Honestly I love your snapchats, videos and instagram posts. Its so refreshing to see someone who isnt just sugarcoating their life online all the time (something even I'm guilty of) . I think its good for people to see the good and the bad and the struggles.
I have struggled with mental health for a long time and I'm not sure whether I would have gone to get help when I did if it wasnt such a talked about and accepted topic within the youtube community.

Your videos help me a lot. When I first told friends and family about my depression some people didn't believe me and said that it was just how life is. Honestly, it really messed with my brain because I felt like, maybe I am overexaggerating? Maybe everyone feels like this? My most googled phrase was 'Does everyone feel like this?' Or ' Does everyone hate life?' . I googled them almost every day. I have no idea why. I dont know what I was expecting. Part of me knew that this couldn't just be how people normally felt all the time because if that was true, humanity just wouldnt exist. If everyone wanted to die every day. But because people kept telling me that I should just get on and stop complaining and didnt take me seriously, I starting thinking that maybe it wasnt depression, and everyone is like this, no one is happy and everyone wants to die. Thinking like that makes it feel like there is no point to life if it never gets better. It sounds stupid out loud but its just how depression works in my head.
But in one of your videos where you talk about depression you described how you were feeling. And I was shocked, I went back and listened to it again. You described perfectly how I was feeling and it was the first time I felt like I wasn't crazy for trying to get help. It gave me hope because if it is something wrong, then theres a chance it can better. And not just complete normality that will never improve. Wow, dunno if this will make any sense. But the point is that helped me immensely.

I personally think your openness is helpful to others, but if its unhealthy for you and isn't helping you then its no good. It would be selfish for me or any other fans to ask you to keep doing them in that situation.
Work out what is the best and healthiest way for you to deal and do that. And maybe speak to your friends about it more and/or a councillor. If you still want to share online after that then maybe both is healthy?

Wishing you all the best xx


Dodie i fucking love you and you have helped me so much as we are in very similar situations. Here's my opinion and advice:

You are so incredibly helpful without even knowing it. You have helped not only me, but many other people in your audience feel comforted, supported, and not ignored. In my family I tend to feel ignored, so hearing you describe the same feelings that I'm having helps a lot.

That's all great, BUT, you are not here only to make strangers feel better. You are amazing at it, but it's not being as helpful for you. I think you need to take a small step back from helping others, and first help yourself. Work on you. Once you feel better and have taken your time to build yourself up, you will then be able to help others in a much more healthy and easy way.

love you dodieeeeeeee! I wish you the best of luck, and can't wait for your new book (which IS going to be beautiful and amazing) !


I always saw my problems as a burden to all my friends and family. And that's why I've found therapy so comforting. I was very reluctant to start therapy because the idea of sharing my life story with a stranger was terrifying. But having someone who isn't your friend or family or anything just listen to you is probably the most comforting thing in the world to me


I think you're great at being honest and that it's great that although you may feel like shit you still want to help other people


When I'm in a bad place I sometimes find myself watching your videos about depersonalization or depression or sometimes I look at your Snapchats and just listen to you talk about it. Not because you're helping my bad feeling. Not because you make it worse. But because it makes the sadness and bad feeling a real thing. It bring the bad out and I can understand that it's not just me. Then, after watching you videos or snapchats, I wallow in the sad for a bit and sort of gather the fact that sadness is happening and I just have to wait. It's happening and it sucks and everything's bad. But it'll go away....eventually....if that makes sense. Thank you for making this video.


dodie's laugh is so beautiful it makes me so happy


Can I say just say a big thank you for this.

I have been suffering from mental health for about 4 years, and I always felt alone. But since I discovered you, I've felt better.

Everyday, when I leave the house, I put on this act, I turn into this different person, a person who always happy and is ever sad. I've been doing this for so long, that when I actually tell someone how I feel, they just laugh and think I'm joking. It always makes me feel worse, like no one is there for me. But by you sharing every little bit about how you feel, it helps me, it helps me realise that there is someone else out there who understands how I feel.

Thank you for over sharing, I know it can be hard to tell people how you feel, especially friends and family. But just remember, you have over 1,000,000 people who are willing to listen, who understand, and will stand with you know matter what.

Thanks for sharing.


As a huge follower of psychology, I've found your snapchats and videos to be incredibly helpful. I would personally prefer if you just talked about whatever you want to, because that's what attracts me to your content. But, obviously, what you share with your audience is up to you.


As a migraine sufferer I totally know the feeling of wanting to convince people you really can't go to work due to this ailment that you can't see. It's tough, but the people that matter will understand.


After reading through the comments for a while, I've decided that in my opinion, the amount you share can be helpful for some, detrimental for others. If you're in a good mood, reading something depressing can pull you back down, but if you're in a bad mood it will help you feel like there are people who understand. Maybe tag thing if you feel it may be oversharing? Put a warning at the beginning to let people know it may not be safe to read at that moment, then they can decide for themselves? Do whatever makes you most comfortable.  I personally have to thank you for being so relatable and for putting into words things I cannot express.


I thought I'd share the rule I have with my friends when it comes to mental health. I have it to protect myself and I think it's worked pretty well. Basically I don't want to hear anything shit if my friend hasn't talked to someone that can actually help them. I don't want to have to stress about helping them I can just listen because I know that they're getting help from somewhere. I guess the same could work with you in a sense that you'd have some filter when it comes to what you share. I think it's really really important for you to share as much as you are comfortable with, but not so much that we get really worried and maybe not talk to us first but to friends and professionals as a primary source of getting things out and after that share all the things with us. Then I think I'd feel less triggered because I know that you're getting help and we're not the first people to hear. Anyways I'm not qualified to give advice and I really hope you figure things out💛 I guess this is me getting some feeling out :')


i feel that it's definitely healthy to share feelings and emotions with people and it's perfectly fine to ask for any help but maybe the way you do share and the amount of detail you go into is a little bit overbearing and difficult to hear, especially with no warning. although, we are your friends and we are here to help and support you, it can sometimes be a little bit much. and i really really love you but sometimes it can be a lot. i really don't mean to kick you when you're down but sometimes it may be better to talk to a friend or a family member or maybe if you feel significantly strong about something to do with mental health or you feel the need to go into a lot of detail, just write it down and not publish it, that way you can look back at it without feeling any guilt or get any criticism afterwards. love you girl x


good points being made in this...really good points especially from hazel, who basically summed up the reasons of me distancing myself from social media and daily vlogs of many creators for a while now. its great how self aware both of you are on your doing and your impact tho..so keep on keeping on


i'm really glad you made this video. this is gonna be a long comment and maybe an unpopular opinion. dodie, we love you. i appreciate everything you do. i relate to a lot of things you're feeling. but sometimes i think you are oversharing too much.

i'm a teen with mental health issues, so it's validating to me to see you talk about your experiences so honestly and openly. you even helped me realize that i've been experiencing depersonalization and derealization. of course i also get that it's good for you to talk about everything openly. i really wish i could do that, because i also hate having to talk to people who can help me, and i know it's easier to talk online.

the thing is, you get Very personal, and you have a Huge audience. you have supportive fans who relate and care about you, but as fans and not friends, we look to you for support and entertainment and a role model and stuff like that. it's not our job to be a soft wall for you to throw your feelings at, especially when we all know we can't help you as much as your close friends or a doctor can. we're not supposed to be involved in your whole personal life. i think you need to really think about what your goal is as a creator. plus, i don't know how it doesn't scare you that sooo many strangers know exactly what's going on with you! idk if i can put it into words but there's a lot that feels wrong to me about that.

i want to give you a couple suggestions. if you ever just want people to know when you're in a bad place, we all get what's up at this point, so that's really all you need to say to update us. if your goal really is to support and validate other mentally ill people, i know it's hard but you need to have some kind of overall positive message. like, subtly mix in your experiences while talking about things relating to mental illness that people will find useful!! if you want to just to use the internet as a diary, there are diaries for that. we are thousands of strangers -- people -- not a diary.

i respect you and i know you can do whatever you want with your content, but we're all suffering in different ways, and we all feel alone and not understood in different ways, and feeling like i have to either relate to your way or rescue you gets exhausting. i know you have other outlets for your suffering. and i know there are other ways to get an actual message out to your audience!

i know things are really bad for you and i do really really want them to get better soon. i don't know if you'll read this or if people agree with me, but if neither then i'm sorry. i just wanted to be able to voice what i think about this. thank you, dodie!! 💛💛💛


I really appreciate you sharing with us all and being so open about your mental health dodie as somebody who has a mental illness myself it's reassuring some days to know I'm not alone in what I have been through / still experience occasionally. however at one point I felt like not watching your videos because I felt like you drew too much attention to how you were feeling all the time in a negative perspective and I would be lieing if I said that it didn't bother me because when I was feeling down that day and I opened Snapchat to see you taking about your mental health again it made me feel worse and I just thought ' talk to your friends dodie' because you have a lot of friends and they are so supportive and you are very lucky to have them 🙂 I don't have that so I either write things down or tell my sister. if you're lucky enough to have that support around you use it🙂 anyway I'm not meaning to sound patronising because I love everything you do I relate to you so much but maybe try some different approaches to how you feel instead of turning to snapchat all the time 💘💕


you two are such lovely intelligent women and this gives me such a cozy vibe like we're all on a sleepover and im just listenin to my 2 pals chat <3 nice


I'm a new viewer. So there's a lot of your content I haven't seen. From what I've seen I don't think you overshare. In general maybe there should be a balance of what you share and what you don't but I think it's up to you. It's your channel, your voice. I mean yea consider how your audience feels and adjust if needed. That being said, sometimes social media platforms are the only safe space that people have. I often tweet many random things into the oblivion that twitter when I'm feeling particularly dark. I don't think you romanticize mental health at all. I think some people might say that you're normalizing it. But that's not a bad thing to me. Many people are sad, depressed and lonely. If at any time you give anyone a reason to vent, to let out all the built up shit that we all hold inside, how can that be a bad thing? It's like saying, hey there's this thing I'm going through and maybe you are as well. Let's talk about it. Lets get out in the comment section. As long as it's not sitting inside of us festering we are better for it. Thank you and Hazel <3


I overshare on the internet too, an awful lot, and it helps me a lot- I've found that writing down my thoughts in my notes, and a lot of the time, making it a little story or poem, is really really helpful.


something i've tried to put into practice is writing in a journal first thing, before posting anything vague and sad online or reaching out. then you get to process your own feelings, see what is relevant to actually share without getting maybe a little bit too dark with others, and work on the feelings that actually leave room for productivity. this generally means pulling out the "i'm upset because" to discuss and just erasing the "i feel hopeless and worthless and awful and i want to die" etc. stuff. it's definitely something i'm still working on but it's made a difference in my relationship with others, with social media, and with myself tbh. i feel more equipped when i genuinely share my feelings healthily with myself before i share them with others.


i know know that this is empty calories but I really, deeply love you dodie & im praying so hard that you'll be more healthy mentally soon xo


this was a very insightful and interesting video, and i related so much with Hazel when she said she felt so bad when you are down and she doesn't realise or whatever. i was really close with this girl and she was going through a really bad patch and we used to have a lot of deep conversations. i think that's maybe what a lot of our friendship started with and i honestly would have given anything to be able to help her through it in any little way and i used to beat myself up about it because i'd try my hardest  and she'd still be depressed the next day. i think it became quite consuming for me so eventually i tried to distance myself slightly when she seemed not quite as bad as before (that sounds awful oml) but i think it was really hard for me to realise that it wasn't my job to cure her, only a professional could help her like that and she was already seeing one, but my job was to just be there at 1am to talk or hold her hand at school when she felt worthless. it is hard, but she was a brilliant friend to me as well :)


This seriously opened my eyes. It made me think and realise things. I'm not in any situation like yours and I feel so dumb and superficial for not knowing a lot about depression or any mental illness. It really did hit home for me.
I'm mostly very happy, but strangely enough I could relate to some part. Because I vent so much to a camera, I guess I feel happier after getting my waterfall of thoughts out there.
These are my thoughts, don't mean to offend. This is just going to be a video that sticks out to me for a very long time.


Firstly, applause for making this very important and a bit sensitive video. so here's my opinion. I think it's really great that you're raising awareness about mental health and that posting how you're feeling on snapchat feels cathartic. However, I don't think social media is your only way to communicate your feelings to your friends. Sitting down and talking to the people you love about your feelings is much better. I know it might be more difficult, but it is better for you AND your relationships because you grow closer to whoever you reach out to. The best way for me personally is to write in my diary about it if I dont really want to bother anyone but I still want to get my feelings out. It sounds cheesy but there's really no consequences (unlike tweeting). Frankly, I think it's a bit unhealthy if snapchat and instagram are your only outlets. I really hope you and Hazel's mental health improves 😊❤


I love your "oversharing" I might be the only one but I find that it helps me a lot to know that I am not alone and even my inspiration, the person I look up to is also going through the same feelings as i am, it honestly makes me feel less alone


we are your viewers and supporters and you'll expect the same response from all of us: do whatever it takes for you to cope and get validation. we'll tell you that you sharing your experience has helped us with our own. and this is all true! we genuinely do love you and support you and i personally would not mind at all if you vented your heart out for me to listen and understand, behind a screen. but at the end of the day, we are merely just behind screens. nodding our heads and crying in unison with you, but you can't see that behind a camera. i sincerely hope that you open to your friends as much as you do to us, because you /can/ see them and you /can/ feel their empathy. like what you mentioned, it'll help talking to us for a little while, but talking to someone in person will help you much, much more. i hope you don't think i'm not appreciative of your openness and connection with us. i genuinely do want you to get better. what you're doing now isn't flawed, but there are other ways that'll help you in the long run. i love u loadssss and i'm really sorry if i seem patronizing ahh. <333


I just want to say that this all makes sense as to why you don't feel it's healthy to be so reliant on social media but just know I have found your posts to be so helpful, especially when you did get all up in the details, knowing that sometimes stuff makes you question everything and truly not have drive for anything, the late night rants that I know all to well etc. it was so nice to really see that in someone I look up to as being so utterly creative and successful. I do hope this isn't the end of mental health related talks though.


Dodie <3 you have no idea how much i freaking relate rn. My mental health is.... chaotic at best rn. :(


It has been heartbreaking to see your struggles with your mental health and I must admit, that some of those snaps really scared the living shit out of me. I have a couple of friends whose depression has been really really bad and that instinct of worrying as soon as they even hint at not wanting to live is still there and so so scary. I still understand where you're coming from, and these videos are so nice. They help me understand how you see the world. I feel like I have so much to say and no idea how to say it. just know that I love you and support you and most of all, believe in you so much.


This is a great video! like so #relatable haha gross but seriously it's such a complex situation and i think it's only recently started to be talked about so we are all trying to figure out the right way to do things, and even when we all start to figure it out more i doubt there will ever be a right way to deal with this side of things, let's not even get onto how to cope with mental health as a whole. It's good to show this and this conversation of you two being so open will help others to maybe not preconceive judgement when they do see things on line or when an individual is struggling with whether to open up or not. I'm honestly not too sure where i'm going with this comment i feel like this is just a weird conversation i'm having in my own head but i think it makes sense... but aren't we all mad here? :')


ily and thank you so much for sharing things like this, it helps to know I'm not alone :)


when you say "short term satisfaction" it hit me so hard and gave me this realization that there i moments where i do things that make me feel better when i'm dealing with my insane anxiety, but in the long term, it's not exactly healthy or solving anything for me. i'm trying to learn that i need to deal with a problem even though it's scary to make things better for me in the long run


i kinda love how dodie doesn't filter her mental health videos bc i feel like they're honest and true and they completely de-glamorize mental health and show it in its gritty and awful form


I just saw your Snapchat about Matt Maltese and honestly it made me so happy that you listen to him because he only has 9 songs online but they're all so wonderful (especially No one won the war) and I got into him a few months ago and I've listened and cried to him so many times ❤❤❤❤


I have always found comfort in watching your snaps/videos where you discuss your mental health bc i felt like i wasn't alone suffering through problems. But, i will admit, sometimes depression is my comfort spot, sometimes it's more comfortable and forgiving than anything else. So i slip back into it purposfully by watching stuff about it.
I sometimes wish i was a person who can share anything about how i am feeling on the internet - i don't tweet, post pictures or snaps. I can't bring myself to it, it feels wrong and uncomfortable, even when i want to do it so bad. I don't have many friends, and they can't often give me the help i need. So i just don't speak and wait till it's gone.
I had a very close friend who always shared how they feel on the internet and i was so angry bc i have told them so many times that i can help and support them and that they can text anytime but they would still post snaps of how depressed they are and not reach out to me.
I don't think there is a one answer to this. If you are having an extreme mental breakdown, it's kinda hard not to show it. It's not healthy to say that you are alright either.
Maybe it would be helpful to talk to your friends about it and maybe a therapist - i used to do that with questions like this.

Maybe the answer is harmony - to talk about it, to destroy stigma and make others feel better, but don't go into details that can trigger or make someones problem worse.
I agree with talking about depressive episodes after they are gone, but sometimes the can last for a really long time and when you are in the middle of a mental breakdown it's hard to believe it will ever end.
You absolutely need to talk about your problems with a therapist and friends if you want to get better, if you want it to go away, because sharing it on the internet won't heal anything for real.
But at the same time, sharing how you feel with your audience is also important, but it needs to be done right, so that everyone benefits - you don't need to hide the way you truly feel, and the audience knows how are you and can understand why some things are not as ussual, and can also try to help.

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okay let me tell you a couple of things dodes:
1) i really really genuinely hope that you feel better soon. you deserve only the best
2) i wish i could help you somehow but i really dont know how. if i did i wouldve done it bc although i dont know how hard it must me for you as a person i can understand the feeling of discomfort that comes with confrontation
3) as someone who is technically an adult struggling with thoughts and mental illness you sharing stuff about your state means so so much. i've found courage in your updates to go and talk to someone. that means so much to someone who has trust issues
4) i love you so much and you matter to all of us. i value your sharing because i know it means so much to you too. thanks for being who you are


I love all of why you said in this video. I love all of what Hazel said in this video. If you see this, consider keeping a written record of what you're feeling and how. Write as much as want. Write what you would say on Snapchat or something while you're feeling desperately low. Then when you know you're feeling a bit better, read it, review it, and then talk about it to an audience (whether it's us or a friend) constructively. That way you can still acknowledge the shit, but it isn't harming


I really liked this video, it was so honest. Whilst I can't imagine what you may be going through, not to the extremity anyway. I don't think you should be embarrassed about reaching out. I for one rely on many people to keep me in high spirits. Sometimes I find it hard to cry for help but in experience I know directly speaking to someone is indeed the best medicine. A lot of the time it makes myself, and the person helping me feel a lot better.


seeing videos like this or just generally about mental health really do help me not feel like a massive weirdo in society. I am normal, other people do experience this too. I definitely understand the whole not wanting to talk straight a persons face whenever you are struggling. sometimes you just cant, you just need that barrier? It helped when i accepted that that is okay and not rude.


I love you, Dodie. Do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself, alright?


Wow. This vid was absolutely fascinating and thought provoking. "Do you create because you're mentally ill or are you mentally ill because you create" really made me think.


I feel really grateful that you open up about your mental health to the world. You cannot keep a constant facade that people want and since you're being open- you can have fans that appreciate the real, genuine and honest you (both of you). I personally feel you are lucky that you are able to speak so openly about it, in your videos and other social media. I have Bipolar Disorder Type II and I really want to share my story. I have written about it on paper and in word documents but never to the world. I have written multiple tweets and deleted them seconds after. I have posted multiple posts on instagram with huge paragraphs telling my story but deleted them before anyone could see them. I don't know why I'm like that, because I want people to know. But it's a breach. A big step. I appreciate that I can see how you are doing and how you are feeling through your social media and I'm happy you can be so open. I honestly wish I could do that. If you read this then thank u for taking the time :-) stay strong peeps


Okay so right now my mental health is the best it's been in ages, and I can truthfully say that the only 'negative' affect that your posts have on me is that I become increasingly worried for you (is it negative? I guess it just makes me feel more like a trusted friend than another viewer? which is ridiculous because anyone can see them but anyway there's that). I suppose that's your decision as to whether you actually feel comfortable with the amount that you share with us (technically strangers although we'd all like to think otherwise) but the support that we can give you will never be as real and meaningful as that which comes from someone who truly knows you <3  Personally one of my favourite qualities about you and the reason I always come back to your videos is how open and genuine you are. Additionally I think if you were to stop sharing as much, although I realise it's not my place OR my business I would probably become increasingly worried about not actually knowing whether you were okay, which is super weird sorry. <br>I started properly watching your videos about a year and a half ago at which point in contrast to now my mental health was the worst it's ever been. At the time, I felt much more comfortable and accepting of myself knowing that you as well as others also struggled with your mental health and that it was okay to be open about it. It absolutely meant that I could feel less alienated and seeing you talk about your mental health actually helped me feel that I could discuss it with others (in fact I also wonder whether I overshare about my mental health with everyone I meet). However, looking back, I do think that I fed off raw posts about mental health and that sometimes they brought me down further. Not necessarily in the sense that they 'glorified' mental health problems but in that having always been a bit of a hyperchondriac and a generally worried person I would hear about problems others had and convince myself that I also had them. Things which had never been problems for me quickly became my own issues as I overthought them and struggled to seperate them from what I was actually feeling until I genuinely couldn't tell the difference/actually felt them. I suppose that's partially my fault for watching them. Anyway, sorry, there's not really a conclusion to this but that's all of my thoughts. Thanks for reading, if you did I'm sorry for the essay, and I hope you have a lovely day xx

Okay so right now my mental health is the best it's been in ages, and I can truthfully say that the only 'negative' affect that your posts have on me is that I become increasingly worried for you (is it negative? I guess it just makes me feel more like a trusted friend than another viewer? which is ridiculous because anyone can see them but anyway there's that). I suppose that's your decision as to whether you actually feel comfortable with the amount that you share with us (technically strangers although we'd all like to think otherwise) but the support that we can give you will never be as real and meaningful as that which comes from someone who truly knows you <3  Personally one of my favourite qualities about you and the reason I always come back to your videos is how open and genuine you are. Additionally I think if you were to stop sharing as much, although I realise it's not my place OR my business I would probably become increasingly worried about not actually knowing whether you were okay, which is super weird sorry.
I started properly watching your videos about a year and a half ago at which point in contrast to now my mental health was the worst it's ever been. At the time, I felt much more comfortable and accepting of myself knowing that you as well as others also struggled with your mental health and that it was okay to be open about it. It absolutely meant that I could feel less alienated and seeing you talk about your mental health actually helped me feel that I could discuss it with others (in fact I also wonder whether I overshare about my mental health with everyone I meet). However, looking back, I do think that I fed off raw posts about mental health and that sometimes they brought me down further. Not necessarily in the sense that they 'glorified' mental health problems but in that having always been a bit of a hyperchondriac and a generally worried person I would hear about problems others had and convince myself that I also had them. Things which had never been problems for me quickly became my own issues as I overthought them and struggled to seperate them from what I was actually feeling until I genuinely couldn't tell the difference/actually felt them. I suppose that's partially my fault for watching them. Anyway, sorry, there's not really a conclusion to this but that's all of my thoughts. Thanks for reading, if you did I'm sorry for the essay, and I hope you have a lovely day xx


Hearing that hazel called an ambulance because she thought she was having an allgeric reaction has made my day, i though I was the only one, it's been my life for almost 2 years. So terrified to eat anything that could cause an allergic reaction that I developed an eating disorder. I'm getting help but it's honestly really scary, having to face my fears head on is so hard.


thank you for this its so nice to have little rey of sunshine like this in the end of such a bad day


dodes - Your oversharing or sharing in my opinion is so helpful. Your videos on sc are so helpful for a depressed borderline (and the rest of stuff). You could put a warning before it?  But its up to you. if you find it helpful do it. if not don't :)


New Dodie, dan, and Anthony videos in one day?? I've been blessed.


this video is everything 🙌💗 personally i don't think you over share dodie i love how real and raw you are and it really helps me. maybe have a special sc account for talking about mental health so ppl know that to expect or something.(just a suggestion don't mind me xx)ilysm thank you for this 💗


it shows a lot of strength to admit to your mistakes like this, and i think that's really admirable. there are a lot of people who struggle with putting all their negativity online when they're in a low place (myself included, however i have spent a lot of time learning how to stop doing that) and it's really not only a problem for the person posting but also for all of the people who will see their posts. i know that for me personally seeing my friends write about how sad they are online is extremely upsetting to me, especially when they haven't come to me about it first. there are also lots of times when it's just really triggering and sends me down into negative thoughts as well. oversharing on social media is super harmful and zannah's message to you was SPOT ON and incredibly important. thanks for making this video, i needed to hear it.


These videos are the most calming and helpful things to watch


I think this video is really important not just for viewers, but for you as well, dodie. As someone who has been both struggling with mental health and trying to help my friends who are also struggling for quite sometime, I think there is a limit to sharing. It's not to say that we as people need to filter our feelings-absolutely not that. Because when you are deep in to it, letting it all out is a difficult and important step to healing. But we have to be careful of where we put our focus when we are venting. We as humans develop dependancies as we go through life, and when we are in the middle of a spiral and get that urge to put it out to someone or to many someones-dependancy breeds quickly. I think an important question to keep in the back of your mind is if you are dependant on the help, or dependant on the venting. If you depend on the help of a person or people, then you're going to find yourself being comforted at some point by them. You're going to be able to heal for a while from your session with them. But if you depend on the venting, you are only going to drag yourself and the person you're talking to down with you. I've had friends who become so attached to the idea that they can talk to me about their struggles that they actually have made their mental states worse. When I suddenly can't take it anymore and tell them to stop, they're sent in to a tailspin and don't know where to go. Because up until then, they were relying on being able to vent to me as long as they wanted. We all have limits, and while you're openness online is incredibly special to us as subscribers, dodie, it may be too much for some to hear all the time. It doesn't make you invalid, it just means it's time to find another way to let it go. I support and love you so much, and I thank you for everything you have and will do for the mental health movement-just make sure you take care of yourself along the way. <3


I don't have any constructive advice nor do I feel like my opinion would matter much anyway but I will say this...<br>Dodie, you are a strong and beautiful woman who has helped so many people in so many ways. Keep doing what feels right for you and never let your mental health suffer to meet the needs of others. I love you ❤

I don't have any constructive advice nor do I feel like my opinion would matter much anyway but I will say this...
Dodie, you are a strong and beautiful woman who has helped so many people in so many ways. Keep doing what feels right for you and never let your mental health suffer to meet the needs of others. I love you ❤


I've actually just done the same thing you're talking about a couple weeks ago. I posted this video with a looooong caption on my finsta, but when my friends reached out, I clammed up and said I was fine. I'm learning about talking to people, not just the internet because it really is quite different.


i really needed this tonight, thank you! <3


Dodie I am 12 years old and I love you and your videos. You're Snapchat's have informed me a lot and helped me a lot, but I do feel like you overshare sometimes, and it worries me when you're really sad. Some fans are even younger than me and if they see their favorite YouTuber not wanting to live anymore, it can get upsetting. You're a lot better off talking to your friends who can actually understand and help you. I do like to know updates on your life and emotions, but. It can get a bit much. Again, I love you! <3


This is so relevant to me. The other day I had a friend much older than me (she's 35, I'm 22) get upset that I wouldnt just reach out to her when I am having a bad day and I love how much she's willing to be there for me but I feel almost as though I dont know how to physically talk with people about my problems-- I only know how to vent on social media and IDK how to fix that.


You definitely overshare, but I have to say that personally it's helped me open up to more people too. I've been having a bad spell recently and I usually would have shut myself off but instead I've been calling my Mom and my friends and also posting about it online. I've even asked my GP to refer me for therapy. It's like if Dodie can be open about it so can I. All of this is helping me process everything so thank you, but I also I hope you can find a balance between being honest and helpful and as your friend said seeking validation from your audience 💛


I totally get why you'd want to pull back a little bit and share a little bit less, but at the same time I like how honest you are and I think it's awesome that people can feel not so alone if they watch you. I guess it's just a little bit of a balancing act


Dodie, hi. I was reading a phycology analysis article one night which was discussing the link between creativity and depression.  In a case of some individuals isolation causes creativity, as when you are not in a social group growing up say (being bullied like I was lol) you can end up creating your own opinions and are not as easily led as others. This causes you to be creative and unique, however the lack of a group aspect can lead you to feeling lonely and depressed. I felt like sharing that, idk if you'll find it interesting lol


Honestly the spinning plates analogy for anxiety was hella good


Contrary to many other people's opinions, your oversharing actually helps me. I feel a lot of the same things that you do and hearing what you go through mentally makes me feel like what I go through is more valid and real, I don't know if that's selfish of me, but I think you should share what you want and how much you want, there are people who use your words to help them :) thank you, I love you Dodie 💕


I definitely think that being open about the fact that you struggle with mental illness is incredibly helpful to your audience. I've had depersonalization for years and didn't know what it actually was until you described it. However I do think there's a certain amount you shouldn't be putting out into the world, especially since younger people who have only recently developed mental illness follow you. Its always good to speak up and share your stories, but you should try to avoid sharing that you feel hopeless or maybe that it won't get better. Personally, reading your posts sometimes trigger my anxiety from the negativity you sometimes share. And you really shouldn't talk about how hopeless antidepressants are for you since it can influence the opinions of people who are looking to try them. You can read the summary to know what a books about so you don't have to read the entire book.


Dodie Clark. You are a wonderful person who I believe is creative, lovely and someone who I would strive to be friends with if I could. It hurts to see you going through such difficult times but in a way I really do agree with what Zannah has to say and that expressing yourself in this way can prove unhealthy for both you and your audience. I've just been looking through the comments of this video and while most of them are positive, I think the one from MugMellow really rings true as perhaps there are other ways for you to express yourself in similar ways, but not as harming to your audience as while you can be positive in your posts, many people will feed off the negatives and unfortunately ignore the positives. <br>You've probably done this already but maybe a bullet journal could help, you could track your progress, make it as pretty as you want (Cause you know, whatever you make would be goals) and it would mean that you could filter what your saying down so that your posting things which are perhaps key points. Keep going lovely, you can do it and we all believe in you including all of the amazing friends around you who I'm sure would be there whenever (Hazel is a super good cookie). Take a deep breath and do some of the things you love, get outside in the brief moments of sun and do something like read and escape into those little moments of happiness. It will all make sense some day xx

Dodie Clark. You are a wonderful person who I believe is creative, lovely and someone who I would strive to be friends with if I could. It hurts to see you going through such difficult times but in a way I really do agree with what Zannah has to say and that expressing yourself in this way can prove unhealthy for both you and your audience. I've just been looking through the comments of this video and while most of them are positive, I think the one from MugMellow really rings true as perhaps there are other ways for you to express yourself in similar ways, but not as harming to your audience as while you can be positive in your posts, many people will feed off the negatives and unfortunately ignore the positives.
You've probably done this already but maybe a bullet journal could help, you could track your progress, make it as pretty as you want (Cause you know, whatever you make would be goals) and it would mean that you could filter what your saying down so that your posting things which are perhaps key points. Keep going lovely, you can do it and we all believe in you including all of the amazing friends around you who I'm sure would be there whenever (Hazel is a super good cookie). Take a deep breath and do some of the things you love, get outside in the brief moments of sun and do something like read and escape into those little moments of happiness. It will all make sense some day xx


Honestly, you do overshare but for so many people (including me) that has helped them see how the people they look up to are not perfect and have their own struggles. It's helped me to come to terms with my anxiety and i went to therapy a few months ago and honestly, its helped me so much. I've forgiven a person for a, what seems stupid thing, they did years ago but will hurt and has shaped much of who i am today (including my issues but a few good bits)  and I never would have done that if I hadn't watched your videos. But, as Hazel and Zannah said it may not always help others to see that and you may regret sharing those parts of you with so many people later on. I love and support you sharing as much as you feel comfortable but please keep in mind what Zannah said. That was long and rambly and you may never read it but I love you a lot and keep doing you <3


You two remind me of me and my flatmate. We're the most miserable people and at times I feel like we're dragging each other down but in the next second everything's alright again and I feel like she is the only person who truly understands what I'm going through. And then we start cheering each other up again. And we're having some wine and fall asleep in each other's beds. I'm glad she isn't a happy go lucky girl without problems who constantly tries to belittle my worries. I feel comfortable and safe with her by my side. (And if we're being overdramatic again, we still have our "flat dad" who cracks a joke about anuses and jizz to make us laugh. I love my friends)


I know that this is a bit off topic about the main idea of the video, but the little conversation about mental health and creating is very interesting. I am a creative person, and I know that when I'm in the Dark place, I create the best. I think it's because I am more attuned to my emotions in the Dark place than normally. I'm not saying that this is a good thing, just that it is.


I think its just great to do whatever that makes you happier, Dodie everybody gets to a low moment in their life atleast once Its okay but its unhealthy to do something that might make it worse . if you feel like it makes you feel better to talk about it online its okay you really dont have to stop but at the other hand you friends and the people who actually can see you in person and help you up close should know too, It might be hard  to not talk about it but it is a part of being humman to help eachother out, also i think that not able to help someone you love is very hard and sad, so maybe when your friends/family/people who know you in person see how hurt you are online might feel extremely sad for you and they might not know how to act. on the other hand if you tell them about it they actually might know a litlle better about how to help you! Idk just do what you want and we all love you anyway and we all will support you anyway <3


(Dodie please read this) This helped me A LOT. I struggle so much with telling people but when I reach out I feel bad and don't want to talk about it. After watching this video I KNOW I need to just text a friend in stead of anything else. Maybe even writing this comment is the wrong way of reaching out. But I just hope you read this. Especially when you said like I haven't done anything for the last week. I have that a lot too. But you made this video. That's good. and you helped me. So thankyou.


Although people say a lot of different things about your snapchats, I personally find them really helpful. I feel relaxed because it reminds me that it's real. That people don't just say that you aren't alone. It helps me remember which is really important. Just for both sides on it, I thought this was an opinion I should share.


i hate it when people say that "other people have it worse" because that's invalidating. but dodie,,you are able-bodied and healthy and a wealthy, privileged person. life is happier when you appreciate the little things.


i honestly relate to dodie so much. i've tried to restrain myself recently but i overshare. if i have a problem, i post it on snapchat. its usually 'no one fucking cares' and similar things. i rant alot too. i have had people thik its for attention which bothered me. i understand why they think that however its literally a cry for help. i want to 1: release my issues in a way that doesnt harm me etc and 2: i want to see if anyone cares. texting someone directly bugs me as i think im burdening them and putting pressure on them as an individual to help me.
having depression and 2 anxiety disorders dont mix well.

but seriously. i love it when you 'overshare'. i know others dont but i personally appreciate it xx


sometimes you do overshare, but if it works for you nobody wants to ruin that for you. and i get that. but i've also never thought of your content as romanticizing, it's always been a "you're not alone" type of thing to me. maybe to others too. but talking to your friends could help you with this. you can still create helpful content while calling your friends, you know?


I feel like mentally, I'm at the stage you were at when Zannah sent you that message and you felt all defensive and why would you tell me this blah blah. I feel like you should be able to do what feels best for you and sharing is a coping mechanism and I watch your snaps thinking shit i wish we could chat about our feelings and get the urge to share my own feelings of sadness and anxiety about who knows what. then that's kinda where it ends cause I'm just me over here and you're you over there, and those paths don't really cross. Sooo ya, just stuck here with no one and no one to talk to and sharing sounds like a good idea to me right now because I'm in the deep end.


Dodie, I think that Zannah and Hazel are right. We all want to help you and we all want to let you vent, but sometimes, and for some things, it's not the place. It's really good that you let your audience know how you're feeling, but I don't think that we can be your therapists. I want to stress again that we all care about you, but that we can't be that professional help that you should get to try and feel better. I know that therapy can suck and that they don't understand sometimes, but you have to keep trying because you are too good to lose.


I think its good for youtubers to be intimate with their viewers


Actually I was going through a break up and I posted several status on facebook such as ¨I still care too much¨ or things of that sort, knowing he would read them, and hoping that he would reach out. ,My best friend immediately told me to stop, that she can understand I am hurting, but the world does not NEED to know that, a sign of being an independent adult is being able to manage your emotions in your own private head space.

 I watched and listened to a lot of your content in that period, and I got so depressed to the point of two panic attacks. I am not saying it was because of your content but rather it just helped me wallow in that self-pity puddle. Hell... I even sang some lyrics of yours to him... not going to get more into that because it is sad as fuck.
Anyway point is that now that I am consciously trying to get the fuck out of the funk, I have stopped listening to your songs, and watching your sad vids, because it just reminds me of that feeling of self pity.

Darling you can create all sorts of content, and you have enough happiness in your life to be able to draw inspiration from it. It might be difficult at first, but practice makes perfect.

Talk about things that make you feel calm, happy, cozy, excited, amused, and if you think you don´t have enough of those things then create more, get new hobbies, and just channel your energy differently.

Right now I am not depressed, but not because it magically went away... no, I decided to tell myself the hard facts, and repeat over and over that I am strong enough to overcome my block, and that slowly but surely I will get better, just taking small steps. Will it come back, probably, but I have tools to make it go away, and I have the reassurance that I am strong and I will overcome whatever.


This is my favourite video you've ever made


There's this app called Vent which is a really good outlet to express these feelings in a very supportive and understanding environment. It may be worth it to try it out. I use it and i find it really comforting to just get all of my thoughts out.


share whatever you want to share with whoever you want to share it with. it's ok. we'll listen.


"How are you feeling?"AHHHHHSame Dodie same


I'm pretty sure I have severe anxiety, but I'm also so afraid to get diagnosed properly or even get some therapy. But the thing is that I'm not really afraid of the diagnose or doctor itself but of the fact that it might not help me. Or that it might just help me in the first place but not in longterm.
I keep the thought of actually going to a doctor as a kind of reassurance in my head. Like "When I can't take it anymore and I've tried everything, when I really see no other way - then I'm gonna get some professional help".
And I know those are unhealthy thoughts cause I can't just wait till I'm near a total breakdown, but I'm just so so afraid that it might not help me and leave me without any reassurance for the future... Having this kind of "worst case plan" is really important to me, but at the same time it's holding me back from getting help.


It's really funny because your openess makes me be more open to other people(that I feel they can understeand me, of course) and also I feel so close to you, as if you were my friend. But, whatever decition you make now, I will completelly respect it. Sometimes take a minute to think and see if what you are putting out there is "too much", is good. I love you and wish you the best, my dear friend.


This made me sad because i care about both of you so fucking much. Yes it makes me upset seeing you guys unhappy but i also think it's important to show that life isn't always happy, but maybe in a less full on way. Im gonna be honest and say that snapchat, you know the one zannah was on about it was totally out of the blue in your face holy shit thats dark.

Yeah these are thoughts i have fairly often but to see them broadcast when i was expecting to just see you having a day, not necessarily a good day just living and then hearing the words you didnt want to essentially on those lines it hurt. Honestly dodie it's because you are so open online i feel insane, what i consider unhealthy attachment and to see you say those things was really hard to hear. I do think of you as i would a friend and i care about you so much.

I dont think the answer is to stop sharing but there is definitely oversharing and sometimes you go over that happy medium between sharing enough and too much. However who's to say what is too much its all subjective, i just think its a case of maybe if you are having a bad brain day not posting if you dont think you can consider what you're posting could possibly be damaging.

This was a shitty ramble but i love you both so much dodie and hazel and i really hope you both feel okay soon because i hate seeing you sad xxxx💛

Second time watching and we all put stuff online instead of talking to friends because it feels easier and theres so much shit on my tumblr that i should delete because its digustingly personal, but i dont have an audience and thats why it can be bad the way you share too much sometimes.

Well i have had messages from people on my tumblr understandably saying i've triggered them because of what i've said and friends who i've told i didnt want to be here and they've just point blank told me to get help cause they cant do anything also understandable.

Point is we've all been there it is just that yours is on a much much larger scale and without really knowing so your oversharing could effect people deeply and it can be quite concerning to see you share so much when we are just your viewers we sympathise and understand you are trying to get help, but its like you want us to help when we cant.

Yeah we are there to listen collectively but its not the same as one on one conversations with friends. Which yes i totally completely 100% understand are hard talks to have, but they are your friends just as us as your audience care about you and are there to listen so are your friends.

They will be there for you so you dont need to share with thousands of people on the internet how you are doing which can have some repercussions which talking to one friend probably wont have.

On the chicken and egg situation ultimately it is both. You create because you are mentally ill especially you dodie to express all those feelings into music must be incredibly therapeutic. But then you also are mentally ill because you create i think due to creative types being so introspective and deep its easier to find the flaws, insecurities and lead it to become something worse. Obviously not always the case i just think there is a reason why so many youtubers do have mental health issues when creative types are the ones who think of themselves really deeply.

Anyway this is way too long but this video made me think a lot, so much so i wanted to watch it again. I really do love you guys a hell of a lot and be kind to yourselves xx


i've had glandular fever since april and i think because i've not been able to do anything substantial for months i have gone absolutely crazy


I feel like another reason most people dont reach out and I guess me too is because you dont want to make the other person sad or make them feel worse. It's happened to me before where i just got everyone mad at me for making them feel guilty that i felt like shit when they felt totally fine.


I don't want to push anyone too much, but I'm genuinely curious as to how you can put your feelings into words - create art out of it? I have so many feelings that I feel but I just can't get it out (this especially proved a challenge when I went to counselling). No matter how hard I try, everything I write just sounds lame and not right, or just a copy of someone else when it goes right and then I feel like a fraud - like I'm copying said person's feelings. I've been struggling with this recently, as a songwriter too, I've written about like 3 out of 50 songs about my own situations and all 3 I really don't like - I feel like they just sound stupid and too wannabe. And my favourite song I've written is about a situation/feeling that I've never felt or experienced. It just really baffles me how you can so beautifully put your feelings into words when I'm struggling to do so.


I relate to this I super overshare both on twitter and youtube and worry a lot about the wrong people to see it for example. Me and my partner both struggle with mental illness and when it falls at the same time which it inevitably does trying to work out how to help each other whilst being v ill is v difficult. I hope you guys feel better soon and I can't imagine how difficult this can be with a large audience


For anyone who posts too much about their mental health and doesn't know what friend to talk to, talk to someone you've known for a long time. I've been friends with one girl for ten years and I can tell her if I killed someone and she would still try to make me feel better (I didn't kill anyone, lol). Talking to someone you've known for a long time is a lot easier and less awkward than talking to a nice friend you haven't known for long.


I think you may have this "problem" with over sharing because at one point you had trouble with not sharing on doddleoddle and puting on a happy face and pretending to be someone or something that you're not. When you finally got out of that rut and started being honest you might have gone too far. You just have to find a happy medium (lol) and that takes time and mistakes, but don't beat yourself up too much for the journey to get there. And remember in times of hardship the people, mainly in person, but also all over the world that love you and care about you enough to help you on that journey.


this is in no way intended to offend you, but i think flexing mental illness on social media to that extent can really be unhealthy as it makes us care less about your problems you know? i think awareness should be brought to the public, and mental illness should be less of a "taboo" subject. but there's a point where sharing can become oversharing. we love and care for you lil beeb, we've always got your back.


I have something that might help with your need to share your saddest, darkest moments without them being on the internet forever in that raw emotional way.
So what i do when i'm feeling a lot (and bear in mind that i am nowhere near as mental as either of you so take this with a grain of salt) so anyway what i do is write. whether i'm bawling and panicking or overthinking and stressing out or "just" generally quite sad i start writing. i write and write (very much in the same sort of way you talk and talk to snapchat) and then when i've finally let it all out i put that little notebook down, and distract myself with things that tend to make me happy (or at least tend to make life a little easier in the moment) aka music, bubble baths, PJs... And then after i've taken some time off of feeling bad, if you will, i get out that notebook and read everything i wrote back to myself. And i realize how hysterical or illogical or overdramatic i was in that moment of many feelings. and that does not mean those feelings weren't valid but you can get some perspective.
And i don't know if that helps in any way. I just think it might give you that opportunity to really let those raw, unedited thoughts out without springing them on loads of impressionable people or friends just because in that moment your head isn't clear enough to realise that maybe that isn't the best idea.
And in any case if you still want to share those thoughts on the internet you could always read them back in a video or something :D
hope you're getting closer to the end of this bout of darkness xx


U r not lonely I am here for you both. We can get through this to together. I am also I have anxiety.


6:47 I feel the same way...
there was one time that I had texted a hotline and I felt horrible. I felt like everyone was waiting to text about suicide and I was having a panic attack and I wanted to kill myself. But, I never would have because I was scared of pain and I had parents who were hard to reach out.

Then, I told my parents and they freaked out. "You should've have told me what was going on!" Of course she was busy. You want space, but you want me to talk to you?!

I feel like an idiot.


I understand that I may relate to dodie and find it helpful to watch her mental health videos and her snap chats but when she described it as empty calories I think it Realized she should be talking to real life people who can be there for her physically and maybe this "over sharing"  isn't really good for her in the long run??? Idk if that makes any sense


When I was in this rut in my life, I did share my feelings out on the internet but always Implied that it wasn't me who I was talking about. When people would text me, I would act like I'm fine and I don't know why I did it. :// Kinda still do it


This was a good video. I really needed this rn


It's really unfair for people to comment and tell you that what you're sharing with your audience is unhealthy because it can make other people feel bad. I get it, but the thing about living with a mental disorder is that everyone experiences these things differently. Personally, I see nothing wrong with what you're doing. I do understand that you have a major following, and so you have to be responsible with what content you put online. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't be allowed to express what you feel, or what you think. This stuff isn't always pretty, and it's not always fun. But having someone like you online, someone who openly talks about these things I think is actually a very positive thing. This can inspire others to become more open with whatever they have going on. These things shouldn't be taboo, and we shouldn't have to hide ourselves just because some people don't relate, or they're put off by it. Now whether or not "mental illness" is becoming your branding as one commenter put it, that's not what I'm focusing on. However, I think that if there is any truth in that, it should be addressed. But I mainly just wanted to share my thoughts, and to say that I appreciate you and what you do.


I am going to disagree with some of that top voted comments i see. Complain if you want to. If that's your way of expressing how you feel in the moment go for it. Don't filter yourself because than it's just going to lead to a lot of internalizing and holding in and that is not healthy. Be aware though that in complaining as someone below said you may come off as a certain way to others. It can affect who wants you around or how your audience views you so you may have to decide. Express and lose some of the fans or perceptions of you people have, or keep it in and feel smothered. As a social worker who works with those struggling from mental health issues and someone who has been where you are in terms of mental health in a personal fashion as well, I think a balance of both is important. To let out how you feel but maybe if you feel it starts to become repetitive (I think everyone gets to that stage where you bother yourself with redundancy, I refer to it as self annoyance) then maybe try something different. Do something different in that moment. Balance yourself.
I definitely don't think you romanticize mental illness as some were saying. That's complete bullshit. As a creator a songwriter and an artist, you are expressing your feeling through something other than plain language. You are expressing yourself through art. And so many people thing being creative in regards to talking about mental illness equals romanticizing it. It's not.
In fact most of your posts on insta that I see are you talking about how you feel while also acknowledging some of the beauty you still manage to find or look forward to. So i don't know what insta others are looking at, and everyone is entitled to feel and react to art how they want. But I cant find a hint of any romanticizing.

Also news flash to anyone reading you can struggle and still smile. I hated how when I was dealing with clinical depression having a good time meant somehow acknowledging I was all of a sudden okay. NO. It meant I was having a good moment. Anyone who thinks smiling or having happy times suddenly disqualifies you from having a mental health issue, can go suck an egg. On the same day I tried to kill myself i also had a lovely lunch with a friend. Feelings aren't mutually exclusive.


Firstly, yes you do share a bit to much. I love you, but it's weird because I feel like I know you, but I can't help you in any way and I also don't really know you. It's like I said to Mike Fratocrat on twitter once: "with fans and followers on here you'll always get a response that will maybe make you feel better for a bit. but we don't know you, no matter how much we want to think so".
Also I remember when I was really don't I wrote a really aggressive message to one of my friends something like "sometimes I don't even know why we are friends anymore" and instead of being angry back she called me and asked if I was okay and I cried and we talked it out. And that felt so so good.
This may sound snobby but intelligent and artistic people are more prone to mental illness. I think it's because we realize how fleeting life is and how there is nothing after and how we must seize the moment and make ourselves remembered so we don't just disappear......wow alright.
Also you and Hazel truly are the best.


Dodie, I think you need to find someone who you can talk to about these things, so that you don't need to talk to your audience about them.
Right now, you're using your audience as a stand-in for a counselor or friend because it's easier, which is not a very good idea.
Talking to a real person is much better. It's good to be open with your audience but you should probably filter what you say a little more.


The issue with mental health is balance. Good and bad, sharing and keeping to yourself, pushing through and taking time. Talking to someone about your issues may make them feel bad (speaking as someone who's been on both the speaking and recieving end), but most of the time, that person really wants to help you. Sharing struggles can inspire or comfort others but it could also upset some. There is no simple answer to this problem.


so the conundrum is you want to share, but at the time that you're sharing something you can't accurately analyze whether it's oversharing or whether it's appropriate.

How about this, continue to make content as usual however... approach some friends whose opinion you respect and whose love for you you genuinely believe in, and ask them to be your previewers.

whenever you create content... Send it to those previewers first and ask for their reaction. if they feel your content is best addressed in personal conversations with them, you'll you'll automatically have an opportunity for that conversation. and if they feel the content is suited to your mass audience, they'll green light it to be posted.

I'll give you my best mental health advice, I acknowledge that the organic computer in my skull sometimes says 2+2=8. that is incorrect, but it feels accurate when I'm low. So I accept the feeling of being low, knowing that my brain chemistry will change and my brain will say 2+2=4 eventually.

from one lonely soul to another, hang in there... and maybe make up some silly songs ( hole in my tooth I'm looking at you 😄)

so the conundrum is you want to share, but at the time that you're sharing something you can't accurately analyze whether it's oversharing or whether it's appropriate.

How about this, continue to make content as usual however... approach some friends whose opinion you respect and whose love for you you genuinely believe in, and ask them to be your previewers.

whenever you create content... Send it to those previewers first and ask for their reaction. if they feel your content is best addressed in personal conversations with them, you'll you'll automatically have an opportunity for that conversation. and if they feel the content is suited to your mass audience, they'll green light it to be posted.

I'll give you my best mental health advice, I acknowledge that the organic computer in my skull sometimes says 2+2=8. that is incorrect, but it *feels* accurate when I'm low. So I accept the feeling of being low, knowing that my brain chemistry will change and my brain will say 2+2=4 eventually.

from one lonely soul to another, hang in there... and maybe make up some silly songs ( hole in my tooth I'm looking at you 😄)


i feel like NO you don't overshare, if you feel like speaking out and talking to your phone is the only way you feel comfortable with doing then please please please share how you're feeling. we're your friends and those updates help us who are struggling so much to see we're not alone and it shows those who aren't struggling what mental illness really is. HOWEVER, maybe if you separated your snapchat from your mental health updates if would help? because going on snapchat we don't know if we're gonna see a mental health update or you drinking a smoothie and so if you maybe kept up snapchat and gave us trigger warning or even used a different platform or something like that it would help, but if you don't feel like doing that then please keep updating up on snapchat because it helps so much x


I cry, finally because as I was very sad and emotional in last two years this year I stopped feeling that much emotions... unfortunately at whole spectrum. And I feel bad but don't feel like have friends to send for help so I'm mumbling in (your, Dean's, Evan's, Luke's) comments sections and no one see this. And it's true it's easier to put it out there, shame that no one will text me if I'm fine... but empty calories are my only way.


tbh, i have no real complaints about your content, dodie. my only issue is just this little personal thing - i relate a lot to younger dodie, and with current you always talks about how you live in the past, and wish things were the way they were when you were younger, etc... it freaks me out. cause i'm already like that. i'm unhealthily nostalgic and i'm so anxious about the future, and hearing you talk about how awful you feel now makes me feel a lot worse. it makes me worry that i'll end up like you (not that i don't love you, i mean the mental health issues). i've never been depressed and it scares me to think that i'll grow up and feel terrible all the time.

i don't know, that's just me. but you're not the only one who makes me feel anxious like that, there are other youtubers too sometimes. i'm not asking you to stop making that sort of content at all, just putting my thoughts out there. maybe i just need to toughen up or something.

love you dodes💕💕


Protip: Don't basically whisper a whole video then randomly scream out at the top of your voice  7:56 for example


dodie i think you look beautiful with no makeup and anyway but i love you xxxxx


I really need some advice and i know that this is probably the best community for this. so please help me. I'm bisexual and I've told friends and my mom however when it comes to my dad is feel like he'll say something really horrible like always. whenever I tell him anything he'll say stuff that really hurts but I know that I need to tell him. please advise me on what to do.


It must be so hard to have such a huge audience. I don't have many people arround me. But I've lost so many people because I shared my mentally ill days too much... and I regreted it so much. And the line between getting it out and oversharing is so thin. Seeing someone that feels like you is super important and I felt extremely alone when I had my depressions till I saw you. And it really helped. But like i said, it's so easy to go over the line. You could maybe put triggerwarings or stuff like this in your videos, but mistakes are there to be made and sometimes you just need to overdo it to learn from it and to improve. Yes you do have a lot of young people in your audience. That doesn't mean that these people don't know/or even have mental illnesses. I believe that a youtuber mostly attracts people of their kind so I think that many of us have gone through this mental fight. <br>I really hope you can achieve the right amount of this content soon. Don't back up from it though, you need it sometimes and so do we.

It must be so hard to have such a huge audience. I don't have many people arround me. But I've lost so many people because I shared my mentally ill days too much... and I regreted it so much. And the line between getting it out and oversharing is so thin. Seeing someone that feels like you is super important and I felt extremely alone when I had my depressions till I saw you. And it really helped. But like i said, it's so easy to go over the line. You could maybe put triggerwarings or stuff like this in your videos, but mistakes are there to be made and sometimes you just need to overdo it to learn from it and to improve. Yes you do have a lot of young people in your audience. That doesn't mean that these people don't know/or even have mental illnesses. I believe that a youtuber mostly attracts people of their kind so I think that many of us have gone through this mental fight.
I really hope you can achieve the right amount of this content soon. Don't back up from it though, you need it sometimes and so do we.


I watched your video back in 2013 and also went to your 20th birthday meet up but i had to stop I couldn't watch your snachat anymore..<br>imagine how you would feel as a viewer seeing the person you look up to have a mental brake down crying and knowing there's just fuck all you can do about it. it gets to a point were you stop sympathising and start showing concern for that person and I could reference Marina here people blew what happened with her way way out of proportion but at the end of the day if you need help then confide in those who no you best or the internet and your viewer's will take it in to there own hands and in there mind from what you've shown them there acting in your best interest

I watched your video back in 2013 and also went to your 20th birthday meet up but i had to stop I couldn't watch your snachat anymore..
imagine how you would feel as a viewer seeing the person you look up to have a mental brake down crying and knowing there's just fuck all you can do about it. it gets to a point were you stop sympathising and start showing concern for that person and I could reference Marina here people blew what happened with her way way out of proportion but at the end of the day if you need help then confide in those who no you best or the internet and your viewer's will take it in to there own hands and in there mind from what you've shown them there acting in your best interest


I'm too afraid to say anything about mental health on the internet because looking out there there's just so many other people who have it so much worse than me. I'm fine. I'm not the best but I'm managing but so many people aren't. I feel like its unbelievably selfish to even think I have a problem or deserve the time and energy to fix it when people out there need it so much more. Its a mentality of your mind telling you that you aren't bad enough and your problems aren't big enough to speak about or get help for and it can spiral out of control. It prods the terrible idea of letting things get worse just so you can achieve that legitimacy your mind wont let you believe in.


Dodie saying "I DONT FUCKING KNOW" lol 😂


Sharing is good maybe you just need to think about it a little more before you post it give yourself time to think if it should be posted after it's written maybe think ok does it sound to romanticize-y is it helpful to others is this making me feel any better and other stuff there is nothing wrong with documenting your journey and creating things that are relatable to others with depression/anxiety/depersonalization but remember some stuff is private and might be better if you talk to a friend rather than the Internet


As a creative person does your process always entail going to the negative parts of your past can you choose to go to a positive point in your life? I truly ask out of concern and as I am not a real creative person I don't understand your creative process. I know that society tends to dwell on the dark side of life so that it seems this is what people want but is it what we need? I have been watching quite a few vlogs this last year and they seem to becoming more about anxiety and panic than confidence and a delight in life, even the happy vlogs are later revealed to being done while the vlogger was feeling sad or even suicidal  I don't know where I am going with this I guess I am just very confused with what is going on. I don't say any of this to negate your thoughtful  or feelings, and it doesn't matter if you are doing well materially the richest person can have problems, money helps make some parts of life easier  but it does not guarantee happiness and mental health.  Okay I am ending this comment with my hope that you have a wonderful day and that you always realize that we are all unique and incredible beings.  😊😄😇


thats why dig up our emotions and feelings is important. if you try to hide it might get worse. thats why i write, sing, cry rivers whenever I have to, then it rains again and I'm filled up with new water.


Heh, I never worry about being embarrassed with my friends, or about them not understanding... Being a burden, however...


Number one in the description doesn't seem in place to me. I've never had the feeling you were hiding how terribly shit it is to be depressed. Number two also doesn't really make sense to me, but that's probably because I don't believe in trigger warnings. If you were to say this to one of your friends irl, you wouldn't say "oh btw trigger warning: depression, depersonalization...". Number three, that one I can understand. Like you say, too much is unhealthy. Maybe try a journal, something you might even let your friends read. I hope you find a healthy coping mechanism. Personally, I don't mind u tossing everything online, but not everyone feels the same way. I hope you'll be able to get off your bedroom floor soon, wishing u all the best xx


idk I feel like you don't overshare. it's better than keeping it all inside and having one huge breakdown.. and ? honestly maybe you should stay away from sharing too much with friends - i feel like that's worse because they can judge you for it or think you're legitimately insane, but when you're sharing it with us a lot of us know what you're going through and we admire the fact that you're so open. idk fam ily and i don't want you to think you have to change because some people were concerned or whatever


every word dodie said it happens to me eveyday but i have no one to talk too


Maybe you should make little videos to just talk it out? Just don't post them, but just talk it out when you don't want to to anyone else but your camera. I love you and I hope you find good ways to express yourself <3


Ahhhhhhh the wonderfull world of mental health where we all seem to feel like shit most of the time wooooo


You do overshare. I have started to avoid your social media other than youtube because we're all dealing with our own shit and I don't want to feel ok with myself, then see someone else in a dark place as it brings me down too. I know it helps other people and it also gives you an outlet which is great, but I personally just don't want to see it. Especially when something super dark is followed by you with 10 friends at Disneyland.

I honestly think seeing a psychologist would be the best thing for you. You always take to video format to express your feelings so I think talk therapy is the best place to start. It did wonders for me and I can't even describe how much better my mental health is now.


babe i love you but i do agree that the mental heath discussion has been a bit much recently. it feels like it's all we hear. like hazel said, not every bad brain day needs to be publicized.


this video describes how i'm feeling at the moment except i don't post it anywhere and feel like shit whenever i post something so i just immediately delete it but i'm not ill so how can i stop this feeling ... but then i feel like maybe i am ill but no that's not it i must be just sad right?


"I DON'T FKN KNOW! YOU TELL ME!"<br>OMG xD


We love you. But I feel like we've watched you crumble. We love the warm, apple crumble cuddly dodie, and I feel like she's drowning and it's so sad. Sorry this seems harsh. Everyone ignore this comment please


Hazel is so fcking wise. GOSH I just totally agreed with everything she said in this video


As always, 2 thousand comments, so I'm gonna be drawn into the crowd as in real life.

Just say, of course there is the side effect of what if you at just releasing to much sadness into the world, yu could have the same feeling with friend I think one the reason you prefere online is because it's even worse to release that kind of thought to a someone in real because you will seehow they will be dealing with this.
and also fear's are toxic like they could spread to a persone to an other.
And so I understand that the idea is to pull it off a bit.

But on the other hands, it helps, and not just you.
because without someone who express those feeling, someone who makes such creation, or capable to sais out loud what is is sometimes locked. and more importantly share bit's of it's own life and because this life is relatable to others experience it helps like a lot. It might be illy or not be true, but without you I might not even be there anymore. I was such in a deep shit when I "met" you.

And I know it's fucking weird that we need someone else on the other side of the screen and that we could het a "friendship" kind of relation eventho we just can't talk and we are one a one side way information flow. but it help.

I wish I had real person to talk to in life, but it's just not how it happens for me.

bye


i really want to hug you, love from the other side of the world


Dodie, first thing is that whatever horrible stuff you're feeling is real and you shouldn't feel like you're making it up because you are not. Your thoughts and feelings and your mental health is valid. Second I hope your posts are productive to you I hope they help you get it out and I know a lot of your supporters aren't mental health professionals but we offer what we can and if you find it easier to use us as an outlet we will be here to support where we can. Thirdly the question of am I sharing too much can only be answered by you, I personally think you should share what you want online because it's your own space and as said before if it's truly helpful to you, you should share as much as you want. Fourthly, as an alternative I think seeking out medical help may be of some use to you, as said we are not mental health professionals and so cannot help you get better ( as much as we would like too) I know that mental health on the nhs is shit but if it can get you to a less stormy place it'd be worth it


no baby you don't overshare because your audience is actually very connected to you and loves you so much because you are very open. we love you :(❤


awwwww I hope it gets better, even tho this comment can't physically do anything.


I pretty sure Shane Dawson did a video on why youtubers tend to be very sad people


honestly, I do think you overshare. Yes, we are your friends, but so many people, including myself, have issues that aren't helped by seeing you talk about some certain things yknow


I'm afraid to share to anyone even a therapist


you defo are oversharing. It's important to end the stigma of stuff about mental health, but I think sometimes mentioning it too much could CAUSE problems wiht people that may or may not have been there before. I'm very confused about the whole subject myself, and it's really odd to talk about stuff to people- most of the time when i say stuff I never really can say the whole picture of what I'm thinking, or I just edit out and go over what I say like a plan, or I have conversations in my head with people that i've never actually had. It's pretty annoying lol


You gave up on meds so quickly!!! It takes weeks/months to have an effect.


I would say set a lot of your efforts on finding yourself the right therapist for you. Your friends and people on the internet are not professionals... it's good to get other's opinions but you need someone who is trained to know how to help and be there for you.


I wanna be her friend and bring her tea or Starbucks and a cat and sit with her on the floor and let her talk about everything and get it all out and maybe watch a movie or go to a park if she wants because I know when I'm depressed I either want to do absolutely nothing or maybe go to a park but I never push myself to go to the park and I wish my friends lived closer so they could come over when I'm ill.


The fact you had to make this video makes me kinda mad, i disagree with with your friend. We love your posts.

her content and snapchat was very different and much darker around this time. if you scroll through the comments, you'll find that many of us were uncomfortable and triggered by her posts to the point that we, and her friends, had shied away. what she was doing was very unhealthy. this video, and the following one, had to be made. since then, she has grown and i'm really happy with how she handled and learned from this.


What I hate about depression is that people think you don't laugh at all. I mean, you were giggling through the entire video but that doesn't mean you don't feel like utter crap.


I somewhat agree with a lot of the people here. I used to really enjoy your snapchats because I enjoy you. But ever time I open it now it's you just at your lowest point. And I think maybe this is maybe because we only see what you show us but sometimes it seems like all you do is talk about it but I recently I haven't see any moves to try and change it. You talked about the shock treatments and how they didn't work. That was a while ago. You have mentioned trying anti-depressants and they weren't working. So then I wondered when you were going to get them adjusted. But you maybe mentioned it once. You've talked about therapy but I haven't heard about that in awhile either. So sometimes when I watch the snaps I sit and think "Yeah I empathize I really do, but what are you going to do about it? You must be sick of it right?" And again this may be because I have only seen what you've shown us and maybe you are trying and I'm not seeing it but this is the perspective I'm getting.

Also I'm really sorry if this sounds like "You're not trying hard enough!" I'm not trying to sound like that at all. But I've had some extreme low points recently but I've been really starting to make a turnaround and seeing you so low, me knowing what I know now, it's hard because I have proof that things can get better. I just want to know you see that too.


Plz, people are mentally ill no matter what their profession is. I would say "creatives" may even be able to deal better because of art. I know many science-related people that are mentally ill but they simply have no voice, they dont speak up about it to the greater public. THEY DONT FXCKING OVERSHARE. plz dont follow and spread the stygmas and stereotypes. Also please, I agree with your friend, be more careful with what you put online - how u word it or put some trigger warnings. And some things are to deal with only during therapy, one needs to be patient PATIENT! to get better instead of just moaning around. Go see someone and deal with you problems out there. Art is not all about suffering. Stop the stigma.

Jesion Yeah I didn't like the chat they had about artists being particularly mad. It strengthens the idea that an artist on antidepressants won't be able to create good art.


K but I used to reach out and talk to my friend over and over and now we aren't friends because of it. Now, I always post something to whisper and talk to strangers and it's dangerous. I dont know what to do.


and then there are those that are in a bad place but don't create......... meh


Most people in the comments seem to agree with the opinion I the video. I do not.<br>I would be interested to see how tumblr and all the mental illness stuff and suicide on that plays in to you guys belief that oversharing is a bad thing

Most people in the comments seem to agree with the opinion I the video. I do not.
I would be interested to see how tumblr and all the mental illness stuff and suicide on that plays in to you guys belief that oversharing is a bad thing


Personally, I do believe u overshare ALOT.... Now i don't really watch ur vloggie type vids but i do like ur music. My close friend however really loves ur channel and also was diagnosed with depression and anxiety last yr. I'm glad she can relate with ur problems and ur battle with mental health. But I find that she often copies ur thoughts, opinions and mindset, which is scary cause some of ur stuff is srsly triggering and hard to watch with how much sadness there is. Part of me feels like ur the one that triggered her to have depression, as harsh as that sounds and doesn't really make sense. But i definitely think u were a big influence, yeah that sounds more correct ha..I also what to mention that yes, mental health has become part of ur brand, just by reading the title of vids, you can see that it definitely has. :(


About the whole mentall illness and creativity thing. I absolutely hate that. Like it is shit for me to be told that all the time especially when I have my depressive episodes (currently inbetween episodes which is nice) cause I always get less creative when Im depressed because my depression fills the part of my brain that has inspiration and motivation to create and replaces it with indifference and self doubt and apathy so I create less when Im depressed and that always made me feel like a "bad mentally ill person" because I couldn't live up to the romanticized ideals of what a mentally ill person should be and instead I was living the "ugly mentally ill life" where I couldn't shower for a whole week and didnt leave my room most days and I /wanted/ to be the manic pixie dream girl romanticized depressed person who creates beautiful and deep and meaningful art but I could hardly move out of bed so... And that just made me hate myself more which made the depression worse :/ so I really hate that thing where people say mentally ill people become more creative because of their illness, like yes I do use my experience to inspire what I create but my illness isnt what /makes/ me creative in fact the opposite and just because I use my illness for inspiration doesn't mean thats why Im creative everyone creates based on what they know so Im just creating based on what I know, based on my lived experiences and that just happens to include mentall illness. Its such a double standard too because we dont apply that to any other group. Like many modern poets wrote poems about war and their experiences in war but we dont say that people are "good poets because they went to war", because we realize that they are good poets because they are good poets and war was just a lived experience they got inspired from, so why cant we acknowledge that its the same with mentall illness and creativity. Its just so harmful to mentally ill and neurodivergent people who dont fit that stereotype that we, atleast I, felt like I was even failing at everything and even failing at being ill I was even failing depression somehow and that honestly just broke me for a long time (rn Im not depressed I have reoccurring depressive episodes and rn Im in between episodes so I did get better but it still sucks)

Pretty sure this is the longest comment Ive ever posted on yt but I had a lot so say bout it so


I love your I'm sad watch me make pasta vid. I watch when I'm sad and it makes it Okie


i haven't been watching your videos or viewing your social media because i thought you were oversharing a lottttt. like i get where you're coming from but your reasons for sharing these things with a large group of people are not okay reasons and they're really unhealthy. a lot of young women and girls who watch your videos and read your captions are influenced to the point of thinking they are depressed or have anxiety disorders because what you say to impressionable young people STICKS. plus, the way you share your personal info (pretty, shiny photographs) seems kind of inappropriate, if not disingenuous.


as a neurotypical finger snap finger guns i feel extremely uncomfortable watching your snaps. idk if it's different for someone who does experience mental illnesses, but to me, i just feel like i've overstepped a clearly defined line. you're a stranger and i don't feel like i have a right to know so much about you without you even having seen me. idk.

as a neurotypical *finger snap* *finger guns* i feel extremely uncomfortable watching your snaps. idk if it's different for someone who does experience mental illnesses, but to me, i just feel like i've overstepped a clearly defined line. you're a stranger and i don't feel like i have a right to know so much about you without you even having seen me. idk.


making mental health into 'art' and selling it to young children is not good. it encourages kids to believe they're suffering from things that they're not by being told about it so often by their 'role models'.


I mistook "oversharinggg" with "overshagginggg" and now I don't wanna watch


Before this I got an ad about the smell of pee XD wtf


DODIE YOU HAVE TO ANSWER ME IS THERE GOING TO BE VIP TICKETS FOR YOUR YOUR?? ???


This is such a needed conversation and I'm so thankful that you guys are making things that are destigmatizing talks like this 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼


I absolutely LOVED this chat! It brought up so many interesting topics, and I loved how honest and almost what some would consider blunt you guys are able to be with each other. A lot of my friends, I'm afraid to bring stuff up because I don't want to hurt their feelings or make it awkward or make anyone uncomfortable, but I really feel like we need that. We all need friends to keep us in line, and we need the uncomfortable times to help us grow. You guys are brilliant and I love you.


I love you both, you have helped me also ( sounds like literally everyone). 'Madness is key'


Your conversations are so healthy and supportive, I love it!😊


Dodie, I will love coming to your channel, regardless.
You've helped me with a lot. I hope you will feel better soon.
But damn, that friend that messaged you deserves friend of the year.
So real and honest but in a nice way. Kudos to him/her.


Hazel thank you for that endnote! I love you guys! And thank you for sharing, it makes me feel much less alone <3 <3 <3


You make me so glad that someone is talking about mental health. I've been struggling so hard for the past year or so and you are ones of the only things that keeps me going. I don't really have any friendsxxx


watching this video really helped me because i relate as i do throw how i'm feeling online for my friends to see without really considering what they will think when they see it and how other people will see it because it is the internet. i believe listening to dodie and other youtubers talk about mental health can help to break stigma and make people feel less isolated because of their mental state or even realize that something is wrong(i hesitate to use this word but i can't  think of a better one so please correct me if there is) and there is help for mental illness or difficulties. however i find at times it can be a trigger and remind me of my mental lows. anyways a discussion is great but there should be some warning for people who are struggling with getting help or recovering from something mental.


I feel like these types of videos would be great to react to so that Dodie doesn't have to think that her conversations to us are just one-sided.


I honestly don't think I've ever related to a video more than I have to this one. Like ever. Thank you for putting how I and so many others often feel, into words


All of your videos mean the world to me. I love how open you are because it makes me feel like I'm not alone with how I'm feeling, especially having a hereditary depression and not depression caused by situation, it helps to be reminded that how I feel is valid and that I'm not alone. I love you Dodie, you're an amazing person! 💛


You'll always have my love and support Dodie. No matter what, no matter how hard things get.


Im so happy you guys had this conversation and made this video. As a member of your audience I have been worried about you based on your snapchats. I know I shouldn't judge you based entirely on the content you're putting out, but when you put out a lot of content where you're not doing well it paints a picture. You're more than your content though and more than your audience and your relationship to us. I hope you and your irl friends have a lot more conversations like this if you don't already. I care about you a lot and hope you have a good day. ily


this video helped me so much. one of my new favs thank u dodie and hazel


Watching this videos you post is so good for me, because like Hazel said i don't feel alone 💛