset that I *had* to have alcohol to have a Fun Time and if the time wasn't fun enough it meant I hadn't had enough alcohol, so I just decided to stop pretty much completely and haven't missed it at all.


I've never drank a drop of alcohol in my whole life but I'm gonna do this February with you Dodie lmao


Thank you for being so honest! Sending strength as you continue with these 28 days!


Im with you, Dodie. 7 days with no drinks. Super proud! (especially since I'm a bartender.) <3


Even better, instead of anyone who might have a drinking problem joining you, anyone who is trying to break a bad habit, or diet, lets all do it together


this is very important and i'm proud of you dodie!


Aaaah, what a wonderful video! Wish you the best of luck, Dodie. <3

As a 19 year old, norwegian, not-very-pretty-and-almost-frienless, Christian, almost-blind girl who have and still are attending different Christian boarding schools with rules against alcohol for the last 3.5 years, It's not been difficult to stay away. (Oh, and yeah, my dad have worked at rehabs for people with alcohol and drug issues.) I've only tasted alcohol once, and that was a very weak cider who didn't affect me what so ever. That's my alcohol story. Sounds boring, I know. But it's a choice I've made, and I'm happy with it.

If someone wonders what is the biggest reason(s) for me not drinking, of those I mentioned, feel free to ask. :) xx


I'm just gonna share my experience with alcohol, even though I never share personal stories on here, but with Dodie's channel there's always this feeling of closeness and having a friend who you can talk to, idk.

I started drinking a couple of years ago, I drank once every friday back when I was in the last two years of highschool (pretty late, given that most of my friends had been drinking for two years or more before me). It was a weekly thing almost, and I got pretty shitfaced because I went to a friend's house and got really drunk (I couldn't go out to parties late so)

After that year, the summer was mostly sober, cause I lost that friendship. Maybe a couple of times that year. Then last year wasn't so bad, I barely ever got drunk. Last summer was my graduation and I did drink a lot, but I didn't get too drunk, mostly cause I had to be home early and that pissed me off so much that I didn't drink. This summer I barely drank.

Enter college, first year. The first month I was able to go out late at night, for the first time in my life. So I downed a bunch of shots and drinks at a friend's house, then went out and drank a lot out there. Really regret it, because I don't remember anything, and I don't go out not to remember anything.

So, ever since that night, I have barely gotten drunk so heavily, just a couple of drinks, and knowing my limits pretty well. The tips that Dodie gives here are really good. I will start using them for sure. Also, thank you very much for sharing your story, I believe it's really important to talk about these issues every once in a while and confront them face to face.


something to take into account whilst doing this is that (from my experience) it can be verrryyyy difficult to be at parties and clubs where all your friends are very drunk and you're completely sober :( it might be different for others and you, but just something to watch out for if you're actively trying to stay sober!


In America, drinking is so bizarre, specifically as an 18-20 year old in a college town. Going to a top party school, drinking is extremely normalised, and even highly encouraged. However, when I take this attitude of "oh, everyone drinks, I can drink wherever I want" back home or to a non college town, you get hit quick with the fact that the legal drinking age is 21, and then you know you swivel down the "time to pack my bags and move to Europe" hole.

or move to italy u can legally drink wine at 13 :P

HiddenPaws u should come to Ireland here we have like an underage "ball" at a local nightclub for like 13-15 year olds and literally everyone turns up unable to walk properly.


Being sober sounds like a fantastic idea and I'd absolutely LOVE to do this with you for the month to try it out, but I really don't feel I have a problem and I only plan on drinking once this month (since my vow on New Year's Day to completely shut out alcohol for as long as possible) but good luck to everybody who's trying this out it sounds like a brilliant opportunity to challenge yourself and your willpower and there are so many people talking about being sober so don't feel alone!! X


This is incredibly brave of you too make and I hope this month goes well for you! I've been going sober since New Years and it has been incredibly interesting. I'm lucky that I've found I don't crave alcohol all that much but I've had to deal with some friends being actively antagonistic about the process, especially on nights out (had one drunk friend try and force feed me alcohol which was not fun), but hopefully that won't happen to you!


OMG Dan is literally such a sweetheart, bless him! I think i can feel a crush developing.<br>Also, yey, VEDIF! Looking forward to it and good luck with dry feb.

OMG Dan is literally such a sweetheart, bless him! I think i can feel a crush developing.
Also, yey, VEDIF! Looking forward to it and good luck with dry feb.


I've been sober my entire life and I just turned 25. Although most of my friends do drink alcohol in varying amounts, I'm always the happiest when there's no alcohol arond. I'm wholeheartedly supporting of your endeavor to live sober for a month.


I don't think I'll drink alcohol. I'm 15 and I've never even had a sip, it just smells soOo gross to me. I hope this doesn't change, but if it does I'll take your advice. thanks for sharing dodes!!

If you have at least some self-control and can stand against some group pressure I'd advice you to try. I'm 21 now and yet to get drunk. I usually try one new beverage each time I'm going out. I don't like the taste of most alcoholic beverages and don't drink them for that reason, there are however beverages that taste amazing. I also never do shots because I can't see the point of it (main point of shots is getting drunk quickly of course). There's a huge difference between drinking for the taste and in moderation, and drinking with the goal of getting drunk. With that being said fun times without the involvement of alcohol are usually more fun than those with.

I'm 15 too, and God I wish I was the same as you.Almost lost my virginity to a 18 years old senior who was both high and drunk, last month.I was the only girl in a crowd of only boys from 15-19.None of my girl friends wanted to drink, and left me so they can watch a movie in another room of the hotel.<br>I really hope I learnt my lesson with drinking. ;-;

I'm 15 too, and God I wish I was the same as you.Almost lost my virginity to a 18 years old senior who was both high and drunk, last month.I was the only girl in a crowd of only boys from 15-19.None of my girl friends wanted to drink, and left me so they can watch a movie in another room of the hotel.
I really hope I learnt my lesson with drinking. ;-;

It's really Nice to Hear other people their opinion about a important subject like this

I'm so glad I'm not the only one that thinks like this!

i wouldnt tbh!! im 16 and have been drunk twice and like it wasnt even worth it at the time, i just did it to fit in whch is vv stupid ???? dw about it at all like its cool NOT to drink :)  !!

well when I was 15 I thought so too. and when I was 16. and 17. aaand when i was almost 18 I decided I'm ready to give it a try (it feels kind of weird when you are on a party and everyone is crazy and you just don't feel the same vibe), and I did and it was cool. it's smells and tastes awfully, but in moderation it can help you have a bit more fun

I'm 20 years old and I've had about a total of one unit I'm guessing because I cannot think of a single reason to drink, everyone is pretty chill about it but it's so nice to hear from people who share my thoughts on it

I'm celebrating my 18th birthday in a week and I'm not gonna drink a thing, I feel the same

I'm 17 years old, and think about it just like you. It smells sooooooo gross!


honestly i think this is very brave of you and i wish my father could do this. because of his problem with alcohol and my drunk abusive grandfather (actually from my mum's side) i will probably only drink socially. but i feel that you are very strong in realizing you may have a problem and hope to fix it. thank you for being such an inspiration!


In Germany, where I live, alcohol is kind of.. normalised, I mean, why wouldn't you drink when you're at a party. And also when you're just eating in a restaurant, you order something with a little alcohol. But then when I was in London and ordered something with just like 4 permille, I'm 16, I wasn't allowed and they made a pretty big deal out of that and here you're already  allowed to drink things with up to 8 per mille or so with 14, if your parents are there. So I was quite shocked how particular there are about that in the UK.

@Katie Cline In Texas, if your parent gives you the drink, you can drink it

To be fair we have a pretty bad binge drinking culture.

Even in German restaurants, if they are normal and not focused on drinking, you can't legally get an alcoholic drink to your meal before 18.

In the US it’s 21 no matter who you’re with. The county I live in just got liquor stores like 2 years ago, before that all there was was beer that had at gas stations and grocery stores.

You would have been allowed a glass of wine if your parents were there, but that's it I'm afraid :/ until you're 18

LeLe Love probably because our brains aren't fully functional until we're about 22/23 (off the top of my head) and alcohol consumption can affect the development and function of our brains, hence why it's illegal to buy/consume alcohol until we're of legal age (be that 21 in the U.S. or 18 in Australia) - adolescent brains are the most at risk for that.

Because not everyone likes to be drunk. I dont mind drinking but its honestly not even that great


oh Dodie ♡ on the 29 of January I finished my straight-edge month, it has been quite interesting and useful (especially on new years eve, everyone was drunk and I was the only one sober helping others), I learnt how I behave when i'm sober, and how to care less about what other people think about my decision. here in Italy we have a problem with younger generations drinking and smoking too much and we may have a culture that promotes getting horribly wasted among youngsters, especially in the underground zone. So, yes, it's hard but oh god it saved me so much from dangerous situations. I love you dodie, you're adorable


You can do this Dodie! We're all behind you.


Wellll you know I don't drink already but just wanted to add that it takes a while for the units of alcohol to fully hit you. So if you've been drinking and then stop, you'll still get more drunk for some time afterwards. Which is why it's all the more important to stop once you've had enough. Because it's not just 'one more drink'. It's 'one more drink' + the alcohol that hasn't hit you yet.

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my dad is an alcoholic, and it's been really hard on my mother brother and i these past few years. i can hardly find anything about it on the internet, and I didn't really want to start the trend because, as you can guess, it isn't my favorite thing to talk about.

seeing these videos from people like you and lucy realizing their habits at such a young age and doing what they can to better themselves makes me incredibly happy. there's nothing wrong with alcohol in moderation, but it's always good to assure you're in control.

thanks so much for this, its really nice seeing alcohol problems discussed a bit more online lately. love you dodie


I've been where you are, Dodie. I was young and I depended on alcohol every day to get some sleep. After a few months in therapy I stopped doing that, but I never quit drinking alcohol at parties/gatherings etc. Then last year I got really drunk and had and episode like yours, except a bit worse maybe because I attempted suicide and after all the shame got to me I decided I should challenge myself for at least a month. It's been over a month now and I honestly can't say I have as much fun as I had before, but I think I needed this time to see how great it is to be "aware" of things and not completely helpless/with no control.


my relationship with alcohol is somewhat similar to yours, dodie! about a year ago, i was drinking so much every time i drank to feel the buzz, and it also helped me forget a lot of feelings of depression and anxiety. however, once i sobered up, it only made those feelings worse. i was also hanging out with friends whose main connection with me was through drinking, and while it was fun at the time, it was also not very satisfying in the long run.

i also thought that i had the possibility of becoming an alcoholic -- especially growing up with an alcoholic dad and an alcohol-dependent mom. i never wanted to drink until college, and because i wasn't taught healthy boundaries with alcohol, i went all out. i learned those boundaries on my own and worked to place alcohol in a more healthy light, much like you seem to want to do now. thank you SO MUCH for being an inspiration for those who struggle with alcohol dependency issues, dodie! you are so open and honest, and i'm glad that there are so many people who have you to listen to. i wish this video had existed earlier so i could hear this message in the throes of struggling.


i'm so proud of you. I am sober for like 6 months now :) You can do this too!


Can we talk about how low key bi and proud drunk Dodie was at the begging of this video

Madeleine Benson That's me at Christmas 😂 x


I went sober(-ish) last april and it's been the best time ever since! it helps to surround yourself with people that don't drink too. like your mom or best friend - ask them to tag along. helps a bunch


I didn't know I needed this so much. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.


I love the fact that you did a video about it, I've come very recently to realize that I have a problem too, I drink too much for my age, I like drinkin but I find it so hard to stop when I start. My mum had problems with alcohol a long ago and I promised myself I would NEVER drink, but I couldn't keep that promise and when I was diagnosted with depression, as you said, being constantly drunk helped me feeling better about it. I also started going out with some people who weren't exactly "good company" and only now I realize how much control alcohol got on my life.


I first watched this before I was a drinker, and nowadays, I still use these tips. Thanks dodie!


I'm gonna try to be "sober" from self harm this month. I threw away my items two days ago. Here for ya Dodie!


This was such an inspirational video love ya x


I'm 17, and I was scared out of my mind when one of my best friends started drinking. My sister was arrested for underage drinking, my uncle suffered serious brain damage when he drove drunk, and a couple of my close friends have battled with their own parents' drinking problems, so I guess all of that has made me take drinking much more seriously. People's lighter stances on drinking- even underage drinking- seem justified, like I see how it can just be a part of the fun... I think I look down on drinking because I don't think I ever could. I have narcolepsy, and aside from drug interactions, I'm pretty sure alcohol would just make me fall asleep :/


I always have to replay your intro clap-snapping ditty, it's so catchy ^_^

In terms of alcohol, I actually start feeling sick after one sip of anything...and I don't like throwing up so I just take a pop instead.
Like alcohol usually makes people happy or feel good, but it doesn't make me feel that way so I don't drink.

Glad you're doing VEDIF and taking this step with being sober! I'll be along for the ride <3


I went sober for january and i'm so glad I did ! I did it mainly to ease my anxiety because I started getting panic attacks every time I was drunk and I'm so proud of myself for doing it and I'm going to continue into february 😄


It's funny that you're doing this because I've been thinking about my relationship with alcohol as well, but in a totally different way. I've never been attracted to alcohol, or the idea of it, even as a youngster. For me it was just something that existed, that people seemed to obsess over, and being the totally rebellious to anything popular teenager (even adult) that I was, I just never got on board with it. Or maybe it's my introverted side rejecting the idea of parties and everything involving them.

Of course, getting older, people start offering you more drinks: a sip of wine or beer, champagne to celebrate... Still, I wasn't interested. Once when I was 18 (one year below legal age here), I was offered a cooler, and I took it because I liked it. I mean, it tasted like soda so it wasn't much. When I was really legal at 19, I took a frozen margarita type of drink at a restaurant because I could, to try things out a bit. I'm 21 now, and my poison of choice is coffee, though I still drink coolers and frozen cocktails VERY sparingly. I drink/eat stuff for taste, and I just don't like the taste of alcohol. I don't like the feeling either, and getting buzzed or even flat out drunk has never been a goal for me. Getting sick trying to feel good seems counterintuitive.

But here's the thing. I choose not to drink because I just don't want to, and for some people, that's weird. I shouldn't have to feel sorry because most of society decided to be casually alcoholic, should I? I just hate getting weird or even worried looks from people when I tell them I don't want a drink. No I'm not an alcoholic, but I shouldn't have to be to refrain from drinking. Nobody truly needs alcohol, I guess some people just tell themselves that they do. I don't mean any harm, but live and let live!

Also, holy negativity. I'm probably not helping, but YES stopping problematic behavior is brave, I don't care what you say. It takes courage to admit having a problem, to tell people around you, and to start doing something about it. Some people never do. Good on you for taking a step back, Dodie. And good on Lucy, too. I hope it brings you more clarity.

It's your call really, and good for you not giving into peer pressure. Drinking can be fun for some and awful for others, so it's good to know yourself.

I am 24 now and I have never been drunk. Not once in my life. When I was between 16 and maybe 18 I tried different drinks and I didn't like them. I can even taste the slightest bit of alcohol in a drink. After giving up on "normal" drinks, I tried several cocktails and didn't like them too. So I just decided not to drink at all. Because why would I? Searching for a drink just to have a form of alcohol that I can consume? Makes no sense to me. Now I do not even try new things. I don't want to. I don't need it. And people who know me do not offer alcohol to me anymore which is really pleasing to me. But people that I just got to know...ugh. They even ignore me when I say that I will just have a coke or water and they will bring an alcoholic drink because "It's just one, just drink it!" They don't get that it's not that I don't want to get drunk but that I just do not drink alcohol. Doesn't seem so complicated to me but...well people are weird.

dreamergirl247 this exactly how I feel, couldn't have said it better myself

Thank you so much for this, honestly<br>I'm about to turn 18, and feel exactly the way you do about alcohol. And for a long time I thought something was wrong with me, but it's such a relief to know that there are people I can actually relate to🙂

Thank you so much for this, honestly
I'm about to turn 18, and feel exactly the way you do about alcohol. And for a long time I thought something was wrong with me, but it's such a relief to know that there are people I can actually relate to🙂

MadCupcake38 I'm exactly the same omg drunk people can be so terrifying. Plus drunk dudes tend to be touchy-feely and unable to sense whether their attention is wanted and it's just all different levels of nope. :'D

dreamergirl247 I feel you on so many levels with this!! I drink occasionally, mostly if I'm out to a nice dinner with friends or family, but I only ever have 1 drink because I have no desire to have more than that. Sometimes I pass up on the drinks all together and the looks I get! Oh my god, once someone assumed I was pregnant because I didn't want a drink. I just don't understand why it's so hard for people to let up and not be weird when you tell them you don't want a drink.

dreamergirl247  I relate to this a lot myself too. I have anxiety and being around people drinking really scares me and I can never just let go or 'relax' because I see people acting differently and it's the whole not being able to predict what's going to happen and the arguments and fights people get into. I struggle with rowdy places where there's lots of people so a packed nightclub is not for me! I have just never really gotten the point of drinking to get drunk, I am 20 and it feels like everyone around me loves going out at the weekend to clubs and parties, whilst I appreciate different things


you have such good friends! I'm turning 18 and honestly I wished my friends were this helpful and friendly lol


Thank you for sharing your experience.  I watched Lucys video and it made me think about alcohol consumption but I couldn't really resonate because my experience has been different, more like yours. My last bad drinking experience was few days ago and after it I made the same decision - not to drink in February and see what happens. Because very often I drink to get that happy buzz and to feel more comfortable in crowded party situation.


I really respect you for making this video and showing the nasty side of alcohol. Also a lot of empathy and recognition for your 'drunk Dodie' perspective - I realized I do this a LOT. Damn the consequences, I just want more-more-more. I've changed my lifestyle quite a lot, but in drinking situations it still tends to veer towards that path. And I'm a few years on the other side of 25 - I should know better. Really, the best of luck to you and so much respect for having this insight and courage to admit the problem to yourself.


Sometimes I just get that overwhelming love for Dodie and ahhhh she's so great


good on you Dodie you are so wise to do this. I'm too young to drink so idk how hard this will be but no matter how hard it is I wish you the best of luck.  ❤❤❤


okay first: im so psyced for vedif ive been super panicky (idk if its anxiety or what but school is fun lmao) and your vids always help me zone out enough to calm down so one everyday sounds wicked. Second, i know youve been struggling with your depersonalisation, im so proud of you for giving this a go even though it sounds scary as fuck


After a pretty crap few months this time last year, I completely gave up, and decided that a year without was the best option! I have just started drinking again, but I feel my outlook on it is much better, and I don't get drunk at all anymore, tipsy yes, but no more than tipsy. I found that my mental, and physical health was better, and that after the first month, it was something I was immensely proud of. I would point out to people that I wasn't drinking, and I enjoyed doing it. It was the right thing for me. I hope that your month goes well dodie, if you need any help, drop me a line 😘❤


okay first: im so psyced for vedif ive been super panicky (idk if its anxiety or what but school is fun lmao) and your vids always help me zone out enough to calm down so one everyday sounds wicked and second: i know youve been struggling with your depersonalisation, im so proud of you for giving this a go even though it sounds scary as fuck


I used to looove getting drunk!!! I used to love the buzz and I would just talk to everyone and make so many friends in clubs and at house parties. However the last time I was drunk I had a major panic attack, probably the worst one I've had and now I wont go anywhere near the stuff :( I'm so scared to get drunk incase it happens again. I don't really go out anymore because of it because being around drunk people makes me so anxious and I've noticed some people treat you differently when you don't drink to! They just don't want to get to know you because you don't seem as fun and open to things, even though I do try my hardest to be really enthusiastic and sociable as I can be. I've been sober for 13 months now. Even though it's obviously healthier not to drink, I still want to do it so badly, I miss going out with friends and actually enjoying myself instead of turning into an anxious mess! Ahh sorry!! Anyways, great video as always Dodie, love you <3 xxxxxxxxxxxx

I drink extremely rarely and I have SO much fun with my friends. I am also very sociable - this works perfectly fine without alcohol, I promise. The people who think you're boring just because you don't drink are not the people you want as your friends, don't you? I mean, really, how boring are THEY? They honestly assume you can only be open to things and fun when you're drunk? How sad would that be?

Luna Lilies I actually had a huge problem with panic attacks, and whenever I got drunk they got worse. I fainted a couple of times but most of the time didn't read much into it because I thought those were the things I had when sober as well. Until a friend was sober and saw me have the drunk panic attack. My point is, it should've scared me as much as it scared you. It isn't a bad thing to stop because of that. I should've done the same thing. But being scared of it is another thing. I've fainted because of this around 20 times now, stopped drinking and worked on my problem, and now it doesn't bother me at all. Everyone who drinks had bad experiences with it. It isn't something that should scare you, it's a story afterwards. But not drinking can be fun too. You don't need alcohol to have fun. Just don't let the anxiety hold you back from doing what you like.

I guess just as Dodie said, you could try learning your limit and stop drinking when you feel like you're in a happy place :) rather than getting another drink. Or find new friends :P


I love her friends so much. They're all taking such good care of her while basically laughing their asses off at her the whole time. That is friend goals 😂


Interesting. I look forward to seeing how this month goes. Personally, I have more fun watching the drunks, than I do being one of them. I'm even kind enough to provide videos and photographs to those who forget what they did while drunk, especially if it's cringe worthy. So, sip your water, and keep your phone and camera handy. You might find that it's great to be sober.


The cute, innocent image Dodie presents when singing is cute. Though for some reason, I find this Dodie talking about alcohol and getting hammered and stuff hella cuter. 😂


You've got this, Dodie! I'm 25, and I've gotten drunk like, twice maybe? Haven't thrown up. Under the right circumstances, I enjoy being tipsy, but I hate being drunk. I'm aware that I'm drunk and end up trying my hardest to not seem drunk. The loss of control is maddening. The last time was at a club/halloween party. No one had to be the designated driver because one of our apartments was walking distance. The girls I was with were more trusting than me, and one of them was very very drunk. I felt responsible for them and angry with myself for making us vulnerable.


Great video Dodie! If people don't talk about these things, whole pictures don't exist in the world. It's easy to discuss extremes and forget the grayer areas. It's easy to talk about things in labelling detached way, but a personal view shows how these things can actually look and I think that's a beautiful, vulnerable, incredibly helpful, positive and brave thing to put out into the world.


I love Lucy! Also Dodie, you're so brave making this video because talking about maybe being alcoholic and depending on Alchohol sometimes and getting drunk is something people don't usually do because they'll get shamed for it. The truth is, Alchohol is something that people are allowed to drink (over a certain age)  and even though it's bad for you, it won't kill you unless you drink it excessively. Donuts and pizza are bad for you, but people don't shame them for eating them unless they’re healthy freaks lol. Any way, the point Im trying to get to is: You did quite a brave thing doing this video and that’s why you’re my absolute role model. 💕


Aye Dodie.. I feel this very much. I had kinda the same reactions and thoughts when Lucy's video came out.. but I still have some bargaining to do with myself. Tho I'm seriously considering the idea of trying going sober (maybe next month will be the right month. it's even longer so lol)


So... I had 2 experiences with alcohol. One is at the age of 12 my father gave me a sip of a really dark beer and I haven't touched a drink since for over 9 years. The other is resent and I am not comfortable with sharing the details, but I really hate the feeling of having even less control over my cognition in social environment. Good luck with this!


So hype for VEDIF and proud of you for being so self-aware Dodes.


"They contain booze! So much booze!" I know this is a serious video but that made me giggle so much. Happy VEDIF! <3


Rooting for your SOBRIETY, good health and long life.  BTW Doddie, in case no one has mentioned it to you today, you are a  TREASURE  just the way you are.  No alcohol, drugs, or bull crap needed.


I've never properly had alcohol or been drunk but I'm 16 now and some of my friends drink at parties/have been drunk so I'm anxious to see what it's like when I go to those types of parties and drink but I'm also worried because I'm not sure how it'll affect me. So excited to see all you February videos!! 💖


You're always talking about how therapeutic it is to make these kinds of videos, but did you know that they're also therapeutic to all your viewers☺. I watch your regular talking videos when I'm feeling down because it feels like I'm having a friend over and we're just talking about random stuff, only it's just you talking... but still. I love your videos sm!!! (I'm commenting this again because I want it to get noticed lol)


I'm 21 and I drink one, maybe two drinks if i go out with friends and that's about it. I don't like the feeling of being drunk, and i absolutely hate the thought of a hangover, it sounds like something horrible to do to yourself but of course that's different for everyone. Now here's the thing with society, everyone thinks that drinking and partying is normal and if you aren't part of that there must be a reason. I've had so many ppl ask my why i don't drink when "I just don't want to." should be enough of an explanation. I also don't understand where the need to pressure ppl into drinking is coming from, your drinking experience isn't compromised by me being sober/only a bit tipsy so why do you do this? When ppl try to pressure me and get me to drink that was the last time i've gone out with them somewhere cause that doesn't make for a fun experience for me. I don't mind ppl drinking, go for it if you enjoy, by all means, but please also be respectful of my choices and we can all enjoy the evening together


My sister told me about this, I've been off drink a few weeks because I also think I may have a problem, and it's time I found out if I did or not.  Happily joining you on your quest :)


I just turned 21 on dec 1, 2016 and that was my first time ever <b>drinking</b>. Before then I'd only ever had a mikes hard like once in a blue moon or a sip of some alcohol someone wanted me to try. I got piss myself drunk at my birthday celebration and haven't drank since. I have borderline personality disorder so I don't know if that affects my experience but I don't like being drunk. I hate not 100% remembering what I did and said. I've been high before and that's 10 out of 10 great. I remember everything and just wanted to make bad jokes and let animals the whole time 😂. I hope this month brings you light and love, Dodie. Your lil oddlers (idk what our fan base name is 😰) are here for you and supporting you 1000000 percent!!! I'm so proud of you for doing this!!! ....I've been worried about you

I just turned 21 on dec 1, 2016 and that was my first time ever *drinking*. Before then I'd only ever had a mikes hard like once in a blue moon or a sip of some alcohol someone wanted me to try. I got piss myself drunk at my birthday celebration and haven't drank since. I have borderline personality disorder so I don't know if that affects my experience but I don't like being drunk. I hate not 100% remembering what I did and said. I've been high before and that's 10 out of 10 great. I remember everything and just wanted to make bad jokes and let animals the whole time 😂. I hope this month brings you light and love, Dodie. Your lil oddlers (idk what our fan base name is 😰) are here for you and supporting you 1000000 percent!!! I'm so proud of you for doing this!!! ....I've been worried about you


great top ten! I should follow those rules more often. I sometimes underestimate the eating before drinking thing and then... 😅 one Tipp also is, get yourself friends who stop you from drinking when you are at this happy point, self control is not that eeasy but possible. I think drinking is too normalized and should be treated with more caution. But like with everything I think: try it, make your experiences but don't overdo...


I stopped drinking 4 years ago (aged 15/16) when I started on some meds. I came off them about a year and a half ago, I've never been drunk and I'm rather scared of being ill so I still don't drink to this day. I'm also fearful of liking drunk me more than sober me (I imagine she'd be more confident and relaxed) so much that I would keep drinking because of that then become dependant on it in order to like myself. (It sounds a little far fetched but it's a genuine worry).
I see my friends having a nice time drinking and often wonder if I should, this New Year I was curious and drank 2 glasses of white wine but I felt no different, so I know I'd have to drink more or drink something stronger to feel anything, which again is scaaary. Idk what I'll end up doing but hey ho.
Interesting video indeed! Particularly because we're around the same age, different perspectives are always rather enlightening.
Much love! X


So far this year I've drank alcohol twice (on new years and a few nights ago when I was just drinking and watching Harry Potter) and got drunk both times. I love drinking and love how sociable it makes me and the feelings it gives me, and do find it difficult to stop once I've started. However given that I've drank twice in a month, and that being my usual pattern, I don't think I have a problem. Well I didn't until yours and Lucy's videos made me think about it. Now I can't decide if I don't want to try stopping because I don't think I can, or because I don't legitimately think there's a problem.


I started drinking when I was 13 it was just what everyone did (at least the people I surrounded myself with) and soon after I can pretty much say I developed a dependancy although I didn't realise this until about 3 years later.  watching Lucy's video really hit a nerve and helped me realise that my alcohol habits were not healthy/safe/normal I would really like to try going sober but it's a crutch that I have grown to rely on over the past 4 years


Hey :) I usually don't comment although i very much enjoy your videos (especially the singing).
I drink maybe 10 times a year so i wouldn't understand or be any help, but: you go girl !
You are not only brave but also lucid to want to try this. I hope it works out and you that you can actually go through.
Also, you are the cutest :) Keep going !
Love


I'm from Ireland and it sounds similar to London in that sense. There is a HUGE binge drinking problem here, and for so long I thought it was normal, so that's what I've gotten used to! My problem with alcohol is that it entirely changes how I treat my friends and I've often woken up, not remembering anything, but being told about massive fights, and horrible things I've said. Over here it's very difficult to not drink at events, because no one sees it as a proper problem, but I'm so grateful that you've shared this! I struggle too, and I don't do it often because of that, but even when I do it, I still find it hard to toe the line. You have plenty of support and you'll nail this <3


So proud of you Dodie for taking the time to recognize a possible issue within yourself and taking a step back to asses and focus on your best, healthy self. You have (yet again 😊) taken a potentially controversial issue and made it something people can discuss and talk about openly and make them feel less alone about. Thank you for letting yourself be vulnerable first. You are truly an inspiration. Lots of love. 💋💋💋

P.S. In case no one has told you today, you are so beautiful, and I believe in you. You can do this. 😘


Is it weird that I'm very drawn to alcohol. I don't have a lot of access to alcohol but when I do all I want to do is drink and drink. I don't know, I guess I just kinda have this mindset that alcohol solves all your problems

I don't think it's weird, I'm like that too. It's definitely not a great mindset to have, but I think it's pretty common

I’m kind of similar - I think it’s BECAUSE I don’t have much access to alcohol that I take advantage of every opportunity - backlash of protective parenting - so I hope when I’m 18 in a few weeks I’m not too bad

Emma Lee it'll be easier to develop good habits and control now, before it potentially becomes an addiction. Keep an eye on yourself, alcoholism is hard and it sucks and it ruins lives. Nobody wants that for you. Stay safe ❤

Emma Lee it doesn't. just makes things more difficult. believe me; i had that same exact mindset when i was younger, and now i am rather screwed.


Dodies persona in this is so lovely, its so good. i like this.


hey dodie so I got really drunk last night but used your tips and this is the lightest hangover I have ever felt. THANK YOU SO MUCH 💖😄


I am so proud of you presenting the issue of alcohol problems. Congratulations💪🏻


Personally, I feel that alcohol gives me confidence. I don't drink when alone or when I'm staying in, but any time I'm going to a party etc. I definitely feel that drinking makes it much easier for me to socialise and I do enjoy the buzz I get from it. Although I'm a student, I'm still fairly introverted so partying every night etc. isn't something that really appeals anyway, so it isn't like I'm drinking daily.

The issue for me is definitely that I don't know when to stop drinking, as I will continue to drink all through the night once I've started. I can have fun with my friends (in a small group as opposed to a big social setting) without it, but I feel that I'm always the most drunk any time we drink (although I've only passed out once when I was younger, but I definitely do forget things sometimes). I've got myself into a few embarrassing situations through it, but I'm not sure that I could totally give it up as I feel so much better when I've got a drink in me. For me, a sober party is an awful thought and something I'm not sure I could face.

So it is definitely an interesting thought as to whether that makes me an alcoholic. (Overall I would say no, as I only really drink in certain situations, but it has made me think about my relationship with alcohol)


Dude, I'm not sure if many people have told you, but I AM SO PROUD OF YOU. <br>Coming to this realization (or even reaching this point) must have been pretty stressful or concerning and I am so so so proud of you for recognizing these red flags and actually doing something about it!! Dodie, DUDE. Good job! Hoping this month is a good month! Be safe! :) XOXO

Dude, I'm not sure if many people have told you, but I AM SO PROUD OF YOU.
Coming to this realization (or even reaching this point) must have been pretty stressful or concerning and I am so so so proud of you for recognizing these red flags and actually doing something about it!! Dodie, DUDE. Good job! Hoping this month is a good month! Be safe! :) XOXO


"My drunk self has no empathy for my sober self" very true words


Good luck with your brave experiment! I stoped drinking alcohol in August after I got drunk and felt SO FREAKING BAD the next day I swear I've never felt worse before! So yeh, bad times make good changes haha


My mum is a serious alcoholic. It's genuinely terrifying. I didn't realize what alcohol was until I was 13, and then 13-21(now) still dumping my mothers drinks down the drain. It put me off for a while. I wasn't going to drink. I wasn't going to be like her. I wasn't going to be a bad mum for when I have children like her. But then I thought... I don't. I don't have to be her. I can enjoy a drink without getting drunk. I can also get drunk when surrounded by friends and people I trust.
Yes I have an addicting personality and  mental illness, but if you keep your control on it. And make sure you stick to your guidelines I believe I'm safe. I inherited my mums "never getting a hangover" gene. So it's dangerous because when is too much too much?
I limit myself to three drinks when I'm "out" and having "fun" but in reality I shouldn't. So I'm on the fence of "no paige, you're fine have a drink and chill out." And "No! Put the poison down you can't be like mum."

Dodie. Help.


When I was at uni, I found myself hating how everything and everyone was dependant on alcohol (including me for a time). In my second year, I stopped drinking. It's now been just over 3 years of having no alcohol and it's great. I honestly don't see the point of it now.


Drinking was a pretty normalised thing in college so I took part feeling "what's the harm, everyone else is doing it". Thing is not everyone else was doing it and I was off making all sorts of mistakes my friends weren't making. In my first year of uni I said "every bad decision I ever made was while drunk and it's so expensive" and went tea total for 3 and a half years and honestly don't regret it at all. I freed up time away from hangovers, still enjoyed myself on nights out and saved way more money. I didn't miss it at all. I drink now from time to time (especially at SITC xD ) but it's 100% not necessary for a good time ^_^


I think it's great that you've been so open about this at such an early stage. The sooner you recognise you may have a problem the sooner you can build a better relationship with alcohol/limit any long term damage. I think the trouble in this country is there is a drinking culture. For example my sister went to uni this year and during freshers that's all they were encouraged to do. It's like it's built into the brains of young people that you can only be having a good time if alcohol is concerned and I think that's a real shame.


The last time I pucked from alcohol was over 5 years ago. I drank emotionally-big mistake always. The last time I was hung over from drink was when I attempted to keep up with my younger sister during our shared birthday a couple years ago-also a big mistake. I don't drink often but when I do I have to mind my limits.  Good video. Great advice.


I've recently downloaded the drink aware app as I realised I was drinking most nights also. I have pledged to only drink at the weekend. It sends you little alerts of encouragement hehe it's cute


i'm almost 15 and i went through a stage where i drank excessively on my own for no reason i could think of and my mind was in a weird place (still is) and i think i'm officially over it because i invited my friend over at the start of january to get smashed and she didn't even finish a drink and i had already puked everywhere (which has NEVER happened before despite doing multiple shots and downing several glasses of pure vodka all the time) and it was within around 30 minutes - an hour. i then fell asleep and left her downstairs for another hour, luckily she doesn't hate me ahah. but yeah i hear you dodie and i can relate :)) no hate comments please i know i'm young and yes it's bad and i understand that people are going to be angry at this and no i am not immature.


Dodie, you're like the cool older sibling on YouTube


I'm 14 and I'm kind of scared of alcohol tbh. I had an abusive stepdad who was an alcoholic and living with him was honestly terrifying. I know people act differently whilst drinking but idk I'm scared I'll slip up and say something I regret. So many people my age get drunk, do drugs and have sex. My friends aren't really like that but my best friend got drunk a few months ago with one of his friends and they drank his parents whiskey. I felt like such a mum because I told him he shouldn't drink as much as he did but he drank anyway

troye trash people drink mainly to feel drunk I think because it doesn't taste good and has no nutritional value (also it hurts your body) so I don't see why people feel like it's something you have to do at least every now and then to be an adult when it's terrible for you and if that's your way to have fun, you should look into some hobbies.


I've ever only had one drink my entire life (I'm 32) and I'm so glad that I don't drink! Especially since I've got a pretty bad case of OCD and wouldn't want to become addicted to using alcohol to relieve it. Also, I've never been tempted to, after hanging out with drunk people sober. It's scary and weirdly unsettling.


I've been drinking since I was 14, and now I'm about to be 18 years old. Tho I consider my alcohol experience really nice since nobody pressured me to drink and I never get a hangover or drunk enough to my parents to notice (well, it was only once). but I have really fond memories drinking alcohol with my friends  nearly every weekend for about a year. and I know I don't have a problem since I've been sober for about six months and still don't have the necessity to drink, so when I read about alcoholism problems and people who are scared of drinking it's difficult for me to understand, I'm saying this because my brother was alcoholic at my age and he'd get drunk even at school, those are not good memories. but I decided I'd be different and I don't have any issue with drinking, so I'm really glad about it :)


I did sober October for Macmillan Cancer Support last year and it was awesomely doable. It makes you feel like you've accomplished something really healthy and it helped me determine exactly how much of a dependency I had (which was, fortunately, very little but not non-existent.)


18 year old student and I've never drank alcohol. sometimes it does make you feel kinda excluded when student life and teen life in general revolves quite a lot around drinking. never enough to make me drink though.


Dodie needs to go on tour, were its like a massive sleepover were we drink tea and other hot beverages, with all kinds of cookies and cakes and everyone wears onesies taking photos on Polaroids... That is what dreams are made of 😌

this is the best comment i've seen in month!! <3

AND SHE PLAYS SONGS SOFTLY WOW that's sounds like such a good idea

Jasmine Danielle you would find this dream in a Polaroid picture. this dream means everything to me

Jasmine Danielle you would find -this dream- in a Polaroid picture. -this dream- means everything to me

Cian is very suicidal please dont talk to me

Jasmine Danielle yes omg. Make a kickstarter. Dreams are happening


Hi dodie! I have never had alcohol, and right as right now I don't plan on starting. But I'm actually writing an article about alcohol from the perspective of someone who has never had alcohol (me) and others trying to describe it to me, and this helped a lot! I'll be rooting for you this month! Happy VEDIF!


Even though I’m underage I love the idea of drinking, going out it’s friends and having this magical drink that lets you forget about your problems. Like why don’t they even have pubs for kids ((under 18)(just without the alcohol), cuz their are literally no places, parks, bowling (activities and stuff), but their is no pace to hang out. So I’m going to be waiting for my 18, when I can finally drink, but thank you dodie for these tips!! Very helpful since we learn nothing about it at school.


A tip my mom gave for drinking alcohol, is always switch between drinking something alcoholic an something nonalcoholic.
Like, everytime you drink something with alcohol drinks some soda or water afterwards. It takes some time for the alcohol to start working, so you can easily end up drinking a lot, quickly, without really feeling anything, and then all of a sudden you get really drunk.
That was my tip. Stay safe out there folk


coming back to this almost five years later after being a drinker for a while and having been vomit drunk quite a few times and this feels pERSONAL


I'm rewatching this for the millionth time and I just can't convey how much I relate to this, in probably a very unusual way. I come from a really long line of alcoholics on both sides of my family, and that really affects me. I'm still under age, but even if I weren't, I don't think I'd drink. (at least I hope so.) I've seen what alcohol does to people for my entire life, and I want to get as far away from it as possible. Something that's been helping me a bit is a book called The Adult Children Of Alcoholic Syndrome by Wayne Kritsberg. Now, this book is pretty outdated, but I suggest you pick it up sometime and give it a skim. Even if you or you're family isn't an alcoholic, it still teaches you about how it works. Also, maybe reccomend it to Lucy, as she's trying to go sober again.


Congrats on the decision to try something new! I hope it all goes well! Best wishes~


I'm pretty new to drinking but recent experience has taught me two more things to add to your list:
1. Don't just sit down while drinking - its gonna hit you real hard when you stand up.
2. Just because someone offers you a free drink, it doesn't mean you have to take it! And I'm not talking about pressure or anything (though thats true as well of course), but in Norway where I live, alcohol is reaaaaaaally expensive so I always say yes when I'm offered free alcohol, because, you know, its free! I can't let the opportunity go away, right? Yes you can.


I've personally never tried alcohol, and I don't really plan to. The thing is, my family is prone to alcoholism, I've seen too many of my loved ones end up so dependent upon alcohol as a coping mechanism that I don't even want to start. The thought absolutely terrifies me, and I don't ever want it to happen to me. So I made the decision at a young age to just avoid alcohol altogether and so far, its gone pretty well.

Kaetlyn Anette i have the same outlook but I've had tastes of it. I don't understand all the hype

i reacted to my family's vulnerability to alcoholism in the same way! however, if you do decide to drink (not saying you will), learn about moderation and self-care so you know how to keep yourself in check before you get to the point you never want to go.


I've been doing this. Making sure i don't just do shots cause i am feeling awkward or socially nervous. It's hard to do it when the people you love have no problem drinking lots, they just enjoy it alot. But ya gotta do whats best for you. And if ya use alcohol as a mask or a big helper, maybe it's time to put it down and face what's actually the thing you've been avoiding.<br>Thank you for being honest! So many people on youtube and media in general just make it seem like you MUST drink or you MUST get fucked up sometimes, or you're a lame freak. But that's not true. Everyone is different. So thank you! I hope younger people see this and get inspiration.

I've been doing this. Making sure i don't just do shots cause i am feeling awkward or socially nervous. It's hard to do it when the people you love have no problem drinking lots, they just enjoy it alot. But ya gotta do whats best for you. And if ya use alcohol as a mask or a big helper, maybe it's time to put it down and face what's actually the thing you've been avoiding.
Thank you for being honest! So many people on youtube and media in general just make it seem like you MUST drink or you MUST get fucked up sometimes, or you're a lame freak. But that's not true. Everyone is different. So thank you! I hope younger people see this and get inspiration.


i used to have a pretty bad drinking problem when i was twelve and thirteen but in the past few months i've been almost completely sober (my record is twenty-six days) and i'm feeling almost ok again


Ok, so I'm from Germany, strong alcohol culture here... And when I was maybe 12/13/14 (?) I started to question the concept of drinking alcohol. I didn't experience the effects of it yet, I had tried sips of wine, and so I came to the conclusion: It tastes odd and it is poison to your body, why do we drink that to feel a bit better? I made the very idealistic decision to NEVER drink alcohol.
I didn't pull through.
I eased that mind set for weddings, big anniversaries and holidays as new year's eve and christmas, but I minimize it to one glass. I think at one point in my life I want to experience being drunk (but only in a safe space - in a house I know, with people I know and trust), but until then the concept of alcohol and drunkeness stays odd for me.


I know I'm two years late to this, but I'm a student in my 20s, I live in germany and I definitely know lots of people who unknowingly have developed a problem with alcohol. Especially when you're a young adult, going out drinking hard on a regular basis (or even regularly drinking in general) is very normalised, and I know that I could definitely accidentally slip into this behavior if I didn't pay attention.<br>For me, especially in my late teens, when I was dealing the most with depression & all that, alcohol became sort of a destructive behavior for me. I didn't really binge drink or anything, but drinking alcohol gave me a pretty similar feeling to when I cut myself. I sort of got used to drinking whenever I felt anxious and/or depressed. Luckily, I realized that early enough for it not to become an addiction, so now I actively try never to drink alcohol when I'm in one of my depressed phases again, or feeling particularly anxious or stressed. It's not always easy, especially when I'm in social situations with strangers, as I'm not very good at those and alcohol often helps me loosen up a little. I still often, when I'm feeling really bad, go like "but you know, a little wine can't hurt, right?". It's sort of similar to getting away from self-harm for me. But well, I'm trying, and it's definitely getting better. It does very much worry me to see my friends drink alcohol when I know they're feeling bad, because I know what that behavior has done to me.

I know I'm two years late to this, but I'm a student in my 20s, I live in germany and I definitely know lots of people who unknowingly have developed a problem with alcohol. Especially when you're a young adult, going out drinking hard on a regular basis (or even regularly drinking in general) is very normalised, and I know that I could definitely accidentally slip into this behavior if I didn't pay attention.
For me, especially in my late teens, when I was dealing the most with depression & all that, alcohol became sort of a destructive behavior for me. I didn't really binge drink or anything, but drinking alcohol gave me a pretty similar feeling to when I cut myself. I sort of got used to drinking whenever I felt anxious and/or depressed. Luckily, I realized that early enough for it not to become an addiction, so now I actively try never to drink alcohol when I'm in one of my depressed phases again, or feeling particularly anxious or stressed. It's not always easy, especially when I'm in social situations with strangers, as I'm not very good at those and alcohol often helps me loosen up a little. I still often, when I'm feeling really bad, go like "but you know, a little wine can't hurt, right?". It's sort of similar to getting away from self-harm for me. But well, I'm trying, and it's definitely getting better. It does very much worry me to see my friends drink alcohol when I know they're feeling bad, because I know what that behavior has done to me.


I'm Mormon so I don't drink at all, but I hope this goes well for you Dodie! :)

+aubreylurvsharrypotter oh sorry! Whoops I forgot to tag the person who was asking

Becky R. Okay, I guess I was confused about what you meant. I think I also got mixed up because you didn't tag the person who asked, so I thought it was a comment directed at me.

+aubreylurvsharrypotter I'm not arguing that you aren't Christian! I'm just saying that Catholics and most Protestants don't consider Mormons Christians, they consider the church of LDS a cult. That's just was catholics and Protestants think, I'm not saying it's true.

Becky R. If we believe in Christ, doesn't that make us Christians? And the name of our church is literally the Church of <b>Jesus Christ</b> of Latter-day Saints. It's a common misconception, so I get where you're coming from and I'm not angry or anything...but like I said, literally in the name XD

Becky R. If we believe in Christ, doesn't that make us Christians? And the name of our church is literally the Church of *Jesus Christ* of Latter-day Saints. It's a common misconception, so I get where you're coming from and I'm not angry or anything...but like I said, literally in the name XD

+aubreylurvsharrypotter I really don't want to be rude, especially because I don't even fully understand why. But Mormons are only considered Christians by Mormons, Protestants and Catholics don't consider Mormons Christian. Not trying to start an argument, I'm just informing the person who asked! Sorry!

iya. Not stupid at all! :) The religion is called 'The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints' and the members are usually called Mormons. Yes, Mormons are Christians, and no, Mormons don't practice polygamy, though it was practiced for a short time in the 1800s (hence the stereotype haha)

aubreylurvsharrypotter  This might be stupid but what is a Mormon? Is it a type of Christian? Also, I heard polygamy is popular in the Mormon community. Idk. But yeah


im so happy you're doing VEDIF because my birthday is February 27th so it's like a birthday present that lasts ALL MONTH <3


i've had a few instances where i've tried to use alcohol to forget something or to not feel awful anymore and MY GOD IT WAS BAD ABORT MISSION I JUST CRIED ALL NIGHT<br>i've only ever had headache-y hangovers though, and i've never thrown up from it... hopefully that's not going to actually happen any time soon lmao

i've had a few instances where i've tried to use alcohol to forget something or to not feel awful anymore and MY GOD IT WAS BAD ABORT MISSION I JUST CRIED ALL NIGHT
i've only ever had headache-y hangovers though, and i've never thrown up from it... hopefully that's not going to actually happen any time soon lmao


Early on, I made a decision to just not drink. In my life, I've had two people who I fondly refer to as my anti drugs when it comes to booze, putting me off it completely, and combine that with the fact that I have an addictive personality so if I got into a habit of drinking I would loose control. Plus, whenever I see people in my flat the afternoon after a night of drinking, I'm fairly glad I abstained, lets put it that way XD


I've never had any alcohol I think my main issue is that I'm not content with putting a substance in my body that does no good for it (although somehow fast food and sugar is fine, so don't listen to me). I also like the idea of being fully clear headed when around friends and people I don't know. The thought of not having a social filter absolutely terrifies me (probably due to some low levels of social anxiety and perfectionism). When people ask me "so what have you done since turing 18 that you couldn't do before?" My mumbled answer is "... Well I voted. Does that count?" In my mind I know I shouldn't feel ashamed for not drinking because it is my choice but when your country's culture (Australia) is based on drinking it can sometimes be difficult.


Recently I started thinking about my relationship with alcohol and its perception in society. <br>In Austria the legal drinking age is 16! So, as you do everyone starts around 14/15 because then you're COOL. It is such a normalized thing in my enviorment to go out 2-3 times a week and get shit faced and while I don't that I'm an alcoholic I do have a habitual problem. (Could you guess from my username?) Even though I'm late to the party I've decided to join you on your journey!

Recently I started thinking about my relationship with alcohol and its perception in society.
In Austria the legal drinking age is 16! So, as you do everyone starts around 14/15 because then you're COOL. It is such a normalized thing in my enviorment to go out 2-3 times a week and get shit faced and while I don't that I'm an alcoholic I do have a habitual problem. (Could you guess from my username?) Even though I'm late to the party I've decided to join you on your journey!


I remember struggling at university because of alcohol... Not because of the fact that I wanted to drink it but because of the fact that I didn't, but felt like I couldn't really refuse without being a social pariah. One of my friends has never had a drop of alcohol and she was given SUCH a rough ride by everyone at uni (and still sometimes today) because she wouldn't drink. Even I was guilty at times of trying to get her to 'conform'.
It's crazy really because we seem to have taken drinking to the extreme in the UK. I live in Switzerland now and drinking seems to be different here. People drink of course but it seems to be genuinely much more sociable than the drinking I did at uni. I now go out with people and we will have a couple of beers and just get a little merry. If I have just one or even none, no one cares.
It would be great if people were more flexible when it comes to drinking in the UK. Why can't social events minus alcohol actually be a regular thing as well? There are so many other ways we can enjoy ourselves...


one of the most helpful tips ive learned is that you need to stand up, walk around and just listen to your body. when youre sitting down, you dont really have a clear understanding of just how drunk you are, until you try to stand up and fail to do so. just taking a minute to do that can make a big difference

Александр Мозохин

so, like, late to the party(hehe choie of words) and all,but once I was at the town with a large number of pals from school. Two of them had found out they had a thing for each other, and spent most of the night sitting in a sofa smooching and stuff, it was quite charming and OK.
That was, until we had to leave, and they stood up, and then fell back onto the sofa. And then, as I helped carrying my friend, we tried to communicate  with her (oh, she was really pissed to be separated from her flirt, she did tend to simply sit down until she could walk with him. Not funny.) she replied in German.
We are norwegians. It was terribly amusing but frustrating until finally one other guy who DID speak German came up to us and helped keep her cooperating.
Long story short she vomited on my shoes, was very angry with all of us for not letting her sleep with her equally intoxicated flirt, and needed help getting undressed and tucked in (we let a girl do that). And we got a fair share of complaints the day after (living at a campus) for the ruckus.

aaand she did not leave the bed the day after, hah!


I'm 21 in Australia, and everything you described is pretty much the norm for most young people I know. I know it's not exactly healthy, but I've never really seen it as a massive problem, either that or I haven't cared. For me personally, that is. That being said, however, I totally understand how it could create problems in your life, and I think it's super brave not only to be able to challenge yourself to do better, but even more so to actually own up to it, to your audience, your friends and to yourself. Not saying I'm about to stop drinking along with you but I still think what you're doing is super tough, and the way you talk about it is really mature. I believe in you Dodie!