Moral of the story
Parents: don’t set unrealistic expectations for your kids

Kids: don’t murder your parents.

Moral of the story
Parents: don’t set unrealistic expectations for your kids

Kids: don’t murder your parents.

And in USA or Canada you can buy any qualification certificates with money...

And in USA or Canada you can buy any qualification certificates with money...

Spoken like someone who has never had kids.

Spoken like someone who has never had kids.

@a child So being strict is wanting your kid to not be lazy and succeed in school? Ok.

@a child So being strict is wanting your kid to not be lazy and succeed in school? Ok.

It was not even that unrealistic for an asian family, I think the moral of the story is don't date a drug dealer, if possible don't race mix, and respect your parents.

It was not even that unrealistic for an asian family, I think the moral of the story is don't date a drug dealer, if possible don't race mix, and respect your parents.

@Testing this name getting straight A's and excelling at everything u do  and become top of the line at something without care for your mental health is an unrealistic expectation, but apparently you missed that part

@Testing this name getting straight A's and excelling at everything u do  and become top of the line at something without care for your mental health is an unrealistic expectation, but apparently you missed that part

exactly, i feel like no one is right in this, she's fucked up for killing her mom and trying to kill her dad, and then on the other hand, she was going to be disowned, they raised her as if she was some kind of doll who had to be perfect. sadly this is what happens sometimes when you don't treat your kids like you're supposed to treat them.

exactly, i feel like no one is right in this, she's fucked up for killing her mom and trying to kill her dad, and then on the other hand, she was going to be disowned, they raised her as if she was some kind of doll who had to be perfect. sadly this is what happens sometimes when you don't treat your kids like you're supposed to treat them.

I had high expectations from my son because he was more than capable. I told him his job was to get good grades and do well in school and his reward was that I would support him so he wouldn't have to get a job and I would give him freedom. Whenever he asked if he could do something, I would say yes. He didn't have a curfew. He did well, I never had to ask him about homework and he went to college and graduated Summe Cume Laude and is now getting his PhD at the University of Pennsylvania.  He got in a little trouble and did some stupid things in High School, but as a parent I let these situations be opportunities to learn and grow. And to especially learn to think about the potential consequences before making dumb decisions.
My daughter is totally different. She's also very smart, but she struggles with school. I have different expectations for her because she is a different person. I try to help her make good decisions and I encourage her to do well in school, but no matter what, I make sure she knows how proud I am of her. I never want her to feel like a failure or like she isn't good enough. Remote learning was really hard on her. She started yelling at me and breaking pencils, hating on herself, and saying she was a horrible daughter.  It broke my heart. I reached out to her teacher and we did what we could to relieve her stress and let her get a fresh start so she wouldn't feel so overwhelmed like she was so far behind she would never catch up.  She's back at in person school now and doing well. She even got into advanced English and is doing the work all on her own. She is learning to ask for help from her teacher's when she needs it, and there's nothing to be embarrassed about.
I guess my whole point here is that although  what this girl did to her parents is horrendous, I still feel bad for her because her parents made her feel like she wasn't good enough and wasn't loved.

@Jacqueline Wong Yours is an underrated comment!
(Copied here so others can see what you said, since my comment doesn't appear right after yours. You said, "I hate how in this thread everyone things everyone else is like them. Like no, everyone’s different and learns differently.") Very true, and very important.

Also, most people commenting on youtube to something someone else said don't seem to realize that what they're saying does not appear right under what they're commenting to.

@Jacqueline Wong Yours is an underrated comment!
(Copied here so others can see what you said, since my comment doesn't appear right after yours. You said, "I hate how in this thread everyone things everyone else is like them. Like no, everyone’s different and learns differently.") Very true, and very important.

Also, most people commenting on youtube to something someone else said don't seem to realize that what they're saying does not appear right under what they're commenting to.

@Tedge rahedron 1. of all i dont mind being called a racist because I spent 10 years of my childhood in Mainland China and

the word RACIST means nothing to me

im just an average uni freshman who took studying history as a lifelong hobby

AND the most important history is to know more about ur own race

@Tedge rahedron 1. of all i dont mind being called a racist because I spent 10 years of my childhood in Mainland China and

the word RACIST means nothing to me

im just an average uni freshman who took studying history as a lifelong hobby

AND the most important history is to know more about ur own race

@***VIXEN *** actually I hope you are enough of a monster to kill this thread.

Maybe you can start a new stereotype for Romans.

 This looks like my last message as per YouTube's exhausted quota error so I will end with this.

 @Jack Frost  your living in China doesn't mean you aren't racist when you say it is Asian  to study hard because Confucius say

Reactions to an economic war aren't representative of the cultural identity. Your being in China doesn't relieve you of your racism especially when you are speaking of more people than the Chinese and specifically grouping them together especially with the implications of commenting about a murder in Canada. Also Chinese people can be racist.

You still can't get away with blaming a murder on Asian parents for their "culture". If you studied Chinese culture and got that studying hard is part of "Confucion-ism" and is somehow related to this incident than you have come to a racist generalization and should keep studying history.

Maybe you should consider it from a less fatalistic perspective. In history people's choices are diverse even if the interpretations get narrowed by loss of other historical interpretations in the record as shown by the huge lack of record following communism in China. (Specifically in China most of the history was burned in an anti-intellectual movement which would certainly offset your opinion in history.)

It is akin to coming from Africa after your culture has been silenced in America and telling the other immigrants that they are good at manual labor because they are black and they need to know their race's history better if they disagree. Kinda makes the others think you are racist.

@Tedge rahedron I’m a respectable person so murder is the last thing on my mind I would ever do I am a Roman so yeah respecting life is extremely important (obeying your parents) Is a strong tradition for that girl along with Not disappointing them honoring what they want and I’m pretty sure murder is not on the list…..As for me darling racism is not a part of my tradition and you must be really pissed off at the white American culture you consider it double standard basically

@Tedge rahedron I’m a respectable person so murder is the last thing on my mind I would ever do I am a Roman so yeah respecting life is extremely important (obeying your parents) Is a strong tradition for that girl along with Not disappointing them honoring what they want and I’m pretty sure murder is not on the list…..As for me darling racism is not a part of my tradition and you must be really pissed off at the white American culture you consider it double standard basically

@Jack Frost studying hard has nothing to do with "confucion-ism. " also those countries do not by majority practice "confusion-ism. "<br>The fact that you are stating in relation to this at all "Chinese, Japanese, & Korean people" from this means you are being racist.

@Jack Frost studying hard has nothing to do with "confucion-ism. " also those countries do not by majority practice "confusion-ism. "
The fact that you are stating in relation to this at all "Chinese, Japanese, & Korean people" from this means you are being racist.

It's their own fault they brought it apon themselves,

It's their own fault they brought it apon themselves,

@Testing this name well said... sounds like something Rick from ‘Rick and Morty’ would say.

@Testing this name well said... sounds like something Rick from ‘Rick and Morty’ would say.

@***VIXEN *** to reinforce what culture's traditions?

If those are cultural traditions, then is racism part of your cultural traditions? If so did  your parents reinforce those traditions?

If they did would it be the reason you murder them?

@***VIXEN *** to reinforce what culture's traditions?

If those are cultural traditions, then is racism part of your cultural traditions? If so did  your parents reinforce those traditions?

If they did would it be the reason you murder them?

@Tedge rahedron  so you are calling me racist…? AS I SAID ONLY SOME FAMILIES of the culture  reinforce the traditions  I feel sorry for you— your soo Nerrow minded,—but then again most  democrats are…

@Tedge rahedron  so you are calling me racist…? AS I SAID ONLY SOME FAMILIES of the culture  reinforce the traditions  I feel sorry for you— your soo Nerrow minded,—but then again most  democrats are…

@***VIXEN *** I don't see how my comment would make sense if I thought you were Vietnamese. I think you are just trying to reverse it but that doesn't work either because I am a minority. It was more generic to the comments, but yours does represent what I am speaking to pretty well.

I have commented elsewhere here but to repeat myself. You are not respecting my culture by calling this assumed overbearing Asian parent racism the cause of the murder because that culture is not Asian culture. It is the reaction of most immigrants who move to a country with racism.

So I guess I don't care if you are trying or not. It was racist. It is part of this comment section reinforcing racist stereotypes to interpret a tragic story as a more acceptable one where everyone got what they deserved including the victims who are guilty of their sexist abusive culture.

 Do you see how forcing this negative Stereotypical culture on a minority as an axiom to discuss this case study would be racist?

@***VIXEN *** hey I think we should be careful about making the moral of this story to be racist against Vietnamese men or parents. I understand the stereotype but it is not fair to say all Vietnamese men are sexist.

If there is a moral of the story, it is that Asians are represented by their murderers rather than their heroes. So if you are a minority and kill your parents, everyone will believe that Asian parents are evil or Asian children are stupid and irresponsible.

Those are both so convenient for one group of people as prejudice always is.

Or kids if you don't like the boundaries your family sets then go and live on your own.

Or kids if you don't like the boundaries your family sets then go and live on your own.

@Hobby Channel Their expectations were to make straight A's and they were known in their neighborhood to be strict. When you're held to ridiculous standards from a young age and you don't feel like you're enough for them then you start to rebel. Which is what she did. She lied and lived with her drug dealer boyfriend. I'm not justifying what she did but you should suck up to her parents when their terrible parenting is what caused this to happen.

@Hobby Channel Their expectations were to make straight A's and they were known in their neighborhood to be strict. When you're held to ridiculous standards from a young age and you don't feel like you're enough for them then you start to rebel. Which is what she did. She lied and lived with her drug dealer boyfriend. I'm not justifying what she did but you should suck up to her parents when their terrible parenting is what caused this to happen.

Graduating high school is not an unrealistic expectation. Having your kid lie to you for years on end and living a double life is not an expectation. Having your kid plan an assassination is definitely not an expectation.

Graduating high school is not an unrealistic expectation. Having your kid lie to you for years on end and living a double life is not an expectation. Having your kid plan an assassination is definitely not an expectation.

especially for Asians(Chinese, Japanese & Korean people who were under heavy confusion-ism ideology influence)

AKA : kids need to study(very hard) if they want to succeed and be successful
we can sacrifice everything else but not ur chance at getting a higher social status, money and influence, prestige

especially for Asians(Chinese, Japanese & Korean people who were under heavy confusion-ism ideology influence)

AKA : kids need to study(very hard) if they want to succeed and be successful
we can sacrifice everything else but not ur chance at getting a higher social status, money and influence, prestige

@gasai yuno They gave her a way by telling her she could leave at any time. Nothing suggests what the parents did warranted murder.

@gasai yuno They gave her a way by telling her she could leave at any time. Nothing suggests what the parents did warranted murder.

But if they don't set expectations the kids wirr bling dishoner to hel famiry.

But if they don't set expectations the kids wirr bling dishoner to hel famiry.

Imagine calling "unrealistic expectations" to not dating a drug dealer that ended up helping her murder her parents and wanting her to continue getting an education if she didnt want to be disowned.

Imagine calling "unrealistic expectations" to not dating a drug dealer that ended up helping her murder her parents and wanting her to continue getting an education if she didnt want to be disowned.

So I see two arguments in the comments that I hope to clarify (shit posting congrats if you find this). Will keep editing if anyone has anything constructive to add.

1st side: In favour of strict parenting
- The idea that if she doesn't pursue an education (through schooling), her future is ruined because she won't get a good job
- That strictness is a form of love for the child and putting them in situations of pressure is to make them stronger
- The idea that everyone inherently has self-control and clarity to realise a right way if doing things (in our society which is to not murder)
- The idea that as an adult, you can see a clear good or bad decision (according to society which is along to lines of don't murder) and can act upon it

2nd side: In favour of unconditional love
- The idea that someone's success in life doesn't end if someone drops school
- The idea that if the child isn't up for a task (hasn't live up to our expectation of all As), don't force them
- The idea that someone's moral compass can be changed depending on experiences (constant stress and pressure in a household can desensitize the idea of murder)
- The idea that our ideas of good and bad is not clear, and rather it is a choice of which would cause less damage to us

Ya that is true if my parents said I needed to get A in everything I would never be able to meet those expectations

Ya that is true if my parents said I needed to get A in everything I would never be able to meet those expectations

@***VIXEN *** Yes but she could have just left. If your parents do not respect your wishes then get away from them.

@***VIXEN *** Yes but she could have just left. If your parents do not respect your wishes then get away from them.

@***VIXEN *** she was 24 not a small child, she could have left. They didn’t keep her there by physically force, they gave her a choice. They saw her boyfriend and thought he was trouble and they were right. Being told leave and do what you want and you are dead to us or stay here live under our strict rules and do as we say isn’t fair or reasonable. That’s irrelevant, she was a grown adult with no developmental disabilities or inability to tell right from wrong. She choose to coldly plan the murder her parents and leave her brother an orphan. Did her life suck, yes but did it rise to murder them, no. Had should robbed some money and left in the dead of the night, fine but she wanted them dead and to gain from it. It sad all around but her actions are not forgivable bc her parents were very strict and demanding. I would say she bares 80-85% of the responsibility. Had she snapped and killed them in the heat of the moment than it’s how much was it driving her insane but a planning, staging a murder scene with several people is a whole other level.

@***VIXEN *** That WAS my life since I was a child, and I did not murder my parents nor it ever so much as crossed my mind. I still love them and understand they want the best for me.

@***VIXEN *** That WAS my life since I was a child, and I did not murder my parents nor it ever so much as crossed my mind. I still love them and understand they want the best for me.

@FBI what she did was stay with them but see here’s the issue: staying with them Would mean being a doctor like her father wanted even though that wasn’t her passion or her desire her father had no respect for her and why that is is because Vietnamese men do not respect women( my friends husband does not respect her at all)

@FBI what she did was stay with them but see here’s the issue: staying with them Would mean being a doctor like her father wanted even though that wasn’t her passion or her desire her father had no respect for her and why that is is because Vietnamese men do not respect women( my friends husband does not respect her at all)

@***VIXEN *** but they gave her the option to leave or to stay and get her act together. What she did was much worse than what her parents deserved.

@***VIXEN *** but they gave her the option to leave or to stay and get her act together. What she did was much worse than what her parents deserved.

@S Critoph Unfortunately not for this poor girl they didn’t support her she was either an A student or a Disgrace they obviously wanted something they could brag about

@S Critoph Unfortunately not for this poor girl they didn’t support her she was either an A student or a Disgrace they obviously wanted something they could brag about

@Chris Jackson The unrealistic expectation is straight A’s all the time (perfection) In your kid when they’re just kids and they want to enjoy life and have a life she wasn’t allowed to have a life all she was allowed to do was go to school do her work/homework. And no social life do you want a life like that Chris and be grounded if you don’t get straight A’s all throughout your academics— math science-and everything else you can think of straight A’s in E-VERYTHING can you do that could you do that when you were a teenager??

@Chris Jackson The unrealistic expectation is straight A’s all the time (perfection) In your kid when they’re just kids and they want to enjoy life and have a life she wasn’t allowed to have a life all she was allowed to do was go to school do her work/homework. And no social life do you want a life like that Chris and be grounded if you don’t get straight A’s all throughout your academics— math science-and everything else you can think of straight A’s in E-VERYTHING can you do that could you do that when you were a teenager??

@Samsiah Abdullah  yes but that implies that you don’t interfere with your child’s Desires in a work related idea

@Samsiah Abdullah  yes but that implies that you don’t interfere with your child’s Desires in a work related idea

@gasai yuno You’d be surprised in Third World countries which obviously her parents had the mentality of still if you dishonor the family there’s a dishonor killing mainly you if you dishonor them… That happened to a woman who was a Muslim  woman was being abused and she wanted to divorce her husband so as a last ditch effort they went to this wedding together and she never returned with the rest of the family Gee I wonder why hhmmm and the family doesn’t say anything either they refuse to answer any questions and all they know is they saw herThe day before she was gone but say they know nothing beyond that and then nobody heard from her since

@Juancarlos Reyes Dude are you hearing yourself??Did you watch the video it was live with us and live up to our high expectations( her parents) orLive with your boyfriend and we are  disowning you… pick your poison kid is basically what they were saying Neither choice was reasonable I mean she’s 24 she probably hasn’t decided on her job yet but I’m sure she would’ve got there if her parents wouldn’t have pushed her over the edge

@Juancarlos Reyes Dude are you hearing yourself??Did you watch the video it was live with us and live up to our high expectations( her parents) orLive with your boyfriend and we are  disowning you… pick your poison kid is basically what they were saying Neither choice was reasonable I mean she’s 24 she probably hasn’t decided on her job yet but I’m sure she would’ve got there if her parents wouldn’t have pushed her over the edge

@FBI  well let’s think about this:<br> Not living up to  your  parents expectations; they technically would disown you Vietnamese  theory you do an become what your parents want —( you didn’t want the job  you’re parents wanted for you—. You are a disgrace or live up to THEYRE standards —)

@FBI  well let’s think about this:
 Not living up to  your  parents expectations; they technically would disown you Vietnamese  theory you do an become what your parents want —( you didn’t want the job  you’re parents wanted for you—. You are a disgrace or live up to THEYRE standards —)

@***VIXEN *** i would say murder is worse than high expectations

@***VIXEN *** i would say murder is worse than high expectations

@Victor Nieves Here’s a thought Vic those parents should’ve had the daughter taken away from them and the parents should have been required to take classes and being a parent because obviously they didn’t know the fucking first thing About parenting or unconditional love or how to be a “decent” parent

@Victor Nieves Here’s a thought Vic those parents should’ve had the daughter taken away from them and the parents should have been required to take classes and being a parent because obviously they didn’t know the fucking first thing About parenting or unconditional love or how to be a “decent” parent

@FBI NO— BOTH ARE; The daughter emotional and verbal abuse,  parents murder,

@FBI NO— BOTH ARE; The daughter emotional and verbal abuse,  parents murder,

@Miles I’m a Catholic myself but good god what the hell does your little rant have to do with the story?!?

@Miles I’m a Catholic myself but good god what the hell does your little rant have to do with the story?!?

@Hobby Channel no it doesn’t merit a death sentence but they should’ve thought before they had kids because obviously they sucked

@Hobby Channel no it doesn’t merit a death sentence but they should’ve thought before they had kids because obviously they sucked

@Joey Barz why are you using simp as an insult, never head a millennial say that-

@Joey Barz why are you using simp as an insult, never head a millennial say that-

@Spooky Man The problem lies with the fact that she possibly did not have the skilled capabilities that her brother dead simple I mean she may have worked really hard but to get C’s was unacceptable? Just think if she get an F she get her ass beat think about it—do you want your ass beat just for getting a bad grade? I mean understanding that they’re paying for your schooling.An trying hard and is not getting an A grade LIKE they wantWhat does that say to you? They probably pound her ass in the ground her until she gets better grades which would be a whole term you want to be in your room for a whole school term Just because you’re not getting the grades your parents want And not being Allowed having a social life??  Do you want that because that’s what  Kind of life it sounds like they were handing out…. No unconditional love no understandment it was just you get good grades you get to have some sort of life and we will love you you don’t get good grades and pound your ass and you’re grounded for the rest of the term🤷🏻♀😢

@Asteria with every action there’s a reaction so how they treated their daughter is a testament to her reaction They treated her like shit she rebelles and everything goes to shit

@Asteria with every action there’s a reaction so how they treated their daughter is a testament to her reaction They treated her like shit she rebelles and everything goes to shit

@Lucy Hough That’s not the root of the problem, the problem is Her parents probably sadistically taunted her not giving her unconditional love as a parent should always comparing her to her brother they wanted her to have straight A’s constantly on a regular basis all throughout grade and high school If she doesn’t have the mental capabilities that her brother does or skills that’s a problem so that’s Abuse right there there are many ways to be successful not just GRADES

@Lucy Hough That’s not the root of the problem, the problem is Her parents probably sadistically taunted her not giving her unconditional love as a parent should always comparing her to her brother they wanted her to have straight A’s constantly on a regular basis all throughout grade and high school If she doesn’t have the mental capabilities that her brother does or skills that’s a problem so that’s Abuse right there there are many ways to be successful not just GRADES

@Lancee Lopezz Yes as Sherry says look at the root of the problem: Setting unrealistic expectations for their daughter on a regular basis comparing her to her brother who was extremely skilled Academics whereas she wasn’t and they sadistically taunted her about it I’m sure that’s the way it is in that culture— I did research on it  and it’s frowned upon if you have some sort of condition whether it be health Or it be mental If she mentally could not be as good as her brother they did not  show any love or affection It is reasonable though for to ask her to not date a drug dealer but being sadistic like that and not showing Unconditional love for affection it’s very fucked up and it will screw you up thinking that your parents don’t love you is reallyHurtful and they hurt her actually more than they helped her in anyway shape or form

@Legion um actually in private schools it’s a lot harder than you think…

@Legion um actually in private schools it’s a lot harder than you think…

@ParadymShift, Plant-BASED Ⓥegan Jedi That’s actually not possible if your parents don’t give you unconditional love and set unrealistic expectations… It  drove her to insanity. That and being compared to her brother who’s got higher skills in school work which is what I’m sure they did—but not dating a drug dealer that’s definitely something that is realistic but the absurdity of straight A’s all through school and high school is unrealistic I can see how it would drive her to insanity and if she was that desperate she obviously did what she did— They probably used The idea that: kid if you don’t  Meet our expectations we won’t love you that’s basically THEYRE  justifications, That being said how can you <b>NOT</b> resent your parents For Sadisticly  Taunting her telling her if you don’t do this,if you don’t do that— “we don’t love you” you need to be better than your brother or just as good Which is obnoxious if she mentally can’t and is incapable I mean it’s frowned upon if you are sick and have a health condition It’s a stigma in the Vietnamese culture

@ParadymShift, Plant-BASED Ⓥegan Jedi That’s actually not possible if your parents don’t give you unconditional love and set unrealistic expectations… It  drove her to insanity. That and being compared to her brother who’s got higher skills in school work which is what I’m sure they did—but not dating a drug dealer that’s definitely something that is realistic but the absurdity of straight A’s all through school and high school is unrealistic I can see how it would drive her to insanity and if she was that desperate she obviously did what she did— They probably used The idea that: kid if you don’t  Meet our expectations we won’t love you that’s basically THEYRE  justifications, That being said how can you *NOT* resent your parents For Sadisticly  Taunting her telling her if you don’t do this,if you don’t do that— “we don’t love you” you need to be better than your brother or just as good Which is obnoxious if she mentally can’t and is incapable I mean it’s frowned upon if you are sick and have a health condition It’s a stigma in the Vietnamese culture

@Cameron Smith You don’t know the whole story shit man she’s not a monster she was just driven to insanity by her parents they didn’t give her unconditional love like they should have and forced her to try and have a straight A’s all the way through school, and high school I’m sure they were always comparing her to her brother—Which probably upset her some Vietnam parents are like that  And do that to drive the one child who is being compared the  higher skilled one to work harder to feel like their loved that my friend is unacceptable

@Cameron Smith You don’t know the whole story shit man she’s not a monster she was just driven to insanity by her parents they didn’t give her unconditional love like they should have and forced her to try and have a straight A’s all the way through school, and high school I’m sure they were always comparing her to her brother—Which probably upset her some Vietnam parents are like that  And do that to drive the one child who is being compared the  higher skilled one to work harder to feel like their loved that my friend is unacceptable

@Testing this name   Not Dating a drug dealer of course that’s Reasonable— But setting the expectations of A+s All the way through school and high school THAT is unrealistic And absurd and ridiculous there are plenty of people that have been successful without having straight A’s all throughout school many actors were dropouts—You can’t judge success on how well you do in school or what kind of job you’ve got—Succeeding in life is being happy with yourself and being happy with who you are the fact that her parents thought having Straight A’s  makes you successful is very that’s a failure in itself you’re hurting your child  doing that pressuring them so hard that they just want out and they want to get away from you Her parents probably drove her out of her mind but what she did was absolutely horrific I will say that was wrong definitely but she could’ve went about it a different way rather than do what she did

@Hobby Channel  Yes going to school and not date a drug dealer that sounds reasonable but the unrealistic expectations of the grades “A+ “s all the way through  school an high school is absurd and obnoxious and ridiculous that would drive anyone out of their minds—kids or parents— BUT I will say it shouldn’t make you think of killing your parents to have that mentality is absolutely horrifying It should make you really rethink you know what my parents need to go to therapy

@Hobby Channel  Yes going to school and not date a drug dealer that sounds reasonable but the unrealistic expectations of the grades “A+ “s all the way through  school an high school is absurd and obnoxious and ridiculous that would drive anyone out of their minds—kids or parents— BUT I will say it shouldn’t make you think of killing your parents to have that mentality is absolutely horrifying It should make you really rethink you know what my parents need to go to therapy

I would say the moral of the story half is correct parents shouldn’t set unrealistic expectations and <br>kids: need to be honest with their parents saying you know what mom/ dad you’re setting unrealistic expectations of me— that most kids are incapable of knock that shit off— Lots of kids would say that

I would say the moral of the story half is correct parents shouldn’t set unrealistic expectations and
kids: need to be honest with their parents saying you know what mom/ dad you’re setting unrealistic expectations of me— that most kids are incapable of knock that shit off— Lots of kids would say that

How many times has that detective gotten away with that satellite gag? Surely someone has called bullshit at some point.

How many times has that detective gotten away with that satellite gag? Surely someone has called bullshit at some point.

Yeah but they were pushing her to hard which led her to do all that.

Yeah but they were pushing her to hard which led her to do all that.

@T J You'd make a terrible parent if you think unconditional love is in any way "crippling."

@T J You'd make a terrible parent if you think unconditional love is in any way "crippling."

@ParadymShift, Plant-BASED Ⓥegan Jedi I resent my biological father because he chose alcoholism over his entire family, tried to force my mother to abort me in a country where it's illegal, cheated, didn't contact me in over a decade but the one time I see him he's drunk to the point of none understanding what he's saying.

Are you telling me and other people with a shitty parent to not resent them just because we have their DNA?

"Kids - don't resent your parents", so what, did my father cheat and become an alcoholic because he wanted the best for me??
Did my mother's father do hard drugs and gamble away the money for the best for her?
Did my mother deserve to get beaten if she accidentally burnt the rice once?
Did my childhood friend's parent attempt suicide for her sake?

Don't get me wrong, murder is definitely not a good thing (unless self defense), but saying that children should love their parents no matter what is really fucking narrow minded, a small brain move.

Also you can raise your children to become a good and successful adult without humiliating and putting unnecessary pressure on them. Why does it have to be all or nothing when it comes to parenting? Ffs

Both parents and their daughter are shitty people, their daughter even more but her parents are probably not exatly saints either if she would rather plot an intricate murder plan instead of just running away with money and get disowned.

Why did she even get in to the toxic circle of drugs and bad influences in the first place? Many kids that have police, religious, military parents are the ones who end up rebelling the most for some reason.

As native Asian myself living on Asia itself, thank you.

As native Asian myself living on Asia itself, thank you.

@Stacey M I give zero craps what lawyers say, I want murderers arrested and convicted, ergo, I want them to talk.

@Stacey M I give zero craps what lawyers say, I want murderers arrested and convicted, ergo, I want them to talk.

@Umatsu Obossa nah. Any lawyer will tell you even if you’re guilty, don’t talk to the police

@Umatsu Obossa nah. Any lawyer will tell you even if you’re guilty, don’t talk to the police

I hate how in this thread everyone things everyone else is like them. Like no, everyone’s different and learns differently.

I hate how in this thread everyone things everyone else is like them. Like no, everyone’s different and learns differently.

@Juancarlos Reyes Not really. It was not like 'ok, I will not give you money and I don't understand your life, but you're still my daughter'.  It was more like 'you can live but you disowned our family, you aren't my daughter any more and will not talk to you any more'. I think if she was going to lie to them and use their money, she should had done something with that, like finish her highschool, get a job, volunteer in an ONG. Her boyfriend (if he had been a nice guy, not a drug dealer) was her private life, so if she didn't want to share that, it's her choice; but she should have done something with her life like I said. Her parents would have being the same, but she would have her own life.

@Cameron Smith straight A’s is absolutely an unrealistic expectation for a lot of people...

@Cameron Smith straight A’s is absolutely an unrealistic expectation for a lot of people...

Wise words! She clearly went into a depression after losing her skating career due to injury . The stress of trying to EARN her parents love/ approval certainly didn't help. She hated her parents!

Wise words! She clearly went into a depression after losing her skating career due to injury . The stress of trying to EARN her parents love/ approval certainly didn't help. She hated her parents!

@Testing this name unconditional love means there is love without conditions, simple as that.. i.e.: i don't require any certain reason to show my love. That doesn't mean that love is meaningless. On the contrary, it is a pure form of love. Animals, for an example, recieve my affection and reciprocate. It's unconditional bc if my cat vomits on the carpet or sharpens his claws on my door frame, i don't withdraw my love bc i find his actions to be a pain in my butt- i love him regardless, bc my love is unconditional, and in no way meaningless!

@Bored guy never said she wasn’t, but if she wasn’t raised that way, that wouldn’t have happened. Y’all don’t have any sympathy for what it’s like to be raised in a cruel world by people who expect shit from you that you can’t achieve. For fucks sake, I can feel sympathy and I was raised by a loving mother. Put yourself in someone else’s shoes. It can seriously fuck someone up to have their parents constantly tell them they aren’t good enough

@Bored guy never said she wasn’t, but if she wasn’t raised that way, that wouldn’t have happened. Y’all don’t have any sympathy for what it’s like to be raised in a cruel world by people who expect shit from you that you can’t achieve. For fucks sake, I can feel sympathy and I was raised by a loving mother. Put yourself in someone else’s shoes. It can seriously fuck someone up to have their parents constantly tell them they aren’t good enough

Get degree and dont date drug dealer is not unrealistic

Get degree and dont date drug dealer is not unrealistic

She would've moved out. No, she will be in jail for life

She would've moved out. No, she will be in jail for life

Asian parents: I'll pretend I didn't see that

Asian parents: I'll pretend I didn't see that

@Ante Bekavac i think she was already damaged at that point, if you see earlier they expectations started since she was a little kid.

@Ante Bekavac i think she was already damaged at that point, if you see earlier they expectations started since she was a little kid.

I think people tend to forget how different life experiences and outcome have different forging material for personal growth.
I mean it is great how everyone is brought up different in the world. While it is not so great that not everyone is brought up with good outcome...

I feel like moral of the story as you said is.
Parents: Don’t set unrealistic expectations for your kids, show them love and compassion instead, so they don´t end up with malicious intent to neither you or anyone.

Much fault to her parents for having bad experience to give.
 As it is for her being unlucky not getting the life experience that could had show her another way to live on...

I knew I wasn't the only one who thought the parents was at fault at some degree

I knew I wasn't the only one who thought the parents was at fault at some degree

@Chris Jackson I’m not saying by any means that her actions are excusable. They are, however, understandable. You boil it down to her parents just wanting her to succeed and get good grades which is a gross over-simplification and downplay of what she was actually put through. As is typical in many Asian households, they expected nothing but rigid perfection from her since she was born practically. She became a prodigy in figure skating but had to stop due to injury. This very clearly made her feel useless in their eyes as she wasn’t a naturally good student. Her performance in school after her injury is likely compounded by her knowledge that she had none of the qualities her parents wanted in a daughter. Does it excuse murder? No. But her upbringing was incredibly toxic and enough to drive anyone to a breaking point of some sort.

@Z Hancox You're deliberately excusing the actions of a cold-blooded, lying murderer whose only mistreatment was that of parents who wanted her to perform well in academics and even gave her the option to go do whatever she wanted and be independent, which she refused to take on her own.

@Z Hancox You're deliberately excusing the actions of a cold-blooded, lying murderer whose only mistreatment was that of parents who wanted her to perform well in academics and even gave her the option to go do whatever she wanted and be independent, which she refused to take on her own.

@Chris Jackson you’re deliberately downplaying what happened and how they treated her

@Chris Jackson you’re deliberately downplaying what happened and how they treated her

@funnyBuu37 She was given the option to emancipate from them and go live with her boyfriend, but instead she had them murdered so she could steal their money. Plus, many other children have tiger parents and they never so much as think of having them killed. There are no excuses for what she did, and no, they did not "have it coming". The fact that you can justify something like this is quite frankly frightening.

@funnyBuu37 She was given the option to emancipate from them and go live with her boyfriend, but instead she had them murdered so she could steal their money. Plus, many other children have tiger parents and they never so much as think of having them killed. There are no excuses for what she did, and no, they did not "have it coming". The fact that you can justify something like this is quite frankly frightening.

@Andy Tomlins so we are blaming this on immigrants? I don't think your meritocracy explanation works. Pretty sure it is just because of the racists who don't value them long enough for immigrant families to last a generation.

I mean the reason Asian parents do this is because they don't think people like Jen here will get paid fairly as an Asian or a woman. They probably didn't like the boy, not because they thought drugs are evil, but because they thought he wouldn't be rich enough for them to survive.

I wonder where the parents might have gotten the idea that only money matters to Americans when looking at an Asian man?

@Joshua Abreo agreed people keep talking about success and drug dealer bf like the war on drugs is cool again. But they didn't like him because he was of "mixed race." That is obviously racist which is very telling. I mean a little less telling then the extremely young Asian figure skater. I know she enjoyed it. I would too if it was my only source of social contact and positive reinforcement, but... Are we really taking that in stride? I mean Damn was that her in the beginning of the video?

I am pretty sure people go crazy in general when they fall in love. Probably a bad idea to act like you can control a person's actions at all, much less in love. You don't have to force a choice very far for it to feel like rape.

@gasai yuno Well said. People without the most basic understanding of psychology fail to realize how much emotional neglect and abuse can affect the mind. When a child is abused emotionally and or psychically, some parts of the brain fail to develop, or don't develop properly, or become over developed. So many people suffer mental abuse from close family members on a daily basis. Mental abuse leaves no psychical markings, no noticeable indicators to the untrained eye. A child could spend their entire life void of love and compassion and you'd never know. Were human beings, not robots, our sole purpose is not production. So many homes big nice homes full of empty people. I'm ranting at this point. In no way am I saying what this woman did is right, I'm just giving perspective.

@Testing this name Do you know the definition of unconditional? Google it and get back to me.

@Testing this name Do you know the definition of unconditional? Google it and get back to me.

@WRECKA LEFT AN LIVED HER OWN LIFE IN HIGHSCHOOL????!?!!?

@WRECKA LEFT AN LIVED HER OWN LIFE IN HIGHSCHOOL????!?!!?

@Jarate Ng exactly. Parents get away with so much abuse and as long as they don't touch their child hard enough to leave a physical mark they don't get reprimanded at all.

@Jarate Ng exactly. Parents get away with so much abuse and as long as they don't touch their child hard enough to leave a physical mark they don't get reprimanded at all.

She can just runaway from home if she couldn't handle "THE ABUSE" . BUT SHE NEEDS HER PARENT'S MONEY. laws are justified after all 😁😁😁

She can just runaway from home if she couldn't handle "THE ABUSE" . BUT SHE NEEDS HER PARENT'S MONEY. laws are justified after all 😁😁😁

@Chris Jackson they wanted perfect A's. They also wanted her to win the Olympics, they pushed her so hard she wasn't able to do what she actually had a passion for due to an injury. Then they didn't recalibrate expectations just forced her to get perfect grades in school, what she wanted in life be damned.

That resentment grew and the acts of rebellion that blossomed into this documentary.

The parents had it coming.

@Chris Jackson they wanted perfect A's. They also wanted her to win the Olympics, they pushed her so hard she wasn't able to do what she actually had a passion for due to an injury. Then they didn't recalibrate expectations just forced her to get perfect grades in school, what she wanted in life be damned.

That resentment grew and the acts of rebellion that blossomed into this documentary.

The parents had it coming.

@gasai yuno this girl was not being abused by her parents. stop trying to defend a murderer, its pathetic and gross.

@gasai yuno this girl was not being abused by her parents. stop trying to defend a murderer, its pathetic and gross.

More like, Parents: don’t give ur adult kid that you traumatized as a child into having abandonment issues the ultimatum of either permanent abandonment or extreme mental/physical abuse.

Kids: Don’t murder someone, even if they abused you. Never sink down to their level. Get therapy, and sue/press charges against ur mental/physical abusers instead. 🌸✨🌸✨🌸

More like, Parents: don’t give ur adult kid that you traumatized as a child into having abandonment issues the ultimatum of either permanent abandonment or extreme mental/physical abuse.

Kids: Don’t murder someone, even if they abused you. Never sink down to their level. Get therapy, and sue/press charges against ur mental/physical abusers instead. 🌸✨🌸✨🌸

@Testing this name That's not how that works lmfao. Unconditional love is based on one person at a time not others. Unconditional love means you love someone and will love them no matter the conditions.

@Testing this name That's not how that works lmfao. Unconditional love is based on one person at a time not others. Unconditional love means you love someone and will love them no matter the conditions.

@Ante Bekavac Yes, what she did was horrible, but I'd say that's some form of abuse on her parents part. She felt so pressured to do good in school that she felt the need to fake her grades because she wasn't good enough for her parents. Do you know how emotionally exhausting that would be? They didn't just want her to be normal, they were asking too much.

@Ante Bekavac Yes, what she did was horrible, but I'd say that's some form of abuse on her parents part. She felt so pressured to do good in school that she felt the need to fake her grades because she wasn't good enough for her parents. Do you know how emotionally exhausting that would be? They didn't just want her to be normal, they were asking too much.

all asian parents should watch this video

all asian parents should watch this video

@Ikmal Hakim Harun the fact that you think a child owes a parent because they CHOSE to become a parent and take on that responsibility says a lot about you but go off I guess.

@Ikmal Hakim Harun the fact that you think a child owes a parent because they CHOSE to become a parent and take on that responsibility says a lot about you but go off I guess.

@x maraj at least Jen always got money from her parents . Pls don't said she was not happy with that 😂😂

@x maraj at least Jen always got money from her parents . Pls don't said she was not happy with that 😂😂

@x maraj hahahahahahaha. That's it. I'm done with u. Lmao. Not owing parents anything cuz they don't ask to be born . No wonder you came up with that kind of thinking.  Okay okay. Take care 😂😂😂😂😂

@x maraj hahahahahahaha. That's it. I'm done with u. Lmao. Not owing parents anything cuz they don't ask to be born . No wonder you came up with that kind of thinking.  Okay okay. Take care 😂😂😂😂😂

@Ikmal Hakim Harun no child asked to be born so they don’t owe their parents anything. Yes they should respect them but the parent should also respect the child. Being a parent doesn’t give you the right to treat a child terribly. That mindset is why so many children go through child abuse. HOLD PARENTS ACCOUNTABLE.

@Ikmal Hakim Harun no child asked to be born so they don’t owe their parents anything. Yes they should respect them but the parent should also respect the child. Being a parent doesn’t give you the right to treat a child terribly. That mindset is why so many children go through child abuse. HOLD PARENTS ACCOUNTABLE.

@x maraj seriously ??? hahahahahahah. they are the parents. u should give them respect. they are the one giving birth to u. without them . you woul'nt exist in.this wolrd. so what's wrong with the need to adapt with the family situations ?? there is nothing wrong with that

@x maraj seriously ??? hahahahahahah. they are the parents. u should give them respect. they are the one giving birth to u. without them . you woul'nt exist in.this wolrd. so what's wrong with the need to adapt with the family situations ?? there is nothing wrong with that

@Ikmal Hakim Harun obviously murder was an extreme but I’m sure lots of Asian kids grow up with emotional issues for being put under that kinds of pressure. A kid shouldn’t have to adapt to anything because a parent shouldn’t put them through that, it’s literally mental and emotional abuse. She was a child doing everything she could to please her parents with unrealistic expectations and when she couldn’t take it anymore she made the choice to do something terrible. You can hold her accountable for murder while also holding her parents accountable for the affects their parenting had on her.

@Ikmal Hakim Harun I literally she said she deserves the consequences because she did something terrible, but I’m also acknowledging that she grew up in an extremely toxic environment and that played a factor in the choice she made. Obviously I don’t think anyone should kill their parents but parents should also not abuse their kids.

@Ikmal Hakim Harun I literally she said she deserves the consequences because she did something terrible, but I’m also acknowledging that she grew up in an extremely toxic environment and that played a factor in the choice she made. Obviously I don’t think anyone should kill their parents but parents should also not abuse their kids.

For the parents' part-- Don't abuse your kids*

For the parents' part-- Don't abuse your kids*

@Ikmal Hakim Harun I agree she chose it but that road would not have been an option if her parents did not put her through that abuse. She lied simply so that she could have a normal life and make her parents feel like she wasn’t a failure. Imagine being made to feel like shit because you weren’t perfect in every aspect of life. She made her choice and deserves punishment but we can’t ignore all of the events that led to the choice she made.

@Ikmal Hakim Harun I agree she chose it but that road would not have been an option if her parents did not put her through that abuse. She lied simply so that she could have a normal life and make her parents feel like she wasn’t a failure. Imagine being made to feel like shit because you weren’t perfect in every aspect of life. She made her choice and deserves punishment but we can’t ignore all of the events that led to the choice she made.

@x maraj nah. she chose that road. why do u think her parents never discovered about the lies that she came up with ?

@x maraj nah. she chose that road. why do u think her parents never discovered about the lies that she came up with ?

@dilara I think even u would be dumb if u were been interrogated for 5 hours straight ? and that is the detective objective. going back and forth. was to make her stress and make her wear down mentally

@dilara I think even u would be dumb if u were been interrogated for 5 hours straight ? and that is the detective objective. going back and forth. was to make her stress and make her wear down mentally

@ShinySylvie and how did u know that her parents did not do any of that ?

@ShinySylvie and how did u know that her parents did not do any of that ?

@ShinySylvie then let me ask you. if they really force her to do anthing they want. if they were truly too strict for this world. then why did'nt the parents noticed that she lied to them for about 8 years ?

@ShinySylvie then let me ask you. if they really force her to do anthing they want. if they were truly too strict for this world. then why did'nt the parents noticed that she lied to them for about 8 years ?

Some people here were never emotionally abused by their parents and it shows

Some people here were never emotionally abused by their parents and it shows

@Testing this name it’s not that the expectations are unrealistic (although expecting her to become an Olympic athlete is a big unrealistic) but how they forced the expectations into the children and put the expectations over the child’s well being.

@Testing this name it’s not that the expectations are unrealistic (although expecting her to become an Olympic athlete is a big unrealistic) but how they forced the expectations into the children and put the expectations over the child’s well being.

@Testing this name I feel bad for laughing at that.

@Testing this name I feel bad for laughing at that.

The way that the majority of y’all are ignoring that she was emotionally abused her entire life. Telling her she isn’t good enough and constantly comparing her to other people obviously affected her a lot, as it would anyone.

Not every child makes straight A’s. That doesn’t make them any less intelligent or determined. Everyone has strength and weaknesses and if her parents took the time to talk to her they would’ve realized that.

I completely agree she is wrong and deserves the punishment she got but her parents abusive parenting definitely set her on the path she eventually took.

@Elisabeth yes, parents are responsible for you not to turn out as such an awful kid, but overly strict parenting can exacerbate exactly that kind of behaviour.

@Elisabeth yes, parents are responsible for you not to turn out as such an awful kid, but overly strict parenting can exacerbate exactly that kind of behaviour.

@Ante Bekavac unrealistic expectation is asking from your kid to study 24/7 and have the best grade from every subject at school. Just like her parents did.

Now, i aint sympathizing with the killer, but her parents aint really that great either. Her father might be tough as nails (considering he survived a bullet in a face without any brain injury), he still aint an angel.

@Ante Bekavac unrealistic expectation is asking from your kid to study 24/7 and have the best grade from every subject at school. Just like her parents did.

Now, i aint sympathizing with the killer, but her parents aint really that great either. Her father might be tough as nails (considering he survived a bullet in a face without any brain injury), he still aint an angel.

Look your parents are responsible for u til u turn 18. They have every right to do whatever they want, they gave u life. My mom beat the shit out of me and I deserved it. I was a shitty teen and had bad friends. She worked three jobs to support us and my sister and I would make crank calls and her phone bill was almost $500. Imagine how much $500 was in 1980. That was 3 weeks pay for her. <br>She had to lock the phone. We did so many bad things. Our poor mom. And Dad was suffering with a slow growing brain tumor and couldn’t work. We shitty kids completely took advantage of that. Parents need to be strict or kids will ruin their lives and their parents lives. My mom only had me and my sister and we drove her crazy being bad.

Look your parents are responsible for u til u turn 18. They have every right to do whatever they want, they gave u life. My mom beat the shit out of me and I deserved it. I was a shitty teen and had bad friends. She worked three jobs to support us and my sister and I would make crank calls and her phone bill was almost $500. Imagine how much $500 was in 1980. That was 3 weeks pay for her.
She had to lock the phone. We did so many bad things. Our poor mom. And Dad was suffering with a slow growing brain tumor and couldn’t work. We shitty kids completely took advantage of that. Parents need to be strict or kids will ruin their lives and their parents lives. My mom only had me and my sister and we drove her crazy being bad.

@men with ven frr. being a good liar is the key. she just said dumb things

@men with ven frr. being a good liar is the key. she just said dumb things

@Testing this name by that condition, almost anything we call 'unconditional' is unconditional in a literal sense.<br>Dissections such as this are useless...

@Testing this name by that condition, almost anything we call 'unconditional' is unconditional in a literal sense.
Dissections such as this are useless...

@men with ven <br>Yeah, but to be honest I would be MUCH worse at lying than many of the perpetrators on this channel.

@men with ven
Yeah, but to be honest I would be MUCH worse at lying than many of the perpetrators on this channel.

What's unrealistic? The ultimatum, move out or go back to school was the cause of this. At 24 years old, that's a realistic expectation.

What's unrealistic? The ultimatum, move out or go back to school was the cause of this. At 24 years old, that's a realistic expectation.

Despite her parents raising her strictly and enforcing difficult requirements in her education , Jennifer is still a terrible person for living a double shady life and lying to her parents for over half a decade then attempting to murder them .

Despite her parents raising her strictly and enforcing difficult requirements in her education , Jennifer is still a terrible person for living a double shady life and lying to her parents for over half a decade then attempting to murder them .

@Testing this name they literally told her they wished she was someone else, I think that can really damage a person, to hear that from the people they want the most love from. Shut up.

@Testing this name they literally told her they wished she was someone else, I think that can really damage a person, to hear that from the people they want the most love from. Shut up.

@Testing this name I'm not gonna say it's unreasonable, but it's a stupid expectation. C's and below are trash imo, but B's are perfectly fine. And if you're child isn't doing that well, HELP THEM. When I wasn't doing well in class despite studying, my parents didn't scream at me or call me a failure. They sat down with me and got me a tutor to help. To say someone isn't intelligent just because getting all A's isn't easy is just ridiculous.

@Testing this name I'm not gonna say it's unreasonable, but it's a stupid expectation. C's and below are trash imo, but B's are perfectly fine. And if you're child isn't doing that well, HELP THEM. When I wasn't doing well in class despite studying, my parents didn't scream at me or call me a failure. They sat down with me and got me a tutor to help. To say someone isn't intelligent just because getting all A's isn't easy is just ridiculous.

@Spooky Man because that's the best you can do? I was never good at literature.

@Spooky Man because that's the best you can do? I was never good at literature.

@Victor Nieves Yeah. Not everyone grows up to become a murderer. Others develop anxiety or depression. Some develop codependency since their parents had always micro-managed their life. Other people leave immediately and hope to never see their parents for the rest of their life.

@Victor Nieves Yeah. Not everyone grows up to become a murderer. Others develop anxiety or depression. Some develop codependency since their parents had always micro-managed their life. Other people leave immediately and hope to never see their parents for the rest of their life.

@Cheap Mirage not really. They basically managed her life and didn't allow her to do anything she wanted to do. Everything she did was because her parents told her to. Even her friends recognized that the amount of control her parents had in her life was insane. It was more than just straight A's (which shouldn't be a requirement) or to go to college (which they wanted her to pursue a degree she didn't even particularly want),  it was the fact that she was more of a robot than an actual child. Don't get me wrong though, that is no grounds for murder. She had a chance to leave and she didn't. She's still a no-good murderer and she deserves to rot in hell. Her parents not being good parents doesn't mean they should be killed for it.

@Testing this name be careful with future children my guy. They might not be as dumb as Jen and their bf might be a serial killer and not a drug dealer.

@Testing this name be careful with future children my guy. They might not be as dumb as Jen and their bf might be a serial killer and not a drug dealer.

@gasai yuno She was given the option to leave and move in with her boyfriend and live her own life exactly how she wanted. That doesnt seem as tyrannical as she paints her parents to be. She was 24, and given options.

Also, we are taking the word of the psychotic crazy person in this scenario, and lord knows kids can be the biggest over exaggerators ever.

In the end, we dont know if the parents were really that bad, but how bad could they have been, and how evil do we believe them to be if when given the option to leave, she decided to stay. SHE CHOOSE TO STAY, AND SHE CHOOSE TO HAVE THEM MURDERED.

Unrealistic expectations? For her to get an education. For her to have a better life than living with a low life boyfriend. For her to be honest with them and not lie about going to school and of course for her not to have them murdered.

Unrealistic expectations? For her to get an education. For her to have a better life than living with a low life boyfriend. For her to be honest with them and not lie about going to school and of course for her not to have them murdered.

Don’t murder my parents?! Then how will I be Batman?

Don’t murder my parents?! Then how will I be Batman?

Youtube:  don't consent to being interrogated by police.

Youtube:  don't consent to being interrogated by police.

@Testing this name yes because forcing people to do things against their will has always ended well.

@Testing this name yes because forcing people to do things against their will has always ended well.

@Ante Bekavac being a straight A student was unrealistic when she was not naturally academic. They should have supported her in following a career that best suited her talents and abilities rather than setting unreasonable expectations that eventually broke her. <br>I'm not claiming that she is a victim - most people avoid murdering their parents, but it clearly contributed.

@Ante Bekavac being a straight A student was unrealistic when she was not naturally academic. They should have supported her in following a career that best suited her talents and abilities rather than setting unreasonable expectations that eventually broke her.
I'm not claiming that she is a victim - most people avoid murdering their parents, but it clearly contributed.

@Ante Bekavac I think when parents pressure their kids to be perfect the kids usually turn out to be the opposite. You don’t wanna drive your kid mad with your unrealistic expectations just cause you messed up but also you wanna guide them. I think her parents just never taught her that it’s ok to mess up

@Ante Bekavac I think when parents pressure their kids to be perfect the kids usually turn out to be the opposite. You don’t wanna drive your kid mad with your unrealistic expectations just cause you messed up but also you wanna guide them. I think her parents just never taught her that it’s ok to mess up

@Testing this name lol success doesn’t mean being a dictator of your child’s life.

@Testing this name lol success doesn’t mean being a dictator of your child’s life.

Tell that to Governments making the world live under a crushing narrative of how you "should" or "shouldn't" be despite how they act themselves, they can do it but we can't, they hate the competition and make the lives of every citizen so hard and difficult by not letting people be themselves, no breathing room for everybody to be who they're meant to be, until Governments drop this terrible narrative that doesn't really benefit anyone we won't see any improvement and all these bad things will keep happen and people just backed into a corner like an animal.

We're on our own and that's the truth of it, and people tell you "Only you can help yourself" but when you understand what that means it's not like they help you in any way either... cos they're too busy also being messed up and expecting SO much of you... even when they know it's not going to get them anywhere treating their kids that way, that's why people have no right to criticize or tell people how to live their lives when they won't help you, it's just like they need to shut up and back off or just let us go... cos none is will get any of us anywhere.

studying and getting good grades isn't an unrealistic expectation.

studying and getting good grades isn't an unrealistic expectation.

Try that with cultures that have huge expectations from their children and those children have no life the children do what they are told when they are told and there us NO CHOICE!!!

Try that with cultures that have huge expectations from their children and those children have no life the children do what they are told when they are told and there us NO CHOICE!!!

@Testing this name unrealistic success is unrealistic

@Testing this name unrealistic success is unrealistic

@Testing this name i have no idea what planet your living on, but straight A's are only achievable when you have no life outside school.

@Testing this name i have no idea what planet your living on, but straight A's are only achievable when you have no life outside school.

@Testing this name straight A's are incredibly unrealistic.

@Testing this name straight A's are incredibly unrealistic.

Bullshit. She didn't even bother graduating high school. If her parents were as strict as you all keep insinuating, how could they have never noticed all those years she wasn't actually attending high school or graduating? It literally makes no sense. They weren't that strict then. No fucking reason to feel sorry for her. She did everything she wanted. And had them killed when they dared cut her off financially.

Bullshit. She didn't even bother graduating high school. If her parents were as strict as you all keep insinuating, how could they have never noticed all those years she wasn't actually attending high school or graduating? It literally makes no sense. They weren't that strict then. No fucking reason to feel sorry for her. She did everything she wanted. And had them killed when they dared cut her off financially.

@J B exactly, she killed them because they wouldn’t give them money. She isn’t a good person at all and yes, the exceptions may have sent her down that road but she walked down.

@J B exactly, she killed them because they wouldn’t give them money. She isn’t a good person at all and yes, the exceptions may have sent her down that road but she walked down.

@Name thank you. I mean wait till you're a patent. You'll see that it's a fine line between when you have to push and step back.

@Name thank you. I mean wait till you're a patent. You'll see that it's a fine line between when you have to push and step back.

@Hobby Channel  yk what I change my mind ur right

@Hobby Channel  yk what I change my mind ur right

@Hobby Channel  I mean some parents push their kids to study a lot. Even though some kids try their best it’s never enough for their parents

@Hobby Channel  I mean some parents push their kids to study a lot. Even though some kids try their best it’s never enough for their parents

@men with ven  true. But she was the only one alive and it was kind of suspicious that she was the only one who was tight up and the parents were shot at.

@men with ven  true. But she was the only one alive and it was kind of suspicious that she was the only one who was tight up and the parents were shot at.

@Jarate Ng How can you punish parents for having “Unreasonable,” expectations? That’s a matter of perspective, there are many people who’ve been in a similar situation to her that didn’t grow up to have their parents killed.

@Jarate Ng How can you punish parents for having “Unreasonable,” expectations? That’s a matter of perspective, there are many people who’ve been in a similar situation to her that didn’t grow up to have their parents killed.

@gasai yuno She could’ve just left and supported herself like 99% of adults on this planet.

@gasai yuno She could’ve just left and supported herself like 99% of adults on this planet.

What’s unrealistic about wanting your kids to have good grades and not be liars?

What’s unrealistic about wanting your kids to have good grades and not be liars?

@Testing this name Success equals having a PhD in pharmacology to you? There are different ways for people to achieve success in life. For her being a lab technician and teaching piano, something she is passionate about, was enough for her to feel successful. What is success and failure is subjective and not everyone has to live up to your standards.

@Testing this name Success equals having a PhD in pharmacology to you? There are different ways for people to achieve success in life. For her being a lab technician and teaching piano, something she is passionate about, was enough for her to feel successful. What is success and failure is subjective and not everyone has to live up to your standards.

I'm not sure. She had poor grades at 14 then automatically faked a life. And she was already dating the drug by 14. Yikes.

I'm not sure. She had poor grades at 14 then automatically faked a life. And she was already dating the drug by 14. Yikes.

I keep seeing that family guy episode where the oriental dad walks in the room of his 5 yr old son and says " are you doctor yet?

I keep seeing that family guy episode where the oriental dad walks in the room of his 5 yr old son and says " are you doctor yet?

@Seth setting realistic expectations is how you motivate your kids to do better. Unrealistic expectations and authoritarian parenting will cause problems that can last a lifetime. Her parents obviously did the latter and she ended up doing the worst thing possible.

@Seth setting realistic expectations is how you motivate your kids to do better. Unrealistic expectations and authoritarian parenting will cause problems that can last a lifetime. Her parents obviously did the latter and she ended up doing the worst thing possible.

I mean parents always want you to succeed no matter what path you choose in life I would appreciate having both of my parents and them setting expectations I would have to work hard to achieve it’s pretty much teaching them how to work hard no matter the circumstances that they face

I mean parents always want you to succeed no matter what path you choose in life I would appreciate having both of my parents and them setting expectations I would have to work hard to achieve it’s pretty much teaching them how to work hard no matter the circumstances that they face

The moral of the story is don't mix cultures.

Authoritarian immigrant parents thinking they can come to the west and force their kids to be perfect because it's a meritocracy. Totally misunderstanding the system and that most haven't got the ability to. If they had stayed in Vietnam they would never have had these unrealistic aspirations.

The moral of the story is don't mix cultures.

Authoritarian immigrant parents thinking they can come to the west and force their kids to be perfect because it's a meritocracy. Totally misunderstanding the system and that most haven't got the ability to. If they had stayed in Vietnam they would never have had these unrealistic aspirations.

@iluvpinkandgold it was said that she was gifted with athletics and she was pretty bad at academics so it depends really

@iluvpinkandgold it was said that she was gifted with athletics and she was pretty bad at academics so it depends really

Some of these comments are worrying with how inconsiderate and thoughtless they are. Those high expections for her started long before she had a boyfriend and fell even further down the hole. Getting A's are only easy if you take normal classes, however taking AP courses are far far more difficult. Had she been allowed to live her life how she wanted to FROM THE START, it wouldn't have led to this. It isn't justified, it isn't right but its plain ignorant to say she didn't face hardship

Some of these comments are worrying with how inconsiderate and thoughtless they are. Those high expections for her started long before she had a boyfriend and fell even further down the hole. Getting A's are only easy if you take normal classes, however taking AP courses are far far more difficult. Had she been allowed to live her life how she wanted to FROM THE START, it wouldn't have led to this. It isn't justified, it isn't right but its plain ignorant to say she didn't face hardship

@Ante Bekavac who are you to tell somebody who they can and cant be with idc if ur my parent thats MY business goodbye

@Ante Bekavac who are you to tell somebody who they can and cant be with idc if ur my parent thats MY business goodbye

don't fabricate and lie about your grades.

don't fabricate and lie about your grades.

I mean I didn’t really feel like the parents had any unrealistic expectations tho they just wanted her to get good grades and eventually get a good job.

I mean I didn’t really feel like the parents had any unrealistic expectations tho they just wanted her to get good grades and eventually get a good job.

@Ante Bekavac no unrealistic expectations are to do everything perfectly, pass school with all A+, get a full college degree and live without flaws

@Ante Bekavac no unrealistic expectations are to do everything perfectly, pass school with all A+, get a full college degree and live without flaws

J B exactly. They were strict but they gave her an ultimatum and she didn’t like that

J B exactly. They were strict but they gave her an ultimatum and she didn’t like that

Baby Cow yeah they literally wanted her to be an amazing student but when they found out they gave her 2 options 1 to get a job and do what she wants or 2 stay home while you get an education. Those aren’t unrealistic standards they just didn’t want her with a drug dealer

Baby Cow yeah they literally wanted her to be an amazing student but when they found out they gave her 2 options 1 to get a job and do what she wants or 2 stay home while you get an education. Those aren’t unrealistic standards they just didn’t want her with a drug dealer

I agree. I had similar parents and I had to move to another city when I was 20 and worked

I agree. I had similar parents and I had to move to another city when I was 20 and worked

@Testing this name not everyone is physically capable of being a straight a+ student, or being the absolute best in literally every activity they try and then being in an incredibly high paying job. That's unrealistic as shit my dude

@Testing this name not everyone is physically capable of being a straight a+ student, or being the absolute best in literally every activity they try and then being in an incredibly high paying job. That's unrealistic as shit my dude

@gasai yuno She had the option to leave her parents and live the life she wanted to live. Saying that she is a victim is bullshit. She could get her bills paid or leave. She chose to kill her parents. She wasn’t a victim. Her parents are.

@gasai yuno She had the option to leave her parents and live the life she wanted to live. Saying that she is a victim is bullshit. She could get her bills paid or leave. She chose to kill her parents. She wasn’t a victim. Her parents are.

@Testing this name haha true.. my parents let me do anything as long as I have good grades. When those grades drop, oh no no haha.

@Testing this name haha true.. my parents let me do anything as long as I have good grades. When those grades drop, oh no no haha.

I don’t know homie, my mom still owes me $1,200 or so

I don’t know homie, my mom still owes me $1,200 or so

@D G What is realistic depends entirely on the individual.

@D G What is realistic depends entirely on the individual.

No expectations are unrealistic unless you’re wanting your kid to be the next Elon Musk. Other than that, anything is realistic.

No expectations are unrealistic unless you’re wanting your kid to be the next Elon Musk. Other than that, anything is realistic.

@K-Dogg #169 Imagine thinking murderers shouldn't be arrested, lol

@K-Dogg #169 Imagine thinking murderers shouldn't be arrested, lol

@Umatsu Obossa No, if you talk to the police & you’re a murderer you’ll get arrested.

@Umatsu Obossa No, if you talk to the police & you’re a murderer you’ll get arrested.

You’re going to get some hate for this but you’re right; her parents were too harsh. Not worthy of murder but look at what she did for years to avoid having to tell them she wasn’t as successful, dedicated and/or intelligent enough to do what they wanted. She wanted to get a degree in Kinesiology - support that. She can also add to that and get a job in the medical field with it. Again, don’t lie to your parents, don’t kill anyone, but parents needs to ease up.

You’re going to get some hate for this but you’re right; her parents were too harsh. Not worthy of murder but look at what she did for years to avoid having to tell them she wasn’t as successful, dedicated and/or intelligent enough to do what they wanted. She wanted to get a degree in Kinesiology - support that. She can also add to that and get a job in the medical field with it. Again, don’t lie to your parents, don’t kill anyone, but parents needs to ease up.

@Ante Bekavac that was the end result.. early in life they demanded success and perfection  and blind ob4edience. They created a monster.

@Ante Bekavac that was the end result.. early in life they demanded success and perfection  and blind ob4edience. They created a monster.

Dude you are soooooooo funnnnnyyyyyyyy !!! HAHAHHAHAHHAHAHA

Dude you are soooooooo funnnnnyyyyyyyy !!! HAHAHHAHAHHAHAHA

@Miss Acacia Exactly. Jennifer did something fucked up but all of her former school friends said that her parents, her dad especially, were extremely controlling and cruel to her. All of them said this. And with high suicide rates in Eastern Asia over outdated, stifling social norms and putting too much on your children and immediate family members, it's no surprise.

She was a compulsive liar, that they created, who lived a double life, that they caused.

@Miss Acacia Exactly. Jennifer did something fucked up but all of her former school friends said that her parents, her dad especially, were extremely controlling and cruel to her. All of them said this. And with high suicide rates in Eastern Asia over outdated, stifling social norms and putting too much on your children and immediate family members, it's no surprise.

She was a compulsive liar, that they created, who lived a double life, that they caused.

The type of parent who conditions their love and support based on their definition of succes (money or winning medals), which usually has to do with the image they behold as a family, are usually narcissistic and they truly fuck you up.

The type of parent who conditions their love and support based on their definition of succes (money or winning medals), which usually has to do with the image they behold as a family, are usually narcissistic and they truly fuck you up.

This comment section is seriously disgusting ew

This comment section is seriously disgusting ew

@T J honestly all you got to do is guide your kids in the right direction let them make their own decisions and be there for them afterwards if and when they fall sometimes you got to be assertive but most of the time she got to be there to help it's all about balance

@T J honestly all you got to do is guide your kids in the right direction let them make their own decisions and be there for them afterwards if and when they fall sometimes you got to be assertive but most of the time she got to be there to help it's all about balance

@Testing this name she wasn't incredibly talented ice skater that could play the piano that has seized in her class average grades that she could pass with school doesn't really even matter anyway when it comes to actual success because it's not the real world and it's just a bunch of random useless information

@Testing this name she wasn't incredibly talented ice skater that could play the piano that has seized in her class average grades that she could pass with school doesn't really even matter anyway when it comes to actual success because it's not the real world and it's just a bunch of random useless information

@Hobby Channel yeah but have no sympathy when your child find their passion in the end not being able to do it anymore because of an injury you should feel sympathetic instead of forcing school on them and basically telling them nothing ever she was good enough

@Hobby Channel yeah but have no sympathy when your child find their passion in the end not being able to do it anymore because of an injury you should feel sympathetic instead of forcing school on them and basically telling them nothing ever she was good enough

That's gonna be difficult for some people

That's gonna be difficult for some people

@Ante Bekavac right! Natural expectation for your kid to go to school too...

@Ante Bekavac right! Natural expectation for your kid to go to school too...

@bickerin Are you serious? Strict  parenting can be a landmine however, you missed the point when it comes to personality, selfish behavior and personal responsibility. She chose the "D" over the lives of her parents and she consistently lied!!!! You're looking through tainted lenses. She's a manipulative sociopath and you're giving her an excuse.

@bickerin Are you serious? Strict  parenting can be a landmine however, you missed the point when it comes to personality, selfish behavior and personal responsibility. She chose the "D" over the lives of her parents and she consistently lied!!!! You're looking through tainted lenses. She's a manipulative sociopath and you're giving her an excuse.

Good example of bad parenting.  Pushed daughter into the arms of a thug.  Paid with a life.

Good example of bad parenting.  Pushed daughter into the arms of a thug.  Paid with a life.

thank you! i personally don’t think you have to be a straight a student to be something in life. especially w the american education system..

thank you! i personally don’t think you have to be a straight a student to be something in life. especially w the american education system..

Some comments in dis threads r clearly cringeworthy nd out of context which clearly shows they didn’t get wut the original comment tried to convey

Some comments in dis threads r clearly cringeworthy nd out of context which clearly shows they didn’t get wut the original comment tried to convey

@Fira lyn i totally understand! im in the exact same situation, the old asian parenting way may works for some but can also have an opposite effect for others and i don’t think many people can understand this.... i have been suffering anxiety and depression ever since i was a child and it was mostly because of this kind of parenting.... only expectations and no expressing of love or care. don’t get me wrong i do love my parents a lots but because of this, we were never close. as i grew older i noticed that I have suffered from quite a few mental health issues since i were young anxiety, ADD which no adults around me were able to notice back then, which were mainly the reason why i weren’t able to study well.... <br>but i do understand why they were like that, during their generations especially in Asia, almost everyone were like that and things such as “mental health” doesnt even exist for them back then.

@Fira lyn i totally understand! im in the exact same situation, the old asian parenting way may works for some but can also have an opposite effect for others and i don’t think many people can understand this.... i have been suffering anxiety and depression ever since i was a child and it was mostly because of this kind of parenting.... only expectations and no expressing of love or care. don’t get me wrong i do love my parents a lots but because of this, we were never close. as i grew older i noticed that I have suffered from quite a few mental health issues since i were young anxiety, ADD which no adults around me were able to notice back then, which were mainly the reason why i weren’t able to study well....
but i do understand why they were like that, during their generations especially in Asia, almost everyone were like that and things such as “mental health” doesnt even exist for them back then.

@Testing this name they wanted her to get A on everything at school. Do you think that's fair? How many people can get A in everything? Did you get A in everything? I don't think you did..  her father wanted her to be a doctor...and what about she wanted to be???... How would you feel if your parents made you be a doctor instead of what you are right now??? How would you feel?... They didnt let her have fun neither, they wanted her to always study lmfao that's child abuse.. did you never have fun when you were younger???????

@Testing this name they wanted her to get A on everything at school. Do you think that's fair? How many people can get A in everything? Did you get A in everything? I don't think you did..  her father wanted her to be a doctor...and what about she wanted to be???... How would you feel if your parents made you be a doctor instead of what you are right now??? How would you feel?... They didnt let her have fun neither, they wanted her to always study lmfao that's child abuse.. did you never have fun when you were younger???????

@Fæbsie i cant even remember this case properly but ur probably wrong😼😼😼😼

@Fæbsie i cant even remember this case properly but ur probably wrong😼😼😼😼

@J B Being disowned by parents just because you cant even choose a career they dont like...  is not ok 🤷♀ they didnt even teach her how to make decisions on her own so how she's supposed to live on her own? It seems to me that she could end up homeless... knowing your parents, the people who supposedly love you unconditionally, dont care about your own desires is a hard pill to swallow...

@J B Being disowned by parents just because you cant even choose a career they dont like...  is not ok 🤷♀ they didnt even teach her how to make decisions on her own so how she's supposed to live on her own? It seems to me that she could end up homeless... knowing your parents, the people who supposedly love you unconditionally, dont care about your own desires is a hard pill to swallow...

@Testing this name she couldnt even choose her career or her extracurricular activities did u even see the video

@Testing this name she couldnt even choose her career or her extracurricular activities did u even see the video

people only think like this until tragedy happens

people only think like this until tragedy happens

Aaaaand, parents: don’t kill your children either. <b>cough</b> Chris Watts.

Aaaaand, parents: don’t kill your children either. *cough* Chris Watts.

@Ante Bekavac She would have probably not been with her drug dealing boyfriend, if they accepted her. if she was able to come to her parents and not be afraid to tell them shes not getting good grades and them not being harsh on her and find some help for her to get better in school, she probably would have not resulted in killing them or seeking guidance and love from the wrong man. Her parents play a big part in this and no it wasn't okay for her to get them killed. its just that we need to start holding parents accountable for making their kids feel worthless. killers aren't born they are made.

I was depressed bcs of my family expectation and now i stuck in these stupid anxiety. If there wasn’t those stupid expectation I wouldn’t change so much. Me now totally different from me back then. If they’re “good enough” i would share my depression and stress stuff and yet they don’t care. All they care is my school result. Fuck it. I was struggling everyday and it wasn’t enough. Would be great if they just listen, i would get through everything but guess it’s not happening.

I was depressed bcs of my family expectation and now i stuck in these stupid anxiety. If there wasn’t those stupid expectation I wouldn’t change so much. Me now totally different from me back then. If they’re “good enough” i would share my depression and stress stuff and yet they don’t care. All they care is my school result. Fuck it. I was struggling everyday and it wasn’t enough. Would be great if they just listen, i would get through everything but guess it’s not happening.

@Baby Cow If you watched the whole video and anything on the case other than this you would know that who you are replying to is absolutely correct. Her father even forgave her and if you even payed attention to what her parents wanted or said it clearly mentioned after her injury she thought they wanted straight As so instead of talking them about it she fabricated fake grades when they were fine with her getting grades in the rage of C- before, Athlete or not. They believed everything she said without question and all they wanted was for her to go to College. If you think unrealistic expectations is "not dropping out of College" then you have better things to worry about.

I would say finishing high school isn’t unrealistic neither is college. It’s challenging sure but everything worth doing in life is. To say it’s unreasonable to expect your kids to finish highschool and then either go to college or do something (trade school, military) so they don’t work at McDonald’s there whole lives is being a good parent not an unreasonable one. Also not letting your daughter date with criminals isn’t being a unreasonable parent either just saying.

I would say finishing high school isn’t unrealistic neither is college. It’s challenging sure but everything worth doing in life is. To say it’s unreasonable to expect your kids to finish highschool and then either go to college or do something (trade school, military) so they don’t work at McDonald’s there whole lives is being a good parent not an unreasonable one. Also not letting your daughter date with criminals isn’t being a unreasonable parent either just saying.

@T J i agree with you. But i believe it depends on a person's perspective what unconditional love is. The parents thought that was what their giving. But onthe other hand its not positively helping their daughter to feel loved. But instead anger.

@T J i agree with you. But i believe it depends on a person's perspective what unconditional love is. The parents thought that was what their giving. But onthe other hand its not positively helping their daughter to feel loved. But instead anger.

@J B that was her plan to take all of her family's money and be with her bf.

@J B that was her plan to take all of her family's money and be with her bf.

@Testing this name yes it is. It do. Its just that it depends on a person what unconditional love is. We do have our own limits and expectations. It depends on a person if they are already satisfied with what their feeling. Its what you give without even expecting something in return. And i believe it is undefineable.

@Testing this name yes it is. It do. Its just that it depends on a person what unconditional love is. We do have our own limits and expectations. It depends on a person if they are already satisfied with what their feeling. Its what you give without even expecting something in return. And i believe it is undefineable.

I literally thought no one in the comments would have said that the parents were too strict on this girl

I literally thought no one in the comments would have said that the parents were too strict on this girl

This comment implies fault on behalf of the parents,which is stupid and vile.

This comment implies fault on behalf of the parents,which is stupid and vile.

Thats why i am not gonna pregnant my wife✅

Thats why i am not gonna pregnant my wife✅

It might seem this way but its not always the case. There are a few people who literally love everone unconditionally but they are really rare.

It might seem this way but its not always the case. There are a few people who literally love everone unconditionally but they are really rare.

@Spooky Man I love how you thought your retort was so witty and clever that you practically had to send it to two different people.

@Spooky Man I love how you thought your retort was so witty and clever that you practically had to send it to two different people.

@Testing this name I agree that success is important and everyone should strive for that. However, I do disagree with authoritarian parenting, which is what they called the parents in the video.
     They tend to lack empathy and can't give emotional support to their children. They are too extreme which could lead the child to rebellious behavior or even worse this.

     she was given two options and most likely felt she had no way out and her boyfriend was a bad influence.
    Not saying the girl was right for what she did but this is what happens.
Everything effects everything and it is not just a personality issue but also situational.
If the parents where authoritative instead she would have aged better.

        also, she injured herself and used to ice-skate which probably did more damage because that was possibly her passion.
It's just tragic overall; a hopeless situation to be in.

They're not unrealistic expectations. Parents just shouldn't push their kids toward a career they have no interest in.

They're not unrealistic expectations. Parents just shouldn't push their kids toward a career they have no interest in.

Parents can set any expectations they want as they are the parent. Any kid who doesn't like it can move out. Lol

Parents can set any expectations they want as they are the parent. Any kid who doesn't like it can move out. Lol

@Ante Bekavac No, unrealistic expectations are to compare her to everyone else and expect her to be excellent at something most people aren't.

@Ante Bekavac No, unrealistic expectations are to compare her to everyone else and expect her to be excellent at something most people aren't.

Unrealistic to want her to go to school and be successful? She lied for years to her parents and spent the time with her drug dealer boyfriend. So her parents were abusive....no they were being parents setting expectations.

Unrealistic to want her to go to school and be successful? She lied for years to her parents and spent the time with her drug dealer boyfriend. So her parents were abusive....no they were being parents setting expectations.

@gasai yuno Both was wrong in this case Very sad the results both parties suffered because of their choices & actions

@gasai yuno Both was wrong in this case Very sad the results both parties suffered because of their choices & actions

@Lancee Lopezz study the cause before coming to set your sights.

@Lancee Lopezz study the cause before coming to set your sights.

@King Kota ah yes abuse totally makes sane and stable individuals 👌🏽

@King Kota ah yes abuse totally makes sane and stable individuals 👌🏽

You obviously don't know asian/middle eastern parents well 😹

You obviously don't know asian/middle eastern parents well 😹

@Irish Legend She wouldnt feel like escaping to anyone with drugs, a criminal bf, or video game addiction for example, if she didnt have shit parents. People are afraid to put blame on parents for some reason. Its as if parents are angels and can do nothing wrong, and people are afraid of accountability. Im not gonna be scared of showing my kids what accountability means and that I am responsible myself. Having sex and getting pregnant doesnt make you a good parent- regardless of what you say or how offended it makes you. :)

@Irish Legend She wouldnt feel like escaping to anyone with drugs, a criminal bf, or video game addiction for example, if she didnt have shit parents. People are afraid to put blame on parents for some reason. Its as if parents are angels and can do nothing wrong, and people are afraid of accountability. Im not gonna be scared of showing my kids what accountability means and that I am responsible myself. Having sex and getting pregnant doesnt make you a good parent- regardless of what you say or how offended it makes you. :)

I disagree.
I do not think getting straight A's is an unreasonable expectation, but that people have to adjust their expectations as their children grow older.

She could have did so much better in school, but she chose to waste a lot of her life with  a degenerate boyfriend.

I disagree.
I do not think getting straight A's is an unreasonable expectation, but that people have to adjust their expectations as their children grow older.

She could have did so much better in school, but she chose to waste a lot of her life with  a degenerate boyfriend.

@Ante Bekavac Exactly..Like controlling your kids' sugar intake is seen as abuse. Oh, you tell your kids Santa doesn't exist is stealing their innocence.

@Ante Bekavac Exactly..Like controlling your kids' sugar intake is seen as abuse. Oh, you tell your kids Santa doesn't exist is stealing their innocence.

@angela parsons So you taught them the value of hardwork and didnt compare them to others and tell your kids to be doctors and only accept your kids at Straight As, or yell at them if they get a C. Yeah thats nothing compared to whst she went through..

@angela parsons So you taught them the value of hardwork and didnt compare them to others and tell your kids to be doctors and only accept your kids at Straight As, or yell at them if they get a C. Yeah thats nothing compared to whst she went through..

@Testing this name Telling you to be a doctor and comparing your kids day in and day out to others is something some people will never understand. Some become fked in the head because of it while being a "successful" wage slave, or end up going crazy like she did.

@Testing this name Telling you to be a doctor and comparing your kids day in and day out to others is something some people will never understand. Some become fked in the head because of it while being a "successful" wage slave, or end up going crazy like she did.

I've got kids here in UK... No e went to college or university, they left school at 16 and all worked their way up in company's... Now 2 of them have their own business, own 2 properties, have children in private school... The other 2 rent by choice, and are high up in their company... I taught them hard work gets you there which it did.. College is not the be all and end all of success, in fact my second daughter is the boss of a big call centre and lots of her employees are university grads 😂 Funny that ay

I've got kids here in UK... No e went to college or university, they left school at 16 and all worked their way up in company's... Now 2 of them have their own business, own 2 properties, have children in private school... The other 2 rent by choice, and are high up in their company... I taught them hard work gets you there which it did.. College is not the be all and end all of success, in fact my second daughter is the boss of a big call centre and lots of her employees are university grads 😂 Funny that ay

I mean... not dropping out of high school and going to college aren't particularly unrealistic...

I mean... not dropping out of high school and going to college aren't particularly unrealistic...

The only expectation parents needed to set is "dont kill us"

The only expectation parents needed to set is "dont kill us"

RONG: moral is stay by yourself, check behind each door nightly, other people are dangerous.

RONG: moral is stay by yourself, check behind each door nightly, other people are dangerous.

@Jason How about - parents stop making up excuses for abusing your kids. You get what you give.

@Jason How about - parents stop making up excuses for abusing your kids. You get what you give.

All the parents wanted was for her to pass high school and go to college not unrealistic at all.

All the parents wanted was for her to pass high school and go to college not unrealistic at all.

@Testing this name Agreed. Humans aren’t capable of unconditional love. I think dogs are the only beings capable of getting close to unconditional love.

@Testing this name Agreed. Humans aren’t capable of unconditional love. I think dogs are the only beings capable of getting close to unconditional love.

@Robin Holland How were they cruel and abusive exactly?  Like while comparing her is terrible, it's nothing your child should be taken away from you for.

@Robin Holland How were they cruel and abusive exactly?  Like while comparing her is terrible, it's nothing your child should be taken away from you for.

Rules to live by. When I was raising my girls I learned to choose my battles wisely. If it was a health or safety issue then yes, there would be a battle. But how they wear their hair or if their room is spotless...I could not have cared less! They turned out okay, my girls. One of the girls had win boys and they are a handful. They're also turning out just fine. She and her hubby are all about family and do everything together. I could not be more proud!<br>I feel very sad for all these family members, even the girl. I wish someone in her life had shown her how to create boundaries so she could grow up and away from her parents. They were unnecessarily cruel and abusive in my book, although murder is certainly is NOT the answer.

Rules to live by. When I was raising my girls I learned to choose my battles wisely. If it was a health or safety issue then yes, there would be a battle. But how they wear their hair or if their room is spotless...I could not have cared less! They turned out okay, my girls. One of the girls had win boys and they are a handful. They're also turning out just fine. She and her hubby are all about family and do everything together. I could not be more proud!
I feel very sad for all these family members, even the girl. I wish someone in her life had shown her how to create boundaries so she could grow up and away from her parents. They were unnecessarily cruel and abusive in my book, although murder is certainly is NOT the answer.

The parents should have disowned when they had the chance

The parents should have disowned when they had the chance

It’s not hard to get all A’s in america tho, just study an hour a day and you got it

It’s not hard to get all A’s in america tho, just study an hour a day and you got it

and stop worrying about "success" to some success is driving a beat up car but following Jesus and with heaven as the end result.

and stop worrying about "success" to some success is driving a beat up car but following Jesus and with heaven as the end result.

@men with ven agreed. She had a good run but she made a crucial mistake in her lying. She definitely would have gone away with it if she was a better liar.

@men with ven agreed. She had a good run but she made a crucial mistake in her lying. She definitely would have gone away with it if she was a better liar.

@Hobby Channel how dare they want the best for their kid......

@Hobby Channel how dare they want the best for their kid......

@Joey Barz yes learn how to lie. I've practiced body language and emotions of lying for 15 years. It is possible to learn how to be a better liar.

@Joey Barz yes learn how to lie. I've practiced body language and emotions of lying for 15 years. It is possible to learn how to be a better liar.

@S Critoph the threat of punishment? She's an adult! She should've got her life together instead of banging a drug dealer. You people are slow

@S Critoph the threat of punishment? She's an adult! She should've got her life together instead of banging a drug dealer. You people are slow

@gasai yuno monsters? SHE WAS THE MONSTER!!!

@gasai yuno monsters? SHE WAS THE MONSTER!!!

@Jigs Orla yeah they were great parents. Nice victim blaming.

@Jigs Orla yeah they were great parents. Nice victim blaming.

@Never file Taxes again yeah that's right blame the gov. No personal responsibility. Smh that's the mindset of a loser.

@Never file Taxes again yeah that's right blame the gov. No personal responsibility. Smh that's the mindset of a loser.

@Sogno_di_Carta it's the younger generation I'm a millennial. These young kids/teens are so wrong about literally everything yet they think they know it all. The future is screwed.

@Sogno_di_Carta it's the younger generation I'm a millennial. These young kids/teens are so wrong about literally everything yet they think they know it all. The future is screwed.

@Never file Taxes again why? Because you're soft?

@Never file Taxes again why? Because you're soft?

@J Kozy don't spoil your kids. They should've let her fend for herself. She's 24 she should've had a job and place. Smh

@J Kozy don't spoil your kids. They should've let her fend for herself. She's 24 she should've had a job and place. Smh

That's BS kids should have high standards and expectations. America is screwed! Smh

That's BS kids should have high standards and expectations. America is screwed! Smh

@Ellis oh I know their professionals and very good at there job but I'm a professional at lying lol. I was a heroin addict for 6 years and nobody on Earth knew about it including my wife. It's nothing to be proud of but I am damn near a perfect liar.

@Ellis oh I know their professionals and very good at there job but I'm a professional at lying lol. I was a heroin addict for 6 years and nobody on Earth knew about it including my wife. It's nothing to be proud of but I am damn near a perfect liar.

@men with ven Even if you lie your best, you forget these guys have likely interigated thousands of people. now even if you know how to lie, experience will likely prevail. Best not speak to police, every lawyer says this for a reason.

@men with ven Even if you lie your best, you forget these guys have likely interigated thousands of people. now even if you know how to lie, experience will likely prevail. Best not speak to police, every lawyer says this for a reason.

A better abstraction: Kids - Don't resent your parents.

A better abstraction: Kids - Don't *_resent_* your parents.

Parents set high expectations make your brats reach for the moon. Including me I like a motivational challenge most kids are weak, soft and edgy for nothimg smh

Parents set high expectations make your brats reach for the moon. Including me I like a motivational challenge most kids are weak, soft and edgy for nothimg smh

Murderers: don’t speak too much and get a lawyer

Murderers: don’t speak too much and get a lawyer

not really an unreal expectation, it was possible, just that they forced her to do something they wanted.

not really an unreal expectation, it was possible, just that they forced her to do something they wanted.

Unrealistic expectations in this case are: Go to school, don't date drug dealer. The End. Poor love couldn't handle her parents not paying for her fake college dorm and fees anymore.

Unrealistic expectations in this case are: Go to school, don't date drug dealer. The End. Poor love couldn't handle her parents not paying for her fake college dorm and fees anymore.

@men with ven what are u talking about lol wdym he talks for an hour about her boyfriend

@men with ven what are u talking about lol wdym he talks for an hour about her boyfriend

@D Boy true... i was just speaking generally

@D Boy true... i was just speaking generally

@Tomato acting out isn't murdering your parents that is cold blooded evil

@Tomato acting out isn't murdering your parents that is cold blooded evil

@Tomato I disagree I think 99% of people know and are smart enough not to do bad things they just choose too, it's their choice

@Tomato I disagree I think 99% of people know and are smart enough not to do bad things they just choose too, it's their choice

umm and how abiut dont lie and live a double life, face your failures  and dont date drug dealers her parents are not in the wrong at all

umm and how abiut dont lie and live a double life, face your failures  and dont date drug dealers her parents are not in the wrong at all

Fine and well, but this comment seems to suggest murder was a natural response to emotional abuse. Sorry...you missed the mark...murder is almost universally 0 tolerance regardless of how hurt your feelings are

Fine and well, but this comment seems to suggest murder was a natural response to emotional abuse. Sorry...you missed the mark...murder is almost universally 0 tolerance regardless of how hurt your feelings are

Everybody: have the business card of a good lawyer BEFORE someone asks if you would like one.

Everybody: have the business card of a good lawyer BEFORE someone asks if you would like one.

Yea, just pay for her college but it's unrealistic to expect her to go to class. Got it!

Yea, just pay for her college but it's unrealistic to expect her to go to class. Got it!

@Testing this name Well what you think isn't fact, that's the crux of the issue. People generally understand what is meant by "unconditional love", you do not. Therefore it appears to be you that has the issues.

@Testing this name Well what you think isn't fact, that's the crux of the issue. People generally understand what is meant by "unconditional love", you do not. Therefore it appears to be you that has the issues.

Expecting your kid to get good grades is an unrealistic expectation now?

Expecting your kid to get good grades is an unrealistic expectation now?

How is getting good grades and a good job unrealistic?

How is getting good grades and a good job unrealistic?

Well shit there goes my plans for the evening

Well shit there goes my plans for the evening

Some parents can see potentials in their children.. Being teenagers, some still not wise enough to see what the future lies without education.. Maybe the parents didnt want their children to experience what they went through, hence the pressure to be high achievers.. Some teens are very wise at an early age without any pressure what so ever from parents..

Some parents can see potentials in their children.. Being teenagers, some still not wise enough to see what the future lies without education.. Maybe the parents didnt want their children to experience what they went through, hence the pressure to be high achievers.. Some teens are very wise at an early age without any pressure what so ever from parents..

men with ven Exactly. Most people who’ve been through that traumatic event would be incredibly confused and concerned as to why the police were bringing up her boyfriend.

men with ven Exactly. Most people who’ve been through that traumatic event would be incredibly confused and concerned as to why the police were bringing up her boyfriend.

@Sogno_di_Carta So you didn't watch the entire video. Either that or you're willingly ignoring the entire context of the situation. Neither is good.

@Sogno_di_Carta So you didn't watch the entire video. Either that or you're willingly ignoring the entire context of the situation. Neither is good.

So what the fuck was she supposed to do then? Was she supposed to kill herself? Because these monsters almost fucking drove her to do just that. You can't make a stupid, blanket statement like " Don't kill anyone " because self-defense already exists and turns it into a gray area. There are nuances and circumstances that might allow for a just murder. If someone is abusing you and you have no way of getting out because no one else helped you when you asked for it, you ABSOLUTELY have the right to kill someone to stop the fucking abuse because you have no other options and you shouldn't be forced to take your own life just to spare the abusers, the MONSTER'S life, who will get no repercussions, no justice served. You literally just justified those awful parents' and let them off scott-free with just a warning, while this poor girl whose been a victim of obvious emotional abuse her entire life, gets the maximum sentence and punished. Are you fucking kidding me?

Being a doctor or something great maybe unrealistic. They gave her the chance to chose her own life. Live under our roof and we will pay your expenses but we expect you to seriously attend school or leave with your boyfriend and live as you please. That is a hard choice but reasonable she was an adult and could work and support herself.

Being a doctor or something great maybe unrealistic. They gave her the chance to chose her own life. Live under our roof and we will pay your expenses but we expect you to seriously attend school or leave with your boyfriend and live as you please. That is a hard choice but reasonable she was an adult and could work and support herself.

Moral of the story is; some cultures are different and the immigration policy should reflect that

Moral of the story is; some cultures are different and the immigration policy should reflect that

Her parents didn't strike me as being good parents. Her choices were a consequence of that. Im a dad.

Her parents didn't strike me as being good parents. Her choices were a consequence of that. Im a dad.

T J T J unconditional love means accepting your loved ones, even if they fuck up or don’t meet your expectations. for example, my mom is bipolar and wasn’t medicated for a long time. instead of rejecting her for the behavior she displayed because of her illness, i lent her my support and helped her find a therapist and medication that worked for her. it wasn’t crippling for either of us. in this case, jen’s parents should have supported her in following whatever goals she set for herself. it’s really not that hard idk why you’d think loving someone is crippling lol it’s only a problem if you enable their toxic/unhealthy behavior.

You forgot....And dispatchers clean the wax out of your ears.

You forgot....And dispatchers clean the wax out of your ears.

Jason and there mine... bless our hearts.

Jason and there mine... bless our hearts.

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.<br>Ephesians 6

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Ephesians 6

MURAKAMIDOLO a 24 year old that was a high school drop out and was dating a drug dealer and lying to them, having a double life while getting money from them??? Yeah you are right asking her to have a curfew of 9pm in exchange for continuing to live for FREE at their home while getting her SHIT together  is too much. Yep. I would have actually given her one option. That is: you are on your own honey. See who the hell is going to give you money now.

MURAKAMIDOLO a 24 year old that was a high school drop out and was dating a drug dealer and lying to them, having a double life while getting money from them??? Yeah you are right asking her to have a curfew of 9pm in exchange for continuing to live for FREE at their home while getting her SHIT together  is too much. Yep. I would have actually given her one option. That is: you are on your own honey. See who the hell is going to give you money now.

say that to every asian household ever lmao

say that to every asian household ever lmao

Moral of the story
Kids: don’t be complete narcissistic pricks

End of moral.

Moral of the story
Kids: don’t be complete narcissistic pricks

End of moral.

My wife says you can tell who has asian parents in this thread.

My wife says you can tell who has asian parents in this thread.

@Christopher Kupst I used to say that to people 😂😂😂 "I'd like to subscribe to your news letter". Few would get the reference.

@Christopher Kupst I used to say that to people 😂😂😂 "I'd like to subscribe to your news letter". Few would get the reference.

men with ven yeah, right? like you’d think they’d write their story down somewhere to keep it straight for next time lmao

men with ven yeah, right? like you’d think they’d write their story down somewhere to keep it straight for next time lmao

@meat cute 🍖💕 but  "unconditional love, " when itself overdone, is crippling and has the same effect. balance is needed

@meat cute 🍖💕 but  "unconditional love, " when itself overdone, is crippling and has the same effect. balance is needed

Shitposting Senpai unconditional love is what jen’s parents should have shown her, regardless of whether or not she fulfilled the expectations they forced on her. if you think love comes with conditions and that it can be revoked if those conditions aren’t met, please don’t ever have kids. at best, they’ll be emotionally unavailable for the rest of their lives. at worst, they’ll murder you.

Shitposting Senpai unconditional love is what jen’s parents should have shown her, regardless of whether or not she fulfilled the expectations they forced on her. if you think love comes with conditions and that it can be revoked if those conditions aren’t met, please don’t ever have kids. at best, they’ll be emotionally unavailable for the rest of their lives. at worst, they’ll murder you.

She could’ve left. She wanted mommy and daddy to give her money though.

She could’ve left. She wanted mommy and daddy to give her money though.

Parents: don’t allow your kids to become someone you hate. Because it will have murderous ramifications

Parents: don’t allow your kids to become someone you hate. Because it will have murderous ramifications

Don't murder is standard but in her case she was smart enough to hide her bf and fake records. <br>She could have gone far and looked into insurance scams or mlm's.

Don't murder is standard but in her case she was smart enough to hide her bf and fake records.
She could have gone far and looked into insurance scams or mlm's.

Ante Bekavac did you even watch the video ? lol

Ante Bekavac did you even watch the video ? lol

Yeah. Asking your kid to go to school and not date a drug dealer. Sounds reasonable.

Yeah. Asking your kid to go to school and not date a drug dealer. Sounds reasonable.

unrealistic expectations are to not be with drug dealer and not to live double life lying to them for 8 years?

unrealistic expectations are to not be with drug dealer and not to live double life lying to them for 8 years?

@Tārā-Māyā Murderer: DO talk to police.<br>Innocents: Don't talk to police

@Tārā-Māyā Murderer: DO talk to police.
Innocents: Don't talk to police